I remember the sacrifice I felt when I was around a narcissist. I felt like the wolverine often rising from my close death. It did provide a lot of awareness and retrauma that I needed to help shift my mindset. I was idolizing people I shouldn’t have been idolizing like my father. Now, being rooted in Christ has been my strength and my guide. It’s far better to seek death of flesh (removing addiction) and fuel your spirit for Christ. I have never felt a much more greater peace and happiness.
I remember the moment I found you on the internet Sam Vaknin. Close to 20 years ago. It was your website where you first mentioned I think maybe advertising your first book or writings.
I have borderline personality disorder, but when a narcissistic man offers me some kind of fantasy, I am no longer attracted to these fantasies. I don't want to participate in them. But in a previous relationship that ended 3 months ago, I still had fear of rejection. I can resist the narcissist's fantasy, but I am still not cured. Does this mean that I have no candidate left who will play the role of my partner?
You're not Borderline, just starving for attention & want to believe you're special. Time to get off social media and go do something for someone else.
I enjoyed this analysis of borderline and narcissist via M&M text. I read it a few times and liked it.. now after the video it gave me another interesting angle to look at and understand this novel and myself. Thanks Mr. Vaknin. “…but remember the boarder line transformative powers extend even to him( devil)” 😈
Professor Vaknin, where exactly in the book do you find a proof that Margarita was abused by Master? I mean, yes- she loves him in a very borderline way, but where is the abuse from his side so that we can call him a narcissist?
I an a borderline. This poem also reminds me of the narcissist. “I love you as the plant that never blooms but carries in itself the light of hidden flowers; thanks to your love a certain solid fragrance, risen from the earth, lives darkly in my body” Pablo Neruda. m.ruclips.net/video/U3sDbi-vVd0/видео.html&pp=ygUmSSBkb250IG5vdCBsb3ZlIHlvdSBiZWNhdXNlIGkgbG92ZSB5b3U%3D
Never heard a better explanation of my inner life. Thank you ❤ I actually read "The Master and Margarita" a year ago and found myself in Margarita. Wonderful words, thank you very much. Makes everything a lot clearer.
M&M is one of my favorite books. Could all the relatable ideas in this book and in this video be a sign that I have BPD? Poverty and isolation driven self diagnosis gets trickier with the massive amounts of information to parce. Could I have acquired BPD through my messed-up family and the mistreatment I suffered since birth? If both my parents were holocaust survivors might I have aquired such a disorder as a genetic mutation? And ultimately, is this baseline attitude why I am such a good artist?
Are there spoilers here? A borderline person that wants to read MaM before watching this might benefit from this. I haven’t read the book myself - will I spoil it for myself by watching this video? It’s been on my bookshelf for 5 years.
I think I have borderline, Mary me to a what I understand was a Narsissist then. Very hurtfull diverse in the 90'. Thank's for lerning about this , it's helps a lot, becous nowbody have understanfing us. Thank, to bring it clear for mig. So thankfull..
Is there ever a way that this romantic combination works or is it always a dialectic of increasing love and intimacy until the split/self trashing (in the case of my partner infidelity) and the hoovering swing back chasing and idealizing as you run away with the fresh narcissistic injury now vulnerable to the very idealizing she offers, dooming yourself to forgive, and start it all over again?
Prof. Vaknin, Thank you for these videos. You are saving me. This hits close. Unfortunately.
I remember the sacrifice I felt when I was around a narcissist. I felt like the wolverine often rising from my close death. It did provide a lot of awareness and retrauma that I needed to help shift my mindset. I was idolizing people I shouldn’t have been idolizing like my father. Now, being rooted in Christ has been my strength and my guide. It’s far better to seek death of flesh (removing addiction) and fuel your spirit for Christ. I have never felt a much more greater peace and happiness.
Amen 🙏
Oh brother. Histrionic much, drama queen?
@capotefan Yes, Queen 👸 B! Now I order you to leave my quarters. 😊
@@melissacervantes6837You’re not cute or clever. It’s actually pretty sad & pathetic this is how you try to get attention. I will pray for you.
Poetry, Sam, wishing you a speedy recovery from the Rona, as always, thank you.
I remember the moment I found you on the internet Sam Vaknin. Close to 20 years ago. It was your website where you first mentioned I think maybe advertising your first book or writings.
I have borderline personality disorder, but when a narcissistic man offers me some kind of fantasy, I am no longer attracted to these fantasies. I don't want to participate in them. But in a previous relationship that ended 3 months ago, I still had fear of rejection. I can resist the narcissist's fantasy, but I am still not cured. Does this mean that I have no candidate left who will play the role of my partner?
You're not Borderline, just starving for attention and want to believe you are special. Time to get off RUclips & go do something for someone else 👌
You're not Borderline, just starving for attention & want to believe you're special. Time to get off social media and go do something for someone else.
I enjoyed this analysis of borderline and narcissist via M&M text. I read it a few times and liked it.. now after the video it gave me another interesting angle to look at and understand this novel and myself. Thanks Mr. Vaknin.
“…but remember the boarder line transformative powers extend even to him( devil)” 😈
Professor Vaknin, where exactly in the book do you find a proof that Margarita was abused by Master? I mean, yes- she loves him in a very borderline way, but where is the abuse from his side so that we can call him a narcissist?
I an a borderline. This poem also reminds me of the narcissist. “I love you as the plant that never blooms
but carries in itself the light of hidden flowers;
thanks to your love a certain solid fragrance,
risen from the earth, lives darkly in my body” Pablo Neruda. m.ruclips.net/video/U3sDbi-vVd0/видео.html&pp=ygUmSSBkb250IG5vdCBsb3ZlIHlvdSBiZWNhdXNlIGkgbG92ZSB5b3U%3D
Thank you.
"Dissonance" is a superb word.
Very accurate description of romantic love for the borderline..
Never heard a better explanation of my inner life. Thank you ❤
I actually read "The Master and Margarita" a year ago and found myself in Margarita.
Wonderful words, thank you very much. Makes everything a lot clearer.
Great video!
I don’t get how borderlines are able to maintain LTRs with friends and family, but do not do as well with lovers and favorite persons.
Great novel! Looking forward to hearing this. 🧐
❤❤❤❤ Thank you ❤❤❤❤
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я тоже пограничница 🤭
My sister has bpd. I’m scared of her, she used to beat me. she also fantasises about being me.
M&M is one of my favorite books. Could all the relatable ideas in this book and in this video be a sign that I have BPD? Poverty and isolation driven self diagnosis gets trickier with the massive amounts of information to parce.
Could I have acquired BPD through my messed-up family and the mistreatment I suffered since birth? If both my parents were holocaust survivors might I have aquired such a disorder as a genetic mutation? And ultimately, is this baseline attitude why I am such a good artist?
Good morning! 💜📚💜
Are there spoilers here? A borderline person that wants to read MaM before watching this might benefit from this. I haven’t read the book myself - will I spoil it for myself by watching this video? It’s been on my bookshelf for 5 years.
yes, there are spoilers
How can I get to you for a consultation?! I really, really want to, I need to get to you for a consultation! I'm from Russia!
My very first...told me his whole life he is desolate....couldn't understand it till now
Please advise the book that will help to survive capitalism then?
So does a person who has both NPD and BPD have both a true self and a false self ?
One of the two PDs dominate, clinically.
I think I have borderline, Mary me to a what I understand was a Narsissist then. Very hurtfull diverse in the 90'. Thank's for lerning about this , it's helps a lot, becous nowbody have understanfing us. Thank, to bring it clear for mig. So thankfull..
fascinating
Is there ever a way that this romantic combination works or is it always a dialectic of increasing love and intimacy until the split/self trashing (in the case of my partner infidelity) and the hoovering swing back chasing and idealizing as you run away with the fresh narcissistic injury now vulnerable to the very idealizing she offers, dooming yourself to forgive, and start it all over again?
Search the BPD playlist.
your woman was borderline?
@@lilithh23 yep
dissonance... What an accurate description.
Can one function as their own "beloved sadist"?
Yes. Search the channel for “self-destr”.
Fascinating
Terribly true, (funny?)and fascinating 💙