How to Give Negative Feedback Without Offending Someone You Care About At Work
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- Опубликовано: 2 дек 2024
- How to give negative feedback without offending people or hurting their feeling. Negative feedback is rarely welcome. There are times when you feel the urge to share some negative feedback with others. But if feels very awkward and difficult to share the truth.
When you care about someone, the last thing you want do is to hurt his or her feelings. Now, I am sure you don't have a problem sharing positive feedback. There's a difference between negative feedback vs positive feedback. Everyone loves to hear what they are doing right. But, very few people have the heart to receive negative feedback.
There are those who are arrogant. They think they know everything. They can be doing something wrong for 20 years thinking it's the right way. If you dare to let them know, they explode or get offended.
Sometimes it's a person you sincerely care about and you want to succeed. You know if this individual changes a particular behavior, he or she would get very far in life. Maybe it's a friend or a co-worker at work. But, this person is sensitive.
You wake up in the middle of the night thinking about the best way to do so. Maybe you are in the human resources department. Your job is to tell the person to shape up or shape out. It may be a performance issue.
How do you go about it? Is there a right or wrong approach to share negative feedback? The answer is yes. In this video, I reveal the secret to you. There is a way to let your friend or co-worker know without hard feelings.
The formula is PSP. P=Praise S=Share P=Praise. The PSP method is amazingly powerful. It has a lot of psychological effects. Watch the video to see how I unpack it for you.
I have a friend I've helped for 35 years. Hauling her around in my car. Taking her to the store and other errands. Both her and her boyfriend don't drive. I've helped them both for 35 years. This last year she has changed. She doesn't respect my boundaries at all. Last year I sat her down and told her I had some health problems. I told her I couldn't be there as much for her. I only have myself. She had a live in boyfriend of 35 years I told her to go to him sometimes. She had a fit. Last Saturday she wanted me to take her to the store. I came down with covid for the first time on Friday. I told her I could not help her Saturday morning I was having sever health issues and was not feeling well to take her. She had a fit and said if you can't help me were not friends anymore. What the heck. I was sicker than a dog with covid and a temperature of 101. She didn't understand I was so sick and that I didn't want to get others sick. She has owed me money for 3 years . I've asked her for it she said no way since your not Taking me to the store Saturday. I recently put out the last 150.00 on my car to be fixed. I needed the monet she owed me three years. She brought her boyfriend into this. It was between me and her. He has been nasty to me for years now. He has health problems but he has been verbally nasty to me for no reason. She never once stuck up for me. I have stuck up for her years now. She never once stuck up for me. You completely disrespect my boundaries. I've had to sit her down 7 times to tell her. I respect her boundaries. She started started a disturbance in my.apartment and I told her to quiet down she would not. I heard it from my manager and had 4 noise complaints about her. I cant risk my housing for her. This friend and her boyfriend use people and manipulate people constantly. They don't pay there friends back what the owe them either. Where do you find good friends I have no idea. I terminated this friendship it is toxic and I'm tired of being used.
Gina H. Thousand oaks
Have you ever found yourself feeling a bit awkward to give a negative feedback?
I agree with Sneata. 16 minutes is long for 3 items. I will make the listener get bored. 6-9 minutes is good for 3 items. Thanks.
Very nice ideas. Thank you so much
Your video is longer that it should be you live your voice
Thank you for your feedback. Much appreciated.
So it's like giving a hot message to a snowflake. Chill the message first. Give the message to the snowflake. Chill again.