There's a lot of racism towards the Roma in my area. It's interesting hearing how differently white people decribe them just... existing. They don't sit at the park, they "loiter". They don't look through items at a store, they "rummage". And I wish I could say I intervene every time some says something racist, but the truth is I don't. Every time I do I just get barked down that I don't "get it". That I haven't seen "real" Roma people before. And to those people: I'm sorry for you. I'm sorry you live with your eyes closed so shut you don't even see the people around you.
I’ve lived in Southern California my whole life and, to my knowledge, I’ve never met a Romani person. My grandparents, however, fled Hungary during the 1950’s revolution, and I recall very frequent seemingly nonsensical rants about “G*ps**s” from my grandfather (and, as an aside, claims that the “Jews were the worst torturers among their Bolshevik rulers”), and I always just brushed it off, as though these mythical wandering thieves who seemed to possess certain dark magic qualities my grandpa feared so much weren’t even a real group of people (and of course I only learned the correct term to refer to them a few years ago). The Roma played a very formative role in my life as a child, despite the fact that, again, I’ve still never met someone from that community. Just yesterday, the antifascist network I help run noted a sign posted at a Chevron gas station here in Los Angeles that states that the store has a policy of refusing service to “G*ps* women in long shoplifting skirts” and I immediately wondered if my now long dead racist grandpa had come back to life to write it.
@@JohnDoe-km9zd I'm not sure where in SoCal you are, but there is actually a Roma population in the general area. They often keep to themselves for obvious reasons, and will often mention a different heritage when asked. They literally dress like everyone else, though. It sounds like that store is trying to keep those flowing, ankle length skirts out of the building; I've mostly just seen those on the earth momma hippie types of women, though I think that specific type of skirt might've been known as a g*ps* skirt at some point. At least casually.
There’s always one mf on a shoplifting video being like “typical” or “the regular suspects” I’m confused. Just because a couple odd people of a particular group commit crimes doesn’t mean the whole group are criminals.
One of the more subtle racist dog whistles is, "the statistics don't lie." They only lie when you don't put the statistics into context or use faulty statistical models.
@@ComicXanzNEVER sort the comments by “newest” on a youtube video of a black guy commenting a crime. 💀 The craziest thing to see is all the “why is it always them” etc. etc., which of course is crazy, but when you go to the news channels account, you get a little taste of why. There’s a reasonable, proportional amount of videos of black criminals; they definitely don’t make up the majority of videos, but for seemingly _no reason,_ the videos of black people get 400k~ views, while all the others barely reach 40k. Like, MAYBE you only see black guys doing all this shit because it what you _want_ to see? 😂 People seem to forget that algorithms are _made_ to show you what you, and people like you, are most likely to watch.
I see it so much in the comment sections of almost every ad on Facebook featuring a black person. Laugh reacts and everybody going on about "criminals" this and "animals" that, and all the memes with black faces, connecting black skin to shit, bad teeth, all that. I'd leave fb if all my friends weren't there too, or were cool with going by phone or whatsapp.
@@ComicXanz also what I like to call “novelty bias,” [it’s actually called availability bias] because white is considered the “default,” you notice when someone who isn’t white does something more than if a white person did it. You notice it more. If one person in a stigmatized/marginalized group does a bad thing, it often gets generalized to the whole group because you notice the identity first (because it’s not “the default”). Confirmation bias goes hand in hand with this as well.
As an autistic person, the social model of disability makes a whole hell of a lot more sense than the medical model. I do great, I thrive, I'm content- until society tries to force me to do specific things I'm not suited to. They aren't things necessary for being a human, or things necessary to live on Earth. They are things my *specific society* has made a requirement of all people, which then renders me "disabled."
For my part as an autistic person, I personally tend to insist, on top of what you said, that being autistic is not itself a disability, even under the social model of disability. It merely _has disabling aspects to it_ under the social model specifically. Autism is at the core of who and what I am, and it also gives me incredible strengths that are the necessary flipsides to my weaknesses and vice versa.
I have ADHD but I totally agree in every possible way. Whatever struggles I have with self regulation could be solved with a different social model that accounted for people like me. I am only "disabled" insofar as I can't do what I'm told at all times.
@@jemolk8945 it's my understanding that under the social model of disability that's true for all potentially disabling conditions. The condition itself is not a disability, it's how society interacts with that condition. For example, under the social model of disability someone in a wheel chair is only made disabled when they need to access a building that can only be entered by climbing a flight of stairs.
@@allanjmcpherson Very true. My point is more that even under the social model, there are aspects of autism that are outright advantages, even given the current state of society -- sometimes even _especially_ given the current state of society.
"Lazy." I honestly don't think it's even a character trait. It can be a decent description of a behavior or idea, but when it's used for a person it seems like it's always describing a problem the person has that the speaker doesn't know about. I got called "lazy" all the time as a kid, but it was undiagnosed ADHD. Nobody looked for the problem though, becuase they had already found the problem, my "laziness". Ironically, using the "lazy" to describe someone is usually pretty lazy.
Any time the word lazy is used, I ask myself, what word more precisely describes the situation: Was I lazy about the dishes tonight or was I exhausted and needed to prioritise rest? Was I lazy at work or am I not being paid enough to warrant me running myself ragged? Was I lazy laying in bed till midday or was I just really frigging depressed? Was I lazy not attending that lecture or was I prioritising things that are more important to me?
@@nathanaelgazzard7989 That sounds a lot like what I've been trying to do lately, and it's worked pretty well for me. I've also been trying to extend it to hearing anyone else called "lazy", and I find it's rarely difficult to think of possible reasons a person might be not working or working slowly.
I only hear one thing when I hear someone call a person lazy: "You have a problem I don't care about or understand and it's making you less useful or compliant". An outgrowth of healthism. It's your responsibility to manage your mental health or neurodivergence so that it never becomes someone else's problem.
@@rantingrodent416 That's certainly the only thing anyone has ever meant when saying to me (myself included, sadly, although I don't see myself that way anymore), but I've also seen it used to other people who were perfectly "healthy" but overworked.
As a black, mixed person who is lighter skinned, one of my big watch words is "well-spoken" or its more proper cousin "articulate". Whenever someone says that in reference to me or another black person, with just that hint of surprise and/or pride, maybe even relieved....i know exactly what they mean. "You dont sound black." That i or another black person are one of the tolerable ones bc we dont speak AAVE (in front of them). Its both very funny and disappointing when i code switch to aave in casual conversation, especially when im excited or angry, and just. SEE on a white coworker's face the disgust. Usually they'll try to "tease" us by saying "wooww i didnt know you spoke like that!" In derision As a way to shame us. It got to me when i was younger, especially when after that point all the tolerance was gone and they were all too happy to treat me like garbage, rather than as a work pet :/ now if that happens i just do it more
Playing the fool to that one never gets old btw. No I don’t know. I’m confused. Excuse me, could you explain this one in more detail? Please *E X P O U N D* And thus begins the game of how many lic-uh Questions does it take to get to the centre of a fash ideology
Also, almost all pop sci references to evolutionary psychology (and a non trivial proportion of academic ones): - Start with assuming that all of our prehistoric ancestors had a specific gendered division of hunting/gathering - use this to analyze a behavior or social relationship that has undergone controversial upheaval in a specific society within the writer's lifetime, or at most compared to the mythical standard of their parents or grandparents day ... to demonstrate that the new standard that's emerging is not going to work out because nature via thousands of years of evolution. Which is definitely the best source of explanations for the latest trends.
Yes! When I was growing up, adults would constantly tell me that I had “no common sense.” No, I was just a child who was still learning how to be a human being. I did not have decades of experience with being alive to guide my behavior. That’s why there was an adult there to watch me in the first place. Side note: A lot of the behaviors and misunderstandings that earned me a “you have no common sense” happened because I was neurodivergent, but I heard it from neurodivergent adults just as much as I heard it from neurotypical ones. It really is just code for “You are wrong because you don’t think like me.”
I once proposed a regional bus system for my rural area in Canada, and a lot of the dissenting comments were citing "drug dealers" as a reason not to build such a thing (as if drug dealers don't have cars). I'm pretty sure they meant poor people and racial minorities.
Lol not only do drug dealers all own cars, but they always buy expensive cars with cash in full. The Mercedes-Benz turbo diesels of the 1980s were stereotypically known as drug dealer cars because of how many drug dealers drove them and how easy it is to do rails off the hood of the trunk.
There's a part of my hometown which is *extremely* touristy and rich. As an apparent result, the public transport links there are abysmal (one bus per hour, and they stop after about 6 PM). It's 100% poor people that they're trying to keep out.
As a casual English user from a not English-speaking Country, I've always found it unnerving that people use the term "straight" to mean "heterosexual" so casually. If heterosexuality is "straight", is every other orientation "crooked"? "Broken"? "Skewed"? It's probably nothing more than slang for most native or first language speakers, but I refuse to unsee that.
The word 'bent' was commonly used as a slur for gay and gender non conforming people. I suppose that's the antonym of straight. I suppose it also has to do with the phrase "setting someone 'straight' ". Which reflects on how violently people where and still are forced into hetero sexuality.
@@bcmpinc Ew, makes sense unfortunately... :/ but thank you, I didn't know "bent" used to have that meaning. I'll be significantly less likely to use that word and its variations when synonyms are available.
@@gattoleone1843 I wouldn't worry on that score. Nobody is likely to confuse "bent" for a comment on orientation, unless maybe you're using it to refer to a person. (Unlike, say, "queer," which you should be a little careful about if you're not trying to suggest that the "queer little shop" is run by cool lesbians.) It's not in current use as a term for sexuality, it just used to be. File it with "invert" and "confirmed bachelor."
@@trioptimum9027 "queer" as a term for sexuality is definitely in current use, it seems to be a generational as well as regional divide. Communities I've been in with other LGBTQ+ people have at times effectively dropped the LGBT and + in preference for "queer" as a big-tent common identity, but I've also seen older people take it or use it as an insult on a slim few occasions. I think the best approach is to simply check the vibe of the space you're in and go with whatever language is preferred there.
@@gattoleone1843 It's still being used in Norwegian, "skeiv" (etomylogically related to "skewed") is the general way to talk about queer people. It's been reclaimed in the same way as queer has in English.
Also, this becomes even more absurd when you consider that the people making the accusations consume many more times the resources than that of the "useless eaters."
I have seen and heard "the gays" used *by* queer people in an ironic way to refer to queer people with reference to authoritarians and bigots. (Stuff like "This legislation is plainly targetted at the gays.")
I was just thinking today about how "disrespectful" seems to be a favorite word for a lot of authoritarian-leaning people on an interpersonal basis Especially when they are also generally rude people themselves
I was diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder a half dozen times or more before I was ever diagnosed with ADHD. Apparently they're often traveling companions, at least among males. That 'disrespectful' shit rubs me the wrong way so intensely and quickly that I'm just as likely to want to start swinging as I am to explain anything. If someone's panties get that kind of twisted over something I just casually said, I will always show them what real disrespect looks like. They'll never misunderstand those differences again, at least not when speaking to me. It's absolutely infuriating to me, because of those exact 'respect authority' undertones to the whole thing.
Yep, it's almost never about respect, it's about obedience. Related is how people who constantly bang on about the respect they're owed almost never seem to acknowledge the disrespect they've earned through their actions. They won't acknowledge that they are getting treated precisely as respectfully as they deserve. Because it's entitled authoritarian "I'm inherently above you" thinking. "Respect" they are "owed". The idea of actual fairness doesn't exist in that mindset.
When I became an adult and gradually started thinking for myself instead of doing everything I was told, I was told I had become "surly". I've always been a fairly polite person and that never changed. Authoritarians just despise being resisted.
So timely. I’m a teacher, so of course I have an entire lexicon of words that rile me, but one that really gets me spinning is “Normal.” Especially when parents use it in relation to their neurodivergent kids, as if “normal” is not incredibly subjective. As if “normal” is the opposite of “neurodivergent.” Oh Lordy I need to sit down.
I'm a teacher who is on the autism spectrum; and when introducing it, I say my brain "works differently than most people", and in doing so am trying to normalize autism to some degree.
I think it's more notable they're often the ones most inclined to oppose freedom of speech and expression whenever it's against their agenda. Or at the least are useful idiots in such a process. Also also, arguing about "freedom of speech" is a rather revealing argument from those sorts. They can't defend the actual positions, because their positions are vile, so they argue about the right to say things in the abstract.
"Western Civilization" Not a word, but hearing it now a days gives me a sick feeling. It is much easier to say than terrified white christian nationalists though. On a side note I've also been wanting to say that I really love your work on this channel. You have great insight, writing, and delivery. I'm always interested in hearing what you've been thinking about. I just want three things: a teleprompter (We're having an intimate moment, please don't look away), a backdrop/set/studio/painting/some kind of nice background (Where is he now? What book is that? Is that a sock? Or go the other way and be totally weird about it. Like in the bathroom. Upside down on the bed. Laying on the kitchen counter), and for you to be as successful a possible so you can keep making content for us.
Phil is currently in a temporary living situation, if I recall correctly. So the nice background might be a future thing. Also I'm pretty that's a sock.
The term "religious freedom" is that way for me. The only time I hear people talk about how America really needs to live up to its promise of "religious freedom" is in terms of the right for white Christians to be bigoted. It's very frustrating given the way that a lot of religious minorities are treated across the United States.
@@Newton-Reuther And you just know that if there was a religion that was prejudiced against Christians and a Christian was refused service at a store because of those religious beliefs, those same people would be shrieking bloody murder for months afterword. It'd be the only story they'd talk about for the rest of the year.
When I moved to a new job and told people where I lived they kept saying it was "dangerous" Looked up the crime rate and it was less than where I was from. Then I looked up the demographics of the area and went "Oh, right, racism"
That's exactly why Detroit and Chicago have the reputations they do, despite several Southern cities and counties (anyone who has ever lived in a legitimately rural area knows it's nothing like what they show on TV) having far worse amounts of per capita violent crime. Those specific dog whistles are literally everywhere in the US. It's crazy.
For a positive description of people movements, the media often use "flock." As in "People are flocking to see the new Marble Studios film." Kind of like birds. Birds are nice.
I mean, sure… as long as you don’t think about dinosaurs or aren’t in an Alfred Hitchcock movie! 😁 (Sorry, birds often unnerve me, but that’s entirely a me thing, lol) But yeah, you’ve got a point, great observation!
I'm surprised a quick search and I didn't notice anyone mention "crisis." I've seen so many "migrant crisis" or "theft crisis" or "health crisis" but when it comes to undeniable crises. Like flooding, uncontrolled fires, tornadoes? There "disasters" or just labeled as what we've classified them like a type 3 tornado or something. Crisis is a word that seems to be used with a lot sociopolitical issues.
These words were definite blind spots for me, much more subtle than I was expecting. For me the word "family" in an organization or event name gets the hair on my neck standing up. It's been used so often to signify anti-lgbt.
Organizations with words like Family, Heritage, Liberty, America(n(s)), and a bunch of others are almost always anti LGBTQ+ and anti social progress garbage. It's so reliable that it's almost a universal constant at this point.
Or the idea that anyone who doesn't have a "proper family" (aka single moms, people who get abortions, or childfree people; in addition to LGBT people) isn't a good person; while anyone who does have a "proper family" (even those that are abusing or sexualizing children, cheating or otherwise abusing their spouse, or engaging in sexual acts in public) is automatically a good person.
I strongly agree with you. My ears perk up and I pay close attention to what a person is saying or trying to say when they use those words. Words I am careful about: Parasite, urban, globalism/globalization, new world, post-mordern, birth rate, replacement, wellfare and work ethics. I personally like to use words like parasite and useless to refer to the owning class and fascists. I am careful not to use those towards individual humans. I mainly use those because I am white and educated but come from a very poor family and am a minority in other aspects (including having invisible disabilities) and want to reclaim the words and make them as useless as possible for the right.
yeah i'm suuuuper careful with parasite because, like, a lot of landlords are parasites but using that word recklessly brushes up against so much anti-semitic propaganda from the past and i never want someone to think i'm headed in that direction
Hey, i was wondering, how does globalization fit into the dog -flags? It makes sense but growing i was taught it was a generally good thing. I can infer now that that was most likely conditioning of some sort, but I was wondering if you could give more of ur perspective if that alright with you
@@lachlainegordon806 not the op, but basically the word globalist is a dog whistle for jewish person, so globalism is the dog whistle for international jewish kabal or other such nazi conspiracy. alternatively when used positively it is by a group using it to mean America takes control.
@@lachlainegordon806It was used as an antisemitic dog whistle for decades by certain people. That's definitely not its only context, just a really common one historically. A lot of people still use it that exact way today, it's just that that's not its only meaning.
Something that I've noticed are "dog flags" in reviews of media (especially video games) are "bad weighting" and/or "boring characters" it's often because some footnote character is openly queer, or a female and/or POC character has a bit too big a role for their taste. These days people like this have largely moved on to saying it's to "woke" but it was a very strong trend for a while
The "this place has no people" thing was actually used as recently as the founding of Israel. There was a popular phrase people used to justify the establishment of a country there by referring to Palestine as a "land without a people for a people without a land"
@@jackr3947 I was just giving an example of a time that similar logic was used. I don't know that it matters that not literally every single person literally used and believed that phrase who went to Israel. That was quite a gish gallop you posted in response. I dunno what to tell you. I don't want Jews oppressed anywhere. I don't think Israel should be "closed" or whatever. I just want Israel to not be an apartheid state. I will candidly admit I find the idea of an ethnic homeland silly personally, but hey I'm not opposed to it, as long as it isn't to the exclusion and oppression of others. I'm not sure your vest analogy works very well. Does it include anything about the vest in question perhaps having been found in the home of the person it was stolen from after said home was taken by the current wearer? I'm probably not gonna get into it with you from here on out, cuz this type of thing can get really ugly and I'm getting apologist vibes from you. I just want Israel to stop oppressing people and be a secular, fair state. Dunno what else to say.
Oh my goodness, if you made a video about the social model of disability, that would be amazing! As a high support needs autistic, learning those concepts literally saved my life because they gave me the mental strength to leave my abuser of almost a decade. Very helpful framework.
When talking about peoole that don't "contribute" to society, why don't they ever mention landlords and billionaires? They're a much bigger net economic drain than disabled people, and the vast majority of landlords and billionaires *actively* make other people's lives worse, while the worst a disabled person is going to be is *slightly inconvenient*. And of course, being disabled is something happens *to* you, whereas you can always *choose* not to be a landlord or billionaire. But for some reason our society considers "slightly inconvenient" to be leagues worse than "actively harmful". Just look at our choices of power generation. Renewables are slightly inconvenient, which is considered reason enough to not bother with them, but the active harm caused by fossil fuels is either seen as necessary or simply ignored.
I love your chapter headings and this new direction your music is taking 😃 This is great. "Functional" is one of those words for me. By extension, "high functioning" and "low functioning" get my back up, and I'm likely to go off about it.
yes, autistic and disabled people being graded on a scale of 'low functioning' to 'high functioning' reeks of capitalistic-worthiness. I've heard autistic people using language like 'someone with (low or high) support needs' instead.
Not only are those terms 'useless' where they are used, because peoples ability to function depends heavily on circumstances and can change over time. They're also used harmfully. High functioning = denied accommodation Low functioning = denied agency.
@@breem2999 I agree with Support Needs vs functioning levels. However, I can't help but feel it will be short-lived as well because it is a static term (just like "high/low functioning") and my support needs are dynamic in range and timespan. That's something I've noticed in others too. The number and intensity of needs changes for so many. I have a feeling we will be throwing out this limited "high/low" paradigm at some point in the future.
Or "glorifying obesity"... I'm literally going to die because of medical fatphobia and discrimination against people with mental health conditions and unhoused individuals... so Please go more in depth on this issue... because disabled people are the largest untapped minority voting block in the country and multiple states literally made it illegal for many disabled people to vote at all...
It was nice to hear how you framed the idea of "bad neighborhoods" in cities. I've always had that feeling but haven't talked too much about it, and when I have, the people (white people) I've been around completely dismiss me. I live in a city that as a whole, has a "bad" reputation. It's lower income, and predominately non-white, but has been a safe and comfortable city and over the years truly settled in my mind how unreliable other white people can be about describing "bad cities".
it absolutely baffles me that people see cars as being underutilized, but then assign the solution of "we should buy *more* things! like individual car rides!" instead of, say, communal cars that are shared by neighborhoods, public transit, or just increased carpooling
"Am I gonna get in trouble for saying 'drives you nuts'? Fuck!" That one got me really good I'm always a proponent of being careful and precise with language, so I totally agree with the sentiment in this video, even though it can be very difficult to both be thoughtful of your own use of words, and vigilant about what others might not be saying out loud.
My biggest personal issue is that I swear. A lot. I'm a big fan of precise and specific language, and in the correct tone(s) a well placed F bomb or flood of expletives can convey things more quickly and more precise than anything IMO. But I know not everyone is a fan of that language. I know if I'm speaking to a group of 3 or 4 people, at least one is going to have a problem with my language. But it's so baked in to how I speak that as soon as I let my guard down, expletives wil start flying. Rarely ever directed at a person, but that doesn't help much.
I get these every so often. I work in retail, toys specifically, so obviously I encounter people who have opinions on Disney's interpretations of fairytales. The two I remember most clearly are one woman who was talking about how the dreaded "THEY" are saying that the story of Cinderella is "sexist" because the kiss isn't consensual. The best I could do was tell her not to believe everything she hears on TV, but I really had to avoid biting and getting into it with her lmao. Second one was a woman and her mother stood in front of the Disney dolls and they start talking about the recent Little Mermaid remake and, unsurprisingly, the lead actress' skin tone. The mother remarked that "it's all going too far". I can't imagine these people are doing this on purpose, but it really does smack to me of these things worming their way into the heads of people who really don't like seeing change in the things that they probably grew up with, which might be more insidious.
"normal" or "real" when it's about queer things - mostly I hear it when it's about gender, where "normal" or "chill" is more used around sexuality and attraction.. in both cases it's just thinly veiled disgust
For me 'learning' and 'teaching' is pretty high on my list as they rarely are used to actually mean cognitive development. Quite often they suggest/imply violence (e.g. conditioning/programming). And indeed its awful to see other people not picking up on that.
Oof, I *felt* this one, and knew immediately what you were talking about. Like the time (decades ago) when my mother and grandmother from Texas came out to visit me and the family after the birth of my youngest (born at home in West Oakland, one of “those” neighborhoods 🙄), and my aunt frantically warned my mother about how “dangerous” Oakland was (apparently the whole city!)-a place she’d never been. (I ended up disowning that person, for that and other reasons. Never regretted it.) Or the time a few years ago when chatting with a rideshare driver taking me to a doctor appt, after finding out we’d both lived in neighboring areas of the East Bay of the Bay Area at one time, he went on a tear about how he’d had to drive his wife 50+ miles away to grocery shop because, you see, she was “an innocent tiny little blonde woman” and she never felt *safe* in the stores near them. (I’d been to those stores, many times; they’re eminently ordinary, some of them dully suburban. But, y’know, not 100% white. 🤦🏽♀️) That’s why they moved up here to “nicer” Oregon. I kept my mouth shut until I could get out of the guy’s car, and he remains the only rideshare driver I refused to tip (and gave an abysmal rating, complete with the reasons why). I mean, neither of them ever specifically *said* “black people.” But it couldn’t have been clearer. Or the girl at a pool party I went to as a teenager in El Paso, TX who threw a quarter into the deep end of the pool and then stared at me expectantly for a stupidly long time. I didn’t swim, so I had no idea what was going on. She finally asked when I was going to get it, because l “couldn’t resist money”… I was the first Jewish person she’d ever met. And those are just the ones that pop into my head first…I suspect, like many people, I could list a dissertation’s worth. Anyway, intensely good work, as always. And for what it’s worth…I’m fully on board for all the titles, CWs, musical stings, delightful captions and the rest of your design choices!
Words like "certified", "official," or other words related to a real or imagined authority giving legitimacy to whatever concept or object. An "official" diagnosis. "Certified" organic. Who is deciding this, and why? And who decided they were to be trusted? It so often boils down to money, profits. Slightly related, the term "standardized" gives me pause, as does "evidence-based" - once you learn how much tampering and falsifying goes on with the supposed "evidence," there's no going back.
Whenever someone says the words "values" or "morals", my headspace goes into a pre-cringe mode because the resulting diatribe usually gets a little cringey.
As a person with ADHD, the social model of disability is fine, but it's not a flawless explanation. If I want to draw something, and have nothing but free time, absent all social pressures... executive dysfunction can still render me incapable of drawing; I am _still disabled._ Granted, the whole "society is structured around the assumption and demand of neurotypical capabilities" thing does harsh the vibe further, as it were, but I'm leery of anyone who thinks that societal change will do away with disability.
When I was in Detroit, they told me not to go South of 8-Mile. It did and just found it to be a black neighborhood. No one did anything to me. On another occasion in downtown Detroit, I was riding with a friend in his convertible and a car full of black youths pulled up next to us at a red-light. They look over at us and one of them snarled at us, "You bettah get your white ass, dah f*ck outtah here!" We promptly took their 'polite' advice and left the area. When people say that they are "Blessed" it bothers me. When people "bless" me for something it bothers me. I hate using the word social-Darwinism, because it is such a misnomer. I wish we had a better word for Social-Darwinist. Oh wait, I guess we do now, "Libertarian" right? I remember a college professor's wife once telling me that she did not want my employee, let's call him "Brian", watching/sitting her cat and maintaining security at her home. When I asked her why, she said, "Those people do not think like we do. I honestly do not know why you would hire them." I pointed to the paragraph in our service contract, that stated something like 'although we would try, for the sake of continuity and familiarity to have the same person come to do the job, that we reserved the right to have any of our employees perform or execute a particular assignment or job.' Then I spoke to Brian about it and with his approval made sure that she got Brian again and again. At some point, she claimed that he had left a rust ring in her sink and that he should be fired for that or at least taken off the job at her place. I showed her how to remove a rust ring with steel wool and reminded her of the paragraph in the service contract again. Eventually she demanded to have another employee and I told her she would just have to find another service, full knowing that there were no others, because we had a local monopoly at the time. It really was one of the best moments of my life. When I think back on it, I really enjoyed telling her that. Brian and I went out for some wings and brews and played some pool together. I told him what had happened and I think he liked it too. It really blew my mind that the wife of one of my college professor's was a racist. The thing was, that the professor himself was not a racist or at least he never showed any signs of it either in class on campus or in privately, but his wife was. I wondered how he could be in a relationship with someone that did not share a value that seemed so fundamental to me. Sorry for the long story.
The only thing that needs to be described as unclean is my apartment. The apartment building itself is fine. I defs need to clean up the apartment I'm in. Errrrrrrrr It's something I'm working on. Context is always important with language. Safe gets asked a lot with regards to therapy and/or medical places. It's a once in a while "Do you live in a safe place" "Do you feel safe communicating x" to try to sus out potentially abusive households and living situation. I'm basically agreeing with you. I just wanted to comment to fuel the algorythm deities. In terms of dog flags... I think an overimportance on "pretty" vs. "ugly" with regards to looks. Especially if you're at all femme. This relates to disfigurement getting tied to morality. If you're "ugly" then you're default assumed to be a horrible person. I think this is the moral model of disability? If you look "bad" it's you're fault because of sin sort of thing. Similarly if you're masc. the emphasis goes to "strong" vs. "weak" as an important descriptor. That ties more into the useful vs. uselessness dog flag. Actually there's a lot of language which ties into disability stuff and having your worth be decided based on alleged levels of usefulness.
Spent a lot of time in gov. A phrase that puts me off that was used a lot was “silence is consent”. While in meeting it was used to move on, but it really bothered me how the same people never did public outreach and generally just considered helping people who had the ability to be heard.
@@ThatDangDad in turn "Independence" is used = 'deserving' of autonomy. Not so much a catch as my first 'advisory board' title I was 11. More practice than I ever wanted
@@ContextWrench I feel like I'm missing the context of 'advisory board' here? (If you don't mind sharing.) I associate the term with... like... well, mostly a nice way to describe an excuse to pay a group of "experts" for the services of providing their "advice". [Meaning it's often thinly disguised graft or bribery, maybe both.] It sounds like you mean something else more directed at an individual and where the "advice" is more of an order, but I'm guessing.
@@mxpants4884 oh sure, its not nefarious. many nonprofits create "'advisory board' of subject matter 'experts ' & stakeholders to provide input on plans & projects. Advisory board reports to Board of directors but in my & most cases usually unpaid
I recently found myself in a conversation where I explained that I don't tend to find any word inherently offensive, but rather the intent of the person using it. I'm Australian, so here, the c word is everything from a term of endearment to an insult and even an adverb. If someone wants to drop that word casually, I don't mind. But my ears (and neck hairs) prick up when I hear phrases like "degenerate art" or "suggestive clothing" or "worldly".
I haven't used the word 'normal' in many years. In any context, but especially when speaking about people. I usually use 'common' or 'more typical' in its place. I think 'normal' is a fantasy, or a lie we just keep telling each other. When I think 'normal', I immediately think 'so banal and uninteresting that I could've met 100 of you just while grocery shopping'. That's not real life IME, and even if it were it's not something I'd want any part of, personally.
My favourite part is when reverse SJWs literally get OFFENDED because you choose to use a more accurate and descriptive word than something stupid like 'normal'. They're unironically offended at the idea that people are not implicitly being shamed for being different. Needless cruelty is a moral imperative for them.
Love the FFVI boss music at the most appropriate time :D The term "respectable" always makes me side eye, especially as it's used by the Black community. Being "respectable" means way more than the standard definition; it means you're worth more than those deemed "unrespectable," and if you're unrespectable, you deserve everything you get. Never mind people considered that are the ones most failed by systems designed to fail them. It's your fault for not "knowing better," (another phrase I hate).
Ngl, I generally just think of these as dogwhistles, as part of what makes a dogwhistle is that it has other uses which obscure the intended implications to the uninformed. Also, definitely still working on stopping my internal dialogue around uselessness, as someone who is societally disabled. As always, love your work, and good luck with the move!
Me too! So much of what I was told were "healthy study habits" in college were actually just telling me to be neurotypical, and I didn't even notice until this video.
@@morbidsearch They call themselves "job creators" when they are, in fact, the complete opposite. But for capitalism, we'd have so many jobs for all the work that needs doing but isn't now being done.
I'm a white-passing multi-racial Asian person who grew up in a very Republican household so I my default when talking to white people makes me sound like I should align with the fasci... I mean GOP (to be clear, this is just because I am arguing for leftist policy in terms that they can understand, it is not because I am trying to bait them into saying something stupid). This leads me to play a game I like to call "Oops All Racists" where I have a normal conversation with a decent-seeming white person until they start saying unhinged, clearly racist sh*t like "those black people just don't wanna be ejucated and that's why they're all criminals, and the cops really oughta come lock them all up and throw away the key" (not an exaggeration). Occasionally, I try to talk them around if I care about the person I'm talking to enough, but most of the time it's my signal to move on. Sometimes, you don't need to be aware of dog flags, you just need to seem sympathetic enough.
I think what makes these so tricky is that many of them have legitimate, completely harmless uses. That's also what makes them so subtle. We don't have to have this conversation about the N-word or the F-slur because they each only have one meaning, and it ain't subtle. So the clear conclusion is-as you said-to be aware why people are using these words when they use them and (I would add) to be aware of why we are using them when we do.
I wish I remembered where I heard it, but when I learned what "dogwhistles" were from a video or article, I remember that it warned that the reason that they work is that not everybody means those words the biggotted way. It was talking about how usually if people with those views are trying to identify eachother they look for multiple dogwhistles, not just one (which could be innocent).
Bundle of sticks or a cigarette across the pond, so we can't say there's only _one_ meaning. But you're very correct to say it lacks nuance, since the unifying element is, uh, "flammability." :T
A dog flag for me that you actually used in the video is calling adult women "girls"! Speaking of the grooves it carves into the mind, this contributes to the infantilisation of women. Great video though. Words are more powerful than people like to think.
Interesting catch, I didn't even know what you were referring to and had to Ctrl-F my script to find it! I think in my internal lexicon, "guy" and "girl" are equals, so I would say "new guy at work" and "new girl at work" (but not new man or new woman), but you're right that in almost any other context, girl paints a picture of a kid while guy does not. Thanks for pointing it out! New person would've worked just as well
This!! It makes me feel really uncomfy that the female equivalent for 'guy' or 'dude' is 'girl'! I've tried to think for a while about what to use as an alternative because refering to women as girls makes me feel icky, imo there should be a distinction between the two, for the sake both of women so they aren't infantalised and girls so they aren't 'adultified' (dont think thats a word) or sexualised. I mostly say 'woman' but it feels very formal!
Fantastic. So spot-on and infuriating I have to watch it in 2 parts! Great line: ..."neoliberal society- trading swastikas and ships out for global finance and austerity."
saw a Scotsman man once with a full automobile steering wheel sticking out of his trouser fly. I said hey, what's with the steering wheel ? that can't be comfortable. he said aye lassie ! it's driving me nuts!
Not a specific phrase I guess, but as a woman I've dealt with men who seem to think I'm physically incapable of humor or sarcasm. That's a red flag to me, especially when taking me too seriously in the moment would also indicate they think I'm completely inept. I know not everyone will "get" a joke and I have been clueless like that many times in my life... completely different than the scenario I'm describing. Iykyk.
As a man, I've bumped up against this more times than I'd like to admit. But it's mostly because I (really) don't like making assumptions, and I try to behave as professionally and grown up as possible. I'm not the friendliest looking person (unintentional, but still reality), so that's one of the ways I've learned over time to help people be more comfortable with my presence until they get to know me. So I often miss a whole lot of jokes a woman might throw my way. Especially if they're subtle, since I hate assuming things. Thankfully, I don't think I'm guilty of perpetrating it. I'm keenly aware that women are people and fully capable of everything I am, I'm just not always great at seeing it happen in the first place.
this one's kind of obvious, but even casual/"joking" use of the word "degenerate" makes my skin crawl. i know (or at least hope) that most who say it prrrrobably don't mean anything too deep by it, but the way that word in particular has been historically rooted in fear of the "other" just. activates my fight or flight
I notice this kind of thing all the time. Given enough time, I could give you tens if not hundreds of examples. For example, a lot of people use the word "aggressive" to mean "assertive". They do it often enough that dictionaries lists "assertive" as a secondary mean of "aggressive". But "aggressive" strongly suggests aggression regardless of the intent. In many cases, these problematic word uses are introduced deliberately to manipulate, even though most people who propagate them are unaware. A big example in my circle is the use of "car accident" to mean "car crash". This language was introduced as part of a major auto industry PR campaign in the 1920s. Yes, few crashes are deliberate, but the word "accident" strongly suggests that the crash could not have been predicted or prevented. In fact, nearly all crashes are the predictable result of specific driver behaviors, road design features, and public policies.
This could *not* have come at a better time. I'm ASD and grew up not knowing that in an extremely "abelist humor" type family. Realized like 10 hours ago that same family is obsessed with "safety", "cleanliness", and "usefulness". ( Bummer Warning ) I used to live across the river from Louisville, and my peers always talked about how dangerous it was, especially at night. Unfortunately, my fear was reinforced after a friend who *did* live there was killed in a carjacking. Now I'm left with a crippling obsession with living in a "safe" area and no real idea of what that means, to the point of being unable to leave my own damn house. Please oh please make follow ups to this 🙏
That actually happened at one point. I was just a child when it happened, but I still very distinctly remember NYC's "squat war". Most of the buildings in the area were long since abandoned, so entire squatter communities moved in. They even did repairs, rewired the buildings and got electricity working again, the whole nine. And then the city wanted them out because investors suddenly started buying up all the buildings. It kicked off a pretty epic battle. C Squat, which has been legendary in certain circles for decades already, actually won their battle and became a tenant co-op. What's wild is that I can't find any English news stories or documentaries about it anymore, despite watching them play out on nightly and national news back then. It's like they were all scrubbed off the internet. Thankfully, the US and German punk and anarchist scenes were so closely linked for so long that there are still a few German language documentaries available. It's just crazy to me that I have to watch the events I saw from my own American childhood in German these days.
Hello from beautiful terra nullius! Flood also makes it seem like a natural disaster, rather than a human-made one, and psychologists have long known that people have a different stress response to natural disasters rather than ones caused by people.
On job applications they'll have "able to lift 50 pounds" as a requirement when the job has nothing to do with lifting things. It's an ableist deterrent for folks who simply can't do that on a day to day basis.
I'm the guy who sees this stuff and points it out to people around me and bums out half the room. *shrug* I dunno. I'm nice about it, but I don't feel bad. People need to be better critical thinkers (and not just in a logic bro sense).
Woah, this is crazy! Other than “flood,” I have had pretty much the same exact thoughts as you on “useful,” “healthy,” and “safe.” In fact, I have pointed out to my kids how these terms are used to hide various forms of bigotry. I was not expecting that at all. Thank you for putting it to better words than I ever could have!
Just thought of ones that make me flinch a lot: “nice” and “god fearing.” The first generally makes me sing under my breath that immortal line from Into the Woods, “Nice is different than good!” The second is always frustrating, because it’s usually a value judgement. Blech.
"Gratitude" or "Appreciation" when used in political or teaching contexts are really insidious. I hate how much these words that mean good things have been coopted by nationalists to tell people that indoctrination is a good thing. And when you say it's not a good thing, they respond "you're saying gratitude is bad? Appreciation is bad? Look how crazy you sound!"
I don't know if it's a dog-flag, but I've always been very uncomfortable using the word "Karen" to describe someone that abuses customer service. Not that those kinds of people don't deserve all the hate they get, they do, but Karen is a person's name. People, on average, do not choose their name. It is given to them at birth. It is possible for people to change their name, yes, but outrage at a very specific group of people shouldn't be the primary reason they do that.
I would feel unsafe taking my grandfather's offer to go to Florida. The flood of transphobia that preceded it was unhealthy, and the fact that what had preceded that was me coming out as nonbinary made me feel unclean. Morally panics are useless...
Honestly as an AuADHD person, I think it's a mix of social and medical models. There's tons of stuff I could do if society was accessible to me, but there's still plenty I couldn't do even if society was fully accessible. Like for example, no amount of accessibility is gonna make me able to eat beans (bad texture), or allow me to cope with sudden loud noises, or make it so that I can understand sarcasm/jokes all the time. But public transport would keep me from having to drive, tone indicators over text help me interpret tone, later store and doctor hours would be a massive help to my sleep-disordered ass, etc. So I think the best way to look at it has to be from a nuanced, mixed perspective.
Totally get what you're saying. I think in the social model though, a proponent might say something like "Sure, you're never going to be able to eat beans. But an accessible society will have ways for you get the protein and fiber you need to thrive without them. And maybe you'll never be good at understanding sarcasm, but society will be organized such that this won't mean you can't get a job." I think in the social model, it's less that we can "solve" any specific body/mind situation and more that, holistically, you will have all the tools you have to live a thriving life.
14:00 I stumbled on a channel, "Edenicity", where the guy lays out a city design without cars. The health increases from that alone would really improve our lives without the capitalist medical current system.
having chosen this video to watch while i eat, hearing "useless eaters" was both amusing in its dramatic irony and chilling in its intended meaning. great video!
As a fellow Twin Cities local. Welcome to the club. You made a great choice with our new laws and being one of the few areas that will be habitable in the next 20 years if climate change continues its current course. Let me know if you need a guide
For me the words "female" and "male" are kinda red flags, especially when used as nouns referring to people, in place of "woman" or "man" etc. I just know when I hear that I'm about to hear some super bass ackwards stereotypes or trans exclusionary talking points, or possibly incel rhetoric (but I repeat myself)
I often use male and female when I'm speaking about cis men and women specifically, or using biological terms when speaking about something specifically science related (medications, biology, etc). It sounds too clinical IMO, but sometimes it's also less clunky than the alternative. I've mostly stopped using it these last few years, though. The alfalfa male, RP, and anti women in general spheres have exploded the last ~5 years, and now they have a completely different connotation. It's too bad, but I definitely don't want to sound like one of them.
It's always rich hearing about poor people who don't contribute to society from the rentier class. I see you, landlords. I know who you mean by "society" and for whom those laborers are productive.
As a disabled person, I think it’s unhelpful to use just one model for disability. The social model should be the preference, but if the disability is causing the disabled person distress or harm (pain, shortened life expectancy, etc) then the medical model my apply. However, the moral model is rooted in religiousity and bigotry and is best not used at all. If you're wondering why I am so against the moral model, the recent preacher who claimed autism is demonic and can be ‘healed with faith’ is following the moral model....and I think we can agree that blaming the morals of sick or disabled person for their condition is neither helpful nor very ‘moral’. In conclusion the social model works great for things like autism, less great for things like chronic pain.
"Third World" was one that stood out to me. Not sure if it was a class thing or a race thing... probably both? But I had a client who thought it was "third world" that my company couldn't accomodate his preferred appointment date.
First, Second and Third World were Cold War terms invented by a French person, iirc. Your example is probably both of those things by intersection, although the way he seemed to talk in the context of your example, it feels more racist because "We have western values, Asians (particularly East and Southeast Asians) are a hive mind with a dictatorship fetish!", that kind of thing, so it's probably also virulently anti-communist, which is ofc unsurprising.
Whenever anyone mentions “destroying” or “ruining” a place, it’s steeped in resentment for policies meant to aid poor people or poc over the aesthetic preferences of (usually) white, affluent people.
Ooo. I don’t remember if you mentioned it or not, but there’s a field in linguistics (pragmatics) that studies the broader idea of what your talking about. I don’t quite remember if it’s part of the field if semantics or if it’s its own thing, but pragmatics is how context shapes what a word means. Which is what you were talking about here lmao. I just thought you might find it interesting.
In the same vein as usefulness, productivity is also a word that I find can be an indicator of “extra” meaning. I have a coworker who is very abilist and uses the argument that if people are unproductive, why should they be supported by society and burden him.
Mr. Dang Dad, thanks for all of your education efforts and videos. If anyone doesn't like how you produce your content, they are always welcome to make their own video and find out the hard way just how intensely difficult making any video content is.
I'm still at the beginning of the video, and the chapter division really helps me when I watch it just before commuting, because most of the times I can't watch the whole video
Yellow flags was right there, Phil 😹 What's always raised my hackles is when people who would self ID as liberal and progressive start saying stuff about how conservatives (or other groups) "shouldn't be allowed to have children". Friend, that is eugenics, you're talking about eugenics
I'm pretty upset about how my conservative parents raised me (to the extent than I haven't spoken to them in three years), but when I hear my fellow leftists talking about how conservatives shouldn't be allowed to have kids I certainly don't feel particularly appreciated. It's even worse when they wish harm on the kids as a punishment for the parents (which is especially silly because conservatives don't even like their kids).
No, it's not. People choose to be conservative. Conservative beliefs necessarily leads to child abuse. Therefore, the claim that letting conservatives raise children is a bad idea is not comparable to eugenics.
Yeah, the entire safe neighborhood thing bugs me. I live in a high-property crime town. Violent crime is perpetrated by people the victims already know around 99% of the time. Or well, you know. Some people get gun-happy in their jobs. Especially around dementia patients and dogs. People complain, but still leave their doors unlocked if they feel they are in a "safe" area. It's a weird disconnect. And mostly, you do hear it from people who are transplants. To a state known as being the only state in the union where white non-Hispanic is a minority.
Holy shit the section about the social construction of sickness and disability was a truly new train of thought for me. Like there were tons of things that added new understandings and insights (especially around the use of “flooding” describing people), but that was a completely unexplored aspect of insidious/loaded language for me. I just found your channel today and I’m loving what I see so far. Keep it up!
the descriptions of the music in the captions is something that is quite unique to this channel, even if the music isn't to my particular taste seeing you attempt to describe it in text form is always enjoyable to me, most channels would other just not have captions during the music or just put something generic to indicate music is playing
An incredibly niche, subtle one online is literally the use of "noticing". It's very context-heavy obviously, signaling 'noticing coincidences' as to mean 'I am awakened to the fact global conspiracies are true'. People will spread the posts because they look innocuous, not realizing that if they click the profile of that person, they'll find antisemitism all over the place. Their account gets shared around unknowingly to wider audiences this way.
I'm often wary of "the implication" from these phrases. As an immigrant this has never been easy, but I often watchout for implications, both intentional and unintentional from the things people say. Even in cases where people aren't intentionally being malicious I need to watch out for what I call "the other ROI" (regardless of intent.) For some it's an abstract they'll never experience first hand which can be safely ignored, for me and people like me it's very obvious what is going on. Also I really like the phrase "dog flags" mainly because I like dogs ^_^. One scenario I have experienced a lot is the assumptions that "some" people make about food and authenticity. (and yes, I'm intentionally using the word "some" to imply the inverse of immigrants, or people that pass for "regular Americans") Describing "ethnic" food that hasn't become Americanized to the standards of fast food and disposable culture as being either untouchable or making it more special than it really is. Especially when something used to be literally peasant food in your home country...like the price of ox tails for example. They were literally at throw-away prices when I was a kid, and now they are way too expensive. The associations we make with food, culture, class and clean VS dirty immigrants is exhausting so I'll keep up with so I'll step away for now. Thanks for making an interesting video, and good luck with your move. Be sure to visit the "unsafe" parts of town now and again for some good food, but I suspect you already know that.
For me concepts like "right and wrong" or "normal" are fraught with hidden judgements; if I can tack the question, "for whom?" on to the end of an idea and the answer changes the nature of the concept, then there might be an inequity inherent in the concept. I find that there are virtually no socially constructed concepts that aren't loaded in that way, to some degree
I usually translate 'normal' to 'what is understood or expected'. That helps me emphasize the role of the world view of the person using the word 'normal', that their statement is one of ignorance rather than preference.
There's a lot of racism towards the Roma in my area. It's interesting hearing how differently white people decribe them just... existing. They don't sit at the park, they "loiter". They don't look through items at a store, they "rummage". And I wish I could say I intervene every time some says something racist, but the truth is I don't. Every time I do I just get barked down that I don't "get it". That I haven't seen "real" Roma people before. And to those people: I'm sorry for you. I'm sorry you live with your eyes closed so shut you don't even see the people around you.
I’ve lived in Southern California my whole life and, to my knowledge, I’ve never met a Romani person. My grandparents, however, fled Hungary during the 1950’s revolution, and I recall very frequent seemingly nonsensical rants about “G*ps**s” from my grandfather (and, as an aside, claims that the “Jews were the worst torturers among their Bolshevik rulers”), and I always just brushed it off, as though these mythical wandering thieves who seemed to possess certain dark magic qualities my grandpa feared so much weren’t even a real group of people (and of course I only learned the correct term to refer to them a few years ago). The Roma played a very formative role in my life as a child, despite the fact that, again, I’ve still never met someone from that community. Just yesterday, the antifascist network I help run noted a sign posted at a Chevron gas station here in Los Angeles that states that the store has a policy of refusing service to “G*ps* women in long shoplifting skirts” and I immediately wondered if my now long dead racist grandpa had come back to life to write it.
Haha I totally forgot the star symbol creates bold text and holy crap that comment is a nightmare I’m sorry.
@@JohnDoe-km9zd I'm not sure where in SoCal you are, but there is actually a Roma population in the general area. They often keep to themselves for obvious reasons, and will often mention a different heritage when asked.
They literally dress like everyone else, though. It sounds like that store is trying to keep those flowing, ankle length skirts out of the building; I've mostly just seen those on the earth momma hippie types of women, though I think that specific type of skirt might've been known as a g*ps* skirt at some point. At least casually.
it's really so crazy how far people go to perpetrate stereotypes about black people without saying black people
There’s always one mf on a shoplifting video being like “typical” or “the regular suspects” I’m confused. Just because a couple odd people of a particular group commit crimes doesn’t mean the whole group are criminals.
One of the more subtle racist dog whistles is, "the statistics don't lie."
They only lie when you don't put the statistics into context or use faulty statistical models.
@@ComicXanzNEVER sort the comments by “newest” on a youtube video of a black guy commenting a crime. 💀
The craziest thing to see is all the “why is it always them” etc. etc., which of course is crazy, but when you go to the news channels account, you get a little taste of why. There’s a reasonable, proportional amount of videos of black criminals; they definitely don’t make up the majority of videos, but for seemingly _no reason,_ the videos of black people get 400k~ views, while all the others barely reach 40k. Like, MAYBE you only see black guys doing all this shit because it what you _want_ to see? 😂 People seem to forget that algorithms are _made_ to show you what you, and people like you, are most likely to watch.
I see it so much in the comment sections of almost every ad on Facebook featuring a black person. Laugh reacts and everybody going on about "criminals" this and "animals" that, and all the memes with black faces, connecting black skin to shit, bad teeth, all that. I'd leave fb if all my friends weren't there too, or were cool with going by phone or whatsapp.
@@ComicXanz also what I like to call “novelty bias,” [it’s actually called availability bias] because white is considered the “default,” you notice when someone who isn’t white does something more than if a white person did it. You notice it more. If one person in a stigmatized/marginalized group does a bad thing, it often gets generalized to the whole group because you notice the identity first (because it’s not “the default”). Confirmation bias goes hand in hand with this as well.
As an autistic person, the social model of disability makes a whole hell of a lot more sense than the medical model.
I do great, I thrive, I'm content- until society tries to force me to do specific things I'm not suited to. They aren't things necessary for being a human, or things necessary to live on Earth. They are things my *specific society* has made a requirement of all people, which then renders me "disabled."
For my part as an autistic person, I personally tend to insist, on top of what you said, that being autistic is not itself a disability, even under the social model of disability. It merely _has disabling aspects to it_ under the social model specifically. Autism is at the core of who and what I am, and it also gives me incredible strengths that are the necessary flipsides to my weaknesses and vice versa.
@@jemolk8945 "Contains a disability" is another formula I've found useful.
I have ADHD but I totally agree in every possible way.
Whatever struggles I have with self regulation could be solved with a different social model that accounted for people like me. I am only "disabled" insofar as I can't do what I'm told at all times.
@@jemolk8945 it's my understanding that under the social model of disability that's true for all potentially disabling conditions. The condition itself is not a disability, it's how society interacts with that condition. For example, under the social model of disability someone in a wheel chair is only made disabled when they need to access a building that can only be entered by climbing a flight of stairs.
@@allanjmcpherson Very true. My point is more that even under the social model, there are aspects of autism that are outright advantages, even given the current state of society -- sometimes even _especially_ given the current state of society.
"Lazy." I honestly don't think it's even a character trait. It can be a decent description of a behavior or idea, but when it's used for a person it seems like it's always describing a problem the person has that the speaker doesn't know about. I got called "lazy" all the time as a kid, but it was undiagnosed ADHD. Nobody looked for the problem though, becuase they had already found the problem, my "laziness". Ironically, using the "lazy" to describe someone is usually pretty lazy.
Any time the word lazy is used, I ask myself, what word more precisely describes the situation: Was I lazy about the dishes tonight or was I exhausted and needed to prioritise rest?
Was I lazy at work or am I not being paid enough to warrant me running myself ragged?
Was I lazy laying in bed till midday or was I just really frigging depressed?
Was I lazy not attending that lecture or was I prioritising things that are more important to me?
@@nathanaelgazzard7989 That sounds a lot like what I've been trying to do lately, and it's worked pretty well for me. I've also been trying to extend it to hearing anyone else called "lazy", and I find it's rarely difficult to think of possible reasons a person might be not working or working slowly.
I only hear one thing when I hear someone call a person lazy: "You have a problem I don't care about or understand and it's making you less useful or compliant". An outgrowth of healthism. It's your responsibility to manage your mental health or neurodivergence so that it never becomes someone else's problem.
@@rantingrodent416 That's certainly the only thing anyone has ever meant when saying to me (myself included, sadly, although I don't see myself that way anymore), but I've also seen it used to other people who were perfectly "healthy" but overworked.
The same thing happened to me.
As a black, mixed person who is lighter skinned, one of my big watch words is "well-spoken" or its more proper cousin "articulate". Whenever someone says that in reference to me or another black person, with just that hint of surprise and/or pride, maybe even relieved....i know exactly what they mean. "You dont sound black." That i or another black person are one of the tolerable ones bc we dont speak AAVE (in front of them).
Its both very funny and disappointing when i code switch to aave in casual conversation, especially when im excited or angry, and just. SEE on a white coworker's face the disgust. Usually they'll try to "tease" us by saying "wooww i didnt know you spoke like that!" In derision As a way to shame us. It got to me when i was younger, especially when after that point all the tolerance was gone and they were all too happy to treat me like garbage, rather than as a work pet :/ now if that happens i just do it more
„Everybody knows”, „common sense”, and other appeals to some vague authority that the listener implicitly shares with the speaker
Playing the fool to that one never gets old btw. No I don’t know. I’m confused. Excuse me, could you explain this one in more detail?
Please *E X P O U N D*
And thus begins the game of how many lic-uh Questions does it take to get to the centre of a fash ideology
Common Sense is an illusion born of the assumption of shared experiences, perceptions, and values.
Saaaaaaaaaaaame! My motto for this is "common sense ain't as common nor as sensible as it may seem"
Also, almost all pop sci references to evolutionary psychology (and a non trivial proportion of academic ones):
- Start with assuming that all of our prehistoric ancestors had a specific gendered division of hunting/gathering
- use this to analyze a behavior or social relationship that has undergone controversial upheaval in a specific society within the writer's lifetime, or at most compared to the mythical standard of their parents or grandparents day
... to demonstrate that the new standard that's emerging is not going to work out because nature via thousands of years of evolution.
Which is definitely the best source of explanations for the latest trends.
Yes! When I was growing up, adults would constantly tell me that I had “no common sense.” No, I was just a child who was still learning how to be a human being. I did not have decades of experience with being alive to guide my behavior. That’s why there was an adult there to watch me in the first place.
Side note: A lot of the behaviors and misunderstandings that earned me a “you have no common sense” happened because I was neurodivergent, but I heard it from neurodivergent adults just as much as I heard it from neurotypical ones. It really is just code for “You are wrong because you don’t think like me.”
I once proposed a regional bus system for my rural area in Canada, and a lot of the dissenting comments were citing "drug dealers" as a reason not to build such a thing (as if drug dealers don't have cars). I'm pretty sure they meant poor people and racial minorities.
Some people deal drugs because of how expensive and necessary owning a car is
Lol not only do drug dealers all own cars, but they always buy expensive cars with cash in full. The Mercedes-Benz turbo diesels of the 1980s were stereotypically known as drug dealer cars because of how many drug dealers drove them and how easy it is to do rails off the hood of the trunk.
There's a part of my hometown which is *extremely* touristy and rich. As an apparent result, the public transport links there are abysmal (one bus per hour, and they stop after about 6 PM). It's 100% poor people that they're trying to keep out.
As a casual English user from a not English-speaking Country, I've always found it unnerving that people use the term "straight" to mean "heterosexual" so casually. If heterosexuality is "straight", is every other orientation "crooked"? "Broken"? "Skewed"? It's probably nothing more than slang for most native or first language speakers, but I refuse to unsee that.
The word 'bent' was commonly used as a slur for gay and gender non conforming people. I suppose that's the antonym of straight. I suppose it also has to do with the phrase "setting someone 'straight' ". Which reflects on how violently people where and still are forced into hetero sexuality.
@@bcmpinc Ew, makes sense unfortunately... :/ but thank you, I didn't know "bent" used to have that meaning. I'll be significantly less likely to use that word and its variations when synonyms are available.
@@gattoleone1843 I wouldn't worry on that score. Nobody is likely to confuse "bent" for a comment on orientation, unless maybe you're using it to refer to a person. (Unlike, say, "queer," which you should be a little careful about if you're not trying to suggest that the "queer little shop" is run by cool lesbians.) It's not in current use as a term for sexuality, it just used to be. File it with "invert" and "confirmed bachelor."
@@trioptimum9027 "queer" as a term for sexuality is definitely in current use, it seems to be a generational as well as regional divide. Communities I've been in with other LGBTQ+ people have at times effectively dropped the LGBT and + in preference for "queer" as a big-tent common identity, but I've also seen older people take it or use it as an insult on a slim few occasions. I think the best approach is to simply check the vibe of the space you're in and go with whatever language is preferred there.
@@gattoleone1843 It's still being used in Norwegian, "skeiv" (etomylogically related to "skewed") is the general way to talk about queer people. It's been reclaimed in the same way as queer has in English.
As a "useless eater" who can't get food for at least a week every month, I appreciate your anti-ableism content so so so much.
Also, this becomes even more absurd when you consider that the people making the accusations consume many more times the resources than that of the "useless eaters."
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Anytime someone says "the blacks" or "the gays".
Good call! "The" in front instead of "people" after is a dog flag. Like they don't want to acknowledge the humanity of others
No but seriously... any time somebody precedes a people group with "the"... it's like a 90% chance some bigoted bullshit is coming immediately after
I have seen and heard "the gays" used *by* queer people in an ironic way to refer to queer people with reference to authoritarians and bigots. (Stuff like "This legislation is plainly targetted at the gays.")
I was just thinking today about how "disrespectful" seems to be a favorite word for a lot of authoritarian-leaning people on an interpersonal basis
Especially when they are also generally rude people themselves
I was diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder a half dozen times or more before I was ever diagnosed with ADHD. Apparently they're often traveling companions, at least among males.
That 'disrespectful' shit rubs me the wrong way so intensely and quickly that I'm just as likely to want to start swinging as I am to explain anything. If someone's panties get that kind of twisted over something I just casually said, I will always show them what real disrespect looks like. They'll never misunderstand those differences again, at least not when speaking to me. It's absolutely infuriating to me, because of those exact 'respect authority' undertones to the whole thing.
Yep, it's almost never about respect, it's about obedience.
Related is how people who constantly bang on about the respect they're owed almost never seem to acknowledge the disrespect they've earned through their actions. They won't acknowledge that they are getting treated precisely as respectfully as they deserve. Because it's entitled authoritarian "I'm inherently above you" thinking. "Respect" they are "owed". The idea of actual fairness doesn't exist in that mindset.
They are definitely not fond of me telling them "fuck you, earn my respect" as a response.
When I became an adult and gradually started thinking for myself instead of doing everything I was told, I was told I had become "surly". I've always been a fairly polite person and that never changed. Authoritarians just despise being resisted.
My biggest dog flag right now is definitely "concerned parents".
So timely. I’m a teacher, so of course I have an entire lexicon of words that rile me, but one that really gets me spinning is “Normal.” Especially when parents use it in relation to their neurodivergent kids, as if “normal” is not incredibly subjective. As if “normal” is the opposite of “neurodivergent.” Oh Lordy I need to sit down.
100%
I am very normal about that idea myself.
About people's normalcy, I mean. My own especially.
I'm a teacher who is on the autism spectrum; and when introducing it, I say my brain "works differently than most people", and in doing so am trying to normalize autism to some degree.
another thing I have noticed… those who scream loudest about “freedom of speech” are often those most inclined to abuse it
I think it's more notable they're often the ones most inclined to oppose freedom of speech and expression whenever it's against their agenda. Or at the least are useful idiots in such a process.
Also also, arguing about "freedom of speech" is a rather revealing argument from those sorts. They can't defend the actual positions, because their positions are vile, so they argue about the right to say things in the abstract.
And to actually censor things through legislation, without even seeing the irony (think of book bans and don't-say-gay bills for schools)
"Western Civilization" Not a word, but hearing it now a days gives me a sick feeling. It is much easier to say than terrified white christian nationalists though.
On a side note I've also been wanting to say that I really love your work on this channel. You have great insight, writing, and delivery. I'm always interested in hearing what you've been thinking about. I just want three things: a teleprompter (We're having an intimate moment, please don't look away), a backdrop/set/studio/painting/some kind of nice background (Where is he now? What book is that? Is that a sock? Or go the other way and be totally weird about it. Like in the bathroom. Upside down on the bed. Laying on the kitchen counter), and for you to be as successful a possible so you can keep making content for us.
Phil is currently in a temporary living situation, if I recall correctly. So the nice background might be a future thing. Also I'm pretty that's a sock.
The term "religious freedom" is that way for me. The only time I hear people talk about how America really needs to live up to its promise of "religious freedom" is in terms of the right for white Christians to be bigoted. It's very frustrating given the way that a lot of religious minorities are treated across the United States.
@@Newton-Reuther And you just know that if there was a religion that was prejudiced against Christians and a Christian was refused service at a store because of those religious beliefs, those same people would be shrieking bloody murder for months afterword. It'd be the only story they'd talk about for the rest of the year.
When I moved to a new job and told people where I lived they kept saying it was "dangerous"
Looked up the crime rate and it was less than where I was from. Then I looked up the demographics of the area and went "Oh, right, racism"
That's exactly why Detroit and Chicago have the reputations they do, despite several Southern cities and counties (anyone who has ever lived in a legitimately rural area knows it's nothing like what they show on TV) having far worse amounts of per capita violent crime. Those specific dog whistles are literally everywhere in the US. It's crazy.
For a positive description of people movements, the media often use "flock." As in "People are flocking to see the new Marble Studios film." Kind of like birds. Birds are nice.
I mean, sure… as long as you don’t think about dinosaurs or aren’t in an Alfred Hitchcock movie! 😁 (Sorry, birds often unnerve me, but that’s entirely a me thing, lol) But yeah, you’ve got a point, great observation!
yup, great catch
I'm surprised a quick search and I didn't notice anyone mention "crisis."
I've seen so many "migrant crisis" or "theft crisis" or "health crisis" but when it comes to undeniable crises. Like flooding, uncontrolled fires, tornadoes? There "disasters" or just labeled as what we've classified them like a type 3 tornado or something.
Crisis is a word that seems to be used with a lot sociopolitical issues.
These words were definite blind spots for me, much more subtle than I was expecting. For me the word "family" in an organization or event name gets the hair on my neck standing up. It's been used so often to signify anti-lgbt.
Organizations with words like Family, Heritage, Liberty, America(n(s)), and a bunch of others are almost always anti LGBTQ+ and anti social progress garbage. It's so reliable that it's almost a universal constant at this point.
Or the idea that anyone who doesn't have a "proper family" (aka single moms, people who get abortions, or childfree people; in addition to LGBT people) isn't a good person; while anyone who does have a "proper family" (even those that are abusing or sexualizing children, cheating or otherwise abusing their spouse, or engaging in sexual acts in public) is automatically a good person.
That and "traditional"
I strongly agree with you. My ears perk up and I pay close attention to what a person is saying or trying to say when they use those words. Words I am careful about:
Parasite, urban, globalism/globalization, new world, post-mordern, birth rate, replacement, wellfare and work ethics.
I personally like to use words like parasite and useless to refer to the owning class and fascists. I am careful not to use those towards individual humans.
I mainly use those because I am white and educated but come from a very poor family and am a minority in other aspects (including having invisible disabilities) and want to reclaim the words and make them as useless as possible for the right.
yeah i'm suuuuper careful with parasite because, like, a lot of landlords are parasites but using that word recklessly brushes up against so much anti-semitic propaganda from the past and i never want someone to think i'm headed in that direction
Yeah but parasite downplays it, as someone who's had worms I'd rather that over my landlord.
Hey, i was wondering, how does globalization fit into the dog -flags? It makes sense but growing i was taught it was a generally good thing. I can infer now that that was most likely conditioning of some sort, but I was wondering if you could give more of ur perspective if that alright with you
@@lachlainegordon806 not the op, but basically the word globalist is a dog whistle for jewish person, so globalism is the dog whistle for international jewish kabal or other such nazi conspiracy. alternatively when used positively it is by a group using it to mean America takes control.
@@lachlainegordon806It was used as an antisemitic dog whistle for decades by certain people. That's definitely not its only context, just a really common one historically. A lot of people still use it that exact way today, it's just that that's not its only meaning.
Something that I've noticed are "dog flags" in reviews of media (especially video games) are "bad weighting" and/or "boring characters" it's often because some footnote character is openly queer, or a female and/or POC character has a bit too big a role for their taste. These days people like this have largely moved on to saying it's to "woke" but it was a very strong trend for a while
The "this place has no people" thing was actually used as recently as the founding of Israel. There was a popular phrase people used to justify the establishment of a country there by referring to Palestine as a "land without a people for a people without a land"
@@jackr3947 Okay, how else should I refer to the country of Israel, which exists, and was founded. Good luck!
@@jackr3947 I was just giving an example of a time that similar logic was used. I don't know that it matters that not literally every single person literally used and believed that phrase who went to Israel. That was quite a gish gallop you posted in response. I dunno what to tell you. I don't want Jews oppressed anywhere. I don't think Israel should be "closed" or whatever. I just want Israel to not be an apartheid state. I will candidly admit I find the idea of an ethnic homeland silly personally, but hey I'm not opposed to it, as long as it isn't to the exclusion and oppression of others. I'm not sure your vest analogy works very well. Does it include anything about the vest in question perhaps having been found in the home of the person it was stolen from after said home was taken by the current wearer? I'm probably not gonna get into it with you from here on out, cuz this type of thing can get really ugly and I'm getting apologist vibes from you. I just want Israel to stop oppressing people and be a secular, fair state. Dunno what else to say.
Oh my goodness, if you made a video about the social model of disability, that would be amazing! As a high support needs autistic, learning those concepts literally saved my life because they gave me the mental strength to leave my abuser of almost a decade. Very helpful framework.
When talking about peoole that don't "contribute" to society, why don't they ever mention landlords and billionaires? They're a much bigger net economic drain than disabled people, and the vast majority of landlords and billionaires *actively* make other people's lives worse, while the worst a disabled person is going to be is *slightly inconvenient*. And of course, being disabled is something happens *to* you, whereas you can always *choose* not to be a landlord or billionaire.
But for some reason our society considers "slightly inconvenient" to be leagues worse than "actively harmful". Just look at our choices of power generation. Renewables are slightly inconvenient, which is considered reason enough to not bother with them, but the active harm caused by fossil fuels is either seen as necessary or simply ignored.
I love your chapter headings and this new direction your music is taking 😃
This is great. "Functional" is one of those words for me. By extension, "high functioning" and "low functioning" get my back up, and I'm likely to go off about it.
ooh that's a good one
yes, autistic and disabled people being graded on a scale of 'low functioning' to 'high functioning' reeks of capitalistic-worthiness. I've heard autistic people using language like 'someone with (low or high) support needs' instead.
@@breem2999 YES! I dig it
Not only are those terms 'useless' where they are used, because peoples ability to function depends heavily on circumstances and can change over time. They're also used harmfully.
High functioning = denied accommodation
Low functioning = denied agency.
@@breem2999 I agree with Support Needs vs functioning levels. However, I can't help but feel it will be short-lived as well because it is a static term (just like "high/low functioning") and my support needs are dynamic in range and timespan. That's something I've noticed in others too. The number and intensity of needs changes for so many.
I have a feeling we will be throwing out this limited "high/low" paradigm at some point in the future.
Or "glorifying obesity"... I'm literally going to die because of medical fatphobia and discrimination against people with mental health conditions and unhoused individuals... so Please go more in depth on this issue... because disabled people are the largest untapped minority voting block in the country and multiple states literally made it illegal for many disabled people to vote at all...
It was nice to hear how you framed the idea of "bad neighborhoods" in cities. I've always had that feeling but haven't talked too much about it, and when I have, the people (white people) I've been around completely dismiss me. I live in a city that as a whole, has a "bad" reputation. It's lower income, and predominately non-white, but has been a safe and comfortable city and over the years truly settled in my mind how unreliable other white people can be about describing "bad cities".
it absolutely baffles me that people see cars as being underutilized, but then assign the solution of "we should buy *more* things! like individual car rides!" instead of, say, communal cars that are shared by neighborhoods, public transit, or just increased carpooling
"Am I gonna get in trouble for saying 'drives you nuts'? Fuck!" That one got me really good
I'm always a proponent of being careful and precise with language, so I totally agree with the sentiment in this video, even though it can be very difficult to both be thoughtful of your own use of words, and vigilant about what others might not be saying out loud.
My biggest personal issue is that I swear. A lot. I'm a big fan of precise and specific language, and in the correct tone(s) a well placed F bomb or flood of expletives can convey things more quickly and more precise than anything IMO.
But I know not everyone is a fan of that language. I know if I'm speaking to a group of 3 or 4 people, at least one is going to have a problem with my language. But it's so baked in to how I speak that as soon as I let my guard down, expletives wil start flying. Rarely ever directed at a person, but that doesn't help much.
I get these every so often. I work in retail, toys specifically, so obviously I encounter people who have opinions on Disney's interpretations of fairytales. The two I remember most clearly are one woman who was talking about how the dreaded "THEY" are saying that the story of Cinderella is "sexist" because the kiss isn't consensual. The best I could do was tell her not to believe everything she hears on TV, but I really had to avoid biting and getting into it with her lmao.
Second one was a woman and her mother stood in front of the Disney dolls and they start talking about the recent Little Mermaid remake and, unsurprisingly, the lead actress' skin tone. The mother remarked that "it's all going too far". I can't imagine these people are doing this on purpose, but it really does smack to me of these things worming their way into the heads of people who really don't like seeing change in the things that they probably grew up with, which might be more insidious.
"normal" or "real" when it's about queer things - mostly I hear it when it's about gender, where "normal" or "chill" is more used around sexuality and attraction.. in both cases it's just thinly veiled disgust
For me 'learning' and 'teaching' is pretty high on my list as they rarely are used to actually mean cognitive development. Quite often they suggest/imply violence (e.g. conditioning/programming). And indeed its awful to see other people not picking up on that.
Oof, I *felt* this one, and knew immediately what you were talking about.
Like the time (decades ago) when my mother and grandmother from Texas came out to visit me and the family after the birth of my youngest (born at home in West Oakland, one of “those” neighborhoods 🙄), and my aunt frantically warned my mother about how “dangerous” Oakland was (apparently the whole city!)-a place she’d never been. (I ended up disowning that person, for that and other reasons. Never regretted it.)
Or the time a few years ago when chatting with a rideshare driver taking me to a doctor appt, after finding out we’d both lived in neighboring areas of the East Bay of the Bay Area at one time, he went on a tear about how he’d had to drive his wife 50+ miles away to grocery shop because, you see, she was “an innocent tiny little blonde woman” and she never felt *safe* in the stores near them. (I’d been to those stores, many times; they’re eminently ordinary, some of them dully suburban. But, y’know, not 100% white. 🤦🏽♀️) That’s why they moved up here to “nicer” Oregon. I kept my mouth shut until I could get out of the guy’s car, and he remains the only rideshare driver I refused to tip (and gave an abysmal rating, complete with the reasons why).
I mean, neither of them ever specifically *said* “black people.” But it couldn’t have been clearer.
Or the girl at a pool party I went to as a teenager in El Paso, TX who threw a quarter into the deep end of the pool and then stared at me expectantly for a stupidly long time. I didn’t swim, so I had no idea what was going on. She finally asked when I was going to get it, because l “couldn’t resist money”… I was the first Jewish person she’d ever met.
And those are just the ones that pop into my head first…I suspect, like many people, I could list a dissertation’s worth.
Anyway, intensely good work, as always. And for what it’s worth…I’m fully on board for all the titles, CWs, musical stings, delightful captions and the rest of your design choices!
Words like "certified", "official," or other words related to a real or imagined authority giving legitimacy to whatever concept or object. An "official" diagnosis. "Certified" organic. Who is deciding this, and why? And who decided they were to be trusted? It so often boils down to money, profits.
Slightly related, the term "standardized" gives me pause, as does "evidence-based" - once you learn how much tampering and falsifying goes on with the supposed "evidence," there's no going back.
Almost any mention of parenting... "bad kids", "discipline", etc... almost always refers to abuse
Whenever someone says the words "values" or "morals", my headspace goes into a pre-cringe mode because the resulting diatribe usually gets a little cringey.
As a person with ADHD, the social model of disability is fine, but it's not a flawless explanation. If I want to draw something, and have nothing but free time, absent all social pressures... executive dysfunction can still render me incapable of drawing; I am _still disabled._
Granted, the whole "society is structured around the assumption and demand of neurotypical capabilities" thing does harsh the vibe further, as it were, but I'm leery of anyone who thinks that societal change will do away with disability.
When I was in Detroit, they told me not to go South of 8-Mile. It did and just found it to be a black neighborhood. No one did anything to me.
On another occasion in downtown Detroit, I was riding with a friend in his convertible and a car full of black youths pulled up next to us at a red-light. They look over at us and one of them snarled at us, "You bettah get your white ass, dah f*ck outtah here!"
We promptly took their 'polite' advice and left the area.
When people say that they are "Blessed" it bothers me. When people "bless" me for something it bothers me.
I hate using the word social-Darwinism, because it is such a misnomer. I wish we had a better word for Social-Darwinist. Oh wait, I guess we do now, "Libertarian" right?
I remember a college professor's wife once telling me that she did not want my employee, let's call him "Brian", watching/sitting her cat and maintaining security at her home. When I asked her why, she said, "Those people do not think like we do. I honestly do not know why you would hire them." I pointed to the paragraph in our service contract, that stated something like 'although we would try, for the sake of continuity and familiarity to have the same person come to do the job, that we reserved the right to have any of our employees perform or execute a particular assignment or job.'
Then I spoke to Brian about it and with his approval made sure that she got Brian again and again. At some point, she claimed that he had left a rust ring in her sink and that he should be fired for that or at least taken off the job at her place. I showed her how to remove a rust ring with steel wool and reminded her of the paragraph in the service contract again. Eventually she demanded to have another employee and I told her she would just have to find another service, full knowing that there were no others, because we had a local monopoly at the time. It really was one of the best moments of my life. When I think back on it, I really enjoyed telling her that. Brian and I went out for some wings and brews and played some pool together. I told him what had happened and I think he liked it too.
It really blew my mind that the wife of one of my college professor's was a racist. The thing was, that the professor himself was not a racist or at least he never showed any signs of it either in class on campus or in privately, but his wife was. I wondered how he could be in a relationship with someone that did not share a value that seemed so fundamental to me.
Sorry for the long story.
The only thing that needs to be described as unclean is my apartment. The apartment building itself is fine. I defs need to clean up the apartment I'm in. Errrrrrrrr It's something I'm working on. Context is always important with language. Safe gets asked a lot with regards to therapy and/or medical places. It's a once in a while "Do you live in a safe place" "Do you feel safe communicating x" to try to sus out potentially abusive households and living situation. I'm basically agreeing with you. I just wanted to comment to fuel the algorythm deities.
In terms of dog flags...
I think an overimportance on "pretty" vs. "ugly" with regards to looks. Especially if you're at all femme. This relates to disfigurement getting tied to morality. If you're "ugly" then you're default assumed to be a horrible person. I think this is the moral model of disability? If you look "bad" it's you're fault because of sin sort of thing.
Similarly if you're masc. the emphasis goes to "strong" vs. "weak" as an important descriptor. That ties more into the useful vs. uselessness dog flag.
Actually there's a lot of language which ties into disability stuff and having your worth be decided based on alleged levels of usefulness.
Spent a lot of time in gov. A phrase that puts me off that was used a lot was “silence is consent”. While in meeting it was used to move on, but it really bothered me how the same people never did public outreach and generally just considered helping people who had the ability to be heard.
so many thoughts to start: "health" gets conflated with "independence" too often I will spare you my linguistic eugenics rant
ooh good catch on that
@@ThatDangDad in turn "Independence" is used = 'deserving' of autonomy. Not so much a catch as my first 'advisory board' title I was 11. More practice than I ever wanted
@@ContextWrench I feel like I'm missing the context of 'advisory board' here? (If you don't mind sharing.) I associate the term with... like... well, mostly a nice way to describe an excuse to pay a group of "experts" for the services of providing their "advice". [Meaning it's often thinly disguised graft or bribery, maybe both.]
It sounds like you mean something else more directed at an individual and where the "advice" is more of an order, but I'm guessing.
@@mxpants4884 oh sure, its not nefarious. many nonprofits create "'advisory board' of subject matter 'experts ' & stakeholders to provide input on plans & projects. Advisory board reports to Board of directors but in my & most cases usually unpaid
I recently found myself in a conversation where I explained that I don't tend to find any word inherently offensive, but rather the intent of the person using it.
I'm Australian, so here, the c word is everything from a term of endearment to an insult and even an adverb. If someone wants to drop that word casually, I don't mind. But my ears (and neck hairs) prick up when I hear phrases like "degenerate art" or "suggestive clothing" or "worldly".
Never thought about the implications behind "suggestive clothing" before
18:25 I was talking to a co worker and it was so annoying to hear them say "normal" so casually when comparing autistic people to nuerotypical people.
I haven't used the word 'normal' in many years. In any context, but especially when speaking about people. I usually use 'common' or 'more typical' in its place.
I think 'normal' is a fantasy, or a lie we just keep telling each other. When I think 'normal', I immediately think 'so banal and uninteresting that I could've met 100 of you just while grocery shopping'. That's not real life IME, and even if it were it's not something I'd want any part of, personally.
My favourite part is when reverse SJWs literally get OFFENDED because you choose to use a more accurate and descriptive word than something stupid like 'normal'. They're unironically offended at the idea that people are not implicitly being shamed for being different. Needless cruelty is a moral imperative for them.
Here at the beginning of the video, waiting for the word “degenerate” to show up
Oh no, I lost the dogwhistle bingo 😖
I would argue that word is often MISused, but isn’t inherently a red flag.
@@cloudskat3rnah the very etymology of the word is rotten.
Love the FFVI boss music at the most appropriate time :D
The term "respectable" always makes me side eye, especially as it's used by the Black community. Being "respectable" means way more than the standard definition; it means you're worth more than those deemed "unrespectable," and if you're unrespectable, you deserve everything you get. Never mind people considered that are the ones most failed by systems designed to fail them. It's your fault for not "knowing better," (another phrase I hate).
Privilege is a That Dang Dad video being released in the evening in your timezone
Ngl, I generally just think of these as dogwhistles, as part of what makes a dogwhistle is that it has other uses which obscure the intended implications to the uninformed. Also, definitely still working on stopping my internal dialogue around uselessness, as someone who is societally disabled. As always, love your work, and good luck with the move!
I'm so grateful that you mentioned Healthism; I'd never heard of it and it articulates well so much ive experienced myself
Me too! So much of what I was told were "healthy study habits" in college were actually just telling me to be neurotypical, and I didn't even notice until this video.
"Hollywood Elites" is one that I hear get thrown around a lot...
Great video, as always, Phil!
But their elites are called "Job Creators"
Reasonably sure that the triple parentheses (signalling anti-semitism) would be redundant for that one for what they're signalling, no?
@@morbidsearch They call themselves "job creators" when they are, in fact, the complete opposite. But for capitalism, we'd have so many jobs for all the work that needs doing but isn't now being done.
This discussion could easily fall on deaf ears so I appreciate you bringing more attention to the connotations of things we often hear
I do love the FFVI battle theme cameo, even if you tainted it by making me look at Tucker Carlson's face lol
Quick, suplex it
I'm a white-passing multi-racial Asian person who grew up in a very Republican household so I my default when talking to white people makes me sound like I should align with the fasci... I mean GOP (to be clear, this is just because I am arguing for leftist policy in terms that they can understand, it is not because I am trying to bait them into saying something stupid). This leads me to play a game I like to call "Oops All Racists" where I have a normal conversation with a decent-seeming white person until they start saying unhinged, clearly racist sh*t like "those black people just don't wanna be ejucated and that's why they're all criminals, and the cops really oughta come lock them all up and throw away the key" (not an exaggeration). Occasionally, I try to talk them around if I care about the person I'm talking to enough, but most of the time it's my signal to move on. Sometimes, you don't need to be aware of dog flags, you just need to seem sympathetic enough.
I think what makes these so tricky is that many of them have legitimate, completely harmless uses. That's also what makes them so subtle. We don't have to have this conversation about the N-word or the F-slur because they each only have one meaning, and it ain't subtle. So the clear conclusion is-as you said-to be aware why people are using these words when they use them and (I would add) to be aware of why we are using them when we do.
I wish I remembered where I heard it, but when I learned what "dogwhistles" were from a video or article, I remember that it warned that the reason that they work is that not everybody means those words the biggotted way. It was talking about how usually if people with those views are trying to identify eachother they look for multiple dogwhistles, not just one (which could be innocent).
Bundle of sticks or a cigarette across the pond, so we can't say there's only _one_ meaning. But you're very correct to say it lacks nuance, since the unifying element is, uh, "flammability." :T
@@normanclatcher I disagree. By the F-slur I don't mean "fag" but rather the full form of the word. No one's calling their cigarettes that.
@@allanjmcpherson Private opinions of habitual smokers notwithstanding, I concede the point respectfully.
A dog flag for me that you actually used in the video is calling adult women "girls"! Speaking of the grooves it carves into the mind, this contributes to the infantilisation of women.
Great video though. Words are more powerful than people like to think.
Interesting catch, I didn't even know what you were referring to and had to Ctrl-F my script to find it! I think in my internal lexicon, "guy" and "girl" are equals, so I would say "new guy at work" and "new girl at work" (but not new man or new woman), but you're right that in almost any other context, girl paints a picture of a kid while guy does not. Thanks for pointing it out! New person would've worked just as well
This!! It makes me feel really uncomfy that the female equivalent for 'guy' or 'dude' is 'girl'! I've tried to think for a while about what to use as an alternative because refering to women as girls makes me feel icky, imo there should be a distinction between the two, for the sake both of women so they aren't infantalised and girls so they aren't 'adultified' (dont think thats a word) or sexualised. I mostly say 'woman' but it feels very formal!
@@sherbet3018 There is a female equivalent for 'guy' - gal. As in guys and gals.
Fantastic. So spot-on and infuriating I have to watch it in 2 parts! Great line: ..."neoliberal society- trading swastikas and ships out for global finance and austerity."
saw a Scotsman man once with a full automobile steering wheel sticking out of his trouser fly. I said hey, what's with the steering wheel ? that can't be comfortable. he said aye lassie ! it's driving me nuts!
Not a specific phrase I guess, but as a woman I've dealt with men who seem to think I'm physically incapable of humor or sarcasm. That's a red flag to me, especially when taking me too seriously in the moment would also indicate they think I'm completely inept. I know not everyone will "get" a joke and I have been clueless like that many times in my life... completely different than the scenario I'm describing. Iykyk.
As a man, I've bumped up against this more times than I'd like to admit. But it's mostly because I (really) don't like making assumptions, and I try to behave as professionally and grown up as possible. I'm not the friendliest looking person (unintentional, but still reality), so that's one of the ways I've learned over time to help people be more comfortable with my presence until they get to know me.
So I often miss a whole lot of jokes a woman might throw my way. Especially if they're subtle, since I hate assuming things.
Thankfully, I don't think I'm guilty of perpetrating it. I'm keenly aware that women are people and fully capable of everything I am, I'm just not always great at seeing it happen in the first place.
Big one is lazy. Often used to dismiss and overide boundaries, mock those who can't for whatever reason preform a task. To justify mistreatment.
The moment you said the word "flood" I involuntarily said "they're _flooding_ in" out loud.
this one's kind of obvious, but even casual/"joking" use of the word "degenerate" makes my skin crawl. i know (or at least hope) that most who say it prrrrobably don't mean anything too deep by it, but the way that word in particular has been historically rooted in fear of the "other" just. activates my fight or flight
I notice this kind of thing all the time. Given enough time, I could give you tens if not hundreds of examples. For example, a lot of people use the word "aggressive" to mean "assertive". They do it often enough that dictionaries lists "assertive" as a secondary mean of "aggressive". But "aggressive" strongly suggests aggression regardless of the intent.
In many cases, these problematic word uses are introduced deliberately to manipulate, even though most people who propagate them are unaware. A big example in my circle is the use of "car accident" to mean "car crash". This language was introduced as part of a major auto industry PR campaign in the 1920s. Yes, few crashes are deliberate, but the word "accident" strongly suggests that the crash could not have been predicted or prevented. In fact, nearly all crashes are the predictable result of specific driver behaviors, road design features, and public policies.
This could *not* have come at a better time. I'm ASD and grew up not knowing that in an extremely "abelist humor" type family. Realized like 10 hours ago that same family is obsessed with "safety", "cleanliness", and "usefulness".
( Bummer Warning )
I used to live across the river from Louisville, and my peers always talked about how dangerous it was, especially at night. Unfortunately, my fear was reinforced after a friend who *did* live there was killed in a carjacking. Now I'm left with a crippling obsession with living in a "safe" area and no real idea of what that means, to the point of being unable to leave my own damn house.
Please oh please make follow ups to this 🙏
Can we please turn 'vacant and empty' around on the rentier class and reclaim unused buildings for housing the unhoused?
yesssss
That actually happened at one point. I was just a child when it happened, but I still very distinctly remember NYC's "squat war". Most of the buildings in the area were long since abandoned, so entire squatter communities moved in. They even did repairs, rewired the buildings and got electricity working again, the whole nine. And then the city wanted them out because investors suddenly started buying up all the buildings.
It kicked off a pretty epic battle. C Squat, which has been legendary in certain circles for decades already, actually won their battle and became a tenant co-op. What's wild is that I can't find any English news stories or documentaries about it anymore, despite watching them play out on nightly and national news back then. It's like they were all scrubbed off the internet.
Thankfully, the US and German punk and anarchist scenes were so closely linked for so long that there are still a few German language documentaries available. It's just crazy to me that I have to watch the events I saw from my own American childhood in German these days.
Hello from beautiful terra nullius!
Flood also makes it seem like a natural disaster, rather than a human-made one, and psychologists have long known that people have a different stress response to natural disasters rather than ones caused by people.
On job applications they'll have "able to lift 50 pounds" as a requirement when the job has nothing to do with lifting things. It's an ableist deterrent for folks who simply can't do that on a day to day basis.
Those soda syrup boxes can be quite the load...
I'm the guy who sees this stuff and points it out to people around me and bums out half the room. *shrug* I dunno. I'm nice about it, but I don't feel bad. People need to be better critical thinkers (and not just in a logic bro sense).
your voice is so calm and soft. it’s nice.
Woah, this is crazy! Other than “flood,” I have had pretty much the same exact thoughts as you on “useful,” “healthy,” and “safe.” In fact, I have pointed out to my kids how these terms are used to hide various forms of bigotry.
I was not expecting that at all. Thank you for putting it to better words than I ever could have!
heck yeah!
Just thought of ones that make me flinch a lot: “nice” and “god fearing.” The first generally makes me sing under my breath that immortal line from Into the Woods, “Nice is different than good!” The second is always frustrating, because it’s usually a value judgement. Blech.
"Gratitude" or "Appreciation" when used in political or teaching contexts are really insidious. I hate how much these words that mean good things have been coopted by nationalists to tell people that indoctrination is a good thing. And when you say it's not a good thing, they respond "you're saying gratitude is bad? Appreciation is bad? Look how crazy you sound!"
I don't know if it's a dog-flag, but I've always been very uncomfortable using the word "Karen" to describe someone that abuses customer service. Not that those kinds of people don't deserve all the hate they get, they do, but Karen is a person's name.
People, on average, do not choose their name. It is given to them at birth. It is possible for people to change their name, yes, but outrage at a very specific group of people shouldn't be the primary reason they do that.
I would feel unsafe taking my grandfather's offer to go to Florida.
The flood of transphobia that preceded it was unhealthy, and the fact that what had preceded that was me coming out as nonbinary made me feel unclean.
Morally panics are useless...
Honestly as an AuADHD person, I think it's a mix of social and medical models.
There's tons of stuff I could do if society was accessible to me, but there's still plenty I couldn't do even if society was fully accessible.
Like for example, no amount of accessibility is gonna make me able to eat beans (bad texture), or allow me to cope with sudden loud noises, or make it so that I can understand sarcasm/jokes all the time.
But public transport would keep me from having to drive, tone indicators over text help me interpret tone, later store and doctor hours would be a massive help to my sleep-disordered ass, etc.
So I think the best way to look at it has to be from a nuanced, mixed perspective.
Totally get what you're saying. I think in the social model though, a proponent might say something like "Sure, you're never going to be able to eat beans. But an accessible society will have ways for you get the protein and fiber you need to thrive without them. And maybe you'll never be good at understanding sarcasm, but society will be organized such that this won't mean you can't get a job."
I think in the social model, it's less that we can "solve" any specific body/mind situation and more that, holistically, you will have all the tools you have to live a thriving life.
14:00 I stumbled on a channel, "Edenicity", where the guy lays out a city design without cars. The health increases from that alone would really improve our lives without the capitalist medical current system.
I love your chapter switches! The music lets me know to look up and catch the new chapter title!
having chosen this video to watch while i eat, hearing "useless eaters" was both amusing in its dramatic irony and chilling in its intended meaning. great video!
As a fellow Twin Cities local. Welcome to the club. You made a great choice with our new laws and being one of the few areas that will be habitable in the next 20 years if climate change continues its current course. Let me know if you need a guide
For me the words "female" and "male" are kinda red flags, especially when used as nouns referring to people, in place of "woman" or "man" etc. I just know when I hear that I'm about to hear some super bass ackwards stereotypes or trans exclusionary talking points, or possibly incel rhetoric (but I repeat myself)
I often use male and female when I'm speaking about cis men and women specifically, or using biological terms when speaking about something specifically science related (medications, biology, etc). It sounds too clinical IMO, but sometimes it's also less clunky than the alternative.
I've mostly stopped using it these last few years, though. The alfalfa male, RP, and anti women in general spheres have exploded the last ~5 years, and now they have a completely different connotation. It's too bad, but I definitely don't want to sound like one of them.
@@RevShifty yeah I understand it has its uses but it just tends to sound gross in most contexts imo, especially non scientific
It's always rich hearing about poor people who don't contribute to society from the rentier class. I see you, landlords. I know who you mean by "society" and for whom those laborers are productive.
As a disabled person, I think it’s unhelpful to use just one model for disability. The social model should be the preference, but if the disability is causing the disabled person distress or harm (pain, shortened life expectancy, etc) then the medical model my apply. However, the moral model is rooted in religiousity and bigotry and is best not used at all. If you're wondering why I am so against the moral model, the recent preacher who claimed autism is demonic and can be ‘healed with faith’ is following the moral model....and I think we can agree that blaming the morals of sick or disabled person for their condition is neither helpful nor very ‘moral’. In conclusion the social model works great for things like autism, less great for things like chronic pain.
"Third World" was one that stood out to me. Not sure if it was a class thing or a race thing... probably both? But I had a client who thought it was "third world" that my company couldn't accomodate his preferred appointment date.
First, Second and Third World were Cold War terms invented by a French person, iirc. Your example is probably both of those things by intersection, although the way he seemed to talk in the context of your example, it feels more racist because "We have western values, Asians (particularly East and Southeast Asians) are a hive mind with a dictatorship fetish!", that kind of thing, so it's probably also virulently anti-communist, which is ofc unsurprising.
I have been seeing more of the lies these words are based on and the caustic ideas they hold. Thank you for this!
Whenever anyone mentions “destroying” or “ruining” a place, it’s steeped in resentment for policies meant to aid poor people or poc over the aesthetic preferences of (usually) white, affluent people.
Love your content, Phil! Thank you as always!
Sir, I need to see your license to serve that hard of a beat. You're coercing my Dancing Body to pump up those jams, pump them up, pump them up.
as an anarchist, i don't recognize the authority of the Beat Licensing Commission.
@@ThatDangDad yet we're all slaves to the rhythm...
Fantastic assessment on the use of the use of these words and our further need to be aware of what we see and hear. cheers.
Ooo. I don’t remember if you mentioned it or not, but there’s a field in linguistics (pragmatics) that studies the broader idea of what your talking about. I don’t quite remember if it’s part of the field if semantics or if it’s its own thing, but pragmatics is how context shapes what a word means. Which is what you were talking about here lmao. I just thought you might find it interesting.
In the same vein as usefulness, productivity is also a word that I find can be an indicator of “extra” meaning. I have a coworker who is very abilist and uses the argument that if people are unproductive, why should they be supported by society and burden him.
Ya know, I'm not *so* autistic that I miss that look.
Mr. Dang Dad, thanks for all of your education efforts and videos. If anyone doesn't like how you produce your content, they are always welcome to make their own video and find out the hard way just how intensely difficult making any video content is.
I'm still at the beginning of the video, and the chapter division really helps me when I watch it just before commuting, because most of the times I can't watch the whole video
Yellow flags was right there, Phil 😹
What's always raised my hackles is when people who would self ID as liberal and progressive start saying stuff about how conservatives (or other groups) "shouldn't be allowed to have children". Friend, that is eugenics, you're talking about eugenics
Conservatism is a social condition, not a genetic one. Child abusers shouldn't have children, and it's not remotely eugenics to say that.
I'm pretty upset about how my conservative parents raised me (to the extent than I haven't spoken to them in three years), but when I hear my fellow leftists talking about how conservatives shouldn't be allowed to have kids I certainly don't feel particularly appreciated. It's even worse when they wish harm on the kids as a punishment for the parents (which is especially silly because conservatives don't even like their kids).
No, it's not. People choose to be conservative. Conservative beliefs necessarily leads to child abuse. Therefore, the claim that letting conservatives raise children is a bad idea is not comparable to eugenics.
@@DaveGrean Yes, it's still eugenics when it's done to people you don't like.
@bretthansen3739 I don't think any leftist who actually, critically thinks would blame a child for having bad parents.
Yeah, the entire safe neighborhood thing bugs me. I live in a high-property crime town. Violent crime is perpetrated by people the victims already know around 99% of the time. Or well, you know. Some people get gun-happy in their jobs. Especially around dementia patients and dogs. People complain, but still leave their doors unlocked if they feel they are in a "safe" area. It's a weird disconnect. And mostly, you do hear it from people who are transplants. To a state known as being the only state in the union where white non-Hispanic is a minority.
Holy shit the section about the social construction of sickness and disability was a truly new train of thought for me. Like there were tons of things that added new understandings and insights (especially around the use of “flooding” describing people), but that was a completely unexplored aspect of insidious/loaded language for me. I just found your channel today and I’m loving what I see so far. Keep it up!
As always, thank you. Incredible information and POV tune-up 🙏
the descriptions of the music in the captions is something that is quite unique to this channel, even if the music isn't to my particular taste seeing you attempt to describe it in text form is always enjoyable to me, most channels would other just not have captions during the music or just put something generic to indicate music is playing
An incredibly niche, subtle one online is literally the use of "noticing". It's very context-heavy obviously, signaling 'noticing coincidences' as to mean 'I am awakened to the fact global conspiracies are true'. People will spread the posts because they look innocuous, not realizing that if they click the profile of that person, they'll find antisemitism all over the place. Their account gets shared around unknowingly to wider audiences this way.
I'm often wary of "the implication" from these phrases. As an immigrant this has never been easy, but I often watchout for implications, both intentional and unintentional from the things people say. Even in cases where people aren't intentionally being malicious I need to watch out for what I call "the other ROI" (regardless of intent.) For some it's an abstract they'll never experience first hand which can be safely ignored, for me and people like me it's very obvious what is going on. Also I really like the phrase "dog flags" mainly because I like dogs ^_^.
One scenario I have experienced a lot is the assumptions that "some" people make about food and authenticity. (and yes, I'm intentionally using the word "some" to imply the inverse of immigrants, or people that pass for "regular Americans") Describing "ethnic" food that hasn't become Americanized to the standards of fast food and disposable culture as being either untouchable or making it more special than it really is. Especially when something used to be literally peasant food in your home country...like the price of ox tails for example.
They were literally at throw-away prices when I was a kid, and now they are way too expensive. The associations we make with food, culture, class and clean VS dirty immigrants is exhausting so I'll keep up with so I'll step away for now. Thanks for making an interesting video, and good luck with your move. Be sure to visit the "unsafe" parts of town now and again for some good food, but I suspect you already know that.
The music drop at 11:10 killed me. Please sir it's far too parasocial to choke me to death on my whisky.
you knew the risks when you clicked on the video
@ThatDangDad In hindsight, it all makes sense, but you get so used to being a spectator. I'm not supposed to feel seen... or played to.
For me concepts like "right and wrong" or "normal" are fraught with hidden judgements; if I can tack the question, "for whom?" on to the end of an idea and the answer changes the nature of the concept, then there might be an inequity inherent in the concept. I find that there are virtually no socially constructed concepts that aren't loaded in that way, to some degree
I usually translate 'normal' to 'what is understood or expected'. That helps me emphasize the role of the world view of the person using the word 'normal', that their statement is one of ignorance rather than preference.