I noticed a pattern with myself which is that each time I have moved in my lifetime, I end up downsizing my belongings. What happens for me is through life I collect things and it all gets hidden away until I move. When I move I see what all I actually have and take time to sort through my stuff. Which is why I am trying to sort through areas of my home more annually to avoid such a large amount of stuff which I end up letting go of when I move. For example, I keep a box in an closet or space I hardly use and when I sort through areas finding things I don't want to keep, then I place those items in that box to be donated or regifted by the end of the year. This really helps me avoid having too many unwanted items stored in my home. Remember though, that unwanted is up to the owner to decide and never feel pressured to let go of something you want to keep. No judgement on what you keep or let go of. Your free to decide for yourself. Just enjoy life. Peace ✌️
Wow I really needed this video. My Grandparents passed and I inherited alot of items. Ive been holding on to almost all of them alnost like I'm trying to recreate my childhood. You are right I'm not that little girl anymore and having the items isnt bringing them back or making them happy because I kept them. I need to live for myself for today. 💕 this video was so powerful.
Let me be the next one to say that you totally helped me in getting it together AND continuing to keep my on the path of reorganizing. Just like our money… our tidiness must be managed. 😉
During the past two years I learned so much from you. Having to work from home, I noticed furniture pieces that I wasn't needing nor enjoying. So I sold them. I follow two RUclipsrs that are minimalists. They also have given me great ideas. Here is what I have observed of them. Both young ladies live with very little furniture, possessions and bare walls. Yet they both suffer from anxiety and depression (They have shared this). I think some people put a lot of stress on themselves. I am 61 and my goal is to have just what I need and use. Should anything happen to me, I don't want to create a lot of work for my daughter trying to get rid of things. Your content is presented in a logical and healthy way of doing things.
OMG! You are so right. Why do we shame ourselves and each other for our design style choices? I grew up in a Danish modern minimalist home and it got cluttered too. As a matter of fact any tiny thing out of place ruins the perfect affect.
Thank you for this! I’m one of those people who are “embarrassed” to need organizing help. After needing to move at least twice a year throughout HS and undergrad, my default is to have my home “mob hit ready” (i.e., I can pack up my entire home in just a couple of hours and unpack within a day or two). So having a little extra clutter usually means something is wrong. Plus, I’ve met the wrath of a Judy McJudgyface or two for not having an “AD photo shoot” ready home and maybe I’ve internalized something o& that judgement. Thanks for helping us see that the Judy McJudgyfaces of the world are not the standard. I think I also have a bit of a toxic relationship with stuff. I think I’m afraid of donating something that later becomes irreplaceable (like those early 2000s plastic IKEA watering cans). I really should get over that. Because sometimes the item I love is replaced by an even better item. 💚
Thank you for the positive message today. The part that resonated with me the most is that I need to live with person that I am today. I’ll be reflecting on that. Thanks for being a positive light in the world!
I think that other clutter video was the first I watched of yours. Your understanding and explanation of our *relationship* to stuff being the issue (healthy or unhealthy) is why you are my favorite home organizer! (Well that and your sparkling personality and musicianship and Clover...) 🙂
I'm that towel person. I love looking at and buying more nice towels eventhough I don't need them. They are well organized in the closet though. You gave good advice about living for who you are today.
I actually AM the kind of person who apologizes to the doctor: “Ooo, sorry! My leg wax appointment got canceled! Sorry, skin is a little dry because I ran out of lotion!” 🤣
I have apologized for not making it home to brush my teeth in time at the doctor! It wasn't even a dentist or anything around my face, I was just worried about tuna breath 😅
i struggle with making decisions when i need to let something go, to make space for items i need or to simply clear up clutter. my life was always unpredictable growing up so I think alot of it like you said is psychological mindset of, but what if I get rid of it and then need it once its gone. even when said item hasn't served me in years. It doesn't make sense but my mind somehow still excuses it. Thank you for making this video kay, you are helping more people then you know!!!
It's definitely interesting how much we assign morality to cleanliness and home upkeep. I remember a conversation I had with a coworker of mine who's a historian about how the Victorians assigned different virtues and traits to your ability to keep your home clean. Apparently owning and taking care of a lot of house plants was a sign of good character!
Thank you. I am decluttering my childhood home of my mom and sisters items. I am also living here. I have made many strides but I am far from day. I keep telling myself it isn't perfect but it is better.
Mental health issues etc can also play a part in not decluttering that is why compassion is needed . Thank you for talking about self care for me it’s 🧘♀️
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾thank u thank u for making this video this has cleared my mind and the shenanigans that I allow myself and my space to become I HAVE TO LIVE FOR THE PERSON I AM TODAY 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾♥️♥️♥️
This is something that I really appreciate about your channel. Demystifying what actually goes through other's minds, or a professional narrative to destigmatize mess n clutter. I also love that we see you, through the course of your library/ catalog of videos... we see you regularly revisiting or reattempting systems in rooms and small spaces. And also the benefit to us of your moving is that the pace has possibly been accelerated and you, a professional and low clutter home, still having to go back to the drawing board. So we nubes and amateurs don't have to be frustrated by the trial and error, or ashamed by the feelings of failure. And we see often that even when something or a system has served you well in a space, sometimes that it was transitional and its utility has ended. Nothing lasts or works forever, no matter how good or useful it was, even when it's well cared for.
Thanks Kay! Very good perspectives. I've been decluttering for 3 years AND moved to the lower 48 after 45 years in Alaska. We are working on our new small home and I needed to hear this! How encouraging. I can get a little more stuff if I want to! ;)
A propagation tube! That's so cool! I've been using a tall shot glass 😂 I take baby cuttings from pruning just for fun. Oh no! You said The M Word! I have disowned the term "Minimalist". I'm Intentional with items, not necessarily Minimal. I dislike visual clutter, but that doesn't mean I can't own items. That just means I don't have knick knacks and my other items are stored behind closed opaque storage. I am finally learning how to have extra items in the pantry, I've run into instances lately where I only planned meals for the week, got only ingredients for the week, and ended up not making it to the store the next Sunday as planned (life has been picking up, I'm happy for it!). What is important for me is stocking up only on items that I use regularly, just like when the Plague started a few years ago. I don't want that can of yams from 3 Thanksgivings ago, you know? 😅
Having worked in schools for years, I must say that often we need to be taught by people with greater understanding than we have to learn a new skill. Organizing is a skill and can take many years to learn the best way to organize for how we live, for our space, and in a way that brings us joy! Thank you for sharing these great tips to help us in our learning journey! We need to remember to be patient with ourselves because we are worth it!🙏🏻💗
Came here for organising, left with a valuable life lesson. I've been really struggling with anxiety recently and this has been very helpful. Thank you
I wish that I could just start over! I am at my wits end to get my house into a home. I know my clutter is due to childhood trauma and need to let it go. I need help, I need hope!! I’ve tried so many techniques. Just haven’t found one that fits my life, my mental state, and emotions of the moment.
I feel the same way. I think, intellectually, we know what needs to be done. We (sort of) know what we want, but achieving that is so hard. I get excited because I think oooh! this is how I will do it. I redo things and then it only lasts for awhile. The childhood trauma is hard to deal with. Moving past is hard.
If you have trauma of some kind, then yes get a therapist. Shop around until you find someone you can work with. However it isn't necessary that you like them it's more important that they know what they are doing professionally, and that they behave professionally with you. Getting to grips with stuff can be really difficult. Watch some of Dana K White's videos (especially the earlier ones). She has a system that takes the 'emotion' out of decluttering. This doesn't make it easy but it does make it doable. She has also written two or three books which are also very good.
This is a video that I believe was so needed. Thank you from one organizer to another. Being gentle with ourselves and our clients is crucial for happy Being!
Thank you Thank you Thank you!!….for your wisdom. You have freed us!! ☺️ I have felt a big push for “minimalism” on social media and felt a judgement from some of those declaring themselves to be minimalists if I’m not compelled to that. Ugggh…it has been so annoying and I’m glad you explained the differences. You ALWAYS make sense and put me at ease, Kay! Thanks again!
Thank you for the pep talk. I'd like to add that depression can make it really hard to declutter and get organized. It's really easy to bully myself over it, but I need to have more compassion towards myself.
I was a minimalist before it was a thing. Back in those days, I was a college student where everything I owned fit in my car. It was also called being poor.😂
I consider myself a minimalist and I love this video. It's the first of yours I've ever seen and I just subscribed. I enjoy watching minimalism videos and organizing videos but it is easy to lose sight of my own individuality when so many influencers have the same message. Thank you so much for this video, reminding me to be kind to myself, value my own uniqueness, and more importantly, to be kind to others. I love the idea that stuff itself isn't bad--it's the relationship you have with the stuff that can be toxic. So true. And so nonjudgemental! It's a great way to frame whether to keep or discard an item: "What is my relationship with this item?" Oh, and I LOVE your dog!!!!!!!
I’m rewatching this and it has just reaffirmed why I continue to watch you Kay. I appreciate how you approach your information. You broke down the difference in minimalist lifestyle and decorating style is the simplest terms possible. And thank you for pointing out that we are sometimes our worst critics. I’m so glad I found your you tube channel. ❤️
I loved this video! I was reorganizing my office this week and used so many of your lessons. I really asked myself if I actually used the things and didn't play the would be, should be game. Thanks Kay! I've learned much from you.
We're in the same situation. Moving into a home half the size of our last. It's difficult to decide what to keep and what to get rid of. I get overwhelmed by it since so much of it is sentimental. Feeling a need to be stronger with letting go.
Kay it was educational to watch this. And I always love seeing Clover!! My empathy for hoarders has increased. I know someone close that likes to give away things and you helped put it in perspective. Keep up the great work! Oh and P.S. I’ve joined the G2 Team at Compass and back in Real Estate. Hugs, Terrie
Clover knows! Be Clover! Lots of good alternative ideas. I've gotten to the point where I have all the toys to play, but not much desire to do it anymore. I'm not sure when that switch flipped, but I don't like it. I don't feel like me anymore when I look back on my previous 60 years. Growing pains? Late midlife crisis? I'm not sure. But maybe some of the stuff I no longer want going to someone else that can find usefulness or joy in it will be good for us both. Thanks for refreshing and kind ideas.
Wonderful! Yes we would never talk to our friends like we talk about ourselves. I love your sloth vase. I do believe we need things that make us smile.😊
Decision fatigue is the WORST. I minimized my wardrobe so much with that in mind, now I don't have anymore than 12 hangers, each with a top and bottom. This includes 2 sets of pjs and clothes I only wear around the house. Luckily I work from home for myself so I don't need a lot of options now. Now I only have clothes I want to wear and in pairs that are ready to wear!
This is such a lovely and informative video! I would love to know your approach for couples dealing with clutter. Your advice to live for the person who are now is fantastic and I want to strive for that. Though I am very much a sentimentalist and grow very attached to items. However, my husband is worse than me when it comes to attachment. We're both nerds and collectors, but I try to keep my collections small or buy what I call "Subtle Nerd". Items that can pass for day-to-day use, but with hidden nerd undertones. Yet my husband wants his nerd-core blasted everywhere. We have a spare room that he's going to turn into a nerd room, but I don't think everything will fit and he's very hesitant to get rid of anything. I would looooove to see a video with advice for blending styles!
I think the moral factor comes in when you have people living together who have very different sensitivity to disorder. The more orderly ones can be quite disturbed and overwhelmed by lots of visual clutter. They are also usually more easily disgusted by dirty things. Therefore more motivated to clean and organize. The orderly ones can get quite upset by those that take little or no initiative to contribute to cleanliness. Especially if they just act like it’s the orderly persons job. Resentment and arguing is common as the reciprocal nature of healthy relating has broken down. Both types have to learn to compromise for peace. If they are not then that demonstrates a lack of concern for each other’s well being which is definitely an moral issue.
Thank you so much for that pep talk. I have been feeling overwhelmed by figuring out what to do with my stuff. Hearing you say some points that I have been saying to myself but been having a hard time hearing reminds me I am not alone and a process is doable if I have the right frame of mind and see things from a different perspective. Your vids. are always an inspiration and bring me joy! Aloha :)
As always Kay, thanks for this. I have two huge bookcases that I need to empty and get rid of. There are so many books in them (whispers...."I have NEVER read")....!! They go from the floor to almost the ceiling.
We used to host foster children and when they were mean to themselves we had them go to the mirror and apologize to themselves. I would tell them nobody talks to my sweet girl like that, so go apologize and say sweet words to yourself (very loudly) in the mirror. This was very helpful because their internal dialogue was always very self loathing, and I wanted them to be kind to themselves.
Bless you Kay for this video! On the Saturday you posted, I opened it at lunch time to clear my mind from my own writing so I could edit after lunch. By the end of your first point, I knew I needed to watch this carefully on Sunday. So much wisdom, I saved this post to both my homemaking and my goals lists. Bless you!
Wow. Goodness I love you. When I first saw a video of you I was like how is she that cute ?! Well this video just sealed it I love you ! Thank you so much. You really dive deep here and you just do it in such a compassionate and gentle way. You’re amazing thank you for your videos. I’m so excited to explore more of your content. Be blessed you’re an amazing human! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Oh my goodness I get such a lot of backlash and judgement every time I dare to say that I don’t love keeping books. Like I’m somehow a bad person because I don’t like to have lots of books. To clarify; I love reading. I love the characters, the stories, the places books take me, the way they make me feel. But I don’t have any real emotional connection to the paper it’s printed on. And I understand WHY some people love books, but there’s this misconception that not loving books = being ignorant, incurious or uneducated. I think sometimes it comes down to identity. Can you be worldly, interesting and literate without holding onto a large collection of books? 🤷🏼♀️
"it is an individual thing" what fulfills you... "You will simply go through the steps" rather than moral judgements... "Potential of space...". (Love the new and different Skillshare embedded clips, although older version was super nice, too...). This is a great video; it's so nice of you. Gosh, wish could hear choir, etc.... Can we purchase some recordings?
There definitely is a moral superiority thing going on within parts of minimalism. Everyone is going through different stuff. I may be using it to help me make room to focus on my faith and purpose but that's not for everybody.
I am renting a house with NO CLOSETS!!! And only 5 ft cabinet up and down surrounding the sink. in kitchenand my stove and refrigerator. I feel like a slob because I see everything I own. What to do ???? I have shelves everywhere and I see everything . No pictures, no decor just stuff. I am renting. My next place would have to be.made of CLOSETS. Can you make a video to help Solve my Visual clutter.
Just found your channel and am loving your videos! :) even though this has nothing to do with what you talk about on your channel, will you tell me what hair products do you use? Your hair is gorgeous!
Welcome! I’m so happy you’re enjoying the content! I use Qhemet Biologics and Kinky Curly Curling Custard mostly…and I spend a lot of time not touching it lol
5:00 Preach!!! Thank you for touching on the "minimalistic POV" that insists in making someone feel bad for owning more than one of anything
I noticed a pattern with myself which is that each time I have moved in my lifetime, I end up downsizing my belongings. What happens for me is through life I collect things and it all gets hidden away until I move. When I move I see what all I actually have and take time to sort through my stuff. Which is why I am trying to sort through areas of my home more annually to avoid such a large amount of stuff which I end up letting go of when I move. For example, I keep a box in an closet or space I hardly use and when I sort through areas finding things I don't want to keep, then I place those items in that box to be donated or regifted by the end of the year. This really helps me avoid having too many unwanted items stored in my home. Remember though, that unwanted is up to the owner to decide and never feel pressured to let go of something you want to keep. No judgement on what you keep or let go of. Your free to decide for yourself. Just enjoy life. Peace ✌️
Wow I really needed this video. My Grandparents passed and I inherited alot of items. Ive been holding on to almost all of them alnost like I'm trying to recreate my childhood. You are right I'm not that little girl anymore and having the items isnt bringing them back or making them happy because I kept them. I need to live for myself for today. 💕 this video was so powerful.
Let me be the next one to say that you totally helped me in getting it together AND continuing to keep my on the path of reorganizing. Just like our money… our tidiness must be managed. 😉
During the past two years I learned so much from you. Having to work from home, I noticed furniture pieces that I wasn't needing nor enjoying. So I sold them. I follow two RUclipsrs that are minimalists. They also have given me great ideas. Here is what I have observed of them. Both young ladies live with very little furniture, possessions and bare walls. Yet they both suffer from anxiety and depression (They have shared this). I think some people put a lot of stress on themselves. I am 61 and my goal is to have just what I need and use. Should anything happen to me, I don't want to create a lot of work for my daughter trying to get rid of things. Your content is presented in a logical and healthy way of doing things.
I Really Appreciate this Balanced Perspective 😌
Miss maam! I was not ready to be called out like this today. Lol thank you for the message.
Same! 🤣
Me too🙃
OMG! You are so right. Why do we shame ourselves and each other for our design style choices? I grew up in a Danish modern minimalist home and it got cluttered too. As a matter of fact any tiny thing out of place ruins the perfect affect.
Thank you for this! I’m one of those people who are “embarrassed” to need organizing help. After needing to move at least twice a year throughout HS and undergrad, my default is to have my home “mob hit ready” (i.e., I can pack up my entire home in just a couple of hours and unpack within a day or two). So having a little extra clutter usually means something is wrong.
Plus, I’ve met the wrath of a Judy McJudgyface or two for not having an “AD photo shoot” ready home and maybe I’ve internalized something o& that judgement. Thanks for helping us see that the Judy McJudgyfaces of the world are not the standard.
I think I also have a bit of a toxic relationship with stuff. I think I’m afraid of donating something that later becomes irreplaceable (like those early 2000s plastic IKEA watering cans). I really should get over that. Because sometimes the item I love is replaced by an even better item. 💚
Thank you for the positive message today. The part that resonated with me the most is that I need to live with person that I am today. I’ll be reflecting on that. Thanks for being a positive light in the world!
11:40 ok I hear you!! Getting rid of those "in case I lose weight" pieces inside my closet... TODAY!
I think that other clutter video was the first I watched of yours. Your understanding and explanation of our *relationship* to stuff being the issue (healthy or unhealthy) is why you are my favorite home organizer! (Well that and your sparkling personality and musicianship and Clover...) 🙂
Thank you for talking about minimalism and hoarding. Hopefully more people who watch your video will have a better understanding.
I'm that towel person. I love looking at and buying more nice towels eventhough I don't need them. They are well organized in the closet though.
You gave good advice about living for who you are today.
Good towels are so important!
I actually AM the kind of person who apologizes to the doctor: “Ooo, sorry! My leg wax appointment got canceled! Sorry, skin is a little dry because I ran out of lotion!”
🤣
I have apologized for not making it home to brush my teeth in time at the doctor! It wasn't even a dentist or anything around my face, I was just worried about tuna breath 😅
Thank you so much for this post. Love your comments about "stuff" and the morality of cleanliness and owning things.
i struggle with making decisions when i need to let something go, to make space for items i need or to simply clear up clutter. my life was always unpredictable growing up so I think alot of it like you said is psychological mindset of, but what if I get rid of it and then need it once its gone. even when said item hasn't served me in years. It doesn't make sense but my mind somehow still excuses it. Thank you for making this video kay, you are helping more people then you know!!!
thank you for the video. I struggle with being compassionate with myself, and I am working on that in therapy.
It's definitely interesting how much we assign morality to cleanliness and home upkeep. I remember a conversation I had with a coworker of mine who's a historian about how the Victorians assigned different virtues and traits to your ability to keep your home clean. Apparently owning and taking care of a lot of house plants was a sign of good character!
Thank you. I am decluttering my childhood home of my mom and sisters items. I am also living here. I have made many strides but I am far from day. I keep telling myself it isn't perfect but it is better.
I most of the time feel like I could do with almost anything and be happy
Mental health issues etc can also play a part in not decluttering that is why compassion is needed . Thank you for talking about self care for me it’s 🧘♀️
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾thank u thank u for making this video this has cleared my mind and the shenanigans that I allow myself and my space to become I HAVE TO LIVE FOR THE PERSON I AM TODAY 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾♥️♥️♥️
Thank you for your kindness and help. We all try to be too perfect and extremely hard on ourselves. Love your videos.
This is something that I really appreciate about your channel. Demystifying what actually goes through other's minds, or a professional narrative to destigmatize mess n clutter. I also love that we see you, through the course of your library/ catalog of videos... we see you regularly revisiting or reattempting systems in rooms and small spaces. And also the benefit to us of your moving is that the pace has possibly been accelerated and you, a professional and low clutter home, still having to go back to the drawing board. So we nubes and amateurs don't have to be frustrated by the trial and error, or ashamed by the feelings of failure. And we see often that even when something or a system has served you well in a space, sometimes that it was transitional and its utility has ended. Nothing lasts or works forever, no matter how good or useful it was, even when it's well cared for.
Thanks for the tough love, Kay! I definitely needed it. I often apologize for the mess when people come to visit.
Thanks Kay! Very good perspectives. I've been decluttering for 3 years AND moved to the lower 48 after 45 years in Alaska. We are working on our new small home and I needed to hear this! How encouraging. I can get a little more stuff if I want to! ;)
A propagation tube! That's so cool! I've been using a tall shot glass 😂 I take baby cuttings from pruning just for fun.
Oh no! You said The M Word!
I have disowned the term "Minimalist". I'm Intentional with items, not necessarily Minimal. I dislike visual clutter, but that doesn't mean I can't own items. That just means I don't have knick knacks and my other items are stored behind closed opaque storage.
I am finally learning how to have extra items in the pantry, I've run into instances lately where I only planned meals for the week, got only ingredients for the week, and ended up not making it to the store the next Sunday as planned (life has been picking up, I'm happy for it!). What is important for me is stocking up only on items that I use regularly, just like when the Plague started a few years ago. I don't want that can of yams from 3 Thanksgivings ago, you know? 😅
Having worked in schools for years, I must say that often we need to be taught by people with greater understanding than we have to learn a new skill. Organizing is a skill and can take many years to learn the best way to organize for how we live, for our space, and in a way that brings us joy! Thank you for sharing these great tips to help us in our learning journey! We need to remember to be patient with ourselves because we are worth it!🙏🏻💗
Came here for organising, left with a valuable life lesson. I've been really struggling with anxiety recently and this has been very helpful. Thank you
I wish that I could just start over! I am at my wits end to get my house into a home. I know my clutter is due to childhood trauma and need to let it go. I need help, I need hope!! I’ve tried so many techniques. Just haven’t found one that fits my life, my mental state, and emotions of the moment.
I feel the same way. I think, intellectually, we know what needs to be done. We (sort of) know what we want, but achieving that is so hard.
I get excited because I think oooh! this is how I will do it. I redo things and then it only lasts for awhile.
The childhood trauma is hard to deal with. Moving past is hard.
If you have trauma of some kind, then yes get a therapist. Shop around until you find someone you can work with. However it isn't necessary that you like them it's more important that they know what they are doing professionally, and that they behave professionally with you.
Getting to grips with stuff can be really difficult. Watch some of Dana K White's videos (especially the earlier ones). She has a system that takes the 'emotion' out of decluttering. This doesn't make it easy but it does make it doable. She has also written two or three books which are also very good.
This is a video that I believe was so needed. Thank you from one organizer to another. Being gentle with ourselves and our clients is crucial for happy Being!
Guilty! Always apologize for my home. I need to look inward.
Kay, this was probably one of my favorite videos of yours…frank, honest and full of realistic expectations! Thank you for sharing this❤️
Thank you Thank you Thank you!!….for your wisdom. You have freed us!! ☺️ I have felt a big push for “minimalism” on social media and felt a judgement from some of those declaring themselves to be minimalists if I’m not compelled to that. Ugggh…it has been so annoying and I’m glad you explained the differences. You ALWAYS make sense and put me at ease, Kay! Thanks again!
Thank you for the pep talk. I'd like to add that depression can make it really hard to declutter and get organized. It's really easy to bully myself over it, but I need to have more compassion towards myself.
I was a minimalist before it was a thing. Back in those days, I was a college student where everything I owned fit in my car. It was also called being poor.😂
I consider myself a minimalist and I love this video. It's the first of yours I've ever seen and I just subscribed. I enjoy watching minimalism videos and organizing videos but it is easy to lose sight of my own individuality when so many influencers have the same message. Thank you so much for this video, reminding me to be kind to myself, value my own uniqueness, and more importantly, to be kind to others. I love the idea that stuff itself isn't bad--it's the relationship you have with the stuff that can be toxic. So true. And so nonjudgemental! It's a great way to frame whether to keep or discard an item: "What is my relationship with this item?" Oh, and I LOVE your dog!!!!!!!
I’m rewatching this and it has just reaffirmed why I continue to watch you Kay. I appreciate how you approach your information. You broke down the difference in minimalist lifestyle and decorating style is the simplest terms possible. And thank you for pointing out that we are sometimes our worst critics. I’m so glad I found your you tube channel. ❤️
I loved this video! I was reorganizing my office this week and used so many of your lessons. I really asked myself if I actually used the things and didn't play the would be, should be game. Thanks Kay! I've learned much from you.
I just purchased a small home and do not have the space for stuff.....where do I go with everything?????
We're in the same situation. Moving into a home half the size of our last. It's difficult to decide what to keep and what to get rid of. I get overwhelmed by it since so much of it is sentimental. Feeling a need to be stronger with letting go.
Kay it was educational to watch this. And I always love seeing Clover!! My empathy for hoarders has increased. I know someone close that likes to give away things and you helped put it in perspective. Keep up the great work! Oh and P.S. I’ve joined the G2 Team at Compass and back in Real Estate. Hugs, Terrie
Clover knows! Be Clover! Lots of good alternative ideas. I've gotten to the point where I have all the toys to play, but not much desire to do it anymore. I'm not sure when that switch flipped, but I don't like it. I don't feel like me anymore when I look back on my previous 60 years. Growing pains? Late midlife crisis? I'm not sure. But maybe some of the stuff I no longer want going to someone else that can find usefulness or joy in it will be good for us both. Thanks for refreshing and kind ideas.
I love your dog example. It is very true. Our dogs have such good attitude’s towards life. I really like and thank you for your advice
Wonderful! Yes we would never talk to our friends like we talk about ourselves. I love your sloth vase. I do believe we need things that make us smile.😊
I love that doctor analogy.
Decision fatigue is the WORST. I minimized my wardrobe so much with that in mind, now I don't have anymore than 12 hangers, each with a top and bottom. This includes 2 sets of pjs and clothes I only wear around the house. Luckily I work from home for myself so I don't need a lot of options now. Now I only have clothes I want to wear and in pairs that are ready to wear!
Thank you for a great video on being free of certain rules and judgement of what organization actually means to each person
This is such a lovely and informative video! I would love to know your approach for couples dealing with clutter. Your advice to live for the person who are now is fantastic and I want to strive for that. Though I am very much a sentimentalist and grow very attached to items. However, my husband is worse than me when it comes to attachment. We're both nerds and collectors, but I try to keep my collections small or buy what I call "Subtle Nerd". Items that can pass for day-to-day use, but with hidden nerd undertones. Yet my husband wants his nerd-core blasted everywhere. We have a spare room that he's going to turn into a nerd room, but I don't think everything will fit and he's very hesitant to get rid of anything. I would looooove to see a video with advice for blending styles!
I love your hair. You have inspired me to wear my curls soon
I think the moral factor comes in when you have people living together who have very different sensitivity to disorder. The more orderly ones can be quite disturbed and overwhelmed by lots of visual clutter. They are also usually more easily disgusted by dirty things. Therefore more motivated to clean and organize. The orderly ones can get quite upset by those that take little or no initiative to contribute to cleanliness. Especially if they just act like it’s the orderly persons job. Resentment and arguing is common as the reciprocal nature of healthy relating has broken down.
Both types have to learn to compromise for peace. If they are not then that demonstrates a lack of concern for each other’s well being which is definitely an moral issue.
Thank you so much for that pep talk. I have been feeling overwhelmed by figuring out what to do with my stuff. Hearing you say some points that I have been saying to myself but been having a hard time hearing reminds me I am not alone and a process is doable if I have the right frame of mind and see things from a different perspective. Your vids. are always an inspiration and bring me joy! Aloha :)
As always Kay, thanks for this. I have two huge bookcases that I need to empty and get rid of. There are so many books in them (whispers...."I have NEVER read")....!! They go from the floor to almost the ceiling.
We used to host foster children and when they were mean to themselves we had them go to the mirror and apologize to themselves.
I would tell them nobody talks to my sweet girl like that, so go apologize and say sweet words to yourself (very loudly) in the mirror.
This was very helpful because their internal dialogue was always very self loathing, and I wanted them to be kind to themselves.
Loved the video. The wood lids look so good with that paint colour.
Wow.....that was a good one. Chock-full of real information. I will be watching this video over and over!
Bless you Kay for this video! On the Saturday you posted, I opened it at lunch time to clear my mind from my own writing so I could edit after lunch. By the end of your first point, I knew I needed to watch this carefully on Sunday. So much wisdom, I saved this post to both my homemaking and my goals lists. Bless you!
Such a compassionate video. Thanks
I inherited my mom's big China cabinet,she kept it stuffed with good dishes,I have decided to use them as every day dishes,I am happy
You nailed it!
So much real talk in this video!! Honestly this is amazing and I needed to hear it, thank you so much! 💯
Great vlog! Luv'd every single minute!!😃😃😃😃😃😃😃
Thank you for the reminder and pep talk. You're a gem.
I love your message! I don’t think people should have to apologize for your home.
Wow. Goodness I love you. When I first saw a video of you I was like how is she that cute ?! Well this video just sealed it I love you ! Thank you so much. You really dive deep here and you just do it in such a compassionate and gentle way. You’re amazing thank you for your videos. I’m so excited to explore more of your content. Be blessed you’re an amazing human! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
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Just would like to say Thank You so much.
I have to go cull my hand towels right now.
Thank you. We needed this.
Thanks a lot! I have anxiety and this video really helped me!
Yea I am my own worst enemy it's true thanks for the pep talk today. Also can't wait for vlogtober
Thank you for this video! This is just what I needed to hear.
Excellent video! So informative!
You are very good at this. Thank you for the videos
Oh my goodness I get such a lot of backlash and judgement every time I dare to say that I don’t love keeping books. Like I’m somehow a bad person because I don’t like to have lots of books. To clarify; I love reading. I love the characters, the stories, the places books take me, the way they make me feel. But I don’t have any real emotional connection to the paper it’s printed on. And I understand WHY some people love books, but there’s this misconception that not loving books = being ignorant, incurious or uneducated. I think sometimes it comes down to identity. Can you be worldly, interesting and literate without holding onto a large collection of books? 🤷🏼♀️
Thank you for this!
Such good advice. Thanks
"it is an individual thing" what fulfills you... "You will simply go through the steps" rather than moral judgements... "Potential of space...". (Love the new and different Skillshare embedded clips, although older version was super nice, too...). This is a great video; it's so nice of you. Gosh, wish could hear choir, etc.... Can we purchase some recordings?
Thanks
So good. Thank you.
Thank you so much for this, this is very true.
Fantastic!
Helpful video! Thanks!
I needed this ❤️
Love this video ❤
There definitely is a moral superiority thing going on within parts of minimalism. Everyone is going through different stuff. I may be using it to help me make room to focus on my faith and purpose but that's not for everybody.
A toxic relationship with stuff. Yep, that about sums it up.....
I need this
Beautiful words kaye
Nice video 👍
Thank you for saying it is “none of your business”.
such good messages, hit home
Yes, i absolutely feel embarrassed if a doctor told me to do something and i didn't
I am renting a house with NO CLOSETS!!! And only 5 ft cabinet up and down surrounding the sink. in kitchenand my stove and refrigerator.
I feel like a slob because I see everything I own.
What to do ???? I have shelves everywhere and I see everything .
No pictures, no decor just stuff. I am renting. My next place would have to be.made of CLOSETS.
Can you make a video to help Solve my Visual clutter.
Just found your channel and am loving your videos! :) even though this has nothing to do with what you talk about on your channel, will you tell me what hair products do you use? Your hair is gorgeous!
Welcome! I’m so happy you’re enjoying the content! I use Qhemet Biologics and Kinky Curly Curling Custard mostly…and I spend a lot of time not touching it lol
@@TheOrganizedSoprano Lol, ok that’s a feat! Thank you for your reply!
That is an adorable propagation thing!
The aesthetic looks nice but you'll have to pry french provincial and the like out of my cold dead hands lol
Bahahah the Cheesecake Factory reference 🤣
20 pages of choices 😂🤪 (probably 3 of them actual cheesecake) LOL
Ooooh, but people DO apologize to the doctor for not exercising or eating unhealthily!
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You are so pretty and beautiful.
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