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Hey everyone, welcome back to my channel! Today, we're going to be talking about a topic that we can all relate to - bullies getting what they deserve.
Bullying is a serious issue that can have a lasting impact on individuals, and unfortunately, it's all too common in our society. But sometimes, bullies do get what's coming to them, and in this video, we'll be taking a look at some of the most satisfying examples of bullies getting their just desserts.
From the bullies who were caught on camera by their victims to the ones who got fired from their jobs for their behavior, we'll be sharing some stories that will make you feel a sense of justice has been served.
We'll also be examining the different ways that people are standing up to bullies and how we can all play a role in creating a culture of kindness and respect.
So, get ready to feel empowered and inspired as we talk about bullies getting what they deserve. Don't forget to share your own experiences and thoughts in the comments below. Thanks for watching, and I'll see you in the next video!
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As a victim of bullying in my life, I rejoice in bullies being called out. I can't even stand when I've heard people say things like boys will be boys or kids will be kids. I was a kid and was never a rude a-hole to anyone. Bullying should never be overlooked and accepted as normal behavior.
Some kids are really nasty bully, saying from personal experience.
I was bullied in grade school in the 1960s. Still dealing with the stuff from them. We didn't have social media back then, or I'm sure things would be much worse for ne then and now. Hope you a are doing well, and remember, you are awesome!! Yes, I mean you, the peopke that read this !!!!
Exactly I 100% agree with you. I was bullied when I was really young, so when I got to be about 15, I started bullying the bullies !! These girls really deserved it because they thought They could do and say whatever they wanted to anyone including the girls from the special classes and one in a wheelchair. The best part Was when I grew up And went back to visit my small Hometown and saw How their lives turned out ! Believe me karma will get them and it did , Walking down the street with 5 little dirty kids running everywhere they gained a lot of weight( 1 of their favorite targets was my best friend who was chubby) stains on their shirts and holes in them and hair nit even brushed !! I'm sorry but Yeah I laughed so hard I almost peed myself that day !! What you put out into this world comes back 10fold !! Iam so sorry you ever had to exspirence anyone bulling you it's not right and you never deserved it !
@@aliencat11 I'm sorry to hear that Mary. I understand the effects of bullying that last years after. To this day, I have social anxiety . I always feel like someone is talking about me. I'm always on the defensive. I don't open up to many people. I tend to prefer my own company. But enough about me Mary. I'm sure you are a wonderful person. I think we get bullied because most bullies are jealous and insecure. They see something in you that they wish they had. Keep being the beautiful and wonderful person you are.
They do because they really don’t understand the affects they cause their victims.
As someone whose bully married into their family and can't call them out for their behavior. I'm living for the bullies getting called out.
I had a bully marry into my family also. I felt like I couldn't call them out for years. She is still an a hole and my brother died and she hasn't changed. So I figured. I have no more fs to give and will be calling her and all the rest out. Don't hold back your light to keep the peace.
@This Side of the Nuthouse as much as I want to it's not worth the fight. The whole family knows what she did to me but when I don't give her and my brother handouts and ask them not to eat the food I paid for as I couldn't afford to feed 6 people regularly at the time. I got a call from my grandma saying I was bullying my brother and his wife.
Had an Uncle who IS a c**t to everyone in the whole world... like seriously couldn't even keep a paid for bride lmaoo he followed me on facebook, i watched him BULLY my handicapped Aunty for years. So he made a rude comment on facebook, my response (also wouldn't see my grandma unless she paid for it - his mother) I wrote: I feel sorry that my nan had to push a disgusting human like you out of her vagina. fuck off! No regrets EVER! That was 10 years ago.
@@Littlereddevil94 I’d stick up for myself no matter how much of a hassle it is.
@Crystal Met As much as I wanted to at the time I had no choice. Now I can say whatever I want but I've decided she's just not worth the effort anymore. For me the best thing I can do is live my life and be happy. I'm already doing things that she wants to do. So I guess in the end it's for the best.
If I or one of my siblings was squalling in the drive thru, there's a 100% chance my mom would've drove off & headed home. 😂 Back in the 90s fast food was a major treat/reward.
Exactly! That’s what my mom would have done too. 😂
Likewise
I used to work for Panera and other fast food places. If I couldn't hear the customer, I asked them to come to the window and apologized for the inconvenience. It's hard to understand others a lot of times (music, cars, children, soft-toned voices, etc), but you get used to it and figure out how to help them the best way possible for not only them but yourself.
@@saratello9834 I think we didn't see the same video, cause he clearly didn't want to help her, if that would've been the case he would've taken her order because the child wasn't even screaming anymore when she was recording the video.
@@saratello9834 He was telling her to come inside into the restaurant to order but she couldn't cause her daughters didn't have shoes on. She doesn't need shoes to go to the window? She goes to the window anyway to pay and pick up the food.
@@saratello9834 somebody needs to rewatch…
@@saratello9834 nope. He gave her the attitude that there was a problem with her because her child (who she cant control) is having a fit so that would have been more convenient had it been in the store.
He basically is telling her to make his job easier so that he could hear her. As a CSR, he needed to adjust. Maybe that video needed more context but along with Charlotte, I disagree.
He literally could've taken her order and moved on to the next customer by the time she stopped filming. Funny how her child wasn't screaming when the video was shot.
Bullies always need calling out!
There was a girl in my high school that was bullied daily. Her hair was long, but usually looked greasy (teenagers. It happens). As I had a dad who flipped out that us kids took daily showers, I know it likely wasn’t her fault, as her parents were older than most of ours and she was an only child. At any rate, two mean girls decided to cut a huge chunk out of her hair from behind. Cut to two weeks later and poor Cindy was hit by a drunk driver and killed. Those two girls went to her funeral. I still think about this often and still want to weep. I’m 57 and this happened when I was 16.
I bet they never forgot that either 💔
Pity it wasn't the other way around with the girl bullies being ahhh? , send to heaven and poor Cindy spitting on their resting places. 7:21
Idk the audacity to go to their funeral. I was physically and mentally abused and bullied by everyone of my peers. I was the designated person to bully and harass. I literally had to drop out of middle school. I already had trauma issues because I had a hard life. Bullying put me over the edge and I couldn't focus on school so why go.
And the schools did absolutely nothing to actually stop it
If I died and they went to my funeral I'd haunt them.
@@FukaiKokorodamn straight 👏 I’m so sorry that happened to you, and hope you’re doing much better now ❤
Charlotte being a social outcast probably helped strengthen her independent streak and forge her own path in life . Great role model for victims of bullying .
I relate to that a lot.. Like it’s great to be able to turn those bad experiences into success by gaining strength from it, but at a cost that none of us had to pay for honestly
That's the thing. I was bullied myself and I kinda pride myself for not taking any more shit than I want to deal with at the moment. I think it strengthened me. And I have made observations that suggest, people who haven't been through shit like me and other bullying victims have, can lack that strength and determination. Does that mean, if there was no bullying, people would be weaker willed and less determined?
Don't get me worng, I will never thank my bullies. They can go fuck themselves. But do I owe some of what I have now to their shitty behavior? Did they 'do me a favor' in any way?
I wish it worked that way for me but I've become more withdrawn and have no real life friends :(
@@eniscoworldheritagesite I was bullied too and the biggest revelations I came to were #1 I was born 100% worthy of respect, and as long as i hold up my end of that bargain, i still deserve to be treated with respect #2, I can't have zero control over the opinions that others have about me. What i can do is be a decent person to other people, and here's the hard part, improving my opinion of myself. If you try to find your confidence in the opinions of others about you , you are fighting a losing battle. If you treat other people with kindness, you ARE a great person, period. I hope you find some peace with this. *hugs*
No if there is a line then the woman needs to wait into a kid stops, crying make the order
as a victim of bullying all throughout my school years, thank you so much for this. it always feels like a small victory for me when other bullies get called out even if it’s not my own. 🖤
Do some name dropping bestie! We gotchu! Just point them out and “Wait in the truck”. 😉
@Charlotte - also, thank you so much for not being pro panera guy. i have a 2 year old. he has never acted bad or screamed (except for happily babbling) while i’m at a drive thru of any kind whether it be fast food, the bank, etc. but you actually taking the mothers side feels so VALIDATING for me as a mother. like babies and small children are gonna scream and be loud sometimes. they’re tiny children. baby pterodactyls if you will. 🤣 i love you charlotte! 🤍🤍🤍
@@davidguidry657 if i could remember all of their names i so would 😭 you know how they say trauma kills brain cells? i’m living proof of it because i can’t remember 98% of my childhood and school life.
Schadenfreude is a hell of a drug
@@blvckwid.w I’m so sorry that you had that experience! My heart breaks for you but I know you’re doing everything for your son to have a better experience than you did and we are here for that. Sending you love and prayers from San Antonio TX USA.
Had a lady with her screaming kids in the drive through one day so loud it was heard throughout the restaurant. My front counter person had to ask people inside to repeat their orders, the whole kitchen/ drive thru staff had to take off headsets, when she kept ordering with no one able to understand her, as the manager I responded calmly at the highest volume level I could: "MA'AM PLEASE PULL AROUND TO THE FRONT, WE CAN NOT HEAR YOU; YOUR CHILDREN ARE SCREAMING."
My thing also is why can you not go in because your child doesn't have shoes on? You don't feel like holding your child and/or did they walk to the car themselves? I don't understand her response.
Yea I would think it would hurt someone’s ears and startle them especially if they weren’t expecting to hear such a high pitch noise. The mom wasn’t being shamed but should have basic consideration knowing they order thru a headpiece and maybe tell her kid to stop for the time being ? Idk maybe I’m wrong .
I'm sorry, but I find this annoying as well. Yes, children scream, but if it's so bad to the point someone can't hear you to take your order...what is he supposed to do? He gave her two other choices, but it's so inconvenient for her. What about the inconvenience your causing to people in line behind you? They gotta wait because this guy's trying to decipher her order with her child screaming over the top?
😂😂😂😂 I can so relate I’ve had to tell my kids to shut up while I’m ordering 😂 they haven’t done that again now they’re a little older 😂😂 I was mortified and apologized to all McDonald’s employees 😅😅😅
Thank you someone gets it , like I'm trying to get your order and your child is screaming at the top of their lungs !
I was a severe bullying victim, and I can't imagine the bravery it would take to call out my bullies in this digital world. I'm not sure I could have done it. Kudos to all who do.
Go do it...karma should serve them dw we are with you❤
Sad part is~they probably don’t even remember doing it so if you do call them out, they’ll gaslight you somehow.
I mentioned it on my Facebook once years ago, I said "if what they say is true and boys hit and tease girls they think are cute, I must have been very popular in grade 7!" Because I was beaten relentlessly all year by a group of boys until I switched schools.. I ended up having a bunch of guys that never bullied me at all apologizing on my post in case it was them! But it wasn't any of them, the ones that did it were not my Facebook friends anyways.. it's just odd I got a bunch of apologies from innocent men ha! But I realized when my own son went into grade 7 that those boys are practically babies still! They still should have known better, but they were so young who knows what was up at home either
Okay, but the nudes in school can and should be dealt with harshly. It only takes one person to prove who was sending them and then you can charge them with distributing c*i*d pr0n. Absolutely no mercy if they're going to do that.
I actually told this to my nieces ex bf in front of his dad! She was only 14 and he was 18 and had “sweet talked” her sending nudes-then blasted the pics all over school. I went to his place of biz, (his dad owned it so I made sure dad was in on convo), and basically said to delete them or I’d turn him in for possessing child p**n, THEN he’d need to make a public apology and tell people he’d photoshopped it. His freaking dad was like, “Boys will be boys!”, and I dialed the non emergency number. It got handled quick and he became a pariah in school. You don’t mess with an overprotective aunt, that’s all I’m saying.
@Gigi : You're THAT Aunt! ❤️ your niece is so lucky to have you.
The teenager who groomed your niece is obviously the way he is because his own father is a disgusting asshole. You should have recorded the whole conversation and posted it so he lost neighbourhood business as well. What a sick man, excusing his son's actions - the girl is FOURTEEN. Ugh. I hope these men and their future Incel sons get fkn ruined.
Yes. Thank you!
@@gigilarigi3132 HELL YES
@@gigilarigi3132 well done mam 👏🏻
OMG, this brought back a horrible memory. 😫
My 9 month old son and I were on our way home from a friends house. My son was sick and I didn't have a car so we used a public bus to get around. My son was crying a lot because he was very uncomfortable because he was sick. The bus driver yelled at me to stop my son from crying. I apologized and told her that he was crying because he was sick. She didn't care and said if he doesn't stop crying she will kick us off the bus. I tried to get him to calm down but he was a sick baby so nothing was working. She stopped the bus and told me to get off. I sat there for a couple minutes because I was shocked that she would kick us off knowing that he was sick AND it was dark and cold out. She wouldn't leave until I got off the bus. But, to my surprise, every person on that bus (it was a packed bus) said don't get off and they started yelling at the driver for throwing off a mother with a sick child at night. I was filled with so much emotion from the support of the other passengers that I started bawling my eyes out. About 5 minutes later the bus driver decided to start driving, most likely because of the hate she was getting.
I'm so glad those strangers stood up for you....
That is absolutely heartbreaking and disgusting. If I were you, I would write such a complain letter I would get free bus rides for for life!
It's heartbreaking how people don't have compassion these days. I'm glad everyone stood up for you instead of sitting in silence and not helping.
I would've reported her, tried my best to get her fired
Why did you leave the house with a sick child though? Especially to "go to a friend's house". Your child is sick and needs to stay home.......
That first story is so outrageous! For so many reasons! Karen doesn't even know this person, and she's expecting not only to stay at her house, but for her to feed her and drive her everywhere. So by "saving money," she just meant making everyone else pay for things like food and gas 🤦♀
This is the story that shocked me the most!
It’s 100% entitlement for sure, but not bullying
I’m not even convinced it’s true. It’s almost too outrageous. The girl telling the story doesn’t act, look or sound like someone who would continue being nice enough to offer her guesthouse in Miami and her own car still if she brought a friend to drive, even AFTER the girl started being blatantly rude and entitled to her. Lol. I just realized what I’m saying. Although I would definitely believe someone would be that absurdity rude and entitled to someone they don’t even know! I just find it harder to believe anyone would continue to be so generous to a stranger, especially after being treated like a doormat by them. I could be wrong.
@@jwalk318 I totally agree, I don't think that first one was true. It is just TOO outrageous.
@@rachiegoodman I know a few people like this. Completely believable.
I saw the redirect post for the first story. The entitled party legit complained about staying with op in a private suite in their house for free. She rejects uber because she is "trying to save money" and "that would defeat the point of staying at ops house". THEN she had the actual AUDADACITY to badmouth op to their mutual friends, leaving out the fact that this Karen was expecting op to do so.much for her with only a week to plan and how much op offered to her.
I read the whole story too. After the first demand from bbl b!tch the offer would have been revoked
Exactly. She would have gotten a “You know what?” as her last message and then heard nothing from me again. Anything more is just inviting abuse - you already know how this is going to go, and either way you’re not getting anything done as soon as that chick is in your house.
I remember seeing this on reddit r/Choosing Beggars when it was first posted 😳 wildest thing I had read in a long time. I was invested wholly 🤣
She can afford a BBL but not a hotel room or taxi service. Given her choices, it makes me wonder if the clinic she chose was any good. Scary thought.
So what was the result? She didn't host Karen in her house, did she??
Nope, I worked drive thru before (first job at mcdangles) and it was an absolute nightmare. People threw food at me, screamed at me for how the menu itemized their order like I over charged them, and the list goes on. If a child is screaming too loudly it’s nearly impossible to hear anything but the screaming child and it can be painful on our hearing. He wasn’t an asshole.
Then have her pull up to the window and take her order there. The kid was loud, yeah, but she wasn't being rude (that we know of). She kind of sounded like a Karen in the video, but so did he. Also, he was asking her to bring her child's INSIDE, where OTHER CUSTOMERS as well as himself would also have to deal with a "screaming child," instead of just having her pull up to the window to make things better for literally everyone involved.
I've worked a drive-thru before, and have worked in customer service for a long time. It's a pain dealing with stuff like this, but like I said, she wasn't being a jerk; The kid was a mild inconvenience.
He should have pulled her up but also being inside and screaming is waaaaaaaay different than being amplified directly into your ear. You also can’t hear the order when their are background noises.
“Make things better for everyone involved” right everyone but him. I love that we are pro-inconveniencing fast food workers 🙄
The first woman went above and beyond her expectations and even was willing to lend her car out!!! The audacity!!!
In Korea being a past bully is the fastest way to get canceled and lose your celebrity status. I'm all for it honestly because it forces kids that dream of being a celebrity to think of their image from a much younger age, especially in middle school and high school.
maybe it also leads to the "nice guys/girls" getting or staying famous as opposed to the one who was willing to do anything...
Also because bullying in Korea gets super crazy and serious... like way too much
@@winniethepooht5776 Complete forgiveness requires an apology - and one that comes before viral knowledge of what they did. And honestly, some things are unforgivable.
the problem is that everyone automatically assumes its true & dont take the time to research & it can ruin peoples lives, who never did anything... its good to hold people accountable, but the punishment should match the crime & if theres no crime there shouldnt be a punishment...
No, it does not. Kids will always do stupid or even illegal things as long as this is expected between their peers. Kids needs to be educated, school system has to be more harsh about bullies. But "calling out" someone 5-10 years after they did something as a teen and ruining their career isn't gonna fix the bullying in schools problem. Not even mentioning how many acusations are later proved to be wrong. It's too easy to create a lie on this. And even those who tell the truth doesn't do justice, they just do revenge. Which again, doesn't fix the problem or the life of the person affected by bullying.
You are never too old to have empathy and consideration for others...
And yet the karen chose not to.
My daughter became and outcast from her group when she was in middle school. One girl in particular drove her out and she came home from school crying most days. We talked about choices at the point i.e. continue trying to be part of the group or cultivating new friends and take her power away. She chose new friends. We talked about it many years later and she felt that it was an experience that allowed her to grow and become stronger. The new friends that she made are still friends 25 years later. That group splintered in a few years when the leader was tired of them.
I've worked drive thru during high school. Those headsets can pick up a lot of background noise. A child screaming can literally sound like someone coming right up to you and blowing a whistle right in your ear. I've had to ask people to place their orders at the window because of screaming kids.
Loud diesel trucks were the bane of my drive thru job experience
Understandable. And your solution of asking to go to the window is also a much better option of taking care of the customer, than just refusing service for something that's a normal part of life. Well done for coming up with a solution that helped you and the customer.
Literally. I would hear private conversations, kids yelling, them being rude towards me. Once you pull up to the speaker we hear everything until you pull off. Good thing I don’t work fast food anymore
I worked in drive thru and all I can say is get the fuxk over it and take the damn order. I rather have the kid screaming then a cigarette in my face while I'm taking cash
As someone who has worked a drive thru... control your children so my ear drums are not damaged or service is refused. WE LIVE IN A SOCIETY!
Miss Charlotte doing it all today! Reacting, using accents, educating, and looking fabulous in the process is why I’m here!
Editors are also on point!
She’s an ocean of talent.
If the bbl girl threw that kind of a fit over text messages, imagine what she would have been like in real life
Exactly what I was thinking.
A lot of people actually have a big mouth behind their screen and are cowards in real life. But i think she would indeed be worse.
The Panera guy, I understand. I had a niece who screamed so loud that I’m sure it would have reverberated though a drive through speaker and it would have broken eardrums, along with anything glass. And the fact that we only see that part, and not what was going on for him to refuse service, says a lot.
Soooo….the solution is to have the screaming child come INSIDE so nobody can hear instead of just the window guy? As a mom of a child with autism, and used to be a screamer when he was younger, that makes zero sense. He could have easily taken the order. The kid had already stopped screaming, and he was still refusing to take the order. Even if she had not stopped, he could have asked her to drive up to the window, so he could hear more clearly.
That's what I was thinking!
He literally said I’ll take ur order if ur child stops screaming
Lmao. I became my bullies boss lol and after a year I got to fire them. What a glorious day that was .
that is the dream! :D
Nice
As someone who worked drive-thru, he easily could have just said "I'm sorry, I'm having trouble hearing you. Can I have you pull up to the next window and I'll continue taking your order there?" Screaming kids, loud music/trucks, etc. All part of the job. And you learn to work around it.
Edited to add: this is also coming from a mom of a toddler who LOVES to scream. Sometimes he just won't quit and most drive-thrus are understanding and will take my order at the window.
Exactly what should've been done.
Exactly, this guy literally could have done so many things but had to be an ass about it.
@@Mojo_3.14 She also could have done many things but had to be an ass about it and even film it. We also don't know how it looked before, we only know how it ended when she decided to start filming, which makes me believe she knew she was in the wrong and people wouldn't like what she was saying
i agree with you im legit so confused how this guy thinks he can refuse service because of a screaming child and how all the comments support him?? like who are these commenters? I worked retail for over a decade so.. like... screaming children come with the territory? You can ask politely like you said that you're having a hard time hearing but outright refusing service makes legit 0 sense lol
I love the window thing. Even the mom could have spoke up about going to the window to order. If that was my kid, it would have been a good moment to teach my child to be quiet in certain situations. Depending on the age. Couldn't tell in the video. If she had waited for her kid to stop, she could have used the time to order online. Charlotte forgets that in fast food it's not about taking your time. You order, pay, get your food and leave within 5mins. Employees are expected to be faster than normal humans after all.
I was bullied all the time as a kid, after I passed the fourth grade I told my mum I wanted to be home schooled. I was tired of coming home with bloody noses and injuries on my body, all because I defended a handicap child from getting bullied. The teachers did nothing, they encouraged bullying, this was the early 2000s couldn't record things to get proof. I'm glad people are calling out bullying now, just wish nobody had to go through that.
after hearing Charlotte talk about people following and unfollowing on insta in HS: I am SOOOOO glad I grew up in an age before social media. Bullying was bad enough when you could leave it at school. But now it follows you everywhere and your bullies can keep bullying you through social media. No wonder teens today have mental health problems!
true. but bullying (especially in certain schools) was really bad back then, too. I know first hand.
Oh man SAME'!!!
it was WAY worse before. no one cared, there wasn't even a name for it, it was just kids being kids. the parents would be up a kid that was beaten up because he wasn't able to defend himself. kids couldn't ask an adult for help, they would laugh at them and call them sissy and the other kids would do even worse. stealing was accepted, money and clothes, kids couldn't tell anyone or it would be much worse. teachers beat kids and parents would not only allow but ASK teachers to beat their kids if they misbehave. if girls were harassed all adults would say it's boys being boys and it was because they liked them. i could give you doble the examples. in my day there was no internet and a boy filmed a friend of mine having sex with him and passed the tape to dozens of people. everyone in highschool knew about this except adults. this was 1992. in some military schools they even raped the underdog and beat them every day it was accepted. in my middle school boys felt all girls up, all teachers saw and they never did anything. imagine today 11 yolds putting their hand on girls genitals every day. it also happened kids lining up, waiting for the victims to pass by so they could all slap them in the back of the head. it was hardcore back them. now there are even trainings for school staff and police presentations to kids about this, it's now a police issue if it's really serious. most parents protect their kids and would act as soon as their kid would start being a target. you were lucky that's all. I've raised 4 kids until adult age and they were not bullied nor my son.
@@moonhunter9993it was way worse there's absolutely no comparison
@@RaquelPereira-fj4ktI feel really sorry for you having that experience. It wasn't like that for everyone back then. My mom graduated in 1993 and did not experience what you did. She was bullied but it was things like her friend who was a cheerleader accepted an invitation to her 13th birthday party. The party was going to see one of the Friday the 13th movies so that was in the invitation so parents would know. It was also a slumber party. My mom could only invite a couple of her friends. The girl then canceled at the last minute because of "a family thing"so she could not invite someone else. Day comes of the party and they go to the movie and guess whose there with the cheer squad pointing and laughing? You got it, her "friend" who canceled. That was the kind of bullying that took place at my mom's school. Not that bad but it still hurts.
Need more backstory to the Panera order. Was the mother ordering and the child screamed non-stop so as to make it impossible for the guy to hear her order? How many times did this happen?
Also having worked with headphones on having a high pitched squeal can be really painful.
That's what I thought. I was thinking that he might have asked her to repeat herself a few times and she was getting impatient or something.
Yeah like anyone who's worked these drive thrus knows how painful that likely was. I've been able to hear people whispering in the car, I couldn't imagine having to deal with that piercing scream down my ear.
Also the online orders literally get brought to your car window! She would’ve just had to pull into a spot, typed on her phone, and then rolled the window down for food.
Wow are y’all serious he was out right rude that amount of time he was tryna have an attitude the kid wasn’t screaming and he could’ve taken the order and had her out the line but instead he kept the attitude up on his end he’s wrong that small amount of he heard a kid yelling that’s her life 24/7 he’ll be fine
the last story - I'm with the dude - hearing all day long screaming kids is not nice, and everyone thinks it's just this one kid... no, it's a whole day, service worker can refuse to serve you, especially if they provide another solution to get your order
For the Panera guy as someone who has worked as a drive through cashier it is hard to hear what people are saying in general and when you add other sounds like music, other people in the car, and children screaming it makes hearing what their ordering impossible so I can understand where he’s coming from but he could have handled it better by just asking them to pull forward and order at the window so it would be easier for him to hear her
Yeah, i worked in drive thru as well and whenever we would have people come through that i couldnt hear (lawn mowers in the background were the bane of my existence) just asking them to pull forward so i could better hear them and take their order at the window was SO much easier. I couldn't imagine refusing service outright for something like that though... and i think my boss would have sent me packing if i even tried it.
We don't know what happened before the tape started to roll.
A toddler screaming in that headset ... yikes.
Sorry, nobody should have to listen to that though a headset
Since she didn't video the whole encounter, we don't know what happened or what he said before this. At least you understand how hard it is and how horrible it is to have screaming kids in your ears.
@@meganseastrom5467 I never even worked a drive thru to know.
A child's scream is piercing enough without it being in a headset! I can't even begin to imagine how horrible it would be in a headset.
Outside, not nearly as bad, but man.. if in a closed space.... OUCH!
The purple eyeshadow really brings out the reds and yellows in your eyes, and their iridescent reddish tone looks like your hair in this video - it's so pretty! I love purple with brown eyes 😍
so glad you like!
When your child is screaming, you don't just wait for them to stop, no, you tell them to stop screaming and make sure that they do.
Thanks for clarifying what a BBL is for this over the hill Grammy ! How cruel that someone would take advantage of the nice person who agreed to offer her home and car !
i was bullied throughout my entire school years. even after i switched schools brand new people already hated me. huh?! What really hurt is in that same school I had a friend who i grew up with that refused to hang out with me because he didn't want to get bullied either. this was before internet so he told me to my face. our friendship never recovered. he tried, but i reminded him what he said. i made WAY better friends in life & now we don't even speak. i don't even remember my bullies.
good for you! you were showing yourself self love and respect by doing that. I feel that is what bullies taught me (to love myself) but it took me a long time to learn it. Wishing you wonderful friendships for the rest of your life!!
@@litebrite8993 thanks
My best friend has 2 kids that scream at her at the top of their lungs & at random strangers bc they think it’s funny. I can’t imagine how tiring that gets as a service worker
if that kid was screaming through the mic, he definetly did well on calling her out, tbh. by the way he was responding he seemed like a very chill worker, tbh
"Now what am I gonna do?"
You could keep your flat asz, Sarah! That's always an option!!!
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When kids scream in stores. Sometimes, I scream back. This usually unnerves the little buggers into silence, and yes am 55 lol. Hey it works. It shuts the bratty kid up lol
You sound like a very pleasant person. 😑
Charlotte the purple eyeshadow is absolutely beautiful. Your style is always gorgeous. Your hair is also fabulous. We need a makeup line, a very petty one. 😂👑♥️
thank you so much dina!
Right? She pulls off every look amazingly! It's almost annoying lol
Pro makeup looks all the time
@@MrsShocoTaco yes! no matter what makeup or hairstyle! i keep trying to imitate the "bratty" ponytail and it never looks as good as Charlotte's 😅
I feel like we needed the entire video of Panera guy. It's obvious that the video has been cut to that certain interaction, but we don't hear anything that happened before that. We don't hear how many times the guy had to ask her to repeat herself, or how long the child was screaming, or if the employee asked her to move up to the window to order before giving her the options he did. We hear an employee who is speaking in a calm manner to a customer who is also speaking in a calm manner, but is noticeably annoyed. We hear a child screaming briefly in a very high pitch that would make it difficult to understand. I feel like we need the full context. What she showed comes across as a bit of a Karen and a guy who definitely doesn't get paid enough to listen to that shrieking. Why else would she say she was going to go straight to corporate and not ask to speak to the manager on-duty? That's not the most efficient way to resolve this situation, and it implies a lot more happened.
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additionally all service workers can legally refuse to serve anyone for any reason including not being able to understand the customer because she can't control her own kid.
I mean they offer online ordering for quick convenience. I prefer that than going through the window.
Not everyone who complains are karens. Her child screaming isnt her fault. Being refused service for something out of your control isnt right. She has every right to be upset.
@@InaR1019 I'm not saying she doesn't have a right to be upset, merely that we need more context to know what really happened. And having service provided to someone is a privilege, not a right. It comes with the responsibility of behaving in an appropriate manner. Were it an adult screaming like that at the drive through, they would absolutely be denied service. If the child is screaming and the parent cannot stop it, they can wait until the child is finished before entering the line.
I had a tummy tuck about 4 months ago and I would never DREAM of doing this to someone! Totally agree; she needs to be able to pay for ALL of it if she's gonna do it.
I've had mixed experiences with bullies. Some bullies I still see on social media and they seem just as mean whilst pretending like THEY were bullied just for sympathy, yet I've also ran into an old school bully before a few years ago and they were completely different. They apologized for 'being a bitch' in school and she was embarrassed by it. Being a bully shouldn't be a life sentence- you should be able to grow and evolve from it- but I hate seeing the bullies that just never change and still do well in life. It's a little disheartening, like where is the karma?
Agreed. Most of those people are not the same as they were 5+ years ago. I had my fair share of the usual middle school bullying, but I forgave all of that and moved on. I can't imagine harboring hate like that after so many years. I know I'm definitely not the same person I was in school, so I can't assume anyone else is either. Callout videos to me are a double-edged sword. There's a fine line between trying to hold someone accountable (when it actually matters) and becoming a bully yourself. A lot of people end up down the latter path and justify it as an eye for an eye, becoming almost obsessed with the other person. A lot of people are exposing themselves in these comments without realizing it because they think being bullied grants them a free pass to perpetuate the same behaviors. Bullying is bullying.
No one is entitled to be someone's judge, jury, and executioner. That's an extremely toxic way of thinking and it took me a while in therapy to realize that which is why I forgave people in the past. Not for them, but for myself. I believe in Karma, even if it takes a while to catch up to certain people.
Basically acknowledging bullying WHILE STILL in school would be the best way to do this. But it means, parents and teachers and school policies have to step up, and kids have to feel safe. So... it will be a while still :(
None of my bullies changed. They're all still awful people.
I worked as a CNA (Certified Nursing Aide) in a nursing home and I can ASSURE you there are som mean old people. I had one patient look me dead in my soul and say “that nose ring makes you look like a cow, now get out of my house” 😂😂
I've found that when people get old, and maybe a bit of dementia, they become who they always were only moreso and with no filter. Everything my mother used to say and do in secret became public and to the person's face.
@@Chahlie I'm guessing that's why people say narcissists ALL eventually end up alone in the end, because it's harder to hide your true self at that point.
I understand why the mother in the drive through is upset, but I also understand that screeching directly into your headset could be wildly frusterating especially after a long day working in fast food customer service.
Not just frustrating, it's a health hazard, he could get hearing dameage.
I hated how basically the social hierarchy in hs was just a thing. I wasn't bullied or anything but basically rumors and shit would spread quickly causing my peers to ask me questions (I got dumped by my ex friends n my ex around the same time). I was portrayed as the "mean" type, I'm sorry I have resting bitch face and I prefer to focus on my education over making friends I will never see ever again. After graduating hs, my peers tried to follow me on Instagram and I flat out ignored them.
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I had a bully find me on social media after HS and was all "Omg we should catch up! I can't find you in FB" I said "because I blocked you and I don't want you anywhere near me or my family." And blocked her more. We're not in school anymore, I don't "have" to be nice to anyone.
Amen! I didn't grow up with social media & can't even imagine having that to deal with on top of everything else (I was born without a voice & could only whisper until "laser" surgery was invented...lol..old af..sorry, this is just hilarious to me..putting into words how old I am...born 15 years before lasers..that's when I had my 35th surgery & heard my voice for the 1st time..anyway...sorry). I moved away after school & on a return visit I ran into my bully at a grocery store..she had even been suspended for choking me until I passed out one day. She says to me.."hey girl..how are you? We should hang out sometime"..lol..lemme get ur phone #...🤣😂🤣...maybe it was because I was doing pretty well at the time..modeling locally, mostly swimwear..lots of tv commercials, some runway & print.. 🤷♀️ idk what she was thinking..but that's all I could figure since MySpace, Facebook or Instagram didn't exist back then. It was extremely uncomfortable...I was cordial but acted like I couldn't recall her name & removed myself from the situation asap! She did try to friend me on Facebook eventually...nope..not today..guess you could say in the end, I found my voice
Edit - I moved a few hours away to our states tourist beach...everyone who stayed home after school would go for vacation every year.
Totally agree with Charlotte. She can’t help that her daughter is screaming. Meltdowns happen. She shouldn’t have to be inconvenienced based on something out of her control.
I've worked for a "Shop on the phone“ company. I had planty conversations with clients who had their screaming children on the back ground and I could barely hear my clients. If I did this to at least one of my clients I would be fired right then. They had a pretty clear conversation for the most part of this video where he was giving her a scilent treatment.
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I agree. Also the child didn't seem too be constantly screaming but just little outbursts. In my opinion his attitude was horrendous.
@@femmebrulee5053 - It'd have been nice if she'd posted video of what took place prior to him refusing her service. Taking sides when only one side is being presented leaves out half (or more) of the facts. For all we know, the child was screaming like a banshee 10-secods before she hit "record" and quieted down once she was recording. She could've also edited out earlier parts of the video of how the child was acting, and what the conversation had been between her and the drive-thru person leading up to denial of service.
@@someoneoncesaid6978 i agree to some extect, but from the "screams" u can tell its not even a toddler in the car, like they cant speak yet... its a baby... complaining about a baby screaming is insane, cant reason with them even... CUZ THEY CANT SPEAK... omg...
@@hyiso811 right a baby that has no shoes on that she's too lazy to carry? im sure we missed the first 4 straight minutes of screaming where he literally could not communicate.
Panera dude was completely out of line.
She said this old lady going around looking like a walking Spirit costume!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I died just to go and see 🤣🤣🤣🤣
As someone who worked in the food service industry, I completely understand the drive thru person’s predicament. Also, we don’t know what transpired before she started recording. He may have mentioned that he couldn’t hear her multiple times because her child was screaming. Yes, it’s his job to take orders, but he has the right to refuse service if the customer is being unreasonable. Again, we don’t know what happened before this woman started recording.
Yeah it was quite convenient that she recorded AFTER her crotch goblins tirade, right?
We don’t know what happened before, but we all know entitled parents far outnumber people who have an issue with kids for no reason. She never denied her kid screaming either, so I’d personally also put my money on the mom being the problem here
I agree with this and her attitude towards him after he agreed to give her a chance to order again was totally uncalled for. He probably was having a hell of a time trying to hear what she was saying over the speaker with a screaming child in the background, hence the refusal to serve her because she was a difficult customer, he even was kind enough to give her other options she could do (and ordering online isn't hard and imo is MORE convenient than drive-thru cuz you don't have to speak to anyone and they're less likely to screw your order up that way from personal experience) but her entitled sounding voice still refused "Do you know how inconvenient that is for me?" I would've said "That's not my problem anymore ma'am." XD
I’m not sure his attitude can be justified. His job is to serve customers and it’s to be expected that some of those customers have young children.
Like Charlotte said, young children can be noisy and when they are, there’s not much you can do about it. He didn’t sound tolerant at all.
@@kimbow Like 0558lulu said, we don't know what happened before she started filming and as MANY people who have worked with those headsets those screams can sound like a piercing whistle that hurts so how was he supposed to hear her order properly? (hence why he suggested she either come inside or order online but like a Karen she refused) So I still think he was in the right there.
Talking about the Panera DT. There's a good chance a manager was taking to him over the headset while he was interacting with the customer which is why there are breaks between him responding to her. And there may have even been a point before the recording they asked for her to calm her child down to take the order or come inside. Which is a normal way to handle the situation. Different companies have different DT rules about this type of situation. If they refuse to come inside or pull around then you inform them that they are being refused service and to leave the property. There is an understanding of Children don't have great control over their emotions but them screaming in the DT speaker can cause hearing damage to every worker inside wearing headsets as all of them are connected to the DT speaker. Were I worked (which wasn't a Panera) we had 8 workers in a full shift and 7 wore head sets the only one not wearing one was the inside cashier unless they were on multiple stations. The headsets allow for workers to communicate between them without having to yell or leave their stations and in certain situations the order makers could start making the order as its coming in instead of waiting for the printed ticket saving DT times and keeping customers happy with quicker service.
YES! Thank you! Finally someone with some common sense.
Charlotte, I think you are fantastic. I've been bullied most of my life by family members that are narcissists. It does take an emotional toll. I don't put up with it anymore. I just decided they weren't worth it anymore and kicked them right out of my life after they tried to contact me again.
I was bullied a lot by everyone for being different (turns out it was undiagnosed autism lmao) until puberty hit me like a train. Then I got bullied for suddenly being the tallest and lankiest kid until high school. Then I got bullied because of other undiagnosed mental stuff and for being goth. Best part whenever I stood up for myself I got labeled the bully. So I would lean in to it when I needed to. Like one time this girl thought I was flirting with her boyfriend and threw a basketball at the back of my head but my hair is so thick it's basically a built in helmet and it hit my pony tail. What she didn't know is I also always been fast at changing and was usuallythe first one in the locker room because I was 🎶insecure🎶. So I ✨ALLEGEDLY✨ took her regular shoes out of her locker while she was changing in the stall and flushed one in a toilet and threw the other one into the boys locker room on my way out of class. They couldn't prove anything so I got away with it. She got suspended because the guy gym teacher saw her throw the ball at me which was a surprise because nothing like that had ever happened before lol.
I was bullied too for what was undiagnosed autism.
I LOVE the Purple eyeshadow on you Charlotte! 😻💜
Thank you so much!
Right!!!! I was thinking the same thing, it really makes her eyes pop
@@CharlotteDobre You’re welcome dear! Inspired me to get back to doing some purple shades! 💕💜💕
@@CharlotteDobre i know this is kind of "off brand" but I would love the occasional "get ready with me" video - i come for the laughs but i also adore your hair and make up looks 😍
That eye shadow on Charlotte is gorgeous ❤
Petty, petty, petty. Just the way Miss Toocus and I love it. Thank you Potato Queen. Be safe everyone and stay home if you can!!!
Charlotte!! Your videos just got me through a lot of tough times for years, for a really long time you were the only person I watched on RUclips, I love you so much and I wanted to thank you for just being you!
You are so welcome! Appreciate you!
As a mother I am pro Panera guy. If you have a hard time hearing the workers on a speaker,imagine the pain they feel with that screaming dead in their ears while trying to decipher what you are saying. If your child won’t behave then place the order online or come back after the child calms down. My child was taught early in life behave in public. No screaming or yelling. If he tried it, I’d ask him very calmly, “do we need to step outside and have a chat?” and he knew to change that behavior immediately because otherwise we were leaving. At home, at the park, playground, etc., he was free to play, run, squeal, yell, etc., loudly. However, parents there is a time and place for everything. The public does not owe you being subjected to a screaming, yelling, hitting, misbehaving child. It happens in restaurants, on planes, in stores, etc. Reign that in. Socialize them to being out in public early on and what is and is not acceptable outside of certain settings. And I don’t want to hear the but what if the child has “issues” argument because I know parents of autistic, mentally disabled kids who do exactly what I’ve said above. Why? Because their child is being overstimulated and needs relief from the situation. It’s not fair to subject the child to a situation that is overstimulating them and causing them that level of distress.
I was a behavior therapist For kids with autism for 14 years before I had my own children- I can assure you that not every child obeys. 😂 my second born had sensory issues that would make her cry every time she was in her car seat….for 5 years. I worked my booty off, as a single mom, to instill good behavior and manners into my sweet children, but quiet was one thing they were not. And my daughter has a personality that cannot be reckoned with often times 😅 she was in OT and had some other support, but you cannot blame a child screaming on bad parenting. Cmon now. I’m sure your perfect angels screamed and had meltdowns at times too. And yes, there’s always the self-righteous “take a break and then come back”- I took mine out of grocery stores a couple of times out of necessity and teaching moments- but if it’s dinner time, you live 25 minutes from any food establishments, you’re on your way home from work/daycare, you don’t have the option to do so. I feel for that mom. I’ve been that mom. I’ve had a kid screaming at the drive thru (mostly because they took FOREVER at this establishment and she was strapped into her car seat), but taking her inside would have only made it worse, and like that mom, I did not have the option to wait another half hour for an app (which didn’t exist at the time anyhow). All you can do in that situation is apologize, empathize with the employee, and thank them for their patience. Although you’re a mom who always knows the right way to do things and your kids respond perfectly every time, most of us aren’t those moms. We are regular moms with regular kids who aren’t always in top form. It’s hard enough that we shame ourselves, which we do, and I have a background teaching parents how to manage their child’s challenging behaviors, but what I don’t do is act like I’m the best mom in the world who has all the answers. 😂 shaming other mothers for trying their best with what they have is ridiculous. I’ve seen so many mothers in tears over their child having meltdowns or negative behaviors in public. And I was usually there to support them professionally, but I empathize with these women (and fathers.) I don’t act holier than thou. Who knows why the child “won’t behave.” I hope that has educated you some.
@@taramco1110 USE THE RESOURCES GIVEN TO YOU AND STOP FORCING STRANGERS TO DEAL WITH YOUR CHILDREN!
Are we surprised that a rich person from an incredibly famous family, who had everything given to her on a silver platter, would be a bully? Are we?🤔
Not at all
Spoiled and entitled, yes, but necessarily a bully
And that she went on to marry someone just as gross as her? Nope.
Her father, Stephen, the runt of the litter, the others are far more successful. She's a Nepo Baby and married a RUclips "Baby " , having teenage fans while the rest of us just shake our heads.
I don't care about her but we don't have a proof she is or was. And also it was middle school! Are we really saying that if someone was a stupid child HAS to be a stupid adult? Because that's often not the case
The drive through one, i feel like we can't really judge because she only started filming after he asked her to leave. if the kid had been screaming non-stop and he'd been trying to get her order for 20 minutes but was unable to hear because she couldn't/wouldn't control her kid, then i understand his frustration and his suggestions. He's having to work christmas/christmas eve by the look of the sign, and he wasn't rude to her even when she did start filming to try and get him fired. She probably took more time at that drive through, wasting his and everyone behind her's time, than she would have if she had just pulled to the side and ordered online. Then she could have took a minute to figure out what her kid was screaming about instead of ignoring her child, too.
I believed there’s cut off part lol
He could have literally asked her to pull up and took the order there then ive had many drive thru employees ask me to pull up cuz they couldnt hear me or something was off so idk why yall are acting like shes so wrong here. Both could be in the wrong too but he had other ways to accommodate as well. Kid was probably screaming cuz they were hungry
@Rosey Rae He told her to place the order online. It wouldn't have taken 20 minutes. It would've taken 5 maybe. That's it.
@@AmboRox360 yea let me get out of line to place an order to have to possibly get back in line when he coulda taken the order in the time he had to argue or asked her to pull up
I agree with your point that the kid may have been screaming for 20 mins prior to the filming starting, but his response of 'more than welcome to come inside and place an order...'. suggests otherwise. I will not take your order because I can hear your kids screams over the over the speaker, but we will take your order if you bring your kid into the store to scream in person. (Cause I'm going to assume she's not going to lock her kid in the car while she goes inside alone.) Personally, that's exactly what I would have done - Taken my screaming child inside & told them I was refused service at drive thru & told to come inside....
i just started the video but DAMN CHARLOTTE THAT EYESHADOW IS STUNNING
I work in a drive-thru and it hurts our ears so bad whether it's squeaking brakes or a screaming child. A screaming child makes it very difficult to hear what the person's order is. I've never denied to take an order but I have asked the person to pull up to the window so I can take the order.
also important to note that there was clearly screaming before she started filming so we don't get to witness the whole thing. sometimes in situations like this, the person filming will be acting rude (before filming) but think they're not, and then they'll start filming and they'll be more careful to not be seen as the rude one.
@@anamazing2297 Nah sorry I have 3 kids and they know when we are at a drive through window or any if anyone has to take a call in close proximity they need to be respectful and quite ( myself included now that they are old enough to have phones). When they were little & didn’t know better I wouldn’t subject someone to my child screaming in their ear I’d pull to the side until they calmed down, we left or I’d go in. Going in is a hassle but that’s part of being responsible and a parent! Lastly why tf did this woman not have shoes in the car for her child? She sounds like one of the entitled parents that think everyone needs to deal with her kid throwing a fit.
@@anamazing2297if you can’t control your child, don’t take it out in public. There are countless kids at her age that know better so the lack of discipline falls on the parents. If your crotch goblin is having a flare up, remove them from the situation instead of subjecting others to it. This isn’t a crying baby that you can’t immediately soothe, it’s a goblin that hasn’t been taught how to behave and a parent that wanted Panera more than soothing her own kid. I’ve had countless parents pull out of a drive thru to soothe a child when they’re misbehaving and I don’t see why she gets a free pass.
@@anamazing2297 Yeah, I'm certain everyone agreeing with Panera guy expects the mother to physically "cover the mouth" of the child 🙄
Im also going to throw out a point of view that may be unpopular but oh well. It is no ones job to give parents "slack". You don't deserve "slack" because you popped out a kid. If you cannot get your child's tantrum under control, granted this isn't an easy task, figure something else out. Its on the parents shoulders to do so, no one elses.
That would have been a good solution. It solves the issue for everyone.
Not always can parents get kiddos to soothe. But there’s also the issue of the speaker system that amplifies screams and creates muddled communication.
Going to the window bridges the gap.
This is, like, a real high def video. You’re more vivid than usual. Love it
4k baby!
@@CharlotteDobre WOOT!
Some people are your friends for what you can do for them.
As someone who was bullied to the point of being taken out of school to be homeschooled, I can honestly say that the best revenge on those school bullies is to work through the hurt & wounds & live your life joyfully to the fullest! I’ve seen several of my former bullies throughout recent years; Because they could sense that I have the confidence that I once lacked & no longer carry the hurt, pain, or chip on my shoulder (and honestly just loving my life), they were very sweet to me - a couple of them even apologized.
No homeschooling back when I was bullied…..
It was definitely because you’re beautiful. Some people just cannot handle it 🤷♀️
If I had a kid screaming down an intercom at me I wouldn't take the order either
I honestly can't imagine why or what people would want to bully you about Charlotte! You seem like a great and SUPER FUN(NY) person to be friends with! I wouldn't say I was bullied a lot, but I did get called fat or made fun of for being overweight from time to time. What stuck out as strange to me, though, was that my high school best friend who was morbidly obese, NEVER got bullied or had anything said about her weight because I guess that's being "too mean." Mean is mean, period!
“All you need is for one person to think you’re cool, and you’re in. Everyone else will be scared to question it.”
- Rob Geller “Never Been Kissed”
I was bullied and was one of the outcasts in school, always feels good seeing these ppl getting called out
Never worked at a drive thru but had friends who did and let me tell you they can hear EVERYTHING, the mics are super sensitive so you can only imagine how bad it was going through lol not saying he was right bc im sure he could've helped her in other ways but he my man was FED UP.
So what we need, and this should be super easy and even accessibility friendly, for people to scan a phone screen order code thing so that it just comes up on the other end. We already get a code when we order through the app, so why not a code scanner?
Means people who can't hear/talk/both can go through the drive-through too!
I don't even know where I found my strength through those days of torment from my bully, I found in my ' Middle Finger Up To The Haters" a foundation of understanding of one's self and courage to keep on keeping on, love your content sis, Stay Petty.
"You just wait for the child to stop screaming." Huh? If she's hurt, comfort her. If she's in desperate need of food or water, tell the guy that. If she's happy, tell her to be quiet for two minutes so you can order. If she's being a rebellious brat, discipline her.
I was bullied all through school so I feel ya. Being poor and getting tatas in the 5th grade was and probably still is a target for bullies. Just know that class reunions are great.. I went to my 25th dressed to kill with my new husband. Nobody recognized me for a bit and when they did and I had say at a random empty table, 2 of the worst bullies came up, sat down and proclaimed that they were now at the cool table. They also did not bring their yearbooks out of shame for some of the stuff that was in them.
My high school bullies were people I considered my friends. They liked to tell me I was dumb because I'm no good at maths (I have dyscalculia, maths dyslexia so 🤷) but completely glossed over the As I got in biology with literally no study.
I'm 37 now, I STILL have issues thinking I'm stupid. When I'm studying, if I get less than an A, I'm stupid and I withdraw 🤦
You're not stupid for 1: not being good at math and 2: getting anything lower than an A as a grade. 🥺I also get teased about being awful at math, but I excel in other places. Breathe and be kind to yourself. Don't let your dreams be dreams! You got this!!
You are smart! Everyone has their strengths & weaknesses. Maths wasn’t my strong point either, but did well in English & Science. I got better at Maths after I left high school actually & started working. Still not great, but that’s fine with me!😊👍🏻
Math pummeled me in high school-thank goodness in my province at the time you only needed to get grade 10-and I passed with a C-
Omg I didn't know that was a thing. I worked so hard on math with my older son and he just couldn't get it. He was smart and could read well so I wasn't concerned with dyslexia. This makes so much sense
@@brendawaggoner7555 I have both dyslexic and dyscalculia but both are mild enough that it wasn't picked up till I was 30.... well actually, I don't know if dyscalculia was recognised when I was at school, but dyslexia was a "boys problem" so no one ever considered anything other than I wasn't applying myself.
Thanks guys, people on Charlotte's videos are always so sweet to each other 😊💙
I got bullied at school because two of the popular boys were interested in me, but I had no interest in any relationship at that time. (I was 13) When they noticed I didn't want either of them, they started bullying me and their whole class joined in. Luckily we weren't in the same class, so most of the time it was easy for me to avoid them and eventually they grew tired of it.
I remember this one time when I was living in a senior disabled highrise and I had a old lady who said to me and say those clothes are not appropriate you shouldn't be wearing those clothes. I looked at her and said I'm young I can wear whatever I want I'm sorry that you didn't have that opportunity when you were younger but I have the opportunity to do so and I do as I wish. Then she went and told management Westside and they actually defended me because I said she's Young and she's allowed to wear what she wants
I live in a highrise in Toronto that is full of elderly people too. They can be so judgy and they constantly complain about every lìttle thing. I also get dirty looks too especially when im going out for the night.
I swear there’s only two types of old people: the super sweet cute ones and the horrible ones, no in-between
@@alexfortin4984 you forget the silent ones. They just dont say a word exept to their familly and then behind your back they will praise you or talk shit about you to their familly.
I was on Section 8 and the only housing they could offer me was elderly housing. The first place they were straight up like these elderly people are extremely nosy and will be in your business all the time and I who am disabled and mentally ill was like I absolutely can not handle that. Like when I went to look at the unit the lady next door was on the balcony trying to see what was going on. NOPE! The second place I was offered really didn't seem like they wanted me but the neighbors seemed ok, they gave me the unit and I started to move in. Two days after they gave me the unit they said they had changed their mind and they didn't think I would be a good fit for the building and I had to go. Never even spent a night in the unit.
@@kellydevreese3944 I think that still either falls into super sweet (praise you) or horrible ones (who talk about you behind your back).
I have worked a drive through before and refusing to take someone's order because their child was screaming would have gotten me fired. That wasn't even that bad. I always had a hard time hearing people with diesel engines, but that was usually fixed by politely asking them to turn the engine off so I could hear. Only one person ever complained.
LOL. Love that Virgo comment. After that conversation I would be scared to let her use my car or stay at my place. If she destroys something, she won't pay for it.
I was bullied and as an adult I step in any time I witness bullying in public. Bullying is on my list of pet peeves, along with lying, stealing, littering etc...I'm half awake so I might have forgotten another pet peeve or two. 🤣
Cheating, fraud, plagiarism, etc……. I guess those are just more specific examples of yours!
that's not a pet peeve. a pet peeve is when you are annoyed by minor stuff many people are not. like people burping in public or eating popcorn in the movies. what you said are all crimes, they're illegal, it's not an opinion or something that makes only you particularly more stressed than other people.
I wasn't a victim of bullying myself (or I didn't even notice the attempts), but my best mate through kindergarten to high scholl was severely bullied. I was trying to defend her, but it didn't stop it, it only stopped it in front of me. I didn't bully but gave a hard time to her more active bully, because said bully kept trying to make friends when she was targetting my friend on the next breath. At the time, I really struggled to understand what she was trying to do and why she was doing it.
Turn out that bully had a fucked up family, with parents that don't care, a struggle to learn in school and a lack of actual friends. Bullying other people was the only way in her mind to make connections with other kids. Heard that girl is a Junkie now, hanging out in fucked up places. My friend felt good learning this (a revenge thing), but I seriously just felt sad for that girl. Some people will say karma, I'll say that girl bully should have had a chance to redeem herself, and if karma really existed, the absent adults in her life would be the ones falling out.
Wowzers good video. Thanks Charlotte. Sending heart hugs
I'm so glad you're making daily videos again. Nothing hits better after a hard day at work than watching some audacity with Charlotte.
Bullies made school hell for me!
It costs nothing to be nice!!!
It's nice to be nice!
Sorry you went through that. I also experienced that until I changed schools.
My mom noticed a pattern with a girl who had “befriended” me. Every time she wanted to hang out with me, she’d insist we’d go somewhere where her friends were (they weren’t mutual friends nor would she introduce them to me) and then she’d primarily dump me for these people. After several occasions of this, Mom went to this girl’s mom and then alerted me as to what was going on.
I’m so glad Mom stood up for me.
That last one: IDK. It depends. My youngest had the earth shattering screams that could break glass and pierce ear drums and cause migraines when she was little. Only did it very rarely because she was just in a screaming phase and thought it was funny. If it were like that, I could see why the guy might not be able to take her order as it's hard to hear and it can damage his ears. But... If it were just like the scream she did when the camera was filming, then maybe he needs to calm down a bit. That scream wasn't even bad 😂 My kid at that age would be like "Hold my sippy cup."
Hold my sippy cup 🤣🤣
@@Redd513. Exactly. We do not know what happened before the recording started. Kids are loud.
I love these bully revenge videos
One of my HS bullies is in like 3 MLMs 😅 always makes me feel good
The screaming child would be a struggle for me. But the time he took to say all that, he could’ve simply taken her order during the silence.
Exactly. The kid wasn't being that loud during filming.
This! I just commented this elsewhere.
from what happened at the beginning, every time she started to order, her kid screamed. She screamed during the conversation, too. It sounds like that kid enjoys screaming for attention. No one has to put up with that sh**, especially at a minimum wage job
@@meganseastrom5467 you make a valid point. And we only saw a snippet of the exchange.
@@shewhoknows.792the snippet the video poster wanted you to see no less...
I definitely understand how difficult it is to have your bully achieve enough fame to be in the news way too often. One of of my bullies from junior and senior high school went on to play in the NBA. Several years ago there was talk of buying the team he was on and moving them to where I live since we don't have a team anymore. The news constantly brought him up and it sucked to hear his name daily. Luckily the sale didn't go through but I still heard his name from time to time. He married one of the nicest girls at our school and he seems to have turned his attitude around but it took time to get over it.
Another bully from my senior year, probably my most tramatizing bully, has become a bit of a local hero for his charity work. He's all over the news and local instagram accounts. At first I laughed and rolled my eyes at the irony but after a month or so I was happy for the progress he'd made since high school. That was until I watched an interview with him and hearing his voice brought back so much trauma. Yes, I should get help for this but I thought I had moved on until I heard his voice and it all came flooding back. It's so difficult to not say anything when people are praising him up one side and down the other but he has grow significantly and is doing good in our community. My mother on the other hand has no problem telling other people and I have to remind her that he's grown and it's my experience and story to tell if I feel like it.
🥹you’re so healthy. I can imagine if it’s thrown out there so much, it can haunt you. Ugh.
We had to do a lot of running and walking in the Army.
8 weeks later: my butt looked better than any BBL.
Plus, it was free and literally no risks.
The old people one has me 😂😂😂😂cryinggggggg. She said what she said “aren’t you too old to be alive” savage!!!!
I have a friend that got a BBL because her boyfriend wanted her to get one. He paid for it, but he should have gotten one too for all the pain and suffering she went through. It looked ridiculous but you can't say that to a woman in pain that can't undo her bad decision. She was recovering for 2 months.
Social media validation right there
@@Aloysius_OHare No, that's literally because of a man. Did you not read the part where her boyfriend wanted her to get it? This is why most BBL'S happened. Because of these dumb men
@@katodd2925 I don’t believe that for a second. Is it pressure from men? Sure, but it’s also pressure from fellow women and society in general
Nah drive thru panera guy is right to do that he gave her two solutions to handle the issue and she gave him attitude and refused because it was "inconvenient " to her, completely ignoring the inconvinience of taking an order over a screaming child. I dont think he went against policy either as he had the right to do that. She was rude the whole time and made a ton of excuses
The invention of order by app is a godsend for me on trips as when ever we pull up to order my eldest dog gets soooo excited and tries to give everyone’s order, which wakes up the other two who then get excited too 🤦♀️ though everybody was always nice especially when we pull up to pick up and she’s right there either with her head between the front seats or looking out the window (she’s a dopey goldie with a big smile)
respect is earned, even for the elderly
I like this format, and appreciate the concise opinions. It is perfect for me as a fellow book reviewer. I plan to read the book even more now.
Oh I utterly enjoy being a sweet old lady. There’s so much we see when we’re older, how someone might be having a tough day, knowing just what to say to support them. Really working at it, staying updated on what is appropriate, having some sensitivity, being reasonable and rational as an example - these actions truly give me joy.
But the best part, when someone decides to eff around and find out, is verbally defenestrating Trolls and performance pearl clutchers and watching as they react just like they’ve been bitten by a friendly dog.😏🤷🏼♀️😁
You sound awesome!
@@jakemarie828 I’m always here if you need an ear kiddo.
Bless you!! ❤
@@MamazitaCole any of you awesome impressive kids ever need an ear, don’t hesitate. There are millions of old ladies like me who are delighted with you all.
Why am I crying right now 😭😭 thank you so so much for sharing this, I think a lot of us will feel seen and heard just by reading your sweet comment ❤️
Of course as a person who isn’t a parent you would side with the mom instead of the Panera guy. Any good parent would not expect someone to take their order while their child screams bloody murder. I would pull forward and wait till my kid’s tantrum is over before ordering. The entitlement of that lady is ridiculous, wether she likes it or not the cashier has the right to refuse service to anyone.
I used to get bullied a lot by guys when I was little. I was an easy target because of my passive personality but I had growth spurt. (I also have a very active lifestyle.) So they pretty much leave me alone now cus apparently 6'1 buff girls scare the shit out of teen boys. 😂
I was bullied through 14 years of my life because I went to school with the same people unfortunately. I'm 20 now. I'll never be able to forgive my bullies even if they change and get better. If they do get better then good for them, I'm happy no one will ever have their life ruined because of them. The bullying thankfully wasn't physical for long. They mostly made fun of me for my existence, because when I was 8 I believed mermaid were reals, because I was too tall, because I was a nerd, because I was too nice ecc. And don't let me get started on all the body shaming and inappropriate sexual comments I received. It's been 6 years now since I've started therapy and I'm still not able to get over it. A few weeks ago I've been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, social anxiety and crippling depression and my current therapist said that it's because of these that I may have an hard time getting better. I hope I'll start to feel alive once again someday, and if you're getting bullied don't give up on yourself like I did, remember that things do get better. I may still suffer because of my past bullies but I'm 100% more happy and hopeful than I was back then.
Kids will laugh and pick on other kids it happens all the time that's life. The thing is when you are not raised to handle these things than you can't. We all think somethings are weird that other people do but you don't think that anyone should think anything is weird with you. As long as people are not physically attacking me they can say what they want. I went through real horrible bullying not just someone laughing because I believe in mermaids. And everyone has been picked on at some point for being too short usually it's to short people though especially short guys get picked on their whole life for that not just one day or couple of times. You seem to let one comment bother you your whole life if that's the case you cannot handle life.
@@miac2382 so I'm not allowed to be depressed because someone got it worse than me?? Because from what you're saying I get this feeling. But I also feel like you're somehow telling me "to get over it and you'll feel better" in a nice but bad worded way and for that thank you. I've started therapy when I was 14 and it's been 6 years since then, I'm fucking trying to be better, I fucking am trying. It's hard when for 12 years of your life you weren't told a nice thing and if you've been treated like a doll with no feelings. I mentioned things that I didn't go into details, not only the mermaid thing. Since I'm opening up on here at this point I'll say the other things too;
WARNING: mention of 💀, body shaming and s*xu4l ab*se on a child
I was told I should be ashamed of being born because my face was so ugly they felt bad looking at me. I was being treated as a punching bag for awhile until my family contacted the school. I was touched in my intimate part by a guy older than me when I was 8 and I was told that was normal and that as a girl I should be grateful that I was wanted. I rejected that guy over and over again and he started spreading rumors about a 8 years old kid. That guy was 16. When I turned 10 my period came before anyone's else and I was shamed for it. I received inappropriate comments about it. My boobs started to grow and the boys in my class though it was funny squeezing them. Than a few years later they made fun of my boobs and body because it wasn't sexually appealing to them. They still slapped my ass whenever they could tho. The girls in my class isolated me because I had "a man's tall body and wide shoulders" and hit me sometimes in the girls' changing room "because they thought I was a boy trying to get a peek". I couldn't tell anything of this to my parents because the teachers and professors always knew what was happening and they did nothing because "you're kids, you have to learn to get along" and I was scared that 1) my parents would think of themselves as failures because they had someone like me (like almost all of my classmates said) and 2)that they were like the teachers (they weren't but I didn't know until I was 14). When I started high school and I didn't have the same people in class anymore, I realized that what I went through wasn't to be expected because I was "a weirdo" when people WERE TREATING ME LIKE A HUMAN BEING. Back then I felt so much pain that I wanted to off myself so much. Thankfully I had my best friend with me that stopped me from self harming or doing the extreme. My parents found out about all this one day when I couldn't held in anything anymore. I started therapy that same year and I've been diagnosed with severe depression, PTSD, social anxiety and borderline personality disorder. It's been 6 years since then, I'm fucking trying to be better, I fucking am trying.
@@miac2382 oh, and I wasn't made fun for being a tall girl once (same with the mermaid thing) but every single day in middle school. Hearing it every day is traumatic, especially if like me you were a sensitive child
@@ilariaaglio7421 Kids are going to pick. I think everyone has been picked on for something. That's why people need to teach their kids to handle things. I know almost everyone has been picked on in school for something at some point. I was and I just gave it back to those girls and boys but when they started beating on me and attacking me it was another thing. For years I went through this. Words we have to learn to handle they are just words and I know even myself I think things about others are weird and judge others sometimes I think we all do and have. There is always going to be someone or people that think you are weird and judge you I mean we basically all do it to each other. Or always going to be people that don't like you. If you are not going through this now and just some kids picked on you in middle school. Also I'm not saying you weren't picked on for being tall but I see men that are short get picked on everyday on the internet and literally everywhere for being short their whole lives and saying they won't ever get any woman and stuff like that. I'm tall for a girl and was always taller than the boys and most of my class but I never got picked on for that just other things but even if they did I would move past it. Especially if this is only in middle school and high school. Even my mother and her sisters used to get picked on but not just that they would get beat up she told me by boys in their neighborhood. To me everyone has been through this where someone says something to you or think you are weird and pick on you. You are definitely not alone in that. But I don't need people to like what I like and they can think I'm weird I don't care just don't attack me. But I do think we are way too sensitive now and it makes it hard to handle life. I was too but I had to learn to toughen up and to deal with things or I wouldn't make it in this world
@@ilariaaglio7421 You said someone picked on you for believing in mermaids and being tall in middle school. And you are still depressed about this years later? You have to move past things. That is so small of a thing how can you handle anything in life if you still cannot get over kids picking on you believing in mermaids or Santa Claus or whatever. Some people will pick and some will think you are weird. People judge and talk about other people. You just have to learn to deal with it and not care because that's life. Not everyone is going to like what you like and might pick on you or laugh at it. You have to not care if others think something you like or believe in is weird. And you shouldn't have to be depressed and live like that just because someone said that in middle school and let it now control and negatively effect and ruin your life. I used to be the same too sensitive let every thing effect me and want life perfect all the time. I wish someone would of told me the same because way worse came and little words or comments were nothing than when you been through much worse. I think we all need to learn to deal and handle people and to handle other people judgement.
Charlotte, the volume inside a drive-thru can be deafening, and having worked at a bank where adjusting the volume so we could serve the customer accurately while a kid was screaming so loud, the parent's voice was drowned out leads me to side with the Panera guy too.
Exactly its like having someone blowing a whistle in your ear while expecting to take an accurate order, which would enevatably become your fault if its wrong
That’s when you ask the parent to take a moment and calm the child and then continue. Children just like adults can get overwhelmed and meltdowns are usually how they cope/express those feelings. This is some serious “children should be seen and not heard” energy. Also, what if they child had special needs, just because a child is upset doesn’t mean that they are a brat so why not treat people with the same compassion you expect to receive
imagine someone screaming directly into your eardrum and them expecting you not to be upset xD same goes with pulling up to a drive through with their music blasting. that goes directly into our ears...js
I totally get that it can be loud but that entire time he's like making her sit and wait, the kid barely made noise. Could have just taken the order and moved on with the day. 🤷♀️
The attitude she gave him though seemed more like bullying to me than the way he was acting toward her.