Silence doesn't always have to be filled. If you can show the other person you're comfortable in silence, then they will be too, and it won't be awkward. Great work on the video!
1. attempt to relax & meditate first 0:29 2. ask questions 1:17 3. ask follow-up questions 1:54 4. ask open-ended questions too 2:25 5. avoid only short responses 2:59 I hope I could help!
It’s perfect for introverts - most introverts at my school all play videogames, and the most active in the videogame club, never see them anywhere else really
@@lecampbellaz You guys can speak for yourselves. It made it so that the examples had structure to them that was easy to understand. And it being "distracting" depends on your attention span.
@@Psych2go it's hard to explain but my mom and I are in a money struggle situation (especially my mom) and my dad kinda wants to keep most of his money or give it to my sister. There's a personal reason to why but we must save up money to at least eat. Edit: my mom would have to spend a lot of money for me to go see friends so that's why I can't make any right now unless we get a job but idk what to do
As an introvert, I don't really "dread" small talk, but I still dislike it. This video contained a few helpful tips that I didn't even think of trying before such as digging deeper into the conversation. Thanks so much for this advice Psych2go! Also, I like how you put this video in a game-like format. That looked so cool.
Embrace your introversion. You're not a “broken extrovert” as some people and websites claim. ... Don't wing it. ... Build downtime into your busy day. ... Hire the right people. ... Avoid the crowd. ... Attend large events strategically. ... Listen to your body. ... Find healthy ways to cope with stress
i needed this because physical school is coming soon and i’m really scared about my social skills because over lockdown and online school i got more and more introverted so this will help, thank you 💗
My problem is that I feel rushed when someone tries to talk to me, especially when I don't see it coming. My brain just overloads and I end up saying only yeses and noes, to which I immediately feel bad about afterwards. My convo preps always go down the drain.
Same, just a few weeks ago I was minding my own business having fun on my own, then a girl came up to me with her friend and she asked for my number. All I said was "I did not have a number". She said "ok then I'll see you around then". When she left all I was thinking was "so suddenly". I did not even have time to prepare.my heart was beating I was kinda panicking but also in shock. So next time that happens I'll tell them to give me a sec to breath and relax and then comeback to hear what they have to say.
@@zackhassan4301 If you need to buy time, tell them you need to use the facilities and you will be right back. If they're still there you should of calmed down by then, get the number 😁, or hand them your phone and have them put their own# in and call that and they can put your name on while talking to you in person. This way if they are nice you know you might want to use it.😲😂
People get nervous when the silence comes. They usually leave space and I am alone again. I am satisfied then but nobody likes me because I don’t talk about myself and I am very bad in SMALL TALK. The whole world is obsessed with small talk. Who is good at it, he is winner definitely.
I’ve been exploring my feelings and stuff lately and realising I’m not even an introvert. I’m more along the lines of “anxious, nervous extrovert.” I wanna talk and be friends with someone SO BAD - I just have a million thoughts going through my mind in a simple conversation.
Me too. I alternate between a guitar center, a Starbucks, a barnes and noble and a local tea shop everyday. But I can just never find the energy to get to know the people I see. It’s so fucking frustrating, I WANT to get to know them, but I just can’t. I hate being introverted.
So do I, it is difficult to talk, because people are used to talk about their children, dogs and food, but I am alone, I don’t like cooking at all. I usually struggle all my day in the office.
I needed it! I hate small talk. I usually try to change it to talk about something interesting like science or books or music, but many people don't get me sometimes, because they say: you're so smart, i don't know anything about it. And then I start going into details, start being passionate, they listen to me for a while but then they are tired of too much info about the topic. Which sometimes I go into too deep for them to get stuff about music for example (music school graduate here). I'm INFP-T, so I'm really creative and I LOOOOVE to discover new things and read about new topics. Sadly the small talk ends for me usually after they ask me about my hobbies and I start, get into it too much and they are confused too much to even continue D:
I feel the same. Little in common with most people and my interests aren’t of any interest to others. Occasionally I’ll discover someone who I can go deep with on a topic or two. I think I’m what’s called a nerd
I’ve always felt that being an introvert doesn’t mean “social stuff hard”. It’s just that we have a much more limited capacity for the amount of social interactions we can have at once before retreating to our alone place.
Only because you’re so internally-sufficient and rich. People who are more extraverted like that have an internal deficiency in that sense and overcome it by exposing themselves to a lot of external arousal. Social introversion is more than a passive outer resignation. It’s more about where a person actively gets their energy from. Hone in on superficial outgoing-ness too much and you’ll start to devalue the unique attributes that come naturally to quiet/reserved folk.
a guy asked me out for the first time and i don’t go outside a lot nor talk to people im home most of the time but he seems nice and always tried to check up on me but i am so scared that i won’t have anything to talk about if we do meet because i don’t do anything special and feel dissociated a lot
if a guy asks you out that first of all means he got some feelings for you and since you are saying you don't talk a lot to poeple and might get nervous, try to relax because it's only you 2 in that situation and also, not talking a lot should most likely mean you are thinking a lot and once you start opening up to them both of you might as well share the same interests
I was never a introvert, ive become one over the past year, its not that I hate people I just hate being around them, I actually like being on my own, no family and no friends, lately I've even questioned is this normal and am I some kind off freak, its been a great comfort there are millions around the world the same as myself and its helped amensly, I absolutely love this channel, its helped me alot not just with this subject but across the board, thank you 😊
thing is, you are born either as an extrovert, an introvert or an ambivert so i guess in your situation it's more like you started to focus on yourself and began to realize in which settings you are feeling the most comfy and also there is nothing wrong with you given that i myself for example love it to be on my own
Talking to different people can give you different feelings We feel comfortable when we talk to our friends, but we feel nervous when we talk to strangers Sometimes, we need to be careful when we talk
it's not the anxiety for me, it's more the: I run of out things to ask or my mind goes blank - like it just goes BLANK!! so I end up saying: ah hi, how's your day, other person might just nod or say hi or say good thanks and then conversation goes nowhere!
I don't think I've ever seen a more useful video for me. I actively look for how to mingle and make friends but don't even know what questions to ask to figure out what I'm doing wrong. Like, how to do small talk? I never even considered small talk.
As much as i appreciate this video , i find it hard to believe I'm not gonna get the conversation awkward when it comes to small talk, i mean it's just useless talk, u don't really have a topic! It's just questions and talking that leads to other talking, ughhh, it stresses me out! And the ability to stay calm and MEDITATE, I would grant a medal to myself if i managed to do that in a small talk
@@LunaMoon70 I had the urge too- yesterday, I told him that I liked him, and ig me and him are dating now. It's really easy, but it depends on the person you're talking to.
I was literally looking up for videos on how to make small talk and its spooky how Psych2Go posted this the minute I needed it xD Thanks for reading my mind 🙏🏼
I'm almost 55 and still dread it. All I can say is, practice makes perfect, like anything else. Depending on the situation, small talk is just a way to pass time, but it's also a way to get to know people. I've just learned to ask questions- many people love to talk about themselves. The ones who ask YOU questions- those are fewer and those are the ones you want to get to know better. :v)
How I survive small talk. Ahem: ... ... "Mhmm" "I see" "I understand" "Really?" "Interesting" "Fascinating" "Wow" Edit: Wow, thank you all for the likes!
@@smrithings damnn ;-; im the complete opposite, i absolutely love socializing and have a lot of responses but if the other person just.. doesn't have interesting replies (e.g one emoji/word msgs) i just die down and don't want to talk anymore lol
Ahahahhhh... I.. relate to both you and @kaiya XDDD And it seems to be a bit backwards, because I'm usually a lot quieter with people I actually kinda know, and more talkative with people I don't know as well. I guess it's probably because I'm an ambivert, so the people who know me better are more comfortable just talking to me about lots of stuff and I balance it out with quiet and just listening, and if it's someone who doesn't know me as well, they don't usually talk as much so I balance it out by talking a bit more.
At this point, I find the best strategy I've found is to just tell whoever I'm talking to that I'm an Introvert and if I'm quiet and awkward it's just my nature and I try to be normal but sometimes I just suck at it. 99% of people understand and are very nice about it.
It's been such long time since I've tried to start conversation to the point where I think I'll go insane I don't but my anxiety gets the best of me and since I'm homeschooled it makes it even harder thank you so much I needed some motivation!
As an introvert, I thought I needed this, but I am already applying those things in my conversations 😱 mostly online though haha. But in real life, I limit the talking because I don't want to overshare.
When I drove Uber, I tried to talk to everyone. A lot of us like talking to people. Personally I’ve met so many cool people with awesome jobs. It’s also the most reliable tactic to consistently get tips, which is the only way you make money doing it. With that being said, I can usually tell when my passengers didn’t wanna talk lol. Just do the opposite of what she advises in the video and you’re good
My biggest issue is always wondering what to say next if, like, we run out of things to talk about. Like, "what else can I add to this conversation??" Do we just stop talking and let the silence hang in the air? Should I get up and exit the scene??
What is "small talk" really? Is it boring talk about routine topics based around the shared zeitgeist, exp: sports, wealthier, or news. Or does it have to do with slowly learning about the person, so a deeper conversation can develop down the line? Often times I feel that people who talk about small talk in such a negative light, are simply not willing to take a interest in the person they are speaking to. Everyone cares about something, and if you can get them to connect with you on it, you get to see what makes it so great, then you get to take that with you to always brighten up your life.
I know personally, I don't really get "nervous" about small talk, I just don't have anything to say if there's no reason to say anything; no real topic to bring up. Though, of course, I know that at times just doing small talk can bring up real topics.
I think asking questions is a particulary good strategy, as it shifts the conversation more to the other person and you don't have to talk that much. Of course don't overdo it, as having a completely onesided conversation is not fun for anyone. What i still struggle the most with in smalltalk is coming up with good themes to talk about/ask that lead to a fleshed out conversation and not just a yes/no response. When i'm in a smalltalk situation, i often have the courage to talk/ask something, but i have no ideas, my head is just completely empty. I also struggle with timing, especially when talking in a group. I often find myself having thought of a good sentence/response, but waiting until the person currently talking finishes. I don't want to interrupt them, but if i wait too long, another person will start talking and the theme of the conversation will change until it's too late to say my thing. If i'm too early, it's either going to be rude because i interrupted them or awkward if noone listens to me. any tips on those 2 things?
We are only under the amount of pressure we put on ourselves. I once watched two people challenge each other in completing a task. One person became nervous, started shaking, and dropping things, then lost the challenge. The other person's friend laughed, and said, "He couldn't handle the pressure". The other guy looked at his friend, pointed at the guy who lost, and said, "I'm under just as much pressure as he is".
I love the video game theme and have great difficulty making small talk. I get nervous and start spitting out jokes when I get nervous. This seemed to really help a lot.
Great video! Loved the video game theme! I struggle with small talk, and socializing can be exhausting, so the advice was helpful-and made me laugh too.
My problem isn't small talk apparently, according to you I'm a pro! It seems more like it's the people I regularly have to make small talk with. They're either "simple response *awkward silence*" or "Let me repeat what I said 5 times because I'm not actually listening/don't care about your input." Not all of them, but those people don't feel like small talk, y'know?
I guess, i just get really nervous when someone other than my family start talking or asking questions to me, and when i dont know what to answer.. I'm just.. Silence..
As a pure introvert to the core I can say this is a lot easier said than done. These are definitely the right tips but taking the action is the biggest step
@@LunaMoon70 yea for me personally I don't have a problem talking to people. It's the fact that I don't want to talk to people. After abt 2 or 3 small talk topic changes I'm already disinterested and ready to be by my lonesome lol
Did it once. Because of Covid there were not many jobs to get and I survived a month. But after the whole week I was DEAD INSIDE. We need something which we can work in silence and nobody will pressure or interupt us in our work xD
But I have a problem. What questions? Weather is boring, how was your day is my only question, but people get bored with it. And I can’t ask about personal questions because I do not like these personal questions (I mean when people ask me what was my weekend like I do not have much to say, I watched this channel, or other channel about quantum physics lol, I was alone and maybe listened to scifi stories and it is still ackward, that’s why I hate these questions). I can’t find a soulmate.
Yay, a Dig-dug themed video! Great way to metaphor what feels like something that has no strategy at all, but actually does with just a bit of forethought.
My number one rule for surviving small talk is to just not get yourself involved in social interactions in the first place. Easy, no problems to solve and no problems to face.
@@waves5373 that's my move sometimes because I don't feel the awkwardness so it just makes it a very unpleasant interaction if they're lucky though their next interaction with me would be far far more pleasurable but that's only if they aren't beneath me
So, a couple of days ago. Some of my mom's friends came to our house. 3 Children came. I trained for this for 2 weeks. I thought of like 20 questions to ask. But after they came, all that followed was awkward silence. My mom after seeing this started some cartoons on the TV. I sat in the corner reading Bleach for the 10th time regretting my life. Any tips?
You can start asking about there favorites then followed it up and try to look for cues with the other childrens whereabouts ... Ex. Ask for his/her hobby and try to pick up some topics where you and them can relate at.. goodluck fellow introvert you can do it just believe
I relate to you there, been in a similar situation myself! Maybe ask them which character they like, on the cartoon? And why? And build up from there...
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Do you relate to being more of an introvert, extrovert or in between? Comment below.
yes being introverted it can interfere with life so much
in between
I’m definitely more of an introvert-
Kinda of in-between, I like getting attention but it's hard to talk to others. Idk how to explain it.
Introverter
Silence doesn't always have to be filled. If you can show the other person you're comfortable in silence, then they will be too, and it won't be awkward. Great work on the video!
Americans be like:
Nah, even we show to them that we're comfort with silent, but they're not.
Unfortunately, Silence doesn’t work as well over a telephone ☎️ as it does in person. ☀️✨
Well to a new person you just met if you give them a silent treatment they'll just walk away thinking you're uninterested
How would you show that though? By not responding in a conversation? Straight up tell them "I prefer silence"? Or what?
1. attempt to relax & meditate first 0:29
2. ask questions 1:17
3. ask follow-up questions 1:54
4. ask open-ended questions too 2:25
5. avoid only short responses 2:59
I hope I could help!
Thx
How did you comment a week ago
Wow that was fast. Thanks for the help 🙂
Thank you time traveller!
what how’d this comment a week just got uploaded
edit: oh they have early access lol
The video game theme in this video is a fun way to put these topics together.
Agree 100%
Nope boring😐
@@sparkstudiesss it’s very distracting
It’s perfect for introverts - most introverts at my school all play videogames, and the most active in the videogame club, never see them anywhere else really
@@lecampbellaz You guys can speak for yourselves. It made it so that the examples had structure to them that was easy to understand. And it being "distracting" depends on your attention span.
YESSS THIS IS WHAT I NEEDED
SAMEE
Time to make some friends? :D
@@Psych2go it's hard to explain but my mom and I are in a money struggle situation (especially my mom) and my dad kinda wants to keep most of his money or give it to my sister. There's a personal reason to why but we must save up money to at least eat.
Edit: my mom would have to spend a lot of money for me to go see friends so that's why I can't make any right now unless we get a job but idk what to do
Meditation and relaxation surely helps.
Huahaha
As an introvert, I don't really "dread" small talk, but I still dislike it. This video contained a few helpful tips that I didn't even think of trying before such as digging deeper into the conversation. Thanks so much for this advice Psych2go! Also, I like how you put this video in a game-like format. That looked so cool.
I thought of some of these advices myself as an introvert but didn't think they can be useful actually
Yeah, I don't hate small talk, I am just really bad at it
Im not sure how many of these things I'd actually be able to do. Definately not the last one, though.
Embrace your introversion. You're not a “broken extrovert” as some people and websites claim. ...
Don't wing it. ...
Build downtime into your busy day. ...
Hire the right people. ...
Avoid the crowd. ...
Attend large events strategically. ...
Listen to your body. ...
Find healthy ways to cope with stress
I can't stand people being viewed as broken because it implies something is wrong with them when it's just different wiring
What Talking life said
i needed this because physical school is coming soon and i’m really scared about my social skills because over lockdown and online school i got more and more introverted so this will help, thank you 💗
I'm distracted by these games loll they're so cute
same lmao
Ikr!! But if they'll do it again I'm willing to procrastinate
ikr, I end up watch the little games in the background and accidentally tuning out what they're saying and having to watch the videos again
My problem is that I feel rushed when someone tries to talk to me, especially when I don't see it coming. My brain just overloads and I end up saying only yeses and noes, to which I immediately feel bad about afterwards. My convo preps always go down the drain.
Same, just a few weeks ago I was minding my own business having fun on my own, then a girl came up to me with her friend and she asked for my number. All I said was "I did not have a number". She said "ok then I'll see you around then". When she left all I was thinking was "so suddenly". I did not even have time to prepare.my heart was beating I was kinda panicking but also in shock. So next time that happens I'll tell them to give me a sec to breath and relax and then comeback to hear what they have to say.
@@zackhassan4301 If you need to buy time, tell them you need to use the facilities and you will be right back. If they're still there you should of calmed down by then, get the number 😁, or hand them your phone and have them put their own# in and call that and they can put your name on while talking to you in person. This way if they are nice you know you might want to use it.😲😂
Same
@@zackhassan4301 at least your lucky girls approched you lately
THIS IS ME 100%
People get nervous when the silence comes. They usually leave space and I am alone again. I am satisfied then but nobody likes me because I don’t talk about myself and I am very bad in SMALL TALK. The whole world is obsessed with small talk. Who is good at it, he is winner definitely.
I'm actually going to a party tomorrow night for once. This came at the perfect time!
How did it go!!
@@Psych2go it went well! Wound up talking more than I thought I would
I’ve been exploring my feelings and stuff lately and realising I’m not even an introvert. I’m more along the lines of “anxious, nervous extrovert.” I wanna talk and be friends with someone SO BAD - I just have a million thoughts going through my mind in a simple conversation.
i want friends too but can never get myself to carry a conversation even though im good at it online, quarantine rly messed me up
@@LunaMoon70 i am in the same situation of you too, but i talk to the person like yesterday and it was so well, i am so happy
@@ambarlostinthewoods3080 omg thats so great! you should be proud of yourself :))
@@ambarlostinthewoods3080 i actually got a friends number yesterday so i guess we both are getting better ^^
Me too. I alternate between a guitar center, a Starbucks, a barnes and noble and a local tea shop everyday. But I can just never find the energy to get to know the people I see. It’s so fucking frustrating, I WANT to get to know them, but I just can’t. I hate being introverted.
the animation is so calming
Shit man I NEED THIS MORE THAN I WOULD LIKE TO ADMIT
Good luck! Go out there in the world and meet your love!
@@Psych2go No.
@@Anubonek Corona will go brttt
@@Psych2go tks
I get so scared of being judged ..because the reality is I have depression and my life is boring ...so I really struggle with meeting new people
So do I, it is difficult to talk, because people are used to talk about their children, dogs and food, but I am alone, I don’t like cooking at all. I usually struggle all my day in the office.
Happy Halloween, everyone!
Thank you so much for this, I watched this at dance and I’m an introvert. I just made my fourth ever friend!
Same to you!
I needed it! I hate small talk. I usually try to change it to talk about something interesting like science or books or music, but many people don't get me sometimes, because they say: you're so smart, i don't know anything about it. And then I start going into details, start being passionate, they listen to me for a while but then they are tired of too much info about the topic. Which sometimes I go into too deep for them to get stuff about music for example (music school graduate here). I'm INFP-T, so I'm really creative and I LOOOOVE to discover new things and read about new topics. Sadly the small talk ends for me usually after they ask me about my hobbies and I start, get into it too much and they are confused too much to even continue D:
Eve Reznor Same type here, and I think we need to find more people like us! ❤️
I feel the same. Little in common with most people and my interests aren’t of any interest to others. Occasionally I’ll discover someone who I can go deep with on a topic or two. I think I’m what’s called a nerd
i hate it when like
"how r u doing?"
yes
"nice weather today isn't it?"
ok
and THEN THERE'S THAN AWKWARD SILENCE BECAUSE I MESSED UP
I’ve always felt that being an introvert doesn’t mean “social stuff hard”. It’s just that we have a much more limited capacity for the amount of social interactions we can have at once before retreating to our alone place.
Only because you’re so internally-sufficient and rich. People who are more extraverted like that have an internal deficiency in that sense and overcome it by exposing themselves to a lot of external arousal. Social introversion is more than a passive outer resignation. It’s more about where a person actively gets their energy from. Hone in on superficial outgoing-ness too much and you’ll start to devalue the unique attributes that come naturally to quiet/reserved folk.
Q: How to avoid small talk?
A: Ight, imma head out.
PLEASE DO A GUIDE OF HOW TO RESPONSE TO SOMEONE THAT COMPLIMENTS YOU MORE THAN ONE TIME I NEED THAT
How to avoid small talk ( IxTx version):
Person- (begins small talk)
IxTx- Either talk something interesting or go away.
Person- (leaves)
a guy asked me out for the first time and i don’t go outside a lot nor talk to people im home most of the time but he seems nice and always tried to check up on me but i am so scared that i won’t have anything to talk about if we do meet because i don’t do anything special and feel dissociated a lot
You should go for it! Don’t stress out too much about it. Something good might come out of it 😊
if a guy asks you out that first of all means he got some feelings for you and since you are saying you don't talk a lot to poeple and might get nervous, try to relax because it's only you 2 in that situation and also, not talking a lot should most likely mean you are thinking a lot and once you start opening up to them both of you might as well share the same interests
I was never a introvert, ive become one over the past year, its not that I hate people I just hate being around them, I actually like being on my own, no family and no friends, lately I've even questioned is this normal and am I some kind off freak, its been a great comfort there are millions around the world the same as myself and its helped amensly, I absolutely love this channel, its helped me alot not just with this subject but across the board, thank you 😊
thing is, you are born either as an extrovert, an introvert or an ambivert so i guess in your situation it's more like you started to focus on yourself and began to realize in which settings you are feeling the most comfy and also there is nothing wrong with you given that i myself for example love it to be on my own
Most of the people who ask you something, actually want you to ask them the same question so they can tell you something about them...
Talking to different people can give you different feelings
We feel comfortable when we talk to our friends,
but we feel nervous when we talk to strangers
Sometimes, we need to be careful when we talk
this survival guide is more important to me than a wilderness one
This needs to be a real game
Ayyy thank you for the heart!
it's not the anxiety for me, it's more the: I run of out things to ask or my mind goes blank - like it just goes BLANK!! so I end up saying: ah hi, how's your day, other person might just nod or say hi or say good thanks and then conversation goes nowhere!
Woah! I needed it so badly! Thanks for the video 😍😍
I don't think I've ever seen a more useful video for me. I actively look for how to mingle and make friends but don't even know what questions to ask to figure out what I'm doing wrong. Like, how to do small talk? I never even considered small talk.
As much as i appreciate this video , i find it hard to believe I'm not gonna get the conversation awkward when it comes to small talk, i mean it's just useless talk, u don't really have a topic! It's just questions and talking that leads to other talking, ughhh, it stresses me out! And the ability to stay calm and MEDITATE, I would grant a medal to myself if i managed to do that in a small talk
The video all introverts didn't know they needed until now, hope you'll make more videos like this! ❤
it's easier for me as an introvert to answer questions than ask ones
Needed this. I literally talked to my crush yesterday, and I kept stuttering, this help a lot!
man howd u do it 💀 over quarantine i forgot how to talk to people and approach them
@@LunaMoon70 I had the urge too- yesterday, I told him that I liked him, and ig me and him are dating now. It's really easy, but it depends on the person you're talking to.
@@bitter_tearz OMG UR SO BRAVE THAT IS NOT EASY :O 👏👏👏
@@LunaMoon70 tyyy, I'm still nervous tho- I'm usually an introvert and keep to myself haha😅
I tried tho 👉👈
@@bitter_tearz well good luck! i hope everything goes well ^^
Snapchatting my girlfriend is hell for me, i just resort to sarcasm and humor to avoid the awkward silence
Felt
This is my favourite channel ever
I was literally looking up for videos on how to make small talk and its spooky how Psych2Go posted this the minute I needed it xD
Thanks for reading my mind 🙏🏼
I'm almost 55 and still dread it. All I can say is, practice makes perfect, like anything else. Depending on the situation, small talk is just a way to pass time, but it's also a way to get to know people. I've just learned to ask questions- many people love to talk about themselves. The ones who ask YOU questions- those are fewer and those are the ones you want to get to know better. :v)
During school is when you have the most fun talking
How I survive small talk. Ahem:
...
...
"Mhmm"
"I see"
"I understand"
"Really?"
"Interesting"
"Fascinating"
"Wow"
Edit: Wow, thank you all for the likes!
veryy relatable haha. i usually never know what to say
@@smrithings damnn ;-; im the complete opposite, i absolutely love socializing and have a lot of responses but if the other person just.. doesn't have interesting replies (e.g one emoji/word msgs) i just die down and don't want to talk anymore lol
@@kailcabbage haha samee
Ahahahhhh... I.. relate to both you and @kaiya XDDD And it seems to be a bit backwards, because I'm usually a lot quieter with people I actually kinda know, and more talkative with people I don't know as well. I guess it's probably because I'm an ambivert, so the people who know me better are more comfortable just talking to me about lots of stuff and I balance it out with quiet and just listening, and if it's someone who doesn't know me as well, they don't usually talk as much so I balance it out by talking a bit more.
@@kailcabbage lol that's cool. i'm really shy and awkward sooo
Now I'm just standing with someone not knowing what to say and him hearing my video OH GOD THIS CAME AT THE RIGHT TIME!
Psy: You do have a soul... right? Right
Me: 👀
I will NEVER stop loving this channel 😩😩
Introverts, this is what we need.
I just find my people in any situation usually complaining about the government
@@theemofemboycatgirlw3214 lmao
@@wispyhope and then there's my method of turning everything into a government conspiracy theory
This has the same feeling as "Ok, I'm ready to try this!" "WHAT Are you crazy, I'm not gonna strike you with LIGHTNING!"
As an INFJ, here it is.
I really need this.
i’m also an INFJ
@@kirtu9035 LETZ GOO
ADDVICE1 attempt to relax & meditate first 0:29
ADDVICE2 ask questions 1:18
ADDVICE3 ask follow-up questions 1:53
ADDVICE4 ask open-ended questions too 2:25
ADDVICE5 avoid only short responses 2:58
At this point, I find the best strategy I've found is to just tell whoever I'm talking to that I'm an Introvert and if I'm quiet and awkward it's just my nature and I try to be normal but sometimes I just suck at it.
99% of people understand and are very nice about it.
It's been such long time since I've tried to start conversation to the point where I think I'll go insane I don't but my anxiety gets the best of me and since I'm homeschooled it makes it even harder thank you so much I needed some motivation!
As an introvert, I thought I needed this, but I am already applying those things in my conversations 😱 mostly online though haha. But in real life, I limit the talking because I don't want to overshare.
The whole idea for the animation of this video in particular is so cute. I'm addicted
The most annoying thing to me is when I take a Uber ride and the driver wants to talk constantly. I don't want to talk, just get me there.
When I drove Uber, I tried to talk to everyone. A lot of us like talking to people. Personally I’ve met so many cool people with awesome jobs. It’s also the most reliable tactic to consistently get tips, which is the only way you make money doing it. With that being said, I can usually tell when my passengers didn’t wanna talk lol. Just do the opposite of what she advises in the video and you’re good
I can't believe some people do this naturally
Just say "Sorry, I have diarrhea" and run to the next toilet. After thd person is out of side, continue with what you were doing
Modern problems require modern solutions
My biggest issue is always wondering what to say next if, like, we run out of things to talk about. Like, "what else can I add to this conversation??" Do we just stop talking and let the silence hang in the air? Should I get up and exit the scene??
Would you like to learn about go-to topics if you run out of things to talk about?
What is "small talk" really? Is it boring talk about routine topics based around the shared zeitgeist, exp: sports, wealthier, or news.
Or does it have to do with slowly learning about the person, so a deeper conversation can develop down the line?
Often times I feel that people who talk about small talk in such a negative light, are simply not willing to take a interest in the person they are speaking to.
Everyone cares about something, and if you can get them to connect with you on it, you get to see what makes it so great, then you get to take that with you to always brighten up your life.
Agreed
How I survive small talk as an introvert with social anxiety in 3 phrases:
“Mn”
“I don’t know”
“No”
The thumbnail is all i need
Great! Feel free to let us know if you have any thumbnail ideas!
I know personally, I don't really get "nervous" about small talk, I just don't have anything to say if there's no reason to say anything; no real topic to bring up. Though, of course, I know that at times just doing small talk can bring up real topics.
Very true
I think asking questions is a particulary good strategy, as it shifts the conversation more to the other person and you don't have to talk that much. Of course don't overdo it, as having a completely onesided conversation is not fun for anyone.
What i still struggle the most with in smalltalk is coming up with good themes to talk about/ask that lead to a fleshed out conversation and not just a yes/no response. When i'm in a smalltalk situation, i often have the courage to talk/ask something, but i have no ideas, my head is just completely empty.
I also struggle with timing, especially when talking in a group. I often find myself having thought of a good sentence/response, but waiting until the person currently talking finishes. I don't want to interrupt them, but if i wait too long, another person will start talking and the theme of the conversation will change until it's too late to say my thing. If i'm too early, it's either going to be rude because i interrupted them or awkward if noone listens to me.
any tips on those 2 things?
We are only under the amount of pressure we put on ourselves. I once watched two people challenge each other in completing a task. One person became nervous, started shaking, and dropping things, then lost the challenge. The other person's friend laughed, and said, "He couldn't handle the pressure". The other guy looked at his friend, pointed at the guy who lost, and said, "I'm under just as much pressure as he is".
I'll forever be thankful for the person who made this
Super cute animation to go with this topic. Loves it 💗
Talking always seems nice in concept, but then suddenly all my energy is gone and I just want to sleep. It is troublesome.
Amen
It doesn’t matter if you’re an introvert, embrace yourself!
I love the video game theme and have great difficulty making small talk. I get nervous and start spitting out jokes when I get nervous. This seemed to really help a lot.
This channel has carried me through so many experiences, thank you ❤️
I saw the title and clicked faster than my money draining out my bank account
Love the introvert content 💙
Great video! Loved the video game theme! I struggle with small talk, and socializing can be exhausting, so the advice was helpful-and made me laugh too.
You can't imagine how much we needed this. Thank you.
Thank you. My own soul won’t leave my body when I talk to someone new
Pro tip
If the conversation falls quiet don’t say awkward shit like “umm yeah”
“It’s has been nice talking to you, but….”
There problem solved
yea but then they keep talking😭
@@abigailarredondo6257 Break a massive wind & walk away…
Hahaha
I really like this girls voice its very soothing.
When panicking in small talk, I usually just give a 30 minute explanation on how if the world plunged into anarchy, no one will die in war.
I distracted to games than I was listening to the talk
OMG it actually really helps. Thankyou so so so much
Plus you make it so much relaxing to watch as it depicts "small talk gaming"
My problem isn't small talk apparently, according to you I'm a pro! It seems more like it's the people I regularly have to make small talk with. They're either "simple response *awkward silence*" or "Let me repeat what I said 5 times because I'm not actually listening/don't care about your input."
Not all of them, but those people don't feel like small talk, y'know?
Thank you so much, I've been wanting to get better with small talk for awhile now, you're a life saver!
Thanks for this video I really needed that!
This is such a great channel 👍🏻
I absolutely love the animation and art- the video game sounds are relaxing and bring back memories : )
Aww. Glad you like this style!
Acknowledging is the most important thing. It help you more to understand what is going
I guess, i just get really nervous when someone other than my family start talking or asking questions to me, and when i dont know what to answer.. I'm just.. Silence..
As a pure introvert to the core I can say this is a lot easier said than done. These are definitely the right tips but taking the action is the biggest step
yeah i feel confident about talking to people until i actually have to do it and then it goes horribly
@@LunaMoon70 yea for me personally I don't have a problem talking to people. It's the fact that I don't want to talk to people. After abt 2 or 3 small talk topic changes I'm already disinterested and ready to be by my lonesome lol
Loveddd the video game format. This is also so helpful for an introvert like me! Thank you!! ^^
Try being a introverted working in a call center, that's talking to 40+ strangers a DAY!
Well get a different job
that sounds incredibly rough
Oof, there’s no way I could do that!
Did it once. Because of Covid there were not many jobs to get and I survived a month. But after the whole week I was DEAD INSIDE. We need something which we can work in silence and nobody will pressure or interupt us in our work xD
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This helped so much. Thank you! Imma test it out next time someone starts a conversation.
this what i needed so badly.
But I have a problem. What questions?
Weather is boring, how was your day is my only question, but people get bored with it. And I can’t ask about personal questions because I do not like these personal questions (I mean when people ask me what was my weekend like I do not have much to say, I watched this channel, or other channel about quantum physics lol, I was alone and maybe listened to scifi stories and it is still ackward, that’s why I hate these questions).
I can’t find a soulmate.
cicistone I hear you on the soulmate! There's a lonely INTP on this page; maybe you and he could at least talk about it.
This really helps. With my severe introversion and social anxiety I suck at small talk let alone conversations.
These are your best animations yet
Yay, a Dig-dug themed video! Great way to metaphor what feels like something that has no strategy at all, but actually does with just a bit of forethought.
My number one rule for surviving small talk is to just not get yourself involved in social interactions in the first place. Easy, no problems to solve and no problems to face.
the more focus was on the animation it is so cute thanks for the video btw!!
I need this I'm always that kid who does not talk and staying in a corner
It's a good way to be left alone no one wants to talk to the weirdo in the corner
@@theemofemboycatgirlw3214 true cause I just awkwardly stare at them without saying anything when conversation dies
@@waves5373 that's my move sometimes because I don't feel the awkwardness so it just makes it a very unpleasant interaction if they're lucky though their next interaction with me would be far far more pleasurable but that's only if they aren't beneath me
@@theemofemboycatgirlw3214 we should be friends :D
So, a couple of days ago. Some of my mom's friends came to our house.
3 Children came. I trained for this for 2 weeks. I thought of like 20 questions to ask.
But after they came, all that followed was awkward silence.
My mom after seeing this started some cartoons on the TV. I sat in the corner reading Bleach for the 10th time regretting my life.
Any tips?
You can start asking about there favorites then followed it up and try to look for cues with the other childrens whereabouts ... Ex. Ask for his/her hobby and try to pick up some topics where you and them can relate at.. goodluck fellow introvert you can do it just believe
@@jamescastro498 Thanks a lot for the help man.
@@aranyapaul5712 no problem comrade..
I relate to you there, been in a similar situation myself!
Maybe ask them which character they like, on the cartoon? And why? And build up from there...
@@wanderingthoughts16 Good idea. I'll try.