Southern Manners Can Be Exhausting
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- Опубликовано: 17 май 2021
- You may have an excuse for why you still haven't sent that Thank You Note to your Great Aunt Edna two years ago for graduation money, but the Bureau of Good Raisin' doesn't want to hear it. When someone has broken the sacred code of good Southern manners, the BGR steps in to remind you of your duty. They also have really cool sunglasses and handy visual aids.
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My mother in law still brings up the time she did not get a thank you card for my son's 12th birthday gift. He is 34.🤣
It'd be a hoot if he sent her one now.
@@alnonymous2482 😂😂😂
@@alnonymous2482 it really did get "lost in the mail"! 🤣
Wow 😳.
Yeah, nothing passive aggressive there. At all. My rule, which my paternal grandmother did NOT agree with, is that you don’t send thank you notes to family. So there, grandmommie.
Every Southerner knows to begin saying goodbye at least 10 minutes before you actually have to go, allowing time for the long goodbye.
So goes for us Northerners 😉
@@datkesecharles8815 yep
"Whelp, I guess it's about time for us to be gettin home" isn't what you say when you're ready to leave. It's what you say to signal that you don't want another glass of tea or helping of dessert 😂
More like thirty minutes to an hour by my family. I think our record was about three hours. Mom told me to get ready to go and then she and dad got talking again. Every time I got really going with my cousins they would say we were leaving soon and then went back to talking. Gotta love those long goodbyes. Marylander here so technically the North.
Haha yes and the long goodbyes at the door, walking to the car and while your in the car.
I have a problem. If this was a friend of her mother that card should have said 'Dear Miss Gretta'.
Yes! That bugged me too!
Exactly!!
That also bugged me and I'm not even from the south.
you bet your bottom dollar! That ain't right!
Yes!!
Dear it's a Southern Thing cast,
A simple thumbs up did not seem sufficient for all the effort put in by you all. The content of not only this video, but the numerous ones you put out puts a smile on many faces, in many places. Long may this continue.
Yours John.
There that should be enough to avoid a visit from the bureau.
...and that is an excellent example.....Bless Your Heart!
Dear John,
Thank you for writing this comment, in behalf of everyone. ☺️😆😆😆
Excellent!!!
Your courtesy is a sterling example to all and a fine reminder of why it is appropriate to show gratitude.
I love this comment!! Thank you!
True story: I moved North recently and a dear lady in my church kept doing nice things for us. After me writing the 3rd or 4th thank you card, she came up to me and said, “No need to keep writing thank you cards.” The horror that struck me was heavy when I realized I’m now stuck between feeling like I’m committing a sin by not writing a thank you vs. making her angry by writing one! The thank you card struggle is real y’all!
Yeah...it's like when they tell you to stop saying, "Yes, Ma'am"...but, they don't understand, you can't stop saying it. Or, when someone older says, you can call them by their first name...but in your heart, you're sure someone, somewhere will be turning over in a grave, if you did.
@@musicalbenches Exactly! This happens all the time... The Ma'am just comes out of my mouth and I can't stop it! So does the Miss....😟
I’m not from the South and I have never received a paper thank you note for any of the many wedding gifts I’ve given over the years. If it wasn’t for this channel, I would have been as confused as your friend. I now want to go to a wedding in the South so I get a thank you note though. 😄
@@free22 there is NO excuse for those brides and grooms not to have written a thank you note. that shows their poor raising. shame on them!!!! (and I'm from Mich. and I was taught to write thank you's RIGHT AWAY.)
@@GoddessNeith I’ve only received emailed thank you notes. Sometimes nothing. Never paper. I’m racking my brain but I think there may have been a paper thank you note 20-something years ago. I’ve lived mostly along the West coast these past years and the states on the West coast aren’t very traditional.
Her face after realizing it was the "long goodbye" was me as a child 90% of the time I had to go "checkin in" on people with my mom 😓
Oh my God, it's even more worse after church. And I went to an African Church which meant I was there for 3-4 hours plus 1.5 more fora "just before we leave" talk. As a child, it felt like torture...it still does.
Somehow...I still remember this too..even in the early early 90s.
Every time we left my mother in law’s house there was another hour at least spent in the driveway..........
I cringed so hard my not American husband asked what was wrong. 😂
Lol, same. 😥😅❤
Nothing makes Southern people want to chat more than someone at a gathering getting up to go home.
Exactly... you're afraid if they are leaving early then they didn't have a good time and it's your responsibility to ensure at least as they left...they "enjoyed" themselves!
that last minute push to make sure you were an excellent host and they had a great time.
Actually it’s not only a southern thing. A reason I say goodbye and thanks to hosts and sneak out.
It’s worse in Wisconsin. People wind up hardly saying anything because the game’s on the TV. Then, when you finally get ready to leave, you hang out at the door for an hour or so chitchatting, then another half hour by the car on the driveway. You’re finally on your way waving out the back window of the car, slowly driving down the street. Why couldn’t all this chatter happen inside the house when you were sitting around saying nothing? How does anyone come up with these topics to chat about when at the door?
It's like an unstated understanding in my family, if you need to leave at a certain time, you must start the goodbyes at LEAST an hour before or u can forget it! And Nanny or Papa is gonna beg to feed you like 50 more times before you leave too 😅
Her: doesn't write thank you notes
The South: *And I took that personally*
Never wrote a thank you note. Never has anyone I know have wrote one. We actually make a joke of "stern letters". My great grandma always wrote a stern letter when upset.
It do be like that
Yes
@@CosmaPaulaton What part of the south are you from?
@@longhornlove1 north Louisiana. The most we do is say thanks and not hear from them for a year or more. Then again, me and my mom hate socializing. My grandma and grandpa on the other hand... They like socializing and then making fun of everyone.
"We're doing the long goodbye, aren't we?"
Scared my dog busting out laughing.
Ummm... That's her mama's friend? Then that would be MISS Greta 💓
IF she has asked you to call her that, otherwise it would be Mrs. Green, or whatever her last name is.
Or Aunt Greta, in my family, depending on how good of a friend she was to your mama. I would kill one of my (grown!) kids if they called their Aunt Layah by her first name! And she's no blood kin of ours, but STILL!!!!
@@GoddessNeith we never called any adult by their first name unless they were a preschool teacher. Ms. Last name, never Ms. First name.
Yup! Got a twinge when MISS was left out!!!
Yeah, it was always a Miss or Mr First Name when addressing a parents friend, or someone familiar, at least it was in my house. The Mr or Miss Last Name was for teachers or strangers, keeping it professional. Lol
I’m Canadian, I’ve never been to the south, and have no personal connections there, but I’ve been watching these videos for years, and now the south is at the top of my vacation wish list.
We welcome your visit! :-)
Ya’ll come on down. Here for a visit soon, sometime between mid-October and early June. We’d love to have you.
Might I suggest you wait until Novemember, the hot part of the year has begun, we won't dip below 90 until Novemember in large parts of the south, except those semi Yankee states like Virginia but I'd avoid those anyway these days
Come on down, eh? Just don't stay.
@Gibby Gibson I don't hate anybody (well, with one exception). I'm a fun guy. I'm not racist unless yankee has become a race.
Parent(s): Come on get yall's shoes on let's go
Kids: Standing there waiting, while parent(s) is still talking
Kids: still waiting, decides to go back and watch tv
Parent(s): Come on ya'll let's go! Still talking
Kids: Standing there waiting.
Repeat 3 more times lol
And somehow it's always the kids' fault they're late to the next destination.
so TRUE it HUrTS! Do other parts of the country just get up and leave?! Barbarians!
I lived in CA for 17 years, and I’ve had this exact experience more times than I can count lol
@@gobalbucs
Haha yeah I'm in Virginia and can't count the times.
Been there and done that!!
Oh my yes. My mother had me sit down and taught me the "proper" way to write thank you cards. And I had to use my best cursive. If it wasn't perfection, we started over.
Mine as well. Something I'm glad I no longer worry about.
I'd still be writing it out if it were me. My cursive was so bad, I was the only kid in class required to write in print in elementary school.
I'm pretty sure that's the reason why i needed extra time for assignments in grad school because I kept proofing and editing at LEAST 3 and 4 times. It ALL goes back to those thank you notes that my mother made me keep redoing over and over and over...
Deep breath, check that the ink isn't dry. Loosen up your wrist. Ok, let's write this thank you note.
When my boys were small I had them write thank you cards to Grandma for the bday card and dollar she sent them. Then I got a thank you note from her for having them write a thank you note :)
I really do believe my mother in law was a consultant for this video.
😁
EVERY Southern Mama and Mother in law was a consultant!
Dear lord, a card my mother made sure I bought stationary with married name to hand write all the thank you notes and I had a month. This included my husband’s family that didn’t gift anything but still showed up for the food but manners said they came so a thoughtful thank you was necessary. FYI my mother is half Japanese raised in the south and in Japan so manners were life growing up lol.
Oof. That is a duo to fear. Perfect storm of politeness and etiquette.
Oh my! Talk about being under pressure!
Your Mom is the golden icon for manners and etiquette.
Brandi, if you wrote thank-you notes to people for just showing up, you are my hero.
When I was a kid, I had to write a thank you note before I could play with, or use, the gift....even socks.
That's a very good practice!😊🐝❤
Love it! As soon as I was old enough to write, I learned how to write thank you notes. They were simple, nothing fancy, but handwritten, hand addressed, & mailed by me to the gift giver. It’s just considered proper manners/etiquette!
I'm from Spain, so my mum didn't make me write thank you notes, but she did make me call the gift giver on the phone and say thank you *live*. Now I'm thankful to her for making me a millennial who does not fear or avoid phone calls. 😅😅
My mom taught me quick response and handwritten notes. So, this is correct and WTF is it that she didn’t offer these “officers” a drink of water! No matter what, that is a must!
Absolutely! No one, and I mean no one, is invited in my house without being offered a glass of tea or a cup of coffee. No one. Ever.😊🐝❤
or a seat?! but then she answered the door in her BATHROBE and PJ's!!!
I was thinking that too..."no tea? Or water? Or even cookies???" I offer snacks and drinks to EVERYONE, from VIP guests to repairmen and everyone in between.
I’d be making them a full meal
@@deborahdanhauer8525 To be fair, they weren't invited. 😂
Although my wife is Canadian, she would endorse this video whole heartily. Good manners are not constrained by borders.
You all eat grits up there? Cause if you don't, you're only an imitator, lol.
@@presidentnotsure1066 They eat whatever the run over with their Skidoo, even if thats you! LOL Meat keeps for months outside in Canada!
Always ask, Was your parents or grandparents raised Down South?
You'll be surprised.
@@presidentnotsure1066 No, we eat poutine. So, not an imitator, just a different culture. Show some respect. ;P (I'm obviously just teasing.. maybe XD )
You do thank you cards? Never do them myself and don't really know anyone that does. Might be a Toronto thing however.
I'd never make it in the south.. I'm from New York. People think we aren't friendly..we might ghost everyone we pass, but we will fish you out of a frozen river in our PJs without a second thought..
It's not every day one falls in a frozen river, but it is every day we pass in the street... I suppose you can calculate the value differently, but I know which way Southerners calculate it. (Plus we have a dearth of frozen lakes around here 😂)
In all seriousness, though, I know that New Yorkers can be very friendly, it just takes some time for y'all drop the abruptness and open up.
Pretty much why I never left. Like what this lady in the video is going through is basically my hell. Knowing myself I would have shut and locked the door. But in a time of crisis, we got you. During Sandy we had a ton of guests stay as we still had power thankfully. All my neighbors were super nice too.
I'm in north Carolina and we have a migration of New Yorkers. I've worked with some. Some of the nicest folks I've ever met. You're just more blunt than southerners, that's all❤️
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@@ThinWhiteAxe that's true, actually. you do understand us. 🙂 We probably are a little guarded at first.
@@janiceharris5475 😊 true. And I think being around the friendliness and the excellent manners in the south is really good for us.
😂 You had me all the way up to Matt's "congrats" in the last scene. Proper etiquette dictates that you say "best wishes" to the bride and "congratulations" to the groom.
Thank you! That drives me bonkers 🙅🏻♀
I thought it was "good luck" to the groom and "bless your heart" to the bride.
Yes, ma'am. That's what I do. Whenever I do that to the couple, they both look at each other funny and wonder why I didn't just address them simultaneously. LOL
That's an antiquated rule that doesn't apply anymore. Congratulations is fine for either partner.
@@therealstewyward You are correct. However, when a bride and groom-to-be tell me they are engaged, I remember this rule. Being too confused to speak, I usually just shake my head in disbelief, and walk away.
Good manners will open doors that the best education cannot
Well spoken as always . It Includes the door to my liquor cabinet that stores the whiskey of which I hear that you are a coniseur Dear Leader! LoL
Hello supreme leader, thank you for your comments everywhere.
It also makes for great embalming material
Well said!
Oh so true. I have gotten a job interview from a stranger I was speaking to in a store because of my manners. My daughter has similarly gained favor of a number of people that provided opportunities that she really needed as well.
It was all good intent, not self interested manners too. (Not that I judge that harshly, because opportunity is a precious commodity, especially now, but I feel like if someone we knew saw this comment I want them to know they weren't manipulated)
😂😂 My hubby found out real quick what a southern goodbye was when we were dating. He is from NH and he picked me up after work (Air Force) to go to the movies. We missed the movie because we stopped at a gas station to get snacks and ran into some of my friends. Intros were made and we probably said goodbye several dozen times, hugs and all. Then someone would say or ask something else. Needless to say, he learned quickly. 😂😂. And he loves being in NC ❤️
Glad he survived....you MUST start the goodbyes 20-30 minutes BEFORE you actually plan to leave. Otherwise...
@@barbrettewhite6383 so true! Lol
I used to do a lesson for my high school students every year before Winter Break on crafting Thank You notes. First of all, do NOT start with the words "thank you"! It leaves you no where to go. Instead, start with a general observation about the holiday, or the gift-giver, or the type of person the recipient is: "Christmas is a time of sharing" or "You always find the most unique gifts" or "Teenagers love their clothes." Then, a transitional sentence: "What can be more delightful to share than food?" or "And what a find your gift to me was" or "We can never seem to get enough of them." Then, a direct reference to the gift: "My guests and I will certainly enjoy your home-made pralines" or "The china bulldog is magnificent" or "I will be the belle of the ball in the dress you sent." Finally, a thank you for the gift and an "and": Thank you for both the lovely gift, and for remembering me this season" or "I am so grateful for both the new ornament and your love" or "My deepest thanks for the gift and for being the best Grandma in the world!" This "spiral in" method lets you express your sincere gratitude without sounding forced and leaves the gift-giver with a double-helping of thanks.
That is seriously So helpful. I'm screenshotting it for later. :)
Good advice is hard to find, and one can't ever have too much! Your comment explains things so clearly and helpfully. Thank you so much for it, and being such a great teacher!
This is absolutely wonderful advice, and above-and-beyond teaching! I hope your students appreciate you for the valuable interpersonal skills you've taught them. Wish there was a clone of you in every single high school!
Very well done! Bravo😊🐝❤
I have saved this information. Thank you for sharing this.
I was in a store in NJ and said “pardon me” to reach across an older lady to grab some bread. Suddenly, I heard “I have NEVER!” She came up to me to tell me thank you for saying “excuse me”. I responded “my momma would be mad if I didn’t.” My momma was in Texas.
I swear I received the EXACT same formatting guide from my mom when I
Graduated HS
Graduated College
Got Married
Baby Show....well y’all get the idea
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Same here.
It does come in handy though.
It's not because I'm not thankful, but that I often think "You got me a gift, I like it, what more is there to say than a simple "Thank You for the gift"? Why do I have to gush and display such heavy emotion of inflated appreciation?".
A thank you needs to be received within one to three months time-
Truer words have not been said 🤧
Wouldn't it be sufficient to say within three months? I don't think there's a minimum time requirement or else Talia broke protocol when her coworker gave her the coffee at work.
We weren't allowed to use or play with any item until all thank you notes were written, addressed and mailed.
I tried raising my own kids that way, but my husband intervened on their behalf. Now, it's within 2 weeks.
I feel guilty if I don't get a Thank You card sent out within a few weeks. 😱
@@mrs.martin3158 What if you were given a nice pen and pencil set? Wouldn't you want to use your new writing utensil for the thank you note just to show how valued and useful it is to you? 🐱🐱
@@HariSeldon913 If my mom had let me, of course. Lol I would have made sure to mention that I was using the pen or pencil in the letter and how much I enjoyed it.
But, certain Southern Mommas have their rules and that's that. I think mine would have made an exception if it were a pen and pencil set, but not if it were cards or paper stationery. I wouldn't have been able to thank them by sending back the same card or paper to the giver. I know Momma wouldn't have let me get away with that.
As a southern woman I hate writing, hate receiving, and just hate everything to do with thank you notes. Still have the “good” notes sitting with all my stationary equipment to write thank you to my grandmother every time she send me something.
What do you even write on them? I tried when I did go to church I went to taught this. Now, I am a fiction writer but my mind still goes blank when looking at that paper.
We once had guests up and leave without "the long goodbye" and we honestly spent 2 days going over and over everything that had been said that evening to figure out who had offended them and how. When I saw the wife on Monday at work, I apologized profusely for "whatever we or our kids did to offend you," to which she replied with a blank stare. "Huh? What made you think we were offended??? We ate, we said thank you, we left...?" THAT was how I learned that not everyone does "long goodbyes." I was truly and properly upset by the abruptness and blaming my kids: "one of y'all MUST have done something! People don't just jump up and LEAVE like that without REASON!!!" 😂😂😂😂😂
Good manners aren't only required but expected
Amen!!! Wish more kids today understood that! They speak volumes about one’s character, as well as to how one was raised & one’s parents!
I’m not Southern but I got married on a Sunday, on the Monday I wrote all of my thank you cards (in handmade cards), and I dropped them off in the mailbox on the way to our honeymoon on Tuesday morning. Everyone had received them before we got home from our trip and it was such a relief because we moved less than a month later and if I hadn’t sent them already they would’ve never been finished within the three month time frame.
Stop. You are putting us to shame.
You have Southern lineage.
Wow! Now, I’m seriously impressed! That’s some major Southern dedication there. I think the month rule would definitely be acceptable from someone who just got married and went on her honeymoon. (Not sure if that month includes the ~1 week, I guess, honeymoon, or not? Does the month start after one gets back from the honeymoon, if a couple’s probably going to be gone for ? maybe 1-2 weeks, if their lucky? Obviously, some either don’t have a honeymoon right after the wedding, & others only go for a couple days-time, money, work, &/or child-care obligations may dictate most of that! I doubt anyone’s doing thank you notes on their honeymoon, for the most part. 😉)
I'm pretty sure that ensures you an extra slice of pie in heaven. Well done!😁❤
I ran over here faster than Forrest and he's still running. Lol. 🤣🤣
Jesus Saves Love God✝️
@@cquick3277 Amen.
I did not send thank you cards after my high school graduation in 1970 and I still feel guilty. My mother never knew. Please don't take my southern card away.😇
Bless your heart
Can't believe no one has told your mother that! You are just plain lucky Missy.
This brings back memories of my Senior English teacher, Mrs Johnnye Fortner who "encouraged" us to write thank you notes for our graduation presents. She even had a very similar template on the blackboard. It is these lessons that stay with you for life.
We usually designed our Thank-You and other cards on the computer and we kept a set of Calligraphy pens to sign them with. This was done in kindness so the receiver could read the cards and not my chicken scratch.
I cringe at my handwriting every time I write a card
Designing your greeting cards on the computer is more economical and convenient than buying greeting cards at an actual store. I like the concept very much. Now I am having thoughts about buying a greeting card design program if I can find one.
@@captainkeyboard1007 I make them using Microsoft Office templates, that way each one is completely customized. I have cardstock and other different weighted paper have fun with it.
@@chrisrowland2223 This makes me know that you are a few computer operators who use Microsoft Publisher. It has some greeting card templates. I use Publisher for layout pages on flyers, my brochure, church program pages, funeral programs, and any job that requires more than two pictures or photographs. I may look into greeting cards programs by Hallmark or American Greetings; I prefer Hallmark.
@@captainkeyboard1007 I have Hallmark and American Greeting card online accounts to download templates just did not see the need to have a dozen different programs for home use. It would be completely different if I ran a business or needed them in a larger variety or quantity. I have always preferred to design my paper projects from doing greeting cards to scrapbooks to even calligraphy
My friend writes three paragraph thank you notes that old ladies carry around and show to each other. Her mama raised her well. Hopefully my grammar is alright. Otherwise, I’m in trouble with both of them.
That is so sweet!!🥰🥰🥰
If I saw Matt in his Bureau of Good Raisin' shirt I would be a pile of giggles and say, "Let the shaming begin."
See, this is why I didn’t have a wedding shower. I just can’t do thank you cards. (You think I’m kidding, I’m not). However, people at my moms church still felt the need, bless their hearts, to give me presents. 17 years after the wedding I’m still asked, did you ever send out thank you cards? 17 years later. Women in the South have a memory like an elephant (No I’m not talking about anything Bama, calm down - Don’t get me started on that one, they don’t know if they’re a roll of toilet paper on top of a Tide box or an elephant) they don’t ever forget.
The long goodbye, this is what my husband still doesn’t understand. He sends me to go bring something back to a neighbor or friend and I get back like two hours later. He says, you just went over two houses down to give back a Tupperware bowl. Yes but you got to be polite and ask about the family and how’s work going and how are the kids. Neighbor was explaining to me that her mama has fibromyalgia now. I was explaining about putting a bar of soap underneath the sheets by her feet in the bed when she goes to sleep; that helps with this. She was then explaining that her third cousin twice removed on her dad side has an issue with a particular substance. Of course that got us talking about how society is just crumbling today. People just don’t have a good sense anymore. At the end I then explain to him that this Sunday he’s got to barbecue because I invited them over. He gives you that look but you explain, well it’s the only polite thing to do since they let us borrow their Tupperware bowl. It is the vicious southern manner cycle. lol
This is exactly correct.
Great explanation!
This sounds like Asian visiting etiquette too, lol.
My ex and I wrote our thank you notes while we were opening the wedding presents. It made it much easier to keep track of who gave us what and whom we needed to thank.
Bureau of Good Raisin! I love that
I am from the Midwest and these rules apply to us as well. I think I have personally broken records on the long goodbye.
My daughter-in-law is a California girl and has sent lovely hand written- sometimes hand made!- thank you notes for every gift as long as we have known her! Proper etiquette doesn’t have to be limited to the South.
I am convinced that Midwesterners are simply Southern folk who got lost, took a wrong turn to the North, and then settled down. This would account for all the similarities.
@@jayt9608 you have caught onto us.
@@t.h.8475 lol
As someone who has used generic thank you notes most of my life I'm now racked with guilt and shame.
Wracked. And me too.😭
This was a thank you note for a WEDDING gift. I'm guessing you're not married? When you order wedding invites, you order things like thank you notes too.
@@rnptenafly so? I thought it was the thought that mattered, not the actual card. I don't agree with thank you notes in general, but I was also not going to spend any extra money on "good" cards that will be thrown into a landfill.
@@rnptenafly So generic wedding thank you cards?
It's okay, at least you actually sent one. We're not monsters. Though it can get nasty when we argue about barbecue.
Lol I am a *true* Southern lady. Not only have I mastered the Southern manners...but I have also mastered the politest way to avoid them, if necessary.
Bless your heart.
Good one. I do that, too. I was told that you can't break the rules unless you know the rules. :)
@@90w30n that wouldn't work with my family. Ignorance was no excuse.
'What do they still make these cards for?' 'I dunno ...kids'. Exactly, my kids have to write thank you notes for gifts and to their teachers every year.
My mom wrote all of my thank you notes for me while I was on my honeymoon. She has near perfect handwriting and mine looks like a 6th graders 😂
I know someone who needs to borrow your mother and her handwriting for about one hundred and fifty thank you notes.
Seriously, what's her hourly rate?
She wanted to make sure they were done. I suspect it had nothing to do with handwriting. Lol
my handwriting is only good for notes to myself and whatever i wrote expires in 15 minutes. That's why i type.
Y'all: We cut no corners.
Me, from the Northeast: We cut every corner literally and figuratively. Take it or leave it.
Sounds about right
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Mood. I just send a potted plant or homemade treats if I don't want to say anything more.
I think my mom had my sister write a thank you note to her childhood dentist.
My husband and I are southerners and we went to visit my son (southern born and raised) and his family in upstate New York. He loves it there but we had misgivings. Let me tell you, those were some of the nicest, warmest people we have ever had the pleasure of meeting. From the local grocery store to the restaurants, everyone was so welcoming and friendly. We look forward to our visits.
My favorite story about the south is from when I was visiting my grandparents. They live in Alabama, and I live in Delaware. This one time I was visiting one of their neighbors just walked in the front door and said "Oops wrong house!" I was like "what the heck?!" whereas my grandmother just offered him cookies 😂
No, honey! That neighbor saw your mee-ma had visitors but was too southern to ask directly or to wait for the southern gossip machine to do it's thing. So they boldly used the, "Hi, oops wrong house technique." 🤣🤭
Reading these comments made me laugh because there is quite a bit of North versus South going on in them. No matter where a person comes from they will follow the social mores they learned growing up for the most part. I have met people from the Northern states who are as warm, open, and loving as any of my Southern folks. On the flip side, I have met some born and raised Southerners that are rude, snappy, and obnoxious with others. You know what though - for the most part there are a few things we can all agree on - being polite never hurt anyone, one should never be judged by their appearance or where they came from, and there is no such thing as too many dessert options at a potluck. 😀 (that last one might just be Southern-if you are from the Northern states chime in on that one if it is not accurate) I do love these videos - thanks for making them!
My mum could get a job with them..at 86 she's thinks she's in charge of every thank-you note in Glasgow and Lanarkshire!!.
Nailed it!!! One of my worst fears as a mom has been that my children would grow up and forget to send thank you cards with one month for birthdays and three months for wedding.
Brings back the memories of the torture thank you notes were growing up!! Especially trying to cheat and do a short note!!! I am 61 and my mother still nags me about writing thank you notes!!! Sad thing is I get a little bent out of shape when I don’t receive a note when I send a gift now!! It is a dying art!!
@@kenmcelroy1101 just showed my mom the video and she loved it!!! You guys always make me laugh!!
@@suzannevosbeck7489 That's not really the channel - it's some kind of marketing or scam. Notice the accent over the i in their name.
Thank you. I wondered.
Good bye in Missouri takes 30 minutes at least.
Yes!
A family member got married several years ago and I still hear how they didn't send thank you notes!🤣 It's a crime being Southern and not sending thank you notes!
Dear It's a Southern Thing,
I am writing this message with tears in my eyes and a heart full of gratitude for your amazing video about writing a proper heartfelt thank you for a gift in a timely manner. As a proud Southerner, (GA) watching your video touched my soul and reminded me of the importance of showing gratitude and appreciation for the kindness and generosity of others.
Your video was not only informative but also incredibly heartwarming and inspiring. It captured the essence of what it means to be a Southerner - to be gracious, kind, and always ready to show appreciation for even the smallest act of kindness.
As I watched your video, memories of my childhood flooded back to me, memories of my parents and grandparents teaching me the importance of showing gratitude through a handwritten thank you note. Your video reminded me of the value of taking the time to write a personal message and the profound impact it can have on the person who receives it.
Thank you for creating such a beautiful video that celebrates the best of Southern manners and traditions. Your channel is a beacon of hope in a world that sometimes forgets the importance of showing kindness and gratitude. You have touched my heart and reminded me of the importance of always showing appreciation for the blessings in my life.
With tears of joy and gratitude,
-Æternum
P.S. please don't send the Bureau
Wow, “the long goodbyes” with me and Mamaw. I’d be a quarter mile toward home, and still hollering.
I LOVE THIS!!!🥰 So many times both me and my mom have given gifts to people and they never wrote a thank you note! And what is worse they would never even say in person like " Thank you, again. That was sweet of you." That would have made me think better of them. No. They just think people owe them gifts I suppose. At our house, we tend to think that if one can't say thank you for a present, that person never deserved a present to begin with. Manners matter.😊🌷💖
Dear It's a Southern Thing,
Thank you so much for creating this video about southern manners. I actually learned a lot about writing a proper thank you note. I have watched many of your videos (I feel like we're best friends) and they are so funny! This one was not only funny, but helpful and insightful. Every time I write a thank you note, I will remember this video (and probably watch it again).
Sincerely,
Lisha
I see what you did there 😂👌
Y’all need to do one in funeral procession protocol!
"If that sumb***h had only been cremated, I'd have the Bandit's a** by now!" - Sheriff Buford T. Justice
That would be eating a lot of delicious food and making promises to see each other more often
Oh, yes! Pulling off to the side of the road while the hearse and processional passes. We used to get out of the car and bow our heads, men would remove their hats. Until the time we got out and a rattlesnake was slithering across the ditch in our direction. We were torn. Get back in the car and not get bitten, showing blatant disrespect for the deceased and the grieving? Or take the bite then drive like heck to the hospital? We figured the deceased would forgive us. We climbed back in and now we STAY in the car, but we do still pull over.😳
Long before 3 of my nieces could write they sent me "thank you drawings" for any gift I sent them.
So sweet and such good training.
The long goodbye sound like a movie title to me. Lol.
There is The Longest Day and The Long Kiss Goodnight.
A southern horror movie🥴🤣 For a kid at least!
Thank you notes in a timely fashion is a lost art. You ain't been raised right if you skimp on the manners, it reflects badly on your mama and daddy.
And it's a nice compliment when you get to tell some young person, "Your mama sure raised you right!" Or, at least I think it is...
Amen!
I taught my children that they couldn’t play with or spend it until thank you has been sent. Several years ago, I received a phone call from a woman telling me that Dr. So-and-so wanted to speak with me. I freaked out, thinking something had happened to my child. The doctor proceeded to tell me that, during a lull in surgery, he and the residents had been talking about handwritten notes and letters. My daughter was the only one who had handwritten anything recently: thank you notes for Christmas presents. The doctor said he wanted to meet the woman who had taught her daughter those manners. I was glad that someone appreciated the hard work.
Never realized how much I love this Southern stuff until I started watching your channel.
Growing up in a strict family, we had two weeks to get all Thank You cards sent out.
Idk if it’s just southern manors, cause I agree with all of it, a I’m Midwest Iowa baby!
I recently moved to the south and I am loving the friendliness and manners. 🌻
I have never clicked on a video faster than ice cream melting on a hot day
Me: Taking notes from the backup 😂
The Dollar Tree has nice Hallmark & Expressions cards tho!...🤔
Another top-notch production! You all are a bunch of Southern Geniuses!
As a Westerner I found those manners quite charming......I don't know that I could ever have the patience to follow them, but still, we could use better manners over here....and I do so enjoy hearing from you all!
Yes I remember a southern lady describing the events of 1865 as 'the little bit of inconvenience'.
Hey, @itsasouthernthing, did you know someone is spamming here?
@@ChanaRo613 I noticed it too, and I've reported a bunch of the comments. But I also clicked through to the spammer's channel (no content, of course) and reported the user too. I reported for spamming, but could just as easily have reported for impersonation.
OMG!!!! This reminds me of parents and grandparents!!!
How do you do this without laughing 😭🤣💛
They do have blooper videos. Check them out. :)
I totally felt that long goodbye look😖
Oh no.... the dreaded loonng goodbye.
Luv it.
How dare she!! All these southern manner violations! I'm from the south, I never break any of these rules.
I know! I can't believe it! Terrible! I'll bet she doesn't even have engraved thank you notes. *snort* Wait, is that a ballpoint pen?! The horror!
@@90w30n I bet she drinks unsweet tea too. If she does, that is to far and calls for an immediate southern card revoke
OMG, yes, I keep thank you cards on hand at all times. It's just easier to get it written immediately than to wait and risk forgetting. 😂
Would like to see one on table manners, y'all !😁 not taking the last of anything unless it is offered, kids asking if they can be excused from the table, etc😀
I am in TROUBLE. I"m terrible at Thank You notes. I noticed that nowadays you don't even get a thank you for wedding gifts.
They have a basket of thank you cards (like a business card) and you are supposed to just take one at the reception. That flustered me. What kind of a thank you is that!
OMG....I would want my gift back!... How AWFUL!
@@jacquelinechristian9090 That's just how I felt. A person sacrifices to give a gift ei, time and money, and to not even a get a thank you.
That's just insulting! No card at all would be better than that.😠
@@deborahdanhauer8525 I agree. I have been to three weddings where they did that.
@@intigniadickey2224 What are they thinking? Truly, I would rather have no thanks at all than have that.
They are saying..." I know a thank you card is expected, but you're not worth the time. So I'm going to have this reprinted business card here to pick up on the way out the door. This is to shut you up and so you can't say you didn't get one".😳
I was given one week to get my wedding thank you notes out and got a rolled eyes for my trouble.
My mother was merciless !
My mother-in-law was merciless!
This is hilarious because it is so true! 😂 ❤️
I'm originally from southern Indiana (Kentucky border, and so much more southern in manners and accent than you'd think) but lived in northeast Florida most of my life. My family didn't do thank you cards and just thanked people in person, so I never thought of them. After my wedding my best friend's mom mentioned not getting a card and I was so humiliated that I never missed out on sending a card again and made sure to teach my kids to do the same. I'm still embarrassed about all the people I must've offended!
I believe there should be a “MISS” in there somewhere
It's all about the good raisin' and the thank you notes MUST be hand written
Amazing as ever!💖
There is this one particular birthday party I keep buying for because I love them but I don’t expect a thank you card anymore. It saddens me because I think they might not like anything I’ve ever bought. It’s for a kid so I will never know. My parents always made me write thank you cards after birthdays but I loved it. My folks taught me that it was their generosity of time to not only buy the gift and wrap it but the time they spent with me at the event, so in a way a card with a meaningful touch goes a long way in the making of a grateful person.
Exactly.
This is hilarious and so right on. We really need the BGR Squad these days!
Loved this episode! You all did a great job on it.
I'm a country boy from the west. We have manners and respect too, but they're not drawn out for so long as they do in the south because we got things to get done. 🤣🤣🤣
I didn't need the bureau for my thank yous, I had my mother who HOUNDED my ADD butt to do it after my wedding ! She gave me one month before she was going to pull out the big guns to make me and do it to her satisfaction or ELSE.
So correct. My thank you notes were written the same day I received my gifts, shower and wedding. Each was personalized with a description of the gift and how I will use it and a sincere appreciation of the giver's thoughtfulness, even for the plastic measuring spoons and cups. I bullsh*t well and my mom got phones calls about how wonderful my thank you cards were. I get absolutely livid if I don't receive a thank you note; I'll remember that forever. (I'm in Texas.)
We need more BGR series! Absolutely brilliant!
The thank you note has to be written on monogrammed stationary!
I have a video idea for yall, "if dnd/d&d/dungeons and dragons was southern" I am from the south and love dnd so I would love it if you made this video, please and thank you.
I once got asked by my dad where his churches thank you note was for a care package I hadn’t received yet.
Love it! I started writing thank you notes and making personal holiday cards for the administrators and residents in my new residence where I live here in Spain. My grandmama and mama would be proud. Of course they were correct in teaching me those skills when I was six years old. Here, very, very few people write thank you notes, and it is not common to give cards. Everyone has been so pleased and touched to receive them that I am now a VIP of sorts in our building. I was raised in California but my great-grandparents were from Virginia. I'm so grateful for having received this good upbringing. Although what I'm doing hasn't rubbed off on others, it sure makes me feel better.
Watching your video makes me feel less lonely as I contemplate the importance of good manners. At least I'm not alone as people in the South and others with a Southern upbringing continue these great traditions! Thank you so much for this wonderful and humorous reminder!!!
“We’re doing the long goodbye, aren’t we?”
Oh my... I know the feelin. Truer then you can ever know.
My first wedding was definitely within the bureau's codes. I wrote the cards one day on my honeymoon. I sent them the last day, before heading to the airport for the base my ex-husband and I were stationed at.
My mom's friends were so impressed. They got them within about 3 weeks of the wedding...of course that was when The USPS didn't need 2 weeks to get something a hundred miles. 😏
My husband's aunt almost disowned us when we didn't get her a thank you note for our wedding gift . . . 3 weeks after our wedding. Right when I had finished the thank yous and stuck them in the mail