Fat Acceptance Activist Can't Work at 32
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There is no one in the FA community over 60. That should be a strong message.
Let’s be honest, there are few of them that are over 40.. Their youth is their biggest ally but that only lasts so long
@@joanniedorilas531 It's really hard to kill somebody in their teens and twenties. Like, incredibly hard. Thirties, one isn't so resilient, but you still have youth on your side. 40 and up, less so.
People who take good care of themselves can preserve youth well into their fifties and sixties, but by the end of it the pressure of time is ridiculously strong. These people have been forcing time along since their twenties and already look old at 30.
Is there anyone over 40? 35?
What's sad is that one of them died recently, and the FA community ACTUALLY said that they died "from fatfobia", not anything to do with the weight.. Like, they were called fat one too many times that they underwent cardiac arrest (which was the cause of death -- the cardiac arrest, not the insults). This proves the delusion is intensely deep
@@jonathankozenko Fatty, fatty, two-by-four, can't get through the kitchen door!
...do you have chest pains yet? ... Didn't think so. 🙂
The way Lexi speaks in her video with such a condescending voice was so off putting, I physically recoiled from it. People don't have to pretend that obesity has no negative health effects, everyone deserves equal treatment and healthcare regardless of their weight. Obesity has risks, I think fat liberationists should just embrace that. Pretending obesity is harmless hurts the cause imo.
It's like she's trying to be as unlikable and repulsive as possible.
Right? She speaks as if she's talking to children and not adults. If you want people to listen to you, you have to speak to them in a respectful manner. She only drives people further away from listening to her arguments by delivering them in such a way, especially when it's such a controversial take.
Thing is, I'm pretty sure it's intentional. @@NorsePearl The cause she's fighting for is immature and proven time to time again how fatness can be dangerous.
Edit: Meant to add that in conclusion, her target audience ARE young people who can have their minds changed easily compared to adults.
It's like all these FA people have the worst personalities/attitudes then wonder why nobody likes them.
For real, just EXISTING as a normal sized person od risky, it is soo much worse when you throw the bad habits that come with obesity in there
Comparing weight to race is one of the dumbest comparisons one can make. You don't choose your race, but you do choose what you put into your mouth.
Its so dumb because why cant someone think they dont want to be with someone who can be ill, who can have lots of health problems, who might not have the same lifestyle as you, like thats why people have preferences and such in partnerships. They want to equate their obesity to a non changeable physical fact as your skin color or the shape of your knees, girl, your weight is not only a visual physical attribute, it has some other things attached to it, its not that you are just fat but eat healthy, are fit and so on, its not compatible.
It is true that black and Hispanic women are more likely to be obese because they don’t cook or choose healthy foods. They blame food stamps for having no excess to healthy food and yet go to Walmart and use taxpayers money to fill their carts with junk food. Produce aisle is right there so choose something green. It has nothing to do with race but subcultures and family upbringings.
@@lug358 it's also stupid because you can have a preference against a group of people without hating that group of people. I'm going to use a stupid example, but it illustrates my point. If I don't want to date Britney Spears fans because I prefer metal music and only want to date someone who only listens to metal, it's well within my right to have that preference and it doesn't mean that I hate people who listen to Britney Spears just because I don't want to date them.
@@TeamYouphoric that's a funny example, but actually very astute and puts it into proper perspective.
Facts. I wish these dang fat acceptance people would stop throwing black people into their argument to try to make it valid.
"I was fine until I wasn't." The story of every obese person in their 30s and 40s with any sort of self awareness. A free lesson they pass on to younger people with time to turn their life around. But they stay ignorant, and wind up paying a hefty price.
This! I personally experienced this, and I've never felt better physically or mentally since I lost weight and focused on changing my bad habits.
These are morbidly and super morbidly obese people too. Not folks 30lbs overweight. Having double the recommended body fat percentage is going to come with crippling health issues.
Literally this woman’s story. She bragged about how physically active and healthy she was. And yeah, our bodies are definitely quite resilient and can fight off mistreatment for years. But eventually, decades of mistreatment takes a toll.
And now that she’s mostly couch-ridden, her weight will be even harder to get a handle on.
There's a reason why most fat activists are young, once the consequences of their lifestyle takes its toll on their bodies they are pushed out of the limelight
Hefty price indeed
Didn’t she say she was healthy on Dr. Phil? Having chronic pain for six years doesn’t seem like a healthy person to me… They always freaking lie.
She defined it as being able to do stuff, apparently. Classic 20-something year old mentality.
Also, unless you’re doing some intense trails that are full of near vertical climbs, hiking for 3 hours is not a flex.
@@hornetguy9063 I am fairly sure most americans could not hike three straight hours.
@@hornetguy9063she's confusing healthy with able bodied lol
@@dangerszewski9816 replace “hike” with “walk” and I’d venture most people can walk for 3 hours. Even if that would be taxing for them.
@@youngspaghettii pretty much. But not able bodied anymore, apparently.
Watching Lexi's partner roll his eyes at that woman's story was infuriating.
he's a enabler and probably has a very sad sexual kink.
I wonder if he’s rolling his eyes _now._
He's only around to make breakfast for her entanglement after he leaves in the morning.
He's probably a feeder.
Funny thing is ... by 35-40 they start calling themselves disabled.. that in itself is a BIG clue!! if obesity is healthy, why do you need an electric cart to get around the store?.. I was 400 lbs at 37, I had spinal stenosis, I couldn't even stand upright, diabetes, high blood pressure, my legs had to be wrapped because of edema and oozed fluids, heart palpitations with arrythmia, and I had passed out from arrythmia and fractured my kneecaps, I was dying basically or at least looking at a future of bed ridden .. I lost 250 lbs in a little over 16 months, on the original 1970's Atkins low carb diet, and by 40 I had a baby girl, hiked the pacific coast trail end to end, and today I'm 63 yrs. old, 160 lbs., and haven't seen a Dr. in over 10 years.. NO ONE will EVER convince me healthy at any size.. when young yes.. when you age? absolutely NOT.
It is so funny how they scream health at every size but then
Shame skinny people
Blame anorexics for their own issues
Sayfat shaming and skinny shaming are different
Where does the AT EVERY size come in? It doesn't, because like everything else on social media buzz words are the focus.
Good for you! 😊
First of all, you ROCK!
I’m obese at 30 but I’ve lost 30 pounds so far. At 37 this would have been my future I’m sure. I was already having major blood pressure issues and felt awful all the time. My body image plummeted even though I have an amazing husband who has loved me small and big. I’m looking forward to my future now, partially thanks to your post. I’m about to make 30s the best years of my life so far, then 40s even better. Congrats on all your hard work and God bless.
At 63 you look in your mid-40s, congrats!
You can tell the lady in the blue isn't listening AT ALL. It doesn't fit her worldview, so shes blocking it out.
Which is so funny that some humans will deny logic and truth over beliefs in their delulu brains
Yup. Saw the interview. She was super self-entitled and dismissive. And now she's experiences serious health complications. Smh
She was a mean, snarky, vindictive woman. I'm glad she got offline, hope she stays away.
And now the chickens have come home to roost
I'm sure she feels her weight has nothing to do with her health problems. She's an example of someone who can't get out of their own way.
The audience member warning Lexi that severe health issues due to obesity would be her future is haunting. I truly wish Lexi the best on her journey to health 💛
I don't. She's a horrible person and talks down to people as if she knows better than everyone, and now her willful ignorance is catching up to her.
@@lainiwakura1776Might sound silly but I agree with both comments. I don't wish her harm, and I would like her to improve her health, but I would also like to hear her apologize for her past ugly behavior.
@@lainiwakura1776same. She’s a terrible person who created her own problems.
She enjoyed the fuck around period, now she’s on to the find out phase.
If you are very overweight and get help for you that is great but if you are monetize your obesity to spread disinformation that's not fine.
@@mamawray For me, the thing is: I don't care about her physical health. If she chooses to be a fat woman, fine... you do you. I won't hate anyone for such a choice. (I will go on record here and say I can see beauty in a larger-sized woman.
HOWEVER, she behaves like a fracking toddler with an attitude and for that the correction is a swift slap against the back of the head, preverbially speaking. And THAT I do hate and resent her for.
Lexi was so rude to that lady who was being so vulnerable with her
The entire cult is full of mean, vile, evil women
Karma’s a B.
Defense tactic. Everything she said went in and scared the shit out of Lexi. You can see it on her face. She KNOWS all of the risks and the challenges but these FA people literally just bury their heads.
@@kaylabayla975Lexi's a B
Anybody can see she’s in flat denial
A body is a structure just like a house. If you put the weight of a house on top of another house it’ll be crushed. Why do people think we can walk around with double our normal weight and not suffer damage? It’s not about men being attracted to you, it’s about your health.
I like that analogy. I would even go further and compare it to hoarding, because the more hoarded items that is added into a home the faster the structures integrity starts breaking down.
A great analogy right there.
I did with NO health issues aside from PCOS for over 30 years I weighed between 280 to 320
@@kosmicinclinations3333 There's always a statistical anomaly that doesn't show on the surface. Congratulations. Now how does your heart look and have you seen a cardiologist?
Amen.
As a nurse , this is why it’s frustrating when I hear women in the HAES movement talk about how there weight is always a topic when dealing with the health care industry. Obesity can have systemic consequences to the body . In healthcare we are trained to always start with the least invasive treatment and move forward accordingly. So if someone comes in that’s obese complaining of knee pain, first advice would be to loose weight through a healthy diet , and low impact exercise like swimming. I wouldn’t advise let’s amputate. Also this is a ADDICTION . They are using food as a coping mechanism. It would be like someone who smokes saying it’s not harmful because they don’t currently have lung cancer . No I would not call that healthy. Body Positivity should be about accepting people and ourselves no matter where we are in life , while not glorifying unhealthy behaviors.
Woah. The addiction comment really made me think. FA probably are mostly all food addicts. Them having health problems and screaming that obesity is healthy and totally fine is just like an alcoholic screaming that they're fine, they don't have a problem when you point out that their life is in shambles.
To me, body positivity should be about accepting that we are all beautiful. Beauty standards are so harsh on people, and everybody deserves to feel like they look good. Fat and obese people deserve to feel respected and beautiful even at their fattest. People with anorexia deserve to have a space to heal their bodies and to feel beautiful. People with disabilities, imperfect bodies, heavily muscled bodies, heavily skinny or with stretch marks or a flat butt or a flat chest deserve to feel beautiful. It does not mean we should glorify health issues.
It breaks my heart when I see videos from people who lost weight talking about how subhuman they were treated because they were fat, because it really highlights how unfairly we treat those who are not conventionally beautiful. That's why body positivity took off so much initially--but then it turned to fat acceptance because of the fat people who now had an excuse to not change their addiction. Body neutrality is where it's at now.
Unfortunately, as you said... They're addicts trying to justify their decisions.
That's part of what drives me nuts about them. They whine because they come to the doctor with a list of complaints, all tied directly to their weight, and the doctor tells them how to lose the weight rather than giving them pills and surgery.
@@ettaetta439 I disagree on a subtle point. We are not all beautiful. Me, I look like a goblin. The only light I'm attractive in is the absence of. The same goes for a lot of other people, and trying to claim otherwise is just as dishonest as claiming you can be healthy at any size.
Body positivity should be accepting that there is more to a person than how they look, that their looks are just skin-deep and treating people like shit just because they aren't pretty is a shitty thing to do.
I’m black and I don’t see how it is racist to not be attracted to someone who is black, wyte or hispanic or anything else physical, as long as you respect them and treat them as human!
Exactly! I'm aroace and not attracted to anybody in a romantic or sexual manner, does that mean I'm hateful towards everyone according to her logic? 😂
@@NorsePearlapparently lol
@@NorsePearlHow DARE you be humanphobic 😢
Im black and exactly
By the same logic women who don't find women attractive or men who don't find men attractive would be homophobic. They aren't, they are just heterosexual. There is a difference between not being attracted sexually to an aesthetic and not liking an certain or being cruel or disrespectful to them because of that.
All people can be worthy if they are good people. And all sorts of people can be horrible people and that has nothing to do with race, weight or gender
I have spinal stenosis, and degenerative disc disease. I lost all the excess weight and it's all but gone. I get maybe one flare up a year for a few days. Losing the weight will absolutely help massively!
@emilygilbeyful I can totally agree with you on that. I have rheumatoid arthritis and lupus and I lost about 80 pounds and my flare ups have decreased. I still have to take my injections but the weight was a factor for sure. At first I was in a little bit of denial about it but I got real with myself and it was the best thing I ever did.
I have arthritis in my lower spine and losing weight's been the biggest factor in my pain management.
@@coriettapadilla9977 congratulations on losing that!!! I'm glad you are doing better! I put most of the weight on after my first initial flare up, so I totally understand it's really easy to put weight on when you can't move suddenly, it is a vicious cycle, but walking and weight loss really does make things better, even if it's not easy!
@emilygilbeyful Thank you! Yes I know what you mean. I am going through that right now. I haven't put any weight on but I have been dealing with big flare ups lately and it's been hard to get moving the way I want to. The other night I tried to work out and I couldn't even lift my legs up and the fatigue was ridiculous. I at least got 15 minutes in but I truly felt it. We have to listen to our bodies sometimes especially when the pain gets so intense. It is always a work in progress. As long as we keep trying we will get to where we need to be. 💜💜💜. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers for your health. Take care.
@@coriettapadilla9977. Omg. Me too. I was diagnosed with juvenile rheumatoid arthritis in every joint at 18 months. Lupus(sle) at 12. And just diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis last month. I’m 47 and have had 2 kids. And not being overweight helps so much. I fluctuated from a size 4 to a size 8 depending if I’m undergoing chemotherapy or not. There are so many diseases that you can prevent by not being obese. Why take a chance? It makes no sense.
>hike for 3 hours
>walk around Disneyworld
Girl this is not the flex you think it is.
Yeah, especially when we remember that only half of that 3 hour hike is challenging. Maximum. And that challenge is like jogging at around 4.5 mph according to metabolic equivalent of task.
And I wouldn’t be shocked if that “hike” is full of flat stretches or gentle inclines, and a ton of extended pauses for selfies.
She did say she couldn't fake it til she made it so her claims of being able to exercise like that must be fake
But obviously none of that is related to her weight.
As a former member of HAES I remember vividly having a conversation with my dad five or so years ago after I went to the doctor and all my vitals were good and the doctor still told me to lose weight and my dad told me you want to stay healthy for the future and I was so mad at him for not being on my side. And now I’m 30 with diabetes and arthritis and desperately trying to change and mad I didn’t listen
Good luck. It's tough but everything worth doing is difficult. I also want to say everyone, and I mean everyone, struggles with something. You struggle may be losing weight and it might feel like an obvious issue but we all have something that we need to work on. I'm not overweight personally but I have had a lot of chronic pain from injuries and a lot of mental health confidence struggles. And it is hard but working through it and gradually, slowly but surely, keep going and you will look back in five years and say "wow, I'm in a genuinely better place now." My recommendation is find help and support. People that you can regularly work with on this specific thing. Good luck x
Most people in their early 20s are healthy. Even if they are overeaters, or alcoholics, or do drugs. But you do always have to pay for destructive behavior later if it becomes a habit. Your body isn't going to magically escape the consequences of what you do to it regularly.
It's almost like being this big for a long period of time has serious consequences.
It's insane, I just can't understand how they can even think they're healthy and feeling good. I was 15 and 215lbs at only 158cm. I was always sore and unable to walk ANY distances in one go without losing my breath, my asthma acting up and sweating like mad. I'm at a healthy weight now, hell I even grew taller! I genuonely believe my change in habits had allowed my body to grow a few extra centimeters compared to when I was eating a LOT of junk.
Must be a false equivalency because you can obviously be healthy at any size. If not then the whole movement would be an absolute farce and we all know that can’t be true right?
Next one is gonna be Jordan Underwood. She lives in delusion
I was just as fat at 30 as I am now at 47, but it’s different now. There’s no doubt every one of my physical ailments are aggravated by obesity.
Yes. I’m 41 and I have chronic back and feet pain. I work 6 hours 5 days a week on my feet and boy I feel it when I get home. I’m raising my two young nephews who want me to run around and play with them and I hate that most times I just can’t do it. I’m finally getting my act together and losing weight so I can have quality time with them.
@@negativevibemerchant2670 Just be consistent, and the results will follow. I’m 40 lbs. down currently, and moving more. Prioritizing protein and fiber, and ignoring the fad fitness noise. ♥️
@@negativevibemerchant2670 I wish you all the best ans much success on your journey! Your nephews will be so happy when you're more active with them.
My mother and I used to go hiking a lot until I was about 12. I loved it so much. It got less and less and finally stopped because my mother had gained too much weight. I still get very sad sometimes when I think about how much more time we could've spent together having fun hiking and taking trips around the country.
@@negativevibemerchant2670 I hope you find strength ❤
Sorry to hear that. Wish you luck with your weight and health. My wife has had to fight her weight and it’s challenging because of her family genetics and hormonal changes. I’m almost 70 but weigh the same 155 pound I weighed in high school. I just got lucky with my genetics, the only exercise I get is long dog walks. I have zero health issues in part because my joints have never been overtaxed by extra weight.
That is why at 38 I took control of my health. I didn't want to be overweight and 40. So I got help with a weight management clinic. With diet and exercise and working the clinic I've lost 110lbs. It took 3 years but I'm 41 and I feel better then I have in years.
I’m 36 and am struggling with getting to a healthy weight. Which weight management clinic did you use?
That is an amazing amount of weight lost. An entire person's mass. You should be proud of yourself.
You are truly so compassionate in sharing your perspective. I think so many folks in FA think anyone offering help is being cruel. But your way of communicating is so full of love and perspective.
💖💖💖
You've easily become my comfort RUclipsr. I feel like I'm hanging out and listening to a friend. I started my weight-loss journey in January. So far I am down 15lbs. I still eat things I like, but cut my portions in half. Thank you John. ❤
Congrats on the weight loss 🎉
You are doing great!
@@FoolFatCoke Thank you so much! :)
@@ladydi-lynn Thank you for your kind words
Lexi looked so pissed when the person in the audience was talking. How sad, that person was desperately trying to reach out and help. my hope is that Lexi can get the answers and help she needs for the medical issues that she is experiencing. Having any kind of medical crisis is terrifying to say the least.
Dating is discriminatory. It's supposed to be. People can refuse not to date anyone, not for any reason, but no REASON at all. No, means no. Any questioning otherwise, is sexual harassment.
It's always fun to turn it around on the people trying to claim otherwise. "So you're saying it would be a bad thing to turn me down if I asked you out? Because I'm free Friday night."
Watching them backpedal or go through mental gymnastics to admit they have standards, too, is never not funny.
@@stevenschnepp576you gotta be careful doing that, because they might say yes
If everything is discriminatory then nothing is discriminatory, therefore it's not discriminatory to choose who you date.
@@Stevo.100 "choose" Being the operative word.
2:18 it’s crazy how she’s talking about having “preferences” and how your preferences can’t exclude fat people but like what if you’re a very active person who likes hiking? Your preferences will by default exclude fat people because they aren’t physically fit enough to keep up with your level of activity. So it is a personal preference.
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Mostly. I know obese people that love hiking, they may be slower but the issue is food for them. My larger friend's are often more active than my slim friends. That's just my experience though 😂
Yep. And the thing people don't talk about is that preferences can be harmful, it depends on the REASON you have them. If you just don't consider fat or obese people your type because excess body weight looks bad to you, that's valid and makes sense. If you prefer white people to all people of color because you think all people of color are ugly by default, you may have to address some kind of racism in you that considers "white" the beauty standard. Yes, preferences are valid, but we need to address the reasons behind those preferences. It's crazy to compare just not liking how fat looks (same thing as having a preference for blonde women, or for men with Roman noses, or people with beards) to possibly having a preference rooted in racist beliefs.
I prefer my romantic parter not die an early death.
One of my PREFERENCES (mmmm REQUIREMENTS) in a partner when I was dating, was someone who was active, preferred to eat healthy most of the time, didnt want to sit and watch tv all day, wasnt into video games and staring at a screen all day/night. I ended up marrying someone who has an active job, is closer to the low side of a healthy weight (lol), we go out hiking and horseback riding and kayaking, and all sorts of other things, has never played a video game in his life I dont think (hes in his 50s so thats probably a pretty true statement, other than maybe playing mario with his kids when they were... kids lol), didnt even own a tv when he met me (we only watch it about an hour at night before bed - i couldnt tell you the last time i turned on the tv in the family room lol), and prefers home cooked healthy meals over fast food any day of the week. While I am friends with many obese people, including my best friend, I dont know any of them who would enjoy my LIFESTYLE. So you're absolutely right. I didnt date many fat people, not because of what they LOOKED like, but because our lifestyles were so vastly different.
I'm 69 years old, was fat right from infancy, was severely obese by early adolescence, and have struggled mightily with food and weight for my whole life. I've also yo-yo'ed crazily, losing and regaining 100+ pounds four times. I started experiencing health complications in my late 20's, including diabetes. I currently have diabetes, heart disease, high blood pressure, and at least seven other health conditions that are caused and/or negatively impacted by weight. At times when I managed to take off a lot of weight, all of my issues went into remission. The scariest thing, and what I think can add to this conversation that i havent seen discussed before, is that all of my weight-related conditions returned FASTER and MORE SEVERELY each time I started regaining. Currently I have a BMI berween 27 and 28 (not even obese), and yet my health problems rival those of the patients on "My 600-Pound Life." There's a life lesson in my story that I wished I had learned long, long ago.
My dad has lumbar spinal stenosis and had to get surgery at 58. He was in severe pain and there was a possibility that he might lose his ability to walk, so he had to do it. It was caused by him doing over 40 years of hard physical labour. Having these issues at such a young age just from being obese sounds wild
My mom had to have back surgery and it was from her weight. She held her weight in her stomach. Mostly from fat partially due to a muscle thing from c-sections and abdominal surgeries. On the X-Ray you could clearly see how her spine curved perfectly with her stomach. When the doctor was talking and he said she was going to lose her ability to walk I asked, “In a couple of years?” He said a couple of months. He was shocked she could still walk and work two jobs.
When I was 428 lbs, I could barely walk from my car to my office, I had severe back pain, arthritis in my knees and was so out of breath, I had to stop several times before I got to my desk.
It's definitely made her old before her time.
I know she was going for the ugly look, but she looks horrendous.
Looks like bestie needs a pre k lesson on health
I agree. I was morbidly obese, and I only started to feel the effects after my mid thirties. After losing over 150 lbs I feel better now than I did when I was 20! My bodyfat percentage is of one that's 10 years younger according to my dietician. Being able to exercise, not having physical limitations and work more is the most important, fitting into clothes off the rack and buying myself cute dresses is a bonus!
Congratulations!
I know a lot about spinal issues - I have several congenital spinal issues including moderate scoliosis (45 degrees), spondylolisthesis and a pars defect. I weighed about 120 pounds at the time of all my diagnoses. The surgeon said to me point blank that maintaining a health weight would be crucial for me avoiding surgery. I didn't listen and gained about 40 pounds over the years. Not obese by any means, but not a healthy weight.
I was fine for years and then I threw my back out twice in about six months in my early 30s. Six months of PT and I lost 40 pounds and now I'm pain free again. It's no surprise to me that a ton of FAs are having issues in their 30s - that's when it caught up to me and I wasn't even obese. My spine is not normal, but I have no pain. Weight and spinal issues are so closely linked. Claiming otherwise is straight denial.
If I hadn't lost the weight, I would have likely needed spinal fusion surgery. There is no turning back from that. I'd need revisions every 10 years, and there's no guarantee it would help my pain. Or I could just accept physics and recognize that extra weight on my spine all the time is harmful. Seemed pretty simple to me.
I’m fairly certain toddler-me would find her tone and mannerisms as obnoxious as adult-me. Did she really think anyone would listen to her after that nonsense?
I love how being overweight is the norm but they are somehow a minority.
I didn't miss that. "We're a minority". No love, especially not in the US you're not. You're becoming the norm.
I remember seeing portions of this show. She was deep deep deep in the fat acceptance movement. It's sad that it takes something so serious or some health complication to jolt people out of this HAES mindset. Even though she has spewed some truly entitled and ignorant stuff online, I hope she wakes up from the HAES mindset. She's far too young to be having health complications already.
They are never gonna get the idea in their heads until things start happening to them, as evidenced by this young woman. Keeping your head in the sand will not prevent things from occurring.
I think the thing she neglect to realize is people can’t always control a preference. I know people who are really only attracted to heavier people. It’s no different than somebody who is not attracted to heavy people. Physical attraction is the first step towards building a relationship, whether we like to admit that or not. If you don’t have basic physical attraction to a person, you’re really wasting everybody’s time by pursuing a relationship with them. Racism is when you hate somebody for the color of their skin. Not because you happen to not find someone attractive.
Yes but being attracted to an extremely dangerous health issue (obesity) is a serious issue. I’m sure you probably wouldn’t be so understanding of someone who said “I’m only attracted to women who are as thin as skeletons. I literally can’t help it - I can only have a relationship with a woman who doesn’t eat”
Being attracted to obesity is not only just as bad, it’s actually worse because currently obesity related illnesses cause the highest mortality rate in all the Western world. Higher than drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, and yes, starvation.
I’m an alcoholic (I’ve cut down massively) but it would be like if someone was only attracted to me for my illness. It’s no different.
I’m 32 and have never had anything I could call a “flare up”. That would be a massive red flag
Her labs are now off? But which one of these medical issues is diagnosed by labs?! Narcolepsy requires sleep studies and brain scans, fibromyalgia is not diagnosed with labs, and spinal stenosis is diagnosed with X-rays because uhm duh. So her labs were off all of a sudden, but none of her medical issues are going to show ON LAB WORK. 🙃
She probably did have some lab work done as well where her results came back abnormal but yeah everything she's talking about here doesn't require lab work for a diagnosis lol
Dude, I am a sleep tech. I call 1000% bullshit on narcolepsy. I know exactly what it would take for a fat person to get that diagnosis. Nope.
All those cultists are saying their labs are great. Uh huh. What color is your piddle? There's more things to check your health than bloodwork.
Abd this, folks is why you DON'T make social media your job and acquire skills that can work in the REAL world. So you have something to fall back when you either want to quit or its not making enough money. Then you can make contet that feels more authentic to you, instead of content that has to make you money.
Lol that's one reason why I love Repzion. He's done RUclips for some extra income but he has a regular everyday job as well. Heck he's even leaving RUclips sometime this year
I can relate to the older woman on the show. I am 63 now and have been obese most of my adult life. I have lost 180 lbs and have 48 lbs to go to get to my goal weight.
That being said, the damage has been done to my body and no matter how much weight I lose, some of my health issues are irreversible.
These young fat acceptance women are not looking at their future and are in denial, many of them have eating disorders and unless they seek professional help, they will put themselves into an early grave.
It’s really, REALLY hard for me to feel bad for her.
I used to throw my back out constantly when I was 100+ lbs heavier. I’d be laid out on my back with my knees up for a week or longer and trying to stretch my back out when I could but it was agony. Since I’ve lost my weight I can count on 2 fingers in 5 years how many times my back has acted up and those 2 times were nothing compared to previously and were directly related to weight lifting injury and I never had to take time off work to be off my feet. The weight makes a huge impact on back pain and degeneration of our skeletal system and joints/cartilage.
To me, the term "fat acceptance" is synonymous with "I give up" or "I'm too lazy to get healthy". I am not being mean. I have fat family and friends.. in fact, my family in the US are probably all obese. I love them very much. But giving up and just "accepting" it and eating more and more and is a horribly bad idea. I had a cousin once tell me that having my son workout... he wanted to join me and I let him, was "child abuse"! I laughed so hard. I replied that allowing a child be fat and allowing it by buying unhealthy foods and allowing them to just sit on their bum playing video games instead of getting exercise is the abusive.
In January 2025 I started my journey of losing weight, going from 285 to 190 pounds, in under one year and hovering around 185, since.
It isn't easy but the rewards outweigh the challenges In health and happiness.
I wish I could notate the study, but a recent study compared obese people ( super genetics disease resistant people who were healthy without typical health problems of most obese people), to obese individuals with normal genetics.
Obese individuals who were resistant to cancer, heat disease, type 2 diabetes and more eventually developed these diseases a few decades later.
Gluttony. Pride. Wrath. She committed at least 3 of the 7 deadly sins leading up to this diagnosis.
The woman at the beginning was completely correct. I am also living it. I am 38 and have multiple serious health issues. At my highest weight i was 460. I'm about 280 currently. I would give anything to go back and never let this happen to me.
"Exploring treatment options". Let me guess...not one of them is losing weight. Treating the symptoms instead of the cause. She's 32? Yeah. It catches up as that woman on Dr. Phil said it would.
I was 53 years old, 204 lbs and starting to go through menopause (don't even get me started!). My lower back was always hurting (I'd fallen on my tailbone many times over the years, so the extra weight made it hurt all the time) my knee joints always hurt and I would become winded going up the stairs at a snail's pace. I had gone to the doctor for my pre-menopausal symptoms and when I stepped on the scale and it read about 20 lbs more than I expected, I lost it. I started crying and just fell apart. I was done.
And of course the fact that I was going through the change meant my female hormones, such as estrogen which helps fight fat efficiently, was depleting while my Cortisol levels (a stress hormone that will store fat) were rising. I was a mess. I got committed on that day and I lost a little more than 85 lbs. It was hard, really hard to lose that weight, but so many of those issues are no longer issues. I have occasional old lady joint pain, especially in my knees, but nothing like I did before. I eat so much healthier, bulk up on protein (older women need more for maintaining and building lost muscle mass) and exercise (especially weight/strength training) daily and can honestly say that at age 58, I am in better shape than when I was 28.
She needs to get serious, just as all these other fat positivity obese influencers do, if they want to even make it to my age. They're deluding themselves if they think they can be morbidly obese and healthy at the same time.
It's hard to imagine being unhealthy when you're young. I know I was the same way, but age plus excess weight starts to cause problems pretty early. I hope she can turn things around before they get worse.
I have genetic spinal stenosis (the nerve pathways around my spine are naturally narrower than what could be considered "normal"). It causes severe sciatic nerve pain for me. While for me, the pain is going to be lifelong, I have been told to maintain my current weight. Knowing that weight gain could worsen my pain, I refuse to put on excess weight as best I can. While I completely understand the chronic pain, the best thing to do with spinal stenosis is to keep moving, keep moving the body and strengthen it if you can.
If she continues on, she might worsen her symptoms, now is probably the time if any to try and take some level of control of her body before other conditions flare up and make life even harder for her.
I love how she assumes we’d be offended if someone didn’t want to be romantically/sexually involved with us because of because of our complexions.
Not wanting to date me because of my visual RACIAL FEATURES is not the same as wanting to date me because of my RACIAL MAKEUP.
One is based on lack of fondness for physical attributes one is based on stigma/bigotry based on my race itself
I’m not as overweight as she is, but I’m the same age, and I could start to sense that I could no longer use the “lol I’m still young and vibrant” excuse to carry around 100 extra pounds without really caring. Now I’m back at the gym and even though it’s only been a month, I already feel so much stronger and VASTLY less depressed. The material circumstances of my life have not changed much, but this time last year I was thinking about how much I wanted to, uh, clock out of my life shift before it was over, let’s say… I’m still broke and stressed about the same life stuff, but I find myself being in a good mood for no reason. I feel full of energy, household chores are easier, I got artistic inspiration for the first time in a year and a half, and the negativity of others doesn’t affect me as much. I’m not sure how much of that is just from the gym and how much of that is just putting more and more distance between the time I had COVID (it really messed me up bad), but I have also met some lovely people at the gym, and the trainers who teach the two classes I go to are awesome. I have a few more sessions left with a nutritionist at my gym, and I’d like to start working with a registered dietician soon, but for now, things are truly on the up-and-up. My one regret is that I didn’t get serious sooner, because I do wonder how much insurmountable permanent damage I’ve done to myself at this point (that class is fun for all of me except my knees, ya know…) but we’ll cross those bridges when they come. I wish the best for Lexi, and I hope she sees now how her excess weight is at least SOME of the reason why all this is happening.
My wife works in a cardiology office. She'll tell you they have elderly patients and obese patients, but they don't have obese elderly patients. Guess why.
John, I hope you see this comment. We have talked some in the past but I haven't been open about my history before losing weight. As I've told you in the past, I've lost 200+ lbs. I'm still, and will forever be, on a wellness/health journey.
My history: I am a 58-year-old mother of 2 and grandmother of 3. I've been married most of my adult life, this year it will be 40 years! I am a Registered Nurse. (So yes, I knew better)
Before losing the weight, I allowed my health to deteriorate to the point of having to go on disability. It's no coincidence that I developed all of the health issues that were discussed in this video. You name it, I was diagnosed with it. Miraculously all but very few resolved with weight loss, also not a coincidence. The ones that haven't resolved are due to the permanent damage that was caused by staying so morbidly obese for so long. I'm in stage 4 kidney failure from Diabetes. But, by getting healthy, I have gone into "remission", and have hopefully put off progressing into end-stage renal failure, and won't need to go on dialysis. My knees are shot, no cartilage left, but because of my weight loss, I can function just fine. At this point, I don't feel I need knee replacement surgery on my knees. I may need it at some point in time, but for now I am active and can tolerate any aches and pains. I'm definitely more mobile than I used to be.
I get so frustrated at this fat acceptance movement. Don't get me wrong, I want everyone to love themselves and feel good in the skin they're in. But... everyone should love their bodies enough to take care of them. Because, whether they admit it or not, what happened to me, will happen to all these fat activists too. At some point, they won't have youth on their side anymore. Staying obese does irreparable damage to your body over time. Period. I'm the poster child for that.
But it's not to late for them, just like it wasn't to late for me!
I don't post on TicToc preaching this, because frankly I enjoy peace. I don't want to get in a fight with this delusional group. But they are going to find out the hard way.
Ever heard the saying F*ck around and find out? That's what I want to say to that delulu group. F*ck around and find out.
If you'd ever like to speak with me about my journey, I'd live to share. I'm beginning to find my voice. I feel like, coming from a Nursing background, I have a lot of insight to offer. Especially after all the health perils I've overcome.
God Bless John, keep up the good work.
Self love is crucial. I'm trying to learn that at 62. A lot of work. Makes me angry when people like this are bad influence. Wrong.🫢
It would be very difficult to diagnose a fat person with fibromyalgia as the symptoms of fibromyalgia cross over so much with the symptoms of general poor health due to obesity. They would need to lose a lot of weight first to rule that out as the cause.
People want to be marginalized so bad
Meanwhile I used to wish I was Caucasian when I was in elementary and Junior high because I wanted to be like everyone else around me (I went to a predominantly white school )
Calling fat people a marginalized group is crazy to me
Poor woman trying to help her. She does'nt give crap. Sad.
Oh i love it when they call themselves a marginalized group of people 🤣
Chronic pain and fatigue is a symptom of being morbidly obese.
My friends have doctor’s appointments basically every other day and not a single one is willing to tell them the truth.
Lose the weight and you’ll feel better. I should know, I lost 80 lbs last year and it’s the best I’ve felt in over a decade.
They refuse to accept reality its a deflection of accountability
I just dont understand why everyone has to be attracted to groups of people in order to respect them??? I believe attraction cannot be forced. It is a subconscious thing depending on many factors that you can’t consciously control. That doesn‘t mean you disrespect the ones you‘re not attracted to!!
She could make millions and change many lives by documenting her journey to health.
As a person who has been overweight their whole life And is finally doing something about it, What she said is completely crazy. People have their preferences, No one should have to make themselves date.Anybody just because you think they Should. And comparing being overweight to racism It's just not a comparable thing. No one can help the color of their skin but you can definitely help the condition of your health. These fat acceptance influencers only do this because it's a trend and they make money. If they weren't going viral and making money They wouldn't be saying any of this
You killed it on Dr. Phil. Great job on shutting down this death cult.stay healthy everyone!
The first few seconds of listening to Lexi made me want to just sit in a wind tunnel. At least I wouldn't have to listen to her condescending garbage. If you can have a preference for someone of one particular faith over another, it's no different than a preference for certain body types.
My husband is an NP and he airboat in spinecare and pain management for a decade. He always told me weight is a give contributor to some issues and pain issues.
Her doctors did not want to tell her the truth, "yes you are fine", yeah sure
I also have fibromyalgia, though I've always been on the thinner side. It's linked to chronic stress, injury, illnesses, and genetic factors. Yes, there will always be flares, and yes, they're awful, but I can tell you that a healthy diet, exercise, stress relief, and the right medication have helped so much with their frequency and intensity. Basically, the more physical and emotional stress you can get rid of, the easier fibro becomes to manage. I sincerely hope Lexi can let go of the pressure to listen to the FA movement and work to feel better on her own.
At 6’3 240 I’m the tallest in my family by 4” and the lightest by 40lbs. Fat acceptance isn’t new it’s just online now. My whole life I’ve heard how “it’s the skinny people who are unhealthy” “working out will only hurt you” “just eat it, it tastes good doesn’t it?” “People being athletic is bullying” that’s why they all have artificial hips and knees and heart problems. It’s not genetic, it’s the lifestyle
I broke my back when I was 26, I went from a very physically active serving soldier of 6'2" and 185 lbs, with a wife and young son, to a wheelchair bound, divorced, not seeing his son, civilian suffering from depression. The only thing I could do was eat, and I quickly reached 295lbs. I spent almost 25 years suffering constant back pain, until after a very bad problem, 3 weeks when all I could manage was crawling, my GP visited me, gave me a morphine injection and took me to his chiropractor.
He got me walking, my GP signed me off work for 4 months, and I went swimming everyday and stopped eating crap. After that 4 months I weighed 225 lbs, and with regular chiropractic visits and stretching exercises overcame 70% of my back problems.
I don't expect to have a long life, the excess weight has probably done it's damage, but I will never again reach a weight where a fork lift truck is required to move my body after I'm dead. Losing weight is hard, when it's been your companion for a long time it's hard to imagine not being fat.
But to believe that there is no risk in being massively overweight is simply delusional. If you think it's hard losing the fat at 30, try it at 50. At 50 even fit people have less energy, mobility and stamina, when your body has been carrying 100 lbs of fat for 20 years, it's almost impossible to believe it's possible to lose it, or know where to start.
If you're young and fat, don't wait until you have problems, get your arse in gear and avoid the problems!
I’ve dealt with herniated disks, pinched nerves, stenosis, some osteoarthritis, and calcium deposits from years of contact sports (rugby & combat sports). It astounds me how people my age group who’ve never pushed their body deal with even worse joint and skeletal issues than I do when I beat the shit out of my body for 2 decades. Just existing shouldn’t wear out your body in such a short period of time.
It’s one of those things where you can feel fine for a very long time…but when things start to go downhill, it happens FAST. A lot of people don’t tend to believe that until it happens. 😢 I hope she feels better soon.
As someone with fibro who doesn't suffer from obesity, I've been losing weight just so my illness will be easier to manage. 😮 The thought of getting bigger scares me, not even because of how I'd look because you can be pretty no matter what size you are, but the thought of how much pain I'd be in keeps me awake at night
I know a hate influencer who weighs over 400 lbs, has edemas in both his calfs (a symptom for a possible heart failure), can‘t walk more than 50 feet without being completely out of breath, yet actively showed himself on stream stuffing himself with rock sugar. Now he states that he has pain in his legs. Gee, I wonder why. He‘s hitting 35 this year, and even though he isn‘t 500-600+ lbs, the way he lets himself go, he won‘t make it to his 40s.
The biggest lie of the current era is that consequences are optional.
Exhausted and exhausting
It would be cool if you could interview Lexi! You’re a great interviewer
Yeah, all those middle-aged diagnoses of exclusion. It’s sleep apnea from being morbidly obese and the pain is also from carrying around an extra 200 lbs.
Sometimes people have to learn for themselves, instead of listening to people who have been down the road before you.
Those people are called fools.
I just had to rush across the country to my best friends side 2 weeks ago b/c her husband dropped dead at 34. His only preexisting condition was that he was about 400lbs. I fear for all my obese loved ones.
Found out that one of my former students lost his mother last year. She was 44 and was morbidly obese as a young woman. She had the bypass surgery although she still had a big tube around the middle. I was shocked to find out her cause of death was MS. Did some research and learned that young, obese people have a high risk for developing MS.
I would consider people who don’t like pizza marginalized.
Bless that woman in the audience at the beginning of the video for her honesty.
My thoughts?
It's insane that it's even a conversation.
All that you said about extra weight becoming an issue as you get older is so incredibly simple and logical. The proof that supports obesity as being unhealthy is overwhelming.
I really can't believe this is something people are debating.
Man who could have seen this coming. It’s a mystery that’s for sure.
I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia in college, I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Medication helps me, but they often cause weight gain and/or make it harder to lose it; I did gain some, and then more when I developed PCOS. I can barely even go for a short walk on my bad days, even if desperately want to. When a flare up comes, there's really not much I can do. But, I know long term its only going to get worse, so prioritizing good habits, further improving my nutrition, and stretching 1-2x daily has been my priority now.
I am not going to say “told ya so! lol” to her because this stuff is so serious and so awful to go through. I think the shame was so intense for her when she was on Dr Phil that she reacted with so much contempt and anger towards everyone telling her to fight for a lower weight. It’s so painful when it catches up with you like this. I have empathy for this, not sympathy. She does need to acknowledge what she was pushing was dangerous and accept the consequences, but maybe when she’s healed, good things can come out of this, like she could try to get healthier and lose the weight. A lot of us struggle with it, myself included. She’s not going to be alone in this fight.
I am a big believers ever person should make the choices for the body but, you also have to face the consequences. The system is messed up though
Same here. I’m 38 today and holy hell.
Why should we care? She could have changed her body and her life years ago. If she doesn’t care, why should we?
Yay it’s John!
Leave them to it. It'll be good for our pensions if they take themselves out of the game before retirement age.
The doctors told you that you were fine because they didn’t want you to accuse them of being fat phobic
As a nurse, I have noticed that yes, a few overweight people CAN be physically capable of doing most things (like going on hikes etc) BUT the human body is not built to carry this much weight and the body wears down faster. Resulting in joints and spine wearing down, skininfections between any folds and on the feet aswell as organs getting damaged, especially heart and liver. I have seen it countless of times and it is so sad, because it's usually too late to just loose the weight at the point we notice, and they will have problems for the rest of their life. 😞 Also overweight people tend to loose their abilities faster whenever they DO get sick. Like after operations or infections, they take way longer to recover and sometimes they do not recover "all the way" and will still need help. And it's SO MUCH harder and more dangerous for nursing staff to help them get washed, get out of bed or even sit up in bed because countless times I had to do those things all alone since we were understaffed and did not have lifters etc. 😅 I would not be able to stop someone from falling out of bed who is 2x my weight or more. Not to think of getting them back IN bed off the floor afterwards 🥲 (sorry for any spelling mistakes, english is not my first language!)
That was similar w Paula Deen eating all the greasy and sweet foods on the food network when she was diagnosed w diabetes.
It's almost like obesity causes all kinds of health problems... and it's almost like your labs won't reflect all the damage that is being done until it's too late. All these people who are like 'my labs are perfect, I don't have any health problems...' need to wake up! And I"m so glad that you and others like you are spreading the word not because any of us should be mocking people like Lexi but because there are vulnerable young people who need to hear the truth and hopefully they can avoid having these major problems. Her refusal to lose weight is robbing her of her life and it's very sad. I hope she can get better but it would have been a lot easier if she had done it 10 years ago.
I have sacral/lumbar arthritis and stenosis. I am in constant pain. No fun at all.
It’s not suppose to be funny, but why I am smiling.
When I was 20, I weighed 425 ish pounds. I bought into all the fat acceptance crap.
Then my heart failed. I woke up in a hospital bed. Scariest day of my life. That was my wakeup call, and Im grateful I got that wakeup call so young. I am now 200 pounds, and I workout daily. I can squat about 400 pounds. Its amazing what a change in mindset can do.
The way I see it, saying you can be healthy at any size is like saying gravity isnt real. At the end of the day, reality is reality and your opinion won't change that