When I am slowly but steadily getting sure, that the person is not a nice decent human I thought it was, I start preparering the complete program of kicking this jerk out of my life. So when I finally tell it: "You behave badly, I will not socialize with you anymore," - for me it's a final decision, which I will not take back. And for the other person it's like a big surprise. At first the jerk is shocked, that I even spoke up against it and was capable to stand up for myself; then it would like to gaslight me, trying to prove, that it's me, who is wrong; then jerk would like to get me back (as a friend, college or partner), pretending, that it is sorry and will become better; and when those attempts fail, jerk gets angry and tries to spoil me life, - for example, by telling people lies about me. Therefore, having had those experiences in the past, I always prepare the proper strategi of self-protection before I even start the process. I block jerk's phone number, so that it could not reach me; I explain to the people around me, that my decision to stop socializing with a jerk is final, why I took this decision, and why nobody should even try to take the side of a jerk and "well-meaningly" meddle and try to repair what is totally broken. I call it "an operation Iron Curtain". WORKS EVERY TIME!
Love the door slam. It speaks volumes and leaves zero room for confusion. ALL humans know when they aren’t acting in a reciprocal, kind manner. The door slam says, “I see who you are and have from the start. I understand your behavior yet it is now unacceptable and I know YOU know you’re intentionally choosing this behavior so now…you’re OUT-permanently.” Door slam speaks volumes.
I didn't realize most people can't/don't do this until I saw just how common toxic behaviour is. It just seemed logical to shelf emotions for certain things. Strong emotions doesn't make for good decisions.
@@MaryDunford yes since infj are independente they are not biased therefore they are more often very near to truth , therefore it is legitimate to expect strong reactions from them in the face of the present world where most people suffer from no reaction , more the reaction more its a sign of life , do you agree ✨
With #3, when you suddenly look through the facade of a person and then instantly things become clear and it changes everything. That is when a doorslam can hit people really hard.
I can't unsee bad behaviour even if I want to. But I'm not sure why a disconnection would come as a shock. Personally, I typically exhaust every other option first. In the end, their choices make my decision. And I'm okay with that.
They never listen. Every shady person around me tries to test my boundaries over and over again knowing they are going to poke the bear and then they keep going after being warned numerous times I’m being put out. I’m making sure they know I’m obviously not happy and they usually cross the line for the hundred time and then I go apeshit and they play the victim. So annoying. Also usually everyone takes their side and feels bad for the aggressor.
interacting with sociopaths & narcissists has been truly a learning experience. As someone who has empathy, I appreciate your insight/confirmation into the minds of those around me.
I keep every transgression stored in my mental rolodex. Once I had enough, even after the slightest remark or careless disrespect, I either lash out like a psych patient or cut them off after kindly (lol) explaining how keeping in contact with them is not in my best interest while bringing up various examples ranging from last week to 8 yrs ago. It still amazes me how self unaware the common person is. Like the old saying- "fuk around and find out"
Wow, thank you for this! The INFJs in my life have made me feel so good about myself. This video helps me realize it's more how self-secure & nurturing of the potential in themselves they are, and how fulfilled they feel seeing others grow. Rather than about my greatness. I've shown up unsafely with them sometimes, trying to get them to toughen their humility. But really they had the power & generosity of spirit all along. Thank you for helping me see their humility as true power, not a weakness. To the INFJs, stick to your boundaries. The world needs your spirit. - An INFP
I just read a comment on another YT channel yesterday where the person was saying that INFJs come off as warm and friendly at first but then turn cold and mean. It was phrased in such a way that painted INFJs as being hypocritical and nasty on the inside, but when I read it one of my first thoughts was that the commenter probably has a habit of mistreating people in some way and doesn't like it when INFJs catch on and walk away and as a result makes them out to be the 'bad guys'. The worst part is that there were supposed INFJs replying, "Yeah, you're totally right about us!". 😥 Your explanations on Points 3 and 4 reminded me of this.
Though the rejections and misunderstandings from others are helpful to us in a way , they are never good for those who have bitterness Towards us , since we represent all that is good on earth due to our love for truth and honesty , those who hate us knowingly or unknowingly indirectly hate what is good on earth, it is better to think good of a bad guy than to think bad of the good ✨
I had a longtime “friend” (over 50 years) who constantly contradicted me. Anything I said, she corrected me. There wasn’t a subject that she didn’t know better. I swallowed my knowledge often, because I didn’t want to argue with her. Many topics whereI could have said that I knew a fact, but didn’t say it. I guess, being an only child, and often lonely, I didn’t want to let this one friendship go. One day, a subject was being disputed and I just rounded on her with “why do you DO THAT?” She was so astonished, she gasped and said your eyes just went black! She got up and left, and never came to my house again. I tried a number of times to hold out an olive branch, but got nothing in return. I just said that things have changed and I never went back.
I’m trying not to let that happen in a close 48 year friendship. Sometimes people are self centered and if you don’t agree or just have another perspective they see you as argumentative. I value this friend and know she needs me but I also know I can’t have the true friendship I want. I’m convinced a lot of the people who like us just like how we make them feel about themselves. They don’t really know us. It gets lonely. To this day, I’m not sorry for any of the door slams in my past…
I once said "I refuse to believe that I must live by the customs and traditions of this world that were created to keep liberated people trapped." The responses were not shocking at all. I made sure to make my point on purpose.
Funny when you finally give them back what they gave you (for such a long time), followed by the door slam… they don’t know what to do with themselves. I don’t need friends like that…the other side of that door looks good to me. But in the end they do respect you..
Great perspective on why others treat us INFJ’s the way they do. I’m in the process of icing someone who has no room for me to be myself. They have shown me who they are and even though I love and respect this person; I retract the power over me they think they have. I won’t ever leave the friendship because of our history but now to me it’s different because I see they only value me in their perception of who they think I should be. It’s painful because this may be the only version of a friendship they are capable of. Thank you for helping me to see I’m not an awful person for the frustration I’m feeling.♥️
What I have noticed is those that Know I want nothing to do with for whatever reason take it so personal. You don’t like me. Well no, it’s neither here nor there. I choose not to even consider you so not liking you isn’t even a part of this picture. It makes me chuckle when someone realizes that this is their place in my life. Not meant to but this realty is too much for some….
I am often stunned by their attitude of entitlement. Before door slamming I will have given them possibly YEARS of chances, and yet when the moment comes they are still surprised that there is a consequence to their abusive behaviour, and act all huffy and entitled when their attempts to hoover have no effect (needless to say, the attempts to hoover do not involve accountability - they genuinely think they have some sort of right to mistreat me without consequence).
"The truth is I don't like conflict or dispute to any body but if they push me in the limit i'm fight back more than they did I have no choice I need to protect my self my emotion specially my health!"
The door slam technique reminds me of how Queen Anne finally dealt with her long-time best friend and bully, Lady Marlborough. Classically done! It also gives me more insight into the psychology of the queen, too, for a bonus. 😊
What amazes me is we don't even sit and deliberate on what we'll say in the moment......our subconscious has stored all pertinent information that gets delivered in a split second..... I must admit, it's fun seeing the realisation hit their brains. Not a habit, but it has happened once or twice!
I find that I have a lot of patience and kindness as an infj but once you’ve crossed the threshold of not being able to come back and you’ve been extremely disrespectful I will not hold back and verbally destroy you with things I know and have picked up on over the course of the relationship. I tried so hard in my last relationship to be understanding but after two years of verbal and emotional abuse I finally remember saying “I feel sorry for you. You may think you have friends but friends are people who know every part of you and could see you on your worst day and still love and support you. Your lifelong friends don’t know anything about you nor do your parents because the entire thing is a show. You’re a scared, frightened little boy who is too scared to show them who he is because you know that person is ugly. Just like your mum said, you threw a fit as a kid when someone didn’t want to hang out”. I said other things but I knew the fake personality and show he put on continuously and the person I got was very different. I’ve worked hard on not allowing myself to go that deep with someone again when standing up for myself. I think he definitely deserved it but in turn know that the person I was raised to be does not agree with hurting myself more by harming others with words. I do the door slam but I think my way with words also ensures that the door is firmly closed and I’m not ever going to be revisiting that again.
If we want we can smash a humbug ego. But that's unnecessary. So, it's better to give them some hints that we're in the know what's going on. That way they will think twice before messing with us. Actually we'd like to be peaceful but not pacifists.
Absolutely loved this video! The insight into INFJ comebacks and the importance of setting boundaries was eye-opening. 🙌 Here's my take on it: Savage comebacks - It's incredible how INFJs, known for their non-confrontational nature, can unleash powerful comebacks when pushed. Being calm and unexpected can be key. Setting boundaries - The point about asserting one's beliefs and truth early on to avoid compromise really hit home. Boundaries are crucial for self-preservation. Changing perceptions - Understanding the impact of consequences and actions on how others perceive us is a game-changer. We hold the power to shape relationships. Unlocking potential - Seeing potential in oneself and taking action for personal growth resonates deeply. Others treat us based on what we project. Thanks for sharing these insights! 🙏 #INFJStrengths #SavageComebacks
LOL true about #3! a woman accused me of having an affair--with a single man and i'm single. lol she was making innuendos about my relationship, so i've quit communicating with her, period. she should be happy for me, but nope, so why do i need that negativity? i do not.
"Icing out" that's so powerful. When they see you, you see them squinting and thinking all sorts of nasty things. You see nothing but air, not even looking into their general direction, it will get them steaming. The indifference for their being in existance will trigger them to gossip to others. Be aware who they interact with, they will most likely not be friendly towards you.
Guy at work Takes me under wing gives special treatment solely for his benefit I can tell he likes me.I then excel and outshine him by total accident. We started to build a good working relationship until he pushed me too far and that accompanied with the thoughts of him being married took me to a point I went off at work one day after repeatedly being asked to do something. Then felt bad for it. I made sure not to sit in that too long but our interactions feel totally different and I am not the least bit bothered by it today but a year ago I would have dimmed my light. Our co. Is going through a contract change and I have had to be real careful on who I share what information with because I remind myself what is easy and obvious for me to figure out isn't the case with everyone else then I feel like I sound like a total crazy lady "predicting future" 😂
Thank you for presenting these. I have done number 4, iced someone out. The bewildered look on his face when he realized that I had taken all my power back from him was such a freeing experience. From that moment on, I gave him no further thought or energy. That was the start of my healing journey. 😊
I think a worthwhile project would be to write down all five of these points that you made and begin to develop things to proactively say when we need a good, firm, rational comeback. If we speak the truth, that will carry a lot of strength. It's not always emotionally easy, but it can be done. And I believe that it can add to our inner strength. I often do find out what people are really like after a while when I'm trying to help them or to be there for them - and not getting any kind of positive response. IMHO, life is too short to put up with emotional nonsense.
Basically, if you're not for or with me,...ur against me. My children have survived horrid toxic humans ..if ur deliberately hurting me, ur hurting them...uh, ga bye 😮😊
Your like the voice in my head articulating via the internet. Wish I had access to ya 10 years ago. Glad I got it now. I enjoy resonating with you, and choosing my life.
About recognizing the real reality- I’ve struggled a bit with this mostly because it takes TIME for me to go from the false superficial reality to the real one. It’s not something I can do in the moment when people are looking for a response from me. So I learned to just mirror back their reality to pacify them. I assumed they’ll figure it out on their own. LOL no Im learning how to take the time I need to come up with proper response to the big stuff. Once I know what’s happening I need to act on it even if it feels “too late.” Hopefully I’ll get faster at it.
This is SO on point. My narcissistic, anti social, pathological liar, manipulator manager has been on the receiving end of this. She is traumatized! She tested me from day one ( 3 years ago to date) !...I hinted to her several times over a period of 3 years....now she knows me!!!...it goes completely contrary to her nature to concede BUT I'm not giving her any leeway from here on!!!
Everything in their life somehow got harder for infj but infj will make it easier not to "look easier" , never in a healthy infj mind to cross the line or ofend others or being rude but theres always be action reaction thing inside their mind n behave . ( Simple to understand )
I learned a lot from Hunter Thompson. He was casually savage as a matter of course. I don't like conflict. I dwell on it constantly in retrospect and I feel the poison in my blood. I'll avoid conflict because it has a terrible affect on my nerves, but cross a line, and I'll stand up for others or myself. I will not tolerate those who take advantage of others. I just can't stand it. I'm not always graceful at confrontation, but in certain instances, if I don't do it, I won't be able to live with myself.
Wenzes, you are just amazing at what you do! You give me so much more understanding about myself than anyone else has ever been able to. Thank you so much for this great content. ❤
@@muma6559 You say xxxP's cannot see far ahead. Well maybe xSxP, but not xxxP's because there is INTP, INFP. Those type literally does not do anything else than thinking ahead. INFJ are very narcistic tkinking they are best at anything because they are "rare". Its just mental mistake im pointing out.
@@TheDomanc ? Just because someone draws the wrong conclusion doesn't make them narcissistic. It happens. But since we're on the topic of how everyone makes mistakes, "narcissist" is spelled with two s's. Cheers.
I genuinely appreciate you, your knowledge, awareness, understanding, kindness and beauty are breathtaking. Your aura is intense and you without doubt have and will continue making a major positive impact on a better humanity. Cheers Wenzes 🫵🍺🫶
I'm so grateful to you for uploading this video.. for a long time, I felt so guilty for having to be like this with two people I had even considered close friends before. My heart feels so much lighter now.. wow 🥲💔
I think a worthwhile project would be to write down all five of these points that you made and begin to develop things to proactively say when we need a good, firm, rational comeback. If we speak the truth, that will carry a lot of strength. It's not always emotionally easy, but it can be done. And I believe that it can add to our inner strength. I often do find out what people are really like after a while when I'm trying to help them or to be there for them - and not getting any kind of positive response. IMHO, life is too short to put up with emotional nonsense.
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What have some of your comebacks been that left people stunned?
Changed my number b/c the block button isn't strong enough
I applied my evergreen on my job and had a brilliant career.
After the initial joy and harmony which i bring to all, the ones who turn bitter get worse just because of my presence
When I am slowly but steadily getting sure, that the person is not a nice decent human I thought it was, I start preparering the complete program of kicking this jerk out of my life. So when I finally tell it: "You behave badly, I will not socialize with you anymore," - for me it's a final decision, which I will not take back. And for the other person it's like a big surprise. At first the jerk is shocked, that I even spoke up against it and was capable to stand up for myself; then it would like to gaslight me, trying to prove, that it's me, who is wrong; then jerk would like to get me back (as a friend, college or partner), pretending, that it is sorry and will become better; and when those attempts fail, jerk gets angry and tries to spoil me life, - for example, by telling people lies about me. Therefore, having had those experiences in the past, I always prepare the proper strategi of self-protection before I even start the process. I block jerk's phone number, so that it could not reach me; I explain to the people around me, that my decision to stop socializing with a jerk is final, why I took this decision, and why nobody should even try to take the side of a jerk and "well-meaningly" meddle and try to repair what is totally broken.
I call it "an operation Iron Curtain".
WORKS EVERY TIME!
Especially if you laugh,, ✨
We don't like conflict, but we will be sure to win when pushed into a corner. I think our door slams echo through eternity in other's minds.
Love the door slam. It speaks volumes and leaves zero room for confusion. ALL humans know when they aren’t acting in a reciprocal, kind manner. The door slam says, “I see who you are and have from the start. I understand your behavior yet it is now unacceptable and I know YOU know you’re intentionally choosing this behavior so now…you’re OUT-permanently.” Door slam speaks volumes.
Double figures this year.
Sick of people ghosting me then phoning at stupid hours asking for stupid 💩
🤬them 🚪
@@tiggerthecat5525😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@tiggerthecat5525 your comment gave me traumatic flashbacks from before I clapped back
Heck yea! 😎
We CAN be indifferent. We can literally turn off our emotions. It makes people insane.
✨i agree we really do turn off everything that too all of a sudden 💥
I didn't realize most people can't/don't do this until I saw just how common toxic behaviour is. It just seemed logical to shelf emotions for certain things. Strong emotions doesn't make for good decisions.
@@MaryDunford yes since infj are independente they are not biased therefore they are more often very near to truth , therefore it is legitimate to expect strong reactions from them in the face of the present world where most people suffer from no reaction , more the reaction more its a sign of life , do you agree ✨
Just because I can take a lot of pain doesn’t mean I have to. ❤
True INFJ’s spend our days playing dumb to try to fit in
I'm not doing that ish no more cuz folks are evil and don't give a damn about your feelings
With #3, when you suddenly look through the facade of a person and then instantly things become clear and it changes everything. That is when a doorslam can hit people really hard.
100% Once I see I cannot pretend not to see.
I can't unsee bad behaviour even if I want to. But I'm not sure why a disconnection would come as a shock. Personally, I typically exhaust every other option first. In the end, their choices make my decision. And I'm okay with that.
They never listen. Every shady person around me tries to test my boundaries over and over again knowing they are going to poke the bear and then they keep going after being warned numerous times I’m being put out. I’m making sure they know I’m obviously not happy and they usually cross the line for the hundred time and then I go apeshit and they play the victim. So annoying. Also usually everyone takes their side and feels bad for the aggressor.
I don’t react I quietly shut the door and you no longer exist. People get confused as to why this happened but I don’t feel the need to explain myself
interacting with sociopaths & narcissists has been truly a learning experience. As someone who has empathy, I appreciate your insight/confirmation into the minds of those around me.
Narcs will take pleasure in you reacting. Learning about them is crucial indeed.
I keep every transgression stored in my mental rolodex. Once I had enough, even after the slightest remark or careless disrespect, I either lash out like a psych patient or cut them off after kindly (lol) explaining how keeping in contact with them is not in my best interest while bringing up various examples ranging from last week to 8 yrs ago.
It still amazes me how self unaware the common person is. Like the old saying- "fuk around and find out"
Rolodex... way to date yourself;)
Wow, thank you for this! The INFJs in my life have made me feel so good about myself.
This video helps me realize it's more how self-secure & nurturing of the potential in themselves they are, and how fulfilled they feel seeing others grow.
Rather than about my greatness.
I've shown up unsafely with them sometimes, trying to get them to toughen their humility.
But really they had the power & generosity of spirit all along. Thank you for helping me see their humility as true power, not a weakness.
To the INFJs, stick to your boundaries. The world needs your spirit.
- An INFP
INFPs are cool. 😎
I just read a comment on another YT channel yesterday where the person was saying that INFJs come off as warm and friendly at first but then turn cold and mean. It was phrased in such a way that painted INFJs as being hypocritical and nasty on the inside, but when I read it one of my first thoughts was that the commenter probably has a habit of mistreating people in some way and doesn't like it when INFJs catch on and walk away and as a result makes them out to be the 'bad guys'.
The worst part is that there were supposed INFJs replying, "Yeah, you're totally right about us!". 😥
Your explanations on Points 3 and 4 reminded me of this.
Though the rejections and misunderstandings from others are helpful to us in a way , they are never good for those who have bitterness
Towards us , since we represent all that is good on earth due to our love for truth and honesty , those who hate us knowingly or unknowingly indirectly hate what is good on earth, it is better to think good of a bad guy than to think bad of the good ✨
I had a longtime “friend” (over 50 years) who constantly contradicted me. Anything I said, she corrected me. There wasn’t a subject that she didn’t know better. I swallowed my knowledge often, because I didn’t want to argue with her. Many topics whereI could have said that I knew a fact, but didn’t say it. I guess, being an only child, and often lonely, I didn’t want to let this one friendship go.
One day, a subject was being disputed and I just rounded on her with “why do you DO THAT?” She was so astonished, she gasped and said your eyes just went black! She got up and left, and never came to my house again. I tried a number of times to hold out an olive branch, but got nothing in return. I just said that things have changed and I never went back.
Well done
I’m trying not to let that happen in a close 48 year friendship. Sometimes people are self centered and if you don’t agree or just have another perspective they see you as argumentative. I value this friend and know she needs me but I also know I can’t have the true friendship I want. I’m convinced a lot of the people who like us just like how we make them feel about themselves. They don’t really know us. It gets lonely. To this day, I’m not sorry for any of the door slams in my past…
I once said "I refuse to believe that I must live by the customs and traditions of this world that were created to keep liberated people trapped." The responses were not shocking at all. I made sure to make my point on purpose.
Nice!
And you were so true...but the world don't think as we do, and really comes down to push on even this "come back to reality shower" every time 😅
Funny when you finally give them back what they gave you (for such a long time), followed by the door slam… they don’t know what to do with themselves. I don’t need friends like that…the other side of that door looks good to me. But in the end they do respect you..
Thank you for the fantastic job you do, helping us to protect ourselves from egomaniacs!
Great perspective on why others treat us INFJ’s the way they do. I’m in the process of icing someone who has no room for me to be myself. They have shown me who they are and even though I love and respect this person; I retract the power over me they think they have. I won’t ever leave the friendship because of our history but now to me it’s different because I see they only value me in their perception of who they think I should be. It’s painful because this may be the only version of a friendship they are capable of. Thank you for helping me to see I’m not an awful person for the frustration I’m feeling.♥️
What I have noticed is those that Know I want nothing to do with for whatever reason take it so personal. You don’t like me. Well no, it’s neither here nor there. I choose not to even consider you so not liking you isn’t even a part of this picture. It makes me chuckle when someone realizes that this is their place in my life. Not meant to but this realty is too much for some….
This is funny. I don’t think they’re even able to comprehend that we really do think this way.
I am often stunned by their attitude of entitlement. Before door slamming I will have given them possibly YEARS of chances, and yet when the moment comes they are still surprised that there is a consequence to their abusive behaviour, and act all huffy and entitled when their attempts to hoover have no effect (needless to say, the attempts to hoover do not involve accountability - they genuinely think they have some sort of right to mistreat me without consequence).
"The truth is I don't like conflict or dispute to any body but if they push me in the limit i'm fight back more than they did I have no choice I need to protect my self my emotion specially my health!"
The door slam technique reminds me of how Queen Anne finally dealt with her long-time best friend and bully, Lady Marlborough. Classically done!
It also gives me more insight into the psychology of the queen, too, for a bonus. 😊
Well done, truth-teller. Well done.
What amazes me is we don't even sit and deliberate on what we'll say in the moment......our subconscious has stored all pertinent information that gets delivered in a split second.....
I must admit, it's fun seeing the realisation hit their brains.
Not a habit, but it has happened once or twice!
How did you figure out all of this in such a analytic and precise way. you are a wonder to me.
She truly has the gift of discernment...
I find that I have a lot of patience and kindness as an infj but once you’ve crossed the threshold of not being able to come back and you’ve been extremely disrespectful I will not hold back and verbally destroy you with things I know and have picked up on over the course of the relationship.
I tried so hard in my last relationship to be understanding but after two years of verbal and emotional abuse I finally remember saying “I feel sorry for you. You may think you have friends but friends are people who know every part of you and could see you on your worst day and still love and support you. Your lifelong friends don’t know anything about you nor do your parents because the entire thing is a show. You’re a scared, frightened little boy who is too scared to show them who he is because you know that person is ugly. Just like your mum said, you threw a fit as a kid when someone didn’t want to hang out”. I said other things but I knew the fake personality and show he put on continuously and the person I got was very different.
I’ve worked hard on not allowing myself to go that deep with someone again when standing up for myself. I think he definitely deserved it but in turn know that the person I was raised to be does not agree with hurting myself more by harming others with words.
I do the door slam but I think my way with words also ensures that the door is firmly closed and I’m not ever going to be revisiting that again.
If we want we can smash a humbug ego. But that's unnecessary. So, it's better to give them some hints that we're in the know what's going on. That way they will think twice before messing with us. Actually we'd like to be peaceful but not pacifists.
I've been getting so much strength from these videos lately, thank you so much
Absolutely loved this video! The insight into INFJ comebacks and the importance of setting boundaries was eye-opening. 🙌
Here's my take on it:
Savage comebacks - It's incredible how INFJs, known for their non-confrontational nature, can unleash powerful comebacks when pushed. Being calm and unexpected can be key.
Setting boundaries - The point about asserting one's beliefs and truth early on to avoid compromise really hit home. Boundaries are crucial for self-preservation.
Changing perceptions - Understanding the impact of consequences and actions on how others perceive us is a game-changer. We hold the power to shape relationships.
Unlocking potential - Seeing potential in oneself and taking action for personal growth resonates deeply. Others treat us based on what we project.
Thanks for sharing these insights! 🙏 #INFJStrengths #SavageComebacks
LOL true about #3! a woman accused me of having an affair--with a single man and i'm single. lol she was making innuendos about my relationship, so i've quit communicating with her, period. she should be happy for me, but nope, so why do i need that negativity? i do not.
"Icing out" that's so powerful. When they see you, you see them squinting and thinking all sorts of nasty things. You see nothing but air, not even looking into their general direction, it will get them steaming. The indifference for their being in existance will trigger them to gossip to others. Be aware who they interact with, they will most likely not be friendly towards you.
At our house we call that "poofing" people. They are suddenly thin air. "Poof!" They're gone.
Guy at work Takes me under wing gives special treatment solely for his benefit I can tell he likes me.I then excel and outshine him by total accident. We started to build a good working relationship until he pushed me too far and that accompanied with the thoughts of him being married took me to a point I went off at work one day after repeatedly being asked to do something. Then felt bad for it. I made sure not to sit in that too long but our interactions feel totally different and I am not the least bit bothered by it today but a year ago I would have dimmed my light. Our co. Is going through a contract change and I have had to be real careful on who I share what information with because I remind myself what is easy and obvious for me to figure out isn't the case with everyone else then I feel like I sound like a total crazy lady "predicting future" 😂
Thank you for presenting these. I have done number 4, iced someone out. The bewildered look on his face when he realized that I had taken all my power back from him was such a freeing experience. From that moment on, I gave him no further thought or energy. That was the start of my healing journey. 😊
I think a worthwhile project would be to write down all five of these points that you made and begin to develop things to proactively say when we need a good, firm, rational comeback. If we speak the truth, that will carry a lot of strength. It's not always emotionally easy, but it can be done. And I believe that it can add to our inner strength.
I often do find out what people are really like after a while when I'm trying to help them or to be there for them - and not getting any kind of positive response. IMHO, life is too short to put up with emotional nonsense.
Basically, if you're not for or with me,...ur against me. My children have survived horrid toxic humans ..if ur deliberately hurting me, ur hurting them...uh, ga bye 😮😊
Your like the voice in my head articulating via the internet. Wish I had access to ya 10 years ago. Glad I got it now. I enjoy resonating with you, and choosing my life.
About recognizing the real reality- I’ve struggled a bit with this mostly because it takes TIME for me to go from the false superficial reality to the real one. It’s not something I can do in the moment when people are looking for a response from me. So I learned to just mirror back their reality to pacify them. I assumed they’ll figure it out on their own. LOL no
Im learning how to take the time I need to come up with proper response to the big stuff. Once I know what’s happening I need to act on it even if it feels “too late.” Hopefully I’ll get faster at it.
This is SO on point. My narcissistic, anti social, pathological liar, manipulator manager has been on the receiving end of this. She is traumatized! She tested me from day one ( 3 years ago to date) !...I hinted to her several times over a period of 3 years....now she knows me!!!...it goes completely contrary to her nature to concede BUT I'm not giving her any leeway from here on!!!
Thank you for this realization!!
Icing out is powerful
Thank you ❤. I love this 😊
Everything in their life somehow got harder for infj but infj will make it easier not to "look easier" , never in a healthy infj mind to cross the line or ofend others or being rude but theres always be action reaction thing inside their mind n behave . ( Simple to understand )
I learned a lot from Hunter Thompson. He was casually savage as a matter of course.
I don't like conflict. I dwell on it constantly in retrospect and I feel the poison in my blood.
I'll avoid conflict because it has a terrible affect on my nerves, but cross a line, and I'll stand up for others or myself.
I will not tolerate those who take advantage of others. I just can't stand it. I'm not always graceful at confrontation, but in certain instances, if I don't do it, I won't be able to live with myself.
Too Cut and Dry. No relationship could survive a wrecking ball hanging over their every word. Walking on eggshells to avoid communicating
Wenzes, you are just amazing at what you do! You give me so much more understanding about myself than anyone else has ever been able to. Thank you so much for this great content. ❤
Totally relate to this :)
You are Just a simple woman but what you say is more true than the teachings of many wise men on Earth 🙌
Wenze's I'm good at this!!!Jerome❤❤❤
The last one really hit me
Yep, "we dont get into it" 💯
👍 yeppers thanks love your videos
Well put!!
Queen 👸🏻
Very interesting video, thank you Wenzes ❤
Amazing ✨
Wow wenzes accurate as always and why we love u. Can u tell me the personality type of Andrew Tate?😂 kinda like him too, he strikes me as one of ours😂
Are you crazy? This sex trafficker is 100% ESTP. Well yes, we share all functions, but in reverse.
Amen
As with psychology is from scriptures
#5 is interesting. We can step up while many people back down or step down. xxxP's cannot see too far ahead, just can't, especially xSxP
lol so funny ever hear about intp?😂😂😂😂
@@TheDomanc yes, what about them?
@@muma6559 You say xxxP's cannot see far ahead. Well maybe xSxP, but not xxxP's because there is INTP, INFP. Those type literally does not do anything else than thinking ahead. INFJ are very narcistic tkinking they are best at anything because they are "rare". Its just mental mistake im pointing out.
@@TheDomanc ? Just because someone draws the wrong conclusion doesn't make them narcissistic. It happens.
But since we're on the topic of how everyone makes mistakes, "narcissist" is spelled with two s's. Cheers.
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Why is soul
Why Marko
Don't commit we're FBI staying fake
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I genuinely appreciate you, your knowledge, awareness, understanding, kindness and beauty are breathtaking. Your aura is intense and you without doubt have and will continue making a major positive impact on a better humanity. Cheers Wenzes 🫵🍺🫶
Crushed it! Great video. I never go into a loosing game. 😎🤟✌️⚡
We win before we start, 🎯✨
I'm so grateful to you for uploading this video.. for a long time, I felt so guilty for having to be like this with two people I had even considered close friends before. My heart feels so much lighter now.. wow 🥲💔
I think a worthwhile project would be to write down all five of these points that you made and begin to develop things to proactively say when we need a good, firm, rational comeback. If we speak the truth, that will carry a lot of strength. It's not always emotionally easy, but it can be done. And I believe that it can add to our inner strength.
I often do find out what people are really like after a while when I'm trying to help them or to be there for them - and not getting any kind of positive response. IMHO, life is too short to put up with emotional nonsense.