It’s astonishing how deep the NPD rabbit hole goes. I am still learning all kinds of new information that resonates after a year of discovering I have been in a Narc relationship with a family member. This video rings true, you can’t get any resolution for anything ever, the Narcissist is never wrong, and the roles are permanently established just as you have described. This is so incredibly difficult if you have a deep desire to be heard and understood and to find some form of resolution. The patterns described here between persecutor, rescuer and victim are so insidious because they keep you stuck and doubting yourself, and they reinforce one’s sense of trauma and victimization which keeps you hyper-vigilant even during times of relative calm. There is always a game being played, there is always a struggle in power dynamics and you are always being pushed into a role you are wanting to escape. The whole dance is so out of tune with your core Self, your deeper best Self. All of the endless drama inevitably creates and brings out a side of yourself, the reactive and traumatized side of yourself, that feels like some distorted version of yourself, and becomes harder and harder to connect and live from a place that is in touch with your deeper True Self. Because after all, YOU, the real YOU, is not some eternal victim. And the narcissist is not so innocent, even if they refuse to acknowledge or accept any accountability for the ways in which they harm you. The wounds are deep. The resolution never comes, and that makes healing so much harder, as we are forced to create that resolution within. The healing takes time, and when contact remains, it must be an ongoing process. But heal we must. Thank you for the video, always informative 🙏🏼
She moves between persecutor and rescuer, me between victim and rescuer. Love bombing, devaluation - taking it personally, feeling guilty for it. I’ve only snapped once (after 6 months of devaluation), I’d never seen that as the persecutor role. This is fascinating Michelle, thank you!
Thank you. I have a lot of hard work ahead, but I am determined to go from being an empath to a super empath. I must engage with my covert narc ex because of our children, and I have to learn the skills to be centered while in the fire. Thank you so much, Michelle. You give me hope that I can do this.
I have observed and realized all this and I thank you for the confirmation. You are a great help because you document all of this so well that I don't have to think about it anymore.❤
This is profound. And a great key to know when you’re dealing w NPD. And why it feels so crazy making.
It’s astonishing how deep the NPD rabbit hole goes. I am still learning all kinds of new information that resonates after a year of discovering I have been in a Narc relationship with a family member. This video rings true, you can’t get any resolution for anything ever, the Narcissist is never wrong, and the roles are permanently established just as you have described. This is so incredibly difficult if you have a deep desire to be heard and understood and to find some form of resolution. The patterns described here between persecutor, rescuer and victim are so insidious because they keep you stuck and doubting yourself, and they reinforce one’s sense of trauma and victimization which keeps you hyper-vigilant even during times of relative calm. There is always a game being played, there is always a struggle in power dynamics and you are always being pushed into a role you are wanting to escape. The whole dance is so out of tune with your core Self, your deeper best Self. All of the endless drama inevitably creates and brings out a side of yourself, the reactive and traumatized side of yourself, that feels like some distorted version of yourself, and becomes harder and harder to connect and live from a place that is in touch with your deeper True Self. Because after all, YOU, the real YOU, is not some eternal victim. And the narcissist is not so innocent, even if they refuse to acknowledge or accept any accountability for the ways in which they harm you. The wounds are deep. The resolution never comes, and that makes healing so much harder, as we are forced to create that resolution within. The healing takes time, and when contact remains, it must be an ongoing process. But heal we must. Thank you for the video, always informative 🙏🏼
This perfectly describes the manipulation tactics my ex therapist would use on me, keeping me addicted to only her.
It's sad but I hear that all the time! Sorry to hear you went through that
She moves between persecutor and rescuer, me between victim and rescuer.
Love bombing, devaluation - taking it personally, feeling guilty for it. I’ve only snapped once (after 6 months of devaluation), I’d never seen that as the persecutor role.
This is fascinating Michelle, thank you!
Excellent video! Refreshing to see such a nuanced perspective!!!
Thank you. I have a lot of hard work ahead, but I am determined to go from being an empath to a super empath. I must engage with my covert narc ex because of our children, and I have to learn the skills to be centered while in the fire. Thank you so much, Michelle. You give me hope that I can do this.
You've got this!!!
I have observed and realized all this and I thank you for the confirmation. You are a great help because you document all of this so well that I don't have to think about it anymore.❤
Glad to help
Thank you, really good examples!! 👏🙏
Michelle you are so intelligent ❤
This makes so much sense, it's exactly what happens every single time me or him disagree.😮💨
Eye opening revelation 👀 shifting role pattern
You look great in red! Thanks for the psychoeducation.
Why don’t you have a HD webcam?
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