Pakistan main 2sri Shadi Ek Masla Q? Sahil Adeem | Ask Sahil
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Alhamdulilah i got married again for the third time...my ex insisted my second husband to divorce me and he succeeded..he took my children too...but for the third time i got again married and slapped that culprit on his face...because i have same mindset as Sahil adeem has explained.In pakistan Deen ki koi hasyet nai ...bakwas society hindu culture...Just keep focused on Allah s command and fight for your own rights.
Why ex insisted the second husband. Why did he listen to him .
@@mobeenakhan3630 it is reality they cannot see the woman get prosperous or settled well . They divorce women as threat or punishment.
Jab aurtain esy tarha 2 ya 3 shaadian kary gi tub ja k en mardo ki aqal tikany lag jae gi.
گڈ
@@bismakhan5393 exactly
بہت بہت پیاری پیاری حقیقت والی باتیں۔
بیوہ سے تو پھر بھی ہمدردی کے تحت شادی کرلی جاتی ہے مگر تلاق یافتہ خو تو مرتے دم تک اپنے آپ کو صحیح ثابت کرنا پڑتا ہے زندگی کے ہر لمحے میں
Marriage is part of life not the whole life, if u succeed than well go on, and not succeed and wanna another chance do again, or don't wanna remarriage than it is absolutely fine. Life has purposes and goals to achieve. So agreed with Sahil sahib 100%
Phir vo he kahain ...hw can he b a Pakistani....respect ND gratitude r vry small words.....v need 2 listen ND think carefully what he saya
Sir after watching this video it gave a feeling of contentment to my grieved heart. I am a single mom but very much self motivated and have strong contention against this hidious norm of this society. I was married twice but both of my marriages were ended because of some legitimate reasons. I have the same thinking about why our society finger points a woman if she gets khula or divorced twice or even Thrice i mean like MERZI US KI ITNA ZULM BERDASHT NAHE HOTA" even Allah has said in Surah Yousuf to raise your voice against zulm.
Dono nay zulm kia?
Mee too be strong
@@taym2720 no woman try her best to save relationship
Assalamu alaikum. Allah apko behtareen sathi dy jo akhirah mae b apka sathi ho ameeen ❤️❤️❤️
@@saniaaziz8134 i am searching for divorce women.who prayer 5 time
Excellent job, you're excellent speaker,Mr.Shahil. We need lot of excellent people like you.❤
Finally someone atleast addressing the problem...
Is me sahil sahab ne jo bat kahi k 2nd marriage ko ghr walay celeberate karen apnay damadon ki aur apnay behnoiyon ki... toh hota yeh nahi hay k mard 2nd marriage kisi bewa ya os k bachon ko sahara denay k lye krta hay ya kisi ziadah age ki qubool surat ya mamuli shakal ki aurat ko sahara denay k lye karay.. balkay pakistani mard usually 2nd marriage pehli wife se bhi kam umer khubsurat larki dhond k os se affair chala k aur apni girlfriend bana k krta hay isme society ki islaah ka koi pehlu nai hota .. srf lust aur ayyashi wajah hoti hay.. agr waqai kisi widow aged aurat aur os k bachon ka sahara bannay k lye karay to mera nahi khial k oski wife ki taraf se aisa shiddat bhara resistance samnay ayega .
Exactly
true
Marriage is all about equality. Ye baat kahan se aa jati hai k pehli bivi se shadi piyar or mohabbat k jazbaat me ki jaye, or dusri bivi se SAHARA or REHM ki wajah se ki jaye? Dusri bivi ka kya kasoor hai k usay mohabbat dene ki bjaye ye feel krwaya jaye k usay sahara dia ja raha hai?
Marriage isa relationship of care and love, not just finance and money.
For a second, consider yourself a second wife, or apna hi comment dobara parhen.
اگر کوئی مرد صرف شہوت پوری کرنے کے لیے بھی کر رہا ہے تو بھی کوئی بری بات نہیں، کیونکہ جو مرد زنا کے بجائے کسی کی پوری ذمہداری اٹھاتا ہے وہ عدل ہی کرے گا۔
باقی یہ تاثر غلط ہے کہ مرد لوگ کم عمر حسین سے ہی شادی کرتے ہیں، ہاں ڈراموں اور ٹی وی پر دیکھایا جاتا ہے،اور یہی سوچ معاشرے میں عام ہو گئی ہے۔
میری دوسری مجھ سے بیس سال بڑی تھی، مجھے کہتی تھی جب تم پیدا ہوئے تھے میں یونیورسٹی میں تھی، خیر محبت کا تعلق ظاہری شکل وغیرہ سے نہیں ہوتا۔
بات وہی ہے نکاح آسان ہو اور طلاق بھی آسان، اور یہ معاملہ زندگی موت کا نہیں ہونا چاہیے، مگر جب مرد عورت سمجھ لیں کہ زندگی میں ایک بار ہی ہونا ہے بس پھر موت ہے چاہے جو الو کا پٹھہ یا پٹھی ٹکر جائے،
Usama aziz valid point..... Jawab do ab
Respect and love is a very small Word for this great man .how Can he be a pakistani?😃😂😃
Exactly
دوسرا شوہر پہلے شوہر کے بچوں کو نہیں رکھتا۔ کیا دوسرے کی ذمے داری ہے کہ وہ بیوہ یا طلاق شدہ عورت کے بچے بھی قبول کرے
Deen Wala musalman .
True i can say hes half pakistani because he is not educated by pakistani babay mulah in arabs marriage and devorce is not a big deal both for men n women
True words literally just speechless
Very important discussion needed for our society .No one thinks of personal requirements and need of a person just involve in stupid things dont focus on real things.
یہ سوال کرنے والا شکل سے ہی دوسری شادی کے لئے ترسا ہوا لگ رہا ہے پہلی کو چاہے خوش نہ رکھ پایا ہو. کیونکہ پاکستان کے 99% جنگلیوں کو پتہ ہی نہیں ہے کہ بیوی کو صرف بیڈ کی ضرورت نہیں ہوتی بلکہ اسے ذہنی طور پر خوشی, غمگساری , اور محبت کی سب سے زیادہ ضرورت ہوتی ہے. ایسے جنگلی اپنی حرکتوں سے بیویوں کا دل توڑ دیتے ہیں اور پھر بیڈ پر ایک گرم جوش ساتھی کی تمنا رکھتے ہیں اور ناکامی کی صورت میں دوسری بیوی کی تلاش میں نکل پڑتے ہیں
پاکستانی آدمی انسان کم اور جنگلی زیادہ ہیں۔۔۔
اللہ بچائے ۔
آمین
Bt dear sis gals shadi krne se pahle ye q ni sochti k boys ki mentality hi aisi hoti h....
You are absolutely right. But 2nd marriage is also not appreciated by divorce women as well. I am trying to have 2nd marriage and none of women is willing to be 2nd wife. So the issue is from all 3 dimensions
Move out from the norm.The world is big.I have 3 all from different countries Alhamdulillah and all is well
How old are u
Totally true
My czn got married to a guy who was divorced but the guy and his family repeated the same attitude bcz of which his 1st wife took khula and my czn also took khula from him just after 3 months of marriage .so that is the reason bcz of it girls and their families are to reluctant to marry a divorced man
Bhai doosri shaadi k liye pehli biwi se ijaazat ki koi zaroorat nahi. Beshak hadees ya quran prh lo. Haan lekin dono ko same hakook dene prhe gy
wow
😍
مرنے کا
wait
کررہے ہیں
You are right
Aoa
Allah always bless u
very well says 👏 ap jis tarha sy samjhatye hyn bat Rooh ma uter jati hy Alhamdulillah 👍
Can any oneshare the complete session link
Outstanding video sir , blunt but truth .
Sir Sahil is great ! Such a great reply and very well explained.All things sir Sahil said are so true are relatable
He asked a question that what a widow should you.
According to Hadith "agar ek bewa aurat apny baccho ki khatir dosri shaadi na kary tu jannat me mery sath angasht shahadat jaisy ho gi" lihaza bewa aurat ko kisi dosri aurat ka ghr tabah karny ki bajae apny baccho ki khatir qurbani deni chahiye.
Sahil Adeem Stole My ❤
دوسری شادی کے لئے مرد میں اخلاقی و معاشی مطابقت کی صلاحیت ہونی چاہیے نہ کہ صرف نفسانی خواہش کے لئے کرے
Aik hi shadi krni ho tu kiya ye zrori nahi. Aik k liye b dekha jata hai ye sb.
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Kya baat kahi mohtarma MASHALLAH
کس کتاب میں لکھا ہے صلاحیت،، ،،؟ اللہ پاک کا حکم ہے اگر تمہیں زنا کا اندیشہ پڑ جائے تو نکاح کرو ایک ایک دو دو تین تین چار چار ،، تاکہ کنوارہ 80 غلام کو40 کوڑے شادی شدہ رجیم موت ان زنا کرنے والوں کو جمعہ کی نماز کے بعد سزا دینے کا حکم سرعام پتھر مارںے کا حکم ہے ،،سورہ نور ،،، پتھر مارنے والوں کو بھی حکم ہے پوری طاقت سے پتھر مارنا ترس ائے تو بس یہ سوچنا ،،، کیا تم اللہ سے زیادہ رحم کرنے والا ہے ،،
@@islamabbas24471 se zyada shaadi tab kro jab sab ko saare haqooq de sako warna sirf 1 hi kro. Yeh quran mein likha h prh lo beshak.
6:10
I am a physician trained in the USA, I would like to answer Ahmed Ali’s question regarding the relationship between “ Mehde Ki gas charte charte dimagh mien charr gaee”
Please fast forward the video to 7:14(As I was listening to your conversation with Sahil on a serious topic, then suddenly broke into laughter as I’ve heard this question from Pakistani patients and doctors before and it used to puzzle me too!
I used to think it’s a myth whenever I heard someone questioning about above mentioned pain but I came to my own conclusion about a real problem.
In my opinion people with migraine headache and an aura,( a sensation of knots in the stomach, with or without occasional nausea and subsequent headache), are referring to the “gas/pain that starts in the stomach and makes it way to the brain”
I think these people are trying to tell us the truth, we just need to dig a little deer to understand their problems 😬
good
What a man! Pehli bar kisi ne aqal ki bat ki.
لڑکے والے یہی چاہتے ہیں کہ لڑکی والے اپنی بیٹی کو یہ کہہ کر بھیجیں کہ تمہاری میت اس گھر سے نکلے. جب بیٹیوں والے اپنی بیٹیوں کو پورا بیک اپ دیں گے اور اپنی بیٹی پر ظلم کرنے پر اپنی بیٹیوں کو واپس لے آئیں تو معاشرے کو لگ پتہ چل جائے
You are absolutely right
Talaq is not single word , it's spoiled the two families and their children
Main problem is financial in our society to handle all these problems.
Excellent Sahil bhie Excellent 👍👍👍
Nice talk about Pakistani people mentality. I also took divorce firstly and then my parents arranged sencod for me. And I faced people's mentality. They teased under the sympathic words.cheap people don't know that their merciless talking will become punish for them.
We are muslims but hum Pakistani hinduism mindset se bahir nahi aa rahy. mera triple divorce ka issue bana tab mujhe pata chala k har fiqh ki divorce bhi apni apni hai.
MAY Allah Shower HIS Mercy Upon you and your family Ameen !
Good
kash kash kash kash main nay ye video shadi say pehly dekhi hoti....
Me b yhi sochti hon sahil Sahab ko mene bchpn se suna HOTA to me apny life k decisions differently leti
Pr Kash bolna hadees me mana qk wo shetan ka drwaza kholta ha
Hamary mulk me jo mard kisi kanwari bewa ya talaq yafta se doosri shadi Kar leta he to uski pehli bv sanp ban jati he. Or ghar ka or poori family ka skoon tabah karti. Islam ne b mard ko insaf ka hukam dia or agar wo zimadar he or insaf se do families ko balance Kar sakta he to pehli bv ko chahye k wo b Allah k lye sabar kary. Mard Chahay Ak shadi kary ya do use Islam sahi samajh honi zaroori he. Jo k arbon k pass he wo apni bvio ko alag alag gharon me bilkul Barabad k haqooq de k rakhty hen. Me pichly 8 sasl se Saudia me hun or yahan yahi dekha he. Hamary mulk me to ird gird k log hee doosro ki personal life me bohat interfere karty rehty ajeeb kisam k masail wali zindgi he Pakistan me.
M ne in 1st wives ko b dekha jino ne2nd shadi chup k krne k bawjood husband ko maaf kia r kaha k dosri ko b Hal do r ghar m lao izzat se r ane wali phr sbse pehle usi 1st wife ko dhakke de k nklwati hai jisne usk lie jaga banai hoti is lie opposite behaviour hote kuch females to bardhsha krti dosri shadi or dosri biwi hi pehli ka ghar tba ah kra k ati
bilkul right👌
G shadi to mard yaha kisi ke zarrorat ko nai apni zarrorat ko dehk kr krta hy bht he kam hon gay jinho nay shadi kisi ka sahara bunny k liey ho ge
Don't forget that men can help others
U r blessing for Muslims
V wel said Sir.shadi ko easy & casual bnaen
Ak dam sahe baat ha.
You gave Me so much power.....
Bhot hi mushkil hota ja raha hai Zindagi Gulzarnaa talaq yafta ko our bewa ko ALLAH PAK Rehim Farmay
Baita paida honay pr jou Ma'a sb se zyada Khush Hoti hai.. wohi bahu ke awwaleen dushmn sabit Hoti Hai..
Aoa sir mein yeh Janna chahati houn kia aik talaq yafta orat phir say dobara apny phly Waly khawind say dobara nikah kr skti hai ya nhi please reply
Now Pakistani married women (after watching any drama series) will come and shout, "Ek aurat apna piyar share nhi kr skti. Just like a man can't share his wife with anyone, a women can't share her husband with any other women" 😂😂😂
Influence of social media that's all
Jazak Allah. Ye Jo aap ne bat ki hai k jab Tak ham Taboo ko hataen ge Nahin. Tab tak kuch Nahin hone wala. Tallaq and Second Marriage dono pe se.
Bilkul esy h hota h 😔😔
Zabardast sir
Or jo mard 2 ya 3 kr lyty hain phr woh bad mai annay wali jo haal krti hain pehly walio ka ya krwati hain iss topic par b baat honi chahiey
Marriage is
" End to End compromise "
No matter it's 1st, 2nd,...
I am a divorced man (a divorced that was not initiated by me) who is single now, and I will now only marry to have two wives, and Allhumdolillah I can afford it. I don't believe in monogamy! However, no MUSLIM woman wants to be in a polygamous marriage! I will rather be alone for the rest of my life than marry only one! I don't deceive any prospective lady and am upfront with my intentions, however, it's been almost 3 years and I cant find two Muslim ladies who will agree! I have come to conclusions the women who claim they are "Open-minded" are really "closed-minded" and no such Muslim woman exists who really submits to Allah SWT, almost all submit to their whims and wishes. No wonder those who do marry more than one in our society do it with deception. I for one will not follow the deception path, I will continue to seek out two women and marry them both publicly and openly in the right way.
I fully support your thoughts.. You are on right track according to Islam.
Lovely thought may Allah help u brother
Very good brother.. actually u should do 2 and then later why not 2 more.. we have to be honest and stay away from zina..and if that means we need 2 or 4 then be it..
Women just are interested in being taken care of.. all else is just what society tells them. They are happy when they are home with kids watching their soap operas and gossip.. just give them that life style and that's it..
Be stern and put Ur foot down with what what u want and be honest with yourself and Ur needs .. because no one else will...
Do you think that your divorce happened because you had a single wife?
And if you have 2 wives at a time so it will work good?
I am willing to marry a person who has two wives I mean I can live in a separate house not in the same with the other wife....But I am afraid of marrying a divorced man again !
sb perha rahy life k liy.but achi life kesy guzry gi koi nhi perhata.ak subject hona chaye.jesy driving rules.esy life rules.
couples 50 saal tk lerty jagerty.then divorsed.koi 5.10 sal zinda reh k mer jaty.rules give them in hand start of life.sb sy imp.shadi ka segment hota.wohi nhi pata.kesy guzarni.thankyou sahil
100 percent correct...but decades lgny ye thinking change hony main
In certain things he is absolutely 💯% right.
Sir how do I contact to sahir sir
Kitni khoobsoorati se sahil bhai ne elaborate kiya MA SHA ALLAH 💓
QUESTION? JO AHMED ALI KHAN BHAI KO JO BEMAARI HY WOHI MUJHY BHI HY IS KA KOI HAL BATA DEN PLZ SAHIL BHAI???? 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🙏
Sir, this last generation... Has ruined Pakistan.. plain and simple.. their casualness over everything appauls me.. they just thought about themselves and just followed the status quo and do whatever suited them. Didn't do anything but just went through life to get them through the finish line with no regards to future.
This generation has put us in saas bahu issues and still they are stuck in them..
Tell me one issue that these babas can say they have resolved in 75 years. Whether it be economic or religious or better ment of society. They are just concerned about superficial/trivial things which die with them.
They talk about izzat and honour when they themselves have done nothing but just playing on a cast system and just saying I belong to that tribe or my father name is this.
The new generation which are teenagers and in twenties need to take over now.. whatever they do just take over .. at least at the end they will own their decisions a d say yes this is what we did and even if we failed we put the foundations to make things better..
Often the second wife compromise Nahi Karti aur pehli wali se fighting aur pehli wali ke bachon se nafrat Pakistani society Ki guthi suljhana Bohat mushkil hai
It is a question of living accommodation and cost of living, which is the hindrance.
Sir itni himmat kahan se laatay hain ap?
I too want to know sir please batay itni himmat ati Kahan sy hai
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The question is still not answered. Ali Ahmed asked what should a widow do? When she is form lower middle class background, what are the first steps she should take?? Huge disappointment that the answer was so vague and went to a venting out session rather then a guideline.. so the first thing a widow should do is remarry? It needed to be explained further, when sahib Adeeem said, the women needs to re establish herself? Why wasn’t that explained in more depth??? And which women are those who are allowing illegitimate relationship with men but not marriage… the focus of this conversation seems more like Bas shadi ker lo shadi ker lo… theek hai ker laita hain… but what does that bring???? Why not emphasize more on how a widow should re establish herself after a man?? disappointed…
It is very simple.there is a clear cut hadith "agar ek bewa aurat apny bacchy ki khatir dosri shaadi na kary tu wo qiamat k din mery sath angasht shahadat jaisy ho gi " lihaza kisi bewa aurat ko kisi dosri aurat ka ghr tabah karny ki bajae apny baccho ki khatir qurbani deni chahiye.
Lekin ye hadith molvi log chupaty han.
@@bismakhan5393 Can you please quote and give reference to the hadeeth?. I do not think there is any such hadith that encourages a widow not to remarry "because of kids"!! This goes totally against the core message of Islam where it promotes marriages and especially marriages of widows!!
Wardah I think its a systemic problem and our culture does not support remarriages of widows. So how do you re-establish yourself? Forget about the past, learn the lessons through introspection and move forward. Keep an open mind and actively keep looking for suitors and when there is a suitable proposal, be ready to take that leap forward without worrying too much about social or future consequences.
In the interim a widow may keep herself busy, maybe pick up a career, work or business to keep herself busy and productive. Just my 2 cents.
@@farazraaz7857 problem starts a little earlier… get your girls educated and give them a skill before they are married…
@@wardahmajeed1622 I slightly disagree, a girl can keep learning even after marriage. Learning and skill improvement can be continuous. Because if one waits for the girl to finish education and skills training then she ends up in her mid to late 20's and way past her prime.
But I agree with you that there is a problem in our society when it comes to marriages. Marriage contract and expectations from both sides should be clearly defined prior and continuing education for the woman can be part of it. And women should never compromise on mehr, it should be paid in full to the bride by the groom at the time of marriage so he has a significant financial stake and investment from the every beginning. Brides side should never feel less in front of the groom and should never sell themselves short. Always have something to fall back to financially because there is no guarantee of any marriage working out long term.
Ak BVI ka expense poorly no hity,,2nd,,3, marriage is luxury,for rich pole,,as Arab have many BVI,,camel,,and oil k wells😀😀👍🙆
Assalam.u.Allaikum!
Hazrat, what will be the minimum requirement for 2nd marriage now a days?
Sahil Bhai live long
اور شوہر کے دل کا راستہ پیٹ سے ہو کر جاتا ہے
RIP Medical science 😂😂
آپ کی جوڑی بہت پیاری ھے۔
اس طرح کی اویرنس بہت ضروری ھے۔
Agr deen or Quran ki taleem py chal k mard koi amal krta hai th usko kabool krna chahye, magar sach ye k hai wo apni nafs k liye ye sub amal krty hai for sake of there own need and pleasure .
Young 16 sal ki jawan so called larki
We recently had a tragic example of a late scholar and so many in our society
Koi bm mard ya aurat allah k sath kahan h dear...sb nafs k ghulam h....mard ne sirf shadiyon k liye shariyat k hukm ko maana h baqi moamlat chahe loan pr ghar lena ho ya car..ac lagana ho ya furniture ....sara kuch loan pr...rishwat lete h,bapanah jhoot bolte hue,dhoka dete hue unhe shariyat kabi yaad ni aati....4 aurton k sath aiyashi krna kitna Suhana lgta h kisi ki height achchi lagi dil aagaya shadi kr lo kisi k hathon ka khana achcha laga shadi kr lo....unhe kam se kam 4 aurton se aisa pyar toh hona hi tha na k ysk sath soya ja sake toh bs wo 4 arton pr ektofa kr te h yahi bhut h wrna toh list bhut lambi ho jayegi akhir shariyat ka hukm 4 pr hi h na toh unhe ye sochte hi shariyat ka hukm ,shariyat ki ijazat unhe badi achchi lgti h.....bt problem ye h k aurten b kahan allah k sath h....wo b toh duniya k liye hi jaan dene pr tuli h so aaj moashre ka ye haal toh hona h....
@@sadiaomair1731 totally agreed or 4 4 hone k bad bhi kc or k sath haram rishta banane k liye ready hoty. And plus jannat mei hurein tu ultimate goal hai in ka wo tu milni he hai.
Second marriage hi ya bhhoj ko uta lati ha Allah karim tofeeq ata farmain ameeen
ALLAH PAK Den ki samj de hum sab musalmano ko Ameen 🤲🏻 Ya ALLAH
Assalam alykum Sir talaq yafta sahdi to kar li gi Lekin on ko phr mard sahi nahi milta wo phr use karti hain our phr se talaq ka tana our phr se darti hai k kahi phr se chor na jai. ...
آپ سب بیوہ طلاق یافتہ خواتین کی تو بات کرتے ہیں لیکن ان لڑکیوں کی بات کیوں نہیں کرتے جنکی شادی ہی نہیں ہوتی وہ کس کرب میں زندگی گزارتی ہیں اس کا کوئی اندازہ نہیں بیوہ یا طلاق یافتہ اگر انکے بچے ہوں تو وہ کسی نہ کسی سہارے زندگی گزار لیتی ہیں زندگی کے کسی حصے میں سکون پا لیتی ہیں لیکن جنکی شادی نہیں ہوتی وہ تو والدین کے بعد بلکل بے سہارا ہو جاتی ہیں ایسی خواتین گیند کی طرح ادھر ادھر پھینکی جاتی ہیں انکا کوئی والی وارث نہیں بنتا اس بارے میں کوئی بات نہیں کرتا کہ وہ کیا کریں گھر میں بات کر دیں تو سب کہتے ہیں کھانے پینے رہنے پہنے کو مل رہا ہے شکر ادا کرو شادی کوئی ضروری نہیں یا صاف کہہ دیا جاتا ہے نصیب میں نہیں تو ہمارا کیا قصور بیٹی بہن کا منہ بند کرنے کے لیے کہا جاتا ہے شادی کا نام لے دو تو بے شرمی کا فتویٰ لگا دیا جاتا ہے غیر شادی شدہ ایسی وراثت ہے جو کیسی کی نہیں اس موضوع پر جتنا لکھوں کم ہے ۔
جی آپ نے بجا فرمایا ۔۔۔معاشرے میں بیوہ اور طلاق یافتہ سے زیادہ حق دار عمر رسیدہ کنواریاں ہیں ۔۔
اور دعا کرتا ہوں کہ ہماری نسل کے جوان انشاء اللہ نکاح کے لیے عمر رسیدہ کنواری لڑکیوں کو ترجیح دیں آمین
@@fasihulhassnainniazi8217 اس مسئلے پر مذہبی سکالرز بھی خاموش رہتے ہیں کبھی کسی کو اس پر بات کرتے نہیں سننا جبکہ یہ ایسا عذاب ہے جس پر گزر رہی ہو وہ ہی جان سکتا ہے ان خواتین کے لیے تو اور جو چپ چاپ جھیلتی ہیں ۔
@@salamsadia5016 پاکستانی مزہبی سکالرز کے نظریات پر خود بھی ہندوانہ جھلک ہے۔
پاکستان میں اسلام کو انتہائی انوکھا سا پیش کیا گیا۔ ہے جیسے کہ یہ کوئی ایسی خلاف فطرت چیز ہے جس پر عمل کرنے کے لیے خود کو لازم ہے کہ تکلیف میں ڈالا جائے ۔۔تب ہی ہر جمعہ میں نصیحت کے خطبے ہونے کے باوجود عوام الناس دین سے دور بھاگتی ہے ۔۔۔
اور ویسے بھی سکالرز کچھ نہیں کریں گے ۔۔معاشرے کے نوجوانوں کو قدم اٹھانا پڑے گا ۔اور یہ قدم سب سے پہلے اپنے ہی گھر کے خلاف اٹھانا پڑے گا ۔۔
ایسی ہمت کاش کہ ہر ایک کر پائے ۔۔ویسے ہر ایک کہ بس کی بات نہیں
@@fasihulhassnainniazi8217 آجکل کے نوجوانوں سے کیا امید وہ خود تاریخ کی کم ترین سطح پر ہیں اگر انکے اپنے گھر میں بہن بیٹھی ہوئی ہو تو بھی احساس نہیں ہوتا افسوس تو والدین پر ہوتا ہے بیٹے کے لیے سر دھڑ کی بازی لگا دیتے ہیں اس کی پسند کی ہزاروں لڑکیاں تلاش کرتے ہیں لیکن بیٹی ایک کو بھی انکار کر دے تو کہتے ہیں یہ خود شادی کرنا نہیں چاہتی ۔
خیر یہ موضوع بہت تکلیف دہ ہے ۔
جزاک اللّــہ خیراً کـــثیراَ وَ اَحــــسن
الجــزاء فی الـــدنیاوالآخرۃ
دعاگو ہوں ۔
@@salamsadia5016 Ahh kia kurb ki baat kardi, Khushi ka intixar kitni bar I azyut bunjata hy ,koi nahi janta.
Kia kohoon, yaha sub andhy bahray hyn.Bayhis hyn
I think this video is skewed on one side on the point of women. If you teach ur daughter or son nothing about sacrifices (to a limit Ofcourse) then the divorce rates will go sky-high. Everyone in the world knows the child strengthen the bond between 2 ppl cuz now they have something they both care about. Its not a Pakistani thing, westerns have the same idea. No point in making fun of this. I think content from Sahil is usually good (dont knw the other person) but excessive content not well thought and not well researched, is doing the opposite effect for you guys if ur looking to get deeds.
Asslam u Alaikum agar aik shakhas pehli bivi ky sath (siwaye azdaji taluq ky aur khana pani ky alawa) koe izat ahtram mohabbat ahsas ka rweya na rakhta ho even k uska jaez pocket mony bhi na dyta ho to keya bivi ko aisay shakhas ko dosri shadi kerny dyni chahiye. Plz explain this
Wo mard h meri bahen wo kuch b kr skta h ....wo tumhara mizajee khuda h ,tum uski malkiyat ho wo jo chahe tumhare sath kare....wo tumhare ilawa 3 r aurton se shadi kr le tum hoti kon ho usse rokne wali....allah ne usse mard isiliye toh banaya h.....
I appreciate your work
I m struggling in my marital life with my husband and inlaws some time become very depressed and anxious I am trying to make a wise decision living with him or leaving him but I m confused because I m financially and emotional dependent on my father I m at my parents home and my health is not strong enough to be an independent person if I file a divorce than I have to remarry and I don't have choices as a spouse I can become a second or third wife but I don't like to marry a divorced men because the person I married before was a divorced person sir sahil I want to consult my issues with you.
The very first thing you need to do is be mentally strong
Whatever is happening. Is happening with the will of Allah
Then try to do something look for some work
Be financially strong before you go for divorce
Focus on your health
And pray :) good luck
@@glamourbywajeeha8082 thnx
Yes I am working on these things
According to my experience jus mard ki 1st divorce hoi hoti uski 2nd marriage b nakam hoti ya biwi hi zulm bardashat kr ri hoti bcz agr wo is kabil hota to pehli hi shadi chla leta
@@aroojasghar6 mri b yhi opinion h qk mery relatives or surroundings me 10 cases asy mri age group ki girls k Sath hoy Hain k unk husband ki dosri br b divorce hoi or ksi ksi ki teesri br b bv zulm brdasht kri hai
Good argument Usha aga ka nai soch raha
Shadi k function ko to light lena chaye lekin shadi ko light ni lena chaye as in European countries shadi ko light leny k results to achy ni dikhai dety….divorce rates dekh lein aur family system ka haal aur bchon ko depressions anxity ye sab issues ho jaty hein.
Sahil Adeem Action Speaks Louder than Words...Aap Example Khadi Karain 4 Shadiyaan Kar k Phir Humain Bhi Btain k Aap ka Ghar kitna Stable Hai taake hum aap k Experience Se Sekhain
Tariq masood ne toh 3 shadiyan ki h wo bade maze se zindagi k maze le re h r unki family b bhut stablished h.....
Mardon ko masla hota hai bewah ya talaaqyafta kay bachon ka kharcha uthanay isiliaye humari shaadiyaan nahi hoteen
Yes it shouldn't be like this
Harjaga hota hai, not just Pakistan.
Han yahan aik bachi ki shadi pr 15 se 20 lakh or larky ki shadi pr 2 se 5 lakh ka kharch hota hai jo bachon wali aurat se shadi krne wala hai wo pehly thora to soochy ga k wo future main ye kr le ga? Jb usy apni hesiyat se ziyada kharach lagta hai to wo bachon wali ka option choor deta hai. Or ho b skta hai wo bachy us baap ko acha b na smjen. Jb tb society islamic soch or culture nahi apna leti. Bewa or talaqyafta ki arrage marriage to nahi ho skti, love marriage main shaid koi himat kr le.
Is k ilawa hai sari zindgi ka kharch wo tu shaid mard pora kr b le ya is k liye koshish kr b le. Magr shauk or ayashi nahi krwa skta.
نوجوان لڑکوں کو motivate کریں کہ وہ اپنی پہلی شادی ہی کسی بیوہ یا طلاق یافتہ سے کریں ۔
14:46 So Sad to Hear k Aap Ki Family Mai Aise Halaat Hain😁
Iam a single mom since 5 years ppl try to approach me but no one is ready to take responsibility of me and my kidz 👍
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1۔ شادی، طلاق اور پھر سے شادی جب تک آسان نہیں ہوگی تو یہ گندی رسومات ختم کرنی ہونگی۔
2- مردوں اور خصوصاً خواتین کو جرائت اور ہمت کرنی ہوگی، اس معاشرے میں مروجہ غلط معیارات کو توڑنے کے لیے، بس سب چاہتے ہیں کہ آرام سے سب مل جائے۔
3- عورت ماں کو نہیں کہتی کہ ماما میں آپ کے پیار میں شراکت برداشت نہیں کروں گی میرا کوئی بھائی یا بہن آیا تو آپ مجرم ہیں، انصاف نہیں کر سکیں گی، محبت تقسیم ہو جائے گی، وہ سمجھ آجاتی ہے مگر اللہ کی بات پر غیر عدل والی بات پوچھنی پڑتی ہے۔
4- سمجھو اس بات کو، ہمارے ہاں دوسری شادی صرف وہی مطلب اکثر وہی کرتا ہے جس سے پہلی نہیں مینیج ہوتی، یا اولاد نہیں ہوتی، او بھائی اس مرد سے کرو دوسری جو پہلی کے لیے ہیرو ہے اور ایسے ہی مرد کو دوسری اور تیسری کرنے کے لیے کہا جائے۔
5- آجکل بیوہ اور طلاق یافتہ بھی تو کسی کنوارے کے انتظار میں زندگی گزار دیتی ہیں جیسے ایک شادی شدہ میں معلوم نہیں کونسا عیب ہے۔
I agree with you
AP ka matlb k admi ki phli bv se ml Mulaqat kr k pocha jae k AP husb AP k hero Hain? Agr wo kahe han to phr shdi kr li jae
Qk admin to kbi apni burai ni kryga dosri lrki talash krty wqt wo yhi kahyga k me to buht acha shohr hon meiri bv ko MRI qdr ni is lie dosri krna Chahta hon
Or pak ki aurt b dosri krny ni degi mery parents k drmyan ye situation ho Chuka h
@@tubaquraishi5154 آپ شاید میری بات سمجھی نہیں۔ پھر کہتا ہوں جو مرد بیوی سے خوش ہے اور بیوی اس سے، وہ دوسری کے لیے بھی اچھا ثابت ہونے کا قوی امکان رکھتا ہے، جس سے پہلی خوش نہیں وہ دوسری کو خوش نہیں رکھ سکتا، کم از کم دونوں کو تو مینیج کر ہی نہیں سکتا۔ رہی بات پوچھنے کی تو ضرورت نہیں اچھے شوہر کا چرچا خود بیوی کرتی ہے۔ اکثر اوقات ہمیں بات اس لیے سمجھ نہیں آتی کہ ہم دوسرے کی کہانی یا کمنٹ کے کیریکٹر میں اپنے اداکار فٹ کر کے دیکھ رہیے ہوتے ہیں، اس سے بات کا مقصد منیوپولیٹ ہوجاتا ہے۔ اللہ ہم اور آپ سے راضی ہو۔ اسلام علیکم
Hazoor SWA ne kabi b apni kisi beti ka nikkah b shaadi shuda mard se nahi kiya.even Hazrat Abubakar aur Hazrat umer Farooq RA k rishty b reject ker diya.
@@bismakhan5393 آپ کا مطلب زمجھا نہیں، کیا نبی نے کنواری ، بیوہ، ۔۔۔ وغیرہ سے نکاح نہیں کیا۔ کیا آپ یہ دلیل دینا چا رہی ہیں کہ کنوری سے دوسری شادی مناسب نہیں یا جائز نہیں؟
معزرت اگر وضاحت ہوجائے،
خیر بنی صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم کی دو بیٹیوں کی شادی تو جن سے ہوئی وہ تب مسلم بھی نہیں تھے۔
احکامِ شرعیہ اندازے پر نہیں بنتے، قرآن و حدیث کی روشنی میں احکام ہوتے ہیں اپنی سمجھ یا اپنی پسند کے مطابق نہیں۔
اسلام علیکم
log kehtay hain ghareeb ladki ki shadi mai madad kardo sawab milayga per shadi mai itni mali madad ki zaroorat padni hi nahi chaiye simplicity sai nikah valima hoasakta hai beghair kisi ka ehsaan liye
Many pakistani women who are divorced and widowed they move to western countries. Unfortunately, since non muslim men are ready to accept them and their children. These women get married to these men. Our pakistani men will only marry them for greencard. And later would leave them , once they get greencard. Pakistani women should wait to get married even the first time till they find the right person. They should be financially independent and educated. We say so much bad stuff about India, but follow all indian hindu values. It is not shoq , pakistani men dont have control on their nafs. Also how can pakistani men can afford two wives when they cannot even afford a separate place for his first wife. The reason the female population is more then men in pakistan, because couple would keep on having children till they have a son. We have seen families with 9 daughters and one son just because of this reason. Then you need to find 9 husbands for all these girls .
You aren't making sense. You said these women moved to the west and married non muslim men, then you say Pakistani men will marry them for green card.
How they can move?
اسلام علیکم سر آ پ نے اللّٰہ کےرسول کو بادشاہ کہا دے
Asalamualikom, geer Muslims ki Tarah talaq or bewa ko mashrey me Jaga Nahi dety.or zalil ho Kar ek hi kamieny ke sath Zindagi guzarti he Muslim urat . Ye Deen Islam Hy ? Ya hidu culture 🙏😏
Mard ke dusri shdi pr koi problm nae ha mgr husbnd dono wife ma insaf nae krta is wk wife ko kia kry
Sahar Sahab baywa ky sasral waly beachy cheen layty han shadi karny par
Pakistan got seperated from India in 1947. It is a muslim country. So stop blaming hindu culture who is asking you to follow hindu culture. It bis your duty to implement the tenets of Islam and follow them Allah has given u a seperate nation to live according to Islam
Jis Naik orat ko pta ho k uska Shohar Bad kirdaar hy phir b us k sath rahy to ALLAH ki Lanat hy us pe. .
Nikah Shadi islam me kitni asaan hy...
Bewa aor Talak Yafta se Nikah Pasandeeda Sunnat hy.
MA SHAA ALLAH SAAHIL ADEEM ...ZINDABAAD
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Reference of the Hadith. Please
Search kijiey please
Bewa aurat k liye Hazoor SWA ki clear cut hadith hy k Hazoor SWA ka farman hy k" jo bewa aurat apny baccho ki khatir dosri shaadi na kary tu jannat me mery sath angasht shahadat jaisy ho gi" lihaza bewa aurat ko kisi dosri aurat ka ghr tabah karny ki bajae apny baccho ki khatir qurbani deni chahiye
Es tarha ki hadith mufti log chupaty han.
Sir Sahil r u Islamic scholar ?r u following Holy Prophet Muhammad Saw ,
Yahan pehli shadi ka na maqsad patta na dhang aap doosri teesri ki baat kartey hien. Salam hey unn ulema ko for example dr Farhat hashmi, jo baghair kisi tanz kay taleemat dey rahe hien.
Aaj Kal mardon ko kamaney wali chahe
i said my family that my husband is not good with me...all my family said its ok... in the end ..i was called bad women ..
This is very common in our culture
Only care about, how you're Infront of God....
Gar wale theak kehty hain divorse k bad shadi mushkil ho jati hai, larkon ko b aik hi shadi ki ijazat hai society ua family ki aurton ki trf se to larka divorced or bachun wali aurat ki bjye kanvari ko trji de ga. Aik shadi pr hi bohat paisa jama krty bohat time lg jata hai aik se ziyada shadian sirf molvi hazrat hi afford kr skty hain jo sadgi se or sunnat treeqa se nikkah krty hain. Duniyavi dikhawy walon ko 2 se 10 lakh chahye shadi k liye.
This happens with me too jinko hud unki fmly r village kehta k nai ache unko Meri pori fmly kehti k boht ache MA tm nai theek
Hahahahah baabon K mrnay ka wait .. interesting 😂
Aurat mard ki kheti hey. Al Quran. Khety phal deyti hey. Shadi nassal ko barhaney ka zarya hey. Nabi karim s a w qiamat kay din apni ummat tadad par Fakhar karien gay. App kia kehna chahte hien
Desert culture ko implement advanced culture me apply karne ki vazah se hi sara problem ho raha hai..... 🥵🥵
Bhai mera eq sawal hai aap dono logo ki baat sun ke mard ka zina karna doosri shadi ki zarurat hai to Aurat ki bhi to khwaish hai ?
Hamare muashre me hindwana rasmuriwaj hain
Hamain mukammal mosalman banna padre ga
4 shadiyon k liye 4 alag gharoun ka bhi intezam kro... Ye bhi Nabi sallalahu alaihi wassalam ki sunnat hai... Hr bv ko alag ghar mei rakhna
Exactly isi liye kehte k agar sab ko same haqooq de sako tab shaadi kro