We used to have a saying in the RN that you never know how something works until you have to fix it. That phrase has come to my rescue every time something in my life 'breaks'.
Fantastic video Ash, thank you! One of the worst aspects of my character is the way I beat myself up everytime I make a mistake. I truly hate myself; I can be very sympathetic and forgiving to the mistakes of others but I cannot tolerate my own. I will try to change this but I am an old dog (64 years old) and you know what they say about old dogs... 😁 Regards!
I can be this way too. I've been trying not to judge my emotions, either positive or negative. Just accept them as what they are. It seems to help me so beating myself up.
Kai zen...small incremental changes on a regular basis leading to significant improvement- business and personal. This video proves Ash is a man outstanding in his field. If at first you don't succeed, don't take up skydiving.
This is the most important video you’ve ever made. I needed every word of this. Today, coincidentally, I’ve had to take a mental health day off because I just can’t handle life right now. The pressure is too great, both from outside and within. I’m going to watch this every time I need it, which will be often. Thank you.
Ash, the help your channel provides cannot be overstated. Recently, I was honored with a coronation service medal, a testament to my dedication to excellence in last year's national events. Guided by the timeless principles of sartorial elegance, your invaluable advice has not only propelled my journey but has also resonated profoundly with countless other young men. My background is marred by the shadows of parental drug abuse and emotional turmoil, leading to a four-year estrangement from my father, marked by complete silence. In a culture starved for positive examples, your unwavering commitment to mentoring young men like myself is a beacon of hope. Your advice transcends the noise of our current societal landscape, often exclusionary for men. Thank you, Ash, for your positive influence in the lives of countless individuals like myself. Wishing you a good day today, and hopefully less puddles.
Congratulations and well done on your notable achievement and positive advancement in life. Even greater things await you sir. Keep the faith and reap those rewards. All the best, Ash
Great video. Sometimes getting to inner awareness is helped by some psychotherapy. It is NOT shameful. It's getting an expert to help you/ In the US some of the basics of male culture is the myth of self=reliance, knowing everything, etc. It hurt my parents' generation. We cannot be omnicompetent and all-knowing. Support groups are terrific. The classic is AA, but there are great men's groups and any sort of other groups where people have expertise that we do not and are willing to share that expertise.
Excellent advice, Ash. Regarding failure: Another RUclips men’s lifestyle guy summed it up nicely. When setting out to achieve a goal, you either win or you learn.
Thanks Ash. I sent the video to my 5 sons. As you said in the video, it's a lifelong journey. 'There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.'
Good episode; good advice. Have you ever done an episode on the reading that has inspired you to take such a path? I’m guessing you have read Marcus Aurelius and maybe Seneca among the ancients. All this has a Stoic ring.
Great advice Ash. Thank you for your thoughts. I have been reading a lot more since my retirement and have read a few books on subjects I haven't thought about before. Thanks again. Best regards Ron
This was a great video Ash, lots of good snippets of advice. I especially liked the one about developing emotional intelligence. Alas it's something I've had to learn myself. I find it quite difficult and it's often quite exhausting having to deal with others, but the payback for it is more often than not worth the effort.
My mind has taken a hit recently as I spent one week with 4 hour sleep each night and continued that into this week. I keep looking at it ending in a few weeks and things get back to normal. I am currently reading Men of Style, but I prefer the sister volume (Icons of Men's Style) dedicated to the iconic clothes items. The men themselves are more personalities than stylists, and there for you notice more their fame than their style, compared to if the same thing was on you and I.
Excellent video Ash, with a few good sagacious thoughts and which should benefit most of us Chaps on our journey through life. I would add to never focus on the end result as this focusses on the future, which inevitably never comes. Far better to focus on the moment and the end result will eventually happen whatever may come. Be as nature and flow like water.
Great insights offered Here! I'd Like to add a word of caution on the invaluable help that proper reflection offers: Too much I feel can ne toxic. I know that from my own experience. Ever since university taught me to reflect and evaluate my actions properly I've all to often (toxically) thought myself into corners from which emergence into action can be next to impossible. So yes, it is invaluable but only *sometimes,* and only sometimes, a little more action and a little less introspection might be advisable. But that statement, ironically of course, *is* the result of hours of painful reflection.😅 And maybe a word on the value of resilience: As someone who has suffered decidedly more defeats than enjoyed victories and some of those irreversible, not in a felt sense but factual physical damages, it truly helps to sometimes just take the blow and remember the old unused propaganda poster and just "Keep Calm and Carry On", even if nothing of value can be learned for a next time, at least there is the knowledge that there shouldn't be a "next time". Best regards Raoul G. Kunz
As Socrates said, "The unexamined life is not worth living." As a high school teacher of English and History for thirty years, I couldn't agree more, Ash, that anyone on the journey towards Chap Nirvana must embrace the ethos of the life-long learner. -Always be curious, always be open to new ideas, always focus on self-improvement. There are close ties between one's physical health, one's mental equilibrium, and one's ability to enjoy life. As the Greek philosopher Thales put it: "A sound mind in a sound body." Building a social network is of the utmost importance because social isolation is as debilitating to one's health as smoking. "As we journey through life, we're all going to lose more than we win." -Absolutely true.
1. Set Clear and achievable goals 2. Commit to life long learning 3.Maintain physical and mental well being 4. Cultivate emotional intelligence 5. Time management and productivity 6. Build a supportive n/w 7. Embrace failure and be resilient 8. Practice self compassion 9. Forgive yourselves and others ( this is applicable to me big deal because i am a kind of Perfectionist and I sometimes too harsh to my wife and kid ) 10. Align your values I have noted it down in my journal ....
Commit, that's the key. Nice vid Ash. How many people around you do you know that still read? And how many still want to improve themselves? I'm still striving for the best self. Nice countryside jaunt? Thank you, Starlight
Good advice indeed. Whether you believe or not I think the magnetic North pole for your moral compass should be Jesus Christ because He is the gold standard that we should be emulating.
Well sir, I respect your faith, but would suggest it is more important to set your own personal standards, than conform to one of the 3000+ organised religions of this world, for only you, are the architect of your destiny.
I'm not sure I agree with your particular choice, but I do think the WWJD technique is an interesting one. And it's certainly relevant to the topic at hand! Many thanks for bringing it to mind.
@@TheChapsGuide I think you miss my point. The morals, virtues and standards we value in the western world are those of Judea Christian heritage whether you believe in JC or not. As the perfect role model one cannot go wrong by setting your moral compass in that direction. Its not about faith or churchgoing.
I understand your viewpoint sir, and I very much respect your faith, but I simply cannot countenance the setting of moral standards in tune with an omnipotent supernatural deity, said to rule over our every worldly activity and who sits in judgement of one's actions, with eternal damnation the price of disobedience. As a person, who follows a science-based life, this is not something I see as setting a positive moral code to follow. Time immemorial provides ample evidence that the introduction of religion into any situation, does not yield positive outcomes. If pressed, I would describe my outlook on life as being humanist - in that, I belive that we can live ethical and fulfilling lives on the basis of reason and humanity.
We used to have a saying in the RN that you never know how something works until you have to fix it. That phrase has come to my rescue every time something in my life 'breaks'.
We had a saying in the police. If a peeler cant eat it, drink it or shag it, he'll break it. This also works.
Fantastic video Ash, thank you! One of the worst aspects of my character is the way I beat myself up everytime I make a mistake. I truly hate myself; I can be very sympathetic and forgiving to the mistakes of others but I cannot tolerate my own. I will try to change this but I am an old dog (64 years old) and you know what they say about old dogs... 😁 Regards!
I can be this way too. I've been trying not to judge my emotions, either positive or negative. Just accept them as what they are. It seems to help me so beating myself up.
The perfect is the enemy of the good.
I am with you there Sir. I do the same.
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”
― Winston S. Churchill
Just sounds cool doesn't it?
Kai zen...small incremental changes on a regular basis leading to significant improvement- business and personal.
This video proves Ash is a man outstanding in his field.
If at first you don't succeed, don't take up skydiving.
True, life is not as linear as we want it to be. You can't have smooth sailing in rough seas.
"Copy and Paste" yet Truly NOT Understanding the concept.
This is the most important video you’ve ever made. I needed every word of this. Today, coincidentally, I’ve had to take a mental health day off because I just can’t handle life right now. The pressure is too great, both from outside and within. I’m going to watch this every time I need it, which will be often. Thank you.
Good luck on your journey to wellness and recovery sir. Remember, reaching out for help is always the right thing to do.
Well, best wishes on getting a moment of relaxed pace today!
Ash, the help your channel provides cannot be overstated. Recently, I was honored with a coronation service medal, a testament to my dedication to excellence in last year's national events. Guided by the timeless principles of sartorial elegance, your invaluable advice has not only propelled my journey but has also resonated profoundly with countless other young men.
My background is marred by the shadows of parental drug abuse and emotional turmoil, leading to a four-year estrangement from my father, marked by complete silence. In a culture starved for positive examples, your unwavering commitment to mentoring young men like myself is a beacon of hope.
Your advice transcends the noise of our current societal landscape, often exclusionary for men. Thank you, Ash, for your positive influence in the lives of countless individuals like myself.
Wishing you a good day today, and hopefully less puddles.
Congratulations and well done on your notable achievement and positive advancement in life. Even greater things await you sir. Keep the faith and reap those rewards. All the best, Ash
Great video. Sometimes getting to inner awareness is helped by some psychotherapy. It is NOT shameful. It's getting an expert to help you/
In the US some of the basics of male culture is the myth of self=reliance, knowing everything, etc. It hurt my parents' generation. We cannot be omnicompetent and all-knowing. Support groups are terrific. The classic is AA, but there are great men's groups and any sort of other groups where people have expertise that we do not and are willing to share that expertise.
Excellent advice, Ash. Regarding failure: Another RUclips men’s lifestyle guy summed it up nicely. When setting out to achieve a goal, you either win or you learn.
Thanks Ash. I sent the video to my 5 sons. As you said in the video, it's a lifelong journey.
'There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.'
Wherever that is it's beautiful.
The take away. "Find Yourself... Be Yourself".
Another wonderful video. I really enjoy the advice you give. I would love to see a video that is a day in your life.
Thanks for the idea!
Good episode; good advice. Have you ever done an episode on the reading that has inspired you to take such a path? I’m guessing you have read Marcus Aurelius and maybe Seneca among the ancients. All this has a Stoic ring.
I have a large bust of Marcus Aurelius. He's the best psychologist I've ever had.
You sir, are correct. The wisdom of the ages.
Carpe diem!
Good tips. Thank you. I wish I heard these when I was in my 20s. Wet or not, I really like the English countryside.
Thanks for this!
I deeply appreciate all of your content!
Greetings from Italy
My pleasure!
Great advice Ash. Thank you for your thoughts. I have been reading a lot more since my retirement and have read a few books on subjects I haven't thought about before. Thanks again. Best regards Ron
Glad it was helpful!
Great video, Ash. I enjoyed your content, and the beautiful countryside.
This was a great video Ash, lots of good snippets of advice.
I especially liked the one about developing emotional intelligence. Alas it's something I've had to learn myself. I find it quite difficult and it's often quite exhausting having to deal with others, but the payback for it is more often than not worth the effort.
My mind has taken a hit recently as I spent one week with 4 hour sleep each night and continued that into this week. I keep looking at it ending in a few weeks and things get back to normal. I am currently reading Men of Style, but I prefer the sister volume (Icons of Men's Style) dedicated to the iconic clothes items. The men themselves are more personalities than stylists, and there for you notice more their fame than their style, compared to if the same thing was on you and I.
Excellent video Ash, with a few good sagacious thoughts and which should benefit most of us Chaps on our journey through life. I would add to never focus on the end result as this focusses on the future, which inevitably never comes. Far better to focus on the moment and the end result will eventually happen whatever may come. Be as nature and flow like water.
Very zen James, you taught me about living in the moment when we met up. Very sage advice.
Always a pleasure my friend.🫡🙏
Thank you Ash to remind us it is all about the journey that makes our lives more fullfilling
These points of advice would make a great list to put on a Post It
and stick it to bathroom mirror so one can read every morning.
Great insights offered Here!
I'd Like to add a word of caution on the invaluable help that proper reflection offers:
Too much I feel can ne toxic. I know that from my own experience. Ever since university taught me to reflect and evaluate my actions properly I've all to often (toxically) thought myself into corners from which emergence into action can be next to impossible.
So yes, it is invaluable but only *sometimes,* and only sometimes, a little more action and a little less introspection might be advisable.
But that statement, ironically of course, *is* the result of hours of painful reflection.😅
And maybe a word on the value of resilience:
As someone who has suffered decidedly more defeats than enjoyed victories and some of those irreversible, not in a felt sense but factual physical damages, it truly helps to sometimes just take the blow and remember the old unused propaganda poster and just "Keep Calm and Carry On", even if nothing of value can be learned for a next time, at least there is the knowledge that there shouldn't be a "next time".
Best regards
Raoul G. Kunz
Ash, I really enjoy these casual "walk and talk" style videos. Very casual and natural. I'd like to see more in this style!
You got it!
Great Advice and Great Video Ash ! Thank You ..
Glad you liked it!
What a beautiful sky at the 4 minute mark!
As Socrates said, "The unexamined life is not worth living."
As a high school teacher of English and History for thirty years, I couldn't agree more, Ash, that anyone on the journey towards Chap Nirvana must embrace the ethos of the life-long learner. -Always be curious, always be open to new ideas, always focus on self-improvement.
There are close ties between one's physical health, one's mental equilibrium, and one's ability to enjoy life. As the Greek philosopher Thales put it: "A sound mind in a sound body."
Building a social network is of the utmost importance because social isolation is as debilitating to one's health as smoking.
"As we journey through life, we're all going to lose more than we win." -Absolutely true.
Very interesting and useful video, Ash. Thanks for your wise insights.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Pareng Ash! Labyu pare!!!
Excellent video Ash, all great points that I am working on.
I've been in the city too long, I would love to walk on puddles of water in an isolated area.
Great advice, as ever ... nice to see the walk about too.
Glad you enjoyed it
One of your best! Looking forward to reaching Chap Nirvana!
Wise advice. All your points are valid.
1. Set Clear and achievable goals
2. Commit to life long learning
3.Maintain physical and mental well being
4. Cultivate emotional intelligence
5. Time management and productivity
6. Build a supportive n/w
7. Embrace failure and be resilient
8. Practice self compassion
9. Forgive yourselves and others ( this is applicable to me big deal because i am a kind of Perfectionist and I sometimes too harsh to my wife and kid )
10. Align your values
I have noted it down in my journal ....
Very solid and sage advice & chat as usual, Ash.
Glad you think so!
Your best video Ash. In a very sunny Portugal at the moment escaping that damp British weather.
Commit, that's the key. Nice vid Ash. How many people around you do you know that still read? And how many still want to improve themselves? I'm still striving for the best self. Nice countryside jaunt?
Thank you,
Starlight
I've heard one should be sympathetic and not empathetic.
Good advice indeed. Whether you believe or not I think the magnetic North pole for your moral compass should be Jesus Christ because He is the gold standard that we should be emulating.
Well sir, I respect your faith, but would suggest it is more important to set your own personal standards, than conform to one of the 3000+ organised religions of this world, for only you, are the architect of your destiny.
I'd rather deal with reality
I'm not sure I agree with your particular choice, but I do think the WWJD technique is an interesting one. And it's certainly relevant to the topic at hand! Many thanks for bringing it to mind.
@@TheChapsGuide I think you miss my point. The morals, virtues and standards we value in the western world are those of Judea Christian heritage whether you believe in JC or not. As the perfect role model one cannot go wrong by setting your moral compass in that direction. Its not about faith or churchgoing.
I understand your viewpoint sir, and I very much respect your faith, but I simply cannot countenance the setting of moral standards in tune with an omnipotent supernatural deity, said to rule over our every worldly activity and who sits in judgement of one's actions, with eternal damnation the price of disobedience. As a person, who follows a science-based life, this is not something I see as setting a positive moral code to follow. Time immemorial provides ample evidence that the introduction of religion into any situation, does not yield positive outcomes.
If pressed, I would describe my outlook on life as being humanist - in that, I belive that we can live ethical and fulfilling lives on the basis of reason and humanity.
Anyone want to turn these ten points into a noumonic to make it easier to remember ?
Example
K eep It Simple Stupid (kiss)