Hi I just want to say thank you so much for bottom of my heart for your videos.. as you know, I’ve been watching your videos. I learned a lot…. I walked away from a three year and a half relationship… July 11, 2024. It is now September 8, 2024… she pushed me away. I got up, grab my things I walked out…. 20 minutes later she text me I did not respond… couple days later she text me again.. again she text me back a couple hours. I never responded…. Still no contact… for what you done for me they help me a lot.. I go to the gym twice a day six times a week.. it really hurt what she did.. Listen to your videos, the more I get stronger for myself.. I stand as a man I stay in my masculine I just go forward.. I’m getting ready to go on a cruise in December. I’m looking forward to it… I’m gonna do some traveling.. to keep myself busy… I just wanna say thank you so much…💪
No contact is the greatest thing ever! I know it’s difficult but, it works so well that the hardest part is figuring out if you want to take your ex back after no contact.
@@thomesc6214bcuz they proved that they're not trustworthy as a long-term 4ever partner. The real question is why would you want somebody back that broke ur trust?
My ex is back after 9 months of no contact. I haven’t responded to his text or answered his calls because I’m unsure if I want him back now. A part of me does, but a bigger part of me feels like he doesn’t deserve this new version of me.
I did this, 9 months no contact.... He came back and we got engaged... and then he broke up with me again, for the same reason, 11 months after coming back. 3 years of this back and forth.... idk, just so you know what could happen all over again, my friend. This is my personal story. Trust your instincts.
“And no one puts new wine into old wineskins; otherwise the new [fermenting] wine will [expand and] burst the skins and it will be spilled out, and the skins will be ruined. But new wine must be put into fresh wineskins.” Luke 5:37-38 AMP
No contact works my ex started calling and texting after three weeks. We even met up and after two weeks. We are finally back together two months strong 💪
I was blowing up her phone for a couple weeks then I was blocked on everything. I finally started to realize I’m not who she really wants anymore.. it’s been 2 months of no contact and one thing I’ll always remember is how much time, money and love I wasted for this girl who just left me for her co worker. 2 years of unconditional love I gave her. I’m hurt, sad and depressed at the same time but I need to be strong enough to never go back if she ever contacts me again..
Yeah, if she left you for someone else it's a disrespect, I am sure that you could have done it to her and left for someone else. Never take her back it would be unwise. This was premeditated and opportunistic
If she do ever try to come back it's only to use you for something or she found out that the grass wasn't greener on the other side. Stay away from that heartbreaker😔
I was used as a rebound and she has finally finished using me and turn off like a switch. I went through the phase of blowing up her phone (only very shortly for one day, the rest was just very occasional sporadic and random contact) none of this went past a week after it officially ended. I felt all that you described . Even though I stopped calling, messaging on regular messages and her social media she blocked me on those lol, it made me realize it's like she thinks way too highly of herself blocking me even when I was mot even contacting her. Anyway I then started forcing myself to distract by binge watching things you liked/like, started improving myself physically by working out and eating well, and continuing to plan improvements in all parts of my life. It's not a weakness to be single, improve yourself as you heal which time will do along with your betterment of yourself. Be good to yourself and stay strong... keep knowing you deserve better than the person who didn't appreciate value or see your worth.
My ex is back after two months but im scared to ever take her back because this the 2nd time she's dumped me. I can't keep getting dumped it's not healthy
@@ChrisEllis-jx6qs I understand! Continue finding out who you are and loving yourself. Enjoy your life! Don’t let anyone take that away from you! She didn’t give you joy and she can’t take it away!
Been there with my ex wife and I'm telling you now she's going to do it again and again. Just get rid of her now and you'll save yourself from the bigger problem that will most definitely come later. It will be peaceful and better for you trust me it's better without her and stay single in America bro
BEST content on the internet! We have to DETACH By going no-contact. It creates emotional disconnect and helps you to see “the ex” clearly, instead of through rose colored glasses. If they discarded you, THAT IS how you are to remember them…as someone who was cruel and threw you away. It requires rewiring the brain though. The brain wants to fix a problem. So it keeps you strategizing “the how” to fix it but THE ONLY way to truly disconnect and detach is by going no contact.
I agree ...even I'm only in 3 days in no contact, after a year of begging, she did not respont for six months and I did not stop, but now its enough, its what you said cruel and disrespectful.
@@ghstyt.728 its just waves man. When I'm out and about (gym, hanging out with friends, work, doing things), I feel real good and kinda forget about the whole breakup thing. On my downtime, that's when I start to think about her again. It was noticeably worse earlier in the breakup, but as time goes by, it's been getting better for me.
@@basicinfo2022 funny to look back at this post. I’ve spent the rest of the time to heal myself before going back to the dating scene. Continued going to the gym, hanging out with friends, and venting to my close friends & family. I met someone new after; she just asked to be my gf yesterday. I wish nothing but the best to my ex, and i’m happy with where i’m at in life now.
1 year of NC and being blocked. I've moved on from the breakup even tho It still hurts to be avoided but I stopped hoping for him to come back and got myself back! I feel better without him! I binge watched you and Coach Lee videos throughout the tough breakup and used the tools and advice to better myself. THANK YOU COACH BLAC ♥️🙏🏽
A lot can happen in a year. You go girl. Don't let ANYONE destroy your self worth like that. You deserve way better. If they didn't value you enough to work on things then that just speaks of where their values and priorities are truly. It's too bad. I really thought we had a good connection and that he was the most compatible out of all of my other relationships from the past but I guess he didn't think the same way. It's very unfortunate when this happends. I thought he was it. Guess he didn't think I was. His standards of what a wife should be are WAYY too high, and maybe even impossible.
7 months broken up after 6 years... ...5 months of the occassional, sporadic contact, before a big abrupt fight via sms led to block on social media. Sent her a text saying okay, maybe the block is for the best. So we can both heal and stop senseless fighting. 2 months full no contact. Getting more clarity with each day. Finally getting better. Do occassionally miss her. Yday was her birthday. Didn't send. Wish her all the best. But eyes front...
my ex called the cops on me and tried to ruin me..... after a year and half of no contact... she found out where i work out and started to stalk me daily for 9 months!!! i didnt break or cave in to say hi acknowledge her... i was hurt!!! story short all that silent treatment made her go crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hitting the wall when walking past me to get my attention... trying to bymp into me physically!! ect.... its amazing how tables turned!! i thought we will never see each other again in our lives with how bad it ended between us..... its good now she is suffering and im eating everything up!!. also i would like to add, i was the person to always chase!!!!! took my power back!
can i ask you, did you completely ignore her, even if she wrote you during nc? im in that stage now but it's hard to keep it up i was dumped from my wife
@@officialmr.madness6655 i ignored the shit out of her because by that time i was legit just disgusted and over it..... she did me dirtty and i was legit an amazing lover... people need to lose you to know your value.... she did by the time she came back,,, i realized her value also....TRASH
My ex tried to put me in jail . With lies about me hitting her . She was cheating on me and wanted me out of her life . We have 3 kids together been really hard . She left without telling me and took my kids to California
No contact doesn't always work. But, it has given me clarity, and i see i things that i can improve on. I felt the loss I had from her so badly. I've never felt a pain like this. We broke up before and got back together.
No contact helps the soul and you are at peace … prayers still go out to them … I wish them happiness and great health … my love will never die for her …
She just quit 6mo ago and I’ve never heard from her again after 2 years together - then past 2 days she suddenly watched all my WhatsApp stories. It really is unbelievable how people just dump and run. Best thing is the timing - I was in NYC taking the trip we planned together living my best life 😂. We’re not on socials together so it really was pure karma timing! She still doesn’t reach out though. So that’s all I need to know.
Yup, mine was back in 2 weeks and making all the effort. I feel different though, not sure I want to be with someone who didn’t choose me. I am going slow and not giving him any of the “Nancy sweetness” yet. We will see.
My husband of 38 years, he not only left in the middle of the night to go to his mistress , but he mot only blocked me but he blocked his KIDS and his Grandson, he has not reached out to them in 8 months, that’s cruel and hateful. The kids did nothing. 🙁
He moved in 2mths with another woman, he popped up twice since,,asking can we still mess around,,I STOOD MY GROUND..I SAID NO...he Discard it me and showed back up a few weeks later to try again and I said no again
Honestly the best way its ever been described to me! We've tried no contact for 6 months and didn't succeed, but I finally alerted him to the fact i need space 4 days ago, and I can see the changes already. Staying in this energy :)
5 videos in and instantly I’ve become a Subscriber. FINALLY mature, clear, relative, & useful content! I’m very appreciative to have found your Channel. What’s not helpful is when content is negative and even more toxic. I’m trying to build myself and future NOT destroy it. Peace and Blessings.☮️🙏🏾
Ugghhhhhh!!! Man I've tried the no contact twice and we always needed to text each other..but now he posted a video on his social media dancing on someone else.and this month would've been our 3 year relationship anniversary And now all the emotions I had before just hit me like we just broke up 3 months ago and...... I feel so dum and stupid😭😭😭😭 .... I'm starting the no contact tonight..... thank you so much I will be listening to all your videos! 😊😊😊
That's why I am not looking at their instagram stories anymore. They know you'll find a way to see it so they may try to trigger you. Out of sight, out of mind....
I left two years ago and she convinced herself that it was her that left and she went off the rails bashing me trying to destroy my character everything. We have two children together, today she asks me randomly is she a bad person, if i could change something what would it be and do i regret the break up. It messed my head up because she’s never asked that what does that mean
BRAVO BRAVO good sir! I've seen videos on "no contact" explained but not like this. There is so much truth to what you said about taking the ex from "knowing" she can have you back to a place of doubt of "can i?" get him back. No contact is just that but putting doubt in their mind takes things to a whole nother level, as you work to put yourself levels above them where they have to work just to get you to notice them and by then you've noticed that there's better out there and NO they can't measure up. SUBSCRIBED.
I only have one ex and it wasn't serious enough to cook for him. I thank God I didn't have a lot of different hands handling me, most ppl who do or does I notice have a lot of issues. So many it's scary.
Coach, today is Mother’s Day and she is the mother of our daughter, her first Mother’s Day, is it okay to invite her over for dinner? It’s been 5 months separated. And she is sending me signs, and she was the one who said “ are you asking me out on a date” with a huge smile and said “I think Monday after work I’m free!” How does that sound coach??!
So having trying to maintain a subtle infrequent friendship, where we feel comfortable ““ texting one another talking about anything, but the two of I, how do you put no contact into place?
Been split up 6 months, at first I chased for a couple of months, she said she wanted to try again.. after a few days she left me again. I tried no contact but we have a little one. Was his birthday and we ended up having a night together.. next day she’s feeling guilty for giving me false hope. It’s over for good now?
My ex broke up with me in April. She came back at the end of May to give me clarify why our relationship came to end. She told me that I wasn't right person for her. She wants us to be friends. Told me that she would miss me if we never talk again. She did say as well. Will we reconnect in some from. She wants me to be happy but can't be with her. She told me to move on and let go. I have went into the no contact with my ex. I think my ex is giving mix message to me.
@@diegoothman5223 My ex came back at the end off May to give me clarify why our relationship came to the end. The last time I spoken to her was the 21st of August. She made it clear that we weren't get back together again. So I have now completely move on I'm in a new relationship.
They contact me after 10 days of no contact I waiting over 24hrs to process it and finally responded to their I was thinking about you text and we had maybe three messages back and forth and boom stopped talking again cause they are still seeing the new person they’re dating. Wth does that mean ?
horses for coarses, doesnt always work for everyone, depends on the person and circustances. currently 2 weeks since she (my partner) wanted out, but she has high stress from work, and maybe hormone problems as well . come out of nowhere, although stress from work and other factors (not me) caused all this mindset of hers. she's not having none of it atm. you can't just flip feelings like that. not sure what happend to her, but hoping in time she see's sense. so frustrating. but some of the techniques you mention will work on certain scenarios more than others. too long of no contact gives them too much time to forget you, with some people anyway.
7 weeks of no contact, and still nothing from him .I've stayed no contact, but I rhink its time to give up. He unblocked me 7 weeks ago, ive heard nothing.
Too little too late. Thank You Source for giving me eyes to see. I want, and deserve a man that sees ALL the goodness in me from the beginning. I am disappointed, angry, and frustrated that this man wanted to waste my time, did not see the value in me, and had the audacity to think I would like him more then I like myself. I mean this with every fiber of my being, I am the Prize and too bad on you for not having the Wisdom to know better. There are 7 Billion People in the World, the Universe is abundance, Next!
He tested me initially by trying to trigger me then by liking my posts. I was indifferent so he reached out “checking on me”. Said he considers me a friend because he trusts me. I told him I wasn’t sure we were friends. I think his ego was bruised. Do you think he wanted to be friends or just testing the waters? He’s done that before. Im staying NC until he shows more effort but he is a player so very well could be on to the next.
I’m experiencing the same thing, he still wants to be friends with me which can be odd as from he broke up with me so why bother to stay connected with me
@@annemarie7203 I think it’s a way to weasel back in. The text was probably to put a feeler out without being too vulnerable. Mine is an avoidant. I’m not going to make it that easy for him this time around especially because I’ve seen him interacting with other women.
@@Mermaid03_03 yes girl!! I haven’t made it easy on him either as he tried to get back with me saying we should be together again but not putting real effort on his part and wants me to visit him. Then when I didn’t, that’s where we are right now as friends which I don’t get why he still wants to be friends if he said maybe he will look for someone else. So if he wants to stay as my friend I’ll just let him be and focus on my healing 😞
Well my ex and I see one another. We occasionally have lunch. I love seeing him, but I am understanding that when we’re together, I would like to have more. Although I would never say it. We keep it friendly we go to family functions friendly, but it seems to be getting more friendship basis, and I really don’t want to be a good friend.
My ex's mom hates me and was the one threatening me with a restraining order so I'm sure she's constantly spewing shit to my ex that I'm a POS because the mom has a victim complex from dating shitty men and my ex equates me to being just another shitty guy.
@@MillennialtombMan bro I’m in the same situation, sometimes it takes a long time for reality to hit them. The moment you forget about them she will be back.
Question: Does the stages an ex feels during no contact work with an ex if they dumped you and your 20 yr relationship for a 14 yr younger woman and then 9 months later they get married and have a child, will the ex still go through the stages?
Wow! That sucks! It’s so much harder when you’re a bit older (I’m 53) & they just dump, ghost & treat you like shit like that. Heartbreaking & soul-destroying. But, if they treat us like that then we’re better off without them!
Been in no contract 5 months. We work together and don’t speak or walk past each other. I have noticed he is starting to look at me when I walk by now and before he didn’t. Hasn’t tried to speak to me and I will not speak to him first But I do miss him. But he comes back beast. I’d not Great
If the relationship feels perfect and right, it's not. If it feels like you should be with someone else, but something keeps telling you to stay, you're probably with the right person. Yeah, it seems like it should be the opposite, but obviously your instincts aren't very trustworthy if you have an ex. The right person is the one you least expect, not the one you want. Every single time
When I say, I’m Done I’m Done I’m Over you. She does seem confused. It’s like it shocks her. Because deep Down I believe she thinks she could have me back in a flash. I believe it’s a good tactic to mention from Time To Time that I’ve moved On. To have her guessing how easily accessible I actually Am. No contact with kids involved though…
As always, thank you for your videos. Please can you do a video on getting a man to commit. My ex had his heart broken (7 year relationship) We dated for a few months (amazing relationship) he broke it off as he is nervous of getting hurt & having to commit. I did no contact, he reached out, wanted to see me… and now it’s getting to the stage of commitment topic again… and he’s gone cold & can’t give me what I want. What do I do 😢
it’s been 15 days since the break up. I broke nc on day 12 because my anxiety got the best of me and he says he wasn’t ready to talk. Do you think i still have a chance and that he would try to reach out? I started nc again after i broke it. I’ve been struggling :(
Each time you break no contact, you have to start over again. I feel you, I did the same because I worried about her However, I started again and a week later she reached out asking the question she already knew and did not try to continue the convo. You gotta answer as brief as possible. Yet I got a chance so I told her that if she isn’t giving US a chance, I wont stay in her life, so I removed her from most of my social media platforms. But told her to find the way to reach out if she changes her mind and hope it’s not too late. She reacted with a crying emoji, i assume she’s enjoying the stage as she has avoidance attachment style. Ps. She broke up with me saying she wanna work on herself and career (a day before we has some conflicts, it was my fault who asked with interest about her beliefs, she didn’t understand my intentions that I found it interesting ), I asked if she’s sure. Turned out she wasn’t, she wanna distant for 30 days but on the third day she wanted to break up.
We broke up on 15 august,i went to no contact. Now she is posting status on whatsapp which has the songs she shared to me before brake up. What should I do next? Should carry on for 30 days or respond with related status
I decided to tell my ex girlfriend that I'm not interested in meeting with her after she decided to make a joke of my planned date after 'no contact' . Will that statement push her away from me forever?
No just keep your cool, she probably sees desperation oozing from you, cancel last min with a really good and noble excuse, and make her ask for another time, if she doesn’t immediately ask for another day, then say maybe sometime next week, if she doesn’t try to reschedule she doesn’t respect you, & you should just give it up and focus on building yourself up, cuz your gonna end up hurting in the long run if you keep pursuing
7:259:5311:38 loss aversion theory and indifference. What if we both have each other blocked on everything? He blocked me first on everything and i blocked him back for the first time on everything a few minutes after. This was day after I messaged him that I'm moving on from this situationship. I think he has that doubt now about having a hold on me because ive never reacted this indifferent before. 7 days of no contact and indifference.
I am the dumpee and him the dumper. We both have been in no contact for about 6 weeks. We are no longer friends on social media. He blocked me on his phone, but not social media. My page is private, his not. I could see his page if I choose, but I choose not to and have not looked. So people have told me what he is doing. My take on this is that he is feeling the lost. I can feel within that he is regretting the break up. I believe that the things that he is doing on social media is done to get me to react. Nope....I'm not going to look for myself, or care what others is telling me. He wants me to see it otherwise he would have blocked me. He misses me and I can feel it.
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He broke up with me about two months ago. The first month I did kinda chase and stayed in contact with him. I then went no contact. About 3 weeks later he did text me. I texted back. Then he went quiet again. I made the mistake of texting him a few days later and now nothing again. I guess he did test me and I failed. What do I do now? I texted last and he didn’t respond at all.
he wanted to see if he could still have you love. Yes you did make a mistake by hitting him up, yes you did fail. if he EVER reaches out again, you are to ignore ignore ignore ignore. I know its hard. Ive been there a few times. You're a beautiful woman Kat
Quite interesting video. Thanks for sharing this. I've been in NC for 5 weeks now. She started to unblocked me on the 2nd week. From the 2nd to 4th week she kind of looking my social media stories but she wasn't react or like my post. At 5th week, seems like she didn't watch my stories. I've posted like twice a week as I always did previously. So what does that means? Does she completely moved on? Or she's trying to playing Ego as she doesn't want me to know that she's watching my stories?
So, now this lasy Friday I went out for dinner with my ex, he told me he found out in the last somewhat weeks that he missed me more than he thought he would. And that he wants to see where things go again. But still want to take it slow and don't put a label on it. Yet still wants to share the bed with me, and buying me pretty expensive christmas gift this year.. yet he also tells me that he don't know where things will go between us.. I'm just so confused!!
I don’t want friendship not biter at all it’s just not realistic! Then you build yourself up and offer them your better version after the work ? Nahhhh
What if he is seing a woman whom he knows for 4 years? She posted a photo of them kissing. They went for a walk. Spend time together. We were in a relationship for 5 months, but know eachother for 30years. How can I win him back? I don't know how to stay positive, because I'm very devastated all the time..
My ex goes around talking about me and he have a girlfriend now, i had to text him from my son phone like stop it, worry about your girlfriend. Like what do that mean?
So my ex ended our relationship two months ago with really crappy excuses. Just three weeks after he told me he was in love with me. We have had minimal contact in the last two months then saw each other last weekend and had words. I got angry. Poured a drink over his head. Now he’s removed me from his socials. I’m not sure what to do as the way he’s treated me is really bad. But now he’s made me feel like I’m the one in the wrong. Is there still a chance or is that it?
You overreacted by pouring a drink on him but It’s not too late to take your power back…act like he doesn’t exist. Don’t chase or plead with him. Let things be
You need to do no contact & work on yourself because you are in the wrong. I bet he felt embarrassed & ashamed after you poured the drink over his head! Honestly, that seems like abuse to me. Let that man go because he deserves better.
She reached out 5 months after me being on NC, said she misses me but I didn't poor myself our as she expected. Few days later I've realised she has blocked me. Someone kindly help me understand this
hi coach, right after i saw your videos i started the no contact, before i made a lot of mistakes, we saw eachother, we kissed again, and then i begged her to give me the chance do demonstrate that i can be a better person and she said no, so i started no contact but i didn’t know that i needed to be a ghost on social, so she unfollowed me first on everything, i think because she saw me with my friends, am i fucked?
I am gonna be honest .I doubt very much my ex is missing me.She broke up with me last year due to loss of attraction , fair enough. She had a short-lived rebound. We kept in touch during all that time and I sensed she was seeing someone else without her telling me , you just know. A few months after , she wanted to come back , it didn't last very long as this time , I was the one not ready for it. Anyway , things blew up, I put an end to those breadcrumbs , she is in a new relationship ...that's the way she is .To her , it apparently doesn't matter while I am here working on myself and not intending to involve myself yet until I am fully healed. Remember , she was the one to break up first because of loss of attraction , so obviously , second time around , my guards were so up I needed more than words this time...she failed...
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100%, too much choice, too many desperate men on the market willing to kill their mothers for a hook up. My ex was thin, with natural DD cup, brunette blue eyes, I can tell you all men would want to fuck her, and they did. In the meantime I was in no contact crying… 11 months here, not a word from her, just enjoying her new sex life
Coach He breakup with me because of his 9 yrs love on one girl and he said me I will not get marry, I am not loving you and he blocked me everywhere but he is updating my sister status? Is he really missing me or not? I have confusion about that...
I've begged for a year, but actualy she cut contact with me about 6months ago and I didn't stop begging, asking how she is doing etc...I'm in no contact for only 3 days and its realy hard, expecially when I kinda feel I lost her completely...I think after a year, I'm kinda late with no contact. Am I wrong?
after 2 yrs. which we lived apart, but was with each other all the time, and at bingo... bingo is where i met her, im trying the no contact rule right now,just started it... but i love to play bingo and she does too. should i not go because she will be there? last time i set by her she said that she was dating someone.. a lot of her friends dont think she is.... im so tore.... she told me she loved me all the time. and then an hour later stated she didnt want to be with me.... im 69 not a pup.
I'm sorry, brother. It's kind of like they're giving false hope to vulnerable people, isn't it. But don't feel too bad, most of the time when they come back, it doesn't last anyway.
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Take this time to really work on yourself. Don't worry about them coming back. And if they do, give yourself time to figure out if being with them is really in your best interest. That's what I am currently doing. And I was the one left...
I’m the dumper because he continued to use medical weed and would get triggered and angry often and I tried for ages to get him to get some help ( he is possibly bpd also) and I know he need’s a professional It’s painful for me because I want him back without the weed and anger/ rage but it’s up to him to help himself the last thing I told him was I hope he can turn it around and get help because I can no longer deal with it in my life. So ofc part of me hopes he does and reaches out because the last time this happened I hoovered him back and took far to much responsibility for things I shouldn’t have. So I’m reminding strong because I know myself and son deserve better and he can either help himself and try again or lose me for good
I want to do no contact but my ex calls me daily and uses the child as an excuse but sometimes he’s calling after 10pm, I know that’s not for the child. Should I answer when he calls at a reasonable hour?
Coach i know where your coming from but by going NC Wont that just confirm there abandonment fears and even discarding us in a dreadful way it confirms to them we have abandoned them just like they expect from everyone just trying to understand there thought pattern
One year in no contact with an DA. I’m not sure she will ever contact me even if she feels the loss. She is either too avoidant, too afraid, or too proud. Not sure she will ever reach out, but I am not contacting her first after the things she did to me. I am moving on and not looking back after what she put me through. Stay strong everyone and always look toward the sun.
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Hi I just want to say thank you so much for bottom of my heart for your videos.. as you know, I’ve been watching your videos. I learned a lot…. I walked away from a three year and a half relationship… July 11, 2024. It is now September 8, 2024… she pushed me away. I got up, grab my things I walked out…. 20 minutes later she text me I did not respond… couple days later she text me again.. again she text me back a couple hours. I never responded…. Still no contact… for what you done for me they help me a lot.. I go to the gym twice a day six times a week.. it really hurt what she did.. Listen to your videos, the more I get stronger for myself.. I stand as a man I stay in my masculine I just go forward.. I’m getting ready to go on a cruise in December. I’m looking forward to it… I’m gonna do some traveling.. to keep myself busy… I just wanna say thank you so much…💪
When you do no contact so well that when they come back, you are no longer interested.
No contact is the greatest thing ever! I know it’s difficult but, it works so well that the hardest part is figuring out if you want to take your ex back after no contact.
@@Ckyt572depends on why the breakup happened, and if it was toxic
@@Ckyt572why would you want them as a friend? Not doing that. If they want a friend they can find new ones. Good luck though.
@@thomesc6214 because I don't have any friends here, and friendship could work out, not a romantic relationship for sure.
@@thomesc6214bcuz they proved that they're not trustworthy as a long-term 4ever partner. The real question is why would you want somebody back that broke ur trust?
@@Ckyt572you can not be friends with someone you were intimate with. Jealously will prevent it from happening
My ex is back after 9 months of no contact. I haven’t responded to his text or answered his calls because I’m unsure if I want him back now. A part of me does, but a bigger part of me feels like he doesn’t deserve this new version of me.
I did this, 9 months no contact.... He came back and we got engaged... and then he broke up with me again, for the same reason, 11 months after coming back. 3 years of this back and forth.... idk, just so you know what could happen all over again, my friend. This is my personal story. Trust your instincts.
Best of luck to you
“And no one puts new wine into old wineskins; otherwise the new [fermenting] wine will [expand and] burst the skins and it will be spilled out, and the skins will be ruined. But new wine must be put into fresh wineskins.” Luke 5:37-38 AMP
How did it workout ❤
Oh she gone find out real quick no one gone give a damn about her like I did!
No contact works my ex started calling and texting after three weeks. We even met up and after two weeks. We are finally back together two months strong 💪
wow i’m in that situation rn
Yes 🙌🏼
Read 3% man, and it'll also help to understand men and women and keep them even more so.
Hi ! What is the context please ?
good for u.. i wish i can do the same
I was blowing up her phone for a couple weeks then I was blocked on everything. I finally started to realize I’m not who she really wants anymore.. it’s been 2 months of no contact and one thing I’ll always remember is how much time, money and love I wasted for this girl who just left me for her co worker. 2 years of unconditional love I gave her. I’m hurt, sad and depressed at the same time but I need to be strong enough to never go back if she ever contacts me again..
Yeah, don't go back to her. You will be fine.
Yeah, if she left you for someone else it's a disrespect, I am sure that you could have done it to her and left for someone else. Never take her back it would be unwise. This was premeditated and opportunistic
If she do ever try to come back it's only to use you for something or she found out that the grass wasn't greener on the other side. Stay away from that heartbreaker😔
So sorry, time is a great healer 🙏🏿💓
I was used as a rebound and she has finally finished using me and turn off like a switch. I went through the phase of blowing up her phone (only very shortly for one day, the rest was just very occasional sporadic and random contact) none of this went past a week after it officially ended. I felt all that you described . Even though I stopped calling, messaging on regular messages and her social media she blocked me on those lol, it made me realize it's like she thinks way too highly of herself blocking me even when I was mot even contacting her. Anyway I then started forcing myself to distract by binge watching things you liked/like, started improving myself physically by working out and eating well, and continuing to plan improvements in all parts of my life. It's not a weakness to be single, improve yourself as you heal which time will do along with your betterment of yourself.
Be good to yourself and stay strong... keep knowing you deserve better than the person who didn't appreciate value or see your worth.
I don’t even want him back anymore- I realized I deserve better than bread crumbs and excuses. He can go find less 💅🏼
Thanks for these videos ❤
Heavy on “no longer desire to fix what they broke” 🙌🏻
My ex is back after two months but im scared to ever take her back because this the 2nd time she's dumped me. I can't keep getting dumped it's not healthy
One time should’ve been enough
@@princesscheyanna3518 well the first time I thought it was my fault so I worked on myself just to figure out she's a narcissist
@@ChrisEllis-jx6qs I understand! Continue finding out who you are and loving yourself. Enjoy your life! Don’t let anyone take that away from you! She didn’t give you joy and she can’t take it away!
Been there with my ex wife and I'm telling you now she's going to do it again and again. Just get rid of her now and you'll save yourself from the bigger problem that will most definitely come later. It will be peaceful and better for you trust me it's better without her and stay single in America bro
Even the loss of a friendship hurts as well because you no longer have access to them or what they are about.
BEST content on the internet! We have to DETACH By going no-contact. It creates emotional disconnect and helps you to see “the ex” clearly, instead of through rose colored glasses. If they discarded you, THAT IS how you are to remember them…as someone who was cruel and threw you away. It requires rewiring the brain though. The brain wants to fix a problem. So it keeps you strategizing “the how” to fix it but THE ONLY way to truly disconnect and detach is by going no contact.
I agree ...even I'm only in 3 days in no contact, after a year of begging, she did not respont for six months and I did not stop, but now its enough, its what you said cruel and disrespectful.
2.5 weeks of no contact -- it's been ups and downs, but now it's been mostly ups 💪
Stay strong!
how so
@@ghstyt.728 its just waves man. When I'm out and about (gym, hanging out with friends, work, doing things), I feel real good and kinda forget about the whole breakup thing.
On my downtime, that's when I start to think about her again. It was noticeably worse earlier in the breakup, but as time goes by, it's been getting better for me.
Update?
@@basicinfo2022 funny to look back at this post. I’ve spent the rest of the time to heal myself before going back to the dating scene. Continued going to the gym, hanging out with friends, and venting to my close friends & family. I met someone new after; she just asked to be my gf yesterday.
I wish nothing but the best to my ex, and i’m happy with where i’m at in life now.
1 year of NC and being blocked. I've moved on from the breakup even tho It still hurts to be avoided but I stopped hoping for him to come back and got myself back! I feel better without him! I binge watched you and Coach Lee videos throughout the tough breakup and used the tools and advice to better myself. THANK YOU COACH BLAC ♥️🙏🏽
You and I are in the same shoes... gladly I'm better now without her& I'm happy to be this single
Where are you from?
Same here am free from break up
Am happy and single now
A lot can happen in a year. You go girl. Don't let ANYONE destroy your self worth like that. You deserve way better. If they didn't value you enough to work on things then that just speaks of where their values and priorities are truly. It's too bad. I really thought we had a good connection and that he was the most compatible out of all of my other relationships from the past but I guess he didn't think the same way. It's very unfortunate when this happends. I thought he was it. Guess he didn't think I was. His standards of what a wife should be are WAYY too high, and maybe even impossible.
7 months broken up after 6 years...
...5 months of the occassional, sporadic contact, before a big abrupt fight via sms led to block on social media. Sent her a text saying okay, maybe the block is for the best. So we can both heal and stop senseless fighting.
2 months full no contact. Getting more clarity with each day. Finally getting better.
Do occassionally miss her. Yday was her birthday. Didn't send. Wish her all the best.
But eyes front...
my ex called the cops on me and tried to ruin me..... after a year and half of no contact... she found out where i work out and started to stalk me daily for 9 months!!! i didnt break or cave in to say hi acknowledge her... i was hurt!!! story short all that silent treatment made her go crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hitting the wall when walking past me to get my attention... trying to bymp into me physically!! ect.... its amazing how tables turned!! i thought we will never see each other again in our lives with how bad it ended between us..... its good now she is suffering and im eating everything up!!.
also i would like to add, i was the person to always chase!!!!! took my power back!
can i ask you, did you completely ignore her, even if she wrote you during nc?
im in that stage now but it's hard to keep it up
i was dumped from my wife
@@officialmr.madness6655 i ignored the shit out of her because by that time i was legit just disgusted and over it..... she did me dirtty and i was legit an amazing lover... people need to lose you to know your value.... she did by the time she came back,,, i realized her value also....TRASH
My ex tried to put me in jail . With lies about me hitting her . She was cheating on me and wanted me out of her life . We have 3 kids together been really hard . She left without telling me and took my kids to California
Leave the toxic one's alone!
@@Chaos.86same here dude. No kids though. Count yourself lucky and get custody for the children.
No contact doesn't always work. But, it has given me clarity, and i see i things that i can improve on. I felt the loss I had from her so badly. I've never felt a pain like this. We broke up before and got back together.
My ex is one unforgiving mother fucker who expected perfection.
It always works.
No contact helps the soul and you are at peace … prayers still go out to them … I wish them happiness and great health … my love will never die for her …
Yeah, agreee...same here.
after reading and listening to him here i think i will stay no contact for ever . the pain of heart break twice no i promise myself better
It’s all about healing. Never go back if you’ve been Dumped!
She just quit 6mo ago and I’ve never heard from her again after 2 years together - then past 2 days she suddenly watched all my WhatsApp stories. It really is unbelievable how people just dump and run.
Best thing is the timing - I was in NYC taking the trip we planned together living my best life 😂. We’re not on socials together so it really was pure karma timing!
She still doesn’t reach out though. So that’s all I need to know.
Yup, mine was back in 2 weeks and making all the effort. I feel different though, not sure I want to be with someone who didn’t choose me. I am going slow and not giving him any of the “Nancy sweetness” yet. We will see.
Don't give them any!!!
It's sad. People aren't disposable.
I’m starting to think I am
@shanicrystal8671 nah. That's the point of no contact. It's a matter of self respect. You are worth it unto yourself.
@@6j6666 well my no contact journey will be easier now as he’s blocked me probably done me a favour
@@6j6666I was about to reply to your original post "I was" until I read your comment... Thank you. 🏆
Correct
My husband of 38 years, he not only left in the middle of the night to go to his mistress , but he mot only blocked me but he blocked his KIDS and his Grandson, he has not reached out to them in 8 months, that’s cruel and hateful. The kids did nothing. 🙁
That's guilt he's feeling.
He moved in 2mths with another woman, he popped up twice since,,asking can we still mess around,,I STOOD MY GROUND..I SAID NO...he Discard it me and showed back up a few weeks later to try again and I said no again
Honestly the best way its ever been described to me! We've tried no contact for 6 months and didn't succeed, but I finally alerted him to the fact i need space 4 days ago, and I can see the changes already. Staying in this energy :)
100 percent brother strength and intelligence are essential
5 videos in and instantly I’ve become a Subscriber. FINALLY mature, clear, relative, & useful content! I’m very appreciative to have found your Channel. What’s not helpful is when content is negative and even more toxic. I’m trying to build myself and future NOT destroy it. Peace and Blessings.☮️🙏🏾
Ugghhhhhh!!! Man I've tried the no contact twice and we always needed to text each other..but now he posted a video on his social media dancing on someone else.and this month would've been our 3 year relationship anniversary And now all the emotions I had before just hit me like we just broke up 3 months ago and...... I feel so dum and stupid😭😭😭😭
.... I'm starting the no contact tonight..... thank you so much I will be listening to all your videos! 😊😊😊
That's why I am not looking at their instagram stories anymore. They know you'll find a way to see it so they may try to trigger you. Out of sight, out of mind....
Coach you are amazing ! You truly have the knowledge and give excellent advice. Your new subscriber from Canada 🥰
This is great advice and I admit I was no contact much as possible, but when you have a child involved, it gets a little hard.
I left two years ago and she convinced herself that it was her that left and she went off the rails bashing me trying to destroy my character everything. We have two children together, today she asks me randomly is she a bad person, if i could change something what would it be and do i regret the break up. It messed my head up because she’s never asked that what does that mean
Always who doesn't invest in relationship creates break up they know that they will lose nothing
The one that cares the least in the relationship, controls it.
BRAVO BRAVO good sir! I've seen videos on "no contact" explained but not like this. There is so much truth to what you said about taking the ex from "knowing" she can have you back to a place of doubt of "can i?" get him back. No contact is just that but putting doubt in their mind takes things to a whole nother level, as you work to put yourself levels above them where they have to work just to get you to notice them and by then you've noticed that there's better out there and NO they can't measure up. SUBSCRIBED.
I only have one ex and it wasn't serious enough to cook for him. I thank God I didn't have a lot of different hands handling me, most ppl who do or does I notice have a lot of issues. So many it's scary.
Omg! How well put. Was just perfect!! Really does put my situation into perspective. You are incredible! Thank you.
Coach, today is Mother’s Day and she is the mother of our daughter, her first Mother’s Day, is it okay to invite her over for dinner? It’s been 5 months separated. And she is sending me signs, and she was the one who said “ are you asking me out on a date” with a huge smile and said “I think Monday after work I’m free!” How does that sound coach??!
So having trying to maintain a subtle infrequent friendship, where we feel comfortable ““ texting one another talking about anything, but the two of I, how do you put no contact into place?
Been split up 6 months, at first I chased for a couple of months, she said she wanted to try again.. after a few days she left me again.
I tried no contact but we have a little one. Was his birthday and we ended up having a night together.. next day she’s feeling guilty for giving me false hope. It’s over for good now?
My ex broke up with me in April. She came back at the end of May to give me clarify why our relationship came to end. She told me that I wasn't right person for her. She wants us to be friends. Told me that she would miss me if we never talk again. She did say as well. Will we reconnect in some from. She wants me to be happy but can't be with her. She told me to move on and let go. I have went into the no contact with my ex. I think my ex is giving mix message to me.
Did she come back after no contact from April to May? Or was you guys talking in between?
@@diegoothman5223
My ex came back at the end off May to give me clarify why our relationship came to the end. The last time I spoken to her was the 21st of August. She made it clear that we weren't get back together again. So I have now completely move on I'm in a new relationship.
Don’t be surprised if you become her back-up plan. Avoid. Continue No Contact.
They contact me after 10 days of no contact I waiting over 24hrs to process it and finally responded to their I was thinking about you text and we had maybe three messages back and forth and boom stopped talking again cause they are still seeing the new person they’re dating.
Wth does that mean ?
horses for coarses, doesnt always work for everyone, depends on the person and circustances. currently 2 weeks since she (my partner) wanted out, but she has high stress from work, and maybe hormone problems as well . come out of nowhere, although stress from work and other factors (not me) caused all this mindset of hers. she's not having none of it atm. you can't just flip feelings like that. not sure what happend to her, but hoping in time she see's sense. so frustrating. but some of the techniques you mention will work on certain scenarios more than others. too long of no contact gives them too much time to forget you, with some people anyway.
If they have a shiny new toy (rebound), they can never feel the loss because they have a replacement.
Until they get discarded themselves lol
Toys don't leave memories.
New doesn't always mean better. The grass isn't is always greener on the other side
@@atangtanifom2228that’s a good one
@@damonteforney8076the new staying is that if you water it I be like it’s still not gonna grow with old water
That was very good information. You broke it down to a baby can understand ❤😊
7 weeks of no contact, and still nothing from him .I've stayed no contact, but I rhink its time to give up. He unblocked me 7 weeks ago, ive heard nothing.
Taurus are on a different level tho. They will come back to say Happy Birthday and then block you.
Great example, great insights
Too little too late. Thank You Source for giving me eyes to see. I want, and deserve a man that sees ALL the goodness in me from the beginning. I am disappointed, angry, and frustrated that this man wanted to waste my time, did not see the value in me, and had the audacity to think I would like him more then I like myself. I mean this with every fiber of my being, I am the Prize and too bad on you for not having the Wisdom to know better. There are 7 Billion People in the World, the Universe is abundance, Next!
This is Legendary...
He tested me initially by trying to trigger me then by liking my posts. I was indifferent so he reached out “checking on me”. Said he considers me a friend because he trusts me. I told him I wasn’t sure we were friends. I think his ego was bruised. Do you think he wanted to be friends or just testing the waters? He’s done that before. Im staying NC until he shows more effort but he is a player so very well could be on to the next.
I’m experiencing the same thing, he still wants to be friends with me which can be odd as from he broke up with me so why bother to stay connected with me
@@annemarie7203 I think it’s a way to weasel back in. The text was probably to put a feeler out without being too vulnerable. Mine is an avoidant. I’m not going to make it that easy for him this time around especially because I’ve seen him interacting with other women.
@@Mermaid03_03 yes girl!! I haven’t made it easy on him either as he tried to get back with me saying we should be together again but not putting real effort on his part and wants me to visit him. Then when I didn’t, that’s where we are right now as friends which I don’t get why he still wants to be friends if he said maybe he will look for someone else. So if he wants to stay as my friend I’ll just let him be and focus on my healing 😞
@@Mermaid03_03Move on, ladies. The guy sounds like a prick. Manipulative, but soft.
He's using you as supply for his ego, a very selfish act.
3 weeks in NC
Well my ex and I see one another. We occasionally have lunch. I love seeing him, but I am understanding that when we’re together, I would like to have more. Although I would never say it. We keep it friendly we go to family functions friendly, but it seems to be getting more friendship basis, and I really don’t want to be a good friend.
Is this the same if the have friends and family to distract them and are giving them advice?
That's how it is with my ex. She's always on group chat with her family, so she's never lonely.
My ex's mom hates me and was the one threatening me with a restraining order so I'm sure she's constantly spewing shit to my ex that I'm a POS because the mom has a victim complex from dating shitty men and my ex equates me to being just another shitty guy.
@@MillennialtombMan bro I’m in the same situation, sometimes it takes a long time for reality to hit them. The moment you forget about them she will be back.
Even tougher if they've all vilified you! 💀
Question: Does the stages an ex feels during no contact work with an ex if they dumped you and your 20 yr relationship for a 14 yr younger woman and then 9 months later they get married and have a child, will the ex still go through the stages?
Wow! That sucks! It’s so much harder when you’re a bit older (I’m 53) & they just dump, ghost & treat you like shit like that. Heartbreaking & soul-destroying. But, if they treat us like that then we’re better off without them!
hi coach can i ask if no contact will still work even i beg and plead almost everyday then suddenly ill be going no contact?
I owe you and love you.
Been in no contract 5 months. We work together and don’t speak or walk past each other. I have noticed he is starting to look at me when I walk by now and before he didn’t. Hasn’t tried to speak to me and I will not speak to him first But I do miss him. But he comes back beast. I’d not Great
Stay in no contact. Let him fix what he broke, that’s if he was the one that ended things.
He was
He comes back beast?
I'd not great?
Thank you coach how I wish I could see your videos when it happened two years ago i am from North Africa and unfortunately I found you 2 months ago
Ross Gellar- "MY SAANDWICCH!!"
Man another right on time video!!
5 days of no contact…it’s soooo hard. Hope it gets easier.
It will
If the relationship feels perfect and right, it's not.
If it feels like you should be with someone else, but something keeps telling you to stay, you're probably with the right person.
Yeah, it seems like it should be the opposite, but obviously your instincts aren't very trustworthy if you have an ex.
The right person is the one you least expect, not the one you want. Every single time
When I say, I’m
Done I’m
Done I’m
Over you. She does seem confused. It’s like it shocks her. Because deep
Down I believe she thinks she could have me back in a flash. I believe it’s a good tactic to mention from
Time
To
Time that I’ve moved
On. To have her guessing how easily accessible I actually Am. No contact with kids involved though…
As always, thank you for your videos. Please can you do a video on getting a man to commit.
My ex had his heart broken (7 year relationship)
We dated for a few months (amazing relationship) he broke it off as he is nervous of getting hurt & having to commit.
I did no contact, he reached out, wanted to see me… and now it’s getting to the stage of commitment topic again… and he’s gone cold & can’t give me what I want.
What do I do 😢
Permanently leave him
Cheat on him
@julieevans3110 yes do this!
@@PlaywithDaisydon't do this!
it’s been 15 days since the break up. I broke nc on day 12 because my anxiety got the best of me and he says he wasn’t ready to talk. Do you think i still have a chance and that he would try to reach out? I started nc again after i broke it. I’ve been struggling :(
You can do it. You deserve the break just as much as they do. Put yourself first.
Each time you break no contact, you have to start over again. I feel you, I did the same because I worried about her However, I started again and a week later she reached out asking the question she already knew and did not try to continue the convo. You gotta answer as brief as possible.
Yet I got a chance so I told her that if she isn’t giving US a chance, I wont stay in her life, so I removed her from most of my social media platforms. But told her to find the way to reach out if she changes her mind and hope it’s not too late. She reacted with a crying emoji, i assume she’s enjoying the stage as she has avoidance attachment style.
Ps. She broke up with me saying she wanna work on herself and career (a day before we has some conflicts, it was my fault who asked with interest about her beliefs, she didn’t understand my intentions that I found it interesting ), I asked if she’s sure. Turned out she wasn’t, she wanna distant for 30 days but on the third day she wanted to break up.
We broke up on 15 august,i went to no contact.
Now she is posting status on whatsapp which has the songs she shared to me before brake up.
What should I do next?
Should carry on for 30 days or respond with related status
@sadeemtanveer2885 Do nothing. If she doesnt ask you anything directly dont feed into it. Stay strong. Patience wins.
Yes
Man, I gained, and I lost a lot since the breakup it killed.
Thank you
I decided to tell my ex girlfriend that I'm not interested in meeting with her after she decided to make a joke of my planned date after 'no contact' . Will that statement push her away from me forever?
No just keep your cool, she probably sees desperation oozing from you, cancel last min with a really good and noble excuse, and make her ask for another time, if she doesn’t immediately ask for another day, then say maybe sometime next week, if she doesn’t try to reschedule she doesn’t respect you, & you should just give it up and focus on building yourself up, cuz your gonna end up hurting in the long run if you keep pursuing
I'm still in love with my X 😢
Please do a video on should you take your ex back
7:25 9:53 11:38 loss aversion theory and indifference. What if we both have each other blocked on everything? He blocked me first on everything and i blocked him back for the first time on everything a few minutes after. This was day after I messaged him that I'm moving on from this situationship. I think he has that doubt now about having a hold on me because ive never reacted this indifferent before. 7 days of no contact and indifference.
I am the dumpee and him the dumper. We both have been in no contact for about 6 weeks. We are no longer friends on social media. He blocked me on his phone, but not social media. My page is private, his not. I could see his page if I choose, but I choose not to and have not looked. So people have told me what he is doing. My take on this is that he is feeling the lost. I can feel within that he is regretting the break up. I believe that the things that he is doing on social media is done to get me to react. Nope....I'm not going to look for myself, or care what others is telling me. He wants me to see it otherwise he would have blocked me. He misses me and I can feel it.
You need a powerful spell caster like Dr Oman to help you with things like this, 24 hours he will help you fixed your home and put a smile on your face like what he do to me.
Yo it took me saying your blocked no contact his ass was blowing me up!!! I didn't even get into weeks lol
He broke up with me about two months ago. The first month I did kinda chase and stayed in contact with him. I then went no contact. About 3 weeks later he did text me. I texted back. Then he went quiet again. I made the mistake of texting him a few days later and now nothing again. I guess he did test me and I failed. What do I do now? I texted last and he didn’t respond at all.
he wanted to see if he could still have you love. Yes you did make a mistake by hitting him up, yes you did fail.
if he EVER reaches out again, you are to ignore ignore ignore ignore. I know its hard. Ive been there a few times. You're a beautiful woman Kat
Quite interesting video. Thanks for sharing this. I've been in NC for 5 weeks now. She started to unblocked me on the 2nd week. From the 2nd to 4th week she kind of looking my social media stories but she wasn't react or like my post. At 5th week, seems like she didn't watch my stories. I've posted like twice a week as I always did previously. So what does that means? Does she completely moved on? Or she's trying to playing Ego as she doesn't want me to know that she's watching my stories?
So, now this lasy Friday I went out for dinner with my ex, he told me he found out in the last somewhat weeks that he missed me more than he thought he would. And that he wants to see where things go again. But still want to take it slow and don't put a label on it. Yet still wants to share the bed with me, and buying me pretty expensive christmas gift this year.. yet he also tells me that he don't know where things will go between us.. I'm just so confused!!
I don’t want friendship not biter at all it’s just not realistic! Then you build yourself up and offer them your better version after the work ? Nahhhh
What if he is seing a woman whom he knows for 4 years? She posted a photo of them kissing. They went for a walk. Spend time together. We were in a relationship for 5 months, but know eachother for 30years.
How can I win him back? I don't know how to stay positive, because I'm very devastated all the time..
My ex goes around talking about me and he have a girlfriend now, i had to text him from my son phone like stop it, worry about your girlfriend. Like what do that mean?
So my ex ended our relationship two months ago with really crappy excuses. Just three weeks after he told me he was in love with me. We have had minimal contact in the last two months then saw each other last weekend and had words. I got angry. Poured a drink over his head. Now he’s removed me from his socials. I’m not sure what to do as the way he’s treated me is really bad. But now he’s made me feel like I’m the one in the wrong. Is there still a chance or is that it?
You overreacted by pouring a drink on him but It’s not too late to take your power back…act like he doesn’t exist.
Don’t chase or plead with him. Let things be
Your anger gives away power. No contact will hopefully help you get yourself back to yourself. That should be your first priority
do no contact method, you’ll move on eventually
You need to do no contact & work on yourself because you are in the wrong. I bet he felt embarrassed & ashamed after you poured the drink over his head! Honestly, that seems like abuse to me. Let that man go because he deserves better.
On point
She reached out 5 months after me being on NC, said she misses me but I didn't poor myself our as she expected. Few days later I've realised she has blocked me. Someone kindly help me understand this
Some people are just mental cases, like my ex.
hi coach, right after i saw your videos i started the no contact, before i made a lot of mistakes, we saw eachother, we kissed again, and then i begged her to give me the chance do demonstrate that i can be a better person and she said no, so i started no contact but i didn’t know that i needed to be a ghost on social, so she unfollowed me first on everything, i think because she saw me with my friends, am i fucked?
I am gonna be honest .I doubt very much my ex is missing me.She broke up with me last year due to loss of attraction , fair enough.
She had a short-lived rebound.
We kept in touch during all that time and I sensed she was seeing someone else without her telling me , you just know.
A few months after , she wanted to come back , it didn't last very long as this time , I was the one not ready for it. Anyway , things blew up, I put an end to those breadcrumbs , she is in a new relationship ...that's the way she is .To her , it apparently doesn't matter while I am here working on myself and not intending to involve myself yet until I am fully healed.
Remember , she was the one to break up first because of loss of attraction , so obviously , second time around , my guards were so up I needed more than words this time...she failed...
You’re better than that
@@mariarincon6978 Thank you🙏
You need a powerful spell caster like Dr Oman to help you with things like this, 24 hours he will help you fixed your home and put a smile on your face like what he do to me.
Yeah, they don’t change. But you do! That’s where the power is. Don’t ever take them back
T oday'swomen don't care once they leave they're gone forever 6 months I'm still alone
100%, too much choice, too many desperate men on the market willing to kill their mothers for a hook up. My ex was thin, with natural DD cup, brunette blue eyes, I can tell you all men would want to fuck her, and they did. In the meantime I was in no contact crying… 11 months here, not a word from her, just enjoying her new sex life
Coach
He breakup with me because of his 9 yrs love on one girl and he said me I will not get marry, I am not loving you and he blocked me everywhere but he is updating my sister status?
Is he really missing me or not?
I have confusion about that...
I've begged for a year, but actualy she cut contact with me about 6months ago and I didn't stop begging, asking how she is doing etc...I'm in no contact for only 3 days and its realy hard, expecially when I kinda feel I lost her completely...I think after a year, I'm kinda late with no contact. Am I wrong?
after 2 yrs. which we lived apart, but was with each other all the time, and at bingo... bingo is where i met her, im trying the no contact rule right now,just started it... but i love to play bingo and she does too. should i not go because she will be there? last time i set by her she said that she was dating someone.. a lot of her friends dont think she is.... im so tore.... she told me she loved me all the time. and then an hour later stated she didnt want to be with me.... im 69 not a pup.
What about if I’m he’s wife we live together 4 months and we haven’t talked he wanted a divorce what do I do he blocked me on his phone any idea
All the people that agree have had their ex reach out. I'm 3 months into it and haven't heard from her. I'm still traumatised.
I'm sorry, brother. It's kind of like they're giving false hope to vulnerable people, isn't it. But don't feel too bad, most of the time when they come back, it doesn't last anyway.
Im one year no contact, it will get better for you because you'll eventually stop caring. You can't do nothing but keep it pushing ❤️🩹
@@TheTrophy_You're strong
@TheTrophy_ thank you. I find every day hard to live. I don't know how you did one year so far. I need closure at least.
@@Millennialtomb it's true. I just need closure at least.
I knocked on my exs door, she called the cops, she’s never gonna miss me I just have to move on
You need a powerful spell caster like Dr Oman to help you with things like this, 24 hours he will help you fixed your home and put a smile on your face like what he do to me.
What to do if/when she comes back? Don’t know if I would want her back, but if I did, how would I play that off?
Take this time to really work on yourself. Don't worry about them coming back. And if they do, give yourself time to figure out if being with them is really in your best interest. That's what I am currently doing. And I was the one left...
I’m the dumper because he continued to use medical weed and would get triggered and angry often and I tried for ages to get him to get some help ( he is possibly bpd also) and I know he need’s a professional It’s painful for me because I want him back without the weed and anger/ rage but it’s up to him to help himself the last thing I told him was I hope he can turn it around and get help because I can no longer deal with it in my life. So ofc part of me hopes he does and reaches out because the last time this happened I hoovered him back and took far to much responsibility for things I shouldn’t have. So I’m reminding strong because I know myself and son deserve better and he can either help himself and try again or lose me for good
Hey Bro, how can I do no contract when I have two kids with her. when I have to talk to them every day?
How about being dumped then her jumping into another relationship right away
Amazing, thank you.
I want to do no contact but my ex calls me daily and uses the child as an excuse but sometimes he’s calling after 10pm, I know that’s not for the child. Should I answer when he calls at a reasonable hour?
Coach i know where your coming from but by going NC Wont that just confirm there abandonment fears and even discarding us in a dreadful way it confirms to them we have abandoned them just like they expect from everyone just trying to understand there thought pattern
One year in no contact with an DA. I’m not sure she will ever contact me even if she feels the loss. She is either too avoidant, too afraid, or too proud. Not sure she will ever reach out, but I am not contacting her first after the things she did to me. I am moving on and not looking back after what she put me through. Stay strong everyone and always look toward the sun.
One year for me too with a DA! We did it! We got ourselves back. They will suffer in the long run.
@@TheTrophy_ stay strong Trophy girl!!! He doesn’t deserve you. Karma is coming for them.
What is the meaning of DA
Dismissive Avoidants (DA)s are the worst. Perhaps it’s really a blessing when they don’t come back.
@@RaySmithWeb Thank you so much sir
They never feel it