Very interested in other peoples experiences on this topic! Please leave it below! CHAPTERS BELOW 👇👇 OFFERS FOR THAILAND BASED SUBSCRIBERS: Check Out Our LAZADA SHOP For Honey, Cacao, Super Greens Powder, Ginger Extract & Lots More! Here: shorturl.at/Q863r OFFERS FOR WORLDWIDE SUBSCRIBERS MUSHROOMS: Get Discounted Fruiting Body Mushroom Supplements Thailand & Worldwide Shipping: shorturl.at/kUOyy Use Coupon code: BAMBOO10 Secure your privacy with Surfshark! Enter coupon code NAKEDGURU for an extra 4 months free at surfshark.deals/NAKEDGURU 00:00 Intro & Disclaimer 00:23 Complaint 1 From Viewer 01:50 Complaint 2 From Viewer 05:00 How Much Do I Pay My "Thai Wife"? 08:52 Is Your Thai Wife A Prostitute? 13:45 How Much Should You Actually Pay? 14:36 Are You Her Only Lover? What About Other Boyfriends? 16:41 What Is A Good Amount Of Money.. Consider This 17:44 Why My Wife Would Not Come On This Vlog
I trust my wife unconditionally ,married 15 years, moved to Thailand 3 months ago and she takes care of our finances ,its all a matter of trust in my opinion .
Same with my long time x-gf and I. We owned a house together. We had a joint account and she made sure all the bills and mortgage were paid on time. Never had an issue. I would ask her about it or check the finances myself every, whatever, 6 months or so. Never an issue. What a terrible relationship and marriage to be in if you think you cannot trust your partner and always have to look over your shoulder to make sure she's not scamming you. How sad and pathetic for guys like this.
@@aaronbux1 I think a lot of people confuse the concept of trust with responsibility. You can love and adore your wife. it does not mean you have to trust them with money! On the contrary if for example you marry a simple Isaan lady (rice farmers daughter?) , is it reasonable to expect her to be financially more competent than you? if for example you are a successful western businessman? Is she capable of running the family budget or the household finances? If not but you are, you should take control of the situation. In my own life experience I havent yet met a woman who is particularly good with running their own finances, and actualy i would trust them even less with money if they was! And to be frank its not something I would necessarily need in a woman as Im quite capable of running my own financial affairs. In that instance why on Earth would you delegate that responsibility to the less able party? The main thing about MONEY is that it represents the holder with their own opportunity to execute on their own plans and ideas and indulgences etc. Usually if an onlooker sees your partner as a prostitute becuase you take care of her financially, that is an issue for them, not the relationship hes passing comment on. Clearly there is an issue there in the way that person thinks and sees the world. I havent yet met a prostitue anywhere in the world, but I have met a lot of male "whores" (lol) its just not the way I see women, just perhaps becuase they are poor???? Do you think they would be selling themselves otherwise? Utimately maybe they are just looking for someone to take care of them? All be it in the simplest of hand to mouth ways.
Same here, but then again I keep the lions share of my savings in my US accounts. I give my wife 20K baht/month to take care of herself while I am out of the country (NE Thailand). Our house and car are paid off and I pay the expenses on our condo in Samui. If extra ordinary issues come up I may pay for that as well depending. That Nick guy, what a self righteous butthole. In America at the bar the girl asks you what you work at, she is sizing up your income ... what's that! Also if I had a none working wife in America I would give her a salary as well. Besides what i give is nothing to what a prostituted can make on her own and my wife is too old anyway!
This is exactly how I see it. In our budget we both get a certain amount of money for whatever we want to do with it. In our case it's 10K bhat because that's what makes sense from our budget. The money goes into each of our personal account and you are free to spend it with no input or judgement from the other.
I'm a 70 year old women from NZ, obviously I love both your RUclips channels otherwise I wouldn't be commenting. What you do Ryan is tell the truth, you never gloss over anything, can't people see that, you always give very informative information on any topic you talk about. Some people go through life being negative about everything, because they're not happy. They should try happiness sometime, its very contagious😊
My Thai wife is so stingy that I trust her implicitly with our finances… when we first met 8 or so years ago I would try to buy her name brand clothing, as a present, she would always say no. I had to tell her that there are times you need to say yes, that never happened! After getting to know her better I realised that she worked 12 hour days 7 days a week and money saved was her mission in life, as her family were very poor farmers. Another bonus is her Buddhist faith. She tells me that she would not be financially dishonest as she would just have a bad next life! I became an instant diabetic, after having a pancreatectomy in 2018, so eating out is not an option with the sugar in the street food and Thai food generally (that’s not cooked at home) Calling others a “prostitute” is just unnecessarily nasty in my view, as nasty as calling the farang partner a “pimp”. If you can afford it give plenty and if not do your best. TRUST I think is important more so than a $ value. Love watching your channel and all the so called “boring bits”… All the best to you and yours 😊 ps I forgot to add my wife looks after my dietary needs and spends hours in the kitchen ( that’s the diabetic part I left out)❤
Ignore the idiots who have nothing better to do than complain rather than appreciate. For me your videos are among the top three farang blogs out there so keep up the great work.
@@thenakedguru I have been thinking about my response and I need to admit that I understand your response. I watched you video again and understand why you are responding.
I’ve no intention of moving to rural Thailand but I find your vlogs interesting, informative and a window into another lifestyle. It makes a change from older westerner with younger girlfriend. You have chosen to walk a different path, continue to enjoy the journey. Much love from Scotland 🏴
Don’t take any notice of the pathetic complaints. I have been fighting b addiction for 12 years. I came across your podcast about 6 weeks ago. I truly mean this , you inspired me so much to fight my demons, and that there is a way out of addiction , I watched a few of your posts. This week I went to my doctors told him everything and I have counciling booked for 12 September ,and I havnt taken anything for 2 weeks but I’ve never been motivated like this , you did this for. So I thank you 🙏🙏🙏♥️ soo much. Be true to yourself and I wish you and your family , health and happiness. And thank you again for giving me hope and the courage to try to move forward. Love and peace to your family ♥️
Hey Stephen Congratulations on your huge life change It’s tough in the early days, but every day, week, month and year it gets better!!! Keep going my friend 🙏
My mother and father, who were together, all my fathers life. He used to work, and my mother stayed home to look after us seven kids. He used to give my mother all his wages, of which my mother used to give him a very small amount for him to spend. So, from my point of view, is that if one person is the breadwinner, then the other one should look after the rest of the family. How much you give to your wife depends on the bills that need to be paid and how much that you want them to not need to resort to getting money by other means. It's not about sex but about being partners in the relationship. My wife has to look after all the household chores and the farm animals. Hence, I give her what I can afford at the time. Sometimes it's a lot, and other times, it's very little. Money is just the way to get what you need to enjoy life.
Interesting topic. I give my girlfriend a reasonable amount each month, she supports her Mum and Dad plus 3 children. It's my choice. I'm living a life that I could not live without her. She cooks, cleans and is positive 95% of the time. If I was still single I would probably spend more per month on drinking and going out. So, for me, it's the same level of spending. To give some context I've been married in the U.K. and the U.S.A. I'm happier now than I've ever been. Those 2 previous marriages also came with significant costs.
"Those 2 previous marriages also came with significant costs" dont they just! Which is exactly why I do not even understand the term "prostitute" both men and women come in both forms. Short termists, Long Termists LOL
I enjoy really who you are as a human being and how you share and express yourself. Keep going. Not too many humans like you. Thank you for what you do and how you do it!
What has happened to men understanding if you marry and have children together usually the man provides financial security as the wife brings up the children, cooks and clean. That takes as much energy if not more being a 24/7 commitment, it's called a partnership.
Hi @mariadange Obviously a child of the 60s , me also and I totally agree with your statement, but unfortunately the female children from the mid 80s onwards have created an insufferable aura around themselves that men hate , they are confusing being a strong independent woman who don’t need a man , to an aggressive argumentative angry selfish female, Myself I live in Thailand with my partner of almost 12 years, she works full time , I pay all the household bills and buy 99% of all food , and I’m fed up asking her if she needs anything and told no I’m fine, she can have what she wants but asks for nothing , I don’t give her money ( pay ) , she has a salary that I never ask about , don’t know how much it is and don’t care what she does with it , Have a great day wherever you are and regards from Thailand 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I like the content. The Thailand traveling vlogs are good but there's much more to Thailand than traveling and visiting different places. I personally really enjoy the local rural content. reminds me of my nan and the village they live in. Keep up the good work and don't mind the hate :-)
I watch your channels because you’re not like every other channel…. I want to watch and think if I could be happy that way. Simplified and quiet. I am sure that the upkeep is all but that. Not to mention your business ventures. My wife is a hard no for the country living but she does love the family/community ideals of your channels. Beautiful family - Otis for Prime Minister 2060.
Love your videos ...I lived in Thailand for 16 yrs, I agree with your views 90% of the time. YOU, like everyone have a right to your own way of life and your views. Your an unfront guy in my opinion.... regardless of how you live, there are those who will be critical. They're always the ones who never tried to walk in your shoes. Be yourself and enjoy life. Blessings
I see it as supporting my family as the husband and provider. There is no agreed or set amount we discuss finances as husband and wife. This November 23 years anniversary. and counting.
It’s the very opposite of boring like many others. Please don’t change the format it’s captivating as far as l am concerned. There are always people who will complain that’s life
Made me laugh. I'm almost 70 years old in Australia. I'm presuming the people commenting are adults, although it makes me wonder if they are. To anyone who doesn't like your channel my advice to them is get a life. Your channels are both good. This is great therapy for anyone. Seeing and hearing about your life experiences is good. Enjoy life and family. 👍❤️😇
I love this channel Ryan- the best out there. Enjoy listening to your views and we always get those that feel need to put a downer on things. For me I want to live there just needing the plan so tips and your views add a valued picture. Definitely need to hear views ways to supplement the living. Not sure yet about a Thai wife unless I find that special one many of your viewers and yourself have found. Please keep it coming 😊
It amazes me that some people think they should complain about a free entertainment channel, the same sort of people who give thumbs down if they don't like the content! If you like it, great, if you don't, go somewhere else. The entitlement of some people is amazing. Love the real life content and thats why I keep watching. Retiring to Northern Thailand soon after 20 years married in the uk to my lovely Thai wife.
My wife and i married 38 years ago came to America spent first 23 years raising kids, retired little young got in shape lost a bunch of pounds and headed to the land of smiles! we went places most would not simply because my wife spoke the language. She took care of our finances for 38 years were cool.
Personally, I'm always very surprised how many different topics you can cover and how you are able to creatively show the nuances of rural life in a compelling and interesting way! Your perspectives, relationships you have with your family, the people of Thailand and the beautiful nature around always keep things interesting for me! Keep up the great work! :)
Interesting vlog! I agree with most of the suggestions and opinions. I believe that when two people become a couple and understand each other well, they should support each other within the scope of their family-meaning wife, husband, son, or daughter. Beyond that, it's up to communication between both partners, but it is not your responsibility to take care of others. Thanks for sharing! ❤🙏💯
lol "do one" - well said ,for people like me with a wife of 20 years (from Thailand) your channel is quite insightfull, especially as we have a house in rural Thailand and are in the process of selling up here in the North of the UK and heading over there on a pemanent basis. Dont let the B'stards grind you down and keep up the good work.
What you have with Mo is IMO a "real" healthy relationship. Both supporting each other as much as needed and more. Don't worry about negative comments. I can almost guarantee that those people talking about paying rather than sharing or splitting roles are the mongers who are looking to do just that. These people tend to not be able to develop a sharing, cooperative, loving relationship so they buy it.
Been with my wife for 16 years. I do not want my wife to work and we have a young child at home. We each give ourselves 10,000 bt a month as well to spend on whatever we each want. Listening to these low value guys talk about salaries to wives is more about them and the fact they spent too much time in the world of prostitutes instead of finding a decent woman to have a mature relationship with. That kind of vocabulary has no place in a marriage to any woman anywhere. She’s family. She’s not your employee.
My wife is from Kalasin. We have 2 boys of 3 and 4. We do live quite rural, close to pattaya, just a little less rural than you guys, but i love to watch your vids. i find these videos quite easy to watch and listen to, hence quite relaxing too. this is NOT boring... a bit of zen therapy at worst lol. cheers from the harbors of my hometown, Ostend Belgium this time, Sir
The ones that complained about your videos should simply stop watching instead of trying to make comments that no one should take any notice of. Your videos are refreshing from all those that just shows the bar girls in Pattaya... those videos actually put me off actually visiting Thailand.
Married my wife over ten years ago lived in the UK and retired to Thailand 3 years ago, as my wife knows Thailand a hell of a lot better than I do and as we trust each other, I simply place all my pension into her bank and we discuss any big money purchases but other than that she keeps the books and is probably better at it than I am. I don’t see the need for individual accounts and in the UK we had one joint account but for visa requirements I keep an account just with the minimum amount for visa requirements only.
I agree with how you approached this topic. Terminologies tend to make the subject murky. I look at my wife as my family and we generally discuss our finances together. When she was without a job we budgeted my income, when I was without a job we budgeted her income; when we both work we budget both incomes. It may just boil down to what you believe a marriage is. All of our income goes towards our shared family goals…
Something not mentioned. If you’re not assisting her financially she will be working 10 hours a day 6 days a week. Time spent together will be limited. Up to you! as they say.
You are good at making magic out of the mundane which in itself is a skill. It is also hard for some people to recognise that skill so they will probably not appreciate your videos.
I personally enjoy the content you create. My fiance is from Isaan. I have known her for 2 years. We own land in Isaan, I have met her family, and I can assure you that the level of sincerity of the Isaan people is like nothing I have witnessed in the West. Yes, I send 11,000 baht p/fortnight ($500 AUD). For her personal expenses, and what she doesn't spend she saves for our house. This is simply life. I am the man, and it is my job to ensure my wife's needs as she does for me. Thanks Ryan. Love the content.
This guy tells it like it is, he's honest & living the life he wants. Ignore negativity from losers who come to Thailand because they couldn't make it back home. Again, kudos to this channel.
I like your channel because your authentic. Your opinion is derived from your circumstances and experiences. I can gain perspective from this. Thanks! But I have a question, my gf supports her parents as they are farmers and she loves her parents. My question is they pay money for “ insurance” I’m guessing this is a common issue in Thai culture. It seems to be a scam on the part of the insurance companies, can you comment?
Interesting discussion. My Thai gf and I have been together for 15 years now. I always paid for all of the bills, as in my culture that's what the Man is supposed to do. I have no complaints. She uses the monthly allowance to pay all the bills and she saves a certain amount in her own bank account. She actually sends me all the receipts even though I have never asked for this. I bought her a car and a motorbike and we live in rural Thailand. My gf is a teacher and makes a very small salary. I wouldn't even dream of expecting her to spend her salary on the household bills. We have a house together which I paid for. Every year she negotiates an increase in the household budget and that seems quite normal to me.
Hi again Ryan My Thai wife of 11 years works for the Thai Civil service (over 20 years) She pays our home loan herself. She also pays for her own health insurance and all the small everyday items such as milk bread and food for our 8 year old son and also her dad. I don't pay any allowance to my wife. However I pay for all the monthly expenses such as Electricity,Internet, Netflix, extra school lessons for our son on Saturdays,Diesel for our ute ,car rego insurance and car servicing etc. Plus trips to restaurants, our twice yearly holidays,and any home maintenance and home improvements such as a new shed and all home appliances etc. Overall I think we have a fairly equal arrangement. 🙏
My wife in the uk has no income but she helps me with my business when necessary, she keeps house, cleans, cooks, laundry and much more. If I had to pay her for everything she does for free I'd have little money left...so don't forget the value of a mother and housewife. She is invaluable. We have a joint account and she is free to use it because i know she won't buy anything we cant afford....Like your channel and how you live....😊
Without a doubt you show the real nuts and bolts of life in rural Thailand. You appear to be a very fair, caring and compassionate gent. It seems to me you have a wonderful family life , one that many would envy. Keep posting , I love to hear your very balanced views.
I’m a 79 year old married woman who has worked out side the home for 18 years and in the home for all my marriage of 59 years. My husband has worked for 35 years and now is retired, we have always had “one” bank account !! We pay our bills and all our spending comes out of that account. and we always put part into a savings account for emergencies . We are equal partners in everything we do. I don’t have to ask for money ever! We both use the account for both our needs and that of our family of 3 children when the were little and lived at home!! We trust each other !! End of story!
G'day Ryan, my thai wife and I have been together for 30 years and have 2 kids, now adults. We have a thai restaurant and joint account. She works 2 days a week and l scrubb down the kitchen once a fortnight as well as manage the business from a distance. We share everything from money to a cigarette to an alcoholic beverage, we even sometimes eat off the same dish. Everyone is different in their relationships, some are sharing and caring and some are selfish and self concerning. Different strokes for different folks
I like your channel, it's different compared to most others that are mostly in tourist areas and the content often about renting/buying condos or visit tourist attractions, I love rural Thailand away from all this. So keep up the good work and just try to ignore these negative comments you get from I guess 100% men.
I am 72 years old, and among my parents' generation, it was very normal for the woman in a relationship to stay at home and take care of all domestic things, including the children (typically 3-4-5), while the man had work outside the home, and thus was the one who paid for everything - and thus indirectly paid the wife. I have now been married to a (younger) Thai woman for 10 years (met her here in Copenhagen - she has lived for over 20 years in Denmark) and we share the expenses - neither of us consider it as if I am 'buying' her.
Always a hot topic of conversation this one 😂 Personally, I would say it’s all down to the circumstances of each Individual and what type of relationship it is as in girlfriend, marriage or family. It’s impossible to say! But let’s be honest I think most will know if they are being taken for a complete mug or not! Whether they want to admit that to themselves or not is another question.
Ryan, your critics' expectations are the source of their disappointment. Your content is always stimulating and valuable. That's my opinion. I live here. Never had a full time gf/companion in Thailand, but I know many men who do, and happily provide financial support if needed. Some do, some don't. Not too terribly concerned with the opinions of the twisted knicker folks. In fact, not at all.
Thanks so much for a great episode. I have never thought that I pay any salary to my wife (Thai). Since we met about 20 years ago, we have shared finances, we have different accounts, hers more for saving and mine for spending. Now we will start spending parts of the year in Thailand and then it will be changed, she will set up an account in Thailand and will have all the money, get to pay all the bills and if I want to do something I can ask her for cash (salary) 🙂 Best regards Mathias
your content is great! more comments on positive feedback would be welcome. . I realize negative feedback tends to get more attention and perhaps clicks.. I for one, do enjoy your content and your perspective on living and raising a family in Thailand as a Farang.. Good stuff.
Pls brother, don’t waste your time with these people. I ❤️🫶🏻🫶🏻🙏🏻you and your channel and fam. Don’t even waste your time! Pls stay strong 💪 and f the haters! I love everything you post!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Great topic Ryan & good grief….please ignore the pathetic losers who post negative comments 😬 This channel should be for happy & positive people only! Take care & enjoy the rest of your week 😊
I have been married to a Japanese woman for 23 years. I lived in S.E. Asia for 7 years. Relationships alll have their ebbs and flows over the long term. You have to work together. If one person works and the other does not, that is fine. There are other tasks which help the family and the nonworking person can attend to those. "Money is an energy". Yes. I also think money is trap too.
It's amazing what goes through people's mind's, . 😮 Simply Adjusting to the way of life you Liv Ryan is a big step for any westerners, not sure how anybody can downgrade your wonderful life story , Only Gelous people and they come in many forms of life....Let nothing bring you down man...Keep the videos rolling jaz man😉
Yes, have a Thai wife and we are both working in Thailand as professionals in our fields, I'm an expat and have worked in SE Asia for many years. We share the expenses, my wife has a child with her previous husband and I look after him also. It's a normal relationship and we rarely talk about money, except when we invest together involving business or future prospects. If your a westerner, ofcourse you would support your wife especially if you have children and she is unable to work for a period of time. I don't understand what all the nonsense is about when you compare this to a Thai wife. I guess some people are just jealous!
Your vid’s aren’t boring mate. You bring up some interesting topics, and I’m not intending to move to Thailand, I’m content in China. 😊 I think you’d be an interesting fella to sit down with and have a chat and put the world to rights.
Personally, married for 5 years I cover the rent, she pays all the bills and gets the food shopping. We also put a few thousand into a joint savings account also. When out and about I’ll usually pay for the meals etc. Simples 😃
I say piss on those negative comments. If you were sitting in a dark room just ranting I'd still be fascinated because you've got soul. With ya always brother.
first, I think your channel is fine. when I hear you talking about your situation it sounds like a normal marriage to me. The two of you seem to be equally working toward common goals.
To be honest people seem to have forgotten the term "house keeping" (and I believe this is a UK term) going back just 50 yrs it was NORMAL for the wife to look after the home and for the husband to provide a monthly allowance for these costs, i.e. house keeping. The husband is not PAYING his wife in this instance and no one would dispute this. As you say Ryan its about terminology or labels if you prefer. Where the lines do become blurred, for me, is where the fallang hands over a sum of money each month and the wife squanders this and distributes this to family members and runs short of funds for household costs expecting him to make up the shortfall. It would seem your relationship is not like this and is just traditional one (but to be honest your wife seems very intelligent and responsible which helps) I guess the correct way to phrase the question would be "How much house keeping would your Thai partner require to run your home to your standards?" Keep up the gr8 videos mate, Cheers from Chon Buri.
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00:00 Intro & Disclaimer
00:23 Complaint 1 From Viewer
01:50 Complaint 2 From Viewer
05:00 How Much Do I Pay My "Thai Wife"?
08:52 Is Your Thai Wife A Prostitute?
13:45 How Much Should You Actually Pay?
14:36 Are You Her Only Lover? What About Other Boyfriends?
16:41 What Is A Good Amount Of Money.. Consider This
17:44 Why My Wife Would Not Come On This Vlog
I trust my wife unconditionally ,married 15 years, moved to Thailand 3 months ago and she takes care of our finances ,its all a matter of trust in my opinion .
Same with my long time x-gf and I. We owned a house together. We had a joint account and she made sure all the bills and mortgage were paid on time. Never had an issue. I would ask her about it or check the finances myself every, whatever, 6 months or so. Never an issue. What a terrible relationship and marriage to be in if you think you cannot trust your partner and always have to look over your shoulder to make sure she's not scamming you. How sad and pathetic for guys like this.
Good luck
@@aaronbux1 I think a lot of people confuse the concept of trust with responsibility. You can love and adore your wife. it does not mean you have to trust them with money!
On the contrary if for example you marry a simple Isaan lady (rice farmers daughter?) , is it reasonable to expect her to be financially more competent than you? if for example you are a successful western businessman? Is she capable of running the family budget or the household finances? If not but you are, you should take control of the situation.
In my own life experience I havent yet met a woman who is particularly good with running their own finances, and actualy i would trust them even less with money if they was! And to be frank its not something I would necessarily need in a woman as Im quite capable of running my own financial affairs. In that instance why on Earth would you delegate that responsibility to the less able party?
The main thing about MONEY is that it represents the holder with their own opportunity to execute on their own plans and ideas and indulgences etc. Usually if an onlooker sees your partner as a prostitute becuase you take care of her financially, that is an issue for them, not the relationship hes passing comment on. Clearly there is an issue there in the way that person thinks and sees the world. I havent yet met a prostitue anywhere in the world, but I have met a lot of male "whores" (lol) its just not the way I see women, just perhaps becuase they are poor???? Do you think they would be selling themselves otherwise? Utimately maybe they are just looking for someone to take care of them? All be it in the simplest of hand to mouth ways.
Same here, but then again I keep the lions share of my savings in my US accounts. I give my wife 20K baht/month to take care of herself while I am out of the country (NE Thailand). Our house and car are paid off and I pay the expenses on our condo in Samui. If extra ordinary issues come up I may pay for that as well depending. That Nick guy, what a self righteous butthole. In America at the bar the girl asks you what you work at, she is sizing up your income ... what's that! Also if I had a none working wife in America I would give her a salary as well. Besides what i give is nothing to what a prostituted can make on her own and my wife is too old anyway!
Welcome to Thailand!
Marriage is a partnership. The money is used for the household. Wives are not paid, they are part of the collective and use funds as needed.
This is exactly how I see it. In our budget we both get a certain amount of money for whatever we want to do with it. In our case it's 10K bhat because that's what makes sense from our budget. The money goes into each of our personal account and you are free to spend it with no input or judgement from the other.
I agree with you.
Here Here Mate. Not a truer sentence said :)
100%!
I'm a 70 year old women from NZ, obviously I love both your RUclips channels otherwise I wouldn't be commenting.
What you do Ryan is tell the truth, you never gloss over anything, can't people see that, you always give very informative information on any topic you talk about.
Some people go through life being negative about everything, because they're not happy. They should try happiness sometime, its very contagious😊
I am just a couple of years shy of your age, and I find Ryan just so interesting, and respect him so much as a young wise “old” man.
Thank you Lynette 🙏
Well stated!
My Thai wife is so stingy that I trust her implicitly with our finances… when we first met 8 or so years ago I would try to buy her name brand clothing, as a present, she would always say no. I had to tell her that there are times you need to say yes, that never happened! After getting to know her better I realised that she worked 12 hour days 7 days a week and money saved was her mission in life, as her family were very poor farmers.
Another bonus is her Buddhist faith. She tells me that she would not be financially dishonest as she would just have a bad next life!
I became an instant diabetic, after having a pancreatectomy in 2018, so eating out is not an option with the sugar in the street food and Thai food generally (that’s not cooked at home)
Calling others a “prostitute” is just unnecessarily nasty in my view, as nasty as calling the farang partner a “pimp”.
If you can afford it give plenty and if not do your best.
TRUST I think is important more so than a $ value.
Love watching your channel and all the so called “boring bits”…
All the best to you and yours 😊 ps I forgot to add my wife looks after my dietary needs and spends hours in the kitchen ( that’s the diabetic part I left out)❤
Ignore the idiots who have nothing better to do than complain rather than appreciate. For me your videos are among the top three farang blogs out there so keep up the great work.
I do not understand you feed on those negative viewers. They just want attention, and will do whatever it takes Ryan. Your channel is spot on.
Ditto there is a block button for those who do not add value in the comment section.
It makes interesting content 😂😂
If I don’t, I end up replying to them in my head so I prefer to share my comebacks 😁
@@thenakedguru I have been thinking about my response and I need to admit that I understand your response. I watched you video again and understand why you are responding.
@@thenakedguru Jaidee
I’ve no intention of moving to rural Thailand but I find your vlogs interesting, informative and a window into another lifestyle. It makes a change from older westerner with younger girlfriend. You have chosen to walk a different path, continue to enjoy the journey. Much love from Scotland 🏴
Not even a visit here?
It is not a payment. But is what she needs to keep the house running. Food, kids garden..... just like everywhere else
Don’t take any notice of the pathetic complaints. I have been fighting b addiction for 12 years. I came across your podcast about 6 weeks ago. I truly mean this , you inspired me so much to fight my demons, and that there is a way out of addiction , I watched a few of your posts. This week I went to my doctors told him everything and I have counciling booked for 12 September ,and I havnt taken anything for 2 weeks but I’ve never been motivated like this , you did this for. So I thank you 🙏🙏🙏♥️ soo much. Be true to yourself and I wish you and your family , health and happiness. And thank you again for giving me hope and the courage to try to move forward. Love and peace to your family ♥️
Hey Stephen
Congratulations on your huge life change
It’s tough in the early days, but every day, week, month and year it gets better!!!
Keep going my friend 🙏
Thank you 🙏 🙏🙏🙏🙏. It’s because of you and your struggle and determination I’m doing this. Love your channel and you’re an inspiration. Keep safe
@@stephensellick7964 you will enjoy sundays vlog on the main channel!
🧐🧐🧐. Off to find your main channel my friend.
Well done Stephen! Your story is an inspiration. Keep up the good work!
My mother and father, who were together, all my fathers life. He used to work, and my mother stayed home to look after us seven kids. He used to give my mother all his wages, of which my mother used to give him a very small amount for him to spend.
So, from my point of view, is that if one person is the breadwinner, then the other one should look after the rest of the family.
How much you give to your wife depends on the bills that need to be paid and how much that you want them to not need to resort to getting money by other means.
It's not about sex but about being partners in the relationship.
My wife has to look after all the household chores and the farm animals. Hence, I give her what I can afford at the time.
Sometimes it's a lot, and other times, it's very little. Money is just the way to get what you need to enjoy life.
Interesting topic.
I give my girlfriend a reasonable amount each month, she supports her Mum and Dad plus 3 children. It's my choice. I'm living a life that I could not live without her. She cooks, cleans and is positive 95% of the time. If I was still single I would probably spend more per month on drinking and going out. So, for me, it's the same level of spending.
To give some context I've been married in the U.K. and the U.S.A.
I'm happier now than I've ever been.
Those 2 previous marriages also came with significant costs.
Very well said, I feel exactly the same.
exactly. spot on.
@@PaulRLight well said!
"Those 2 previous marriages also came with significant costs" dont they just! Which is exactly why I do not even understand the term "prostitute" both men and women come in both forms. Short termists, Long Termists LOL
Awesome!
I enjoy really who you are as a human being and how you share and express yourself. Keep going. Not too many humans like you. Thank you for what you do and how you do it!
Thank you 🙏
The reason I watch your channel is because I like the way you present it, if it wasn’t something I like there’s plenty more out there to watch.
So true!
What has happened to men understanding if you marry and have children together usually the man provides financial security as the wife brings up the children, cooks and clean. That takes as much energy if not more being a 24/7 commitment, it's called a partnership.
Hi @mariadange
Obviously a child of the 60s , me also and I totally agree with your statement, but unfortunately the female children from the mid 80s onwards have created an insufferable aura around themselves that men hate , they are confusing being a strong independent woman who don’t need a man , to an aggressive argumentative angry selfish female,
Myself I live in Thailand with my partner of almost 12 years, she works full time , I pay all the household bills and buy 99% of all food , and I’m fed up asking her if she needs anything and told no I’m fine, she can have what she wants but asks for nothing , I don’t give her money ( pay ) , she has a salary that I never ask about , don’t know how much it is and don’t care what she does with it ,
Have a great day wherever you are and regards from Thailand 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Another honest and informative insight video into the naked guru archives. Best wishes to you Ryan.
Ryan,I like whatever you do,in your daily life. Keep up the good work.❤❤
Some people are just funny, aren't they? Love both of your channels.
Agree, I have been called funny, but not about money! haha I always look forward to the new episodes each week as well.
Don't listen to negative comments. Ignore them. Your channel is great.
Yes!
I like the content. The Thailand traveling vlogs are good but there's much more to Thailand than traveling and visiting different places. I personally really enjoy the local rural content. reminds me of my nan and the village they live in. Keep up the good work and don't mind the hate :-)
I watch your channels because you’re not like every other channel…. I want to watch and think if I could be happy that way. Simplified and quiet. I am sure that the upkeep is all but that. Not to mention your business ventures. My wife is a hard no for the country living but she does love the family/community ideals of your channels. Beautiful family - Otis for Prime Minister 2060.
another great video, regards from Oz
Love your videos ...I lived in Thailand for 16 yrs, I agree with your views 90% of the time. YOU, like everyone have a right to your own way of life and your views. Your an unfront guy in my opinion.... regardless of how you live, there are those who will be critical. They're always the ones who never tried to walk in your shoes. Be yourself and enjoy life. Blessings
So true!
I see it as supporting my family as the husband and provider. There is no agreed or set amount we discuss finances as husband and wife. This November 23 years anniversary. and counting.
"DO ONE!" Cracked me up man. I shall not be DOING ONE, a nicer dude and family would be harder to find. ✌
I ❤both of your channels. No intention of moving to Thailand but I appreciate your lifestyle and the hell with the naysayers!!!
Thank you for your continuous support 🙏😊
It’s the very opposite of boring like many others. Please don’t change the format it’s captivating as far as l am concerned. There are always people who will complain that’s life
Ryan, I love your videos, all of them. Please don't be discouraged and change what you do.
Made me laugh. I'm almost 70 years old in Australia. I'm presuming the people commenting are adults, although it makes me wonder if they are. To anyone who doesn't like your channel my advice to them is get a life. Your channels are both good. This is great therapy for anyone. Seeing and hearing about your life experiences is good. Enjoy life and family. 👍❤️😇
So very true!
I love this channel Ryan- the best out there. Enjoy listening to your views and we always get those that feel need to put a downer on things. For me I want to live there just needing the plan so tips and your views add a valued picture. Definitely need to hear views ways to supplement the living. Not sure yet about a Thai wife unless I find that special one many of your viewers and yourself have found. Please keep it coming 😊
I give money to my adopted Thai family 5 grandkids. Just to make sure they have steady food and daily life to make their life better.
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Suckerrrrrr...what did they do before you?😂
It amazes me that some people think they should complain about a free entertainment channel, the same sort of people who give thumbs down if they don't like the content! If you like it, great, if you don't, go somewhere else. The entitlement of some people is amazing. Love the real life content and thats why I keep watching. Retiring to Northern Thailand soon after 20 years married in the uk to my lovely Thai wife.
Great video Ryan Keep up the great work!!!! 2 thumbs up my friend!!!!
Interesting and informative and thought provoking. Great video
I look forward to watching both channels every week! Always very interesting and informative, keep going and ignore the idiots.
Been watching your vlogs for over a year and love them
My wife and i married 38 years ago came to America spent first 23 years raising kids, retired little young got in shape lost a bunch of pounds and headed to the land of smiles! we went places most would not simply because my wife spoke the language. She took care of our finances for 38 years were cool.
Personally, I'm always very surprised how many different topics you can cover and how you are able to creatively show the nuances of rural life in a compelling and interesting way! Your perspectives, relationships you have with your family, the people of Thailand and the beautiful nature around always keep things interesting for me! Keep up the great work! :)
Interesting vlog! I agree with most of the suggestions and opinions. I believe that when two people become a couple and understand each other well, they should support each other within the scope of their family-meaning wife, husband, son, or daughter. Beyond that, it's up to communication between both partners, but it is not your responsibility to take care of others. Thanks for sharing!
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I love your channels.
You are not antisocial Ryan , you are an absolute class act ,great father ,great husband and an absolute diamond human being ❤
lol "do one" - well said ,for people like me with a wife of 20 years (from Thailand) your channel is quite insightfull, especially as we have a house in rural Thailand and are in the process of selling up here in the North of the UK and heading over there on a pemanent basis. Dont let the B'stards grind you down and keep up the good work.
Thank you for the great insight on this volatile topic. Also great calm delivery...
when you are married and have kids, whoever ( man or woman ) brings the income it should be for the family, whereever you are in the world
Keep going Ryan! ❤😂 Eff ‘em all! I get drunk and love this channel! Okay, pulling yer leg! 😂
Dear Naked Guru , I love both your channels and their content.
Keep up the good work
What you have with Mo is IMO a "real" healthy relationship. Both supporting each other as much as needed and more. Don't worry about negative comments. I can almost guarantee that those people talking about paying rather than sharing or splitting roles are the mongers who are looking to do just that. These people tend to not be able to develop a sharing, cooperative, loving relationship so they buy it.
Been with my wife for 16 years. I do not want my wife to work and we have a young child at home. We each give ourselves 10,000 bt a month as well to spend on whatever we each want. Listening to these low value guys talk about salaries to wives is more about them and the fact they spent too much time in the world of prostitutes instead of finding a decent woman to have a mature relationship with. That kind of vocabulary has no place in a marriage to any woman anywhere. She’s family. She’s not your employee.
My wife is from Kalasin. We have 2 boys of 3 and 4. We do live quite rural, close to pattaya, just a little less rural than you guys, but i love to watch your vids. i find these videos quite easy to watch and listen to, hence quite relaxing too. this is NOT boring... a bit of zen therapy at worst lol. cheers from the harbors of my hometown, Ostend Belgium this time, Sir
Hi all you good people !
Hello good man!
Hello👋🏻
Hiya m8
This channel is better than good. Keep it up .. I love the information 💯
Maybe one day our paths will cross. Thank you
The ones that complained about your videos should simply stop watching instead of trying to make comments that no one should take any notice of.
Your videos are refreshing from all those that just shows the bar girls in Pattaya... those videos actually put me off actually visiting Thailand.
Thanks Kieth 🙏
One of the few different and intelligent vloggers ❤
Married my wife over ten years ago lived in the UK and retired to Thailand 3 years ago, as my wife knows Thailand a hell of a lot better than I do and as we trust each other, I simply place all my pension into her bank and we discuss any big money purchases but other than that she keeps the books and is probably better at it than I am.
I don’t see the need for individual accounts and in the UK we had one joint account but for visa requirements I keep an account just with the minimum amount for visa requirements only.
A subject I never thought you’d have need to cover Ryan🤣🤷🏼♀️
I agree with how you approached this topic. Terminologies tend to make the subject murky. I look at my wife as my family and we generally discuss our finances together. When she was without a job we budgeted my income, when I was without a job we budgeted her income; when we both work we budget both incomes. It may just boil down to what you believe a marriage is. All of our income goes towards our shared family goals…
Something not mentioned.
If you’re not assisting her financially she will be working 10 hours a day 6 days a week. Time spent together will be limited. Up to you! as they say.
Sensible & respectful - there is a lot to like here Sir 👍🏻🤩
You are good at making magic out of the mundane which in itself is a skill. It is also hard for some people to recognise that skill so they will probably not appreciate your videos.
Dept in the village would be a Great topic
I personally enjoy the content you create. My fiance is from Isaan. I have known her for 2 years. We own land in Isaan, I have met her family, and I can assure you that the level of sincerity of the Isaan people is like nothing I have witnessed in the West. Yes, I send 11,000 baht p/fortnight ($500 AUD). For her personal expenses, and what she doesn't spend she saves for our house. This is simply life. I am the man, and it is my job to ensure my wife's needs as she does for me. Thanks Ryan. Love the content.
This guy tells it like it is, he's honest & living the life he wants. Ignore negativity from losers who come to Thailand because they couldn't make it back home. Again, kudos to this channel.
This channel is real and to the dirty point (hence:fun!) Thank you brother. Keep it up!
I like your channel because your authentic. Your opinion is derived from your circumstances and experiences. I can gain perspective from this. Thanks!
But I have a question, my gf supports her parents as they are farmers and she loves her parents. My question is they pay money for “ insurance” I’m guessing this is a common issue in Thai culture. It seems to be a scam on the part of the insurance companies, can you comment?
I actually started laughing at those comments....as for the shed video...bro you got me building a shed of my own!...lol..
Interesting discussion. My Thai gf and I have been together for 15 years now. I always paid for all of the bills, as in my culture that's what the Man is supposed to do. I have no complaints. She uses the monthly allowance to pay all the bills and she saves a certain amount in her own bank account. She actually sends me all the receipts even though I have never asked for this. I bought her a car and a motorbike and we live in rural Thailand. My gf is a teacher and makes a very small salary. I wouldn't even dream of expecting her to spend her salary on the household bills. We have a house together which I paid for. Every year she negotiates an increase in the household budget and that seems quite normal to me.
555! i was wondering that about the noodles too! 9:28 Stay eternal, brother.
Thanks!
Hi again Ryan
My Thai wife of 11 years works for the Thai Civil service (over 20 years) She pays our home loan herself.
She also pays for her own health insurance and all the small everyday items such as milk bread and food for our 8 year old son and also her dad.
I don't pay any allowance to my wife.
However
I pay for all the monthly expenses such as Electricity,Internet, Netflix, extra school lessons for our son on Saturdays,Diesel for our ute ,car rego insurance and car servicing etc.
Plus trips to restaurants, our twice yearly holidays,and any home maintenance and home improvements such as a new shed and all home appliances etc.
Overall I think we have a fairly equal arrangement.
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My wife in the uk has no income but she helps me with my business when necessary, she keeps house, cleans, cooks, laundry and much more. If I had to pay her for everything she does for free I'd have little money left...so don't forget the value of a mother and housewife. She is invaluable. We have a joint account and she is free to use it because i know she won't buy anything we cant afford....Like your channel and how you live....😊
😂 @ complaint department
I appreciate your perspective
Stay safe, young man
Without a doubt you show the real nuts and bolts of life in rural Thailand. You appear to be a very fair, caring and compassionate gent. It seems to me you have a wonderful family life , one that many would envy. Keep posting , I love to hear your very balanced views.
You're not paying her a salary you're being a genuine husband and father! Different... 🙏
And on a completely different note but stuff you’re interested in… I just found a really nice harvest of Monotropa uniflora (ghost pipe).
I’m a 79 year old married woman who has worked out side the home for 18 years and in the home for all my marriage of 59 years. My husband has worked for 35 years and now is retired, we have always had “one” bank account !! We pay our bills and all our spending comes out of that account. and we always put part into a savings account for emergencies . We are equal partners in everything we do. I don’t have to ask for money ever! We both use the account for both our needs and that of our family of 3 children when the were little and lived at home!! We trust each other !! End of story!
My Thai wife and I live in Australia together.
We are a team…..we work together for the best results for our family.
Amen...I like both of your channels.
G'day Ryan, my thai wife and I have been together for 30 years and have 2 kids, now adults. We have a thai restaurant and joint account. She works 2 days a week and l scrubb down the kitchen once a fortnight as well as manage the business from a distance. We share everything from money to a cigarette to an alcoholic beverage, we even sometimes eat off the same dish. Everyone is different in their relationships, some are sharing and caring and some are selfish and self concerning. Different strokes for different folks
I like your channel, it's different compared to most others that are mostly in tourist areas and the content often about renting/buying condos or visit tourist attractions, I love rural Thailand away from all this.
So keep up the good work and just try to ignore these negative comments you get from I guess 100% men.
I am 72 years old, and among my parents' generation, it was very normal for the woman in a relationship to stay at home and take care of all domestic things, including the children (typically 3-4-5), while the man had work outside the home, and thus was the one who paid for everything - and thus indirectly paid the wife.
I have now been married to a (younger) Thai woman for 10 years (met her here in Copenhagen - she has lived for over 20 years in Denmark) and we share the expenses - neither of us consider it as if I am 'buying' her.
Always a hot topic of conversation this one 😂
Personally, I would say it’s all down to the circumstances of each Individual and what type of relationship it is as in girlfriend, marriage or family.
It’s impossible to say! But let’s be honest I think most will know if they are being taken for a complete mug or not! Whether they want to admit that to themselves or not is another question.
Ryan, your critics' expectations are the source of their disappointment. Your content is always stimulating and valuable. That's my opinion.
I live here. Never had a full time gf/companion in Thailand, but I know many men who do, and happily provide financial support if needed. Some do, some don't.
Not too terribly concerned with the opinions of the twisted knicker folks. In fact, not at all.
Thanks so much for a great episode.
I have never thought that I pay any salary to my wife (Thai). Since we met about 20 years ago, we have shared finances, we have different accounts, hers more for saving and mine for spending. Now we will start spending parts of the year in Thailand and then it will be changed, she will set up an account in Thailand and will have all the money, get to pay all the bills and if I want to do something I can ask her for cash (salary) 🙂
Best regards
Mathias
your content is great! more comments on positive feedback would be welcome. . I realize negative feedback tends to get more attention and perhaps clicks.. I for one, do enjoy your content and your perspective on living and raising a family in Thailand as a Farang.. Good stuff.
I love your introductions when you star your videos,Ryan.❤❤
Pls brother, don’t waste your time with these people. I ❤️🫶🏻🫶🏻🙏🏻you and your channel and fam. Don’t even waste your time! Pls stay strong 💪 and f the haters! I love everything you post!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I like your talks,a another presons opinion to is always interesting,your opinion and my opinion makes me very wise person keep it up 👏👏🤙🤙
Great topic Ryan & good grief….please ignore the pathetic losers who post negative comments 😬 This channel should be for happy & positive people only! Take care & enjoy the rest of your week 😊
My beautiful wife, my amazing wife, my much younger wife, or my wife of 27 years but never my Thai Wife.😎
I have been married to a Japanese woman for 23 years. I lived in S.E. Asia for 7 years. Relationships alll have their ebbs and flows over the long term. You have to work together. If one person works and the other does not, that is fine. There are other tasks which help the family and the nonworking person can attend to those. "Money is an energy". Yes. I also think money is trap too.
It's amazing what goes through people's mind's, . 😮
Simply Adjusting to the way of life you Liv Ryan is a big step for any westerners, not sure how anybody can downgrade your wonderful life story , Only Gelous people and they come in many forms of life....Let nothing bring you down man...Keep the videos rolling jaz man😉
Yes, have a Thai wife and we are both working in Thailand as professionals in our fields, I'm an expat and have worked in SE Asia for many years. We share the expenses, my wife has a child with her previous husband and I look after him also. It's a normal relationship and we rarely talk about money, except when we invest together involving business or future prospects. If your a westerner, ofcourse you would support your wife especially if you have children and she is unable to work for a period of time. I don't understand what all the nonsense is about when you compare this to a Thai wife. I guess some people are just jealous!
Your vid’s aren’t boring mate. You bring up some interesting topics, and I’m not intending to move to Thailand, I’m content in China. 😊 I think you’d be an interesting fella to sit down with and have a chat and put the world to rights.
Can that thumbnail be any more click bait???🤣🤣🤣🤣
Love your work! Keep it up!
Personally, married for 5 years I cover the rent, she pays all the bills and gets the food shopping. We also put a few thousand into a joint savings account also. When out and about I’ll usually pay for the meals etc. Simples 😃
I say piss on those negative comments. If you were sitting in a dark room just ranting I'd still be fascinated because you've got soul. With ya always brother.
I love that, I put that it "i dont give a shit", brilliant
The answer lies in the fact that you even need to ask the question in the first place
first, I think your channel is fine. when I hear you talking about your situation it sounds like a normal marriage to me. The two of you seem to be equally working toward common goals.
To be honest people seem to have forgotten the term "house keeping" (and I believe this is a UK term) going back just 50 yrs it was NORMAL for the wife to look after the home and for the husband to provide a monthly allowance for these costs, i.e. house keeping. The husband is not PAYING his wife in this instance and no one would dispute this. As you say Ryan its about terminology or labels if you prefer. Where the lines do become blurred, for me, is where the fallang hands over a sum of money each month and the wife squanders this and distributes this to family members and runs short of funds for household costs expecting him to make up the shortfall. It would seem your relationship is not like this and is just traditional one (but to be honest your wife seems very intelligent and responsible which helps) I guess the correct way to phrase the question would be "How much house keeping would your Thai partner require to run your home to your standards?"
Keep up the gr8 videos mate, Cheers from Chon Buri.