I have a hunting dog and it is super easy ... when I leave I just give him the "stay" command. He knows that he has a job, which is to stay, and waits even hours. No hugging etc pp. He needs a task and he gets it. He also never ever gets food while Imam away. And he gets food 3x a day in small portions. When I come back, he never gets first attention, he has to wait until I am undressed. THEN I give him time, to greet, lick my face , sniff my hands. Etc. Main mistake is that we tend to consider a dog being a small human and he is not. He has his own rules and processes and I try to understand them.
I adopted an older cat but I didn't know she wasn't 7 years old as stated but was in fact about 11years old. She was always anxious when I left for work and I accidentally discovered she watched TV. She loved the Animal Planet and would watch it, take a nap, eat and start the process over until I got home.
I play soft meditation music and I don’t try to stay away too long. I also play or take her for a walk if I have been away 4-6 hours. When I go to run errands, she goes with me. She loves going bye-bye to the bank or post office. She has been a wonderful companion to me.
I play soft instrumental meditation music and I don’t try to stay away too long. I also play or take her for a walk if I have been away 4-6 hours. When I go to run errands, she goes with me. She loves going bye-bye to the bank or post office. She has been a wonderful companion to me. Also, add a shirt or sweatshirt in their dog bed or where they lay.
We always set the alarm before we go out. We believe the beeping lets our dog know not to expect us back for a while. One time we fed our dog right before leaving, thinking it would provide a distraction. Big mistake. When we returned she was frantic. She is use to coming to me to "thank" me for her meal and I was not there! Poor pup.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Setting the alarm is an interesting idea-it sounds like a clever way to help your dog understand the routine. Your pup is lucky to have such attentive and loving owners! 🧡
I never had a dog, until my daughter decided to get one when she started medical school. But soon, she figured it was not easy to take care of the dog while in medical school. So, I ended up with a beautiful White German Shepherd called Bellissima. (There is a picture of her on my Channel). She is the most beautiful dog I have ever seen! And every time I leave the house, she looks at me as if to say: "Where the hell you think you are going?" and "Can I go with you?". And looking at her beautiful eyes and her long ears, melts my heart. So, most of the time, I end up taking her with me everywhere I go!
My little girl, Zoe (my Maltese, Shih Tzu) dog and I developed our routine I thot she will be confident enough once this becomes a habit whenever I have to leave the house for few hours or if it’s only necessary. But she’s very smart whenever I get up early and hop in the shower, she senses I am going away or leaving to somewhere on that day. But my trick always work guys. At first, she cries but whenever I keep doing this routine, until she realises that I hold on to my promise that I will come back, after a while, she started to get used to our routine and now she’s so confident that I will return and come back home. I always tell her to sit at the front door and wait for me till I come back, then, promised her always that I will give her a cuddle after I washed my hands after coming home to her, till it became habitual between us. That’s why, now, my Zoe stop crying coz she knows well that mum will soon be back again to give her a cuddle and a treat. What amazes me and makes me more excited is to see her always and truly waiting for me - and seeing her little tail wagging for excitement seeing me back home! I encourage you guys to make a deal with your loving pets and when you promise them something, make sure that you will do it till they become confident enough and believe that they won’t be alone at all and that you will surely come back! That’s how I gained my little Zoe’s confident instead of having a separation anxiety guys! But mind you, it takes a while and varies on how your pets will react on it because it is ou or us, who will help them believe that it will be alright! So,far, ever since, we’re both feeling secure, peaceful, free stress and both seeing each other with joy and happy together - not just my Zoe but I feel confident myself thinking my little girl is going to be alright - she’s always alright when I arrived home, she’s happy seeing me back with her tail wagging excitingly all the time! Btw,it says here not to leave the TV on. But I honestly do leave our TV on for her but tuned only with her favourite tv shows or series that she loves, amuse her and will entertain her to keep her mind destructed. So, far, I never left her with any tv shows or anything that will make her feel more scared at all, besides, I know what she loves and what she hates. I don’t encourage to leave my little girl, Zoe with toys around as I thot something might have had happened wrong esply when I’m not around for few hours. The sound of the TV is enough for me to leave her amuse and at the same time, gives me peace of mind not to worry any hazards around er while I’m not home.
I always tell my dog to look after my bungalow, be a good girl, I won't be long and you'll get a treat when I get back, I always give her a few shapes biscuits and always leave plenty of water, I always say bye, see you later and be good...😊
We have the perfect solution for this, at 14 1/2 yr old our JRT has never once been away from us. Not left alone, not put into kennels, not left with other people. If she cannot be somewhere, then we do not go, it's that simple. Dogs are sentient beings, they are a human child at 2 1/2 yr old their whole life. If you wouldn't do it to a child ... DO NOT do it to a dag.
And yet, come a day when the dog has to be left alone for any reason, it will go frantic. In my view, it's better to have one's dog get used to a variety of situations.
I've owned dogs all my life. In my experience teaching your dogs that you are leaving but will be back is no big deal. As long as they've learned that you're always coming back they'll be fine and not have to suffer through a period of separation anxiety. For me it's as simple as a phrase I use every time EVERY TIME I go someplace. I don't know how they do it but they always seem to know (spooky - almost before I do) that I'm going somewhere. They will get anxious and animated until I walk to the front door and say to them, " P G E, guys, P G E, Protect the cats, guard the house and eat the burglars." Of course they probably have 0 o understanding of what I just said, BUT - as soon as they hear that phrase they know that I will be back. They calm down and stand by the door until I leave. They're fine. Don't bark after I'm gone. Don't eat shoes or chew on stuff while I'm gone, nor do any of the other things dogs do when their people/person leaves. Works for me. The key is using the same phrase every time ya leave. Start out with it when you know you won't be gone long and work your way up to being gone longer. Always use exactly the same phrase. All the dog needs is a built in trained assurance that you'll be back. The phrase will do that for them. Oh yeah - it works on just 1 dog too, but it works better if you've got 2, or some cats that are part of their family.
What about those days that are too hot or too cold to leave them in a vehicle?? I would love to take my dogs with me, but I take in foster dogs and it's not safe to bring that many dogs with me... plus my dogs keep each other company... after listening to this, I am doing ok... but I could do better... Everyone can...
🤷🏻♀️ I explain to them exactly what I am doing "mommy go bye bye", where I'm going "mommy go work it" and how long(ish) "...go little bye bye", or "go bye bye, 2 (I count on my fingers '1, 2') lie down go sleep, mommy home". Yea, they do actually understand! 😂 Had one that counted up to 4. Think about it - when you let your dog out, you tell them -well, I reverse engineered that, and (knock on wood, lol) have yet to have had separation anxiety with any of the dogs I've had and currently have, from mixed to gsd. 😁
One of the reasons we have two indoor cats. I like dogs, but they require a lot of attention and they don't work well as motor home passengers----in our case, at least.
They make a CBD pill for dogs it works pretty good. Calms him down. The special dog bowls that the food sits in a maze really helps my dog. He used to eat so fast then would throw it all up. Now since the little maze slows him down so much he has not thrown up once.
I got number 1 totally wrong when I leave for work , I give my dog and cat lots of lovin and kisses and I tell them I’ll be home later and tell them their mama will be home soon , I guess I’m a bad doggo and catto hooman daddo
Don’t be too hard on yourself. Your love and care for your pets are clear! It’s a common habit because we just want to reassure them, but sometimes it can unintentionally make goodbyes harder for them. Maybe try keeping departures low key next time and save the love and kisses for when you get back. They’ll be just as happy to see you then ❤
I rarely leave my dog alone, if I'll be away for medical reasons I leave her with close friends who have a dog who she likes. Otherwise we are always together.
Exactly what I tell people. If my dog can't come, I don't need to go that badly. On a related note, my dog has seen Ray Wylie Hubbard in a small venue close to here and the people behind us fed him overpriced BBQ. Yeah, they asked. The two exceptions are work and the doctor. Even then, one of us stays with him.
@@MillerFourFingers mine is allowed into the doctor's office via a side door. The first thing she does is too jump up on the examination table. She also goes with me to the barber's, masseurs, pub, cafe's in the morning, parties at night!
My basset can’t wait for me to leave. She explores the house to see what I’ve left to close to the edge of the counter for her to eat. Bassets are intelligent dogs that never miss an opportunity to eat a loaf of bread, or the cats food.
Leaving curtains open may cause your dog to be excited or stressed by any activity it sees outside. I walk my dog in many places. I never hear dogs barking from behind closed curtains; only from behind windows they can see out. Take all advice with a grain of salt. Dogs are not all the same.
Studies done in the 1990s showed that all mammals of which humans are, respond to music the same way. Ever known someone with Alzheimer's disease can still play the music they used to? That is because music involves the entire brain, not just part of it. That is one reason deaf people who I feel sorry for, have lost the ability to enjoy music.
Yet you are choosing to miss out on so much love, caring, play, cuddles, happiness and companionship. Oh well, each to their own I guess. I’d never owned or even been acquainted with a dog until my late late 40s and then wow, we took on two sister pug puppies at once.. a learning curve indeed but yet the best and most fulfilling experience as they brought such joy into our lives. Sadly they died within a year of each other having reached the grand old age of 13 in human years, pensioners in dog years. You know what? I wish we’d have done it sooner than our late 40s. We have had a rescue dog for the last year (she’s a joy) and are now in the process of adopting another rescue to provide her with doggie companionship. I will never ever regret becoming a doggie mom as they become more than family.
So don’t make a big thing of your departure, yet tell them that you’re leaving and come back if they start howling. Ever heard of not contradicting yourself? 🤦🏻♂️
If your dog starts howling, the goal isn’t to reinforce the behavior but to address the underlying anxiety they might be feeling. It's all about helping them feel secure when you're not around. I hope that clears things up!
This is one of the reasons we always have two dogs. They keep each other company.
I love that idea! Having two dogs to keep each other company is a great way to ensure they feel less lonely
same - we have always had two for this reason.
I have a hunting dog and it is super easy ... when I leave I just give him the "stay" command. He knows that he has a job, which is to stay, and waits even hours. No hugging etc pp. He needs a task and he gets it.
He also never ever gets food while Imam away. And he gets food 3x a day in small portions.
When I come back, he never gets first attention, he has to wait until I am undressed. THEN I give him time, to greet, lick my face , sniff my hands. Etc.
Main mistake is that we tend to consider a dog being a small human and he is not. He has his own rules and processes and I try to understand them.
Surprised they didn’t mention getting a second dog to keep each other company.
I adopted an older cat but I didn't know she wasn't 7 years old as stated but was in fact about 11years old. She was always anxious when I left for work and I accidentally discovered she watched TV. She loved the Animal Planet and would watch it, take a nap, eat and start the process over until I got home.
Some animals like music on when you are gone... and a light if you will be gone after dark....
I play soft meditation music and I don’t try to stay away too long. I also play or take her for a walk if I have been away 4-6 hours. When I go to run errands, she goes with me.
She loves going bye-bye to the bank or post office. She has been a wonderful companion to me.
I play soft instrumental meditation music and I don’t try to stay away too long. I also play or take her for a walk if I have been away 4-6 hours. When I go to run errands, she goes with me.
She loves going bye-bye to the bank or post office. She has been a wonderful companion to me. Also, add
a shirt or sweatshirt in their dog bed or where they lay.
I tell my dog, " I'm going to work ,you stay here, watch the house."
We always set the alarm before we go out. We believe the beeping lets our dog know not to expect us back for a while. One time we fed our dog right before leaving, thinking it would provide a distraction. Big mistake. When we returned she was frantic. She is use to coming to me to "thank" me for her meal and I was not there! Poor pup.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Setting the alarm is an interesting idea-it sounds like a clever way to help your dog understand the routine. Your pup is lucky to have such attentive and loving owners! 🧡
I always tell my baby mommy be back soon , wait for me, love you 🥰
That’s so sweet! ❤
That’s exactly the same thing I do.
Me too. 😁👍
I never had a dog, until my daughter decided to get one when she started medical school. But soon, she figured it was not easy to take care of the dog while in medical school. So, I ended up with a beautiful White German Shepherd called Bellissima. (There is a picture of her on my Channel). She is the most beautiful dog I have ever seen!
And every time I leave the house, she looks at me as if to say: "Where the hell you think you are going?" and "Can I go with you?". And looking at her beautiful eyes and her long ears, melts my heart. So, most of the time, I end up taking her with me everywhere I go!
My dogs go with me everywhere. I do leave them in our motel room while we eat, etc. And they are fine.
I either leave nature sounds, classical or easy listening music or a movie that I know doesn’t have loud noises. Common sense.
My little girl, Zoe (my Maltese, Shih Tzu) dog and I developed our routine I thot she will be confident enough once this becomes a habit whenever I have to leave the house for few hours or if it’s only necessary. But she’s very smart whenever I get up early and hop in the shower, she senses I am going away or leaving to somewhere on that day. But my trick always work guys. At first, she cries but whenever I keep doing this routine, until she realises that I hold on to my promise that I will come back, after a while, she started to get used to our routine and now she’s so confident that I will return and come back home. I always tell her to sit at the front door and wait for me till I come back, then, promised her always that I will give her a cuddle after I washed my hands after coming home to her, till it became habitual between us. That’s why, now, my Zoe stop crying coz she knows well that mum will soon be back again to give her a cuddle and a treat. What amazes me and makes me more excited is to see her always and truly waiting for me - and seeing her little tail wagging for excitement seeing me back home!
I encourage you guys to make a deal with your loving pets and when you promise them something, make sure that you will do it till they become confident enough and believe that they won’t be alone at all and that you will surely come back! That’s how I gained my little Zoe’s confident instead of having a separation anxiety guys! But mind you, it takes a while and varies on how your pets will react on it because it is ou or us, who will help them believe that it will be alright! So,far, ever since, we’re both feeling secure, peaceful, free stress and both seeing each other with joy and happy together - not just my Zoe but I feel confident myself thinking my little girl is going to be alright - she’s always alright when I arrived home, she’s happy seeing me back with her tail wagging excitingly all the time!
Btw,it says here not to leave the TV on. But I honestly do leave our TV on for her but tuned only with her favourite tv shows or series that she loves, amuse her and will entertain her to keep her mind destructed. So, far, I never left her with any tv shows or anything that will make her feel more scared at all, besides, I know what she loves and what she hates. I don’t encourage to leave my little girl, Zoe with toys around as I thot something might have had happened wrong esply when I’m not around for few hours. The sound of the TV is enough for me to leave her amuse and at the same time, gives me peace of mind not to worry any hazards around er while I’m not home.
I always tell my dog to "watch my house" when I leave telling him he's on duty to guard the house when I'm gone.
That’s such a sweet routine! ❤
I always tell my dog to look after my bungalow, be a good girl, I won't be long and you'll get a treat when I get back, I always give her a few shapes biscuits and always leave plenty of water, I always say bye, see you later and be good...😊
I give my pittie instructions on looking after the house, he has a job. He’s there watching when I come home and tell him good job.
I always give my dog a Kong full of peanut butter before I leave. She's so busy enjoying her Kong, she doesn't even notice I left.
It’s awesome that you’ve found a method that works so well for her! 😆
We do that too. A Kong with dog biscuits in. She looks forward to us going out. Also a bit of classical music on the radio.
We have the perfect solution for this, at 14 1/2 yr old our JRT has never once been away from us. Not left alone, not put into kennels, not left with other people.
If she cannot be somewhere, then we do not go, it's that simple. Dogs are sentient beings, they are a human child at 2 1/2 yr old their whole life.
If you wouldn't do it to a child ... DO NOT do it to a dag.
And yet, come a day when the dog has to be left alone for any reason, it will go frantic. In my view, it's better to have one's dog get used to a variety of situations.
I've owned dogs all my life. In my experience teaching your dogs that you are leaving but will be back is no big deal. As long as they've learned that you're always coming back they'll be fine and not have to suffer through a period of separation anxiety. For me it's as simple as a phrase I use every time EVERY TIME I go someplace. I don't know how they do it but they always seem to know (spooky - almost before I do) that I'm going somewhere. They will get anxious and animated until I walk to the front door and say to them, " P G E, guys, P G E, Protect the cats, guard the house and eat the burglars." Of course they probably have 0
o understanding of what I just said, BUT - as soon as they hear that phrase they know that I will be back. They calm down and stand by the door until I leave. They're fine. Don't bark after I'm gone. Don't eat shoes or chew on stuff while I'm gone, nor do any of the other things dogs do when their people/person leaves. Works for me.
The key is using the same phrase every time ya leave. Start out with it when you know you won't be gone long and work your way up to being gone longer. Always use exactly the same phrase. All the dog needs is a built in trained assurance that you'll be back. The phrase will do that for them. Oh yeah - it works on just 1 dog too, but it works better if you've got 2, or some cats that are part of their family.
Giving a treat and big cuddles when you return also works
What about those days that are too hot or too cold to leave them in a vehicle?? I would love to take my dogs with me, but I take in foster dogs and it's not safe to bring that many dogs with me... plus my dogs keep each other company... after listening to this, I am doing ok... but I could do better... Everyone can...
🤷🏻♀️
I explain to them exactly what I am doing "mommy go bye bye", where I'm going "mommy go work it" and how long(ish) "...go little bye bye", or "go bye bye, 2 (I count on my fingers '1, 2') lie down go sleep, mommy home".
Yea, they do actually understand! 😂
Had one that counted up to 4.
Think about it - when you let your dog out, you tell them -well, I reverse engineered that, and (knock on wood, lol) have yet to have had separation anxiety with any of the dogs I've had and currently have, from mixed to gsd.
😁
Wow...Your method of explaining and even using counting is so creative and it sounds like it really works! 😃
One of the reasons we have two indoor cats. I like dogs, but they require a lot of attention and they don't work
well as motor home passengers----in our case, at least.
I finally learned this lesson before I retired.
I guess I’m a great dog owner.
It seems I do all the right things, according to you.
They make a CBD pill for dogs it works pretty good. Calms him down. The special dog bowls that the food sits in a maze really helps my dog. He used to eat so fast then would throw it all up. Now since the little maze slows him down so much he has not thrown up once.
I tell him
Mommy b back love you
My sweet baby
My dog cannot stand loud noises, but turn on Family Guy or any cowboy-n-indian show or channel, he is happy as a clam.
I got number 1 totally wrong when I leave for work , I give my dog and cat lots of lovin and kisses and I tell them I’ll be home later and tell them their mama will be home soon , I guess I’m a bad doggo and catto hooman daddo
Don’t be too hard on yourself. Your love and care for your pets are clear! It’s a common habit because we just want to reassure them, but sometimes it can unintentionally make goodbyes harder for them. Maybe try keeping departures low key next time and save the love and kisses for when you get back. They’ll be just as happy to see you then ❤
@ they get all that lovin when I leave and get home
I rarely leave my dog alone, if I'll be away for medical reasons I leave her with close friends who have a dog who she likes. Otherwise we are always together.
If my dog can't go, I won't go!
Exactly what I tell people. If my dog can't come, I don't need to go that badly. On a related note, my dog has seen Ray Wylie Hubbard in a small venue close to here and the people behind us fed him overpriced BBQ. Yeah, they asked. The two exceptions are work and the doctor. Even then, one of us stays with him.
@@MillerFourFingers mine is allowed into the doctor's office via a side door. The first thing she does is too jump up on the examination table. She also goes with me to the barber's, masseurs, pub, cafe's in the morning, parties at night!
My basset can’t wait for me to leave. She explores the house to see what I’ve left to close to the edge of the counter for her to eat. Bassets are intelligent dogs that never miss an opportunity to eat a loaf of bread, or the cats food.
Their noses and love for food definitely keep life interesting ❤
Leaving curtains open may cause your dog to be excited or stressed by any activity it sees outside. I walk my dog in many places. I never hear dogs barking from behind closed curtains; only from behind windows they can see out. Take all advice with a grain of salt. Dogs are not all the same.
I don’t agree with the food part. Because my dog doesn’t even touch the food until I get home. He would not eat until I know I was coming back
My dogs keep each other company and my folks drop by in the evening hours to feed them (I tend to work well into the wee hours of the morning).
You shouldn't have a dog if you're never home. Working inbthe wee hours sounds like loneliness
I'm sure that my dog thinks I am going to the park with out her when I leave for work.
Studies done in the 1990s showed that all mammals of which humans are, respond to music the same way. Ever known someone with Alzheimer's disease can still play the music they used to? That is because music involves the entire brain, not just part of it. That is one reason deaf people who I feel sorry for, have lost the ability to enjoy music.
Wow. Too much work. No dog for us.
Yet you are choosing to miss out on so much love, caring, play, cuddles, happiness and companionship. Oh well, each to their own I guess. I’d never owned or even been acquainted with a dog until my late late 40s and then wow, we took on two sister pug puppies at once.. a learning curve indeed but yet the best and most fulfilling experience as they brought such joy into our lives. Sadly they died within a year of each other having reached the grand old age of 13 in human years, pensioners in dog years. You know what? I wish we’d have done it sooner than our late 40s. We have had a rescue dog for the last year (she’s a joy) and are now in the process of adopting another rescue to provide her with doggie companionship. I will never ever regret becoming a doggie mom as they become more than family.
Wagging tails? Really? 04:33
Studies show Dogs prefer Reggie. Go figure.
Commenters: what’s with all the silly baby talk.
Gosh they are dogs, not a mistress.
Get to the point!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So don’t make a big thing of your departure, yet tell them that you’re leaving and come back if they start howling. Ever heard of not contradicting yourself? 🤦🏻♂️
If your dog starts howling, the goal isn’t to reinforce the behavior but to address the underlying anxiety they might be feeling. It's all about helping them feel secure when you're not around. I hope that clears things up!
I have a question. Is it normal when you’re gone a very very very long time and once you’re back and the dog sees you to pee.
Yes. Excited pee. It happens
Or has to pee because you're gone too long,duh