Amen to this!👏 If you truly love and respect someone, you'll either stay loyal to them, or break it off before even thinking about seeing someone else.
That’s how I knew my partner was the one. Not that I’ve ever cheated, not once. But I would look at other people, appreciate how beautiful they were our day dream about what a good partner they might be in comparison to the slouching sack of grump I was with at the time. Now I don’t look at anyone like that, and I no longer dream of a greater love. I have it. All of my needs are met.
If half of the cheaters would put as much effort into their relationships as they do cheating on the partner, they might find themselves in a happy relationship. But no, they're miserable.
@@stischer47They are miserable beings who only care about playing with others feelings. The prove that they are miserable is the fact that they think themselves smarter for lying outrageous lies such as car accidents and sick relatives. Guess what someday they will be in trouble and in need because we all are at multiple points in our lives. Then they won’t find someone who is willing to help them because they cheated and abused every relationship they have.
Oh they are miserable once they are found out, especially if they lose the house because after spending all the couples retirement they underestimate the wife’s ability to get him to sign off the house in her name. She used “tax issues” and he was stupid enough to sign not realizing that he wasn’t just signing on the “payment of taxes” but on the property mutually owned. No one I know has deserved to get that surprise when the divorce was finalized more than this guy. He even used his teenaged son’s name on the dating apps he was using to find women. Dude is a sad sack of meat now, he did marry the last one but he’s not happy. Still asking for his part of the sale of the house that he gave her. And yes he deserved it as he emptied their 401k, almost a million dollars between the two of them, to run around with women. The woman he married really thought he was rich but now he has to work for a living and she’s stuck with him.
@@stischer47From a psychological perspective, they suffer from abandonment issues and avoidant behaviors. There is pain that causes them to lash out at others this way. They are addicted to the dopamine rush of the honeymoon phase because they like that fake version of themselves more than their real self. They live with the thrill and anxiety of being found out. These are self destructive habits that have consequences. They fear true connection to others and themselves. That sounds pretty miserable to me.
Zero need. My ex lied about everything. Right down to his favorite color. Then he gaslit me into thinking he didn’t lie, I just never cared enough to know. Uh. No. You literally told me it was purple, just to make me look like an idiot in front of the girl you were cheating on me with. It’s so stupid dumb. I don’t understand it at all.
Yes! Like, are we 6?! We too grown to be lying like we will get in trouble.Worse case scenario I won't like you or you wont like me. And in this day and age if you're goint to lie you better make sure you entire existence online is private. I've found truth to lies on sm profiles well before a first date has even been set!! You know imma go looking so why did you lie sir?🤦🏾♀️
Men do not know how to be men. I'm happily married to someone I met 23 years ago. She thought I was too good to be true because men treated her badly. I was raised right, to respect all people and sexes, and to be myself. As a teen I witnessed my dad hit my mother, and stopped him at the expense of a belt. When he tried it again I was 16 and I knocked him on his arse. My mother left him. I was called a mothers boy because she shared a flat with me for a couple of years, then she met an amazing guy. They married and he still treats her as a princess
Damn this video makes me feel grateful to be in a long term, committed relationship. My best friend was in a long term relationship for most of her twenties, and the guy was abusive and she became single for the first time since she was 15 at the age of 25, so she was naive about dating. Now we're 32 and she has gotten screwed over by SO MANY MEN that she met through dating apps, so she had to just tap out and quit dating. She just couldn't stand it anymore. She is like top of the line, beautiful, soulful, loyal, genuine, honest, just an incredible person you only meet once in a lifetime, so if she is getting screwed over by tons of men, then I know the dating scene must be trash.
Dating apps are trash fires. Better to be single for years until you meet someone good organically, because you share friends, a hobby or a job. Knowing people in real life is safer because you have references of the people you have in common.
Also always the precursor to physical abuse...They mess up with your head intentionally before they lay the hands on you. I wish they had a class from 8th grade up to address the warning signs of abusers, where to seek help and/or how to escape the situation safely.
My best friends husband matched with me on a dating site. He said he had been married once with one child. He’d been married twice (still married to my friend) with 5 kids. I rang her right away to tell her. She divorced him a few months later.
Me and my girlfriend come from a history of toxic relationships. Its disheartening how she's been treated in the past by her exes, she says the same for me about mine. People suck, regardless of gender. on the brightside; the positive things and breaths of fresh air that comes with finally finding the right person to have a healthy relationship with, is amazing.
I know a guy who used his own son’s name for his dating apps while he was still married to my cousin, his wife and mother of the boy who’s name he was using. The stories of what he did and the money he wasted on the women he dated through apps, including STDs he had not disclosed to his then wife, are incredible.
First story - they made a podcast called Ex Wives Undercover where the ex wives (and several of the ex girlfriends) spill ALL THE TEA. I binge listened so hard.
They always get more angry at the person who tells their SO they're cheating rather than the fact that they're cheating. My ex did that. When a mutual friend of ours and I had a fight, they let it slip how my ex cheated on me. When I confronted my ex, he was so mad at that friend and angry at them saying they shouldn't have told....it's like dude, you shouldn't have cheated. At least they were honest.
This happened where this girl was being cheated on and told the side piece’s BF. The audacity for the AP to get mad at the woman whose man she was fucking for “getting into her business” was absolutely crazy.
That’s not a mutual friend hun. That’s their friend who enables their shit because they’re shit too. Anyone you mutually knew who knew this who didn’t tel you was not your friend at any point
Reminds me of a video where a guy asks dudes with their girlfriends "snitch of the homies or cheat?" Or something like that and majority of people would rather cheat on their girlfriends than tell their friends girlfriend they're cheating on them. So gross.
When people ask me 'who told you that?' I either say 'lots of people/a few people' OR to really mess with them I say 'one of your friends but I don't feel comfortable disclosing who'. They make us feel paranoid by being shady, we make them feel like they can't trust their friends or have to really watch their back because lots of people saw 😂
Before I found my amazing wife, I had given up hope because I was constantly cheated on by women. I was used for free meals. It really is a wasteland out there. Luckily when I stopped looking to date, my wife popped into my life. Never give up but be cautious.
People are wierdo but I think it's part of the journey to finding that one person. I did let guys buy dinner a few times, but when it came with the expectation of 'dessert', I started paying for my own. If I were dating now, I think it is best for each party to pay their own way until later when it is a special evening and one invites the other and pays for an extravagant meal or outing. There are too many people out there just thinking about what they can get out of it and not what they can bring to it. Women seeing how many gifts they can get men to give them and men trying to get notches on their belt.
YES EXACTLY THIS I’m not sure why but it’s when you stop looking and enjoy being your best self that makes the right one appear. So many people out there looking to “date” are really just looking for someone to use and will take advantage. It’s all a game to them
None of the people I had the most fun with or that I ended up dating came from random dates, just from friends of friends and acquaintances I'd meet at school or work etc. The whole random date thing seems like a strange or scary process to me, but then again I didn't give it much of a chance because I didn't like going places alone with people I hadn't spent any time with. 🤔
Because it’s authentic that way. I could never dream of using a dating app or any of the things people do nowadays and that’s not how people used to meet. It makes sense to just find someone randomly when you bump into them or they serve you in a shop or something organic 😊
Truth! Protect yourself! I moved to a new city, matched with a guy who seemed so sweet and open... My son had some serious health issues so I was quiet for a couple days (we'd been talking 3 days at this point). And at 10pm on the like 3rd day of quiet, I got a 9 minute VM threatening to hunt me down and "cause a problem"... I reported it to the police cause I ain't about to be a statistic. Turns out he's well known and a violent offender (like knife violent)
My wife and my mom used to drive me insane with some TLC reality shows (which those vids and posts are very similar to) and usually I don't watch reactions (literally everyone has them, on or off camera). However, Charlotte, and I mean this in the most positive way imaginable, you are my guilty pleasure. I've been binging your vids for weeks now. Awesome, just awesome, keep up the good work lady. 😊😊😊
Cheaters: "Nothing happened." Betrayed: "I have 12 forms of video, bank, and testimony proof." Cheaters: "But who are you *really* going to believe?" Is this like every cheaters MO? Are there secret meetings?
@@ndawn90yes! I would like to add 2 more that I heard from my ex husband. 1) how Dare you find out I was cheating my looking at my phone and text records? We had a shared phone account that my name was also on. He was mad that I finally figured out that the phone bill was no longer coming to the house. I had the audacity to make my own online account to look up everything. 2) That if I had been paying attention I would have figured it out sooner ( he had an affair with his co worker for 10 months). The last 5 months I knew something was amiss and tried talking to him. He refused to tell me even after I found out that he lied to me about his where he was. That was my fault for finding out too.
@@ndawn90it sounds a lot like the Narcissist's Prayer: "That didn't happen. And if it did, it wasn't that bad. And if it was, that's not a big deal. And if it is, that's not my fault. And if it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did, you deserved it"
I’m a lesbian, one fine night my ex girlfriend showed up to do me a solid and tell me my then current girlfriend came on to her at our local gay bar and asked if she would take her back to her house for adult fun. When I confronted my girlfriend she cried and denied it for an hour before finally admitting she did hit on my ex. Trust me, gender has NOTHING to do with it. Women are just as trifling and statistically cheat as much as men do. We just justify it by blaming it on our partners and saying our partners “ deserve it “ somehow. No one owes us 24 hour attention and adoration. Not cool ladies.
Statistically the numbers aren’t the same, women cheat about 1/3rd less than men if the stats are true - but yeah, all genders and sexualities cheat and it always sucks, there’s no excuse. 💯
I think the problem is that when you're dating from a small pool of people, like lgbtq, it's easier to run into a cheater. It's statistics. I'm a bi woman, i have been single for nearly 10 years and i don't do hook ups, and my straight female friends have been constantly running into nasty men. It's amazing how manipulative and blackmail-y men can be. I have also known lesbians who had cheating girlfriends. I do think men are more likely to cheat just looking at my surroundings and the people i know.
I wrote you a Christmas song. On the twelve days of Christmas, Charlotte gave to me! Twelve Reddit A Holes, Eleven entitled brats, Ten greedy liars, Nine crazy ex’s, Eight ruined dresses, Seven bad proposals, Six false accusations, Five bridezilas!! Four crappy weddings, Three toxic in-laws, Two cheating spouses, And a petty Christmas night!
'Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.' - Albert Einstein.
Princess treatment is often love-bombing. This is what narcissists do to get past your defenses. Be very, VERY cautious with the so-called "princess" treatment. In fact, I'd be inclined to run fast and far, and usually do. (Edit) ...and he threatened to unalive her. THAT RIGHT THERE is the biggest reason to be extremely cautious about love-bombing. When you figure out what's going on and the situation reverses, it can enrage a serious narcissist and they can become dangerous. Also, narcissists come in all genders. BE CAREFUL!
OMG; this one triggered memories for me on so many levels! It reminded why I am single and plan on staying that way!! I live with a cat and a goldfish and I'm good! Thanks Charlotte!!
I truly understand this thought process and if you are truly happy than definitely stay single. But I promise, if you ever do change your mind and want someone who will be loyal, your best friends, and will love and support you in ways you never thought another person could, they are out there. I know they are few and far between, but there is someone out there for you who will treat you amazingly if you ever want it. My partner and I have been together for 10 years, and we have that in each other. I have grown more with him than I ever could have without, and he is my number one supporter while still giving me the space and freedom to do my own thing and achieve any dreams I want as well.
The length cheaters go to just to keep their sneaky ways. Literally, if you are done with the relationship/person EFFING LEAVE. Save someone the heart ache and bs/trauma etc
But then they would have to do everything themselves that their unsuspecting partners take care of. Until they find a replacement they really like, then they'll trade you in.
I will never get cheating. I was married and after 14 yesrs together and being married for 8 years I slowly fell out of love over our different life plans. So when I started to imagine me with other me, we had a talk, did couples counseling, and we decided to split up. Not once I thought to cheat, neither did my Ex (to my knowledge at least lol). Three years we are both happy and have very differebr lifestyles
I swear, from 11:20 I laughed so hard I was like crying and suffocating at the same time (probably because it's the stone cold truth). Charlotte always finds a way to put a smile on my face, but every now and again she gets me laughing hard enough to almost collapse a lung.
@@CharlotteDobremy mom killed a man from this. She was such a comically bad bowler that he was laughing so hard at her that he had a heart attack. She was on a date with my dad and his friends, she did CPR and got him back and then he died at the hospital. She never bowled again Edit: I realize the way I wrote this makes it sound like a joke. I didn’t mean it like that. My mom was actually married to my dad (I asked her the story again) and they were with all his LEO buddies and their wives and they went bowling and everything my mom went up this guy would just laugh so hard, my thought it was hilarious because she is a bad bowler, and after laughing at her for over 1.5 hours and plus the fact he was a frailer looking man resulted in a heart attack. Even though my mom isn’t not a cop, she was trained and she was sober so she did CPR and got him back, and he passed on his way to the hospital.
@PhancyPants12 😱 How devastating!! She shouldn't keep thinking it was because of her, though. He was ready for it, and it would have been the next person who made him laugh anyway. Your poor mom!!
The "Baby, are you gonna believe what you see, or what I tell you" is my favourite thing Charlotte's ever said in a video. And in a perfect Natasha Lyonne voice.
It took 10 years to get out from under my ex-husbands thumb. I was sixteen and he was 17 when we first got together. I didn’t understand that someone who said they love you would lie to you. Young and dumb. His lies were so constant. Near the end when I once again comforted on his lies he actually said I made life easy for myself because I never lied about anything. That I needed to lie more because it’s hard…..???
Okay I avoid lying to an unhealthy degree, and I do see how someone might consider lying to be hard because it complicates things and because i'd think the guilt would be hard to deal with, but the way he's meaning it is ridiculous lol. I'm glad you got away from him ❤
At 29 I met a guy and fell pregnant in 2 months. It was a bad relationship, we tried the marriage thing, it lasted less than a year. I'm 38 now and single with an 8 year old daughter. I tried dating since - NO THANK YOU! Being single has been better than any relationship I've ever been in. 😂
watching Charlotte for so long has put me in fear of dating apps 😂 also my social anxiety could never meet with a stranger one on one for the first time! everyone i’ve dated i’ve met from social settings and friends knew who they were already. the only way it feels comfortable for me is to form a friendship with someone first .
I love your videos Charlotte! I found you this year and now I think I've watched all your videos. You are my constant companion while cooking dinner. Love you!
Exactly… they’re just being outed more today. How many of our grandmothers stayed with our abusive grandfathers just to find out he had another family 3 towns over when he died?!
i found your channel last week, charlotte, and i seriously have come home from work and watched your videos everyday since :'D you're so amazing and lovely! and hilarious obv ;) thank you for being you for us :D
It's been almost two weeks getting over this guy and I've been in such a dark place! O👏🏽M👏🏽G👏🏽!!! I NEEDED this stories and you - you're literally FREE THERAPY! BLESS you, love you! And thank you for everything you do❤
LMAO!!! These are hilarious because of the reactions you give Queen Potato. It baffles me how manipulative people can be, and to lie out of their asses like they do and for what? Cheater’s Suck big ones. 🥴🤦🏽♀️
For the last one with the prank call she may have inadvertently saved one of thier lives. Sometimes people loose their mind when they find out their spouse has been cheating on them and do the unthinkable.
I can NOT believe that there are people out there walking around that will put this kind of energy in the atmosphere concerning their parents/grandparents. I could never!
The stories in this video where absolutely the drama i needed to get through my day. I love that Charlotte never seems to run out of content. I hope you're doing well, bestie! ❤ (And yes this is the stage of delululemon I have reached, I'm pretty sure Charlotte knows that we are besties 😂)
18:36 it’s not that they feel bad about what they are doing, it’s that they feel bad they got caught cuz if they felt bad about why they were doing they wouldn’t have done it
I found u 2days ago. I can't stop watching u ..ur comments and thoughts accents voices slang terms I love everything about you..I've been binge-watching you for 48 hours I've been watching you in between cooking cleaning even in while in tub, car & at work..sharing u with everyone..i like ur videos B4 i even see them..and when u say SUBBSSCCRRIBE I die laughing! Keep up great views& commentary I love it!
Charlotte we need a sweater that is reversible. One side that says “How are you not EMBARRASSED!?” And the other side saying ABSOLUTELY NOT. Asking for a friend 😂 Not gonna lie somebody needs to make business cards that have something on it regarding to severe cases of Audacity. Something like- In response to your request- ABSOLUTELY NOT.
@@mycreativeheart4159 sorry to hear that I've been married for 31 years . But I'm old school I treat my wife like the queen she is . I would be nothing without her support..
@@U.S.A.. I'm so happy you have a successful marriage and such a gem of a wife. It's a rare thing these days to have a long lasting, respectful, honest relationship. 💞 I love that for you both.
I found your channel today and have watch so many today. I actually love you and your energy. I have never laughed so much. Thank you I needed this today. Have had a rough couple of months after the passing of my mother. You’re great and please don’t stop making videos…. Hope everyone is having a great day and just be a good bean
For real 😂😂 and what that one girl said is so me I need a solid nap everyday just to have enough energy to get through it.. where do people find all this energy and time to cheat and be in multiple relationships?! Do they have time turners 🤔
If you EVER catch someone cheating on you with your own eyes 👀 And they ask who told you, just tell them it was THEIR best friend. (Or favorite close relationship) Two can play the gaslighting game.😂
I dated a guy that I thought was super cool. We had so much in common and vibed really well. I was on the phone with him and heard a woman's phone. He casually said his ex wife. I instantly hung up. 3 days Katerina he showed up with divorce papers showing they divorced only 4 months ago but the lease doesn't end for awhile which is why she is still there. Whatever I believed him. Fast Foward like a month and we are on the phone and she barges into the room and flips out on him and kicks him out. I get him a hotel room for the night and when I went to pick his stuff up she confronted me. I explained my part. Turns out yes he was divorced But SHE WAS HIS AFFAIR PARTNER. I was the other woman's, other woman. I was so stupid and actually took his stuff to him but basically never saw him again. Shitnqas insane.
11:00 Charolette takes on accents so easily that she came out the gate talking like her for a second and then had to revert back to her normal voice 😂 I love her
Lol. This one brings up so many memories! My ex cheated on me on my birthday and when I caught him his response was, "Who is telling you all these? Are you spying on me?" 😅
I love Charlotte sm, she’s like a wise, big sister teaching you all about life and how to be a better person while keeping it petty and judgy (in good faith),such a fierce, spicy and lovely human 💖✨
As someone who just got divorced, I can confirm that you do find out some “interesting” things about your ex. My ex husband had some shady sh** he was hiding.
Ok, buts let's be honest with ourselves. Being bisexual isn't the real issue. Broadening the field of what you're sexually attracted to doesn't change the fact you're cheating if the other person thinks it's an exclusive relationship.
Right… I’m always irked when people jump straight to “he’s GAY” when a dude cheats with a man… like, bisexuality exists and bisexuals can be trash too lmao😂😂 I can say that, I’m bi
GF: I saw you in a restaurant with another woman! BF: No you didn't, which one of your friends told you that? GF: I saw you with another woman! BF: No you didn't. GF: Yes I was there. BF: These are not the droids you're looking for🤔... 💐♥️🧀😎🐈⬛😼🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️🇪🇺🇺🇦🇮🇱🇵🇸💐
There is NEVER an excuse to cheat. I don't care what "reasons" you have. If you feel the need to step out then frikin just STEP AWAY! I know relationships can sometimes be difficult, I've been with my husband for over 35 years, but one thing we do is talk, discuss, and be grown up enough to keep things in the open. Once the trust is gone then so is the relationship.
Life is more complicated than that. Generally I'd always condemn cheating but I can think of cases where I approve. I know someone who was in a very abusive and controling relationship with a man who constantly put her down. Her confidence was through the floor and she truly believed she wouldn't be able to make it a day on her own. On top of that they had two kids and she didn't want to uproot their lives as well. In the end she met someone outside of the relationship. She wasn't out to cheat but it just evolved after meeting someone who treated her with dignity. Eventually they restored her own self confidence and showed her she was worth more than the footwipe her boyfriend turned her into through gaslighting and manipulation. After all she left the relationship because the other guy made her feel she could actually take care of herself and her kids. Sometimes talking just isn't and option and people feel they can't just uproot their own lives and the lives of their family. I feel this is perfectly understandable.
@@ThePanMan11my friend was being punched by her husband with their barely one year old baby in the room. She cheated so that she could have someone willing to move her out ASAP while still helping provide protection for her and her child. Since we all know these women beaters are cowards and are afraid of raising their hands on another man. No one in her family would help her and her in laws knew about the abuse. I think within abuse is the only time cheating is more out of survival than wanting an itch to scratch
@@wiggilytaco7570 The guy who provided protection doesn't sound that great if she had to be dating him in order for him to protect her from her abusive husband. Having support to get out of abuse doesn't mean you need to cheat. The husband deserved nothing and to be stomped into the ground. But why does someone need to be dating another person to help? They sound just as manipulative as the [hopefully ex] husband. To take advantage of a woman who is just trying to protect her baby. Cheating in an abusive relationship can also be very dangerous for the one in the relationship. Though abusers are cowards, all it takes is for them to find out while their victim is with them without their affair partner.
@@ThePanMan11@SatanicDumbDumb Nope, cheating is still wrong. Sad that that's what it took for your friend to feel worthy, but it was still wrong of her to cheat. The "I don't want to uproot my family" is also not an excuse and is the most common excuse used by married men that cheat.
Jaysus. This makes me ever so glad that I have 43 years of good memories. I haven't missed out on having that one great relationship and I feel zero need to >gag< date. I did have someone (a woman) ask me if I was going to date - about two months after my husband passed away. "Oh, fer shur", [sucking a tooth] "I'ma get right on that..." Nope.
“YOU DON’T GOTTA LIE, TO KICK IT!” 👊🏼 Trying to have _just a conversation_ with a pathological liar, is literally the worst. I cannot imagine dating, or even _marrying_ a PL… I’m telling you, if you know how to recognize them, their company becomes old _real quick!_ ✌🏼
LOVE LOVE LOVE your content! You keep it up, Sis! Happy for you on the new digs and wanted to make minor suggestion since you asked abt the new filming space. Everything is warm...your smile, you hair, your heart, your skin tone and all the background lighting & the wall...we need some contrast, babe, to help your loveliness shine even brighter. So please consider popping in some cooler tones as an accent color and see what you think. Big hugs from Texas!
Something I’ve learned on the ol’ interwebz: if a body has to say that they’re good (“I’m a good guy”, try to pull a Rick Astley, etc.), they’re the furthest thing. I hope the other woman in the second story is okay. Glad she reported his useless ass
Yeah, I have learned if someone has to explain what they are (i.e. a good person, a giving person, a loyal person, and etc), than they generally aren't.
I genuinely could never even think of cheating on my beautiful and amazing wife (were not married yet lol) and I struggle with intrusive thoughts yall really out here doing the most
I’ve been with my husband for over 20 years and it’s been rough health wise. I’ve had many struggles. I recently had a major surgery. During the surgery, something went wrong and my lungs collapsed. The left did so more than 3 times. I still have trouble breathing. His co-worker actually said to him “that most men would have left by now….” Who would say that to someone while their wife is laying in the hospital unconscious?!!?!?!
I just wanted to say that I am new to your channel and so far I love it. I love the petty and you’re teaching me how to be a great Petty queen. I would love to see merch wise a rainbow petty fan case I’m feeling a little extra Petty some days .
Welcome to this channel, 1 of the best I've found, best community here, I get lost reading the comments half the time,hardly trolls, best entertainment, my kids love her!! Been following for 2yrs and she still has Soo much material I'm not caught up.
These stories make me realise just how toxic my first boyfriend was. We were together for 3 and half years then split up for a year then back together for another 3 and a half years and engaged both times. I had never had a boyfriend before him so i had no idea what a relationship was meant to be like. I just believed everything and found out he cheated multiple times. I found out a few of them at the time but he convined me he wasnt and it was my fault i didnt believe him. There are many many more things but this just makes me realise how gulible i was.
I was thinking “red flag, who doesn’t have any social media” then immediately realized, your husband of the last 20 years only has a LinkedIn account 😂
The No eyes thing made me realize how hard it would be for a blind person to be out in this dating chest pool Really need a strong support system around u
*cesspool and it's fine. The disability is a great filter, when done we get the fetishist, those reaching for the "lowest of the low" hanging fruit and actually nice guys. Some people are fine with the fetishist if they have a true care fetish rather than a hit and dip fetish, some fall for the ones reaching for the low hanging fruit or those thinking disability comes with worshipping their foolish ass or money they can get out of us. I, personally, have never got a bad guy but I don't date extremely cautiously and steer clear of all fetishists.
i think we should normalize being honest with our friends and family when their eyelashes have just gone wayyyyy to far. is there a support group for this?...like lashes anonymous or something?
In my dating days (I'm in my 70's now) I never accepted that a man I just met should pay for my meal on the first dates. For me, this always created a falsely intimate situation where the woman invariably ends up feeling like she owes something to the guy (and we all know that's not money😐). Since I didn't know the guy's character yet, I wanted to feel free to just get up and go if it wasn't going according to my values and taste.
When you actually love someone, cheating on them won’t even cross your mind for a second.
Amen to this!👏 If you truly love and respect someone, you'll either stay loyal to them, or break it off before even thinking about seeing someone else.
❤truth 💯
Honestly. ❤
Or if that’s not really who you are, you will not be capable of doing it.
That’s how I knew my partner was the one. Not that I’ve ever cheated, not once. But I would look at other people, appreciate how beautiful they were our day dream about what a good partner they might be in comparison to the slouching sack of grump I was with at the time. Now I don’t look at anyone like that, and I no longer dream of a greater love. I have it. All of my needs are met.
If half of the cheaters would put as much effort into their relationships as they do cheating on the partner, they might find themselves in a happy relationship. But no, they're miserable.
That's that misconception many people have. The cheaters NOT miserable, but the ones they play are. It's a game and you're the next notch on the grip.
@@stischer47They are miserable beings who only care about playing with others feelings. The prove that they are miserable is the fact that they think themselves smarter for lying outrageous lies such as car accidents and sick relatives. Guess what someday they will be in trouble and in need because we all are at multiple points in our lives. Then they won’t find someone who is willing to help them because they cheated and abused every relationship they have.
Oh they are miserable once they are found out, especially if they lose the house because after spending all the couples retirement they underestimate the wife’s ability to get him to sign off the house in her name. She used “tax issues” and he was stupid enough to sign not realizing that he wasn’t just signing on the “payment of taxes” but on the property mutually owned. No one I know has deserved to get that surprise when the divorce was finalized more than this guy. He even used his teenaged son’s name on the dating apps he was using to find women.
Dude is a sad sack of meat now, he did marry the last one but he’s not happy. Still asking for his part of the sale of the house that he gave her.
And yes he deserved it as he emptied their 401k, almost a million dollars between the two of them, to run around with women. The woman he married really thought he was rich but now he has to work for a living and she’s stuck with him.
@@stischer47From a psychological perspective, they suffer from abandonment issues and avoidant behaviors. There is pain that causes them to lash out at others this way. They are addicted to the dopamine rush of the honeymoon phase because they like that fake version of themselves more than their real self. They live with the thrill and anxiety of being found out. These are self destructive habits that have consequences. They fear true connection to others and themselves. That sounds pretty miserable to me.
This part!❤
As someone who was always very honest when dating I don't know why people lie. There's literally no need. 😂
Zero need. My ex lied about everything. Right down to his favorite color. Then he gaslit me into thinking he didn’t lie, I just never cared enough to know. Uh. No. You literally told me it was purple, just to make me look like an idiot in front of the girl you were cheating on me with. It’s so stupid dumb. I don’t understand it at all.
Right?! It takes too much energy to remember every lie, who I told said lie to, etc. I don't have the bandwidth to do that!
Yes! Like, are we 6?! We too grown to be lying like we will get in trouble.Worse case scenario I won't like you or you wont like me. And in this day and age if you're goint to lie you better make sure you entire existence online is private. I've found truth to lies on sm profiles well before a first date has even been set!! You know imma go looking so why did you lie sir?🤦🏾♀️
Agreed, it complicates everything
It's not about need, it's about want!
Men do not know how to be men. I'm happily married to someone I met 23 years ago. She thought I was too good to be true because men treated her badly. I was raised right, to respect all people and sexes, and to be myself.
As a teen I witnessed my dad hit my mother, and stopped him at the expense of a belt.
When he tried it again I was 16 and I knocked him on his arse. My mother left him.
I was called a mothers boy because she shared a flat with me for a couple of years, then she met an amazing guy. They married and he still treats her as a princess
I hope my son turns out just like you
You obviously have self confidence.. deservedly so.
I think it’s mostly insecure guys who cheat because they need the validation.
WOW, you must be the single best human ever born, at least according to you.
I haven't seen so much self-love and bragging in a long time.
@bethanygee6939 Just because someone shares their experience doesn't mean they are bragging .
I think it's good to show not all men are bad.
@@LeeLeesBanter Yeah... You're probably right. I still think the tone is SUPER self-congratulatory but I was probably wrong to be so crappy about it.
Damn this video makes me feel grateful to be in a long term, committed relationship. My best friend was in a long term relationship for most of her twenties, and the guy was abusive and she became single for the first time since she was 15 at the age of 25, so she was naive about dating. Now we're 32 and she has gotten screwed over by SO MANY MEN that she met through dating apps, so she had to just tap out and quit dating. She just couldn't stand it anymore. She is like top of the line, beautiful, soulful, loyal, genuine, honest, just an incredible person you only meet once in a lifetime, so if she is getting screwed over by tons of men, then I know the dating scene must be trash.
Sadly it's always been trash It's just the quality of people has gotten worse too
Dating apps are trash fires. Better to be single for years until you meet someone good organically, because you share friends, a hobby or a job. Knowing people in real life is safer because you have references of the people you have in common.
Is she still single?
I worry for my beautiful sons in this dating cesspool 😢
7:22 As a psychologist i have to say charlotte has really nailed the list of things to be aware of in dating. psychological abuse is real.
thank you I've had a lot if therapy LOL
Also always the precursor to physical abuse...They mess up with your head intentionally before they lay the hands on you. I wish they had a class from 8th grade up to address the warning signs of abusers, where to seek help and/or how to escape the situation safely.
Wish I would have had this channel in my 20’s, all the things I look back as red flags that I missed.
It's so sad that we actually learn the signs of this.🙄🧡💜🧡
I am not a psychologist, but I am a mental health clinician. I completely agree! 💯
First story is WILD. The extravagance of the lies and the DEDICATION to them is immense 😂
If I was dedicated like that, I'd be super rich.....
He has no conscience whatsoever.
1st story: the deceit reminds me of Harry and Meghan.
First story guy look like he just woke up and was trying to play it off like if his swollen eyes was part of the accident😂
That was unbelievable. Some people have this amazing brainpower but just waste it on lying and deceiving.😢
My best friends husband matched with me on a dating site. He said he had been married once with one child. He’d been married twice (still married to my friend) with 5 kids. I rang her right away to tell her. She divorced him a few months later.
Did he not know who you were?
Curious about this too!@@argrette
I hope she took him to the cleaners. In some states you can get more in the divorce if you proved the other party cheated.
@@argretteit was probably in his profile.
@@argrettedudes literally swipe on everyone, usually without looking
Me and my girlfriend come from a history of toxic relationships. Its disheartening how she's been treated in the past by her exes, she says the same for me about mine. People suck, regardless of gender.
on the brightside; the positive things and breaths of fresh air that comes with finally finding the right person to have a healthy relationship with, is amazing.
Yeah but women don't kill heir boyfriends. Men do kill their girlfriends. There is a huge difference. Sex matters even if everyone sucks.
I know a guy who used his own son’s name for his dating apps while he was still married to my cousin, his wife and mother of the boy who’s name he was using.
The stories of what he did and the money he wasted on the women he dated through apps, including STDs he had not disclosed to his then wife, are incredible.
What the actual fuck? If that was my man, I would sue the shit out of him for adulterous STD transmission. It's practically sexual battery ffs
For the girl who said her ex was sending messages he was going to "un-alive her", girl report this and get that trash into jail or better yet, prison.
Police won’t take a third person report.
@@susanminer2088why? Honestly curious cause she was still treated either way
It’s not third person if she can find the live video of him saying it himself
It’s not third person if she can find the live video of him saying it himself
I'm sure the boys in prison would love to meet him
First story - they made a podcast called Ex Wives Undercover where the ex wives (and several of the ex girlfriends) spill ALL THE TEA. I binge listened so hard.
Oh man, I have to listen. I follow the Dating Detectives but their pod is fairly new and I’ve listened to all the shows 😭
@@annedavis1929I'm so going to find these and binge! 1st story is nuts! Why do all this?
@@annedavis1929I love dating detectives! I just started listening.
Omg! When she mentioned Athena I was wondering.....
Oh yes let me get in on this!
They always get more angry at the person who tells their SO they're cheating rather than the fact that they're cheating. My ex did that. When a mutual friend of ours and I had a fight, they let it slip how my ex cheated on me. When I confronted my ex, he was so mad at that friend and angry at them saying they shouldn't have told....it's like dude, you shouldn't have cheated. At least they were honest.
This happened where this girl was being cheated on and told the side piece’s BF. The audacity for the AP to get mad at the woman whose man she was fucking for “getting into her business” was absolutely crazy.
That’s not a mutual friend hun. That’s their friend who enables their shit because they’re shit too. Anyone you mutually knew who knew this who didn’t tel you was not your friend at any point
Reminds me of a video where a guy asks dudes with their girlfriends "snitch of the homies or cheat?" Or something like that and majority of people would rather cheat on their girlfriends than tell their friends girlfriend they're cheating on them. So gross.
@@Virgomamatoacapricorn It was a brief mutual friend. We were no longer friends a short while after that
When people ask me 'who told you that?' I either say 'lots of people/a few people' OR to really mess with them I say 'one of your friends but I don't feel comfortable disclosing who'. They make us feel paranoid by being shady, we make them feel like they can't trust their friends or have to really watch their back because lots of people saw 😂
Unless he wears a diaper, you can't change him
THIS. Oh my, but you are sooooo correct!
Ohhhh....I love this quote!!!! I'm gonna use this!!!❤❤❤
best quote EVER!!!!!!!
Hahaha❤😂
Even then, you don’t have to lol
"I dont call them exs, i call them whys" 😂😂😂😅
🤣🤣🤣
The dedication you have to have to be a cheater is insane!
Sounds exhausting
If only they would put that much dedication into a relationship.
I have too much going on in my head to then add all the lies I need to remember to that. No thanks.
Exactly! These people could be multi-millionaires if they put that much energy into a profession. 😂
Yep
Before I found my amazing wife, I had given up hope because I was constantly cheated on by women. I was used for free meals. It really is a wasteland out there. Luckily when I stopped looking to date, my wife popped into my life. Never give up but be cautious.
People are wierdo but I think it's part of the journey to finding that one person. I did let guys buy dinner a few times, but when it came with the expectation of 'dessert', I started paying for my own. If I were dating now, I think it is best for each party to pay their own way until later when it is a special evening and one invites the other and pays for an extravagant meal or outing. There are too many people out there just thinking about what they can get out of it and not what they can bring to it. Women seeing how many gifts they can get men to give them and men trying to get notches on their belt.
YES EXACTLY THIS I’m not sure why but it’s when you stop looking and enjoy being your best self that makes the right one appear. So many people out there looking to “date” are really just looking for someone to use and will take advantage. It’s all a game to them
And be sure to catch any red flags - it can help tell you when to get out of that relationship
None of the people I had the most fun with or that I ended up dating came from random dates, just from friends of friends and acquaintances I'd meet at school or work etc. The whole random date thing seems like a strange or scary process to me, but then again I didn't give it much of a chance because I didn't like going places alone with people I hadn't spent any time with. 🤔
Because it’s authentic that way. I could never dream of using a dating app or any of the things people do nowadays and that’s not how people used to meet. It makes sense to just find someone randomly when you bump into them or they serve you in a shop or something organic 😊
Truth! Protect yourself!
I moved to a new city, matched with a guy who seemed so sweet and open... My son had some serious health issues so I was quiet for a couple days (we'd been talking 3 days at this point). And at 10pm on the like 3rd day of quiet, I got a 9 minute VM threatening to hunt me down and "cause a problem"... I reported it to the police cause I ain't about to be a statistic. Turns out he's well known and a violent offender (like knife violent)
My wife and my mom used to drive me insane with some TLC reality shows (which those vids and posts are very similar to) and usually I don't watch reactions (literally everyone has them, on or off camera). However, Charlotte, and I mean this in the most positive way imaginable, you are my guilty pleasure. I've been binging your vids for weeks now. Awesome, just awesome, keep up the good work lady. 😊😊😊
You are my people! LMAO I hate this type of content, but Charlotte's channel is the only exception, and she is something truly wonderful!
Cheaters: "Nothing happened."
Betrayed: "I have 12 forms of video, bank, and testimony proof."
Cheaters: "But who are you *really* going to believe?"
Is this like every cheaters MO? Are there secret meetings?
It's like they're three years old and don't know what else to say 😂
@@ndawn90yes! I would like to add 2 more that I heard from my ex husband.
1) how Dare you find out I was cheating my looking at my phone and text records? We had a shared phone account that my name was also on. He was mad that I finally figured out that the phone bill was no longer coming to the house. I had the audacity to make my own online account to look up everything.
2) That if I had been paying attention I would have figured it out sooner ( he had an affair with his co worker for 10 months). The last 5 months I knew something was amiss and tried talking to him. He refused to tell me even after I found out that he lied to me about his where he was. That was my fault for finding out too.
It's all in the Cheaters 101 handbook.
Or "how dare you spy on me".
@@ndawn90it sounds a lot like the Narcissist's Prayer:
"That didn't happen.
And if it did, it wasn't that bad.
And if it was, that's not a big deal.
And if it is, that's not my fault.
And if it was, I didn't mean it.
And if I did, you deserved it"
Funny thing though.... That Eeyore top isn't even a hospital gown. That's a scrub top 😂
Yeah, or he’s a kid at a children’s hospital with a custom gown 😂
Omg that makes it even more wild!
I’m a lesbian, one fine night my ex girlfriend showed up to do me a solid and tell me my then current girlfriend came on to her at our local gay bar and asked if she would take her back to her house for adult fun. When I confronted my girlfriend she cried and denied it for an hour before finally admitting she did hit on my ex. Trust me, gender has NOTHING to do with it. Women are just as trifling and statistically cheat as much as men do. We just justify it by blaming it on our partners and saying our partners “ deserve it “ somehow. No one owes us 24 hour attention and adoration. Not cool ladies.
Yeah, my aunt's wife cheated and left her after many years together. We know not all humans are bad, but most of them make us sad.
True
Actually, satistics say that men do cheat more.
It's not a huge gap but is noticeably different.
Statistically the numbers aren’t the same, women cheat about 1/3rd less than men if the stats are true - but yeah, all genders and sexualities cheat and it always sucks, there’s no excuse. 💯
I think the problem is that when you're dating from a small pool of people, like lgbtq, it's easier to run into a cheater. It's statistics. I'm a bi woman, i have been single for nearly 10 years and i don't do hook ups, and my straight female friends have been constantly running into nasty men. It's amazing how manipulative and blackmail-y men can be. I have also known lesbians who had cheating girlfriends. I do think men are more likely to cheat just looking at my surroundings and the people i know.
I wrote you a Christmas song.
On the twelve days of Christmas, Charlotte gave to me!
Twelve Reddit A Holes,
Eleven entitled brats,
Ten greedy liars,
Nine crazy ex’s,
Eight ruined dresses,
Seven bad proposals,
Six false accusations,
Five bridezilas!!
Four crappy weddings,
Three toxic in-laws,
Two cheating spouses,
And a petty Christmas night!
This she gave to her potato family ✨🎤🎶
😂😂😂
We need this to be the potato family Christmas theme
👏🤣❤
This tickled me 😂😂 the entitled part was tough to say though
'Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.' - Albert Einstein.
A misogynist who stole his wife's work, nice.
He married his first cousin after mentally abusing his first wife
The second girl said she had princess treatment whilst she was paying for everything. She needs to raise her standards.
Love bombing makes you extra blind😮💨😮💨😮💨😮💨
She's dating some guy who has diamonds in his teeth!!! What a status symbol! Obviously the girl has low standards.
@@cocokai9661 i was about to say that!! that was her first mistake smh never trust someone with diamonds on their teeth 😂 🚩
She probably meant how he spoke to her and treated her as a person; flattery, affection, ect.
Princess treatment is often love-bombing. This is what narcissists do to get past your defenses. Be very, VERY cautious with the so-called "princess" treatment. In fact, I'd be inclined to run fast and far, and usually do.
(Edit) ...and he threatened to unalive her. THAT RIGHT THERE is the biggest reason to be extremely cautious about love-bombing. When you figure out what's going on and the situation reverses, it can enrage a serious narcissist and they can become dangerous. Also, narcissists come in all genders. BE CAREFUL!
OMG; this one triggered memories for me on so many levels! It reminded why I am single and plan on staying that way!! I live with a cat and a goldfish and I'm good! Thanks Charlotte!!
Name drop for cat and goldfish? Are they besties?
No goldfish here just cat but yes!
I truly understand this thought process and if you are truly happy than definitely stay single. But I promise, if you ever do change your mind and want someone who will be loyal, your best friends, and will love and support you in ways you never thought another person could, they are out there. I know they are few and far between, but there is someone out there for you who will treat you amazingly if you ever want it. My partner and I have been together for 10 years, and we have that in each other. I have grown more with him than I ever could have without, and he is my number one supporter while still giving me the space and freedom to do my own thing and achieve any dreams I want as well.
@@AllyInReality my cat's name is Obi-Wan and my Goldfish is Captain Kirk LOL
The length cheaters go to just to keep their sneaky ways. Literally, if you are done with the relationship/person EFFING LEAVE. Save someone the heart ache and bs/trauma etc
I know. It was my only ask, show me respect and if do not want to be here say so. Nope, did it anyway. Sad people.
@@TheQueenRulesAll it SUCKS like...if you don't like me just say so 😭 💔 don't mess with my emotions and heart...
But then they would have to do everything themselves that their unsuspecting partners take care of. Until they find a replacement they really like, then they'll trade you in.
@@normastone1044 def true, unless they're a narcissist. And you're the empath and they can't find a naive sucker empath to trade in for... 🙄😭
The girls out there who choose to knowingly go after married men, you are worse than the cheating men. I went through that, and it was horrible.
I will never get cheating. I was married and after 14 yesrs together and being married for 8 years I slowly fell out of love over our different life plans. So when I started to imagine me with other me, we had a talk, did couples counseling, and we decided to split up. Not once I thought to cheat, neither did my Ex (to my knowledge at least lol).
Three years we are both happy and have very differebr lifestyles
I swear, from 11:20 I laughed so hard I was like crying and suffocating at the same time (probably because it's the stone cold truth). Charlotte always finds a way to put a smile on my face, but every now and again she gets me laughing hard enough to almost collapse a lung.
LOL DONT DIE FROM LAUGHTER PLZ
@@CharlotteDobremy mom killed a man from this. She was such a comically bad bowler that he was laughing so hard at her that he had a heart attack. She was on a date with my dad and his friends, she did CPR and got him back and then he died at the hospital. She never bowled again
Edit: I realize the way I wrote this makes it sound like a joke. I didn’t mean it like that. My mom was actually married to my dad (I asked her the story again) and they were with all his LEO buddies and their wives and they went bowling and everything my mom went up this guy would just laugh so hard, my thought it was hilarious because she is a bad bowler, and after laughing at her for over 1.5 hours and plus the fact he was a frailer looking man resulted in a heart attack. Even though my mom isn’t not a cop, she was trained and she was sober so she did CPR and got him back, and he passed on his way to the hospital.
@PhancyPants12
😱 How devastating!! She shouldn't keep thinking it was because of her, though. He was ready for it, and it would have been the next person who made him laugh anyway. Your poor mom!!
@@Julia-uh4li his wife told my mom that him passing away because he was laughing too hard was very on point for her husband.
The "Baby, are you gonna believe what you see, or what I tell you" is my favourite thing Charlotte's ever said in a video. And in a perfect Natasha Lyonne voice.
It took 10 years to get out from under my ex-husbands thumb. I was sixteen and he was 17 when we first got together. I didn’t understand that someone who said they love you would lie to you. Young and dumb. His lies were so constant. Near the end when I once again comforted on his lies he actually said I made life easy for myself because I never lied about anything. That I needed to lie more because it’s hard…..???
I got rid of one of those, too. Congratulations.
Okay I avoid lying to an unhealthy degree, and I do see how someone might consider lying to be hard because it complicates things and because i'd think the guilt would be hard to deal with, but the way he's meaning it is ridiculous lol. I'm glad you got away from him ❤
So glad Charlotte learned that valuable lesson. Also glad she got to the next level with Mike❤❤❤
At 29 I met a guy and fell pregnant in 2 months. It was a bad relationship, we tried the marriage thing, it lasted less than a year.
I'm 38 now and single with an 8 year old daughter. I tried dating since - NO THANK YOU! Being single has been better than any relationship I've ever been in. 😂
watching Charlotte for so long has put me in fear of dating apps 😂 also my social anxiety could never meet with a stranger one on one for the first time! everyone i’ve dated i’ve met from social settings and friends knew who they were already. the only way it feels comfortable for me is to form a friendship with someone first .
I love your videos Charlotte! I found you this year and now I think I've watched all your videos. You are my constant companion while cooking dinner. Love you!
Mine too lol 😂 my husband rolls his eyes when he hears her talk 😅😂 like again !
I do background checks for a living... 😂 it's priceless when they ask me my occupation!!!!! There like 😳😳😳😳
Can someone help me get someone to clown my husband phone?
@@RitaDavis-f1s what u need? Lol
In the US? Or another country?
In the US for the State of Ga.
I disagree that men treat women poorly these days. Men have treated women poorly throughout history, not just today.
If anything, men are treating women better today than any other time in history.
Exactly… they’re just being outed more today. How many of our grandmothers stayed with our abusive grandfathers just to find out he had another family 3 towns over when he died?!
@lindam156 my grandma never found out, thank God, but my mom did - when her half-sister found her from a genealogy site... 😢
i found your channel last week, charlotte, and i seriously have come home from work and watched your videos everyday since :'D you're so amazing and lovely! and hilarious obv ;) thank you for being you for us :D
It's been almost two weeks getting over this guy and I've been in such a dark place! O👏🏽M👏🏽G👏🏽!!! I NEEDED this stories and you - you're literally FREE THERAPY!
BLESS you, love you! And thank you for everything you do❤
LMAO!!! These are hilarious because of the reactions you give Queen Potato. It baffles me how manipulative people can be, and to lie out of their asses like they do and for what? Cheater’s Suck big ones. 🥴🤦🏽♀️
Scary stuff. Dating crap more scary than a scary video compilation. Careful out there everyone! Thanks Charlotte 💞
The first couple. That's so much WORK!!! For him to have the time to literally do ALL of that over being Honest.???? That's crazy!!!!!
For the last one with the prank call she may have inadvertently saved one of thier lives. Sometimes people loose their mind when they find out their spouse has been cheating on them and do the unthinkable.
I would love to hear a story of two catfish catfishing each other. I’m sure it’s happened.
I just dont understand how these people have the energy to cheat and create all these lies. I barely have the energy to do the dishes daily. 😂😂😂
For real 😅😂
Two things about me. I’m awful at keeping secrets, and I’m very blunt. I’m literally not built for cheating! 😂
The ol’ “I was in a coma.” line! What’s next? “I’m not me- I’m my evil twin, Hans.”
" It wasn't me " ...perfect song for this ....
I can NOT believe that there are people out there walking around that will put this kind of energy in the atmosphere concerning their parents/grandparents. I could never!
The stories in this video where absolutely the drama i needed to get through my day. I love that Charlotte never seems to run out of content. I hope you're doing well, bestie! ❤
(And yes this is the stage of delululemon I have reached, I'm pretty sure Charlotte knows that we are besties 😂)
Charlotte talking about cheaters... this drama is right up with wedding stories.
daily dose of charlotte tea? yes please! ❤
18:36 it’s not that they feel bad about what they are doing, it’s that they feel bad they got caught cuz if they felt bad about why they were doing they wouldn’t have done it
I found u 2days ago. I can't stop watching u ..ur comments and thoughts accents voices slang terms I love everything about you..I've been binge-watching you for 48 hours I've been watching you in between cooking cleaning even in while in tub, car & at work..sharing u with everyone..i like ur videos B4 i even see them..and when u say SUBBSSCCRRIBE I die laughing! Keep up great views& commentary I love it!
Charlotte we need a sweater that is reversible. One side that says “How are you not EMBARRASSED!?” And the other side saying ABSOLUTELY NOT.
Asking for a friend 😂
Not gonna lie somebody needs to make business cards that have something on it regarding to severe cases of Audacity. Something like- In response to your request- ABSOLUTELY NOT.
YES YES YES
I'll take two please
Hello petty potatoes! Have a wonderful day and remember if they go low- you go (legally) petty! :)
You have a wonderful day, too. ❤
Legal being the keyword
I 2nd that!!! 😂🤣⭐️❤️
…and we move in the shadows - we mooove in the shaaadooowsss 😏
All my best regards to my fellow *Pettatoes* ❤
Yes 👏👏👏!
When I got married my wife said if I ever cheated on her it would be the end of my life and I totally believe her.
I said the same when I got married.... then 5 years later... he asked for a divorce "before something happened".... lol! Yup.... divorced now.
@@mycreativeheart4159damn, I’m sorry.
@@mycreativeheart4159 sorry to hear that I've been married for 31 years . But I'm old school I treat my wife like the queen she is . I would be nothing without her support..
@@U.S.A.. I'm so happy you have a successful marriage and such a gem of a wife. It's a rare thing these days to have a long lasting, respectful, honest relationship. 💞 I love that for you both.
I found your channel today and have watch so many today. I actually love you and your energy. I have never laughed so much. Thank you I needed this today. Have had a rough couple of months after the passing of my mother. You’re great and please don’t stop making videos…. Hope everyone is having a great day and just be a good bean
Good God I'm so glad I met my husband 13 years ago in person, as a teen and STILL happily married
The first video, you NEED a board certified psychologist after being with that man who lies about being one.
The ex wife's and ex girlfriends actually have a podcast called Ex Wives Undercover
How do people even have the TIME to cheat??? I barely have the time to manage the relationship I’m in!
For real 😂😂 and what that one girl said is so me I need a solid nap everyday just to have enough energy to get through it.. where do people find all this energy and time to cheat and be in multiple relationships?! Do they have time turners 🤔
If you EVER catch someone cheating on you with your own eyes 👀
And they ask who told you, just tell them it was THEIR best friend. (Or favorite close relationship)
Two can play the gaslighting game.😂
Oooooh yessss! This should be in The Book of Petty 🤨
16:40 "Well, who ya gonna believe, me or your own eyes?!" - Chico Marx, Duck Soup (1933)
I dated a guy that I thought was super cool. We had so much in common and vibed really well. I was on the phone with him and heard a woman's phone. He casually said his ex wife. I instantly hung up. 3 days Katerina he showed up with divorce papers showing they divorced only 4 months ago but the lease doesn't end for awhile which is why she is still there. Whatever I believed him. Fast Foward like a month and we are on the phone and she barges into the room and flips out on him and kicks him out. I get him a hotel room for the night and when I went to pick his stuff up she confronted me. I explained my part. Turns out yes he was divorced But SHE WAS HIS AFFAIR PARTNER. I was the other woman's, other woman. I was so stupid and actually took his stuff to him but basically never saw him again. Shitnqas insane.
The amount of energy required for cheating makes me want to take a nap! 😴 😂
11:00 Charolette takes on accents so easily that she came out the gate talking like her for a second and then had to revert back to her normal voice 😂 I love her
I LIKE TO MIMIC PEOPLE OK LOL thanks bestie
Lol. This one brings up so many memories! My ex cheated on me on my birthday and when I caught him his response was, "Who is telling you all these? Are you spying on me?" 😅
Didn't even deny it. The audacity 😮💨
I love Charlotte sm, she’s like a wise, big sister teaching you all about life and how to be a better person while keeping it petty and judgy (in good faith),such a fierce, spicy and lovely human 💖✨
2:45 THIS MAN IS FOR THE MENTAL WARD
nothing like seeing cheaters getting caught to remind ya that being single (even if it gets lonely) ain’t that bad
Get pets. ❤
@@OldJoeBlows Already got ‘em homie. Not the same lol
@@madidear very true, not the same. A different kind of love.
Thanks for this 🙏 it is nice to get that small reminder 🙂
As someone who just got divorced, I can confirm that you do find out some “interesting” things about your ex. My ex husband had some shady sh** he was hiding.
Charlotte will not tolerate the erasure of bisexuals LOL love her for it. The new space looks sick, Char! Happy for you babe
Ok, buts let's be honest with ourselves. Being bisexual isn't the real issue. Broadening the field of what you're sexually attracted to doesn't change the fact you're cheating if the other person thinks it's an exclusive relationship.
Right… I’m always irked when people jump straight to “he’s GAY” when a dude cheats with a man… like, bisexuality exists and bisexuals can be trash too lmao😂😂 I can say that, I’m bi
As my mother would say. "Why buy the cow when the milk is free." Don't sell yourself short ladies
GF: I saw you in a restaurant with another woman!
BF: No you didn't, which one of your friends told you that?
GF: I saw you with another woman!
BF: No you didn't.
GF: Yes I was there.
BF: These are not the droids you're looking for🤔... 💐♥️🧀😎🐈⬛😼🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️🇪🇺🇺🇦🇮🇱🇵🇸💐
There is NEVER an excuse to cheat. I don't care what "reasons" you have. If you feel the need to step out then frikin just STEP AWAY! I know relationships can sometimes be difficult, I've been with my husband for over 35 years, but one thing we do is talk, discuss, and be grown up enough to keep things in the open. Once the trust is gone then so is the relationship.
Life is more complicated than that. Generally I'd always condemn cheating but I can think of cases where I approve.
I know someone who was in a very abusive and controling relationship with a man who constantly put her down. Her confidence was through the floor and she truly believed she wouldn't be able to make it a day on her own. On top of that they had two kids and she didn't want to uproot their lives as well.
In the end she met someone outside of the relationship. She wasn't out to cheat but it just evolved after meeting someone who treated her with dignity. Eventually they restored her own self confidence and showed her she was worth more than the footwipe her boyfriend turned her into through gaslighting and manipulation. After all she left the relationship because the other guy made her feel she could actually take care of herself and her kids.
Sometimes talking just isn't and option and people feel they can't just uproot their own lives and the lives of their family. I feel this is perfectly understandable.
@@ThePanMan11my friend was being punched by her husband with their barely one year old baby in the room. She cheated so that she could have someone willing to move her out ASAP while still helping provide protection for her and her child. Since we all know these women beaters are cowards and are afraid of raising their hands on another man. No one in her family would help her and her in laws knew about the abuse. I think within abuse is the only time cheating is more out of survival than wanting an itch to scratch
@@wiggilytaco7570 Exactly. I just don't like this whole black and white business.
We're not jedi and this isn't the force. There's nuance.
@@wiggilytaco7570 The guy who provided protection doesn't sound that great if she had to be dating him in order for him to protect her from her abusive husband. Having support to get out of abuse doesn't mean you need to cheat.
The husband deserved nothing and to be stomped into the ground.
But why does someone need to be dating another person to help? They sound just as manipulative as the [hopefully ex] husband. To take advantage of a woman who is just trying to protect her baby.
Cheating in an abusive relationship can also be very dangerous for the one in the relationship. Though abusers are cowards, all it takes is for them to find out while their victim is with them without their affair partner.
@@ThePanMan11@SatanicDumbDumb Nope, cheating is still wrong. Sad that that's what it took for your friend to feel worthy, but it was still wrong of her to cheat. The "I don't want to uproot my family" is also not an excuse and is the most common excuse used by married men that cheat.
Jaysus. This makes me ever so glad that I have 43 years of good memories. I haven't missed out on having that one great relationship and I feel zero need to >gag< date. I did have someone (a woman) ask me if I was going to date - about two months after my husband passed away. "Oh, fer shur", [sucking a tooth] "I'ma get right on that..."
Nope.
Thank you for your videos Charlotte!!! ❤ I absolutely adore you!
thank you for being here!
This further reinforces my decision to no longer date. It's been a drama free almost 13 years and it's been fantastic!
“YOU DON’T GOTTA LIE, TO KICK IT!” 👊🏼 Trying to have _just a conversation_ with a pathological liar, is literally the worst. I cannot imagine dating, or even _marrying_ a PL… I’m telling you, if you know how to recognize them, their company becomes old _real quick!_ ✌🏼
LOVE LOVE LOVE your content! You keep it up, Sis! Happy for you on the new digs and wanted to make minor suggestion since you asked abt the new filming space. Everything is warm...your smile, you hair, your heart, your skin tone and all the background lighting & the wall...we need some contrast, babe, to help your loveliness shine even brighter. So please consider popping in some cooler tones as an accent color and see what you think. Big hugs from Texas!
Ooh I agree! Maybe some blue or green to contrast her striking red.
Something I’ve learned on the ol’ interwebz: if a body has to say that they’re good (“I’m a good guy”, try to pull a Rick Astley, etc.), they’re the furthest thing. I hope the other woman in the second story is okay. Glad she reported his useless ass
Yeah, I have learned if someone has to explain what they are (i.e. a good person, a giving person, a loyal person, and etc), than they generally aren't.
I genuinely could never even think of cheating on my beautiful and amazing wife (were not married yet lol) and I struggle with intrusive thoughts yall really out here doing the most
2:36 bros gotta full time job trying not to get caught.
I’ve been with my husband for over 20 years and it’s been rough health wise. I’ve had many struggles. I recently had a major surgery. During the surgery, something went wrong and my lungs collapsed. The left did so more than 3 times. I still have trouble breathing. His co-worker actually said to him “that most men would have left by now….” Who would say that to someone while their wife is laying in the hospital unconscious?!!?!?!
I've known people who would rather climb a 50 foot tree to tell a lie, when they could have just stayed on the ground and told the truth.
I just wanted to say that I am new to your channel and so far I love it. I love the petty and you’re teaching me how to be a great Petty queen. I would love to see merch wise a rainbow petty fan case I’m feeling a little extra Petty some days .
Welcome to this channel, 1 of the best I've found, best community here, I get lost reading the comments half the time,hardly trolls, best entertainment, my kids love her!! Been following for 2yrs and she still has Soo much material I'm not caught up.
I was in the exact situation with the first woman. My ex used our holiday pictures on dating websites, but he didn't bother scratching my face out 😂😂😂
"I usually end up falling in love with them and they dont love me back" GIRL SAME 😂
These stories make me realise just how toxic my first boyfriend was. We were together for 3 and half years then split up for a year then back together for another 3 and a half years and engaged both times. I had never had a boyfriend before him so i had no idea what a relationship was meant to be like. I just believed everything and found out he cheated multiple times. I found out a few of them at the time but he convined me he wasnt and it was my fault i didnt believe him. There are many many more things but this just makes me realise how gulible i was.
Join the crowd. I married a pathological liar. He wasn’t busy cheating but he managed to lie about everything else.
Loving the new angle and backdrop! You look great queen!!! 🎉❤
I was thinking “red flag, who doesn’t have any social media” then immediately realized, your husband of the last 20 years only has a LinkedIn account 😂
Best thing about my ex wife cheating on me is the fact I've got the kids, the house and she repeatedly goes to jail for not paying child support.
Love your profile pic, mate!
Love the longer videos ❤
3:47 Charlotte slapped TF out of those fingers 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Yyyyyyyyyyyy’s
The No eyes thing made me realize how hard it would be for a blind person to be out in this dating chest pool Really need a strong support system around u
*cesspool and it's fine. The disability is a great filter, when done we get the fetishist, those reaching for the "lowest of the low" hanging fruit and actually nice guys.
Some people are fine with the fetishist if they have a true care fetish rather than a hit and dip fetish, some fall for the ones reaching for the low hanging fruit or those thinking disability comes with worshipping their foolish ass or money they can get out of us.
I, personally, have never got a bad guy but I don't date extremely cautiously and steer clear of all fetishists.
Dude straight tried the jedi mind trick, "you did not see me with Hailey." 👋
i think we should normalize being honest with our friends and family when their eyelashes have just gone wayyyyy to far.
is there a support group for this?...like lashes anonymous or something?
😂😂😂!
Lol! 😂😂
Minding your business is free. If they need advice on being basic then I'm sure they'll receive your advice well, though.🥴
@@squarebear619Do you realize you just did the exact same thing you're accusing the OP of? 😂 Could mind your business and keep scrolling, but, no 😅
SERIOUSLY!!!
Once I found that some of these men were in Tampa. As a Tampanian, that tracks. Tampa is home of the scammers.
In my dating days (I'm in my 70's now) I never accepted that a man I just met should pay for my meal on the first dates. For me, this always created a falsely intimate situation where the woman invariably ends up feeling like she owes something to the guy (and we all know that's not money😐). Since I didn't know the guy's character yet, I wanted to feel free to just get up and go if it wasn't going according to my values and taste.