I just want to say, if you start feeling fatigued by talking about mental wellness (it's a taxing subject personally) y'all can switch to videos about special interests. We need to bring back having several genres of videos on 1 channel
I’ve been thinking about this same thing as well! I’m planning on turning my personal account into a menagerie of topics personal interests and mental illness heh
oh yes, for sure. it sucks when you’re trying to grow on yt because sticking to a niche is the way. but if it’s between that and stopping uploading, i’d talk about whatever. im just fatigued with… demands! no free time. finished editing this video an hour before it was released
I've been considering if I have autism since the beginning of this summer and I just wanted to say your story about having a meltdown in your car was exactly what happened to me almost every night at my previous job. I'm a very dedicated employee but the stressors of working throughout the day wore me down. Talking to customers over and over was overwhelming, my throat was always dry because I barely talk at all outside of work, being assigned different roles each day (ticket seller, concessions, janitor) each with different demands, and on top of that having to work late at night each and every night, and having to walk across a dark empty parking lot as a woman. It was too much. I screamed and cried in my car every night. I almost ran myself off the road. That job almost killed me. I relate very much.
the absolute irony of me waiting until i saw this video suggested to me for a second time because the first time it felt like too much pressure because it was released so recently. sigh.
holy shit! i used to do that when teachers yelled at me , that visual thing of kaleidoscope stuff! Yes, teachers were pretty crap in my day they were allowed to beat you in front of the class. as for overwhelm - i screamed for half an hour in the kitchen today. eating is a drag sometimes
Comment for the algorithm. :) Also, you’re one of my main comfort RUclipsrs. I don’t know why, but even when discussing really heavy topics, you just make me feel comfy? You have a way of explaining these deep psychological concepts clearly and concisely. And I hope to achieve your level of self-awareness.
Omg same! Their content is so relatable and comforting! It feels like having a conversation with a friend as opposed to getting talked down to! If that makes sense!
Oh gosh I have panic attacks more than I realized too 😮 I do know I get treated often like its anger when verbalize Im just overwhelmed, not necessarily angry...yick
I am realizing I had tons of meltdowns growing up. Especially while shopping. I am now realizing I never really have been too good shopping long periods, and my mom and I frequently got in arguments and felt burnt out after so that's strange. Makes me wonder what else that feels "abnormal" is just "the autism" 😅
great video L - very well explained as always. just a personal observation that it looks like you are trying a formula of sorts to do your videos now, like a type of beginning i guess - I think it's okay if you relax and just be you.
i have so many thoughts about this topic, i was just thinking about it last night (after watching some of your other videos) and this one couldn’t have come out at a better time for me
I don't feel I have PDA, my daughter definitely does. Thinking back, I now see the vicious cycle of the monotropic thoughts riding with an added negative hyperfocus that becomes the forefront of monotropism. The sense of the unknown can also become problematic as your focus hones in on what to expect and makes the task at hand more difficult. One thing I have learned and it's my observations of my now 5 year old granddaughter is how important self-regulation is. She stims all day, and she is happy to content 95% of the time. She is Level 2 and she knows when she needs more or even less. When I became more comfortable with myself, my stimming comes more naturally, and I stim all day along with vocal stims and sometimes tics if I get more excited to compensate with self-regulation. The importance is huge, and before I unmasked, my life was filled with anxiety/panic disorder with depression. I no longer have them and weaned off of Paxil that I was on for 25 years. Although I do take Prozac for OCD with unwanted or intrusive thoughts, that's my response to a meltdown. One thing I have learned is the more I mask, the more my central nervous system will have negative releases. My self-acceptance has been a huge factor in this, although it does not make things easier with autism and adhd it gives me a perspective of more positivity with my day. My day is a journey, and each transition of my day is eased with just mental adjustments for smoother transition. Like singing on the drive to work and getting to work first to adjust gradually when coworkers come in. You certainly have a lot of insight, which means you are very introspective for someone so young. Thanks for the insight on PDA it was very helpful for my journey!!👻🤪🌶🤘😎♾️
do you think that consistent support from someone who loves the autistic (and very sensitive) child can make the difference when they are in a toxic family situation? thank you.
ABSOLUTELY. my grandparents helped my childhood so much and things would’ve probably been a lot worse if they weren’t there. so it does make a huge difference. children haven’t lived much life, and what is around is all they know. so if no one is there but their toxic family, all they know is toxicity and they are likely to believe that someone caring for them (unconditionally) simply isn’t possible. but just having one person who the child believes cares, takes it from not being possible to possible, even if their parent don’t care. which is HUGE. so while it can’t replace the parents love and it will still hurt, it means everything.
@@magesystem knowing that means EVERYTHING right now! please know that what you are doing here is having a positive impact. THANK YOU! 🩵 i am glad your grandparents were there for you!
I just want to say, if you start feeling fatigued by talking about mental wellness (it's a taxing subject personally) y'all can switch to videos about special interests. We need to bring back having several genres of videos on 1 channel
I’ve been thinking about this same thing as well! I’m planning on turning my personal account into a menagerie of topics personal interests and mental illness heh
Agreed
oh yes, for sure. it sucks when you’re trying to grow on yt because sticking to a niche is the way. but if it’s between that and stopping uploading, i’d talk about whatever. im just fatigued with… demands! no free time. finished editing this video an hour before it was released
I've been considering if I have autism since the beginning of this summer and I just wanted to say your story about having a meltdown in your car was exactly what happened to me almost every night at my previous job. I'm a very dedicated employee but the stressors of working throughout the day wore me down. Talking to customers over and over was overwhelming, my throat was always dry because I barely talk at all outside of work, being assigned different roles each day (ticket seller, concessions, janitor) each with different demands, and on top of that having to work late at night each and every night, and having to walk across a dark empty parking lot as a woman. It was too much. I screamed and cried in my car every night. I almost ran myself off the road. That job almost killed me. I relate very much.
the absolute irony of me waiting until i saw this video suggested to me for a second time because the first time it felt like too much pressure because it was released so recently. sigh.
holy shit! i used to do that when teachers yelled at me , that visual thing of kaleidoscope stuff! Yes, teachers were pretty crap in my day they were allowed to beat you in front of the class. as for overwhelm - i screamed for half an hour in the kitchen today. eating is a drag sometimes
ARE U ALRIGHT????
Comment for the algorithm. :)
Also, you’re one of my main comfort RUclipsrs. I don’t know why, but even when discussing really heavy topics, you just make me feel comfy? You have a way of explaining these deep psychological concepts clearly and concisely. And I hope to achieve your level of self-awareness.
Omg same! Their content is so relatable and comforting! It feels like having a conversation with a friend as opposed to getting talked down to! If that makes sense!
i’ve always wanted to be someone’s comfort watch!
Oh gosh I have panic attacks more than I realized too 😮
I do know I get treated often like its anger when verbalize Im just overwhelmed, not necessarily angry...yick
You explained this very well. But not ecerything get's better when your older, just different. I'm 50. Autism is so weird sometimes,
I thought you said MANGE system and after the hello creature it felt so right
The car pharmacy screaming story was so motherfucking relatable
HELLO 24 minutes ago?! Heck yeah, cant wait to watch this!
I got autism and ""PDA"", according to most people around me (but I don't think so 😅)
Disassociating while thinking about shapes behind the person is something I did a lot ://
I am realizing I had tons of meltdowns growing up.
Especially while shopping.
I am now realizing I never really have been too good shopping long periods, and my mom and I frequently got in arguments and felt burnt out after so that's strange.
Makes me wonder what else that feels "abnormal" is just "the autism" 😅
great video L - very well explained as always. just a personal observation that it looks like you are trying a formula of sorts to do your videos now, like a type of beginning i guess - I think it's okay if you relax and just be you.
i have so many thoughts about this topic, i was just thinking about it last night (after watching some of your other videos) and this one couldn’t have come out at a better time for me
7:47 was chilling.
I don't feel I have PDA, my daughter definitely does. Thinking back, I now see the vicious cycle of the monotropic thoughts riding with an added negative hyperfocus that becomes the forefront of monotropism. The sense of the unknown can also become problematic as your focus hones in on what to expect and makes the task at hand more difficult. One thing I have learned and it's my observations of my now 5 year old granddaughter is how important self-regulation is. She stims all day, and she is happy to content 95% of the time. She is Level 2 and she knows when she needs more or even less. When I became more comfortable with myself, my stimming comes more naturally, and I stim all day along with vocal stims and sometimes tics if I get more excited to compensate with self-regulation. The importance is huge, and before I unmasked, my life was filled with anxiety/panic disorder with depression. I no longer have them and weaned off of Paxil that I was on for 25 years. Although I do take Prozac for OCD with unwanted or intrusive thoughts, that's my response to a meltdown. One thing I have learned is the more I mask, the more my central nervous system will have negative releases. My self-acceptance has been a huge factor in this, although it does not make things easier with autism and adhd it gives me a perspective of more positivity with my day. My day is a journey, and each transition of my day is eased with just mental adjustments for smoother transition. Like singing on the drive to work and getting to work first to adjust gradually when coworkers come in. You certainly have a lot of insight, which means you are very introspective for someone so young. Thanks for the insight on PDA it was very helpful for my journey!!👻🤪🌶🤘😎♾️
I didnt think about becoming non-verbal having something to do with my pda. Thanks...that could be a big connection 😆
I didn't know it had a name and this was helpful thanks
yes, the answer to the title is yes XD
make a whole video on meltdowns please :D
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do you think that consistent support from someone who loves the autistic (and very sensitive) child can make the difference when they are in a toxic family situation? thank you.
ABSOLUTELY. my grandparents helped my childhood so much and things would’ve probably been a lot worse if they weren’t there. so it does make a huge difference. children haven’t lived much life, and what is around is all they know. so if no one is there but their toxic family, all they know is toxicity and they are likely to believe that someone caring for them (unconditionally) simply isn’t possible. but just having one person who the child believes cares, takes it from not being possible to possible, even if their parent don’t care. which is HUGE. so while it can’t replace the parents love and it will still hurt, it means everything.
@@magesystem knowing that means EVERYTHING right now! please know that what you are doing here is having a positive impact. THANK YOU! 🩵
i am glad your grandparents were there for you!