HOW I LOST 50+lbs AFTER PREGNANCY! STORYTIME +GRWM

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    Hi my loves! Today I am back with one of my most requested video. How I lost the baby weight! I figured I'd talk about this topic while I got ready today! I hope you guys enjoy this video!!! Remember be patient with yourself. Whether you just had a baby or youre just trying to lose some extra weight. You are beautiful and I am rooting for you forever. Love you my babes!!!!! XOXO Carli
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Комментарии • 508

  • @CarliBel55
    @CarliBel55  Год назад +2

    I Can’t Believe I’m Sharing This Story. : ruclips.net/video/S70Hh3vlLeo/видео.html

  • @nikkimunno2720
    @nikkimunno2720 Год назад +22

    You are one of a few YT that I follow who’ve stayed down to earth and keep it honest. You’re such a beautiful soul! ♥️

  • @kaylajanine
    @kaylajanine Год назад +19

    I used to be so fixated on high PH waters. Over the last year researching I realized it’s just highly processed tap water with minerals added back after it was stripped. I never drink any purified water anymore and stick only to spring water which is real water that’s never been treated. Spring also comes in a variety of PH balances if that’s important to you! Just some food for thought! Longtime fan :)

  • @BreaMichelle3
    @BreaMichelle3 Год назад +162

    Family are the HARDEST people to say no to. Especially if you’re close with them. I’m so proud of you for saying no, even though it was hard. Some people might not see it as a big deal- but as a fellow serial people pleaser, this is something that keeps us up at night lol. Thank you for sharing that tip ❤

    • @noorthernluces190
      @noorthernluces190 Год назад +3

      So true. It really does occupy more space in my mind than I should let it 😅

  • @cristinaistrate7636
    @cristinaistrate7636 Год назад +2

    Basically if you are a mom who doesn’t have the financially power to have a personal trainer, an organizer (or person to help u with ur schedule) and different types of beauty procedures, don’t put stress and pressure on yourself to look exactly like before or Even better than before. Cause is not normal or natural.
    Patience and self love❤

  • @xFreakyNatx
    @xFreakyNatx Год назад +5

    That’s crazy because I was literally scrolling through your IG yesterday looking at how amazing your body is !! Especially considering having a baby

  • @CristinaH0x
    @CristinaH0x Год назад +1

    One thing my therapist taught me and really change things for me is “when someone shows you who they are, believe it.” This has helped me in so many ways. It has really changed ever having an unrealistic expectation on people that will never be anything but who they are whether that be good or bad. Love from another woman taking it one day a time too🫶🏼

  • @jessiejayyb
    @jessiejayyb Год назад +1

    I love how transparent you are!

  • @laurenteremi3534
    @laurenteremi3534 Год назад +7

    I went through couple therapy and it was such a great learning experience for us both! We come from 2 different religious backgrounds and it sometimes can be hard at times as weird as that sounds because we are so different but hearing how to work with one another and talk better/communicate was interesting to learn!

  • @jayheyder
    @jayheyder Год назад +1

    girl! you got your nose done? it looks amazing:)

  • @manifestingmaren
    @manifestingmaren Год назад +1

    yes mindset!! its called energetic weight and is very real! our mindset dictates the way we look, absolutely! AnitaSila has a great video about this she just made, how to manifest your dream body!

  • @abberdugo266
    @abberdugo266 Год назад

    Hi Carli ! I go to Starbucks everyday and I try to order my drinks without a lot of sugar and I’m always looking for new ideas . Do you get them made more healthy if so can you share your choices ?

  • @alexisdeedee2507
    @alexisdeedee2507 Год назад +2

    love you so much carli❤ aspire to be like you ❤

    • @amandasmolar3098
      @amandasmolar3098 Год назад

      Hi Carli! Mama of two here ✌🏼 you look amazing! Such an inspiration for so many people out here. I grew up a town away from from you and I know you recently moved. Not sure if you’re still in the area but you were talking about sushi and I just had to tell you about a place in Howell called Poke Burrito and they have THE BEST sushi and hibachi food. Give it a try whenever you’re back in town! 🥰👍🏼

  • @Nanilicious3986
    @Nanilicious3986 Год назад

    Been in therapy now for over a year and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made.
    So much generational trama i didn’t even know I had. Got introduced to “The Assertiveness Workbook” and it’s taught me so much I highly recommend! It’s on Amazon!
    Love you! Happy Thanksgiving! ❤

  • @ivetteto8845
    @ivetteto8845 Год назад

    Thank you for being so honest!!

  • @ayatchafaqui
    @ayatchafaqui Год назад

    Thank you for sharing, loved this ❤️

  • @katemccambley5444
    @katemccambley5444 Год назад +29

    I recently lost my boyfriend to suicide--it happened on my birthday and at the time we weren't together as I had asked for some space. He had a lot of stress on his plate and was battling his own demons, but I still felt, and still feel, a lot of guilt. My therapist told me something though that has really helped. He said, "None of us has enough divinity within us to affect the actions and choices of others." I hope these words bring someone else comfort as well. If you've lost someone recently to suicide, please know, it is NOT. YOUR. FAULT. Sending you love and hugs 💞

    • @ClaireEmilia
      @ClaireEmilia Год назад +1

      I am so sorry!

    • @annag9353
      @annag9353 Год назад +1

      My heart goes out to you. Your absolutely right, it is not your fault

  • @day6879
    @day6879 Год назад +278

    I always love seeing you Carli! I’m a therapist and love that you change the stigma of mental health & share your story. I included a communication skill below❤️
    Something that I learned that is helpful is using ‘i feel’ statements to express myself especially with family members or in a relationship. It helps reduce negativity and blame.
    Ex: instead of saying you upset me because you do things last minute etc.
    you can say ‘I feel’ upset because it was last minute and I felt anxious etc.
    Words matter as well, this creates a different tone and helps the person understand you more as well!
    Been watching you for yearssss carli sending you love and happiness xoxo❤️

    • @Lunetsylove2012
      @Lunetsylove2012 Год назад +1

      I think this is really helpful information and I am going to try my best to use this towards my daily life. ❤

    • @jacquelinemmartin
      @jacquelinemmartin Год назад

      What a great tip! Will try it out also! Thanks! ❤

    • @armireardolli3935
      @armireardolli3935 Год назад

      This was so helpful. Thank you so much Day.

    • @krystalberas3915
      @krystalberas3915 Год назад +1

      What if you’ve used this method before and the person says “well you shouldn’t feel that way” and the person still doesn’t understand you. speaking from personal experience. What then?

  • @vlrose07
    @vlrose07 Год назад +27

    I learned the source for my empathy, unstable identity, people pleasing, picking bad boyfriends, is due to my father who is a narcissist. Even though I though I had a great childhood I’ve learned now as an adult that there has been no rhyme or reason to his words my whole life because he had no emotion just a need to continually make himself the center of attention and put down everyone around him! I’m so angry but happy to have found reasons about myself and my personality that were ingrained into me since birth, but a lot of it’s because my dad has been unknowingly raising me with abuse. My prayers with everyone else struggling with any difficulties, illness, trauma and stress in your life!

  • @michellebaconcini6902
    @michellebaconcini6902 Год назад +57

    Carli , you taught me so much over the years ! Like cutting my own hair , and doing my eyebrows . I have loved you from the very beginning and related to you so much! We are so similar and we’re both Libras . This video you talked about balance and always being a yes person even when you want to say no! That is totally me as well, and yet another Libra trait (being a people pleaser) ! As Libras we are just natural charmers and we always need to please! Im going to use the advice your therapist gave you everytime I land myself in a situation that I want to say no to lol. I’m so excited for you to make more videos !! I’ve missed you 🎉

  • @jlt001928
    @jlt001928 Год назад +2

    I’d say the opposite. She looks short af but she’s taller than me lol

  • @karma3212
    @karma3212 Год назад +22

    Love the therapy advice 🥹 people pleasing is a difficult “habit” to break.
    Hope you know that you are loved ❤️❤️

  • @pratyusha1706
    @pratyusha1706 Год назад +4

    There was this one post of yours, I vaguely remember that some girl commented that you broke up with Anthony while you were pregnant, and then again got back with him and still there was a rough patch. You responded saying that it was wrong. But only a few days later you actually deleted all the posts with Anthony and confirmed the break up. If you're so honest with your followers or subscribers, why did you lie then?? It's absolutely your personal stuff but why make it public in the first place and involve everyone and when something of this sort happens, brush it off saying it's your personal thing!! Don't get it at all
    No hate, just an opinion

    • @TheBebe7124
      @TheBebe7124 Год назад

      Girl SHUT UP. She lost her father, and went through a breakup & pregnancy all within 2 years. You’re not her family or her friend, she doesn’t owe us any sort of explanation for anything, no matter how transparent she was at first. At your big prehistoric age you should be ashamed. Mind your damn business!

  • @jazminerepass1779
    @jazminerepass1779 Год назад +16

    One thing my therapist taught me that has always stuck with me. Is to stop forcing yourself to be around people who aren't around for you. And it's been very eye opening how you can go day to day life and people you think really care about you don't even reach out.... or aren't around.

  • @bedheadbeauty3
    @bedheadbeauty3 Год назад +83

    You’re the only RUclipsr I’ve consistently watched since the beginning! I love how pure, real and relatable you are ❤️ I had a baby 5 months ago and am not with the father anymore and seeing you grow and heal has helped me see the “light at the end of the tunnel” Thank you for sharing as much as you do 🫶🏼

    • @sika3395
      @sika3395 Год назад +2

      I'm on the same boat, thank you for sharing 🙏🏻

  • @ThePricipleOfParsimony
    @ThePricipleOfParsimony Год назад +3

    Carli, forgive me, but, you look prettier before eye shadow and lip liner. I wish the bottom liner was ON the lip instead of under it. It makes it look turned inside out. Still gorge though!

  • @courtneyjones5206
    @courtneyjones5206 Год назад +52

    we loveeeee honest and open Carli! I know it’s way easier said than done but we all love you for who you are!!! xx ❤️

  • @HelloBombshell21
    @HelloBombshell21 Год назад +27

    It’s been helpful for me this week to learn about intrinsic validation vs. extrinsic. As a former people pleasing perfectionist, violent abuse / r word victim, C-PTSD person. Finding VALUE in self validating and befriending your internal voice is so …. Nice. It’s coming back to yourself

    • @linn4thewin
      @linn4thewin Год назад +3

      YES! Self validation is truly the key to a free, fulfilled spirit. Absolutely easier said than done, I wish you nothing but luck and happiness on your healing journey. When in doubt, know that you have a friend walking longside of you on the other side of the earth.

    • @g.s.632
      @g.s.632 Год назад +3

      Girl you are a warrior. Keep listening to your gut

    • @HelloBombshell21
      @HelloBombshell21 Год назад +1

      @@g.s.632 Wow thank you

    • @HelloBombshell21
      @HelloBombshell21 Год назад +1

      @@linn4thewin Oh my God, thank you

  • @TK-cz8gv
    @TK-cz8gv Год назад +2

    Unpopular opinion but tbh I never liked your sister. I'm sure you love her and she's probably a good person inside but she took over the beautybybel account to promote her business because she wanted to take a shortcut and use your fame. Same thing with the podcast.. And the way she was promoting her business just didn t sound genuine and honest to me. I'm happy you are learning to say no.

  • @NJgirlMel
    @NJgirlMel Год назад +13

    It’s really amazing how true you’ve stayed all these years to your channel. I love it & look forward to your videos!! ❤. So many OG RUclipsrs have just kinda abandoned their channels or rarely post ….. you still put up great content… GRWM, story time, vlogs- all of it & I love it!! Also former (born & raised) Jersey girl here!! Much love from (now) NC!! Xoxo

  • @Laura-49r
    @Laura-49r Год назад +10

    It's so lovely when you mention Nicole. l love you both and it's no surprise that you two have such a great bond. You are both such gentle and positive souls!❤❤

  • @heatherholyland157
    @heatherholyland157 Год назад +11

    Typical Libra … keep the peace 😊
    You’re beautiful inside and out Carli 💜 xx

  • @katiesettle557
    @katiesettle557 Год назад +72

    Just want to comment and say I took the first step to getting help with anxiety the other day and after talking with the Dr without even doing any treatment yet I felt so much better! So if anyone ever needs help do not be embarrassed so many people need help and you can’t throw a rock and hit someone who doesn’t get it so you are not alone 😃 btw I love you Carly ❤

    • @BreaMichelle3
      @BreaMichelle3 Год назад +6

      Yes! There is absolutely nothing wrong with needing medication, therapy or a combination of the two! A happy mama is a happy family. I’ve always was so “anti medicine” (for me) but sometimes we need to utilize the amazing medical interventions available to us today. Keep going mamas! ❤

  • @misskothy9116
    @misskothy9116 Год назад +6

    Best advice I got from my therapist: as the person you're talking to to rephrase what you just told them in their own words, cause sometimes people just have different definitions of the same word and it can create the most horrible of misscommunications and lead to both parties being upset over the most mundane of things. Seriously life-changing try it anyone who reads this comment.
    For anyone who reads this: you are beautiful and I wish you to have a lovely day. ❤️

  • @boofreakingyahkiddy
    @boofreakingyahkiddy Год назад +759

    The societal need to lose “baby weight” after pregnancy is wild y’all.

    • @Simplelivingslowliving
      @Simplelivingslowliving Год назад +14

      I breasted until my baby was 11 months old and I actually struggled to gain or maintain weight. I only stopped breastfeeding because I got pregnant again. And now because of having been so sick during the first trimester I lost even more weight
      I guess not everyone out there is trying to lose weight after baby.

    • @marissa6871
      @marissa6871 Год назад +77

      You're right on the money with the crazy pressure of media for women to be twigs. It's wild!
      However, I don't think a lot of women do it for "society". It's vital to lifelong health to maintain a healthy BMI. Returning back to a healthy weight after a pregnancy is wise beyond words. Otherwise, if a woman holds onto 15 extra pounds with each pregnancy then she's 30-45 pounds heavier if she chooses to have 2 or 3 children. This is very negative for the average- height woman being 5'5" and a huge impact on heart health, skeletal health, cholesterol, mental health, etc. etc. I guess working for 12 years as a physician's assistant in a big hospital has made me a huge advocate for exercise and maintaining healthy BMI. Haha
      Definitely do it for your health and well-being and not "for the bikini" ! 👍👍❤️❤️

    • @OmgRazan
      @OmgRazan Год назад +122

      Not everything is for society and influence of social media. Its our natural instinct as women to wanting to be beautiful and fit in all ages. We do it for ourselves. We want to look pretty for ourselves.

    • @EMILYHERRERA
      @EMILYHERRERA Год назад +23

      @@marissa6871 you should really know how flawed BMI is, aka it's not evidence based practice, yet you're on social media specifically promoting it. Not only is it not evidence-based, but it's caused quite a bit of harm which is WHY it's problematic. Get up-to-date, and do better. I've not seen another practitioner promote that in decades. Thank you.

    • @Sincerelysarajane
      @Sincerelysarajane Год назад +2

      Agreed

  • @wendyschlegel5031
    @wendyschlegel5031 Год назад +8

    I love what you said about not thinking you're on a diet. I learned that this spring and I have lost around 30 pounds so far. I am very heavy, and I have a long way to go. I was walking twice a day. Now it's only once a day weather providing. I live in central Massachusetts, and we are getting the remnants of a hurricane this weekend. I also agree with therapy. I was sexually abused by a family member when I was very young. Talking to someone that knows what to tell you is very important. Lastly, you look stunning in this video.

  • @melissashipp9988
    @melissashipp9988 Год назад +9

    Setting boundaries, practicing self care and taking time for myself have been the most important tools that I’ve taken away from therapy. Therapy is an integral part of my life and I love it!

  • @cakehungrygirl
    @cakehungrygirl Год назад +4

    Do you know how when you’re younger and you just listen to music for the beat but when you’re older you understand the lyrics? well now that I’m in my 30 Ashanti song foolish lyric hit home today, she said:
    “Ooh, I trusted you, I trusted you
    So sad, so sad what love will make you do
    All the things that we accept
    Be the things that we regret…”

  • @fatinkhai
    @fatinkhai Год назад +3

    5'4 is pretty tall to me. Thought you're a tiny gal cs you look smol 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • @mariar6955
    @mariar6955 Год назад +10

    I have been struggling to lose my baby weight. But hearing your advice and your story has inspired me to try to be more consistent

  • @sbg1fan892
    @sbg1fan892 Год назад +11

    Thank you for being so transparent !! Makes me feel a lot better about my pregnancies 🙈🥰🥰

  • @Wormate-io
    @Wormate-io Год назад +2

    Raise your hand if you've been watching Carli Bybel for a long time

  • @shayshaymann113
    @shayshaymann113 Год назад +23

    Carli, I genuinely appreciate you being open and honest! I’ve always had respect for you as a person, but hearing how open and canny you were, felt so great! It just validates the fact that no matter how big of an influencer is, they’re human too going through real life obstacles like I am. You’re beautiful inside and out and thank you ☺️

  • @cristinaflores6241
    @cristinaflores6241 Год назад +1

    Those are great tips & I hope people also take away that GENETICS plays a huge role! It won’t work for everyone

  • @thenincure
    @thenincure Год назад +6

    I’m In therapy now, and I learned to read the room recognize the good and bad things in a situation and make a decision based on what’s best for me. I find myself idealizing a situation when sometimes it’s not the best thing.

  • @mariarios-iy5mk
    @mariarios-iy5mk Год назад +1

    Love the dress. the color is my favorite.... where is it from please... Love your videos so inspiring,🥰

  • @MP288
    @MP288 Год назад +2

    This whole thing with people only drinking bottled water when there's running water. 🤯 What an ecological disaster.

  • @yarethgonzalez2275
    @yarethgonzalez2275 Год назад +6

    Great advice on the saying “no” when you really don’t want to do something for others. I’m going to start trying it because I always say yes to everyone as well to try to please everyone but myself. 😌

  • @krystalynnmakeup6707
    @krystalynnmakeup6707 Год назад +5

    So proud of you Carli. You’re an amazing mom !! I still got some baby weight and I’m still not happy with how I look. 🥺😩

  • @irisliniado5270
    @irisliniado5270 Год назад +6

    I gained over 20 kilos since I had my first child 6 years ago, I have 3 children now and I have to get back to myself. Thanks for the inspiration ❤ been watching you since you’ve started and I am truly grateful for your realness

  • @annaperez7308
    @annaperez7308 Год назад +17

    Carli(!) this is legit my FAVORITE video you’ve ever done!!! I loved how authentic and open and vulnerable the conversation was. Much love from Utah 💙🐧
    Something a therapist taught me is that people pleasing is like abandoning yourself bc it’s like you’d rather abandon yourself then upset the person. When I thought about that, I realized there’s no one worth abandoning myself for ☺️

  • @dianaguzman1504
    @dianaguzman1504 Год назад +4

    You can also grow in height during pregnancy also you’re feet can grow 1/2in

    • @Simplelivingslowliving
      @Simplelivingslowliving Год назад

      😅 I was def not prepared for the feet growing . No one told me that could happen and I have so many people around me but no one told me lol
      I was shocked when I noticed they grew. But thankfully it sorta went back to normal

  • @valerieplace589
    @valerieplace589 Год назад +6

    As someone who struggles with communication with my SO, I brought that up in therapy and learned someone really valuable about myself. When I tend to cut off my boyfriend and not let him complete his thoughts, I am acting in anxiety. When I do this I am anxious and I had to learn the root as to why I was anxious. All so eye opening and has really helped me correct my anxious behaviors for the better! 😊

  • @kirankandola9121
    @kirankandola9121 Год назад +4

    UGH love you so much its sickening!!! kidding, but seriously.. have been watching you since i was in college in like 2011 and despite neither of us (I think) being in therapy then, I swear you just always brightened my day and made it better and now (we're both in therapy, yay for us!!) and thriving and you still brighten my day

  • @hilquin1
    @hilquin1 Год назад +23

    Wow 50 pounds 😮

    • @pippysplaytime1234
      @pippysplaytime1234 Год назад +1

      35 of it is baby and whomb fluid and blood volume.. she lost twenty

  • @kalishajnz
    @kalishajnz Год назад +6

    I love that you shared that piece of advice about pleasing people cause sometimes it's hard to tell people no especially the people that you love most, you almost feel obligated. I'm definitely going to try that out. 💜

  • @Christinae128
    @Christinae128 Год назад +3

    I have noticed since beginning therapy that I’m too self critical, that I need to give myself more credit and I people please a lot as well. I totally understand when you talk about keeping others happy. Unfortunately at this time, I have to look for a new therapist 😅

  • @LoSteph
    @LoSteph Год назад +5

    Love how honest you are Carli 💕 and I’ve really enjoyed watching you grow I’m a new mommy and can relate to you so much thanks for always being motivating and so kind hearted 💕

  • @berenicen3844
    @berenicen3844 Год назад +1

    Me (wanting to lose weight) watching this 5 months postpartum eating mexican sweet bread with coffee 😐😂

  • @crystalgivan6296
    @crystalgivan6296 Год назад +1

    I'm breastfeeding going on 2 yrs... and my body holds onto weight when I'm BFing I do not lose weight 🤣. That's why some women lose milk because they aren't getting enough calories because they are so concerned about the weight

  • @MrsSullie22
    @MrsSullie22 Год назад +2

    Use this as a “Carli PLEASE bring your palette back!!” Button 💖💖

  • @emmavodick6955
    @emmavodick6955 Год назад +3

    Love you, Carli!! Great tips and advice ❤️
    Also I’d reconsider the non-reusable plastic water bottle usage. Creating plastic bottles releases tons of carbon dioxide into the atmosphere and a ton of waste since not all are recycled. Most wind up in landfills even if you try to recycle them.

  • @SonoNariFiorewithGrace
    @SonoNariFiorewithGrace Год назад +2

    You can talk about anything in prayer sis, Almighty God cares about us and wants us to talk to him and for us to hear him from too!
    There’s also prophetic symbolism, miracles signs and wonders, I’m glad you’re healing!
    It’s important to grow.
    Much love! 💞✨🔥🦋

  • @noryyxo6509
    @noryyxo6509 Год назад +4

    Love you Carli! Been watching you for soooo long, you’ve never changed always been this amazing woman ❤️ you have evolved from being at home with your mom doing your makeup and ootd to this amazing mom and speaking about real life topics such as therapy and mom life in addition to makeup and beauty ! I just love it, my life has also evolved so it’s been amazing to log onto my RUclips and to still relate to you and your videos. God bless you and baby renz ❤

  • @tahira.k13
    @tahira.k13 Год назад +2

    Aside from the great results, I love your commitment to late 2000s intros with the quotes and sparkles. So nostalgic and lovely.

  • @nicolewilfong
    @nicolewilfong Год назад +2

    I agree once you stop thinking about losing weight 24/7 and more on how you feel, hunger cues ect it just comes off on it’s own. I recently stopped weighing myself too and I feel so free

  • @guga251
    @guga251 Год назад +2

    It also helps if you have always worked out before, during after having a baby and eating healthy. But for people that went through ppd or ppa that is not the case. You eat because if gives you comfort and it’s something you can control in your life when other things are out of your control. Either way Carli I mean you have always looked fabulous❤

  • @southerngraceglamour
    @southerngraceglamour Год назад +3

    What makes me happiest about watching you is that you haven’t changed at all! So many other RUclipsrs that I’ve watched for years are so different now that they have money and success and I just want to say thank you for being real ♥️

  • @celestedasilva4109
    @celestedasilva4109 Год назад +2

    I would love to see a video from you and Nicole together. Maybe topics like what what you’ve learned in life, "mistakes" you needed to make, career path, relationships or just about friendships in general.

  • @Asteria786
    @Asteria786 Год назад +1

    the untethered soul - this is a book that changed my life. ESP for those who cant do therapy. If therapy is a course, books like that are the supplemental material! 😊

  • @jalenquisano2147
    @jalenquisano2147 Год назад +3

    Thank you Carli for sharing something so real. I needed to hear that it’s ok to want to be your own person and do what I love to do in life instead of thinking in my messy mind that I will be a disappointment in others eyes.. I will use what you just shared. I am going through the same situation but with my husband.. I love you and thank you for being such an inspiration #aspiretoinspire ❤

  • @victoriaberrios2639
    @victoriaberrios2639 Год назад +3

    Hi Carli, I’ve been a fan and watched every video since I was in high school, and now I have my own career as a professional therapist so this was awesome to hear from you. So glad you’ve found that therapy was helpful for you, sending love ❤

  • @stephanyrobinson545
    @stephanyrobinson545 Год назад +2

    Usually don't comment but I had too now. Absolutely loved this episode. Your truth you genuine kindness and love was felt. I can relate to all of the topics you touched on. The weight loss especially after pregnancy can become stressful. The issue with not saying no and people pleasing I related too as well. Just wanna say I'm so happy that young people have a beautiful role model like you inside and out. That they don't have to feel these pressures and realize they are fine and beautiful where they are now. I'm glad you are doing therapy and doing the work that most wont.💖love and light Carli💖

  • @AznBarbieNath
    @AznBarbieNath Год назад +1

    I was at about 185 as well and I gave birth to my daughter 2 weeks early! I’m 5’5 and is about 140-50. I also gave birth while having Covid. The weight isn’t the same when you loose it.

  • @krystalbernauer8526
    @krystalbernauer8526 Год назад +2

    I love watching your videos. In therapy I've learned that I'm a survivor, not a victim. I struggle with not saying no and wanting to please people. its really hard. thank you for being transparent about therapy. I statements are great too

  • @samanthaduke6660
    @samanthaduke6660 Год назад +1

    Wait…I thought you were vegan…did I miss something?

    • @vegan_guac
      @vegan_guac Год назад

      Yeah she started eating animals ages ago,sadly.

  • @isabelfellner491
    @isabelfellner491 Год назад +2

    It's part of being a Libra and trust me, when you get to my age, you learn to be true to yourself. I reduced the people in my life that 'expect' a yes from me when they know I need to say no. Quality over quantity : )

  • @winnie1674
    @winnie1674 Год назад +3

    Carli you’ve always been super inspirational I first started working out/ plant based eating a few years ago. I fell off my routine during the pandemic but I’m getting back into it. Therapy has definitely changed the game. Took 4 therapists to get to a good fit but I feel more confident in accepting myself and those around me.

  • @thundergirls7714
    @thundergirls7714 Год назад +1

    It’s funny people don’t know people grow till 28/29 mark that’s when brain reaches maturity and people stop growing… aside of ya feet & nose or course 😂

  • @prettythingsthings4474
    @prettythingsthings4474 Год назад +9

    I'm kinda glad you told us how much weight you gained while pregnant because I'm 5'4 and once I hit 180 in the last trimester I just stopped weighing myself cause I was lowkey freaking out about it hah

  • @sammysweetheart87
    @sammysweetheart87 Год назад +2

    I resonate with you so much Carly! Single mama to a 16 month old! Therapy has been a game changer for me this past year as well! ❤❤

  • @dr.wendie
    @dr.wendie Год назад +2

    Such great focus and honesty! Totally agree about the 'how you look' over what the 'scale' dictates! ✨✨

  • @Rhiles44
    @Rhiles44 Год назад +1

    I lost 20lbs like immediately after birth but it took me like all of 9 months to lose the other 20lbs that I had gained during pregnancy. I also loved walks right after having my daughter but after every walk I would bleed so heavily so I eventually stopped the walks too. I basically couldn’t do any thing until 10 weeks postpartum. Starting 10 weeks postpartum I started working out like 4-5 days a week hard and It still took me all of 9 months to lose the other 20. Talk about discouraging but I did it. Andddddd then I got pregnant again 3 months later when my daughter turned one😳😆😆

  • @jordynmonique-renditionsof1337
    @jordynmonique-renditionsof1337 Год назад +1

    How much was the truscuplt

  • @nilaytuncok
    @nilaytuncok Год назад +2

    thank you so much for your honesty about the podcast, i am such a people pleaser too and end up getting mad at myself afterwards, something i'm working on

  • @victoriaperez3815
    @victoriaperez3815 Год назад +1

    I love Carli and have been a long time follower of hers. But please know to not compare yourself, she’s naturally thin and has a fast metabolism and has the resources to do the extra stuff to look the way she does. Just know to love your body and just love a healthy active lifestyle 💜

  • @norelie1
    @norelie1 Год назад +2

    My therapist told me that every blow to the ego is a gift to the soul. The more you humble and allow yourself to be vulnerable, it feels so good to the soul.

  • @tashalawson2028
    @tashalawson2028 Год назад +1

    I'm convinced breast feeding won't help lose pregnancy weight. I think it actually helps weight stagnancy. I came to that realization during the time of breast feeding my first daughter for over two years and my body not wanting to let go of that last 5-10 lbs. I could FEEL my body holding onto the extra weight like a safety net. It takes a lot of calories to make milk, and those calories burn fast so they're always needing to be replaced in order to keep baby and self nourished. There's no way I could have stayed in a calorie deficit with the raging appetite I had for two years. I even became a breakfast person and all my life I've never been a breakfast person. Wasn't until I was DONE breast feeding my appetite went back to what is normal for me and those lbs freely left.

  • @keshiamccallum3364
    @keshiamccallum3364 Год назад +12

    Thank you so much for sharing what you took away from your therapy session with us, it was really helpful to hear ❤

  • @Mommytomia
    @Mommytomia Год назад +1

    Therapy has changed my thought process; I'm also a people pleaser and self-love always gets put on the back burner. I've decided to be "selfish" for a while to get back to being happy! Do what makes you happy!

  • @lauramcnamee1510
    @lauramcnamee1510 Год назад +1

    I never ever diet for the simple reason the second I'm told I can't have something I automatically want it more than anything. Instead I will try to make healthier choices but if I want something that's considered "bad/unhealthy" I just control how much I eat of it. I find I eat a lot less and healthier if I don't restrict myself.

  • @dianaseverns7228
    @dianaseverns7228 Год назад +1

    I lost 15 lbs with my daughters death a month ago . I had gained alot at 47 yrs old. I was always 110-120 n went up 140 I got down to 123 in weeks. I realized no fast food is the best way for me to lose

  • @heatherkhoupradit8997
    @heatherkhoupradit8997 Год назад +2

    Happy for you and appreciate you sharing your experience with therapy. From a people pleaser , I know how hard that is to do. Something that has helped me is starting small . Don't try to set boundaries and make big changes that is too overwhelming to start. You gotta start small. Like at Starbucks if they mess up your order, say you normally don't ask for them to fix it to avoid confrontation. You start there for ex. Small achievable goals :) still working on this .

  • @taoglassworks
    @taoglassworks Год назад +3

    Great Job Sista !! Seriously you always look beautiful 👑👑

  • @calliew311
    @calliew311 Год назад +1

    I'm a people pleaser too. And I do way more for other people than myself and I don't know who I am and I care what people think about me. My therapist was a little blunt about that. My in-laws were never really nice to me, and my hubby would always stick up for me and he even cut them off when they went too far. But families fight so, I always encouraged him to make up with them. And I would go with him, halfway across the country to visit. My therapist says they abused me enough and I just keep going back for more. I thought of it more as, I'm supporting my husband and offering the same courtesy I would expect out of him, like if I got mad at my family, I would want him to be able to forgive them too. But I guess I'm supposed to cut them off and just stay away. It still doesn't make sense to me, but that's what my therapist says. I'm doing a phone session tomorrow since I went on a work trip with my husband.

  • @kaylamarie4926
    @kaylamarie4926 Год назад +1

    thank you for sharing your story!!!! i had a similar experience my son is 18 months. i also completely believe in mindset i didnt start working out until 3 months postpartum, i bought all new clothes so i could love my new body at my heaviest. i breastfed & formula fed but was never hungry i had to force myself to eat. i had preeclampsia during birth so now im more likely to have high bloodpressure, strokes and heart attacks when i am older. it was a big reality check on my health. so i decided to become healthy, stop eating takeout all the time, go on lots of walks and give myself me time by working out and now down 13 lbs pre pregancy & never felt better. its not about losing weight its about being the best version of yourself for yourself & your baby.

  • @amanpreetjhuty
    @amanpreetjhuty Год назад +2

    I love what your therapist taught you deal with a situation when you want to say no but you say yes. I have learned if your heart isn't really into something and you feel guilty and say yes. it's better to feel guilty then resentment, that's helped me when I'm just unsure. Sometimes we say yes but later you just miserable and unhappy. Love you Carli I hope to meet you one day, I just can feel your genuine energy through a screen 💕

  • @wearelove8025
    @wearelove8025 Год назад +1

    I missed watching your videos so much! Guess you can feel that you like it and that comes across ❤🙂

  • @hannahtatem
    @hannahtatem Год назад +3

    Where are these beautiful hoops from!?😍

  • @michellebelle6269
    @michellebelle6269 Год назад +1

    I'm only a minute into the video and my height situation is identical to yours! So funny, all my life I've been told I'm 5'3, but recently I've been told I am 5'4 so I just say I am 5'3 1/2 lol 😋