Sahil Adeem and Eram Saeed about Second Marriage
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Seconde Marriage ft. Eram Saeed
Sahil Adeem with Eram Saeed
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Both of them are motivational speakers they know very well in our society there is no justice system ,I have only one question for both of them if husband gets second marriage and pay all attention on the second wife then where will go the first one to get his rights?We have seen such families who have been suffering with great pine ,even in Saudi Arabia if man gets multiple marriages ,he doesn't pay any attention on his kids. he has only worries to get onther marriage ,in Quran ALLAH-SWT say u (o man )Can have four wife's but only if u can treat them equal and We (ALLAH-SWT) know that u can't do this so it is better for u to have only one. Marriage is a real jiahd for both of the them
صحابہ کرام رضوان اللہ علیہم اجمعین میں سے کتنے ایک بیوی والے تھے۔ اور قرآن تو اُن کے لیے بھی یہی حکم دیتا ہے تو انہوں نہیں اس پر عمل کیوں نہیں کیا ؟
صحابہ اکرام نے اپنی زندگی اسلام کی بقا کے لئے گزار دی اور بے تحاشا جہاد کیے۔ اپنی جانوں کا نذرانہ پیش کیا۔ یہ وہ لوگ تھے جن سے بیویوں کے درمیان عدل نہ کرنے کی توقع بھی نہیں کی جا سکتی تھی۔ اس لیے ہر کا م میں صحابہ کا مقابلہ کرنے کی ضرورت نہیں ہے صحابہ کہاں اور آپ کہاں۔
Do you think now a days anyone care about akhirat. Muje to ye samaj nahi ata biwi to chodo bacho ke beech adal kaise karega kuki agr ek maa ki aulad hai to baap kissi ki taraf kum dhayan de raha hai kuki koi bimari ho gyi ya need jayda hai ek situation me to dusra bacha silla rahmi kahkar baap ko maff kar dega aur koi gunnah baap per ayega nahi.
Mager sauteli maa ke Bache hoge to vaha to do maa ke bacho ke beech bhi barabari karnin hogi agr ek Bache ko kissi situation Me baap ki jarurat hai Sara time vahi le la Raha hai to vo to apni pahli biwi aur uske Bache Dono ka Haq mar dega, to jayega jahanum hi, isliye Quran me ki itni mental, physical aur financial capability hai to hi ek SE jayda sadi karo, faltu ka ye bahas hi hai ,koi 2 biwi aur see aur 2 maa SE paida bacho ke beech Allah ka adal kar hi nahi sakta.
Ye rich Mardo ka chocla hai izat ke saat variety of aurat ka Maza lena hai aur Deen ko istemal Karna hai Apne purpose ke Liye Allah uska bhi hisab lega Jo ye log Deen ka fayda udate hai.
Khud socho do biwi hai ek time pregnant ho gyi alag Ghar me rahegi kissi take care karega , Raat me biwi ko jarurat ho gyi doctor ki to koun le jayega ,uske Baad bacha choda hai akele aurat kaise shambhalegi Raat me Bache ko kuch ho gya to koun le jayega hospital. Shahur to din hi Bata rah jayega biwio ke beech Allah uske comfort ke hisab SE musibat nahi dege ,esa hota to adal na karo sako to ek sadi karo ye BAAT Quran me khahi hi nahi hoti.
Ye log hamesa polygamy per discussion karege aj tak Maine koi detail explaination nahi dekha ki kaise 2 biwiyo aur unke Bache ke beech equality Kiya jaye mentally, physically n financial uska awareness dege to mard khud hi dusri sadi ke bare sochege hi nahi jitna difficult hai ,ye log khud masre ko gumrah kar Rahe hai apna paisa kamane ke liye . Sawal to inlogo SE bhi hoga akhirat me joint banana chahiye program ki sadi ke Baad biwio aur bacho ka hukook ek dum clear karo jitna Mr.sahil adeem mindset clear kar Rahe hai bhakane Wala hi kaam hai Mardo ko
I understand that second marriage is allowed and there are many reasons but ye kya psychology hy k aik aurat sy sari zindgi bchy palwao maa baap ki behan bhayon ki khidmat krwao aur jab us k relax krny ka time aye aur us k paas moqa aye k uska shohar usy b time dy to aap dusri ly k ajao. Aur wo aurta ghommny phirny kis k sath jaye??? Aur un trips k pesy kon dy ga jab k sari zindgi to usny us admi k ghar muft ki nokri ki hui hy pesy to hein ni. Please be sensible you guys this is really very serious matter and no joke. Aurat ne sari zindgi apna dill mara hota hy. Yaa to phir usy b peak time me enjoy krny dein apni marzi ki life jeeny dein takay wo b apko aram sy allow kr dy. Freedom goes both ways! Aurten janwar nahi hein. Pehly mardon ki tarbiyat kren jesy k quraan paak ka asloob hy phir aurton sy mazeed qurbanian mangen
They have admitted that an average Pakistani woman is extremely dependent on the husband for financial and social support.
@@gz479 yes dear i saw that but right after that they were putting the usual blame on women k agar roko gi to wo zina kry ga. Ye aurat ka masla to nahi hy. Kry ga to usko smjhao k naa kr bhai tujpe haram hy zina. Ulta aap kehry k aurat ghom phir k khush ho ly. Is it even possible k aurat khush ho jaye aisy?
They weren't blaming women. Erum was referring to an older video of Saahil's where he (in Erum's perception) bashed a woman.
Bilkul
Bilkul theek kaha aapne 100% , bohat hi koi thakka huwa mashwara diya is baar Erum ne ke aurat ghoomay phirray akeli, bina paisay aur bina partner ke, har aurat aisa nahi chahti aur na hi kar sakti, she wants a companion to enjoy as well. Maybe then aurat Divorce hi le le aur kissi aisay Mard se shadi karle jiski biwi nahi rahi, at least she will have somebodies company while ghooming phirring and someone who will pay it😁 ab aisa to nahi ke needs sirf Mard ke hain, aurat ke bhi hotay hain
Our men can't even create balance between their parents and wife...how they r supposed to balance between multiple wives???instead of blaming women,ita better to blame men who set worse examples in balancing multiple marriages..I'm not talking againat 2nd marriage..but in our society 2n marriage ,and without any genuine reason turns into woman's right exploitation..its sensitive topic,when u tall about it,cover all the scenarios.
My sister have you ever been think that why Allah create you. You are in examination hall, just fill your paper, if a husband will not do justicehe will answer to Allah, Allah will not ask to you.
So maybe let them try and if they can’t keep a balance, they would be answerable to Allah, rather than you being answerable in the hereafter for making them indulge in affairs? Why get the raw end of the deal? Just be forthright and say you can’t tolerate it because of jealousy and inability to share. Do not try to pretend as if there’s a logic to it because there isn’t any here.
@@mariamtee you nailed it bro۔ Absolutely right
@@fahadsaleem149 تو نے بک بک ہی کرنی ہوتی ہے۔ کیا چول ماری ہے تو نے ۔ چل اب میرے خلاف بک بک شروع کر ۔ 😆😲😂😜
@@mariamtee Bro this is Sunnat of approx all Prophets and Sahabas, everyone is answerable to Allah for his act, even I am not responsible for your act or you are not responsible for my act. So we have a best way to follow all Sunnah, but not only more marriage. Allah give us Hidayat.
wow.. mazy ki conversation hai🙊 pehli bar sahil sahb thory tahamul sy bat kr rahy😂 well bht achi definition btai best friend ki🙌
Kidr sy hu?
Most of the men could remember sunnah of 4 marriages,but they hv too difficulty to woke up in Fajr n go to masajid during Fajr n Isha prayer
Men who wants 4 wives can't keep and nurture 4 daughters if Allah blessed him.
This is man
Totally agree with sir Sahil Adeem, nd Apart from showing designer clothes nd hair highlights, Aunty Erum has not delivered anything sane nd positive towards the society. Atleast man ne to in ki personality man sirf modern appearance hi daikhy hai or phir batan krty han Allah or us k ahkamaat ki, wo b apny mind k mutabiq twisted. Women who are followers of Aunty Eram, only want independant life with attractive jobs nd designer clothes, birth control, no tension of making and raising families which is basically the true purpose of a woman. Try to highlight the rights of women granted by Allah nd huge responsibilities of a man imposed by Allah. Agar hm ye haqeqat jaan lan to blieve me hm aurton se zeada kisy k mazy nahi is dunya man.
Totally agree
Bhai meri aik hi nani hain, aik dadi thin, siwaye mere mamu k kisi ne dosri shadi nae ki aur phir hum ne dekhna k un se aj tak dono me insaaf nae ho saka kisi b etebar se. So Allah know better! Try to encourage k mard pehli shadi kisi bewa, talaaq yafta se kar le. Zarori nae k kisi pe taras kha k dosri shadi kar k pehla basa basaya ghar barbad kar le kyu k in west or east koi aurat sharing bardasht nae karti.
Your opinionis againstof Quran. Allah says in Quran to marry a girl with your choice and if a man will not do justice he will be responsible for his act. Allah will not ask to his wife.
Why not enjoy ourselves with our own partner, why we would go out alone or with other friends? Second marriage is not preferred, Allah said if you can't do justice between wives marry only one. Allah also said that no man can do justice between wives.
After listening to all this, it looks better to be a second wife instead of a first one.
میرے مرنے کے بعد میرا شوہر جتنی مرضی شادیاں کرے مجھے کوئی اعتراض نہیں۔ اور پھر میری تعریفیں بھی کرے تو کیا بات ہے 😂
kuch to marny k bad b allow ni krti.ap to mahaan hen
So glad they have put sub titles thank you
صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ وسلم ❤❤❤❤
Assalamalaikum :
In Quran, it is mentioned that if you have more than one wife then you have to treat them equally comfort them equally either it could be emotionally, physically or financially!
❤️ The importance of jihad is rooted in the Quran's command to “struggle or exert” (the literal meaning of the word jihad) oneself in the path of God ! Then why the man don’t choose the Jihad instead of second marriage
Second marriage is the need of society it's better to have a second wife than making an affair and women's are in majority if all the mens and womens marry one another still womens will be left unmarried
Good you understand that! I hope todays generation of girls ll not object thier husband marrying another woman. Only then you could really see in practice that he can bring justice and balance in the light of Holy Quran.
مولانا فضل الرحمٰن والا جہاد
Very true
@@Gem_soul08 دوسری کرنی ہے آپ نے
I am the follower of YouthClub and Sahil Adeem but I find people criticizing Eram Saeed in the comment section nonsensical. Although I do not agree with many things that Eram says magar is video me whatever she says is right.
Jo mard aik b shadi nahi kerhy unki shadi kerwaen or bachon ki young age me shadi Karen dosri shadi is not the solution. Log ab jangon me shaheed nahi ho rahy sirf sexual satisfaction k liy shadian kerty
bilkul sahi kaha ap ney 💯
Sahaba (RA) and Sahabiya (RA) didn't have this problem because they all had the knowledge of the Quran and the Sunnah. Our society doesn't have either of this. This is the basic problem.
Sir ap ghr wapas gy thy to sb khair khariyat rhi na? 🤭🤭
Stay Blessed Sir🌠
He must have 2 wives
@@jaweriamusab7718 آپ۔ بھی کر لیں
Kya kehna chahry hen
@@nazboofriend4944 men already hun ek wife
@@nazboofriend4944 itny naahal hen ap yahan youtube py dusri begum dhundry hen
Specifically in her forties and fifties if husbands wanted to have another woman agreed but give her enough money for her activities that she also had a hard work in her life she also needed relaxation
Read sura nisa ayat no 129 . ALLAH says man can never keep balance between multiple women but in sura nusa he says marriage in 2 or 3 or 4 if u can justify
Good work
Mia bv aik dosre ka libas hain…. Libas ko ap ghar rakh k bahar socially active ho sakte hain?? Ap aik dosre k sath chipkay hue hain. Do almost everything means everything together!
"It is not for a believing man or a believing woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decided a matter, that they should [thereafter] have any choice about their affair. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger has certainly strayed into clear error"
Qur'an 33:36
Hamari 3 nanni theen
Hi to Sahil Adeem,
Please watch and share tohfa e qalandar with your audience if you can. Recently I have watched and liked its videos.
Tohfa e qalandar
مجھے سمجھ میں نہیں آتا کے یا تو ویڈیو کو اردو میں رکھیں؟ یا پھر انگریزی میں 😠... یہ مکس آچار کی سمجھ نہیں آ رہی ۔ سوری 😔
It's ok 😂
Bat samjh ani chahy bas
ممی ڈیڈی آڈینس پر فوکسڈ ہے۔ اردو والے بہت سے پہلے ہی موجود ہیں۔
Ha ha ha
The main thing is for the content to be understood whatever the language is. It's good at least there is someone who is leading the way
Char shadio main bivi k jjazbat ka Jo hasahar hota hgay.WO ap samajh nahi saktay.hamaray ghar main ek nokrani hay.os k shoher nay teen shadia ki hay .on kii zindagi dunya mai jahanum haay.WO kehti hay k shoher ek ya do maheenay k baad is k pas at a hay .meray khyal main ye ak namukamal zindagi hay.
MNA MPA commissioner doctors CA Softwar engineers or Jo powerful males hotay hain leadership position main surf WO multiple partner afford k sktay hain ye nokrani wala scene kiya hai usay to hloi mar deni chahie kesi manage krta hoga😂
Jo males food chain main acha level pr hongay WO multiple partners rkh sktay hain acha tareeqay say
Q k is me faida lrkay ka ni larki ka hoga uski life set ho jaye gi.
No . There was not polygamy in our society in past decads
YES THERE WAS
مکمل ویڈیو کہا۔ ہے
I disagree dear Sahil adheem...
Mam you in your initial talk speculated something philosophical that inclined Islam to a subjective explanation of nature
Mai apko jealousy ki defination se agreed ho . Dosri shadi nahi har cheez me aurat hasad me bohat hi ajeeb hojati hai.
Aurbdosri shadi ka tasawwur indian films se aya hai. Kyunke woh dosri aurat se relation ko dosri shadi ki tarah hi show karte hai. Or reaction bhi sikhate hai . See rekhas movies
Shadi shuda affairs chala le its ok sudhar jae ... Doosri shadi krle zulam krdia ... What a hypocrisy in desi womens ...
I like the conversation
This is not a good discussion because the two analysts are not listening to the other. They are also cutting each other's comments.
Good on Sahil for getting his word in while Eram kept talking. The thing is, we must always return back to understanding the reasons behind Islamic rulings. Eram seems to be discussing based on culture, whereas Islam itself has its valuable culture. Islam has to be implemented on any time not only a specific time where we can bend ideas just because it doesn’t fit a certain time or a certain mindset. I agree with Sahil on this.
Masha Allah
Bhai Erum aunty apny level ka bolti hai owr shail bhai apny level ka.. Erum aunty k fashion hair style and dressing designing se he andaza laga lo un k knowledge caliber ka
For this you need money mostly husbands have no money for immediate family how they take care of another woman so shahil Adeem tell husband’s to earn enough money for 1st wife that she can enjoy the life as you wanted to enjoys
yours
Jub hmry ALLHA or Rasool na baat kehy di...tou baat khtaam is baat pa itni bhas kion..yah allha raham
having 9 nanis she said u r fortunate but why not letting a person get married to 9 womens - baat samjh nhi aai mere -
ہمارے معاشرے میں لوگوں کو دوسری شادی کے علاوہ اور کوئی سنت یاد ہی نہیں ہے ۔
Sahil bhai kya aapne dusri shaadi ki hai?
What about those husbands jo khud to socially strong and balanced lofe guzaren... Ar wife ko bachon ar susral k sath ye sakhti b kr rkhi ho k bahar jana even parents k pas jana b allowed nhi hy... Parents k pas agr minten kr k jaya jy to ak din sy zda rehna allowed nhi hy... Eai situation me problem CONTROL ya PSYCHOLOGY ka nhi hy... Bulky hqooq ki pamaali ka khud gharzi ka hy... Mri nzr me CONTROL ka masla mostly husband ka hy... Wives ko itna bandha na jy to she doesn't want her husband at home all the time ..
Why all sacrifices for women?
Pagal hain dono.
اتنے خوش ہو کر ہنس ہنس کر دوسری شادی کا مشورہ دے رہے ہیں ۔اللہ تعالی نے 4 شادیاں فرض نہیں کیں۔کون عدل کرے گا کون نہیں کہ دوسری کے چکر میں پہلا گھر اور بچے بھی خراب کر دے۔ اسطرح معاشرہ ٹھیک ہوگا کہ مزید خراب ہو گا۔ساحل صاحب فرما تے ہیں کہ عرب کے حالات کو دھیان میں رکھیں تاکہ اسلام سمجھنے میں آسانی ہو تو جس وقت شادیوں کی اجازت ہوئ۔اسلام کی بقا کی خاطر جنگیں لڑی جاتی تھیں ۔بہت عورتیں بیوہ اور بچے یتیم ہو جاتے تھے ان حالات میں اللہ نے 4 شادیوں کی اجازت دی وہ بھی عدل کی شرط کے ساتھ ۔ فرض پھر بھی نہیں کیں ۔ اور فرمایا عدل نہیں کر سکتے تو ایک پر گزارا کرو۔
Mai sahil bhai se kaise rabta karu,unse mashala janna hai from india please jawab de
Urdu me baat kiya karen ya mukamal English me ' jis mulk me beth kr ap baat kr rahe hain wo uski national zuban urdu he or smjhne wale b angrez nahi hamein theek se smjhna hota he plzz again dhiyan rakhen.
Bechari angrayze ka rob jhaarti hain erum aunty
Bhai Erum aunty apny level ka bolti hai owr shail bhai apny level ka.. Erum aunty k fashion hair style and dressing designing se he andaza laga lo un k knowledge caliber ka .. bhai jb owr kuch na ata ho to English se he rob jhara jata hai😊
Sahil Adeem X Mufti Tariq Masood...😂 Good Job... 👍
ALLAH OR RASUL SAW nay Jo kaha hay bass USS pay raho✌️😏
Bakwas bakwas from both sides
No one is satisfying
Nice talk.sir ji yahe masla hy Pakistani aorat Ka k yeh husb ko apni bahot he zaati property samajti haen.bechara Mard gut gut Kar mar jatta hy
Plz... Urdu maen bola kryn...
English seekho
7 ???
domestic donkey means I don't understand
Sir apki bat tu samj ati hy but en bibi g ki ni I kia kha ri hn
Sannu v
Y don't these scholar hv a debate on that a daughter in law doesn't hv a right to serve their in laws ..
They have done
شوہر دوسری شادی کرے تو بیوی کو دلی دکھ ہوتا ہے ساس بہو کی جنگ ،،،شوہر کی ماں سے بیوی کو کیا تکلیف ہے محترمہ عورت عورت کی دشمن ہے
Bhai pata us wqt chalta hai jab kisi ki beti ya bahan bewa ho k ghr aati hai or phr woh mashre ki darindo k hath aati hai.
@@Rose_522 Dekhain Allah jo janta hai woh hum nahi jante, As a Muslim hame Allah pa bharosa karna chahye, dosri aurat koi bhi bivi bardhast nahi kar sakti mgr bht si chezain hum chahe ya na chahe hame manni parti hai, ek simple si example hai zakat ki, aap ka dill chahe ya na chehe deni hai, Namaz chahe ya na chahe parhni hai, q k hame Allah ka Razi karna hai, agr hum apni marzi ki zindagi guzarain gay to Rab ki marzi kaha gai, Hamara eman hai k Dunya ki zindagi choti hai or aakhirat ki na khatam hone wali. Allah hame hidayat de. Aameen.
@@Rose_522 Meri bahan main khd UAE me rahta ho or Allah ko hazir o nazir maan k kehta ho k agar main apni family k sath ja raha ho or samne se agr koi arab larko ka group aa raha ho tovtaqeen mane kabhi koi tension nahi hoti magar agr koi pakistani a raha hovto rasta badalne ka dill karta hai, arab bht decent hain yh jo hum social media me dekhte hain wh sb ek jese nahi hain. Apni families k sath sincere or care karne wale hain, betio k sath itna pyar karte hain ap or main soch bhi nahi sakte, bht hi kum log wese hain jesa hum sochte hain. Or dosri shadi koi farz nahi hai or karni bhi unko chahye jo manage kar sakte hain. I agree with u.
@@Rose_522 Agree my sister, dosri shadi ko mazak mardo ne hi banaya howa hai kabhi bv ko darane k liye to kbhi saza dene k liye.
@@Rose_522 Ok meri bahan ap theek kah rahi hain Allah ne quran me bhi yehi kaha hai k agr insaf kar sako to phr ejazat hai, Allah apko dunya or akhirat me khush rakhe. Aameen
Who is eram saeed
Dont interfere couple privacy 😂😂😂
Sahil adeem sir ki real official channel konsi hai
May b wahi doond Raha hu
G shukria hmry knowledge mn izafay k liay 🤣
@@SahilAdeemPodcast 🤔🤔🤔🧐
Simple argument is his official team
The Thinker
Just mix "achar".
Ye dunu loug by birth pakistani hn phr in ka zayda time europe ur america ur canda main guzra ic lye ic tra se bat krte hn han ye sai bat he k mukml urdu main bat krin tu bhtren he
Hamaray nabi nay tmaam shadiyaan Allah k hukam se ki theen
Pakistan follow hinduism culture debate end
Religion is same for arabics and Pakistanis
گوری کے پاس تو خود بھی مواقع ہوتے ہیں
8 or 9 bohat ho gayain sir sahil
Ak mard ko agr har jaga moo Marne ki adat ho or wo mard ghr aa kr orat par tanked krta ho to os k leye bi kuc Bata den
Us ki 4 shadian Kara den wo bilkul theek ho jyega
Right
Ferz poray ni hotay ,, sunnaty pori krny aa jaty .. ferz poray krny ki talqeen kry mardo ko .. wo poray ho jai gy to sunnat li tarf A jana.. apny faiday ki chizay bas paker lety hai islam se .. pakistan pr kitna kich ho raha hai .. osko discuss kro .. ye shadio k roloo se nikal ao baher khuda ka wasta ap jaiso ko .
Mohtarma yeh farz/sunnat ka issue nai hai yeh masla hai k ek society kese tashkeel paati hai, husband/wife ek common unit hen society k or societies mil kar hi ek qoum banati hen, grassroot level pe maslay solve hongy tab'hi qoumi maslay bhi solve hongy; please try to understand what and why is the topic being discussed bajaye k typical aurto k jese roOna dhoOna daal do har social media ki post k neechay
Ya seriously, jaisay ki Mardon ki medecine bas woh eek hi cheez hai ke kuch kuch time baad new aurat se mil jaye enjoy karne ke liye , oh bhaii itnii lust hai to ilaj karwao apna, shayad s* addiction ho? aurat ilaj nahi hai, woh zaroorat 1 se hi poori ho jati hai jab poori karni ho. Sab bahanay hain Lust ke. Aisay to phir aurton ke bhi needs hain ke mard jawan ho,funny ho, gentlemen ki tarhan unka khayal rakhay, paisay bhi de, to kya woh bhi ab 2-3 side pe rakhlein kyun ki poorana bore ho gaya aur new wala ziada interesting hai? Shadi doosri teesri chauthi aurat ko benefit dene ke liye hai,, na ki mard ki Lust solely poori karne kw liye, aur pehli wali ko to Mehram ke beghair ghoomne phirne ki bhi ijazat nahi milti bas woh qaidi ban jaye apne ghar ki tanhai me, wahh, bohat achi seekh de darhay yeh loog, ab in sab cheezon ki wajah se yeh haal hain ke aurtain shadi hi avoid karti hain in sab emotional mess se bachne ke liye, shohar emotionally available nahi hoga to koun hoga?? It's quite insensitive to say to wife to go and get medecine and not Clinch to him. Maybe he is the one giving her those insecurities? Maybe he is doing something wrong, warna wife aisay kyun karti behave?? Aur agar mental issue bhi hai then you take her to doctor and give her that emotional support and care which she might need at that time to heal until she recovers ya phir parosi ya koi outsider yeh kaam a ke karay because it's too much for men??at least help with recovery and talk to her if he is doing somwthing what makes her depressed? What do men expect?? Ajeeb logic. Alsays running from there part and expecting from women to sacrifice until they are dead. Bas paisay kama ke le ayen to us me bhi jataya jata hai. Earning and staying out all day of house is not enough or productive after all that women got married to also have a spouse, love, time and laad. Mard needs to take out time for that too and give it if it's the need and requirement of a women. Also children need their fathers time and part in upbringing, helping at home is also Sunnah for men and keeps relationship healthy. Yehi sab karlo to doosri ke liye time kahan se nikalogay?? Aaj kal to lagta hai shadi se pehle hi yeh cheezein discuss kar ke sign karni chayhe ta ki Mard bhi aware ho what his wife is expecting and if he is willing for that or not? If not, then fine, no compatibility, don't marry, move one. ALLAH made a match for everyone where both partner willingly do their part so that their spouse is satisfied at least 60% of the time in marriage if not more. Everything that goes below can't be a satisfying marriage with a healthy compromise
ye 1 haqeeqat hy k mard bht sari aurton k 7 1 waqt me chkr chla rhy hn to is se behtr ni k wo dosri shadi kr k 2 aurton k ghr bsain. Or mardon ki in baton ki wja se pakistan me bht kch ghalat ho rha hy is liye in baton pr twajju dena b zrori hy
@@He_the_Uncanny hum to chalo aurtay typical aurto ki terha rona dhona daal deti hain .. or ap ka mardo k baray mai kya kheyal hai ? Wo b to sadio se aik hee baat k peechy peray hoay shadia kr lo 4 bas ,, ye kya typical ni hai ? Her mard 4 shadio k ronay ro raha hai ,, aisy topic ko beth k discuss kr ray hai ,, or ji zulam pakistan mai ho ray hain ,, onko discuss kro beth k,, or dosera 4 shadi k sath Allah ne ye kaha hai k ensaaf ho sab mai .. ap mard aik bivi or apni maa mai to insaaf ni kr sktay ghar ki laraio mai .. 4 bivio mai kaisy kr lo gay insaaf ??? .. ,,
@@sehrishbutt3684 aisay mard joh ziada aurton ke saath chakkar chalatay hain unke liye 2 permenant aurton bhi kaafi nahi hongi because they arw doing it for hawas and not responsibility and aisi hawas 4 biwiyon pe bhi khatam nahi hogi..yahan bhi nuksaan me aurat hai ke uske zimmedari uthanay ke bajaye 3. Aur 4. Aurat ke hunt me nikkal jatay hain aisay Mard. Kum hi hotay hain joh maali , emotionally physically barabri karte hon. Which is basic requirement for more then 1 marriage
Pakistani mard jo apny ghar waloo k samny apni beviyoo k haqooq compromise kr jaty hein kya wo dusri bivi k hoty equality rakh skty hein,,,,,i think its impossible for them
Polygamy is a program designed by Allah for the welfare of women and children of ummah..... i am v happy for erum, for accepting it and telling her friends to go for that.....
Multiple marriage is the one of the biggest solutions of Muslim ummah global problems....
I pray that may Allah give our men courage to embrace more women, and may Allah give us women the strength to sacrifice their comfort and space for other sisters of ummah.......
ارم کی بھی کروا دو تم
@@nazboofriend4944
Aap pehlay aaghaaz karain
Lol
@@nazboofriend4944 🙈
u r right that polygamy has many answers to marraige related and hierarchy issues....but again it applies to the personal needs of a family...its not always needed to remarry or break ethical rules of a relationship to follow this suggested treatment of some social matters.breaking hearts and seeking more than what a first wife can give or threatening to bring a competitive figure is seriously unethical and immoral on the man's side which is mostly happening today under the name of islam.
@@arifatahsin2083 it's a woman's requirement
Please stop following these motivational speakers. This mic that they use to be heard is a very powerful tool and after a while it becomes a “nasha” that blurs clear thinking and starts feeding their egos.
He suggested in another video that “science allows a man to have 100 marriages and kids”. Can a man bring up 100 kids? Can he guide them, teach them, care for them? Or will they be brought up by 100 mothers in the absence of a father.
Is he suggesting that a man just populates the world with unguided, uncared for, mislead children. Imagine a society or a world comprised of such individuals. A recipe for disaster.
There’s a difference between humans and animals. We are not chickens in a poultry farm. We are Ashraf ul makhluqat who were given the ability to ponder and choose. And will be questioned on the Day of Judgement about the power we were given in this world. Man was not given the power to procreate so that he just populates the world with children who he doesn’t have the time and ability to personally guide and protect.
Children are a responsibility for God’s sake.
Do not genaralize by giving example of China or Germany. Not everyone thinks alike. Some people will have 1 kid, some will have 2, some will have 7 and some will have none. When things follow their natural course they balance out in the grand scheme of things.
Please do not put these people on a pedestal. They will manipulate young mallealeable minds with their personal opinions and ideas and destroy society
. This man has become a narcissist without even realizing and is sharing his patriarchal ideas. Please do him and society a favor by unfollowing him.
Very appreciative comment amongst all .
اپنے شوہر کی تو کرائیں دوسری شادی
I can't believe k doosri shadi par aaisi unempathetic discussion ho sakti hai aur aik aurat k part of discussion hotay hue.Its literal shame .
I dnt like sahil english accent ...., :/
یا پوری اردو میں بات کرو یا انگریزی بکتے رہو.
نجانے کس معاشرے سے محاطب ہو رہے ہو دونوں. آ جاتے ہو کہانیاں سنانے
@3:15 jb AP log mard ki ownership k leay larin gi to wo to automatic Kisi dosri k pass jay ga.
You mean you want to make a person limited while Allah subhanatala says in Quran
اس نے زمین اور آسمان کی ساری ہی چیزیں تمہارے لیے مسخر کردیں۔
Majority of Pakistani men r not financially and psychologically strong enough to deal 2 wives,2 houses,and children from 2 wives..its not just posseviness in women, there r lots of insecurities as well..women r depended on men,and if husband do 2nd marriage,he is most probably emotionally,and financially inclined to new wife..the first wife and her children often suffer in terms of husband's time,love,care,and finance...thats y Pakistani women r so scared of 2nd marriage....every other man want to do 2nd marriage no matter he is able to run 2 houses..financial needs r much. More than a century ago..most of men hardly able to support 1 wife and 2,3 children..but still if they find oppergunity, will go for multiple marriages...multiple marriages r not easy and smooth thing in our society.
So those men who are capable physically and financially established they have to perform.
Right my sister?
Majority of all men, not just Pakistani men
They are not scared, they are kuttiya, they themselves are having affairs. They want his money to himself. They have zun mureed fathers. They have never seen fathers with multiple wives. They bark like dogs and when they get divorced they BEG married men to marry them.
Sahil with churail ....
Pehli video hy apki jis ka maza ni aaya koi allah yad ni aya na emaan boost howa
کمزور ایمان والے ہر دفعہ کوئی اور اللہ کو یاد کروائے گا تم میں اتنی سقت نہیں ہے سب سے اہم ٹاپک ہے جو یہ بات کررہے ہیں معاشرہ گرو کرے گا پاکستانی مردوں کو عقل آئی گی
I hope aap apne ghar ki aurato ko aise hi bulate hoge.kudos to you🙏
Madam yaha par aap Ku apny English skills hamy dikha rahy. Apny es behtareen t topic k video Ka Satyanasz Kar diya. Urdu may kya masla ta aap ko 🙄😠😠
Bhai Erum aunty apny level ka bolti hai owr shail bhai apny level ka.. Erum aunty k fashion hair style and dressing designing se he andaza laga lo un k knowledge caliber ka .. bhai jb owr kuch na ata ho to English se he rob jhara jata hai
Strange abnormal talk
If husband cant complaint to parents abt wife,it also means ,wives must not complaint chugli geebat to own mother or relatives..😂😂😂😂😂
Women do geeebat chugal khori more than men,,,,and women r more successful even yet now in Pakistan 😂😂😂...
That's why American women likes Pakistan only cuz how girls r treated
Aap ne kud ktni ki han akser boring lecture hoty han gol batan obahi pahla kuch khud to parh lo elm k mamla me jldi bari mohlik hoti hai ya jo hum ne apna sa zeyada dosron ki feker shuro ker di hai koi zeyada achaa kam nahn hai bahut mazrat k saath
Tamam ulema yea kehtey hain lakin inn logon ko ab samjh ayi
What RUBBISH, nabi ko naboohat boht bad meh mili tee aur jaisy hi HUQAM mila toh unho ne ki,
Ak mard agr doka deta Raha ho 13 sal se andere me raka ho or Ak din orat ko pata Chal jaye to Kya orat ko Islam me koi fesla lane ka koi haq ni ha
Aurat ka dil kharab ho jaye Mard se aur woh uski shakkal bhidekhna pasand na karti ho aur na hi uske saath koi Rishta rakhna aur na hi respect de paye after his actions then she should take Khulla from him. Warna gunhegaar hoti rahegi jab woh haqooq nahi adaa kar pa rahi. Koshish Mard ko hi karni parhegi aurat ka Dil saaf karne me, nahi hota to phir koi aur raasta nahi, torture se acha alag ho jaye banda
@@Moonlightcrystalcreations peyar bi buhat krti hn chor bi ni sakti mujhe as se koi farak ni parta k os k kitni larkio se dosti ha balke mujhe as bat se atraz ha k k apne ghr ko time ni deta bacho ki parwa ni krta mujhe abdat krta dekh kr larta ha mujh pe ghalat ghalat alzam laga tha ha ghr ka mahol kharab Kr k ye bacho k samne Marna or bacho ko pareshn krna ye haq ni banta
@@adeelshah9713 daffah karo aisay Mard ko madam! Kya aap uski khareedi huwi ghulaam ho? He is not a husband. He us a abuser. Itne Zulm ke baad Mohabbat kaisay bach sakti hai?? Aap uske pairon me girti ho aur woh mazeed aapko zaleel karta hai, apni Izzat e Nafs kahan chor di aapne? Jahan bhi chori, wapis le kar ao apni Izzat e Nafs ko, aur us aadmi ke liye eek boundary lagao, apni awaz se clear karo ke aap yeh sab bardasht nahi karengi!! Uski family se baat karo, apne ghar walon se baat karo, maarta hai to police ko bulao, aur ho sakkay to jab maaray 1 ghoosa wapis maar do! Beghairat aadmi hai, not a husband material, iske saath jannat jaane ka khwab dekh rahi ho? Joh aapko sirf aur sirf azziyat de raha?? Kya Allah ne aapko maar khanay ke liye banaya aur aapke bachon ko?? Aapke bachon ke nafseyaat kharab ho rahe yeh sab dekh kar aur seh kar! Usko bola ke ghar aye to Insaanon ki tarhan rahay warna na aye! Aur ab agar haath uthaya to bardasht na karna! Aapke beja pyar ne usko aisa bana diya, woh samajhta hai woh kuch bhi karlay, maar le, aap wahin uske qadmon me baithi rahengi pagal! Woh jan churwana chahta hai, aur nahi sudharne wala, aisay husband pe pyar nahi aata, Allah se panha maangi jati hai ke jald Nijaat dilwa de. Apni maddad karo, apni Izzat karo, khud se bhi thora pyar kar ke khud pe aur bachon pe thora rahem karlo! Woh aadmi nahi karega, aapko hi apni zindagi uske beghair sudharnu hogi, maar khane ke liye aisay Nikkah me rehna khud pe Zulm karne ke barbar hai,aapke parents kuch kehte nahi?? Financially stable hone ki koshish karo, theek nahi hota woh to apni jan churwao isse, Parents saath nahi dete ro financially independent ho kar khud ko sambhalo, usko paisay na dena aur gahr me maar peet gaali bardasht naa karna even agar Nikkah me rehna chahti hain, to at least boundary lagao aur rohko usko har tareeqay se! Victim mat banno,
Orat ko Shuker Karna chahie k uske shokher ne us ka khyal rakhtey hue us se 13 sal Apna aik Jayz haq chupaye rakha.
@VIRSA bht se case hen asey
Jin me larhko ne shadi shuda bachey walio se shadi ki he.
Esa koi masla nai he ap jazbati na ho.
Bibi Tmhari kisi bat ki samj ni ai
Only an enlightened woman who seeks guidance from Quran can raise a child(boy) with mindset of taking all the responsibilities imposed by Allah nd making her wife free of all the tensions being created by media nd these so called feminist aunties.
Wow ۔ what a beautiful and balanced comment۔ i like the aunties part
If there is no romance in marraige if its ok for husband to fancy other women then it should be okay for woman to do the same like the west. Both live own lives and enjoy other partners.
Our Deen is perfect, we are trying to understand, more marriages ( more at one time and for women one at a time) it's good to debate. In my opinion, Islam favours woman more than man, if a man goes for second marriage, and it benefits woman then it's Islam, if it hurts anyone it's not Islam, it's men nafs, sheer dishonesty and destructive for society.
Deen is not perfect but creating injustice in society
@@sidrasidrasadiq9337 why would you say that? If you see it that way, it's very sad. Islam is the best gift one can enjoy in this life. I will pray for you to see good in it, insha'Allah
@@such6434 dear there is nothing good in subjugation and oppression .
Means pehli biwi sirf banday ki khanay peenay etc ka khayal rakhay dosri uskay bachay paida karay 3rd one uski emotional perspectives ka khayal rakhay or 4th kabhi kabhi nahi bhi dil chahta 😅😂 means bachay paida kernay wali machine ban jayai
السلام علیکم
Mohsin bhai ♥
Walaikumasalam
12 masalon ki chaat
Sahil bhai AP ki kitni biwian hain 🤔
Hah
Aunty you should concern this topic with *MUFTI TARIQ MASOOD aka shadi expert SHAEKHHH
Baki ye *HAKEEMO* ne b mulk k babay charge kiye huey hain so called KUSHTEY khila k!
Ap bhi khalo, sunnat zinda ho jaye gi.
@@fahadsaleem149 tow rishta ap de gien na? Thanks yrr mie b razai mie larai krun ga
@@tfarooq9316 Mere bhai Allah mjhe or aap ko hidayat de.
Aameen
@@fahadsaleem149 AMEEN
Sahil bhai i m surprised to see how you tolerate such a pathetic woman.. hosla hai wasy ap ka
Ye opened face faishion icon infront of camera orat kia muslim orto ki representer mat mazaq banwaayen sahil Adeem es tarah ki orto ko invite kar k.
Yeh aurat jo Deen ki baat kar rahi hai, yeh khud kitni deen daar lag rahi hai. Angrez bannay ki koshish me apni Musalman honay ki shanakht bhi bhool gayi.
Mard ko 4 shadi ki ijazat hai Deen me agar woh insaaf rakh sakta hai saari biwion me. Ab aap ki opinion koi hasiat nahi rakhti.
Useless discussion!
Ap bhi logun pr comment kr ANGRAIZUN wali harkt he kr rhi
@@Abd._. Bilkul. Deen daar aurat ka yeh huliya nahi bataya mere Nabi SAWW ne. Baatein deen ki or following kafiron ki. Double faced lol.
Dusri shadi se aurat ki duty 50% kam ho jati hai ager usko yea patha chal jaye wo khud kahye ker lo shadi 😝
Duty Kerne ke liye kaam vali rakh dey
@@asmaatif3407 right
Farq hai Nokrani aur Biwi me, kash yEh bast samajh lein Mard hazraat, nokrani ko Restaurant se burger le kar nahi diya jata, yeh laad aur nakhray biwi ke uthaye jatay hain ta ki eek din woh bhi cooking se relax ho jaye
@@asmaatif3407 ager usi se shadi ker. Le tho? Mene 50/50 kam ka kya keh diya seeda nokrani per pohanch gaye
@@Moonlightcrystalcreations islam ke dyare mea reh k kere shadi mard zaat b.
Ap ne jo previous comment mea kaha na nokrani ko bahir le ja ker burger thak nai le ker deite uski halat aurat ghar mea kya kerti hogi wo bus hum imagine hi ker saktye hai. Kasoor sirf mard zaat ka nai hai.
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
ni ni ni ..hmari nani ki b aik e nani thi
Nani ki Nani😳
@@Naheedabbas2000 han to kia nani ki nani ni ho skti .. i mean we heard obviously
پاکستان کے قانون کے مطابق دوسری شادی قابل سزا جرم ہے۔ اور ویسے بھی یہ مسئلہ خواتین کا ہے۔ اُنکو سوچنا چاہیے ۔ مردوں کی زندگی ویسے ہی chil ہوتی ہے ۔ اُنکو کیا ضرورت پڑی ہے ایک نئی ذمداری سر لے لیں
Har mard chara chant nahi hota. Wh bahno or betio wala hota hai or jb unki shadio ki umer hoti hai to phr pata chalta hai.
@@fahadsaleem149 آپ کو میری بات سمجھ نہیں آئی اور لے کر بہنوں بیٹیوں پر آ گئے ہو۔ جاؤ کراؤ اُنکی شادیاں۔ کون منع کرتا ہے۔ یہاں بات دوسری شادی کی ہو رہی ہے۔ تو اپنا ایموشنل کارڈ کھیلنے آ گیا ہے۔ چول
@@nazboofriend4944 Mere bhai pahli baat yo yh k ap ko baat karne k manner hone chahye q k yhi chez tarbiat ka pata deti hai or dosri baat yh ha k agr mashre me dosri shadio ka faroog hoga to ek baap ko ya eh bhai ko apni bahan ek aese insan ko dene me asani hogi jo pakle se shadi shoda ho, ab yh hota hai k kanwara ko tarjeeh di jati hai chahe wh well establishedna bhi ho or phr shadi ka sara kharcha baap bhai pa ata hai, agr Islam aam hoga to na dosri shadi mashre me aaib hogi na jahaz ki lanat hogi or aese shakhs ko bhi log apni beti ezat k sayh dain gay jo pahle se shadi shoda ho mgr acha khandani ho. Allah hame hidayat de.
@@fahadsaleem149 کدھر گم ہو۔ آج بک بک نہیں کرنی کیا ؟ ہاہاہا 😂😆
Our men can't even create balance between their parents and wife...how they r supposed to balance between multiple wives???instead of blaming women,ita better to blame men who set worse examples in balancing multiple marriages..I'm not talking againat 2nd marriage..but in our society 2n marriage ,and without any genuine reason turns into woman's right exploitation..its sensitive topic,when u tall about it,cover all the scenarios.
I agree with you here as a man.
They cant because they are hitting a brick wall. Their wives are kuttiya that have been raised by kutti hindu mothers. If she is constantly arguing with him he CANT create a balance. the wife HAS A ROLE IN CREATING A HARMONIOUS RELATIONSHIP. Thats why more women will be in hell because they were nafarman to their husbands.
@@razamughal4582 bro woman in Pakistan are literally hoors of Paradise, if you compare it with the other countries woman except few Muslim countries woman.
Kafir woman are literally forced their husband to obey them instead of the wife obeying the husband. If the kafir husband doesn't obey their kafir wife, then kafir woman literally steals half of kafir husband's kafir property, all the kafir children and kafir husband has to pay monthly money extra to his ex kafir wife for the upbringing of the kafir children.
I will say care about woman in Pakistan and be kind with them before they also become like the kafir woman under the western liberal influence.
May Allah save our woman from kafir influence.
@@kodvavi150 the women in pakistan ALREADY ARE greedy. Thats why the prevent a second wife. They want all the money. Their parents dont even hand them over until they see that the man has a nice house. They would be demanding a higher mahr if they were a doh taqy ki aurat.
@@razamughal4582 I agree on this thing but it's same with men too.
Men are also too greedy.