8 Rules For Loving an ESTP | Season 27 | CS Joseph
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Rule #1 Give them your attentions 24:06
Rule #2 Always listen to Ti Parent / they respect strength and character 26:45
Rule #3 Always show appreciation for your ESTP / give them feedback 36:28
Rule #4 Always give your ESTP a choice 39:54 *most important of all the rules*
Rule #5 Always make sure your ESTP is comfortable (remember things for them) 46:45
Rule #6 Help them out with paperwork (it stresses them out) 50:55
Rule #7 Don't expect them to do the "right" thing 55:13
Rule #8 Be willing to make them fill wanted / show loyalty 58:38
TLDR: 1:06:52
@@User3rror 👍
Thx bro I clicked on this and was like. Ok 8 rules shouldn’t be too long of a video…
*1 hour long*
Omg paper work is hell
My older brother is an ESTP, I am an INTP and can't help but think he played somewhat important role in developing my personality. The ESTP as default seems to 'come on strong', and it is almost opposed to the INTP's default which is the want to have minimal interference to the environment. I need my space bro! I can't sit and listen to your music suggestions and 'being the man' for 3 hours till midnight however cool and persuasive you make it sound. Your story of your cousin is 100% same as my bro, with the relationship too.
0:00 Estp basic overview + miscellaneous comments
24:06 Lecture begins
Rule 1: always give them your attention and take responsibility for your actions
Rule 2: always listen to them
Rule 3: give them feedback, appreciate their help
Rule 4: never restrict their freedom or they'll go Ne demon on you
Rule 5: always make them comfortable in response to them making you comfortable
Rule 6: back up your thoughts with research and citations; help them out with legal work
Rule 7: don't needlessly criticize their moral principles
Rule 8: don't hide anything from them
Oh my lord, haha. Thanks for sharing!
Number 8 is so real. That's why i always can't maintain a long lasting friendship with intj because they're always hiding something, even if they act nice.
@@yeaesthetics3195do you get along with infp? How you perceive them?
This is quite long but I'll take every piece of it . This is why I fell in love with my ESTP husband. If you don't dig deeper to them, you won't really know that they're adorable genuine people aside from merely stereotyping them as a good for nothing piece of sh*t.
Dating an ESTP… I’m a ENFP… SO MANY THINGS MAKE SENSE! I DO need to be more vocal to him, i AM the one who plays secretary, he feels like a drill sergeant life coach , and he DOES take up space in the bed lol!!!! The accuracy is unreal. I needed this video thank you!
My friends say I sleep like a starfish
It's true, you speak better when you are distracted
As an ESTP when people threaten to take away my choice/freedom. it's the most traumatic thing a person can do to me, and it never works/solves anything. and I just plan my exit from that relationship.
As an ESTP i just met a ESTJ girl that im about to teach a new manager position. Havent met her before.
Man Ive never felt more connected to one person this fast without beeing in love. She has become my project to make the best she can be.
I love this.
now i get more why si child can be strong in a long lasting way. thank you
You’re obviously not an ENFP or ESTJ. Your Ti parent is so notorious, brutal and honest. I’ve seen so many videos and your Fe child expressions are so warm and innocent. Your eyes radiate Ne, it’s as if you’re like out of reality when you’re talking. Your inferior Si makes you talk only about your experience and sometimes I can see your fear with inner sensations and being comfortable.
I’ve never met an ENTP in my life but I’m sure it will be very easy for me to detect one because of how much I’ve analyze your personality in every video. lol
Wow...do mine
I'm impressed with your ability to give these lectures without notes, while driving but I tend to appreciate the visual of a whiteboard as it helps to reinforce what you are saying. You do really well with off the cuff lectures though. Please drive safely. I suspect Se demon may tempt you to allow yourself to be distracted.
I think the reason why you do better while driving is because Ne users work best when multitasking. It's like juggling multiple balls while not dropping any of them.
I enjoy the car/trail videos. I like the moving background and have to imagine being under the sky is good for clear thinking
The accountability. Wow. I’m proud to be a subscriber. 🥂
If the last rule is true about the person I am starting to be interested in (who I think is an ESTP), it makes me even more attracted. As an INTJ with strong moral character and stubborn loyalty, I sometimes fear being rejected _because_ I am strong and not a needy woman. Also I may not reveal everything about myself, but I’m always authentic when I do. I am surprised at how much potential ESTPs and INTJs have to complement each other.
ok istj
This is Me rn😂
Love how you love ESTPs. And what you're saying is true.
It seems as though you're a lot more comfortable free-flowing information while moving around. Personally, I feel like your content is more enjoyable/palatable when you are comfortable. The style of these videos also makes it feel more like a conversation than a lecture. I prefer this format and it sounds like you do as well. A win-win perhaps?
There's my feedback. Be well.
So spot on in my experience of an ESTP. They are quite interesting and awesome types. I've been watching your videos about the features of ESTP to learn how to make life work with him. At the end, I failed, but learned heaps and respect ESTPs a lot.
Thanks Chase, for your lectures.
-INFJ
I’ve missed this type of lecture 😁. Also easier for me to share these since they seem more “real”
Thanks for this Chase. This is going to be helpful.
I'm currently dating an estp (I'm an entp) and what I like him the most is his honesty and loyalty. You're correct with the virtue part 👌.
I will never date another ESTP even though I love their Ti parent and Fe child because our Ni and Se clash in a very volatile way. It’s literally an Se fight for whose on top. I felt like a rag doll literally being tossed around, pounded, and I was almost impregnated against my will. ESTPs be responsible with your choices and your body so people can respect you. I do very much love my ESTP son. Chase thank you for your insights. I will apply these concepts to my parenting.
Which type are you? INFJ?
I’m an INTP focused ENTJ. STPs and I usually enjoy our interactions together with the high emotional compatibility. I have developed my Ne critic I can give positive choices to Ni child and inferior. They don’t like when I’m critical of their choices and assert mine. It actually causes them to Rage. They do like when I make them comfortable but it’s difficult to give them the level of attention they need. I do not feel obligated to do whatever you want. I tell my son all the time other people are allowed to have choices too. I love my son deeply affectionately and I’m trying to help him understand how he feels which is hard for me. My son is good but I had bad experiences with some very uncaring STP.
I like both types of videos, the ones with the whiteboard help on having a better understanding on subjects as relationships with other types
When you have the whiteboard in the car it's the best! I get the visual and you get the movement for your brain. It's a win-win.
bro , im an estp , i watched for 9 mins and ur just exposing me so hard , how u knew that omg ? i felt like i've been watched my entire life
Do you get along with infp? How you perceive them?
@@Beyou0120 sorry but i don't remember meeting an INFP xD , maybe i met them without knowing
50:10 made me laugh, it’s like the audio shit itself when you became assertive
I already know how to love an ESTP🥰
-ISTJ
UwU
Fi child emoji 🤤
Istj❤❤
50:10 brutal audio moment... "stop D01093ing that!"
ESTP here...you nailed it. Thank you for sharing!
If you have the entire draft in your head and know what to say step by step that's good. I love car lectures and I missed them a lot. I don't like planning "the plot" personally that much to the extent, even watching overproduced videos with cuts every 5 sec because it destroys creativity in that sense.
Excited to listen to this. I’m an INFJ and I’ve been dating an ESTP for 5 years, acquaintances for 10. We’ve been discussing how to love each other better, and he mentioned he needs more of a playmate, which I don’t exactly understand. Good timing!
Ouch, INFJ - ESTP rel. make me cringe.
@@honor9lite1337 😅 why exactly?
@@jessjessbobessmess Are you 100% sure that neither of you are mistyped?
INFJ x ESTP is highly unlikely.
@@jessjessbobessmess its Just a damn Bad Match, thats why
@@HazLight4426 I’m 100% INFJ. I’ve taken countless tests and dove deep into studying MBTI and the cognitive functions. I first typed myself at age 12, and I’m 28 now. I speak at length about it with my boyfriend and I’ve taken tests for him and with him, and he’s undoubtedly an ESTP!
Thank you for another incredible video jam packed with wisdom. ISFJ here. I am learning so much from each video and I am also learning new things every time I re-watch a video too.
I find that this format is much smoother in terms of the delivery. I do miss the visuals because they help me to have a better sense of which point we are on and it helps a lot to be able to literally see how the points tie into each other. Is there a way to have the visuals be added in post-production?
I’m an INTP and I remove everything that could remind me of someone I loved after they’re gone. Whether it’s a dead dog or a ditched boyfriend. I only recently realized that it is because I’m afraid of the sensation of emotions that have no answers.
We're back to the good old days😊
I like your car/trail talks best. As an ENTJ I like the whiteboard structure for my own delivery (I am a teacher) but I think my high Se presentation style with Te drill down on key elements is better fit for easy consumption for others FROM my type. You have previously addressed this and I appreciate you saying the Ti message most important and not letting Si presentation stop you from your mission. I commend you, but your Si memory is so good you don't need the structured whiteboard delivery style (with associated totems) to keep you on track like I do. Now that being said I don't know what the non Ntype stack combos might need, so probably good you are doing both, maybe? Regardless, thank you for all you have done to advance my personality study!!!
I like the whiteboard! It helps my INFJ brain to follow the visuals, but the car sessions are also really nice because when you are using the whiteboard I want to sit down and watch to see what you are pointing to... but when you are just talking, I can multitask and not think I will miss anything. Both are nice ways to tune in... I'd say use the whiteboard if the subject is kind of complex, because it's easier to understand with a visual and also use if a visual may help you present a certain topic 🙂
Finally found my type and ESTP it is. Took ages.
I recently started building muscle and my motivation was that i want to be able to speak my opinion on any matter without risking being throw in the dumpster for telling the truth. People will try to silence you by threatening you with violence. But if i am the strongest guy physically in the room i am untouchable. I am free to say what i want and people will have no choice but to have my voice heard no matter how much it hurts them to hear it.
I have always been afraid of expressing my voice because i have gotten kicked and beaten by groups of people for me telling the truth. Those days are over. (I certainly hope so.)
You can hate me but you can't silence me anymore.
The thing is muscle alone won't do it against groups of people, but in one on one it does, so it is still a good reason
how is it going for you
ESTP woman here. How is this approach going? I'm genuinely curious. BTW, I just think you should know that developing big muscles is not going to give someone license to drop "Truth bombs" on the world that nobody asked for and might not really be their truth. You say you've been beaten up by groupS (!) of people for doing this. Dude, no amount of muscles in the world are going to keep you from a kicking if you're taking joy out of pissing off rooms of people. Be smart. Be safe.
Thanks a Lot for Season 27, really helping out
15:00, i agree, the quality of your content is much more fresh when you do car style/free flow style. only thing i will say is i wish the 4 sides were visually available at the same time of video, since otherwise, i usually have to pause to find it in my notes, or have a physical chart around (not ideal for when i want to play video on the go), which makes me learn and digest your content much slower than i could. maybe edit video so it could include the 4 sides inserted !! hope this helps 😊
This was helpful in understanding my relationship with an istj
Are you going to post the whole season on youtube, because it is soo good 👍
Yes.
@@CSJoseph thank you so much
Amount others, I love your car and freestyle presentations.the quality is fair most of the time. Thanks for another amazing video. I really love this series!❤
you've matured so much, congrats
This is very on point please make more estp videos !
41:31 An ESTP Friend of mine has work(a masculine one), still in college but has a mother taking away their freedom (perhaps their masculinity) and it actually ANNOYS them.
I like car lectures and lectures which you do when walking with windy-rainy weather
I've heard that ESTP's will drop people fast if they feel like that person is playing mind games with them or being possessive (restricting freedom). How do you give them feedback without having them feeling manipulated or restricted?
Don’t take their choice away and just stick around, be willing to drop everything for them from time to time.
I enjoy the contents with you free-styling more.
Why are ENFP's the most important type in the long run, in your opinion? Thanks for the interesting content.
Humanity needs them to intercede.
@@CSJoseph Interesting, would love to see a video on it some day!
Yours truly,
Not an ENFP, just a curious lady 🧐
Looking forward to seeing more from this season 👌
Hi C.S Joesph, love your content. I think you have serious GEMS hidden in between the rambling. Maybe try highlighting the rules in your info section or at least sharing the times in which you touch upon each rule. It was hard to stay focused and keep track of the rules. I do absolutely love the format of “8 rules of loving”
Yay! All this content is making me happy
This style of lecture is great. Both the content of it and the scenery outside are cool.
Maybe it's just because I am an EST P but I much prefer having the whiteboard with stuff on it to look at and understand
Thanks a lot, Joseph! That was beautiful and really precious!
The content is really good even in the car! But I admit that I like schema/visual things
Thanks for the content.
I’m ESTP.
LoL I never thought of being Grateful to an ESTP After all this my losing in Video Games and Martial Arts (MMA) and he taught me tho. ...I speak Gratefulness through Actions like giving them coffee or treat them to buy and eat snack(but I do think its not enough) but ESTP doesn't recognized it...I have to be STRAiGHT then as if they are DIRECT people.
Sounds exactly like Logan Paul describes himself, what he wants, and what he needs ;) since I can’t keep all the sides of the mind in my head, now that purity part makes sense in maturity… There’s an INFJ inside of them! no wonder we keep rooting for this type, beyond just how they entertain us and protect us. also explains how a great spiritual teacher in my life was this type because I kind of didn’t understand how that could be given the usual stereotypes.
I prefer this. I find the white board harder to watch. I put the speed on 2.0
planned/vs free style - as for me, no
with planned lectures you stay on the topic much better, but also repeat yourself more
*Scenario:*
An ESTP at work acted amoral and hid gadgets of an ESFP coworker while he goes to the toilet, while the ESTP was away I gave the gadgets to the ESFP.
When the ESTP saw that the ESFP had the gadgets again an ISFJ jumped in and said she gave the ESFP the gadgets.
The ESTP made work for the ISFJ intentinally harder, so I told him to stop that and that he can't behave that way.
He said: _The only thing I have to do is die_
I said: _Oh, okay we'll see_
So I got extremely legalistic and told our INTJ boss that if he doesn't get the ESTP to behave right, he is threatened with a fine of a total of 60000~80000€ for every person that gets bullied at work, because we got laws like that in Germany, and so he did.
I also told the ESTP that I log every bad behavior of him.
The ESTP didn't talk to me ever since (2021/02/17) and so did I.
*Question:*
Should I be the bigger man and apologize or just ignore him until I start school as an massage therapist this November?
Don't apologize
Dont apologize, he should apologize. But also dont hold onto the Anger it doesnt get you any benefit. It was the right thing to do to defend others
If you can just let go of the ange:, perfect
If you struggling with the anger, just talk about the situation with the ESTP or with others but dont apologize for something you did not do wrong. Talking about it helps more than ya think
In his mind you are dead so apologizing song help. He will read or listen and ignore you again.
Doesn't mean he hates you though. You are just in his past....thats how it would be for me as an ESTP
Please, where to find more on infj dating estp?
I'm estp....this was helpful
I like this type of videos too 😊
I just met an ESTP, (Or what I believe to be one, I gave him the 16 personalities site to take the test,) and he is showing quite a lot of attention to me. I believe he might be stagnant though. Will I be able to help him get out of that as an ENFJ. Can I help him work towards a better future? Also, why doesn't he like to take pictures? I would think from your description of ESTP that they would not be shy to take pictures of themselves. (Also, I prefer these videos with the whiteboard. 😁)
Is the entp masochism you mentioned is due to si inferior? I kinda remember you said that Si inferior and child can potentially have Stockholm syndrome.
You could put a edit slide in the top right of the video of all the basics to make it easier for people to follow along
I prefer these car sessions tbh.
ENFPs makes me feel wanted.
great video ! thanks !
do entps also dislike people who actually like them?
Not really, they are oblivious though, including me… every day…
Is Josh Homme an ESTP? The “internet” says ISTP but he seems so collaborative and physical and able to handle chaos.
Actually, members get to pick who gets typed each month, you can sign up at www.csjoseph.life/members
Hypocrisy makes life funny
I as INFJ with my INFJ mate , find estp attractive cos we can never guess their next move， they actively initiate to talk to us which is charming. Pragmatic realist , cannot answer me when I ask them to share with me their past and future🤣. Ok fine, but one thing I’m kind of bothered is when I drop things or need help , he stood there and laughed. I was like wth 🤦♀️. He was interest type so he was clear what he got in a situation vs what other got. He remained single though I believe he is Good at flirting.
But I guess after this lecture, I understand their interest perspective, cos I’m a interest based type too
Would an INFJ female be compatible with an ESTP man?
No
What about isfj female with estp man?
1:08:40 lol did you say that to emulate Se nemesis for a second
estjs are biggest bullies in my opinion. not estps.
Multitasking 👍
what's your vendetta against Enfp?
As infj I hav a joined child with an Estp and we argue and disagree on a daily bases , any tipps.. what I can do ?
Leave him and get a philosopher
watch how to social engineer ESTPs vid.
as a infj can i be with a estp if im willing to follow these rules
50:12 perfect timing lol
What’s your opinion on TheWizardLiz being an ESTP
she's not. she always said that she is an introvert and that she doesn't have social skills and hate being around people and that she's always in her head ( introvert ) while staying at home most of time
also she said that she has a lot of fears regarding a lot of physical activities
Mate she defo is you can be introverted or feel it even if your natural ego is extroverted - look at how many people she engages with online every day, the number of friends she meets and brings to Dubai . She loves people even tho she’s shyer and in her shell, it’s almost definitely her being stuck in her unconscious as she said she does have a lot of trauma she is working through from her childhood
Chase you are the chavo
I am not sure everybody knows who flow state is. I’m looking through the comments to try to find an answer.
an ESTP creator.
@@CSJoseph Okay, thanks.
Rule number #9
Get a bigger bed
Where is your great hat and I like you more chill, not distracted. It makes you talk different maybe 🤔
3:25
5:00 Not true that ESTP wouldn't do this
Please make video for INTPs. 8 Rules of Love for INTPs.
what is your definition of charlatan? on google it means someone who falsely claims to have a skill, is that what you mean too?
ENFPs can become depraved, that theirs vices and because of Ti triscker they don't really know what is true or false. So yeah kinda .
@@dovio832 why is it so bad of a thing that they have to be treated like shit by ESTPs?
@@raedjamal5779 ENFPs are the most manipulative of all of the types even tho they don't do it consciously because if Ti triscker they can still sell out other people's for their personal gain.
2 examples: I knew that one ENFP dude that gain some muscles at the gym and he wanted too make some money and he created a fake product and claim that it was the secret if his gain .
Also at the beginning of the pandemic an ENFP dude buy all of the hydroalcoholic gel of his town so no one could buy them anymore and we wanted too sell them at a higher price on Ebay but failed.
@@raedjamal5779 how is that even a question LMAO
@@tjz6202 you must be an ESTP who got triggered by my comments on ESTPs
Season 19
Aaron Eckart is ESTP
Can you make 8 rules for loving esfp soon please? My gf is an esfp Thankyou
are infps & estps compatible?
Yes.
@@CSJosephwill estp like infp woman??
Grow up. People don't need social hierarchy. They need law and psychology, to deal with the miscreants who wrong them or try to for social status. These competitions of who can be the biggest jerk really get on my nerves. That's why I was a recluse for 3 years.
There is a point in competing, only as long as there is an actual object or job to compete for.
I know that you read my comments because you say that you read them and I know that you sometimes do not respond because you believe that I am needlessly confrontational. This is why I am confrontational. Your obsession with social hierarchy is literally the only problem I have with you, but it is a big one. Saying things like: All women want to be dominated by and should rely on men, or: ESTP's are the true alpha's and every other type has to do their bidding are not only just wrong, but they also make a whole lot of people hate you.
What do you mean social hierarchy? In which context?
@@CSJoseph There is nothing specific because you don't tend to directly advocate it. It is just a general vibe I get from you when you are talking about who women should submit to and who is the alpha or the omega or whatever.
What I mean by social hierarchy is trying to be superior to other's, or putting other's above oneself just for the sake of it. That is, regardless of whether it is useful or not, and outside of any established and useful hierarchical system such as for instance a job, where some people take management roles and the others have to do as they are told.
That is useful. Trying to make somebody your bitch just because you feel like it is not.
So many people have tried to make me choose between omega and total bully before that it completely messed up my Fe. I am still trying to clear it, but I kind of hate everybody, and I'm not going to choose the first option. So those fat stupid ugly future truck driver's and waitresses get exactly what they deserve. I don't want anything to do with their competitions of being the biggest jerk, but I am forced into it, and the worst part is that everyone loves me for it.
I say something mean or do something mean and they all go: "Ooooh." Do you know that stupid noise they make? It's ridiculous. I hate it. I hate them.
Lol judging me via a vibe. You ignorant nerd. Move along.
Is an infp girl and estp male compatible
Yes
6:25
They feel you as a threat maybe ? hahaha for the haters...
as a infp hearing estps are amoral is such a turn off
But they're so ethical!
Sounds so needy 😭 little..... 😅
You getting so sidetracked, it's annoying. You're appear so emotional. But, good insight.
Obviously, I am in the heart temple, it’s all about passion.