It's difficult when it happens as a minor and the adults responsible for you don't believe you when you tell them you're in pain or sick. In my case, strangulated testes & appendicitis at 15, both times it was a neighbour who told them I probably needed medical attention.
They should not wait for a ride out of shame or because they minimize how bad this is. This truly is a 911 emergency. You mom, your gf, your best bro cannot do anything for you.
That first story - absolutely NOT. I was ONE WEEK into a relationship when I got really sick at work while covering a night shift. My manager wanted to call an ambulance, but I freaked out at the thought of ending up at hospital with nobody by my side in the middle of the night, so she called my boyfriend. He got up and drove across town at 2am, then across town again to take me to the hospital, and in the end took me home and stayed until he was sure I was alright. I knew there and then that he was the one, it's been 14 years ❤
That's adorable, but the situation listed is totally different. I personally wouldn't want my inebriated partner to commit a crime and pick me up, to take me to the hospital. 🤣 With how the night is going at that point, there will be a cop at the emergency covered drive-thru, who arrests my partner and slaps them with a DUI 😭😂🤣 I really do feel for the guy, but he literally said a version of what a bunch of people are going to text their partners tonight, in a 'hehe let's go find a closet 😈 wtf fck are you doing, hey home faster!' way. I'm REALLY feeling less sorry by the moment, that he took any lasting pain in his genitals as a "this is fine to hedge on my drunk girlfriend at her bffs clubbing birthday girls night"...... He needs to grow up and take his health seriously. Being embarrassed doesn't cut it in my book.
@joanna.i He proved that he's a, through sickness & health, thick & thin, ups & downs, good times & bad kinda guy! The next week, did you talk about finances? JK! It sounds like you found the diamond in the rough. May you have many more happy years!
@B.Harper7 Joanna wasn't talking about transportation. She was comparing being in a scary medical emergency with and without a loving support system. OP's GF was within a few minutes walking distance, and she would have been able to ride in the ambulance with him and be there after surgery, just to be there for him! But she chose to block him. Joanna had only a Two Week relationship, yet he was willing and did, get out of bed, just to be supportive! OP was with his partner for several years!
The part where she blocked him was so devastating. Him even overthinking to keep her, is sad. This was such a controlling move from her. Five years don’t matter at this point. He is young enough to find a girlfriend that cares. Being drunk isn’t an excuse either. Whatever resentment made her think this bad about her own boyfriend needs to be checked out and worked on. Hopefully she learns from this. But the trust is seriously damaged after something like that.
@@mariabrown6926right but sadly he added a update saying he haven’t done that to her he always lets her enjoy her time out with her friends since they share a friend group she just didn’t want to answer cause she didn’t care
My husband and I actually have a safe word for instances specifically like this. We joke around so much to the point where we've agreed on a word for when we're actually serious. I feel like it has saved us from so many problems or issues that stem from misunderstandings especially through text/messaging apps when messages can be grossly misconstrued. I love you by the way and love your channel! You seem so down to Earth and I always appreciate your viewpoint on all these different topics 😊 thank you for being such a positive influencer!
Going to start doing this with my husband! We have a safe word for when we’re about to say something that might have a big emotional impact on the other person. We say, “Walrus” and the other person knows to take a second to evaluate how they feel about what the person is saying before reacting. It has stopped so many fights before they start. But an emergency word like you have would also be soooo useful.
wow this is genius… maybe will do too… we have more health issues and less joking about it so in our 20 years together no such misunderstandings but still probably will adopt it
I've been married for almost 18 yrs. If my husband ever called me & texted me with a text saying something is wrong & I need to come home, there'd be nothing & no one could stop be from getting home immediately.
Right I’m not married but if my boyfriend calls saying something wrong and he’s vomiting or need to go to the hospital I’m dropping everything to make sure he’s okay she just didn’t care
Exactly 💯 she was cheating and didn't give a single fkkk about what happened to her spouse. She probably even MADE him sick to be honest. Why else would you NOT want to be with your spouse when they are basically begging you to pay attention to their sickness. Ffssssss. Smh. He's FAR from emotionally needy either. Those comments erk me more than mommy boys. 🤡🤣🤦🏽♀️💀 lmfaooOo
UPDATE! For those who are wondering about the first story, they broke up. He doesn't want to make another update because people are being a*holes in his DMs, but he commented on someone's comment saying they broke up and that he's 'boys' are doing fine. Thought I'll let you guys know.😉
Good God, he couldn't even catch a break, but glad he ended it! I did some googling, and apparently, it can be deadly if left untreated, and someone (who's an ER nurse) said that there's usually a 4-hour window until you need to have it surgically removed Also, the blocking would've been an immediate game-ender for me, & the fact that he was gonna propose to her- dodged a nuclear bomb, since she couldn't stick to their would-be vows of in sickness & in health
OP's comments are full of how he pranked her during their relationship. I don't doubt his story is full of untruth. Don't wish this guy a bright future, just hope she's on to better places.
"Oh no you are ayhol coz you dumped her on his balls been torn off" kids, if you just got your vageenuh pull of with Dodge Ram and your BF laughs, you will react differently. I don't understand manner/conscious of some kids these days how can they be so cruel.
My Mother was from Finland, but lived in Canada from her mid-twenties. She went to the opera once, and two girls behind her were saying very nasty things in Finnish. About her, my father, the other audience members, the opera, etc etc. At the end of the opera, she stood up, turned around and said (in Finnish) how lovely the opera was, wasn’t it? My Mom said it was one of the most satisfying things, ever! I can only imagine how satisfying it must have been to do that to your in-laws!
I'm really sorry your mom met so shitty finns! :( I object this wholeheartedly as a finn, and only use my rare language to say stupid shit of myself when abroad. I'm so glad your mom gave them a lesson.
One of the best things my wife and I did before we married was clearly spell out our expectations and deal-breakers. No cheating, no name calling (no matter how mad), always make the effort to listen, always supportive (meaning we are each other's number one, no matter what), either trust each other or don't, and give no reason to make either insecure, to name a few. We have been together over 20 years now and I'm proud to say, still very much in love. Having something happen like this early (relatively speaking) on, and the opportunity to spell out those expectations might make the relationship healthier. Or, if you can't agree on those expectations and trust issues, then part ways now.
The first story was changed to paint op in a better light. I remember when it was posted months ago and I responded to it within a couple hours of it being up. At the time op admitted to previously pranking his gf to the point that she'd scream at him sometimes, but he said something like that was a part of the fun. Ngl both op and his gf kinda suck. And his message was more along the lines of "Come home. Balls hurt" followed by her declinging his calls and laughing at him. "Going to the hospital, something is wrong" followed by missed calls and him being blocked. This has the vibes of someone tired of being bothered on their nights out having their no contact behavior thrown back at them when an actual emergency arrises.
hiding it then means he knew that he had done something wrong to contribute to this situation. Either way, they shouldn't be together. Commenting for a boost
I knew something was wrong. If I would go somewhere and my partner doesn’t like that, than message me his ball hurts I would assume he is trying to get me home
Thank you I knew eventually it would come out that he’s a tool and had to lie in the bed he made. They still should break up. Him changing the story means he’s not learned anything here.
I was 27 weeks pregnant when a dull pain I’d had all day turned into a sharp pain. I was driving myself to the hospital (should have taken an ambulance, but panic put me into auto drive). I called my husband from the car to say where I was going and I SWEAR the man teleported to his car….i hadn’t finished the word hospital and the car was turning on. Turns out I had appendicitis and had to have surgery. Man was by my side every step of the way.
About 7 years ago, I had an issue with my appendix, didn't know it at the time, just had extreme pain in my abdomen and a fever. Now, I'm terrified of injection needles (and I mean to the point I can pass out from stress from them), so when I went through triage at A&E and they took blood, I freaked out internally but tried to play it cool on the outside. When they said they'd be keeping me overnight and they needed to put in a cannula I almost burst into tears. I rang my boyfriend at around 12am, crying and freaking out. He lived about 40 minutes away and was there for me in 30. He stayed the whole night with me and called out of work the next day to continue staying with me. *That's* how you react to your partner calling for a medical emergency. (I love him so much, and this moment really solidified that he was my ride or die man 🥹❤️)
OMG I have to get my appendix removed! I called my bf at work to talk about it and at first I played it down saying it's probably just cramps or a tummy ache, but he just in case he was coming home, took me to the hospital and the worse it could was Appendicitis... and it was. He came nearly every day to just sit and watch over me like a guard dog, I was very sleepy after surgery and could barely move without pain. I agree that's how partners should be. [That moment was my moment to, saying I can't let this man go and we are engaged as of this year] HUGS!
I hurt my back, so my kids called my hubby. He rushed home, got me sent in an ambulance. Turned out I broke my back, and spinal stenosis (near paralyzed), & I was telling my kids to not call him, and worry him. Thank God they did.
@UnwiseOwl1453 That's really sweet!!!! What a good hubby!!! 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖 BUT, The guy in this story admitted that he actually pulls this type of prank on her all the time, you should go check out his original post, not just the edited one that Charlotte read for us, and read his comments admitting everything.
Giiiiiirrrrllll, I had ovarian torsion and there is no way to describe what this is like. It turned out that there was a (benign) tumor surrounding it and I had to have the entire ovary removed, along with a second giant cyst they found behind it. That poor guy. This is no joke whatsoever.
It's funny that we have organs we never think about and hardly know are there, and when something goes wrong it's a stroll through hell with a whole new kind of pain we never experienced before.
"She said that I could have communicated it better" HOW??? She wouldn't answer any of the calls & he had too much pain to text! When he tried to tell her, She Blocked Him! So How Could He Have "communicated better"??? When he woke up to her trying to justify her actions, he should have just said "shut up" every time she'd start to speak! That should have made her leave! Mom,remember when you were in labor? What if dad wouldn't have answered your call? When you texted "I'm in labor" he texted back, "don't call or text me again or I'm blocking you" then he did! And Then was mad because your water broke on the floor? And Then didn't show up until the next morning & told you "It Wasn't That Bad" Would you have stayed married to him??? I don't think so...
It's life threatening and one of the most painful ordeal a human can experience. I've seen it and I'm crossing my legs typing this. I'm sorry you had this omg I hope you're better
Being afraid of taking time for my health almost cost my life. My aortic valve was actually closing and I found out I had months left if I didn’t have open heart surgery as soon as possible, I was 24 years old at the time. Thank u Charlotte for making laugh during tht time while I was in failing health. I am healthy now and recovered
SOOOOO many people don't properly take care of our bodies because of money and time required, yayyyy late stage capitalism! I'm so freaking happy you are still here and kicking!!!! 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
I am so glad you are okay! That is so scary! I just had a health scare involving my heart recently and I’m only 31 and don’t have health conditions that could have knowingly caused what I went through. I hope you stay well and happy ❤
I was gaslit by family and doctors for years and my partner finally pushed me and doctors into finding what was wrong. I was literally days from dying before a doctor finally did more than a urine test (9 months to get a doctor to order bloodwork and it was only because they assumed theyd find diabetes bc Im fat) and it turns out I was in the literal final stages of hypothyroidism and had likely had it for at least a decade. My partner has trouble believing I love him sometimes because he struggles with selflove and he feels like I have no place else to go and am just putting up with him. It really breaks my heart because... he saved my life. I didnt end up celebrating my 25th birthday because I was still processing my near death and the... feeling of my body failing, but I have some stuff planned for my 26th that includes him being thanked for making those 2 extra years possible.
Never been in a relationship but I've seen how my parents treat each other (and us kids) when emergencies come up and reading stuff like this makes me appreciate them a lot more. They've both had to be rushed to the ER on separate occasions, and each time I've seen how they are each other's best advocate and caretaker. My dad has taken my mom to the hospital in the middle of the night, and my mom has done the same for him. They're both the types that will minimize their own pain but when it comes to other people? Oh they definitely take it serious. Whenever I feel sick my parents are more concerned than I am, and it can get overwhelming but it's much appreciated compared to people that will minimize your pain.
As I've learned with relationships, when trust like that is broken and they don't even care about your feelings, that relationship is over. It isn't worth your energy.
Absolutely, I have twice ended marriages over being unsupported through medical crises (both different). Being treated that way destroys the feelings that you once had for a person, and you can't get those feelings back.
He edited his story. When he first wrote it, he said that he had "pranked" her multiple times by saying he has an emergency, when she was out with friends, trying to get her to come home. He's a liar.
I lived in Germany for 5 years when I was just a little one, I learned how to speak the language, and I still remember how to say a few things to this day. When we were living there my step-father told me, if you can hear someone talking about you and they think you cannot understand them, just nod your head and smile. Keeps them confused... well until you have had enough of their BS and just hit them right back with their own comments. Lol the looks you would get after doing that is priceless lol. Man I do miss living there! The Black Forest was so beautiful in the fall! Thank you Charlotte for the awesome videos you entertain us with! ❤😊
Everybody is TA in that situation. Dutch is my first language and abroad not many Dutch people realize I can understand them. So when STRANGERS are talking sh*t in an elevator or something, the nodding and smiling thing is fine. Just saying goodbye in dutch when they get out can be hilarious. However. WHY TF would you pretend not to speak your family's language in their own country??? That's at best deceptive, I have much stronger language for that. Did she make them all speak English to her to keep up the weird charade? Something is seriously wrong with this lady. I understand why the in-laws don't like her. The pretending not to speak German is so awful and disturbing that I'm pretty sure she's rude and dishonest in many more ways. It's fine to pretend with strangers, but after getting to know people, not disclosing your knowledge is almost the equivalent of secretly recording them. It's not right.
It’s always a good idea to learn how to tell people off/cuss people out in a variety of languages. It comes in quite handy when dealing with 🍑🕳️s in foreign lands.
You are correct when in a foreign land and you know the language and you listening to the conversations and they’re saying horrible things about you. My sister was learning the German language because she married a German and moving over there. What people don’t realize is that she started learning the language some people can be vicious. They did not like her name because it has a TH in her name and pronunciation for Germans is very difficult. The funny thing is she named her son a very nice Jewish name for a German boy and it has a TH in his name. 🤣
100% especially when in fl people just assume u don't know spanish because your not their demographic ugh high school spanish. living in fl . so stupid.
@@EllaGreenn If she doesn't speak it very well, or well enough to keep up, she probably didn't want to use it. And after they used it to talk shit about her, bringing it up is pretty weird. Though I'd expect the husband to tell that you know she can understand and that's very shitty of you all around to assume she can't, and talk about her that way when I can hear - or at all.
12:45 my husband HATES the fact that I’m so independent when I’m sick haha he’s like “I want you to need me to baby you” cause he just wants to feel that he’s actually helping me during my sickness haha love him
Well I will always be there for my husband but my husband is a home body and I like to go out with my baby sister maybe twice a year and when I do my husband acts a fool and will call and say the weather is getting g really bad come home , the dog is sick you need to come home , I don’t feel well come home like he does this really badly so I imagine this guy has done this as well and that’s why she did this she just didn’t want him ruining her night and that’s what she was thinking he was trying to do so I do understand it , one night my best friends took my 1/10 of a mile from my house on my birthday for a beer my husband came in made a scene and yelled if you love me you will leave now I laughed and told him to FO about my husband is 20 years older and has never touched me he is sweet he just is very jealous 😂
My fiancé is the same except he won’t let me do things myself (I do have another condition which makes colds more problematic and means it takes ages for me to heal) he’ll tell me to sit down and then ask what drink I want or if I was a blanket and he’ll bring me food. He lets me get up to go to the toilet and if I really want to move around he’s fine with that but will go with me as my condition makes me dizzy sometimes and he wants to keep me safe. It’s really sweet watching him run around taking care of me, knew he was a keeper and happy I’m getting married to him in under 2 weeks.
I've never ignored someone calling me in the middle of the night, I've helped friends out multiple times because they called me in need, I have a very open policy with loved ones and make it clear that if they ever are in trouble or feel unsafe that I'm available no matter the hour, it's probably because of trauma but I still think this is a very important thing to live by.
Okay, back before my husband and i were married I hurt myself really bad. I had fallen down our porch stairs into gravel and ripped my knee/leg open. There was blood everywhere and it hurt so bad i couldnt put weight on it. He didnt even ask for an explanation when i told him he needed to come home NOW. He just did, because thats what youre supposed to do... i cant even imagine being in that much pain, getting the third degree, and then BLOCKED!? Girl no, bye.
@chiggyivyclaw4357 He lied. He edited the first post, to the one Charlotte read, and then admitted in the comments about it all, and how he would do this to her all the time to make her come home. Hence her reacting how she did. He cried wolf too much, and then wants to blame his gf for not trusting yet another 'oh its an emergency'.
People say "5 years is a long time to waste" but what about the next 5, 10, 15 years you're going to waste being with the wrong person... people need to stop being afraid of being single
This was me! After being with my ex for 5 years and wanting to end things, he kept convincing me that because of the time spent we should just keep working on it. Wasted another 3 years to end up divorced.
I've always told my friends in relationships "can you be happy being with this person who they are now for the next years and continue to be happy?" If there's doubt or answer is flat out no, then just move on and find the right person for you without the work to change them
For real.... I hate when people try to justify a bad relationship with that...like what...what about the rest of your life?? Five years is long enough to see if someone can grow and change and what their priorities are...if someone is not the person you want/need them to be after five years you should have full confidence leaving them knowing they probably won't change.
One time, my husband had the opportunity to go out to the movies with a group of guys that had been trying to get together for the better part of a month. That night, I accidentally took my dog’s sedative instead of my medication because they were both white circular pills. I gave my dog his medication at the same time I took my evening meds and I got distracted (we do it at different times now because of this). I had to call poison control. I called my husband and told him what happened, and he raced home, in the middle of the movie to watch over me and make sure I was okay. He was watched over me for the rest of the night, as I fell asleep, and made sure I kept breathing, etc., he’s never said another word about it. I felt terrible that I screwed up on his one chance to get a night out, but that’s what a partner should do in an emergency, take care of you-not block you.
6:58 The "I need to go to the hospital" should've told her that he needed her home like, ASAP. The fact that she said that she'd block him if he called again and then actually doing it should be a major red flag
My wife and I have a code/safe word for when we are being serious. Most because we like to mess with each other horsing around, joking or pranking often. We have a code word that will immediately make the situation clear we are uncomfortable or get angry etc lol a safe word.
My parents had something like that the other way around. Since my siblings and I liked to wrestle each other, but due to age differences misjudged our own strength sometimes, we had a code word ("mercy"), at which you had to stop immediatly and give the other person space. We're now all grown up and all of our spouses think it's hilarious, that that code word still works.
Zero miscommunication. The moment he told her that he needed to go to the hospital, and she responded the way she did you no longer can call it miscommunication
I thought that maybe, just maybe, he made a joke like this or was jealous in another occasion and she kinda assumed he was joking again (Sorry for my english)
@@Belle-on7vd Nope. Since she was only 5 minutes away (check the story), she could have gone home and checked. If a joke, then he would pay the price. If not a joke, then she would have been there. What else is she going to consider "a joke"?
the problem was how he said it. i am sure she would have take him seriously if he didn't just say my balls hurts. he could have just say i am not okay, i am really not feeling well or something, it's sounds more serious. also i feel like he argued with her about this party or her going because her being annoyed immidietly is telling. they are a both a bit childish tbh
First Story: She 1) was nearby 2) using emojis 3) declined several calls 4) blocked him 5) got angry over vomit 6) Got defensive, minimized his pain, etc. during a conversation He should dump her, even if she owned up. He was having a medical emergency and she didn't care, even if he was joking, it wouldn't have taken much for her to find out. And she only cared about him after she realized he was truthful and wanted to be there for him, there most definitely is something else going on with her.
I definitely think she was cheating. It makes no sense that she couldn't spend 10 minutes away from her friends to check up on him or make a phone call unless something else was going on. I suppose she could have terminally bad judgement, but I wouldn't want to attach myself to that either.
@@aduckofsomesort If she'd picked up the phone one singular time out of the five times he called, he probably would've told her. It's a lot more effort to type out a text while in agony and vomiting than pushing a singular button. That's why you call 911 instead of texting them
@@aduckofsomesorthe said he needed to go to the hospital, after saying something was wrong. All my bf would have to say is, something's wrong, & I would immediately let him know I'm omw. Her entire reaction is the problem, not just parts of it
So according to another comment that actually followed the initial reddit story for 1, OP has a history of pranking his GF and trying to get her home on her nights out. He just changed things around and omitted details so he could look not as shitty. So I fully understand why she didn't take him seriously at first, because when you have a history of a partner that tries to sabotage your days out, you stop caring about their excuses to get you home. He set himself up to be the boy who cried wolf and then was shocked the village didn't believe the boy.
It pisses me off because he says in the update he's never done any pranks to get her home or her night out. Straight up lying. Few ppl know the truth so he's getting away with painting this victim portrayal.
His whole 'claiming to have testicular torsion' was probably a lie, too. Worked in EMS for 12 years and I would bet everything I own that this guy never suffered from it.
I would immediately be leaving to check on my fiancé! When I was having an emergency he couldn't leave work, but he was checking on me frequently and I had other supports (I have chronic health issues so I have a support system in place) to rely on. Ugh this makes me so mad.
My story very similar to the first guy. I had been feeling a sharp pain in my side, and was ignoring it. She had gone out partying with her friends. Well later that evening I collapse on the floor, in horrific pain from my abdomen. Found out later my appendix burst. I actually call 911 first, and called her after. I called her three times, then texted "I called the ambulance, I'm on the way to the hospital, something is seriously wrong." I called her again and she blocked me. During the surgery hours later she called back. Then texted repeatedly. I found out the neighbors actually asked her why the ambulance was at my house. So she didn't even see my text until talking to them at 7:00am. I was not as forgiving as this guy in the video. I didn't tell her what hospital I was in. I told her to pack her stuff, get out of my house, and don't contact me again. We were together 5 year's, and I've never spoken to her again after that day.
Wow the Germany one brings back some not so pleasant memories. Once when I was young and dumb, I married a man who was half German. His family did this very thing to me. I told them I could understand them. I couldn’t speak it well at the time, but I understood. That same thing also happened to me when I was taking a German class to try to speak it better around my husband’s family. She called me stupid in German. I knew that word so well because I heard it so much from my husband’s family! I’m so happy to say that half German man is now my ex husband. He and his family were horrible, talk about gaslighting. Nobody ever stood up for me and it was all my fault. To this day, everything is my fault with those people.
Wow that first story, there would not have been misscommunication if she just picked up the phone. She declined his call 5 times and blocked him. There is no misscommunication, that is no communication on purpose. He was very clear by calling and texting. After 5 years you would think they know eachother well enough to take things serious or to recognize a joke. Clearly she had a good time.....period.
It really sounds like that. The amount of mistrust shows that she can’t be trusted. She was projecting something while being super controlling for no reason.
About being reluctant to call an ambulance for his balls…maybe he was embarrassed but let’s also keep in mind that if he’s in the US he’s probably adding the thinking “can I afford this for just pain in my balls?” It can feel embarrassing that you’re spending that much for something that might be nothing. The idea that we have to think about finances at such a vulnerable time is horrible.
As a New Zealander currently living in Australia where both countries have healthcare for all - employed, unemployed, disabled, retired, students, etc... It's free at the point of service as our usual income taxes cover it. We pay slightly less income tax than the US too. I've had genetic breast cancer 3 times. The care I received from my oncology team, nurses, cat scans, chemotherapy, radiation therapy, multiple surgeries and hospital stays, pathology tests, etc... $0. If I was in the US I'd be bankrupt or dead. I've heard that health insurance doesn't cover pre-existing conditions... I'd be screwed. Having my daughter also cost $0. I can't imagine having to consider the cost before seeking help. I sincerely hope your country changes its policy on health insurance. The Koch brothers did extensive research into the US healthcare system and found it'd be cheaper to do universal healthcare... But then the insurance companies wouldn't be paying their shareholders and directors massive dividends. 🙄
Trust me, if a person is in that much pain...they will do anything to get it to stop....NO MATTER how embarrassing. His whole story and update merit questions.
I can’t speak for anyone else, but if I got a message from my husband saying “Something’s wrong, come home”, EVERYTHING would get dropped and I’d get home as fast as I possibly could. Part of the trust in a relationship, to me, is knowing that if one of us says something like that, it will be real and important.
I can relate to the 2nd story…I grew up in a mostly Hispanic community in Southern California. I am light skinned and look full white but my mother is full Mexican so I am half Mexican and was raised to be fluent in both English and Spanish. My entire childhood was me being constantly talked about behind my back in Spanish because of my outward appearance they assumed I didn’t speak Spanish. I was very timid and didn’t confront people for a long time until one day I just got tired of hearing the constant demeaning comments(honestly felt like bullying) and that compiled with the fact that all my mom’s side of the family treat me poorly because I was too light skinned and blonde; well I finally snapped. A couple girls were sitting behind me in class and they were carrying on about me again so I just turned around slowly and gave them what must have been a disturbingly wide smile I said: “You know…I know what you’re saying about me. I’ve known this entire time. I wanted to say something before but I was raised by my Mexican mother to have respect for others and be classy. But I realized respect should be earned and classless doesn’t deserve class.” All of this I said nice and clearly in Spanish. The girls just looked at me open mouthed and wide eyed…speechless. I turned around and went back to my drawing which was my norm when we weren’t actively engaged in a lesson. Those girls never said one more thing about me(at least within earshot) and they quickly shattered whenever they saw me coming. Not sure if this counts as petty revenge but I was damn proud of myself that day.
Sorry you went through that, petty behaviour. That happened to me once at work, I came back into a room after my coworkers thought I'd left, I only heard the last bit but they thought I heard their entire conversation, they literally grabbed my arm cause they were concerned I'd tell the boss. They wanted to take me to best breakfast to discuss what I thought I'd heard. I went straight to the boss and got switched to a different section. I only told the boss enough to get moved.
@curiousnarwhal I think when she blocked him was when it should have been the end of the line! She was crying & Kinda remorseful because she had time to think & see the hospital room to realize that she was wrong, and still she insisted that "It couldn't be that bad"! She was only worried about what other people thought of Her actions!
@curiousnarwhal He lied, go look up his post, read that, then re-read the edited post Charlotte read us. He pranked her in this exact way, to the point of tears and screaming worried about him, quite often, to get her to come home. He then was trying to blame everything on her because he is untrustworthy when it comes to his word, I don't blame her for not believing that it's actually that bad. Boy cried wolf too many times, was immature and wouldn't take care of his own body, and then tried to make his gf take on the responsibility of his issues. There's quite a few stories with the gender reversed, and the gf pranking her partner till the don't believe her in an emergency; and yup, they deserve the bed they made themselves as well. I also would like to hear the story from her point of view, and her friends who have watched everything happen through the relationship. I'm also hoping that she is the one who initiated the breakup, you can't trust someone like this to be an adult to spend your life with.
@@B.Harper7 Wouldn't take care of his own body and then tried to make his partner take on the responsibility? I guess you've never had a testicular torsion before. It seems like you're also minimizing someone else's pain.
Im a frequent call decliner, I just hate calls, but if the same number called me multiple times within a small time period, I would answer. I wanna be clear, calls from numbers I don't know, if it's a saved number (my dad, just my dad pretty much) I will answer
lol I freak out if I see 2 missed calls! Most of my contacts text me and if they call they call once and leave a message. 2 missed calls and I am panicked (I am also an anxious person so not always reasonable). For me, if it really is just a 5 minute walk I would have headed over even if just to say “stop calling me!”. But yeah the moment I see Hospital I am taking it seriously.
I had a controlling boyfriend and you still check... I even cut a trip to see family short for his bs which costs more than the trip itself. (Last minute flights are no joke). What I had to do was break up, not risk the one time he did need me and I ignored him. I think it took a good year to stop worrying about him, despite going complete no contact. (We lived together, so new adres, new phone, new everything and my family blocked him).
I had ovarian torsion a few months ago (one of my fallopian tubes had twisted and was cutting off blood flow to itself and one of my ovaries). The pain was awful; it was like labor contractions. I had the pain for about two weeks trying to figure out what it was when I was finally diagnosed by an OB/Gyn and got rushed off for surgery.
The blocking is the worst offense. The salt in the wound was bitching about the vomit. He should dump her. And yeah, she was probably cheating. Married 24 years have never blocked each other.
I don't think she might be cheating but there has been a surge of controlling partners, specifically boyfriends. Maybe if we give her the benefit of the doubt, probably her friends may have had this experience and influenced her. It was also her best friend’s birthday. However, she knows her boyfriend best. They've been together for 5 years. If he hadn't pulled up any cry-wolf situation, this should've been a sign for her to take things seriously. And I trust OP that he didn't pull these shenanigans. Now again I do think it is break-up worthy. The club was so close, she could've at least walked in to check. I feel so deeply sorry for OP. He called that one person he trusts ( and probably believes that she will accompany him in sickness and health), and he was dismissed and even worse blocked. He deserves much better in this situation. And later during the conversation, she minimised his pain. A simple Google search can describe how testicular torsion feels like.
Yeah, and the thing is that I feel like maybe the relationship could have been recoverable with work if she'd owned up from the get go. "I'm sorry. I was drunk and I wasn't using my best judgement. I genuinely thought you were joking. I'm so, so sorry, and I'm so glad you're okay. I'll never not take you seriously again." And she basically did say that, but only after minimizing what he went through and saying he couldn't have been in that much pain. Like...he literally had EMERGENCY SURGERY. Of course he was in pain! So yeah. That part is the nail in the coffin, as far as I'm concerned.
I don't think the bloke in the first story is being honest. The fact that she thought he was joking or being overly dramatic sounds like there's been issues before with him. Plus, why would she block him? Wasn't she the greatest girl to him and get wants to marry her? They have been together for five years. If she was a 'blocking you and don't care' type of girl then there would already be red flags in that five years together. I think she blocked him because he's know for being a dramatic and her friend said ignore him - you know how he can be about you going out and having fun at clubs. There's so much to this story the bloke isn't saying. Healthy, nice people don't block there partners for no reason. It's got to be he's pulled guilt trip stuff before. The fact she stayed by his side for two days at the hospital afterwards says she's not an awful person. Yep, she messed up not taking him seriously but I'm convinced he's a 'boy that cried wolf' type and a bit of a poor me type. I'd like to hear the girlfriends side to make a complete judgement.
I fell down the stairs, broke 4 toes, and got such a bad deep tissue bruise on my right butt cheek, it turned almost black. I called my boyfriend for help. He decided NOT to take my call and went to dinner with his mom. I got all of his stuff out of my house that night, after I got out of the ER. He never even returned my texts or calls. 3 years of my time wasted.
Be grateful you didn't waste any more time on that man, if he failed you at a time like that he would continue that behavior in the future. Good riddance!
The first story hits close to me. I ended up going septic with an infection after my first baby and ended up in the ER and a subsequent week long hospital stay. My husband went and partied with his family and his parents encouraged him to not take the paramedics seriously (eg. In-law emotional incest drama). HOWEVER, we are still married and are actually happy. But only after years of therapy and a nearly getting a divorce did my husband realize how messed up his family was being. The trust had to be rebuilt, and I am still working through the trauma. Like the redditor said, you wouldn't be an AH to leave or stay, it just depends on what work you're willing to do to heal from it.
I an so glad you survived the experience and you and your husband were able to work together and come out stronger. But yeah, don’t dismiss paramedics when they say it’s serious. They are usually doing their best to comfort/care for the patient and they don’t exaggerate a situation. They’ve seen it all, so when they say “it’s serious” they are right 90 out of 100 times.
Agreed it’s not for people to say what he should do, although I did comment he should leave her 🫣😅 my partner was less than quick with childcare when I was in labour with my third and I ended up delivering her myself, at home, alone. That COULD have been very serious for us but luckily it wasn’t. Strong couples do have to go through a lot to work sometimes
Judge Charlotte is my favorite!! 🦃 (Adding) When my due date came for the birth of our first kid my husband was at work. He kept his phone on him at all times, even telling his boss that he had to keep it during a meeting "just in case." Thankfully I didn't have to call him home, but he was ready to leave if needed.
My husband has pranked me so many times with stuff like the first story, that when something actually did happen, I didn't take him seriously. I really thought he was joking with me even when I was on the phone with him. However, I did take him seriously once his usually tone changed.
@dawnchesbro4189 He lied, and admitted it all in the comments once people confronted him with his story making no sense, and him not posting the actual chat, but typing only certain parts. He would pull this all the time to the point of her getting home in tears, crying and screaming worried, and dbag was just just chilling. He is controlling and has some SERIOUS issues. As for this commenter, I can almost promise that she wasn't drunk with friends at a birthday, and used to him faking severe medical emergencies all the time. No offense to this commenter, but there's ZERO chance I'm spending my life with a man or woman that fakes medical emergencies. What type of partner are you having kids with, if you want kids, with that type of person??? How are they going to act at work functions, galas, networking events, etc... Ewwww, no. That's raising someone that hasn't learned tract, much less there's a 'time and place'.
5:50 Oh HELL no. If you truly love someone, you would drop ANYTHING to help them. I’m siding with the guy here. The girl was a major a-hole for scoffing at his pain and ignoring his calls and texts. I would literally drop anything for my husband if he so much as said, “I’m in pain”.
And when she got home she saw the vomit and though he left it there on purpose, what?! What does she think of him?? She though : he tried to ruin my night, he's not in pain he is annoying and now he left this mess for me to clean?! He's your boyfriend! Jesus Poor guy...
And when she got home she saw the vomit and though he left it there on purpose, what?! What does she think of him?? She though : he tried to ruin my night, he's not in pain he is annoying and now he left this mess for me to clean?! He's your boyfriend! Jesus Poor guy...
Another thing I would take into consideration is that, is the boyfriend a prankster? Because based on how the story was told, he doesn’t seem to be the type to joke about these things.. also, he mentioned in the beginning of the story that he was looking forward to spending some ME time while she’s out - so why would she even think that he’s joking? I personally would drop everything if this happens to my SO.. or if anything happens to him.. Edit: I was right about him not being a prankster 🤣
first story: I DON'T KNOW MAN, sounds bad but he didn't mention if he regularly tries to get her to come home early from clubbing and that's why she didn't take him seriously. He said he hated everything to do with clubbing so it could be a situation of the boy who cried wolf here.
I think she’s starting to understand. But he certainly has every right to move on. I just hope she learns from this. They’re both still very young. I think she’s just not as ready as he is for this kind of relationship, and that this can be the start of her growth. Doesn’t mean he has to take her back, though.
Yeah right girl because ask yourself how many times your boyfriend cares when you're on the worst day of your period. Stop acting like that girl could have ran 5 minutes to his aid especially after she ADMITTED that she was drunk and outside enjoying herself at a birthday party
It was the ignoring his calls that got me. Once you mentioned the blocking I thought Nope, game over, you are out. However, they are both so young, so maybe this life lesson will help them mature and communicate better in the future.
I’m glad you acknowledged that they can learn. They started super young, so I hate that so many people immediately condemn her entirely for her stupidity. 22 years old? Yeah, we don’t all mature at the same rate. He’s more mature, yes, but they started this relationship at 17 and I would have suggested they might want to take some time apart before committing anyway. And I don’t blame him if he opts to end it. He doesn’t feel safe with her. But I also think she’s starting to recognize what she did, and this could mean a lot in her growth. If she chooses to own it, and act on it, then even if they don’t get back together, she’ll be a better person with the next partner she has.
When I was pregnant with my second child, I suffered an almost complete placental abruption at home three days from my due date. I was bleeding profusely on my bathroom floor, and my mom asked me if she should call an ambulance. I said no, call my midwife. I also called my best friend, who was supposed to attend the birth. Looking back on it, I feel so idiotic, in that moment I was in such shock that I mentally defaulted to my birth plan. When confronted by an acute medical crisis, the brain does weird things and we don't always respond logically. I completely understand why his first impulse was to call his person, rather than an ambulance.
I mean the fact you have a midwife says enough... The sheer number of deaths linked to babies and mothers because they trusted their health and safety with a midwife would indicate that anyone who uses one cares more about their birth plan than the actual health/safety of themselves or their unborn child lol Not surprised your default reaction was stupid.
@@Maaars111A midwife is a person who assists in childbirth, usually at a home for a home birth. They have certain medical qualifications that allow them to assist in birth, like a nurse would. They provide emotional and physical support before, during, and days after the delivery. If a woman hires a midwife, they usually do most of the prenatal care up to labor and delivery as well.
@@Steeksify That's a very unkind thing to say to someone who just trusted this community enough to share something vulnerable. Please try to keep this comment section respectful. You can express disagreement without being rude.
@@SteeksifyYou must be just as stupid to call someone using a midwife stupid. A person's birth plan is their birth plan, you shouldn't shame them for that, and things like stress and pain can and will lead people to act and/or think in strange or unusual ways. in that moment, OP probably defaulted to their birth plan because among other things they were most worried about their baby. Shame on you
0:21 The Stuart Little clip brought back so many memories!!! God even now, watching the clip of Snowbell running away from Stuart in the plane and yelling "AAAAAAAAAAA!! *Please don't hurt me!* " leaves me in stitches 🤣
Yeah, that’s where I’m curious too. On both sides of the coin. Is he someone who has pulled her out of a girl’s night in the past over nothing? Or was she involved in something that she felt was more important than his health?
i was thinking that if you’re young, drunk and get a text saying someone’s b*alls hurt, i could imagine initially thinking it was a joke. but after the hospital was mentioned, repeated calls, etc her credibility wains
All I have to say to my boyfriend is, "honey, something doesn't feel right" and that will begin a process of attention, care, and medical assistance that even Hollywood would fail to capture the intensity of. I am currently getting over food poisoning from last week...and back to my regular routine, i'm finding Post-it notes all over the house with intricate details of what I was going through that I don't even remember happening, so that he could keep track in case I needed to go to the hospital at any point. When people actually care about you, it shows.
It says a lot that even in blind pain, the first instinct was to call his GF and that she rejected the messages and calls until she realized he was serious.
I could’ve maybe forgiven the original situation eventually, but her blowing off my pain & concerns when I’m trying to talk to her about how upset I was? Nope. That is unforgivable.
He was lying, he admitted it in the comments that he did this to her all the time to get her to come home. The broke up, thank goodness, he has a hell of a lot of work to do on himself. I would just highly suggest for everyone to not fake emergencies, in order to be a controlling dick; when you play stupid games, you end up with stupid prizes.
First story: in 25 years of friendship I’ve needed my best gf twice in an emergency. I didn’t have to say more than 1. I called - Are you home? I’m coming over. 2. A text - Are you at work? I need you to come to my home, now. Both were absolute emergencies. I was too overwhelmed emotionally to be more specific in the moment. She responded requiring no additional context, just immediate support. If my s.o. couldn’t do the same there would be no coming back from that. Respect, love, understanding, compassion.
Honestly, it kinda sounds like the guy could've been joking, "Come home, my balls hurt..." sounds like a playful way to ask your partner to come home and tend to your sexual needs.
What is with u women saying every man lies. No wonder why u are probably single to this day. If someone spam calls then pick up the phone. Not fucking hard. They live 5 minutes away so why couldn't she leave to check on him
My husband has an extremely high pain tolerance, if he ever said he needed to go to the hospital for literally any reason I’d immediately rush home. He literally cut his finger almost off and was like “I could probably super glue this right?” Like no sir you need stitches 😂😂 I can’t imagine missing even 2 calls and not freaking out that something might be amiss
Oh man. Im so glad you shared the 2nd story. Ive just returned home to Australia from travelling with my partner in France to meet his family. His mum is french and his dad is kiwi but speaks french. They decided that they would stop speaking english halfway through the week leaving me feeling rejected and left out at every meal around the table. They were giving me lots of disgusted looks for the next few days. His mum started snatching kitchen items out of my hand when i tried to help. All so i would feel like an outcast. On the last night the tension is so high, ive been crying on my own for 3 days, my partner tried to talk to them but didnt communicate what they said about me until this day....they thought i was a nasty person. I went to say thank you for everything and their hospitality,,, they finally decide to yell and confront me in english letting me know what they thought of me: that i was a condescending snob, ungrateful and rude. That i treated their house like a hotel just because i was resting as much as i could (i was on vacation and my job is stressful working with kids!). They also said my partner, their son was selfish and ungrateful even though he cooked majority of the meals for the family (cousin and brother and his gf were there for half the week). We left in a taxi the next morning. The craziest thing was his mum looked me dead in the eye and was convinced i knew more french than i was letting on. I know basics, very basic and what i do know i made sure to have the pronounciation down pat. Howeever i didnt understand enough to follow the conversation at the table, and my partner failed to have my back and translate but he did try to defend me on that final night. We are still recovering and a part of me wants to learn French properly just so i can actually understand the tea next time and defend myself. Whew sorry this is so long, just happy to have a space where my story is relevant ❤
Your partner's parents sound like horrible people, and your partner really failed to help you when you needed it. I wouldn't stay in that situation, if I were you. I don't think it's going to improve, and trying to learn French will give them more opportunities to say awful things about you.
Oh man. I am so sorry you went through that. I studied abroad as a teen in a country where I didn’t know the language well at all (I really suck at Spanish, even after living there a year I spoke like a toddler). The feeling of not belonging because you can’t understand the conversation is a gut wrench. It must have been even worse in your case as you knew they spoke English and this was your SO’s family (my host family didn’t speak more than 5 words of English, they tried their best to include me and were angels). I wish you the best of luck in your language studies! But keep in mind, especially as you learn, that sometimes encountering words you aren’t expecting can really throw off your comprehension. That’s why, even if you know lots of words in a language it can take quite some time to be able to understand others talking (especially if they aren’t including you in the conversation, you would lack context).
I was engaged to a guy who showed me that he really did not care for me when I needed to go to the ER due to a bad asthma attack. He decided to go to work instead and I had to have my parents drive me to the ER. Also, he never called me to check on me. Broke up with him and never looked back.
For the first story: I'm an EMT, the ambulance people, and we receive calls for way smaller things than "my b**ls hurt." Not calling us when you're in extreme pain in lunacy and worrying. With this, there is also the worry about his "girlfriend." The moment I smell vomit in my apartment, I immediately make sure that my roommates are okay, rather than being mad that it smells. I can't imagine doing that to my roommate, much less my PARTNER. What must have been going through her head to not come when he texted. I can see why, as a female, your male partner saying "my b**ls hurt" could be sm*x related, but then that would legit just need a question of "are they actually hurting or is this an intimacy thing?" That's all that was needed. She clearly loves him, as shown by her worry when she did realize, but it also makes you think where he is on her totem pole if she doesn't put needs like that above partying. And the blocking, like, what the heck is that. If they're calling you non-stop and that's out of character for them, then it might be worth while to take a step back and check on them.
What if they’re regular binge drinkers who throw up, and regular mess makers who don’t clean up for themselves. Of course you would check people acting out of character. Blocking means lying and demanding attention at bad times is his character
Had to get a rental car yesterday and when I connected my phone to the car's Bluetooth, the phone previously connected to the car was labeled "Potato Queen's iPhone". XD
Forgivable. Drunk. Her friends probably had suggested she just ignore him and be in the moment with them. Honest emotional response when she came home. I would have done the same thing when I used to drink. If you want a way out of the relationship then take it. Block me? lol!😂 My husband has respect for his life 🙌
i dumped my boyfriend of 4 years because he didn't answer the phone when my car broke down. I lived with him at the time. Uber would be $100 because it was Friday around 8 pm so I got completely stranded in a super sketchy neighborhood. Once I found out my ex was asleep because Instead of making sure I was OK, he just got high and drunk and passed out. I moved out shortly after.
This reminds me of dumping my boyfriend because as he was driving me home in a blinding snowstorm on a highway he rarely travelled... and wouldn't listen to me to pull over because I said we had crossed the centre line into on coming traffic. About 30 seconds later we were almost hit head on by a semi. We would have been dead... we were in a VW bug. It was the one time I trusted and acted on my gut feeling and he was "too much of a man" to listen. Broke my trust in him in an instant.
First one: absolutely deranged and lacking properly functioning brain cells. Second one: careless and fifty shades of rude. Dustin Poynter would have a field day with these ones.
If my husband said the word hospital, I would immediately stop what I was doing and give him my full attention. Her lack of empathy and urgency for him is alarming. DUMP HER!
The first story… my sister’s now ex-husband used to blow up her phone when we would go out. The thing is, he went out with his friends nearly every single weekend, even after they had kids, even when she and the baby were sick. But, if she and I went out shopping or to an event, he’d blow up her phone. Who knows if that guy does the same?
Exactly, her initial and overall response really sounded like she was sick of him bothering her whenever she gets some time to go out and with friends.
@@pogpogpurinn If she going to act like that then she most likely do that if he was having a heart attack, aortic dissection (which can kill in minutes), stroke, and more
@@dakotakulha8376oh yes and we know how many people have been saved from aortic dissection by their drunken partner answering the phone at the club. I'm not convinced that her reaction to "my balls hurt" really predicts how she'd respond to "I can't breathe and I have chest pain radiating into my arm", but the main point here is people suspecting he has a history of crying wolf which makes a big difference.
I hope that nobody needs this information: If you can't get someone to take you to the hospital, a taxi/Lyft/Uber is much cheaper than an ambulance. I've done this many times.
Even with a miscommunication she vlocked him. She wouldnt even hear him out. Thats how she treats him when he is going through an issue and i can only imagine how she would act if she was going through something and you did the same thing.
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First story, as soon as you read the messages back and forth, I could hear how it might sound like a plea from a boyfriend with blue balls wanting to fool around and playing it up like an emergency. I'm thinking this could fall under extreme miscommunication instead of hurtful neglect
17:09 I’ve never been in a relationship but it seems like it is possible to build that trust back, but it’s gonna probably take a lot of time, as well as effort on the woman’s part because she’ll have to show that she will not react this way ever again.
5:30 the fact that the club she went to was only FIVE MIN AWAY from their house, she could’ve should’ve went home to check on him… then if it’s a cruel joke, she can just go back, and if it’s serious, she could be there for her man.
@@camillelivelyhe’s not a complete jerk HE NEEDED MEDICAL ATTENTION ASAP The girlfriend is the ignorant one because he stated and tried calling multiple times already for HELP but the GF declined and brushed it off
Right? I’m actually not feeling that Charlotte is kinda defending the girl. A miscommunication? How? He said he needed to go to the hospital. I would have immediately called my partner if they said that. I would be so worried.
5 minutes and 5 comments in, I cannot believe the majority here are not seeing through his ADPD ploy for attention. She's better off without him. Heaven help his next victim. Can't even watch the rest. Don't even care what happened. I'm so over these manipulators.
I had a partner who would lie that he needed me when I went out or to hang out with friends. He's crying an emergency, and when I'd get there, there was absolutely no emergency. He'd call and call and call or text a million times. Nearing the end of the relationship I would stop answering knowing it would he grief. I'm not saying OP ever did that and he doesn't deserve to be ignored but let's be real. We have no idea their relationship. Just because he says he's never doesn't mean he actually hasn't and just because she apologizes and says she means it does mean she does. We really don't know. After 5 years there would be no reason to act like this unless there's been past patterns.
The way hewords things, says thing, and some red flags I've seen in OPs post and update really makes be believe there's more to the story. I've seen it time and time again.
@Class_Wars i dunno, guys are pretty bad at context and don't think repeating the exact convo on whim, let's not forget that they love to not read either(signs, packaging/labels, things that give context on where to go, etc). I'm thinking it's more so negligence than him being devious. Especially cuz he did give such detail in the update.
Tbf, she was probably already tipsy so everything probably sounded like a joke 😅. Without knowing their relationship from both parties’ side we can only ascertain half of the situation. His text could be interpreted as a funny case of blue balls because he misses her and the emergency that needed immediate medical attention was her coming home to relieve his pain in another way, if she was already a few drinks in. Or maybe he doesn’t realize he’s cried wolf before and she’s learned to ignore his over exaggerations. But I’m pretty sure she just thought he meant it as a joke which had went on for far too long. If one miscommunication brought on by him and her night out had him contemplating breaking up then he sounds massively immature to not tell her about it rubbing him the wrong way and not acknowledging both of their failures during that interaction. He could and should have requested an ambulance if he believed it to be that serious where he needed her to save him, then he should have told her he was on his way to hospital (time is never your friend during an actual emergency!) 😅 But if the OP is being entirely truthful then she did exhibit several red flags (rude behaviors) that night that could warrant an exit (like the blocking your number thing).
I fell in the winter breaking my tibia and fibula and ankle in one swift fall 5 minutes away from my house 2 years ago.Called husband and he didn't come.He thought it wasn't very serious.I was on the ground for 4 hours and no ambulance was available i had fire truck come but there were ambulances.My.They shoved me in a taxi.I couldn't even get out.Suddenly my daughter finally had to explain how serious this was to him.He apologized for over a month and still gets teased about it at work by coworkers.But he will never doubt me again.I was hospitalized a month.
That was absolutely unacceptable behavior, period. No one should have had to explain to a grown man that if someone falls and hurts themselves on the ice, he needs to go help them. He sounds like a terrible person.
Hearing the first story only makes me more grateful that I have a partner who takes my medical needs seriously. Any time I've had to go for something medical, he's there outside, so when I come out from a private appointment, he's able to help in whatever way he can. He's also been there when my pains occur, helping me get up steps or letting me rest on him when he offers to 'make himself into a bed'. I can't imagine ignoring, let alone blocking him if he needed my help with anything like that, especially considering he's done so much to be a support for me. P.S. I knew from the moment OP said that it was abdominal pain that felt like he had been hit in the nuts that it was testicular torsion. If I heard my partner say 'hospital' and 'balls hurt' in the same message, I would've bolted my ass back home knowing what it was.
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As a woman and wife, my husband ever message me anything like this I would immediately think he’s making a sex joke. But then again, he never says he needs to go to the hospital, so I would have instantly dropped EVERYTHING ETA: smh absolutely not. You cannot be reasonable in that amount of pain. It was serious enough that it required life saving surgery. I’m proud of them for having these conversations. Non negotiable and basic boundaries are pivotal to know for a successful relationship. I don’t know if I would be able to handle that level of disrespect and disregard. I would be done.
@@erikarussell1142 maman s'il te plaît aide moi il y'a une personne qui me fait du mal sur internet j'ai vraiment peur je demande ton aide car je parle pas l'anglais 😭
I am an ER nurse
You have a 4 hour window from onset of testicular pain to completely losing the testes
Men should take this kind of pain seriously
Really?! Wow that's so fast. Thanks for the info!
It's difficult when it happens as a minor and the adults responsible for you don't believe you when you tell them you're in pain or sick. In my case, strangulated testes & appendicitis at 15, both times it was a neighbour who told them I probably needed medical attention.
Exactly! This is an emergency and apparently very painful!
I am a male and you have educated me as to how serious this condition is. Thank you so much!
They should not wait for a ride out of shame or because they minimize how bad this is. This truly is a 911 emergency. You mom, your gf, your best bro cannot do anything for you.
That first story - absolutely NOT. I was ONE WEEK into a relationship when I got really sick at work while covering a night shift. My manager wanted to call an ambulance, but I freaked out at the thought of ending up at hospital with nobody by my side in the middle of the night, so she called my boyfriend. He got up and drove across town at 2am, then across town again to take me to the hospital, and in the end took me home and stayed until he was sure I was alright. I knew there and then that he was the one, it's been 14 years ❤
Tearing up! So sweet! Congrats on having a wonderful and loving relationship ❤
That's adorable, but the situation listed is totally different.
I personally wouldn't want my inebriated partner to commit a crime and pick me up, to take me to the hospital. 🤣
With how the night is going at that point, there will be a cop at the emergency covered drive-thru, who arrests my partner and slaps them with a DUI 😭😂🤣
I really do feel for the guy, but he literally said a version of what a bunch of people are going to text their partners tonight, in a 'hehe let's go find a closet 😈 wtf fck are you doing, hey home faster!' way.
I'm REALLY feeling less sorry by the moment, that he took any lasting pain in his genitals as a "this is fine to hedge on my drunk girlfriend at her bffs clubbing birthday girls night"......
He needs to grow up and take his health seriously. Being embarrassed doesn't cut it in my book.
@joanna.i He proved that he's a, through sickness & health, thick & thin, ups & downs, good times & bad kinda guy! The next week, did you talk about finances? JK! It sounds like you found the diamond in the rough. May you have many more happy years!
@B.Harper7 Joanna wasn't talking about transportation. She was comparing being in a scary medical emergency with and without a loving support system. OP's GF was within a few minutes walking distance, and she would have been able to ride in the ambulance with him and be there after surgery, just to be there for him! But she chose to block him. Joanna had only a Two Week relationship, yet he was willing and did, get out of bed, just to be supportive! OP was with his partner for several years!
Yeah but it's also on him. Like he really expected her to drive him to the hospital DRUNK? JUST GET A DAMN AMBULANCE MY GUY
Declining a call: sure.
Declining a call after you’ve seen a text containing the word “hospital” is deranged.
It's the blocking after all that which feels even more deranged to me.
I 💯 agree
The only thing that could justify this is if he's pranked her in the past with something similar
The part where she blocked him was so devastating. Him even overthinking to keep her, is sad.
This was such a controlling move from her.
Five years don’t matter at this point. He is young enough to find a girlfriend that cares.
Being drunk isn’t an excuse either. Whatever resentment made her think this bad about her own boyfriend needs to be checked out and worked on.
Hopefully she learns from this. But the trust is seriously damaged after something like that.
@@mariabrown6926right but sadly he added a update saying he haven’t done that to her he always lets her enjoy her time out with her friends since they share a friend group she just didn’t want to answer cause she didn’t care
My husband and I actually have a safe word for instances specifically like this. We joke around so much to the point where we've agreed on a word for when we're actually serious. I feel like it has saved us from so many problems or issues that stem from misunderstandings especially through text/messaging apps when messages can be grossly misconstrued. I love you by the way and love your channel! You seem so down to Earth and I always appreciate your viewpoint on all these different topics 😊 thank you for being such a positive influencer!
Going to start doing this with my husband! We have a safe word for when we’re about to say something that might have a big emotional impact on the other person. We say, “Walrus” and the other person knows to take a second to evaluate how they feel about what the person is saying before reacting. It has stopped so many fights before they start. But an emergency word like you have would also be soooo useful.
wow this is genius… maybe will do too… we have more health issues and less joking about it so in our 20 years together no such misunderstandings but still probably will adopt it
My partner and I have two safe words. One for an emergency the other for when I can’t speak because I’m in an unsafe situation
I've been married for almost 18 yrs. If my husband ever called me & texted me with a text saying something is wrong & I need to come home, there'd be nothing & no one could stop be from getting home immediately.
Right I’m not married but if my boyfriend calls saying something wrong and he’s vomiting or need to go to the hospital I’m dropping everything to make sure he’s okay she just didn’t care
Been married for 14. Same.
Exactly 💯 she was cheating and didn't give a single fkkk about what happened to her spouse. She probably even MADE him sick to be honest. Why else would you NOT want to be with your spouse when they are basically begging you to pay attention to their sickness. Ffssssss. Smh. He's FAR from emotionally needy either. Those comments erk me more than mommy boys. 🤡🤣🤦🏽♀️💀 lmfaooOo
I've been in a 4 year relationship and my bf offers to come home from work if I say I'm light headed... A true partner who loves you, cares...
There's no excuse or apology big enough to forgive this callous behavior.
UPDATE!
For those who are wondering about the first story, they broke up.
He doesn't want to make another update because people are being a*holes in his DMs, but he commented on someone's comment saying they broke up and that he's 'boys' are doing fine.
Thought I'll let you guys know.😉
Good God, he couldn't even catch a break, but glad he ended it! I did some googling, and apparently, it can be deadly if left untreated, and someone (who's an ER nurse) said that there's usually a 4-hour window until you need to have it surgically removed
Also, the blocking would've been an immediate game-ender for me, & the fact that he was gonna propose to her- dodged a nuclear bomb, since she couldn't stick to their would-be vows of in sickness & in health
Thank goodness!! Much happiness to him and his bright future without her!
OP's comments are full of how he pranked her during their relationship. I don't doubt his story is full of untruth. Don't wish this guy a bright future, just hope she's on to better places.
"Oh no you are ayhol coz you dumped her on his balls been torn off" kids, if you just got your vageenuh pull of with Dodge Ram and your BF laughs, you will react differently.
I don't understand manner/conscious of some kids these days how can they be so cruel.
Thanks for the update!!
My Mother was from Finland, but lived in Canada from her mid-twenties. She went to the opera once, and two girls behind her were saying very nasty things in Finnish. About her, my father, the other audience members, the opera, etc etc. At the end of the opera, she stood up, turned around and said (in Finnish) how lovely the opera was, wasn’t it? My Mom said it was one of the most satisfying things, ever! I can only imagine how satisfying it must have been to do that to your in-laws!
I'm really sorry your mom met so shitty finns! :( I object this wholeheartedly as a finn, and only use my rare language to say stupid shit of myself when abroad. I'm so glad your mom gave them a lesson.
One of the best things my wife and I did before we married was clearly spell out our expectations and deal-breakers. No cheating, no name calling (no matter how mad), always make the effort to listen, always supportive (meaning we are each other's number one, no matter what), either trust each other or don't, and give no reason to make either insecure, to name a few. We have been together over 20 years now and I'm proud to say, still very much in love. Having something happen like this early (relatively speaking) on, and the opportunity to spell out those expectations might make the relationship healthier. Or, if you can't agree on those expectations and trust issues, then part ways now.
The first story was changed to paint op in a better light. I remember when it was posted months ago and I responded to it within a couple hours of it being up. At the time op admitted to previously pranking his gf to the point that she'd scream at him sometimes, but he said something like that was a part of the fun. Ngl both op and his gf kinda suck. And his message was more along the lines of "Come home. Balls hurt" followed by her declinging his calls and laughing at him. "Going to the hospital, something is wrong" followed by missed calls and him being blocked. This has the vibes of someone tired of being bothered on their nights out having their no contact behavior thrown back at them when an actual emergency arrises.
i just knew that OP left something out :D thanks for info
hiding it then means he knew that he had done something wrong to contribute to this situation. Either way, they shouldn't be together. Commenting for a boost
I knew something was wrong. If I would go somewhere and my partner doesn’t like that, than message me his ball hurts I would assume he is trying to get me home
Thank you I knew eventually it would come out that he’s a tool and had to lie in the bed he made.
They still should break up. Him changing the story means he’s not learned anything here.
Omg yes! I knew when I started listening to this, that OP had changed the story! I've heard the original. Thanks for the clarification
I was 27 weeks pregnant when a dull pain I’d had all day turned into a sharp pain. I was driving myself to the hospital (should have taken an ambulance, but panic put me into auto drive).
I called my husband from the car to say where I was going and I SWEAR the man teleported to his car….i hadn’t finished the word hospital and the car was turning on.
Turns out I had appendicitis and had to have surgery. Man was by my side every step of the way.
Your husband sounds like an absolute keeper ♥️
I bet he noticed something in your voice, and wasn't even gonna wait till you got the words out to head to your side. That's awesome
Same! I had an accident at home and I swear my husband was home in 15 mins from a job that was definitely 20 mins away, ha ha
He's a keeper
I had appendicitis in February of 2020, I can’t imagine that pain while also pregnant 💀
I have now watched you so much my boyfriend pointed out this update. "That redhead girl who shares gossip made a video" lol
That's amazing! 😂
😅😂❤
He is a keeper! 😂
Guy math
Love this for you, Bestie!
If you ever feel a pain so strong you vomit you never forget it. Trauma and ghost pains after that are super common because of how intense it is.
About 7 years ago, I had an issue with my appendix, didn't know it at the time, just had extreme pain in my abdomen and a fever.
Now, I'm terrified of injection needles (and I mean to the point I can pass out from stress from them), so when I went through triage at A&E and they took blood, I freaked out internally but tried to play it cool on the outside. When they said they'd be keeping me overnight and they needed to put in a cannula I almost burst into tears.
I rang my boyfriend at around 12am, crying and freaking out. He lived about 40 minutes away and was there for me in 30. He stayed the whole night with me and called out of work the next day to continue staying with me.
*That's* how you react to your partner calling for a medical emergency.
(I love him so much, and this moment really solidified that he was my ride or die man 🥹❤️)
OMG I have to get my appendix removed!
I called my bf at work to talk about it and at first I played it down saying it's probably just cramps or a tummy ache, but he just in case he was coming home, took me to the hospital and the worse it could was Appendicitis... and it was.
He came nearly every day to just sit and watch over me like a guard dog, I was very sleepy after surgery and could barely move without pain.
I agree that's how partners should be.
[That moment was my moment to, saying I can't let this man go and we are engaged as of this year]
HUGS!
I hurt my back, so my kids called my hubby. He rushed home, got me sent in an ambulance. Turned out I broke my back, and spinal stenosis (near paralyzed), & I was telling my kids to not call him, and worry him. Thank God they did.
@@angelalay9909Thank goodness for your kids not listening
@UnwiseOwl1453 That's really sweet!!!! What a good hubby!!! 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
BUT, The guy in this story admitted that he actually pulls this type of prank on her all the time, you should go check out his original post, not just the edited one that Charlotte read for us, and read his comments admitting everything.
Giiiiiirrrrllll, I had ovarian torsion and there is no way to describe what this is like. It turned out that there was a (benign) tumor surrounding it and I had to have the entire ovary removed, along with a second giant cyst they found behind it. That poor guy. This is no joke whatsoever.
Both my ovary’s were killed by cysts. Its is awful pain
It's funny that we have organs we never think about and hardly know are there, and when something goes wrong it's a stroll through hell with a whole new kind of pain we never experienced before.
@@LoudLilDuckyoh bless you. It’s just horrible pain.
"She said that I could have communicated it better" HOW??? She wouldn't answer any of the calls & he had too much pain to text! When he tried to tell her, She Blocked Him! So How Could He Have "communicated better"??? When he woke up to her trying to justify her actions, he should have just said "shut up" every time she'd start to speak! That should have made her leave!
Mom,remember when you were in labor? What if dad wouldn't have answered your call? When you texted "I'm in labor" he texted back, "don't call or text me again or I'm blocking you" then he did! And Then was mad because your water broke on the floor? And Then didn't show up until the next morning & told you "It Wasn't That Bad" Would you have stayed married to him???
I don't think so...
It's life threatening and one of the most painful ordeal a human can experience. I've seen it and I'm crossing my legs typing this. I'm sorry you had this omg I hope you're better
Being afraid of taking time for my health almost cost my life. My aortic valve was actually closing and I found out I had months left if I didn’t have open heart surgery as soon as possible, I was 24 years old at the time. Thank u Charlotte for making laugh during tht time while I was in failing health. I am healthy now and recovered
SOOOOO many people don't properly take care of our bodies because of money and time required, yayyyy late stage capitalism!
I'm so freaking happy you are still here and kicking!!!! 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
I am so glad you are okay! That is so scary! I just had a health scare involving my heart recently and I’m only 31 and don’t have health conditions that could have knowingly caused what I went through. I hope you stay well and happy ❤
I was gaslit by family and doctors for years and my partner finally pushed me and doctors into finding what was wrong. I was literally days from dying before a doctor finally did more than a urine test (9 months to get a doctor to order bloodwork and it was only because they assumed theyd find diabetes bc Im fat) and it turns out I was in the literal final stages of hypothyroidism and had likely had it for at least a decade.
My partner has trouble believing I love him sometimes because he struggles with selflove and he feels like I have no place else to go and am just putting up with him. It really breaks my heart because... he saved my life. I didnt end up celebrating my 25th birthday because I was still processing my near death and the... feeling of my body failing, but I have some stuff planned for my 26th that includes him being thanked for making those 2 extra years possible.
Never been in a relationship but I've seen how my parents treat each other (and us kids) when emergencies come up and reading stuff like this makes me appreciate them a lot more. They've both had to be rushed to the ER on separate occasions, and each time I've seen how they are each other's best advocate and caretaker. My dad has taken my mom to the hospital in the middle of the night, and my mom has done the same for him. They're both the types that will minimize their own pain but when it comes to other people? Oh they definitely take it serious. Whenever I feel sick my parents are more concerned than I am, and it can get overwhelming but it's much appreciated compared to people that will minimize your pain.
this is how it should be, I'm glad that you're in such a loving family Xx
As I've learned with relationships, when trust like that is broken and they don't even care about your feelings, that relationship is over. It isn't worth your energy.
That's why my last relationship ended was a bad choice so much wasted time
Agreed. Relationships can recover from a lot of things, but loss of trust is something that's difficult if not impossible to get over.
Absolutely, I have twice ended marriages over being unsupported through medical crises (both different). Being treated that way destroys the feelings that you once had for a person, and you can't get those feelings back.
He edited his story. When he first wrote it, he said that he had "pranked" her multiple times by saying he has an emergency, when she was out with friends, trying to get her to come home. He's a liar.
I wonder why the in laws just assumed she couldn't speak German. I would have asked her if it was me when meeting her for the first time.
I lived in Germany for 5 years when I was just a little one, I learned how to speak the language, and I still remember how to say a few things to this day. When we were living there my step-father told me, if you can hear someone talking about you and they think you cannot understand them, just nod your head and smile. Keeps them confused... well until you have had enough of their BS and just hit them right back with their own comments. Lol the looks you would get after doing that is priceless lol. Man I do miss living there! The Black Forest was so beautiful in the fall! Thank you Charlotte for the awesome videos you entertain us with! ❤😊
Everybody is TA in that situation. Dutch is my first language and abroad not many Dutch people realize I can understand them. So when STRANGERS are talking sh*t in an elevator or something, the nodding and smiling thing is fine. Just saying goodbye in dutch when they get out can be hilarious.
However. WHY TF would you pretend not to speak your family's language in their own country??? That's at best deceptive, I have much stronger language for that. Did she make them all speak English to her to keep up the weird charade? Something is seriously wrong with this lady. I understand why the in-laws don't like her. The pretending not to speak German is so awful and disturbing that I'm pretty sure she's rude and dishonest in many more ways. It's fine to pretend with strangers, but after getting to know people, not disclosing your knowledge is almost the equivalent of secretly recording them. It's not right.
It’s always a good idea to learn how to tell people off/cuss people out in a variety of languages. It comes in quite handy when dealing with 🍑🕳️s in foreign lands.
You are correct when in a foreign land and you know the language and you listening to the conversations and they’re saying horrible things about you.
My sister was learning the German language because she married a German and moving over there. What people don’t realize is that she started learning the language some people can be vicious. They did not like her name because it has a TH in her name and pronunciation for Germans is very difficult. The funny thing is she named her son a very nice Jewish name for a German boy and it has a TH in his name. 🤣
100% especially when in fl people just assume u don't know spanish because your not their demographic ugh high school spanish. living in fl . so stupid.
@@EllaGreenn If she doesn't speak it very well, or well enough to keep up, she probably didn't want to use it. And after they used it to talk shit about her, bringing it up is pretty weird. Though I'd expect the husband to tell that you know she can understand and that's very shitty of you all around to assume she can't, and talk about her that way when I can hear - or at all.
12:45 my husband HATES the fact that I’m so independent when I’m sick haha he’s like “I want you to need me to baby you” cause he just wants to feel that he’s actually helping me during my sickness haha love him
Lol take it girl!! Be pampered. Unless he's going to "use" it against you later, when he's sick. Lol
I don’t complain about being sick anymore, My husband just says “what am I supposed to do about it?!”
Well I will always be there for my husband but my husband is a home body and I like to go out with my baby sister maybe twice a year and when I do my husband acts a fool and will call and say the weather is getting g really bad come home , the dog is sick you need to come home , I don’t feel well come home like he does this really badly so I imagine this guy has done this as well and that’s why she did this she just didn’t want him ruining her night and that’s what she was thinking he was trying to do so I do understand it , one night my best friends took my 1/10 of a mile from my house on my birthday for a beer my husband came in made a scene and yelled if you love me you will leave now I laughed and told him to FO about my husband is 20 years older and has never touched me he is sweet he just is very jealous 😂
@@JoChipman1721 Don't stay with him. Either that, or get couples counseling
My fiancé is the same except he won’t let me do things myself (I do have another condition which makes colds more problematic and means it takes ages for me to heal) he’ll tell me to sit down and then ask what drink I want or if I was a blanket and he’ll bring me food. He lets me get up to go to the toilet and if I really want to move around he’s fine with that but will go with me as my condition makes me dizzy sometimes and he wants to keep me safe. It’s really sweet watching him run around taking care of me, knew he was a keeper and happy I’m getting married to him in under 2 weeks.
I've never ignored someone calling me in the middle of the night, I've helped friends out multiple times because they called me in need, I have a very open policy with loved ones and make it clear that if they ever are in trouble or feel unsafe that I'm available no matter the hour, it's probably because of trauma but I still think this is a very important thing to live by.
Okay, back before my husband and i were married I hurt myself really bad. I had fallen down our porch stairs into gravel and ripped my knee/leg open. There was blood everywhere and it hurt so bad i couldnt put weight on it. He didnt even ask for an explanation when i told him he needed to come home NOW. He just did, because thats what youre supposed to do... i cant even imagine being in that much pain, getting the third degree, and then BLOCKED!? Girl no, bye.
Thank you! Agreed.
@chiggyivyclaw4357 He lied. He edited the first post, to the one Charlotte read, and then admitted in the comments about it all, and how he would do this to her all the time to make her come home.
Hence her reacting how she did.
He cried wolf too much, and then wants to blame his gf for not trusting yet another 'oh its an emergency'.
People say "5 years is a long time to waste" but what about the next 5, 10, 15 years you're going to waste being with the wrong person... people need to stop being afraid of being single
This was me! After being with my ex for 5 years and wanting to end things, he kept convincing me that because of the time spent we should just keep working on it. Wasted another 3 years to end up divorced.
I 💯 AGREE.
I wasted 10 years, the signs were there.
I've always told my friends in relationships "can you be happy being with this person who they are now for the next years and continue to be happy?" If there's doubt or answer is flat out no, then just move on and find the right person for you without the work to change them
For real.... I hate when people try to justify a bad relationship with that...like what...what about the rest of your life?? Five years is long enough to see if someone can grow and change and what their priorities are...if someone is not the person you want/need them to be after five years you should have full confidence leaving them knowing they probably won't change.
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One time, my husband had the opportunity to go out to the movies with a group of guys that had been trying to get together for the better part of a month. That night, I accidentally took my dog’s sedative instead of my medication because they were both white circular pills. I gave my dog his medication at the same time I took my evening meds and I got distracted (we do it at different times now because of this). I had to call poison control. I called my husband and told him what happened, and he raced home, in the middle of the movie to watch over me and make sure I was okay. He was watched over me for the rest of the night, as I fell asleep, and made sure I kept breathing, etc., he’s never said another word about it. I felt terrible that I screwed up on his one chance to get a night out, but that’s what a partner should do in an emergency, take care of you-not block you.
Was the dog ok
WAS THE DOG OKAY
She gave the dog his medication, the dog medication.
he has story of parking his gf when she goes out
If it's safe to give to your dog whose alot smaller than you are, you're probably going to be fine.
6:58 The "I need to go to the hospital" should've told her that he needed her home like, ASAP. The fact that she said that she'd block him if he called again and then actually doing it should be a major red flag
My wife and I have a code/safe word for when we are being serious. Most because we like to mess with each other horsing around, joking or pranking often. We have a code word that will immediately make the situation clear we are uncomfortable or get angry etc lol a safe word.
This is a great idea, but I think this couple is so young and inexperienced, they never had a need for this before.
It is a good idea
Yes, I always discuss just adding 911 to a text for clarity with my partner or kids.
My parents had something like that the other way around. Since my siblings and I liked to wrestle each other, but due to age differences misjudged our own strength sometimes, we had a code word ("mercy"), at which you had to stop immediatly and give the other person space. We're now all grown up and all of our spouses think it's hilarious, that that code word still works.
Mines “Bible” lmao works
Zero miscommunication. The moment he told her that he needed to go to the hospital, and she responded the way she did you no longer can call it miscommunication
I thought that maybe, just maybe, he made a joke like this or was jealous in another occasion and she kinda assumed he was joking again (Sorry for my english)
I also wondered if maybe he has a habit of texting and calling when she's out because otherwise this response from her is crazy @@Belle-on7vd
@@Belle-on7vd Nope. Since she was only 5 minutes away (check the story), she could have gone home and checked. If a joke, then he would pay the price. If not a joke, then she would have been there. What else is she going to consider "a joke"?
the problem was how he said it. i am sure she would have take him seriously if he didn't just say my balls hurts. he could have just say i am not okay, i am really not feeling well or something, it's sounds more serious. also i feel like he argued with her about this party or her going because her being annoyed immidietly is telling. they are a both a bit childish tbh
Maybe he's pranked her in the past?
First Story: She
1) was nearby
2) using emojis
3) declined several calls
4) blocked him
5) got angry over vomit
6) Got defensive, minimized his pain, etc. during a conversation
He should dump her, even if she owned up. He was having a medical emergency and she didn't care, even if he was joking, it wouldn't have taken much for her to find out. And she only cared about him after she realized he was truthful and wanted to be there for him, there most definitely is something else going on with her.
I definitely think she was cheating. It makes no sense that she couldn't spend 10 minutes away from her friends to check up on him or make a phone call unless something else was going on. I suppose she could have terminally bad judgement, but I wouldn't want to attach myself to that either.
Bruh he didn’t even tell her how much pain he was in or that he was vomiting a lot
Absolutely
@@aduckofsomesort If she'd picked up the phone one singular time out of the five times he called, he probably would've told her. It's a lot more effort to type out a text while in agony and vomiting than pushing a singular button. That's why you call 911 instead of texting them
@@aduckofsomesorthe said he needed to go to the hospital, after saying something was wrong. All my bf would have to say is, something's wrong, & I would immediately let him know I'm omw. Her entire reaction is the problem, not just parts of it
Lady you have the funniest stories. In the way you tell them is hilarious. Thanks for that. Take care
So according to another comment that actually followed the initial reddit story for 1, OP has a history of pranking his GF and trying to get her home on her nights out. He just changed things around and omitted details so he could look not as shitty. So I fully understand why she didn't take him seriously at first, because when you have a history of a partner that tries to sabotage your days out, you stop caring about their excuses to get you home.
He set himself up to be the boy who cried wolf and then was shocked the village didn't believe the boy.
Exactly
Yeah, I could tell. It seemed like he has previously not wanted her to be out.
It pisses me off because he says in the update he's never done any pranks to get her home or her night out. Straight up lying. Few ppl know the truth so he's getting away with painting this victim portrayal.
That's what I felt about it. His post screams narcissism.
His whole 'claiming to have testicular torsion' was probably a lie, too. Worked in EMS for 12 years and I would bet everything I own that this guy never suffered from it.
I love cases when people call people out in a language that is assumed is not known when the other group is in the wrong! Great video, Charlotte!
If my bf (who I plan on marrying) is undergoing emergency surgery, I'm at his bedside till he is fully recovered. F*ck that noise. He is priority.
Especially if he’s only 5 minutes away?? I’d be at his doorstep in 2 minutes cause the heels would be off and I’d be running for him.
I would immediately be leaving to check on my fiancé! When I was having an emergency he couldn't leave work, but he was checking on me frequently and I had other supports (I have chronic health issues so I have a support system in place) to rely on. Ugh this makes me so mad.
My story very similar to the first guy. I had been feeling a sharp pain in my side, and was ignoring it. She had gone out partying with her friends. Well later that evening I collapse on the floor, in horrific pain from my abdomen. Found out later my appendix burst. I actually call 911 first, and called her after. I called her three times, then texted "I called the ambulance, I'm on the way to the hospital, something is seriously wrong." I called her again and she blocked me. During the surgery hours later she called back. Then texted repeatedly. I found out the neighbors actually asked her why the ambulance was at my house. So she didn't even see my text until talking to them at 7:00am. I was not as forgiving as this guy in the video. I didn't tell her what hospital I was in. I told her to pack her stuff, get out of my house, and don't contact me again. We were together 5 year's, and I've never spoken to her again after that day.
Wow the Germany one brings back some not so pleasant memories. Once when I was young and dumb, I married a man who was half German. His family did this very thing to me. I told them I could understand them. I couldn’t speak it well at the time, but I understood. That same thing also happened to me when I was taking a German class to try to speak it better around my husband’s family. She called me stupid in German. I knew that word so well because I heard it so much from my husband’s family! I’m so happy to say that half German man is now my ex husband. He and his family were horrible, talk about gaslighting. Nobody ever stood up for me and it was all my fault. To this day, everything is my fault with those people.
Glad you're free of those douchebags!
German here, I'm sorry that you had to go through that experience. 😢Unfortunately, many Germans are like that, it's always the other people's fault.
Wow that first story, there would not have been misscommunication if she just picked up the phone. She declined his call 5 times and blocked him. There is no misscommunication, that is no communication on purpose. He was very clear by calling and texting. After 5 years you would think they know eachother well enough to take things serious or to recognize a joke. Clearly she had a good time.....period.
She needs to be an ex, she don't care for you
It really sounds like that.
The amount of mistrust shows that she can’t be trusted.
She was projecting something while being super controlling for no reason.
She's reamed out like a heifer
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Well said!! Hope he left her
Right, dump her.
About being reluctant to call an ambulance for his balls…maybe he was embarrassed but let’s also keep in mind that if he’s in the US he’s probably adding the thinking “can I afford this for just pain in my balls?” It can feel embarrassing that you’re spending that much for something that might be nothing. The idea that we have to think about finances at such a vulnerable time is horrible.
As a New Zealander currently living in Australia where both countries have healthcare for all - employed, unemployed, disabled, retired, students, etc... It's free at the point of service as our usual income taxes cover it. We pay slightly less income tax than the US too. I've had genetic breast cancer 3 times. The care I received from my oncology team, nurses, cat scans, chemotherapy, radiation therapy, multiple surgeries and hospital stays, pathology tests, etc... $0. If I was in the US I'd be bankrupt or dead. I've heard that health insurance doesn't cover pre-existing conditions... I'd be screwed. Having my daughter also cost $0. I can't imagine having to consider the cost before seeking help. I sincerely hope your country changes its policy on health insurance. The Koch brothers did extensive research into the US healthcare system and found it'd be cheaper to do universal healthcare... But then the insurance companies wouldn't be paying their shareholders and directors massive dividends. 🙄
Trust me, if a person is in that much pain...they will do anything to get it to stop....NO MATTER how embarrassing. His whole story and update merit questions.
I can’t speak for anyone else, but if I got a message from my husband saying “Something’s wrong, come home”, EVERYTHING would get dropped and I’d get home as fast as I possibly could. Part of the trust in a relationship, to me, is knowing that if one of us says something like that, it will be real and important.
I can relate to the 2nd story…I grew up in a mostly Hispanic community in Southern California. I am light skinned and look full white but my mother is full Mexican so I am half Mexican and was raised to be fluent in both English and Spanish. My entire childhood was me being constantly talked about behind my back in Spanish because of my outward appearance they assumed I didn’t speak Spanish. I was very timid and didn’t confront people for a long time until one day I just got tired of hearing the constant demeaning comments(honestly felt like bullying) and that compiled with the fact that all my mom’s side of the family treat me poorly because I was too light skinned and blonde; well I finally snapped. A couple girls were sitting behind me in class and they were carrying on about me again so I just turned around slowly and gave them what must have been a disturbingly wide smile I said: “You know…I know what you’re saying about me. I’ve known this entire time. I wanted to say something before but I was raised by my Mexican mother to have respect for others and be classy. But I realized respect should be earned and classless doesn’t deserve class.” All of this I said nice and clearly in Spanish. The girls just looked at me open mouthed and wide eyed…speechless. I turned around and went back to my drawing which was my norm when we weren’t actively engaged in a lesson. Those girls never said one more thing about me(at least within earshot) and they quickly shattered whenever they saw me coming. Not sure if this counts as petty revenge but I was damn proud of myself that day.
Well done
Sorry you went through that, petty behaviour. That happened to me once at work, I came back into a room after my coworkers thought I'd left, I only heard the last bit but they thought I heard their entire conversation, they literally grabbed my arm cause they were concerned I'd tell the boss. They wanted to take me to best breakfast to discuss what I thought I'd heard. I went straight to the boss and got switched to a different section. I only told the boss enough to get moved.
Once she said it couldn't have been that painful, she needed to be dumped. Let's not minimize our partners' pain. (Also, torsions are excruciating.)
💯 A “tortion” means the vas deferense become internally twisted and the blood supply is cut off. Literally, his 🥜were twisted (very painful.)
Yeah, I agree with that one. I think she can be taught, but that did suggest she needs time to do it. He doesn’t have to wait for it to happen.
@curiousnarwhal I think when she blocked him was when it should have been the end of the line! She was crying & Kinda remorseful because she had time to think & see the hospital room to realize that she was wrong, and still she insisted that "It couldn't be that bad"! She was only worried about what other people thought of Her actions!
@curiousnarwhal He lied, go look up his post, read that, then re-read the edited post Charlotte read us.
He pranked her in this exact way, to the point of tears and screaming worried about him, quite often, to get her to come home.
He then was trying to blame everything on her because he is untrustworthy when it comes to his word, I don't blame her for not believing that it's actually that bad.
Boy cried wolf too many times, was immature and wouldn't take care of his own body, and then tried to make his gf take on the responsibility of his issues.
There's quite a few stories with the gender reversed, and the gf pranking her partner till the don't believe her in an emergency; and yup, they deserve the bed they made themselves as well.
I also would like to hear the story from her point of view, and her friends who have watched everything happen through the relationship.
I'm also hoping that she is the one who initiated the breakup, you can't trust someone like this to be an adult to spend your life with.
@@B.Harper7 Wouldn't take care of his own body and then tried to make his partner take on the responsibility? I guess you've never had a testicular torsion before. It seems like you're also minimizing someone else's pain.
3 missed calls from ANYONE would effing freak me out, unless a controlling bf
Im a frequent call decliner, I just hate calls, but if the same number called me multiple times within a small time period, I would answer. I wanna be clear, calls from numbers I don't know, if it's a saved number (my dad, just my dad pretty much) I will answer
lol I freak out if I see 2 missed calls! Most of my contacts text me and if they call they call once and leave a message. 2 missed calls and I am panicked (I am also an anxious person so not always reasonable). For me, if it really is just a 5 minute walk I would have headed over even if just to say “stop calling me!”. But yeah the moment I see Hospital I am taking it seriously.
I had a controlling boyfriend and you still check... I even cut a trip to see family short for his bs which costs more than the trip itself. (Last minute flights are no joke). What I had to do was break up, not risk the one time he did need me and I ignored him. I think it took a good year to stop worrying about him, despite going complete no contact. (We lived together, so new adres, new phone, new everything and my family blocked him).
If he's THAT controlling you don't want to take his calls, then he shouldn't be your boyfriend
@@ImJustaSproutExactly the same! 💯
I had ovarian torsion a few months ago (one of my fallopian tubes had twisted and was cutting off blood flow to itself and one of my ovaries). The pain was awful; it was like labor contractions. I had the pain for about two weeks trying to figure out what it was when I was finally diagnosed by an OB/Gyn and got rushed off for surgery.
The blocking is the worst offense. The salt in the wound was bitching about the vomit. He should dump her. And yeah, she was probably cheating. Married 24 years have never blocked each other.
She needs to be YEETED
I’ve never even considered, or felt the need to, block my partner! 😳
I don't think she might be cheating but there has been a surge of controlling partners, specifically boyfriends. Maybe if we give her the benefit of the doubt, probably her friends may have had this experience and influenced her. It was also her best friend’s birthday. However, she knows her boyfriend best. They've been together for 5 years. If he hadn't pulled up any cry-wolf situation, this should've been a sign for her to take things seriously. And I trust OP that he didn't pull these shenanigans.
Now again I do think it is break-up worthy. The club was so close, she could've at least walked in to check. I feel so deeply sorry for OP. He called that one person he trusts ( and probably believes that she will accompany him in sickness and health), and he was dismissed and even worse blocked. He deserves much better in this situation. And later during the conversation, she minimised his pain. A simple Google search can describe how testicular torsion feels like.
Yeah, and the thing is that I feel like maybe the relationship could have been recoverable with work if she'd owned up from the get go. "I'm sorry. I was drunk and I wasn't using my best judgement. I genuinely thought you were joking. I'm so, so sorry, and I'm so glad you're okay. I'll never not take you seriously again." And she basically did say that, but only after minimizing what he went through and saying he couldn't have been in that much pain. Like...he literally had EMERGENCY SURGERY. Of course he was in pain! So yeah. That part is the nail in the coffin, as far as I'm concerned.
I don't think the bloke in the first story is being honest. The fact that she thought he was joking or being overly dramatic sounds like there's been issues before with him. Plus, why would she block him? Wasn't she the greatest girl to him and get wants to marry her? They have been together for five years. If she was a 'blocking you and don't care' type of girl then there would already be red flags in that five years together. I think she blocked him because he's know for being a dramatic and her friend said ignore him - you know how he can be about you going out and having fun at clubs. There's so much to this story the bloke isn't saying. Healthy, nice people don't block there partners for no reason. It's got to be he's pulled guilt trip stuff before. The fact she stayed by his side for two days at the hospital afterwards says she's not an awful person. Yep, she messed up not taking him seriously but I'm convinced he's a 'boy that cried wolf' type and a bit of a poor me type. I'd like to hear the girlfriends side to make a complete judgement.
I fell down the stairs, broke 4 toes, and got such a bad deep tissue bruise on my right butt cheek, it turned almost black. I called my boyfriend for help. He decided NOT to take my call and went to dinner with his mom. I got all of his stuff out of my house that night, after I got out of the ER. He never even returned my texts or calls. 3 years of my time wasted.
I am so sorry u went thru that. Sounds like u dodged a bullet there. Hope u found/find someone who deserves you!
Wow that's crazy I'm so sorry
Be grateful you didn't waste any more time on that man, if he failed you at a time like that he would continue that behavior in the future. Good riddance!
I am so sorry you went through that. I'm glad you had the strength to stand up for yourself! Keep on being strong!
I love the no hesitation. Immediately NO and done. I always hate when people say “and I stupidly stayed for 6 more months. Glad you have a spine
The first story hits close to me. I ended up going septic with an infection after my first baby and ended up in the ER and a subsequent week long hospital stay. My husband went and partied with his family and his parents encouraged him to not take the paramedics seriously (eg. In-law emotional incest drama).
HOWEVER, we are still married and are actually happy. But only after years of therapy and a nearly getting a divorce did my husband realize how messed up his family was being. The trust had to be rebuilt, and I am still working through the trauma.
Like the redditor said, you wouldn't be an AH to leave or stay, it just depends on what work you're willing to do to heal from it.
I an so glad you survived the experience and you and your husband were able to work together and come out stronger. But yeah, don’t dismiss paramedics when they say it’s serious. They are usually doing their best to comfort/care for the patient and they don’t exaggerate a situation. They’ve seen it all, so when they say “it’s serious” they are right 90 out of 100 times.
Agreed it’s not for people to say what he should do, although I did comment he should leave her 🫣😅 my partner was less than quick with childcare when I was in labour with my third and I ended up delivering her myself, at home, alone. That COULD have been very serious for us but luckily it wasn’t. Strong couples do have to go through a lot to work sometimes
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(Adding) When my due date came for the birth of our first kid my husband was at work. He kept his phone on him at all times, even telling his boss that he had to keep it during a meeting "just in case." Thankfully I didn't have to call him home, but he was ready to leave if needed.
My husband has pranked me so many times with stuff like the first story, that when something actually did happen, I didn't take him seriously. I really thought he was joking with me even when I was on the phone with him. However, I did take him seriously once his usually tone changed.
Difference is, you answered his call.
@@dawnchesbro4189 who jokes about serious medical scenarios? Especially with their SO 🤢
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He lied, and admitted it all in the comments once people confronted him with his story making no sense, and him not posting the actual chat, but typing only certain parts.
He would pull this all the time to the point of her getting home in tears, crying and screaming worried, and dbag was just just chilling.
He is controlling and has some SERIOUS issues.
As for this commenter, I can almost promise that she wasn't drunk with friends at a birthday, and used to him faking severe medical emergencies all the time.
No offense to this commenter, but there's ZERO chance I'm spending my life with a man or woman that fakes medical emergencies.
What type of partner are you having kids with, if you want kids, with that type of person???
How are they going to act at work functions, galas, networking events, etc...
Ewwww, no. That's raising someone that hasn't learned tract,
much less there's a 'time and place'.
@@B.Harper7 gross, with that context, he's definitely a controlling asshole
5:50 Oh HELL no. If you truly love someone, you would drop ANYTHING to help them. I’m siding with the guy here. The girl was a major a-hole for scoffing at his pain and ignoring his calls and texts. I would literally drop anything for my husband if he so much as said, “I’m in pain”.
And when she got home she saw the vomit and though he left it there on purpose, what?! What does she think of him??
She though : he tried to ruin my night, he's not in pain he is annoying and now he left this mess for me to clean?!
He's your boyfriend! Jesus Poor guy...
And when she got home she saw the vomit and though he left it there on purpose, what?! What does she think of him??
She though : he tried to ruin my night, he's not in pain he is annoying and now he left this mess for me to clean?!
He's your boyfriend! Jesus Poor guy...
Another thing I would take into consideration is that, is the boyfriend a prankster? Because based on how the story was told, he doesn’t seem to be the type to joke about these things.. also, he mentioned in the beginning of the story that he was looking forward to spending some ME time while she’s out - so why would she even think that he’s joking?
I personally would drop everything if this happens to my SO.. or if anything happens to him..
Edit: I was right about him not being a prankster 🤣
@@sherleneleydeleon also! They've been together for 5 years! She should know him better than that!
The word "hospital" would've been when I realized he wasn't joking
first story: I DON'T KNOW MAN, sounds bad but he didn't mention if he regularly tries to get her to come home early from clubbing and that's why she didn't take him seriously. He said he hated everything to do with clubbing so it could be a situation of the boy who cried wolf here.
If pain is so bad you are vomiting from it that is the most excruciating pain a person can have. She needs to acknowledge how bad that must be.
I think she’s starting to understand. But he certainly has every right to move on. I just hope she learns from this. They’re both still very young. I think she’s just not as ready as he is for this kind of relationship, and that this can be the start of her growth. Doesn’t mean he has to take her back, though.
Yeah right girl because ask yourself how many times your boyfriend cares when you're on the worst day of your period. Stop acting like that girl could have ran 5 minutes to his aid especially after she ADMITTED that she was drunk and outside enjoying herself at a birthday party
It was the ignoring his calls that got me. Once you mentioned the blocking I thought Nope, game over, you are out. However, they are both so young, so maybe this life lesson will help them mature and communicate better in the future.
I’m glad you acknowledged that they can learn. They started super young, so I hate that so many people immediately condemn her entirely for her stupidity. 22 years old? Yeah, we don’t all mature at the same rate. He’s more mature, yes, but they started this relationship at 17 and I would have suggested they might want to take some time apart before committing anyway.
And I don’t blame him if he opts to end it. He doesn’t feel safe with her. But I also think she’s starting to recognize what she did, and this could mean a lot in her growth. If she chooses to own it, and act on it, then even if they don’t get back together, she’ll be a better person with the next partner she has.
I thought the same, if we were all judged by the things we did when we were young... But this will definitely be a life lesson for both of them.
Maybe he shouldn't have lied about emergencies so often, then she would have believed him in the first place.
When I was pregnant with my second child, I suffered an almost complete placental abruption at home three days from my due date. I was bleeding profusely on my bathroom floor, and my mom asked me if she should call an ambulance. I said no, call my midwife. I also called my best friend, who was supposed to attend the birth. Looking back on it, I feel so idiotic, in that moment I was in such shock that I mentally defaulted to my birth plan. When confronted by an acute medical crisis, the brain does weird things and we don't always respond logically. I completely understand why his first impulse was to call his person, rather than an ambulance.
I mean the fact you have a midwife says enough... The sheer number of deaths linked to babies and mothers because they trusted their health and safety with a midwife would indicate that anyone who uses one cares more about their birth plan than the actual health/safety of themselves or their unborn child lol Not surprised your default reaction was stupid.
What is a midwife
@@Maaars111A midwife is a person who assists in childbirth, usually at a home for a home birth. They have certain medical qualifications that allow them to assist in birth, like a nurse would. They provide emotional and physical support before, during, and days after the delivery. If a woman hires a midwife, they usually do most of the prenatal care up to labor and delivery as well.
@@Steeksify That's a very unkind thing to say to someone who just trusted this community enough to share something vulnerable. Please try to keep this comment section respectful. You can express disagreement without being rude.
@@SteeksifyYou must be just as stupid to call someone using a midwife stupid. A person's birth plan is their birth plan, you shouldn't shame them for that, and things like stress and pain can and will lead people to act and/or think in strange or unusual ways. in that moment, OP probably defaulted to their birth plan because among other things they were most worried about their baby. Shame on you
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@spherecleaning3606 I got it at midnight 😂 in western Australia.
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The larger question is WHY she thought he was joking and that he was trying to ruin her night.
Yeah, that’s where I’m curious too. On both sides of the coin. Is he someone who has pulled her out of a girl’s night in the past over nothing? Or was she involved in something that she felt was more important than his health?
He addressed that concern in his post.
@@dawnchesbro4189 No he didn't, he said he wasn't the problem. The question is WHY she thought he was joking?
People just don't think that ya know??
i was thinking that if you’re young, drunk and get a text saying someone’s b*alls hurt, i could imagine initially thinking it was a joke. but after the hospital was mentioned, repeated calls, etc her credibility wains
Personally, I think she was enjoying her night out in a club, with guys. Bet you she was having flirty fun.
All I have to say to my boyfriend is, "honey, something doesn't feel right" and that will begin a process of attention, care, and medical assistance that even Hollywood would fail to capture the intensity of.
I am currently getting over food poisoning from last week...and back to my regular routine, i'm finding Post-it notes all over the house with intricate details of what I was going through that I don't even remember happening, so that he could keep track in case I needed to go to the hospital at any point.
When people actually care about you, it shows.
It says a lot that even in blind pain, the first instinct was to call his GF and that she rejected the messages and calls until she realized he was serious.
I could’ve maybe forgiven the original situation eventually, but her blowing off my pain & concerns when I’m trying to talk to her about how upset I was? Nope. That is unforgivable.
He was lying, he admitted it in the comments that he did this to her all the time to get her to come home.
The broke up, thank goodness, he has a hell of a lot of work to do on himself.
I would just highly suggest for everyone to not fake emergencies, in order to be a controlling dick; when you play stupid games, you end up with stupid prizes.
God I love being single and therefore fully enjoying every second of this drama!
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First story: in 25 years of friendship I’ve needed my best gf twice in an emergency. I didn’t have to say more than 1. I called - Are you home? I’m coming over. 2. A text - Are you at work? I need you to come to my home, now. Both were absolute emergencies. I was too overwhelmed emotionally to be more specific in the moment. She responded requiring no additional context, just immediate support. If my s.o. couldn’t do the same there would be no coming back from that. Respect, love, understanding, compassion.
Honestly, it kinda sounds like the guy could've been joking, "Come home, my balls hurt..." sounds like a playful way to ask your partner to come home and tend to your sexual needs.
That's what I would have initially thought. Lol
Yup. He said a stupid thing. To be fair, he probably wasn't thinking straight. But I can see why she didn't respond with any sort of urgency.
It's the aftermath that paints her as a sketchy person.
But ew, still crude
What is with u women saying every man lies. No wonder why u are probably single to this day. If someone spam calls then pick up the phone. Not fucking hard. They live 5 minutes away so why couldn't she leave to check on him
My husband has an extremely high pain tolerance, if he ever said he needed to go to the hospital for literally any reason I’d immediately rush home. He literally cut his finger almost off and was like “I could probably super glue this right?” Like no sir you need stitches 😂😂 I can’t imagine missing even 2 calls and not freaking out that something might be amiss
Oh man. Im so glad you shared the 2nd story. Ive just returned home to Australia from travelling with my partner in France to meet his family. His mum is french and his dad is kiwi but speaks french. They decided that they would stop speaking english halfway through the week leaving me feeling rejected and left out at every meal around the table. They were giving me lots of disgusted looks for the next few days. His mum started snatching kitchen items out of my hand when i tried to help. All so i would feel like an outcast. On the last night the tension is so high, ive been crying on my own for 3 days, my partner tried to talk to them but didnt communicate what they said about me until this day....they thought i was a nasty person. I went to say thank you for everything and their hospitality,,, they finally decide to yell and confront me in english letting me know what they thought of me: that i was a condescending snob, ungrateful and rude. That i treated their house like a hotel just because i was resting as much as i could (i was on vacation and my job is stressful working with kids!). They also said my partner, their son was selfish and ungrateful even though he cooked majority of the meals for the family (cousin and brother and his gf were there for half the week). We left in a taxi the next morning. The craziest thing was his mum looked me dead in the eye and was convinced i knew more french than i was letting on. I know basics, very basic and what i do know i made sure to have the pronounciation down pat. Howeever i didnt understand enough to follow the conversation at the table, and my partner failed to have my back and translate but he did try to defend me on that final night. We are still recovering and a part of me wants to learn French properly just so i can actually understand the tea next time and defend myself. Whew sorry this is so long, just happy to have a space where my story is relevant ❤
Unreal😢I’m having anxiety just reading your post… hugs
Your partner's parents sound like horrible people, and your partner really failed to help you when you needed it. I wouldn't stay in that situation, if I were you. I don't think it's going to improve, and trying to learn French will give them more opportunities to say awful things about you.
Just learn swear words in French next time you see them. The only words that you will find usefull among them....
Oh man. I am so sorry you went through that. I studied abroad as a teen in a country where I didn’t know the language well at all (I really suck at Spanish, even after living there a year I spoke like a toddler). The feeling of not belonging because you can’t understand the conversation is a gut wrench. It must have been even worse in your case as you knew they spoke English and this was your SO’s family (my host family didn’t speak more than 5 words of English, they tried their best to include me and were angels). I wish you the best of luck in your language studies! But keep in mind, especially as you learn, that sometimes encountering words you aren’t expecting can really throw off your comprehension. That’s why, even if you know lots of words in a language it can take quite some time to be able to understand others talking (especially if they aren’t including you in the conversation, you would lack context).
Next time? He actually thinks they’ll be a next time?
I was engaged to a guy who showed me that he really did not care for me when I needed to go to the ER due to a bad asthma attack. He decided to go to work instead and I had to have my parents drive me to the ER. Also, he never called me to check on me. Broke up with him and never looked back.
For the first story: I'm an EMT, the ambulance people, and we receive calls for way smaller things than "my b**ls hurt." Not calling us when you're in extreme pain in lunacy and worrying. With this, there is also the worry about his "girlfriend." The moment I smell vomit in my apartment, I immediately make sure that my roommates are okay, rather than being mad that it smells. I can't imagine doing that to my roommate, much less my PARTNER. What must have been going through her head to not come when he texted. I can see why, as a female, your male partner saying "my b**ls hurt" could be sm*x related, but then that would legit just need a question of "are they actually hurting or is this an intimacy thing?" That's all that was needed. She clearly loves him, as shown by her worry when she did realize, but it also makes you think where he is on her totem pole if she doesn't put needs like that above partying. And the blocking, like, what the heck is that. If they're calling you non-stop and that's out of character for them, then it might be worth while to take a step back and check on them.
What if they’re regular binge drinkers who throw up, and regular mess makers who don’t clean up for themselves. Of course you would check people acting out of character. Blocking means lying and demanding attention at bad times is his character
Kudos to all those couples that were high school sweethearts and are still together decades after .
Had to get a rental car yesterday and when I connected my phone to the car's Bluetooth, the phone previously connected to the car was labeled "Potato Queen's iPhone". XD
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Forgivable. Drunk.
Her friends probably had suggested she just ignore him and be in the moment with them.
Honest emotional response when she came home.
I would have done the same thing when I used to drink.
If you want a way out of the relationship then take it.
Block me? lol!😂 My husband has respect for his life 🙌
REALLY appreciated the image of the horse with that lip sound. So funny.
i dumped my boyfriend of 4 years because he didn't answer the phone when my car broke down. I lived with him at the time. Uber would be $100 because it was Friday around 8 pm so I got completely stranded in a super sketchy neighborhood. Once I found out my ex was asleep because Instead of making sure I was OK, he just got high and drunk and passed out. I moved out shortly after.
Oh, that’s messed up. Yeah, good call! I do think this girl might be able to grow from her mistake, but he’s very right not to assume she will.
Did he know you were in trouble and ignore you, or did you call him after he already passed out?
@@jchannel8583 he knew i was in trouble because i called non stop for half an hour. He ignored me.
This reminds me of dumping my boyfriend because as he was driving me home in a blinding snowstorm on a highway he rarely travelled... and wouldn't listen to me to pull over because I said we had crossed the centre line into on coming traffic. About 30 seconds later we were almost hit head on by a semi. We would have been dead... we were in a VW bug. It was the one time I trusted and acted on my gut feeling and he was "too much of a man" to listen. Broke my trust in him in an instant.
10:07 OP was not stupid, men are socialised from a young age to ignore their pain and "walk it off". I'm glad he got to the hospital on time.
So true and they depend on their spouse to help them medically.
First one: absolutely deranged and lacking properly functioning brain cells.
Second one: careless and fifty shades of rude.
Dustin Poynter would have a field day with these ones.
If my husband said the word hospital, I would immediately stop what I was doing and give him my full attention. Her lack of empathy and urgency for him is alarming. DUMP HER!
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The first story… my sister’s now ex-husband used to blow up her phone when we would go out. The thing is, he went out with his friends nearly every single weekend, even after they had kids, even when she and the baby were sick. But, if she and I went out shopping or to an event, he’d blow up her phone.
Who knows if that guy does the same?
Exactly, her initial and overall response really sounded like she was sick of him bothering her whenever she gets some time to go out and with friends.
@@pogpogpurinn If she going to act like that then she most likely do that if he was having a heart attack, aortic dissection (which can kill in minutes), stroke, and more
That’s my feeling. I’ve seen this so often. And the “my balls hurt” sounds like a joke, like blue balls. Like “come home and do me”.
@@dakotakulha8376oh yes and we know how many people have been saved from aortic dissection by their drunken partner answering the phone at the club.
I'm not convinced that her reaction to "my balls hurt" really predicts how she'd respond to "I can't breathe and I have chest pain radiating into my arm", but the main point here is people suspecting he has a history of crying wolf which makes a big difference.
Exactly, if someone texted me about their balls hurting I’d assume they were trying to get me to come home to have sex.
I hope that nobody needs this information:
If you can't get someone to take you to the hospital, a taxi/Lyft/Uber is much cheaper than an ambulance. I've done this many times.
I remember reading the first story last month. She's a huge red flag. Run for the hills.
If this girl is older than 24-25, then yeah. If she's in her early 20s, I can see it being stupidity.
FYI….Anyone needing emergency care in the US can go to any emergency room and get treated - regardless of insurance coverage.
Yes, but if you need an ambulance you are stuck with a huge bill.
@@larry01902 I’m not talking about bills. I’m talking about lifesaving healthcare that is available for every American - even non-Americans.
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You'll get that job!
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Good luck girl! You'll do great❤
Even with a miscommunication she vlocked him. She wouldnt even hear him out. Thats how she treats him when he is going through an issue and i can only imagine how she would act if she was going through something and you did the same thing.
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Charlotte's "I Am DRaCULA" was probably the best thing I've heard all week😂 ❤
First story, as soon as you read the messages back and forth, I could hear how it might sound like a plea from a boyfriend with blue balls wanting to fool around and playing it up like an emergency. I'm thinking this could fall under extreme miscommunication instead of hurtful neglect
It's the language of the rules he wants to set that get creepy.
But rumour has it the story was changed.
Both of them are just too immature. They shouldnt marry.
Haven't seen your show for a bit, but your hair looks amazing and healthy .❤
30 years I was married to my now ex husband and he never ONCE stood up to his family on my behalf!
17:09 I’ve never been in a relationship but it seems like it is possible to build that trust back, but it’s gonna probably take a lot of time, as well as effort on the woman’s part because she’ll have to show that she will not react this way ever again.
5:30 the fact that the club she went to was only FIVE MIN AWAY from their house, she could’ve should’ve went home to check on him… then if it’s a cruel joke, she can just go back, and if it’s serious, she could be there for her man.
Love the oooh rocks!! 🪨
Block = Bye Bye
First Story - I wonder if there is previous behavior that caused her to believe he messing with her? I feel like we need her side of this
If you read up the comments, you’ll see some folks who have the whole story and it turns out that he’s a complete jerk.
I agree. I need to hear her side.
@@pinacolada365the guy who shared the story clearly needed medical attention, that’s not something one should brush off as
@@camillelivelyhe’s not a complete jerk HE NEEDED MEDICAL ATTENTION ASAP
The girlfriend is the ignorant one because he stated and tried calling multiple times already for HELP but the GF declined and brushed it off
@@Star14Lightdid u not see previous comments stating that he edited out the part where he pranked his gf multiple times when she would be out?
6:03 100% would have called immediately when he said I need the hospital.
Right? I’m actually not feeling that Charlotte is kinda defending the girl. A miscommunication? How? He said he needed to go to the hospital. I would have immediately called my partner if they said that. I would be so worried.
Lmao the way I look forward to the turkey gobbles… 😂😂😂 🦃
5 minutes and 5 comments in, I cannot believe the majority here are not seeing through his ADPD ploy for attention. She's better off without him. Heaven help his next victim. Can't even watch the rest. Don't even care what happened. I'm so over these manipulators.
I had a partner who would lie that he needed me when I went out or to hang out with friends. He's crying an emergency, and when I'd get there, there was absolutely no emergency. He'd call and call and call or text a million times. Nearing the end of the relationship I would stop answering knowing it would he grief. I'm not saying OP ever did that and he doesn't deserve to be ignored but let's be real. We have no idea their relationship. Just because he says he's never doesn't mean he actually hasn't and just because she apologizes and says she means it does mean she does. We really don't know. After 5 years there would be no reason to act like this unless there's been past patterns.
The way hewords things, says thing, and some red flags I've seen in OPs post and update really makes be believe there's more to the story. I've seen it time and time again.
OP minimises his own miscommunication while not forgiving hers. That’s a huge red flag to me
@Class_Wars i dunno, guys are pretty bad at context and don't think repeating the exact convo on whim, let's not forget that they love to not read either(signs, packaging/labels, things that give context on where to go, etc). I'm thinking it's more so negligence than him being devious. Especially cuz he did give such detail in the update.
@@Class_Wars 💯 Exactly
Tbf, she was probably already tipsy so everything probably sounded like a joke 😅. Without knowing their relationship from both parties’ side we can only ascertain half of the situation. His text could be interpreted as a funny case of blue balls because he misses her and the emergency that needed immediate medical attention was her coming home to relieve his pain in another way, if she was already a few drinks in. Or maybe he doesn’t realize he’s cried wolf before and she’s learned to ignore his over exaggerations. But I’m pretty sure she just thought he meant it as a joke which had went on for far too long. If one miscommunication brought on by him and her night out had him contemplating breaking up then he sounds massively immature to not tell her about it rubbing him the wrong way and not acknowledging both of their failures during that interaction. He could and should have requested an ambulance if he believed it to be that serious where he needed her to save him, then he should have told her he was on his way to hospital (time is never your friend during an actual emergency!) 😅 But if the OP is being entirely truthful then she did exhibit several red flags (rude behaviors) that night that could warrant an exit (like the blocking your number thing).
I fell in the winter breaking my tibia and fibula and ankle in one swift fall 5 minutes away from my house 2 years ago.Called husband and he didn't come.He thought it wasn't very serious.I was on the ground for 4 hours and no ambulance was available i had fire truck come but there were ambulances.My.They shoved me in a taxi.I couldn't even get out.Suddenly my daughter finally had to explain how serious this was to him.He apologized for over a month and still gets teased about it at work by coworkers.But he will never doubt me again.I was hospitalized a month.
That’s awful. I am sorry for you.
That was absolutely unacceptable behavior, period. No one should have had to explain to a grown man that if someone falls and hurts themselves on the ice, he needs to go help them. He sounds like a terrible person.
You were hospitalized for a month for a leg break? Were you were in traction?
And you stayed with him after that?
19:16 THIS. This is why I watch your content. I’m not here for the tea, I’m here for your sass. I freaking love it.
Hearing the first story only makes me more grateful that I have a partner who takes my medical needs seriously. Any time I've had to go for something medical, he's there outside, so when I come out from a private appointment, he's able to help in whatever way he can. He's also been there when my pains occur, helping me get up steps or letting me rest on him when he offers to 'make himself into a bed'.
I can't imagine ignoring, let alone blocking him if he needed my help with anything like that, especially considering he's done so much to be a support for me.
P.S. I knew from the moment OP said that it was abdominal pain that felt like he had been hit in the nuts that it was testicular torsion. If I heard my partner say 'hospital' and 'balls hurt' in the same message, I would've bolted my ass back home knowing what it was.
always the right timing, due to time difference your videos drop perfectly on time when i‘m about to eat dinner after my workday. Thank you for your work charlotte, you quickly became one of my favorite youtubers ❤
17:14 trust broken relationship over
As a woman and wife, my husband ever message me anything like this I would immediately think he’s making a sex joke. But then again, he never says he needs to go to the hospital, so I would have instantly dropped EVERYTHING
ETA: smh absolutely not. You cannot be reasonable in that amount of pain. It was serious enough that it required life saving surgery. I’m proud of them for having these conversations. Non negotiable and basic boundaries are pivotal to know for a successful relationship. I don’t know if I would be able to handle that level of disrespect and disregard. I would be done.
@@erikarussell1142 maman s'il te plaît aide moi il y'a une personne qui me fait du mal sur internet j'ai vraiment peur je demande ton aide car je parle pas l'anglais 😭
@@erikarussell1142 maman j'ai besoin de toi car une personne me fait du mal sur internet j'ai vraiment peur s'il te plaît aide moi 😭
@@erikarussell1142 maman ta fille est en danger aide moi 😭
@@erikarussell1142 maman j'ai besoin de toi sur un sujet important 😭
0:42 love your editor😂😂 >> 2:25 💀👏 >> 3:10 not again-🤣🤣🤣 >> 13:16 oh my goodness💀💀😅 this should have been in the thumbnail