I'm ready to stop pushing myself beyond my limits at my job. My body hurts from fatigue because the demands are unreasonable. I need to stop this. I want to. Not sure yet how I can do this so first thing: looking on how to :). It's not a want even, it's a must because the physical pain is too much and gets in the way of things. Thank you for this video. I will rewatch it for sure
Thank you, Julia! I often feel alone in my family because of not apologizing for being myself. Do you remember the movie, "I Heart Huckabee's"? Toward the end of the movie, a question is posited asking, "When am I not myself?", to which I answered, "I'm not myself when I act and be what I think everyone wants me to be." Everyone else said, "no, you're always being yourself.", which included my wife and grown children. So in that lies my aloneness. I'm actually quite happy being "outside the box" to my family. I have a few close friends I keep in a clandestine way with whom I feel safe and they also share a mutual haven. Thank you again for your words of encouragement.
I have to be honest a lot of these coaching and help videos are very repetitive and have pretty substantial redundancies. JKC's videos are great but she is so emphatic about how she makes a point it only needs to be made once; but for some reason she is given to saying the same thing four, five six , seven , eight … +++ times in a video. Personally I think she is an effective communicator that LESS (repetition) would definitely be MORE. Clear, concise and short would perhaps take her where she wants go ? Maybe ? Worth a try ? (No padding required). A lot of other youtube self help videos are way worse in terms of "Compactness".
As someone who is an introvert, HSP, student, small business owner, dog mom, partner, friend, and daughter, I really needed this video right about now. I have a few friends who don’t understand why I can’t hangout when ever they want me to even though I’ve communicated this to them. I’m sticking to my guns though and I’m dedicated to taking care of myself.
Jennifer, have you seen my videos in introverts and extroverts? You may want to show them these - it will really help them understand better: ruclips.net/video/HkvBdUoq_M8/видео.html ruclips.net/video/vjIOtnhr1So/видео.html
"Never apologize for your art." This is something I once saw on a bumper sticker and this video reminded me of that. Another thing this video reminded me of is a lyric by KISS, sung by Paul Stanley. "It ain't no crime to be good to yourself."
I am ready to stop apologizing. But it's not a one-shot effort! I need to work through it and stop swinging between passive-aggressiveness and sudden outbreak of anger...
I am a recovering people pleaser and I have found that after working through all of this I now seldom apologize. I can admit I was wrong many times without a gushy apology. Just admit I was wrong and find out if I can set it right.
I need to stop apologizing what music I love listening to in front of others because I like listening to music people may not like. I tend to listen to music that I think people like instead of what I like. God Bless.
Yes I apologize many times to be to much me. Just like a month ago that I start seeing you, hit me that is not right that me boss look me like I’m from other planet, I love be sparkling, open, be one step on my duties, and little crazy, and you are right this is me. I don’t going to change to fit in the box. THANKS for all this knowledge
I'm ready to stop apologizing for not being able to commit to after work get togethers at the local drinking establishments around town. I'm not interested in a bunch of drinking and socializing after work anymore and am tired of feeling guilty for not going along with them. All I have to do is say "no thank you" and leave it at that. No drawn out excuses needed anymore. I need to get over the fear of people being dissapointed with me. Great video! Thank YOU!!!
Accepting yourself for who you are is so empowering. I used to be a people pleaser but I guess that fades as time goes by. It's easier said than done but it's possible. Take it day by day.
Love this! So true! In “A Simple Favor”, one of the characters refuses to let the other apologize (she has a habit of constantly apologizing for everything). It’s got me thinking about how often we apologize for things that don’t require an apology. Great video Julia!
I needed this! I am a chronic apologizer. My boyfriend is constantly telling me "Stop saying you're sorry all the time. You don't have anything to apologize for! You're FINE" and for some reason I just can't stop saying sorry for everything.
I'm stop apologizing for acting as ME. I am stop apologizing for taking care of my needs and my dreams. I am Allow to dream and have passions like everyone else! Thank you for posting your content it gave me a lot of strength and knowledge.
. Julia Kristina, I seem to apologize for all my quirks and imperfection so much. I have been a people pleaser all my life. And at times, find myself apologizing for unnecessary things. Sometimes I seem to not stop.
Such a great video, I too am an introvert and people just can't seem to understand that I'm not a social butterfly. They get angry and take it personally when I tell them no, I don't want to do a certain activity with them. I've actually lost some friends over this. Thanks for the video and I'm going to continue to be true to who I am despite what others perceive or think about it, I can't control their thoughts and feelings only mine.
Rsn When you recognize that the over celebrated extrovert is most often a parasitic energy vampire that sucks the life force from those around them, who also sulks when you stop giving them the constant attention they demand, it's a lot easier to enforce your boundaries and say no to the blood draw. When you realize that they are insecure 90% of their life without an audience , and pleading look at me, dig me, listen to me, while you are secure 90% of your life either alone or with an intimate few of substance, they are jealous. You are the one secure and normal and the integrated individual, would you want to be any other way.
Oh my god the bit about wanting to make our parents happy. I've been working through that in the last 6 months and it's a struggle but it's been really worth all the work. Super glad to have found your videos in 2020. Thank you!
I learned a long time ago that you should use the word "sorry" word or use apologies very sparingly, if you need an alternative word to say use "thank you" instead, its still positive but also assertive, more acknowledging and better at closing a figure of speech. However try telling that your spouse when you have done something wrong ;)
I am not perfect. But, I am happy. Happier than I have ever been. And I want to stop apologizing. I answer to no one. You have a very strong voice, keep it up. 💕
Julia ... I get more out of your talks than I did in 2 years of therapy. Thank you for sharing yourself with the world. It's a better place because you do.
I was a people pleaser. Now I say no whenever I want, I am not their pupet. I am not going to apologizing for not available for them all the time. Every person except my parents and siblings ,they took advantage of me. But I learnd how to say no, Now I love my self more.😘
I live in England and I do a Julia session’ to start every working day. Feeling a bit low at the moment if I’m honest but the above was inspiring and I have been lifted today. Thank You Julia
YES! I used to do this when I was young. Although I still use make-up, I have learned how wrong that was. For one, there is absolutely NO reason to apologize. Most don't notice, most don't care and if they do, why do we care what they think? Who are they that it matters that much to even call attention to the fact that we aren't wearing make up? Would we hold them to the same standard? Why? Why not? It doesn't matter either way. It's not the end of the world. It's just make up. It's just aesthetics. No one cares.
People are always trying to set my boundaries...mainly by trying to keep me from having boundaries. It always seems i am not allowed those and people get truly angry with me when I make my own boundaries. And then they completely leave my life
I apologized for being abused for 6 years. Isolated in my own home. I told my family and a few friends I was sorry if I hurt them because of my trauma. Guess who responded....NOONE..I've been on my recovery journey with absolutely no support from people I thought who loved me for almost 3 years. My father passed away during all if this on top of it. I was so angry and hurt and felt like a total idiot. I almost lost my life that is terrifying to go through alone. Now my mindset is. I'm taking care of me. I've been doing it alone for so long it eventually literally stopped bothering me. I am an HSP but I'm no doormat anymore. People can go. The lesson I learned from it all is to validate myself let them go with love and to keep your expectations low. Don't expect anything from others. And certainly NEVER apologize for being abused!
@@juliakristinamah all of your videos are brilliant from start to finish your so brilliant I love 😍 your talks Great. YOU ARE THE NUMBER ONE, THE BEST OF THE BEST XXXX SO CONGRATULATIONS 🎊 FOR ALL THE INFORMATION YOU HAVE IN YOUR VIDEOS xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
It’s never too late to start something Positive. I no longer apologize for who I am today. It took longer then I excepted or hoped yet Here I Am, As I Am! 🤗. Take care of yourselves!🤗🌱
Superb !!! I have started taking time in my calender for ‘me’. At first it felt weird, now it doesn’t anymore as I have realised, if I take good care of myself, I can be a good person to others ... 🙏❤️
I need to stop apologizing. I feel a lot of intense emotions from a trauma that happened years ago, and it's painted my outlook on things. Also, I've been blocking the memory for a long time, but apparently that doesn't actually make it go away. Go figure, right? So I need to stop apologizing for suffering like I am. What happened happened.
Im honestly almost moved to tears. I needed every word of this message..... I greatly thank and love you for the work you do... You are helping me love myself more with every video.. I am not perfect and I am perfect with who I am!
I love your channel and am devouring them! I only wish I saw them earlier. I've been ostracized by people since I was very young and it has impacted my life in a lot of negative ways. I've experienced bone crushing loneliness, self doubt, and anger. However I've worked really hard at trying to overcome and am now the happiest I've ever been and your videos are helping me polish my new skills! Please keep doing these videos I've loved them all!
@@juliakristinamah Aloha! I've been listening to a lot of your videos and have found it to be very helpful. I've been working on being the best person I can be for five years. It's been hard as I continue to self sabotage myself when I get upset or in a heated battle. I know words cut, but my actions speaks otherwise. I love this person and find myself having to regain trust because of things I've said during heated arguments. I struggle with this but I feel I'm getting better however the damage is done. All of this out of being frustrated. Just need to be able to walk away or breathe when I feel my buttons are being pushed.
U talked to me about this a lot of times. Thanks for making me remember that i don't have to explain to anyone what i want, like, need. Getting down to brass tacks: U and some other people who teach me those things are people after my own heart. Lauro
I Love You Julia Kristina! You are speaking to me in every single video, you have proved to me that my thoughts are genuine and you are teaching me to take control and for that I absolutely love and adore you and the life changing information that you share.
I love this women thank u for sharing all your videos. You just don’t know how many ppl your helping ppl who didn’t even see the problem and could understand why and what was happening . I encourage you to watch all her videos they all tie into each other
I have something that is not right with my brain. If I have a good night's sleep, I start the next say with brightness. But later in the day I get so fatigued and then the sense of depression comes upon me. I just need rest. It makes all the difference.
Hello Julia Kristina! For the past week your videos have been helping me a lot with break up issues and self esteem, and I want to thank you so much for these videos that are helping me and other people deal with the crap on our lives. I also want to request you another one: could you talk about what to do with social media and if I should block or delete or simply just not care about my ex following me and liking my posts? It would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you, thank you, thank you for this!!! I appreciate this more than you'll ever know. This is no coincidence that I came across your video when I did. Great work! I love your videos & find them very motivating & inspirational.
That's a tough one because we are hard wired for connection so we do need to care what people think to a certain extent - we can't just do whatever we want, however we want regardless of who it hurts... if we do, we'll end up really lonely. But we definitely do need to curb that need to get everyone's validation. It's a balance - not a absolute.
I would include all what you're saying would include your spouse. I am with you all the way I don't need to be "perfect". The key is to always to love yourself no matter how you are.
Thanks for the message to those that needs it, but I don't apologize. If I said something that was not of one liking, I meant to. I have no apologies for meeting my needs and doing what best for me. Don't like it to bad.
Hello my dear friend. I love when you said be OK with being perfectly imperfect. You made this video so people can get to where you are at, which is a successful, peaceful, and happiness. You are my female dr phil, which means, I trust you as my professional counselor. Your good length videos go by fast due to being filled with wisdom and honesty. God Bless.
I’m terrible for apologizing my therapist calls me out on it all the time. She will always ask me why I’m saying sorry and I’m like I don’t know... sorry 😐. The one I’m struggling with is about the dreams, passion etc. I don’t know how to move on from my husband infidelity. He has done everything right according to everything you read on overcoming / healing from infidelity etc but even our marriage therapist doesn’t seem to get how much it means to me. She is fantastic but she says I need to move on and forgive before it carries on hurting me. I just don’t know how to not apologise for wanting a marriage that only included myself and my H. I just don’t know how to move on from it. It’s 9 months since i found out and we’ve been in thearpy for 5 months
What are YOU ready to stop apologizing for?
I'm ready to stop pushing myself beyond my limits at my job. My body hurts from fatigue because the demands are unreasonable. I need to stop this. I want to. Not sure yet how I can do this so first thing: looking on how to :). It's not a want even, it's a must because the physical pain is too much and gets in the way of things. Thank you for this video. I will rewatch it for sure
Thank you, Julia! I often feel alone in my family because of not apologizing for being myself. Do you remember the movie, "I Heart Huckabee's"? Toward the end of the movie, a question is posited asking, "When am I not myself?", to which I answered, "I'm not myself when I act and be what I think everyone wants me to be." Everyone else said, "no, you're always being yourself.", which included my wife and grown children.
So in that lies my aloneness. I'm actually quite happy being "outside the box" to my family. I have a few close friends I keep in a clandestine way with whom I feel safe and they also share a mutual haven. Thank you again for your words of encouragement.
right now, for my right to have a decent cup of coffee! in general, not getting interested in others people "drama"
I'm ready to stop apologizing for apologizing
Julia Kristina Counselling I like watching your videos but it’s annoying to hear your introduction in every videos. Can you please not do it. Thanks.
1. 1:06 Take care of yourself
2. 4:00 Forge your own path / Aspire
3. 6:22 Don't apologize for who you are
😉
I have to be honest a lot of these coaching and help videos are very repetitive and have pretty substantial redundancies. JKC's videos are great but she is so emphatic about how she makes a point it only needs to be made once; but for some reason she is given to saying the same thing four, five six , seven , eight … +++ times in a video. Personally I think she is an effective communicator that LESS (repetition) would definitely be MORE. Clear, concise and short would perhaps take her where she wants go ? Maybe ? Worth a try ? (No padding required). A lot of other youtube self help videos are way worse in terms of "Compactness".
How would I call you do a work phone I would take to you
@@extradimension7356 good morning
I'm a former apologizer, and I approve this message! 🤗
lol - great!
I tend to be too polite and nice, saying yes to everything. But recently Ive been able to say no, slowly gaining confidence.
SO good Rickus - I love hearing that.
I need to stop apologizing for who I am and accept that I don’t need everyone’s approval or opinion on how to best live my life!😲
Yassss!!!
well said mam ..
Me2
As someone who is an introvert, HSP, student, small business owner, dog mom, partner, friend, and daughter, I really needed this video right about now. I have a few friends who don’t understand why I can’t hangout when ever they want me to even though I’ve communicated this to them. I’m sticking to my guns though and I’m dedicated to taking care of myself.
Jennifer, have you seen my videos in introverts and extroverts? You may want to show them these - it will really help them understand better: ruclips.net/video/HkvBdUoq_M8/видео.html
ruclips.net/video/vjIOtnhr1So/видео.html
I am not perfect. And I'm not where I want but I'm not where I once was so I'm improving..
Progress over perfection! yes and yes. GOOD for you.
"Never apologize for your art." This is something I once saw on a bumper sticker and this video reminded me of that. Another thing this video reminded me of is a lyric by KISS, sung by Paul Stanley. "It ain't no crime to be good to yourself."
I am ready and have to stop apologizing and stop being a people pleaser!
That is MUSIC to my ears Sharath!
I am ready to stop apologizing. But it's not a one-shot effort! I need to work through it and stop swinging between passive-aggressiveness and sudden outbreak of anger...
I am a recovering people pleaser and I have found that after working through all of this I now seldom apologize. I can admit I was wrong many times without a gushy apology. Just admit I was wrong and find out if I can set it right.
Right? Take responsibility for that which is ours, and leave the rest. No big deal!
I need to stop apologizing what music I love listening to in front of others because I like listening to music people may not like. I tend to listen to music that I think people like instead of what I like. God Bless.
Yes I apologize many times to be to much me. Just like a month ago that I start seeing you, hit me that is not right that me boss look me like I’m from other planet, I love be sparkling, open, be one step on my duties, and little crazy, and you are right this is me. I don’t going to change to fit in the box. THANKS for all this knowledge
Absolutely Maria. And I'm SO glad you've been letting that sparkle out more! The world definitely needs more of your sparkle.
I'm ready to stop apologizing for not being able to commit to after work get togethers at the local drinking establishments around town. I'm not interested in a bunch of drinking and socializing after work anymore and am tired of feeling guilty for not going along with them. All I have to do is say "no thank you" and leave it at that. No drawn out excuses needed anymore. I need to get over the fear of people being dissapointed with me. Great video! Thank YOU!!!
Accepting yourself for who you are is so empowering. I used to be a people pleaser but I guess that fades as time goes by. It's easier said than done but it's possible. Take it day by day.
Absolutely. One little step at a time.
Thank you, "the more you are YOU the more you attract the right people" it's so true! Julia..
Exactly!! We only want to attract the people who are genuinely attracted to US.
I AM READY TO STOP APOLOGIZING FOR WHO I AM!!!! I AM PERFECTLY IMPERFECT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes Serah - Yes, Yes YESSS!!!
And don't you know, we are accepted in the Beloved. So much of what you say Julia is from Scriptures, and that's wonderful. Thank you.
Love this! So true! In “A Simple Favor”, one of the characters refuses to let the other apologize (she has a habit of constantly apologizing for everything). It’s got me thinking about how often we apologize for things that don’t require an apology. Great video Julia!
Right? Something many of us could definitely become more aware of and responsible with.
I watched this in perfect timing. I'm currently sick & taking down time, but feel ashamed & judged for the down time & accepting help.
I needed this! I am a chronic apologizer. My boyfriend is constantly telling me "Stop saying you're sorry all the time. You don't have anything to apologize for! You're FINE" and for some reason I just can't stop saying sorry for everything.
I need to stop apologizing for who I am... This is what I need to work on especially in my social life. Thanks Julia!!
Great advice! Altho a narcissistic person in my family doesnt accept and love who i am but thats ok, its their problem not mine
I'm stop apologizing for acting as ME. I am stop apologizing for taking care of my needs and my dreams. I am Allow to dream and have passions like everyone else! Thank you for posting your content it gave me a lot of strength and knowledge.
. Julia Kristina, I seem to apologize for all my quirks and imperfection so much. I have been a people pleaser all my life. And at times, find myself apologizing for unnecessary things. Sometimes I seem to not stop.
Baby steps Heather. And sometimes it starts with simple just holding our tongues whenever we can.
Such a great video, I too am an introvert and people just can't seem to understand that I'm not a social butterfly. They get angry and take it personally when I tell them no, I don't want to do a certain activity with them. I've actually lost some friends over this. Thanks for the video and I'm going to continue to be true to who I am despite what others perceive or think about it, I can't control their thoughts and feelings only mine.
Rsn When you recognize that the over celebrated extrovert is most often a parasitic energy vampire that sucks the life force from those around them, who also sulks when you stop giving them the constant attention they demand, it's a lot easier to enforce your boundaries and say no to the blood draw.
When you realize that they are insecure 90% of their life without an audience , and pleading look at me, dig me, listen to me, while you are secure 90% of your life either alone or with an intimate few of substance, they are jealous. You are the one secure and normal and the integrated individual, would you want to be any other way.
I’m ready to stop apologizing for being me!
Yes, Stacy, Yes, Yes, Yes!!
I’m not perfect, and even though I need to remind myself often, that is perfectly wonderful.
Yes it is Wendy. Yes it absolutely is.
Oh my god the bit about wanting to make our parents happy. I've been working through that in the last 6 months and it's a struggle but it's been really worth all the work. Super glad to have found your videos in 2020. Thank you!
I learned a long time ago that you should use the word "sorry" word or use apologies very sparingly, if you need an alternative word to say use "thank you" instead, its still positive but also assertive, more acknowledging and better at closing a figure of speech. However try telling that your spouse when you have done something wrong ;)
I agree. Thank you, or excuse me. I've said sorry when someone bumps in to me! Now I be sure to say, with a kind tone - oh, excuse me.
Yes! , yes! "Live for you!!, people"..
YESSS!! High fives all around.
I am not perfect. But, I am happy. Happier than I have ever been. And I want to stop apologizing. I answer to no one. You have a very strong voice, keep it up. 💕
Julia ... I get more out of your talks than I did in 2 years of therapy. Thank you for sharing yourself with the world. It's a better place because you do.
I'm ready to stop apologizing! 🤗 Thank you for your time and help.
I'm not perfect, and I'm perfectly fine with that.
As the saying goes " I am what I am, what I'm not, I'll never be"
Love your message. The greatest gift we can give our kids is the freedom to be themselves. I’ll be sharing your vid with my two boys. Thanks
Yes! It can be really tough to do, but possible if we can reflect honestly about our expectations.
I need to stop apologizing for who I am. I am such a people pleasure. I really liked what you said about being “perfectly imperfect”
Wonderful message! I’ve been an apologizer most of my life. It stops today!
I was a people pleaser. Now I say no whenever I want, I am not their pupet. I am not going to apologizing for not available for them all the time. Every person except my parents and siblings ,they took advantage of me. But I learnd how to say no, Now I love my self more.😘
Julia Kristina, I am ready to STOP apologizing!!
Yay Heather!! Yay, yay, yay!!
I live in England and I do a Julia session’ to start every working day. Feeling a bit low at the moment if I’m honest but the above was inspiring and I have been lifted today. Thank You Julia
Great advice Julia!
There is one more thing Women need to stop apologising for : Showing their face bare, makeup free, full of acne or acne scars.
YES! I used to do this when I was young. Although I still use make-up, I have learned how wrong that was. For one, there is absolutely NO reason to apologize. Most don't notice, most don't care and if they do, why do we care what they think? Who are they that it matters that much to even call attention to the fact that we aren't wearing make up? Would we hold them to the same standard? Why? Why not? It doesn't matter either way. It's not the end of the world. It's just make up. It's just aesthetics. No one cares.
Amen!
Yes and also stretch marks from pregnancies, varicose veins and wrinkles
Vit. C. Large doses. 3,000mg. Daily. Good skin
People are always trying to set my boundaries...mainly by trying to keep me from having boundaries. It always seems i am not allowed those and people get truly angry with me when I make my own boundaries. And then they completely leave my life
I apologized for being abused for 6 years. Isolated in my own home. I told my family and a few friends I was sorry if I hurt them because of my trauma. Guess who responded....NOONE..I've been on my recovery journey with absolutely no support from people I thought who loved me for almost 3 years. My father passed away during all if this on top of it. I was so angry and hurt and felt like a total idiot. I almost lost my life that is terrifying to go through alone. Now my mindset is. I'm taking care of me. I've been doing it alone for so long it eventually literally stopped bothering me. I am an HSP but I'm no doormat anymore. People can go. The lesson I learned from it all is to validate myself let them go with love and to keep your expectations low. Don't expect anything from others. And certainly NEVER apologize for being abused!
Julia, I am ready to stop appologizing
Yes you are Brian!! High fives all around.
Setting boundaries- what is an acceptable boundary
The second is me. I'm worried about overshadowing others. Thank you Julia!!
You are so good ...I am binge watching your videos 😍💕much love.. so much to learn about self work...Thank you for doing this...
You are so kind! Really glad the videos are connecting.
@@juliakristinamah all of your videos are brilliant from start to finish your so brilliant I love 😍 your talks Great. YOU ARE THE NUMBER ONE, THE BEST OF THE BEST XXXX SO CONGRATULATIONS 🎊 FOR ALL THE INFORMATION YOU HAVE IN YOUR VIDEOS xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
It’s never too late to start something Positive. I no longer apologize for who I am today. It took longer then I excepted or hoped yet Here I Am, As I Am! 🤗. Take care of yourselves!🤗🌱
I guess I really needed to hear this today....I really appreciated your passion in this video. I'm ready to stop apologizing. Thanks!!
I do get riled up when I talk about it, lol! Because it's something so many of us are trapped in.
Superb !!! I have started taking time in my calender for ‘me’. At first it felt weird, now it doesn’t anymore as I have realised, if I take good care of myself, I can be a good person to others ...
🙏❤️
I need to stop apologizing. I feel a lot of intense emotions from a trauma that happened years ago, and it's painted my outlook on things. Also, I've been blocking the memory for a long time, but apparently that doesn't actually make it go away. Go figure, right? So I need to stop apologizing for suffering like I am. What happened happened.
Your pain is NOT your fault, and you do NOT need to apologize for feeling it.
Sapphire Valley
Right there with you
I'm super ready to stop apologizing for being who I am! Thank you Julia, I loved it! ❤️😘
Yes you ARE Marangelli!!
This was very reassuring. Thank you.
SO glad to hear it Amy. And you are more than welcome.
Julia, I'm ready to stop apologizing for who I am! Too bad if people don't like that.
I'm ready to stop apologizing for taking space. Also for making my own decisions.
Im honestly almost moved to tears. I needed every word of this message..... I greatly thank and love you for the work you do... You are helping me love myself more with every video.. I am not perfect and I am perfect with who I am!
This is the top best quality of a video I've ever seen in 10 + min.
Wendi, that means so much to me. I am SO grateful it connected.
I am not perfect and I am perfectly okay with that!
Yesss!! And Amen.
Julia..i hv no words...you have changed my life...you are godsent...I appreciate you....💟
Thank you for speaking the truth and showing us all we are perfectly imperfect... keep up the good work I appreciate you.
I appreciate YOU Ocean Sailing! Thank you for always being so encouraging and supportive.
@@juliakristinamah YOU are WELCOME!
I love your channel and am devouring them! I only wish I saw them earlier. I've been ostracized by people since I was very young and it has impacted my life in a lot of negative ways. I've experienced bone crushing loneliness, self doubt, and anger. However I've worked really hard at trying to overcome and am now the happiest I've ever been and your videos are helping me polish my new skills! Please keep doing these videos I've loved them all!
Loved this vídeo.It's me... When find this true I felt free and than I could be myself with more peace and joy for life.😍
Yesss!!
Julia, I am ready to stop apologizing!
YASSSSS!! High five, high five, high five!
@@juliakristinamah Aloha! I've been listening to a lot of your videos and have found it to be very helpful. I've been working on being the best person I can be for five years. It's been hard as I continue to self sabotage myself when I get upset or in a heated battle. I know words cut, but my actions speaks otherwise. I love this person and find myself having to regain trust because of things I've said during heated arguments. I struggle with this but I feel I'm getting better however the damage is done. All of this out of being frustrated. Just need to be able to walk away or breathe when I feel my buttons are being pushed.
Exactly what I needed to hear today :)
That is music to my ears - I'm so grateful to hear that.
U talked to me about this a lot of times. Thanks for making me remember that i don't have to explain to anyone what i want, like, need. Getting down to brass tacks: U and some other people who teach me those things are people after my own heart. Lauro
I Love You Julia Kristina! You are speaking to me in every single video, you have proved to me that my thoughts are genuine and you are teaching me to take control and for that I absolutely love and adore you and the life changing information that you share.
Blazin the trail Julia,
thankyou for your ongoing generosity
I'm so grateful for people like you who are pickin up with I'm puttin down ;-)
I could never thank you enough for this video. God bless
I love this women thank u for sharing all your videos. You just don’t know how many ppl your helping ppl who didn’t even see the problem and could understand why and what was happening . I encourage you to watch all her videos they all tie into each other
Thank you! That's a hard one
Right? Little steps everyday - and lot's of kindness to ourselves along the way.
I have something that is not right with my brain. If I have a good night's sleep, I start the next say with brightness. But later in the day I get so fatigued and then the sense of depression comes upon me. I just need rest. It makes all the difference.
Hello Julia Kristina! For the past week your videos have been helping me a lot with break up issues and self esteem, and I want to thank you so much for these videos that are helping me and other people deal with the crap on our lives. I also want to request you another one: could you talk about what to do with social media and if I should block or delete or simply just not care about my ex following me and liking my posts? It would be greatly appreciated.
I'm not perfect and Im perfectly ok with that!
Tysm for explaining it so well!
Perfection is a mirage, I know I'm not perfect and I am perfectly okay with that.
That's right,! I'm not perfect, no one is... HA!!
That's for darn sure!
One of the most realistic conversations I’ve heard in a long time. Soooo good♥️
Thank you, thank you, thank you for this!!! I appreciate this more than you'll ever know. This is no coincidence that I came across your video when I did. Great work! I love your videos & find them very motivating & inspirational.
Michelle - I'm so glad we found eachother! Great to connect with you.
I am not perfect. I am perfectly ok with that.
Yassss!!! High fives.
Good Morning Julia , is it a bad thing to be a natural caregiver. OMG you’re answering my question right now.
This is a really hard thing to do sometimes .
I’m ready to stop apologizing for who I am !
For discovering yourself you need to drop all desire to get validated by everyone around you am I right !
That's a tough one because we are hard wired for connection so we do need to care what people think to a certain extent - we can't just do whatever we want, however we want regardless of who it hurts... if we do, we'll end up really lonely. But we definitely do need to curb that need to get everyone's validation. It's a balance - not a absolute.
I am ready to stop apologising!
Oh yes. I have a major problem trying to please my dad. And yes, I am not perfect and that’s ok!
Thank you for being so amazing! You’ve opened my eyes! Time to take back my life:)
Your videos are the best!
Cheers!
Michael, YES!!!! That is music to my ears.
I simply want to say thank you for your videos, Keep up the good work. I am learning many things from you on how to address some of my issues.
Great observations, I fully agree. Thank you.
You rock! Period! Love your channel and you light! Thank you Julia..💟
I would include all what you're saying would include your spouse. I am with you all the way I don't need to be "perfect". The key is to always to love yourself no matter how you are.
Thanks for the message to those that needs it, but I don't apologize. If I said something that was not of one liking, I meant to. I have no apologies for meeting my needs and doing what best for me. Don't like it to bad.
GOOD for you! That is great news.
These words are just perfect. Thank you
Great i was abused for 24 years you videos bring me peace kay from ireland
im not perfect and im perfectly ok with that!
I am ready to stop apologizing! This is good stuff. Thank you for the reminder!
Absolutely right this has helped so much thank you.
That is music to my ears, thanks for taking the time to say so Jonathan!
Thank you.... Just what I needed to hear.
Hello my dear friend. I love when you said be OK with being perfectly imperfect. You made this video so people can get to where you are at, which is a successful, peaceful, and happiness. You are my female dr phil, which means, I trust you as my professional counselor. Your good length videos go by fast due to being filled with wisdom and honesty. God Bless.
I have a tea shirt that says that! Perfectly imperfect, thank you!
Thanks for another upload!
you are absolutely welcome Nicholas!
Great points Julia thank you so much
Thanks for watching Donna - and you are so welcome!
I’m terrible for apologizing my therapist calls me out on it all the time. She will always ask me why I’m saying sorry and I’m like I don’t know... sorry 😐.
The one I’m struggling with is about the dreams, passion etc. I don’t know how to move on from my husband infidelity. He has done everything right according to everything you read on overcoming / healing from infidelity etc but even our marriage therapist doesn’t seem to get how much it means to me. She is fantastic but she says I need to move on and forgive before it carries on hurting me. I just don’t know how to not apologise for wanting a marriage that only included myself and my H. I just don’t know how to move on from it. It’s 9 months since i found out and we’ve been in thearpy for 5 months