LINK TO MY ZARA BLOUSE HERE 😊 www.zara.com/uk/en/printed-top-with-shoulder-pads-p08923635.html?v1=137549600&gclid=CjwKCAjwwsmLBhACEiwANq-tXHs_nmXpzCz_Ny70q5rMCpP8233BwDewrUA6M3EdBtH8PrNfpWvG7xoCfXsQAvD_BwE
My grandmother told me as a child and adult DO NOT DISCUSS YOUR HOME BUSINESS OUTSIDE WITH ANYONE. SHE SAID HANDLE YOUR HOME BUSINESS WITH THE People living in your home and sleeping in your bed because if you can’t talk to your partner then why are you in a relationship with them🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️. Granny was RIGHT.
Yes she needs a Wendy like talk show... But instead of celebrity gossip we do sister to sisters topics with real live examples of failures and success!
The most important thing she said was take the time to get to know the guy. Getting into a relationship very quickly could totally RUIN your life. They are worse things than being single. Fatherless children,Abusive husband,Leaving the relationship with all sorts of mental emotional baggage and pain Single mother life……
I feel balance is key. It's the twenty first century,every woman should learn about toxic behaviors and patterns so that they can sight them,and speak with people about it. It's okay to keep your home affairs between you and your husband but what if he's a narcissist or has some crazy personality disorder? You'd definitely need to speak with someone about it.
Wow. I really enjoyed this video. My fiancée and I are abstaining until marriage as well. I am able to know him and understand him and appreciate him for who he is. And he can do the same for me. I also have learned a ton of things from my dating past and I actually have implemented what I learned and it’s been so much better. I learned I was emotionally immature before and I didn’t understand how this was so crucial in how my relationships would be. I also learned that as a priceless woman, I set my own value wayyyy too low and I put up with things I would NEVER put up with now! I wasn’t looking for him when I met him. He just kind of came into my life last year. It’s bliss, Fumi. It really is. I don’t tell my family anything personal about my fiancé. In private, I can appreciate our love and respect and even our disagreements and it feels soooo much more sacred like nothing before. Watching these reality shows will have you thinking that love is all about spreading your business all through the streets. There is NOTHING like the peace, passion, honesty, fulfillment, and love that I feel now from him and it’s beautiful.
I've always said to keep your relationship in your relationship . Never discuss relationships or family matters outside of the family. It never ends well and never will, why because people don't want to get involved or they stir up more drama that you definitely don't need. I always just listen if someone tells me something I'd rather not hear 🙉 and just encourage them to talk to the person they are talking about.
If you’re in a abusive relationship; I think in that circumstance it’s ok to share with family and friends. Great advice Fumi I loved it when you stated “ Know the man before you marry him, and look at the signs” Another statement that I loved was “ I’m too fabulous for that !” I tip my glass to you dear💗 I dodge bullets too praise God❤️
@@ToniaAlex13 Well said. I agree. In abusive or dysfunctional situations, while I agree with Aunty Fumi to be discreet and honor your relationship by keeping things inside, please don't take this advice to keep your mouth shut when you are unsafe or abused or mistreated cos many have shut their mouths all the way to the grave 6ft under. God forbid. In the multitude of counsel wisdom is found. May God protect us all from bad omen.
I am new to Fumination and English is not my first language. I am Francophone I just would like to express my big Love to you Fumi, You are so true, so dynamic, I love your vibe, the way you laugh! You are my psycho, Listening to you is a kind of therapy full of positivism and trueness. You are the sister everyone dream of! I If you ever come to Québec, I would love to see you. Love and blessings ❤💞
Love you Fumi, been watching you since I discovered your channel, am 52 too and actually feel more beautiful now than I did in my 20s and 30s. You remind me of 3 people, Michelle Obama, Cecily Tyson and Grace Jones. You are truly beautiful inside and out and wise.. Yes we will take what we can get coz those 2 boys need you too 🤣.
Its not that easy. Remember people Can be difficult with different values thats why the legal system helps to manage the chaos. If u dont speak to another person to objectively look at pending issues without been bias, i bet u , u will speak to a judge sooner or later if u are alife. Those of us that are lucky sometimes dont really understand that some women are living like prisoners in their matrimonial home. Lets be careful how we advice pp. Some have died of stress, poured acid on, strangled , flogged, abused everyday and u say they should dialogue with a beast? Look lets count ourself lucky as we help others in their fight and be a voice of truth.
Why am I fining out about this beautiful wonderful human being just now... better late than never right? I do not know you but I feel as though I'm listening to an aunt that I have known forever! please don't change. People need mothers/aunties/sisters/friends like you! Nice to meet you and to binge watch your sister2sister épisodes
Funmi, you are so full of wisdom. Your responses and mannerisms remind me of Nigeria, and especially the Yoruba tribe. Putting things in your left hand and back pocket, never tell family members stuff cos they never forget and it is hard to redeem your spouse in front of them🙏🏽
I’m here to support Fumi whatever she does. I know you busy been the scene and taking care of Adrian and spending you time with your wonderful husband Ole. Life is busy and you are doing you best. I love you because you are genuine and real. Love the makeup! ❤️
My God, Auntie Fumi. If women had more role models like you, men would act SO differently and women would not put up with HALF the shit that we do and for not nearly as long. 🙌🏾 Folks having babies (lifelong responsibilities) with deadbeat men that they don't even know who don't WANT to be husbands and providers... you are SO wise. Gosh, I hope that more women learn of you and take your advice. We are SO much more powerful and high- vibrational than we give ourselves credit for. I love your videos, ESPECIALLY S2S. THANK YOU!!
Can you please do a video on REALISTIC financial responsibilities for women in marriage? I definitely know every marriage has unique financial needs but what are some standards you can share? That is: joint accounts, building a house together /mortgage/rent, car expenses, groceries, school fees for kids, personal accounts, etc. In what ways can a woman contribute financially in marriage without emasculating her husband?
No consistent complaining, because it causes your blood family to have bad feelings toward the other person. If you're going to do something positive with the advice you're getting, fine. But if you vent too much, you bring others into your marriage. It's not good. If you are in physical danger and need help or advice to escape, be ready to move and do something about it. It's not fair to have others disliking your spouse and taking sides. It's destructive to the relationship. I had a relative who was always complaining to her friends about her husband. She was an unhappy miserable selfish person. Never satisfied with what he did. He would work 14-16 hour days, cook, do laundry, help with schoolwork, cook for holidays and remember all the special days. Her female friends thought she was so lucky. Two or 3 of her friends tried to steal him away from her. They both eventually were vying for their friends to take their sides about marital issues. It became SO toxic, everyone in their friends circle eventually left. They finally ended up with NO friends. People got tired of the fighting. Family is always going to side with THEIR family, IF they know their loved one is halfway decent.
So happy I found your channel. You have been a blessing in my life with your fun and helpful tips videos. Your energy and personality is contagious!!! Congratulations to you on all of your opportunities and achievements🎉🙏 I send my sincere condolences to your friend and to the families😢
Daughters? Baby girl, you are my LITTLE sister and I love learning from you! :-) I'm 54. Our lives are so different, so I listen to you and love your confidence.!! Sister to Sister is FABULOUS!!
Fumi i hope you see this message. Watching your videos always give me confidence and hope. I was in a relationship that i didn't not take my time to know who he was. I ended up having a son for him. I taught love was enough to hold us together but at last i was gaslighted. Later found out that i was in a narcissistic relationship. But i left. Now am just trying to put my life together. Sometimes i just wish to hug you knowing that i have a big sister 🤗
Dear Fumi, How do we respond to people that constantly criticize our weight/height? I don’t know how to deal. Thank you so much for the sister 2 sister series, it is so helpful! 💓💖💓💞💕💗
It's something we can't fight it's how we were created how you respond to that is by loving all that,that people criticize and what happens is that it becomes beautiful even to people's eyes. Once you are secure about it you become beautiful and discover actually it's not even freckled it's always been beautiful but you may have chosen to always see it negatively🤗.
I was in a relationship with a guy for eight years we never had any children thanks god. I was 18 years at the time didn't know anything about living with a man or playing house. So to get away for my parents home I leave like a big woman lol that was the worst choice I have ever made in my life. To make a long story short he never provided for me I work so hard to try to set a good picture for my friends & family that am soooo happy which was not true. I got fed up n leave with just the cloths on my back n my hand bag. A few years later I met my present husband Mr Jackson he's a bit older but I love it he treats me like the queen I am I bless god for sending him in my live, as in life there will always be ups n downs by once the two becomes one the sky's is the limit. Always love ur self sisters know ur worth. Love love u fumi
Dear Fumi! Oh my goodness. This video should be shown to all brides BEFORE the wedding! Such valuable and loving information. The absolute Truth. Thank you for all you do for us!
Fumi this topic of discussion was so needed. It makes so much sense. Talk it out with your man or your women and keep everyone else out. If he or she want talk you have to do what you gotta do. Love ya for always being straight forward and inspirational.❤️
You are a blessings to me since I discovered your channel, yesterday I was talking about your channel with my husband and how much I have learnt from your channel. Your teaching and tips are very very helpful
Fumi can you tell us what you think about getting body alterations like nose, butt or breast jobs especially as you get older and things start to sagg.
Fumi, thank you! Kindly tell us how you explained to your friends and family that Ula was the one after a week. Kindly talk how to keep your youthfulness while getting older. Kindly talk about the pros of being an older parent. Kindly talk about ways to to not get bored during marriage.
Funmi, l appreciate your personality, your wisdom, but can't but notice you are walking with divine grace and favours. Absolutely love your principles.
Well said Fumi. The most influential person in the life of your spouse is you. If you have to get someone else to talk to your spouse so your spouse could listen to them and not to you then thats a red flag.
I don't talk to people about my marriage problems. I talk to my husband. We have our own talks & conferences & resolve issues that way. Fumi, maybe you could discuss cross-cultural marriages, especially here in Europe. They can be very challenging, sometimes leading to failure of marriages 🤔
Fumi you are so right never discuss your relationship with your family they never forget. also they use it again you the quickest chance they get. I learn that the hard way.
please next talk about the importance of family members taking the necessary steps to healing TRAUMA together! The importance of apologizing to each other, the importance o chucking out egos for upholding a public image! especially nigerian families!!!!!!!!!
Balance is KEY to Success and so what you give is has been QUALITY so whatever the schedule will be WORTH THE WAIT. Great topic Fumi, this is sure to be a classic that will need to be shared.
It depends on the topic, the relationship between the family members etc… I’d say for me, “NO”… my family get to involved to the point it’s considered “meddling”… if they were to offer advice and “guide” me to the “best” decision, I would seek advice, but honestly NO… I’d rather seek advice from a close family friend and/or a person whom I see is living a purposeful life (according to my standards).. (for me elderly people are the BEST advice givers.. doesn’t matter the race or nationality.. Matters of the heart are universal)..❤️
Totally enjoyed this video... You taught me so much, especially how to take control of my life. I'm not in any toxic relationship but I think I'll be able to handle it if ever it emerges.
I came across this channel and had to subscribe instantly 🤗❤❤❤❤.Everything about her is real, all her videos are educative and inspiring. I enjoy each and every video uploads.
OMG! You know you bad girl! You dropped a hellova sermon! I’ve recently had to deal with some issues internally and THIS, just helped and confirmed how I should deal with them! THANK YOU FUMS! Thank you 🙏🏽
Aunty Fumi, thank you for the sister 2 sister segment. Please will you talk about being married to a Norwegian man? Specifically, did you encounter any negative comments from family and/or friends?
S2S have always been my favorite videos you make Aunty Fumi!! Bring on the marathon! Could you do a video on how to deal with toxic family members that you can’t completely cut out of your life? (Because they are in laws, etc.)
I know this video is some time ago but speaking of families, I wonder if Fumi has a story/can share a story on entitled in-laws with no boundaries and/or passive aggressive, bitter and jealous SILs?
The reason I said no is because your famliy and friends are closest too you and are quick to formulate biased opinions faster than a person who is unknown to you so ask yourself do you want them to pre judge this person with out having met them yet or if you are already an item they may say things about him that he did not know when among other family members. if you keep it to yourself you eliminate the tensions there for the two of you.
Yes!!! You are so correct, but I had a friend and she tried to disrespect me in my home 🏡 I had to get rid of that relationship/ friendship. It's one of those some people are not your friends for life. You know the story you told about the girl who was jealous of her friend because of a job. Well that was her. Free to go, goodbye
I love your sister to sister videos Fumi!! I'm always looking forward to them since I recently found you. Can you please talk about the challenges a young girl can have in the modelling business ... with both negative confrontations from both men and women ..be it jealousy or advances, and how to deal with them.
Fumo you are an amazing young woman and I absolutely love listening to you. There’s such wisdom and sincerity about you. You put dear old Oprah Winfrey to shame and sham. Hope your success doesn’t change you. And how do you have all that energy? You are the best mix of practicality, truthfulness and spirituality. Thank you for being you
Your advice is cool when mother-in-law is not interferring every minute. When they interfer my dear u need to speak to others. That's how many lovely ladies died for remaining mute and he continues his life. Its good to let them know that if they mess up big time your family will come after them roughly. Thank God mine treats me like a queen.
when there is interference, the best option is to speak with a therapist (that is a neutral party with no bias). Telling friends and family will further complicate the issue.
So true, it's sad, but I say goodbye when needed too. And we mentally check out before physically checking out. Aunty Fumi is always on point. You meet the right people when you are free. Please check out when needed. If he loves and respects you, you will know.
Aunty Fumi, I thoroughly enjoyed the engaging conversation. You're taught me a lot. Can you please speak on what to do if you're in a relationship for a long time, the guy is kind, generous and loving but doesn't want to commit to being married
Must be hard. Sad thing is it sounds like it'll have to end at some point cus you guys are incompatible and want different things or one of you compromises.
He ultimately might not be the one for you...if you desire marriage but he doesn't you're not on the same page. You might have to end it because your husband is out there waiting for you.
This episode spoke to me. I have been in a controlling and abusive relationship for almost 5 years now. I saw the signs early but I ignored them, I didn't want to start afresh, I was working but I didn't have stability. I was seeking emotional comfort and I guess someone to love me as I have lost almost all of my family members. My so called partner has called me a whore, a slut, a bitch- as a way to win an argument, not because I have cheated. We were once arguing and I was standing up for myself and he told me to go tell my "bitch dead mother" what I am saying, someone he has never met. He doesn't want me to take care of my teenage brother, he hates him, he calls him a retard to his face, he has said so many hurtful things I dont love him anymore. I want to leave, I dont know how because when you are with a psycho, they dont see anything wrong, they blame you for everything. He strangled me at 2 am two months ago, he went through my phone looking for evidence of me cheating. He has done so much I just want out. I don't have the courage to leave, he has anger issues. I think I am afraid of him. Now I earn twice his salary, I am responsible for majority of ours bills, the burden is getting to me as I feel like he's comfortable. It pisses me off that he is benefitting from my handwork while my own brother is suffering and sleeping without food. He does not care, he is happy that the child is suffering. Aunty Fumi, please give some advice.
Girl you owe to yourself to runnnnnn far away from that psychotic narcissist. Him speaking to your younger brother that way can affect his self esteem, self worth and overall development. You and your brother are both in danger get out and get both of you in therapy.
Hi sis Fumi, my question is how do you navigate long distance relationships. The insecurities that come when your partner has a very active social life while you are so far away from each other.
Yayyy!!! We missed you but understand that you are building an empire! Thank you so much for showing us the way, Auntie Fumi. Your wisdom is such a blessing for us ladies that have lost our Moms. I’ve been waiting for this S2S all week! Sending Palm Beach love from one chocolate beauty to another! #FumiNation 🤎🤎🤎
Fumi, I just enjoy seeing you and hearing you. So whether it's Sister to Sister or something else I'm fine with it.😊🥰❤❤ EXCELLENT advice!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Your husband and the wigs!BAHAHA!😅🤣😂
Fumi? I accidently found you on RUclips and now I'm addicted to you. You are so bold and your support on relationship is teaching me so much and I love you...keep on doing what you are doing and yet you still have time for your beautiful family. I look forward to your videos whenever I have some spare time.
LINK TO MY ZARA BLOUSE HERE 😊 www.zara.com/uk/en/printed-top-with-shoulder-pads-p08923635.html?v1=137549600&gclid=CjwKCAjwwsmLBhACEiwANq-tXHs_nmXpzCz_Ny70q5rMCpP8233BwDewrUA6M3EdBtH8PrNfpWvG7xoCfXsQAvD_BwE
"What you tolerate, you indirectly encourage" - Fumi
This is a word im holding on to forever.
Loved this episode.
My grandmother told me as a child and adult DO NOT DISCUSS YOUR HOME BUSINESS OUTSIDE WITH ANYONE. SHE SAID HANDLE YOUR HOME BUSINESS WITH THE People living in your home and sleeping in your bed because if you can’t talk to your partner then why are you in a relationship with them🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️. Granny was RIGHT.
Absolutely 💯
Yeah , I’m my first year I made that mistake to talk to everyone about my issues
Yes granny knows best, any relationship communication is key and number one, to me if I can't communicate with you then what relationship do we have?
And or have WISE counsel when/if you get stuck.
Straight up
I can see you hosting your own talk show Fumi, you are a so giving from your spirit... Thanks my sista
Yes she needs a Wendy like talk show... But instead of celebrity gossip we do sister to sisters topics with real live examples of failures and success!
Amen
I could listen to you talk for hours and hours…
Can’t wait for your stories…
Same here!!! :)
Yes, I'm glued to your channel. Enjoying every vlogg...learning a lot from what you're sharing! You are an inspiration!
same
I’m happy to find a grown woman who knows how life works . Was searching for a channel like this . Greeting from Germany 🇩🇪
Yesss U R so r8
I love the wig story.
This man's love and respect for Fumi is restorative!
😂😂😂 same here..the wigs
All facts!!! Keep your marital issues away from your family.
Unless you’re in an abusive or unsafe relationship. Call out for help! Tell your family.
"Know the man and you will understand your marriage!" That is so True!!!) I am so grateful for!!!)
The most important thing she said was take the time to get to know the guy. Getting into a relationship very quickly could totally RUIN your life. They are worse things than being single. Fatherless children,Abusive husband,Leaving the relationship with all sorts of mental emotional baggage and pain Single mother life……
You just have to love this lady.
I’ve been married for 17 years and have been with my husband for 19. It’s not a job but it def is work. Awesome advice. I agree. Love you fumi!
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I feel balance is key. It's the twenty first century,every woman should learn about toxic behaviors and patterns so that they can sight them,and speak with people about it. It's okay to keep your home affairs between you and your husband but what if he's a narcissist or has some crazy personality disorder? You'd definitely need to speak with someone about it.
I agree now something like that yes. But if yall just having simple arguments like all couples family/friends need to stay OUT
Wow. I really enjoyed this video. My fiancée and I are abstaining until marriage as well. I am able to know him and understand him and appreciate him for who he is. And he can do the same for me. I also have learned a ton of things from my dating past and I actually have implemented what I learned and it’s been so much better. I learned I was emotionally immature before and I didn’t understand how this was so crucial in how my relationships would be. I also learned that as a priceless woman, I set my own value wayyyy too low and I put up with things I would NEVER put up with now! I wasn’t looking for him when I met him. He just kind of came into my life last year. It’s bliss, Fumi. It really is. I don’t tell my family anything personal about my fiancé. In private, I can appreciate our love and respect and even our disagreements and it feels soooo much more sacred like nothing before. Watching these reality shows will have you thinking that love is all about spreading your business all through the streets. There is NOTHING like the peace, passion, honesty, fulfillment, and love that I feel now from him and it’s beautiful.
Blessings
May God bless you both!
Absolutely beautiful! God bless your union 💕
So happy for you, that's how it's supposed to be 🥰
I've always said to keep your relationship in your relationship . Never discuss relationships or family matters outside of the family. It never ends well and never will, why because people don't want to get involved or they stir up more drama that you definitely don't need. I always just listen if someone tells me something I'd rather not hear 🙉 and just encourage them to talk to the person they are talking about.
If you’re in a abusive relationship; I think in that circumstance it’s ok to share with family and friends.
Great advice Fumi I loved it when you stated “ Know the man before you marry him, and look at the signs” Another statement that I loved was “ I’m too fabulous for that !” I tip my glass to you dear💗 I dodge bullets too praise God❤️
@@ToniaAlex13 Well said. I agree. In abusive or dysfunctional situations, while I agree with Aunty Fumi to be discreet and honor your relationship by keeping things inside, please don't take this advice to keep your mouth shut when you are unsafe or abused or mistreated cos many have shut their mouths all the way to the grave 6ft under. God forbid. In the multitude of counsel wisdom is found. May God protect us all from bad omen.
Agreed. Definitely need to share abuse encounter with someone.
"What you tolerate, you indirectly encourage" Fumi Darling, this quote from you is absolutely pure wisdom! Keep teaching my sister!!!❤
I am new to Fumination and English is not my first language. I am Francophone I just would like to express my big Love to you Fumi, You are so true, so dynamic, I love your vibe, the way you laugh! You are my psycho, Listening to you is a kind of therapy full of positivism and trueness. You are the sister everyone dream of! I If you ever come to Québec, I would love to see you. Love and blessings ❤💞
Ole: "Is she wearing a wig?" favorite part of this video. LOVE YOU ALWAYS
Hey
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That part got me🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I am rolling on the floor he did not know almost all women wear wigs or clip in 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Love you Fumi, been watching you since I discovered your channel, am 52 too and actually feel more beautiful now than I did in my 20s and 30s. You remind me of 3 people, Michelle Obama, Cecily Tyson and Grace Jones. You are truly beautiful inside and out and wise.. Yes we will take what we can get coz those 2 boys need you too 🤣.
Been married almost 16 years and all I can say is... Well said🙌🏿
I love story-time!!! It's better than soap operas because it's real life.
Some Fumi is better than no Fumi at all!
Its not that easy. Remember people Can be difficult with different values thats why the legal system helps to manage the chaos. If u dont speak to another person to objectively look at pending issues without been bias, i bet u , u will speak to a judge sooner or later if u are alife. Those of us that are lucky sometimes dont really understand that some women are living like prisoners in their matrimonial home. Lets be careful how we advice pp. Some have died of stress, poured acid on, strangled , flogged, abused everyday and u say they should dialogue with a beast? Look lets count ourself lucky as we help others in their fight and be a voice of truth.
Why am I fining out about this beautiful wonderful human being just now... better late than never right? I do not know you but I feel as though I'm listening to an aunt that I have known forever! please don't change. People need mothers/aunties/sisters/friends like you! Nice to meet you and to binge watch your sister2sister épisodes
Funmi, you are so full of wisdom. Your responses and mannerisms remind me of Nigeria, and especially the Yoruba tribe. Putting things in your left hand and back pocket, never tell family members stuff cos they never forget and it is hard to redeem your spouse in front of them🙏🏽
I'm so sorry for your loss. May the memories of your friend bring you comfort during this difficult time.
I’m here to support Fumi whatever she does. I know you busy been the scene and taking care of Adrian and spending you time with your wonderful husband Ole. Life is busy and you are doing you best. I love you because you are genuine and real. Love the makeup! ❤️
My God, Auntie Fumi. If women had more role models like you, men would act SO differently and women would not put up with HALF the shit that we do and for not nearly as long. 🙌🏾 Folks having babies (lifelong responsibilities) with deadbeat men that they don't even know who don't WANT to be husbands and providers... you are SO wise. Gosh, I hope that more women learn of you and take your advice. We are SO much more powerful and high- vibrational than we give ourselves credit for. I love your videos, ESPECIALLY S2S. THANK YOU!!
Can you please do a video on REALISTIC financial responsibilities for women in marriage? I definitely know every marriage has unique financial needs but what are some standards you can share? That is: joint accounts, building a house together /mortgage/rent, car expenses, groceries, school fees for kids, personal accounts, etc. In what ways can a woman contribute financially in marriage without emasculating her husband?
She touched on it in her Q & A video with her hubby
No consistent complaining, because it causes your blood family to have bad feelings toward the other person. If you're going to do something positive with the advice you're getting, fine. But if you vent too much, you bring others into your marriage. It's not good. If you are in physical danger and need help or advice to escape, be ready to move and do something about it. It's not fair to have others disliking your spouse and taking sides. It's destructive to the relationship. I had a relative who was always complaining to her friends about her husband. She was an unhappy miserable selfish person. Never satisfied with what he did. He would work 14-16 hour days, cook, do laundry, help with schoolwork, cook for holidays and remember all the special days. Her female friends thought she was so lucky. Two or 3 of her friends tried to steal him away from her. They both eventually were vying for their friends to take their sides about marital issues. It became SO toxic, everyone in their friends circle eventually left. They finally ended up with NO friends. People got tired of the fighting. Family is always going to side with THEIR family, IF they know their loved one is halfway decent.
So happy I found your channel. You have been a blessing in my life with your fun and helpful tips videos. Your energy and personality is contagious!!! Congratulations to you on all of your opportunities and achievements🎉🙏
I send my sincere condolences to your friend and to the families😢
can you please tell us the story of how you met Ole?
Daughters? Baby girl, you are my LITTLE sister and I love learning from you! :-) I'm 54. Our lives are so different, so I listen to you and love your confidence.!! Sister to Sister is FABULOUS!!
Telling family is the worst. It just becomes fodder for gossip. Even long after you have resolved the issue
RUclips recommended your channel to me out of no where, and honestly I have been hooked ever since!
Actions! Yes!!! Ladies we need to stick to our words AND boundaries. Don't try to "change" anyone.
Aunty Fumi coming through with her nuggets of wisdom. Thank you 😊
Dear Fumi we will take whatever you give us! Life happens to us all. Love and blessings. ♥️🙏🏽
Fumi i hope you see this message. Watching your videos always give me confidence and hope. I was in a relationship that i didn't not take my time to know who he was. I ended up having a son for him. I taught love was enough to hold us together but at last i was gaslighted. Later found out that i was in a narcissistic relationship. But i left. Now am just trying to put my life together. Sometimes i just wish to hug you knowing that i have a big sister 🤗
That exactly happened to me, I'm still in therapy.
For my daughter
Watching this just in case i get married
Hi beautiful Fumi,
****Please talk about being married to a verbally abusive/toxic & unloving man for years that will never change****
Fumigate, thank you for your talk. I am 65 yrs old & I learned some things. Keep it coming sister, I am inspired
Dear Fumi,
How do we respond to people that constantly criticize our weight/height? I don’t know how to deal.
Thank you so much for the sister 2 sister series, it is so helpful!
💓💖💓💞💕💗
This!!
I need advice as well
It's something we can't fight it's how we were created how you respond to that is by loving all that,that people criticize and what happens is that it becomes beautiful even to people's eyes.
Once you are secure about it you become beautiful and discover actually it's not even freckled it's always been beautiful but you may have chosen to always see it negatively🤗.
Critics are silly fake people. Be coool with urself. We are not all meant to be thin or tall.
I really wish She'll make a video on this. It's such a touchy subject to many of us
I was in a relationship with a guy for eight years we never had any children thanks god. I was 18 years at the time didn't know anything about living with a man or playing house. So to get away for my parents home I leave like a big woman lol that was the worst choice I have ever made in my life. To make a long story short he never provided for me I work so hard to try to set a good picture for my friends & family that am soooo happy which was not true. I got fed up n leave with just the cloths on my back n my hand bag. A few years later I met my present husband Mr Jackson he's a bit older but I love it he treats me like the queen I am I bless god for sending him in my live, as in life there will always be ups n downs by once the two becomes one the sky's is the limit. Always love ur self sisters know ur worth. Love love u fumi
Dear Fumi! Oh my goodness. This video should be shown to all brides BEFORE the wedding! Such valuable and loving information. The absolute Truth. Thank you for all you do for us!
Both brides and grooms.The marriage is between the two therefore both should be taught this information
@@girlnextdoor2836 agree 100%
We love you Fumi I am also 52yrs young but I love your Sister to Sister because I have also learned so much!!! God bless you
i live for the laughs and story time!!!
Fumi this topic of discussion was so needed. It makes so much sense. Talk it out with your man or your women and keep everyone else out. If he or she want talk you have to do what you gotta do. Love ya for always being straight forward and inspirational.❤️
You are a blessings to me since I discovered your channel, yesterday I was talking about your channel with my husband and how much I have learnt from your channel. Your teaching and tips are very very helpful
OMG YOU DID IT AGAIN FUMI THIS IS WHAT I NEEDED TO HEAR. YOU GIVE THE BEST ADVISE EVER CANT STOP WATCHING YOU AND YOUR PERSONALITY IS EVERYTHING 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
YOU ARE SO CORRECT! Men tell you who they are! I wish I’d learned that before I married. He was very immature and 10 years younger than me also.
Fumi can you tell us what you think about getting body alterations like nose, butt or breast jobs especially as you get older and things start to sagg.
Fumi, thank you!
Kindly tell us how you explained to your friends and family that Ula was the one after a week.
Kindly talk how to keep your youthfulness while getting older.
Kindly talk about the pros of being an older parent.
Kindly talk about ways to to not get bored during marriage.
Definitely after that wig incident Fumi knew he was the one 🤣🤣🤣. She cracked me up with that one 🤣🤣🤣
Funmi, l appreciate your personality, your wisdom, but can't but notice you are walking with divine grace and favours.
Absolutely love your principles.
It’s quality over quantity, Fumi! What you give us is always on time and on topic. Family, and yourself, first - always🙏🏾
Well said Fumi. The most influential person in the life of your spouse is you. If you have to get someone else to talk to your spouse so your spouse could listen to them and not to you then thats a red flag.
I don't talk to people about my marriage problems. I talk to my husband. We have our own talks & conferences & resolve issues that way.
Fumi, maybe you could discuss cross-cultural marriages, especially here in Europe. They can be very challenging, sometimes leading to failure of marriages 🤔
Aunt fumi you really nailed it this time around. This is the mistake i made when hubby refused to listen by turning to my family😭😭😭😭
40 minutes of video that = 40 minutes of therapy. This is the same advice that marriage coaches give....yet even MORE relevant. Thank You Funmi!
Thanks for that dedication to Mel Fumi. It was wonderful. You are one of the truly beautiful ones in the beauty community. Love you!!!
Fumi you are so right never discuss your relationship with your family they never forget. also they use it again you the quickest chance they get. I learn that the hard way.
Heavy on the “I’m too Fabulous for that” 💯🤣😂
please next talk about the importance of family members taking the necessary steps to healing TRAUMA together! The importance of apologizing to each other, the importance o chucking out egos for upholding a public image! especially nigerian families!!!!!!!!!
I really love that I discovered this Channel. Your aura is something that I can resonate with. Auntie Fumi! Love you ❤️❤️❤️
Balance is KEY to Success and so what you give is has been QUALITY so whatever the schedule will be WORTH THE WAIT.
Great topic Fumi, this is sure to be a classic that will need to be shared.
Love this topic feels like u was talkin directly to me 😭
Love u fumi 🥰
You could start your own beauty talk show dear Fumi honestly
Amazing move for Juvia's Place. Keep up the fantastic work Fumi 👏🏾
It depends on the topic, the relationship between the family members etc… I’d say for me, “NO”… my family get to involved to the point it’s considered “meddling”… if they were to offer advice and “guide” me to the “best” decision, I would seek advice, but honestly NO… I’d rather seek advice from a close family friend and/or a person whom I see is living a purposeful life (according to my standards).. (for me elderly people are the BEST advice givers.. doesn’t matter the race or nationality.. Matters of the heart are universal)..❤️
I agree will you darling
💯 on mentally checking out before physically checking out. It’s the best way to end a relationship and not have any what-ifs.
Totally enjoyed this video... You taught me so much, especially how to take control of my life. I'm not in any toxic relationship but I think I'll be able to handle it if ever it emerges.
How are you going to handle it
I came across this channel and had to subscribe instantly 🤗❤❤❤❤.Everything about her is real, all her videos are educative and inspiring. I enjoy each and every video uploads.
OMG! You know you bad girl! You dropped a hellova sermon! I’ve recently had to deal with some issues internally and THIS, just helped and confirmed how I should deal with them! THANK YOU FUMS! Thank you 🙏🏽
Aunty Fumi, thank you for the sister 2 sister segment. Please will you talk about being married to a Norwegian man? Specifically, did you encounter any negative comments from family and/or friends?
Fumi, You're Wise be Blessed.
Much Love and respect from Nairobi Kenya.
I love the symbology/ application of the chicken and the tiger. The advice is pure gold, from the heart.
S2S have always been my favorite videos you make Aunty Fumi!! Bring on the marathon! Could you do a video on how to deal with toxic family members that you can’t completely cut out of your life? (Because they are in laws, etc.)
Thank you Fumi ..I would always complain about husband to my family. Won't do it anymore. Good advice thanks
You’re so gifted Fumi and I am grateful to every story you’ve told. And I look forward to many more. Am taking notes 📝
I know this video is some time ago but speaking of families, I wonder if Fumi has a story/can share a story on entitled in-laws with no boundaries and/or passive aggressive, bitter and jealous SILs?
The reason I said no is because your famliy and friends are closest too you and are quick to formulate biased opinions faster than a person who is unknown to you so ask yourself do you want them to pre judge this person with out having met them yet or if you are already an item they may say things about him that he did not know when among other family members. if you keep it to yourself you eliminate the tensions there for the two of you.
We mentally check out b4 we physically do
Very true my sister
You’re so sweet and uplifting
Keep it up 👍❤️
Your emphasis on how you DODGED the bullet 😂😂😂😂😂😂 I love Fumi way too much!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣
Yes!!! You are so correct, but I had a friend and she tried to disrespect me in my home 🏡 I had to get rid of that relationship/ friendship.
It's one of those some people are not your friends for life. You know the story you told about the girl who was jealous of her friend because of a job. Well that was her.
Free to go, goodbye
SISTER TO SISTER FOR THE NEXT YEAR! I NEED advice from older women in my life🙏🏽🙏🏽💞
Listennnnnn Aunty Fumi is always ON POINT !!!! #keepthesecoming 🙏🏾
I love your sister to sister videos Fumi!! I'm always looking forward to them since I recently found you. Can you please talk about the challenges a young girl can have in the modelling business ... with both negative confrontations from both men and women ..be it jealousy or advances, and how to deal with them.
Fumo you are an amazing young woman and I absolutely love listening to you. There’s such wisdom and sincerity about you. You put dear old Oprah Winfrey to shame and sham. Hope your success doesn’t change you. And how do you have all that energy? You are the best mix of practicality, truthfulness and spirituality. Thank you for being you
Fumi you’re speaking truth💕. I thought I was the only one , I mentally check out, before I end the relationship .
Your advice is cool when mother-in-law is not interferring every minute. When they interfer my dear u need to speak to others. That's how many lovely ladies died for remaining mute and he continues his life. Its good to let them know that if they mess up big time your family will come after them roughly. Thank God mine treats me like a queen.
when there is interference, the best option is to speak with a therapist (that is a neutral party with no bias). Telling friends and family will further complicate the issue.
So true, it's sad, but I say goodbye when needed too. And we mentally check out before physically checking out. Aunty Fumi is always on point. You meet the right people when you are free. Please check out when needed. If he loves and respects you, you will know.
Aunty Fumi, I thoroughly enjoyed the engaging conversation. You're taught me a lot. Can you please speak on what to do if you're in a relationship for a long time, the guy is kind, generous and loving but doesn't want to commit to being married
Must be hard. Sad thing is it sounds like it'll have to end at some point cus you guys are incompatible and want different things or one of you compromises.
He ultimately might not be the one for you...if you desire marriage but he doesn't you're not on the same page. You might have to end it because your husband is out there waiting for you.
He is probably waiting for the "right one" and you are likely his backup just in case.
May God give us the spirit and courage of "Goodbye"
This episode spoke to me. I have been in a controlling and abusive relationship for almost 5 years now. I saw the signs early but I ignored them, I didn't want to start afresh, I was working but I didn't have stability. I was seeking emotional comfort and I guess someone to love me as I have lost almost all of my family members. My so called partner has called me a whore, a slut, a bitch- as a way to win an argument, not because I have cheated. We were once arguing and I was standing up for myself and he told me to go tell my "bitch dead mother" what I am saying, someone he has never met. He doesn't want me to take care of my teenage brother, he hates him, he calls him a retard to his face, he has said so many hurtful things I dont love him anymore. I want to leave, I dont know how because when you are with a psycho, they dont see anything wrong, they blame you for everything. He strangled me at 2 am two months ago, he went through my phone looking for evidence of me cheating. He has done so much I just want out. I don't have the courage to leave, he has anger issues. I think I am afraid of him. Now I earn twice his salary, I am responsible for majority of ours bills, the burden is getting to me as I feel like he's comfortable. It pisses me off that he is benefitting from my handwork while my own brother is suffering and sleeping without food. He does not care, he is happy that the child is suffering. Aunty Fumi, please give some advice.
Run girl ruuuunn....trust me you can't change that man...choose yourself...
Please leave be safe. It sounds like you are in danger I hope your safe.
Girl you owe to yourself to runnnnnn far away from that psychotic narcissist. Him speaking to your younger brother that way can affect his self esteem, self worth and overall development. You and your brother are both in danger get out and get both of you in therapy.
Hi sis Fumi, my question is how do you navigate long distance relationships. The insecurities that come when your partner has a very active social life while you are so far away from each other.
Excellent advice Fumi! Look forward to more Sister-to-Sister. Love you 🌷
So true . Family members keep tabs . Thank you sister 🌺
Yayyy!!! We missed you but understand that you are building an empire! Thank you so much for showing us the way, Auntie Fumi. Your wisdom is such a blessing for us ladies that have lost our Moms. I’ve been waiting for this S2S all week! Sending Palm Beach love from one chocolate beauty to another! #FumiNation 🤎🤎🤎
I have never met someone as lovable and fun like you ! and i love your look on this episode, so so much
Fumi, I just enjoy seeing you and hearing you. So whether it's Sister to Sister or something else I'm fine with it.😊🥰❤❤ EXCELLENT advice!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Your husband and the wigs!BAHAHA!😅🤣😂
Gal me too l don't know even y
Fumi? I accidently found you on RUclips and now I'm addicted to you. You are so bold and your support on relationship is teaching me so much and I love you...keep on doing what you are doing and yet you still have time for your beautiful family. I look forward to your videos whenever I have some spare time.
Your skin tone is very rich aunty Fumi. Love from Swaziland