But be careful : they can put on a show when they need to win someone's trust. Everybody around me is convinced that my sister is an amazing "beautiful soul". Boy she can fool people. Once you're hooked, it's torture time.
Labo Traduc took the words right out of my mouth.....don't trust your litmus test....they are empathetic in as far as a predatory sense goes, and will release what they need to put on and or hide to fool you.
I guess I've always had a broader rule about people: watch how they treat people they don't have to be nice too. If they treat them like tools, then you know they have bad character. Eventually, ultimately, that kind aggression, condescension, contempt--whatever--aill be coming your way. And anyway, you've seen their true bullying self. I'm with my current girlfriend because, really, she has a heart of gold. I've never seen her mistreat anyone, and I've seen her do extraordinary kindnesses for strangers. And she's not nauseatingly sweet either: we do laugh about people's foibles, including our own and each others. Just fun, funny, kind, and real. A gem. I got lucky
Yes. Academy award-winning worthy performers. And the mimicking the behaviors emotionally mentally healthy people, is I learned skill for them. Oh, God forgive me, they make me sick!
They are not even good at it either. I had a female malignant narcissist attach herself to me, I barely knew her, and she was telling everyone we were best friends so that she could stalk me, because I called her out on lying straight to my face and around our town that she is a famous, professional agency model. I worked in this field for over 10 years as a scout, and knew she was lying immediately. She was not an ugly woman, but claimed that she was signed to the fashion division of a top agency, yet was 5'5, pushing 200 pounds and 40 years old. This is not me knocking her looks at all, it's just the outrageousness of her lies. And I called her out, so she began stalking and harsssing me until I went to the police. There are suckers out there who believe her story too, despite all of the evidence to the contrary. Pretty sick to lie about your entire adult career.
you have discribed my WIFE 100% i have 3 kids and 9 1/2 years 3 jobs. and flourishing side buisness. im sitting herw at 630 am at a gas station. in disbeif thats not my life but laying it outon the. table its a carbon copy text book i was successful auto MECHANIC. every thing you say describes my Wife. im at a gas station. with my jaw on the floor im stuck cause of fear for my. CHILDREN
I am a daughter of a malignant narcissist and ex wife of malignant narcissist. I find living alone to be peaceful bliss. If the malignant narcissist ignores you, rejoice and quietly move away and stay away. Malignant narcissists are evil, pure destructive evil.
I began a relationship with a woman that turned up being so toxic and selfish that I ended up thinking that I had some sort of mental illness and that I should seek psychiatric help asap. I felt like a horrible man. As soon as I close that door I realized that there wasn't anything wrong with me. It was her. Pure evil. Now the scar is healed, but not gonna lie, took great time and effort. Thank you very much for all the info and tips to detect and avoid those women.
Three weeks ago I lost my car my money,all my keys,some tools a toolbox and important cards from my wallet.She was a Evil,uncompromising relentless vile discusting thing with no conscience.Im having a hard time getting over the fact that all the things I did for her didn't mean anything to her.I want to sign a warrant for her stealing my car but would I have any future retaliation from her pimp,her or anyone she knows.My sister,my friend and my brother told me to move on.Thats hard to do because I have been betrayed and seriously hurt.
After the discard my insomnia disappeared. But there dangerous as heck she looks like an angel but turns to be another entity. She suppose to be my caretaker about to get jaw surgery but it was all an act and lie. She was after my assets I known her for 10 years. Triangulation I have a hunch she enjoys me in pain I saw malignant in her and my instincts to go no contact. Can imagine her in my house backstabbing in my sleep.
@@Darren-su2gmi'm sorry that you were betrayed Darren. Prayers for your healing in forgiveness and letting go. I need to same, because the Narcissists in my life are my rich family members. I am ✂️them.out of my life completely and moving forward with life in another state.
My mother destroyed me in every way. I allowed it because I had no self-esteem and she was so expertly covert for so very long. I spent too much of my life wondering what was wrong with *me*
I hope you are well now. It seriously made me mentally ill for so long. Turns out my mother was projecting her own behavior onto me. As a child we are still learning how the world operates and to have a mother likes this is extremely unfortunate. We can overcome the pain!
@@BLITZY261 I did!! My father left insane and bitter. I lost him for good. But I have a heavenly father. Keep ya head up!! It's hard and not simple. The pain is alive. Keep going and never give up
A narc will always project and accuse you first, of the toxic narc behavior they have, but once you know they are a complete narc, they're gas lighting and games fall apart.
Because all their faults are your fault. Yeah, dated one for awhile. Shut her down too. It's a little pathological, but backing narcs into a corner is a bit entertaining.
@@rattletrap1 my kids's mom is just like that blaming me for every single thing that she's unhappy about it is all my fault,. And she is never happy, constantly lying, saying things that are hurtful to the kids....never takes accountability or has to be responsible for anything I have custody of my boys now but I even was married to someone else and the kids Mom refuses to leave like she has every right to stay in the house just because shes mom...... I'm not sure how to fix it idk
There are female narcissist celebs modeling this behavior as some kind of feminist ideal for their impressionable fans. Hard to ID malignant behavior when it makes someone rich, famous and adored.
I think our culture has been celebrating narcissistic characteristics for a long time, either under the guise of alpha males or divas. Unfortunately these behaviors are normalized.
My two older sisters, mostly absent emotionally during childhood, made me "turn on" during the 1970s. I didn't understand it and have been trying to sort it out for a decade. I think I found the answers I need. At my lowest point in my life, my best sister cut me with a knife in the front. I broke down and cried like never before, and after a few minutes, she begged my forgiveness, and I gave it. She cried out in pain to me.... "I always seem to hurt the ones I love the most". I understand that feeling. But I have been looking for the reason ever since. I still love her. I think she loves me as much as she is capable of love. Now, I feel a bit sorry for her. Mostly, I feel sorry for the close relationship I wanted to have but could never even start. Our mother and her sister were very close, so I know what it looks like. We simply chat about six times a year, knowing that's all either one of us can endure. She prefers to court people that don't know her, and I prefer having close relationships, so we have no basis to join up anymore. We will be long distance frenemies for life. Thank God I found understanding for our lack of a real sister/sister relationship. I always wondered why. With a few unexpected outbursts of the typical narcissistic anger and attitude of superiority, my sisters mostly have just been absent from my life. Our mother filled in most of the gap until she died 34 years ago. I guess I am pretty lucky not to have endured much sadism. I do see it in their eyes, the blank stares and that ever enduring attitude of deserved excess enrichment. They are miserable. I can see that, too. That's why I won't abandon my best sister. The other one is so far gone from my life, it really does not matter anymore.
My older brother used to hit on my girlfriends one actually slept w him it was unreal to me that my own brother did this that was the final straw for me I was done with him and her ofcourse but I saw him at a party and I was a bit drunk and just seeing him my mood went from happy to revenge anger ! Let's just say police were called !
I married one and after 5 years my life was utterly destroyed. And she took pleasure in it. She did hide behind her femininity and beauty. She told me she had been married once before and I found out after 4 years of devastation she'd been married 8 times before? She said she was Christian? lol. Not hardly. Glad it's over and it will take me years to reassemble my life but at least I'm away from her. I literally left with the clothes on my back, and slept in my truck for weeks, and it's been great to be away from the insanity. A background check would have saved me a lot of pain. satan is real. Healing in Seattle.
Damn bro, satan?, crazy because that sounds like the one I'm dating now. Recently I found myself handcuffed next to her surrounded by 3 heavily armed police officers, she was sitting next to me handcuffed as well, I turned and asked her if she was satan. She did not answer me, and then said with a smile I'm not satan. True story.
They always use the religious/faith angle to attack a target. In reality, they don't believe in a God, let alone a God that isn't them. If they can't recite scripture, if you don't see them actively studying or living a Christian lifestyle (and even then beware because it could be a part of the mask or false person) then that's your clue that you're being lied to. They only speak words that tell us what they think we want to hear, but they're so stupid that they don't know we're watching their actions. On that, they can act like they are.....for awhile. Method acting is exhausting, so if they're lying to you, they'll switch their personalities and you'll know for sure that she's complete shit.
@@ashelton774 "On the money" with that comment, and I know that for a fact, experienced it first hand! My biggest mistake was not leaving immediately after she was exposed a fraud, I stayed a few more years and destruction followed!
Excellent commentary After 25 years of divorce I am still recovering emotionally and financially from a malignant narcissist. If you are in a relationship with a woman described, get out now before it is too late. Staying will shorten your life and destroy you financially Don’t be a co dependant. God wants you to be happy. Nobody deserves to be mistreated. .....Then look closely at your childhood to see how and why you were attracted to her Good luck. Better times lie ahead
"I've done nothing wrong" was the exact repeated wording when I called out my narc for his abusive behavior. All narcs operate the same way. In the beginning they mirror and you feel like they are your best friend who just suddenly appeared out of nowhere. At the discard phase, they are absolutely deaf, blind, and dumb to the pain they cause thru public humiliation.
the honeymoon phase ends with a narcissist when they learn all there is about the object of their affection and then the boredom phase begins and they start to get irritable and distant. The more someone has for a narcissist to learn from the longer the honeymoon phase is for them.
My family was targeted by a Female Malignant Narcissist. Everything you say is spot on. This Pathetic, sad and extremely scary woman just turned 30 and I can tell you these people really do rot from the soul out.
These people need to be locked away and institutionalized permanently. I cannot understand how we let people like this be among normal humans. They are not just monsters, they don't know they have a problem, and cannot be cured.
My ex was a demon in a human form. I nearly ended my life over her. She's now "happily" married to a guy that's way down from her league (at least when it comes to looks) but hey, she's traveling the world with him now, which is what she wanted to do with me, except we worked for same company for same shitty pay and I couldn't afford taking her everywhere around the world. The poor guy doesn't even know he's just being used. She couldn't control me, but I am pretty sure she wears the pants in this marriage.
I am frightened for my grandson. He is an only child. His mother is a rabid narc. His father is an alcoholic. Pray for him, please. His name is Hunter.💔💜💙🙏
All those women have sweaty summer sex with the great golden yaks of the western plains.. They really have nothing to live for or be proud of. Let them rot in their own filth. They are losers.
This was my ex-wife back in the mid 1980s: a four year roller coaster of insanity. I never knew someone could be so shallow and manipulative (met her at a Bible study!). It was like she morphed into this different malevolent person after the wedding vows. She had an inability to apologise or accept responsibility while at the same time maintaining that everything wrong in the marriage was my fault. I ended up being mentally in knots trying to keep her happy and work out how to keep the marriage going. After she walked out I felt a sense of relief. She moved on quickly with a new boyfriend a couple of months into the separation and they married within six months of the divorce. Years later I heard she blew up that marriage and then moved to another guy.
i went through the exact same thing. I was pretty defeated after 6 years. I was barely able to escape. She had moved in with another guy within 3 months of me leaving. It took me 12 years later before I figured out what happened. She was a covert narcissist. Thanks to the internet or I wouldn't have ever figured it out.
You're not alone... the "everything went to hell right after the wedding" experience happened to me also. Glad you are out of it; I am too. Free!! Freedom is priceless. 🏞
My ex wife mirrored me and we got married. Pretty soon she started complaining that I expected her to be something she wasn't and she didn't expect that from me. I expected her to be who she advertised to me during courtship, the reasons why I married her.
That's exactly what I did after 26 years, cut my losses. Lost everything in the process. My kids, house and reputation. But I'm happy and calm for the first time in my life. They are evil in every possible way.
I am afraid are you kidding me ? She took everything , wont let me see my kid and the gang bangers around the hood are convinced of lies she tells about me .. and i hope i can spot them now , they are satanic to me ... ive wanted to die at one point
Great video. I just escaped this demon after 13 years of up and down and walking on egg shells. As we all know, when you discover how evil the person that you loved is, it's staggering and shocking. I feel for all of you that have felt this betrayal and pain. It's a long road back to normalcy for all of us. Hang tough fellow survivors, we got this !!!!
I am still trying to get out. But i find my self thinking of her feelings all the time, and trying not to hurt her. But to be fair, she still treat me like shit. No sex for one year and a half. Constant belittling. I must admit that it is getting to me. I have these mixed feelings constantly. Before i met her, i was capable of making decisions, and have a normal social life. Now 15 years later i am broken, and hoping that i will regain some confidence to stand up for myself.
@@tennbones I am glad to hear that you are out off the relationship. How are you doing - you know it is comments like yours that give me hope of reaching my own personal freedom some day. ❤️
Wish mama had warned me about these type of ladies. My beautiful first wife was one, i bought her cars, a house, we had 2 kids, she didnt have to work, so when i learned she was having an affair with my cousin, she denied ,denied, denied, until she finally admitted that it was my fault for having 2 jobs & not giving her enough time.. You ever really wanna piss-em off, get a protection order for you & your kids & change your phone number! Thank God its been 20 years now & she lives in another state, whenever she's not in jail :) . . . Its verrry sad to try to love someone that doesnt know the meaning,,good luck ya'all . . .
Im glad you got your kids away from that horror show. Well done. Im usually against children being kept from a parent but when it comes to malignant narcissists or any other kind of abuser, keeping children away is justified.
@@susiex6669 - Honestly, i was in very depressed & heartbroken over the split because she was the one that took the kids to another city without my consent.. long story short, HER brother & mother brought me the kids & asked me to protect them , i was in medical field & asked colleges with family counseling experience 4 advice with the best intention for my kids welfare. The protection order came when i met another woman & she came back around with repeated aggressive stalking & harassment & vandalism. I was fortunate that a police officer lived across the street & witnessed some of it because she was pretty, petite, & had a silver tongue,,, MASSSTER MANIPULATOR! I was a bit rugged & bulky into weight lifting, had tatoos, grew up poor & it was very easy to take her side on any legal issue.. I still believe she was toxic enough to the picture that i thank my stars that she was so self centered & in & out of jail/prison over the years & just chose to stay away after the protection order. I felt guilty for years , but i finally realized her damage was prenatal or from early childhood trauma & i was not able to help her, tho i do feel compassion for her & her family who missed out on the beautiful experiences of raising children etc. i didnt have educational material & internet like this at the time ( the 90s) so i appreciate videos like this now that help people navigate life in a healthier way ! Many just dont have very good mentors or healthy models to live by, so i hope content like this helps many & possibly saves lives . P.S. these people(real narcs) are not a joke! the harassment & hateful slander continue to this day. I cant show my face or real name online anywhere because she Hacks & Trolls me in unbelievable ways.. I may write a book about it one day :) ! Do Your Deep Homework before Sleeping with the Devil folks !!The Wildfire is very destructive & may burn for years... - Live Blessed All Ways & always, every new day is what we choose to make of it,,, yes or yes ! . . . :)
@@zenhalo1 My mother is a malignant narcissist and I suffered years of abuse at her hands. When my father was alive I asked him many times why he didnt just divorce my mother and keep us away from her and he just told us that it would have been impossible for a father to get custody. So there we stayed and are four kids who have various levels of damage thanks to my mother, my sister being the worst off who has full blown schizophrenia. When she was younger, she gleefully played the role of my mother's flying monkey and it didnt work out for her. So its because of what I lived through in my childhood that I compliment you for protecting your children from your ex-wife's poison. I saw my mother for what she was since I was a child so I never internalized her lunacy but not all children are equipped to deal with narcissists. It will destroy children, Ive seen it. And its honorable of to feel some pity for the ex because of her childhood but I feel none for my mother. Everything in life is a choice. Just because bad is done to you doesnt mean you get to inflict it on others. As a matter of fact, if you are a decent human being, hardship should deepen your sense of empathy, not make you evil. Im glad there was a happy ending to your story, bless.
I work as a receptionist at an urgent care with a narcissist. Which was fine (kind of), up until someone wrote a bad Yelp review and named her. Since then she's been relentless at harming me. Today, I found out she lied about me to my supervisor. Now she's actively trying to get me fired, that's my cue to exit. Thank you for this vid, it validates the past 2 yrs for me and makes me feel less "crazy".
I wish I had watched this video two years ago. My ex-girlfriend matches all 10 charachteristics, and she has destroyed my life completely - so much so that I will never recover. Within 12 months of meeting her, I went from owning a successfull business, a condo overlooking the ocean and a $100,000 Mercedes Benz to having my 30 career destroyed, every single thing I owned stolen by her or destroyed by her, thrown in jail (she tried to frame me for attempted murder). I wound up homeless on the city streets for over a month begging for food. My life is over. I just never thought anyone could be so mean. They have NO LIMITS and will lie their ass off to the police, steal and destroy your property and ruin all your friendshps. She truly was the most vicious person I've ever encountered.
May be I have encountered not dissimilarity related behavior in relationships. This brings to mind instances in my own behavior, even in the one laying beside me at the moment. I wonder what wreckage I've caused in my life acting in this manner, what wreckage I've encountered with my choice of sexual partners.. is it time to consider leaving myself, or (since it's a lot easier) even this unsilent sleeper here? Hmm (Thoughtfully sinks back into full shut down defensive mechanisms, & behaviors, doesn't answer own question.)
Yes! I have an extremely narc and toxic sibling. Its fascinating now how I study him as if it was an alien creature. I can see vast amount of vicariousness in their mental thought patterns. Whatever they see or hear on tv or online that they like. They will take it as theirs,as their truth. I noticed for my narc, it's very difficult to have a completely original independent thought.
My son’s mother used to accuse me of living Sex in the City (I lived in NYC at the time). She genuinely thought it was a real portrayal of life in Manhattan.
I'm tired of people using an entity to use as a scapegoat for their actions. Your fellow man is your enemy. You have no idea the depravity and evil human beings are capable.
@@garnetjensen5523 True this. And anyone who has ever gotten that contemptuous smirk from a hardcore narcissist knows that there is something positively diabolical behind it. Like pure unfiltered evil.
Wow. I knew my long-term ex gf (a couple of days away from fiance) exhibited some narcissistic traits but consciously chose to put that aside, which was a colossal mistake...my only life regret. The terms "mirroring" & "love bomb" got my attention immediately because that's exactly how it started, I could do or say no wrong & thought I'd found someone that "got me". I learned almost overnight a couple of years later that it was just a massive plot to manipulate. I'd never heard of "malignant" narcissism until running across this vid & damn if this vid doesn't describe her about 99.9%. This is real, people, and should be taken seriously. It could quite literally cost you your life. WALK. AWAY.
When you have fallen into the trap of the covert malignant narcissist, it's hard to get out. Especially when they know you know, and they don't have a new victim ready to fill in the gap. When you are a good supply, they don't let you go easily. But the hardest thing of it all, is the understanding and acceptance of what finally happened. It literally makes you sick to the stomach. I am out for 5 years, but still feel this way when I think back of my time with te narcissist.
Your right. It took me 12 years after I left to figure out what happened in that relationship because at the time I had no clue. I was so baffled as to what happened. How could something that started out so well just turn to crap over time and there was no discussing it. I finally escaped. I'm sorry I ever told her I was leaving because she made it as hard as possible. You never tell abusers your leaving if possible. Only when I came across the npd information years later did it finally click and I was like, that's what happened to me! I had rage for 2 years after that and 3 more years of anger. Then everything made sense. At least you know what your dealing with. Good luck.
I’m out for 3 years after a 10 year marriage. I didn’t figure it all out until after. It’s one one thing that they are malignant narcissists, but you you really have to unravel why you walked right into this demons den in the first place. I have so much peacefulness now, but I still find myself ruminating the story in my head.
@@jerrys9226 Definitely agree. At the point I figured out my ex was npd I was working on my issues in a 12 step program for about 10 years. I figured out my part of the problem which I was a codependent. So knowing I was half the problem and had to take my responsibility in that. Npd's and codependents are like dysfunctional peanut butter and jelly and unfortunately seems to be a pretty common type of relationship. Good for narcs bad for codependents. I find that just talking about it with safe people and feeling the feelings about helps me to slowly let it go. However when I figured her out I also figured out several other people who were in or who had been in my life, like my older brother, that were npd's. So It was a lot of anger for all of these people as well. 6 years later I'm much better.
esp when they know you know.. :| They destroy you and make you discredible in front of others You know just in case you decide to expose them one day They destroy you with lies because they know you can destroy them with the truth
This is my mother. I didn't realize it until I was 42 and I started working w a pediatric physician who specializes in behavioral issues. I was going through so much at the time and was just being attacked by my mom in all aspects of my life. I was miserable. So I opened up to my boss and she asked me if I have ever heard of NPD. I hadn't but I dove into finding out everything I could and the doors started opening. Two yrs later and I'm now no contact and I'm so much more happy. My stress levels are down, chronic physical pain is gone and I've started living my life for me. It didn't happen over night and she sure tried to destroy everything in my life when I put a stop to her abuse but she didn't win. These videos are so helpful in this journey
Amen sister💜,Godbless you.Im so happy to hear you talking like that & have been delivered.Took me 37 years to shake my 2 faced guilt tripping mother off.Emotional manipulators are all the same,"pride goeth before the fall" as the Bible says.John 10:3 To him the porter openeth; and the sheep hear his voice: and he calleth his own sheep by name, and leadeth them out.(KJV).JESUS collects HIS sheep!.
Same here. But it's my father that's the narcissist. His brother was one too and my paternal grandmother was one, no doubt, even though she died when I was about 7.
Your situation sounds like mine but I'm still stuck. I had no idea what NPD was as well but once you do the homework its game over. You know you have to get away for your own sanity no matter what. Good that you did not put mom on a pedestal like so many people do.
Same hear, after 32 years of what I thought was a sound loving marriage...until I told her I was going to retire in two months. Mine divorced me and got everything too, except my pension...never been happier and so stress free in my life.
Dealing with them in the workplace can really destroy you. If you are the ONE and ONLY person who sees through their manipulations and acts accordingly (grey rock)...it's the easiest thing in the world for them to turn everyone against you and play the victim. So many times I walk into work and people I was friendly with the DAY BEFORE are staring daggers and refusing to even say hello. It's absolutely horrifying.
Yes they apparently smear you from day one. They smear everyone to everyone else. They are doing the devil's work for him and are likely to share his eternal fate if they don't repent.
This is bone chilling. You have just described my daughters school ‘friend’. She put my daughter through hell on a regular basis, would turn on the charm and the whole cycle would start again. No one would listen to me about her extremely worrying behaviour, violence, entitlement and pathological envy of my daughter. All the while she had everyone believing she was wonderful. They’re in different schools now but I always known she will seriously harm someone, or worse in the future. We all need to run from people like this.
It's like they have a invisible"I'm the Saint ," curtain around them. It's bafflingly to say the least. Almost as if they all are hypnotist. The triangulation is utter evil. 😉 Some crazy Krazy crap.
@Gabriella Ross So sorry. Gaslighting is so sinister. I used to tell my Narc wife"Oh you going to light me up again?" When I finally figured out , supposed loved ones do that to you. Praying for a healthy recovery for you. ❤️
This is my mother. Thankfully she abandoned me when I was weeks old and we didn't meet until I was a teenager. She made my skin crawl right away. I stuck around for a few years because I kept waiting to be wrong. Hell, I wanted to be wrong about her. But I never got attached because she never gave me a reason to. I've trusted my gut ever since, thanks for helping me understand what happened more. It helps me deal with the blame she insisted on dumping on me.
The more I dig into this behavior, I am completely blown away! It's like the scales falling off my eyes! My entire life has been completely consumed by one narcissist after another! I just want to thank you for sharing this information. I really thought I was going out of my mind, as far back as childhood. Thank you!!!!!!!!
A different species. True. They are cannibals within the brood womb. 'Superior.' They have to believe they are superior in order to live. A virus thinks the same way. They have absolutelty no vitality without us. It is we who are truly vital and superior. We don't need them. This scares them.
Typically, when they cry it's because you're not giving them what they want, or you've figured them out. It's fake, it's designed to control you and the argument that they started. One thing they hate, is force. You force them in an argument, or legally, they'll cave. They've never adapted to the real world, they live in a fiction where they always get their way through manipulation, love bombing, and fake crying. It should be legal to kill them.
Yes. Once you wake up to these characteristics you can sometimes spot them. Other times it has taken me awhile because they are so good with the mask and the persona. I was so fooled by one of these "people" that my brain didn't want to listen to my intuition. I felt as if there was a battle between both sides of my brain when it finally clicked. I was so devastated by this reality because I thought the world of this person. She was cute, caring, intelligent and I thought compassionate. Little did I know she was mirroring me. You really don't get this until you've been through it.
@@brianwalsh1401 yeah I completely understand and it's heartbreaking and it's shocking. Now that I've learned about it when I look back throughout my life it makes sense why some of the people was the way they was in my life even just the people that I came across even some of people that raised me because my mother was murdered when I was seven so I've been to quite a few homes bounced around here and there since I was 7 years old. I've been reflecting back and it's just gut-wrenching and heartbreaking to know that most of the men that was in my life as a child and even when I got older had this it was something that didn't make sense then but now it does. So I have to really take a look at myself and work on my self-esteem do a lot of stuff so this doesn't keep happening in relationships but this last one was so devastating that there's no way I'm dating anybody anytime soon I have a lot of healing to do from that and previous Life Choices. I do understand it's good that there's these channels and information was people that can relate because when I try to talk to people that are around me or that I know they have no clue what I'm talking about they think I'm not sore it's not as bad as I'm making it out to be. It's like frustrating trying to explain it to somebody so when I talk to somebody on here that knows what it's like kind of a relief that I'm not alone and that I wasn't at fault here in a lot of ways and that I'm not a bad person I just have to work on some things and look at myself and learn to love myself take care
@@marlastininger7720 I'm very sorry to hear about your mother dying at such a young age when obviously a kid needs their parent the most. I don't know myself if I would've figured out what happened in my life without youtube. I agree working on your issues is primary especially if you have low self esteem. I know, which is why I ended up with the narc I married. It's a slow process but it's the most rewarding thing I've ever done in my life mostly through a 12 step program I've been in for 16 years. It does help to hear others stories because it then helps to validate what happened to me as well as to educate myself about these people. I learned about cluster B's about 6 years ago and for the first 4 years watched a lot of videos, I still do, just not as many. I guess it means I'm healing. I work with 2 of these "people" on a daily basis and I'm their target, which is a challenge. And yeah people just don't get this, like my coworkers, because they can't believe people would act like this especially because the narc's are so good at their image they project to the world to other people. Sneaky little bastards that they are. I wish you the best and please treat yourself well. You deserve it. Melanie Tonia Evan'is video she talks about narcs being angels in disguise because they bring us so far down to the ground and then maybe we get some help to work on our issues that allowed us to stay in these "relationships" to begin with. Then we leave and get into another of the same. nothing changes if nothing changes. I wish you the best you deserve it.
@@brianwalsh1401 thank you I really appreciate it. And I also am in the 12-step program been in and out of it for a long time. It's saved my life in many ways even if I wasn't completely sober it applies to everything in my life but I think you know what I mean when I say that. I did learn another important fact that I stressed about trying to figure out what kind of narcissist he was but it really wasn't that important come to find out it was just important to know that he was one and I quit stressing about what category if he was a covert malignant Etc. Yeah Melanie is really great so is narc Survivor there's a lot of good RUclips videos that helps me. In the same here if it wasn't for those videos I don't think I would be where I'm at today. There is a lot of negative stuff on RUclips and the internet so I'm trying to limit myself on what I watch and how much of my phone I use. Cuz before you know it I'll spend hours on the phone and get nothing done I'll feel disappointed in myself. as far as I have came in my recovery and my surgeries it's like I'm done worrying about damage he's done what's going on in the world right now because clearly God is in charge if I haven't died yet and God has made a way for me this far I just need to focus on the moment instead of worrying about yesterday or tomorrow sometimes it's easier said than done but yes best thing I've learned to do was pray for him not be upset an angry and want revenge because it was so time-consuming and it drained all my energy I will always love him because he was my friend for 18 years since high school. The crazy thing about all of this is now it makes sense why my last relationship of 3 years was the way it was I never even heard of the word narcissist never knew of the disorder and now I understand why my husband had so many similar traits from the relationship before because they was the exact same and had the same personality disorder my first husband in my first relationship as a teenager into my twenties they never had these kinds of traits or this kind of personality. And now it makes sense of my uncle that was having sex with me and took my virginity at 12 and a half and he was 36 and the uncle that took care of me after my mom even though there was no sexual abuse the mental in the physical abuse of me and how he treated my aunt like it was just like they are everywhere and that's not me being paranoid I know I get to go on I told myself I wasn't going to be on the phone like this especially this early so you're good hearing from you and I'm glad that we could help each other
Have had the displeasure of having multiple of these exist in my life at different points. A word of advice to those who might not have seen this enough is to -- ALWAYS PAY ATTENTION TO THE RED FLAGS. Don't make excuses, for it WILL be your downfall.
I am a female, I had experience with female malignant narcissist, it took me some time to realize who she is. She pretended to love me as her stepmother. The mirroring definitely is true. Yes, they can turn in a minute if they don't get want they want and not afraid to try to destroy your life.
THANK YOU - This was an incredibly detailed and accurate breakdown of the numerous evil behaviors found in too many people. Hard when inside the 'family'. They destroy the family and need to dominate by lies, manipulation, bullying, being pathologically envious. They are criminally insane. Animals are not evil like this . Animals want territory , food, and mates. Simple. stuff.
The envy of a female "best friend" is relentless and flat out dangerous. I found out envy has been warned about in the Bible. Envy is rotten to the bone...
My ex wife was everything you had described, you hit the nail on the head when you said they are dangerous, In my case she had an affair and she and the guy both conspired to put drugs/poison in my food and drinks to render me "unconscious" to collect on my life insurance. ( i found all of their communications emails/texts) needless to say i took those communications to local authorities and they sent a couple of deputies to my house when she came home from work l8r that day to remove her from my home, I faced numerous attacks and harassment that led to me filing a restraining order against her, she has been harassing my family which has led to them filing restraining orders against her also.
Happened me too mate. 2 years of harassment and its still on going. They are fucking crazy. I spoke to her ex husband and he went through the same. They never change they get more evil. They are the lowest of the low. Scum of the earth 🌎
Your not alone there I went through the murder attempts as well by my x wife and her x boyfriend and two of his friends don't feel alone I've been there too
@@emh6844 its going pretty good right now, the ex is facing deportation back to her home country and the guy is facing a lawsuit, he'll get his dose of Karma soon
I must say, I really appreciate how you didn’t hold back in your depiction of Malignant Narcissists. Every other channel I’ve watched uses more “politically correct” terms to describe them. However, it’s words like “vile,” “disgusting,” and “evil” that truly capture who they are when they are trying to manipulate or control they victim. It’s comforting to know that I am not alone in my very critical view of Malignant Narcissists.
You described my ex-wife perfectly, especially the lying aspect, manipulation, and her being two-faced. I always hated when she constantly threatened to call the police on me and tell them she felt in danger for her life if I did not do what she demanded I do and she blamed her bad behavior on me.
I am the mother of a young man and since the johnny depp case that i have became more aware of DM against men i have started being anxious for my son. If it happened to JD it could happen to anyone. What i still dont understand is why men stay in this kind of relationships. Women usually stay with abusive men for financial reasons. But men… i never understand…
@@shivapazoki1881 I would guess that it's the same for male narcs, but targeting people with low self-esteem, that think that they will never have anyone else and don't want to be alone forever and further lowering their self-esteem to imprison them in the relationship. It's so subtil that you wouldn't notice the gradual destruction of your self respect. I think first learning to live happily alone helps prevent being in a relationship with a narc, because the "if you leave me, you'll find nobody else" threat doesn't work against you, as you know how to be happy even if you are alone.
I have never cried and said thank you out loud so much. I NEVER knew the truth would feel so powerful. I have been targeted by narcissistic men and women. Family members, old friends, coworkers. People who inquire about what I'm doing as if I'm not standing there. Old high school friends who chose to walk in front of me instead of beside me. I never knew I was an empath but I am so grateful for those who experienced enough to speak to the truth. Thank you from the bottom of my heart
You just perfectly described my sister. My brother and I have cut off all communication with her. I moved out of state after I got married. The only contact I had with her after I got married was when I went to visit my parents, and that was very limited. Now that my dad is gone and mom is living with me, I don't have any contact with her at all. You are absolutely right, the only way to stay safe from these women is to just cut them out of your life - no phone, social media, etc.
@@drjwbriand No way of knowing. One of her long-term lies was who my father was. He went along with it but some of the patterns of abuse suggest he knew.
This video definitely describes one narcissist whom I unfortunately have had to deal with some years ago, and she was a lecturer. I was manipulated, tricked and then trapped and into her shitty world to be abused for over a year. She loved humiliating me publicly, triangulating, threatening me and playing sick twisted mind games, it's like being lured Into a dark labyrinth filled with razors that never ends. I saw her real face every time someone is Injured which included me. She is very sadistic, pathologicaly envious and highly competitive, and feels like she has to have the upper hand in everything even in the most insignificant things. All the students are mortified of her and want to get away from her. What's more sickening is that she portrays herself in public as a very charming, very sweet, innocent and almost childlike caring compassionate individual. She gets involved in helping and "educating" the less fortunate but it's all for show and these programs didn't last. She's very protective of her false public image and is willing to go to extreme lengths even to destroy others to protect it. Her subordinates even defended her against me, I had no chance . It was SO severe that I had to drop out. The damage they do to your psyche is immense, even years after and most people will never understand unless it has happened to them. She tried to drive me insane and into a mental asylum but all her efforts have failed but who knows if she has already achieved that with another student. She's been out of my life for some years now but I remain very vigilant always especially on social media. They are vile sadistic predators and can be dangerous but they are also massive weak cowards because they can't do anything on their own. They're a bunch of losers. They can be very difficult to expose but it's not impossible. Best thing to do is to Get the hell away from them ASAP. If you know what they are, and if you can destroy them, do it covertly, try to gain evidence against them if you can because they can push innocent good people into asylums, suicide etc. They destroy communities, families and your health both mentally and physically. This can create a ripple effect of damage. This is serious.
Thanks for sharing! I have been praying about what to do about the demonic relationship I barely got out of with my sanity/life you just confirmed it...
Sounds so familiar with what i went through with a "supervisor" a few yrs ago. Experienced all the same and it is so true that when you try to tell someone about it, you're met with denials and disbelief. Very disheartening. And also dangerous. I didn't know what it was called, but i knew something was very wrong, and even warned my family that if something "happened" to me, it was likely not an accident. I feared for my life. As with your narc, mine played the innocent victim and was a convincing and constant liar, and had her superiors fooled-- for a while. Eventually they figured it out and she was fired and ordered to have no contact with anyone in the dept. It's over now but it was one of the worst work experiences of my life, and i still get knots in my stomach when i am reminded of it. The one positive result is that i now know about these types and recognize the behaviors quickly, and get away. Harder to do in a work situation because the narcs can severely damage a business reputation and make it difficult to get a job again.
@LUCY ELI ZABETH @LUCY ELI ZABETH First of all, my eyes hurt for all your hatred. Second, i am sorry youre high and see demons and satan himself. Yes, i am here because of narcissism. And yes, i am here because i am a man who also is straight and also a narcissistic abuse victim. Don't come to your own conclusions without knowing the facts. A narcissist woman is not and does not act the same as a narcissist man. They can achive what they want and persuade their victims accordingly to their gender. And also, there are women that are MEAN as hell and even use the law against us to even take over custody. YOU must be a butt hurt narcissist that just feel exposed with this video. Im sorry for your loss honey. And by the way, the person who made this video is a woman 😉
@LUCY ELI ZABETH nice, and yes i have been a victim me whole life. First my dad, and after i stopped caring what he said, i ended up with another narcissist for 10 years. I do believe what you say too. On rotten souls and bright ones too. Today's society is full of putrid souls and they are roaming to corrupt the good ones. You sounded a lot different with your reply. I thought you were off by your first comment. And no ma'am. I do no group all women as narcissists. There are warm, sweet and kind ladies still around. And you seem one of them. Take care, and i apologize too if you were offended by me.
@LUCY ELI ZABETH i am sorry you had to go through all that suffering. I just which you the best and that you can get out of all that darkness of people. Blessings and you too take care.
Yesterday I just spent 1 hour argueing with my narc husband because he kept on trying to argue and twist facts!! I even told him I had witnessing that were on the phone and heard his insult and he still lie. I finally decided to separate from him until he agrees to therapy with me, but I know he won't go,for they hate therapy. I moved to another part of the home and avoiding him cause I had very high blood pressure dealing with his mind games and manipulation
My old beloved Doberman stepped off the deck and keeled over and died right in front of us. I dropped to the ground balling like a kid and SHE unbelievably runs out to get up close to watch her die. I don’t know if that was evil but It sure isn’t normal. I didn’t know she was a narcissist at that time.
you might have to be blunt and say, "I am not buying what you are selling, I see it", they will hate it but you will get the healthy boundary you need. Also say I do not take phone calls or face time.
My parents are both narssacists, and even now, they spy on my life. I'm in my 40's, and I don't need that! I knew my entire life that my family was not "normal ", but we were also in a religious cult, so I had no friends. I finally broke free. My mother loves to play each one of us against each other by lying and manipulating everything. I cannot visit with my sister anymore, because my "victim, frail" mommy dearest is always with her. If you call them out, they make life hell on earth.
@Ms. Buschhorn I've come to realize that too, but it makes me a better mother for my son. He and I keep each other and ourselves accountable. I chose to break the cycle, and I don't care if she doesn't like it. My son is the most important and beautiful gift, and I will not allow her to infect him.
@William Harvey True, but you can't blame everything on Satan. His devices work best with willing and able supplicants who are led astray by their own lusts and evil desires. Hireling Shepards don't help either.
Mine was a narc and an addict. Fun times. Even my therapist can't believe the stories I can tell. The hardest part is trying to cope with it four years later. It's been buried and now that I am talking through it, it's like reliving it all over again. It's awful. Trauma sucks so bad.
What you've said is accurate, my ex and my daughter are exactly as you described. Looking back I'm ashamed about how I was suckered, half my life was wasted.
I am sorry but you can have more joy than ever thought possible. Look within with love and kindness. Have fun as a child's spirit and do what you enjoy even if you don't want to. Call old friends family co workers. Don't expect those people to understand what you went through so be careful with who you talk to.
This is the new supply of my ex-husband, he is a narc, so he did not see it. They are perfect for eachother. I am glad that she helped me seeing that my ex-husband is a narc. I wish them to stay together for ever. Love from Switzerland
4:00 Yes! Also, Malignant narcissism is pure evil. This is such good advice. Thank you. Pathological envy is something I never heard before but I’ve seen it. And all of this is so good. The people in my life that was like this literally was advising me to stalk married men in order to find someone. But it was just people that I met in passing. It was so weird. They really are a different type of person. They are predators.
Wow... you nailed it.... You just read 19 years of my life.... I gave her everything and walked away and started over.... Living this lifestyle for the sake of your children, trying to keep the peace, because you are alone when it comes to keeping the peace, is utterly exhausting. I walked away from everything. I can not believe how completely correct you are on each of the 10 points. It is hell, and I recommend anyone that sees a parallel in their life and this video, to walk away.
Thank you so much. This is my wife. I have to stop listening after number five cause it hurts so bad. This is exactly who she is. Thank you. I'll come listen to the rest later.
Omg! This FREAK HERE who victimises helpless people and does all the psychobclown show wicked gross horrific stuff and more. One of the first wacko things I'd never seen before that I kept describing was this EACKO WACKO GOOFY ASS CRACKHEAD(SORRY PROBLEMATIC SHITTYEORD) Wieeeeerd kooky GRIN. THIS OFFTHEEALL SHOCKIG LOOPY GRRRRIN. WITH HEREYEBALLS SIDEWAYS ALL THEVWAY INTH3 CORER OF HERRYES! SHESD TELLBA STORY BOUT SOETHINGV REALKY BAD THAT HAPPENEDT9 A UTUAL ACQUAITANCE WHO JUST WAS NO LONGERTHERE OEDAY, tryfirv3seconds to wear this wierd overacted goofy super jarring superfake sympathylook andvibe ofsuperfake CONCERN and SYMPATHYsnd then3secods inthis CRAAAAAYZEE GRIN fleeting micro expression occurs andits lie shewent on pause. Like sheidof freezes. Like a glitch and she's laughigherass off and describes teterrible harmshedid claims thecredit ad shes switching affect between mocking 'INNOCENCE' and dropping the mask and grinnig and laughing aboutwat shedid She exhibited this WACKO GRIN at other iappropriate ties. Its izarre and its likea feetigwierdmicro expression. Shecantstand to pretendshe doest kowwhat happeed because she cantWAIT to bragabout theevilshedid and fot otherst9 do. I guessit Makes her feel likecSHES GOT THE KEYS TO THE YARD 🤮🥳💀🤦♀️
Here because I have close female relatives who are narcs. I've always felt different to them but I am constantly self reflecting and making sure I haven't picked up any of their traits.
My goodness...this is exactly what she was like. Every detail. Pointed out the obvious and tried to be sensitive to it in order to support and help her behaviour. I tried for years but I ended up even more broken. When we love that person it’s hard to walk away especially when kids are involved. I got two months of love bombing and rest of total hell and sometimes she would switch back and forth for a bit in order to cause further pain. I was always upfront and honest about how her behaviour would make me feel to which she got pleasure out of me being open and honest for what she saw as an opportunity to attack when I showed weakness...it really hurts and your mental health and physical health is affected big time. You still feel that love for her even though she has caused you so much pain but nothing you will ever do satisfies her. She has now trained the children to be mini versions of her as kids try to fight for attention of that parent. Forever feeding them with lies. Only thing to do is to stay away and keep your mind occupied.
I had a “best friend” like this. She literally used me and everyone around her. As soon as I set up boundaries & asked for money back that she owed me, she completely discarded me. I knew as soon as I asked, she would stop the fake front of us being “friends”. I I was happy about that! Happy to have peace in my life 💖
I had a female colleague at work who was aggressively trying to befriend me when I arrived. After I noticed some of this very behavior, I tried to distance myself. She then began to literally harass, embarrass, and even stalk me until I demanded that management put a stop to it. Of course they tried to be dismissive of my complaints because she was female, but I threatened legal action if they did not stop it. They finally did....
Sandrina Otelli I left mine and have been silent is my situation. I realize everyone has different situations. If it is just your neighbors can you move?
Just came across this video by chance earlier on, and love it!! This is all so well said. I was targeted by a female malignant narcissist a few years back, and the experience was horrific. She behaved exactly as you’ve described here, and then(over a timeframe of nearly 2 years) went on to display all 10 of the behaviours which you’ve described in abundance, among others. It took a long time for me to notice she was being emotionally abusive towards me because it was so insidious and so sneakily done, and because she lied convincingly to so many people to cover it up. Her Gaslighting, harassment and bullying(And projection) eventually got so bad that I had to stop attending my voluntary workplace, change my phone number and block her on social media just to get her and her toxicity out of my life. It was both traumatic and terrifying; now it’s been 4 years since I cut her out of my life, and although I feel like I’ve recovered from the abuse itself, I still find the memories sickening. I’ve watched this video and then several other of your videos off the back of it, and I absolutely love them. They’re inspirational. They’re helping raise awareness of an evil in our society which is still way too hidden, and helping to give survivors like myself closure, validation, and above all, a voice. (I’ve subscribed to your channel too BTW.) Brilliant work!! 🙌👍
I noticed that they spot us first and they will be doing small things to see if they can get away with the abuse. Have you noticed how they study you from far?? They have so much people skill.
My 20-year old daughter, who has been greatly affected by her narcissist mother and my abusive family, made a couple of RUclips videos recently to shame me on a variety of issues. At one point, she actually smirks while talking about me "hurting." She's literally making fun of my trauma from childhood and her mother.
I was involved with a malignant nark girlfriend for almost 4 years what a nightmare!!! Been healing for a year now, she told me she was broken but she was a thousand times worst than I could have imagined!! And she was very good looking and exelent in bed us why I kept going back, then she ghosted me and ended up with my now ex best friend. You are a very good expert on this thank you!
Just went no contact with one few days back and I can't stop reading about the disorder. I had no idea till I decided to keep a distance and the girl basically unraveled herself and I started thinking everything back by writing down notes. Accidentally bumped into malignant narcissism online and oh boy. You describe her exactly as my notes. Unfortunate that victims like me have to go through this damned experience and learn it the hard way. But glad I'm aware now and amazing people like you have amazing content and helpful resources.
I just thought I knew what narcissim was until I entered the "discard" phase and started to do some research on what was wrong with me. Stumbled across this channel...... turns out other than being a sucker the problem was her!! All of the off-hand eyebrow raising comments and mutterings under her breath make perfect sense now. Definitely going to stay in the discard pile and away from her!
I discovered it by trying to find out why discussions with my wife over minor niggles turned into 3 hour arguments about everything, but still failed to address the niggle. What an eye-opener - and my wife displays signs of every characteristic described in books and videos like these - there is no maybe
I was dealing with a male malignant narcissist. I also believe they are evil & extremely manipulative & deceitful. They gain so much joy out of your pain & suffering.
Perfect demonstration, I have experienced everything you explained. They hurt your soul by the manipulative things they do plunging you in an ocean of confusion because they refuse to accept they are ever wrong even when it is evident.
For those who truly love the need for control dissolves into a desire to see them fulfill their fullest potential. 1 Corinthians 13 says it so perfectly: love does not envy or boast. It keeps no records of wrongs. Love believes all things. Hopes all things. Endures all things." Read the chapter and to see the character of a FM narc see the complete opposite. Accept it will never change no matter how much you love them. Love cannot overcome this program. Lose the rose colored 👓. 😎🙏🏼
Good God why is this so rampant!?!?! My former wife of only 4 years was 10 of 10 of these points except for no children together. I went into near shock just a couple days ago - yes 3 years after me divorcing her... realizing the hell it would have been had we had a child in this mix because I would have lost my mind. As it was, she used her own grown daughter when it was convenient for her cause. This woman was gorgeous, a slick sales pitch and could lie like none other. Like pouring water - the lies were as fluid and on the fly. I got away light, thank the Good Lord, but I did plan for a year and it still cost me half by law, but still single 3 years later (still not over the hell she delivered) but in a nice peaceful bit of land to stretch mentally now. Thank you Dear for sharing so much knowledge and experience with us who at one point in these relationships literally asked ourselves "Is it me?!?!" "Did I cause THAT reaction!!?!" These videos teach us to look back and understand exactly where the problems are....so that we can then purge and move on. Thank you again!
did you cause this reaction ? no it was no you my friend and there is nothing you could have done, I have nothing today I spent a night in a cell, they even lie to the police, I'd rather have nothing to my name as long as that witch is nowhere near me
15 YEARS I SPENT WITH HER.THE TRUE MALIGNANCY CAME OUT AROUND 2013.SHE BEGGED ME BACK INTO HER LIFE.WAS BARELY BEARABLE TIL ABOUT 2019.FULL ON MALIGNANCY WAS UNMASKED 3 MONTHS 6 DAYS AGO.....THE AMOUNT OF TIME I'VE BEEN NO CONTACT.SHE COULD HAVE BEEN AN OSCAR WINNING ACTRESS IN EVERY WAY😪
@@kingsix2000 TYVM.UNDERSTANDING,&BREAKING THE TRAUMA BOND WAS MORE DIFFICULT THAN MY TOURS TO THE MIDEAST DESERT....LITERALLY.STILL IN STRENGTH TRAINING RECOVERY.I LOVED HER SOOOOO MUCH.BUT REALIZING THE FACT THAT THE NARC IS INCAPABLE OF LOVE HELPS A TEENSY WEENSY BIT😪
Eric, I was married 11 yrs I've dated a few others long term but never thought about marriage to any of them , then I met my exwife she was very cute and I truly thought I met my soulmate because she loved everything I did the same I used the word amazing to people close to me I actually never ever thought I would get married and it wasn't something I even really cared about , but I used to say in the beginning we fit together like a puzzle go figure , but meeting her family my gut always told me something was off really off , anyway it was great 4 years in we had a son that's when things started to change bigtime, I was ignored and I would justify it by saying to myself well its normal we now have a child things are gonna change , but then her parents sold the family home and moved very close to us that's when I knew trouble was coming, her parents now freshly retired were a constant pain in my ass , I would come home from work to see her father in my yard planting bushes and flowers what ever he wanted like it was his house this became a constant and I told my wife please tell your father to find another hobby that's when shit started getting worse because all of sudden I realized I was being over run on my own property slowly they were like termites destroying my life little by little , sex was gone it was unraveling very fast and I was working alot of hours and my ex was a elementary school teacher so she had the summers off , so they would all enjoy summer vacation along w my now little 4 yr old boy I would come home to an empty house no dinner nothing it was bad , then it came one Friday night her parents came took my son and we were supposed to go have a night out dinner drinks whatever but that was not the plan o no she wasted no time when were finally alone that shes been seeing a lawyer and was divorcing me she was crying saying how much she loved me but went behind my back no clue not even maybe marriage counseling so the next morning Saturday morning the doorbell rang early so early state Marshall already had the divorce papers drawn up it was a evil plan that had been hatched by her asshole parents and her so I was out ! My little 5 yr old son said to me daddy why are you leaving us?? anyway it was amazing to watch someone you thought loved you switch into something you did not recognize at all anymore! From wife to stranger in a snap amazing! Good news now is that my son is 14 and finally starting to realize what really happened because hes been weaponized and lied to for years a true nightmare emotionally and financially! I tried dating again but I cant trust anyone like that again it's not worth it!!
@@hugmc Though I appreciate the sentiments I do not think about retribution so what you said has no solice in it for me for it does not un-break my heart.
I had a dating rule: if they were in anyway aggressive or condescending to service people, it was the last date: no kiss goodnight either. RUN!!
But be careful : they can put on a show when they need to win someone's trust. Everybody around me is convinced that my sister is an amazing "beautiful soul". Boy she can fool people. Once you're hooked, it's torture time.
Labo Traduc took the words right out of my mouth.....don't trust your litmus test....they are empathetic in as far as a predatory sense goes, and will release what they need to put on and or hide to fool you.
I guess I've always had a broader rule about people: watch how they treat people they don't have to be nice too. If they treat them like tools, then you know they have bad character. Eventually, ultimately, that kind aggression, condescension, contempt--whatever--aill be coming your way. And anyway, you've seen their true bullying self. I'm with my current girlfriend because, really, she has a heart of gold. I've never seen her mistreat anyone, and I've seen her do extraordinary kindnesses for strangers. And she's not nauseatingly sweet either: we do laugh about people's foibles, including our own and each others. Just fun, funny, kind, and real. A gem. I got lucky
Hillary Clinton and ALL other females (and males too) in politics are very malignant narcissist psychopaths. The worst kind! 👹
Sometimes they can be extra sweet and generous with the waiter/service people but be mean to the person closest to them.
They’re professional actors. They have mastered how to mimic a normal human being. GOLDEN WORDS!!
Yes. Academy award-winning worthy performers. And the mimicking the behaviors emotionally mentally healthy people, is I learned skill for them. Oh, God forgive me, they make me sick!
They are not even good at it either. I had a female malignant narcissist attach herself to me, I barely knew her, and she was telling everyone we were best friends so that she could stalk me, because I called her out on lying straight to my face and around our town that she is a famous, professional agency model. I worked in this field for over 10 years as a scout, and knew she was lying immediately. She was not an ugly woman, but claimed that she was signed to the fashion division of a top agency, yet was 5'5, pushing 200 pounds and 40 years old. This is not me knocking her looks at all, it's just the outrageousness of her lies. And I called her out, so she began stalking and harsssing me until I went to the police. There are suckers out there who believe her story too, despite all of the evidence to the contrary. Pretty sick to lie about your entire adult career.
So accurate
it would be okay, if they had real talent......sad how they have no idea how others feel. have a boundary, flee them.
you have discribed my WIFE 100% i have 3 kids and 9 1/2 years 3 jobs. and flourishing side buisness.
im sitting herw at 630 am at a gas station. in disbeif thats not my life but laying it outon the. table its a carbon copy text book i was successful auto MECHANIC. every thing you say describes my Wife.
im at a gas station. with my jaw on the floor im stuck cause of fear for my. CHILDREN
I am a daughter of a malignant narcissist and ex wife of malignant narcissist. I find living alone to be peaceful bliss. If the malignant narcissist ignores you, rejoice and quietly move away and stay away. Malignant narcissists are evil, pure destructive evil.
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At what age did you start to understand what your mom was ?
I'm staying rich and SINGLE--TY
i had 23 years of it--i got to the stage where i couldn't handle anymore so slowly planned my escape
Same. I'm finally single and couldn't be happier
I began a relationship with a woman that turned up being so toxic and selfish that I ended up thinking that I had some sort of mental illness and that I should seek psychiatric help asap. I felt like a horrible man. As soon as I close that door I realized that there wasn't anything wrong with me. It was her. Pure evil. Now the scar is healed, but not gonna lie, took great time and effort. Thank you very much for all the info and tips to detect and avoid those women.
Three weeks ago I lost my car my money,all my keys,some tools a toolbox and important cards from my wallet.She was a Evil,uncompromising relentless vile discusting thing with no conscience.Im having a hard time getting over the fact that all the things I did for her didn't mean anything to her.I want to sign a warrant for her stealing my car but would I have any future retaliation from her pimp,her or anyone she knows.My sister,my friend and my brother told me to move on.Thats hard to do because I have been betrayed and seriously hurt.
was prob you
After the discard my insomnia disappeared. But there dangerous as heck she looks like an angel but turns to be another entity. She suppose to be my caretaker about to get jaw surgery but it was all an act and lie. She was after my assets I known her for 10 years. Triangulation I have a hunch she enjoys me in pain I saw malignant in her and my instincts to go no contact. Can imagine her in my house backstabbing in my sleep.
@@Darren-su2gmi'm sorry that you were betrayed Darren. Prayers for your healing in forgiveness and letting go. I need to same, because the Narcissists in my life are my rich family members. I am ✂️them.out of my life completely and moving forward with life in another state.
@@donkeywhistlerThat is not a kind thing to say Kevin.
What is truly astounding about the narcissist is how unrelenting their revenge is they just don't stop , until they've turn everyone against you .
you do not need them or the people they badmouth you too, I have noted they do flock together. took me years to see it.
@@alomaalber6514 Yeah, cluster B's tend to hang out together and roam in packs. Unproductive criminally minded losers
Yeah they're puke. Some people must like puke. They're worthless losers. Leave them all. Let them dry and die.
Yes, but the revenge they seek is against a nonexistent offense.
Well ...she turned everyone against me so i can pretty well see that i dont need anyone but me
She could switch from terrifying rage into crumbling to tears and then be all smile and joyful in a split second.
Experienced the exact same thing...
my ex haha
Been there! It's surreal and insane.
Facts
Damn sounds like my mother 😬
When will this become illegal ? Psychological, emotional abuse and murder of the soul...
The problem is, you get in jail, because these people act you there. Think about it. 😉
Sounds like the priesthood
You can still sue whoever for reparations
I have thought that very thing. I call it emotional rape. No different than physical rape.
In the UK, psychological and emotional abuse has been a crime since 2015.
If you really want to make a Narcissist suffer, they can’t stand indifference, as simple as it may be, that right there is your secret weapon!!
Narcs also hate when you ignore them, because you invalidate their ability to fan their toxic narc air at you
excellent point.
@@aegisreflector1239 💯👏👏👏
@@aegisreflector1239 What do you think “indifference” is Short Bus?..
@@johnnyblaze2257 Here's my indifference to you 🖕🖕dooshbag
My mother destroyed me in every way. I allowed it because I had no self-esteem and she was so expertly covert for so very long. I spent too much of my life wondering what was wrong with *me*
I hope you are well now. It seriously made me mentally ill for so long. Turns out my mother was projecting her own behavior onto me. As a child we are still learning how the world operates and to have a mother likes this is extremely unfortunate. We can overcome the pain!
Been trough the same. Stay strong and know that God Jesus love u. It saved me!!!
God bless u all!!! ❤️
Did anybody on this thread lose the love of a good Father due to the behaviour of the malignant narcissistic Mother???
@@BLITZY261 I did!! My father left insane and bitter. I lost him for good. But I have a heavenly father. Keep ya head up!! It's hard and not simple. The pain is alive. Keep going and never give up
The computer in the 1983 movie "WarGames" said, "A strange game... the only way to win is not to play."
Much agreed. As as I often say,. Only losers play games.
As in going " No Contact " with a Narcsissist
Yes
I was discarded in the most horrific way by one of these demons, and for that I’ll be forever grateful.
It is torture
dodged a huge bullet my friend
Please, take my wife!!!
I know how it goes
This!!! 💯
The thing my narcissist said to me when I called her out on her behaviour "I was reacting to the way I was being treated by you"
Been there. Text book counter move.
A narc will always project and accuse you first, of the toxic narc behavior they have, but once you know they are a complete narc, they're gas lighting and games fall apart.
Because all their faults are your fault.
Yeah, dated one for awhile.
Shut her down too.
It's a little pathological, but backing narcs into a corner is a bit entertaining.
@@rattletrap1 my kids's mom is just like that blaming me for every single thing that she's unhappy about it is all my fault,. And she is never happy, constantly lying, saying things that are hurtful to the kids....never takes accountability or has to be responsible for anything I have custody of my boys now but I even was married to someone else and the kids Mom refuses to leave like she has every right to stay in the house just because shes mom...... I'm not sure how to fix it idk
The old flip huh
Yes! We need a whole Narcissist awareness month!
There are female narcissist celebs modeling this behavior as some kind of feminist ideal for their impressionable fans. Hard to ID malignant behavior when it makes someone rich, famous and adored.
That might backfire...lol
I think our culture has been celebrating narcissistic characteristics for a long time, either under the guise of alpha males or divas. Unfortunately these behaviors are normalized.
YES!!!! We need to expose these abusers and create awareness in the world!
We need to have a year of it. Nay, a decade. Yes yes.
My sister. She made my life hell. Everyone thinks she wonderful but she is a monster.
Same here. My "sisters" were SADISTIC..
They are hypocrites and everyone thinks they're great.
My two older sisters, mostly absent emotionally during childhood, made me "turn on" during the 1970s. I didn't understand it and have been trying to sort it out for a decade. I think I found the answers I need. At my lowest point in my life, my best sister cut me with a knife in the front. I broke down and cried like never before, and after a few minutes, she begged my forgiveness, and I gave it. She cried out in pain to me.... "I always seem to hurt the ones I love the most". I understand that feeling. But I have been looking for the reason ever since. I still love her. I think she loves me as much as she is capable of love. Now, I feel a bit sorry for her. Mostly, I feel sorry for the close relationship I wanted to have but could never even start. Our mother and her sister were very close, so I know what it looks like. We simply chat about six times a year, knowing that's all either one of us can endure. She prefers to court people that don't know her, and I prefer having close relationships, so we have no basis to join up anymore. We will be long distance frenemies for life. Thank God I found understanding for our lack of a real sister/sister relationship. I always wondered why. With a few unexpected outbursts of the typical narcissistic anger and attitude of superiority, my sisters mostly have just been absent from my life. Our mother filled in most of the gap until she died 34 years ago. I guess I am pretty lucky not to have endured much sadism. I do see it in their eyes, the blank stares and that ever enduring attitude of deserved excess enrichment. They are miserable. I can see that, too. That's why I won't abandon my best sister. The other one is so far gone from my life, it really does not matter anymore.
My older brother used to hit on my girlfriends one actually slept w him it was unreal to me that my own brother did this that was the final straw for me I was done with him and her ofcourse but I saw him at a party and I was a bit drunk and just seeing him my mood went from happy to revenge anger ! Let's just say police were called !
My ex wife and mother of my son
I married one and after 5 years my life was utterly destroyed. And she took pleasure in it. She did hide behind her femininity and beauty. She told me she had been married once before and I found out after 4 years of devastation she'd been married 8 times before? She said she was Christian? lol. Not hardly. Glad it's over and it will take me years to reassemble my life but at least I'm away from her. I literally left with the clothes on my back, and slept in my truck for weeks, and it's been great to be away from the insanity. A background check would have saved me a lot of pain. satan is real. Healing in Seattle.
Damn bro, satan?, crazy because that sounds like the one I'm dating now. Recently I found myself handcuffed next to her surrounded by 3 heavily armed police officers, she was sitting next to me handcuffed as well, I turned and asked her if she was satan. She did not answer me, and then said with a smile I'm not satan. True story.
@@blackmasculine1 I asked mine the same thing? No answer other then once she said "Your satan" deflecting? Lol
@@strongdelusion9442Perhaps, maybe we have just asked the wrong question. Maybe the question should be, are you of hell?
They always use the religious/faith angle to attack a target. In reality, they don't believe in a God, let alone a God that isn't them. If they can't recite scripture, if you don't see them actively studying or living a Christian lifestyle (and even then beware because it could be a part of the mask or false person) then that's your clue that you're being lied to. They only speak words that tell us what they think we want to hear, but they're so stupid that they don't know we're watching their actions. On that, they can act like they are.....for awhile. Method acting is exhausting, so if they're lying to you, they'll switch their personalities and you'll know for sure that she's complete shit.
@@ashelton774 "On the money" with that comment, and I know that for a fact, experienced it first hand! My biggest mistake was not leaving immediately after she was exposed a fraud, I stayed a few more years and destruction followed!
Excellent commentary
After 25 years of divorce I am still recovering emotionally and financially from a malignant narcissist.
If you are in a relationship with a woman described, get out now before it is too late.
Staying will shorten your life and destroy you financially
Don’t be a co dependant. God wants you to be happy.
Nobody deserves to be mistreated.
.....Then look closely at your childhood to see how and why you were attracted to her
Good luck. Better times lie ahead
Bingo !
20 year recover here. Currently helping my daughter deal with the beast.
"I've done nothing wrong" was the exact repeated wording when I called out my narc for his abusive behavior. All narcs operate the same way. In the beginning they mirror and you feel like they are your best friend who just suddenly appeared out of nowhere. At the discard phase, they are absolutely deaf, blind, and dumb to the pain they cause thru public humiliation.
Wow how many times have I heard those words, and until seeing you say it I never paid any special attention to it
It's a true bait and switch!
the honeymoon phase ends with a narcissist when they learn all there is about the object of their affection and then the boredom phase begins and they start to get irritable and distant. The more someone has for a narcissist to learn from the longer the honeymoon phase is for them.
That is their go-to phrase!
This is so very true
lick your wounds, pick yourself up and brush off your knees.... then run as fast as you can the other way and don't look back.
Great advice!
I'm a soldier, I return fire. Wait 'em out, they'll leave you eventually once they realize you're not a primary source of supply.
If you still have a way or a place to run to. I absolutely agree. Go and go far.
God bless you.
Yessir
My family was targeted by a Female Malignant Narcissist. Everything you say is spot on. This Pathetic, sad and extremely scary woman just turned 30 and I can tell you these people really do rot from the soul out.
Yes... poison on two feet. 😳
These people need to be locked away and institutionalized permanently. I cannot understand how we let people like this be among normal humans. They are not just monsters, they don't know they have a problem, and cannot be cured.
Its very sad. I know a woman who was beautiful, but no longer. Its like the toxic interior has eroded her outer appearance.
My ex was a demon in a human form. I nearly ended my life over her. She's now "happily" married to a guy that's way down from her league (at least when it comes to looks) but hey, she's traveling the world with him now, which is what she wanted to do with me, except we worked for same company for same shitty pay and I couldn't afford taking her everywhere around the world. The poor guy doesn't even know he's just being used. She couldn't control me, but I am pretty sure she wears the pants in this marriage.
SEDUCTIVE AND ALL ABOUT SEX
I am frightened for my grandson. He is an only child. His mother is a rabid narc. His father is an alcoholic. Pray for him, please. His name is Hunter.💔💜💙🙏
I’ll add his name to the dependent adults ‘raised’ by a MN mother who is the worst example.
The female Covert Narc is way more dangerous..Never forget that sneer when the mask drops..Plays the damsel in distress to perfection..
it is sad and dangerous. and sometimes in families, I did well but I left home for 20 years to do well.
And that is one of the reasons they do very well in divorce court.
All those women have sweaty summer sex with the great golden yaks of the western plains.. They really have nothing to live for or be proud of. Let them rot in their own filth. They are losers.
Fuck yea they do
My mom a covert Narcissist and my sister is a Malignant Narcissist with Grandiose tendencies. Both are evil. No contact since 2000.
This is the most honest, clear description of a malignant narcissist I've ever heard or read about. "Mommy Dearest" indeed.
Yes, I agree. Especially on youtube.
Mommy dearest is my mother, the malignant narcissist is my evil soul sucking exwife.
I was thinking the same thing. I have read alot of things on this subject. This is a perfect description.
This was my ex-wife back in the mid 1980s: a four year roller coaster of insanity. I never knew someone could be so shallow and manipulative (met her at a Bible study!). It was like she morphed into this different malevolent person after the wedding vows. She had an inability to apologise or accept responsibility while at the same time maintaining that everything wrong in the marriage was my fault. I ended up being mentally in knots trying to keep her happy and work out how to keep the marriage going. After she walked out I felt a sense of relief. She moved on quickly with a new boyfriend a couple of months into the separation and they married within six months of the divorce. Years later I heard she blew up that marriage and then moved to another guy.
i went through the exact same thing. I was pretty defeated after 6 years. I was barely able to escape. She had moved in with another guy within 3 months of me leaving. It took me 12 years later before I figured out what happened. She was a covert narcissist. Thanks to the internet or I wouldn't have ever figured it out.
It is the WEAK Jezabel spirit. Once you see the real face, back off with STABEL boundaries.
Thanks for this precious information! ❣❣❣
You're not alone... the "everything went to hell right after the wedding" experience happened to me also. Glad you are out of it; I am too. Free!! Freedom is priceless. 🏞
Yeah they are good a faking real feelings They don't seem to have any real ones And if they do they don't let it stop them
Dated a narcissist I’m pretty sure. Same thing as you. Within 3 months of breaking up she got married to another guy. Interesting to see the patterns
This is as brutal as physical abuse if not more. It's a crime. Punish them
Oh here here 🤝 God will have vengeance
@@hollyharte7831no vengeance, ... justice yes
In France and in the UK, psychological and financial abuse are recognized as crimes.
And unfortunately they usually get away with it. At least for now. 😢
why not punish you instead?
My ex wife mirrored me and we got married. Pretty soon she started complaining that I expected her to be something she wasn't and she didn't expect that from me. I expected her to be who she advertised to me during courtship, the reasons why I married her.
That's exactly what I did after 26 years, cut my losses. Lost everything in the process. My kids, house and reputation. But I'm happy and calm for the first time in my life. They are evil in every possible way.
Hoping my inlaws will die before I have to put up with them that long.
Omg i thought i had the only evil witch this world had to offer?
@@mines1er lol I'll tell you one thing. I can see them very clearly now and they are everywhere. Be afraid.!!!
I am afraid are you kidding me ? She took everything , wont let me see my kid and the gang bangers around the hood are convinced of lies she tells about me .. and i hope i can spot them now , they are satanic to me ... ive wanted to die at one point
MegaPerson012345 is the family in on there bullshit too?
I had a boss like this. She would invite everyone out for drinks only to get people wasted and get dirt on the people she was targeting.
Dafuq she did call people I refused and she used that time to bond with others and to turn people against me
Great video. I just escaped this demon after 13 years of up and down and walking on egg shells. As we all know, when you discover how evil the person that you loved is, it's staggering and shocking. I feel for all of you that have felt this betrayal and pain. It's a long road back to normalcy for all of us. Hang tough fellow survivors, we got this !!!!
I got out after 13 years too
I am still trying to get out. But i find my self thinking of her feelings all the time, and trying not to hurt her. But to be fair, she still treat me like shit. No sex for one year and a half. Constant belittling. I must admit that it is getting to me. I have these mixed feelings constantly. Before i met her, i was capable of making decisions, and have a normal social life. Now 15 years later i am broken, and hoping that i will regain some confidence to stand up for myself.
@@flemmingpetersen419 I went through a identical situation. Twelve year marriage, divorced now six months. It drains you physically and mentally.
@@tennbones I am glad to hear that you are out off the relationship. How are you doing - you know it is comments like yours that give me hope of reaching my own personal freedom some day. ❤️
13 years for me also!
The most important take away from this video is the fact that the only to deal with these reptiles is to get them completely out of your life.
It's always in the eyes.....the eyes of a serpent
Wish mama had warned me about these type of ladies. My beautiful first wife was one, i bought her cars, a house, we had 2 kids, she didnt have to work, so when i learned she was having an affair with my cousin, she denied ,denied, denied, until she finally admitted that it was my fault for having 2 jobs & not giving her enough time.. You ever really wanna piss-em off, get a protection order for you & your kids & change your phone number! Thank God its been 20 years now & she lives in another state, whenever she's not in jail :) . . . Its verrry sad to try to love someone that doesnt know the meaning,,good luck ya'all . . .
I want back everything abd I'm seling em. Such a person deserve to be in a hut.
Im glad you got your kids away from that horror show. Well done. Im usually against children being kept from a parent but when it comes to malignant narcissists or any other kind of abuser, keeping children away is justified.
@@susiex6669 - Honestly, i was in very depressed & heartbroken over the split because she was the one that took the kids to another city without my consent.. long story short, HER brother & mother brought me the kids & asked me to protect them , i was in medical field & asked colleges with family counseling experience 4 advice with the best intention for my kids welfare. The protection order came when i met another woman & she came back around with repeated aggressive stalking & harassment & vandalism. I was fortunate that a police officer lived across the street & witnessed some of it because she was pretty, petite, & had a silver tongue,,, MASSSTER MANIPULATOR! I was a bit rugged & bulky into weight lifting, had tatoos, grew up poor & it was very easy to take her side on any legal issue.. I still believe she was toxic enough to the picture that i thank my stars that she was so self centered & in & out of jail/prison over the years & just chose to stay away after the protection order. I felt guilty for years , but i finally realized her damage was prenatal or from early childhood trauma & i was not able to help her, tho i do feel compassion for her & her family who missed out on the beautiful experiences of raising children etc. i didnt have educational material & internet like this at the time ( the 90s) so i appreciate videos like this now that help people navigate life in a healthier way ! Many just dont have very good mentors or healthy models to live by, so i hope content like this helps many & possibly saves lives .
P.S. these people(real narcs) are not a joke! the harassment & hateful slander continue to this day. I cant show my face or real name online anywhere because she Hacks & Trolls me in unbelievable ways.. I may write a book about it one day :) ! Do Your Deep Homework before Sleeping with the Devil folks !!The Wildfire is very destructive & may burn for years...
- Live Blessed All Ways & always, every new day is what we choose to make of it,,, yes or yes ! . . . :)
@@zenhalo1 My mother is a malignant narcissist and I suffered years of abuse at her hands. When my father was alive I asked him many times why he didnt just divorce my mother and keep us away from her and he just told us that it would have been impossible for a father to get custody. So there we stayed and are four kids who have various levels of damage thanks to my mother, my sister being the worst off who has full blown schizophrenia. When she was younger, she gleefully played the role of my mother's flying monkey and it didnt work out for her. So its because of what I lived through in my childhood that I compliment you for protecting your children from your ex-wife's poison. I saw my mother for what she was since I was a child so I never internalized her lunacy but not all children are equipped to deal with narcissists. It will destroy children, Ive seen it. And its honorable of to feel some pity for the ex because of her childhood but I feel none for my mother. Everything in life is a choice. Just because bad is done to you doesnt mean you get to inflict it on others. As a matter of fact, if you are a decent human being, hardship should deepen your sense of empathy, not make you evil. Im glad there was a happy ending to your story, bless.
All I can say is WOW 😯
I work as a receptionist at an urgent care with a narcissist. Which was fine (kind of), up until someone wrote a bad Yelp review and named her. Since then she's been relentless at harming me. Today, I found out she lied about me to my supervisor. Now she's actively trying to get me fired, that's my cue to exit. Thank you for this vid, it validates the past 2 yrs for me and makes me feel less "crazy".
I wish I had watched this video two years ago. My ex-girlfriend matches all 10 charachteristics, and she has destroyed my life completely - so much so that I will never recover. Within 12 months of meeting her, I went from owning a successfull business, a condo overlooking the ocean and a $100,000 Mercedes Benz to having my 30 career destroyed, every single thing I owned stolen by her or destroyed by her, thrown in jail (she tried to frame me for attempted murder). I wound up homeless on the city streets for over a month begging for food. My life is over. I just never thought anyone could be so mean. They have NO LIMITS and will lie their ass off to the police, steal and destroy your property and ruin all your friendshps. She truly was the most vicious person I've ever encountered.
Hope you are doing better now 🙏🏾
I feel for you. Almost happened to me. The Lord looked out for me all praise be to the Lord. Keep your head up. 🙏
Same here Josh - you keep forgiving them and the damage just gets bigger. Evil lives in them
May be I have encountered not dissimilarity related behavior in relationships. This brings to mind instances in my own behavior, even in the one laying beside me at the moment. I wonder what wreckage I've caused in my life acting in this manner, what wreckage I've encountered with my choice of sexual partners.. is it time to consider leaving myself, or (since it's a lot easier) even this unsilent sleeper here?
Hmm (Thoughtfully sinks back into full shut down defensive mechanisms, & behaviors, doesn't answer own question.)
sounds like my now EX
Honestly, I believe they derive their reality from whatever television programs they happen to be watching.
Yes! I have an extremely narc and toxic sibling. Its fascinating now how I study him as if it was an alien creature. I can see vast amount of vicariousness in their mental thought patterns. Whatever they see or hear on tv or online that they like. They will take it as theirs,as their truth. I noticed for my narc, it's very difficult to have a completely original independent thought.
Dark Shadows, the soap opera. And claim to be witches.
Love after lockup.
My son’s mother used to accuse me of living Sex in the City (I lived in NYC at the time). She genuinely thought it was a real portrayal of life in Manhattan.
Or RUclips videos they're watching.
We call this a Jezebel. It's easy to spot especially now.
Thank God.
Yep. Called my husbands girlfriend this.
I had an ex like this and after everything ended jezebel was the first thing that came to my mind for comparison. You hit it spot on 😂
I call mine Medusa, she turned my father into stone
Oh yes. Once you’ve seen it up close, you can spot it from a mile away.
Sounds like a demon...
"The devil comes to steal kill and destroy..."
I'm tired of people using an entity to use as a scapegoat for their actions. Your fellow man is your enemy. You have no idea the depravity and evil human beings are capable.
Full of demons
I heard this said recently, " If satan can't get to you, he will often sends someone else..."
@@garnetjensen5523 True this. And anyone who has ever gotten that contemptuous smirk from a hardcore narcissist knows that there is something positively diabolical behind it. Like pure unfiltered evil.
It is demonic possession from my perspective as a follower of Jesus and the son of a malignant narcissist.
Wow. I knew my long-term ex gf (a couple of days away from fiance) exhibited some narcissistic traits but consciously chose to put that aside, which was a colossal mistake...my only life regret. The terms "mirroring" & "love bomb" got my attention immediately because that's exactly how it started, I could do or say no wrong & thought I'd found someone that "got me". I learned almost overnight a couple of years later that it was just a massive plot to manipulate. I'd never heard of "malignant" narcissism until running across this vid & damn if this vid doesn't describe her about 99.9%. This is real, people, and should be taken seriously. It could quite literally cost you your life. WALK. AWAY.
When you have fallen into the trap of the covert malignant narcissist, it's hard to get out. Especially when they know you know, and they don't have a new victim ready to fill in the gap. When you are a good supply, they don't let you go easily. But the hardest thing of it all, is the understanding and acceptance of what finally happened. It literally makes you sick to the stomach. I am out for 5 years, but still feel this way when I think back of my time with te narcissist.
Your right. It took me 12 years after I left to figure out what happened in that relationship because at the time I had no clue. I was so baffled as to what happened. How could something that started out so well just turn to crap over time and there was no discussing it. I finally escaped. I'm sorry I ever told her I was leaving because she made it as hard as possible. You never tell abusers your leaving if possible. Only when I came across the npd information years later did it finally click and I was like, that's what happened to me! I had rage for 2 years after that and 3 more years of anger. Then everything made sense. At least you know what your dealing with. Good luck.
I’m out for 3 years after a 10 year marriage. I didn’t figure it all out until after. It’s one one thing that they are malignant narcissists, but you you really have to unravel why you walked right into this demons den in the first place. I have so much peacefulness now, but I still find myself ruminating the story in my head.
@@jerrys9226 Definitely agree. At the point I figured out my ex was npd I was working on my issues in a 12 step program for about 10 years. I figured out my part of the problem which I was a codependent. So knowing I was half the problem and had to take my responsibility in that. Npd's and codependents are like dysfunctional peanut butter and jelly and unfortunately seems to be a pretty common type of relationship. Good for narcs bad for codependents.
I find that just talking about it with safe people and feeling the feelings about helps me to slowly let it go. However when I figured her out I also figured out several other people who were in or who had been in my life, like my older brother, that were npd's. So It was a lot of anger for all of these people as well. 6 years later I'm much better.
Disgusting flesh.
esp when they know you know.. :|
They destroy you and make you discredible in front of others
You know just in case you decide to expose them one day
They destroy you with lies because they know you can destroy them with the truth
This is my mother. I didn't realize it until I was 42 and I started working w a pediatric physician who specializes in behavioral issues. I was going through so much at the time and was just being attacked by my mom in all aspects of my life. I was miserable. So I opened up to my boss and she asked me if I have ever heard of NPD. I hadn't but I dove into finding out everything I could and the doors started opening. Two yrs later and I'm now no contact and I'm so much more happy. My stress levels are down, chronic physical pain is gone and I've started living my life for me. It didn't happen over night and she sure tried to destroy everything in my life when I put a stop to her abuse but she didn't win. These videos are so helpful in this journey
Angel Johnson - I’m so happy you finally found the information you so desperately needed and gained the strength to get away ❤️
Amen sister💜,Godbless you.Im so happy to hear you talking like that & have been delivered.Took me 37 years to shake my 2 faced guilt tripping mother off.Emotional manipulators are all the same,"pride goeth before the fall" as the Bible says.John 10:3 To him the porter openeth; and the sheep hear his voice: and he calleth his own sheep by name, and leadeth them out.(KJV).JESUS collects HIS sheep!.
Same here. But it's my father that's the narcissist. His brother was one too and my paternal grandmother was one, no doubt, even though she died when I was about 7.
Me to well I was about 40 when I found out as well,and at the age of 45 I stood up to her and ever since then she's been nice, wierd.
Your situation sounds like mine but I'm still stuck. I had no idea what NPD was as well but once you do the homework its game over. You know you have to get away for your own sanity no matter what. Good that you did not put mom on a pedestal like so many people do.
You nailed my ex, lost my house and everything. I just walked away after 15 years, and I am so happy!
It's worth it.. materials can always be replaced --your peace however needs to be protected at any cost
Same hear, after 32 years of what I thought was a sound loving marriage...until I told her I was going to retire in two months. Mine divorced me and got everything too, except my pension...never been happier and so stress free in my life.
Dealing with them in the workplace can really destroy you. If you are the ONE and ONLY person who sees through their manipulations and acts accordingly (grey rock)...it's the easiest thing in the world for them to turn everyone against you and play the victim. So many times I walk into work and people I was friendly with the DAY BEFORE are staring daggers and refusing to even say hello. It's absolutely horrifying.
Yes they apparently smear you from day one. They smear everyone to everyone else. They are doing the devil's work for him and are likely to share his eternal fate if they don't repent.
This is bone chilling. You have just described my daughters school ‘friend’. She put my daughter through hell on a regular basis, would turn on the charm and the whole cycle would start again. No one would listen to me about her extremely worrying behaviour, violence, entitlement and pathological envy of my daughter. All the while she had everyone believing she was wonderful.
They’re in different schools now but I always known she will seriously harm someone, or worse in the future.
We all need to run from people like this.
It's like they have a invisible"I'm the Saint ," curtain around them. It's bafflingly to say the least. Almost as if they all are hypnotist. The triangulation is utter evil. 😉 Some crazy Krazy crap.
@Gabriella Ross So sorry. Gaslighting is so sinister. I used to tell my Narc wife"Oh you going to light me up again?" When I finally figured out , supposed loved ones do that to you. Praying for a healthy recovery for you. ❤️
Social media makes a lot of girls like this as well as guys to. The very concept of Facebook is pure narcissism. Every post is Me me me me.
Just look at " Selfies"!
There are ppl who are trying their best to counter your statements.. facebook.com/djCHOZiN1
Yes, you are so right.
🎯 💯
@@jasa9707 I watched this in its entirety. Great interview. Thanks for posting.
"Cut your losses." That seems to be a theme in my life when dealing with women and with employers.
I'm right there with you.
Don't forget some apartment owners and some of the managers and creepy maintenance people they hire.
This is my mother. Thankfully she abandoned me when I was weeks old and we didn't meet until I was a teenager. She made my skin crawl right away. I stuck around for a few years because I kept waiting to be wrong. Hell, I wanted to be wrong about her. But I never got attached because she never gave me a reason to. I've trusted my gut ever since, thanks for helping me understand what happened more. It helps me deal with the blame she insisted on dumping on me.
Good for you; I'm proud of you. 👏
My mother is Queen Narc. Im broke, so i really appreciate your videos. Its my therapy. Thank you
The more I dig into this behavior, I am completely blown away! It's like the scales falling off my eyes!
My entire life has been completely consumed by one narcissist after another!
I just want to thank you for sharing this information. I really thought I was going out of my mind, as far back as childhood.
Thank you!!!!!!!!
Cyndi leary, same here.
Yup, same here
The more empathic you are, the more they will try to reel you in
@@kevinharper3033 people perceive me as “nice “ and “Christian” even tho I’m not . Why are they attracted to nice people
Yes, same here. I'm thankful to Jesus for taking me out of that hell.
These are not people they are demons..watch out!
agreed
A different species. True. They are cannibals within the brood womb. 'Superior.' They have to believe they are superior in order to live. A virus thinks the same way. They have absolutelty no vitality without us. It is we who are truly vital and superior. We don't need them. This scares them.
it seems like it at times. if it is your family have a boundary, if an acquaintance, flee.
Agreed!
They walk amongst us ,it’s a reality check for sure!
If I had any doubts that my mother is a malignant covert narcissist, now I am sure.
Thank you Jill
That cry on demand really was a spectacle to see. Face red. Slobby mouth. Absolutely zero tears.
lol...when she started crying because I asked her not to touch my hair I knew then...this chick is nuts!
Typically, when they cry it's because you're not giving them what they want, or you've figured them out. It's fake, it's designed to control you and the argument that they started. One thing they hate, is force. You force them in an argument, or legally, they'll cave. They've never adapted to the real world, they live in a fiction where they always get their way through manipulation, love bombing, and fake crying. It should be legal to kill them.
Tears don’t mean shit, some people make tears in demand.
Now I realized what's been going on with my so called friend. It makes since. Now that I'm learning about this I see these people everywhere
Bingo!
Yes. Once you wake up to these characteristics you can sometimes spot them. Other times it has taken me awhile because they are so good with the mask and the persona. I was so fooled by one of these "people" that my brain didn't want to listen to my intuition. I felt as if there was a battle between both sides of my brain when it finally clicked. I was so devastated by this reality because I thought the world of this person. She was cute, caring, intelligent and I thought compassionate. Little did I know she was mirroring me. You really don't get this until you've been through it.
@@brianwalsh1401 yeah I completely understand and it's heartbreaking and it's shocking. Now that I've learned about it when I look back throughout my life it makes sense why some of the people was the way they was in my life even just the people that I came across even some of people that raised me because my mother was murdered when I was seven so I've been to quite a few homes bounced around here and there since I was 7 years old. I've been reflecting back and it's just gut-wrenching and heartbreaking to know that most of the men that was in my life as a child and even when I got older had this it was something that didn't make sense then but now it does. So I have to really take a look at myself and work on my self-esteem do a lot of stuff so this doesn't keep happening in relationships but this last one was so devastating that there's no way I'm dating anybody anytime soon I have a lot of healing to do from that and previous Life Choices. I do understand it's good that there's these channels and information was people that can relate because when I try to talk to people that are around me or that I know they have no clue what I'm talking about they think I'm not sore it's not as bad as I'm making it out to be. It's like frustrating trying to explain it to somebody so when I talk to somebody on here that knows what it's like kind of a relief that I'm not alone and that I wasn't at fault here in a lot of ways and that I'm not a bad person I just have to work on some things and look at myself and learn to love myself take care
@@marlastininger7720 I'm very sorry to hear about your mother dying at such a young age when obviously a kid needs their parent the most. I don't know myself if I would've figured out what happened in my life without youtube. I agree working on your issues is primary especially if you have low self esteem. I know, which is why I ended up with the narc I married. It's a slow process but it's the most rewarding thing I've ever done in my life mostly through a 12 step program I've been in for 16 years. It does help to hear others stories because it then helps to validate what happened to me as well as to educate myself about these people. I learned about cluster B's about 6 years ago and for the first 4 years watched a lot of videos, I still do, just not as many. I guess it means I'm healing. I work with 2 of these "people" on a daily basis and I'm their target, which is a challenge. And yeah people just don't get this, like my coworkers, because they can't believe people would act like this especially because the narc's are so good at their image they project to the world to other people. Sneaky little bastards that they are. I wish you the best and please treat yourself well. You deserve it. Melanie Tonia Evan'is video she talks about narcs being angels in disguise because they bring us so far down to the ground and then maybe we get some help to work on our issues that allowed us to stay in these "relationships" to begin with. Then we leave and get into another of the same. nothing changes if nothing changes. I wish you the best you deserve it.
@@brianwalsh1401 thank you I really appreciate it. And I also am in the 12-step program been in and out of it for a long time. It's saved my life in many ways even if I wasn't completely sober it applies to everything in my life but I think you know what I mean when I say that. I did learn another important fact that I stressed about trying to figure out what kind of narcissist he was but it really wasn't that important come to find out it was just important to know that he was one and I quit stressing about what category if he was a covert malignant Etc. Yeah Melanie is really great so is narc Survivor there's a lot of good RUclips videos that helps me. In the same here if it wasn't for those videos I don't think I would be where I'm at today. There is a lot of negative stuff on RUclips and the internet so I'm trying to limit myself on what I watch and how much of my phone I use. Cuz before you know it I'll spend hours on the phone and get nothing done I'll feel disappointed in myself. as far as I have came in my recovery and my surgeries it's like I'm done worrying about damage he's done what's going on in the world right now because clearly God is in charge if I haven't died yet and God has made a way for me this far I just need to focus on the moment instead of worrying about yesterday or tomorrow sometimes it's easier said than done but yes best thing I've learned to do was pray for him not be upset an angry and want revenge because it was so time-consuming and it drained all my energy I will always love him because he was my friend for 18 years since high school. The crazy thing about all of this is now it makes sense why my last relationship of 3 years was the way it was I never even heard of the word narcissist never knew of the disorder and now I understand why my husband had so many similar traits from the relationship before because they was the exact same and had the same personality disorder my first husband in my first relationship as a teenager into my twenties they never had these kinds of traits or this kind of personality. And now it makes sense of my uncle that was having sex with me and took my virginity at 12 and a half and he was 36 and the uncle that took care of me after my mom even though there was no sexual abuse the mental in the physical abuse of me and how he treated my aunt like it was just like they are everywhere and that's not me being paranoid I know I get to go on I told myself I wasn't going to be on the phone like this especially this early so you're good hearing from you and I'm glad that we could help each other
Have had the displeasure of having multiple of these exist in my life at different points. A word of advice to those who might not have seen this enough is to -- ALWAYS PAY ATTENTION TO THE RED FLAGS. Don't make excuses, for it WILL be your downfall.
I am a female, I had experience with female malignant narcissist, it took me some time to realize who she is. She pretended to love me as her stepmother. The mirroring definitely is true. Yes, they can turn in a minute if they don't get want they want and not afraid to try to destroy your life.
EVERY SINGLE WORD SHE HAS SAID IS TRUE. Every. Single. Word.
THANK YOU - This was an incredibly detailed and accurate breakdown of the numerous evil behaviors found in too many people. Hard when inside the 'family'. They destroy the family and need to dominate by lies, manipulation, bullying, being pathologically envious. They are criminally insane. Animals are not evil like this . Animals want territory , food, and mates. Simple. stuff.
The envy of a female "best friend" is relentless and flat out dangerous. I found out envy has been warned about in the Bible. Envy is rotten to the bone...
Where there is envy or jealousy, there is no love or compassion.
My ex wife was everything you had described, you hit the nail on the head when you said they are dangerous, In my case she had an affair and she and the guy both conspired to put drugs/poison in my food and drinks to render me "unconscious" to collect on my life insurance. ( i found all of their communications emails/texts) needless to say i took those communications to local authorities and they sent a couple of deputies to my house when she came home from work l8r that day to remove her from my home, I faced numerous attacks and harassment that led to me filing a restraining order against her, she has been harassing my family which has led to them filing restraining orders against her also.
Wowwww that's crazy. Be safe
Happened me too mate. 2 years of harassment and its still on going. They are fucking crazy. I spoke to her ex husband and he went through the same. They never change they get more evil. They are the lowest of the low. Scum of the earth 🌎
How is it going now? Is she still harrasing you and ur family?
Your not alone there I went through the murder attempts as well by my x wife and her x boyfriend and two of his friends don't feel alone I've been there too
@@emh6844 its going pretty good right now, the ex is facing deportation back to her home country and the guy is facing a lawsuit, he'll get his dose of Karma soon
Holy cow! You just described my first wife to a T! I thought I was totally alone. No one believes that someone is that nefarious. Thank you.
Some of us believe it. You're not alone. 🏞
Trust your guts feeling - there is something evil with this beautiful women😅
I must say, I really appreciate how you didn’t hold back in your depiction of Malignant Narcissists. Every other channel I’ve watched uses more “politically correct” terms to describe them. However, it’s words like “vile,” “disgusting,” and “evil” that truly capture who they are when they are trying to manipulate or control they victim. It’s comforting to know that I am not alone in my very critical view of Malignant Narcissists.
It won’t let me edit from my phone. But their* not “they.”
Thank you for that.
There seems to be an epidemic of this mental entrapment today in 20/20. Its coming out...walk away.
@@Atlis360 ...this is happening a lot...kind of annoying. Why won't it let you correct?
You described my ex-wife perfectly, especially the lying aspect, manipulation, and her being two-faced. I always hated when she constantly threatened to call the police on me and tell them she felt in danger for her life if I did not do what she demanded I do and she blamed her bad behavior on me.
I am the mother of a young man and since the johnny depp case that i have became more aware of DM against men i have started being anxious for my son. If it happened to JD it could happen to anyone. What i still dont understand is why men stay in this kind of relationships. Women usually stay with abusive men for financial reasons. But men… i never understand…
My girlfriend calls the police on more then one accasion
And crys wolf to get the attention
@@shivapazoki1881 I would guess that it's the same for male narcs, but targeting people with low self-esteem, that think that they will never have anyone else and don't want to be alone forever and further lowering their self-esteem to imprison them in the relationship. It's so subtil that you wouldn't notice the gradual destruction of your self respect. I think first learning to live happily alone helps prevent being in a relationship with a narc, because the "if you leave me, you'll find nobody else" threat doesn't work against you, as you know how to be happy even if you are alone.
I ended in jail for 24 hours. She told me it was an act of "love".
"The only way to win is not to play"💯% .... and learn what it is that you don't know before your life is annihilated.
This is an excellent description of the Jezebel Spirit.
Who is Jezebel? Where does she live? Who documented her behavior? Where did they publish the details of her behavior?
@@dreamdiction God, in the Bible, through a human instrument. Believe it, or not!
Yes it is
@@jaypavao7114 The Jezebel spirit is the spirit of Eve.
@@dreamdiction no its not Eve, The Jezebel spirit is Lilith.
It seems like a lot of them become politicians.
Narcs love being "woke" as it gives them free moral superiority.
You nailed it! Every high office politician.
@peter burry obummer
I've read that it is impossible to be president if you're not a narc.
Doctors too
I have never cried and said thank you out loud so much. I NEVER knew the truth would feel so powerful. I have been targeted by narcissistic men and women. Family members, old friends, coworkers. People who inquire about what I'm doing as if I'm not standing there. Old high school friends who chose to walk in front of me instead of beside me. I never knew I was an empath but I am so grateful for those who experienced enough to speak to the truth. Thank you from the bottom of my heart
You just perfectly described my sister. My brother and I have cut off all communication with her. I moved out of state after I got married. The only contact I had with her after I got married was when I went to visit my parents, and that was very limited. Now that my dad is gone and mom is living with me, I don't have any contact with her at all. You are absolutely right, the only way to stay safe from these women is to just cut them out of your life - no phone, social media, etc.
I looked up the strict definition of narcissistic personality disorder in my medical dictionary and found my mothers' picture next to it!!!
Next to mine!!
Mine's over on the next page where they add, "with psychopathic features."
@@raylovelace8588 are we related?!!!!!
Naw my moms just literally crazy haha
@@drjwbriand No way of knowing. One of her long-term lies was who my father was. He went along with it but some of the patterns of abuse suggest he knew.
This video definitely describes one narcissist whom I unfortunately have had to deal with some years ago, and she was a lecturer.
I was manipulated, tricked and then trapped and into her shitty world to be abused for over a year.
She loved humiliating me publicly, triangulating, threatening me and playing sick twisted mind games, it's like being lured Into a dark labyrinth filled with razors that never ends.
I saw her real face every time someone is Injured which included me. She is very sadistic, pathologicaly envious and highly competitive, and feels like she has to have the upper hand in everything even in the most insignificant things.
All the students are mortified of her and want to get away from her.
What's more sickening is that she portrays herself in public as a very charming, very sweet, innocent and almost childlike caring compassionate individual. She gets involved in helping and "educating" the less fortunate but it's all for show and these programs didn't last.
She's very protective of her false public image and is willing to go to extreme lengths even to destroy others to protect it.
Her subordinates even defended her against me, I had no chance . It was SO severe that I had to drop out. The damage they do to your psyche is immense, even years after and most people will never understand unless it has happened to them.
She tried to drive me insane and into a mental asylum but all her efforts have failed but who knows if she has already achieved that with another student.
She's been out of my life for some years now but I remain very vigilant always especially on social media.
They are vile sadistic predators and can be dangerous but they are also massive weak cowards because they can't do anything on their own. They're a bunch of losers.
They can be very difficult to expose but it's not impossible.
Best thing to do is to Get the hell away from them ASAP. If you know what they are, and if you can destroy them, do it covertly, try to gain evidence against them if you can because they can push innocent good people into asylums, suicide etc.
They destroy communities, families and your health both mentally and physically. This can create a ripple effect of damage. This is serious.
Thanks for sharing! I have been praying about what to do about the demonic relationship I barely got out of with my sanity/life you just confirmed it...
Sounds so familiar with what i went through with a "supervisor" a few yrs ago. Experienced all the same and it is so true that when you try to tell someone about it, you're met with denials and disbelief. Very disheartening. And also dangerous. I didn't know what it was called, but i knew something was very wrong, and even warned my family that if something "happened" to me, it was likely not an accident. I feared for my life. As with your narc, mine played the innocent victim and was a convincing and constant liar, and had her superiors fooled-- for a while. Eventually they figured it out and she was fired and ordered to have no contact with anyone in the dept. It's over now but it was one of the worst work experiences of my life, and i still get knots in my stomach when i am reminded of it. The one positive result is that i now know about these types and recognize the behaviors quickly, and get away. Harder to do in a work situation because the narcs can severely damage a business reputation and make it difficult to get a job again.
Well said. If you CAN destroy them do it. Get evidence on them. Safeguard yourself. Then go after them
@@col2959 Thank you.
Twist and turn reality even if they get slapped with facts. Trust me, I know...
@LUCY ELI ZABETH @LUCY ELI ZABETH First of all, my eyes hurt for all your hatred. Second, i am sorry youre high and see demons and satan himself.
Yes, i am here because of narcissism. And yes, i am here because i am a man who also is straight and also a narcissistic abuse victim. Don't come to your own conclusions without knowing the facts. A narcissist woman is not and does not act the same as a narcissist man. They can achive what they want and persuade their victims accordingly to their gender. And also, there are women that are MEAN as hell and even use the law against us to even take over custody. YOU must be a butt hurt narcissist that just feel exposed with this video. Im sorry for your loss honey. And by the way, the person who made this video is a woman 😉
@LUCY ELI ZABETH nice, and yes i have been a victim me whole life. First my dad, and after i stopped caring what he said, i ended up with another narcissist for 10 years. I do believe what you say too. On rotten souls and bright ones too. Today's society is full of putrid souls and they are roaming to corrupt the good ones. You sounded a lot different with your reply. I thought you were off by your first comment. And no ma'am. I do no group all women as narcissists. There are warm, sweet and kind ladies still around. And you seem one of them. Take care, and i apologize too if you were offended by me.
@LUCY ELI ZABETH i am sorry you had to go through all that suffering. I just which you the best and that you can get out of all that darkness of people. Blessings and you too take care.
Yesterday I just spent 1 hour argueing with my narc husband because he kept on trying to argue and twist facts!! I even told him I had witnessing that were on the phone and heard his insult and he still lie. I finally decided to separate from him until he agrees to therapy with me, but I know he won't go,for they hate therapy. I moved to another part of the home and avoiding him cause I had very high blood pressure dealing with his mind games and manipulation
My old beloved Doberman stepped off the deck and keeled over and died right in front of us. I dropped to the ground balling like a kid and SHE unbelievably runs out to get up close to watch her die. I don’t know if that was evil but It sure isn’t normal. I didn’t know she was a narcissist at that time.
It was disgusting
@@Ann-eb8dp I thought so, I never looked at her the same ever again.
The last thing I told her: Get behind me Satan!!
Haha .. yep a killer
Amen
Even with this social distancing, they’re always around. Calling me, FaceTime-ing me. Urgh! Leave me alone, please!
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you might have to be blunt and say, "I am not buying what you are selling, I see it", they will hate it but you will get the healthy boundary you need. Also say I do not take phone calls or face time.
My parents are both narssacists, and even now, they spy on my life. I'm in my 40's, and I don't need that! I knew my entire life that my family was not "normal ", but we were also in a religious cult, so I had no friends. I finally broke free. My mother loves to play each one of us against each other by lying and manipulating everything. I cannot visit with my sister anymore, because my "victim, frail" mommy dearest is always with her. If you call them out, they make life hell on earth.
it's time to turn into le ghost 👻
@Ms. Buschhorn I've come to realize that too, but it makes me a better mother for my son. He and I keep each other and ourselves accountable. I chose to break the cycle, and I don't care if she doesn't like it. My son is the most important and beautiful gift, and I will not allow her to infect him.
Church is a hunting ground to these people...imo
Churches are breeding grounds for these people.
@William Harvey True, but you can't blame everything on Satan. His devices work best with willing and able supplicants who are led astray by their own lusts and evil desires. Hireling Shepards don't help either.
amazing I went to church with her mn times she said once or twice even demons go to church from a argument about nothing.
Yes It seem there in the religious community.
So Does Dating Websites
Mine was a narc and an addict. Fun times. Even my therapist can't believe the stories I can tell. The hardest part is trying to cope with it four years later. It's been buried and now that I am talking through it, it's like reliving it all over again. It's awful. Trauma sucks so bad.
What you've said is accurate, my ex and my daughter are exactly as you described.
Looking back I'm ashamed about how I was suckered, half my life was wasted.
I am sorry but you can have more joy than ever thought possible. Look within with love and kindness. Have fun as a child's spirit and do what you enjoy even if you don't want to. Call old friends family co workers. Don't expect those people to understand what you went through so be careful with who you talk to.
You and a million other people don't feel bad..
You're not alone
I'm right there with you man
@@ronaldwhite4671
The damage they do ....is so evil .
Of all the truth in this video; I most appreciate the conviction you invested in using the word “Evil”.
This is the new supply of my ex-husband, he is a narc, so he did not see it. They are perfect for eachother. I am glad that she helped me seeing that my ex-husband is a narc. I wish them to stay together for ever. Love from Switzerland
Yep my ex narc husband ran away with a women just like this and then some. She is his karma.
It's nice seeing them get what they deserve.
4:00 Yes! Also, Malignant narcissism is pure evil. This is such good advice. Thank you. Pathological envy is something I never heard before but I’ve seen it. And all of this is so good. The people in my life that was like this literally was advising me to stalk married men in order to find someone. But it was just people that I met in passing. It was so weird. They really are a different type of person. They are predators.
Excellent break down. It’s very hard for me to fathom how someone has no conscience 🙉
Wow... you nailed it.... You just read 19 years of my life.... I gave her everything and walked away and started over.... Living this lifestyle for the sake of your children, trying to keep the peace, because you are alone when it comes to keeping the peace, is utterly exhausting. I walked away from everything. I can not believe how completely correct you are on each of the 10 points. It is hell, and I recommend anyone that sees a parallel in their life and this video, to walk away.
Thank you so much. This is my wife. I have to stop listening after number five cause it hurts so bad. This is exactly who she is. Thank you. I'll come listen to the rest later.
They all have that what I call "the joker smile😁" that is constantly on their face
So true
YES!!! SPOT ON!!!
LOL
Omg! This FREAK HERE who victimises helpless people and does all the psychobclown show wicked gross horrific stuff and more. One of the first wacko things I'd never seen before that I kept describing was this EACKO WACKO GOOFY ASS CRACKHEAD(SORRY PROBLEMATIC SHITTYEORD) Wieeeeerd kooky GRIN. THIS OFFTHEEALL SHOCKIG LOOPY GRRRRIN. WITH HEREYEBALLS SIDEWAYS ALL THEVWAY INTH3 CORER OF HERRYES!
SHESD TELLBA STORY BOUT SOETHINGV REALKY BAD THAT HAPPENEDT9 A UTUAL ACQUAITANCE WHO JUST WAS NO LONGERTHERE OEDAY, tryfirv3seconds to wear this wierd overacted goofy super jarring superfake sympathylook andvibe ofsuperfake CONCERN and SYMPATHYsnd then3secods inthis CRAAAAAYZEE GRIN fleeting micro expression occurs andits lie shewent on pause. Like sheidof freezes. Like a glitch and she's laughigherass off and describes teterrible harmshedid claims thecredit ad shes switching affect between mocking 'INNOCENCE' and dropping the mask and grinnig and laughing aboutwat shedid
She exhibited this WACKO GRIN at other iappropriate ties. Its izarre and its likea feetigwierdmicro expression. Shecantstand to pretendshe doest kowwhat happeed because she cantWAIT to bragabout theevilshedid and fot otherst9 do. I guessit Makes her feel likecSHES GOT THE KEYS TO THE YARD
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Yup 😈
Drop smoke and ghost em'.It's your only chance.
I understand it drives them nutz when their target pops smoke and becomes the grey rock.
True! I had to do the same thing!
Yessir
Currently doing it now
Here because I have close female relatives who are narcs. I've always felt different to them but I am constantly self reflecting and making sure I haven't picked up any of their traits.
My goodness...this is exactly what she was like. Every detail. Pointed out the obvious and tried to be sensitive to it in order to support and help her behaviour. I tried for years but I ended up even more broken. When we love that person it’s hard to walk away especially when kids are involved. I got two months of love bombing and rest of total hell and sometimes she would switch back and forth for a bit in order to cause further pain. I was always upfront and honest about how her behaviour would make me feel to which she got pleasure out of me being open and honest for what she saw as an opportunity to attack when I showed weakness...it really hurts and your mental health and physical health is affected big time. You still feel that love for her even though she has caused you so much pain but nothing you will ever do satisfies her. She has now trained the children to be mini versions of her as kids try to fight for attention of that parent. Forever feeding them with lies. Only thing to do is to stay away and keep your mind occupied.
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Horrible. Karma is coming. Stay in the spirit and let God do his work.
I can relate brother
I had a “best friend” like this. She literally used me and everyone around her. As soon as I set up boundaries & asked for money back that she owed me, she completely discarded me. I knew as soon as I asked, she would stop the fake front of us being “friends”. I I was happy about that! Happy to have peace in my life 💖
I had a female colleague at work who was aggressively trying to befriend me when I arrived. After I noticed some of this very behavior, I tried to distance myself. She then began to literally harass, embarrass, and even stalk me until I demanded that management put a stop to it. Of course they tried to be dismissive of my complaints because she was female, but I threatened legal action if they did not stop it. They finally did....
Good for you because they always say its men doing the harrassment.
My mother is this woman and every word is spot on. She takes great pleasure in seeing me suffer.
Mine too, no Contact is amazing good. :)
Silence is the Best Reply to a Fool
Sandrina Otelli I left mine and have been silent is my situation. I realize everyone has different situations. If it is just your neighbors can you move?
I totally agree 💯 👌
I'm finding this to be a key truth, the walls of Jericho come falling down...
Just came across this video by chance earlier on, and love it!! This is all so well said.
I was targeted by a female malignant narcissist a few years back, and the experience was horrific. She behaved exactly as you’ve described here, and then(over a timeframe of nearly 2 years) went on to display all 10 of the behaviours which you’ve described in abundance, among others. It took a long time for me to notice she was being emotionally abusive towards me because it was so insidious and so sneakily done, and because she lied convincingly to so many people to cover it up.
Her Gaslighting, harassment and bullying(And projection) eventually got so bad that I had to stop attending my voluntary workplace, change my phone number and block her on social media just to get her and her toxicity out of my life. It was both traumatic and terrifying; now it’s been 4 years since I cut her out of my life, and although I feel like I’ve recovered from the abuse itself, I still find the memories sickening.
I’ve watched this video and then several other of your videos off the back of it, and I absolutely love them. They’re inspirational. They’re helping raise awareness of an evil in our society which is still way too hidden, and helping to give survivors like myself closure, validation, and above all, a voice. (I’ve subscribed to your channel too BTW.)
Brilliant work!! 🙌👍
I get nervous just reading this comment
Triggers memories
I noticed that they spot us first and they will be doing small things to see if they can get away with the abuse. Have you noticed how they study you from far?? They have so much people skill.
Wow, I’ve been watching many of these Videos and I’ve never found one more accurate than yours to the description of my situation.
same
RUN!!!
My 20-year old daughter, who has been greatly affected by her narcissist mother and my abusive family, made a couple of RUclips videos recently to shame me on a variety of issues. At one point, she actually smirks while talking about me "hurting." She's literally making fun of my trauma from childhood and her mother.
I was involved with a malignant nark girlfriend for almost 4 years what a nightmare!!! Been healing for a year now, she told me she was broken but she was a thousand times worst than I could have imagined!! And she was very good looking and exelent in bed us why I kept going back, then she ghosted me and ended up with my now ex best friend. You are a very good expert on this thank you!
@HappyColors you sound like a twisted narcissistic clueless Jezabele!!! FO
My mom- it took me until I was 62 to figure it out. It helps me to watch this because I've gone no contact.
Just went no contact with one few days back and I can't stop reading about the disorder. I had no idea till I decided to keep a distance and the girl basically unraveled herself and I started thinking everything back by writing down notes. Accidentally bumped into malignant narcissism online and oh boy. You describe her exactly as my notes. Unfortunate that victims like me have to go through this damned experience and learn it the hard way. But glad I'm aware now and amazing people like you have amazing content and helpful resources.
I just thought I knew what narcissim was until I entered the "discard" phase and started to do some research on what was wrong with me. Stumbled across this channel...... turns out other than being a sucker the problem was her!! All of the off-hand eyebrow raising comments and mutterings under her breath make perfect sense now. Definitely going to stay in the discard pile and away from her!
I discovered it by trying to find out why discussions with my wife over minor niggles turned into 3 hour arguments about everything, but still failed to address the niggle. What an eye-opener - and my wife displays signs of every characteristic described in books and videos like these - there is no maybe
I'm glad you learned it rather early... narcs have no regard for the lives of others... be happy you're not wasting years on it. 🏞
I was dealing with a male malignant narcissist. I also believe they are evil & extremely manipulative & deceitful. They gain so much joy out of your pain & suffering.
Satan went to Eve cuz he new she was weak an insecure like most women I'm not talking about all women it just seems like it that part 👈
Perfect demonstration, I have experienced everything you explained. They hurt your soul by the manipulative things they do plunging you in an ocean of confusion because they refuse to accept they are ever wrong even when it is evident.
My ex, at night as we’d be falling asleep would say “I love you” like a cuckoo clock every 2 minutes. She’s very, very sick.
For those who truly love the need for control dissolves into a desire to see them fulfill their fullest potential. 1 Corinthians 13 says it so perfectly: love does not envy or boast. It keeps no records of wrongs. Love believes all things. Hopes all things. Endures all things."
Read the chapter and to see the character of a FM narc see the complete opposite. Accept it will never change no matter how much you love them. Love cannot overcome this program. Lose the rose colored 👓.
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Good God why is this so rampant!?!?! My former wife of only 4 years was 10 of 10 of these points except for no children together. I went into near shock just a couple days ago - yes 3 years after me divorcing her... realizing the hell it would have been had we had a child in this mix because I would have lost my mind. As it was, she used her own grown daughter when it was convenient for her cause. This woman was gorgeous, a slick sales pitch and could lie like none other. Like pouring water - the lies were as fluid and on the fly. I got away light, thank the Good Lord, but I did plan for a year and it still cost me half by law, but still single 3 years later (still not over the hell she delivered) but in a nice peaceful bit of land to stretch mentally now. Thank you Dear for sharing so much knowledge and experience with us who at one point in these relationships literally asked ourselves "Is it me?!?!" "Did I cause THAT reaction!!?!" These videos teach us to look back and understand exactly where the problems are....so that we can then purge and move on. Thank you again!
did you cause this reaction ? no it was no you my friend and there is nothing you could have done, I have nothing today I spent a night in a cell, they even lie to the police, I'd rather have nothing to my name as long as that witch is nowhere near me
15 YEARS I SPENT WITH HER.THE TRUE MALIGNANCY CAME OUT AROUND 2013.SHE BEGGED ME BACK INTO HER LIFE.WAS BARELY BEARABLE TIL ABOUT 2019.FULL ON MALIGNANCY WAS UNMASKED 3 MONTHS 6 DAYS AGO.....THE AMOUNT OF TIME I'VE BEEN NO CONTACT.SHE COULD HAVE BEEN AN OSCAR WINNING ACTRESS IN EVERY WAY😪
Eric King God Bless you on your new journey of freedom. It’s not your fault. Stay strong.
Eric King
Thank goodness you escaped! Please don’t go back.
I'm right there with ya bro. I burned thru all the depression and anxiety. It' makes you stronger and wiser.
@@kingsix2000 TYVM.UNDERSTANDING,&BREAKING THE TRAUMA BOND WAS MORE DIFFICULT THAN MY TOURS TO THE MIDEAST DESERT....LITERALLY.STILL IN STRENGTH TRAINING RECOVERY.I LOVED HER SOOOOO MUCH.BUT REALIZING THE FACT THAT THE NARC IS INCAPABLE OF LOVE HELPS A TEENSY WEENSY BIT😪
Eric, I was married 11 yrs I've dated a few others long term but never thought about marriage to any of them , then I met my exwife she was very cute and I truly thought I met my soulmate because she loved everything I did the same I used the word amazing to people close to me I actually never ever thought I would get married and it wasn't something I even really cared about , but I used to say in the beginning we fit together like a puzzle go figure , but meeting her family my gut always told me something was off really off , anyway it was great 4 years in we had a son that's when things started to change bigtime, I was ignored and I would justify it by saying to myself well its normal we now have a child things are gonna change , but then her parents sold the family home and moved very close to us that's when I knew trouble was coming, her parents now freshly retired were a constant pain in my ass , I would come home from work to see her father in my yard planting bushes and flowers what ever he wanted like it was his house this became a constant and I told my wife please tell your father to find another hobby that's when shit started getting worse because all of sudden I realized I was being over run on my own property slowly they were like termites destroying my life little by little , sex was gone it was unraveling very fast and I was working alot of hours and my ex was a elementary school teacher so she had the summers off , so they would all enjoy summer vacation along w my now little 4 yr old boy I would come home to an empty house no dinner nothing it was bad , then it came one Friday night her parents came took my son and we were supposed to go have a night out dinner drinks whatever but that was not the plan o no she wasted no time when were finally alone that shes been seeing a lawyer and was divorcing me she was crying saying how much she loved me but went behind my back no clue not even maybe marriage counseling so the next morning Saturday morning the doorbell rang early so early state Marshall already had the divorce papers drawn up it was a evil plan that had been hatched by her asshole parents and her so I was out ! My little 5 yr old son said to me daddy why are you leaving us?? anyway it was amazing to watch someone you thought loved you switch into something you did not recognize at all anymore! From wife to stranger in a snap amazing! Good news now is that my son is 14 and finally starting to realize what really happened because hes been weaponized and lied to for years a true nightmare emotionally and financially! I tried dating again but I cant trust anyone like that again it's not worth it!!
My first serious girlfriend smirked the moment she knew she broke my heart.
Don’t worry her day will come too
@@hugmc Though I appreciate the sentiments I do not think about retribution so what you said has no solice in it for me for it does not un-break my heart.
God has a special place in hell for that harlot.
@@scottdunn2178 I think different but thanks
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