Yep, and she's pretending her and no one else's health issues can be related to their weight, and that with a healthy diet, exercise, or even surgery to lose weight safely some of those issues can be helped. She's doing this knowing people who disagree will give her the most engagement, and knows she's harming the minds of the few others that begin to believe her as she does it. She doesn't deserve a platform anywhere.
I had 2 miscarriages and I'm a preschool teacher, imagine going to HR every time parents, colleagues or toddlers start talking about babies and pregnancies... Fr? This is nonsense
I love how the young folk think that HR is there to help you. As an elder millennial who’s worked several jobs, I can tell you that HR does not like it when employees bring up squabbles with coworkers or bosses. You bring stuff like this to HR and they’ll deem you as the problem. And if you continue to pose this nuisance to them, they’ll get rid of you. Pick your battles, folks. It’s messed up but it’s true.
@@LifeAfterLosing I've heard of a case where someone from HR filed a report on bad HR Practice which ended up getting themselves fired. 😂😂 They are a different breed.
RE: the first point I have anorexia. Hearing people talking about dieting is uncomfortable. Coming back to work after gaining weight in treatment and hearing people talk about losing weight sucked. I learned how to deal with triggers like this because I would never for a second expect people to change the way they talk when they’re around me. People have different goals. Someone else talking about wanting to lose weight could be a positive healthy move for them and I can encourage it without making it about me You can’t forcefully change the world around you but you can change how you cope (within reason obviously it’s different if someone is being a dick to you)
100% agree. It’s our responsibility to ourselves to learn how to cope with uncomfortable situations because we will never be able to control every environment we’re in, no matter what. It’s also impossible for us to cater to everyone around us all the time! Coping with discomfort is like 80% of dealing with life, and it’s one of the best things we can ever learn to do for ourselves!
I agree, that was a really tough pivot for me too when I finished treatment. At the end of the day, the only thing I can control is my personal response to triggers. 5 years strong 💪
10000%! One of my personal goals is to have no emotional response to the food choices or discussions of others. Our lives, our bodies...all our individual choices that does not give us the right to dictate someone else's harmless behavior
Shaming people to lose weight is apparently wrong, but shaming people for losing weight is apparently right, forcing them to stay in unhealthy lifestyles that makes them feel worse.
To be fair: negative reinforcement doesn't do what you think it does. However, I don't support anything FGF does or says. She's a raging moron who didn't get therapy after surviving an ED.
Both things are wrong and they're done by different people, so don't try to draw a correlation and be like "gotcha libs". The majority of people find a problem with BOTH those things, so no, you haven't found a flaw in people's logic
After I broke a kitchen chair, a toilet seat and an office chair, I knew it was time to lose weight. Sometimes people lie to themselves to avoid an awful truth. Eventually I told myself gurl, you too fat! Get over that pain so you can stop breaking furniture.
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That story reminded me of the time this girl broke my chair and she started saying maybe it was me for being almost as fat as her. Homegirl was 50 lbs more than me and she didn't sit down she flung herself down.
I feel like many people have this moment that tips them over the edge and they go from knowing they're overweight to realizing they need to do something about it. I knew I was overweight and gaining but it was only when not even the biggest sized jeans from my favourite brand that all my jeans are from didn't fit me anymore that it clicked for me and I knew this can't go on. So I'm happy for you that you had this moment and I wish you much success on your journey!
My daughter is a Director of HR for a large healthcare company. If someone came to her with these complaints, she would ask are they mentioning your name of trying to encourage you to join them? Are they in any way directing comments at you to bully you? Of course the answer is no, so they wouldn’t do anything, for good reason. Lunchroom conversations that are nothing but casual discussions are not under the purview of HR. Somebody needs to get over themselves and maybe eat lunch somewhere there are no other people having conversations.
To be fair if someone approached me privately at work and said me talking about diets was really upsetting to them, I would be empathetic and take that on board! If they went straight to HR about me I'd be gutted and feel a little betrayed!
Okay that rocking chair story made me mad! Yes, a lot of mass produced furniture is made like S...now. However, many heirloom pieces from the early 20th century are more much higher quality and if that chair survived this long it probably was! Now, is a rocking chair worth more than a person's psyche? Of course not! I'm not saying that. Which is why FatGirlFlow's mom said what she did. Because she loves her child and doesn't want to see them hurt, physically or emotionally. However, this self-centered narcissist doesn't even appreciate that as a sign of how much her mother loves her. She just takes it "oh she's right, it's not my fault, furniture just sucks!"
The prediabetes / type 2 stuff is very upsetting to me. I was diagnosed with prediabetes and started adjusting my diet, and exercising. Nothing drastic. I lost 25 lbs and got my A1C back to a normal range. It took a year to do that and my BMI is still in the obese range. But you’re right. Losing weight and fixing your diet can absolutely improve prediabetes/ type 2
I agree. I barely hit the type 2 mark due to a combination of weight and genetics, and I focused on diet and exercise (and got on a glp1), and my A1C went down to the normal range within MONTHS
I will always remember my epiphany about people talking about my triggers around me being MY issue. Not theirs A friend was talking about gaining 9lbs and being bloated and feeling gross in our freshman year. She was significantly smaller than I was and I had been feeling great about losing a dress size after moving regularly and reducing sugar. Guess I made a face- she said what. I was honest and said ‘if you think you’re gross and fat I can only imagine how you see me’. She said honestly she thought I was pretty and nothing else. She doesn’t impose how she view herself on others Since her body isn’t theirs. Her body changed in a way she didn’t like. It had nothing to do with me or my body. And she was right.
As a type 1 diabetic please please PLEASE do something about your prediabetes diagnosis while you have a chance. I’ve been diabetic for 18 years and I haven’t had a choice. It’s either I deal with the disease and it’s never ending list of demands or I die. Those are the only options I have. Don’t let yourself go to the point of no return, it’s not fun. Sleepless nights, exhausting work shifts dealing with out of control blood sugars, battling with insurance companies to get the medicine and medical supplies I NEED TO SURVIVE and cannot afford even if I was a kardashian. (Look up how much insulin has gone up in price since the 90s, it’ll make you sick). If I had a choice I wouldn’t choose this. Do something while you still can. I’m very jealous of that privilege
My autistic 6 y/o nephew has ARFID. He basically will only eat Doritos or Oreos. He has to be hounded to drink a nutritional shake to get some kind of healthy calories. He's small for his age and underweight. He doesn't think about food and isn't motivated to eat and it's been like this since he was a baby. I'm not sure what to think about this chick saying she has this.
@@foolishlyfoolhardy6004 I totally get that. My brother-in-law is a shithead who is refusing certain treatments and is in denial about his son’s issues. He’s blocking mom from seeking proper treatment even before she left him. He’s seeing several specialists but there’s only so much mom can afford. Dad isn’t helping much financially.
As someone who is type 2 diabetic, there is no way on this planet that a drug that helps improve pre/diabetes would make her diabetic. She is diabetic because of a food/drink choice and not exercising enough. I should know 🤦
This reminds me of a weird situation at work. An engaged lady and I (who was already married) sat at desks next to each other in this big office room, and were talking about wedding planning, just the two of us. Then we get an email from a Chinese male coworker who sat a bit further away, but who obviously overheard us, telling us how insensitive we were being because the only other woman who sat in the room, who I guess could have overheard us, was unmarried (and also Chinese) and it was very insensitive to talk about weddings and getting married when she was single. The engaged lady and I looked at each other in a puzzled way. The only thing I can think is that maybe in Chinese culture it's a stigma to be a young unmarried woman and he thought she would be very upset by hearing wedding talk? But why not trust her to speak up for herself if that were the case?
People really need to learn the difference between being a victim of agression and being triggered. If someone at work was bitten by a dog, does that mean a coworker can’t show other people dog pictures? That type of avoidance accommodation is actually harmful for the person that’s being triggered…
I was always nervous to start listening to your content, since I know some people who talk about fat acceptance can be rude or dismissive. But I'm glad I took a chance, you're very empathetic, compassionate, and willing to explain your reasoning (and doing it so well!)
If the rocking chair was that bad, how did it survive long enough to become an heirloom!!! Older furniture tended to be made very well. That's why it lasts so long. Ugh, and she destroyed it. Because in ye olde days, People rarely made it to over 200 lbs, let alone 400 lbs.
It makes me so mad that she wants to curtail people even being able to talk about healthier lifestyles in her presence! People having casual conversations at work about fitness and healthy eating has sparked a whole group of people at my work to get into it and they're all encouraging one another. To silence that set of voices is discriminatory against people who want to work on themselves. If you don't like hearing it, then that's a YOU problem. Grr just listening to her makes me grind my teeth. ETA: As someone who has lost family members and close friends due to complications directly relating to obesity, its triggering for me to have to be around people like her who are obese and promoting obesity. We need to flip this narrative back on these people and use their own nonsense against themselves.
Why does it make you mad? Who cares what she thinks/feels😕! People are way too sensitive, and entitled these days, it's crazy. Next thing you know, obese people are going to try to cancel gyms instead of McDonald's like they should
@@ocorley3124Half of them already consider going to the gym fatphobic. Because if you want to feel healthy and look fit you're attacking them I guess? Bunch of narcissists they are. Always going out of their way to make everybody else's lives somehow about them.
I’ve worked in HR for 17 years. It’s not against any employer laws to talk about your diet. (Assuming the person was talking about their own diet journey)
At 5:00 she basically told to bend the narrative in a way it will better suit your goal. So even if she is not saying it out loud, she is implying to make shit up to rat coworkers out
Body positivity started because we previously had so much ana and mia those kinds of eds and the models, the photoshop, the images that were pushed as a beauty ideal for women were that extreme. So body positivity reminded that you dont need to have an ed and have an extremelly thin body, your body is okay. That did not mean that being severelly obese was okay. Having a normal looking healthy body is totally fine you dont need to do crazy shit. That was the message. Years ago, being fat was like having a normal healthy weight. But then, real fat people with real unhealthy overweight started to taking these points, to the point that it became an excuse to not change their unhealthy habits or lifestyle. That is the point we are today in, that they think that anyone who is not obese should not be inside the "bodypositive movement" and that wanting healthy change or healthy weightloss is a moral failure.
The rocking chair story broke my heart, and I don't believe in her mother's supposed reaction AT ALL. Very large or heavy people should not sit in fragile or delicate furniture.
Not to mention this rocking chair that used to belong to her grandmother and has apparently survived decades of use without problem, probably doesn't qualify as a "shitty chair"
same..it reminds me of parents who blame the floor or the table or the chair when their toddler fell down or bumped into things. No wonder she’s THAT entitled and self centered
@@purgal5250 my thoughts exactly. a cheap Walmart camping chair? Maybe that’s poorly made. But furniture from the 70s and earlier are often EXTREMELY well-made and made to last. Especially something like a solid wood chair that’s considered an heirloom. It wouldn’t be an heirloom if the craftsmanship was garbage.
I work as an HR (not from USA tho, but it should still count) - your colleagues can talk about what they wish. It's not a company's business to police what they talk about at lunch and stuff. An HR is not your 'go yell at these people I dislike because they DARED to talk about something I dislike' errand-person. Some of these fat activists are straight up delusional.
She's not stupid, and that's why she's dangerous. Her explanation as to why plus sized clothes cost more and how she believes the clothing industry could offset this cost was genuinely fascinating (hint: her solution wasn't just to charge straight sizes more, if I remember correctly). She's very aware of the benefits and consequences of her Feelz>Realz philosophy; she is not ignorant to reality and she has been successful financially for so long because of it. She knows she is preying on people who aren't exactly ignorant but are willing to let positive words soothe them more than any actual help, much like every other alternative treatment to addiction that doesn't involve rehab or sobriety. As she ages, her influence will dwindle, just like everyone, and I guess if she wants to be the captain of the SS Diet-Beat-Us, no one can stop her, but I hope she doesn't succeed in sinking any of the lifeboats attempting to flee that sinking ship.
I only recently started paying attention to weight limits on items I use. It was really eye opening and it definitely made me rethink my life. I didn't start dieting but saw the world a bit differently. Things like the pool floatie, scales at water parks, my treadmill vs the hotel treadmill, etc.
I sincerely hope she changes her mind on properly treating her diabetes. Soon. I have been a Radiologic Technologist for twenty years. I have worked in ERs, ICUs, and full hospitals during my entire career. The diabetics who do not take their disease seriously suffer greatly. Amputations, gangrenous wounds that won’t heal, kidney failure, and blindness are a just a few of the things they go through.
Agree 100%. I, like you, have seen the horrendous effects of untreated diabetes. I'm newly retired from a 40yr career as an ICU RN, it's a shame that fat activists can't see the harm they are promoting
It's really doubtful that her grandma's heirloom chair which was like made when people actually built things really well and out of solid wood, would be so cheaply made it just broke for no reason. The fact it survived all those years is kind of testament to that. And yeah your Mom said that because she is an enabler... it explains alot honestly.
My dad has ARFID and it’s a scary disorder. Like, if for some social situation he goes to a restaurant he didn’t previously look at the menu, there’s a decent chance he’ll have a panic attack.
As someone who works in the furniture industry. 1. You get what you pay for. Solid furniture is expensive and heavy so it cost more to ship and make etc. 2. Heirloom furniture is built very well. There’s a lot of high end manufactures that still use the “old” way of making furniture because it’s tied to their name and made to last rather than be “trendy” only. It may be old and worn but should last. I have my great grandmothers rocking chair. (I’m the 4th generation to own it.) And that thing is built to last.
1 Corinthians 15:1-4 King James Version 15 Moreover, brethren, I declare unto you the gospel which I preached unto you, which also ye have received, and wherein ye stand; 2 By which also ye are saved, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain. 3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; 4 And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures:
I'm 100% for fat liberation.... I'm busting my tail to "liberate" as much fat from my body as possible. I want to not just live, I want to thrive in a healthy body. Because I love myself and I love my kids enough to be around. ❤
I agree, the self insertion into other people’s lives is the biggest problem in that community. It’s like a hive mind, you do one thing that they deem as “harmful” that means the entire hive mind has been harmed by your actions. I think this whole wiping situation shows it off in 4k, 1080p resolution. “Well I can’t wipe MY a$$ and I’M happy so YOUR feelings are wrong and ableist 🤓☝️”
arfid often does lead to obesity despite having restrictive in the name, because many sufferers prefer highly processed foods that have no risk of differing taste/texture from yesterday's portion, the way that a banana or cucumber might. a pop tart tastes the same no matter what, but an apple might be crunchy today and then tomorrow's is mealy & squishy. kianna docherty made a good video about a woman who may have been suffering from it.
My fiance has ARFID and has gained tons of weight because the foods they don't avoid are highly processed. Never once have they used ARFID to make excuses for their body weight/physical health. They saw the problem that their extra weight was causing and went to a psychatrist and mental health counselor to find ways around their ARFID and how to eat healthier. They are down 80lbs! It makes me really upset to see people using ARFID as an excuse for why they can now go the opposite direction and be unhealthy
Yes, some modern fast furniture is made shitty (although despite being slightly chubby I've never broken any 👀) But the heirloom rocking chair that has survived 4 generations? Naahhh...
It's my responsibility as a dog owner to ensure my dogs stay at a helathy weight. Adult humans have free will, and can - and do - eat themselves into an early grave. No-one can stop them, but now they're demanding everyone be ok with it.
Free will is nonsense. Dogs do what they do due to prior circumstances and so do humans. It's also funny that you specified "adult" humans. At what age do people aquire "free will"?
7:39 This is something I feel like people rarely aknowledge. I've lost +30kg and I still eat stuff that may not be the healthiest: chocolate, soda, donuts etc but in moderation! You can 100% have treats and lose weight, you just need to incorporate those into a healthy diet that supports your goals
Losing weight 100% helps with diabetes, i was 297 lbs when I was diagnosed. I started cleaning up my diet that day (partly because I can't afford insulin) and im now in the 190's (ive been fluctuating lately mainly because I've been stress eating) with my diabetes in remission. Guess what, the same dietary choices that decrease blood sugar usually also help weight loss!
Honestly, I've been over 400lbs and I looked at myself in the mirror and could see I was killing myself. I couldn't walk, I couldn't empty the dishwasher without taking breaks. I couldn't shower without back pain. I couldn't exist without hurting. I'm 130lbs down, through a really long emotional journey these past 3 years of tending to myself and being kind to myself, and being patient with myself. Doing what she said and listening to my body and eating things that make me feel good (nutrition) and not overeating (numb and full and miserable). I feel like I've been trapped in a pit and I've been climbing out of it. People like her actually make me sick, because I feel like the same type of people who go to her are probably the same people where I was 3 years ago. People looking for support and help and she poisons them and I honestly think she's a selfish and terrible human being.
I was about 50 pounds less than I am now, and I sat in a folding chair and I broke it at the laundry. It was humiliating, and it could've been painful. There's a weight limit on the chair and I'm fat so I didn't do the math. Do we have to make the entire world responsible for our comfort every single second of the day?
She demonized that one doc for giving her literature on pre-diabetes and now has actual diabetes. Is it not possible that that doctor was correct to be concerned? I’m just so confused by her perspective.
I work with a woman who has lost a lot of weight and she definitely still has a negative image of herself. If any of us in the department are talking about dieting or how we are fat or chubby, said woman will speak up and say it’s triggering language for her. You know, that’s fair. You got problems. You’re trying to work through them in your own way (she recently started going to therapy) and now if we want to talk about our own weight loss journey, we just don’t talk about it in front of her. We have a small department, we try to be respectful. She has set up a boundary and we try to respect that. Honest communication with your coworkers is gold. No reason to go to HR!
4:50 the funny part about this is my HR person lost alot if weight recently take Ozempic and when i noticed i asked her if she minded me asking hed about it and she was so elated that i noticed and talked about how its been a long battle for her that she has happily felt like she got a hold of. All that to say, i feel like unless some directly insulted someone else for their weight, she might be a bit confused by this complaint.
i’m confused as to why people are reaching out to her for prediabetes/eating/health/medical advice? and why is she giving medical advice as a person with no expertise or medical background? this is wild to me
EVERYTHING is "triggering" nowadays. Grow a backbone. There's a difference between being actively bullied and feeling upset because you can't police other people's words.
She has no issues bullying others online when she feels justified. She called another influencer an “ableist piece of sh*t” when they said online that they decided to lose weight because they couldn’t wipe their own a*s. She made a mean IG post about GlitterandLazers coming out about losing weight to improve her health. It feels like Carissa only wants to create a diverse and inclusive space for people who think and act like she does.
Ah, yes. The ROCKING CHAIR is to blame. It was after all, so poorly made that it lasted for DECADES. I am sure that it is pure coincidence that it broke AFTER she sat in it./S🙄
1 Corinthians 15:1-4 King James Version 15 Moreover, brethren, I declare unto you the gospel which I preached unto you, which also ye have received, and wherein ye stand; 2 By which also ye are saved, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain. 3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; 4 And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures:
I can see where Corissa is coming from (stay with me) in that there is a huge amount of talk, particularly at the start of the year, about weight loss and it’s hard to avoid. And it’s exhausting. But that’s not on other people to moderate their conversations. I think the language around how we talk about bodies isn’t healthy for women in particular. And she is saying it’s only now she has discovered “joyful movement” but isn’t that what she has been bleating on about for years? Both her and her partner are eating their way into health issues and immobility in their 30’s. I don’t even think J is 32 yet. And they’re living the life of someone in their 90’s. You can play mental gymnastics as much as you like but I refuse to believe you can be physically and mentally healthy not being able to do basic life tasks in your early 30’s.
My mom has T2 diabetes, and so did both her parents. My grandmother went blind because of poorly regulated blood sugar. The thing is, my grandparents lived in Nicaragua and had poor access to medical care. It is MIND BLOWING to me that someone who lives in the United States and has access to medicine would choose not to make changes that would help with diabetes. T2 diabetes is SO manageable with dietary changes and exercise. My cousin's uncle had a leg amputated because of his diabetes. Her disregard for the impact of food on that disease is frankly insulting.
I’m so huge that simply sitting in a chair broke it, damn that chair! It’s not my fault for stuffing my face for years to outsize general furniture. Every time I’ve put on some weight, I realize how uncomfortable I am and start to fix it. Losing the weight makes clothes fit better, for instance chairs, etc.
I have arfid (a co-mornidity of bulimia abd diabetic bulimia). Arfid is NOT this. It controls and rules your life in a way that is so crippling and hindering controlling everything you do, not just what/how you eat. She is so disappointing
the whole "i became diabetic while on ozempic" is sounding a lot like "i was drinking water then i tripped and fell. i no longer drink water because i don't want to fall". edit: that rocking chair incident not being a wake up call is insane.
I have ARFID but was still able to lose over 100 lbs (and still counting). I believe that when I was obese, I used all kinds of things to make excuses for my weight and inability to lose it. I had gained and lost repeatedly, until this most recent time losing, where I was able to get to the root of the problem with a simple mind set shift. As a formerly fat person I can say that from my personal experience, you can put all of the proverbial bandaids on but you won’t be successful long term until you’re able to make that huge mental shift. ARFID made it harder for me, but not impossible by any means.
HR is NOT actually there to mediate your problems. They're there to protect the company, so I wouldn't go to them except with serious concerns such as harrassment or discrimination.
It was disgusting saying knowing what she knows now she would not seek treatment for pre diabetes like wtf…. And her making it seem like ozempic caused her diabetes
For real. HR doesn't give a single fuck about your feelings unless you have a potential legal case against them. They are there to protect the company from lawsuits and nothing else lol
10:30 onwards - honestly!!! i am disabled now and my body movements are very restricted due to pain. there is little i can do get rid of the source of the pain for now, but you know what i actually do? take the prescribed medication. talk to my general practitioner and listen to real medical doctors (not nutritionists). and more than anything else, make sure to treat my body as well as i can so it doesn't get worse. for me that includes losing weight and getting stronger as best as i can, because i don't want to end up completely bedbound and completely unable to get out of bed on my own by the time I'm 40 bc i'm too fat/heavy, if i can help it. like you said, get started sooner rather than later. i personally believe owe my body a better lifestyle. the fact that she was literally diagnosed with pre-diabetes and still refused to do the best she could is beyond me
I have ARFID, it has nothing to do with restricting for diet/ weight. It is common in neurodivergent people and people with mental illnesses like OCD, BPD, Bipolar etc. I don't like her making it about diets.
Agree with you about the HR thing. I’ve always been the biggest person in places I worked in, but I don’t let other people’s discussions regarding their diet and health journey bother me. Because I know it’s not about me. And when other people reach their weight loss goals I’m happy for them even if I’m struggling with my own battles with my health and body image. It’s pretty selfish for people to always just be concerned about their own feelings and sensitivities. If it affects you negatively, then take yourself out of the conversation.
I have reversed my diabetes into pre-diabetic. Guess how? Diet, minimal exercise and fasting. Im still obese but I've improved my condition. This woman is beyond delusional and is going to hurt people.
So she wants people to walk into the workplace, terrified of what they might say, knowing they can never mention their diet or exercise, least the thought police come after them.
So what, every single chair that gets manufactured should be engineered to withstand 600+ lbs? Where does is end? She gets a gold metal in mental gymnastics to avoid taking accountability
So disrespectful to self-diagnose with ARFID. My boyfriend actually has ARFID and it's such a struggle. He's highly underweight, he can't derive any joy from food, sometimes he has a hard time eating more than 100-200kcal per meal. I'm scared it will affect his health, and we're both working hard to help him with it. This is a slap in the face, and just shows how uninformed, and frankly unintelligent this person is.
I do want to say, as much as I don’t like her, it’s not really fair to just assume that she has self-diagnosed when it’s a disorder that’s on a spectrum (of sizes, how it presents in terms of numbers of safe foods, etcetera)
Plus lots of people can be fat with Arfid as the safe foods often have a lot of fat and carbs as they’re usually more sweet/candy/cracker type foods and not things like fruits and vegetables. I have Arfid and currently am obese, would you like to tell me that I’m faking it?
When I was in elementary school, I broke a metal chair that was a bit too old. It wasn't my fault per se, but I wasn't in a healthy weight and it showed, so I felt really humiliated when people laughed. Even if it wasn't my fault, I still knew I had to lose weight. I was 11 back then, but I was 6kg heavier than I'm now at 21. Unacceptable.
If you’re with coworkers that are talking about weight and dieting and you don’t want to be part of it you can either leave the conversation or ask them if you can avoid that topic and discuss something else. It’s FINE to ask the latter of them as long as you are ok with either answer. If they move on to another topic no issue. Great. If they say they don’t want to. Great. You can leave. Neither is wrong. It’s ok to ask for those things as long as you’re not judging the answer. But it’s definitely not something to go to HR about.
Furniture wise that point is insane old furniture is waaaay more sturdy than modern stuff hence bars buy vintage stuff as flat pack falls apart my family has chairs that are 90 years old it’s just no furniture is built to hold a person who legitimately weighs as much as a vending machine
I have multiple relatives with ARFID. it’s often tied to anxiety/OCD or sensory processing disorders. One of the hallmarks is that they often have “failure to thrive” (ie fall very short of the expected height/weight milestones) as kids because they are so restrictive in their food anxiety that they will simply not eat if their “safe” foods are not available, or will not eat in certain settings, or won’t eat a caloric-sufficient amount of their chosen foods because of anxiety, etc. That said, it’s not a condition that goes hand in hand with pre-diabetes and obesity. Maybe she does have it, but immediately it brought to mind Tess Holliday and her anorexia claims in my mind
I’m an alcoholic. 3 years sober. I’m a teacher. Can I go to HR every time my colleagues reference drinking in the teacher’s lounge? Good lord.
Also just figured out that I live in the same small town as this creator……. 😵💫
Congrats on your sobriety ! 👏
@@anicameo3277 Thank you so much!! 🥰🫶🏼
Congrats ❤ 3 years, so impressive 🎉 stay strong 💪
Louder for the people in the back!! This is EXACTLY what it is like.
The reason she’s so extreme is because she’s also trying to convince herself she does like being the way she is
Exactly this
And when faced with hard evidence she will always be able to circle back because she has to otherwise how can she justify her choices?
Yep, and she's pretending her and no one else's health issues can be related to their weight, and that with a healthy diet, exercise, or even surgery to lose weight safely some of those issues can be helped.
She's doing this knowing people who disagree will give her the most engagement, and knows she's harming the minds of the few others that begin to believe her as she does it. She doesn't deserve a platform anywhere.
This is her religion
I had 2 miscarriages and I'm a preschool teacher, imagine going to HR every time parents, colleagues or toddlers start talking about babies and pregnancies... Fr? This is nonsense
i hope you have a helthy kid
I love how the young folk think that HR is there to help you. As an elder millennial who’s worked several jobs, I can tell you that HR does not like it when employees bring up squabbles with coworkers or bosses. You bring stuff like this to HR and they’ll deem you as the problem. And if you continue to pose this nuisance to them, they’ll get rid of you. Pick your battles, folks. It’s messed up but it’s true.
Yep. HR is there to protect the company. They don’t care about your drama.
@@LifeAfterLosing 💯
@@LifeAfterLosing I've heard of a case where someone from HR filed a report on bad HR Practice which ended up getting themselves fired. 😂😂 They are a different breed.
TRUTH I LEARNED THIS AT MICROSOFT CORPORATE AT AGE 23!!!
@@chandlerbingbong5773 😂 as if corporations would actually spend millions on a department to help anyone but themselves.
RE: the first point
I have anorexia. Hearing people talking about dieting is uncomfortable. Coming back to work after gaining weight in treatment and hearing people talk about losing weight sucked. I learned how to deal with triggers like this because I would never for a second expect people to change the way they talk when they’re around me. People have different goals. Someone else talking about wanting to lose weight could be a positive healthy move for them and I can encourage it without making it about me
You can’t forcefully change the world around you but you can change how you cope (within reason obviously it’s different if someone is being a dick to you)
100% agree. It’s our responsibility to ourselves to learn how to cope with uncomfortable situations because we will never be able to control every environment we’re in, no matter what. It’s also impossible for us to cater to everyone around us all the time! Coping with discomfort is like 80% of dealing with life, and it’s one of the best things we can ever learn to do for ourselves!
I agree, that was a really tough pivot for me too when I finished treatment. At the end of the day, the only thing I can control is my personal response to triggers. 5 years strong 💪
Keep it moving with your recovery. You’ve got this! 🤜🏽🤛🏽
Exactly. When you come out of rehab you have to face the real world & not expect everyone to tiptoe around you forever.
10000%! One of my personal goals is to have no emotional response to the food choices or discussions of others. Our lives, our bodies...all our individual choices that does not give us the right to dictate someone else's harmless behavior
‘I get a bit shaky if I have a soda for breakfast and nothing else’ 😂🤦♀️ no kidding!
Shaming people to lose weight is apparently wrong, but shaming people for losing weight is apparently right, forcing them to stay in unhealthy lifestyles that makes them feel worse.
Math ain't mathing
To be fair: negative reinforcement doesn't do what you think it does. However, I don't support anything FGF does or says. She's a raging moron who didn't get therapy after surviving an ED.
Shaming people to lose weight is wrong wtf… But far girl flo was wild for what she did.
Both things are wrong and they're done by different people, so don't try to draw a correlation and be like "gotcha libs". The majority of people find a problem with BOTH those things, so no, you haven't found a flaw in people's logic
They did it to Adele when she lost weight, she was known for being a little chubbier and some people weren't very supportive of the change
After I broke a kitchen chair, a toilet seat and an office chair, I knew it was time to lose weight. Sometimes people lie to themselves to avoid an awful truth. Eventually I told myself gurl, you too fat! Get over that pain so you can stop breaking furniture.
1 Corinthians 15:1-4
King James Version
15 Moreover, brethren, I declare unto you the gospel which I preached unto you, which also ye have received, and wherein ye stand;
2 By which also ye are saved, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain.
3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures;
4 And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures:
That story reminded me of the time this girl broke my chair and she started saying maybe it was me for being almost as fat as her. Homegirl was 50 lbs more than me and she didn't sit down she flung herself down.
If you were in the bopo movement you could just blame the furniture for being fatphobic.
I feel like many people have this moment that tips them over the edge and they go from knowing they're overweight to realizing they need to do something about it. I knew I was overweight and gaining but it was only when not even the biggest sized jeans from my favourite brand that all my jeans are from didn't fit me anymore that it clicked for me and I knew this can't go on.
So I'm happy for you that you had this moment and I wish you much success on your journey!
Is your name Michelle Hazen? 😏
My daughter is a Director of HR for a large healthcare company. If someone came to her with these complaints, she would ask are they mentioning your name of trying to encourage you to join them? Are they in any way directing comments at you to bully you? Of course the answer is no, so they wouldn’t do anything, for good reason. Lunchroom conversations that are nothing but casual discussions are not under the purview of HR. Somebody needs to get over themselves and maybe eat lunch somewhere there are no other people having conversations.
To be fair if someone approached me privately at work and said me talking about diets was really upsetting to them, I would be empathetic and take that on board! If they went straight to HR about me I'd be gutted and feel a little betrayed!
I wouldn't feel gutted or bretrayed. I'd be mad as hell and sure would stop liking/talking to that coworker.
The anger toward the furniture is some next level delusion….
I'd bet that Grandma's rocking chair was pretty sturdy. Old furniture tends to be better made than the modern stuff.
Okay that rocking chair story made me mad!
Yes, a lot of mass produced furniture is made like S...now.
However, many heirloom pieces from the early 20th century are more much higher quality and if that chair survived this long it probably was!
Now, is a rocking chair worth more than a person's psyche? Of course not!
I'm not saying that. Which is why FatGirlFlow's mom said what she did. Because she loves her child and doesn't want to see them hurt, physically or emotionally.
However, this self-centered narcissist doesn't even appreciate that as a sign of how much her mother loves her. She just takes it "oh she's right, it's not my fault, furniture just sucks!"
The prediabetes / type 2 stuff is very upsetting to me. I was diagnosed with prediabetes and started adjusting my diet, and exercising. Nothing drastic. I lost 25 lbs and got my A1C back to a normal range. It took a year to do that and my BMI is still in the obese range. But you’re right. Losing weight and fixing your diet can absolutely improve prediabetes/ type 2
I totally agree I am type 2 and have lost weight so don't have to take medication its just controlled by my diet
And then in the same breath her talking about drinking a soda for BREAKFAST and nothing else??
I agree. I barely hit the type 2 mark due to a combination of weight and genetics, and I focused on diet and exercise (and got on a glp1), and my A1C went down to the normal range within MONTHS
I will always remember my epiphany about people talking about my triggers around me being MY issue. Not theirs
A friend was talking about gaining 9lbs and being bloated and feeling gross in our freshman year. She was significantly smaller than I was and I had been feeling great about losing a dress size after moving regularly and reducing sugar.
Guess I made a face- she said what. I was honest and said ‘if you think you’re gross and fat I can only imagine how you see me’. She said honestly she thought I was pretty and nothing else. She doesn’t impose how she view herself on others Since her body isn’t theirs. Her body changed in a way she didn’t like. It had nothing to do with me or my body.
And she was right.
“I don’t wipe” also “check me out in my bikini in a public pool!” Pinkeye
She is literally coaching people on how to manipulate HR into ruining someone's life!!!!!!
Pure evil...
Mostly their own life
As a type 1 diabetic please please PLEASE do something about your prediabetes diagnosis while you have a chance. I’ve been diabetic for 18 years and I haven’t had a choice. It’s either I deal with the disease and it’s never ending list of demands or I die. Those are the only options I have. Don’t let yourself go to the point of no return, it’s not fun. Sleepless nights, exhausting work shifts dealing with out of control blood sugars, battling with insurance companies to get the medicine and medical supplies I NEED TO SURVIVE and cannot afford even if I was a kardashian. (Look up how much insulin has gone up in price since the 90s, it’ll make you sick). If I had a choice I wouldn’t choose this. Do something while you still can. I’m very jealous of that privilege
My autistic 6 y/o nephew has ARFID. He basically will only eat Doritos or Oreos. He has to be hounded to drink a nutritional shake to get some kind of healthy calories. He's small for his age and underweight. He doesn't think about food and isn't motivated to eat and it's been like this since he was a baby.
I'm not sure what to think about this chick saying she has this.
@@winterseagullyou’re overdramatic and should be normal and stop crying over fake stuff
@@Hwgt888 that's ableist. People have real problems.
@@winterseagull ignore them. They’re ignorant.
@@foolishlyfoolhardy6004 I totally get that. My brother-in-law is a shithead who is refusing certain treatments and is in denial about his son’s issues. He’s blocking mom from seeking proper treatment even before she left him. He’s seeing several specialists but there’s only so much mom can afford. Dad isn’t helping much financially.
Heya, this is insensitive
As someone who is type 2 diabetic, there is no way on this planet that a drug that helps improve pre/diabetes would make her diabetic. She is diabetic because of a food/drink choice and not exercising enough. I should know 🤦
I'm so damn relieved I don't have to worry about breaking chairs anymore. Chairs no longer creak when I sit, and I just don't worry about it now
This reminds me of a weird situation at work. An engaged lady and I (who was already married) sat at desks next to each other in this big office room, and were talking about wedding planning, just the two of us. Then we get an email from a Chinese male coworker who sat a bit further away, but who obviously overheard us, telling us how insensitive we were being because the only other woman who sat in the room, who I guess could have overheard us, was unmarried (and also Chinese) and it was very insensitive to talk about weddings and getting married when she was single. The engaged lady and I looked at each other in a puzzled way. The only thing I can think is that maybe in Chinese culture it's a stigma to be a young unmarried woman and he thought she would be very upset by hearing wedding talk? But why not trust her to speak up for herself if that were the case?
People really need to learn the difference between being a victim of agression and being triggered. If someone at work was bitten by a dog, does that mean a coworker can’t show other people dog pictures? That type of avoidance accommodation is actually harmful for the person that’s being triggered…
I was always nervous to start listening to your content, since I know some people who talk about fat acceptance can be rude or dismissive. But I'm glad I took a chance, you're very empathetic, compassionate, and willing to explain your reasoning (and doing it so well!)
If the rocking chair was that bad, how did it survive long enough to become an heirloom!!! Older furniture tended to be made very well. That's why it lasts so long. Ugh, and she destroyed it. Because in ye olde days, People rarely made it to over 200 lbs, let alone 400 lbs.
It makes me so mad that she wants to curtail people even being able to talk about healthier lifestyles in her presence! People having casual conversations at work about fitness and healthy eating has sparked a whole group of people at my work to get into it and they're all encouraging one another. To silence that set of voices is discriminatory against people who want to work on themselves. If you don't like hearing it, then that's a YOU problem. Grr just listening to her makes me grind my teeth. ETA: As someone who has lost family members and close friends due to complications directly relating to obesity, its triggering for me to have to be around people like her who are obese and promoting obesity. We need to flip this narrative back on these people and use their own nonsense against themselves.
Can't control other people's speech, not sure who told anyone that's a thing
Why does it make you mad? Who cares what she thinks/feels😕! People are way too sensitive, and entitled these days, it's crazy. Next thing you know, obese people are going to try to cancel gyms instead of McDonald's like they should
@@ocorley3124Half of them already consider going to the gym fatphobic. Because if you want to feel healthy and look fit you're attacking them I guess? Bunch of narcissists they are. Always going out of their way to make everybody else's lives somehow about them.
@@ocorley3124noooo! They better leave my gym alone!
@@elteescat you seem like a fellow gymrat, and I'm with you 💯💪💪
I’ve worked in HR for 17 years. It’s not against any employer laws to talk about your diet. (Assuming the person was talking about their own diet journey)
At 5:00 she basically told to bend the narrative in a way it will better suit your goal. So even if she is not saying it out loud, she is implying to make shit up to rat coworkers out
I'm preparing a salad for tomorrow's lunch, hope nobody calls HR on me.
Make it a potato salad with bacon bits then. Better safe than sorry
@@Sheepy007 Alternatively, you can drown it in salad dressing, cheese, and croutons. Put enough on and you can completely hide anything green.
Its alright if you add bacon bits, croutons, and mayonaise.
Body positivity started because we previously had so much ana and mia those kinds of eds and the models, the photoshop, the images that were pushed as a beauty ideal for women were that extreme. So body positivity reminded that you dont need to have an ed and have an extremelly thin body, your body is okay. That did not mean that being severelly obese was okay. Having a normal looking healthy body is totally fine you dont need to do crazy shit. That was the message. Years ago, being fat was like having a normal healthy weight. But then, real fat people with real unhealthy overweight started to taking these points, to the point that it became an excuse to not change their unhealthy habits or lifestyle. That is the point we are today in, that they think that anyone who is not obese should not be inside the "bodypositive movement" and that wanting healthy change or healthy weightloss is a moral failure.
moderate, accepting voices with relevant lived experience on these topics are a huge blessing. thank you for your work.
The rocking chair story broke my heart, and I don't believe in her mother's supposed reaction AT ALL.
Very large or heavy people should not sit in fragile or delicate furniture.
Not to mention this rocking chair that used to belong to her grandmother and has apparently survived decades of use without problem, probably doesn't qualify as a "shitty chair"
same..it reminds me of parents who blame the floor or the table or the chair when their toddler fell down or bumped into things. No wonder she’s THAT entitled and self centered
@@purgal5250 my thoughts exactly. a cheap Walmart camping chair? Maybe that’s poorly made. But furniture from the 70s and earlier are often EXTREMELY well-made and made to last. Especially something like a solid wood chair that’s considered an heirloom. It wouldn’t be an heirloom if the craftsmanship was garbage.
I work as an HR (not from USA tho, but it should still count) - your colleagues can talk about what they wish. It's not a company's business to police what they talk about at lunch and stuff. An HR is not your 'go yell at these people I dislike because they DARED to talk about something I dislike' errand-person. Some of these fat activists are straight up delusional.
Nothing says pride like tattling to HR over coworkers talking about their weight loss./s
Biking over an hour a day to spite Fat Girl Flow
She's not stupid, and that's why she's dangerous. Her explanation as to why plus sized clothes cost more and how she believes the clothing industry could offset this cost was genuinely fascinating (hint: her solution wasn't just to charge straight sizes more, if I remember correctly). She's very aware of the benefits and consequences of her Feelz>Realz philosophy; she is not ignorant to reality and she has been successful financially for so long because of it. She knows she is preying on people who aren't exactly ignorant but are willing to let positive words soothe them more than any actual help, much like every other alternative treatment to addiction that doesn't involve rehab or sobriety. As she ages, her influence will dwindle, just like everyone, and I guess if she wants to be the captain of the SS Diet-Beat-Us, no one can stop her, but I hope she doesn't succeed in sinking any of the lifeboats attempting to flee that sinking ship.
People with ARFID can be underweight, normal weight or overweight; they are often malnourished regardless of weight
Heirloom rocking chairs would have been made to last. It’s only modern day furniture that isn’t made to last.
I only recently started paying attention to weight limits on items I use. It was really eye opening and it definitely made me rethink my life. I didn't start dieting but saw the world a bit differently. Things like the pool floatie, scales at water parks, my treadmill vs the hotel treadmill, etc.
Heads up people with ARFID can be overweight because the safe foods are typically highly processed high calorie foods
I sincerely hope she changes her mind on properly treating her diabetes. Soon. I have been a Radiologic Technologist for twenty years. I have worked in ERs, ICUs, and full hospitals during my entire career. The diabetics who do not take their disease seriously suffer greatly. Amputations, gangrenous wounds that won’t heal, kidney failure, and blindness are a just a few of the things they go through.
Agree 100%. I, like you, have seen the horrendous effects of untreated diabetes. I'm newly retired from a 40yr career as an ICU RN, it's a shame that fat activists can't see the harm they are promoting
It's really doubtful that her grandma's heirloom chair which was like made when people actually built things really well and out of solid wood, would be so cheaply made it just broke for no reason. The fact it survived all those years is kind of testament to that. And yeah your Mom said that because she is an enabler... it explains alot honestly.
My dad has ARFID and it’s a scary disorder. Like, if for some social situation he goes to a restaurant he didn’t previously look at the menu, there’s a decent chance he’ll have a panic attack.
As someone who works in the furniture industry.
1. You get what you pay for. Solid furniture is expensive and heavy so it cost more to ship and make etc.
2. Heirloom furniture is built very well. There’s a lot of high end manufactures that still use the “old” way of making furniture because it’s tied to their name and made to last rather than be “trendy” only. It may be old and worn but should last.
I have my great grandmothers rocking chair. (I’m the 4th generation to own it.) And that thing is built to last.
1 Corinthians 15:1-4
King James Version
15 Moreover, brethren, I declare unto you the gospel which I preached unto you, which also ye have received, and wherein ye stand;
2 By which also ye are saved, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain.
3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures;
4 And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures:
I'm 100% for fat liberation.... I'm busting my tail to "liberate" as much fat from my body as possible. I want to not just live, I want to thrive in a healthy body. Because I love myself and I love my kids enough to be around. ❤
You got this! Don't give up ❤
@@DragonQuicksilver thank you! I'm keeping on keeping on!!! 😁
I'm also a fat "liberator". I've "liberated" fat that I haven't been able "liberate" in 30 years! It feels good.
Keep up the good work!😃
I agree, the self insertion into other people’s lives is the biggest problem in that community. It’s like a hive mind, you do one thing that they deem as “harmful” that means the entire hive mind has been harmed by your actions. I think this whole wiping situation shows it off in 4k, 1080p resolution. “Well I can’t wipe MY a$$ and I’M happy so YOUR feelings are wrong and ableist 🤓☝️”
Let’s go John!!!
Quick!
arfid often does lead to obesity despite having restrictive in the name, because many sufferers prefer highly processed foods that have no risk of differing taste/texture from yesterday's portion, the way that a banana or cucumber might. a pop tart tastes the same no matter what, but an apple might be crunchy today and then tomorrow's is mealy & squishy. kianna docherty made a good video about a woman who may have been suffering from it.
My fiance has ARFID and has gained tons of weight because the foods they don't avoid are highly processed.
Never once have they used ARFID to make excuses for their body weight/physical health. They saw the problem that their extra weight was causing and went to a psychatrist and mental health counselor to find ways around their ARFID and how to eat healthier. They are down 80lbs!
It makes me really upset to see people using ARFID as an excuse for why they can now go the opposite direction and be unhealthy
Yes, some modern fast furniture is made shitty (although despite being slightly chubby I've never broken any 👀)
But the heirloom rocking chair that has survived 4 generations? Naahhh...
It's my responsibility as a dog owner to ensure my dogs stay at a helathy weight. Adult humans have free will, and can - and do - eat themselves into an early grave. No-one can stop them, but now they're demanding everyone be ok with it.
Free will is nonsense. Dogs do what they do due to prior circumstances and so do humans.
It's also funny that you specified "adult" humans. At what age do people aquire "free will"?
If your furniture survived two world wars but couldn't survive your a$$ then it's not the chair that's the problem.
Always enjoy your take on things. Thanks!
Justice for rocking chair 😔
7:39 This is something I feel like people rarely aknowledge. I've lost +30kg and I still eat stuff that may not be the healthiest: chocolate, soda, donuts etc but in moderation! You can 100% have treats and lose weight, you just need to incorporate those into a healthy diet that supports your goals
Losing weight 100% helps with diabetes, i was 297 lbs when I was diagnosed. I started cleaning up my diet that day (partly because I can't afford insulin) and im now in the 190's (ive been fluctuating lately mainly because I've been stress eating) with my diabetes in remission. Guess what, the same dietary choices that decrease blood sugar usually also help weight loss!
Honestly, I've been over 400lbs and I looked at myself in the mirror and could see I was killing myself. I couldn't walk, I couldn't empty the dishwasher without taking breaks. I couldn't shower without back pain. I couldn't exist without hurting. I'm 130lbs down, through a really long emotional journey these past 3 years of tending to myself and being kind to myself, and being patient with myself. Doing what she said and listening to my body and eating things that make me feel good (nutrition) and not overeating (numb and full and miserable). I feel like I've been trapped in a pit and I've been climbing out of it. People like her actually make me sick, because I feel like the same type of people who go to her are probably the same people where I was 3 years ago. People looking for support and help and she poisons them and I honestly think she's a selfish and terrible human being.
I was about 50 pounds less than I am now, and I sat in a folding chair and I broke it at the laundry. It was humiliating, and it could've been painful. There's a weight limit on the chair and I'm fat so I didn't do the math. Do we have to make the entire world responsible for our comfort every single second of the day?
Ive lost weight already thank God, i lost 10lbs? I hope to lose more. I think ive stopped snoring now. Im happy about that.
that is an accomplishment to be proud of :)
She's not just delusional, she's dangerous.
She demonized that one doc for giving her literature on pre-diabetes and now has actual diabetes. Is it not possible that that doctor was correct to be concerned? I’m just so confused by her perspective.
I work with a woman who has lost a lot of weight and she definitely still has a negative image of herself. If any of us in the department are talking about dieting or how we are fat or chubby, said woman will speak up and say it’s triggering language for her. You know, that’s fair. You got problems. You’re trying to work through them in your own way (she recently started going to therapy) and now if we want to talk about our own weight loss journey, we just don’t talk about it in front of her. We have a small department, we try to be respectful. She has set up a boundary and we try to respect that. Honest communication with your coworkers is gold. No reason to go to HR!
4:50 the funny part about this is my HR person lost alot if weight recently take Ozempic and when i noticed i asked her if she minded me asking hed about it and she was so elated that i noticed and talked about how its been a long battle for her that she has happily felt like she got a hold of. All that to say, i feel like unless some directly insulted someone else for their weight, she might be a bit confused by this complaint.
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She really needs to get over herself.
And that heirloom rocking chair was not made poorly.
Old furniture was made to last. I used to have a bed frame that was +100 years old and it was perfect
i’m confused as to why people are reaching out to her for prediabetes/eating/health/medical advice? and why is she giving medical advice as a person with no expertise or medical background? this is wild to me
EVERYTHING is "triggering" nowadays. Grow a backbone. There's a difference between being actively bullied and feeling upset because you can't police other people's words.
She has no issues bullying others online when she feels justified. She called another influencer an “ableist piece of sh*t” when they said online that they decided to lose weight because they couldn’t wipe their own a*s. She made a mean IG post about GlitterandLazers coming out about losing weight to improve her health.
It feels like Carissa only wants to create a diverse and inclusive space for people who think and act like she does.
Ah, yes. The ROCKING CHAIR is to blame. It was after all, so poorly made that it lasted for DECADES. I am sure that it is pure coincidence that it broke AFTER she sat in it./S🙄
1 Corinthians 15:1-4
King James Version
15 Moreover, brethren, I declare unto you the gospel which I preached unto you, which also ye have received, and wherein ye stand;
2 By which also ye are saved, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain.
3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures;
4 And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures:
I can see where Corissa is coming from (stay with me) in that there is a huge amount of talk, particularly at the start of the year, about weight loss and it’s hard to avoid. And it’s exhausting. But that’s not on other people to moderate their conversations. I think the language around how we talk about bodies isn’t healthy for women in particular.
And she is saying it’s only now she has discovered “joyful movement” but isn’t that what she has been bleating on about for years?
Both her and her partner are eating their way into health issues and immobility in their 30’s. I don’t even think J is 32 yet. And they’re living the life of someone in their 90’s. You can play mental gymnastics as much as you like but I refuse to believe you can be physically and mentally healthy not being able to do basic life tasks in your early 30’s.
I can't with FatgirlFlow, they are the antithesis of health at every size.
When she was talking about using language that corporations will respond to, she was literally just explaining how to be manipulative.
My mom has T2 diabetes, and so did both her parents. My grandmother went blind because of poorly regulated blood sugar. The thing is, my grandparents lived in Nicaragua and had poor access to medical care. It is MIND BLOWING to me that someone who lives in the United States and has access to medicine would choose not to make changes that would help with diabetes. T2 diabetes is SO manageable with dietary changes and exercise. My cousin's uncle had a leg amputated because of his diabetes. Her disregard for the impact of food on that disease is frankly insulting.
I’m so huge that simply sitting in a chair broke it, damn that chair! It’s not my fault for stuffing my face for years to outsize general furniture.
Every time I’ve put on some weight, I realize how uncomfortable I am and start to fix it. Losing the weight makes clothes fit better, for instance chairs, etc.
HR is there to protect the company. Period
The delusion with the furniture!!! “It’s not you” maybe not, but I haven’t broken any furniture, nor has anyone else that is thin…
I have arfid (a co-mornidity of bulimia abd diabetic bulimia). Arfid is NOT this. It controls and rules your life in a way that is so crippling and hindering controlling everything you do, not just what/how you eat. She is so disappointing
the whole "i became diabetic while on ozempic" is sounding a lot like "i was drinking water then i tripped and fell. i no longer drink water because i don't want to fall".
edit: that rocking chair incident not being a wake up call is insane.
All I can think of when she ranted about the rocking chair was the scene from shallow hal. What's this chair made of?!
Here so early! Love your videos 😊
“You have to say things like…” manipulation and lies to have HR police people’s conversations. The height of entitlement.
I have lost 87lbs, and potblucks at work trigger me so I'm going to HR today. 😒
I have ARFID but was still able to lose over 100 lbs (and still counting). I believe that when I was obese, I used all kinds of things to make excuses for my weight and inability to lose it. I had gained and lost repeatedly, until this most recent time losing, where I was able to get to the root of the problem with a simple mind set shift. As a formerly fat person I can say that from my personal experience, you can put all of the proverbial bandaids on but you won’t be successful long term until you’re able to make that huge mental shift. ARFID made it harder for me, but not impossible by any means.
Lmao she wants them to go to HR for merely talking about diet or weight? That’s insane.
This is extreme! She can leave the break/lunch room if she doesn’t like what she heard. The freakin entitlement!
addiction clouds the mind
HR is NOT actually there to mediate your problems. They're there to protect the company, so I wouldn't go to them except with serious concerns such as harrassment or discrimination.
Thank you for making my 15 minute break at work entertaining :)
The amount of copium and coddling these ADULTS think they deserve is ridiculous they all need to grow up
It was disgusting saying knowing what she knows now she would not seek treatment for pre diabetes like wtf…. And her making it seem like ozempic caused her diabetes
Lol this woman has never worked for a corporation
For real. HR doesn't give a single fuck about your feelings unless you have a potential legal case against them. They are there to protect the company from lawsuits and nothing else lol
10:30 onwards -
honestly!!! i am disabled now and my body movements are very restricted due to pain. there is little i can do get rid of the source of the pain for now, but you know what i actually do? take the prescribed medication. talk to my general practitioner and listen to real medical doctors (not nutritionists). and more than anything else, make sure to treat my body as well as i can so it doesn't get worse. for me that includes losing weight and getting stronger as best as i can, because i don't want to end up completely bedbound and completely unable to get out of bed on my own by the time I'm 40 bc i'm too fat/heavy, if i can help it. like you said, get started sooner rather than later.
i personally believe owe my body a better lifestyle. the fact that she was literally diagnosed with pre-diabetes and still refused to do the best she could is beyond me
I have ARFID, it has nothing to do with restricting for diet/ weight. It is common in neurodivergent people and people with mental illnesses like OCD, BPD, Bipolar etc. I don't like her making it about diets.
Agree with you about the HR thing. I’ve always been the biggest person in places I worked in, but I don’t let other people’s discussions regarding their diet and health journey bother me. Because I know it’s not about me. And when other people reach their weight loss goals I’m happy for them even if I’m struggling with my own battles with my health and body image. It’s pretty selfish for people to always just be concerned about their own feelings and sensitivities. If it affects you negatively, then take yourself out of the conversation.
I have reversed my diabetes into pre-diabetic. Guess how? Diet, minimal exercise and fasting. Im still obese but I've improved my condition. This woman is beyond delusional and is going to hurt people.
So she wants people to walk into the workplace, terrified of what they might say, knowing they can never mention their diet or exercise, least the thought police come after them.
Love your videos😊❤️
So what, every single chair that gets manufactured should be engineered to withstand 600+ lbs? Where does is end? She gets a gold metal in mental gymnastics to avoid taking accountability
So disrespectful to self-diagnose with ARFID. My boyfriend actually has ARFID and it's such a struggle. He's highly underweight, he can't derive any joy from food, sometimes he has a hard time eating more than 100-200kcal per meal. I'm scared it will affect his health, and we're both working hard to help him with it. This is a slap in the face, and just shows how uninformed, and frankly unintelligent this person is.
I hope things get better :)
@@melissasheppard6674 thank you
I do want to say, as much as I don’t like her, it’s not really fair to just assume that she has self-diagnosed when it’s a disorder that’s on a spectrum (of sizes, how it presents in terms of numbers of safe foods, etcetera)
Plus lots of people can be fat with Arfid as the safe foods often have a lot of fat and carbs as they’re usually more sweet/candy/cracker type foods and not things like fruits and vegetables.
I have Arfid and currently am obese, would you like to tell me that I’m faking it?
When I was in elementary school, I broke a metal chair that was a bit too old. It wasn't my fault per se, but I wasn't in a healthy weight and it showed, so I felt really humiliated when people laughed. Even if it wasn't my fault, I still knew I had to lose weight. I was 11 back then, but I was 6kg heavier than I'm now at 21. Unacceptable.
If you’re with coworkers that are talking about weight and dieting and you don’t want to be part of it you can either leave the conversation or ask them if you can avoid that topic and discuss something else. It’s FINE to ask the latter of them as long as you are ok with either answer. If they move on to another topic no issue. Great. If they say they don’t want to. Great. You can leave. Neither is wrong. It’s ok to ask for those things as long as you’re not judging the answer. But it’s definitely not something to go to HR about.
Been awhile since seeing your channel. I miss when you would end videos by saying, "look at how buff I am." 😊
My A1C was at 8 lost 65lbs now its at 6
Furniture wise that point is insane old furniture is waaaay more sturdy than modern stuff hence bars buy vintage stuff as flat pack falls apart my family has chairs that are 90 years old it’s just no furniture is built to hold a person who legitimately weighs as much as a vending machine
I have multiple relatives with ARFID. it’s often tied to anxiety/OCD or sensory processing disorders. One of the hallmarks is that they often have “failure to thrive” (ie fall very short of the expected height/weight milestones) as kids because they are so restrictive in their food anxiety that they will simply not eat if their “safe” foods are not available, or will not eat in certain settings, or won’t eat a caloric-sufficient amount of their chosen foods because of anxiety, etc. That said, it’s not a condition that goes hand in hand with pre-diabetes and obesity. Maybe she does have it, but immediately it brought to mind Tess Holliday and her anorexia claims in my mind