Don't I know the title? The one guy who makes me feel good about _my_ filter...recently lectured me. Let's call him Jack (pun intended). He's a college man l find immature, kind of obnoxious, and sometimes tactless. I think he just like to kid around, but it's not always so obvious to me. For example, he once mentioned a coworker's sagging belly, face-to-face. I don't _think_ said coworker resented that, but in general, you _have_ to be careful with weight jokes. He was the same coworker Jack snuck up behind and poked in the waists. I don't think the worker minds him, but I would personally. He dissed my hair a couple of times, though I will admit the 1st time his girlfriend said he was just having fun with me. Still, I guess I officially decided he's nothing more than a jack@ss, who pretty much has no feelings; the more you clown around, the harder you can be taken seriously. That's why I told him to "put a sock in your @ss...I mean your mouth." See, I was about to tell a coworker something when Jack interrupted me, I think with some clownish comment or joke. I can't remember. It wasn't a _casual or natural_ interruption; otherwise I wouldn't have faulted him. I guess I was annoyed with the _way_ he interrupted me, and because I'd already decided he's the unlikeable type. I would've thought he wouldn't care about my sass--given the natural point of view that immature guys don't have fragile feelings--but he said something about how I should be careful how I speak to people. Maybe _certain_ people? He's _ironically_ a student leader. I can't remember his response so well, but either way, he vaguely showed he didn't care for my words. I wasn't 100% sure though, because his type don't make it obvious whether they're being serious or not. In the end, I said, _"Hey, I'm sorry for saying_ [said quote]." From what I remember, he replied, _"You're good man_ [which made me feel good]. _You just need to learn how to speak to people"_ [which *immediately* made me feel bad]. That's why I guiltily added "I apologize," and he either repeated "You're good, man" or replied "it's cool, man," _with_ "I appreciate it." But the thing is, I myself _don't_ appreciate his adding the "learn how to speak to people" thing, because that's like saying "I forgive you for being an thoughtless jerk." You shouldn't add a negative truth to an apology acceptance, because otherwise, it defeats the purpose of showing you forgive them (and ends my one-second proud feeling of having done and said the right thing). Plus, I think his remark was hypocritical; yes, I have a problem with filter, but so does he. That's what makes getting a filter lecture from *_him_* so sad for me. How low have l sunk?
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Don't I know the title? The one guy who makes me feel good about _my_ filter...recently lectured me. Let's call him Jack (pun intended). He's a college man l find immature, kind of obnoxious, and sometimes tactless. I think he just like to kid around, but it's not always so obvious to me. For example, he once mentioned a coworker's sagging belly, face-to-face. I don't _think_ said coworker resented that, but in general, you _have_ to be careful with weight jokes. He was the same coworker Jack snuck up behind and poked in the waists. I don't think the worker minds him, but I would personally. He dissed my hair a couple of times, though I will admit the 1st time his girlfriend said he was just having fun with me. Still, I guess I officially decided he's nothing more than a jack@ss, who pretty much has no feelings; the more you clown around, the harder you can be taken seriously. That's why I told him to "put a sock in your @ss...I mean your mouth." See, I was about to tell a coworker something when Jack interrupted me, I think with some clownish comment or joke. I can't remember. It wasn't a _casual or natural_ interruption; otherwise I wouldn't have faulted him. I guess I was annoyed with the _way_ he interrupted me, and because I'd already decided he's the unlikeable type. I would've thought he wouldn't care about my sass--given the natural point of view that immature guys don't have fragile feelings--but he said something about how I should be careful how I speak to people. Maybe _certain_ people? He's _ironically_ a student leader. I can't remember his response so well, but either way, he vaguely showed he didn't care for my words. I wasn't 100% sure though, because his type don't make it obvious whether they're being serious or not. In the end, I said, _"Hey, I'm sorry for saying_ [said quote]." From what I remember, he replied, _"You're good man_ [which made me feel good]. _You just need to learn how to speak to people"_ [which *immediately* made me feel bad]. That's why I guiltily added "I apologize," and he either repeated "You're good, man" or replied "it's cool, man," _with_ "I appreciate it." But the thing is, I myself _don't_ appreciate his adding the "learn how to speak to people" thing, because that's like saying "I forgive you for being an thoughtless jerk." You shouldn't add a negative truth to an apology acceptance, because otherwise, it defeats the purpose of showing you forgive them (and ends my one-second proud feeling of having done and said the right thing). Plus, I think his remark was hypocritical; yes, I have a problem with filter, but so does he. That's what makes getting a filter lecture from *_him_* so sad for me. How low have l sunk?