There's something there. I agree with @mauseratimeowzebub8818 but I think it's manipulation. But I can't tell why. Like... If he was love bombing I'd think it was because of cheating but he's being a prick about it. I think either he wanted to try and get her to bend and do something for him or let him do something uncontested "because I got you that expensive thing you wanted" or he knew his complaining would make her not want it? Something is fishy there.
He weopnized it. He said he would get it out loud and then realized how much it would really cost but refused to back down. He could have been an adult and talk to you about how he thought it would be too much. So he instead turned it on you so you would feel like the bad guy.
You do realize the person who made the post isn't gonna see this comment because it's just some dude taking other people's Reddit stories and posting them on YT shorts with an ai voice
Yea, made me think of my husband. If he saw something is too expensive he'd tell me. Although, he's still sweet and tries to find it. I always told him I don't mind even if it's second hand, so he goes on all sorts of websites(not scammy ones) to find it at a lower price and still get it for me.
He ruined Christmas and he ruined the surprise; his whole reasoning is disgusting. He’d rather blow that money on a tv than get his wife a gift she’d really love. Sounds like he needs a wife he loves more than a tv, she certainly deserves better
Husband ruined christmas and weponised your want for something. Frankly I would have saved a little we very month getting it for myself before husband could ruin it for me.
NTA. He ruined Christmas but whining like a kunt. Why would you want something given to you begrudgingly. Tell him to take his gaslighting to the bathroom.
There is and update, OP husband apologizes to her, apperently he was loving in poverty When he was little, he also say that the comment of the TV was just a joke since is his sence of Humour, in the end OP decide that she will be the one buying herself the gift, she also said that she would not divorce him (Some comments say that to her).
It doesn't matter if he lived in poverty as a child? It's not excusing it at all. If it was something too pricey to him, he could've said that to begin with or just not say anything and simply not tell her that he will get it for her. Also it's not a joke if he said the same things for few months, about how it was could get 18282 otter things for this money, and how annoying and ridiculous it was and to not show him anything more because he wont get it lol. If you repeat something all the time it's not funny anymore but there's a grain of truth in that It's sad she stayed with him
As women we let our holidays be ruined so everyone else doesn't notice and have a great holiday, how can he say you ruined the holidays when he had already destroyed yours.
This! This is my biggest pet peeves!! Instant turn off! So many times i had this done to me "you better be happy im getting you xyz" or "xyz cost me so much". Im like okay dont get it for me then you ruin the gift
'Husband' ruined things, not OP. He spent plenty of time being passive aggressive, dismissive, and nagging until he got what he wanted and now he's trying to gaslight OP into accepting the negative feelings he created all on his own.
No you didn't ruin Christmas. Your husband was doing that all on his own with his inner resentment issues. I would have told my husband not to buy me anything too if he was carrying on like that.
As one of my dear friends say thug it out,he said he was going to get it then complain about how expensive it is then when she/he says they don't want to anymore he throws a fit, he needs to grow up bc he is at least 15 or 16(but probably older) and acting like a little kid
My mother does that bullish with something as simple as food. She just loves to complain. If i grab a piece of fish, oh I wanted that one. So I put it back and go for the other but 'no get the one you took first'. Dont tell me to choose then complain about my choice, then complain that I gave you wanted. I get OP. Its not worth the headache and guilt of an item if it symbolizes and will continue to symbolize an ongoing argument. I dont want to borrow trouble.
He definitely feels guilty for how he acted but doesn’t want to admit that guilt so he twisted it by saying YOU ruined Christmas, which was a childish move. Just talk it out and move forward. It’s best to let it be water under the bridge if this relationship is going to last. And definitely don’t bring this up years later or hold a grudge. If you think you might then just divorce now because holding it just sabotaging everything
Nope but he did, the whole time all he did was complain about the price I would not want it either because like op stated everything I look at it I would be reminded of how he really didn't want to spend the money on it in the first place. And BTW if it's a gift it's supposed to come from the heart because you know that this is something that your love one would like and enjoy
No, he’s being a man child. If he wants to give a gift he should do it and leave it at that, not try to guilt you for the fact that the gift is expensive.
Don't even show you are upset. Skip around the house happy 😊 that's gonna trigger him all the more. Later on, when he screams at you for ruining Christmas, calmly ask him why he's behaving deranged. Gaslighting is a beautiful weapon 😂 I can assure you, he will question his own sanity when he sits alone on the toilet to think about what happened!
I've felt the husband before, and I've felt the wife. I say this because I've been in a position where I objectively know that if I got the gift they wanted, but I'd be denting tf outta my bank account. Obviously they'd just like that I got a gift, but you reaaaalllllyyy want to get them that gift and it sucks lol. But like I wouldn't complain to the person I'm getting it for, that's nuts and not their fault that you decided to buiy it
nope. don't give him anything, he's complaining about promising to get you something you really want instead of just not promising it in the first place. at this time, I think it's time for a divorce.
Hey, there’s an update on the Reddit story. The husband apologized and they had a talk. Everything is fine and he himself agreed that he was being an ass.
No, he is the one acting like a child, he told you what he was getting you and claims that he loves surprises, he gets upset because you tell him how you feel over him complaining all the time, sounds like something my 6 year old cousin would do, not something a grown ass man would
Gaslighting. After acting like a child and ruining it for you, he wants to twist the narrative to make you the bad guy by saying you're ungrateful. What a turd
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ok, lo único que puedo pensar es que él la engaño y por culpa decidió comprar el regalo después piensa que es demasiado y bla, bla, bla
Jesus. OP needs to grow a spine, and tell her husband to buck up. He deliberately sulked and manipulated her enough that she told him not to bother, and made her even feel guilty about that. Get a whole new husband.
not agreeing with the husband but how many years is years? how long as she been wanting this making passes comments about it? I've wanted certain things that were absolutely out of my price range and maybe only a couple times voiced it if a discussion like if you had the money what would you buy came up but not year after year about it
You kept mentioning it in "passing jokes and comments". Hmmm... just HOW MANY TIMES did you make a joke or comment about this item to your husband? Gee, wonder why he felt the need to grudgingly buy that expensive item for you. 🙄
Absolutely not and don't you tell that the dumb dumb head make you feel that way he is the one that it hurting Christmas not you making you feel bad willingly and happily trying to be kind trying to be a good mother and wife and instead of a captain as it was he took it as a hateful ungrateful mood if anyone is 14 minutes at 1,000 sent him not you don't feel bad I know I'm off on spending another thing I have a visual throat and my phone is set
To me, a good gift is something the person wants, but doesn't need, and wouldn't buy for themselves. Buying it yourself takes all the fun out of it. Although not as bad as what the POS husband did to OP- he ruined her Christmas, and possibly nuked his marriage.
“He likes surprises” yet he told you in advance and kept telling you what he was getting you.
Exactly my thoughts.. and on top of that he kept bringing up how he had to get her this expensive thing in a negative mood
Seems like he's setting a trap -- like he's guilty over something, so he's manipulating wife into submission.
There's something there. I agree with @mauseratimeowzebub8818 but I think it's manipulation. But I can't tell why. Like... If he was love bombing I'd think it was because of cheating but he's being a prick about it. I think either he wanted to try and get her to bend and do something for him or let him do something uncontested "because I got you that expensive thing you wanted" or he knew his complaining would make her not want it? Something is fishy there.
He weopnized it. He said he would get it out loud and then realized how much it would really cost but refused to back down. He could have been an adult and talk to you about how he thought it would be too much. So he instead turned it on you so you would feel like the bad guy.
You do realize the person who made the post isn't gonna see this comment because it's just some dude taking other people's Reddit stories and posting them on YT shorts with an ai voice
This.
@@nrain8930 doesn't matter, we can still say our opinions.
I feel the same way you do..
Yea, made me think of my husband. If he saw something is too expensive he'd tell me. Although, he's still sweet and tries to find it. I always told him I don't mind even if it's second hand, so he goes on all sorts of websites(not scammy ones) to find it at a lower price and still get it for me.
You have the right to fill your feelings The fact that he is trying to force you into feeling like the bad guy is a manipulator
He ruined Christmas and he ruined the surprise; his whole reasoning is disgusting. He’d rather blow that money on a tv than get his wife a gift she’d really love. Sounds like he needs a wife he loves more than a tv, she certainly deserves better
Husband ruined christmas and weponised your want for something.
Frankly I would have saved a little we very month getting it for myself before husband could ruin it for me.
NTA. He ruined Christmas but whining like a kunt. Why would you want something given to you begrudgingly. Tell him to take his gaslighting to the bathroom.
There is and update, OP husband apologizes to her, apperently he was loving in poverty When he was little, he also say that the comment of the TV was just a joke since is his sence of Humour, in the end OP decide that she will be the one buying herself the gift, she also said that she would not divorce him (Some comments say that to her).
Thank you ❤
As the saying goes, "Throw a plate on the floor. Then apologize to it. Does it magically go back together the way it was?"
It doesn't matter if he lived in poverty as a child? It's not excusing it at all. If it was something too pricey to him, he could've said that to begin with or just not say anything and simply not tell her that he will get it for her.
Also it's not a joke if he said the same things for few months, about how it was could get 18282 otter things for this money, and how annoying and ridiculous it was and to not show him anything more because he wont get it lol. If you repeat something all the time it's not funny anymore but there's a grain of truth in that
It's sad she stayed with him
He should have kept quiet if he loves surprises so much.
Who weaponizes a Christmas gift.
Sounds like he wanted her to reject it so he can blame her for it
What and a$$
As women we let our holidays be ruined so everyone else doesn't notice and have a great holiday, how can he say you ruined the holidays when he had already destroyed yours.
he's petty self whiny attitude did
This! This is my biggest pet peeves!! Instant turn off! So many times i had this done to me "you better be happy im getting you xyz" or "xyz cost me so much". Im like okay dont get it for me then you ruin the gift
'Husband' ruined things, not OP. He spent plenty of time being passive aggressive, dismissive, and nagging until he got what he wanted and now he's trying to gaslight OP into accepting the negative feelings he created all on his own.
No, you didn't ruin Christmas.He and he know what he was doing
"Did I ruin Christmas?" After that explanation??? Are you seriously asking that? HE is the bad guy here!
No you didn't ruin Christmas. Your husband was doing that all on his own with his inner resentment issues. I would have told my husband not to buy me anything too if he was carrying on like that.
No El fue El q lo daño es su culpa ademas lo q El esta haciendo es para q te sienta culpable o q lo veas q fue una obligacion mas q un regalo
His comments meant he resented buying it! A gift not given with cheer is not a gift.
As one of my dear friends say thug it out,he said he was going to get it then complain about how expensive it is then when she/he says they don't want to anymore he throws a fit, he needs to grow up bc he is at least 15 or 16(but probably older) and acting like a little kid
He likes surprises but told you what he is getting you? No. He wanted to use that to hold power over you.
He was being a bad husband and a cruel person. He ruined Christmas and his partner's joy over a gift he CHOSE to give and announce
He's an ah don't buy him anything save up the money you'd spend on him and get what you want
My mother does that bullish with something as simple as food. She just loves to complain. If i grab a piece of fish, oh I wanted that one. So I put it back and go for the other but 'no get the one you took first'. Dont tell me to choose then complain about my choice, then complain that I gave you wanted. I get OP. Its not worth the headache and guilt of an item if it symbolizes and will continue to symbolize an ongoing argument. I dont want to borrow trouble.
He definitely feels guilty for how he acted but doesn’t want to admit that guilt so he twisted it by saying YOU ruined Christmas, which was a childish move. Just talk it out and move forward. It’s best to let it be water under the bridge if this relationship is going to last. And definitely don’t bring this up years later or hold a grudge. If you think you might then just divorce now because holding it just sabotaging everything
I would have done the same thing ❤❤❤❤
He was definitely the one who ruined it. Like you said, you didn't ask him to get it for you. And his constant weaponizing of it was not cute either.
Nope but he did, the whole time all he did was complain about the price I would not want it either because like op stated everything I look at it I would be reminded of how he really didn't want to spend the money on it in the first place. And BTW if it's a gift it's supposed to come from the heart because you know that this is something that your love one would like and enjoy
No, he’s being a man child. If he wants to give a gift he should do it and leave it at that, not try to guilt you for the fact that the gift is expensive.
HE should've kept quiet. Not you.
(Off topic but-) I'm guessing the item was the Dyson airwrap😅
She said decorative
Don't even show you are upset. Skip around the house happy 😊 that's gonna trigger him all the more. Later on, when he screams at you for ruining Christmas, calmly ask him why he's behaving deranged. Gaslighting is a beautiful weapon 😂 I can assure you, he will question his own sanity when he sits alone on the toilet to think about what happened!
I've felt the husband before, and I've felt the wife. I say this because I've been in a position where I objectively know that if I got the gift they wanted, but I'd be denting tf outta my bank account. Obviously they'd just like that I got a gift, but you reaaaalllllyyy want to get them that gift and it sucks lol. But like I wouldn't complain to the person I'm getting it for, that's nuts and not their fault that you decided to buiy it
nope. don't give him anything, he's complaining about promising to get you something you really want instead of just not promising it in the first place. at this time, I think it's time for a divorce.
No, HE ruined it. He is a giant AH, for treating you that way. DO NOT let him off this hook. Make him feel as awful as he made you feel.
No ! He did!
None of you ruined it, you dont know whats going on when your not there, talk to him and then judge him
There’s 2 sides to every story I won’t make a decision until I have heard the husbands side of the story
Sounds like somebody talked hubby into buying the gift (maybe his parents or siblings).
Hey, there’s an update on the Reddit story. The husband apologized and they had a talk. Everything is fine and he himself agreed that he was being an ass.
No, he is the one acting like a child, he told you what he was getting you and claims that he loves surprises, he gets upset because you tell him how you feel over him complaining all the time, sounds like something my 6 year old cousin would do, not something a grown ass man would
It’s not a gift. He will use it as leverage later too.
I hate the things being dangled over me like I'm a pet dog you have to train.
Gaslighting. After acting like a child and ruining it for you, he wants to twist the narrative to make you the bad guy by saying you're ungrateful.
What a turd
ok, lo único que puedo pensar es que él la engaño y por culpa decidió comprar el regalo después piensa que es demasiado y bla, bla, bla
If he likes surprises he shouldn’t have repeatedly talked about the gift and it’s cost.
Jesus. OP needs to grow a spine, and tell her husband to buck up. He deliberately sulked and manipulated her enough that she told him not to bother, and made her even feel guilty about that.
Get a whole new husband.
not agreeing with the husband but how many years is years? how long as she been wanting this making passes comments about it? I've wanted certain things that were absolutely out of my price range and maybe only a couple times voiced it if a discussion like if you had the money what would you buy came up but not year after year about it
He ruined it by being a jerk over the cost
Because it’s the thought that counts, I wouldn’t want any thing from him either. His “jokes” aren’t humor. He’s not funny or clever.
He ruined Christmas by constantly complaining. Why are you with a person that is this way. Disgusting.
Thats not a partner thats a narcissist.
he ruined christmas all on his own.
He ruined Xmas not you if he didn't want to get it you he should never have said he would.
Why is HE upset, again?
NO ffs, NO your HUSBAND has ruined Christmas.....akso, Christmas is to celebrate CHRISTs BIRTHDAY....not about GIFT GIVING
No he did why anouce it and then complaining about how much it was
Time to divorce
No you didn't ruin Christmas, HE ruined it with his attitude
tell us he hates you without telling us he hates you
No but he did.
No
this is narcissistic abuse btw
If it's constantly happening
@ behaviors don't need to be a pattern to be abuse
Literally, what was the point of saying that he was gonna buy it for you but then he’s complaining all about it and he’s gonna say he’ll buy it?
NTA he seems manipulative
No. He ruined Christmas by making you feel bad for wanting something
No but...he did
No he did
He's an AH
No, you didn't.He did by his disrespectful comments
No! He runed Christmas
You kept mentioning it in "passing jokes and comments". Hmmm... just HOW MANY TIMES did you make a joke or comment about this item to your husband?
Gee, wonder why he felt the need to grudgingly buy that expensive item for you. 🙄
He ruined it and gaslit you.
Your being manipulated 😂😂😂😂
Husband is an a$$ hole and most likely pulls this crap on her birthday, Mother’s Day or any other day he has to think of her and not himself
He made you a burden.
He's a bad guy and you've ignored too many red flags.
Leave
It sounds like he's toxic
No you didn't ruin Christmas dear your husband ruined Christmas
Very triggering stuff 😮💨
He ruined it and is a jerk
he ruined christmas not you !
That’s a mf toddler girl and you need to run
No, but he’s a walking red flag. Get out
Your ratbag of a husband is the one who ruined Christmas, You are worth more than the $500 he was begrudgingly to spend on you. 😢
He ruined it
You husband is a narcissist. All he sees is how can something bring him happiness and nothing else.
Absolutely not and don't you tell that the dumb dumb head make you feel that way he is the one that it hurting Christmas not you making you feel bad willingly and happily trying to be kind trying to be a good mother and wife and instead of a captain as it was he took it as a hateful ungrateful mood if anyone is 14 minutes at 1,000 sent him not you don't feel bad I know I'm off on spending another thing I have a visual throat and my phone is set
He ruined Christmas
Bad husband
NOPE YOU'RE NTA BUT YOUR HUSBAND IS
No your not
He is a nasasiss, leave him
IMO he’s cheating
He ruined christmas
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OPs husband ruined Xmas. But if I was OP I would save for it. $10 here. $20 there until I had the money
To me, a good gift is something the person wants, but doesn't need, and wouldn't buy for themselves. Buying it yourself takes all the fun out of it. Although not as bad as what the POS husband did to OP- he ruined her Christmas, and possibly nuked his marriage.