Always amazed how devoted you are Trey. So proud of you in caring for your lovely wife. A man dedicated to his wedding vows. God bless and strengthen you daily. You are truly a warrior.
He is a man with a conscience. Probably couldn’t look at himself in the mirror if he had just walked away. He is what u call a real man and gives mankind a good name?
We were able to take mom out of care after a year and half becasue of how well she was doing. When she got home for first time, she even went to her side of bed and knew right where to go. Her behavior was so much better than when she went in. She did have to go back into care after a year or so.
Thank you for sharing. I am a little surprised at how well she is doing back home. She found the kitchen garbage can yesterday without asking me what to do with her napkin.
I'm sure this is a huge relief for you especially at how well Theresa has done these last 10 days being at home. What a blessing! I am thankful you and Theresa had minor symptoms and no complications. Continued prayers🙏❤
You have had and may have difficult times due to your wifes dx, but you are a blessing in her life. She is lucky woman to have a husband that is sticking by her.. it takes love and compassion to get through this. It is a very sad condition that can last a very long time, as you know. You are her shining light. Thank you.
Dear Trey what you have just told us all, warms my heart. It's wonderful news that your beautiful wife is back at home with you. God bless you both 💕🙏🏻
Wow such good news!! You can always pay for help to come in for a few thousand a month…same or less than the cost of memory care. So happy for you both!!
Who ever thought Covid would be such a "gift" if you will. I'm so glad your cases were mild and gifted you both this precious time together. It's been a long, hard road and I wish you both continued peace - together. Best of luck!
I hope you find a care giver for her asap, knowing she cannot be alone ever. that would be hard to take her with you in some cases. I know I cared for my mother, and it really is a hard job.
You are an absolute prince! My husband and I were full time caregivers for our disabled daughter for 41 years. So I have an understanding of the demands you face everyday. God bless.
Good Luck with this new phase of your journey. Make the most of each day together at home. It sounds like a well thought out plan, and it's great that medication adjustments have really helped.
Glad to hear that things are going well for you in having Theresa home. The covid outbreak may have been a blessing in disguise. Hopefully where she was staying will handle it and keep it to a minimum. Best to you both!
I think I would weigh her (I'm thinking you have a scale at home) soon; it will help you keep track of her health/calorie intake. We found with my dementia friend that his decline in activity level & appetite was in part caused by an undiagnosed lung problem. I think they used to call it walking pneumonia, diagnosed with a chest Xray. Also her prescriptions would maybe need adjusting if she has lost weight. All my unasked for advice is from a non-medical background and offered with virtual hugs to you both.
Hi Gretchen - I made this video yesterday - July 24th, 2023. There was and still is a Covid outbreak at the memory care facility Theresa was residing out. I was a little surprised as well to hear about it and to catch Covid for the second time. Theresa and I both have had our shots and boosters. Thanks for your support and God Bless you as well.
Just viewed your latest video and am so glad to hear things are going well. I lived in Sarasota area for over 10 years. You are both in my prayers and sending both love and light.
Do they have day centers in your area for people experiencing memory issues? Day centers provide activities for people during the day so caregivers can be at work. Also there is respite care if you need short multiday breaks.
Thank you for your comment and concern Marie. I understand caregiver burnout, I have been there unfortunately. I've learned some things and hopefully I can take all the measures from preventing it again. It's part of the journey and I will discuss it and seek help.
Oh Trey, I hope she does well, please, take good care of yourself too, try to get some help even if for housework. Lots of love and blessings to you both❤
I’m glad to hear that Theresa adjusted well to the move back home. I truly hope that she can remain at home as long as you can handle that. I hope that you find a responsible and reliable companion for her.
It really was so amazing seeing the difference in Theresa in just two weeks. Spending the day with her prior to our vacation, and then spending time with her there at home 2 weeks later was as though we had turned back a year's worth of time! It's brutally obvious how much more comfortable Theresa is at home and with you. She and I had our usual laughs and then some! To say that I cherish my precious friend is an understatement. She was so much more peaceful there at home and she and I had CONVERSATION!!! This disease is HORRIBLE and I merely watching from the bench mainly. While I do not live the day to day, like you Trey, I do see the ups and downs, and its a painful reality. That being said- to watch the love in Theresa's eyes when she looks at you, and the return in yours when you look at her is one of the most beautiful sights. I truly love you both and am so very blessed to have you two as friends. BTW... I'll see you guys this week! :-)
Hi Cher! We love you and I am so grateful that Theresa (and me too) have you in our lives. You are such a great friend and no one else can make her laugh like you. For anyone watching, Cher played a big role in setting up Theresa and I on our first date! Just one of the many reasons we are so fortunate to have you in our lives. Look forward to your visit this week!
I understand how you feel, and am happy that you’re seeking assistance right away as the mistake most of us make is pushing on until we’re totally burnt out before asking for help.
Kudos 🎉 to you as well!! Care taking is so very hard and being your beautiful daughter has to be even harder!! Be blessed and take care of yourself always and give your wonderful daughter a hug from us in Florida ❤
I am so glad that Theresa is having more time with you at home in her familiar surroundings! This Covid thing seems to have actually been a godsend for you both. So glad to hear this. God Bless you both. ❤
It’s wonderful that she is able to be home. It sounds like your new work schedule couldn’t have come at a better time. God bless you both and may He keep you together for as long as you both are able. I would have done the same thing you did.
Hi Trey, I was shocked to read about the Covid exposure. I’m glad both of you had mild symptoms. I have been trying to get back online to update about my FTD journey. I’ve made some progress. It has been 6 months since my dementia dx and I have accepted my plight. My AV tech at my medical office is going to do a 1 shot video for RUclips. I’m going to do a short intro of who I am and, yes, accept my Dx in public as much as possible. I must give other colleagues and staff at the accompanying hospitals a cogent explanation on my abrupt departure. Some know, some don’t. I’m going to try to utilize my time left in the community Alzheimers org until I’m unable to function. I do not peruse the internet much anymore about FTD. We follow you and Teepa Snow. On another note, I’m proud of you! You are such a dedicated human being. Your wife is not lucky, she’s blessed! When my 1 video is made, I’ll send you a notification and you will see with whom you’ve been speaking. My Google handle "Harlem Lights" is paying homage to the GA poet and writer who my life resonated with. She didn’t die of dementia, but she stood bravely for suffering. After I graduated medical school in the early 90’s, I NEVER thought I would lose my life to a brain disease with no cure. Please keep well and know we’re praying. 💜👩🏻🦳
I'm so sorry you are going through this. You must be on the young side, if you were in training in the 1990s. Your colleagues should be understanding as medical professionals, and will rise to meet you.
Hi Sheila - Thank you for the update. I'm sure doing the video is going to be tough, as will making the announcement to your co-workers. You and Darren will be in my thoughts and prayers. I subscribed to your channel, incase your posting the video there. Much love and God Bless.
People should be so lucky to have a spouse has dedicated and loving has you are Tray. Your an inspiration. I would keep Teresa at home as long as you can manage it. Teresa looks happy.
You have done the right thing, if it's all manageable and you can cope then I am glad you got Theresa back home. She is in her own surroundings, with you and her beloved cat, you will have good days and bad, but as you say one day at a time, that's all you can do.
I was a bit nervous when I heard you start to talk about now that your Covid is over, but very relieved to hear that you are keeping her at home. You are doing the right thing, and have all kinds of tools in your kit now, so you shouldn’t get as overwhelmed, as before. You are a credit to Theresa, and so thoughtful and generous in your soul. 😊
You could be right and I understand that may be a possibility in the future. For now though, I just had to keep her at home because she was doing so well and enjoying her home. One day at a time. Thanks for your support.
Honestly Trey. Your angel wings are there; we just can't see them. How selfless you are. However in saying that, this is an example of what true love, compassion & devotion is. It is understandable why you have made the decision for your beautiful Theresa to remain at home. You are a kind, generous man, who absolutely has his head on his shoulders. If there was anything that could jeopardize Theresa's life and/or health, you would do the right thing for her, no matter how you would feel. That is a no brainer. I pray for God to give you His peace & strength. He has obviously been doing this in your life. Your RUclips family is with you & Theresa. Please let her know there are thousands of people who love her & care about her. We are here to support you in whichever way we can. Thank you for the update Trey. Please make sure you get some time for yourself as well. This is extremely important in your situation. That balance will help you mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically 🙏
@@tpippen75 We don't always understand His ways. And you know what Trey? We don't need to, do we? God knows what's best even if we don't. That's definitely enough for me! 🙏
Being flexible is so integral to caring for an ailing loved one. Good for you for adapting to new circumstances, Trey. All the best to the both of you.
You are such a sweet person. This is true love. I love that you brought her home. You really are so considerate of her needs and her best interest! It’s great to see. I wish all families were this way.
Wow, what a major update! So happy to hear how stable Theresa has been at home. Living one day at a time while also staying flexible is the perfect strategy. When situations change, you can undo past decisions and change your plan-as often as necessary!
Aaaaaw Trey 😀 I'm so happy for you and Theresa and I hope and pray everything goes well for you both. I feel like I'm just as excited as Theresa will be 🎉🎉
So glad you have had this wonderful, unexpected time at home with Theresa, and that it is working out so well for you both. Completely understand your decision to keep her home while it’s working so well. Blessings to you both!
-Do you still have to pay for the memory care while she isnt there? -Will they keep her spot and she can return on demand? -Does she recognize that it is her home? Or does she just recognize you and feels safe/comfortable with you around?
Hi Shannon - Yes, I am still paying for memory care for the next 30 days as part of the contract. I believe she can return during that time frame if needed. However, I hope that is not the case. Theresa's does recognize our home, although it was a bit foreign to her for the first few days back. She does not appear to recall her time at memory care and has not mentioned it once since she has been back.
@tpippen75 It's promising that she is doing so well! I know it's probably not a forever situation, and I am happy you get a little break from the memory care facility. 1 more question if you don't mind: when you are working in your home office, how do you know she is safe? For instance, if she turns on the stove or walks out the door. . . Do you have some sort of LoJack on her? 😉 Cameras? Bracelet/necklace with her information and your contact number? I hope family, friends, and community really do step up for you. Even an hour/week helps. No one helped me, and I am still (unfortunately) (a little) bitter about it, but I am slowly recovering/healing.
I now have safety locks on our front door which prevent her from getting out and walking off. She can however, freely roam the backyard and garden. Our backyard is fenced in and remains locked. I have camera's outside that also alert me of her whereabouts. I've done all the cooking for several years and she has never attempted to turn on the stove. I have the door open to my office as well and have a good view of the kitchen area. I will likely get her a bracelet or something with her ID and contact info. Thanks for your questions!
Hi trey and Theresa Theresa is so blessed she has you as an awesome husband. It is so beautiful that you are able to take care of her. Praying for you Theresa and her kitties too. As you said one day at time. Please take of yourself as well. Please keep us updated. Take care. 🙏❤️ I 😸😸
How wonderful that she is back home and it's working out for now! You seemed so happy I'm sure this is the right decision. Blessings to you and Teresa. Mary Miller
What an AWESOME blessing from Jesus, Trey ! Now, down to brass tacks. Even though you both had a mild case, IF you’d like to know of a couple of things to take to eliminate it from your systems, please ask. OR in thinking of the future, these same two things can be put on a shelf until/if needed. My entire family stays stocked up on both items ALL the time, so that any of us can jump into action at a moment’s notice. I won’t bore you with details, unless you want to know. Again, what you are receiving is a blessing from Jesus, and I hope you are taking advantage and enjoying every single minute of your time together ! I am thrilled for your cats to have their Mama at home, too.❤️
Yes indeed, I believe it was meant to be and is a blessing. I would be happy for your to share about the 2 items you keep stocked up on. Thanks for your support Carol!
Hi Trey another lovely video i am so proud of how dedicated you are to your beautiful love however from a Healthcare point of view who work with memory care residents this can be a very challenging situation. When ppl with dementia deviate feom what thier used to its really hard on them, i truly pray all goes well for the long haul. I am in no way knocking whatbu have decided, i think its amazing and will continue to pray for y'all ur an amazing husband keep the updates coming ❤️
Thats wonderful she home. Id bet she knows the difference in being home as to memory care. Im not sure whhere you all are located. Im a caregiver. I jsut wanted to mention an maybe u know already an maybe not. But it theresa gets medicare medicaid you should be able to get respite care for somwone to come help her an where i live we even do light house work cook run errends we help with bathhing laundry etc. You are very knowledgeable so i figure you know all these things. No1 can care for your loved ones like a spouse. Your devotion to her so beautiful. I often think of her. Her story pulled my heart strings as you both are younger then my parents. Theresa looks so happy in pic. Hope all is well. Peace love an blessings
Hi Auntie - Yes, I believe she does know the difference and is happier back at home! We live in Pinellas Park, FL.. I have applied for Medicaid on Theresa's behalf and we are in the final stages of approval. I will be looking into what they can offer now that she is back home with me. I appreciate your comment and support and thank you for the work you do caring for others. Much love
Hoping all continues to go well for each and both of you. In case you aren’t aware, music can be a HUGE comfort and “activity” for those with dementia. We watched an amazing you tube video by the nonprofit “Music and Memory” and as a result, we play music from our mom’s adolescence and early adulthood (1950’s) and her responses to it are still joyfully present after 75 years! She dances, sings the lyrics, and is much, much happier when the music is on. She never tires of it! It also gives us a bit of a “break” as she’s very content to listen and enjoy it! It’s wonderful to see her enjoying something so much! We learned that the area of the brain that responds to music is the “last area yo go” in terms of aging and dementia. So, if you are open to it and can do so, I encourage you to give it a try. I can’t recommend it enough! The RUclips video is worth a watch as well - very touching and inspiring too! All the best to you and your wife! I hope her day to day life being at home continues to go well. You’re an amazing spouse! Kathleen
Thank you for the suggestion - I will check that video out. We are actually listening to some Billy Joel right now. Theresa loves Billy Joel and Rod Stewart. I play music from the 70's for her often. I appreciate you support Kathleen - much love
I wish I could find a man as loving, caring, thoughtful, committed , etc (the lost goes on and on) for me. My late husband passed in 2016 and the dating pool stinks. You’re a breath of fresh air. If only ALL men could be as amazing as you Trey! Ty for sharing your story. I has to take care of my late husband just under 2 weeks and I was exhausted so pls pls pls remember to eat healthy foods, get some exercise and sleep yourself as well
Hi Beth, I'm so sorry to learn of your husbands passing. I do very much appreciate your kind words and support. I will be looking after myself, please also do the same. Much love.
I do believe in a very scheduled lifestyle is absolutely key for the success of keeping memory care patients at home. If you can mimic what happens at the memory care facility it will be easier on her and you. They need structure for sure.
Greetings! Well how quickly life plans change! I'm so happy that you both are doing well, and were not seriously sick from Coronavirus. It might be helpful if Teresa would be willing to wear an ID bracelet and/or tracking device so that just in case she does leave the house, you can know her whereabouts and get her home quickly and safely. Many of our families who have children with autism use them to ensure their childrens' safety. And Teresa gets to be with her beloved kitties too! I will keep you both in prayer that this arrangement will work out long term for you both, as there's no place like home. God Bless! 🙏✝️
You are such an amazing husband! I'm happy Theresa is home and that you can take advantage of how well she is doing right now. Love and prayers for your both!
You take such great care of her! What a wonderful and devoted husband you are. I'm so sorry the both of you got COVID. It just goes to show it's still around and affecting people even though so many people are acting like it's gone.
In our area we have a caregivers timeout program which provides the caregiver some personal time to run errands, go shopping, take a walk, whatever. I ran the program for 5 years. We had so much fun once a week. Our time was filled with activities, friendships and love. I could tell you some stories. Have you ever heard of pick's disease? It has very similar symptoms but usually hits young people Theresa's age hard. Many times it is diagnosed as Alzheimers. I tried to find your email but couldn't. Mine is on my page if you would like to share info. I helped care for my grandmother who had Alzheimers. Plus went on to work as an activities director at an assisted living center. I have hopefully made a little difference to those around me. Take care of yourself! Like they say on an airplane save yourself so you can help others.
Hi Carol - sending you an email now! Thank you for caring for others at the ALF, I'm certain you brightened their days. I appreciate you comment and support.
Trey, can you engage some hired help for things like heavy housecleaning, yard work, grocery shopping? With some help, you can channel your energy to Therese's care. Never feel that not doing 100% yourself is failure.
@@tpippen75 Trey, I thought you might be interested in the PACE program, now that Therese is home. It stands for "Program for All Inclusive Care of the Elderly." It's a home-based program for people 55 and older, at risk for nursing home placement. I believe you have said that Therese has Medicare and Medicaid. PACE has all services, that are coordinated, including medical, behavioral, nursing, nutrition, therapies, adult day health. We used PACE for my mother, who had dementia and other medical conditions. I loved it so much, I went to work there, after my mother passed. There is a PACE program in your area - Suncoast PACE. May be worth checking out.
So glad buddy that your wife is back home with you. It seems that her coming down with Covid was a good thing because it got her back home with you. I will keep you and your wife in my prayers buddy.
I have to be honest I just really wanted to cry when you said that you enjoyed taking care of Teresa. That really moved me. I'm not trying to be mean but it really is rare for a husband to be very devoted and care for his sick spouse, women seem to do it easier mainly because we have you know a lot of support and we can talk about it with friends and others but men don't have that as much. So to hear that you enjoy caring for Teresa is such a joy. That's why we are such fans. Im glad your illness was mild and here's to a speedy recovery
Thank you Theresa, I'm touched by your words and appreciate you taking the time to comment and share with me. I cherish her and wish for no other kind of life. It is my honor to care for her. Thank you for your support. Much love
Always amazed how devoted you are Trey. So proud of you in caring for your lovely wife. A man dedicated to his wedding vows. God bless and strengthen you daily. You are truly a warrior.
Thank you Debbie, I appreciate the support and kind words. God Bless
He is a man with a conscience. Probably couldn’t look at himself in the mirror if he had just walked away. He is what u call a real man and gives mankind a good name?
Thank you Carb!
So ture!
God bless you Trey I have to say the WORST thing that could happen would be to have her locked in for 10days!! Your a good man!!! God bless you!
We were able to take mom out of care after a year and half becasue of how well she was doing. When she got home for first time, she even went to her side of bed and knew right where to go. Her behavior was so much better than when she went in. She did have to go back into care after a year or so.
Thank you for sharing. I am a little surprised at how well she is doing back home. She found the kitchen garbage can yesterday without asking me what to do with her napkin.
I am glad Theresa can be home with you, that must feel so good! God bless you both!
Indeed - I'm very happy. God bless you as well.
I am happy to know that Theresa will remain at home. You are a fine example of the wedding vows “in sickness and in health.”
I'm sure this is a huge relief for you especially at how well Theresa has done these last 10 days being at home. What a blessing! I am thankful you and Theresa had minor symptoms and no complications. Continued prayers🙏❤
Thank you Tina! Appreciate the prayers and support.
Beyond happy that your 10 days have been positive! Here’s to many more. Best wishes.
You have had and may have difficult times due to your wifes dx, but you are a blessing in her life. She is lucky woman to have a husband that is sticking by her.. it takes love and compassion to get through this. It is a very sad condition that can last a very long time, as you know. You are her shining light.
Thank you.
Dear Trey what you have just told us all, warms my heart. It's wonderful news that your beautiful wife is back at home with you. God bless you both 💕🙏🏻
Thank you Jackie ! God Bless
I really hope the change will not affect her state of mind when she returns. You are an amazing man.
Trey you are a wonderful man and a true blessing for your wife
Wow such good news!! You can always pay for help to come in for a few thousand a month…same or less than the cost of memory care. So happy for you both!!
Indeed - I will be exploring my options and they will likely be less expensive. Thank for your support Roxanne!
Who ever thought Covid would be such a "gift" if you will. I'm so glad your cases were mild and gifted you both this precious time together. It's been a long, hard road and I wish you both continued peace - together. Best of luck!
Thinking of you both.
You are such a wonderful person and husband. She is in good hands!
I can certainly understand that you have your sense of purpose back now. You have made a great decision, and I agree wholeheartedly.
So glad she's home with you. She is lucky to you as a husband... Prayers to both of you...❤🙏♥️
I hope you find a care giver for her asap, knowing she cannot be alone ever. that would be hard to take her with you in some cases. I know I cared for my mother, and it really is a hard job.
I will definitely be working on that. Thanks for your support.
You are an absolute prince! My husband and I were full time caregivers for our disabled daughter for 41 years. So I have an understanding of the demands you face everyday. God bless.
Thank you Marsha and God bless you and your husband as well.
😮 imagine that! I love it 😊 kind of a miracle 🩵
God bless you! Will continue prayers for you and your family.
Thank you for the prayers and support - God Bless
You are amazing!
Good Luck with this new phase of your journey. Make the most of each day together at home. It sounds like a well thought out plan, and it's great that medication adjustments have really helped.
Bless you both ❣️
Wishing you both well☀️
You’re a good man, Trey. God bless you both. ❤
Good luck and God Bless. Your doing phenomenal work. I hope I can handle this as well as you.
I'm glad you made that decision. May God continue to bless you both. Good luck
Great outlook and love thanks again for sharing it always helps♥️
Glad to hear that things are going well for you in having Theresa home. The covid outbreak may have been a blessing in disguise. Hopefully where she was staying will handle it and keep it to a minimum. Best to you both!
So happy you are able to have Teresa home with you again , no matter how long ❤
Me too !
I think I would weigh her (I'm thinking you have a scale at home) soon; it will help you keep track of her health/calorie intake. We found with my dementia friend that his decline in activity level & appetite was in part caused by an undiagnosed lung problem. I think they used to call it walking pneumonia, diagnosed with a chest Xray. Also her prescriptions would maybe need adjusting if she has lost weight. All my unasked for advice is from a non-medical background and offered with virtual hugs to you both.
Thank you PondApple!
I hope that Theresa continues to do well without having delusions.
Thank you Amy - I certainly hope so as well. Thanks for your support.
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When was this video made? Was it recent or during the COVID outbreak? Hoping you both are doing well. God bless you both.... Thanks
Hi Gretchen - I made this video yesterday - July 24th, 2023. There was and still is a Covid outbreak at the memory care facility Theresa was residing out. I was a little surprised as well to hear about it and to catch Covid for the second time. Theresa and I both have had our shots and boosters. Thanks for your support and God Bless you as well.
Just viewed your latest video and am so glad to hear things are going well. I lived in Sarasota area for over 10 years. You are both in my prayers and sending both love and light.
Do they have day centers in your area for people experiencing memory issues? Day centers provide activities for people during the day so caregivers can be at work. Also there is respite care if you need short multiday breaks.
Yes, I am looking into some options in our area now. Thanks for your comment and support Kendra !
If they kept the residents on monthly ivermectin and zinc, they could avoid this.
Ivermectin is not for humans
I am worried about you burning out
Thank you for your comment and concern Marie. I understand caregiver burnout, I have been there unfortunately. I've learned some things and hopefully I can take all the measures from preventing it again. It's part of the journey and I will discuss it and seek help.
@@tpippen75 sounds good. Thank you so much for responding. You seem like a strong man with a lot of integrity
You are a very kind person and a stand-up husband. Health to you both.
She is so fortunate to have you as a husband.
Oh Trey, I hope she does well, please, take good care of yourself too, try to get some help even if for housework. Lots of love and blessings to you both❤
I’m glad to hear that Theresa adjusted well to the move back home. I truly hope that she can remain at home as long as you can handle that. I hope that you find a responsible and reliable companion for her.
It really was so amazing seeing the difference in Theresa in just two weeks. Spending the day with her prior to our vacation, and then spending time with her there at home 2 weeks later was as though we had turned back a year's worth of time! It's brutally obvious how much more comfortable Theresa is at home and with you. She and I had our usual laughs and then some! To say that I cherish my precious friend is an understatement. She was so much more peaceful there at home and she and I had CONVERSATION!!!
This disease is HORRIBLE and I merely watching from the bench mainly. While I do not live the day to day, like you Trey, I do see the ups and downs, and its a painful reality. That being said- to watch the love in Theresa's eyes when she looks at you, and the return in yours when you look at her is one of the most beautiful sights.
I truly love you both and am so very blessed to have you two as friends.
BTW... I'll see you guys this week! :-)
Hi Cher! We love you and I am so grateful that Theresa (and me too) have you in our lives. You are such a great friend and no one else can make her laugh like you. For anyone watching, Cher played a big role in setting up Theresa and I on our first date! Just one of the many reasons we are so fortunate to have you in our lives. Look forward to your visit this week!
Btw...where about are you located?
Hi Ashley - we live in Pinellas Park, FL
I understand how you feel, and am happy that you’re seeking assistance right away as the mistake most of us make is pushing on until we’re totally burnt out before asking for help.
I solely care for my 100% dependent daughter (she’s 29). I applaud you for your devotion, as well as your awareness to also meet YOUR needs.
Hi Susan, I'm sorry to learn of these circumstances with your daughter. I'm glad she has you. Much love and support to you both.
Kudos 🎉 to you as well!! Care taking is so very hard and being your beautiful daughter has to be even harder!! Be blessed and take care of yourself always and give your wonderful daughter a hug from us in Florida ❤
All memory patients should have the loving support that you are giving your beloved wife. We should all be so loved!
I am so glad that Theresa is having more time with you at home in her familiar surroundings! This Covid thing seems to have actually been a godsend for you both. So glad to hear this. God Bless you both. ❤
Yes, in this case, Covid was a blessing in disguise. Thanks for your support and God Bless.
Just saw her picture at the end. She is beautiful and looks so very happy. Her smile is everything!❤️
Happy to hear you have both recovered from COVID and that Theresa is at home with you and the kitties.
Sending prayers for you both.
This is a big decision for you, I hope it works out - God Bless 🙂
Thank you Rosie and God Bless
Great to know she's back home ... great idea to get some help a few days a week ... hugs to you both
Outside caregivers would be great and give you a break. She is so lucky to have you; Im sure you feel the same ❤
Disconnect the stove from the wall please. Take my word for it. Only plug in when cooking
It’s wonderful that she is able to be home. It sounds like your new work schedule couldn’t have come at a better time. God bless you both and may He keep you together for as long as you both are able. I would have done the same thing you did.
Thank you JoAnn - Appreciate the support and prayers. God Bless
Hi Trey, I was shocked to read about the Covid exposure. I’m glad both of you had mild symptoms. I have been trying to get back online to update about my FTD journey. I’ve made some progress. It has been 6 months since my dementia dx and I have accepted my plight. My AV tech at my medical office is going to do a 1 shot video for RUclips. I’m going to do a short intro of who I am and, yes, accept my Dx in public as much as possible. I must give other colleagues and staff at the accompanying hospitals a cogent explanation on my abrupt departure. Some know, some don’t. I’m going to try to utilize my time left in the community Alzheimers org until I’m unable to function. I do not peruse the internet much anymore about FTD. We follow you and Teepa Snow. On another note, I’m proud of you! You are such a dedicated human being. Your wife is not lucky, she’s blessed! When my 1 video is made, I’ll send you a notification and you will see with whom you’ve been speaking. My Google handle "Harlem Lights" is paying homage to the GA poet and writer who my life resonated with. She didn’t die of dementia, but she stood bravely for suffering. After I graduated medical school in the early 90’s, I NEVER thought I would lose my life to a brain disease with no cure. Please keep well and know we’re praying. 💜👩🏻🦳
I'm so sorry you are going through this. You must be on the young side, if you were in training in the 1990s. Your colleagues should be understanding as medical professionals, and will rise to meet you.
Hi Sheila - Thank you for the update. I'm sure doing the video is going to be tough, as will making the announcement to your co-workers. You and Darren will be in my thoughts and prayers. I subscribed to your channel, incase your posting the video there. Much love and God Bless.
Im so impressed with your love and devotion to your wife! And so impressed that you have chosen to bring her home! That's just so amazing!
Thank you Colleen - It was just meant to be !
What a blessing in the midst of the COVID outbreak. I will pray for continued peace for her at home.
People should be so lucky to have a spouse has dedicated and loving has you are Tray. Your an inspiration. I would keep Teresa at home as long as you can manage it. Teresa looks happy.
Wishing you both peace and love! Yay Theresa!!! Trey you are an Angel on earth to her! Keep the faith!❤
Absolutely! Thank you Mary
You have done the right thing, if it's all manageable and you can cope then I am glad you got Theresa back home. She is in her own surroundings, with you and her beloved cat, you will have good days and bad, but as you say one day at a time, that's all you can do.
you are an amazing husband!! thank you for the update and I am so happy she is comfortable and doing well!
Thank you Kimberly!
I was a bit nervous when I heard you start to talk about now that your Covid is over, but very relieved to hear that you are keeping her at home. You are doing the right thing, and have all kinds of tools in your kit now, so you shouldn’t get as overwhelmed, as before. You are a credit to Theresa, and so thoughtful and generous in your soul. 😊
Thank you Mary! I appreciate your kind words and support.
What an interesting and encouraging turn of events! I’m happy for both of you to have this opportunity to be together again.
I think that she will have to go back to memory care sooner or later. The disease will progress and medication will only do so
much
You could be right and I understand that may be a possibility in the future. For now though, I just had to keep her at home because she was doing so well and enjoying her home. One day at a time. Thanks for your support.
I’m so glad Theresa is with you. You seem such at ease. God bless you both. 🙏 Much love to you both. ❤❤
Thank you Diane!
Honestly Trey. Your angel wings are there; we just can't see them. How selfless you are. However in saying that, this is an example of what true love, compassion & devotion is. It is understandable why you have made the decision for your beautiful Theresa to remain at home. You are a kind, generous man, who absolutely has his head on his shoulders. If there was anything that could jeopardize Theresa's life and/or health, you would do the right thing for her, no matter how you would feel. That is a no brainer.
I pray for God to give you His peace & strength. He has obviously been doing this in your life.
Your RUclips family is with you & Theresa. Please let her know there are thousands of people who love her & care about her. We are here to support you in whichever way we can.
Thank you for the update Trey.
Please make sure you get some time for yourself as well. This is extremely important in your situation. That balance will help you mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically 🙏
Hi Roberta, thank you so much. I believe this was God's will. I appreciate your prayers and reinforcing words of support. Much love and God Bless
@@tpippen75 We don't always understand His ways. And you know what Trey? We don't need to, do we? God knows what's best even if we don't. That's definitely enough for me! 🙏
Being flexible is so integral to caring for an ailing loved one. Good for you for adapting to new circumstances, Trey. All the best to the both of you.
Thank you D.D Mac !
You are such a sweet person. This is true love. I love that you brought her home. You really are so considerate of her needs and her best interest! It’s great to see. I wish all families were this way.
Thank you Kate! I appreciate your kind words and support.
Wow, what a major update! So happy to hear how stable Theresa has been at home. Living one day at a time while also staying flexible is the perfect strategy. When situations change, you can undo past decisions and change your plan-as often as necessary!
Aaaaaw Trey 😀 I'm so happy for you and Theresa and I hope and pray everything goes well for you both. I feel like I'm just as excited as Theresa will be 🎉🎉
Thank you Tory. I'm praying as well, so far so good.
So glad you have had this wonderful, unexpected time at home with Theresa, and that it is working out so well for you both. Completely understand your decision to keep her home while it’s working so well. Blessings to you both!
Thank you and blessings to you as well !
-Do you still have to pay for the memory care while she isnt there?
-Will they keep her spot and she can return on demand?
-Does she recognize that it is her home? Or does she just recognize you and feels safe/comfortable with you around?
Hi Shannon - Yes, I am still paying for memory care for the next 30 days as part of the contract. I believe she can return during that time frame if needed. However, I hope that is not the case. Theresa's does recognize our home, although it was a bit foreign to her for the first few days back. She does not appear to recall her time at memory care and has not mentioned it once since she has been back.
@tpippen75 It's promising that she is doing so well! I know it's probably not a forever situation, and I am happy you get a little break from the memory care facility. 1 more question if you don't mind: when you are working in your home office, how do you know she is safe? For instance, if she turns on the stove or walks out the door. . . Do you have some sort of LoJack on her? 😉 Cameras? Bracelet/necklace with her information and your contact number?
I hope family, friends, and community really do step up for you. Even an hour/week helps. No one helped me, and I am still (unfortunately) (a little) bitter about it, but I am slowly recovering/healing.
I now have safety locks on our front door which prevent her from getting out and walking off. She can however, freely roam the backyard and garden. Our backyard is fenced in and remains locked. I have camera's outside that also alert me of her whereabouts. I've done all the cooking for several years and she has never attempted to turn on the stove. I have the door open to my office as well and have a good view of the kitchen area. I will likely get her a bracelet or something with her ID and contact info. Thanks for your questions!
Hi trey and Theresa
Theresa is so blessed she has you as an awesome husband. It is so beautiful that you are able to take care of her. Praying for you Theresa and her kitties too. As you said one day at time. Please take of yourself as well. Please keep us updated. Take care. 🙏❤️ I 😸😸
Hi Audrey - Thank you for your prayers and support. I will definitely be making updates. Much love & God bless
How wonderful that she is back home and it's working out for now! You seemed so happy I'm sure this is the right decision. Blessings to you and Teresa. Mary Miller
What an AWESOME blessing from Jesus, Trey ! Now, down to brass tacks. Even though you both had a mild case, IF you’d like to know of a couple of things to take to eliminate it from your systems, please ask. OR in thinking of the future, these same two things can be put on a shelf until/if needed. My entire family stays stocked up on both items ALL the time, so that any of us can jump into action at a moment’s notice. I won’t bore you with details, unless you want to know. Again, what you are receiving is a blessing from Jesus, and I hope you are taking advantage and enjoying every single minute of your time together ! I am thrilled for your cats to have their Mama at home, too.❤️
Yes indeed, I believe it was meant to be and is a blessing. I would be happy for your to share about the 2 items you keep stocked up on. Thanks for your support Carol!
Will you be getting in home health care for assistance? You'll need respite care too? And frankly your kid/kids should be helping.
Hi Patricia - yes I will be getting some in-home assistance and respite relief.
Hi Trey another lovely video i am so proud of how dedicated you are to your beautiful love however from a Healthcare point of view who work with memory care residents this can be a very challenging situation. When ppl with dementia deviate feom what thier used to its really hard on them, i truly pray all goes well for the long haul. I am in no way knocking whatbu have decided, i think its amazing and will continue to pray for y'all ur an amazing husband keep the updates coming ❤️
Thank you Tammy for your prayers and support. I will definitely keep the updates coming!
Thats wonderful she home. Id bet she knows the difference in being home as to memory care. Im not sure whhere you all are located. Im a caregiver. I jsut wanted to mention an maybe u know already an maybe not. But it theresa gets medicare medicaid you should be able to get respite care for somwone to come help her an where i live we even do light house work cook run errends we help with bathhing laundry etc. You are very knowledgeable so i figure you know all these things. No1 can care for your loved ones like a spouse. Your devotion to her so beautiful. I often think of her. Her story pulled my heart strings as you both are younger then my parents. Theresa looks so happy in pic. Hope all is well. Peace love an blessings
Hi Auntie - Yes, I believe she does know the difference and is happier back at home! We live in Pinellas Park, FL.. I have applied for Medicaid on Theresa's behalf and we are in the final stages of approval. I will be looking into what they can offer now that she is back home with me. I appreciate your comment and support and thank you for the work you do caring for others. Much love
I am so touched by your love and devotion you have for your wife
Hoping all continues to go well for each and both of you. In case you aren’t aware, music can be a HUGE comfort and “activity” for those with dementia. We watched an amazing you tube video by the nonprofit “Music and Memory” and as a result, we play music from our mom’s adolescence and early adulthood (1950’s) and her responses to it are still joyfully present after 75 years! She dances, sings the lyrics, and is much, much happier when the music is on. She never tires of it!
It also gives us a bit of a “break” as she’s very content to listen and enjoy it! It’s wonderful to see her enjoying something so much!
We learned that the area of the brain that responds to music is the “last area yo go” in terms of aging and dementia. So, if you are open to it and can do so, I encourage you to give it a try. I can’t recommend it enough! The RUclips video is worth a watch as well - very touching and inspiring too!
All the best to you and your wife! I hope her day to day life being at home continues to go well. You’re an amazing spouse! Kathleen
Same with my mom.
Thank you for the suggestion - I will check that video out. We are actually listening to some Billy Joel right now. Theresa loves Billy Joel and Rod Stewart. I play music from the 70's for her often. I appreciate you support Kathleen - much love
Absolutely love the thumbnail pic. Theresa’s smile is so contagious!!!!!
God bless you and your dedication to Theresa. Prayers for continuing strength and support for your journey. 🙏🏻
Thank you for the prayers and support Pam. God bless
Whatever works for you Trey! I’m pleased that things are working out for everyone😊
I wish I could find a man as loving, caring, thoughtful, committed , etc (the lost goes on and on) for me. My late husband passed in 2016 and the dating pool stinks. You’re a breath of fresh air. If only ALL men could be as amazing as you Trey! Ty for sharing your story. I has to take care of my late husband just under 2 weeks and I was exhausted so pls pls pls remember to eat healthy foods, get some exercise and sleep yourself as well
Hi Beth, I'm so sorry to learn of your husbands passing. I do very much appreciate your kind words and support. I will be looking after myself, please also do the same. Much love.
Father God bless everyone who contacted the virus spiritually, mentally, and physically in the mighty name of Jesus amen.
I do believe in a very scheduled lifestyle is absolutely key for the success of keeping memory care patients at home. If you can mimic what happens at the memory care facility it will be easier on her and you. They need structure for sure.
Greetings! Well how quickly life plans change! I'm so happy that you both are doing well, and were not seriously sick from Coronavirus. It might be helpful if Teresa would be willing to wear an ID bracelet and/or tracking device so that just in case she does leave the house, you can know her whereabouts and get her home quickly and safely. Many of our families who have children with autism use them to ensure their childrens' safety. And Teresa gets to be with her beloved kitties too! I will keep you both in prayer that this arrangement will work out long term for you both, as there's no place like home. God Bless! 🙏✝️
Thank you for your prayers and support and for the suggestions! Much love and God Bless
Oh wow this is tough
You are such an amazing husband! I'm happy Theresa is home and that you can take advantage of how well she is doing right now. Love and prayers for your both!
Wow! So unexpected. God bless you both. I pray God’s covering and protection for you.
You take such great care of her! What a wonderful and devoted husband you are.
I'm so sorry the both of you got COVID. It just goes to show it's still around and affecting people even though so many people are acting like it's gone.
Thank you Darlene. I appreciate your words and support. Yes indeed, Covid is still around.
@@tpippen75 You're welcome!
Wishing you and Theresa happy and peaceful times. Navigating through the symptoms of dementia is challenging.
In our area we have a caregivers timeout program which provides the caregiver some personal time to run errands, go shopping, take a walk, whatever. I ran the program for 5 years. We had so much fun once a week. Our time was filled with activities, friendships and love. I could tell you some stories. Have you ever heard of pick's disease? It has very similar symptoms but usually hits young people Theresa's age hard. Many times it is diagnosed as Alzheimers. I tried to find your email but couldn't. Mine is on my page if you would like to share info. I helped care for my grandmother who had Alzheimers. Plus went on to work as an activities director at an assisted living center. I have hopefully made a little difference to those around me. Take care of yourself! Like they say on an airplane save yourself so you can help others.
Hi Carol - sending you an email now! Thank you for caring for others at the ALF, I'm certain you brightened their days. I appreciate you comment and support.
You are an amazing husband! ❤️
Trey, can you engage some hired help for things like heavy housecleaning, yard work, grocery shopping? With some help, you can channel your energy to Therese's care. Never feel that not doing 100% yourself is failure.
Hi Spucky - Yes I am going to be working on that. Thanks for your comment and support.
@@tpippen75 Trey, I thought you might be interested in the PACE program, now that Therese is home. It stands for "Program for All Inclusive Care of the Elderly." It's a home-based program for people 55 and older, at risk for nursing home placement. I believe you have said that Therese has Medicare and Medicaid. PACE has all services, that are coordinated, including medical, behavioral, nursing, nutrition, therapies, adult day health.
We used PACE for my mother, who had dementia and other medical conditions. I loved it so much, I went to work there, after my mother passed.
There is a PACE program in your area - Suncoast PACE. May be worth checking out.
Thank you very much. I will definitely be checking this out. This is right down the street from where we live!
You are an amazing human being!
Enjoy your time together 😊
Funny how the Universe works..Covid turned into a blessing, at least for now. I'm happy for you two.
So glad buddy that your wife is back home with you. It seems that her coming down with Covid was a good thing because it got her back home with you. I will keep you and your wife in my prayers buddy.
Thank you Paul ! Yes it seems Covid was a blessing in disguise. Thank you for the prayers and support bud.
I have to be honest I just really wanted to cry when you said that you enjoyed taking care of Teresa. That really moved me. I'm not trying to be mean but it really is rare for a husband to be very devoted and care for his sick spouse, women seem to do it easier mainly because we have you know a lot of support and we can talk about it with friends and others but men don't have that as much. So to hear that you enjoy caring for Teresa is such a joy. That's why we are such fans. Im glad your illness was mild and here's to a speedy recovery
Thank you Theresa, I'm touched by your words and appreciate you taking the time to comment and share with me. I cherish her and wish for no other kind of life. It is my honor to care for her. Thank you for your support. Much love
She appears very well. Yes enjoy the time. When I heard of the new Alzheimer’s medicine i immediately thought of Theresa and you.