In Love with a Character who Doesn't Exist...
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- Опубликовано: 3 дек 2021
- Did you ever wish a fictional character would be real? Did you ever feel lonely after finishing a game? Then let's explore together why you feel that way....
This phenomenon has something to do with building parasocial relationships with fictional characters and experiencing post game depression, after you part from them.
Most important articles:
Playing for Love in a Romantic Video Game: Avatar Identification, Parasocial Relationships, and Chinese Women's Romantic Belief:
sci-hub.ee/10.1080/15205436.2...
Parasocial Interaction:
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parasoc...
Mass Communication and Society:
sci-hub.ee/10.1207/s15327825m...
The PSI-Process Scales. A new measure to assess the intensity and breadth of parasocial processes:
sci-hub.ee/10.1515/COMM.2008.025
Parasocial Interaction: A Review of the Literature and a Model for Future Research:
sci-hub.ee/10.1207/S1532785XM...
Valar Morghulis (All Parasocial Men Must Die): Having Nonfictional Responses to a Fictional Character:
sci-hub.se/10.1080/08824096.2...
“They May Be Pixels, But They’re MY Pixels:” Developing a Metric of Character Attachment in Role-Playing Video Games:
sci-hub.se/10.1089/cpb.2007.0137
Social surrogacy: How favored television programs provide the experience
of belonging:
sci-hub.se/10.1016/j.jesp.200...
The Player’s Parasocial Interaction with Digital Entities:
sci-hub.zidianzhan.net/10.114...
Parasocial Interaction, the COVID-19 Quarantine, and Digital Age Media:
link.springer.com/article/10....
Psychologists on how to fill the emptiness you feel after bingeing a great show :
melmagazine.com/en-us/story/p...
Self-insert survey:
/ otome_selfinsert_surve...
A great video about post game depression:
• Post Game Depression E...
Games:
Piofiore
Cupid Parasite
Variable Barricade
Olympia Soiree
Collar x Malice
Cafe Enchante
Movies:
Cast Away (2011)
House of Cards (2013)
Get out (2017)
A few good men (1992)
Revolutionary road (2009)
Little Miss Sunshine (2006)
GLUED (2012)
Music:
Travel (Lukrembo)
Cupid Parasite OST: It's like a romantic movie; Exciting Adventure; Heartbreak parasite
Olympia Soiree OST: Awayuki Iro; Saikou
Shuuen no Virche OST: Main Theme; Memory
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"The feelings of emptiness and depression after engaging with something so absorbing are because a part of you died when that experience ended."
Man that hit hard. It was exactly how I felt when I finished my first otome code:realize and I've been obsessed with this genre ever since. >
So true, I love that description...as soon as you allow yourself to become part of the game in order to enjoy it as much as you did, the more it takes away from you when it ends
But in the end it's kind of wonderful, that games like Code Realize can give us those feelings, right?
@@LinLinLavender Yes!! Honestly I've been playing games for 20+ years and no game has come close to making me feel so much it's weird :' )
@@cappu7121 Oh wow, that's indeed remarkable! I hope there will be other games in the future that can give you those feelings
I want you all to know and remember that every fictional character comes from a very real mind and heart. I've been repeating that a lot (especially to students, I'm a teacher and also a writer). When I write, I, most of the times, convey my own emotions and thoughts through pieces of me that take the form of characters! Men, women, creatures... (And that just might be the basis of fiction writing!) So, don't ever feel "weird" for loving your husbandos and waifus. Enjoy your feelings and make the best from them!
Giving me feels for all my game and book loves
Hangover is also a good title!
Oh wow, didn't know Dumbledore was so sage... couldn't agree more!
sometimes otome games kinda feel like microdosing the excitement that comes with a new relationship haha.
What a good comparison!
Glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. Also I appreciate you take your time to explain this ^^
Me too! You're welcome! 🥰
it's sweet to see allies XD
I almost cried just listening to you talk about games making people cry. Beautiful.
...me too while recording at some point to be honest...
I loved this! I always feel crazy when I have post-game depression but I didn't know how our brains react to such experiences!
Me too 😅
Which game made you feel that way?
@@LinLinLavender MANY. I have been hung up on Piofiore for a long time surprisingly!
@@cinnamonbai Oh really? Didn't know that, but as it's my favourite game, I'm happy to hear it makes you feel... depressed...erm...you liked it as well 😁
It works like that with Roleplaying with friends.
I had a long run roleplay with other 2 friends, but all of a sudden, one of them stopped roleplaying... We miss her so much.
WHOA!!!This is INCREDIBLE. I never knew the brain does not diffrentiate between realistic fictional characters and real people. Now I have a good justification as to why I get so attached. Brilliant and wonderful video XD And I never thought about how the deep effects of playing the games for so long makes the bonds even more powerful
Also YESS bad endings are so sad when the character ends or dies is just so heartbreaking. I remember when an LI I adored died and I cried for 3 hours
Thanks for praising my videos, it really means a lot to me ❤️❤️❤️
It's totally normal to fall in love with our 2D men 😍
I have a whole playlist with otome psychology videos if that interests you 😊
I love crying about otome games 😭 but yes, all these are real emotions
Oh I'm definitely interested to see the other otome psychology videos! No problem, thanks for replying ☺
I fell in love with a female fictional character from a video game and I'm very sad when I know the story of the game is about to finish. I've never felt this feeling in movies, series or books.
I'm glad you made this topic video thanks !
You're welcome! Everyone knows this feeling, right?
I'm tearing omg I loved this video so much! Ty for giving us amazing content
I'm glad you liked it! Yeah, it was literally a heartfelt project. Thanks for watching and being on this journey together 🥰
Great video!! Fully agree, the characters themselves may not be real but the feelings we attach to them certainly are. It's no wonder we feel a void when a game ends :'')
So true...yet weird.
It's such an unfair trade-off. The more you commit to a game, the more you are able to enjoy it, but the harsher will be the goodbye.
Great video!!
I have felt that emptiness so many times!! but also,I feel certain anxiety to discover the whole story and finish it as soon as possible ^ . ^
I always try to keep a balance between these.
Thank you!
That's such a good point! You want to immerse yourself in the game and indulge it, but at the same time you actually fear that it will inevitably end...
The OraSowa music on the background made me tear up a bit TT_TT
That one was for sure one of the experiences that sent me into post game depression
I also almost always cry when I hear the Olympia Soiree soundtrack 🥰😭
Comes down to good writting n even better art yahaha
It's not over once the game is over, the love story between the player and anime man continues in the player's fantasy or imagination and can be a lifelong memorable experience/ obsession .( depending how creative or how attached the player is to the fictional character. ) ❤
That's such a nice description 😍 and you're so right! Do you have a character like this?
@@LinLinLavender Yes,I do have a character that I have a so called paranormal relationship with; Mettaton Ex from the video game, Undertale. He is a humanoid robot that is anime looking and there is dating simulator fangames of this video game.The Undertale fangame is called Underlove dating sim and works just like these otoma games as they are called. There are 4 updates to Underlove dating sim: 1. You date Flowey the flower who is a manipulative flower,2 &3 are Sans and Papyrus the skeleton brothers, ( they are both funny and there's 2 different endings to their dating simulations ) Sans is short, lazy and tells jokes while his brother, Papyrus is average hight and loves cooking spaghetti. Last but not least is Mettaton/ Mettaton Ex in update 4. Mettaton is the box shaped robot that turns into the oh so fabulous Mettaton Ex! All 4 characters from Undertale 's dating simulations are good, but the most charming of the bunch in definitely Mettaton Ex. He may be a robot, but he is a tall, dark haired humanoid robot man,with a unique feminine style. And in conclusion Mettaton Ex is not human but has a realistic human like personality and is my favorite Undertale character.
@@noxy1816 I didn't even know that existed! Thanks for enlightening me 😁 sounds like super much fun!
Thank you for the diagnosis doctor. Thank you
You're welcome! I hope you'll get better soon 🤝
I would love another video regarding this topic which focuses more on like what impact fictional characters actually have in our lifes.
Like for example Im suffering from depression and also feel lonely a lot of the time. I played a lot of otome games but am now kinda worried that like my "standards" got way to high thanks to those characters. Like I now that real people will never be that "perfect" like fic. Characters. Even the bond to the side characters who are not dateable in the game feels somehow more intense and true then towards real people for me. Its hard to explain. But I dont think I will ever be able to like someone as much as those fictional idiots.
And that makes me realise that I will probably lonely for the rest of my life lol.
Anyways what I wanted to go for:
Do you think I feel like this because otome games kinda "manipulated" my life/expections whatever?
I also want to make a video how our fictional relationship influence our real ones!
Oh, that's a difficult question...I don't think I can answer that...because you said you know these guys are fictional and too perfect. Maybe you just don't have people in you life, who can offer you the support and love you need at the moment? (But these questions might be best discussed with an expert, like a therapist)
I cry over mineo ending but I'm still working on the game so it not over yet but he became one my husbandos
Then enjoy the time you still have with him 🥰
Hahaha I feel th post game deression especially when the game ends or if I'm nearing the end of the novel. It makes me not want to end it
True...if it's not an otome game I somehow just don't finish it, so it never ends 😅
Oh my I just played the ending of the game and now I am crying I want moore soo baad😭😭😿😿
I'm in love with nezuko she so beautiful I also love all the amine girls
We all know that feeling, it's tormenting 😅
parasocial?
you got a big topic!!!
I'm someone who never Opened the eyes into falling love to a real person around me
4:25 if there is no self insert why should I keep on playing the game XD
humm age from 21 - 25 ? I'm 35 11% maybe my situation is very rare with my age ==" I'm 100% selfinsert if I'm not the girl herself I'm another character there have my own job my own power nyahaha
4:35 wow I like this studies !!
can I have a paper version I can't read no matter I raise the quality of video ! I LIKE this studies because recently girls keep saying MC make me sick ! YOU ARE MC !! STOP TREAT MC AS A PERSON IN A GAME MC IS YOU YOU YOU !!
ok sorry I just overeact XD
4:44 yup when I saw this that year I said he is lucky XD and other guys who married to Nintendo DS girl he seems very happy >~< I am like him that why I'm searching for a game who only love me not any girl even MC ahahah !
5:20 well I made them XD but so far who deserve it to by it for real :( no one yet XD)
thank you for this!!
hummm why I feel I'm out of list ?
I always with 2D man since 1989 ahahahahahah
not because of 2020 pandemic thing
it's just those guys never fail you ! ( I'm type of Loyal one that why I never fall in love with singers ) except for Hosoya that one I know actors it was my crime, I fall in real person ! because he was voiced Shiraishi Kuranosuke who was my fav character !
I swear I keep love character for 30 years 100% loyal to him never cheat him ahaha till I saw the mangaka set a marriage for him and he finally gone from my life
I don't wish them to be in real because I go to the fantasy XD so I never asked the character to be real
and I hate shirtless photo of 2D man ahahah XD I find it discussing ( sorry ) but I attract to face only ^^"
man already have their game
it's time we have our game too lool XD
Japan otome game is the best forever ! even I don't have someone because the person I fall in ( he dies ) and I'm still single in fictional world XD
I wish I could find someone from Japan otome game worth my time but till now ( non ) I just love fiction who dies .. why I'm keeping my eyes with people who end up dying ( my unlucky )
well for me I like to see someone similar to me in a game , right now CN game Tears of themis Luke is representing me most of him
and Gavin from game Mr love we have something in common and share an interest
I treat those guys as friends >~<
because as lovers my heart already dies and I don't know how to heal it .. 6:12 I think this is me,, who dies the emotion of fall in love in fictional and reality ..
they must create comfort otome game not include harm to our fav character more harm more I HATE ! leaving the game feeling guilt to skip those ,..
7:00 I love this part of feelings you are amazing !
7:57 now I'm thinking if love is necessary or not XD
9:11 you tears me in this part ( treasure those experiences the game give you )
wow I have no words to say how much this video is rich of many answers I've been tired to describe to CN otome games recently!
this video is recommended to all who play otome games! well done !!!! *clap* sp hard to you
thanks for hard-working t time to search and read about it by myself
I'm also more of a self-inserter myself, but if you don't self-insert it's still fun to see the other person's happiness, I would say, and be happy for them
Oh sure, I totally forgot to link the survey! It's very interesting right?
It's definitely an interesting form of relationship you have with a fictional character...but as long as they are happy - why not? Sounds like a difficult task! Do you have any specific game in mind?
It's totally alright if you don't want the character to be real and just enjoy the game as it is
You have been playing otome games for a long time it seems, very impressive
Oh sorry, but you're right, the face is the most important part looks wise
Do you mean you often fall in love with fictional characters, but then suffer because the game ended?
Luckily there are many fluffy games where no one needs to suffer :)
At least you found two characters that suit you!
Thank you 🥰
Well, being lonely is not the same thing as being alone, so you can be alone (and single) and are not necessarily lonely. You can be completely happy without a romantic partner!
I'm very happy the video gave you so much! I also spent a lot of time, effort and emotions to make this video and am glad I could convey those feelings.
@@LinLinLavender well I do self insert as another person in a story ( someone enjoy being there XD) and I can take part of power or special power something like that XD ( I rarely put myself in the girl shoe in otome game ) and treat her as trouble maker XD
yes please I would like to read more about the survey
I don't play much otome games some games the most I like about otome the arts and also I enjoy seeing boys reaction and collect information as long I'm an artist too, and never felt there as love interest just a someone who enjoy there , but I do with the character I LOVE it
not quite long but I always wish this type of games since I always enjoy self insert in games anime so I love if the character would react with me because I really enjoy being with them
I never fall in real people that what I meant, and I have 3 characters are my LOVE BUT ALL DIES in the end of story/game and even if I just like and add to my fav list they died,, so that why I said I'm still single I have my LOVE and like character dies in the story that's a horrible taste of me to pick up someone who would die in the end ! XD
well.. not having a friends in real life who could share the craziness life you have and treat you as creapy is kinda sad ,, the worst when they asked you to stop enjoying this! and focus in life ! :( that what makes me more alone in this community
I can see how hard work you did and also in reading comments! and I shared this video in my FB page also to my close friends who love Mr Love and Tears of Themis character
thank you for replying >~
@@kau_chan_plays I have put the link to the self-insert study in the description!
Which games do you play besides otome?
That's right, otome games really are valuable alone because of the art and stories
True, self-inserting really is like interacting
I see, then you really do seem to have bad taste 😅 but good thing, you can always replay the game!
Oh no, don't your friends appreciate your hobby? That's why I find it very important to have a supportive online community to share your thoughts with, like reddit or discord or here in the RUclips comments 🥰
Thank you very much for appreciating the video! It makes me very happy to hear that you liked it!
You're welcome! I love your detailed analysis of my videos and chatting with you ☺️
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