How To Deal With Toxic People? Gaur Gopal Das
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- Опубликовано: 28 сен 2024
- A young employee once approached the HR Head to discuss his decision to quit because of toxic people, politics and negative talks in the organization. Would a change of job or change of situation help? The HR Head asked him to do one last thing before he would quit, which changed his decision.
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Gaur Gopal Das is an Electrical Engineer, having studied at the College Of Engineering, Pune. He has been speaking at various prestigious academic institutions and corporate firms in India and abroad for over 2 decades and has even spoken at the United Nations & British Parliament. He has spoken at many charity events to raise funds for social initiatives in the field of education and rural development. His motivational videos are viral having reached around 1 Billion views. With over 13 million followers across all social media platforms, he is known as the urban, online monk.
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Point to remember - " When you focus on your priorities
You dont Have the time to see all the dramas around you,
the mistakes of other, gossip and the negativity "
Agree
True
Ya I agree to some extent but what if they target you , bully you and makes fun of you due to jealousy or envy or hatred whatever so you name it 😬
@@shivangisharma8410 if you are being targeted bullied and harassed you should immediately report this to human resources and make police reports if at home if at school see the school Dean or Principal because this act of bullying and targeting is illegal and no matter what your age is a crime and should be reported and documented to hold accountable and to list clearly the event and persons committing such a disgusting attention seeking game played by the mentally deficient and insecure jealous individuals if on the internet that is called cyber bullying and should be screenshots and report to local authorities who also will take report and get you in touch with the federal telecommunications and global internet department and they will make reports investigate and possibly prosecute depending on all the facts MOST IMPORTANTLY REMEMBER THIS IS ABOUT THEM BEING INSECURE JEALOUS OR ATTENTION SEEKING TO GAIN APPROVAL OF PEERS AND TRUTH IS THEY ARE TERRIFIED NO ONE WILL ACCEPT THEM SO THEY DO EVERYTHING THEY CAN TO FIND SOMEONE THEY CAN MAKE THE TARGET SO IT ISNT THEM. REPORT THIS THEY ARE UNSTABLE MENTALLY AND YOU DONT HAVE TIME OR THE EXTENSIVE PSYCHIATRY EXPERIENCE TO SORT OUT THEIR PLETHERA OF MENTAL ISSUES AND INNER CONFLICTS JUST DONT EVEN LOOK AT THEM OR IF U DO SAY LOOK I DONT EVEN KNOW YOU AND YOU ARE OBSESSED WITH ME EVERY DAY YOU STARE AT ME ALL DAY LONG AND BECAUSE I DONT ENJOY YOU CONSTANTLY WATCHING ME EVERY MINUTE EVERY DAY YOU GET ANGRY AND DO THE SAME THING START SAYING INSULTING THINGS TO ME BECUZ U HAVE BEEN REJECTED IM NOT INTERESTED IN ANY TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP WITH U SO PLEASE STOP STALKING ME IVE ALREADY MADE A POLICE REPORT OR IVE ALREADY REPORTED THIS TO HUMAN TESOURCES OR IVE ALREADY REPORTED THIS TO THE SCHOOL DEAN OF DISCIPLINE AND THE SCHOOL DISTRICT ..AND remember they are trying to make u feel as bad as they feel about themselves it's a pity feel sorry for their mental deficiencies get counseling and never keep it to yourself
See those toxic people even bully me every time but I remember that this is just a part of life not the whole people will let u down until u down yourself work on yourself leave them or just I can say ignore
Maybe keep a little distance
Because I hear somewhere that krishna said
Jo accha lagta hai usse karo aur no nahi usse bhool jayo chahe vo thinking , Karma , people
If toxic people are in family. It affects a lot I mean a lot.
agree with you...me too suffering
Think plus points about every family members. Change your thoughts about them situation will change automatically.
Yes... Agreed
@@sonaligharat2149 this is only possible in talks...
when u r regulary tortured u dont even know how does it feels??;
Same Here.Not A Day Passes When I Don't Feel Lyk Quitting😰😢
Such *calmness tranquility and wisdom* in his words. I sleep peacefully every night listening to anyone of his videos.
Me too
Ya because he is real saint from iskon
Today onwards i will follow you
@@payyavulabharathkumar2008 thank you kumar
@@smysmile5870 guruji
By listening to this I actually realised that it happens to everyone, everywhere, every time only if I let it happen..
Yes It is in my mind.. I have to change myself.
Toxic people support you when you do things according to their likes, they start criticizing you when you don't
Well said
Yes,, exactly Vaibhav
Exactly
Exactly I want to get rid of them...They are trying to make me miserable 😑😑
Absolutely
Toxic people will criticize you more when they don't want you to achieve your goals. Some people will demotivate you because they think that you can achieve whatever you want but they can't. So we must take that as a compliment.
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Truee
It's absolutely a test of our patience 👍👍
There is a saying by our Master
If a situation is avoidable -walk out of it
If it is unavoidable-tolerate it
Let's not misinterpret here
This really strengthens us ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Viveka is needed to distinguish these situations and respond accordingly
You are right main to sirf apni criticize hi sunti hun dusre ke muh se
,Sab log mujhme Kamiyan hi nikalte rahte hai ,Aaj v nikala bhut Bura lagta hai dukh is liye nhi hota hai ki wo kamiyan i Nikal rahe hai mujhme balki isliye hota hai kyunki wo log khud Ko secure feel karne ke liye dusro Ko criticize karte hI
Right time I see this video
.Everyday I am thinking about how to escape from my frustrated surrounding And toxic people. I can't concentrate on my studies due to alot of negativities around my home. This video is the most appropriate video I ever seen in RUclips. Thankuu soomuch
U are telling Sir , that we should focus on our priorities/job/studies/work .............
But what I feel is , after a certain period of time or when the line is crossed there is a need to teach all of them a good lesson because , If we didn't not take action then , they will think/take our calmness as our weaknesses . Like in today's world a innocent person is considered as dumb or weak , but actually it's not like that !
And they form habit to tease us and put there nose in our personal matter , because they know that we are not going to take action .
So what i feel is , we should ignore toxic people , but when the line is crossed then we should must take action !
Well said .
Neeraj.... No. We don't need to take action against toxic people. They are not worth our time and effort. No use to get twined into their drama!
Instead we must focus on us and rise high like an eagle🦅, these cawing crows trying to fly with us, won't be able to catch up with us as we are flying very high like eagles reaching our goals. They will fall out on their own😃 Also time will teach them the lesson they deserve.
Saying:👇🏼
"Being rude is easy, it doesn't take any effort and is a sign of weakness and insecurity. Kindness shows great self discipline and strong self esteem. Being kind is not always easy when dealing with a rude person who destroyed us.
Kindness is a sign of a person who has done lot of personal work and has come to a great self-understanding and wisdom. Choose to be kind over being right and you will be right everytime because kindness is a sign of STRENGTH"
@@AneeshaRao100 You are correct, the video is telling dont let you inner peace be destroyed by such people.You take action when line is crossed but dont let your inner peace of mind be destroyed.
I am agreed with the fact u mentioned there .If we behave in a holistic manner , certain people think that we r fool.
Agree 100%
Everytime i feel triggered by the toxic people around me, i listen to this and i find my peace. 🥺 This is my 12th-15th time here and each time i listen to this it makes my thinking more clear and brings me peace. Reminds me of my actual goals and helps get rid of distractions. Thankyou so much for putting this up♥️
Ya i feel you, why people are interfering in other's life, i have some toxic friends and currently trying to avoiding them, i know it willl not happen suddenly and takes time and the process is hard and it is essential to avoid them to get a good future.
i totally removed toxic people from my life deleted blocked ghosted
But unfortunately..it is not that easy as it seems to be...
You are absolutely true.Toxic people have problem with our ability to focus on priorities.They just want drag you down.
Yea agree, but as with every other challenge, not impossible 🙂
Lets change this situation, what if someone tries to hit him so that his water should spill out, then what that guy is supposed to do,
Thing is we know our priority and we are focused, but what if someone is harming us directly and ruining our work, then its difficult to deal with such people.
Should remember that easily said often comes from hard experience s
...the word comes from easy is not be trusted ..but the work you can rely on which comes from the act of hard...😄(correct me where necessary)
It depends on you friend, whether you make it easy or more difficult
Ohhh god I'm feeling u listed my mind today frustrated with nagative people around me ur this speech is peace to my mind thank you guruji 🙏🙏
What a coincidence Guruji!!! Today some of my toxic relatives have come to our house and tonight I see this video! This must be a cosmic tip for me! 🙏
Edit- didn't expect so many likes!! Thanks everyone 🤣
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@TheChosenOne 😄
I can relate. We just have to make sure that we observe their actions very closely and create boundaries. And when they cross boundaries, we have the right to response.
These 'relatives' are worst kind of humans
Same here Antara
We need more helpful people like you in our life
I just had a fight with a toxic person and this helped😩🙏💫
It's taken from a story of Lord Vishnu, Narad Muni and a Farmer..... Great lesson learnt ❤️
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But how our school can fail to make us learn shits....
@@heliosgaming01 😂
Toxic people which I have seen in previous organisation where I worked in a team and they all used to say or gossip about me and create a bad image of me. It was a gang of politics and they knows my weak points . Were trying to fire or resign from that company but they could not. This video is helpful.
This was very much needed. thank you guru ji. 🙏🙏
really ! people of this era will be grateful for gopal das dedication toward humanity😊
❤ADDICTED he's speech❤
Don't change negative situation on your surroundings, change our focus from them to another meaningful direction...💙💙
The only way to deal with toxic people is to stop talking to them even if they are standing in front of us we have to ignore them, this has worked like a charm for me and in my case it was my sister. Whenever my mum or family members had a party, I just didn't go cause I knew she would be there. I just went the next day, sure there was no party the next day but at least I didn't have to meet with little miss toxic.
This video helps me all the time whenever I'm surrounded by toxicity
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I am just fade up of these toxic people in my family. Now I don't want to call them my family.
i have heard this story in the form of Narad and the greatest devotee to Lord Vishnu
This message was so need in my life, I’m going through the same thing at work, but I just need to focus on my work 😊
Thanks Guruji for the advice!
I was dealing with the trauma of being around too many dramatic situations and toxic people and was getting demotivated. Thanks for uplifting me!!
thank you
This just gave me goosebumps
Thank you so much for this words of wisdom and encouragement. I really am like the employee's situation now and I feel enlightened when I watched this video. Happy New Year 2019 to all of us. For a brighter and prosperous New Year to come.
Super super super...iam going to end this 2018 with awesome motive of this video
Thanks thanks thanks 🙏
My mother always scolds me for being unemployed and being underweight.....I am the one in the family who is always made to feel that I am nalayak and like my unemployed uncle. It breaks my confidence into pieces.
Hey Shikha pl. Do not underestimate yourself, have confidence in yourself, work on your personality and skills I am sure the above will fade away with time best wishes
@@VivekKumar-ge2usand if one isn't interested in working on their skills or isn't intelligent enough ? And why would someone change their personality just for a job ? Thing is that you guys are part of that toxic world yourself now.
While working in teams, one to communicate all the time. Being lost in our own work doesn't help
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1st time I'm away from my Home & my Parents for Higher Studies & Today some of my Toxic Classmates were Bullying me on my Behaviours ..& I was feeling too bad today after that I watched this Now I feel ok that for what I'm here, I should focus on that😊
same bro
I also noticed that when I have some work I don't think about anyone else, and this toxic person also !
Big follower sir🙏
absolutely true.thanks sir
What about others...they'll still make disturbance and gossips...The company will not grow & it'll sink 😂😂😂
@@just4gaming786 deep research brother.
@@just4gaming786 yes man I think what u said will work. We have to be aggressive. This video is crap. Only mahatma Gandhi approves this video is right.
Best message.thankyou guru .
Finally, a much needed advice... This relates to me very much.. I often get bothered by negative talks going around us... I think I need to implement this in my life 🤗
I just love you sir 💓👌
Thanks swami🙏🙏
Thankyou guru ji
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This video teaches me so much....No place in the world is either heaven or hell, this is us who feel like heaven or like hell....Now the choice is ours! If a person actually focuses on his work,so many obstacles and toxins seem meaningless, its actually not how negative are others, its actually how positive we are❤️❤️❤️
Thank you Swamiji,it's a fine way.
Thank you guruji ❤️❤️❤️
Sounds good, but only one is suffering has the real taste of bitterness, 😀
440 Dislikes for all these toxic people.
But you should focus on the glass of water dude
Ah but you just focus on the glass of water
I will
Thanku......u always calm my anxious nerves
Always focus on the higher purpose of living !
TY TY TY, what a magnificant way to deal with life, you opened my soul, bless you!!!
Much needed!
Well said guruji. Will follow the same at my work place. I find alot of toxic people around and the wave length differs 👍🙏
It is very easy to guide and very difficult to handle
So, we don't have to try to chamdge the wrongdoings? Totality disagree.
When situation is not in your control... You can't change all the people around you.. So it's better to ignore them instead of moving away from your own job.. What if such kind of people are to be dealt with in your new job..
Just count the number of people whom you have tried to change as you totally disagree... Did they stop their wrong doings?
I have heard this story in a different way. Vishnu giving a bowl of oil to Naradmuni to do rounds of the world/earth. After completing the rounds, God asks hlif he remembered and took my name, Naradmuni said, no I was focusing on this work. Then God says that ppl who remember me while doing their job even three times a day are my favorite devotees. They job they do is like carrying bowl filled with oil. Reminded me of my childhood memories. My nani used to tell this story
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Same situation is facing by me in my office "Indiadeals online Media" at Gokul Path, Vaishali Nagar, Jaipur, Rajasthan; Thanks you so much for this motivational video enought to guide me how to handle toxic atmosphere & negative irritating people around me in that office ; Even bad Boss Mr. sunil Sharma is also included among all of them
Exactly 🙌🏻🙌🏻🌸
Really really a great thing.... Thanks sir.
Excellent Excellent Excellent example
Thanks Sir
Thank you Guruji you explained very well.
Thanks so much, I'm preparing for Jee and will make this country feel proud...
Be focused on the glass. Let others get promoted and make you keep filling the glass of water
I am toxic unintentionally, I have own problem trying not to be toxic, but found no video 🙃
I always act toxic, and after sometime I regret and feel bad whole day 😪 😞
I just joined a new job in corporate...So much drama and politics...This video helped me a lot🌹
Thank you 😊
Thanks you so much .very great point
Thank you sir
I like this story thank you. but they will never know their mistakes
Really nice way to deal with them
Thankyou for sharing, was much needed
Thankyou guruji
Ohh krishna thank you such a learning. This was bothering me from many years. FOCUS ON ME is the point. But people are like shadow roaming around with their toxicity. Is that mean 🤔 I am like magnet for these situations in my life? Or the problem is with them? Plz help me to clarify this doubts. Haré krishna
The monk that changed my life..thank you swamiji...
☺️thank you guru
So true....I have learnt smthng new...thank you😇😇😇
Most practical advice
True
Right sir
Amazing ❤
How should one deal with those people?
Simply ignore them and focus on your goals.
Thanks ❣️
Thank u sir
Thnk you sir ...
Much needed. Thank you!
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I don't believe in miracles....but your voice makes me to believe....controlling power of yours make me to think...how this is possible
Charan Sparsh guru ji,
Thank you for the timely advice.
I have one more thing to add here; make sure you are not that toxic person for others.
True !
Definitely I won't ☺️
@@yugabharathi6447 If every person makes sure of that then there are no toxic people but unfortunately, the human world is always toxic if we look back 6000 years it is the same.
@@menonksa Just got bullied in college 1st day ,tats y came here tho
@@yugabharathi6447 Oh! - we are born into a toxic world but you seem to be a positive person so no worries I'm sure you will overcome it!
Thank you
Thank you sir
When this toxic is within family, it's very difficult to ignore.
True
I watched video for the very same reason
Yes.. me too..
True
It's damn difficult because you never expect your family to betray you , the betrayal hurts a lot!
Toxic people are everywhere even in family. This formula can be applied there also.
But what if a toxic member of your family put their nose in your every work and you can't stop them and Their behavior's effects on your life
Yes I have one in my family. I ruined my life bcoz of her
@@aishwaryadharmik9873 yes people have become so dangerous they use their brain too much to bring you down
@@sweetydal3723 whole family has to suffer because of this 😑😑😑
The sad truth is every one believe toxic people rather honest people
Toxic ppl will remain toxic, can't change them, rather we should focus on ourselves
They start putting there nose everywhere like a mosquito then?
My boss is toxic.. stuuiuuuuuuuuuuuipid idiot bosss... very stupid.. i wish him bad things
I totally agree with you.
@@nimsayaniaable i wish you well my friend
Or change the toxic environment....
It’s a beautiful lesson. It is also advisable to just get tf out of the toxicity and find better people instead of putting unrealistic pressure on yourself. There are better people, trust me. Choose your peace ☮️
I think this is the best and only solution
So well said. I think this is the best solution for people who JUST REFUSE to change even after repeated attempts. Putting undue pressure on ourselves to act correctly even when others around us are acting wrong, and to react properly even when others around us are giving us constant negativity, is EXTREMELY difficult and maybe.. might even affect our health in the long run.
Most of the time, people who think others as toxic are toxic themselves. Learn to be self satisfied and calm even in solitude, others' opinions wont matter anymore
" If you keep your attention focussed on your goal , you will never notice the obstacles and pitfalls along the way . "
U re great Sir 🙏
Well some ppl are determined to put obstacles and snub u down. I think it's not that easy as the video mentions. There is one solution u run away. But if u r inside their toxic approval cycle only God can save u. Easier said than done.
@@user-uq6ic8pw8x yes I agree 👍
@@user-uq6ic8pw8x yes ignoring is not any solution.
I agree, not easy to ignore .What if that person is taking credibility of your work , taking up your work and doing them .Then what is it that you wanna focus now ? Are you going to focus on the toxic guy because that person is eating all your work.Easy to say , difficult to follow. Best is to move out of such situations , run away as quickly as possible .
Yes in my office lot of politics is there
Every one is pulling other legs and lots of other things then how can i focus
today i realised why guru is necessary in life
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🙏
Yes😊
What?
Since childhood I know why a teacher/guru is necessary
Guru govind doo khare, jake lagu paye
Balihari guru aapne, jinne govind dio milae☺️🤍💫
Most of the time the intolerable toxic people are in the family for whom the utmost goal in their life is to destroy you inner PEACE
Exactly
I found this video while searching for videos on how to deal with toxic parents.
True
It's my mom... I ccant believe
@Neha
Plz speak to yr mom.....keep yr side then decide
Rarely v find toxic mothers dear