let's talk about being single during cuffing season

today we discuss the infamous sweater weather, cuffing season seasonal period....
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age: 22
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passions: making videos, fashion, travel, anime & food!
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[@douiyui9042]

I think thanks to everyone going through things... The vibes are so crusty and musty out in that vast sea of possibilities. But then you flip your perspective... And then bang! Possibilities! If anything, i say we should learn to cherish all these lil moments of being alone and longing and flip it (if possible.) learn even more about yourself in the meantime. And don't beat yourself up for a lil bit of daydreaming once in awhile

[@matthewsypert]

yes yes! this perspective is golden!

[@sirdarwin06]

Warning: potentially nonsensical midnight rant ahead, skip if you want to save time
I think I've recently made a breakthrough in my depression and have worked out a bit of a better outlook on myself, my abilities and my life. Its still not perfect but its pushing me further than i was getting before and things are looking up. Every negative thing i feel, i always assume its just me, that its my fault and that no one else feels that way. Loneliness, romantically and especially platonically is one of those things. Thank you for sharing your experience, it makes me feel less alone. one coping mechanism ive developed recently has to do with the depersonalization/derealization that ive experienced mostly nonstop for years now. A few days ago i was really struggling with it and was thinking of a way i could snap myself back into reality. I realized, what if i just relaxed? And not just physically, mentally. I didn't remember the last time i had actually relaxed, had nothing on my mind and was just enjoying the moment. Im always worried about something or thinking about what i want to do later or tomorrow, and my thoughts are often so detached from the present moment. I decided to lay on my bed, put on some calming nostalgic music and only focus on the things i could feel and see around me. No guilt, and no pressure. Letting thoughts come and go without judgement or analysis and even trying to think of nothing for several moments. Telling myself that im okay and that's all that matters, that i have everything i need and that i can relax. It really helped. It hasnt solved the issue completely but it made me feel the closest to alive i had felt in at least 7 years. And ive taken those thoughts and tried to apply them throughout the day. This probably sounds really obvious... And a lot of this i have been told by both myself and others this entire time. Ive been learning about things like mindfulness and grounding techniques for years now. I couldnt tell you why i wasnt able to actually execute it and it only clicked this time. Heh, I'm typing this at midnight and feel like I might regret it later but this feels like a safe space to ramble. It still feels risky but i guess taking leaps of faith like this is a part of integrating optimism. I have to believe its not as consequential as i think it will be. Is this even making sense? ... I put a warning at the beginning just in case.

[@matthewsypert]

I love this so much, thank you for sharing your soul, I can’t tell you how appreciated it is!
This is my reminder to be mindful, what a powerful tool.. I may do that tonight, just lay in bed to some lofi and get into a meditative state.
Know that you sharing your thoughts and feelings can impact others in such positive ways like this has me for me :)

[@yufwla]

i love your commentary def just gained a sub from me 🤗. i feel like i got lucky and had one successful rls that was great but now im finding it hard wanting to try again with anyone else..i guess im afraid of disappointment but its a work in process. i definitely agree w the going on dates w myself though and splurging more on myself that makes me “happy” or makes me feel better i suppose but temporarily i then feel like something’s missing 😭😭

[@matthewsypert]

thank you 🥹 disappointment comes and goes, we’ll experience it so much in this life. I wish u good luck! 😁

[@g9itchify_115]

you are so beautiful!!!

[@matthewsypert]

Thank you!! ☺️

[@korrita98]

i love the way u are i want a boyfriend like you