Sriti Jha Narrates What Being An Asexual Is Like

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  • Опубликовано: 14 янв 2021
  • “I learned to lie in words and in moans.” Sriti Jha performs "Confessions Of An Asexual Romantic" during the 2020 Kommune India Spoken Fest.

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  • @btsbts3626
    @btsbts3626 3 года назад +10198

    If Sex without Love exists
    then why can't people understand
    Love without Sex exists too?
    Well, I am an Asexual too

  • @Beeep879
    @Beeep879 3 года назад +5418

    When you realise a daily soap actress is capable of speaking such great words!!!

    • @jhandubam1694
      @jhandubam1694 3 года назад +306

      And yet is given such poor roles and lines😪

    • @Deepak-tp5pl
      @Deepak-tp5pl 3 года назад +145

      Indian dramas and movies are not that great except few.

    • @anagha9410
      @anagha9410 3 года назад +9

      Yeah

    • @Krishna-vh5ku
      @Krishna-vh5ku 3 года назад +90

      She deserves better. Like Sushant when dies , then only we came to know about his intelligence.

    • @sanjeevanirajput3747
      @sanjeevanirajput3747 3 года назад +43

      @@jhandubam1694 well if she rises we won't have dumb movies of nepo kids coming out

  • @ignorasmus
    @ignorasmus 3 года назад +7692

    Asexuality is perhaps the only thing that is worse for men than women. A woman without sexual urges is somehow, sometimes looked at as a "pure and virtuous" person.
    An asexual man is often labelled as "impotent"!

    • @anjalii9500
      @anjalii9500 3 года назад +401

      Unfair but yet a harsh truth

    • @BananaJanta
      @BananaJanta 3 года назад +62

      True

    • @swastikqjana7128
      @swastikqjana7128 3 года назад +201

      As an asexual or may be demisexual woman..I still can understand...you're right!

    • @kumarakhilesh2631
      @kumarakhilesh2631 3 года назад +50

      U have a point bro

    • @Amor_fati.Memento_Mori
      @Amor_fati.Memento_Mori 3 года назад +164

      This is not just in India either. Such stereotypes exists throughout the world.

  • @aayushi2866
    @aayushi2866 3 года назад +5958

    Coming out in India as an asexual biromantic takes a lot of courage, more power to her!

    • @mayanksharma5814
      @mayanksharma5814 3 года назад +7

      @SARTHAK BHATTACHARYA yes! exactly

    • @aanchalsaxena1135
      @aanchalsaxena1135 3 года назад +59

      @SARTHAK BHATTACHARYA do you think asexual is the name of a condom brand or lmaoooooo

    • @btsbts3626
      @btsbts3626 3 года назад +39

      I am also asexual biromantic

    • @araznamu9144
      @araznamu9144 3 года назад +130

      @SARTHAK BHATTACHARYA
      It sure is courageous. For a society where sex is a taboo and then suddenly the purpose of your life is centered around marriage and having children, coming out as asexual is surely courageous.

    • @raveenasomannagari7917
      @raveenasomannagari7917 3 года назад +71

      @SARTHAK BHATTACHARYA I respect ur opinion. But in our society, being anything other than straight is considered a deviancy. And forget about it being courageous or not. She is helping build awareness around "tabbo topics". She must be applauded for that. It will help many youngsters who struggle with their identity.

  • @rashmit65
    @rashmit65 3 года назад +4130

    She came out in India, she works in an industry where "it" is the happy ending. We need her strength to make a better world. Ma'am, your courage speaks to me beyond sexualities and spectrums. I will look up to you in my every weak moment. You have earned yourself a fan for life. Thank you.

    • @shravani.a
      @shravani.a 3 года назад +36

      I don't think she's actually coming out as ace, she also has a poem called Chaabi Gum Gayi Hai which is about homosexuality so idk

    • @vedantingawale9788
      @vedantingawale9788 3 года назад +1

      @@shravani.a yes

    • @user-og3hr4tc5o
      @user-og3hr4tc5o 3 года назад +23

      @@shravani.a she could be homoromantic asexual you never know

    • @shravani.a
      @shravani.a 3 года назад +16

      @@user-og3hr4tc5o yeah maybe, but then again, she also has one about being trans or gender non-conforming 😂 I do think it's more of a theme rather than anything coming from her personal experience, can't be sure

    • @user-og3hr4tc5o
      @user-og3hr4tc5o 3 года назад +17

      @@shravani.a oh so is she just a straight ally? Thats cool. Don't find a lot of allies here usually :D

  • @sutanukaadhya1401
    @sutanukaadhya1401 3 года назад +3409

    Oh God this is so comforting. The same story everywhere.."you have not found the right one yet" Glad she spoke for us asexuals

    • @siddharth2796
      @siddharth2796 3 года назад +5

      Tf what

    • @theawantikamishra
      @theawantikamishra 3 года назад +8

      Me too

    • @mazadancoseben4818
      @mazadancoseben4818 3 года назад +2

      @@siddharth2796 , yes

    • @dOVERanalyst
      @dOVERanalyst 3 года назад +10

      Omg. Why are we seeing this so late. This is so difficult to come out this way. Respect for her.

    • @dineshk6896
      @dineshk6896 3 года назад +29

      I am boy, but in heart i always felt as girl, i always attracted towards a boy. I felt strange and sinful about how my body and mind works, But only now i could accept it. But really, i am not even able to imagine how an asexuals thought would work. Really, the GOD must be fine artist showing his stuff on us.

  • @erahansrk1392
    @erahansrk1392 2 года назад +808

    I m asexual n so is my partner... we love each other a lot... 15 years of marriage now... n we eve adopted a beautiful baby.... so believe me guys ... love is really beautiful (more than sex)...u can love evh other without being physically intimate... its difficult for some ppl to accept .. cos we were advised to go therapy/counseling n what not... no one understood n still don't...but its ok... we r happy n strong in our bond..... God bless all.

  • @shreenandandas6479
    @shreenandandas6479 3 года назад +919

    There are women like her in India who get forcefully married because....they're women, then have to oblige to have sex against their sexual orientation and choice because...they're married and marriage in India is a certificate to have sex, they face marital rapes and they can't speak about it because....how can a husband rape his wife right? My heart goes out to such women, not everyone gets to express it, so I encourage every girl out there who knows someone from her circle who can't speak for herself to encourage her to do so.

    • @anusharijal9066
      @anusharijal9066 2 года назад +4

      🤍

    • @khushijaiswal8423
      @khushijaiswal8423 2 года назад +8

      ❤❤

    • @KuchLife_Mein
      @KuchLife_Mein 2 года назад +19

      Don't get married or get married to someone with similar views.

    • @esmeelin5435
      @esmeelin5435 2 года назад +67

      @@KuchLife_Mein There are forced arranged marriages which exists as well. Parents force on their children against their wishes. This happens a lot still in many part of this country where some parents think they own their children so they can force them to do whatever they want.

    • @KuchLife_Mein
      @KuchLife_Mein 2 года назад +3

      @@esmeelin5435 Forced marriage is not a valid reason to ruin someone else's life. Period.

  • @stardust2531
    @stardust2531 3 года назад +4476

    OK a lot of people in the comment section do not have any idea about this issue. Asexual people fall in love, have romantic feelings for their partner, but they do not have sexual desire, like either they are not comfortable doing it or they do not feel pleasure of doing it. But that doesn't mean they do not have any sex, a lot of people do it for their partners or when they need a child, but the frequency is less. They are like LGBT, they are born with it and its not a disease. Also do not misunderstand it with celibacy, celibacy is a personal choice that people make, they still feel sexual desire..

    • @kaaminishishodia6083
      @kaaminishishodia6083 3 года назад +189

      This is really really new for me.. thanks for this elaboration.

    • @salmanansari-ll6pn
      @salmanansari-ll6pn 3 года назад +26

      I liked your explanation but your last statement seems contradictory to me.

    • @zk4580
      @zk4580 3 года назад +39

      "They are like LGBT" really? Are you sure?

    • @stardust2531
      @stardust2531 3 года назад +32

      @@salmanansari-ll6pn I meant that for celibacy , like those who follow celibacy , they still feel pleasure when they do it ..

    • @stardust2531
      @stardust2531 3 года назад +76

      @@zk4580 There are different spectrum in LGBT , They fall under a category . Research .

  • @dakshgarg2764
    @dakshgarg2764 3 года назад +1579

    She can become an awesome poet . Thanks for the likes I didn't expected that .

    • @indiafirst9346
      @indiafirst9346 3 года назад +16

      CREDITS GOES TO PR team or the uncredited REAL writer of her speech

    • @indiafirst9346
      @indiafirst9346 3 года назад +5

      @Caleb DeCoteau true she is just narcissistic

    • @tanayyd5951
      @tanayyd5951 3 года назад +10

      I don't want to sound demotivational but poems are much more than rhyming words.

    • @Nashrah422
      @Nashrah422 3 года назад +29

      @@indiafirst9346
      she wrote it herself, it was originally performed at kommune India. No one remains uncredited.

    • @Azarath_Metrion_Zinthos
      @Azarath_Metrion_Zinthos 3 года назад +2

      @Caleb DeCoteau asexuals are not averted to sex...they r not just that keen or do not have an urge to have it like other sexualities do.

  • @PIYUSHGUPTA-jg1yw
    @PIYUSHGUPTA-jg1yw 2 года назад +196

    Take a second to praise her speaking skills. Real excitement towards the idea you believe makes you confident.

  • @aastha4532
    @aastha4532 3 года назад +515

    I'm not an asexual but its beyond me why people shame others for being asexual... they aren't harming anyone. Mind your own business and stop telling people that they just haven't found the right one

    • @poonamkumare7069
      @poonamkumare7069 2 года назад +7

      I have been told everytime that I haven't found the right one yet, etc etc

    • @suhani2022
      @suhani2022 2 года назад +9

      exactly, like imagine being with an ace, you definitely know that they're not interested in you just for sex and actually have feelings for ya beyond that

    • @dmeditz8100
      @dmeditz8100 2 года назад +2

      @@suhani2022 lol i don't have problems with asexual or lesbian but they ruin someone life to just get financial stability is problem if you don't have feelings y pretend marry someone divorce other party then taking 50% his life income.

    • @renchilomurry8299
      @renchilomurry8299 2 года назад +5

      As long as people are not harming each other everything is beautifull 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉....you are right no need to judge others too much

    • @itskashkashi
      @itskashkashi Год назад +2

      The only group that's hated for what they don't do. Make it make sense.

  • @harshithsadhana7475
    @harshithsadhana7475 3 года назад +4001

    there are many couples in this world who are Asexual & Romantic.

    • @parvindarkaur9612
      @parvindarkaur9612 3 года назад +21

      Yes!!

    • @Sapientia-hs8xx
      @Sapientia-hs8xx 3 года назад +87

      When you say many couples are asexual, you mean both are asexual? I am wondering if it’s possible to be in a sexual relationship if one is asexual!

    • @parvindarkaur9612
      @parvindarkaur9612 3 года назад +8

      @Caleb DeCoteau that's possible.. that's possible

    • @Rocksyjohn
      @Rocksyjohn 3 года назад +7

      Is relationship bond by sexuality only..?
      Is monogamy mandatory in a relationship???

    • @sirman8774
      @sirman8774 3 года назад +1

      And OLD

  • @manjusangwan3520
    @manjusangwan3520 3 года назад +1075

    I don't understand this thing that on one hand ,our parents don't want us to have a boyfriend or girlfriend, (and having sex before marriage is just.........)
    And on 2nd hand,they choose some random stranger for us and expect us to literally have sex with that person as soon as possible and give them grandchild.

    • @anchalpandey9074
      @anchalpandey9074 2 года назад +31

      The f it's a riddle I just haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaate this thing....it's not freaking us but our parents who needs to be sex educated the ooooonly gender or sexuality they expect is boy - girl ....If u came out to be anything else it's none existential n you're gonna b Married off more quickly 🤷🤷🤷 just can't wait to run away from my house they're the same u mentioned I hate them the most

    • @babybear9485
      @babybear9485 2 года назад +56

      So true✔️✔️✔️ especially in india

    • @ShreyaSingh-lm5ti
      @ShreyaSingh-lm5ti 2 года назад +18

      How true...!

    • @Abhyuday_rai
      @Abhyuday_rai 2 года назад +9

      Lol great thought

    • @abhilashapandey9379
      @abhilashapandey9379 2 года назад +46

      Totally agree... it sounds more disturbing than messed up

  • @AnirudhJas
    @AnirudhJas 3 года назад +633

    Very well said! She was empathetic throughout, didn't offend anyone, spoke with clarity and had a good poetic touch. Great!😊

  • @dees1787
    @dees1787 3 года назад +380

    In the words of Jean Milburn, "Sex doesn't make us whole. So how can you ever be broken?"

    • @perfectlyimperfect6781
      @perfectlyimperfect6781 3 года назад +4

      Sex education

    • @RayOfHOPE2325
      @RayOfHOPE2325 3 года назад +6

      Perhaps she meant 'Broken' as general thing..
      I mean we all are broken somewhere,somehow..
      Imperfections makes us natural..

    • @anithajohnson3516
      @anithajohnson3516 3 года назад +1

      @@RayOfHOPE2325 👍

  • @bengomabengomi1400
    @bengomabengomi1400 3 года назад +2351

    My sister confessed that she is asexual, she doesn’t feel sexual urges. Till now We haven’t said anything to our mom because I don’t know how will she feel, or how will she accept the situation.

    • @webdev8284
      @webdev8284 3 года назад +322

      No need to confess anything in my opinion. Tell her to study better and either get a valuable job or to start her own startup. Parents will forget about marriage once you can earn for yourself.

    • @SinghalLouis
      @SinghalLouis 3 года назад +52

      Don't forget to see a specialist.. it could be a minor medical issue.. Just saying cause you never know..

    • @englishapplications6323
      @englishapplications6323 3 года назад +59

      I don't think there's any need to confess anything. There are chances that your parents won't get the issue. Let it be, if she wants to get married, then go ahead. Otherwise it's better to have a job for a secured future.

    • @rjd252
      @rjd252 3 года назад +47

      @@saakshis7014 They dnt hv sexual desires like typical general ppl.They hate sex.N if dey do it den it's bcz of other reasons like pressure frm der respective partners etc.They do feel n fall in love like us n can hv physical intimacy but cant hv sex..

    • @skylark1848
      @skylark1848 3 года назад +43

      No need to involve parents . Let her focus on her career. Sexuality will get settled in time.
      I used to call myself asexual because of sexual trauma. I hadn't even realised it till recently. I wasn't interested in physical contact/sexual stuff. It is a matter of finding a person someone she can feel comfortable with. It doesn't matter if she chooses to be with a woman or a man. The key is that she feels safe with a trustworthy souls
      Support her through these few confusing years. Safe space is important.

  • @fellieru9509
    @fellieru9509 3 года назад +1754

    As a demisexual I'm just so thankful to her that she is opening asexuality for so many Indian people.

    • @Vicky-wu3rz
      @Vicky-wu3rz 3 года назад +109

      What the heck is Demisexual 😂😂😂

    • @baishalideb5565
      @baishalideb5565 3 года назад +37

      Now what is that

    • @pinkisaini4558
      @pinkisaini4558 3 года назад +318

      @@Vicky-wu3rz demisexual is a person who feels sexual attraction only after established a strong bond from another person they don't feel sexual attraction until they feel trust and bond towards oher person

    • @ochacosmochicheeks7931
      @ochacosmochicheeks7931 3 года назад +529

      @@Vicky-wu3rz Explaining Sexualities as doors:
      Heterosexual: The door swings one way
      Homosexual: The door swings the other way
      Bisexual: The door swings both ways
      Pansexual: It's a rotating door
      Demisexual: The door is locked and only one person has the key
      Asexual: There's no door it's a wall

    • @nickyetti93
      @nickyetti93 3 года назад +78

      @@sohamdhoptey1466 as an asexual..i feel they coming up wid new words for someone who feels even slightly different... Aren't most ppl demisexuals??not many ik wud b ok wid sleepin wid someone rando who dey met at a club

  • @not_andita4401
    @not_andita4401 3 года назад +331

    she's such a respectfull woman just like her character Pragya

  • @parthparekh1
    @parthparekh1 3 года назад +526

    I hate everything about the k series crap she does on television but when she's on that stage and reciting her heart out it makes me weak in my knees and i fall for her every-single-time !
    😍

  • @siaaa6948
    @siaaa6948 3 года назад +499

    I really thought being asexual wasn't normal, glad to see people out there like me

    • @nicholasnelson5344
      @nicholasnelson5344 3 года назад +17

      There are tons of people who are asexual. Science is inclusive, so yeah others should also be!

    • @o_0264
      @o_0264 3 года назад +27

      I also once thought I am abnormal but no asexuality is normal.
      Never have I ever felt any sexual desire towards men.
      I do like hugging , cuddling and kissing but sex is a big NOOOOO

    • @anchalpandey9074
      @anchalpandey9074 2 года назад +6

      😭😭😭 really I'm sooo glad to know that I'm normal it's normal to not feel attracted to anyone at all taht way .....but the biggest problem HOW DO YOU FREAKING TELL THIS TO UR INDIAN PARENTS???? kya karu mein mrr jau?

    • @o_0264
      @o_0264 2 года назад +4

      @@anchalpandey9074 it's even more difficult for me cause I am Pakistani but don't worry things gotta be okay..

    • @anchalpandey9074
      @anchalpandey9074 2 года назад +3

      @@o_0264 yeah I can understand for us telling our strict parents this, is like getting married off even more quickly cuz that's all they would do

  • @rhsbalaramamurthy8795
    @rhsbalaramamurthy8795 3 года назад +596

    In our culture or parents dont know what is asexual means.. and after marriage, we also start lying ourselves 😣

    • @sha7260
      @sha7260 3 года назад +20

      That's so sad, men are actually more suffer emotionally but can't say anything

    • @periodt.5502
      @periodt.5502 3 года назад +29

      @@sha7260 um not just men

    • @sha7260
      @sha7260 3 года назад +4

      @@periodt.5502 I used comparative degree "more"

    • @homelessguy5400
      @homelessguy5400 3 года назад +7

      @@periodt.5502 Do not go that way..you don't have to insert "feminism" everywhere.

    • @periodt.5502
      @periodt.5502 3 года назад +39

      @@homelessguy5400 Did I say men don't ? Lol I said not just men but other genders suffer too it's not a competition idk why y'all cishet men need to call me feminist lol I said nothing related to feminism I'm being inclusive :3

  • @keldealmeida5768
    @keldealmeida5768 3 года назад +324

    Oh my Gosh! I can relate to her so much. All my friends keep saying that I haven't found the right one yet, but it's not true. I just don't have the urge to have sex. I've just realized that I don't need "my" other half because I feel myself complete. I'm not perfect, but I just feel so comfortable in my own company. I do love to be surrounded by friends and family members that I love, but I don't need to share my life with anyone else just like society expects from me.

    • @civilizedmonster
      @civilizedmonster 3 года назад +16

      @kjhjh.l jhkjl. Don't worry about old age. There are many others things to worry about. Be happy now. Make friends. Do good deeds. God will bless.

    • @ZainabJGum
      @ZainabJGum 3 года назад +4

      I have exact same thought as you👍 btw I'm asexual too😁

    • @ZainabJGum
      @ZainabJGum 3 года назад +7

      @kjhjh.l jhkjl. how can you be sure that your partner will be by your side the whole time. Sorry I don't mean to offend you

    • @dmeditz8100
      @dmeditz8100 2 года назад

      @@ZainabJGum purpose of life is to find a partner either Robot or human it should provide you dopamine if you will not get dopamine and warmness you will become lonely and depressed like japanese people where everyone is single and lonely and so much tired from life they go to forest for sucide or they lock their self in a room of for 10yrs or 20yrs.

    • @ZainabJGum
      @ZainabJGum 2 года назад +6

      @@dmeditz8100 don't worry about the case of dopamine I know that dopamine is something that releases when you ENJOY something you love not only when you are with your partner so any of your loved ones can make you feel lively and you won't be lonely and depressed unless you LOVE YOURSELF so you don't actually need someone else's support you can build your own empire 😁
      Oh btw I am not actually going against about partners and all I am just laying my own opinion well after all we all would have partner some day or other. So chill and relax✌️💜

  • @harrveeerr
    @harrveeerr 2 года назад +88

    START TEACHING THESE THINGS IN SCHOOLS FOR A BETTER FUTURE AND ALSO A BETTER PRESENT. ALSO, ILY SRITI AND IM SO PROUD OF YOU.

  • @somirishabh9820
    @somirishabh9820 3 года назад +312

    This is the world we desire for! The genuine freedom to choose what i want and never judged.

    • @nicholasnelson5344
      @nicholasnelson5344 3 года назад +10

      Nobody chooses a sexuality. They are born that way. Please use right words next time, Please.

    • @shahyashys
      @shahyashys Год назад

      Sexuality can also be influenced by external factors. So, its not necessarily something you are born with. It's not a physical trait.

    • @notmyproblem1349
      @notmyproblem1349 Год назад

      @@shahyashys Exactly!

  • @rrrss146
    @rrrss146 3 года назад +588

    This woman rocks .

    • @indiafirst9346
      @indiafirst9346 3 года назад +4

      MORE LIKE PR team rocks for these Limelight stunts LOL

    • @shivangyadav8736
      @shivangyadav8736 3 года назад +33

      @@indiafirst9346 someone's identity is a PR stunt huh? Going on the right path darling.

    • @rrrss146
      @rrrss146 3 года назад +29

      @@indiafirst9346 assuming you are an ally ... It takes a lot of courage to come out please have the basic decency to not mock it. She is an actress on t.v. famous for a saas bahu serial , a large part of her audiance is highly homophobic a filled with hatred. It's a risk to my understanding . Even with that being one of the many possibilities why take the risk of possibly hurting people. Please be sensitive, and sympathetic . Words have power use them wisely.
      If you are homophobic🖕

    • @indiafirst9346
      @indiafirst9346 3 года назад +3

      @@rrrss146 THATS a total flop freak show for Grannies to watch and thus she needs more attention to get some idk b grade films or wot ?

    • @nevillegoddard7096
      @nevillegoddard7096 3 года назад +20

      @@indiafirst9346 you r pathetic....if you follow this channel you will get to know that this is not her first poetry

  • @prernanegi9145
    @prernanegi9145 3 года назад +97

    "I learned to lie in words and in moans"
    I know man that's what I used to do

    • @nithi9638
      @nithi9638 2 года назад

      @@pinkisaini4558 ma'am what made you think asking about people's sexual activity on the internet is appropriate. Last I checked it's none of your business is what it is.

    • @CrazyGamer-hq5iy
      @CrazyGamer-hq5iy Месяц назад

      How?...how u felt nothing

  • @madmax5866
    @madmax5866 3 года назад +107

    She is a vocal ally of LGBTQ+. She even rendered a beautiful poem about being lesbian. So I think she didn't come out as asexual, but just being vocal about the people who are stigmatized for who they are. Always ❤️ her. If she is coming out then lots of love, if not then too lots of love ❤️❤️ for being vocal.

    • @saimytheli6846
      @saimytheli6846 3 года назад +10

      Ah, I just learnt from the comments above that she's a biromantic asexual. So, both hold true - it's a personal story and not just a pledge of support :')

    • @tubasayed3055
      @tubasayed3055 2 года назад

      @@saimytheli6846 No she's not,she is just speaking on behalf of them.

    • @gaurav8267
      @gaurav8267 Месяц назад

      ​@@tubasayed3055no she is , but she does not accept it openly.

  • @sneegdhanayak1572
    @sneegdhanayak1572 3 года назад +1482

    Brut India
    Please upload a video explaining LGBTQIA because our country needs that kind of education. Period.

  • @rw5vvur
    @rw5vvur 3 года назад +164

    How many months did she take to prepare such a beautiful rhythmic speech? I don't think all those words, each sentence ending with the rhyming words were instant, I think she prepared it and I am so astonished how did she spoke so well as if she actually spoke everything on the spot without even thinking what to speak. She actually spoke from heart. Such a lovely soul she is!

    • @rw5vvur
      @rw5vvur 3 года назад

      @Mysterious Banda yeah she spoke amazing!

  • @floffy2695
    @floffy2695 3 года назад +187

    Lol for real, when I realized that I was asexual and that only 1% of the population felt this way, I was genuinely shocked because I thought being ace was normal and being horny was something that only happened in movies. I still get surprised when my friends casually mention being aroused

    • @mrigz2776
      @mrigz2776 3 года назад +14

      *Same with me too!!!*
      *I thought it only happened in movies!!!*
      *I'm happy being single and taking care of my parents till their last breath!!!*

    • @sm0000
      @sm0000 2 года назад +3

      @@mrigz2776 exactly. I also felt the same

    • @idkyimalive4100
      @idkyimalive4100 2 года назад

      @Floffy this is what I felt too

    • @Remedyisinbooks
      @Remedyisinbooks 6 месяцев назад

      Glad someone can relate

    • @facts7258
      @facts7258 6 месяцев назад

      Hey what's ur age
      I'm really looking for Asexual companion

  • @sumitadas29
    @sumitadas29 3 года назад +172

    Nice way to get introduce to "Asexuality" I didn't knew it existed.. Thank you Sriti...

    • @uvfire
      @uvfire 3 года назад +1

      Hy can u tell is asexuality mean the person who never wants sex ???

    • @aronaron1277
      @aronaron1277 3 года назад

      @@uvfire yeah

    • @uvfire
      @uvfire 3 года назад +1

      @@aronaron1277so they never do sex or they do but they are not really interested in it ??

    • @aronaron1277
      @aronaron1277 3 года назад

      @@uvfire they hate it

    • @praniti8410
      @praniti8410 2 года назад +1

      @@uvfire they do it in some cases, maybe to have a child or to satisfy their partner but they do not enjoy it

  • @Childfreedollar
    @Childfreedollar 3 года назад +225

    We need more of sriti, she's has a fantastic stage presence and charisma

  • @rutvijaprusty2730
    @rutvijaprusty2730 3 года назад +544

    When we going to have all these idea through tv as well because our parents and family should go through these worlds too

    • @shagunagrawal2003
      @shagunagrawal2003 3 года назад +1

      Very true

    • @km4940
      @km4940 3 года назад +15

      Forget about it,tv content is getting even more regressive now a days,actors don't even watch their own shows...!!

    • @meghanarora4136
      @meghanarora4136 3 года назад +2

      our parents are clueless about everything

    • @Deepak-tp5pl
      @Deepak-tp5pl 3 года назад

      Our society is way conservative

    • @bansal1286
      @bansal1286 3 года назад

      Very true!!!

  • @dhritishukla9480
    @dhritishukla9480 3 года назад +96

    Haven’t done it yet but I think that being asexual would be the best feeling in this world . With no sexual desires just love .

    • @mysteriousbillionaire7349
      @mysteriousbillionaire7349 3 года назад +2

      Ur marriage will end up in divorce as your husband will want sex

    • @stutinaik4685
      @stutinaik4685 3 года назад +1

      As odd as this may sound I wish I was ace

    • @so.mean.-_a7893
      @so.mean.-_a7893 2 года назад +11

      As an ace myself I can say that it is...the best thing ever happened to me.....no tantrums no dramas....genuine concern, love, respect, care and feeling to spend more time with someone just bcz you love eachother so much....💜

    • @prerna2304
      @prerna2304 2 года назад +7

      Umm no. It's not that easy. You may be asexual and fall in love with someone who isn't. That person will never be completely happy with you because you won't be able to enjoy sex with them and your relationship will eventually end. Either you have to have sex unwillingly just to please your partner or let them find someone else.

    • @pleasyplease5719
      @pleasyplease5719 2 года назад +10

      But sexual desires are also a part of love....not talking about casual relationships but in a committed relationship, having sexual desires for your partner is so natural.If you are an asexual person its okay but your comment seems to imply that love without any sexual desires is the only pure kind of love. It's wrong, purity of love is based on genuine emotions & intentions towards each other not on desires.

  • @Aria-ej6qm
    @Aria-ej6qm 3 года назад +45

    Asexuality does not being devoid of human sentiments and feelings, it means not to have an urge for intercourse like most of us have. Asexual peeps date, fall in love, hold hands, giggle, have butterflies and are fucking normal. :)

  • @radsdoms
    @radsdoms 3 года назад +125

    I fell for her smile! 21st century (2021) the era when girls/women are free to talk/share about their thoughts/issue instead of hiding😇!

    • @SKOLAH
      @SKOLAH 3 года назад

      Right. Yeah. No.

    • @radsdoms
      @radsdoms 3 года назад

      @@SKOLAH Oxymoron response 😂......!

  • @PrishaLalwani
    @PrishaLalwani 3 года назад +97

    I'm 36 years old, well aware of the world around us, and it is today i learnt that an orientation like this exists. Thank you for sharing this. It's so beautiful how varied we as humans are ❤️❤️❤️

  • @raizakm4898
    @raizakm4898 3 года назад +52

    I find her a 1000x cooler for this than her on screen character. You go girl!!

  • @cowgivesmilk1233
    @cowgivesmilk1233 2 года назад +23

    Everything aside, she's so beautiful and poetic. Her every words were told in rhythms and there was asthetic pleasure in listening to her speak.

  • @manutrivedi1891
    @manutrivedi1891 3 года назад +107

    She's a brave classy lady. A potential leader.

  • @asmita5542
    @asmita5542 3 года назад +145

    I remember watching this almost a yer ago..being an asexual i had so many questions and this helped me alot.now I have accepted the way I am and with god's grace I have found a partner who understands my situation.

    • @stan_em_all5583
      @stan_em_all5583 3 года назад +4

      God I cannot believe.... same pinch on everything.

    • @Imaginationwith_AI
      @Imaginationwith_AI 3 года назад

      U r lucky

    • @asmita5542
      @asmita5542 3 года назад

      @@Imaginationwith_AI yes.

    • @aditeerao9455
      @aditeerao9455 3 года назад

      And what about kids?? Go for adoption thats also a taboo in our society. M happy for ur partner and u🙂👍

    • @asmita5542
      @asmita5542 3 года назад +2

      @@aditeerao9455 yes..I actually want to adopt two girls.😃

  • @aimenmasih9733
    @aimenmasih9733 3 года назад +26

    As an Asexual I am relieved tht more people feel this way. I thought I was the odd one out. Honestly for me love can never be abt sex..but if we say someone tht we are disinterested in topic of sex people assume we have lost our mind.
    Assexuals love is more purer,if only people could understand.

    • @prabhatsagarsingh8244
      @prabhatsagarsingh8244 2 года назад

      Do asexual women get motherly feeling during pregnancy or after baby is born?

    • @vishnupriyaphadnis6204
      @vishnupriyaphadnis6204 2 года назад +1

      @@prabhatsagarsingh8244 obviously , just bcoz asexual it dosen t mean u wont love kids or hv affectiom towards them , all mothers love their children equally and unconditionally .

    • @lipipragyadevi
      @lipipragyadevi Год назад

      @@prabhatsagarsingh8244 obviously that is completely normal

  • @Anurag-ib1qz
    @Anurag-ib1qz 3 года назад +56

    I am a 25 year old virgin man(always made to feel that am missing out on sex) …and finally i came out as Demi/Grey sexual/biromantic….its hard to explain ….she explains lot of what i had been feeling all my life…I feel super sad when ppl i loved don’t reciprocate what i feel…….but thanx to her it feels i am heard as well 💚💙❤️💛🧡💜 love for everyone in the spectrum….figuring oneself out is such a giant task and its alright if ur late at it, there is always someone like you remember! You are not alone 🌸🙏🏼🌸

    • @anotherszastan
      @anotherszastan 2 года назад +2

      @Noob Veterinarian Demisexual means that you can only feel sexual attraction to people that you are close to and trust, which means there must be an emotional bond first. Like, if you see a hot stranger you feel attracted to them right? (unless you are demi too) But someone that is demi would not feel any attraction. And why this is a sexual orientation and not a matter of simply "falling in love with friends", is because they DONT feel attraction unless they have a bond with them. It is not a choice for them. It is just how they are and they can't help it. This is what I know about it, I hope you got what I mean? You can google it for more info.

    • @Anurag-ib1qz
      @Anurag-ib1qz 2 года назад +1

      @@anotherszastan 🤩thanks for the explanation 🌸🙏🏼

    • @KK-pp3zv
      @KK-pp3zv Год назад

      I'm also demi

    • @_Bappu_
      @_Bappu_ Месяц назад

      Muthhal

  • @shiksingh5432
    @shiksingh5432 3 года назад +223

    Tbh. This is the first time I heard that there is something called being asexual .thankyou for this.i got to understand n learn something new

    • @Pororoxia
      @Pororoxia 3 года назад +26

      @Caleb DeCoteau are you fucking mad
      This is a real thing

    • @bigfangirlofsushantsir7651
      @bigfangirlofsushantsir7651 3 года назад +14

      @Caleb DeCoteau It seems like you have never heard of this search the youtube channel swaddle I am sure you can clear your understanding quite clearly and one thing asexulity can be found in all genders not only in females, hope this helps

    • @haechanradioenthusiast9015
      @haechanradioenthusiast9015 3 года назад +15

      @Caleb DeCoteau explain. How? How is not having sex with a man using him? Literally how?

    • @anishkaverma7311
      @anishkaverma7311 3 года назад +3

      @Caleb DeCoteau You really got time to reply to every comment huh? Lmao

    • @dmeditz8100
      @dmeditz8100 2 года назад

      @@haechanradioenthusiast9015 if your men is asexual then it okay but if your partner is sexual then it clearly using him even if you give him permission to cheat, it will become hard for him to be in relationship with asexual women at any cost if you are asexual then you should become aromatic for sexual people or avoid relationship with them ask it on your first date is he okay or not?

  • @haechanradioenthusiast9015
    @haechanradioenthusiast9015 3 года назад +485

    Rarely do people pay attention to asexuals. Heterosexuality, homosexuality, the debates carry on all the while ignoring an entire spectrum of people for whom life goes a little different. Either they are told that their condition is "not real", or that being an asexual is impossible. Which is a pretty low blow towards anyone's identity. I just hope someday people won't dismiss asexuals anymore, won't walk over their feelings while pretending they are an anomaly in the system.

    • @parvindarkaur9612
      @parvindarkaur9612 3 года назад +8

      True.. and thanks

    • @atomicambition4435
      @atomicambition4435 3 года назад +4

      why should anyone care about them? ok they dont want to have sex so what who cares

    • @Blaze6432
      @Blaze6432 3 года назад +36

      @@atomicambition4435 I know some people aren't blessed with basic intelligence so I'll try to help. Do you know What stigma means?

    • @parthbhardwaj1807
      @parthbhardwaj1807 3 года назад +1

      Around what percent of people are asexuals? And what's the reason like do they have some mutation or some chromosomal disorder

    • @yesno8785
      @yesno8785 3 года назад +29

      ​@@atomicambition4435 1) Asexual people don't feel sexual attraction to people, it's not just "they don't want to have sex". 2) There's a stigma against them like @Blaze6432 said and they too are harassed for being ace, told they don't exist/it's unnatural, that there's something wrong with them, and shut down. Does that sound familiar? 3) Why are you even on this video if you feel like commenting these things? '
      We should bring awareness to all sexualities, as then people will understand them better and hopefully accept them more without discriminating or harassing them.

  • @anvithequarsonist
    @anvithequarsonist 2 года назад +19

    As an Indian aromantic asexual this is amazing, it’s great to see how she’s spreading awareness about our communities :) rise up, us one percenters!

  • @Disha_J06
    @Disha_J06 2 года назад +22

    Till now I'd thought I was the only one like this in the whole Universe 😳,but I was wrong! ❤️

    • @jananius8811
      @jananius8811 2 года назад +1

      The realization part is bitter but better in reality

    • @tinachamoli
      @tinachamoli 7 месяцев назад +1

      Will you get married?

  • @nickyetti93
    @nickyetti93 3 года назад +291

    Lmao..one time i had just told someone that i was asexual..he blocked me ..well good riddance

    • @olisenpaii2090
      @olisenpaii2090 3 года назад +44

      It's better to have no friends than fake ones ...and also many online (not all ) are only looking for' it' so yeah ...lol.

    • @bettasbetta
      @bettasbetta 3 года назад +9

      his loss. keep living your truth.

    • @mintysugarcube
      @mintysugarcube 3 года назад +1

      @@olisenpaii2090 Perfect

    • @pranshulondase9491
      @pranshulondase9491 3 года назад

      @@mintysugarcube ź

  • @srilathakulkarni5570
    @srilathakulkarni5570 3 года назад +82

    What a simple yet complex situation. Appreciate Sriti for being sweet while holding her emotions in the folded fists going poetically about herself.

  • @warishataj7544
    @warishataj7544 3 года назад +22

    Never knew I needed to hear this, but more than me the people around me.
    I like how easily she said things we don't know how to express ❤️

  • @sonalsaxena255
    @sonalsaxena255 2 года назад +28

    im so happy that in a country like India, people are slowly getting comfortable in coming out :)

  • @Aman-io8kc
    @Aman-io8kc 3 года назад +514

    For anyone who don't know wht is a asexual...asexual persons can not feel sexual pleasure..but it's does not mean celibacy. People who practice celibacy abstain from sex, but not necessarily because they are not sexually attracted to others. Some choose to remain celibate for religious or personal beliefs. Asexuality, on the other hand, is an orientation and is not a choice....Some asexual people actually do have sex. There are many reasons why they might decide to, but two common ones are to please their romantic partner or to have children........
    Feeling glad after seeing positive responsES

    • @indiafirst9346
      @indiafirst9346 3 года назад +17

      actually these are just ATTENTION SEEKERS when they are out of MEDIA so they pick up something stupid to come back in LIMELIGHT

    • @nevillegoddard7096
      @nevillegoddard7096 3 года назад +88

      @@indiafirst9346 dude educate yourself....and u don't even know her personally...how can you judge her ....and she is speaking on the behalf of all the asexuals not just for herself

    • @parvindarkaur9612
      @parvindarkaur9612 3 года назад +51

      @@indiafirst9346 Seriously? You don't know the pain of being different from me.. ask those who know it.. I'm an Ace and I was always in depression and anxiety when I found out my sexuality

    • @haechanradioenthusiast9015
      @haechanradioenthusiast9015 3 года назад +50

      @@indiafirst9346 The one seeking attention is you.

    • @aggressive9999
      @aggressive9999 3 года назад +1

      @@parvindarkaur9612 what is asexual

  • @pinkisaini4558
    @pinkisaini4558 3 года назад +36

    The way she narrates it is awesome :))

  • @nandhinipriya115
    @nandhinipriya115 3 года назад +19

    I fell in love with this person 😭 , she sweeped me off the floor with her funny, witty and sensitive words ....

  • @art.fiber.s
    @art.fiber.s 3 года назад +35

    Asexual doesn't mean that you don't want to be loved.. it's just you don't have sex on your mind when you meet your lover. And you feel happy being kissed n hugged. I am confused but I think that I am an asexual.

    • @pinkisaini4558
      @pinkisaini4558 3 года назад +1

      😅😅😅 don't label yourself early search type of sexuality than give time to yourself and that is the time u can decide what u r

    • @bhuvneshkumar5925
      @bhuvneshkumar5925 Год назад

      Hii Ritika i m also asexual

  • @pool_dead3961
    @pool_dead3961 3 года назад +149

    Duh! The crowd needs to listen to the backstreet boys!!

  • @Gedankenful
    @Gedankenful 3 года назад +147

    Every human has their own spectrum of sexuality. No one shd be judged on something so basic and personal. Who cares who someone sleeps with or does'nt? And if someone does judge on this basis, ohmigawd..aur koi kaam dhandha nahi hai kya tumhari life mein!!! Mind ur own business!

    • @ochacosmochicheeks7931
      @ochacosmochicheeks7931 3 года назад +3

      ikr especially when people gatekeep the lgbt community. it's so annoying and biased

    • @nupurfaye
      @nupurfaye 3 года назад +4

      This need to be said to my old classmate, who is a "proud homophobic" and keeps ranting about others sexuality in her Instagram story, ugh i don't even know how i have kept my mouth shut for days 🤧 I really feel low thinking i don't have the guts to snap back to her

    • @ochacosmochicheeks7931
      @ochacosmochicheeks7931 3 года назад +1

      @@nupurfaye you can report her

  • @fathimashahama5443
    @fathimashahama5443 3 года назад +11

    The reason why India is currently in 2021 yet stuck with a mentality of 1821 is because people recognise her as 'Pragya arora' from kumkum Bhagya who always sacrifice herself for her family & made 'protecting her kumkum' as a life goal and not as Sriti jha who is a powerful women brave enough to speak out loud about her sexuality in this video. Indians should explore more videos like this instead of camping outside the television to watch 30 mins of toxic patriarchal society. She really deserve a payment rise for this. Glad that we have influential People like her who are ready to come out and address issues that are regarded as 'prohibited' and 'cursed' . More power to her

  • @jayanthireddy4254
    @jayanthireddy4254 3 года назад +31

    This was perfectly explained! It’s high time India is exposed a little more to the spectrum.

  • @manamitalukder
    @manamitalukder 3 года назад +4

    This was so beautiful. Thank you for explaining it to a lot who have hard time figuring out and feeling inadequate

  • @himanshusirohi2403
    @himanshusirohi2403 3 года назад +136

    अरे, ये तो अपनी कुमकुम भाग्य की प्रज्ञा है।

    • @JayTVIndia
      @JayTVIndia 3 года назад +4

      Really..........., for me she's Sanya from Dhoom machalo Dhoom ❤️

    • @annaferns1840
      @annaferns1840 3 года назад

      IT'S HER? DUDE..

  • @nandini8247
    @nandini8247 3 года назад +8

    i found family here in this comment section . Felt so relieved after listening her . i used to watch her in daily drama never had that much respect for her . Mam ur very brave uh give us courage to accept ourself as we are .

  • @jhelummukherjee8655
    @jhelummukherjee8655 3 года назад +16

    I really really feel this. The feeling of getting whatever satisfaction people get from sex from a show of affection. To me the deepest form of intimacy comes from a forehead kiss or when someone holds my hand. What they don't tell you is growing up, being asexual is lonely. Also to explain my sexuality I need to give a vocabulary lesson every one.

    • @prerna2304
      @prerna2304 2 года назад +1

      That's the bitter truth. being asexual is lonely for most people

    • @dmeditz8100
      @dmeditz8100 2 года назад

      this is perfectly normal girls consider their self as bi and all kind of weird terms but we knows girls like literally deep neck kiss for feeling arousal and foreplay for it because they generally have very low sex drive as per their biology but mordern day porn is just weird fantasy.boy get arousal from just 1or 2parts girls have different body parts as sensitive that desired them sex.

    • @jhelummukherjee8655
      @jhelummukherjee8655 2 года назад +2

      @@dmeditz8100 ???? 1. Men can be ace too, it's got nothing to do with biology. And 2. Have you ever met a real life woman, sir?

  • @sans3775
    @sans3775 3 года назад +221

    for anyone wondering what asexual means, people who are not attracted to other people sexually identify as asexuals
    they may like someone romantically, date them, get married, have sex and think someone is sexy also, but they are not attracted to them in that way

    • @Sapientia-hs8xx
      @Sapientia-hs8xx 3 года назад +6

      So asexual people desire for sex and experience sexual pleasure?

    • @sans3775
      @sans3775 3 года назад +7

      @@Sapientia-hs8xx yes they might
      its usually different for each person

    • @Sapientia-hs8xx
      @Sapientia-hs8xx 3 года назад +25

      @@sans3775 I see, I had an understanding that asexual people desire to have a romantic relationship, but they don’t experience sexual pleasures naturally! I mean they are not interested in sexual activity

    • @sans3775
      @sans3775 3 года назад +5

      @@Sapientia-hs8xx it's so nice to see the comment section be so supportive no ? :)
      (except for the haters obv)

    • @Aman-io8kc
      @Aman-io8kc 3 года назад +16

      @@Sapientia-hs8xx asexual person's can not feel sexual pleasure..but it's doesn't mean celibacy..people who practise celibacy abstain from sex but not nesssecericly they are not sexually attracted to others...some choose cellibacy coz of religious or persnol purpose on the other hand asexuality is an orientation not a choice...

  • @sivalayas1317
    @sivalayas1317 3 года назад +56

    Finally i found someone with same thoughts😇

  • @Suruchi1223
    @Suruchi1223 3 года назад +18

    This is to help people understand something that is a common misconception with asexuals. Asexual people (in most cases) are able to get aroused. This was the first question I had when I was questioning my asexuality, because I could get aroused, so does that mean I'm not asexual? And the answer is no, I can get aroused and still be asexual. The thing is, our bodies are wired a certain way to make the process of intercourse easier. So when we are in situations that could lead to sex, a man gets hard (as it would help in penetration) and a woman gets wet (which would again, make the process of penetration easier). Our body reacting this way is biological. Biologically, most asexuals don't have anything that doesn't work. It's just that they are not interested in having intercourse with another person. They can still do it, everything works, they just choose not to because it's their choice. There are also people with high libidos who are asexual and it is tough for them, but if you are a certain way, you just are.

    • @Affirmationsasmr
      @Affirmationsasmr 2 года назад +1

      This is something I wanted to know! Thankyou😊

  • @Gurpreetk985
    @Gurpreetk985 Месяц назад +5

    I am also asexual, it feels good to just hold hands, hug. i feel complete without anything further. i am 23, i dont know how i can confess this but it's true, this is who i am

    • @i.ashishhhv.x
      @i.ashishhhv.x 13 дней назад

      It's actually good , you will greatly contribute in climate change not establishing the geometric progression of offsprings as straight people do

  • @swechchatiwari8163
    @swechchatiwari8163 3 года назад +277

    Me being a Biromantic asexual,always being INVALIDATED that this is "Just a phase",you'll meet the right guy, sex is all about trust in your partner like wtf!
    I hope people start accepting people as they are or Atleast don't impose how you are on others!
    For me, even an Intimate touch privately traumatise me.
    Also people need to know that 'Sexual attraction' & 'Romantic attraction' are 2 different terms. You can be an asexual and an Aromantic at the same time BUT you can also be an Asexual Homoromantic or Biromantic asexual or a panromantic asexual. Romanticism includes cuddling,hugs,kisses,holding hands & Non-sexual touch.
    Lastly,Being an Ace is not a Phase!!!
    ~ A Biromantic Asexual.

    • @VasaviMahajan
      @VasaviMahajan 3 года назад +12

      Thank you for this comment. Most of the comments in here are people being completely uneducated and not wanting to get educated either.
      This comment is everything and yes it's not just a phase it is who we are.
      Love from ace community 💙

    • @simiedulay
      @simiedulay 3 года назад +6

      Biromantic asexual here !! 💞😁

    • @swechchatiwari8163
      @swechchatiwari8163 3 года назад

      @@VasaviMahajan 🥺✨✨

    • @swechchatiwari8163
      @swechchatiwari8163 3 года назад +1

      @@simiedulay hey!💞

    • @019_deepsikhadas3
      @019_deepsikhadas3 3 года назад +2

      Hats off mann

  • @dikshasharma9838
    @dikshasharma9838 3 года назад +15

    Wow 👏 I m glad these people are expressing their feelings....we will try to understand them and accept them whole-heartedly...❤️❤️

  • @simrandadhwal5331
    @simrandadhwal5331 3 года назад +55

    as an ace myself, I was only waiting for asexuality to get normalised in India. Thankyou Sriti.

    • @bhuvneshkumar5925
      @bhuvneshkumar5925 Год назад

      Hi Simran...i m also an asexual

    • @-SimonRiley
      @-SimonRiley 4 месяца назад

      ​@@bhuvneshkumar5925nahi degi 😂

    • @_Bappu_
      @_Bappu_ Месяц назад

      ​@@bhuvneshkumar5925nhi bhai teri caste alag he nhi degi

  • @pavithrabalasubramanian7344
    @pavithrabalasubramanian7344 2 года назад +13

    She is a queen....hats off to her for being so bold

  • @stutisingh4493
    @stutisingh4493 3 года назад +12

    I have seen this video earlier....glad to see soo many positive comments this time. I came here just to read the comments plus I also love Sriti and Brut India...more power to u

  • @AmberlitArt
    @AmberlitArt Год назад +5

    Its so difficult to not want sex and still find someone in life. You have let go people you like, because you can't give up your choices not force the other person to do so

    • @Cineo_shot
      @Cineo_shot 9 месяцев назад +1

      hey i want a life partner to marry , i am asexual and want to love someone with pure heart and want a girl who stands always with me. and me too for her.
      i need pure love , pure heart.
      please reply

  • @clipsandchips11
    @clipsandchips11 2 года назад +36

    I really hope her career is okay after this. I really really really hope so. She is a soap opera actress and the industry is brutal af.

  • @The_Experience_Guy
    @The_Experience_Guy 3 года назад +5

    She has given the courage to so many people to accept themselves as asexuals. Proud of her!

  • @urbutholstinks2304
    @urbutholstinks2304 3 года назад +12

    for some reason, this made me very happy. an actress from the serial my mom used to watch being a part of the lgbtq+community is kind of, comforting? idk how to put my feelings into words

  • @rihansharma1058
    @rihansharma1058 3 года назад +29

    They told me I haven't found
    The right one yet
    Well honestly as of yet
    I had found a right few
    I am going to share those stories
    Then you will find
    Some things old and some things new
    Lets go back to the start
    The very first time i fell in love
    Things were said and rules were laid
    Holding hand and flirting was alright
    Anything beyond that would not be okay
    So the problem was that
    I went beyond and kissed
    The very first time i was kissed
    And i was kissed back
    It was a discovery
    It was the closest magic that I'd ever felt
    So the best kisser i was going to be.
    I learned new meanings of forever
    I learned to work for again and better.
    But then i couldn't catch-up in the rhythm or in the rhyme.
    As a cosmic alarm went off
    And everybody was ready for their first time
    I must have missed the alarm
    Because i am a late sleeper
    Because i wasnt ready or eager.
    But when they spoke of it i joined in with equal vigour.
    I kept falling in love
    sometimes better other times worst.
    But "it" was never on my mind
    And that seemed to be my curse.
    I kept avoiding it ,eventually i did it
    But it didn't seem meant to be.
    Every time it happened i know it wasn't really being me.
    So i told my friends and a problem with me was diagnosed
    A lot was said, a lot was done
    Books were read, new boys were met
    But problem remains solved by none.
    Finally I was relieved when they wrote chants of
    no means no means no means no.
    But when i said no and i meant no,
    They said "you have got to a try little more".
    "Come on, try a bit."
    "How could you not ?"
    "Why would you not ?"
    "No, you do ."
    "You don't know how."
    "I will teach you "
    " I will show you "
    "Oh my god ! You never felt wow ?"
    But i had felt wow.
    I had felt wow in hugs and kisses.
    I had felt wow every time fingers had run through my tresses.
    But beyond a point when it went
    I was left all alone.
    So i learned to lie in words and in moans.
    I learned to lie because i didn't want to hurt.
    I didn't want to loose and i was in love.
    Who was i to choose ?
    Who was i to choose me who had none alike?
    Who was i to choose me who had lost love's every strike?
    And this was the time when everybody was talking about sex, learning and teaching consent.
    And i had no one except my discontent.
    And this is not bashing my lovers
    They were great .
    This is not bashing my lovers or my firends.
    They were taking the care of me,
    Keeping the bargain at their end.
    This is not bashing sex either.
    This is not to prove me greater.
    I do not celebrate celibacy.
    I am not a sex hater.
    And sex haters, you think just the favourite child is the asexual kind?
    Go out with the boys or with the girls.
    Your parents never really mind.
    True, but for that to happen
    You have to come out.
    And we're the only ones
    Who have to use word sex and not love to come out.
    You see the irony there , I am sure without a doubt.
    But what must be done must be done.
    I found a way to make this little easy.
    And as i go ahead,I know I might sound cheesy.
    They say you dont stutter when you are singing a song.
    And as I go ahead
    I hope you will sing along.
    ~ I am asexual
    I am not the only one
    I am evry thing i need
    You better recognise me now
    I am asexual~
    There is another song that has phrase,
    "Cardboard cutout sex appeal"
    And I always misheard
    It was carpal tunnel sex appeal.
    Because for me it was about holding hands,
    Holding hands to the point of chronic muscle ache.
    I didn't know , picking my way to love was such a terrible mistake.
    I have to paraphrase song to tell you I fell all of it,
    The butterflies and the bees in my very stomach's pit.
    And if I ask you, why do you need or want sex ?
    You can't put it in words. I know.
    And that is a ineffable reason,
    Thats how i know ,that i dont want sex for sure.
    And i am not incomplete or in any way less.
    I am complete but confused.
    Isn't that such a beautiful mess?
    And i am broken, imperfect.
    And that needs mending of a different kind.
    Dont tell me who i am.
    Do not try to change my mind.
    Last but not the least,
    In LGBTQIA
    An asexual and an Ally
    Each and every single way.
    ~ I am asexual
    I am not the only one
    I am evry thing i need
    You better recognise me now
    I am asexual~
    _Sriti_Jha

  • @botsrik5627
    @botsrik5627 3 года назад +8

    Everyone talking about her courage....I'm stunned at her speech structure rhyming and fluency

  • @soumitakundu2949
    @soumitakundu2949 3 года назад +3

    THIS IS ONE OF THE MOST INFLUENTIAL VIDEO I HAVE EVER WATCHED ❤ Honestly, I absolutely loved the entire video. KUDOS TO HER!!!

  • @Blue-lq8xf
    @Blue-lq8xf 3 года назад +8

    So well and beautifully explained. I’m surprised to see so many positive well educated comments 👏🏻

  • @ayushimittal6496
    @ayushimittal6496 2 года назад +7

    I love the comment section of this video.
    "Every time someone steps up and says who they are, the world becomes a better, more interesting place." ❤️

    • @snr6372
      @snr6372 2 года назад +1

      Captain HOLT #b99 🥰😍

  • @clarke6814
    @clarke6814 2 года назад +27

    It's quite ridiculous how people don't take asexuality seriously (not just in India). I'm not asexual, but I haven't been in a relationship so people have asked me if I'm asexual while laughing. I tell them it's a serious thing, not a joke🙁

  • @mallikarjunv5
    @mallikarjunv5 15 дней назад +2

    Wow!
    I am amazed how well written and well said this is. I liked the way the words are rhymed. A Poem indeed.
    Glad that I found it.

  • @sashilemla6229
    @sashilemla6229 3 года назад +117

    Oh what a diversity in the human world...now I get to hear of it. Her poetry was good. At a point of time, when we hit menopause, I guess we can feel asexual

    • @SKOLAH
      @SKOLAH 3 года назад +23

      Oh my god. No. Just, no. Menopause does not = having no sex drive. Certainly not the same as asexual.

    • @parvathi1055
      @parvathi1055 3 года назад +19

      nope... usually women like more sex after menopause. You can just google it up. Asexual is a sexual orientation not dependent on physiological changes of your body.

    • @parvathi1055
      @parvathi1055 3 года назад

      @what we must be Aww thanks

    • @nithi9638
      @nithi9638 2 года назад +1

      Your libido has nothing to do with your sexual attraction ma'am. And that's not how menopause works.

  • @shrutichavan8001
    @shrutichavan8001 2 года назад +7

    Damn I need the same courage to come out publicly ...

  • @salzzz3457
    @salzzz3457 3 года назад +8

    "Dont tell me who I am" that sounds so amazing🤩

  • @priyadharshinipandurangan2044
    @priyadharshinipandurangan2044 3 года назад +9

    As a demisexual I can relate n understand how it’ll be..
    Especially “When he asks you, u never felt wow??maybe you don’t know how to do,I’ll teach you “😂
    I had felt wow in HUGS KISSESS n HOLDING EACHOTHER which carries so much of love n trust.. beyond that it needs lots of understanding to make it happen without any whitelies

  • @aunhussain4746
    @aunhussain4746 Месяц назад +3

    Whether u r an asexual or lesbian ,it doesn't matter , the love n respect towards u n ur soothing soul will always be immensely intact , Sriti Jha❤

  • @Chandni_Thakur
    @Chandni_Thakur 3 года назад +4

    Her way of speaking is just mesmerizing ❤️

  • @glowin_
    @glowin_ 9 дней назад +3

    Damn her confidence was just 🤌🏻

  • @aditiutekar4162
    @aditiutekar4162 3 года назад +2

    this one of the most beautiful videos i've seen on the internet.

  • @sumanbaraik3790
    @sumanbaraik3790 3 года назад +9

    I never knew that this actress is such a talented one

  • @Parthainvincibledey_95
    @Parthainvincibledey_95 3 года назад +50

    Waah, what a poetry👍

  • @Eliana-uj1nh
    @Eliana-uj1nh 4 месяца назад +3

    reading the comment section made me feel so comfortable. I have always thought that being asexual is weird and I am weird. But when I read all the comments I realized that Its not weird at all and I am not alone. I hope you stay strong people!!! Love you all!!!

    • @abhilashk.k9929
      @abhilashk.k9929 4 месяца назад

      R u romantic asexual or aromantic. I am a romantic asexual, its really hard to get a lover for people like us.

    • @-SimonRiley
      @-SimonRiley 3 месяца назад

      ​@@abhilashk.k9929if you are a guy I guess it's relatively easy

    • @Eliana-uj1nh
      @Eliana-uj1nh 3 месяца назад

      @@abhilashk.k9929 yes I am romantic asexual. I'm happy to be

    • @Marauder-eu9om
      @Marauder-eu9om 19 дней назад

      I'm a romantic asexual too.

  • @travellerextraordinnaire7388
    @travellerextraordinnaire7388 2 года назад +16

    LGBTQIA is so sexualized. Kudos to all the asexuals out there

  • @lostpanda8835
    @lostpanda8835 2 года назад +8

    Ghosh!! I thought India Is unaware of the LGBTQA community but now I feel like I am not the only one(I am an asexual)!! It feels too good that these kinds of influencers exist who don't only showcase their beauty but also their thoughts which can change our society for better. I hope a happy life to all the ace out their!!

    • @-SimonRiley
      @-SimonRiley 4 месяца назад

      Honestly sister I think all girls are asexual

  • @tashanmann05
    @tashanmann05 Год назад +5

    I hated watching her in Kumkum Bhagya when my Mom used to watch that show...but I am so impressed after seeing this video.More power to you.

  • @chimchimpark19sbaby
    @chimchimpark19sbaby Месяц назад +1

    She’s so brave 😭💕 the field she’s in, demands a lot of public attention. It takes a lot to come out & face society at large. So proud of her 👏

  • @jayagola922
    @jayagola922 Месяц назад +2

    I have seen this piece multiple times.. but she amazes me each time..❤