Honestly, in my short experience living in this world, I have come to the point of remaining detached to everything, or at least doing my best to. The thing is, when we become attached to things, we are giving our power away. For example, if we're attached to something and we get it, but then we lose it, then we also lose ourselves in the process. I think it's important we learn to be happy just as we are because when we are able to do that, no matter what happens in our world, nothing will phase us. Part of it is also learning not to take anything personally, even the perceived good. I'm still learning to let go of trying to control things. As someone who dealt with an eating disorder, which is a lot of wanting to have control, learning to let go of control doesn't feel easy, but the more we do it the better we become. That's with anything in life
sorry unsolicited opinion warning I think you not wanting to "give your power away" in those ways is also a way you are trying to control things,true letting go of control is when you aren't afraid to love and live deeply,just because things might end badly or not last.
I finally decided to "let go" and finally began manifesting what I had been trying to manifest for MONTHS. I was affirming, scripting, attempting to visualize...many different things. Instead of helping my situation, I feel like what I wanted was getting pushed away and I became more obsessed with getting a specific situation. I eventually just prayed to the universe and said I trusted the universe with bettering my situation and then a few days later, things started to fall into place. 💕
I swear, I’m done with ”trying to manifest“. I feel like the law of assumption and techniques have got me into a rabbit hole at some point. Now I’m just back to how I lived my life before knowing anything about manifestation - I’m just more mindful and focus on my well-being and confidence more! Detaching and just going with the flow whilst doing my best to stay happy and relaxed is the way I do it now. Love your video! ❤
I am exactly there. Like, I'm done doing techniques and trying to achieve something, now it's just I have desires and let them come to me and I'm content with my self and life. It feels like a big victory. I'm glad you're feeling something similar too
@@jillkx Probably because tiktok and most youtube coaches ruined law of assumption. Neville Goddard put it in terms as simple as possible (which is why he's most people's go-to): you basically just have to believe you already have your desires or that they're already promised to you and that's it. After that, you get out of your own way and go with the flow. You technically don't have to do anything else. Techniques are just things that help you, not everything will work for everyone. Tiktok made persisting out to be forced affirmations while you're crying in the bathroom lol, that won't do anything but make you feel like shit. Persistance just means that you don't fall back into a story you don't like (such as "I'm unloveable") and when you do, you take yourself out of it. Tiktok also made techniques the most important thing in manifesting when they're not even that important.
@@jillkx “I Am” and your imagination is the most powerful. Like IJ WD wrote, unfortunately this practice has gotten muddied and flooded by people on social media who either turned this into a business by selling classes/coaching or those who swear they’ve made a breakthrough and claim that their method is the way the works best. even Neville wasn’t the end all be all, you are. If you decide that you need 1 or 100 affirmations a day then that’s what it is, you’re the creator and you’re the one who chooses. techniques and methods are absolutely not necessary (nothing wrong with them at all i love them!) , imagination is
"A believer never despairs of relief from God". It's the same for me. I literally tell myself I entrust my life in the (metaphorical) palm of God's hand. And that God knows infinitely better than you and I know. And that we will recieve blessings when God wills it is right.
I am detached. After heartbreak in a marriage that led to a divorce process due to infidelity, narcissism, and constant lies, I detached to pour that same love into myself. One thing that requires BOLDNESS is to admit when we as ppl individually lack self love, and being with ppl who want validation and love from everywhere else will damage you the longer you stay. I am using this time to get to know myself more, be with God 100%, and continue healing, especially as a mom. I pray to come to this comment a time from now and be like, “Wow, this aged well! 😊”. Until then, I have work to do.
When you let go is when things start floating in your life. When you look for a remote you miss placed, you find it when you’re not even looking for it. The same thing ESPECIALLY applies with the dating scene. When you go out there and approach women, most of the time you’ll get rejected. When you’re minding your own business, focused on doing other things, they come. Even in a relationship, the more you care the worse you make it. Be detached from trying to “make things” work because it is, what it is!
To love is to attach. To be broken or hurt is to detach. Never subject yourself to unnecessary war and pain. You sound like you love extremely hard. That love can never be replaced and some people will long to have such love and affection in their lives. Stay strong and "protect your energy"
i attach myself out of fear of losing control, im scared of feeling myself and this world at its full potential. i need to learn to let go and just accept things the way the are, im so used to holding on and it builds so much tension. i’ve been blocking my love and my blessings. i really needed to hear this because a lot of it resonates at the moment.
You can't control anyone or anything. Just yourself, and heck even sometimes controlling ourselves is extremely hard. So controlling other situations or people should be out of question. It's difficult to detach but it's not impossible, it takes practice
I feel Like I've disociated so much that I've finally become apathetic to my former expectations in relationships and I feel actually happier. You become so less needy and chill.
Practicing self love and following what feels good without trying to control others or the outcome. Radically accepting what you can’t control and focusing on what you can control that makes you happy
When you let go, you feel relax & that's when your manifestation comes true. That means , if you're tension free in a wish fulfillment stage, you will see it soon.
Thanks. I’m a control freak. I didn’t know it until recently. I have a tendency to hold onto things and people far longer then I should but more importantly I try to control the outcome.
As someone with BPD & Hypersensitive Personality, I have MAJOR attachment issues to basically everything and everyone, if they’re super important to me. It’s a beautiful thing, and it probably makes me more empathetic than maybe an average person would be, but that also causes a lot of pain when you can’t detach from things or people that you know you need to get away from. I’m 21 years old and I feel like one day, if I work hard enough, I’ll really be able to know how to detach. But for now it’s definitely a work in progress, and that’s ok. 🦋
Last year i entered a new journey, it all started with affirmations to become more confident and slowly turned into something bigger, the universe has delivered so much to me, taught me so much and i am so grateful for all of it, i can affirm that it took a big amount of tears to get here, but i feel like i’m starting to understand the purpose of a lot of things, it’s more than my words can explain, but i can say that i’m experiencing detachment and it is a true blessing. To trust yourself and the universe is the best thing one can do.
“ you are the weather “- whenever shifts in the weather happens, it’s always to help out the earth in some way. and that’s how i like to view it. my storms, cold days, etc are helping me for the other seasons in my life ✨. Everything works out even if you don’t see it, like the weather
I think some people didn’t understand the essence of eypo. “If everyone is me, then I can control THEM”. But the point of the quote is the opposite, it’s not about them, it’s about youu . “No one to change but self”. It’s literally so self explanatory. You don’t get to change or control anything except for yourself. When you are giving yourself love, and you are becoming the most “connected to your soul needs” version of yourself, life and “them” will reflect that
Thanks for this! I was getting so sick of setting timers to affirm or making tapes. No more sticking to rigid schedules that have been ingrained into me from LOA communities on Twitter or YT. I’m just living. It’ll come to me, as Neville said it’s already done.
This was meant for me today. I’m SOOO attached specifically to my sp and I can worry easily if things contradict my plan. Today I was heading down that path but I stopped and reminded myself the lesson I’ve been learning recently-my source has always worked everything out in my life better than I could’ve imagined it. It helped my heart rest. Then I saw you uploaded this. You are truly an angel. Thank you for being my calm in a storm.
I think an important point about love is that the more you can also love without expecting it in return will give you so much peace and freedom. that is truly abundant.
I'm telling you, two important keys to manifesting are 1) detach from the outcome of what you desire and 2) try as best you can to visualize your desire as the best for everyone or other people specifically how it will benefit them (not just yourself). I worked specifically on doing those two things, and I was very worried about having to find a new apartment with the very high prices in this city and I found the perfect most beautiful apartment for literally what I'm paying now and it's better.... I am blown away by how smooth and fast the process went! Thank you to the most high, GOD ❤❤❤❤
1. Remove yourself from the picture 2. Temporary weather (This too shall pass) 3. Self control (Regulate emotions,prioritise yourself, self love) 4. Be aware of things you can and cannot control
I detached myself to almost everything in my surroundings. I even detached myself from my friends; now when they ignore me it feels normal back then when they do that it messes my mind. So detaching and not controlling the uncontrollable give me peace.
I'm so so sensitive and have so many internal highs and lows... it's hard for me to detach. Coming from religion too (who no longer is) I feel this sense of good and bad, high and low, this or that. I really lean deeply into every emotion and its ingrained in me to rely on external source. I work on it, but it can be quite difficult!
I am with you. I’m hypersensitive and I attach very easily to people, things, thoughts. But I’m working at detaching it’s tough and it takes practice. You got this!
The fact that you are working on it is improvment already! I used to be this same exact way, it was torturous and i had no idea until one day I had just had enough!!! Its a consistent project that has bought me so much joy love and balance. You got this!
I’ve learned that I need to do what I need to do to detach (yell, curse them out, write it down, etc). It might not be the most mature way but it allows me to easily get over things and detach ASAP
I needed to hear this because i was so out of it today, tears just streamed down from my eyes whole day long when i contemplated my life, where I want to be and where I am now. It hurts so much that I cried involuntarily I think I needed that, I knew I can’t do anything to change it right now but the pain was real.
I needed this so bad. I been a 6 year relationship which was off and on and we was so toxic for each other but we couldn't let go of each other but recently he jumped in a relationship with another person and i was so attach to him. i couldn't let go but i;m learn to be independent without anyone around , i know he will come back but I want to be healed and able to tell let him know in the proper way how everything we have done to each other fucked me up.
Detachment is hard because everuthing demands intimacy. Friends, work, family....they all want extreme intimacy in return and when they notice you are detached they can feel hurt. This tends to be the root of many problems
Apart from the great manifestation knowledge that she provides. I really love the overall vibe of your videos. The lighting, the music, the colour grading etc is just so minimal and sophisticated. This is what seperates you from other creators. Keep up the great work
I just wanted to say, that this video reflects exactly what I'm going through right now. I know I'm just one of many with romance problems and nothing is new under the sun about this. but I just wanted to share here, that right now I'm actively trying to detach myself from a situation where I find that who I love doesn't seem to be a good match for me and for my future plans. it is very hard. it is very hard admitting that no matter how much I wanted this person to be the love of my life, years and years what always comes up is that I'm in love with his potential and not the real, current him. and finally I've had enough, because I don't even like myself like this. it took a long time, but I realized that I want to and need to detach from everything I thought about us and my mindset, because it never lead to where I wanted to be and how I wanted to feel. I still don't know how it will go, because I was the type of person who wanted to control the story, but I just don't want to be like this anymore, no matter how much I love this person
from a manifestation perspective, not detaching is attaching to the old story and to the obsession or neediness for this outcome. by letting go if both of thise things, you can easily stay consistent w the new story and go with the flow!
Love this concept and never really learned about it until now . I am also someone who tends to have a controlling attitude towards my own circumstances and the people I involve myself with. But again, that seriously takes the fun out of life I just realized . so what if this guy was meant for you. Maybe he is or maybe he isn’t . If he isn’t it’s still okay because he just ISNT. If he is that’s okay too because HE IS . If we just stopped stressing about everything being in perfect order according to plan. There’s nothing wrong with having a schedule or a routine or an envision for your life . But when we are so hard on ourselves because we aren’t producing at the level we expect than that can seriously deter you from accomplishing ANY sort of goals . I think the art of detachment also allows you to be kinder to yourself . To realize that you legit can’t control if someone likes you or not . That you can do a lot of different jobs probably well, and EspeicAlly if you enjoy what you’re doing . If you focus on yourself and a little less on what others are doing as well, and even detaching yourself from what other people are up to around you. It’s not about not caring it’s more like simply being and being okay with having dreams but realizing having dreams and accomplishing a dream is only a subset to the experience of life .
Every time you post, it’s a banger!❤ Detachment is SUPER important. You can only control the things in your power, not the things that aren’t in your power
I can’t hear these words enough. Some of us have waited far too long to try and fix some deep-seeded habits and ideas, but knowing we aren’t alone out there helps so much! I’ve been trying to throw off the yoke of the obsessive fearful need to control things and keep them either safe or unable to hurt me my whole life. The struggle is real. Thanks again.
Some people go through hardship and pain some people repeat the pain over and over again some people say enough is enough detach and change the game forever all the best to whoever is reading this
I like what you say here and how freely you admit having a tendency to control your world and yet it doesn't diminish you one bit, on the contrary it makes you shine brighter! Your energy inspires and you provided me with a visual and audible model of the self-confident calmness I see is my own best self. Thank you 😊
Your videos have a really magical and poetic quality to them that makes them so wonderful to watch. Detachment is so important and something I need to stop being so afraid of.
3:49 THANK YOU. I really and truly needed this today. Thank you so much for reminding me that I should not only expect the outcome I want but remind myself that things can turn out better than I could ever expect. Instead of falling back into catastrophic thinking, moving to a place of wonder, mystery and excitement. Not worrying about what could go wrong, but what could go right. What IF everything worked out better than I could ever imagine?! My affirmation this week:: everything is always working out for me. The universe is always conspiring for my happiness.
This really helped me a lot. Been going through somethings that in a way kind of just made me become more attached than I normally am. With some reflection I looked back at myself when I was younger and I had a lot more control of myself and letting go was easier. Now I am going back and revisiting those roots minus the bad habits. Thank you for providing us with this video. It’s been a breath of fresh air.
Really resonated with this in terms of my career im 26 still undecided of what i want to do and accomplish. I get caught too much in the external factors that sometimes all I have to do is detach and let go, fully trust in the universe. Life is a ride we gotta step back and just enjoy the journey. Thank you
I love you. I don't know who you are. I haven't seen any of your other videos. I don't know why suddenly this was recommended, but you've just given me exactly what I needed to hear after a long series of stressful and confusing spirals I've recently been experiencing...
this really resonates with me. i started my neville journey 6 months ago, and after forcing myself into the feeling of the wish fulfilled with obsessive affirmations and thoughts, i’m so exhausted. i’m finally seeing how peaceful letting go and detaching can be. to those who have successfully detached, what do you do to relax your mind when you find yourself thinking of your manifestation?
Well first of all if I feel good thinking about it I'll allow myself to think about it for a minute or two. However if I start going in full on day dream mode I try to stop myself. Or if I start to imagine how it'll happen I stop myself and tell myself that it doesn't matter how it happened because it has ALREADY happened. I say that the universe brings it to me in the best way possible. I also do not say specific affirmations like - he's always texting me or something like that. Because that kinda keeps you attached to the outcome. I'm at a stage where I just don't care about getting a call/text or anything from him really, because in my mind I've got it all. Hope this helps. Also it's totally okay to take time to understand the law better so don't feel too stressed about it
@@dr.m6152 thank you sm, your advice really helps! i’m definitely going to tell myself, “the universe always brings it to me in the best way possible,” cause it’s a really good reminder. plus, you’re so right! if he’s already mine, why would i be worried about specific things, like a call or a text? and yes, thank you :,) i try to remind myself that the law is a learning process that takes time. i’m really just trying to stick with what works for me, instead of being swayed and confused with all these different techniques you read/hear about. since i wrote my comment, i’ve done a bit of inner work and i’ve really felt a shift in my state. i feel more relaxed than ever bc i know my sp is mine, no matter what i feel or do. ofc i slip in and out of it bc i’m human, but for the most part, i’m happy and calm. not sure if that’s detachment, but i do feel good :)
I love this video so much, it really resonated with me 💜 I recently started working on detaching from outcomes, and I feel like what’s been working for me is also becoming comfortable with the idea that my life is good the way it is without the certain thing I’m manifesting. I’d reaffirm to myself “Despite the outcome, things in my life are good just the way they are”. Lo and behold, I ended up getting them! When it comes to relationships, detachment is a bit easier when I ground myself and recognize when I’m attached to a person versus the IDEA of that person (it’s usually the idea of the person I get attached to)
i am so glad I found you, lately I’ve been finding more spiritual RUclipsrs apart from what’s trendy and I’m so blessed, you are teaching me so much, I’m so grateful for your presence and energy. sending you love and bliss 🥰💕
When I say I NEEDED this video...man. I'm currently going through whirlwind of problems that are forced upon me, and I've been desperate to gain control over everything for fear that if I dont, my problems will swallow me whole. I've always known I have an issue with "control", not in any harmful sense, but because I cant help but feel like I'm always burdened with issues that force ONLY me to find the solution to. But maybe that isnt the case, and maybe that's why I keep going through these problems...to learn a lesson in learning to detach and just do what you can with minimal desire to achieve an ideal outcome.
At this point. This is just what I’m going to focus on every day. I feel broken. I don’t feel like myself. The thought of “everything I do all the work I put in could amount to nothing and I need to be okay with that” it hurts, and it makes me want to quit hearing that. But that’s why I need to work on it. Because that’s not how I felt when I was a kid.
Hi, I stumbled upon your video on my recommended feed and I'm so glad I did! Until yesterday, I hadn't heard of you, but now I'm thoroughly enthralled. Your video on detachment resonated deeply with me. You were brutally honest. I've been struggling to let go of a situation and person, exhausting myself trying to control the outcome. Your insights helped me recognize the need to detach. I binge-watched your videos all night and am already experiencing a transformative shift. Your content is helping me find happiness and self-love. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
I've watched a couple of videos about this, but yours is literally word from word, how it is, before you can detach and what you need to get there. I'm glad I came across this video.
I was always in touch with my thoughts, goals and feelings until I entered an abusive relationship and it eroded all sense of self. It’s so important to remain anchored into yourself. I am now slowly after 2 years returning to my body (not just running on stress and autopilot) and its really knocked my self confidence. Beautiful and calming video, thank you 🙏
"Let yourself be pleasantly surprised ever so often, detach yourself from the outcome so you can see clearly from a bird's eye view, you are the sky, everything else is just the weather" ❤❤❤
2 minutes in and I am loving this. You’ve got such a great way of communicating your points. congrats on gaining so much self awareness and owning it and sharing it. It’s hard to accept those “negative” parts of you and meet them with compassion
i’ve never been touched so deeply by another’s words this is a subject i find myself struggling with putting in work from several months to years to still find myself working on it, her humility to even admit that this is something she’s still working on speaks volumes & i connected with each & every message that was meant for me to hear , thank you.
Everything you said hit so hard. I’ve grown up so hyper independent because I’ve been neglected and invalidated and basically hated by my own family growing up. So any form of love or affection from someone else, I would be so quick to attach. I’m learning to detach now and it’s been helping so much. Handling my emotions after the detachment is something i need to still keep working on
Beyond simping for Maleeka with pride, this channel helps me as a full time day trader. Stoicism, manifestations, patience, faith, etc. So much positivity in my life that this channel helps me identify and acknowledge
I want to live by this. I want to be unattached and I want to work on not needing people in my life all the time. I want to break up with someone that has caused me so much pain in the time I’ve been with them and they don’t care. So I will try and detach from everything so it will be easier for me to leave this person.
I’m amazed on how you’ve managed to create a big following with your type of videos. Visually and in terms of tone it feels slow. The complete opposite of what makes videos go “viral” some may say. They want faster pace and more visuals in the video and you provide none of that. Just goes to show that ppl can just post what they want and that’s fine
You kinda hit what I have been dealing with in this life. Use content that u feel is needed, you will connect to those who are the "odd" and this will help guide us. You are not for everyone, just us special ones. Thank u.
I understand what you say I need to do. Love myself. I just don't. I've just never been able to develop that. I just don't know how. I hear it a million times a day. Love yourself. Has anyone ever been able to make anyone love anyone they just don't feel it for? Never works. How do we control who we love? All I've ever been told is I love the wrong people, I need to love myself....trust me I wish it were different but at least I'm honest. I'm aware of all my trauma and how I act out of that. It doesn't make it any less real to me. It doesn't change what I like.
@@maceyr.6583 I'm doing/feeling much better these days, I AM learning to lovr myself, I forgot about this comment I made it's good to see how much progress I've made since then 😃
@@amandaschneikart3711 I'm really struggling to love myself because I'm in a relationship where some things are quite confusing. Hoping to love myself more. :")
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“You got at attached to the love that they were giving you, that you weren’t giving yourself”
I had to run that part back!
thats so good
Bullshit
Dude it’s so true. I’ve been broken for so long and this hit me deep
i needed to hear this right now
Honestly, in my short experience living in this world, I have come to the point of remaining detached to everything, or at least doing my best to. The thing is, when we become attached to things, we are giving our power away. For example, if we're attached to something and we get it, but then we lose it, then we also lose ourselves in the process. I think it's important we learn to be happy just as we are because when we are able to do that, no matter what happens in our world, nothing will phase us. Part of it is also learning not to take anything personally, even the perceived good. I'm still learning to let go of trying to control things. As someone who dealt with an eating disorder, which is a lot of wanting to have control, learning to let go of control doesn't feel easy, but the more we do it the better we become. That's with anything in life
Amazing comment
Beautiful comment
sorry unsolicited opinion warning
I think you not wanting to "give your power away" in those ways is also a way you are trying to control things,true letting go of control is when you aren't afraid to love and live deeply,just because things might end badly or not last.
Love your comment ❤️
Spot on!
"Attachment leads to jealousy. The shadow of greed that is. Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose."
-someone wise
“Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose” i can disagree. Only on some things
@@Juicyfruit12345 like what? What is an example of something you agree with and what is an example of something you disagree with?
Master Yoda
@@roachmonk a loved one...
I finally decided to "let go" and finally began manifesting what I had been trying to manifest for MONTHS. I was affirming, scripting, attempting to visualize...many different things. Instead of helping my situation, I feel like what I wanted was getting pushed away and I became more obsessed with getting a specific situation. I eventually just prayed to the universe and said I trusted the universe with bettering my situation and then a few days later, things started to fall into place. 💕
This really speaks to me. Thank you for sharing.
✝️🙏🙏⭐️⭐️⭐️
Me too
If you see this, what is scripting
Hippie crap, people will believe what they want to believe
“Being attached to nothing yet connected to everything “❤
'You are the sky, everything else is just the weather,' LOVE THIS. ❤️
huge
That is quoted from a lady named Peema Chaudron, a bouddhist monk.
So do I.
@@CAL-of9mu I have read some of her books . I reccomend them.
oh yes!
I swear, I’m done with ”trying to manifest“. I feel like the law of assumption and techniques have got me into a rabbit hole at some point. Now I’m just back to how I lived my life before knowing anything about manifestation - I’m just more mindful and focus on my well-being and confidence more! Detaching and just going with the flow whilst doing my best to stay happy and relaxed is the way I do it now. Love your video! ❤
Ironically, that's exactly what the law of assumption is
I am exactly there. Like, I'm done doing techniques and trying to achieve something, now it's just I have desires and let them come to me and I'm content with my self and life. It feels like a big victory. I'm glad you're feeling something similar too
@@ijwd424 didn’t realise. I always assumed that the law of assumption requires persisting on your desires, saying affirmations etc.
@@jillkx Probably because tiktok and most youtube coaches ruined law of assumption. Neville Goddard put it in terms as simple as possible (which is why he's most people's go-to): you basically just have to believe you already have your desires or that they're already promised to you and that's it. After that, you get out of your own way and go with the flow. You technically don't have to do anything else. Techniques are just things that help you, not everything will work for everyone.
Tiktok made persisting out to be forced affirmations while you're crying in the bathroom lol, that won't do anything but make you feel like shit. Persistance just means that you don't fall back into a story you don't like (such as "I'm unloveable") and when you do, you take yourself out of it. Tiktok also made techniques the most important thing in manifesting when they're not even that important.
@@jillkx “I Am” and your imagination is the most powerful. Like IJ WD wrote, unfortunately this practice has gotten muddied and flooded by people on social media who either turned this into a business by selling classes/coaching or those who swear they’ve made a breakthrough and claim that their method is the way the works best. even Neville wasn’t the end all be all, you are. If you decide that you need 1 or 100 affirmations a day then that’s what it is, you’re the creator and you’re the one who chooses. techniques and methods are absolutely not necessary (nothing wrong with them at all i love them!) , imagination is
"What if things don't work out exactly the way you picture it, but work out even better".
Love this ❤❤❤
"A believer never despairs of relief from God".
It's the same for me. I literally tell myself I entrust my life in the (metaphorical) palm of God's hand. And that God knows infinitely better than you and I know. And that we will recieve blessings when God wills it is right.
Amen 🙏🏾
This is legit how I got through cancer treatment and loosing a breast. Especially at age 27. It helped so deeply to loose the detachment.
Amazing
We are together I was 36. One survivor to the other you are amazing. 💜
That's amazing❤️ can you please share your process or mindset of detatchment?
Girl what?
You're very strong for real
@@Dreamsareareality Awee thank you beautiful 💖🥰
I am detached. After heartbreak in a marriage that led to a divorce process due to infidelity, narcissism, and constant lies, I detached to pour that same love into myself. One thing that requires BOLDNESS is to admit when we as ppl individually lack self love, and being with ppl who want validation and love from everywhere else will damage you the longer you stay. I am using this time to get to know myself more, be with God 100%, and continue healing, especially as a mom. I pray to come to this comment a time from now and be like, “Wow, this aged well! 😊”. Until then, I have work to do.
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When you let go is when things start floating in your life. When you look for a remote you miss placed, you find it when you’re not even looking for it. The same thing ESPECIALLY applies with the dating scene. When you go out there and approach women, most of the time you’ll get rejected. When you’re minding your own business, focused on doing other things, they come. Even in a relationship, the more you care the worse you make it. Be detached from trying to “make things” work because it is, what it is!
"The more you care the more you make it worse"
What would be the ideal thing to do, at this point i'm interested in a relationships but still.
To love is to attach. To be broken or hurt is to detach. Never subject yourself to unnecessary war and pain. You sound like you love extremely hard. That love can never be replaced and some people will long to have such love and affection in their lives. Stay strong and "protect your energy"
i attach myself out of fear of losing control, im scared of feeling myself and this world at its full potential. i need to learn to let go and just accept things the way the are, im so used to holding on and it builds so much tension. i’ve been blocking my love and my blessings. i really needed to hear this because a lot of it resonates at the moment.
You can't control anyone or anything. Just yourself, and heck even sometimes controlling ourselves is extremely hard. So controlling other situations or people should be out of question. It's difficult to detach but it's not impossible, it takes practice
I feel Like I've disociated so much that I've finally become apathetic to my former expectations in relationships and I feel actually happier. You become so less needy and chill.
Practicing self love and following what feels good without trying to control others or the outcome. Radically accepting what you can’t control and focusing on what you can control that makes you happy
When you let go, you feel relax & that's when your manifestation comes true. That means , if you're tension free in a wish fulfillment stage, you will see it soon.
Thanks.
I’m a control freak. I didn’t know it until recently. I have a tendency to hold onto things and people far longer then I should but more importantly I try to control the outcome.
Me too! It stems from somewhere & at least you realize it!❤
As someone with BPD & Hypersensitive Personality, I have MAJOR attachment issues to basically everything and everyone, if they’re super important to me. It’s a beautiful thing, and it probably makes me more empathetic than maybe an average person would be, but that also causes a lot of pain when you can’t detach from things or people that you know you need to get away from. I’m 21 years old and I feel like one day, if I work hard enough, I’ll really be able to know how to detach. But for now it’s definitely a work in progress, and that’s ok. 🦋
"You are the sky, everything else is the weather". It's temporary. Thank you.❤
Last year i entered a new journey, it all started with affirmations to become more confident and slowly turned into something bigger, the universe has delivered so much to me, taught me so much and i am so grateful for all of it, i can affirm that it took a big amount of tears to get here, but i feel like i’m starting to understand the purpose of a lot of things, it’s more than my words can explain, but i can say that i’m experiencing detachment and it is a true blessing. To trust yourself and the universe is the best thing one can do.
You’re voice is so therapeutic. I’m an auditory learner. This for sure could be a guided meditation for me. You dropped so many gems 🥹❤️ Thank you.
“ you are the weather “- whenever shifts in the weather happens, it’s always to help out the earth in some way. and that’s how i like to view it. my storms, cold days, etc are helping me for the other seasons in my life ✨. Everything works out even if you don’t see it, like the weather
I think some people didn’t understand the essence of eypo. “If everyone is me, then I can control THEM”. But the point of the quote is the opposite, it’s not about them, it’s about youu . “No one to change but self”. It’s literally so self explanatory. You don’t get to change or control anything except for yourself. When you are giving yourself love, and you are becoming the most “connected to your soul needs” version of yourself, life and “them” will reflect that
Thanks for this! I was getting so sick of setting timers to affirm or making tapes. No more sticking to rigid schedules that have been ingrained into me from LOA communities on Twitter or YT. I’m just living. It’ll come to me, as Neville said it’s already done.
You got this💗
was thinking that way too. It's already done to me. With prayers, it manifest.. I'm dependent to God.
Oh no no that's really too much girl!
This was meant for me today. I’m SOOO attached specifically to my sp and I can worry easily if things contradict my plan. Today I was heading down that path but I stopped and reminded myself the lesson I’ve been learning recently-my source has always worked everything out in my life better than I could’ve imagined it. It helped my heart rest. Then I saw you uploaded this. You are truly an angel. Thank you for being my calm in a storm.
I think an important point about love is that the more you can also love without expecting it in return will give you so much peace and freedom. that is truly abundant.
I'm telling you, two important keys to manifesting are 1) detach from the outcome of what you desire and 2) try as best you can to visualize your desire as the best for everyone or other people specifically how it will benefit them (not just yourself). I worked specifically on doing those two things, and I was very worried about having to find a new apartment with the very high prices in this city and I found the perfect most beautiful apartment for literally what I'm paying now and it's better.... I am blown away by how smooth and fast the process went! Thank you to the most high, GOD ❤❤❤❤
"what they bring to the table that's already full"🍃❤️loved it
1. Remove yourself from the picture
2. Temporary weather (This too shall pass)
3. Self control (Regulate emotions,prioritise yourself, self love)
4. Be aware of things you can and cannot control
Detachment is the most luxurious feeling ever🙏🏻🎀🤍
Detachment is healthy.
I detached myself to almost everything in my surroundings. I even detached myself from my friends; now when they ignore me it feels normal back then when they do that it messes my mind. So detaching and not controlling the uncontrollable give me peace.
How about you get some new friends instead of settling for ones that ignore you
I'm so so sensitive and have so many internal highs and lows... it's hard for me to detach. Coming from religion too (who no longer is) I feel this sense of good and bad, high and low, this or that. I really lean deeply into every emotion and its ingrained in me to rely on external source. I work on it, but it can be quite difficult!
I am with you. I’m hypersensitive and I attach very easily to people, things, thoughts. But I’m working at detaching it’s tough and it takes practice. You got this!
I could have written this comment. I totally understand 🙏💕
The fact that you are working on it is improvment already! I used to be this same exact way, it was torturous and i had no idea until one day I had just had enough!!! Its a consistent project that has bought me so much joy love and balance. You got this!
I have the same difficulty.
Same here. I try detaching so much but I am very sensitive and it doesn't happen at all
I’ve learned that I need to do what I need to do to detach (yell, curse them out, write it down, etc). It might not be the most mature way but it allows me to easily get over things and detach ASAP
Napolean Bonaparte used to detached himself and thus elevated himself above the battlefield in order to conquer. Thanks for the upload.
I needed to hear this because i was so out of it today, tears just streamed down from my eyes whole day long when i contemplated my life, where I want to be and where I am now. It hurts so much that I cried involuntarily I think I needed that, I knew I can’t do anything to change it right now but the pain was real.
I needed this so bad. I been a 6 year relationship which was off and on and we was so toxic for each other but we couldn't let go of each other but recently he jumped in a relationship with another person and i was so attach to him. i couldn't let go but i;m learn to be independent without anyone around , i know he will come back but I want to be healed and able to tell let him know in the proper way how everything we have done to each other fucked me up.
“You’re above it all and if you’re above it all anyways then why be attached”
SKCWJCKAXMQKD!!!! ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥🎯
Detachment is hard because everuthing demands intimacy. Friends, work, family....they all want extreme intimacy in return and when they notice you are detached they can feel hurt. This tends to be the root of many problems
Apart from the great manifestation knowledge that she provides. I really love the overall vibe of your videos. The lighting, the music, the colour grading etc is just so minimal and sophisticated. This is what seperates you from other creators. Keep up the great work
I just wanted to say, that this video reflects exactly what I'm going through right now. I know I'm just one of many with romance problems and nothing is new under the sun about this. but I just wanted to share here, that right now I'm actively trying to detach myself from a situation where I find that who I love doesn't seem to be a good match for me and for my future plans. it is very hard. it is very hard admitting that no matter how much I wanted this person to be the love of my life, years and years what always comes up is that I'm in love with his potential and not the real, current him. and finally I've had enough, because I don't even like myself like this. it took a long time, but I realized that I want to and need to detach from everything I thought about us and my mindset, because it never lead to where I wanted to be and how I wanted to feel. I still don't know how it will go, because I was the type of person who wanted to control the story, but I just don't want to be like this anymore, no matter how much I love this person
from a manifestation perspective, not detaching is attaching to the old story and to the obsession or neediness for this outcome. by letting go if both of thise things, you can easily stay consistent w the new story and go with the flow!
Love this concept and never really learned about it until now . I am also someone who tends to have a controlling attitude towards my own circumstances and the people I involve myself with. But again, that seriously takes the fun out of life I just realized . so what if this guy was meant for you. Maybe he is or maybe he isn’t . If he isn’t it’s still okay because he just ISNT. If he is that’s okay too because HE IS . If we just stopped stressing about everything being in perfect order according to plan. There’s nothing wrong with having a schedule or a routine or an envision for your life . But when we are so hard on ourselves because we aren’t producing at the level we expect than that can seriously deter you from accomplishing ANY sort of goals . I think the art of detachment also allows you to be kinder to yourself . To realize that you legit can’t control if someone likes you or not . That you can do a lot of different jobs probably well, and EspeicAlly if you enjoy what you’re doing . If you focus on yourself and a little less on what others are doing as well, and even detaching yourself from what other people are up to around you. It’s not about not caring it’s more like simply being and being okay with having dreams but realizing having dreams and accomplishing a dream is only a subset to the experience of life .
I've learned to attach myself only to what I can control, which are my daily actions. Attach to your actions and detach from expectations.
Every time you post, it’s a banger!❤ Detachment is SUPER important. You can only control the things in your power, not the things that aren’t in your power
I can’t hear these words enough. Some of us have waited far too long to try and fix some deep-seeded habits and ideas, but knowing we aren’t alone out there helps so much! I’ve been trying to throw off the yoke of the obsessive fearful need to control things and keep them either safe or unable to hurt me my whole life. The struggle is real. Thanks again.
Some people go through hardship and pain some people repeat the pain over and over again some people say enough is enough detach and change the game forever all the best to whoever is reading this
"remove yourself from the picture" the *weather* of emotions, situations, etc. Nice!
I like what you say here and how freely you admit having a tendency to control your world and yet it doesn't diminish you one bit, on the contrary it makes you shine brighter! Your energy inspires and you provided me with a visual and audible model of the self-confident calmness I see is my own best self. Thank you 😊
Your videos have a really magical and poetic quality to them that makes them so wonderful to watch. Detachment is so important and something I need to stop being so afraid of.
3:49 THANK YOU. I really and truly needed this today. Thank you so much for reminding me that I should not only expect the outcome I want but remind myself that things can turn out better than I could ever expect. Instead of falling back into catastrophic thinking, moving to a place of wonder, mystery and excitement. Not worrying about what could go wrong, but what could go right. What IF everything worked out better than I could ever imagine?!
My affirmation this week:: everything is always working out for me. The universe is always conspiring for my happiness.
This really helped me a lot. Been going through somethings that in a way kind of just made me become more attached than I normally am. With some reflection I looked back at myself when I was younger and I had a lot more control of myself and letting go was easier. Now I am going back and revisiting those roots minus the bad habits. Thank you for providing us with this video. It’s been a breath of fresh air.
thank you so, so much for this
Really resonated with this in terms of my career im 26 still undecided of what i want to do and accomplish. I get caught too much in the external factors that sometimes all I have to do is detach and let go, fully trust in the universe. Life is a ride we gotta step back and just enjoy the journey. Thank you
I love you.
I don't know who you are. I haven't seen any of your other videos. I don't know why suddenly this was recommended, but you've just given me exactly what I needed to hear after a long series of stressful and confusing spirals I've recently been experiencing...
this really resonates with me. i started my neville journey 6 months ago, and after forcing myself into the feeling of the wish fulfilled with obsessive affirmations and thoughts, i’m so exhausted. i’m finally seeing how peaceful letting go and detaching can be.
to those who have successfully detached, what do you do to relax your mind when you find yourself thinking of your manifestation?
Well first of all if I feel good thinking about it I'll allow myself to think about it for a minute or two. However if I start going in full on day dream mode I try to stop myself. Or if I start to imagine how it'll happen I stop myself and tell myself that it doesn't matter how it happened because it has ALREADY happened. I say that the universe brings it to me in the best way possible. I also do not say specific affirmations like - he's always texting me or something like that. Because that kinda keeps you attached to the outcome. I'm at a stage where I just don't care about getting a call/text or anything from him really, because in my mind I've got it all. Hope this helps. Also it's totally okay to take time to understand the law better so don't feel too stressed about it
@@dr.m6152 thank you sm, your advice really helps! i’m definitely going to tell myself, “the universe always brings it to me in the best way possible,” cause it’s a really good reminder. plus, you’re so right! if he’s already mine, why would i be worried about specific things, like a call or a text? and yes, thank you :,) i try to remind myself that the law is a learning process that takes time. i’m really just trying to stick with what works for me, instead of being swayed and confused with all these different techniques you read/hear about. since i wrote my comment, i’ve done a bit of inner work and i’ve really felt a shift in my state. i feel more relaxed than ever bc i know my sp is mine, no matter what i feel or do. ofc i slip in and out of it bc i’m human, but for the most part, i’m happy and calm. not sure if that’s detachment, but i do feel good :)
I love this video so much, it really resonated with me 💜 I recently started working on detaching from outcomes, and I feel like what’s been working for me is also becoming comfortable with the idea that my life is good the way it is without the certain thing I’m manifesting. I’d reaffirm to myself “Despite the outcome, things in my life are good just the way they are”. Lo and behold, I ended up getting them! When it comes to relationships, detachment is a bit easier when I ground myself and recognize when I’m attached to a person versus the IDEA of that person (it’s usually the idea of the person I get attached to)
How do you know the difference between the idea of the person or the actual person?
you make me feel so delicate, you’re such an angel ☺️
What I got from this video: Don't react to the 3D because it can be only temporary.
this video is so wise, i’ve been watching it all day
Breath because the air is the part of you that you have been waiting to meet
i am so glad I found you, lately I’ve been finding more spiritual RUclipsrs apart from what’s trendy and I’m so blessed, you are teaching me so much, I’m so grateful for your presence and energy. sending you love and bliss 🥰💕
attachment leads to suffering, so this is a good strategy 👏🏽
When I say I NEEDED this video...man. I'm currently going through whirlwind of problems that are forced upon me, and I've been desperate to gain control over everything for fear that if I dont, my problems will swallow me whole. I've always known I have an issue with "control", not in any harmful sense, but because I cant help but feel like I'm always burdened with issues that force ONLY me to find the solution to. But maybe that isnt the case, and maybe that's why I keep going through these problems...to learn a lesson in learning to detach and just do what you can with minimal desire to achieve an ideal outcome.
At this point. This is just what I’m going to focus on every day. I feel broken. I don’t feel like myself. The thought of “everything I do all the work I put in could amount to nothing and I need to be okay with that” it hurts, and it makes me want to quit hearing that. But that’s why I need to work on it. Because that’s not how I felt when I was a kid.
This title is award-worthy. That last part is what everyone really needs to see
Hi, I stumbled upon your video on my recommended feed and I'm so glad I did! Until yesterday, I hadn't heard of you, but now I'm thoroughly enthralled. Your video on detachment resonated deeply with me. You were brutally honest. I've been struggling to let go of a situation and person, exhausting myself trying to control the outcome. Your insights helped me recognize the need to detach. I binge-watched your videos all night and am already experiencing a transformative shift. Your content is helping me find happiness and self-love. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
I've watched a couple of videos about this, but yours is literally word from word, how it is, before you can detach and what you need to get there. I'm glad I came across this video.
Just found this and I must say I had to subscribe
I was always in touch with my thoughts, goals and feelings until I entered an abusive relationship and it eroded all sense of self. It’s so important to remain anchored into yourself. I am now slowly after 2 years returning to my body (not just running on stress and autopilot) and its really knocked my self confidence.
Beautiful and calming video, thank you 🙏
This is fucking GOLD. Exactly what I needed to hear. Thank god it was on my recommended vids
"You're the sky and everything else is the weather." Loved that phrase.
Really happy this was recommended to me, I enjoyed this video greatly and hope to take some of the lessons here and bring them into my own life.
"Let yourself be pleasantly surprised ever so often, detach yourself from the outcome so you can see clearly from a bird's eye view, you are the sky, everything else is just the weather" ❤❤❤
Take care of yourself FIRST in all things and you will become a miracle to others
I love your talks!
2 minutes in and I am loving this. You’ve got such a great way of communicating your points. congrats on gaining so much self awareness and owning it and sharing it. It’s hard to accept those “negative” parts of you and meet them with compassion
Detachment can be balanced with gratitude and appreciation, for me. I love how you explained other elements of this topic as well, Chelsea 👊🏼
In the middle of a breakdown right now over my significant other pulling away from me - this was so soothing and helpful. Thank you.
Man your voice is so soothing and this is some great stuff
i’ve never been touched so deeply by another’s words this is a subject i find myself struggling with putting in work from several months to years to still find myself working on it, her humility to even admit that this is something she’s still working on speaks volumes & i connected with each & every message that was meant for me to hear , thank you.
Everything you said hit so hard. I’ve grown up so hyper independent because I’ve been neglected and invalidated and basically hated by my own family growing up. So any form of love or affection from someone else, I would be so quick to attach. I’m learning to detach now and it’s been helping so much. Handling my emotions after the detachment is something i need to still keep working on
Timing *chef’s kiss* ❤
This really came at a time when I'm working on this the most. Thank you ❤
Beyond simping for Maleeka with pride, this channel helps me as a full time day trader. Stoicism, manifestations, patience, faith, etc. So much positivity in my life that this channel helps me identify and acknowledge
I want to live by this. I want to be unattached and I want to work on not needing people in my life all the time. I want to break up with someone that has caused me so much pain in the time I’ve been with them and they don’t care. So I will try and detach from everything so it will be easier for me to leave this person.
Lol why u sorround yourself with people that cause u pain??
Detach from the outcome is so true. It's like maybenaybemayve BUT, I must move forward and continue developing into the person I dream to become.
Thank you for this. When I was younger I had no problem with this almost second nature. Thank you. Thank you.
I’m amazed on how you’ve managed to create a big following with your type of videos. Visually and in terms of tone it feels slow. The complete opposite of what makes videos go “viral” some may say. They want faster pace and more visuals in the video and you provide none of that. Just goes to show that ppl can just post what they want and that’s fine
You kinda hit what I have been dealing with in this life. Use content that u feel is needed, you will connect to those who are the "odd" and this will help guide us. You are not for everyone, just us special ones. Thank u.
Immaculate vibes. You are such a lovely person ❤ I appreciate this channel so much.
detaching is what finally got me all my SpS
may not be able to control the weather however, we can always check the forecast + prepare for what's ahead..
I understand what you say I need to do. Love myself. I just don't. I've just never been able to develop that. I just don't know how. I hear it a million times a day. Love yourself. Has anyone ever been able to make anyone love anyone they just don't feel it for? Never works. How do we control who we love? All I've ever been told is I love the wrong people, I need to love myself....trust me I wish it were different but at least I'm honest. I'm aware of all my trauma and how I act out of that. It doesn't make it any less real to me. It doesn't change what I like.
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@@maceyr.6583 I'm doing/feeling much better these days, I AM learning to lovr myself, I forgot about this comment I made it's good to see how much progress I've made since then 😃
@@amandaschneikart3711 I'm really struggling to love myself because I'm in a relationship where some things are quite confusing. Hoping to love myself more. :")
You’re voice has a very calming effect on me I can literally feel it as you speak
Thank you. Maleeka. Your visualisation provides a valuable explanation. I myself suffer with attachment. What you say is tangible.
You are truly my guardian angel. Thank you for all of your uploads and personal experiences. much appreciated.
the timing of this video is absolutely perfect😭😭😭!!!! thank you so much Maleeka ❤
Detaching has been the only thing that has worked for me one of the most amazing videos yet 100% truth
Thank you. I just discovered what is holding me back. 🌹
That is the best explanation that I've ever heard for you are the sky everything else is the weather. Thank you!