20 Harsh Truths I Know at 40 But Wish I Knew at 20

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  • Опубликовано: 2 фев 2025

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  • @BeautifulBrwnBabyDol
    @BeautifulBrwnBabyDol  14 дней назад +7

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  • @brittjohn9351
    @brittjohn9351 14 дней назад +104

    It's okay to say "No" and not feel guilty about choosing you over friends and family.

  • @nicolejroby
    @nicolejroby 14 дней назад +58

    What I wish I knew at 20 that I now know at 37…….LOVING yourself includes protecting yourself, growing and humility. Also, healing from childhood trauma is POSSIBLE!!! Life really does get better ❤

  • @nikkieverett1649
    @nikkieverett1649 13 дней назад +29

    One thing my 39 year old self will tell my 20 year old self would be to truly seek God like fr and not for play and listen to wise counsel.

  • @whatupdoemia
    @whatupdoemia 14 дней назад +65

    The harsh truth that I know at 44 that I didnt know in my 20s is girl you dont know anything yet😂 and everyone can't go with you on your life journey and that is okay, everyone you encounter will teach you a life lesson.❤

  • @amandaparrish9128
    @amandaparrish9128 14 дней назад +55

    I’m a grateful 40-something, but if I could tell my 20-something self some advice, I would say to NOT allow useless people to take up residency in your life. It is better to have quality people than random people taking up space. Also, realize when someone’s season in your life has expired.

  • @candacenicole7268
    @candacenicole7268 12 дней назад +16

    I'm still in my 20's, but something I wish I knew when I was younger was to stand on my boundaries and be firm about my standards. I am that way now and I hold solid values.

  • @thameshasebro2678
    @thameshasebro2678 14 дней назад +34

    One thing I am learning in my late 30's is that quality outweighs quantity. Everybody you're out here laughing and sharing jokes with are not your friends. Your coworkers are not your friends. I learned that the hard way. Also, not everyone is meant to travel with you throughout your life's journey. Some are there for some seasons, and it's ok.❤😊

  • @dedes1963
    @dedes1963 14 дней назад +42

    Professional success requires emotional control, I like it. Sometimes, I have to shut my lips. Love todays video you have hit on several topics that I'm currently dealing with

  • @Bashirah14
    @Bashirah14 4 дня назад +1

    I have been watching you since high school. I am 31 now and you haven't aged a day!

  • @alishak4061
    @alishak4061 13 дней назад +10

    I turned 43 last year. One of the things I wish I would have learned is not doing things to impress people because at the end of the day you don't really know what they want. You will always be good enough for you and never good enough for someone else. Meaning the people you are trying to impress always have higher standards for you than they are willing to put for themselves. Focus on you and building the best support system you can have. People that inspire you and less of folks who tire you.

  • @B.B.H2.0
    @B.B.H2.0 13 дней назад +10

    Sometimes, when certain people hate you it has nothing to do with what you. You didn't do them wrong. They are just projecting their negativity onto you.

  • @shemikagreen2657
    @shemikagreen2657 14 дней назад +32

    Don't live your life to please people, be true to yourself and do what you want to do, better yet, do what the LORD commanded you to do.

  • @Pretzelgal
    @Pretzelgal 14 дней назад +20

    I wish I knew how to tune out the noise and drama when I was younger. The lesson was that you are o.k. just the way you are and you don't need to believe the hype.

    • @BeautifulBrwnBabyDol
      @BeautifulBrwnBabyDol  14 дней назад +2

      Amen! Because half the people talking are not ok with themselves!

  • @tandrawarren3542
    @tandrawarren3542 14 дней назад +7

    “Don’t take things personally”

  • @DuckieWebb
    @DuckieWebb 14 дней назад +10

    Dr. Nina at 45 I've been going through many of the transitions you speak of here. All I can say is thank you. Talk about confirmation and affirming at the same damn time.

  • @peacebalance8067
    @peacebalance8067 13 дней назад +6

    Gotta pause the video at 8:04. The marriage between my parents ended with the death of my dad. And the 'real' work is beginning for my mom. Its hard to see. We all helping her through as best we can. But baybee. End of life planning is no joke.

  • @keyshajones1866
    @keyshajones1866 14 дней назад +11

    Hi queen. I wish I could had took my education more serious. From grammar school all the way from culinary school. I regret not graduating from Culinary school because I listening to my first teacher I had and told I was waisting he time because when it came to some of recipes . I had a hard time learning because of the math. Anyway that been my downfall for the longer, when something get hard I give up and try to move on to the next subject. As I got older because I 50 year old I stop listening to all the people who did not believe and that make it hard to believe in myself. So now I just started in cooking again and if if something get hard as for help or take my time and figure it out

    • @BeautifulBrwnBabyDol
      @BeautifulBrwnBabyDol  14 дней назад +1

      You are not alone! It's never too late to chase your dreams. 💕

  • @TashaTruth444
    @TashaTruth444 13 дней назад +7

    One hard truth is following religion will have you being a sacrificial lamb ( and especially people telling you to just forgive while denying your needs and feelings). But following God and seeking the word for yourself will give you a more peaceful life and deter you away from people with ill intentions by setting up healthy boundaries and not feeling guilty about it.

  • @YanteBennett
    @YanteBennett 11 дней назад +3

    Dr. Nina your content is always 🔥 but your voice soothes my spirit!!

  • @desireeworthy677
    @desireeworthy677 14 дней назад +3

    I just sent this to my granddaughter she 20 years old.
    I totally understand I am 61 years old. Thanks for the advice!

  • @jamelewiggins7683
    @jamelewiggins7683 14 дней назад +8

    Menopause symptoms can begin in the mid 30s. RESEARCH BEFORE YOU GET THERE!

  • @Ann-s9b
    @Ann-s9b 7 дней назад +1

    In my 30s-40s character outways the physical characteristics everytime.

  • @sarapalomino8699
    @sarapalomino8699 День назад

    Nina, you are the older sister I always wished I had ❤

  • @tb0580
    @tb0580 5 дней назад

    You got my like at #1!!!!!!!!!! 😮‍💨🙌🏽 thanks big Sister!!

  • @LoveeeeelyM
    @LoveeeeelyM 14 дней назад +2

    Thank you so much for this video. I agree with so much of what you shared and a lot of it really hit my heart in a good way. Honestly, I wouldn’t go back and tell my 20 something year old anything because she wouldn’t have listened. She didn’t listen and I am paying for some of those mistakes now. But thank you so much for your wise words 🙏🏻♥️

  • @Meyonzcreation
    @Meyonzcreation 14 дней назад +6

    This was for me. Thank you ❤

  • @reshenewells6815
    @reshenewells6815 5 дней назад

    One of things I know at 46 I wish I knew at 26 is you got to make life goals for you not based on what other people think you should do with your life this is something I would tell my 25 year old self

  • @lizp1477
    @lizp1477 11 дней назад +1

    I really enjoyed this one I am 45 and it’s still great tips

  • @brandy5035
    @brandy5035 13 дней назад +4

    I wish I knew I would have to grow older without my parents.

  • @tamekadavis6641
    @tamekadavis6641 14 дней назад +4

    Heyy Dr. Nina happy Sunday and have a wonderful day.❤😊

  • @YP-lw9gr
    @YP-lw9gr 8 дней назад

    Great advice.

  • @luztraver3295
    @luztraver3295 14 дней назад +2

    I love this for me😇😘 Still growing and learning

  • @DreamWriterInk4u
    @DreamWriterInk4u 14 дней назад +8

    I remember us talk about 20s vs 30s. Ish is real!!

  • @arenicamumford2330
    @arenicamumford2330 11 дней назад +1

    I wish I knew the value of being by myself and what to do in those times of isolation!

  • @Cateye17
    @Cateye17 12 дней назад

    Great video!!! I really appreciate this!! You don’t know much I needed to hear this..thank you, thank you, Thank You!! Peace and blessings ❤❤❤❤

  • @realtyIIreality
    @realtyIIreality 14 дней назад +2

    Amazing video as usual

  • @sarapalomino8699
    @sarapalomino8699 День назад

    How did you know he was the one, and how did you know you were ready to get married and have a baby?

  • @lavenderspice2817
    @lavenderspice2817 14 дней назад

    Such a great video! I’m always glad when you post tips like this, so I can learn these lessons early. Keep up the good work 😊👍🏾

  • @jazz991
    @jazz991 14 дней назад +2

    I just love your videos ❤️

  • @kandikane1588
    @kandikane1588 10 дней назад

    I’m learning to leave people on “read “. I use to be a ball of rage in my twenties 😅

  • @angeleneperry7791
    @angeleneperry7791 14 дней назад

    This was a much needed video ❤ some of this was conformation and other points was new considerations. Thanks so much for this video

  • @salsabillahsawyer
    @salsabillahsawyer 14 дней назад +1

    Your words are fiiiireeee👌

  • @jvstkiki
    @jvstkiki 14 дней назад

    Thank you for the advice. ❤

  • @ReaScantlebury777
    @ReaScantlebury777 14 дней назад +1

    Very, very good stuff.

  • @michellespain5433
    @michellespain5433 14 дней назад

    This video was tooooo good gurl, #wisdom # truth..God bless yr fam and Happy New Year!!

  • @stephanieholland416
    @stephanieholland416 14 дней назад

    Awesome message ❤

  • @salsabillahsawyer
    @salsabillahsawyer 14 дней назад

    Thank you 🙏

  • @lufuno4405
    @lufuno4405 14 дней назад +15

    Your nails are always done, how do you keep your natural nail healthy during the changes?

    • @BeautifulBrwnBabyDol
      @BeautifulBrwnBabyDol  14 дней назад +15

      OOOOO! This is a great video idea!

    • @yoloxoxo4042
      @yoloxoxo4042 14 дней назад +2

      @@BeautifulBrwnBabyDolyes please tell how you maneuver without breaking them to! Mine are growing nicely with my nail techs help and I’m not use to it just broke one.

  • @SittingPrettyH2T
    @SittingPrettyH2T 11 дней назад +2

    “Jesus died for him, so I don’t have to “

  • @marlarandle1740
    @marlarandle1740 10 дней назад

    Petty Labelle 😂😂 😂😂😂😂

  • @FittnWell
    @FittnWell 12 дней назад +1

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @DELIAHC
    @DELIAHC 10 дней назад

    I just turned 21 thank you for this 🩷

  • @pollitasauce602
    @pollitasauce602 8 дней назад

    Always great golden nuggets, thank you for sharing!