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Комментарии • 2 тыс.

  • @roxiepoe9586
    @roxiepoe9586 9 месяцев назад +780

    They aren't cheating on "Someone they love". They are cheating on someone who loves them. Cheating and Love do not live in the same relationship.

    • @C.Church
      @C.Church 9 месяцев назад

      Yeah, women def cheat but when men do it they're collecting people. And the ones they've made official are also just part of the collection. Those types of guys don't have women they love. They have part of a set.

    • @wise_girl9388
      @wise_girl9388 9 месяцев назад +30

      Agreed. If you truly love someone, you would never even consider cheating on them.

    • @teri2466
      @teri2466 7 месяцев назад +17

      I want to know why most of them try so hard to keep the girl they cheated on. Why???

    • @TheJemstar28
      @TheJemstar28 6 месяцев назад +3

      Touché

    • @iinkonscreen
      @iinkonscreen 5 месяцев назад +13

      ​@@teri2466 Mostly there are two reasons: one is that they like the safety of a secure relationship, often they benefit financially. The second reason is that they like to feel clever, cheaters like the game of cheating, the thinking about lies, the tension etc. they like to be superior in some way in the relationship

  • @calliejoy2021
    @calliejoy2021 5 месяцев назад +1

    i fully believe that that man lied about his birthday so that he wouldn’t have to worry about seeing his mistress on his actual birthday, or coming up with excuses to anyone. This man was absolutely planning on continuing this double life charade LONG TERM, even after JUST getting married. what a terrible human being.

  • @ericcarbonell9927
    @ericcarbonell9927 2 месяца назад

    For every person cheating, there is another person cheating with them. Usually they know would know if they really wanted to know.

  • @ABSeasCruiseAndTravel4U
    @ABSeasCruiseAndTravel4U Месяц назад

    Absolutely! Women should protect other women!!! If you 100% know a man is cheating and you have proof you can show....don't gossip, just go to the woman and tell her! Let her then choose what to do with her future!

  • @ruthboyd6539
    @ruthboyd6539 9 месяцев назад

    Love all the B99 clips, the editor been watching it recently? ;)

  • @jennifermcmillan9518
    @jennifermcmillan9518 9 месяцев назад

    Cheating is so gross. No telling what kind of nastiness they’re bringing home to their partner. You know you’re SUPPOSED to stop dating once you get married.

  • @inthedarkanonymous5625
    @inthedarkanonymous5625 4 месяца назад

    For some reason, this reminded me of a cashier at the grocery chain I worked for.
    One night at almost- closing, the store was mostly empty and only one cashier remained.
    A man stepped up to her lane, unzipped and exposed himself. She reached down subtly for the #2 (weighs a pound) can she kept for this purpose and kept it hovering over his appendage.
    He suddenly didn’t want cigarettes anymore and as he fled, she called after him: Would you like that in a bag, Sir?

  • @Peridotandfrog
    @Peridotandfrog 9 месяцев назад +1

    When I was 19 years old I was seeing this guy and he was 24 btw. He said he was in collage and he lived with his mom still so I never went in his house and we went to mine. We went on several dates too btw.
    I later get a message from his fiancé, who was heavily pregnant by the way 😅. She found out messages on his phone and I spilled the tea to her. Her and I were friends for a while.
    She stayed with him for awhile cuz of the kid but eventually they broke up.
    Fast forward to now I’m 24 and I see him on dating apps still and he says he has no kids on his profile 🤣🤣

  • @skatardrummer1
    @skatardrummer1 9 месяцев назад

    One relationship is enough work. Why would someone want 2, let alone 6+ 😂 seriously, can you imagine having to spend that much time and effort into covering lies? Like isn't life difficult enough on its own?

  • @missyscarborough1301
    @missyscarborough1301 8 месяцев назад

    AND… if you aren’t even married yet….. it’s a NO to “working on it”
    You got nothing to work on. The relationship you think you are saving never existed.

  • @JustAGrrrrl
    @JustAGrrrrl 9 месяцев назад

    *shopping for a smartwatch*
    y'all, wish me luck. My gut tells me what he's hiding isn't a nice suprise and there's 27 years on the line 😢

  • @debbysouthworth5606
    @debbysouthworth5606 9 месяцев назад +1

    I've had close personal experience with this. It's been my experience that the harder they fight the gay label, the more likely it's true. It's a self hating thing. They can't own up to who they are.

  • @Daomus
    @Daomus 9 месяцев назад

    9:38 chasitysoules Is a super upstanding for telling the wife the truth instead of letting her live in ignorance

  • @cazkiwinz4300
    @cazkiwinz4300 9 месяцев назад

    No, the only response should be: “No thanks, I’m not interested” 6:56

  • @BreeS-zd5rx
    @BreeS-zd5rx 9 месяцев назад +2072

    The gaslighting with these guys! "How dare you believe your own eyes over me!" And then, "But you haven't been around as much, so it's your fault!" THE AUDACITY.

    • @shortiejayyy
      @shortiejayyy 9 месяцев назад +32

      My now ex said something like that after I'd already over a period of time tried expressing things to him and telling him I'd been feeling alone etc. I had found a text thread through an app and confronted him. He went on to say "I had to cause I've been feeling alone" yadda yadda pretty much what I told him and he said he "went live" trying to tell people. 😒😝

    • @erikarussell1142
      @erikarussell1142 9 месяцев назад +32

      That was my ex husband. I had photographic proof and he told me to my face it wasn’t him. Lol I said ok shaggy.

    • @erikarussell1142
      @erikarussell1142 9 месяцев назад +12

      @@shortiejayyy they really be out here doing the most…

    • @kaitlincox9714
      @kaitlincox9714 9 месяцев назад +27

      Lol mine said "if you believe what you see on the phone then you can't believe in God." I actually laughed because wtf does God have to do with the proof I found? Hmmm the maths not mathing for me sweetheart. Marrying a narcissist really makes you grow a back bone. I'd thank him but why give him the ego boost.

    • @melindaroop1346
      @melindaroop1346 9 месяцев назад +13

      Its always our fault. They never take responsibility for their own actions.

  • @MalcolmReynoldsQuotes
    @MalcolmReynoldsQuotes 9 месяцев назад +3960

    I love how Charlotte mentioned the first woman’s contour because I was surprised it looked so subtle too 😂

    • @erikarussell1142
      @erikarussell1142 9 месяцев назад +291

      OMG I even said out loud, girl that is too dark… and then I was absolutely gob smacked 😮

    • @dinasilva9263
      @dinasilva9263 9 месяцев назад +115

      Oh God my makeup never looks that good. I'm awful at makeup 😂

    • @Fluffy-Fluffy
      @Fluffy-Fluffy 9 месяцев назад +38

      Yeah I was so surprised at that too lol

    • @erikarussell1142
      @erikarussell1142 9 месяцев назад

      @@dinasilva9263 yeah I only do blush highlighter and some contour eye creases. And mascara. I am not so graceful.

    • @Americangirlsp75
      @Americangirlsp75 9 месяцев назад +64

      Yes!!! I was like woah, wayyyyyy to dark…so surprised 🤯🤷‍♀️🤪

  • @se7nn1120
    @se7nn1120 9 месяцев назад +785

    My mom told my brothers that if they cheat on their spouse she'll disown them.
    This is the same woman who claims she's not afraid to rat out her children to the police if they (we) ever do something illegal.

    • @achildofgodsanchez9608
      @achildofgodsanchez9608 9 месяцев назад +113

      Lol All we can do is raise our children the best we can & serve as good examples, but if our children turn out to be disgusting or horrible people it’s not our fault. They need to be held accountable. So good on her.

    • @wise_girl9388
      @wise_girl9388 9 месяцев назад +88

      Your mom sounds amazing! There needs to be more moms like her, to be honest.

    • @simply_csea
      @simply_csea 9 месяцев назад +51

      My mom was that kinda mom too. From a young age she said she’s not bailing us out if we ever get into jail because she raised us better than to put ourselves in that kind of position

    • @adeliecn1763
      @adeliecn1763 8 месяцев назад +24

      A friend asked me once what I would do if my ex (then bf) cheated on me. I told her I’d rat him out to his mom, and let her take care of the dirty work. Of course, she raised him right so he never cheated.

    • @debasmitasasmal8586
      @debasmitasasmal8586 8 месяцев назад +8

      My ex-fiance's mom asked him to find some other girl since I know everything now and will hold things against him, when I caught him cheating and told about that to his family. I wish she did something right, like your mom did!

  • @carolynwhite9313
    @carolynwhite9313 9 месяцев назад +322

    I was cheated on. One of the things that hurt most was how many people knew and I was walking around ignorant. So embarrassing.

    • @b00ksrb3tt3rthanppl
      @b00ksrb3tt3rthanppl 9 месяцев назад +48

      shame on those people babes. throw them away too. you deserve better!!!

    • @littlebobas9656
      @littlebobas9656 8 месяцев назад +12

      Yup.....this was me last March. Damn near destroyed me

    • @keittykit
      @keittykit 7 месяцев назад +19

      It hurts especially when their family knows and just doesn't care or say anything despite being seemingly close to you

    • @TerraDactyl-hc9ff
      @TerraDactyl-hc9ff 6 месяцев назад +10

      People fucking suck. I’ve had the same happen to me. I don’t speak to those people

    • @trout512
      @trout512 5 месяцев назад +11

      I mean, it's embarrassing for them, not you. Could you imagine being such a spineless coward that you'd cover up for a cheater? You have nothing to feel embarrassed about, it'd be like feeling embarrassed you got t-boned at an intersection. Other peoples' actions and failures are not yours to feel shame about. Unless you're a parent/guardian but I'd that's a different scenario.

  • @davidguidry657
    @davidguidry657 9 месяцев назад +1202

    Point of clarification Miss Charlotte? People don’t cheat on people they love! They cheat on people that love them! 😔😢

    • @clairechotteau6461
      @clairechotteau6461 9 месяцев назад +69

      That's true and makes it that much worse. It's hard afterwards to shake the feeling of being unworthy of sincere love.

    • @erikarussell1142
      @erikarussell1142 9 месяцев назад +37

      Truer words have never been spoken my friend.

    • @erinnichols4866
      @erinnichols4866 9 месяцев назад +16

      Yessssss

    • @justhearmeout3959
      @justhearmeout3959 9 месяцев назад +17

      Mic DROP!!!!!!!

    • @erikarussell1142
      @erikarussell1142 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@clairechotteau6461 therapy Helps. It helped me recognize it was a them problem and not a me problem. It’s a condition of the heart. Theirs is broken. I had never been in a relationship where I hadn’t been cheated on. I got single, stayed single for six years. Sought out therapy, worked on myself, became my own partner and spoiled myself and my kid. Then I met my future husband and realized he was me in male form. He loves me like I’ve never been loved. It’s honestly never too late. But being single can be beautiful too. If you embrace it and allow it to be. I enjoyed being single a lot. But I absolutely am head over heels in love with my future husband. And I can honestly say he is for me as well. I used to wish I could see love under a microscope. To prove that someone, anyone had actually loved me. Including my cheating lying ex husband. But I no longer think that way. Because love is shown. Not said. It’s the actions and the little things that speak volumes that words never could. Be the love you wish to see and love will follow. Be that in your family dynamic, friendships, or lovers. It’s true in all aspects. Be always keep yourself guarded. Don’t let this world Jade that beautiful heart my friend. Much love bestie 🫶🏼

  • @madidear
    @madidear 9 месяцев назад +1757

    As a single woman who occasionally gets bummed about not having a special someone THESE ARE MY FAVORITE VIDEOS THANK YOU CHARLOTTE!!!!! nothing helps me appreciate being single like hearing about cheaters.

    • @DM27995
      @DM27995 9 месяцев назад +23

      Ikr 😂

    • @bobbii
      @bobbii 9 месяцев назад +20

      Same ✊️

    • @absurdious
      @absurdious 9 месяцев назад +5

      Schadenfreude

    • @Enriquez2222
      @Enriquez2222 9 месяцев назад

      It’s the cheating, various types of abuse, baby trapping, just numerous things. Bring single is just a breeze lol

    • @Erica-sg1de
      @Erica-sg1de 9 месяцев назад +26

      True 👍 also makes me realize I could be a nightmare of a partner without therapy because of my rejection sensitivity and anxious attachment 😂

  • @GingeRenee
    @GingeRenee 9 месяцев назад +479

    I really think it’s sweet when a woman finds out the guy hitting on her is married and then tells the wife. It’s brave and the right thing to do so the wife can consent to being with a man running around or not. Cheating puts the partner in harms way with the possibility of passing an std to them. It’s not fair.

    • @PanRiddle1
      @PanRiddle1 9 месяцев назад +21

      Yes, plus even if it was an open relationship and the partner has given their consent, it wouldn't do any harm, right?^^ buuut if there was no consent, you may save someone from being with a cheating a-hole^^

    • @itscaityo
      @itscaityo 9 месяцев назад +13

      Me too, because that’s exactly how I found out my ex was cheating lol Forever indebted to the girl who told me because I’m not sure how long it would have taken me to figure it out on my own.. he was clever and I was trusting 🥴

    • @KitKat10281
      @KitKat10281 5 месяцев назад +3

      ​@@itscaityo I knew my ex-husband was cheating on me, a LOT, but never could "prove" it while we were together - it all came out after we were no longer together - but I WISH any one of tge many girls had come to me at any time during the marriage. Would have saved me 18 years of wasted time! I'd never have been mad at a girl for telling me - it's not HER fault that a married man stepped out! It's shady when they know he's married and help him hide it from his wife!

    • @Kelli-ru7yy
      @Kelli-ru7yy 2 месяца назад

      I wish whoever was cheating with my ex told me. I remember some nurse was flirting with my ex husband, ignoring me. In my native culture, we speak nonverballly with our eyes. My ex (Whose not part of my culture) didn't know this. My ex and this nurse had been talking before I walked in the room (I was pregnanton a prenatal visit). The other native lady in the room looked mad. She looked at me, and then directed her eyes to the two. I was confused at the time. But that lady was REALLY flirting with my ex. Flipping her hair around and everything. Well, there were signs he was cheating. First, he told me I wasn't sexually attractive. Then he would welcome conversations with other women all the time. (Even after I gave freaking labor). My last straw was his constant accusations of me cheating.
      But he gaslit me so much.
      He accused me of cheating so much. I had enough. The last time he accused me with boxing instructor. Yeah he was so suspicious of the mma and boxing dudes, but those dudes ain't my type. I like to be friends with them but have ZERO romantic interest. (Then tend to be callous with no romance.)
      So I broke up with him after that accusations. Keep in mind he was accusing me for years. If I brought up it felt like he was cheating on me ( i rarely did this) He would gaslight and blame shift to ne that I'm the one cheating.
      Dude had to have cheated on me.
      I just want some clarity.

    • @stpfs9281
      @stpfs9281 2 месяца назад

      Saw a guy in an expensive car near his bosses house, he avoided my gaze and looked worried.
      I asked the boss if he'd had a meeting at home, no, he was with a client, ouch, best in the open, he was betrayed by his employee (who had to find another job).

  • @nalublackwater9729
    @nalublackwater9729 9 месяцев назад +87

    I wanna thank the third girl for going straight to the wife and spill the beans. Cheaters should ALWAYS get outted.

  • @benjamincundiff9813
    @benjamincundiff9813 9 месяцев назад +187

    I'm a guy who was cheated on by my (now) ex-wife. She was chronically depressed and I encouraged her to hang out with her friends. Turns out, one of those friends was a guy she took an interest in. The part that makes my stomach turn even 14+ years later is that we had sex at least once after she started cheating...
    I'm in a happier place now, but it was definitely a learning process and a healing process. Best of luck to anybody who goes through similar.
    Know that it's not your fault.

    • @kzmultiversalstudios4556
      @kzmultiversalstudios4556 8 месяцев назад +3

      Ive been in 6 long term relationships within my lifetime I'm 24 out of 6 of those 4 cheated and 1 Ghosted the other we broke up due to long distance she moved across the country for school i stay in our hometown differing from college because of some family issues with health

    • @KitKat10281
      @KitKat10281 5 месяцев назад +4

      Found out after our divorce (I'd suspected all along, but he was clever, and I could never "prove" it during our marriage) that my husband of almost 18 years had been cheating on me on and off with many, MANY women through the whole relationship.😢

    • @toritorittaja4394
      @toritorittaja4394 5 месяцев назад

      ​@@kzmultiversalstudios4556 6 and you are only 24 ? If you meet constantly cheaters the problem is you . I am 44 believe me when I say trust needs to be earned and also usually dishonest people always from day one tell you who they are - you just don't want to listen. I was in your " shoes" you need to learn to read people and learn to be by yourself until you find a lifetime partner.

  • @dianan9512
    @dianan9512 9 месяцев назад +217

    The lying about the birthdate was probably so that he could celebrate his birthday with his real family and have the day free, not get caught by other girls in case they tried to surprise him on his fake bday. Guessing he learned from a past experience

    • @carolr7333
      @carolr7333 9 месяцев назад +28

      True! Also, makes it easier to claim that dude on the dating site is "Not me"

    • @stpfs9281
      @stpfs9281 2 месяца назад +2

      He had multiple accounts, he has a deep problem, stay away.

  • @ZMich8
    @ZMich8 9 месяцев назад +403

    I never understood the opinion of not telling someone that they are being cheated on

    • @ms.tinygiant
      @ms.tinygiant 9 месяцев назад +34

      I’ve never understood it either

    • @Sar-ahG
      @Sar-ahG 9 месяцев назад +12

      I think they should be given the choice to tell them themselves with a reasonable amount, amount of time, and if they don’t you tell them…

    • @Sar-ahG
      @Sar-ahG 9 месяцев назад +9

      So you don’t have to be part of the drama….

    • @LikeDemDreads
      @LikeDemDreads 9 месяцев назад +40

      @@Sar-ahGI bet these gaslighters would just use that time to come up with an excuse. They could block the person they cheated with from their partners phone and social media. They could lay a backstory.
      If he cheated, what would compel him to suddenly be honest when he could just go on being a lying prick by covering it up?

    • @gigilarigi3132
      @gigilarigi3132 9 месяцев назад +16

      Because you’ll always be seen as the person who delivered the bad news. I knew two of the best friends there ever were. They were soul sisters…until one of them saw the others man out with another woman and told her about it. There was a huge blow up and they’re no longer friends. It sent the girl who told her bf into a tailspin and she’s never been the same since. So no…I’m a crappy friend but I’m not gonna be the bearer of bad news.

  • @Lorri6239
    @Lorri6239 9 месяцев назад +742

    I was married for 20yrs. We had 3 children together. We had a great marriage, great friendship. It all fell apart so quickly, within the span of 6mths, I found out what he'd been up to for years. I asked him to leave, and as I was trying to pick up the pieces of my life friends came telling me how they knew etc. Needless to say I not only lost my husband, but I also let go of a handful of close friends. They were shocked that I ended the friendships, but like I told them, you lied to me daily just as much as he did. Sometimes when I think back to those hard days, I'm often more upset at my friends for not coming forward. I now tell everyone, please just tell your friend. You aren't doing it to "cause drama" etc, you're doing it for the love of your friend. I will forever wish someone had told me yrs before.

    • @daisy9910
      @daisy9910 9 месяцев назад +103

      They were rubbish friends. I'm gad you threw everyone who lied to you in the rubbish where they belong.

    • @Frecks-n-Specks
      @Frecks-n-Specks 9 месяцев назад +67

      Girl same here. We were friends for years before we got together and were married for years. Totalling like 20yrs. Caught him cheating and that was the end. My BF was married to his BF. Well, we all stayed friends by x & I never being there at the same time. Then he started taking the woman he cheated with over there & my BF would blow them both up. I told her it wasn't necessary but she's ride or die. God I love that woman! It caused so much strain in their marriage they almost got divorced. I ended up removing myself from their lives because I didn't think it was fair to them. I'm still friends with both of them but not close close friends like before.
      Cheating is vile and cheaters don't understand that it hurts more than just the SO. There's a special place in hell for cheaters

    • @achildofgodsanchez9608
      @achildofgodsanchez9608 9 месяцев назад +40

      Agreed, they allowed you to waste precious amounts of time on a parasite. Not true friends at all..

    • @fruitgum9619
      @fruitgum9619 9 месяцев назад +21

      real friends tell the truth and look out for you! I'm so sorry you went through that and basically just wasted a huge chunk of your life :( that was selfish on them.

    • @Lorri6239
      @Lorri6239 9 месяцев назад

      ***Addition....... after all the dust settled from dealing with the cheating ex, one very close friend of mine, who had chosen to ignore me and stay friends with my ex. She called one day (about 6mths later) saying she was sorry for believing him. That him and his gf were crazy and she wanted to have our friendship back. I will never forget that moment. I missed her so much, but without hesitation I said "no, I can't restart our friendship ". She got mad, tried to gaslight me. But something in me said "you don't deserve this". I stood my ground, thanked her for the friendship we had, and hung up. It was so hard to do and I cried. But how dare she come back?! Her and I were friends for yrs. I still miss her all these yrs later, but I don't regret my decision. Maybe it was wrong, but it's what I had to do.😢

  • @EmptyTheTanks
    @EmptyTheTanks 9 месяцев назад +119

    Pro tip; if you ever think to yourself “I should loyalty test my partner” there’s already a problem. What are they doing that makes you think that?

    • @monroerobbins7551
      @monroerobbins7551 6 месяцев назад +12

      Yeah, it’s like searching up a “am I gay” quiz. Like, if the question is there, it’s either an external issue or an internal one, but that means there’s a blip on the radar: the question is if it’s from outside or inside the house

  • @Ariantia
    @Ariantia 9 месяцев назад +95

    I have thankfully never been cheated on, but I know for a fact that I couldn't "work through it" if someone did cheat on me. The trust would be irrevocably gone, there's no coming back from that!

    • @Just-Nikki
      @Just-Nikki 9 месяцев назад +14

      Agreed. I fortunately haven’t been cheated on but I don’t know how people stay. No judgment, it’s their choice to make but I couldn’t be intimate with that person or trust them again.

  • @vicaliarr
    @vicaliarr 9 месяцев назад +274

    I’d send that fiancé a funeral announcement of our relationship if you wanna so casually say I died.

    • @beepboop97
      @beepboop97 9 месяцев назад +26

      I'd send it to everyone we knew inviting them to the wake 😂

    • @lasagnewolf
      @lasagnewolf 9 месяцев назад +8

      I was thinking the same thing! 😅

    • @2late4date
      @2late4date 9 месяцев назад +13

      ​@@beepboop97I hope there will be champagne and "it's too late to apologize" by Timbaland and "I'll survive" by Gloria Gaynor will be on rotation. 😂

    • @VB-ff1dr
      @VB-ff1dr 9 месяцев назад +1

      😂😂

    • @beepboop97
      @beepboop97 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@2late4date LOL I will survive 😭😭😭

  • @kathleenmacdonald5511
    @kathleenmacdonald5511 9 месяцев назад +278

    I have never been in a relationship where I was NOT cheated on and eventually quit believing I could ever find a man who loved me and only me so I quit looking for love 32 years ago. I am 64 now. I didn't really think I would be alone for 3 decades but when I set the criteria that they have to be honest and true, no one ever fit the bill and I refuse to be one of those women who will settle (anymore). I deserve to be loved as I love. Why put up with less than that. I used to say that if I could find someone who loves me as much as my dog loves me (I am "it" for him) then I would pursue the relationship but my dog is a better partner in life than any man I have ever known. Sad but true.

    • @erikarussell1142
      @erikarussell1142 9 месяцев назад +34

      Good for you. My mother is the same way. Men her age and yours are single for a reason. Hell, even my age at 40. 😂 the dating pool becomes stagnant after so many years… then it’s just a farting cesspool. I’m so blessed and grateful to have found my future husband. He’s the best person I’ve ever met. Don’t settle. Refuse to be anything but loved and prioritized over anything else. And know your worth. I love this for you queen. ❤
      ETA: I’ve also never been in a relationship I’ve never been cheated on. Until now. I stayed single and true to myself for six years and became my own partner. Then I got real lucky. So it’s never too late honestly, but again, I love this for you. Be happy in your singldome. It can be absolutely beautiful if you embrace it and allow it to be.

    • @KrystyneY
      @KrystyneY 9 месяцев назад +15

      I had a similar situation. I stopped dating in 2007.

    • @SilverstreamPJ28
      @SilverstreamPJ28 9 месяцев назад +33

      My grandma has been widowed for 10 years, the family has asked her if she plans to date again and she says men ain't 💩, so no thanks 😂😂😂 I think you got it right

    • @PlainOlCourtney
      @PlainOlCourtney 9 месяцев назад +26

      After so many years of treating yourself like royalty, male or female, it's soooo hard to find someone to meet and exceed your standards. Keep spoiling yourself, babes.

    • @erikarussell1142
      @erikarussell1142 9 месяцев назад +6

      @@PlainOlCourtney fully agreed!!!

  • @Liz_Lizille
    @Liz_Lizille 9 месяцев назад +63

    If you can't stay loyal, stay single.
    - Charlotte Dobré

  • @Helen-ch1gb
    @Helen-ch1gb 9 месяцев назад +55

    I met my husband in high school, we were best friends for 6yrs before we started dating, dated/lived together for 2yrs. When we hear these horror stories, we are so damn grateful we found each other. Prayers to all you brave enough to be in the dating pool, good luck to all! I really hope you all find your person that loves you each as you deserve!

    • @olikah4667
      @olikah4667 6 месяцев назад +1

      ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @kristinadjurfors8280
    @kristinadjurfors8280 9 месяцев назад +36

    Loved the woman who told the wife🙌🙌 That takes some guts to do that. He saying divorced for 6 months and was married for 6 months. She actually saved this wife for spending time on an awful idiot. Now this hurt woman could move on and find a good man, because the one she married wasn’t a man. Well done gorgeous girl 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🥳🤩

  • @jenajackson1933
    @jenajackson1933 9 месяцев назад +139

    It is actually so sad that all six of those women never responded. That is the kind of world that we live in today.. how sad

    • @ms.tinygiant
      @ms.tinygiant 9 месяцев назад +8

      Agree. Just sad.

    • @mar-shagazorpazorp6431
      @mar-shagazorpazorp6431 9 месяцев назад +29

      I’ll never understand! The risk of STI’s alone. And I mean the scary kind that don’t surface for years 🤦‍♀️

    • @TheBaumcm
      @TheBaumcm 9 месяцев назад

      @@mar-shagazorpazorp6431took a friend to get tested as a group because she was afraid and we were worried for her. I hadn’t even had a serious boyfriend and was not hooking up so I told the nurse so when she took me back, explaining that I expected no issues and why. She told me the craziest story. A nurse had come in for HIV testing due to needle stick but the panel runs them all. It came back with all the big bads, including Hepatits C, at the time untreatable. That was how the poor woman found out her husband was cheating.

    • @TheBaumcm
      @TheBaumcm 9 месяцев назад +9

      Agreed. I get they feel ashamed maybe and don’t want to be put on blast, especially if they truly didn’t know or never had it confirmed and just dipped. Many wives will blame the side piece rather than the dude. However, he’s obviously been telling wifey that everything is fine, when she probably had red flags galore so it is your duty to take that self centered, insecure, ego driven man down and be honest. Yes, I was with him. Yes I knew or no I didn’t.

    • @4kach24
      @4kach24 7 месяцев назад +1

      I kinda understand them,even though it's not the right thing to do
      After my bf cheated on me,I contacted the girl he did it with
      Even though we were both f-d up by him,she got angry at me eventually, even though I was compassionate and gentle with the bad news
      Maybe they didn't want to be involved in the drama and emotionally invest and just made their own assumptions
      What can they do, if it's already known that he cheated
      If there was some kind of legal issue, I would like someone else's help in that matter (like some kind of additional proof)

  • @cassiehannah
    @cassiehannah 9 месяцев назад +475

    Mike will never cheat because he actually loves and respects you. You're a queen!

    • @KrystyneY
      @KrystyneY 9 месяцев назад +14

      That means nothing.

    • @lotstodo
      @lotstodo 9 месяцев назад +14

      I wonder if we will see a ring after the holidays...

    • @Softsqueakyduck
      @Softsqueakyduck 9 месяцев назад +37

      And he knows Charlotte's Potats would hunt him down.

    • @argrette
      @argrette 9 месяцев назад +8

      @@Softsqueakyduckexactly 😂

    • @cassiehannah
      @cassiehannah 9 месяцев назад +5

      @@KrystyneY ???

  • @shristitripathy4159
    @shristitripathy4159 9 месяцев назад +191

    I once dated a guy when I was 16. We were pretty close, we talked every day and almost saw each other every day as we went to the same cram class. We had a mutual friend who was a closer friend. After several months of happily dating, one fine day, that friend came to me and she told me, "hey, are u guys dating?" I thought she'd known all along so I laughed, thinking it was a joke. She then told me "he asked me out 3 days back, but I think something went on between u guys." I said "yea we've been dating for last 16 months. How can he just say that??" She shrugged and went.
    Tbh I already had my suspicions because he seemed emotionally distant. This reaffirmed it. So I decided to confront him. I told our mutual friend that I will ask him about this. When I went to him, HE asked ME to leave his life, because apparently he didn't talk to cheaters. I was utterly confused and at a loss of words. What kind of projection was that? I was very naive back then, so didn't argue much, I just cried, I told him I wasn't doing anything wrong and just left. (I regret it so much)
    Fast forward to a few days back. I had received a call from an unknown number. Turns out it was the girl (mutual friend). She ended up dating him and he turned out to be a huge huge douche bag. She called me to apologise as she felt apologetic after that incident. We ended up comparing notes and discovered numerous lies. He cheated on her multiple times, manipulated her and projected.He was and continues to be a jerk, I'm happy I dodged a bullet and now I have learnt an important lesson to grow a spine and stand up for myself

  • @megorex630
    @megorex630 9 месяцев назад +6

    I did marry (and divorce a pathological liar (and narcissistic sociopath) who also cheated on me the entire 4yrs we were together… cheaters DONT deserve love. As Rachel said “once a cheater always a cheater.” 20:46

  • @Suedepants100
    @Suedepants100 9 месяцев назад +10

    Just a reminder for you cheaters out there, there’s absolutely no reason you need to cheat on your partner if you’re lacking something in the relationship. Communication exists and it’s so easy to bring up to them what you feel you’re lacking and you can both then work on the relationship and make sure you’re both receiving and giving what you need to for the relationship to work equally. There’s never a good enough reason or excuse to cheat, and it’s never anyone else’s fault except yours (the cheaters).

  • @ms.tinygiant
    @ms.tinygiant 9 месяцев назад +62

    YES. Trust your gut but also get to know yourself enough that you learn the difference between a gut instinct and a trauma response because they can both feel the same and real. I know people can sabotage good relationships thinking they are listening to their gut when it’s a trauma response from the hurt they’ve been through before the person they are with currently. It’s something I’m still learning to differentiate myself. Good luck to you all ♥️

  • @UCKalu-np7lo
    @UCKalu-np7lo 9 месяцев назад +50

    Literally just earlier this week matched with a guy on hinge who said he was a resident physician in my city (keep in mind I’m a resident physician too). I check the hospital residency list online and he’s not on the list. I asked him and he ghosts me. These streets aren’t safe. Thank you Charlotte for the content. ❤

  • @ruthroberts8868
    @ruthroberts8868 9 месяцев назад +99

    I love that statement. Forcing someone into commitment does not guarantee their faithfulness. You cannot force someone to be loyal if they don’t want to be. You are wasting time, effort, and love. Move on.

  • @plvtoisaplanet
    @plvtoisaplanet 9 месяцев назад +21

    I’m glad Charlotte mentioned the contour in the first video! 😂 I got so distracted by it that I wasn’t even paying attention to the story and had to rewind a couple times 💀
    Like it was so dark and such an excessive amount, I was expecting the final result to be a disaster but somehow she made it work and looks amazing?? She’s a wizard!

  • @TheFreshPrinceOfSaiyans
    @TheFreshPrinceOfSaiyans 7 месяцев назад +7

    Every time I see women who are actually talented enough to be able to put on makeup competently I’m always in awe. So much work goes into it, and I’m always impressed. So many different brushes and products, it’s so intimidating to me. Y’all look incredible! 🥰

  • @yelhsasokolova8561
    @yelhsasokolova8561 9 месяцев назад +43

    Your partner "not being around and always leaving" is NOT an excuse to cheat. 😅 If you can't handle it, end the relationship. Is it really that hard?

  • @jenajackson1933
    @jenajackson1933 9 месяцев назад +132

    And it’s “I have a special talent-it’s cheating on people that LOVE ME”. A man that does that doesn’t love anyone but himself

    • @jacklow9611
      @jacklow9611 9 месяцев назад +6

      Truer words were never spoken!

    • @beautifulellie1223
      @beautifulellie1223 9 месяцев назад

      He doesn't even love himself actually. He may love the attention he gets, but if he truly loved himself, he wouldn't hurt anyone else. Hurt people hurt others.

  • @ramachandra776
    @ramachandra776 9 месяцев назад +218

    At some point you have to be amazed at the effort people put into cheating on , lying to and gaslighting their partner or fiancee . The last OP especially. How do you fake an entire conversation with your co-worker accusing him of impersonating you to cover up your crimes on Bumble . That is a level of pathological lying rarely even seen among cheaters . They as Charlotte put it , need to be sent straight to the garbage bin .

    • @lindashepard4621
      @lindashepard4621 9 месяцев назад +10

      That’s where my ex husband is, the garbage bin. Cheating, gas lighting, lying sob. He then married a mail order bride from the Philippines and after he retired they moved there. Good place for him, many many miles away

    • @cheyennebastian339
      @cheyennebastian339 9 месяцев назад +13

      I find it really messed up that people would actually go out of their way to help a cheater make up lies to help cover for them! It's honestly disgusting & it tells a lot about their character/morals. 😒🙄

    • @redeye1016
      @redeye1016 9 месяцев назад +5

      My ex was Exactly like this lol

    • @kathleenmacdonald5511
      @kathleenmacdonald5511 9 месяцев назад +2

      if you give them permission to cheat, that just takes all the allure out of sneaking around for them.

  • @NeomiCheon
    @NeomiCheon 9 месяцев назад +8

    This is why I’m scared of being in a relationship. Sometimes there aren’t red flags to go off of. They could be the most perfect thing in your eyes with no complications but the reality is something much different. It’s quite literally getting to the point where I’m scared of being loved altogether. Not by family or friends obviously but in a relationship…I can’t.

  • @brianm4178
    @brianm4178 9 месяцев назад +17

    For real... the editor deserves a raise 😂 the edits are just hilarious and that person is gold

  • @nikkid7838
    @nikkid7838 9 месяцев назад +67

    Unless the woman came out and said “Hey, I am hitting on you!” my husband would be clueless 😂😂

    • @succocide
      @succocide 9 месяцев назад +5

      Same lol, I am super oblivious to women flirting 😂

  • @amyzcosgrove4603
    @amyzcosgrove4603 9 месяцев назад +206

    Thank you Charlotte for this year of service and the sacrifices you’ve made for entertaining us!
    I wish everyone a Merry Christmas & happy holidays. And that everyone will find love in the New Year!!! ❤

    • @jasminepeach1453
      @jasminepeach1453 9 месяцев назад +5

      Same to you!

    • @desert_holly
      @desert_holly 9 месяцев назад +9

      Charlotte is quite honestly the best, isnt she!
      Merry Christmas to you too darlin! ❤

    • @CharlotteDobre
      @CharlotteDobre  9 месяцев назад +34

      Happy holidays!

    • @suzanneknudsen7916
      @suzanneknudsen7916 9 месяцев назад +1

      Merry Christmas Charlotte and have a wonderful New Year!!!

    • @dianethomson3912
      @dianethomson3912 9 месяцев назад +1

      Merry Christmas and I hope you have a great new year 🎉

  • @ahoward3503
    @ahoward3503 9 месяцев назад +64

    My boyfriend had a hard time at the beginning of our relationship because his previous long term girlfriend cheated and lied. It really hurt him. So there were a few times he was sensitive or it took a while to trust I wouldn't hurt him the same way. I tried not to take it personally. Regaining the ability to trust another person and enter a relationship after being hurt so bad takes A LOT of work. It was a little rocky at first but he worked through it and we were able to move forward together. He and I have now happily been together 7years. To anyone who's been hurt, I hope you can heal and find the person in this world that sees the beauty and light in you and respects it. There is hope for better days and there is a special someone out there for you.

    • @sha78962
      @sha78962 9 месяцев назад +4

      Time only heals and develops but Time never forgives.

  • @eph2vv89only1way
    @eph2vv89only1way 9 месяцев назад +11

    Yes, I wanted to know when my ex was cheating. I always suspected anyway and with the first affair I beat myself up for thinking that way when he denied it. Knowing for sure vindicated me for thinking it.

  • @archivistsethia9594
    @archivistsethia9594 9 месяцев назад +34

    "Mind your own business!" about cheating people are shady. I don't trust anyone who wouldn't tell the other woman at least anonymously.

  • @xFREExLANDERx
    @xFREExLANDERx 9 месяцев назад +13

    I don’t think zero socials is a red flag…I got off 6 years ago because it was skewing my perception of reality & self worth. *spends 13 hours a day on RUclips *

    • @BexS77
      @BexS77 5 месяцев назад +1

      I do the same, watch you tube a lot, scroll Instagram and TikTok for stuff I’m interested in but have little to no personal presence on social media. For me, my timelines constantly seemed toxic, full of fakeness and vanity and virtue signalling and I just couldn’t be arsed with putting myself in the mix with all that crap. Love watching you tube tho lol There’s some amazing stuff on here, but you’ll be hard pushed to find a selfie of me 🤣 x❤

  • @jeremydavidson1420
    @jeremydavidson1420 9 месяцев назад +133

    this is why i am nervous to ever have a relationship. hence why i would rather stay single so thank you charlotte for another great video.

    • @BreeS-zd5rx
      @BreeS-zd5rx 9 месяцев назад +38

      Just remember that these videos highlight the worst of the worst. There really are good, loyal people out there, I promise.
      Not saying though that staying single isn't a valid choice, obviously.

    • @jeremydavidson1420
      @jeremydavidson1420 9 месяцев назад +9

      @@BreeS-zd5rx thank you i will keep that in mind and i hope you have a blessed day

    • @Sleipnirseight
      @Sleipnirseight 9 месяцев назад +11

      Honestly, just get a good therapist that you click with and keep seeing them regularly (once a week, once a month, whatever is appropriate for your needs). It's just good self care/maintenance, but especially if you're nervous about navigating relationships!

    • @GummyBearWA
      @GummyBearWA 9 месяцев назад +8

      A life ruled by fear. Sounds exhausting.

    • @elenawilliams32
      @elenawilliams32 9 месяцев назад +7

      'The squeaky wheel gets the oil'- (hence these horror stories) Most people find a loyal, happy and healthy relationship and don't do tiktoks about them. . Be honest, be yourself... And treat your special person the way you want to be treated. Love is worth it. Take care.

  • @libruh1798
    @libruh1798 5 месяцев назад +5

    Charlotte I’m going through it right now in my relationship and your videos have been bringing me so much comfort. Thank you and please keep being you.

  • @SaltyCrystal
    @SaltyCrystal 9 месяцев назад +7

    lmfao im glad you brought up that contour, b/c I was seriously giving that the side eye. I was trusting the process hahaha

  • @adriana27100
    @adriana27100 9 месяцев назад +90

    If people really believe being married means they won’t be cheated on, you are in for a big awakening!

    • @caljones
      @caljones 9 месяцев назад +11

      Yep, apparently my father cheated on my mom around the time my older brother was born, and they’d been married for a number of years. And my father encouraged her to cheat on her first husband when they met.

    • @Just-Nikki
      @Just-Nikki 9 месяцев назад +11

      Right, that makes as much sense as the people who think a baby will keep a marriage together.

    • @adriana27100
      @adriana27100 9 месяцев назад +5

      @@Just-Nikki Exactly, like those having a baby to save their relationship…. Just equals more disaster

    • @CHERYlDEREKDUCKWORTH
      @CHERYlDEREKDUCKWORTH 8 месяцев назад

      Pardon??

  • @JessSmith96
    @JessSmith96 9 месяцев назад +131

    When I was in the going on dates phase, I had two that I was going on dates with. I wasn’t telling anyone about the other, and it SERIOUSLY took a mental toll on me juggling the two. Idk how people cheat, and even worse, with more than one person.

    • @BreeS-zd5rx
      @BreeS-zd5rx 9 месяцев назад +41

      My boyfriend and I joke that we don't understand how people cheat. Between our work schedules and just the workings of our day-to-day lives, the idea of having a side-piece just sounds exhausting. We barely have time for ourselves, let alone other partners! Lol

    • @ss.surprise
      @ss.surprise 9 месяцев назад +7

      It's a lot easier if they don't have a set mistress or anything, but some people are literally out here having two whole families or 7+ relationships and I'm like 'how the fuck do you afford this, you'd have to be jobless to have the time, and they're not gonna all be paying you money'. But honestly as for the mental toll? It is probably a whole lot easier if you do not care about people and their feelings. Can't be stressed out about A and B if you don't give a damn.

    • @JessSmith96
      @JessSmith96 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@BreeS-zd5rx totally agree! Plus I’ve had TWO surgeries in the past 3 weeks and still recovering from one. He works long hours, I’ll be working long hours when I’m back at work. Sometimes I forget my own name, how would I remember all that!! I’ll stick to just my one good man 😊

  • @xxkatanyaxx
    @xxkatanyaxx 9 месяцев назад +27

    My motto, once you cheat, you're out. I don't know what you caught cheating, don't know how many people you slept with. The lying tells you everything. That person doesn't care about you when they cheat and lie.

  • @tjeerdtrekkie1030
    @tjeerdtrekkie1030 9 месяцев назад +8

    Gosh I hate loyalty tests so much. Not necessarily when cheaters are being caught but just because of the whole idea. The fact that you do something like this behind your partners back not only means that you have trust issues. It also means that your partner cannot trust you. Espessially when it turns out your partner is loyal

  • @lilytreick6882
    @lilytreick6882 9 месяцев назад +81

    Have a very petty Christmas Charlotte! We love you!!!

    • @CharlotteDobre
      @CharlotteDobre  9 месяцев назад +33

      have the pettiest christmas babe! Love you too!

    • @mapatterson173
      @mapatterson173 9 месяцев назад +7

      But today is Winter Solstice. That’s kind of a big deal in my little house. We’re buried in snow up here, so tonight will begin the season when the days are getting longer.

    • @meowiestwo
      @meowiestwo 9 месяцев назад +7

      why are you so invested in policing peoples language?@@Sbarali777

    • @Fluffy-Fluffy
      @Fluffy-Fluffy 9 месяцев назад +2

      ​@@mapatterson173and as a negative side effect, unbearable heat for 4 months in summer. Yuck. I prefer this season, but I guess it's easy speaking when you're at 11⁰Celsius or around 50 degrees F and harsh winters are not common (anymore).

    • @BrianAndresScott
      @BrianAndresScott 9 месяцев назад +2

      Merry Christmas charlotte please wish Mike and your family a Merry Christmas 🫂 ❤​@CharlotteDobre

  • @KillshotKitty
    @KillshotKitty 9 месяцев назад +43

    Charlotte is already funny, but her editor makes things 10x more funny! I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS

  • @sierram9573
    @sierram9573 9 месяцев назад +27

    I have been on both sides, the person who had to tell someone their partner has been unfaithful, as well as the person who was told by other girls that my partner tried to be unfaithful with them. I will never not tell if I find out someone is cheating on their partner

  • @missy3609
    @missy3609 9 месяцев назад +5

    My concern is what kind of diseases will the cheating partner bring home. You don't always use protection when you're in a committed relationship.

  • @ShaquanaLanayCocoaButterBrown
    @ShaquanaLanayCocoaButterBrown 2 месяца назад +2

    THE CONTOUR WAS MAGICAL! I’m so glad you said something bc I was thinking exactly the same thing

  • @OklaCrazyChick
    @OklaCrazyChick 9 месяцев назад +71

    I'm so glad you brought up her contour, because I could barely concentrate on her story..... I was thinking, "Oh god. This girl's contour is gonna be so bad.... Who taught you how to contour? Why is is so thick?"
    I think she cleaned her face & restarted because there's no way her cheek contour came out that light & subtle.... No way!

    • @livhuji733
      @livhuji733 9 месяцев назад +6

      It came out light after she applied foundation on top of the contour, she showed it😂😂😂

    • @tracysokat8825
      @tracysokat8825 8 месяцев назад +6

      It’s under painting!! The foundation washes a lot of it out so I apply it darker/thicker than I would if I were contouring over my foundation. But it makes the overall look appear more subtle when I have to do full glam and this was for an event I was going to be photographed at :)

    • @Stacydsullivan
      @Stacydsullivan 2 месяца назад

      It was very hypnotizing 🎨🐼

  • @michellefey3741
    @michellefey3741 9 месяцев назад +36

    The tea is so FRESH IT IS SCALDING HOT!!! We've missed you Charlotte! Hope you have a wonderful Christmas and a Happy 2024!

  • @areneesouder
    @areneesouder 9 месяцев назад +30

    Women would be shocked how often guys will tell another woman, "how his marriage sucks", and flirts then. No matter how much of a lady you are, and absolutely NOT sending any signals you're interested. They'll still do it.

    • @deepwaters7242
      @deepwaters7242 9 месяцев назад +5

      Yep. Or "We are getting separated" or "We have an arrangement "

  • @gigilarigi3132
    @gigilarigi3132 9 месяцев назад +17

    As someone who went through this and gave him another chance…just, don’t. You never see that man, (or woman), you fell madly in love with and the other person, (or people), live rent free in your brain, draining every ounce of self confidence you had. It’s just not worth it, no matter how much you love them and how much therapy you go to. 😢

  • @Sister_Felinity_Imaculata
    @Sister_Felinity_Imaculata 9 месяцев назад +15

    100% you should tell the wife if the husband used you to cheat. The wife thinks she is in a committed relationship, and isn't thinking about protecting herself from STDs or STIs. But he is sleeping around and could bring one home and pass it on to her. Those are often lifelong issues that could detrimentally affect an innocent bystander. The cheater can and should suffer consequences for bad decisions, but the non-cheating spouse shouldn't have to.

  • @davidmccurdy8911
    @davidmccurdy8911 9 месяцев назад +11

    The birthday date changing one is obvious, because each of the other women will want to spend time with him on his birthday so he has to spread them out so he never double books any evening especially for something important like a birthday

  • @KamisKisses
    @KamisKisses 9 месяцев назад +2

    Cheating is and always be a sign of disrespect. Cheating is self-serving and cruel. Many spouses get cheated on when they are ill, pregnant, depressed etc, their partner doesn’t give a fuq about their wellbeing.
    if you find out a person has a spouse or other relationships tell them (even anonymously). Why? Most committed couples don’t use barrier protection when being intimate, I cannot quantify the number of people I know who have caught STI’s and STD’s from an unfaithful partner.

  • @ryuugaeisen8946
    @ryuugaeisen8946 9 месяцев назад +3

    Okay, I really love that the second girl
    Was passive all throughout the conversation. She didn't really flirt back, truly highlighting the guy's a trash...

  • @lucypellek8940
    @lucypellek8940 9 месяцев назад +16

    Big reason why I'm still single. New fears unlocked ALL the time. I cant stand cheating, I've been cheated on and STILL have trust issues from it. Bruh, so vile seriously! 🙄 These cheaters are for the streets. Sheesh! 😮

  • @TeeCardy
    @TeeCardy 9 месяцев назад +99

    Merry Christmas Charlotte and Mike. Thanks for working so hard to make us laugh, Charlotte. You’re the best ❤

    • @chickenhate_r
      @chickenhate_r 9 месяцев назад

      Are y'all flirting in the comments?

    • @2late4date
      @2late4date 9 месяцев назад

      ​@@chickenhate_r I sensed that too😂

  • @WaynesPokeWorld
    @WaynesPokeWorld 9 месяцев назад +55

    Once a cheat always a cheat. It’s the worst!

    • @minnarosenqvistmr
      @minnarosenqvistmr 9 месяцев назад +1

      I have to disagree with this.. I used to cheat,on every guy I dated, but then I met my husband.. He's been the best in my life,and keeps me grounded.. I haven't even thought about doing something so vile to him.. but I was a teen, when I was a hoe.. Now I've been married for 21yrs and it's been the best years of my life..

    • @Kitkat-vs1or
      @Kitkat-vs1or 9 месяцев назад +2

      ​@@theelderweeb8956 considering you call them mistakes and blame it on being young makes me think you haven't taken accountability

    • @thetuftinghooker
      @thetuftinghooker 7 месяцев назад

      I believe this if it's IN that relationship. It's really hard for those that cheat to stop when they're caught and the person their cheating on stays. However, a cheater can change their ways, but only if THEY want to. You can't make them change.

    • @WaynesPokeWorld
      @WaynesPokeWorld 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@thetuftinghooker I wouldn’t even waste my time or energy trying to make someone unfaithful change. I think it’s a lesson they have to figure out the hard way

  • @gemma2296
    @gemma2296 2 месяца назад +2

    I'm so glad you said that about the contour because MY FACE WHEN SHE FIRST PUT IT ON

  • @paddyodriscoll8648
    @paddyodriscoll8648 9 месяцев назад +3

    “We both went to college for theatre…”
    That was your first clue.

  • @t_writer17
    @t_writer17 9 месяцев назад +21

    I feel so bad for that girl who's fiance was cheating on her their entire relationship. How do you ever recover from that and trust another person?

  • @StingRaeTheSingingSiren
    @StingRaeTheSingingSiren 9 месяцев назад +24

    I remember visiting my fiancé, innocently looking through his phone, expecting to see pictures of my dog he was caring for (while I was working in another state), him with my younger brothers he’d hung out with recently, maybe some pics of work stuff or goofing around with his friends/family… I did NOT expect to find p*rn! I was legitimately shocked and straight up asked him about it. He first tried the “why were you looking through my phone” and I reminded him he’d said there were some pics he’d wanted to show me so I had thought that was an invitation to open up his album and look… I didn’t realize I needed his permission or a warning so that he could cover up his weird fetishes (some were seriously f’d up). He tried to tell me that he’d let a guy from work use his phone (they were always talking about p*rn) which was a stupid excuse but stupid me wanted to believe him… Well, let’s just say, it was definitely his and as for his fetishes, there’s a reason he can’t keep a woman (between that and his manipulative, narcissistic behavior, he’s no Prince Charming). Also, it was well known that most of the guys he worked with cheated and he’d laugh about it but swear he never had/would but I don’t believe it at all...Not after everything I learned and experienced myself. Not my problem anymore but I feel bad for his kid and the mother (left him faster than I did) as well as any other woman who falls for his good ol’ boy charms… He’s a master liar, manipulator, and yes, he will blame everything he’s ever done on you for not being there with/for him every moment of the day. Man up and take responsibility for your own actions!

  • @jfree2737
    @jfree2737 9 месяцев назад +24

    I believe that when people cheat it is rarely about the person that they're in a committed relationship with. Not a power dynamic or anything else. They have an emptiness inside of them that they are trying to fill with outside validation instead of looking within to fill it themselves.
    The excuses and gaslighting of their partners is a defense mechanism against having to do the work and deal with the emptiness that they probably don't even know that they need to address. They will never be truly happy until they work on themselves. They'll just be drifting from one validation high to the next. It's a sad existence, really. But still not a reason not to throw the whole cheater away!

    • @TheBaumcm
      @TheBaumcm 9 месяцев назад +4

      It is often insecurity based and they do feel shame about what they’ve done but it just gets turned around in their head. Their internal problems are not excuses for this behavior but it can help the true victims to realize they did nothing wrong, it was never about them, and all they ever had control over was themselves.

    • @headhunter7070
      @headhunter7070 9 месяцев назад

      You are spot on! Very well stated. Unfortunately I am/have experienced exactly what you stated.

  • @tedthurgate
    @tedthurgate 9 месяцев назад +4

    She saw the engagement ring and he claimed his was from his wife who passed away?! What man wears an engagement ring?

  • @AniRSm
    @AniRSm 9 месяцев назад +27

    I love watching these beautiful people do a full face of make-up while telling intense and complicated stories. I couldn't do either without getting distracted 😅❤😂

  • @KarliandTommytheBoxer9526
    @KarliandTommytheBoxer9526 9 месяцев назад +11

    It’s not always a Red Flag 🚩 if someone is inactive on social media. I went off FB for 6 years & didn’t post much on instagram either. And wasn’t dating, just dealing with severe family issues. So there’s that.

    • @jenniferbond7073
      @jenniferbond7073 9 месяцев назад

      I don’t even hav a IG account.

    • @kanditraxel
      @kanditraxel 9 месяцев назад +2

      Thank you! I don't have social media anymore either. I've only ever had FB, and I'm no longer interested. Most people who don't do social media feel like I do. Sick of everyone TALKING and NO ONE listening. I'd hate for someone to say my lack of social media is a "red flag". That's offensive, really. (But you have to be careful disagreeing with people here, or you know, tantrums). I have nothing to hide, but I also have nothing to say. Period. I'm just not so insecure that I need likes from social media. Thank you for saying that.

  • @sarahtaavetti
    @sarahtaavetti 9 месяцев назад +21

    I barely have the emotional energy to be texting one guy… how people manage to date multiple people is beyond me…

  • @debracoulter1250
    @debracoulter1250 9 месяцев назад +12

    It’s best that someone lets you know about cheating. It’s unfortunate when the wife finds out when she has an std! It happened to my friend.

  • @Wigmaster_James
    @Wigmaster_James 9 месяцев назад +35

    Merry Christmas Charlotte! My wife and I watch your channel daily and debate alongside you constantly 😂 we love your content.

    • @Wigmaster_James
      @Wigmaster_James 9 месяцев назад +12

      @@Sbarali777 why are you the way that you are? I doubt she’s doing content on Christmas Eve/day. I would imagine that she will enjoy a break with family and friends for the holiday.

    • @Myeko2190
      @Myeko2190 9 месяцев назад

      @@Wigmaster_James fr
      Nobody cares this much
      This dude needs therapy or something

    • @Good.Morning.Petty.Potatoes
      @Good.Morning.Petty.Potatoes 9 месяцев назад +5

      ​@@Wigmaster_James He also does this if you say Good Morning. Kinda sad really

    • @Cissy777
      @Cissy777 9 месяцев назад +4

      ​@@Sbarali777how is saying Merry Christmas or good morning not inclusive?

    • @backdoorsluts_9
      @backdoorsluts_9 9 месяцев назад

      @@Sbarali777oh shut the hell up inclusivity is fucking weak and anyone that feels that everyone needs to be included in everything is fucking dumb

  • @RandyJGJ
    @RandyJGJ 9 месяцев назад +5

    Wait, why does the guy have an engagement ring?

  • @FlagCutie
    @FlagCutie 9 месяцев назад +2

    "We both went to colleg for theater...."
    And you believed him? 😂

  • @pixelkittymedia
    @pixelkittymedia 9 месяцев назад

    One of my ex’s would constantly cheat on me and put me on a mental ward because of it turns out he was engaged to me, another women, in a relationship with someone else, on tinder, speaking to god knows how many girls saying I was just a roommate in a one bedroom flat when I was paying all the bills, didn’t invite me out on his birthday night out turns out because he knew the girl who he was seeing was out, slept with a girl in his work while I was in the car park on my birthday waiting for him to finish work he waited until I got home from surgery to leave turns out he was in a relationship with a girl left me for her but his life is f’d now he had 2 kids cheated on the girl and now I’m friends with his ex’s 🤣

  • @katarellanes5421
    @katarellanes5421 9 месяцев назад +14

    Exactly Charlotte, if ya married ya supposed to put boundaries with people. Had to tell my wife the hard way that her messages with "friends" were not appropriate.

  • @zzheaton
    @zzheaton 9 месяцев назад +10

    Don’t be afraid, Charlotte. There are wonderful men out there. I have been married for 30 years to a great husband and father. We were both in our late 20s (very old in the 90s in my town) we still have a great relationship and laugh a lot. I love him so much!!😘

  • @NHarts3
    @NHarts3 9 месяцев назад +18

    After a hard day, Charlotte's what I need ❤

  • @TheBlakia
    @TheBlakia 9 месяцев назад +2

    tbf I dont consider having some social media account and not really using it a green flag. Tells me they have better things to do.

  • @alexishere2309
    @alexishere2309 9 месяцев назад +2

    Is having no social media in a relationship a red flag cause I don’t have media , i just don’t like social interaction

  • @maryannsarkady7950
    @maryannsarkady7950 9 месяцев назад +14

    My daughter (45) recently divorced, is finding out the truth of the dating game and is very steamed over the lying and cheating ! Luckily for her she,is very intelligent and does background research and does a deep dive to get the inside info !

  • @shilohnyce
    @shilohnyce 9 месяцев назад +8

    Yes, I would absolutely want to know from another if my significant other was cheating💯. The truth can hurt but it’s the only way to stop living a lie. Can we please make this a rule for humanity sake to inform another in a kind empathic way of the wrongs that have been done to them?

  • @TheRoadprincess
    @TheRoadprincess 5 месяцев назад +2

    This woman that investigated the cheater and told on him is the best. I would immediately want to know if my partner wasn’t really my partner.

  • @Auntiemissa
    @Auntiemissa 9 месяцев назад +40

    Merry Christmas Charlotte and Mike! All the best in the new year. You both deserve everything you could ever want.

    • @Cissy777
      @Cissy777 9 месяцев назад +2

      ​@@Sbarali777Why are you commenting this over and over? Everyone knows Christmas is on Monday 😂

    • @Cissy777
      @Cissy777 9 месяцев назад

      @@Sbarali777actually, you are right, Merry Christmas isn't inclusive, and I actually say Happy Holidays, because not everyone celebrates Christmas, so my apologies