The gaslighting with these guys! "How dare you believe your own eyes over me!" And then, "But you haven't been around as much, so it's your fault!" THE AUDACITY.
My now ex said something like that after I'd already over a period of time tried expressing things to him and telling him I'd been feeling alone etc. I had found a text thread through an app and confronted him. He went on to say "I had to cause I've been feeling alone" yadda yadda pretty much what I told him and he said he "went live" trying to tell people. 😒😝
Lol mine said "if you believe what you see on the phone then you can't believe in God." I actually laughed because wtf does God have to do with the proof I found? Hmmm the maths not mathing for me sweetheart. Marrying a narcissist really makes you grow a back bone. I'd thank him but why give him the ego boost.
Yeah, women def cheat but when men do it they're collecting people. And the ones they've made official are also just part of the collection. Those types of guys don't have women they love. They have part of a set.
@@teri2466 Mostly there are two reasons: one is that they like the safety of a secure relationship, often they benefit financially. The second reason is that they like to feel clever, cheaters like the game of cheating, the thinking about lies, the tension etc. they like to be superior in some way in the relationship
My mom told my brothers that if they cheat on their spouse she'll disown them. This is the same woman who claims she's not afraid to rat out her children to the police if they (we) ever do something illegal.
Lol All we can do is raise our children the best we can & serve as good examples, but if our children turn out to be disgusting or horrible people it’s not our fault. They need to be held accountable. So good on her.
My mom was that kinda mom too. From a young age she said she’s not bailing us out if we ever get into jail because she raised us better than to put ourselves in that kind of position
A friend asked me once what I would do if my ex (then bf) cheated on me. I told her I’d rat him out to his mom, and let her take care of the dirty work. Of course, she raised him right so he never cheated.
My ex-fiance's mom asked him to find some other girl since I know everything now and will hold things against him, when I caught him cheating and told about that to his family. I wish she did something right, like your mom did!
As a single woman who occasionally gets bummed about not having a special someone THESE ARE MY FAVORITE VIDEOS THANK YOU CHARLOTTE!!!!! nothing helps me appreciate being single like hearing about cheaters.
I was married for 20yrs. We had 3 children together. We had a great marriage, great friendship. It all fell apart so quickly, within the span of 6mths, I found out what he'd been up to for years. I asked him to leave, and as I was trying to pick up the pieces of my life friends came telling me how they knew etc. Needless to say I not only lost my husband, but I also let go of a handful of close friends. They were shocked that I ended the friendships, but like I told them, you lied to me daily just as much as he did. Sometimes when I think back to those hard days, I'm often more upset at my friends for not coming forward. I now tell everyone, please just tell your friend. You aren't doing it to "cause drama" etc, you're doing it for the love of your friend. I will forever wish someone had told me yrs before.
Girl same here. We were friends for years before we got together and were married for years. Totalling like 20yrs. Caught him cheating and that was the end. My BF was married to his BF. Well, we all stayed friends by x & I never being there at the same time. Then he started taking the woman he cheated with over there & my BF would blow them both up. I told her it wasn't necessary but she's ride or die. God I love that woman! It caused so much strain in their marriage they almost got divorced. I ended up removing myself from their lives because I didn't think it was fair to them. I'm still friends with both of them but not close close friends like before. Cheating is vile and cheaters don't understand that it hurts more than just the SO. There's a special place in hell for cheaters
real friends tell the truth and look out for you! I'm so sorry you went through that and basically just wasted a huge chunk of your life :( that was selfish on them.
***Addition....... after all the dust settled from dealing with the cheating ex, one very close friend of mine, who had chosen to ignore me and stay friends with my ex. She called one day (about 6mths later) saying she was sorry for believing him. That him and his gf were crazy and she wanted to have our friendship back. I will never forget that moment. I missed her so much, but without hesitation I said "no, I can't restart our friendship ". She got mad, tried to gaslight me. But something in me said "you don't deserve this". I stood my ground, thanked her for the friendship we had, and hung up. It was so hard to do and I cried. But how dare she come back?! Her and I were friends for yrs. I still miss her all these yrs later, but I don't regret my decision. Maybe it was wrong, but it's what I had to do.😢
I really think it’s sweet when a woman finds out the guy hitting on her is married and then tells the wife. It’s brave and the right thing to do so the wife can consent to being with a man running around or not. Cheating puts the partner in harms way with the possibility of passing an std to them. It’s not fair.
Yes, plus even if it was an open relationship and the partner has given their consent, it wouldn't do any harm, right?^^ buuut if there was no consent, you may save someone from being with a cheating a-hole^^
Me too, because that’s exactly how I found out my ex was cheating lol Forever indebted to the girl who told me because I’m not sure how long it would have taken me to figure it out on my own.. he was clever and I was trusting 🥴
@@itscaityo I knew my ex-husband was cheating on me, a LOT, but never could "prove" it while we were together - it all came out after we were no longer together - but I WISH any one of tge many girls had come to me at any time during the marriage. Would have saved me 18 years of wasted time! I'd never have been mad at a girl for telling me - it's not HER fault that a married man stepped out! It's shady when they know he's married and help him hide it from his wife!
I wish whoever was cheating with my ex told me. I remember some nurse was flirting with my ex husband, ignoring me. In my native culture, we speak nonverballly with our eyes. My ex (Whose not part of my culture) didn't know this. My ex and this nurse had been talking before I walked in the room (I was pregnanton a prenatal visit). The other native lady in the room looked mad. She looked at me, and then directed her eyes to the two. I was confused at the time. But that lady was REALLY flirting with my ex. Flipping her hair around and everything. Well, there were signs he was cheating. First, he told me I wasn't sexually attractive. Then he would welcome conversations with other women all the time. (Even after I gave freaking labor). My last straw was his constant accusations of me cheating. But he gaslit me so much. He accused me of cheating so much. I had enough. The last time he accused me with boxing instructor. Yeah he was so suspicious of the mma and boxing dudes, but those dudes ain't my type. I like to be friends with them but have ZERO romantic interest. (Then tend to be callous with no romance.) So I broke up with him after that accusations. Keep in mind he was accusing me for years. If I brought up it felt like he was cheating on me ( i rarely did this) He would gaslight and blame shift to ne that I'm the one cheating. Dude had to have cheated on me. I just want some clarity.
Saw a guy in an expensive car near his bosses house, he avoided my gaze and looked worried. I asked the boss if he'd had a meeting at home, no, he was with a client, ouch, best in the open, he was betrayed by his employee (who had to find another job).
I mean, it's embarrassing for them, not you. Could you imagine being such a spineless coward that you'd cover up for a cheater? You have nothing to feel embarrassed about, it'd be like feeling embarrassed you got t-boned at an intersection. Other peoples' actions and failures are not yours to feel shame about. Unless you're a parent/guardian but I'd that's a different scenario.
I'm a guy who was cheated on by my (now) ex-wife. She was chronically depressed and I encouraged her to hang out with her friends. Turns out, one of those friends was a guy she took an interest in. The part that makes my stomach turn even 14+ years later is that we had sex at least once after she started cheating... I'm in a happier place now, but it was definitely a learning process and a healing process. Best of luck to anybody who goes through similar. Know that it's not your fault.
Ive been in 6 long term relationships within my lifetime I'm 24 out of 6 of those 4 cheated and 1 Ghosted the other we broke up due to long distance she moved across the country for school i stay in our hometown differing from college because of some family issues with health
Found out after our divorce (I'd suspected all along, but he was clever, and I could never "prove" it during our marriage) that my husband of almost 18 years had been cheating on me on and off with many, MANY women through the whole relationship.😢
@@kzmultiversalstudios4556 6 and you are only 24 ? If you meet constantly cheaters the problem is you . I am 44 believe me when I say trust needs to be earned and also usually dishonest people always from day one tell you who they are - you just don't want to listen. I was in your " shoes" you need to learn to read people and learn to be by yourself until you find a lifetime partner.
The lying about the birthdate was probably so that he could celebrate his birthday with his real family and have the day free, not get caught by other girls in case they tried to surprise him on his fake bday. Guessing he learned from a past experience
I have never been in a relationship where I was NOT cheated on and eventually quit believing I could ever find a man who loved me and only me so I quit looking for love 32 years ago. I am 64 now. I didn't really think I would be alone for 3 decades but when I set the criteria that they have to be honest and true, no one ever fit the bill and I refuse to be one of those women who will settle (anymore). I deserve to be loved as I love. Why put up with less than that. I used to say that if I could find someone who loves me as much as my dog loves me (I am "it" for him) then I would pursue the relationship but my dog is a better partner in life than any man I have ever known. Sad but true.
Good for you. My mother is the same way. Men her age and yours are single for a reason. Hell, even my age at 40. 😂 the dating pool becomes stagnant after so many years… then it’s just a farting cesspool. I’m so blessed and grateful to have found my future husband. He’s the best person I’ve ever met. Don’t settle. Refuse to be anything but loved and prioritized over anything else. And know your worth. I love this for you queen. ❤ ETA: I’ve also never been in a relationship I’ve never been cheated on. Until now. I stayed single and true to myself for six years and became my own partner. Then I got real lucky. So it’s never too late honestly, but again, I love this for you. Be happy in your singldome. It can be absolutely beautiful if you embrace it and allow it to be.
My grandma has been widowed for 10 years, the family has asked her if she plans to date again and she says men ain't 💩, so no thanks 😂😂😂 I think you got it right
After so many years of treating yourself like royalty, male or female, it's soooo hard to find someone to meet and exceed your standards. Keep spoiling yourself, babes.
I met my husband in high school, we were best friends for 6yrs before we started dating, dated/lived together for 2yrs. When we hear these horror stories, we are so damn grateful we found each other. Prayers to all you brave enough to be in the dating pool, good luck to all! I really hope you all find your person that loves you each as you deserve!
Yeah, it’s like searching up a “am I gay” quiz. Like, if the question is there, it’s either an external issue or an internal one, but that means there’s a blip on the radar: the question is if it’s from outside or inside the house
Loved the woman who told the wife🙌🙌 That takes some guts to do that. He saying divorced for 6 months and was married for 6 months. She actually saved this wife for spending time on an awful idiot. Now this hurt woman could move on and find a good man, because the one she married wasn’t a man. Well done gorgeous girl 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🥳🤩
@@Sar-ahGI bet these gaslighters would just use that time to come up with an excuse. They could block the person they cheated with from their partners phone and social media. They could lay a backstory. If he cheated, what would compel him to suddenly be honest when he could just go on being a lying prick by covering it up?
Because you’ll always be seen as the person who delivered the bad news. I knew two of the best friends there ever were. They were soul sisters…until one of them saw the others man out with another woman and told her about it. There was a huge blow up and they’re no longer friends. It sent the girl who told her bf into a tailspin and she’s never been the same since. So no…I’m a crappy friend but I’m not gonna be the bearer of bad news.
I love that statement. Forcing someone into commitment does not guarantee their faithfulness. You cannot force someone to be loyal if they don’t want to be. You are wasting time, effort, and love. Move on.
Every time I see women who are actually talented enough to be able to put on makeup competently I’m always in awe. So much work goes into it, and I’m always impressed. So many different brushes and products, it’s so intimidating to me. Y’all look incredible! 🥰
I’m glad Charlotte mentioned the contour in the first video! 😂 I got so distracted by it that I wasn’t even paying attention to the story and had to rewind a couple times 💀 Like it was so dark and such an excessive amount, I was expecting the final result to be a disaster but somehow she made it work and looks amazing?? She’s a wizard!
He doesn't even love himself actually. He may love the attention he gets, but if he truly loved himself, he wouldn't hurt anyone else. Hurt people hurt others.
@@clairechotteau6461 therapy Helps. It helped me recognize it was a them problem and not a me problem. It’s a condition of the heart. Theirs is broken. I had never been in a relationship where I hadn’t been cheated on. I got single, stayed single for six years. Sought out therapy, worked on myself, became my own partner and spoiled myself and my kid. Then I met my future husband and realized he was me in male form. He loves me like I’ve never been loved. It’s honestly never too late. But being single can be beautiful too. If you embrace it and allow it to be. I enjoyed being single a lot. But I absolutely am head over heels in love with my future husband. And I can honestly say he is for me as well. I used to wish I could see love under a microscope. To prove that someone, anyone had actually loved me. Including my cheating lying ex husband. But I no longer think that way. Because love is shown. Not said. It’s the actions and the little things that speak volumes that words never could. Be the love you wish to see and love will follow. Be that in your family dynamic, friendships, or lovers. It’s true in all aspects. Be always keep yourself guarded. Don’t let this world Jade that beautiful heart my friend. Much love bestie 🫶🏼
Charlotte I’m going through it right now in my relationship and your videos have been bringing me so much comfort. Thank you and please keep being you.
i fully believe that that man lied about his birthday so that he wouldn’t have to worry about seeing his mistress on his actual birthday, or coming up with excuses to anyone. This man was absolutely planning on continuing this double life charade LONG TERM, even after JUST getting married. what a terrible human being.
Literally just earlier this week matched with a guy on hinge who said he was a resident physician in my city (keep in mind I’m a resident physician too). I check the hospital residency list online and he’s not on the list. I asked him and he ghosts me. These streets aren’t safe. Thank you Charlotte for the content. ❤
YES. Trust your gut but also get to know yourself enough that you learn the difference between a gut instinct and a trauma response because they can both feel the same and real. I know people can sabotage good relationships thinking they are listening to their gut when it’s a trauma response from the hurt they’ve been through before the person they are with currently. It’s something I’m still learning to differentiate myself. Good luck to you all ♥️
@@mar-shagazorpazorp6431took a friend to get tested as a group because she was afraid and we were worried for her. I hadn’t even had a serious boyfriend and was not hooking up so I told the nurse so when she took me back, explaining that I expected no issues and why. She told me the craziest story. A nurse had come in for HIV testing due to needle stick but the panel runs them all. It came back with all the big bads, including Hepatits C, at the time untreatable. That was how the poor woman found out her husband was cheating.
Agreed. I get they feel ashamed maybe and don’t want to be put on blast, especially if they truly didn’t know or never had it confirmed and just dipped. Many wives will blame the side piece rather than the dude. However, he’s obviously been telling wifey that everything is fine, when she probably had red flags galore so it is your duty to take that self centered, insecure, ego driven man down and be honest. Yes, I was with him. Yes I knew or no I didn’t.
I kinda understand them,even though it's not the right thing to do After my bf cheated on me,I contacted the girl he did it with Even though we were both f-d up by him,she got angry at me eventually, even though I was compassionate and gentle with the bad news Maybe they didn't want to be involved in the drama and emotionally invest and just made their own assumptions What can they do, if it's already known that he cheated If there was some kind of legal issue, I would like someone else's help in that matter (like some kind of additional proof)
I once dated a guy when I was 16. We were pretty close, we talked every day and almost saw each other every day as we went to the same cram class. We had a mutual friend who was a closer friend. After several months of happily dating, one fine day, that friend came to me and she told me, "hey, are u guys dating?" I thought she'd known all along so I laughed, thinking it was a joke. She then told me "he asked me out 3 days back, but I think something went on between u guys." I said "yea we've been dating for last 16 months. How can he just say that??" She shrugged and went. Tbh I already had my suspicions because he seemed emotionally distant. This reaffirmed it. So I decided to confront him. I told our mutual friend that I will ask him about this. When I went to him, HE asked ME to leave his life, because apparently he didn't talk to cheaters. I was utterly confused and at a loss of words. What kind of projection was that? I was very naive back then, so didn't argue much, I just cried, I told him I wasn't doing anything wrong and just left. (I regret it so much) Fast forward to a few days back. I had received a call from an unknown number. Turns out it was the girl (mutual friend). She ended up dating him and he turned out to be a huge huge douche bag. She called me to apologise as she felt apologetic after that incident. We ended up comparing notes and discovered numerous lies. He cheated on her multiple times, manipulated her and projected.He was and continues to be a jerk, I'm happy I dodged a bullet and now I have learnt an important lesson to grow a spine and stand up for myself
I have thankfully never been cheated on, but I know for a fact that I couldn't "work through it" if someone did cheat on me. The trust would be irrevocably gone, there's no coming back from that!
Agreed. I fortunately haven’t been cheated on but I don’t know how people stay. No judgment, it’s their choice to make but I couldn’t be intimate with that person or trust them again.
At some point you have to be amazed at the effort people put into cheating on , lying to and gaslighting their partner or fiancee . The last OP especially. How do you fake an entire conversation with your co-worker accusing him of impersonating you to cover up your crimes on Bumble . That is a level of pathological lying rarely even seen among cheaters . They as Charlotte put it , need to be sent straight to the garbage bin .
That’s where my ex husband is, the garbage bin. Cheating, gas lighting, lying sob. He then married a mail order bride from the Philippines and after he retired they moved there. Good place for him, many many miles away
I find it really messed up that people would actually go out of their way to help a cheater make up lies to help cover for them! It's honestly disgusting & it tells a lot about their character/morals. 😒🙄
Okay, I really love that the second girl Was passive all throughout the conversation. She didn't really flirt back, truly highlighting the guy's a trash...
My boyfriend had a hard time at the beginning of our relationship because his previous long term girlfriend cheated and lied. It really hurt him. So there were a few times he was sensitive or it took a while to trust I wouldn't hurt him the same way. I tried not to take it personally. Regaining the ability to trust another person and enter a relationship after being hurt so bad takes A LOT of work. It was a little rocky at first but he worked through it and we were able to move forward together. He and I have now happily been together 7years. To anyone who's been hurt, I hope you can heal and find the person in this world that sees the beauty and light in you and respects it. There is hope for better days and there is a special someone out there for you.
This is why I’m scared of being in a relationship. Sometimes there aren’t red flags to go off of. They could be the most perfect thing in your eyes with no complications but the reality is something much different. It’s quite literally getting to the point where I’m scared of being loved altogether. Not by family or friends obviously but in a relationship…I can’t.
I swear my favorite thing is taking a shower, getting all cozy into my clean sheets with a snacky snack and watching charlottes videos. Just "chefs kiss"
My motto, once you cheat, you're out. I don't know what you caught cheating, don't know how many people you slept with. The lying tells you everything. That person doesn't care about you when they cheat and lie.
As someone who went through this and gave him another chance…just, don’t. You never see that man, (or woman), you fell madly in love with and the other person, (or people), live rent free in your brain, draining every ounce of self confidence you had. It’s just not worth it, no matter how much you love them and how much therapy you go to. 😢
Women would be shocked how often guys will tell another woman, "how his marriage sucks", and flirts then. No matter how much of a lady you are, and absolutely NOT sending any signals you're interested. They'll still do it.
I have been on both sides, the person who had to tell someone their partner has been unfaithful, as well as the person who was told by other girls that my partner tried to be unfaithful with them. I will never not tell if I find out someone is cheating on their partner
Just a reminder for you cheaters out there, there’s absolutely no reason you need to cheat on your partner if you’re lacking something in the relationship. Communication exists and it’s so easy to bring up to them what you feel you’re lacking and you can both then work on the relationship and make sure you’re both receiving and giving what you need to for the relationship to work equally. There’s never a good enough reason or excuse to cheat, and it’s never anyone else’s fault except yours (the cheaters).
Just remember that these videos highlight the worst of the worst. There really are good, loyal people out there, I promise. Not saying though that staying single isn't a valid choice, obviously.
Honestly, just get a good therapist that you click with and keep seeing them regularly (once a week, once a month, whatever is appropriate for your needs). It's just good self care/maintenance, but especially if you're nervous about navigating relationships!
'The squeaky wheel gets the oil'- (hence these horror stories) Most people find a loyal, happy and healthy relationship and don't do tiktoks about them. . Be honest, be yourself... And treat your special person the way you want to be treated. Love is worth it. Take care.
Thank you Charlotte for this year of service and the sacrifices you’ve made for entertaining us! I wish everyone a Merry Christmas & happy holidays. And that everyone will find love in the New Year!!! ❤
“Men comfortable in their masculinity aren’t generally homophobic”. THISSSS! I was lucky enough to have really amazing selfless, chivalrous, yet very open, pro-LGBTQ southern men around me my whole life, including my father and grandfather. My partner of four years jokes about his love of Ryan Reynolds like most men lol, but he’s the biggest happy puppy man, big, strong, and bearded, but extremely comfortable being himself. It makes me so happy. Confidence is so amazing.
Ooooof your hair looks SO PRETTY!!! And against the red shirt and your red brows and red lipstick 💄 it’s just so perfectly chirstmassy and so pretty and elegant
But today is Winter Solstice. That’s kind of a big deal in my little house. We’re buried in snow up here, so tonight will begin the season when the days are getting longer.
@@mapatterson173and as a negative side effect, unbearable heat for 4 months in summer. Yuck. I prefer this season, but I guess it's easy speaking when you're at 11⁰Celsius or around 50 degrees F and harsh winters are not common (anymore).
When I was in the going on dates phase, I had two that I was going on dates with. I wasn’t telling anyone about the other, and it SERIOUSLY took a mental toll on me juggling the two. Idk how people cheat, and even worse, with more than one person.
My boyfriend and I joke that we don't understand how people cheat. Between our work schedules and just the workings of our day-to-day lives, the idea of having a side-piece just sounds exhausting. We barely have time for ourselves, let alone other partners! Lol
It's a lot easier if they don't have a set mistress or anything, but some people are literally out here having two whole families or 7+ relationships and I'm like 'how the fuck do you afford this, you'd have to be jobless to have the time, and they're not gonna all be paying you money'. But honestly as for the mental toll? It is probably a whole lot easier if you do not care about people and their feelings. Can't be stressed out about A and B if you don't give a damn.
@@BreeS-zd5rx totally agree! Plus I’ve had TWO surgeries in the past 3 weeks and still recovering from one. He works long hours, I’ll be working long hours when I’m back at work. Sometimes I forget my own name, how would I remember all that!! I’ll stick to just my one good man 😊
Don’t be afraid, Charlotte. There are wonderful men out there. I have been married for 30 years to a great husband and father. We were both in our late 20s (very old in the 90s in my town) we still have a great relationship and laugh a lot. I love him so much!!😘
My brother is somebody that is very confident in the fact that he likes women. he did not even care when a group of girls in middle school thought he was gay. He simply said none were his type, so they didn’t need to be corrected 😅
I'm so glad you brought up her contour, because I could barely concentrate on her story..... I was thinking, "Oh god. This girl's contour is gonna be so bad.... Who taught you how to contour? Why is is so thick?" I think she cleaned her face & restarted because there's no way her cheek contour came out that light & subtle.... No way!
It’s under painting!! The foundation washes a lot of it out so I apply it darker/thicker than I would if I were contouring over my foundation. But it makes the overall look appear more subtle when I have to do full glam and this was for an event I was going to be photographed at :)
Yep, apparently my father cheated on my mom around the time my older brother was born, and they’d been married for a number of years. And my father encouraged her to cheat on her first husband when they met.
Big reason why I'm still single. New fears unlocked ALL the time. I cant stand cheating, I've been cheated on and STILL have trust issues from it. Bruh, so vile seriously! 🙄 These cheaters are for the streets. Sheesh! 😮
100% you should tell the wife if the husband used you to cheat. The wife thinks she is in a committed relationship, and isn't thinking about protecting herself from STDs or STIs. But he is sleeping around and could bring one home and pass it on to her. Those are often lifelong issues that could detrimentally affect an innocent bystander. The cheater can and should suffer consequences for bad decisions, but the non-cheating spouse shouldn't have to.
I love watching these beautiful people do a full face of make-up while telling intense and complicated stories. I couldn't do either without getting distracted 😅❤😂
@@Sbarali777 why are you the way that you are? I doubt she’s doing content on Christmas Eve/day. I would imagine that she will enjoy a break with family and friends for the holiday.
I must say, Charlotte has one of THEE BEST groups of followers. Everyone is so kind, i love it 🥰 Thank you Charlotte for bringing us all together 💞 i hope everyone has a wonderful day!
I have to disagree with this.. I used to cheat,on every guy I dated, but then I met my husband.. He's been the best in my life,and keeps me grounded.. I haven't even thought about doing something so vile to him.. but I was a teen, when I was a hoe.. Now I've been married for 21yrs and it's been the best years of my life..
I believe this if it's IN that relationship. It's really hard for those that cheat to stop when they're caught and the person their cheating on stays. However, a cheater can change their ways, but only if THEY want to. You can't make them change.
@@thetuftinghooker I wouldn’t even waste my time or energy trying to make someone unfaithful change. I think it’s a lesson they have to figure out the hard way
Cheating is and always be a sign of disrespect. Cheating is self-serving and cruel. Many spouses get cheated on when they are ill, pregnant, depressed etc, their partner doesn’t give a fuq about their wellbeing. if you find out a person has a spouse or other relationships tell them (even anonymously). Why? Most committed couples don’t use barrier protection when being intimate, I cannot quantify the number of people I know who have caught STI’s and STD’s from an unfaithful partner.
My daughter (45) recently divorced, is finding out the truth of the dating game and is very steamed over the lying and cheating ! Luckily for her she,is very intelligent and does background research and does a deep dive to get the inside info !
@@Sbarali777actually, you are right, Merry Christmas isn't inclusive, and I actually say Happy Holidays, because not everyone celebrates Christmas, so my apologies
Wow the flashbacks I just had. I have a very similar situation as the last girl We was engaged, dated for 3 years and the entire 3years he talked and texted with 20+ girls dated 5 of them and all he could say when I found out was I didn't have naughty with anyone finding out a year later that was lie and I'm extremely thankful for the one girl who spoke up. I am so much happier now being single raising my kids alone ❤
Exactly Charlotte, if ya married ya supposed to put boundaries with people. Had to tell my wife the hard way that her messages with "friends" were not appropriate.
The birthday date changing one is obvious, because each of the other women will want to spend time with him on his birthday so he has to spread them out so he never double books any evening especially for something important like a birthday
I don’t think zero socials is a red flag…I got off 6 years ago because it was skewing my perception of reality & self worth. *spends 13 hours a day on RUclips *
I do the same, watch you tube a lot, scroll Instagram and TikTok for stuff I’m interested in but have little to no personal presence on social media. For me, my timelines constantly seemed toxic, full of fakeness and vanity and virtue signalling and I just couldn’t be arsed with putting myself in the mix with all that crap. Love watching you tube tho lol There’s some amazing stuff on here, but you’ll be hard pushed to find a selfie of me 🤣 x❤
I believe that when people cheat it is rarely about the person that they're in a committed relationship with. Not a power dynamic or anything else. They have an emptiness inside of them that they are trying to fill with outside validation instead of looking within to fill it themselves. The excuses and gaslighting of their partners is a defense mechanism against having to do the work and deal with the emptiness that they probably don't even know that they need to address. They will never be truly happy until they work on themselves. They'll just be drifting from one validation high to the next. It's a sad existence, really. But still not a reason not to throw the whole cheater away!
It is often insecurity based and they do feel shame about what they’ve done but it just gets turned around in their head. Their internal problems are not excuses for this behavior but it can help the true victims to realize they did nothing wrong, it was never about them, and all they ever had control over was themselves.
Gosh I hate loyalty tests so much. Not necessarily when cheaters are being caught but just because of the whole idea. The fact that you do something like this behind your partners back not only means that you have trust issues. It also means that your partner cannot trust you. Espessially when it turns out your partner is loyal
Can confirm that when men get CAUGHT, like fully caught, they will just drop the act and stare at you. Sometimes with zero emotion, sometimes with a vindictive smile on their face. Sometimes they'll throw in a single line to hurt you further, for me it was "well then I guess you'll be pissed I took her home for Easter too."
The gaslighting with these guys! "How dare you believe your own eyes over me!" And then, "But you haven't been around as much, so it's your fault!" THE AUDACITY.
My now ex said something like that after I'd already over a period of time tried expressing things to him and telling him I'd been feeling alone etc. I had found a text thread through an app and confronted him. He went on to say "I had to cause I've been feeling alone" yadda yadda pretty much what I told him and he said he "went live" trying to tell people. 😒😝
That was my ex husband. I had photographic proof and he told me to my face it wasn’t him. Lol I said ok shaggy.
@@shortiejayyy they really be out here doing the most…
Lol mine said "if you believe what you see on the phone then you can't believe in God." I actually laughed because wtf does God have to do with the proof I found? Hmmm the maths not mathing for me sweetheart. Marrying a narcissist really makes you grow a back bone. I'd thank him but why give him the ego boost.
Its always our fault. They never take responsibility for their own actions.
I love how Charlotte mentioned the first woman’s contour because I was surprised it looked so subtle too 😂
OMG I even said out loud, girl that is too dark… and then I was absolutely gob smacked 😮
Oh God my makeup never looks that good. I'm awful at makeup 😂
Yeah I was so surprised at that too lol
@@dinasilva9263 yeah I only do blush highlighter and some contour eye creases. And mascara. I am not so graceful.
Yes!!! I was like woah, wayyyyyy to dark…so surprised 🤯🤷♀️🤪
They aren't cheating on "Someone they love". They are cheating on someone who loves them. Cheating and Love do not live in the same relationship.
Yeah, women def cheat but when men do it they're collecting people. And the ones they've made official are also just part of the collection. Those types of guys don't have women they love. They have part of a set.
Agreed. If you truly love someone, you would never even consider cheating on them.
I want to know why most of them try so hard to keep the girl they cheated on. Why???
Touché
@@teri2466 Mostly there are two reasons: one is that they like the safety of a secure relationship, often they benefit financially. The second reason is that they like to feel clever, cheaters like the game of cheating, the thinking about lies, the tension etc. they like to be superior in some way in the relationship
My mom told my brothers that if they cheat on their spouse she'll disown them.
This is the same woman who claims she's not afraid to rat out her children to the police if they (we) ever do something illegal.
Lol All we can do is raise our children the best we can & serve as good examples, but if our children turn out to be disgusting or horrible people it’s not our fault. They need to be held accountable. So good on her.
Your mom sounds amazing! There needs to be more moms like her, to be honest.
My mom was that kinda mom too. From a young age she said she’s not bailing us out if we ever get into jail because she raised us better than to put ourselves in that kind of position
A friend asked me once what I would do if my ex (then bf) cheated on me. I told her I’d rat him out to his mom, and let her take care of the dirty work. Of course, she raised him right so he never cheated.
My ex-fiance's mom asked him to find some other girl since I know everything now and will hold things against him, when I caught him cheating and told about that to his family. I wish she did something right, like your mom did!
I wanna thank the third girl for going straight to the wife and spill the beans. Cheaters should ALWAYS get outted.
As a single woman who occasionally gets bummed about not having a special someone THESE ARE MY FAVORITE VIDEOS THANK YOU CHARLOTTE!!!!! nothing helps me appreciate being single like hearing about cheaters.
Ikr 😂
Same ✊️
Schadenfreude
It’s the cheating, various types of abuse, baby trapping, just numerous things. Bring single is just a breeze lol
True 👍 also makes me realize I could be a nightmare of a partner without therapy because of my rejection sensitivity and anxious attachment 😂
I was married for 20yrs. We had 3 children together. We had a great marriage, great friendship. It all fell apart so quickly, within the span of 6mths, I found out what he'd been up to for years. I asked him to leave, and as I was trying to pick up the pieces of my life friends came telling me how they knew etc. Needless to say I not only lost my husband, but I also let go of a handful of close friends. They were shocked that I ended the friendships, but like I told them, you lied to me daily just as much as he did. Sometimes when I think back to those hard days, I'm often more upset at my friends for not coming forward. I now tell everyone, please just tell your friend. You aren't doing it to "cause drama" etc, you're doing it for the love of your friend. I will forever wish someone had told me yrs before.
They were rubbish friends. I'm gad you threw everyone who lied to you in the rubbish where they belong.
Girl same here. We were friends for years before we got together and were married for years. Totalling like 20yrs. Caught him cheating and that was the end. My BF was married to his BF. Well, we all stayed friends by x & I never being there at the same time. Then he started taking the woman he cheated with over there & my BF would blow them both up. I told her it wasn't necessary but she's ride or die. God I love that woman! It caused so much strain in their marriage they almost got divorced. I ended up removing myself from their lives because I didn't think it was fair to them. I'm still friends with both of them but not close close friends like before.
Cheating is vile and cheaters don't understand that it hurts more than just the SO. There's a special place in hell for cheaters
Agreed, they allowed you to waste precious amounts of time on a parasite. Not true friends at all..
real friends tell the truth and look out for you! I'm so sorry you went through that and basically just wasted a huge chunk of your life :( that was selfish on them.
***Addition....... after all the dust settled from dealing with the cheating ex, one very close friend of mine, who had chosen to ignore me and stay friends with my ex. She called one day (about 6mths later) saying she was sorry for believing him. That him and his gf were crazy and she wanted to have our friendship back. I will never forget that moment. I missed her so much, but without hesitation I said "no, I can't restart our friendship ". She got mad, tried to gaslight me. But something in me said "you don't deserve this". I stood my ground, thanked her for the friendship we had, and hung up. It was so hard to do and I cried. But how dare she come back?! Her and I were friends for yrs. I still miss her all these yrs later, but I don't regret my decision. Maybe it was wrong, but it's what I had to do.😢
I really think it’s sweet when a woman finds out the guy hitting on her is married and then tells the wife. It’s brave and the right thing to do so the wife can consent to being with a man running around or not. Cheating puts the partner in harms way with the possibility of passing an std to them. It’s not fair.
Yes, plus even if it was an open relationship and the partner has given their consent, it wouldn't do any harm, right?^^ buuut if there was no consent, you may save someone from being with a cheating a-hole^^
Me too, because that’s exactly how I found out my ex was cheating lol Forever indebted to the girl who told me because I’m not sure how long it would have taken me to figure it out on my own.. he was clever and I was trusting 🥴
@@itscaityo I knew my ex-husband was cheating on me, a LOT, but never could "prove" it while we were together - it all came out after we were no longer together - but I WISH any one of tge many girls had come to me at any time during the marriage. Would have saved me 18 years of wasted time! I'd never have been mad at a girl for telling me - it's not HER fault that a married man stepped out! It's shady when they know he's married and help him hide it from his wife!
I wish whoever was cheating with my ex told me. I remember some nurse was flirting with my ex husband, ignoring me. In my native culture, we speak nonverballly with our eyes. My ex (Whose not part of my culture) didn't know this. My ex and this nurse had been talking before I walked in the room (I was pregnanton a prenatal visit). The other native lady in the room looked mad. She looked at me, and then directed her eyes to the two. I was confused at the time. But that lady was REALLY flirting with my ex. Flipping her hair around and everything. Well, there were signs he was cheating. First, he told me I wasn't sexually attractive. Then he would welcome conversations with other women all the time. (Even after I gave freaking labor). My last straw was his constant accusations of me cheating.
But he gaslit me so much.
He accused me of cheating so much. I had enough. The last time he accused me with boxing instructor. Yeah he was so suspicious of the mma and boxing dudes, but those dudes ain't my type. I like to be friends with them but have ZERO romantic interest. (Then tend to be callous with no romance.)
So I broke up with him after that accusations. Keep in mind he was accusing me for years. If I brought up it felt like he was cheating on me ( i rarely did this) He would gaslight and blame shift to ne that I'm the one cheating.
Dude had to have cheated on me.
I just want some clarity.
Saw a guy in an expensive car near his bosses house, he avoided my gaze and looked worried.
I asked the boss if he'd had a meeting at home, no, he was with a client, ouch, best in the open, he was betrayed by his employee (who had to find another job).
I was cheated on. One of the things that hurt most was how many people knew and I was walking around ignorant. So embarrassing.
shame on those people babes. throw them away too. you deserve better!!!
Yup.....this was me last March. Damn near destroyed me
It hurts especially when their family knows and just doesn't care or say anything despite being seemingly close to you
People fucking suck. I’ve had the same happen to me. I don’t speak to those people
I mean, it's embarrassing for them, not you. Could you imagine being such a spineless coward that you'd cover up for a cheater? You have nothing to feel embarrassed about, it'd be like feeling embarrassed you got t-boned at an intersection. Other peoples' actions and failures are not yours to feel shame about. Unless you're a parent/guardian but I'd that's a different scenario.
I'm a guy who was cheated on by my (now) ex-wife. She was chronically depressed and I encouraged her to hang out with her friends. Turns out, one of those friends was a guy she took an interest in. The part that makes my stomach turn even 14+ years later is that we had sex at least once after she started cheating...
I'm in a happier place now, but it was definitely a learning process and a healing process. Best of luck to anybody who goes through similar.
Know that it's not your fault.
Ive been in 6 long term relationships within my lifetime I'm 24 out of 6 of those 4 cheated and 1 Ghosted the other we broke up due to long distance she moved across the country for school i stay in our hometown differing from college because of some family issues with health
Found out after our divorce (I'd suspected all along, but he was clever, and I could never "prove" it during our marriage) that my husband of almost 18 years had been cheating on me on and off with many, MANY women through the whole relationship.😢
@@kzmultiversalstudios4556 6 and you are only 24 ? If you meet constantly cheaters the problem is you . I am 44 believe me when I say trust needs to be earned and also usually dishonest people always from day one tell you who they are - you just don't want to listen. I was in your " shoes" you need to learn to read people and learn to be by yourself until you find a lifetime partner.
For real, you'd think they would at least have the decency to stop sleeping with you.
The lying about the birthdate was probably so that he could celebrate his birthday with his real family and have the day free, not get caught by other girls in case they tried to surprise him on his fake bday. Guessing he learned from a past experience
True! Also, makes it easier to claim that dude on the dating site is "Not me"
He had multiple accounts, he has a deep problem, stay away.
Eeeewwwwww, huuummmm, that's thinking on a different level. I never thought that totally makes so much sense thank you.
I have never been in a relationship where I was NOT cheated on and eventually quit believing I could ever find a man who loved me and only me so I quit looking for love 32 years ago. I am 64 now. I didn't really think I would be alone for 3 decades but when I set the criteria that they have to be honest and true, no one ever fit the bill and I refuse to be one of those women who will settle (anymore). I deserve to be loved as I love. Why put up with less than that. I used to say that if I could find someone who loves me as much as my dog loves me (I am "it" for him) then I would pursue the relationship but my dog is a better partner in life than any man I have ever known. Sad but true.
Good for you. My mother is the same way. Men her age and yours are single for a reason. Hell, even my age at 40. 😂 the dating pool becomes stagnant after so many years… then it’s just a farting cesspool. I’m so blessed and grateful to have found my future husband. He’s the best person I’ve ever met. Don’t settle. Refuse to be anything but loved and prioritized over anything else. And know your worth. I love this for you queen. ❤
ETA: I’ve also never been in a relationship I’ve never been cheated on. Until now. I stayed single and true to myself for six years and became my own partner. Then I got real lucky. So it’s never too late honestly, but again, I love this for you. Be happy in your singldome. It can be absolutely beautiful if you embrace it and allow it to be.
I had a similar situation. I stopped dating in 2007.
My grandma has been widowed for 10 years, the family has asked her if she plans to date again and she says men ain't 💩, so no thanks 😂😂😂 I think you got it right
After so many years of treating yourself like royalty, male or female, it's soooo hard to find someone to meet and exceed your standards. Keep spoiling yourself, babes.
@@PlainOlCourtney fully agreed!!!
I met my husband in high school, we were best friends for 6yrs before we started dating, dated/lived together for 2yrs. When we hear these horror stories, we are so damn grateful we found each other. Prayers to all you brave enough to be in the dating pool, good luck to all! I really hope you all find your person that loves you each as you deserve!
❤❤❤❤❤
Pro tip; if you ever think to yourself “I should loyalty test my partner” there’s already a problem. What are they doing that makes you think that?
Yeah, it’s like searching up a “am I gay” quiz. Like, if the question is there, it’s either an external issue or an internal one, but that means there’s a blip on the radar: the question is if it’s from outside or inside the house
Loved the woman who told the wife🙌🙌 That takes some guts to do that. He saying divorced for 6 months and was married for 6 months. She actually saved this wife for spending time on an awful idiot. Now this hurt woman could move on and find a good man, because the one she married wasn’t a man. Well done gorgeous girl 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🥳🤩
I’d send that fiancé a funeral announcement of our relationship if you wanna so casually say I died.
I'd send it to everyone we knew inviting them to the wake 😂
I was thinking the same thing! 😅
@@beepboop97I hope there will be champagne and "it's too late to apologize" by Timbaland and "I'll survive" by Gloria Gaynor will be on rotation. 😂
😂😂
@@2late4date LOL I will survive 😭😭😭
I never understood the opinion of not telling someone that they are being cheated on
I’ve never understood it either
I think they should be given the choice to tell them themselves with a reasonable amount, amount of time, and if they don’t you tell them…
So you don’t have to be part of the drama….
@@Sar-ahGI bet these gaslighters would just use that time to come up with an excuse. They could block the person they cheated with from their partners phone and social media. They could lay a backstory.
If he cheated, what would compel him to suddenly be honest when he could just go on being a lying prick by covering it up?
Because you’ll always be seen as the person who delivered the bad news. I knew two of the best friends there ever were. They were soul sisters…until one of them saw the others man out with another woman and told her about it. There was a huge blow up and they’re no longer friends. It sent the girl who told her bf into a tailspin and she’s never been the same since. So no…I’m a crappy friend but I’m not gonna be the bearer of bad news.
I love that statement. Forcing someone into commitment does not guarantee their faithfulness. You cannot force someone to be loyal if they don’t want to be. You are wasting time, effort, and love. Move on.
Every time I see women who are actually talented enough to be able to put on makeup competently I’m always in awe. So much work goes into it, and I’m always impressed. So many different brushes and products, it’s so intimidating to me. Y’all look incredible! 🥰
I’m glad Charlotte mentioned the contour in the first video! 😂 I got so distracted by it that I wasn’t even paying attention to the story and had to rewind a couple times 💀
Like it was so dark and such an excessive amount, I was expecting the final result to be a disaster but somehow she made it work and looks amazing?? She’s a wizard!
Mike will never cheat because he actually loves and respects you. You're a queen!
That means nothing.
I wonder if we will see a ring after the holidays...
And he knows Charlotte's Potats would hunt him down.
@@Softsqueakyduckexactly 😂
@@KrystyneY ???
And it’s “I have a special talent-it’s cheating on people that LOVE ME”. A man that does that doesn’t love anyone but himself
Truer words were never spoken!
He doesn't even love himself actually. He may love the attention he gets, but if he truly loved himself, he wouldn't hurt anyone else. Hurt people hurt others.
Point of clarification Miss Charlotte? People don’t cheat on people they love! They cheat on people that love them! 😔😢
That's true and makes it that much worse. It's hard afterwards to shake the feeling of being unworthy of sincere love.
Truer words have never been spoken my friend.
Yessssss
Mic DROP!!!!!!!
@@clairechotteau6461 therapy Helps. It helped me recognize it was a them problem and not a me problem. It’s a condition of the heart. Theirs is broken. I had never been in a relationship where I hadn’t been cheated on. I got single, stayed single for six years. Sought out therapy, worked on myself, became my own partner and spoiled myself and my kid. Then I met my future husband and realized he was me in male form. He loves me like I’ve never been loved. It’s honestly never too late. But being single can be beautiful too. If you embrace it and allow it to be. I enjoyed being single a lot. But I absolutely am head over heels in love with my future husband. And I can honestly say he is for me as well. I used to wish I could see love under a microscope. To prove that someone, anyone had actually loved me. Including my cheating lying ex husband. But I no longer think that way. Because love is shown. Not said. It’s the actions and the little things that speak volumes that words never could. Be the love you wish to see and love will follow. Be that in your family dynamic, friendships, or lovers. It’s true in all aspects. Be always keep yourself guarded. Don’t let this world Jade that beautiful heart my friend. Much love bestie 🫶🏼
Charlotte I’m going through it right now in my relationship and your videos have been bringing me so much comfort. Thank you and please keep being you.
i fully believe that that man lied about his birthday so that he wouldn’t have to worry about seeing his mistress on his actual birthday, or coming up with excuses to anyone. This man was absolutely planning on continuing this double life charade LONG TERM, even after JUST getting married. what a terrible human being.
Literally just earlier this week matched with a guy on hinge who said he was a resident physician in my city (keep in mind I’m a resident physician too). I check the hospital residency list online and he’s not on the list. I asked him and he ghosts me. These streets aren’t safe. Thank you Charlotte for the content. ❤
YES. Trust your gut but also get to know yourself enough that you learn the difference between a gut instinct and a trauma response because they can both feel the same and real. I know people can sabotage good relationships thinking they are listening to their gut when it’s a trauma response from the hurt they’ve been through before the person they are with currently. It’s something I’m still learning to differentiate myself. Good luck to you all ♥️
It is actually so sad that all six of those women never responded. That is the kind of world that we live in today.. how sad
Agree. Just sad.
I’ll never understand! The risk of STI’s alone. And I mean the scary kind that don’t surface for years 🤦♀️
@@mar-shagazorpazorp6431took a friend to get tested as a group because she was afraid and we were worried for her. I hadn’t even had a serious boyfriend and was not hooking up so I told the nurse so when she took me back, explaining that I expected no issues and why. She told me the craziest story. A nurse had come in for HIV testing due to needle stick but the panel runs them all. It came back with all the big bads, including Hepatits C, at the time untreatable. That was how the poor woman found out her husband was cheating.
Agreed. I get they feel ashamed maybe and don’t want to be put on blast, especially if they truly didn’t know or never had it confirmed and just dipped. Many wives will blame the side piece rather than the dude. However, he’s obviously been telling wifey that everything is fine, when she probably had red flags galore so it is your duty to take that self centered, insecure, ego driven man down and be honest. Yes, I was with him. Yes I knew or no I didn’t.
I kinda understand them,even though it's not the right thing to do
After my bf cheated on me,I contacted the girl he did it with
Even though we were both f-d up by him,she got angry at me eventually, even though I was compassionate and gentle with the bad news
Maybe they didn't want to be involved in the drama and emotionally invest and just made their own assumptions
What can they do, if it's already known that he cheated
If there was some kind of legal issue, I would like someone else's help in that matter (like some kind of additional proof)
I’m so glad women reached out to each other and put the blame on him and support each other!
I once dated a guy when I was 16. We were pretty close, we talked every day and almost saw each other every day as we went to the same cram class. We had a mutual friend who was a closer friend. After several months of happily dating, one fine day, that friend came to me and she told me, "hey, are u guys dating?" I thought she'd known all along so I laughed, thinking it was a joke. She then told me "he asked me out 3 days back, but I think something went on between u guys." I said "yea we've been dating for last 16 months. How can he just say that??" She shrugged and went.
Tbh I already had my suspicions because he seemed emotionally distant. This reaffirmed it. So I decided to confront him. I told our mutual friend that I will ask him about this. When I went to him, HE asked ME to leave his life, because apparently he didn't talk to cheaters. I was utterly confused and at a loss of words. What kind of projection was that? I was very naive back then, so didn't argue much, I just cried, I told him I wasn't doing anything wrong and just left. (I regret it so much)
Fast forward to a few days back. I had received a call from an unknown number. Turns out it was the girl (mutual friend). She ended up dating him and he turned out to be a huge huge douche bag. She called me to apologise as she felt apologetic after that incident. We ended up comparing notes and discovered numerous lies. He cheated on her multiple times, manipulated her and projected.He was and continues to be a jerk, I'm happy I dodged a bullet and now I have learnt an important lesson to grow a spine and stand up for myself
I have thankfully never been cheated on, but I know for a fact that I couldn't "work through it" if someone did cheat on me. The trust would be irrevocably gone, there's no coming back from that!
Agreed. I fortunately haven’t been cheated on but I don’t know how people stay. No judgment, it’s their choice to make but I couldn’t be intimate with that person or trust them again.
At some point you have to be amazed at the effort people put into cheating on , lying to and gaslighting their partner or fiancee . The last OP especially. How do you fake an entire conversation with your co-worker accusing him of impersonating you to cover up your crimes on Bumble . That is a level of pathological lying rarely even seen among cheaters . They as Charlotte put it , need to be sent straight to the garbage bin .
That’s where my ex husband is, the garbage bin. Cheating, gas lighting, lying sob. He then married a mail order bride from the Philippines and after he retired they moved there. Good place for him, many many miles away
I find it really messed up that people would actually go out of their way to help a cheater make up lies to help cover for them! It's honestly disgusting & it tells a lot about their character/morals. 😒🙄
My ex was Exactly like this lol
if you give them permission to cheat, that just takes all the allure out of sneaking around for them.
This woman that investigated the cheater and told on him is the best. I would immediately want to know if my partner wasn’t really my partner.
Okay, I really love that the second girl
Was passive all throughout the conversation. She didn't really flirt back, truly highlighting the guy's a trash...
Unless the woman came out and said “Hey, I am hitting on you!” my husband would be clueless 😂😂
Same lol, I am super oblivious to women flirting 😂
The tea is so FRESH IT IS SCALDING HOT!!! We've missed you Charlotte! Hope you have a wonderful Christmas and a Happy 2024!
My boyfriend had a hard time at the beginning of our relationship because his previous long term girlfriend cheated and lied. It really hurt him. So there were a few times he was sensitive or it took a while to trust I wouldn't hurt him the same way. I tried not to take it personally. Regaining the ability to trust another person and enter a relationship after being hurt so bad takes A LOT of work. It was a little rocky at first but he worked through it and we were able to move forward together. He and I have now happily been together 7years. To anyone who's been hurt, I hope you can heal and find the person in this world that sees the beauty and light in you and respects it. There is hope for better days and there is a special someone out there for you.
Time only heals and develops but Time never forgives.
This is why I’m scared of being in a relationship. Sometimes there aren’t red flags to go off of. They could be the most perfect thing in your eyes with no complications but the reality is something much different. It’s quite literally getting to the point where I’m scared of being loved altogether. Not by family or friends obviously but in a relationship…I can’t.
I swear my favorite thing is taking a shower, getting all cozy into my clean sheets with a snacky snack and watching charlottes videos. Just "chefs kiss"
My motto, once you cheat, you're out. I don't know what you caught cheating, don't know how many people you slept with. The lying tells you everything. That person doesn't care about you when they cheat and lie.
As someone who went through this and gave him another chance…just, don’t. You never see that man, (or woman), you fell madly in love with and the other person, (or people), live rent free in your brain, draining every ounce of self confidence you had. It’s just not worth it, no matter how much you love them and how much therapy you go to. 😢
Women would be shocked how often guys will tell another woman, "how his marriage sucks", and flirts then. No matter how much of a lady you are, and absolutely NOT sending any signals you're interested. They'll still do it.
Yep. Or "We are getting separated" or "We have an arrangement "
THE CONTOUR WAS MAGICAL! I’m so glad you said something bc I was thinking exactly the same thing
lmfao im glad you brought up that contour, b/c I was seriously giving that the side eye. I was trusting the process hahaha
I have been on both sides, the person who had to tell someone their partner has been unfaithful, as well as the person who was told by other girls that my partner tried to be unfaithful with them. I will never not tell if I find out someone is cheating on their partner
Charlotte is already funny, but her editor makes things 10x more funny! I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS
If you can't stay loyal, stay single.
- Charlotte Dobré
I'm so glad you said that about the contour because MY FACE WHEN SHE FIRST PUT IT ON
Just a reminder for you cheaters out there, there’s absolutely no reason you need to cheat on your partner if you’re lacking something in the relationship. Communication exists and it’s so easy to bring up to them what you feel you’re lacking and you can both then work on the relationship and make sure you’re both receiving and giving what you need to for the relationship to work equally. There’s never a good enough reason or excuse to cheat, and it’s never anyone else’s fault except yours (the cheaters).
"Mind your own business!" about cheating people are shady. I don't trust anyone who wouldn't tell the other woman at least anonymously.
this is why i am nervous to ever have a relationship. hence why i would rather stay single so thank you charlotte for another great video.
Just remember that these videos highlight the worst of the worst. There really are good, loyal people out there, I promise.
Not saying though that staying single isn't a valid choice, obviously.
@@BreeS-zd5rx thank you i will keep that in mind and i hope you have a blessed day
Honestly, just get a good therapist that you click with and keep seeing them regularly (once a week, once a month, whatever is appropriate for your needs). It's just good self care/maintenance, but especially if you're nervous about navigating relationships!
A life ruled by fear. Sounds exhausting.
'The squeaky wheel gets the oil'- (hence these horror stories) Most people find a loyal, happy and healthy relationship and don't do tiktoks about them. . Be honest, be yourself... And treat your special person the way you want to be treated. Love is worth it. Take care.
Thank you Charlotte for this year of service and the sacrifices you’ve made for entertaining us!
I wish everyone a Merry Christmas & happy holidays. And that everyone will find love in the New Year!!! ❤
Same to you!
Charlotte is quite honestly the best, isnt she!
Merry Christmas to you too darlin! ❤
Happy holidays!
Merry Christmas Charlotte and have a wonderful New Year!!!
Merry Christmas and I hope you have a great new year 🎉
“Men comfortable in their masculinity aren’t generally homophobic”. THISSSS! I was lucky enough to have really amazing selfless, chivalrous, yet very open, pro-LGBTQ southern men around me my whole life, including my father and grandfather. My partner of four years jokes about his love of Ryan Reynolds like most men lol, but he’s the biggest happy puppy man, big, strong, and bearded, but extremely comfortable being himself. It makes me so happy. Confidence is so amazing.
Ooooof your hair looks SO PRETTY!!! And against the red shirt and your red brows and red lipstick
💄 it’s just so perfectly chirstmassy and so pretty and elegant
Have a very petty Christmas Charlotte! We love you!!!
have the pettiest christmas babe! Love you too!
But today is Winter Solstice. That’s kind of a big deal in my little house. We’re buried in snow up here, so tonight will begin the season when the days are getting longer.
why are you so invested in policing peoples language?@@Sbarali777
@@mapatterson173and as a negative side effect, unbearable heat for 4 months in summer. Yuck. I prefer this season, but I guess it's easy speaking when you're at 11⁰Celsius or around 50 degrees F and harsh winters are not common (anymore).
Merry Christmas charlotte please wish Mike and your family a Merry Christmas 🫂 ❤@CharlotteDobre
When I was in the going on dates phase, I had two that I was going on dates with. I wasn’t telling anyone about the other, and it SERIOUSLY took a mental toll on me juggling the two. Idk how people cheat, and even worse, with more than one person.
My boyfriend and I joke that we don't understand how people cheat. Between our work schedules and just the workings of our day-to-day lives, the idea of having a side-piece just sounds exhausting. We barely have time for ourselves, let alone other partners! Lol
It's a lot easier if they don't have a set mistress or anything, but some people are literally out here having two whole families or 7+ relationships and I'm like 'how the fuck do you afford this, you'd have to be jobless to have the time, and they're not gonna all be paying you money'. But honestly as for the mental toll? It is probably a whole lot easier if you do not care about people and their feelings. Can't be stressed out about A and B if you don't give a damn.
@@BreeS-zd5rx totally agree! Plus I’ve had TWO surgeries in the past 3 weeks and still recovering from one. He works long hours, I’ll be working long hours when I’m back at work. Sometimes I forget my own name, how would I remember all that!! I’ll stick to just my one good man 😊
Don’t be afraid, Charlotte. There are wonderful men out there. I have been married for 30 years to a great husband and father. We were both in our late 20s (very old in the 90s in my town) we still have a great relationship and laugh a lot. I love him so much!!😘
That contour shocked the sh*t out of me- GORGEOUS!
My brother is somebody that is very confident in the fact that he likes women. he did not even care when a group of girls in middle school thought he was gay. He simply said none were his type, so they didn’t need to be corrected 😅
I'm so glad you brought up her contour, because I could barely concentrate on her story..... I was thinking, "Oh god. This girl's contour is gonna be so bad.... Who taught you how to contour? Why is is so thick?"
I think she cleaned her face & restarted because there's no way her cheek contour came out that light & subtle.... No way!
It came out light after she applied foundation on top of the contour, she showed it😂😂😂
It’s under painting!! The foundation washes a lot of it out so I apply it darker/thicker than I would if I were contouring over my foundation. But it makes the overall look appear more subtle when I have to do full glam and this was for an event I was going to be photographed at :)
It was very hypnotizing 🎨🐼
If people really believe being married means they won’t be cheated on, you are in for a big awakening!
Yep, apparently my father cheated on my mom around the time my older brother was born, and they’d been married for a number of years. And my father encouraged her to cheat on her first husband when they met.
Right, that makes as much sense as the people who think a baby will keep a marriage together.
@@Just-Nikki Exactly, like those having a baby to save their relationship…. Just equals more disaster
Pardon??
For real... the editor deserves a raise 😂 the edits are just hilarious and that person is gold
Thanks for the tag! We love to see women supporting women 🩷🩷
Happy holiday, Charlotte!! You’re the prettiest petty queen ever. ❤
Your partner "not being around and always leaving" is NOT an excuse to cheat. 😅 If you can't handle it, end the relationship. Is it really that hard?
Big reason why I'm still single. New fears unlocked ALL the time. I cant stand cheating, I've been cheated on and STILL have trust issues from it. Bruh, so vile seriously! 🙄 These cheaters are for the streets. Sheesh! 😮
After a hard day, Charlotte's what I need ❤
Can we talk about Charlotte slaying her hair and makeup ❤️❤️❤️🔥🔥🔥
I definitely kept staring at her hair the whole video. How is it so shiny and smooth!
Charlotte looks AND ACTS like one of my friends in college! BUT that was a long time ago! Your young enough to be her daughter! Love your personality!
100% you should tell the wife if the husband used you to cheat. The wife thinks she is in a committed relationship, and isn't thinking about protecting herself from STDs or STIs. But he is sleeping around and could bring one home and pass it on to her. Those are often lifelong issues that could detrimentally affect an innocent bystander. The cheater can and should suffer consequences for bad decisions, but the non-cheating spouse shouldn't have to.
I love watching these beautiful people do a full face of make-up while telling intense and complicated stories. I couldn't do either without getting distracted 😅❤😂
Omg the adhd is strong in me.
Merry Christmas Charlotte! My wife and I watch your channel daily and debate alongside you constantly 😂 we love your content.
@@Sbarali777 why are you the way that you are? I doubt she’s doing content on Christmas Eve/day. I would imagine that she will enjoy a break with family and friends for the holiday.
@@Wigmaster_James fr
Nobody cares this much
This dude needs therapy or something
@@Wigmaster_James He also does this if you say Good Morning. Kinda sad really
@@Sbarali777how is saying Merry Christmas or good morning not inclusive?
@@Sbarali777oh shut the hell up inclusivity is fucking weak and anyone that feels that everyone needs to be included in everything is fucking dumb
My concern is what kind of diseases will the cheating partner bring home. You don't always use protection when you're in a committed relationship.
Well put charlotte when stating "Do you love stomping on peoples hearts distroying there lifes basicly. You nailed it.
I must say, Charlotte has one of THEE BEST groups of followers. Everyone is so kind, i love it 🥰
Thank you Charlotte for bringing us all together 💞 i hope everyone has a wonderful day!
Merry Christmas Charlotte and Mike. Thanks for working so hard to make us laugh, Charlotte. You’re the best ❤
Are y'all flirting in the comments?
@@chickenhate_r I sensed that too😂
Once a cheat always a cheat. It’s the worst!
I have to disagree with this.. I used to cheat,on every guy I dated, but then I met my husband.. He's been the best in my life,and keeps me grounded.. I haven't even thought about doing something so vile to him.. but I was a teen, when I was a hoe.. Now I've been married for 21yrs and it's been the best years of my life..
@@theelderweeb8956 considering you call them mistakes and blame it on being young makes me think you haven't taken accountability
I believe this if it's IN that relationship. It's really hard for those that cheat to stop when they're caught and the person their cheating on stays. However, a cheater can change their ways, but only if THEY want to. You can't make them change.
@@thetuftinghooker I wouldn’t even waste my time or energy trying to make someone unfaithful change. I think it’s a lesson they have to figure out the hard way
Cheating is and always be a sign of disrespect. Cheating is self-serving and cruel. Many spouses get cheated on when they are ill, pregnant, depressed etc, their partner doesn’t give a fuq about their wellbeing.
if you find out a person has a spouse or other relationships tell them (even anonymously). Why? Most committed couples don’t use barrier protection when being intimate, I cannot quantify the number of people I know who have caught STI’s and STD’s from an unfaithful partner.
If Mike ever cheats on you, ALL YOUR PETTY POTATOES WILL RIDE FOR YOU
As a woman, wife, and mother to a daughter, Chastity, you are a beautiful soul inside and out. May God bless you immensely for your heart ❤️
My daughter (45) recently divorced, is finding out the truth of the dating game and is very steamed over the lying and cheating ! Luckily for her she,is very intelligent and does background research and does a deep dive to get the inside info !
Merry Christmas Charlotte and Mike! All the best in the new year. You both deserve everything you could ever want.
@@Sbarali777Why are you commenting this over and over? Everyone knows Christmas is on Monday 😂
@@Sbarali777actually, you are right, Merry Christmas isn't inclusive, and I actually say Happy Holidays, because not everyone celebrates Christmas, so my apologies
“We both went to college for theatre…”
That was your first clue.
I'm glad I'm not the only one that thought that about the contour lmao. Definitely a "trust the process" look.
Wow the flashbacks I just had. I have a very similar situation as the last girl
We was engaged, dated for 3 years and the entire 3years he talked and texted with 20+ girls dated 5 of them and all he could say when I found out was I didn't have naughty with anyone finding out a year later that was lie and I'm extremely thankful for the one girl who spoke up. I am so much happier now being single raising my kids alone ❤
I feel so bad for that girl who's fiance was cheating on her their entire relationship. How do you ever recover from that and trust another person?
Exactly Charlotte, if ya married ya supposed to put boundaries with people. Had to tell my wife the hard way that her messages with "friends" were not appropriate.
"We both went to colleg for theater...."
And you believed him? 😂
This girl is right his wife one hundred percent deserves to know !!
Have the happiest of holidays! Thank you for making us laugh all year!
The birthday date changing one is obvious, because each of the other women will want to spend time with him on his birthday so he has to spread them out so he never double books any evening especially for something important like a birthday
I don’t think zero socials is a red flag…I got off 6 years ago because it was skewing my perception of reality & self worth. *spends 13 hours a day on RUclips *
I do the same, watch you tube a lot, scroll Instagram and TikTok for stuff I’m interested in but have little to no personal presence on social media. For me, my timelines constantly seemed toxic, full of fakeness and vanity and virtue signalling and I just couldn’t be arsed with putting myself in the mix with all that crap. Love watching you tube tho lol There’s some amazing stuff on here, but you’ll be hard pushed to find a selfie of me 🤣 x❤
Okay but can we take a second to appreciate how absolutely GORGEOUS these women are???
I don’t understand how people cheat and live these double (or more) lives. I don’t even have a good time living one life
I believe that when people cheat it is rarely about the person that they're in a committed relationship with. Not a power dynamic or anything else. They have an emptiness inside of them that they are trying to fill with outside validation instead of looking within to fill it themselves.
The excuses and gaslighting of their partners is a defense mechanism against having to do the work and deal with the emptiness that they probably don't even know that they need to address. They will never be truly happy until they work on themselves. They'll just be drifting from one validation high to the next. It's a sad existence, really. But still not a reason not to throw the whole cheater away!
It is often insecurity based and they do feel shame about what they’ve done but it just gets turned around in their head. Their internal problems are not excuses for this behavior but it can help the true victims to realize they did nothing wrong, it was never about them, and all they ever had control over was themselves.
You are spot on! Very well stated. Unfortunately I am/have experienced exactly what you stated.
Gosh I hate loyalty tests so much. Not necessarily when cheaters are being caught but just because of the whole idea. The fact that you do something like this behind your partners back not only means that you have trust issues. It also means that your partner cannot trust you. Espessially when it turns out your partner is loyal
Merry early pettymas, we love you charlotte :) :)
Ok but i want a t-shirt whit charlotte’s face saying “HOW ARE YOU NOT EMBARRASSED” 🤣 I need it ❤
Can confirm that when men get CAUGHT, like fully caught, they will just drop the act and stare at you. Sometimes with zero emotion, sometimes with a vindictive smile on their face. Sometimes they'll throw in a single line to hurt you further, for me it was "well then I guess you'll be pissed I took her home for Easter too."
The only response to someone hitting on you while you in a relationship “Back the f**k off” 😂😂😂