@@edithart5753 haha so true. They can't have it both ways. They think women don't take accountability but they are so hypocritical. They refuse to see why women don't want them. They think they are good enough but they are not even good at all and I'm talking about at least half of the male population in this country. Now they are convincing themselves that they deserve teenagers to date guys, not even to marry, to use up until they are done with them. We are in such a bad place in society. These are real men in the comments talking about these things and it's scary. Protect each other ladies because parents are failing and young women need guidance. I've taken on a guidance role for the young teenagers at my job because they seem to not get it at home. I still have to keep things as professional as I can but also guide them a little here and there. I just spoke to this fifteen year old who shared that she has already been played with a guy. I just met her and now Tomorrow I have to gently tell her that although I am a trustworthy person, she is lucky that I am but she shouldn't be so open about personal matters with most people. I also told her to not hangout with boys, especially if she feels a loss of self control or lust and I told her where a free clinic is to get some free healthcare. This is one example. These boys learn it so young to use women and then wonder why women have baggage or trust issues or that women don't trust or respect them.
I posted this comment on another video. The only legacy most of these men are leaving behind is a legacy of unacknowledged and unhealed mother wounds and past trauma.
And it’s not .. ur actually happier single then when in a relationship cause u dnt have to worry about anyone using u or breaking ur heart or making u feel less
It’s projection. Men need women, we are the resource. Without us the slowly parish. Women need each other. The love and respect comes from us understanding one another’s plight. Go enjoy yourself. Peace of mind is priceless.😊
It’s funny how women are told not to expect much of a husband or boyfriend in terms of gifts or care, but then are told “You need to make him feel special and wanted ALWAYS or else he HAS to cheat.”
@@alexyssaubrie1606 Oh god don’t even get me started on that nonsense. They stay making “fish” joke about us, but have the audacity to demand head when their front side smells like the back one. 🤢🤮
@@alexyssaubrie1606been there. Unfortunately for him I told him every day he was unattractive. He wouldn't leave me alone. So I moved out of state. Among other things.
You can't win with them. But you definitely can without them. Celibacy is the best option. Single women live happier and longer, even scientists did the work to prove it but mature women already knew this.
@@gerabenisrael7601Married MEN live longer by a stat 10 years….married women live LESS by the same amount. Now this doesn’t mean that if the man dies at 80, his wife dies at 70. It means that married women if they would’ve lived to 85 if single…if married they may it to 75. Her husband could’ve kicked by age 70 and she’s still here chilling and guess what? Without having a good wife,he would’ve kicked at 60. Look at how men who remarry in a NY minute after their wife dies, hence why I run from widowers like he has the plague. I DO believe there are exceptions as in well cared for wives you can see it on their face…they will look good…same as the wife that’s been stressed or mistreated even micro slights over thirty years from a man she loves…she will wear that strain as well.
Meanwhile my partner roasted a chicken for me last night after I made him a scratch dinner the night before- these bitter dudes better get their shit together and learn ✨reciprocating✨
❤ that’s lovely. I think lots of people think this is all based on negativity, but the aim of this conversation is to help people have happy loving relationships, if that’s what makes them feel groovy
@@Alexis-ec9cl i left myn ex husbyand the best thing that happens to me and myn kids😊i was single married woman with Special needs son 😊❤God js good and travelling now to Spain with myn Boys 😊God is good 😊i am so grateful i left that Clown after 7 years marriage
I hear about how a lot of women who literally pray or try to manifest a good man. They write it on paper and put it in under their pillow, we never hear about males having to do this. They're more prone to meet good women, but there's always been a shortage of good men
I made a list of the type of person I wanted to be with, I struggled with 50, after several relationships, I ended up with well over 100. I found the love of my life at 33, we got married 9 months later.
@@theoriginalkrabbypatty Good you found your King 👑💖 Goes to show males don't have to try to manifest a good woman or pray for one...because most males had good women and screwed them over in one way or another
I make it a POINT to stop taking photos of my BD with our daughter at activities or events I plan. I use to go out of my way to have us take photos as a family for her but I realize I was doing everything. He even pointed it out the other day that I don’t take photos of them anymore. The whole summer went by and he barely made an effort to join us at parks etc she’s two! So when I did my album of summer he realize he wasn’t anywhere in the photos and I said well plan stuff for her and get someone to take photos. Her 3rd bday is gonna be legendary because I’m getting married two months before and my fiancé is very active despite not being required to be. For her 2nd my bd had me do everything from planning, hosting, entertaining while he sat in a corner with his friends for majority of the party. My fiance is already coming to me with the games and entertainment and organizing how we will BOTH be team players. Ladies trust me DO NOT SETTLE!! Be by yourself or with someone who shows you they are more than capable
This this this. Do not make them look better than they are. They rely on your labor to make them look successful and competent to society and your children. That's why staying in an abusive or unequal relationship is not good for the kids. Because everything that's done during that marriage or relationship will be on the woman's labor and everything that the kids get to enjoy was organised by mom. But do the kids know that? No. All they know is that they had fun and mom and dad were there and then there were photos to back it up. They don't think about who made the effort and put in the labor to make these things happen for them in most cases. I am DONE DONE DONE. I will never make excuses for my ex husband or try to make him look good to our children. I did that early on for a few years but thank god we were divorced before our children had real memories. If he chooses to disappoint them that's what it will be. he will never get to use my labor to prop himself up and my children will not be taught through how their mother is treated that women are supposed to suffer, do it all and be used. Nope. These men eventually get their karma. If they don't pour into their children, and put low to no effort into their children, their children want nothing to do with them when they grow up. Let them show their children who they are. Stop trying to make these men look good because you want your children to have a father. Its a good thing wanting your children's father to step up and it's another thing doing the labor for him. You're just prolonging your children's suffering because you're playing a role in deceiving them about who their father really is. Let them know who he is and validate them. Children are very resilient. They don't miss what they never had. They may at times wish their father was actually a father but that's normal for us all. What they won't do is think he's a good person and and they won't be damaged by his low to no effort that you have made look better because you have done the labor to make him look competent and now your child has idealised a person that cannot give them a damn thing .
I’m happy single. I recently met a guy, and he was handsome and respectful, we decided to exchange numbers. Everything was great the first 3 days of getting to know each other, then I noticed the effort in replying back to me stopped. I would get a text back 8 to 10 hours later with a dramatic excuse. I went along with it, but it started to eat me up inside, when he wouldn’t reply. When I can feel that he saw my text. I ended it, and instantly I felt AMAZING!! 🤩🤩 I’ve been through that before!! Toxic men pull back purposely to gain control over then mind of their target. If you aren’t strong and know your value, it can and will destroy you!!
I require bare minimum and nobody can meet them. Since when loyalty, honesty, cleanliness (physically and sexually), patience, maturity, compassion, and kindness are considered high standards???? I don't even care how much he earns!😢
Women are raised to be communistic minded. Take care of everyone all the time. Men are raised to be individualistic and competitive. In my opinion this is why relationships don't work.
I think the relationships don't work because the competitive men are competing with their *women* INSTEAD of against *other* MEN! Too busy trying to be a *better* woman than her. 🫤
If I'm not mistaken, 'high value man' was defined by the late Kevin Samuels, not women. This society is so money-oriented and transactional, and women get the blame for everything that goes wrong. I was a wife to a man whose only credit in life is he went to work on time, everyday. Long story short, I filed for divorce and started my singleness at 50! Never too late to get happy...
Exactly!!! I thought I was the only one wondering how "high value" man became a woman thing when hou NEVER hear women say it? Kevin Scamuel's started it. I'm so glad you are out of that one sided relationship ❤
1. Low effort=Toxic (What u expect in beginning is what will continue.) 2. Value of man is his character not money. 3. Women are happy alone because of freedom.
They Said To Choose Better, So I Chose To Keep My Legs Closed && Leave The Dating Scene 😅😂❤ The Male Loneliness Epidemic Is Only Gonna Get Worse When The Cold Season Comes
I like your perspective. I love that your admitting that you want a man/relationship but you will stay single if you don’t meet someone who meets your standards. That’s balance 🙏🏽
Its crazy to me that women want a perfect man he has to have no "baggage" must be a provider must confident must be handsome must worship whatever she says and his life should revolve around his gf but most of these women haven't healed from they're own brake up because it's always the mans falt
The only man who has any value to you is the one who treats you the way you want and deserve to be treated. That’s why there’s no such thing as a “high value man,” because his value is negative to you no matter how much money, looks, height, etc. he possesses if he doesn’t give that value to you. It’s like an oil painting in the Louvre; you can’t take it home with you no matter how much value it has. It’s useless to you.
"Deserve to be treated". How does and an average looking, post wall woman with a body count of 50 deserve to be treated? Probably no better than any other 304.
The more and more I look at these type of videos, the more I realize just how lucky of a girl I really am. I’m not trying to brag, but I was the breadwinner in our relationship for a while, he saw that I want to college, so he decided to go to college too. He raised his standards so high that he not only makes it considerably more than I do, but he does his own laundry, and he also helps around the house with other chores. This is a remarkable guy!
After I read a study that said, married men live longer, and single women live longer, i chose happily single. We improve their life while they drain us. A man will need to meet my peace to get my attention because I hate drama.
Never get attached to men, ever the moment you do, they sense that switch and the chase for them is over. It’s best to avoid but for the women that still have hope
You know what helped me NOT make bad decisions about being in relationships? COMPREHENSIVE SEX EDUCATION. What some people think is that comprehensive sex education is all about the mechanics of sex and preventing disease and pregnancy…all of that s only a small portion of it, at least in my experience. The majority of the class my siblings and I took was about communication, self respect, respect for others, consent, and boundary setting/observing. We talked about knowing one’s own values, morals, and desires and communicating that with any potential partner. It was all about communication. That is what kept me from, really, destroying my life with bad relationship decisions. I was armed with knowing what I considered to be relationship red flags when I was 12 years old! And through experience I added more. Comprehensive sex education. Ours was a coed class. I cannot state forcefully enough how much stress and trauma that class helped me avoid.
And men really need to up their game in the bedroom, anyway. I'm in my 40s and I've only ever had three men give me an orgasm, on three separate instances. The rest either tried and gave up, or never tried at all, because sex for men is only about their pleasure, never the pleasure of the woman they are with. It's also my fault for _hoping_ that men would start caring about my pleasure in the bedroom, instead of _requiring_ it.
I think we should change it to Relationship Education to better communicate that. Calling it Sex Education is a bit of a misnomer, as sex is only a part of what it should be teaching, and it immediately raises the hackles of people who are less than comfortable about someone teaching their kids about sex, other than them. I think we would have more success implementing such a program with the rename.
I've always had this opinion that we don't talk about sex in a healthy and comprehensive way. I'm glad to know that it really does work. I've been trying to have these conversations with my nieces and nephews now that they're older. It's so important to know your worth, and to know what to expect from sex.
We live in a culture that doesnt hold men accountable, always have, and look where its gotten us. Good luck changing it. Id love to see it change but i aint gonna hold my breath.
Woman here, in my 20s, single by choice, I don't need any extra burdens in my life. I'm ONLY going to get a BF if he is going to make my life better, and my life is amazing rn. I've been asked out a ton, have dudes that don't understand "sorry, not looking for something atm" still pestering me, but I still don't want a bf.
👍🏾 Also, watch out for the "Switcho/Chango" - after you fall for him, being exclusive, get engaged, get married, get impregnated, etc. Maintain a position of being able to walk away at EVERY stage. Sounds harsh but, so is reality. Good luck out there. ❤
Most women watched our mothers and grandmothers try to keep it all together for everyone, and eventually burn out and be left by the man and family they were trying to uplift. The nursing homes are full of lonely women who got dumped by their families.
@@oliviaobiaja Do these men not see the irony and why women listen to that and are leaving THEM alone in real time for this reason? Don't wanna end up like our grams!
Agreed, raise your standards. Women, save yourselves. Men are not going to save you. Most of the men of this generation have a heart of stone. I’m willing to wait even to my senior years. Maybe then, men will have learned how to treat women with love.
Politically men are moving towards being conservative as women become more liberal. A shared world view is important so why are men surprised that women don't want to date them?
@@KLG-sx3ztI'd have unfriended him, wtf is wrong with these weird dudes. I've seen that, men who laugh about women getting hurt as a joke, turn out to be all-aroud weird and dishonorable men. It shows an extreme lack of character
I told my kids father if he cant help financially then he needs to stay away from my kids. People got mad. I dont care. Just giving a little time here and there aint good enough. You either in or you out 100 percent on everything. You dont get to pick and choose how to be a father. And im happily raising mine on my own. Str8 A students, one already in college❤❤
Both men and women have allowed them to do the bare minimum all these years now men can’t fathom actually having to contribute. They don’t just manipulate their girlfriends they manipulate and put on a different face for people you all know as well. That’s why friends and family feel like he’s just not a bad guy or half-way father
I don’t know how all these older women have so much energy to go out, go bowling, go to girls nights out. I’m 40 & have no friends, no relationships, & no kids. mostly because I’m just way too tired to even think about it. My 2 chihuahuas are a full time job for me. I can’t even keep up on day to day stuff. It’s too much work, & energy to have people in my life.
I'm 30 and feel exactly the same. I work on my feet all day but only work 35hrs a week and I'm exhausted gf. I have no life and can't get a second date with men. Some of us just are built more fragile and that's ok. Some women are work horses and some of us should have had an easier life. Oh well. We keep working and trying to find enjoyment where we can. ❤
I'm 40 as well (actually turn 41 next week) and I can understand where you're coming from because I used to be there. But for me, the lack of energy and not wanting any people around were symptoms of a dysregulated nervous system and compassion fatigue that developed as a result of being in and surviving an abusive relationship. Healing the nervous system can go a long way toward helping to bring that energy and enthusiasm for life back. It's been a little over a year since I was able to leave an abusive narcissistic relationship that lasted 9 years. I came out of that situation with cPTSD and extreme anxiety to the point that I was stuck in the freeze response for months. I could barely function even just to do the bare minimum to take care of myself, let alone my dogs, cat, and livestock (I'm a farmer). It took pretty much this entire past year (plus a few months before I was officially free of the abuser) of me working to heal my nervous system, moving to a completely different place, journaling regularly etc to get myself to where I am now. I live alone but I enjoy a full, fun life now. I work out and focus on eating healthier to help regulate my blood sugar, insulin, and hormones, I go hiking and exploring the state parks and other cool spots in nature that are nearby, I take spontaneous trips to visit friends and explore new places, I take myself out on dates, I enjoy multiple hobbies, I have the energy to take care of all of my animals, and I make time for self-care. I'm definitely still a work in progress but I'm healing more and more with every day that passes. I'm also really focusing on infusing each day with gratitude and reasons to be joyful. It doesn't happen overnight, but starting down the path to healing your nervous system, creating safety for yourself, and living in gratitude can definitely help you reclaim your power and energy. ❤
I'm 66, and I have to tell you, and not having to worry about menstruation every month, and possibly becoming anemic, and not having cramps, frees up a LOT of energy!! 😊
I have noticed in my bad dating history, why are the black men so angry when trying to court a woman. With the other races I dated, even the shit ones. I put a boundary and they 'pretend' to accept it until they can manipulate you to let go of it. The black men I dated were so.... offended and angry and mean because I even SET UP a boundary in the first place. They go straight to fury and insults. It might just be my anecdotal experience, has anyone else experienced this?
Yes I have experienced this.. I’ve dated all races as a white woman… recently I had a break up from a Latin guy… a man from Jamaica that I met in basic training wanted to get to know me etc & I told him I’m not looking for close male friendships as it leads to romance.. he got so mad he ignored my message 🤣 other guys said okay I understand
@kimcham9949 Little boys in grown men's bodies. They really throw tantrums whenever they don't get their way. I'm fully convinced the movie Baby Boy wasn't a comedy but a social commentary.
My husband also told me something interesting yesterday. He said that some man use feminism against women. The fact that they work (and work hard) that they are liberate with their sexuality. Some man use this as an excuse to let women do all the work and put their pee pee all over the place. He said that because his sister had to deal with that kind of guy. And yup, her standards were very low... The guy also had a child with her and two differents women, no driver licence, no job, smoking all day... Glad we talk about that
It’s not even that I have raised my standards it is what I won’t tolerate. I don’t care how good your heart is if you don’t add value to my life in the place where I need it, it’s a no for us. I don’t care how kind and sweet you think you are if you are boring, complacent and unhealed, there is no space for you in my life. I don’t care how long we have known one another or been together, I have chosen happiness over history. I don’t care how much you love me and how much you like me if I don’t feel the same about you, it is a no for us. My no’s have become more defined. My standards are the same, but the no’s are now in concrete
That's another thing I keep hearing from women is the "Oh but he's a good man". Doesn't matter how good someone is if they can't help you in life and hinder you in some way instead. People can be generally "good" and still make terrible personal choices that will negatively affect you.
❤❤❤ I love you for this. I'm telling you *right* now that I'm plagiarizing this! I'm screenshotting this and I'm rehearsing these words. I'm looking at this as often as I want to &/or *need* to. I can't thank you enough for being generous enough to share your thoughts and feelings with us. Thank you all the way from the bottom of my heart... Thank you. ❤❤❤
Yes! Absolutely agree! This my therapy after therapy….. I love each and everyone of encouragement and strength…. Love all my Sisters here thank you so much🌺🌻🌷❤️😊
That is so true. When I was with my partner, we recently separated. I was taking care of our child. If he had to do it, he would guilt trip me to saying she is my child and how can I let her go hungry. So I was always in that kitchen cooking, after work too. I would spend almost all day in that kitchen trying to make a load of food to last for at least 2 days, but no. He would eat so much. I had to serve food to our child, which I dont mind, but I also had to serve his food, bring the plate to him along with his drink or whatever sauces he wanted. Go wash dishes before I even eat. Wash the dishes again after eating. Later on, he would get hungry again and serve himself a big plate of food. Leave the dishes he Dirtied, and sometimes it would be too late. After putting our child to bed and still needing to shower and seeing those dishes. I would have to wash them again. By the next day, there would be just enough food for my daughter to eat and for him to eat. I would always eat less just so they could both eat. If there was a day I was just too tired he would go buy food, but the next day he expected me to cook if I didn't he would get mad telling me he gave me a day off from cooking. I told him I didn't want to spend all day in the kitchen. So it will be a quick meal like some noodles with spam and eggs. I would always suggest something I can cook real quick. He didn't want any of that he would get mad that he is not single anymore. He is not going to eat like a single college guy living in a dorm with roommates. He wanted real food, which meant I had to get up and spend all my time in that kitchen. I was also not allowed to get my hair done or any type of beauty treatment done if it's a man. I wanted to get my eyebrows done. There was a guy who did them so beautifully, but he said no. I was not allowed to talk to any men at work. Which made it hard to work, and when he "stopped" by, he saw that a guy was talking to me. Well, it turned into a big issue, and all of a sudden, he was blaming me for flirting. He never took me seriously when I said after him im not about to date and take care of a second adult child. Im done with men after him. He never believed me he always thought I must have a man already lined up if im so ready to leave him. It was a whole bunch of stuff that happened. Hair falling off, I looked miserable. Now I'm at peace. I worry about my child and me. I can make quick dinners some days and not have anyone complaining about the food im making. Small portions of foods so it doesn't take forever in that kitchen. Still wash dishes, but now at least I dont have to wake up and do dishes before even starting to cook. It stays clean throughout the night. It is definitely a big peace of mind. I always felt guilty if I didn't want to do something or do something. Im so much better without having another partner. For the rest of my life, I can certainly stay this way. Ladies, just be careful because most of the time, even if you work, you are still expected to do your "wifely" duties.
What you described sounds like hell and I'm so sorry you had to endure such things.That's straight abuse and no woman should ever experience it. I hope you have the best life possible from now on because you deserve it ❤❤❤
Sounds very familiar. I starved myself so my children could eat. He'd always eat seconds and often fourths and fifths. My oldest children were told they couldn't have seconds. So I went without so they'd get their fill as growing children. He'd blare the TV all night I'd be lucky to get 4hrs of sleep for over a decade. Up byv4am or 6am up till midnight or later. After a few years i Had to wear his sweatpants, socks and t-shirts cause he spent the money on video games and crap we didn't need. My mama sent me money once just so I could get a couple bras! I cooked from scratch, made quilts, crocheted toys and blankets made all kinds of stuff trying to make ends meet despite him wasting money constantly. He was working me into an early grave. I barely even received room an board!! Despite being the old fashioned pioneer type of wife. I finally collapsed and the whole family turned against me. His family manipulated and assisted to get him out of any accountability twisted the entire history into false slander to protect the family name despite knowing the garbage their son was doing. And that's just the tip of that iceberg. Talk about life and energy draining! I've got skills most people don't because of it which has helped me save a lot on my own. Not interested in taking anything like that on ever again. No thanks.
Women are literally just wanting a man who adds quality to her life and is faithful. 🤷🏽♀️ Don’t be out here embarrassing her, be a consistent and a respectful partner. It’s a crying shame we get so much push back on such a simple standard. Nobody needs a good for nothing but money man dragging his feet and draining your energy. We really are better off alone. Protect your peace and your freedom ladies.
I know there are good men out there. I just truly think a lot of them are either taken, not straight, and just very few good men left. I've dated outside of my "type." It never works out. A lot of men get bored of the good girl. I cooked, cleaned, went out together, played video games, and watched shows together. I did too much. A lot of men don't even want commitment. What's the point of dating if the majority of what men are looking for is something casual? A lot of good women are giving up and I don't blame them.
Your legacy is the generational wealth you leave behind, and your lineage is the blood you leave behind Felt I should define that difference in the conversation because it's important
Oh my gosh, yes at the "selfie" remark! How does being at the same place at the same time make anyone a good parent? A selfie takes 2 seconds of the day to achieve. A good facade takes only 2 seconds, what about the rest of the time?
What you accept in the beginning sets the tone for the relationship; in my case is bs. At the start it was ok. It got SO much worse. He just read it and ran with it. OmG a living Hell for me!
What they mean by that is: what you accept in the beginning sets the tone for the best treatment you’ll receive throughout the relationship. At the start, people put their best foot forward and try to impress, so whatever level that is at, it can only go downward through the rest of the relationship. Hence, it got worse in your case 😔
Idgaf about none of these men😂😂😂 I’m going to continue to get this money, educate myself, praise God, eat good, exercise, and keep my rose on standby, hell the rose get the job done better anyway 😂😂😂😂✌🏾
You have to look at it from his perspective. Is he trying to bother you, even if it isn’t bothering you? Get rid of him. My ex did all kinds of things and said all kinds of things trying to find what bothers me. Since it didn’t bother me I didn’t mind. But you have to figure out why is he doing or saying this? Kinda sucks I’m a bit on the spectrum but for example he’d comment on my appearance but I was fine in how i looked so I just looked at him like he had three heads and didn’t say anything because I didn’t see that and thought it weird he’d marry me and then has a problem on something I can’t change. But since I don’t have a problem with me I didn’t care he said that, it’s his problem. But…He’s trying to cut you down, leave. He doesn’t respect you, leave. Don’t be with an enemy. You’d never say or do something like that to them so leave. He’s a hater.
5:16 I remember being young and looking around my home thinking “why do I feel like I’m poor and he isn’t?” And why did I feel like a single parent when I wasn’t? I literally checked out single parenting books from the library because I realized I was doing it all by myself.
Their family did not bother to rear them as correct to be an honorable part of society. They never were expected to do anything but as they please. Others do not matter and actually they do not matter to themselves either. No self respect exists. If there was self respect they would go the whole 10 yards! That is what responsible humans do. Fact is they know they are a failure - and lean into it. They cannot compete with a beautiful Divine Fem Lady with honor toward self and others. I will say Ladies - buy flowers for you at the grocery store and enjoy them. Find time for a book or a walk. Or, have a friend over. Go out in the evening with old friends - do not lose track of your support group! THINK of YOU! LOVE YOU! PAMPER YOU! BE Special to YOU! Buy you a cup of tea out shopping while you pay for a sitter. Make your life Good! You are Excellent Company and be a good FRIEND TO YOU. SET some money aside however you can. YOU are wise - intelligent - warm - loving - kind - thoughtful - on the money - on top of things and YOU ARE YOUR COMMANDER! Be good to you in all Words you ever THINK or SAY! YOU ARE AN ANGEL on EARTH! TY! Much love..
You made me absolutely cry…. I will buy flowers for myself❤️ No one in my whole life has never given me flowers-- except when I was little and to make friends with other girls we picked and gave each other flowers🥲❤️
We have a much better understanding of codependency. Romantic relationships are the lowest level of exchange available. Soul level relationships are rare.
I want to say thank you for finding the man that starts speaking at 9:22. It is nice to find a man that's willing to not only point out what is considered a good man to women but also give advice to men and how to be a good man in a very loving manner. His voice is incredible as well.
True, in 50/50 arrangements there would be no expectation that me or my food is to be touched. And cleaning would be done in shifts. And I don't see how man can go 50/50 pregnant? That "treat your boyfriend like your girlfriends" scam got done real fast when they didn't reciprocate and brought extra risk and labor instead.
Women still get blamed for their ex partner short comings. I have been hurt and disappointed many times but I'm the one being told I picked wrong which makes no sense to me.
👍🏾 It doesn't make sense because, it doesn't make sense. Men/society are always projecting their crap onto women. We're no longer accepting it but, they're not changing - they're having *meltdowns* . Stay steadfast and hold your good sense and boundaries! Let them self-destruct. We no longer care. 😑☺️🤗❤
Oh! And, remember... They blame women because you're supposed to think you're crazy when they do the "switch-up" on you. You're blamed for trying to "change" him when all you want is for him to go back to being the "good guy" he was IN. THE. BEGINNING! From now on, tell everybody to miss you with bu11sh1t!!! 💯
I’m one of those washed up women over 50. I’d rather be single than the drama most of these below effort men tend to bring. I get to do what I want like eat out, go to football games. Probably fly out to meet family I’ve never met for the first time. I guarantee I wouldn’t be able to do all that in a bad/toxic relationship.
I've spent so long and so much energy on relationships and being desirable, picked and wanted. I have been badly mistreated and now I'm just healing and staying single. This channel really really helps.
All their negative commenys are projection. They say those things because that is how they feel about themselves. That is sll they bring to "the table".
It depends on where you live though too if it's the middle of nowhere probably not you'd be stuck with your ex but if it's a major city your not exactly stuck because they have women's shelters and the family dorms are usually cleaner they will place you upstairs and help you find a job. Your first mistake was not working but in order to look for work you'd have to probably even leave to the other side of town too. You don't want them to have your address even they know this is true if he didn't have your location or phone number you wouldn't be stuck with him.. They will hold you back from working that's why I suggest a shelter because you'd be around other women and people are more likely to feel bad for you if you have kids with you.
It may not be easy, but it is possible. You have to set a plan and move in silence. There are too many ways to make money these days. There are tons of resources to utilize. I'm sorry you are going through what you may be. Just know there are ways. Social media has brought everyone together in a special way. Jump into groups, begin hobbies that can turn into an income stream. Learn a new skill.
The reason men can’t keep up with women’s energy is because women don’t need a spark, we’re just that get up and go energy, figuring out our moves on the go, but our minds are always moving. With men he needs a spark, kinda like he chooses a woman, good looks sparks something in him to move, after the initial spark, women have to always give him some type of spark, a task, a challenge something to make him move, see women don’t need anything outside herself to get her moving, but men need something outside themselves like a video game, or a good looking woman, or a way to make money, etc to make him move. To me, most women can sit with themselves and be at peace, men can’t do that, he’s always looking for that spark, this is probably why they argue so much it’s stimulating to them.
Yes, the woman in the car with the blue shirt? Yes. I am married in a healthy relationship. I fully support anyone who is single by choice. It would absolutely be difficult to go out with one of the guys I dated in my younger years to get to my husband again…just the one. All of the other guys? It just didn’t work out, but there wasn’t anything really wrong about them, we were just wrong for each other. My husband is the exception to the rule as well. Should be the rule.
You’re a huge liar, your false husband is on Ashley Madison, at the strip clubs, and dating apps. False married men are the most available ones out there. If you’re so-called happily married then why are you trying to convince us? Why did you click on the video if it’s not your cup of tea? You’re stuck in the circus
I just want to see what a genuine effort from a man looks like. Love bombing behaviour doesn't count. P.S it wouldn't even be for romantic purposes. Just to satisfy my scientific curiosity.
Men are by default opportunistic and lazy. Least amount of effort they think is needed to achieve a goal that’s in his favor. He won’t do anything if it doesn’t directly or indirectly benefit him. Anything a man does is to directly or indirectly gain access to women, their energy and their cat.
If I tell my husband that something he does bothers me, he will remember it and make an effort to change. I mentioned that I wanted a surprise party for my 50th birthday and he went all out to make it happen. I also tell him how much I appreciate him and give specific examples. I can only speak for myself, but being with my husband is like living with my best friend with benefits. We try to make each other happy.
Yeah, I’ve had that issue. My ex is a good social media father. He puts pictures up of him and the kids to look like he’s a better father than he really is. Little do people know that those pictures are the only time he’s with his sons. I’m a good mother in real life all the time! I’m the type of mother that forgets to post pitches and events on social media, but I’m there for my sons every day and he’s not. If you asked my son who is the more reliable parent. They’re going to definitely say me.
Thank you keep encouraging it is appreciated knowing y'all still out there encouraging. I remember a time when other men called immature males on their bad behavior. I don't come across it as much these days.
I'd also like to ask all women to pay very close attention to how a divorced man communicates and interacts with his kids. It will tell you everything you need to know about how he will be as a partner. Don't get too close to a divorced man with kids, until you can witness how he treats his kids. Protect your heart ladies. Your emotional safety should always be your #1 priority. ❤
Honestly I promise my self i will shed any tears for any men at all. If he is not spending money time energy than men! Im not sleeping nor having him in my life i treat them as they treat me. I treat myself the best ever! Men don’t deserve any good things from women most of them don’t deserve any from us. If he is not even spending money im not interested 😂
i'm a 38 yr old single by choice woman, childfree as well. although society likes to make me feel like shit for my choices, i was tired of getting cheated on, tired of bringing more to the table than the men i was able to attract, tired of the games, the lies, the emotional manipulation, the lack of character and morals, and the way people will look you in your eye and lie to your face for YEARS. and then cry, moan and beg you to stay when you finally put the pieces together and walk the hell away. i have a friend my age who already has a toddler, and just found out she's pregnant again. the father of her baby is out running around on her, because they had an argument and "were on a break", so it was OK, in his mind. she's struggling to figure out whether she's going to put this new baby up for adoption or try to raise it, i can't imagine her struggles. and i can only imagine how difficult it would be, to do this ON YOUR OWN. and she thinks she looks stupid for this guy, and i'm like girl, you ain't the one looking stupid, lol. he's the one running around on you and not giving a damn about his own child, like i just do not understand how men can be like this. women can be bad partners too, for sure, but in my own experience and what i've seen with friends and co workers, its usually the man doing the woman SO, so dirty. but we aint the ones looking stupid. it ain't stupid to want to love someone, to want to believe in them and give them the benefit of the doubt. it ain't stupid to want love. it is stupid, though, to have it, and throw it away because of ego and insecurities and unresolved trauma. men need to step up before they wake up one day and realize there are literally no women left that are interested in their bullshit. this illusion of choice is going to fall away for them, and soon they'll realize, all of the decent women are removed from the dating pool, and now its just riff-raff. but sadly, these dudes don't really care about the quality of their partners, until THEY get cheated on, or used, or manipulated in some way. they can dish it out but sure as hell can't take it.
47 and single with no children...and I am happy, not to say that I don't want a life partner...but it has to be a life parther though..I won't settle for less. I have had beautiful relationships but knew when it was time to let go without regrets. Either you don't perturb or bring more to my happiness or you can leave...no regrets.
I'm glad we are stepping up. So happy to see such videos and women who are saying this . Yes.. those days of low value men are over. Women.. stop accepting shit
I haven't dated for years. I do not plan on dating. I would gladly be married again. I just don't think a man could honestly meet my expectations. Most men will need to lie and manipulate to gain access. Therefore, I abstain.
I have asked this question many times. I suppose an easy answer would be that its percived as a status symbol for men to have a lot of partners and children whereas women are looked at like flowers who lose value the more they exchange hands. Although if enough people are vocal it will no doubt change but that seems to be the general consensus
they use the fact that woman have hymens that break and they don't as the evidence they allowed to play around all they want and spread seed. It's ridiculous. They can spread all kinds of stds with their messiness, no thanks.
One thing that has become very important is knowing someones love languages. How do they like to receive love and how do they give and show love. That guy was talking about if he makes a dinner reservation, he wants you to double that. Idk what that means lol Maybe fly him to paris and have dinner there idk. But realistically, if you show love by cleaning the house and cooking good meals and always making sure that you are helping pay for things, maybe he doesn't care about those things and he will be ungrateful and you will feel unappreciated. Thats a common way women show love but men are starting to not care about sex, cleaning, cooking and helping pay things or even children. Yes ladies, we've gotten to that place in society where men aren't grateful for a womens role. So be honest about what you bring to the table and how you show love and want to receive love because you dont want to end up with an ungrateful husband even though your busting your butt to show him love.
Great points! I’ve experienced both and it’s like he wanted take out and bjs three times a day😂…I was like, “But but I made pot roast with all the fixings!”
Men sees your cooking as another take out option with the added bonus that he doesn’t have to pay money for it. Most times too he doesn’t even have to pay money for a date, he just goes to your place. And then he’s going to try to spend the night and get the cat. If he’s not your husband, don’t cook for him and don’t sleep with him
If money was the only factor in a marriage I'd have married years ago. I can take care of myself. Mutual appreciation, mutual respect, and mutual support requires two people. And they must invest equally. That's what seems to be hard to find in men my age. I still can't bring myself to date younger men. It's awkward.
Glad I'm not the only woman that finds that awkward. Don't know how many young men I've had to explain I'm not a cougar if they are young enough for me to have nursed...no, just no. I cannot get past it.
Single by choice since aged 10. I’ve had meaningful relationships and I love having a man to do things w but being single is way more peaceful and caters to my growth set
Most of my friends are choosing to live solo over 60. Not lonely at all. We've all been "boxed in by what society told us we must do" and sadly most complied. Lots of years sacrificed with damaging toxic connections and relationships. Not worth it. None of us plan on longterm relationships ever again. ❤
They said pick better, now they are about to find out what that looks like.
We picking ourselves! 🫶🏾✨️
..they are so hostile and manipulative…they don’t rate being chosen.
@@edithart5753 haha so true. They can't have it both ways. They think women don't take accountability but they are so hypocritical. They refuse to see why women don't want them. They think they are good enough but they are not even good at all and I'm talking about at least half of the male population in this country. Now they are convincing themselves that they deserve teenagers to date guys, not even to marry, to use up until they are done with them. We are in such a bad place in society. These are real men in the comments talking about these things and it's scary. Protect each other ladies because parents are failing and young women need guidance. I've taken on a guidance role for the young teenagers at my job because they seem to not get it at home. I still have to keep things as professional as I can but also guide them a little here and there. I just spoke to this fifteen year old who shared that she has already been played with a guy. I just met her and now Tomorrow I have to gently tell her that although I am a trustworthy person, she is lucky that I am but she shouldn't be so open about personal matters with most people. I also told her to not hangout with boys, especially if she feels a loss of self control or lust and I told her where a free clinic is to get some free healthcare. This is one example. These boys learn it so young to use women and then wonder why women have baggage or trust issues or that women don't trust or respect them.
Yep. Asked and answered, fellas, try keeping up.
@@IndigoSeeress_Yaa7 chose them and regret it lol
I don't think men care about their legacy. They have lost all concept of honor.
Yep, and many of them don't even understand basic vocabulary. Constantly using the word "legacy" when they really mean "lineage."
Yes!! I honestly can't stomach most of them, I find their weakness intolerable and pathetic.
I don't even know any men who want kids anymore
@@Alixir1228they want kids but for sinister reasons. To trap women for sexual territory.
I posted this comment on another video. The only legacy most of these men are leaving behind is a legacy of unacknowledged and unhealed mother wounds and past trauma.
They act like being single is a death sentence
They should learn how to be single
And it’s not .. ur actually happier single then when in a relationship cause u dnt have to worry about anyone using u or breaking ur heart or making u feel less
oh no, it's just me and a dog. Oh how awful.
It’s projection. Men need women, we are the resource. Without us the slowly parish.
Women need each other. The love and respect comes from us understanding one another’s plight.
Go enjoy yourself. Peace of mind is priceless.😊
Time will tell.
It’s funny how women are told not to expect much of a husband or boyfriend in terms of gifts or care, but then are told “You need to make him feel special and wanted ALWAYS or else he HAS to cheat.”
They have us all duped
They won’t even brush their teeth or wash themselves and still think we should want to touch them
@@alexyssaubrie1606 Oh god don’t even get me started on that nonsense. They stay making “fish” joke about us, but have the audacity to demand head when their front side smells like the back one. 🤢🤮
MEN NEED MORALS AND RESOURCES!
@@alexyssaubrie1606been there. Unfortunately for him I told him every day he was unattractive. He wouldn't leave me alone. So I moved out of state. Among other things.
Men can either step up or step out.
I prefer they step out and away.
@Smw006 I prefer most of them go away
Men don’t care…
@Smw006 Their existence is no beneficial, they make everything transactional, and they don't respect boundaries.. when I tell a man no is no
@CharysseSepiaBlackman11 you care why are y'all always in women spaces so much go away
You can't win with them. But you definitely can without them. Celibacy is the best option. Single women live happier and longer, even scientists did the work to prove it but mature women already knew this.
lies married people live longer and happier.. GET A CAT LOL
@@gerabenisrael7601lies married MEN live longer. Married women die sooner than single women, they make less money too.
She will that must be more efficient than you and yes married people live longer but only married men not woman .lol😂😂😂@@gerabenisrael7601
@@gerabenisrael7601lies. Married *men* are happier than single men. Single women are happier than married women
@@gerabenisrael7601Married MEN live longer by a stat 10 years….married women live LESS by the same amount. Now this doesn’t mean that if the man dies at 80, his wife dies at 70. It means that married women if they would’ve lived to 85 if single…if married they may it to 75. Her husband could’ve kicked by age 70 and she’s still here chilling and guess what? Without having a good wife,he would’ve kicked at 60. Look at how men who remarry in a NY minute after their wife dies, hence why I run from widowers like he has the plague. I DO believe there are exceptions as in well cared for wives you can see it on their face…they will look good…same as the wife that’s been stressed or mistreated even micro slights over thirty years from a man she loves…she will wear that strain as well.
Women dont have to be "thankful" anymore. We make our own money. So what do MEN bring to the table??? Dirty dishes? Smh
Horrible seggs, no compassion, lies, STDs, cheating, neglect, abuse, and more 😂
And breadcrumbs all over the counter after making toast because they can't be arsed to clean up after themselves. So much disrespectful behavior.
Unnecessary Drama, Chaos, possibly diseases, Stress, draining your Energy etc.
Piss around the toilet, drama , and stress
Not to mention pissy toilet seats🤮
The bar was on the floor but some men still bring a shovel
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Spoken poetry right here😂😂😂
The bar had always been in the sewage systems but not it’s in hell
@@rosierb852 indeed. this is so f-ing true
😂 I promise
Meanwhile my partner roasted a chicken for me last night after I made him a scratch dinner the night before- these bitter dudes better get their shit together and learn ✨reciprocating✨
❤ that’s lovely. I think lots of people think this is all based on negativity, but the aim of this conversation is to help people have happy loving relationships, if that’s what makes them feel groovy
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my mother was married to my dad, she was a single parent even though she was married
Same with mine and he left her when I started college.
Typical. My dad left when I was 2, didn’t see him agin til I was 18. Still owes child support probably for the rest of his life. Deadbeat
@@Alexis-ec9cl i left myn ex husbyand the best thing that happens to me and myn kids😊i was single married woman with Special needs son 😊❤God js good and travelling now to Spain with myn Boys 😊God is good 😊i am so grateful i left that Clown after 7 years marriage
I hear about how a lot of women who literally pray or try to manifest a good man. They write it on paper and put it in under their pillow, we never hear about males having to do this. They're more prone to meet good women, but there's always been a shortage of good men
It's a shortage by choice on the males part. I think women should manifest the end of the patriarchy so everything else can sort itself out
I made a list of the type of person I wanted to be with, I struggled with 50, after several relationships, I ended up with well over 100. I found the love of my life at 33, we got married 9 months later.
@@theoriginalkrabbypatty Good you found your King 👑💖 Goes to show males don't have to try to manifest a good woman or pray for one...because most males had good women and screwed them over in one way or another
Massive shortage of "good" man
I make it a POINT to stop taking photos of my BD with our daughter at activities or events I plan. I use to go out of my way to have us take photos as a family for her but I realize I was doing everything. He even pointed it out the other day that I don’t take photos of them anymore. The whole summer went by and he barely made an effort to join us at parks etc she’s two! So when I did my album of summer he realize he wasn’t anywhere in the photos and I said well plan stuff for her and get someone to take photos. Her 3rd bday is gonna be legendary because I’m getting married two months before and my fiancé is very active despite not being required to be. For her 2nd my bd had me do everything from planning, hosting, entertaining while he sat in a corner with his friends for majority of the party. My fiance is already coming to me with the games and entertainment and organizing how we will BOTH be team players. Ladies trust me DO NOT SETTLE!! Be by yourself or with someone who shows you they are more than capable
My point exactly! And then they lecture us to choose better. When you’re choosing better they tell you, you’re being selfish
Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 I Hope Your Marriage Lasts A Lifetime, Sounds Like You Got A Rare Catch !!!
This this this. Do not make them look better than they are. They rely on your labor to make them look successful and competent to society and your children. That's why staying in an abusive or unequal relationship is not good for the kids. Because everything that's done during that marriage or relationship will be on the woman's labor and everything that the kids get to enjoy was organised by mom. But do the kids know that? No. All they know is that they had fun and mom and dad were there and then there were photos to back it up. They don't think about who made the effort and put in the labor to make these things happen for them in most cases. I am DONE DONE DONE. I will never make excuses for my ex husband or try to make him look good to our children. I did that early on for a few years but thank god we were divorced before our children had real memories. If he chooses to disappoint them that's what it will be. he will never get to use my labor to prop himself up and my children will not be taught through how their mother is treated that women are supposed to suffer, do it all and be used. Nope. These men eventually get their karma. If they don't pour into their children, and put low to no effort into their children, their children want nothing to do with them when they grow up. Let them show their children who they are. Stop trying to make these men look good because you want your children to have a father. Its a good thing wanting your children's father to step up and it's another thing doing the labor for him. You're just prolonging your children's suffering because you're playing a role in deceiving them about who their father really is. Let them know who he is and validate them. Children are very resilient. They don't miss what they never had. They may at times wish their father was actually a father but that's normal for us all. What they won't do is think he's a good person and and they won't be damaged by his low to no effort that you have made look better because you have done the labor to make him look competent and now your child has idealised a person that cannot give them a damn thing .
Thank you! I hate seeing Women do that. It's not like we don't already know the Woman did everything.
@@sophieobiero-ro7ujit's because they can't use us anymore
I’m happy single. I recently met a guy, and he was handsome and respectful, we decided to exchange numbers. Everything was great the first 3 days of getting to know each other, then I noticed the effort in replying back to me stopped. I would get a text back 8 to 10 hours later with a dramatic excuse. I went along with it, but it started to eat me up inside, when he wouldn’t reply. When I can feel that he saw my text. I ended it, and instantly I felt AMAZING!! 🤩🤩 I’ve been through that before!! Toxic men pull back purposely to gain control over then mind of their target. If you aren’t strong and know your value, it can and will destroy you!!
I require bare minimum and nobody can meet them. Since when loyalty, honesty, cleanliness (physically and sexually), patience, maturity, compassion, and kindness are considered high standards???? I don't even care how much he earns!😢
That's what I am saying. Damn...I don't ask for much.
This is so sad..
Should be normal indeed
Omg!!!! That’s all I wanted
Women are raised to be communistic minded. Take care of everyone all the time.
Men are raised to be individualistic and competitive.
In my opinion this is why relationships don't work.
Women are raised to be selfless providers and m&n are raised to be selfish consumers.
Good point, cuz those two dynamics are not compatible
I think the relationships don't work because the competitive men are competing with their *women* INSTEAD of against *other* MEN! Too busy trying to be a *better* woman than her. 🫤
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@kimcham9949yep bingo !
If I'm not mistaken, 'high value man' was defined by the late Kevin Samuels, not women. This society is so money-oriented and transactional, and women get the blame for everything that goes wrong. I was a wife to a man whose only credit in life is he went to work on time, everyday. Long story short, I filed for divorce and started my singleness at 50! Never too late to get happy...
I'm happy for you for breaking away sis! And kitten heels will do just fine for him. 🐈👠
So true!
Exactly!!! I thought I was the only one wondering how "high value" man became a woman thing when hou NEVER hear women say it? Kevin Scamuel's started it. I'm so glad you are out of that one sided relationship ❤
1. Low effort=Toxic (What u expect in beginning is what will continue.)
2. Value of man is his character not money.
3. Women are happy alone because of freedom.
They Said To Choose Better, So I Chose To Keep My Legs Closed && Leave The Dating Scene 😅😂❤ The Male Loneliness Epidemic Is Only Gonna Get Worse When The Cold Season Comes
👍🏾 *YES!* 😂😂😂
Yup I chose Chad and haven't looked back. Spoilt rotten with his time and care, most attentive man I've ever been with.
@@db6881 I'm Genuinely Happy For You 🫂🥰 I Keep Running Into White Pookies, So I'm Good Alone For Now 😅😂
@HaughtyHedonist I'm realizing being single is together most men aren't together and still trying to date
@@db6881You mean " Brad" "Chad" Is The Trash/Spoiled WM! Congratz to Your Guy Wining You Over. (Make Sure He AppreciateYou!)!
Single by choice here...but...IF a truly good guy came forward for me, I would want that. Very few great dudes. Too stressful to date now.
No one is a good guy, they only pretend
@rileahangelawestonyep I'm done with them
Only the fictional-men are good men.
@@ShrimpySoup Naw, I know of several truly great men in my family.
I like your perspective. I love that your admitting that you want a man/relationship but you will stay single if you don’t meet someone who meets your standards. That’s balance 🙏🏽
Men don't change, they just suspend their negative authentic self until it's okay to show it.
I don’t date random men. I’m no longer willing to gamble with my time, intelligence, emotional stability & frankly I’ve just lost patience.
Manifestelle has a longer name for these men:
"Below bare minimum low effort men"
Omg stop with that chick all she does is repeat tired the same tired talking points and steal content
Her videos are below bare minimum effort
@Rosemary46840 You, my friend, are what we call "a hater". 😊
@@bluespagirl1she's got a point. I've gotten bored of her channel.
Its crazy to me that women want a perfect man he has to have no "baggage" must be a provider must confident must be handsome must worship whatever she says and his life should revolve around his gf but most of these women haven't healed from they're own brake up because it's always the mans falt
The only man who has any value to you is the one who treats you the way you want and deserve to be treated. That’s why there’s no such thing as a “high value man,” because his value is negative to you no matter how much money, looks, height, etc. he possesses if he doesn’t give that value to you. It’s like an oil painting in the Louvre; you can’t take it home with you no matter how much value it has. It’s useless to you.
Yes, I agree and I think this applies both ways as natural reciprocation.
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"Deserve to be treated". How does and an average looking, post wall woman with a body count of 50 deserve to be treated? Probably no better than any other 304.
@@ChristianOneno it doesn't. Take your dusty 50/50 bs grift somewhere else 😂
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The more and more I look at these type of videos, the more I realize just how lucky of a girl I really am. I’m not trying to brag, but I was the breadwinner in our relationship for a while, he saw that I want to college, so he decided to go to college too. He raised his standards so high that he not only makes it considerably more than I do, but he does his own laundry, and he also helps around the house with other chores. This is a remarkable guy!
I am happy to hear that remarkable guys do exist! I'm happy for you! I hope you soar in this relationship and in life.
That's awesome! It's sad that's special now though. Just being a productive human lol
Happy for u girl❤
After I read a study that said, married men live longer, and single women live longer, i chose happily single.
We improve their life while they drain us.
A man will need to meet my peace to get my attention because I hate drama.
Don’t take up no man on potential either. How you take him up he’ll continue to be that way.
That is *REAL* !!!
@777sweet yep men get real lazy when they know they have you hooked lined...it's almost like you have to disappear from them to refocus
There's no such thing as potential, either he's there or he's not.
I waste 10 years on "potential" run!!🏃🏿♀️
Never get attached to men, ever the moment you do, they sense that switch and the chase for them is over. It’s best to avoid but for the women that still have hope
@@77kc_77 exactly!!!
"what you accept in the beginning of the relationship will carry on through the whole relationship" YES TRUE
The patriarchy is crumbling.
It never should have been a thing
I'm glad
Good
We need to hold the line, ladies. Let the Menz be on their own
That part
If married men are the happiest then I think all men should just marry each other.
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Meanwhile the data says otherwise.
You know what helped me NOT make bad decisions about being in relationships?
COMPREHENSIVE SEX EDUCATION.
What some people think is that comprehensive sex education is all about the mechanics of sex and preventing disease and pregnancy…all of that s only a small portion of it, at least in my experience.
The majority of the class my siblings and I took was about communication, self respect, respect for others, consent, and boundary setting/observing. We talked about knowing one’s own values, morals, and desires and communicating that with any potential partner. It was all about communication.
That is what kept me from, really, destroying my life with bad relationship decisions. I was armed with knowing what I considered to be relationship red flags when I was 12 years old! And through experience I added more.
Comprehensive sex education. Ours was a coed class. I cannot state forcefully enough how much stress and trauma that class helped me avoid.
I got the same education and I'm single and happy.
And men really need to up their game in the bedroom, anyway. I'm in my 40s and I've only ever had three men give me an orgasm, on three separate instances. The rest either tried and gave up, or never tried at all, because sex for men is only about their pleasure, never the pleasure of the woman they are with. It's also my fault for _hoping_ that men would start caring about my pleasure in the bedroom, instead of _requiring_ it.
They need to do that now for these kids, so the girls can avoid the pitfalls you did and the boys can stop shooting themselves in the foot.
I think we should change it to Relationship Education to better communicate that. Calling it Sex Education is a bit of a misnomer, as sex is only a part of what it should be teaching, and it immediately raises the hackles of people who are less than comfortable about someone teaching their kids about sex, other than them. I think we would have more success implementing such a program with the rename.
I've always had this opinion that we don't talk about sex in a healthy and comprehensive way. I'm glad to know that it really does work. I've been trying to have these conversations with my nieces and nephews now that they're older. It's so important to know your worth, and to know what to expect from sex.
We live in a culture that doesnt hold men accountable, always have, and look where its gotten us. Good luck changing it. Id love to see it change but i aint gonna hold my breath.
Woman here, in my 20s, single by choice, I don't need any extra burdens in my life. I'm ONLY going to get a BF if he is going to make my life better, and my life is amazing rn.
I've been asked out a ton, have dudes that don't understand "sorry, not looking for something atm" still pestering me, but I still don't want a bf.
👍🏾 Also, watch out for the "Switcho/Chango" - after you fall for him, being exclusive, get engaged, get married, get impregnated, etc. Maintain a position of being able to walk away at EVERY stage. Sounds harsh but, so is reality. Good luck out there. ❤
@@kimcham9949 Very true and great advice!
Most women watched our mothers and grandmothers try to keep it all together for everyone, and eventually burn out and be left by the man and family they were trying to uplift.
The nursing homes are full of lonely women who got dumped by their families.
Are you trying to blame them too? Because I've heard men blame their grandmothers for why they deserved to be abandoned.
This made me cry 😢 ,my mother made so much sacrifices and she is starting over at 50 😢
I see grandpa be abandoned more than big momma. She always has family at her side.
@@Tigerlily_Fresh 👍🏾 Say it again! I bet you see more blk men die abandoned than you see blk women, too. 💯
@@oliviaobiaja Do these men not see the irony and why women listen to that and are leaving THEM alone in real time for this reason? Don't wanna end up like our grams!
over 50, and single by choice after my divorce, I am beyond happy now, finding myself, and celebrating just being me.
Agreed, raise your standards. Women, save yourselves. Men are not going to save you. Most of the men of this generation have a heart of stone. I’m willing to wait even to my senior years. Maybe then, men will have learned how to treat women with love.
Politically men are moving towards being conservative as women become more liberal. A shared world view is important so why are men surprised that women don't want to date them?
Excellent observation 👌
It's also a worldview that relegates women to birthing cows. Funny how that works.
@@bluespagirl1truly
There are plenty of Liberal men and Conservative women..
@@Itsbiancabitchh Not even conservative women want to date conservative men lmao
I just saw the most horrific video of a girl after a man threw her into a lake. She nearly drowned!
of course he’s recording her LAUGHING
@@alwaysyouramanda😡 I wonder how many of his "bros" laughed and thought it was "cool" ...😮
@@KLG-sx3ztI'd have unfriended him, wtf is wrong with these weird dudes. I've seen that, men who laugh about women getting hurt as a joke, turn out to be all-aroud weird and dishonorable men. It shows an extreme lack of character
psychopathic behavior, he want to see women suffer but pass it as a joke so he has no consequences
These men are crumbling daily becoming more demonic by the day women be mindful of how you engage with them!
I told my kids father if he cant help financially then he needs to stay away from my kids. People got mad. I dont care. Just giving a little time here and there aint good enough. You either in or you out 100 percent on everything. You dont get to pick and choose how to be a father. And im happily raising mine on my own. Str8 A students, one already in college❤❤
Both men and women have allowed them to do the bare minimum all these years now men can’t fathom actually having to contribute. They don’t just manipulate their girlfriends they manipulate and put on a different face for people you all know as well. That’s why friends and family feel like he’s just not a bad guy or half-way father
What men are doing?? They are playing video games!!!
Boys
Or watching other men play video games 😅
no....Babe not men ,,hun ..just boys - peter pan...lol!
@@donnalowe9334stop infantilizing adult men plz. They’re immature adults.
And chasing tail bec they think that means something.
I don’t know how all these older women have so much energy to go out, go bowling, go to girls nights out. I’m 40 & have no friends, no relationships, & no kids. mostly because I’m just way too tired to even think about it. My 2 chihuahuas are a full time job for me. I can’t even keep up on day to day stuff. It’s too much work, & energy to have people in my life.
I'm 30 and feel exactly the same. I work on my feet all day but only work 35hrs a week and I'm exhausted gf. I have no life and can't get a second date with men. Some of us just are built more fragile and that's ok. Some women are work horses and some of us should have had an easier life. Oh well. We keep working and trying to find enjoyment where we can. ❤
I agree, nothing but energy vampires
A alone life can be a good life!
I'm 40 as well (actually turn 41 next week) and I can understand where you're coming from because I used to be there. But for me, the lack of energy and not wanting any people around were symptoms of a dysregulated nervous system and compassion fatigue that developed as a result of being in and surviving an abusive relationship. Healing the nervous system can go a long way toward helping to bring that energy and enthusiasm for life back.
It's been a little over a year since I was able to leave an abusive narcissistic relationship that lasted 9 years. I came out of that situation with cPTSD and extreme anxiety to the point that I was stuck in the freeze response for months. I could barely function even just to do the bare minimum to take care of myself, let alone my dogs, cat, and livestock (I'm a farmer). It took pretty much this entire past year (plus a few months before I was officially free of the abuser) of me working to heal my nervous system, moving to a completely different place, journaling regularly etc to get myself to where I am now. I live alone but I enjoy a full, fun life now. I work out and focus on eating healthier to help regulate my blood sugar, insulin, and hormones, I go hiking and exploring the state parks and other cool spots in nature that are nearby, I take spontaneous trips to visit friends and explore new places, I take myself out on dates, I enjoy multiple hobbies, I have the energy to take care of all of my animals, and I make time for self-care. I'm definitely still a work in progress but I'm healing more and more with every day that passes.
I'm also really focusing on infusing each day with gratitude and reasons to be joyful. It doesn't happen overnight, but starting down the path to healing your nervous system, creating safety for yourself, and living in gratitude can definitely help you reclaim your power and energy. ❤
I'm 66, and I have to tell you, and not having to worry about menstruation every month, and possibly becoming anemic, and not having cramps, frees up a LOT of energy!! 😊
I have noticed in my bad dating history, why are the black men so angry when trying to court a woman. With the other races I dated, even the shit ones. I put a boundary and they 'pretend' to accept it until they can manipulate you to let go of it. The black men I dated were so.... offended and angry and mean because I even SET UP a boundary in the first place. They go straight to fury and insults.
It might just be my anecdotal experience, has anyone else experienced this?
Yup, they definitely have a highly entitled attitude when dealing with women.
They’re always on a prowl to take advantage of you, so boundaries are their enemy.
Yes I have experienced this.. I’ve dated all races as a white woman… recently I had a break up from a Latin guy… a man from Jamaica that I met in basic training wanted to get to know me etc & I told him I’m not looking for close male friendships as it leads to romance.. he got so mad he ignored my message 🤣 other guys said okay I understand
👍🏾 We've ALL experienced this. BM in their feminine energy. Scratch that... BM in their toddler energy.
@kimcham9949 Little boys in grown men's bodies. They really throw tantrums whenever they don't get their way. I'm fully convinced the movie Baby Boy wasn't a comedy but a social commentary.
My husband also told me something interesting yesterday. He said that some man use feminism against women. The fact that they work (and work hard) that they are liberate with their sexuality. Some man use this as an excuse to let women do all the work and put their pee pee all over the place. He said that because his sister had to deal with that kind of guy. And yup, her standards were very low... The guy also had a child with her and two differents women, no driver licence, no job, smoking all day... Glad we talk about that
It’s not even that I have raised my standards it is what I won’t tolerate. I don’t care how good your heart is if you don’t add value to my life in the place where I need it, it’s a no for us. I don’t care how kind and sweet you think you are if you are boring, complacent and unhealed, there is no space for you in my life. I don’t care how long we have known one another or been together, I have chosen happiness over history.
I don’t care how much you love me and how much you like me if I don’t feel the same about you, it is a no for us.
My no’s have become more defined. My standards are the same, but the no’s are now in concrete
That's another thing I keep hearing from women is the "Oh but he's a good man". Doesn't matter how good someone is if they can't help you in life and hinder you in some way instead. People can be generally "good" and still make terrible personal choices that will negatively affect you.
❤❤❤ I love you for this. I'm telling you *right* now that I'm plagiarizing this! I'm screenshotting this and I'm rehearsing these words. I'm looking at this as often as I want to &/or *need* to. I can't thank you enough for being generous enough to share your thoughts and feelings with us. Thank you all the way from the bottom of my heart... Thank you. ❤❤❤
@@saltycat662This! Good men can often still be terrible husbands/boyfriends/spouses.Leave them where they are they’re at.
@Nitra813 Yes plenty of good men , but they lacked good communication skills , emotional and mental support , etc there's always something with men
Yes! Absolutely agree! This my therapy after therapy….. I love each and everyone of encouragement and strength…. Love all my Sisters here thank you so much🌺🌻🌷❤️😊
That is so true. When I was with my partner, we recently separated. I was taking care of our child. If he had to do it, he would guilt trip me to saying she is my child and how can I let her go hungry. So I was always in that kitchen cooking, after work too. I would spend almost all day in that kitchen trying to make a load of food to last for at least 2 days, but no. He would eat so much. I had to serve food to our child, which I dont mind, but I also had to serve his food, bring the plate to him along with his drink or whatever sauces he wanted. Go wash dishes before I even eat. Wash the dishes again after eating. Later on, he would get hungry again and serve himself a big plate of food. Leave the dishes he Dirtied, and sometimes it would be too late. After putting our child to bed and still needing to shower and seeing those dishes. I would have to wash them again. By the next day, there would be just enough food for my daughter to eat and for him to eat. I would always eat less just so they could both eat. If there was a day I was just too tired he would go buy food, but the next day he expected me to cook if I didn't he would get mad telling me he gave me a day off from cooking. I told him I didn't want to spend all day in the kitchen. So it will be a quick meal like some noodles with spam and eggs. I would always suggest something I can cook real quick. He didn't want any of that he would get mad that he is not single anymore. He is not going to eat like a single college guy living in a dorm with roommates. He wanted real food, which meant I had to get up and spend all my time in that kitchen. I was also not allowed to get my hair done or any type of beauty treatment done if it's a man. I wanted to get my eyebrows done. There was a guy who did them so beautifully, but he said no. I was not allowed to talk to any men at work. Which made it hard to work, and when he "stopped" by, he saw that a guy was talking to me. Well, it turned into a big issue, and all of a sudden, he was blaming me for flirting. He never took me seriously when I said after him im not about to date and take care of a second adult child. Im done with men after him. He never believed me he always thought I must have a man already lined up if im so ready to leave him. It was a whole bunch of stuff that happened. Hair falling off, I looked miserable. Now I'm at peace. I worry about my child and me. I can make quick dinners some days and not have anyone complaining about the food im making. Small portions of foods so it doesn't take forever in that kitchen. Still wash dishes, but now at least I dont have to wake up and do dishes before even starting to cook. It stays clean throughout the night. It is definitely a big peace of mind. I always felt guilty if I didn't want to do something or do something. Im so much better without having another partner. For the rest of my life, I can certainly stay this way. Ladies, just be careful because most of the time, even if you work, you are still expected to do your "wifely" duties.
What you described sounds like hell and I'm so sorry you had to endure such things.That's straight abuse and no woman should ever experience it. I hope you have the best life possible from now on because you deserve it ❤❤❤
Sounds very familiar. I starved myself so my children could eat. He'd always eat seconds and often fourths and fifths. My oldest children were told they couldn't have seconds. So I went without so they'd get their fill as growing children.
He'd blare the TV all night
I'd be lucky to get 4hrs of sleep for over a decade. Up byv4am or 6am up till midnight or later.
After a few years i Had to wear his sweatpants, socks and t-shirts cause he spent the money on video games and crap we didn't need. My mama sent me money once just so I could get a couple bras!
I cooked from scratch, made quilts, crocheted toys and blankets made all kinds of stuff trying to make ends meet despite him wasting money constantly. He was working me into an early grave. I barely even received room an board!!
Despite being the old fashioned pioneer type of wife.
I finally collapsed and the whole family turned against me. His family manipulated and assisted to get him out of any accountability twisted the entire history into false slander to protect the family name despite knowing the garbage their son was doing.
And that's just the tip of that iceberg.
Talk about life and energy draining!
I've got skills most people don't because of it which has helped me save a lot on my own. Not interested in taking anything like that on ever again. No thanks.
Women are literally just wanting a man who adds quality to her life and is faithful. 🤷🏽♀️ Don’t be out here embarrassing her, be a consistent and a respectful partner.
It’s a crying shame we get so much push back on such a simple standard.
Nobody needs a good for nothing but money man dragging his feet and draining your energy.
We really are better off alone.
Protect your peace and your freedom ladies.
You know that's the same thing men been saying for years, right?
I know there are good men out there. I just truly think a lot of them are either taken, not straight, and just very few good men left. I've dated outside of my "type." It never works out. A lot of men get bored of the good girl. I cooked, cleaned, went out together, played video games, and watched shows together. I did too much. A lot of men don't even want commitment. What's the point of dating if the majority of what men are looking for is something casual? A lot of good women are giving up and I don't blame them.
And this is why we go 4B
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It's so peaceful
It’s the young ones that actually in danger cause they don’t understand the psychological games men play on the youth.
Your legacy is the generational wealth you leave behind, and your lineage is the blood you leave behind
Felt I should define that difference in the conversation because it's important
I so appreciate the outlining the difference between legacy and lineage😊
Legacy isn't about wealth. It's about cultural impact. If it was just wealth it wouldn't be so important. It's about what you leave behind.
Oh my gosh, yes at the "selfie" remark! How does being at the same place at the same time make anyone a good parent? A selfie takes 2 seconds of the day to achieve. A good facade takes only 2 seconds, what about the rest of the time?
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And he knows that other women find 'good' dads sexy. He's using his kid as a 'chick' magnet.
What you accept in the beginning sets the tone for the relationship; in my case is bs. At the start it was ok. It got SO much worse. He just read it and ran with it. OmG a living Hell for me!
What they mean by that is: what you accept in the beginning sets the tone for the best treatment you’ll receive throughout the relationship. At the start, people put their best foot forward and try to impress, so whatever level that is at, it can only go downward through the rest of the relationship. Hence, it got worse in your case 😔
@thegirlwithaplethoraofprob1477 yes most men put on a facade until the mask comes off and they show themselves
Idgaf about none of these men😂😂😂 I’m going to continue to get this money, educate myself, praise God, eat good, exercise, and keep my rose on standby, hell the rose get the job done better anyway 😂😂😂😂✌🏾
You have to look at it from his perspective. Is he trying to bother you, even if it isn’t bothering you? Get rid of him. My ex did all kinds of things and said all kinds of things trying to find what bothers me. Since it didn’t bother me I didn’t mind. But you have to figure out why is he doing or saying this? Kinda sucks I’m a bit on the spectrum but for example he’d comment on my appearance but I was fine in how i looked so I just looked at him like he had three heads and didn’t say anything because I didn’t see that and thought it weird he’d marry me and then has a problem on something I can’t change. But since I don’t have a problem with me I didn’t care he said that, it’s his problem. But…He’s trying to cut you down, leave. He doesn’t respect you, leave. Don’t be with an enemy. You’d never say or do something like that to them so leave. He’s a hater.
This is absolutely true !Men struggle to keep up with the high standards of women. So True!
5:16 I remember being young and looking around my home thinking “why do I feel like I’m poor and he isn’t?”
And why did I feel like a single parent when I wasn’t? I literally checked out single parenting books from the library because I realized I was doing it all by myself.
Their family did not bother to rear them as correct to be an honorable part of society. They never were expected to do anything but as they please. Others do not matter and actually they do not matter to themselves either. No self respect exists. If there was self respect they would go the whole 10 yards! That is what responsible humans do. Fact is they know they are a failure - and lean into it. They cannot compete with a beautiful Divine Fem Lady with honor toward self and others.
I will say Ladies - buy flowers for you at the grocery store and enjoy them. Find time for a book or a walk. Or, have a friend over. Go out in the evening with old friends - do not lose track of your support group! THINK of YOU! LOVE YOU! PAMPER YOU!
BE Special to YOU! Buy you a cup of tea out shopping while you pay for a sitter.
Make your life Good! You are Excellent Company and be a good FRIEND TO YOU.
SET some money aside however you can. YOU are wise - intelligent - warm - loving - kind - thoughtful - on the money - on top of things and YOU ARE YOUR COMMANDER! Be good to you in all Words you ever THINK or SAY!
YOU ARE AN ANGEL on EARTH! TY! Much love..
So well put
You made me absolutely cry…. I will buy flowers for myself❤️
No one in my whole life has never given me flowers-- except when I was little and to make friends with other girls we picked and gave each other flowers🥲❤️
@donnalowe9334 Thank you noone can love you better then you can ! ❤️💯💋
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LOVE YOU = To the moon & back beautiful!!!! Much love...babe..
@@Sanderson5CLC
When we self love - as we All deserve - we then KNOW our beautiful SACRED HEART - is for REAL Sweetie! Much love angel...
We have a much better understanding of codependency. Romantic relationships are the lowest level of exchange available. Soul level relationships are rare.
I want to say thank you for finding the man that starts speaking at 9:22. It is nice to find a man that's willing to not only point out what is considered a good man to women but also give advice to men and how to be a good man in a very loving manner. His voice is incredible as well.
50/50 is what you do with a roommate.. hunny , you are NOT a roommate
Especially when that 50/50 includes you also being his mother, maid, nanny, therapist, private secretary, and on & on & on.
Exactly
@@kimcham9949well, he is s handyman, bodyguard usually too
True, in 50/50 arrangements there would be no expectation that me or my food is to be touched. And cleaning would be done in shifts. And I don't see how man can go 50/50 pregnant? That "treat your boyfriend like your girlfriends" scam got done real fast when they didn't reciprocate and brought extra risk and labor instead.
Roommates get treated better than wives. Ask me how I know.
It looks like women have collectively entered our FAFO era. I love this for us. 😍
We need our own country lol
Women still get blamed for their ex partner short comings. I have been hurt and disappointed many times but I'm the one being told I picked wrong which makes no sense to me.
👍🏾 It doesn't make sense because, it doesn't make sense. Men/society are always projecting their crap onto women. We're no longer accepting it but, they're not changing - they're having *meltdowns* . Stay steadfast and hold your good sense and boundaries! Let them self-destruct. We no longer care. 😑☺️🤗❤
Oh! And, remember... They blame women because you're supposed to think you're crazy when they do the "switch-up" on you. You're blamed for trying to "change" him when all you want is for him to go back to being the "good guy" he was IN. THE. BEGINNING! From now on, tell everybody to miss you with bu11sh1t!!! 💯
I’m one of those washed up women over 50. I’d rather be single than the drama most of these below effort men tend to bring. I get to do what I want like eat out, go to football games. Probably fly out to meet family I’ve never met for the first time. I guarantee I wouldn’t be able to do all that in a bad/toxic relationship.
I've spent so long and so much energy on relationships and being desirable, picked and wanted. I have been badly mistreated and now I'm just healing and staying single.
This channel really really helps.
13:40 they reacted because she just told them (with that Tweet) that they aren’t her type because SHE IS their type 😅
A bunch of loud losers
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All their negative commenys are projection. They say those things because that is how they feel about themselves. That is sll they bring to "the table".
NO you cannot always move on when you have kids, no money of your own, no car, no job, you cannot just pick up and move on. I know!
That’s why we’re warning women.
It depends on where you live though too if it's the middle of nowhere probably not you'd be stuck with your ex but if it's a major city your not exactly stuck because they have women's shelters and the family dorms are usually cleaner they will place you upstairs and help you find a job. Your first mistake was not working but in order to look for work you'd have to probably even leave to the other side of town too. You don't want them to have your address even they know this is true if he didn't have your location or phone number you wouldn't be stuck with him..
They will hold you back from working that's why I suggest a shelter because you'd be around other women and people are more likely to feel bad for you if you have kids with you.
It may not be easy, but it is possible. You have to set a plan and move in silence.
There are too many ways to make money these days. There are tons of resources to utilize.
I'm sorry you are going through what you may be. Just know there are ways. Social media has brought everyone together in a special way. Jump into groups, begin hobbies that can turn into an income stream. Learn a new skill.
You always have a plan B & C, D & E
You can if you're able-bodied. This applies to people who are severely physically disabled but able-bodied people literally have no excuse.
My freedom is not worth the prison of a relationship. I will not purposely go to prison.
The reason men can’t keep up with women’s energy is because women don’t need a spark, we’re just that get up and go energy, figuring out our moves on the go, but our minds are always moving. With men he needs a spark, kinda like he chooses a woman, good looks sparks something in him to move, after the initial spark, women have to always give him some type of spark, a task, a challenge something to make him move, see women don’t need anything outside herself to get her moving, but men need something outside themselves like a video game, or a good looking woman, or a way to make money, etc to make him move. To me, most women can sit with themselves and be at peace, men can’t do that, he’s always looking for that spark, this is probably why they argue so much it’s stimulating to them.
Yes, the woman in the car with the blue shirt? Yes. I am married in a healthy relationship. I fully support anyone who is single by choice. It would absolutely be difficult to go out with one of the guys I dated in my younger years to get to my husband again…just the one. All of the other guys? It just didn’t work out, but there wasn’t anything really wrong about them, we were just wrong for each other.
My husband is the exception to the rule as well. Should be the rule.
You’re a huge liar, your false husband is on Ashley Madison, at the strip clubs, and dating apps. False married men are the most available ones out there. If you’re so-called happily married then why are you trying to convince us? Why did you click on the video if it’s not your cup of tea? You’re stuck in the circus
I just want to see what a genuine effort from a man looks like. Love bombing behaviour doesn't count.
P.S it wouldn't even be for romantic purposes. Just to satisfy my scientific curiosity.
Men are by default opportunistic and lazy. Least amount of effort they think is needed to achieve a goal that’s in his favor. He won’t do anything if it doesn’t directly or indirectly benefit him. Anything a man does is to directly or indirectly gain access to women, their energy and their cat.
If I tell my husband that something he does bothers me, he will remember it and make an effort to change. I mentioned that I wanted a surprise party for my 50th birthday and he went all out to make it happen.
I also tell him how much I appreciate him and give specific examples.
I can only speak for myself, but being with my husband is like living with my best friend with benefits. We try to make each other happy.
@@planningandpowerlifting 👍🏾 I love that. ❤😊
👍🏾 Keep is posted! 😀
Yeah, I’ve had that issue. My ex is a good social media father. He puts pictures up of him and the kids to look like he’s a better father than he really is. Little do people know that those pictures are the only time he’s with his sons. I’m a good mother in real life all the time! I’m the type of mother that forgets to post pitches and events on social media, but I’m there for my sons every day and he’s not. If you asked my son who is the more reliable parent. They’re going to definitely say me.
Nothing like coming home to a good man that loves and respect you. By the way no such thing as a perfect partner we human. I love my hubby😊🇵🇦
Happy for you
For evolutionary purposes, we good men encourage you women here to keep raising your standards. No standard should be too high for you. Keep going.
Thank you keep encouraging it is appreciated knowing y'all still out there encouraging. I remember a time when other men called immature males on their bad behavior. I don't come across it as much these days.
I'd also like to ask all women to pay very close attention to how a divorced man communicates and interacts with his kids. It will tell you everything you need to know about how he will be as a partner. Don't get too close to a divorced man with kids, until you can witness how he treats his kids. Protect your heart ladies. Your emotional safety should always be your #1 priority. ❤
Definitely
“It’s my conviction for YOU to homeschool.”
Since he wasn’t the one doing it…
Choose peace.
Honestly I promise my self i will shed any tears for any men at all. If he is not spending money time energy than men! Im not sleeping nor having him in my life i treat them as they treat me. I treat myself the best ever! Men don’t deserve any good things from women most of them don’t deserve any from us. If he is not even spending money im not interested 😂
It's been proven that the best couple in a bw and wm.
They're both low vibrational, however BM still cheats with BW if they have a chance.
👍🏾 😊 Ain't that something! 💯
I concur.
i'm a 38 yr old single by choice woman, childfree as well. although society likes to make me feel like shit for my choices, i was tired of getting cheated on, tired of bringing more to the table than the men i was able to attract, tired of the games, the lies, the emotional manipulation, the lack of character and morals, and the way people will look you in your eye and lie to your face for YEARS. and then cry, moan and beg you to stay when you finally put the pieces together and walk the hell away. i have a friend my age who already has a toddler, and just found out she's pregnant again. the father of her baby is out running around on her, because they had an argument and "were on a break", so it was OK, in his mind. she's struggling to figure out whether she's going to put this new baby up for adoption or try to raise it, i can't imagine her struggles. and i can only imagine how difficult it would be, to do this ON YOUR OWN. and she thinks she looks stupid for this guy, and i'm like girl, you ain't the one looking stupid, lol. he's the one running around on you and not giving a damn about his own child, like i just do not understand how men can be like this. women can be bad partners too, for sure, but in my own experience and what i've seen with friends and co workers, its usually the man doing the woman SO, so dirty. but we aint the ones looking stupid. it ain't stupid to want to love someone, to want to believe in them and give them the benefit of the doubt. it ain't stupid to want love. it is stupid, though, to have it, and throw it away because of ego and insecurities and unresolved trauma. men need to step up before they wake up one day and realize there are literally no women left that are interested in their bullshit. this illusion of choice is going to fall away for them, and soon they'll realize, all of the decent women are removed from the dating pool, and now its just riff-raff. but sadly, these dudes don't really care about the quality of their partners, until THEY get cheated on, or used, or manipulated in some way. they can dish it out but sure as hell can't take it.
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Adam blamed Eve- “It was that woman you gave me”
Mary Jane I get so distracted😅 your skin is so stunning! ✨
Men aren’t supposed to “match energy”
They are supposed to learn to be themselves and lead as if they are a man …with integrity
47 and single with no children...and I am happy, not to say that I don't want a life partner...but it has to be a life parther though..I won't settle for less. I have had beautiful relationships but knew when it was time to let go without regrets. Either you don't perturb or bring more to my happiness or you can leave...no regrets.
We are told to “chose better” but attacked for having any type of standard 13:13
I'm glad we are stepping up. So happy to see such videos and women who are saying this . Yes.. those days of low value men are over. Women.. stop accepting shit
I am glad you started this channel! Thank you!💫💖
The notorious rbg started our God given independence 🎉
I haven't dated for years. I do not plan on dating. I would gladly be married again. I just don't think a man could honestly meet my expectations. Most men will need to lie and manipulate to gain access. Therefore, I abstain.
Normalize giving full custody of the children to the person who *caused* them & continue on w/your life instead.
15:04 those men are just telling on themselves tbh. They feel like they’re lacking so project their insecurities on you.
A woman who has been respected, honored and loved right but her man passed away will never settle for less. That’s not love.
Thank you for the wisdom. I'm so happy seeing us waking up. Rise Queens, Rise🌺💖💐
High Virtue >>> High Value
Why isn’t a ton of shame put on men who leave “baby mamas” in their wake?
I have asked this question many times. I suppose an easy answer would be that its percived as a status symbol for men to have a lot of partners and children whereas women are looked at like flowers who lose value the more they exchange hands. Although if enough people are vocal it will no doubt change but that seems to be the general consensus
they use the fact that woman have hymens that break and they don't as the evidence they allowed to play around all they want and spread seed. It's ridiculous.
They can spread all kinds of stds with their messiness, no thanks.
One thing that has become very important is knowing someones love languages. How do they like to receive love and how do they give and show love. That guy was talking about if he makes a dinner reservation, he wants you to double that. Idk what that means lol Maybe fly him to paris and have dinner there idk. But realistically, if you show love by cleaning the house and cooking good meals and always making sure that you are helping pay for things, maybe he doesn't care about those things and he will be ungrateful and you will feel unappreciated. Thats a common way women show love but men are starting to not care about sex, cleaning, cooking and helping pay things or even children. Yes ladies, we've gotten to that place in society where men aren't grateful for a womens role. So be honest about what you bring to the table and how you show love and want to receive love because you dont want to end up with an ungrateful husband even though your busting your butt to show him love.
Great points! I’ve experienced both and it’s like he wanted take out and bjs three times a day😂…I was like, “But but I made pot roast with all the fixings!”
Men sees your cooking as another take out option with the added bonus that he doesn’t have to pay money for it. Most times too he doesn’t even have to pay money for a date, he just goes to your place. And then he’s going to try to spend the night and get the cat. If he’s not your husband, don’t cook for him and don’t sleep with him
Some men's love language is to play video games every second they have.
@@Love-dw6ryand text other women even when you're sitting right next to them because they need the ego boost.
@@Love-dw6ry seriously so true.
Excellent video!
If money was the only factor in a marriage I'd have married years ago.
I can take care of myself. Mutual appreciation, mutual respect, and mutual support requires two people. And they must invest equally.
That's what seems to be hard to find in men my age. I still can't bring myself to date younger men. It's awkward.
Glad I'm not the only woman that finds that awkward. Don't know how many young men I've had to explain I'm not a cougar if they are young enough for me to have nursed...no, just no. I cannot get past it.
Single by choice since aged 10. I’ve had meaningful relationships and I love having a man to do things w but being single is way more peaceful and caters to my growth set
Those days are over ❤
Most of my friends are choosing to live solo over 60. Not lonely at all. We've all been "boxed in by what society told us we must do" and sadly most complied. Lots of years sacrificed with damaging toxic connections and relationships.
Not worth it. None of us plan on longterm relationships ever again. ❤
The first girl said it best🎉🎉🎉