I gave up. It's always one of two things. 1. Meet someone and make a move, then be rejected. 2. Meet someone, take it slow and develop things, Then be strung along .......and rejected. I'm so damaged I don't even feel that 'spark' anymore.
I am 28 (nearly 29years old) and i gave up on looking for love (outside of my unconditional love for my family). After having my trust go from battered to being destoryed about 7 women i have learnt the following things. Love does not exist. If it does exist it is not worth it! Thats why i have learnt to walk away from it and let it be.👍🏻 (Edit: I am now 30, still feel the same & still single 👍🏻)
Yes im a 22 year old female and ive never been in a relationship like ive been hit with a plague! So, really, i dont even know what to do/why to do it! Ive had enoughhhh!!! 😤😤😤😤😤😤
I gave up in 2011. After a brutal rejection, I gave up on love altogether. I think in my next life, I’ll be much cooler, and less awkward to the point where I will have a significant other.
Working on bettering urself is the way to go. Its not gonna be for others. Its gonna be for urself and ur self esteem. I swear that ull feel better abt urself. Since you are in this life might as well make the most of it. Maybe ull even find that special someone.
Exactly how I feel although I don't believe in reincarnation. But I've always imagined reincarnating into a cooler person. I was socially awkward as a young boy and it's messed up my childhood in a way.
Yup I look ugly so it’s over for me. Virgin and never dated. Oh well I guess. Now days you have to NOT BE A VIRGIN in order to even get a date in the first place! So in other words, it’s impossible. Just give up lmao
Hey you're like me. I'm 34. Never married. Never been in a relationship. Never been on a date. Never kissed anyone at all in my life. And no one has ever liked me either. No regrets.
I give up on love. I've been loved and showed love in diffrent ways to other's . Now it is about making money to be saved so I can live healthy. No more getting hurt for me. Maybe in another life someone will love me the way I love them. It makes me sad to say so. My most important relationship is myself now. Thank you for posting 🙂.
Yeah i feel the same way, im only 21 but i realized that everytime i try to find love i get destroyed even more than the previous relationship. Its as if the universe itself is telling me to give up on it and focus on myself
I’m 16 and I’m starting to lose faith. I think some people just aren’t cut out for it. Edit 2020: I have met someone six months ago who's really awesome and fallen in love with her. Don't give up, I felt the same way but things always come around as long as you try to be a good person.
Without sounding like a hypocrite, I think you should hold on. You're still young. I didn't fall in love until I was 22. Granted, it was a catastrophe and so was the second and third times (but that's me). I really had my chances in my early 20's, but I was shy and had no self confidence. Go for it !. If you feel something for somebody,Tell them. You may get rejected but at least you're in the game. Wait and you'll end up with like me, looking back on missed chances with a black lump where your heart used to be.
@@EntertainmentFan11 it's not funny. We just are a one group, and that's what op loves because nobody is telling us to keep fighting for love. It's sad but it's funny
You ain't seen nothing yet young lady. people like me that give up on love after decades of abuse, cheating and pain. I know what I want but it is NOT out there...
I’m starting to accept that love is not in the cards for me anymore. I’ve tried & not tried & everything in between but in all it’s pretty much over for me. I completely understand where you’re coming from.
I don’t believe in love because it’s caused me life changing damage. I’ve never been in a relationship but have tried to get into one and every time I did it went horribly wrong. Love is now something I avoid/suppress to the best of my ability just so that I’m safe from its harm.
Guys have it worse. At least you have guys coming to you and asking for your number and wanting to get to know you. Guys are the ones having to initiate everything.
Yes but it also sucks waiting around for guys to take initiative, and also watching my back to make sure any initiative I take doesn’t come off too strong/“masculine”
@@skrattherat1 Like fuck they do! For God's sake guys who are single are automatically viewed as predators. Guys who are taken are better respected. Plus whenever I had girlfriends, other ladies flocked over me. Now for the past 7 years since I got dumped, I can't even get a dumb call or text. And even if I do, I'm strung along and then dumped while ego boy gets picked.
@@SinisterScoundrel6562 from my perspective, guys are no better. The ones that show initiative come off as just seeking ass off the bat. Nothing is sincere. And when a female take the initiative then that scares them off.
Never let yourself fall in love with these bitches. They all look for the BBD,bigger better deal. If you let yourself love,you will be hurt in the end. Trust me
I’m 24, I’ve only had one boyfriend and that breakup/ghosting situation was enough for me to throw my hands up with love....so yeah I’ve given up on it.
I've had a very similar situation to you. I'm 24 and have only had one Boyfriend. the way we broke up ruined me and left me with alot of scars. I've also given up 😔
People don’t like love. They like that flitters flirty feeling in their stomachs when they think they’re experiencing it. They don’t know what actual love is. Love is full of sacrifices. Love is not one sided. Love shouldn’t be “what can they do for me” it should be “what can I do for them? What can we do for each other?”
I learned to give up that true love for the ex I dated and now I learned that I can live without romantic love or find someone else. In my case, I found someone else I could do for them.
I gave up on love it hurts too much so now staying single until the day I pass this mortal world hopefully not to long!! I hope I don’t come back if there is a second life!! Life is way to painful and I’m not ready to be in world
I'm 48 and no one no one has ever treated me like I deserve and that's with regards to respect honesty loyalty love care, I've been betrayed backstabbed hurt that many times my heart is in a million pieces, I've given up I'm too old now and it's too late obviously the universe deems me as unworthy even if I keep telling them I deserve better doesn't matter what or how hard I've tried, it just never happens for me, I'm not a sad case either, I've got to the point where I've just totally and utterly given up on honest love only thing I've received in life is pain and hurt, I've shut my heart 💔 off and I've shut it down completely no one will ever hurt me again in life ever period.
I’m over 40 and already give up on love. Tired of dead ended emotionally and verbally abusive men who play head games. Tired of having to look like a movie star just to get a date or be treated with respect. I’m over it.
I gotta say that the modern culture where people are not able to commit to a person long-term / change partners all the time in the form of a throwaway culture contributes largely to the fact that people looking for a long-term relationship become unhappy because they seemingly can't find anyone with that conservative mindset as opposed to hook-up culture. But I do believe there is someone out there, you just gotta do what makes you happy (hobbies) and the right person might be there. Also, I don't think it's healthy to obsess about that topic - if that's what you're doing, online dating might be the best thing to start things off quickly. I am in my early to mid 20s, never kissed someone, nor do I care about that or the expectations of anyone that I should have done blablabla by twenty-something. Compassion & staying true to your values will eventually lead to success I believe & regardless, I strongly believe it is zero of anyone's business what I do regarding anything, e.g., my life decisions. Much love from Europe
I got cheated on after a 4 year relationship. I am 31 years old and I thought she was the one I was gonna marry and have kids with. She decided to leave me for some older guy who knows famous people and has connections and she "need to go and work towards her future". She had told me about this guy before and he was just a friend and how cool he was cause he had "connections". I loved her with my entire being and I was not even a bad boyfriend. I am a wonderful person, if I was a piece of crap, she wouldn't have been with me for 4 years. She met this new guy after starting a new job and within weeks, she started to change. I later found out, I was cheated on for 4 months and when she had the new guy locked in, she basically told me to fuck off through text message. She didn't even come get her things from our apartment and she left me just like that. I'm old af and I feel like this was my last shot.
I recently gave up because someone I’ve known and liked for 6-7 years now - who I thought had the same relationship values as me and had witnessed me in a toxic relationship - became a toxic relationship himself….and my trust is completely broken. I feel like I can’t trust anybody now…
Lady, as a girl like you, you saying about it after you at least HAD a real relationship is easy. Now, if you never had any real relationship during the years from your existence, I really doubt if you can walk and tell us enough to not give up on love. Miss, during my 21 years from existence, I always had bad luck at love. during in my whole life, all I just wanted is someone to not just date and have sex, but also someone to put me a shoulder while I'm crying, hug me when I get pretty depressed, a friend to have fun like playing videogames, watch anime, and even to talk the stories I had create to my drawings, this what I just want. And what I gained? disappointment in love, lies, psychological abuse and cheat (these two lasts from an ex-friend I used consider as my big brother), suffering and neglect. I surely don't want to be alone, I wanted to someday get married and have my kids, but the way how is world and society working, and all what I passed during my teen times - I can't believe anymore to think I'll still have someone to stay with me.
i have never given up on love because it never existed in me in the first place when i see my friends dating i just congratulate them and i always told them that in their wedding i'd like to be the planner
Giving up is the best thing I ever did & I gave up a lot older than most. Should've given up at least 10 years ago because that's when all the worst things happened. Now if I see someone I could like I just imagine they are not available. Easy!
Dont spend your childhood and youth concerning yourself with adult matters. Plenty of time to stress and deal with life when you're older. You're only young once.
i'm turning thirty-eight next week, and i gave up dating. cause a lot of women lost the translation on how to bond PROPERLY. stupid insta-hookup bullshit... also someone who is still living today, told me these words, "you're hopeless and a failure...". with that stuck in my mind till i die, that is going to make me completely stop dating. crazy cat dad for life...
At this point I’m starting to quit because I’ve been rejected every time and the 2 relationships I had was one out of pity and one cheated on me and I’m just like screw it forget it
I'm 19 at the moment and I'm gonna give up on love if I'm still single at 30. I had a girlfriend a year ago and things hasn't been the same for me mentally since we broke up.
Im 30. Loved my first gf with all my heart. She cheated on me. Two suicide attempts and two years later, I fell in love again. Got cheated again. I no longer trust women, of any kind.
I gave up on love. I will never find anyone and every single time I ever liked anyone, all I ever got was rejected. I just no longer care. I know no girl is ever gonna give me a chance at love and love me. If I don't even try anymore, then I can't be disappointed.
I am 32 and about to give up. I found this video in search of other people feeling the same way. I feel like the current culture has cut love out. I am fairly attractive, stable, and interesting. I have no problem at all finding dates and flings, but women today are just not looking for love. I am going from fling to fling to fling getting hurt each time because I am basically being used by a spoiled girl who thinks she is a celebrity. I have been cheated on, ghosted, the whole nine. I had one good relationship in my life, lived with the girl of my dreams for 4 years... she ended up cheating on me and leaving me for one of my coworkers. That broke my heart into a million peices. She was the love of my life and I thought we were going to be together forever. I blew it. Now I just don't feel like trying anymore. I can get sex whenever I want, so there is no problem there, I just and never going to have the courage to give another woman my heart after what happened last time.
@@bak3456 I got over it. I met an amazing girl 1 year ago and we are now married. She is beautiful, amazing, and we make great partners. I think my problem was dating too many American girls. I found a foreign girl (just came to USA a year before I met her) and it was night and day. She is a real partner, carries her weight and doesn't act like a princess that I need to entertain and support 24/7. she is MAGA too which is dope, all the American girls seem to have some weird hatred of Trump that makes it awkward for me as I have to bite my tongue and pretend to still be in the matrix and not red pilled. I can completely be myself around her. She has traveled the world and like me understands that USA is by far the best country in the world. She saved her whole life to get here, and laughs at the spoiled american 14-25 year old kids that whine all day that everything is not free and handed to them on a silver platter. I too have lived in multiple countries and know what is up. She is also 10 years younger than me so we can enjoy our marriage together before rushing to have kids. If I married a girl my age it would be kind of a "now or never" scenario to have kids. TLDR: the problem is just American girls in the age of instagram.
I already gave up on Love along time ago I’ve already figured that if God’s not sending me the woman of my dreams now then he probably never will and if I’m not worthy now I’ll never be worthy
Hi Everyone, I have given up on love in the past, but not anymore. Love does exist. The problem is we chase something that isn't necessarily something we need. Love is all around. It is in the way your mum or dad worries about you. Love is a dog excited to see his/her owner after a long day of work. It is in kindness you show with strangers. Every time you do something (no matter how small) for something else. I send you all love. We are not alone in what you are feeling. There is so much more to love than a husband/boyfriend/girlfriend/wife etc. It is the love for yourself. Every time you brush your teeth or even put a face mask on. You are giving love to yourself. Please don't give up on love. You are the epitome of love. Katie you are a wonderful person and you are more loved than you realise. xxx
You can’t give up on love if love doesn’t exist. I’ve been searching and searching and EVERY SINGLE TIME I thought I found someone I would get shot down, rejected, laughed at, etc. Nobody wants me, nobody will ever want me. I am worthless. I am unloveable. I am better off dead.
Hey Austin don't have such thoughts about yourself. Don't let all that affect you negatively. You just met people who didn't appreciate you. Never let people define who you are.. Start by loving yourself and doing stuff that makes you happy. Always remember you are loveable and most of you are worth so much dear.
Since childhood, we are dictated to believe the reason for life is love. Girls with barbies and boys with spiderman. Everyone is wishing for that kiss. But there is so much more in life. Getting stuck on the kiss is not fair to yourself.
But what if you're attractive but still gets rejected??? My friend said these women all think the same...I might as well be a dog, I don't wanna be but that's the sad truth
Im 31, have tried everything and actually put effort into getting to know my dates without coming on too strong but every single time I get told not long after the date that im not what they're looking for. It's like the same as being told you're not good enough. Being told that as many times as I have, you lose the will power to keep trying. I'm just about ready to hang it up.. what's the point anymore lol 😂
Thank you for this video, Katie, but I still feel like it's all HOPELESS for me. I sometimes cry myself to sleep at night, and I always sing sad songs to cope with my misery. Seriously, it's THAT bad. It's even WORSE on Valentine's Day. What should I do? 😢💔
Thats awesome! That means that you care.. that you havent given up.. crying means that you are willing to fight for it.. if you have given up you would be numb and wouldn't care anymore.. thats the worst feeling ever.. music is the best thing ever.. dont feel stupid for feeling something.. by the way.. im 38 and have been beaten a loooot in my life.. still alive and kicking ;)
I have not had a girlfriend for several years. I've been single most of my adult life since 2000. Can you be content single?, sure but if one doesn't want to be single I don't believe it's healthy. Keep in mind that I mean this in the context that one should not look to relationships for happiness however if one wants a relationship for the right reason (because of their sexuality) , they probably should go for it but should never excessively worry about being single or let it bother them.
Honestly I’m 37 years old and I’m done with heartache I only had just one love in my life and that’s it I’m just done I just find that it’s just too overwhelming and also it’s just people are just so the same because everybody connects and relates I have a hard time with that and I’m completely different so I’m completely done.
Gave up years ago. Love dosent exist unless its parent to child. I got my family my friends my buisness and my hobbies. Like Tina turner said Love? Just a second hand emotion.
You’re young. At least you had many relationships. Try going through life ALONE. Wanting ONLY a loving partner and a chance to be a parent. Try getting called ugly, not worth it or just flat out laughed at. I’ve had ONE real relationship in my 32 years of existence. After 8 years of being together she gave up on me, her family, and life. Try having that in your life darling. Going on six years now and I’m still alone and hurting. No matter what I do or try I always get rejected, just as I always have. You are a pretty, young woman and as long as you are true to yourself and the one you’re with you’ll be fine and will find someone right for sure. You don’t have my luck.
Who needs to be in a this thing called relationship which is disgusting when you have your family instead of having a bf or gf that comes and goes which is a waste of time
I'm considering giving up now, 2 women have claimed to love me deeply, the first decided after 3 days that she didn't want a future with me, the second married me then revealed herself to be a spoiled brat that had me pushing myself to nearly crashing my car through sheer exhaustion to provide for her and when I said that I was tired she didn't care and called me selfish then divorced me leaving me almost penniless.
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I had a love that lasted 10 almost 11 years and she just walked away from it and now mentally I feel if I can’t keep here after all that time how can I keep or think about getting someone new?
Honestly, I don't believe in it anymore... It's a joke. What's the point of love if I don't get to benefit from it while the people around me are in long term relationships, married and having kids and I on the other hand deal with the short end of the stick that is life, unwanted, losing control and losing my freedom because of lack of money and debt and dealing with negativity, I'm addicted to it, I feel like I want to burn all of my bridges and run away. People giving me advice annoy me, it infuriates me to hear the same advise only for it to be superficial and ineffective because I'm still depressed. Lonely and exhausted from waiting for someone to try because nobody cares to try for an ugly guy like me, a failure and such. I start to hate everything... The only escapism being video games and even then I'm not allowed to enjoy a single second because my free time is being eaten up by family because they rather have me work and no relaxation.
I gave up on believing love exists for me. I never had any guy ever interested in me nor was I ever good enough for someone. So unfortunately apart from crying it’s the only thing I had to make.
Honestly after rejected and led on so much in my life I came to the point where I have given up, especially after my latest rejection. She still really wants to be friends but I don't want to be for the sake of letting her be happy and to move on with her bf. Gonna go back to my old ways of heavily drinking because guys remember: Alcohol before love and all
Girl, life is gonna get even tougher n tougher.. i thought near 30 was gonna be crazy, but after 30 is getting crazier than before, n each passing years after 30 is like stabs not only from a back anymore
Generally I'm a pretty nice person I've never cheated on anyone if you've relationship I've been cheated on and I've never ended the relationship has always been somebody else I genuinely think I don't deserve any of this at all and that's why I want to give up
This is a prime of example of still figuring out the world. You were too young to understand life. String of relationships at the age you are describing (freshmen boys? so are you 14? Awefully young to have any real meaningful relationships). In fact, most people use highschool (and even middle school but god damn, you shouldn't be dating that early in life) to have fun flings for relationships. Because rarely is anyone going to be mature enough to understand love, commitment, and major life decisions of that nature. In fact, they are so overwhelming for many that they staying in any one relationship for too long is a binding feeling. No one wants that in the freedom years of being a minor. Once you hit college, you still get some of that but then you also start getting people that are looking for their future. And honestly, it's smart move to do during your college years. That is where you will meet the most people, after college is finished, you will find a hole in terms of how you find people to meet (sure you can go to clubs and bars, but that's not necessarily the same thing and you aren't guaranteed to see the same people again). Church is probably another similar place to college and highschools where you see the same people over and over to get to know them. And then last is your work place, your job. But there are negative connotations relationships in the work place and even further risk factors like sexual harassment polices that make it uncomfortable to even try. But anyhow, you should know some of this by now in college. Let me tell you, the older you get even when you hit 40, 50, 60 years old... your views on life WILL change and adapt as you get older. No matter what. Because you are always accruing experiences.
I believe love is possible, but it’s wonderful to be able to be happy without it. I think, I hope, being able to reach your happiest without someone loving yourself to the fullest, can make enough room for someone to show you that they are on your side, and they love you. Maybe not, but who knows.
I hate to tell you this but "love" is not real and doesn't last. I'm 59, been married 3 times. All my husbands started out nice, but ended up being losers. Other men I've dated were not trust worthy. Men are liars. How do I know this. I worked as an escort for a few years and I can't tell you how many so called "good" family men were my clients. Guys, who's wives would never suspect. Many times their wives would phone while they were with me. The guys would say they were at the store or at the office......even if you think you have a good guy, you don't. Don't ever trust any man, they are all liars.
Well there is a reason for this and of course we do have to work together to make it all work. But men have been running the show for way too long. I don't care how unprivileged you are as a man. You are still more privileged than any woman because the way that you are looked at by other men and in society at large is that you built society and built all the infrastructure that we use everyday that we see all around us. So long story short men are entitled. Now it's going to take a woman or women with their beautiful, gentle feminine energy to turn this Nuclear war zone of a planet; away from an extinction level event.
Wow that was pretty deep. I've been struggling with this to since I went through a break up recently and a few minutes ago I was wondering if I'm even meant for anyone but this video helped a bit. Thank you!!
It’s unfairly easy for women to find love literally anytime anywhere they want. Because they get to choose if they want to date someone or not when you ask them out. And that’s way outta men’s control.
At least you had relationships. I´m 28 and a lesbian. Women just don´t like me and I have never been in a relationship (I feel attracted to women but I´m ugly), so I give up on dating, I´m done.
I gave up years ago because over 20 years ago one girl managed to mess up my head (in good way) with her eyes only. Sadly I figured out what was going on too late and we couldn't even talk to each other for years. Unfortunately I started seeing other women in completely different way after that. Almost like all other women became boring compared to her even though nothing really happened. I rarely get attracted to anyone but this is ridiculous. Problem now is that I still remember way too much about her to just forget everything. Now at 38 and without any experience it's too late anyway.
I have freed myself and sacrificed my illusions of romance As a reward I have found something greater than the mythical broken promise once made to me that I was a fool to believe in The disillusion of the lie that true love exists shall not depress me There is no obligation in finding "undying love" Therefore there is no burden upon me I am now free to enjoy the endless adventures that life has to offer without the expectation of someone sticking beside me at the risk of another heart break
I gave up.
It's always one of two things.
1. Meet someone and make a move, then be rejected.
2. Meet someone, take it slow and develop things, Then be strung along .......and rejected.
I'm so damaged I don't even feel that 'spark' anymore.
same
same
I agree
Cringe
I feel you.
There's nothing I want more in life than love...and I feel so powerless to get it
I hope you've found it
Bruh i dont even want that no more 💀
I am 28 (nearly 29years old) and i gave up on looking for love (outside of my unconditional love for my family).
After having my trust go from battered to being destoryed about 7 women i have learnt the following things.
Love does not exist.
If it does exist it is not worth it!
Thats why i have learnt to walk away from it and let it be.👍🏻
(Edit: I am now 30, still feel the same & still single 👍🏻)
Truer words have never been spoken
Am going through the same exact thing
love exists, giving up on love is part of love, believe in love and love is real
Same but I'm 32
@@Shirdoonn there is no reason what so ever for that comment...
At least you had relationships 🙄
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Agreed
Yes im a 22 year old female and ive never been in a relationship like ive been hit with a plague! So, really, i dont even know what to do/why to do it! Ive had enoughhhh!!! 😤😤😤😤😤😤
Right?! Fuck it, I'm just gonna give up and maybe end it all...maybe I'll feel something in another life
@@ajmosutra7667 well as Jordan Peterson said it isint the other people it's you.
Lol I think I'm infected with that same disease you have lol.
I gave up in 2011. After a brutal rejection, I gave up on love altogether. I think in my next life, I’ll be much cooler, and less awkward to the point where I will have a significant other.
3DS Takemaru God bless you, see you there!
See you there, man!
Working on bettering urself is the way to go. Its not gonna be for others. Its gonna be for urself and ur self esteem. I swear that ull feel better abt urself. Since you are in this life might as well make the most of it. Maybe ull even find that special someone.
Exactly how I feel although I don't believe in reincarnation. But I've always imagined reincarnating into a cooler person. I was socially awkward as a young boy and it's messed up my childhood in a way.
May God bless you🤍
I don't believe in love its just to hard :(
Me too its so frikin hard
To me, it's unfair.
Yup I look ugly so it’s over for me. Virgin and never dated. Oh well I guess. Now days you have to NOT BE A VIRGIN in order to even get a date in the first place! So in other words, it’s impossible. Just give up lmao
@@fastquick4266 This isn't funny.
EntertainmentFan just spitting facts
I feel like true love no exist now a days
It never did. Because love in general never existed either, it's a lie meant to get people married and having babies.
VINCIEHALO making babies is literally the point of our existence smart one. Every animal needs to reproduce
@@northernknight7787 true, but some animals reproduce to only a couple hundred on the planet
And no. It doesn
Gotta work on your grammer mate
I'm 31, never married, and haven't been on a date in over a year. No regrets.
I am 24, never had a date, and have given up on trying! No regrets
Watch migtow
COD Mobile no i dont hate women lmao
Lol
Hey you're like me. I'm 34. Never married. Never been in a relationship. Never been on a date. Never kissed anyone at all in my life. And no one has ever liked me either. No regrets.
Im 26 i gave up because im to loyal so nobody wants me 😒
Relatable :)
Same...
Sammmmmeee
Same Nd m 31
@wolf This is random, but cool profile pic
I give up on love. I've been loved and showed love in diffrent ways to other's . Now it is about making money to be saved so I can live healthy. No more getting hurt for me. Maybe in another life someone will love me the way I love them. It makes me sad to say so. My most important relationship is myself now. Thank you for posting 🙂.
Yeah i feel the same way, im only 21 but i realized that everytime i try to find love i get destroyed even more than the previous relationship. Its as if the universe itself is telling me to give up on it and focus on myself
@@exeterd9💚Wishing you wellness. Self love😊💚.
@@-Ms.L you too stay safe out there 💜
I’m 18, I’m thinking of giving up too
Women wouldn’t want a guy like me around anyway
I gave up on it last year!I actually feel better now that I no longer want it.I haven't had a relationship since 20!
Lol how do you give up ???
Please help
@@grimmreaper1012 I am coming up on 2 years now and it kinda sucks but I feel protected from other people.
Since 20? Me since birth
I’m 16 and I’m starting to lose faith. I think some people just aren’t cut out for it.
Edit 2020:
I have met someone six months ago who's really awesome and fallen in love with her. Don't give up, I felt the same way but things always come around as long as you try to be a good person.
Without sounding like a hypocrite, I think you should hold on.
You're still young. I didn't fall in love until I was 22.
Granted, it was a catastrophe and so was the second and third times (but that's me).
I really had my chances in my early 20's, but I was shy and had no self confidence.
Go for it !. If you feel something for somebody,Tell them. You may get rejected but at least you're in the game.
Wait and you'll end up with like me, looking back on missed chances with a black lump where your heart used to be.
This is true
You're 16 you got all the time in the world
Lol 41 still not layed
Lol 16.... you’re kidding right ?
I love how everyone in the comment section are done with relationships 🤣
You think this is FUNNY?
@@EntertainmentFan11 it's not funny. We just are a one group, and that's what op loves because nobody is telling us to keep fighting for love. It's sad but it's funny
You ain't seen nothing yet young lady. people like me that give up on love after decades of abuse, cheating and pain. I know what I want but it is NOT out there...
I’m starting to accept that love is not in the cards for me anymore. I’ve tried & not tried & everything in between but in all it’s pretty much over for me. I completely understand where you’re coming from.
same here. ugh
same here. ugh
How old are you?
Same here. I'm 38 😢
I don’t believe in love because it’s caused me life changing damage. I’ve never been in a relationship but have tried to get into one and every time I did it went horribly wrong. Love is now something I avoid/suppress to the best of my ability just so that I’m safe from its harm.
Same here
Guys have it worse. At least you have guys coming to you and asking for your number and wanting to get to know you. Guys are the ones having to initiate everything.
Yes but it also sucks waiting around for guys to take initiative, and also watching my back to make sure any initiative I take doesn’t come off too strong/“masculine”
Not always...some women do initiate
@@skrattherat1 Like fuck they do! For God's sake guys who are single are automatically viewed as predators. Guys who are taken are better respected. Plus whenever I had girlfriends, other ladies flocked over me. Now for the past 7 years since I got dumped, I can't even get a dumb call or text. And even if I do, I'm strung along and then dumped while ego boy gets picked.
@@SinisterScoundrel6562 from my perspective, guys are no better. The ones that show initiative come off as just seeking ass off the bat. Nothing is sincere. And when a female take the initiative then that scares them off.
They will never understand. That is why I have no sympathy for old single women. They had all those options, they can f*ck off.
I don't believe in love and I still don't to this day. It's been quite a while since I came to this conclusion.
Never let yourself fall in love with these bitches. They all look for the BBD,bigger better deal. If you let yourself love,you will be hurt in the end. Trust me
I’m 24, I’ve only had one boyfriend and that breakup/ghosting situation was enough for me to throw my hands up with love....so yeah I’ve given up on it.
I've had a very similar situation to you. I'm 24 and have only had one Boyfriend. the way we broke up ruined me and left me with alot of scars. I've also given up 😔
I'm sorry...I hope someone comes along one day who will rock your socks off and make you realize that you are lovable, worthy, and enough❤
@@Destiny_rae Same story here as well! I don't think true love exist for me.
Dudeee no
You give up over one person try getting hurt over and over. You give up You come across the right guy and you reject him because you're too hurt.
I’m turning 40 in few months and now I’m starting to believe it’s no longer gonna happen
People don’t like love. They like that flitters flirty feeling in their stomachs when they think they’re experiencing it. They don’t know what actual love is. Love is full of sacrifices. Love is not one sided. Love shouldn’t be “what can they do for me” it should be “what can I do for them? What can we do for each other?”
YES!!!!
I learned to give up that true love for the ex I dated and now I learned that I can live without romantic love or find someone else. In my case, I found someone else I could do for them.
I gave up on love it hurts too much so now staying single until the day I pass this mortal world hopefully not to long!! I hope I don’t come back if there is a second life!! Life is way to painful and I’m not ready to be in world
@Trinexx007 please don't. You're worth it 😘
@Trinexx007 l hope you still alive.
This shitty world doesn't deserve even for us to take our lives
You are not alone.
Im 30 and im also done.
I have lost all trust in women, i wont let myself go through it again and i wont let anyone else date the one i have become.
I'm 48 and no one no one has ever treated me like I deserve and that's with regards to respect honesty loyalty love care, I've been betrayed backstabbed hurt that many times my heart is in a million pieces, I've given up I'm too old now and it's too late obviously the universe deems me as unworthy even if I keep telling them I deserve better doesn't matter what or how hard I've tried, it just never happens for me, I'm not a sad case either, I've got to the point where I've just totally and utterly given up on honest love only thing I've received in life is pain and hurt, I've shut my heart 💔 off and I've shut it down completely no one will ever hurt me again in life ever period.
I’m over 40 and already give up on love. Tired of dead ended emotionally and verbally abusive men who play head games. Tired of having to look like a movie star just to get a date or be treated with respect. I’m over it.
I gotta say that the modern culture where people are not able to commit to a person long-term / change partners all the time in the form of a throwaway culture contributes largely to the fact that people looking for a long-term relationship become unhappy because they seemingly can't find anyone with that conservative mindset as opposed to hook-up culture. But I do believe there is someone out there, you just gotta do what makes you happy (hobbies) and the right person might be there. Also, I don't think it's healthy to obsess about that topic - if that's what you're doing, online dating might be the best thing to start things off quickly. I am in my early to mid 20s, never kissed someone, nor do I care about that or the expectations of anyone that I should have done blablabla by twenty-something. Compassion & staying true to your values will eventually lead to success I believe & regardless, I strongly believe it is zero of anyone's business what I do regarding anything, e.g., my life decisions. Much love from Europe
I got cheated on after a 4 year relationship. I am 31 years old and I thought she was the one I was gonna marry and have kids with. She decided to leave me for some older guy who knows famous people and has connections and she "need to go and work towards her future". She had told me about this guy before and he was just a friend and how cool he was cause he had "connections". I loved her with my entire being and I was not even a bad boyfriend. I am a wonderful person, if I was a piece of crap, she wouldn't have been with me for 4 years. She met this new guy after starting a new job and within weeks, she started to change. I later found out, I was cheated on for 4 months and when she had the new guy locked in, she basically told me to fuck off through text message. She didn't even come get her things from our apartment and she left me just like that. I'm old af and I feel like this was my last shot.
Bitch didn't deserve you
Forget about the trash
And know you deserve the best.
That's your typical text book hypergamy m8. 😑
I recently gave up because someone I’ve known and liked for 6-7 years now - who I thought had the same relationship values as me and had witnessed me in a toxic relationship - became a toxic relationship himself….and my trust is completely broken. I feel like I can’t trust anybody now…
Lady, as a girl like you, you saying about it after you at least HAD a real relationship is easy. Now, if you never had any real relationship during the years from your existence, I really doubt if you can walk and tell us enough to not give up on love.
Miss, during my 21 years from existence, I always had bad luck at love. during in my whole life, all I just wanted is someone to not just date and have sex, but also someone to put me a shoulder while I'm crying, hug me when I get pretty depressed, a friend to have fun like playing videogames, watch anime, and even to talk the stories I had create to my drawings, this what I just want.
And what I gained? disappointment in love, lies, psychological abuse and cheat (these two lasts from an ex-friend I used consider as my big brother), suffering and neglect. I surely don't want to be alone, I wanted to someday get married and have my kids, but the way how is world and society working, and all what I passed during my teen times - I can't believe anymore to think I'll still have someone to stay with me.
I really hope someone comes along in your life who will treat you well
i have never given up on love because it never existed in me in the first place when i see my friends dating i just congratulate them and i always told them that in their wedding i'd like to be the planner
Giving up is the best thing I ever did & I gave up a lot older than most. Should've given up at least 10 years ago because that's when all the worst things happened. Now if I see someone I could like I just imagine they are not available. Easy!
Dont spend your childhood and youth concerning yourself with adult matters. Plenty of time to stress and deal with life when you're older. You're only young once.
an actual good comment, thank you sir or ma'am
i'm turning thirty-eight next week, and i gave up dating. cause a lot of women lost the translation on how to bond PROPERLY. stupid insta-hookup bullshit...
also someone who is still living today, told me these words, "you're hopeless and a failure...". with that stuck in my mind till i die, that is going to make me completely stop dating.
crazy cat dad for life...
Honestly, life is short af. Don't waste time thinking about the bad parts of it and just, GO FOR IT!
Ur amazing 💕💕
Spoken like someone who has not been hit by the bad parts of it.
"If you're homeless, just buy a house."
At this point I’m starting to quit because I’ve been rejected every time and the 2 relationships I had was one out of pity and one cheated on me and I’m just like screw it forget it
Hello stranger same case for me 😏
Single life is better
@@alizam1655 agreed, still am single btw and I added on to my relationship fails now we’re up to 3 cheatings and 1 used still
I'm 19 at the moment and I'm gonna give up on love if I'm still single at 30. I had a girlfriend a year ago and things hasn't been the same for me mentally since we broke up.
Im 30. Loved my first gf with all my heart. She cheated on me. Two suicide attempts and two years later, I fell in love again. Got cheated again. I no longer trust women, of any kind.
I gave up on love. I will never find anyone and every single time I ever liked anyone, all I ever got was rejected. I just no longer care. I know no girl is ever gonna give me a chance at love and love me. If I don't even try anymore, then I can't be disappointed.
I'm giving up on love this generation of people just make it to hard no such thing has free love anymore
I am 32 and about to give up. I found this video in search of other people feeling the same way. I feel like the current culture has cut love out. I am fairly attractive, stable, and interesting. I have no problem at all finding dates and flings, but women today are just not looking for love. I am going from fling to fling to fling getting hurt each time because I am basically being used by a spoiled girl who thinks she is a celebrity. I have been cheated on, ghosted, the whole nine. I had one good relationship in my life, lived with the girl of my dreams for 4 years... she ended up cheating on me and leaving me for one of my coworkers. That broke my heart into a million peices. She was the love of my life and I thought we were going to be together forever. I blew it. Now I just don't feel like trying anymore. I can get sex whenever I want, so there is no problem there, I just and never going to have the courage to give another woman my heart after what happened last time.
Get over it , failure is part of life
@@bak3456 I got over it. I met an amazing girl 1 year ago and we are now married. She is beautiful, amazing, and we make great partners. I think my problem was dating too many American girls. I found a foreign girl (just came to USA a year before I met her) and it was night and day. She is a real partner, carries her weight and doesn't act like a princess that I need to entertain and support 24/7. she is MAGA too which is dope, all the American girls seem to have some weird hatred of Trump that makes it awkward for me as I have to bite my tongue and pretend to still be in the matrix and not red pilled. I can completely be myself around her. She has traveled the world and like me understands that USA is by far the best country in the world. She saved her whole life to get here, and laughs at the spoiled american 14-25 year old kids that whine all day that everything is not free and handed to them on a silver platter. I too have lived in multiple countries and know what is up. She is also 10 years younger than me so we can enjoy our marriage together before rushing to have kids. If I married a girl my age it would be kind of a "now or never" scenario to have kids.
TLDR: the problem is just American girls in the age of instagram.
strongocho glad you find the right one 👍🏾
I already gave up on Love along time ago I’ve already figured that if God’s not sending me the woman of my dreams now then he probably never will and if I’m not worthy now I’ll never be worthy
Hi Everyone, I have given up on love in the past, but not anymore. Love does exist. The problem is we chase something that isn't necessarily something we need. Love is all around. It is in the way your mum or dad worries about you. Love is a dog excited to see his/her owner after a long day of work. It is in kindness you show with strangers. Every time you do something (no matter how small) for something else. I send you all love. We are not alone in what you are feeling. There is so much more to love than a husband/boyfriend/girlfriend/wife etc. It is the love for yourself. Every time you brush your teeth or even put a face mask on. You are giving love to yourself. Please don't give up on love. You are the epitome of love. Katie you are a wonderful person and you are more loved than you realise. xxx
Looks matter 100%. Doesn’t matter what anyone tells you. If you’re ugly, it’s over. I know it sucks and wish it didn’t have to be that way
There is no such thing as unconditional love... It's always conditional. If unconditional love existed, why don't you still love your ex?
Well I use to love this way I’m sure some other do it’s cost a lot to do so
We do... but we realize we can't be with them.
You can’t give up on love if love doesn’t exist. I’ve been searching and searching and EVERY SINGLE TIME I thought I found someone I would get shot down, rejected, laughed at, etc. Nobody wants me, nobody will ever want me. I am worthless. I am unloveable. I am better off dead.
Hey Austin don't have such thoughts about yourself. Don't let all that affect you negatively. You just met people who didn't appreciate you. Never let people define who you are.. Start by loving yourself and doing stuff that makes you happy. Always remember you are loveable and most of you are worth so much dear.
Since childhood, we are dictated to believe the reason for life is love. Girls with barbies and boys with spiderman. Everyone is wishing for that kiss. But there is so much more in life. Getting stuck on the kiss is not fair to yourself.
Im 23 my ex broke my heart real bad I loved him so much and he didn't feel same way. I give up love relationships. Gonna buy some cats.
Thanks for the story still done with it all.
Love isn't for everyone.
I'll just die sad, alone, and forgotten.
It's all just lot of hassle and work for little gain that's not even a guarantee.
Who the hell would be stupid enough to cheat on you?!?! My gosh you're beautiful!
I'm tired of dating.. I've been single for 5 years now and I give up on love already.
We humans can be really shallow.....and too high expectations...
But what if you're attractive but still gets rejected??? My friend said these women all think the same...I might as well be a dog, I don't wanna be but that's the sad truth
Im 31, have tried everything and actually put effort into getting to know my dates without coming on too strong but every single time I get told not long after the date that im not what they're looking for. It's like the same as being told you're not good enough. Being told that as many times as I have, you lose the will power to keep trying. I'm just about ready to hang it up.. what's the point anymore lol 😂
In all videos like this, the danger is generalisation. People always vary a lot.
Love is real but only for the lucky. I've given up on it personally. Just focus on enjoying life alone.
Hi Katie Smith since I was 15 till now at 37 I've been alone 23 Valentine's Day now on my 23rd Valentine's Day today I'm giving up on love
Thank you for this video, Katie, but I still feel like it's all HOPELESS for me. I sometimes cry myself to sleep at night, and I always sing sad songs to cope with my misery. Seriously, it's THAT bad. It's even WORSE on Valentine's Day. What should I do? 😢💔
Thats awesome! That means that you care.. that you havent given up.. crying means that you are willing to fight for it.. if you have given up you would be numb and wouldn't care anymore.. thats the worst feeling ever.. music is the best thing ever.. dont feel stupid for feeling something.. by the way.. im 38 and have been beaten a loooot in my life.. still alive and kicking ;)
@@speesy Easy for YOU to say. You don't have it as bad as I do. I don't even think I'm WORTHY of true love. 😭 💔
That's true that's why I gave up years ago. Hee hee .
I'm like tearing up the whole video
I have not had a girlfriend for several years. I've been single most of my adult life since 2000. Can you be content single?, sure but if one doesn't want to be single I don't believe it's healthy. Keep in mind that I mean this in the context that one should not look to relationships for happiness however if one wants a relationship for the right reason (because of their sexuality) , they probably should go for it but should never excessively worry about being single or let it bother them.
Honestly I’m 37 years old and I’m done with heartache I only had just one love in my life and that’s it I’m just done I just find that it’s just too overwhelming and also it’s just people are just so the same because everybody connects and relates I have a hard time with that and I’m completely different so I’m completely done.
Gave up years ago. Love dosent exist unless its parent to child. I got my family my friends my buisness and my hobbies. Like Tina turner said Love? Just a second hand emotion.
You’re young. At least you had many relationships. Try going through life ALONE. Wanting ONLY a loving partner and a chance to be a parent. Try getting called ugly, not worth it or just flat out laughed at. I’ve had ONE real relationship in my 32 years of existence. After 8 years of being together she gave up on me, her family, and life. Try having that in your life darling. Going on six years now and I’m still alone and hurting. No matter what I do or try I always get rejected, just as I always have.
You are a pretty, young woman and as long as you are true to yourself and the one you’re with you’ll be fine and will find someone right for sure. You don’t have my luck.
Who needs to be in a this thing called relationship which is disgusting when you have your family instead of having a bf or gf that comes and goes which is a waste of time
I'm considering giving up now, 2 women have claimed to love me deeply, the first decided after 3 days that she didn't want a future with me, the second married me then revealed herself to be a spoiled brat that had me pushing myself to nearly crashing my car through sheer exhaustion to provide for her and when I said that I was tired she didn't care and called me selfish then divorced me leaving me almost penniless.
I gave up simply because nobody wanted to be in a relationship with me
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I had a love that lasted 10 almost 11 years and she just walked away from it and now mentally I feel if I can’t keep here after all that time how can I keep or think about getting someone new?
Honestly, I don't believe in it anymore... It's a joke. What's the point of love if I don't get to benefit from it while the people around me are in long term relationships, married and having kids and I on the other hand deal with the short end of the stick that is life, unwanted, losing control and losing my freedom because of lack of money and debt and dealing with negativity, I'm addicted to it, I feel like I want to burn all of my bridges and run away. People giving me advice annoy me, it infuriates me to hear the same advise only for it to be superficial and ineffective because I'm still depressed. Lonely and exhausted from waiting for someone to try because nobody cares to try for an ugly guy like me, a failure and such.
I start to hate everything... The only escapism being video games and even then I'm not allowed to enjoy a single second because my free time is being eaten up by family because they rather have me work and no relaxation.
Love doesn't exist.
I gave up on believing love exists for me. I never had any guy ever interested in me nor was I ever good enough for someone. So unfortunately apart from crying it’s the only thing I had to make.
Honestly after rejected and led on so much in my life I came to the point where I have given up, especially after my latest rejection. She still really wants to be friends but I don't want to be for the sake of letting her be happy and to move on with her bf. Gonna go back to my old ways of heavily drinking because guys remember: Alcohol before love and all
Girl, life is gonna get even tougher n tougher.. i thought near 30 was gonna be crazy, but after 30 is getting crazier than before, n each passing years after 30 is like stabs not only from a back anymore
Generally I'm a pretty nice person I've never cheated on anyone if you've relationship I've been cheated on and I've never ended the relationship has always been somebody else I genuinely think I don't deserve any of this at all and that's why I want to give up
I just gave up completely to be honest I'm much much better now I accepted the idea of that some people are just meant to be alone
This is a prime of example of still figuring out the world. You were too young to understand life. String of relationships at the age you are describing (freshmen boys? so are you 14? Awefully young to have any real meaningful relationships). In fact, most people use highschool (and even middle school but god damn, you shouldn't be dating that early in life) to have fun flings for relationships. Because rarely is anyone going to be mature enough to understand love, commitment, and major life decisions of that nature. In fact, they are so overwhelming for many that they staying in any one relationship for too long is a binding feeling. No one wants that in the freedom years of being a minor. Once you hit college, you still get some of that but then you also start getting people that are looking for their future. And honestly, it's smart move to do during your college years. That is where you will meet the most people, after college is finished, you will find a hole in terms of how you find people to meet (sure you can go to clubs and bars, but that's not necessarily the same thing and you aren't guaranteed to see the same people again). Church is probably another similar place to college and highschools where you see the same people over and over to get to know them. And then last is your work place, your job. But there are negative connotations relationships in the work place and even further risk factors like sexual harassment polices that make it uncomfortable to even try. But anyhow, you should know some of this by now in college. Let me tell you, the older you get even when you hit 40, 50, 60 years old... your views on life WILL change and adapt as you get older. No matter what. Because you are always accruing experiences.
Love is a word in the dictionary. Words ain't real; they're imaginary.
There is life after dating. Im living proof 30 years single.
Love is dead it is over people.
I believe love is possible, but it’s wonderful to be able to be happy without it. I think, I hope, being able to reach your happiest without someone loving yourself to the fullest, can make enough room for someone to show you that they are on your side, and they love you. Maybe not, but who knows.
I was just searching the rick astly song, how did I end up here?
I hate to tell you this but "love" is not real and doesn't last. I'm 59, been married 3 times. All my husbands started out nice, but ended up being losers. Other men I've dated were not trust worthy. Men are liars. How do I know this. I worked as an escort for a few years and I can't tell you how many so called "good" family men were my clients. Guys, who's wives would never suspect. Many times their wives would phone while they were with me. The guys would say they were at the store or at the office......even if you think you have a good guy, you don't. Don't ever trust any man, they are all liars.
Well there is a reason for this and of course we do have to work together to make it all work. But men have been running the show for way too long. I don't care how unprivileged you are as a man. You are still more privileged than any woman because the way that you are looked at by other men and in society at large is that you built society and built all the infrastructure that we use everyday that we see all around us. So long story short men are entitled. Now it's going to take a woman or women with their beautiful, gentle feminine energy to turn this Nuclear war zone of a planet; away from an extinction level event.
Wow that was pretty deep. I've been struggling with this to since I went through a break up recently and a few minutes ago I was wondering if I'm even meant for anyone but this video helped a bit. Thank you!!
It’s unfairly easy for women to find love literally anytime anywhere they want. Because they get to choose if they want to date someone or not when you ask them out. And that’s way outta men’s control.
But I wanted to listen to giving up on love by Rick Astley
At least you had relationships. I´m 28 and a lesbian. Women just don´t like me and I have never been in a relationship (I feel attracted to women but I´m ugly), so I give up on dating, I´m done.
I have giving up finding love ever since my ex friend got married two years earlier
Let's just be friends
Its also hard for me to give up on love when being with someone is what I really want.
Too much of a headache to try.
1. i never gived up on love
2. u just look relaxing to watch
3. you're relaxing
After being played by the girl i thought was the one i wanted to be with forever, ive given up too. Fuck it
Sorry but I’m not looking for love anymore. I’d rather die alone.
I gave up years ago because over 20 years ago one girl managed to mess up my head (in good way) with her eyes only. Sadly I figured out what was going on too late and we couldn't even talk to each other for years. Unfortunately I started seeing other women in completely different way after that. Almost like all other women became boring compared to her even though nothing really happened. I rarely get attracted to anyone but this is ridiculous.
Problem now is that I still remember way too much about her to just forget everything.
Now at 38 and without any experience it's too late anyway.
Rule number 1 about dating: never get advice from a woman.
I will not survive the pain I'm struggling to get through the next time. For that reason, staying out is the only way I will keep my life.
I have freed myself and sacrificed my illusions of romance
As a reward I have found something greater than the mythical broken promise once made to me that I was a fool to believe in
The disillusion of the lie that true love exists shall not depress me
There is no obligation in finding "undying love"
Therefore there is no burden upon me
I am now free to enjoy the endless adventures that life has to offer without the expectation of someone sticking beside me at the risk of another heart break
ℹ no longer have faith in humanity
it's just not for everyone
True
The only time I get love is when I’m playing tennis...
At least you tried to convince me