I have read and listened to hundreds of books. This Man is the most profound thinker I have come across, and his book/ audiobook is not to be overlooked!
He was a master of spirituality, a mystic, though restrained by the Catholic Church hierarchy for putting all religions and religious teachers in equal footing.
Mindfulness is really desirelessness. It's the therapy in vogue to reduce your suffering by changing your thoughts and beliefs. I love the mental exercise of not even judging thoughts. We have inordinate desires to control everything, to get one's way, to win, and to analyze.
I tend to watch a lot of these kinds of videos. What I noticed here is that unlike so many of the other teachers there are no flowers behind him. Just his message. interesting
LoL... obviously the flowers... first person I thought of when the flowers were mentioned was Eckhart Tolle, and then your comment confirmed "great minds think alike" 😊❤ love to all🎉
@@ariseppa7444 buddha wouldn’t stop a rape because he’d interfere with the karmic cycle. jesus would save you, jesus hates evil. buddha accepts it as part of life, it’s not. holiness and life without sin is real. me and you are tainted with evil, jesus shows u this.
The woman at 7:11 has no attachment to staying conscious 😊 Jokes aside, the book "Awareness" by Anthony De Mello changed my life. It may be my favorite book of all time. I read it every year. God bless you all! ❤️🙏
DeMello was one of my earliest spiritual influencers and I love seeing him here. His books have a light like few others. If you can find his book on meditation, it is perhaps the best book ever written on the subject.
I owe my happiness today to Tony's teachings of spirituality. I was introduced to his book about 15 years ago. Only in the past few years has it truly started to sink in. Grateful for this.
at 23 i was in a crisis after having been attacked and then forgotten by the "justice system". i found De Mello by chance. bought a book. Changed my life.
addiction, drug, alcohol, cigarettes, gambling... that's the physical mirror when we depend on certain things or people or believes... We judge people who use too much alcohol or drugs, but we are not different from them.
I think I have the opposite problem. I don't feel much attachment. Neither do I feel much sorrow. I enjoy being around others, have fun with them, etc. but I don't have the urge to have a relationship. To live together with someone else. The thing is, I am actually quite happy being by myself. I just wonder whether this is healthy.
It sounds very healthy to me. We are all unfortunately conditioned to believe that we have to fit into society in a ‘one size fits all’ way to be happy. That’s a lie. Go your own way, be free and enjoy!
well I am like you, I have no sense of loneliness or desire for relationships but I always feel something is wrong with me and I do think ultimately I am attached to my privacy and my freewheeling lifestyle. What say you about this comment?
@@ooohlaa13 Sounds totally like me! 😅 What I find stange about myself is that I often think I do not care enough for things - but at the same time I am a highly curious person. At one point, I spoke to a psychiatrist and she thought I might have autism or something. But I am highly empathic and can feel high empathic distress. Often to the point that I cannot watch certain films. I also have a very good judgement when it comes to social norms. So the autism hypothesis doesn't make sense. I guess everyone is unique in their own way.
once again same ... I have very deep empathy for animals and for the pain their deaths and loss of them as family members incurs. When I am around others empathically I can feel their pain and it can stay with me for days so I avoid at all costs because all my life this has been totally disruptive. I have recovered from alcohol addiction and bulimia and from marrying my psychiatrist who turned out to be a narcissist puerile man who had a "loving" persona that fooled many.@@ZooDinghy
What is it called when somebody lives in such a way that his/her soul purpose is to dedicate their life to enlighten other human beings to the Art of heart seeing, happiness, Love?
He talks about this! They may not need to comprehend it per se, but they are already living the life moment to moment, involved in what they are doing. Look for more ADM talks (I always look for his own voice, not people reading it which never works for me). There's a bunch of them here, including #74 which talks about schools and bringing up children: www.demellospirituality.com/the-happiness-podcast/
😆 @6:45 "So here it is. The world is full of sorrow. The root of sorrow is attachment desire. The uprooting of sorrow is the dropping of attachment. How does one drop it? One only looks and sees that it is based on a false belief. The belief that without this I cannot be happy. That's false." From Nisargadatta: "All chaos is due to a concept: I am the body. The affairs of the world are going on by the strength of a concept. Do not renounce anything; you have only to understand....Pure consciousness is called Naryana. Beings do not know it; hence they suffer misery. Those who have recognized that consciousness is without quality - guna - get tired of staying on in the world....Simply remember that your form is like space. "Our behavior through body consciousness is like the condition of a patient in hospital. During sickness one feels the need for oneself. So long as there is sickness, one has to look after oneself very carefully. Sickness means beingness. "You might not understand this but it is important to understand just the same - identification with the body is like a sickness; therefore, it needs to be taken care of throughout the day....You look after yourself so that this experience of sickness should not pass away. Since the experience itself is that of sickness, it will come to an end....Why do we do japa and meditation? Is it not in order to protect the consciousness? However, this quality itself is of material origin. It is created through the essence of the body essence of food. Because of body consciousness it has expectations, desires and passions. "...the gnani has no use of his self-realization. With such discrimination one goes beyond consciousness. Every being is protecting that which can never be protected in spite of all efforts. All that is desirous of protection will not last. "....You aspire to get physical and spiritual well being through your body consciousness, but the body is not your true nature....Body consciousness takes all the responsibility and pride. As a result it becomes a source of misery. The one who is forever awake is the satguru. He gives you wakefulness. Take that wakefulness and be awakened. Then you will get the true nature of the satguru. One who follows the guru word does not have to make much effort. "....After listening to this, you will understand that your consciousness is the quality of the vital life force. It is not you. Only see how consciousness has come over you. Leave all the rest. All complications have started with consciousness. That which has to experience consciousness has no name or form; hence, it has identified itself with the body. Consciousness depends upon food. "....Until you get the full understanding, observe how consciousness has arisen....How long will it take for us to get realization? Until such times as when your concepts come to an end. "Wakefulness is the primordial illusion."
This guy actually strikes me as a bitter man in most of his books. These people that don't have children or put themselves in situations where they know they could lose everything are telling us how to not suffer. Acceptance of suffering and the human condition is the way to peace. Knowing you will be terrified of losing your kids because you love them so much but having them anyway and learning to let go as they grow. Risking loving others and giving those around you freedom to be who they are. These situations are real spirituality
Abdullah bin `Umar said, "Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) took hold of my shoulder and said, 'Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a traveler." The sub-narrator added: Ibn `Umar used to say, "If you survive till the evening, do not expect to be alive in the morning, and if you survive till the morning, do not expect to be alive in the evening, and take from your health for your sickness, and (take) from your life for your death. Allah said, narrating upon a believer at the time of Fir’awn that he said: “O my people! Truly, this life of the world is nothing but a (quick passing) enjoyment, and verily, the hereafter that is the home that will remain forever.” [Ghafir : 39]
I feel so relieved that their is less in front of me than behind. At 64....l can't wait to go home to source. I have never known happyness on Earth. I got it all wrong.
I wish you the best if you are truly seeking but it doesn’t sound like you are going back to “source” with the attitude that your message conveys. There is so much work to be done here and now with feet ground, so your tone sounds defeated and nihilistic in literally the best time ever to be alive especially for free access to unlimited spiritual teachings. Best of luck. My hunch, like how the Buddha said is that most people think they are returning to “source”, when in reality they get sent back here for another rebirth. The samsara merry go round from heII! 🎪 🤡 Go for higher rebirth!! 🙏🏼 🌬️
But don't you think it gives you higher chance of success if you have an all or nothing mentality? Like wouldn't persona A (puts his success as condition to be happy) have higher chance of succeeding to get what he wants, and person B (is happy even if not achieving set thing) less chance, since less pressure?
Well if you work for Tesla, u can’t do propaganda for Lucid. At the end of he’s life he recognized Who had all in all. In he’s book ; “The way to love”.
He probably lived in the very comfortable Jesuit Residence at Fordham where somebody else paid the bills to keep a really nice roof over his head. And it's likely that staff made his meals. Most people I know are busy working to pay for a residence. Most people I know are attached to their significant others and children and relatives and friends. Everybody I know would be very sad if their wife and kids drove over a cliff and died. If they weren't grieving, I would judge them to be sick, or it would be very suspicious. Did the residents of Lahaina, HI bring their misery on by being attached to their loved ones, their homes, their businesses? Only somebody who doesn't understand what it is to work for things, or to be in a loving relationship can be so cavalier about blaming people for their unhappiness about loss because of attachment. I'd rather be attached to my spouse and be a human, than to some kind of near-sociopath who says "easy come, easy go" when his wife and kids drive over a cliff and die. The superiority of Fr. De Mello to suggest that people choose unhappiness by pursuing normal lives in a capitalist consumer culture is typical of Roman Catholic clergy. Why not sell Vatican City give the proceeds to India's poor and do Catholic ministry from a tent?
your comment is the kind I would make normally when filled with bitterness, envy and resentment. It's a trap to kill the messenger and ignore the message that attachment to the earth plane culture is a living hell! and it shows up in many forms, some more severe than others like attachment to a substance or contemplating suicide because of betrayal. It's sneaky and subtle and the quality you call sociopathic is just a loud wake up call to how sneaky and life sucking attachment is. A Course in Miracles calls out special relationships as a key disturbance in our peace. We make some people more special than others, or some conditions more important than others = attachment and addictions that govern our lives and rob us of inner peace. That's my take. Many teachers are ruthless in their presentations to wake us up from sleepwalking thru our lives. Don't kill the messenger is my opinion.
Where was this guy my whole life?
I have read and listened to hundreds of books. This Man is the most profound thinker I have come across, and his book/ audiobook is not to be overlooked!
What book would you start with
@@priusuguusiii3633 the way to love. Life changer
@@stevefowler8095 thank you
@@stevefowler8095 Hey, what is the difference between Eckhart's teachings and Anthony de Mello teachings ? I am curious.
@BrianBroughten Concur, I gone deeper. I have learned from the philosophers, mystics and neuro science on how to develop the way to happiness.
This man saved my life!
Same!
Me too
I'm happy u guys are still here ❤ alan watts saved me but Anthony is absolutely great too
No wrong! You saved it!❤
Anthony was a true Mystic. Awareness was a masterpiece.
The biggest Relief for me was not to feel anymore SORRY for myself! Changed a lot. Blessings.
He was a master of spirituality, a mystic, though restrained by the Catholic Church hierarchy for putting all religions and religious teachers in equal footing.
Yes, as usual the intelligent, liberated ones are "stopped" by the elite and psychopaths.
They probably bumped him off.
@@LifeisCosmic Yes
Could not agree with u more. I think he was murdered
He suffered a heart attack, not murdered.
This is so deep and a lot will fly over surface level peoples heads
I love this man ...May he be blessed ✨
He did trancend. I truly believe that.
What do you mean by that?
Mindfulness is really desirelessness. It's the therapy in vogue to reduce your suffering by changing your thoughts and beliefs. I love the mental exercise of not even judging thoughts. We have inordinate desires to control everything, to get one's way, to win, and to analyze.
If you don't judge your thoughts, you are not attached to your thoughts. Aware of thoughts but not being attached to them!
I am so glad you commented on my comment. This has prompted me to listen to his book " Attachment" what a work; a masterpiece!
The very best to all.
I tend to watch a lot of these kinds of videos. What I noticed here is that unlike so many of the other teachers there are no flowers behind him. Just his message. interesting
Hey, what is the difference between Eckhart's teachings and Anthony de Mello teachings ? I am curious.
style of delivery ,,,,, eckhart is very subtle and this guy us bombastic .... message fundamentally same@@Gaurav.P0
LoL... obviously the flowers... first person I thought of when the flowers were mentioned was Eckhart Tolle, and then your comment confirmed "great minds think alike" 😊❤ love to all🎉
Happiness through Materialistic stuff was so conflicting to me until now. I needed this. Thanks.
yes, and when you believe in jesus christ, you no longer struggle with these attachments. this is all reiteration, read the bible! 🥰
W O W ! ! ! That must mean something . . .
Of course it is! There is nothing new in Christianity - it’s only 2000 years old!
But aren’t you attached to jesus christ then?
@@ariseppa7444 yeah that’s kind of the whole point of the bible, ur not supposed to be detached from everything? don’t you see how dangerous that is?
@@ariseppa7444 buddha wouldn’t stop a rape because he’d interfere with the karmic cycle. jesus would save you, jesus hates evil. buddha accepts it as part of life, it’s not. holiness and life without sin is real. me and you are tainted with evil, jesus shows u this.
I have an attachment to those glasses!
Gazelles
I've been listening to Anthony for 20 years. Brilliant mind.
Thank you so much Mr De Mello 🙏
You have open my eyes and I'm very much awake now 😊
This helped me realise how attached I was to succeeding in my current Masters program. Thank you.
Majestic 💐💐💐
The woman at 7:11 has no attachment to staying conscious 😊 Jokes aside, the book "Awareness" by Anthony De Mello changed my life. It may be my favorite book of all time. I read it every year. God bless you all! ❤️🙏
DeMello was one of my earliest spiritual influencers and I love seeing him here. His books have a light like few others. If you can find his book on meditation, it is perhaps the best book ever written on the subject.
Although this video is quite old, the message is more relevant now than ever before. Thank you!
I owe my happiness today to Tony's teachings of spirituality. I was introduced to his book about 15 years ago. Only in the past few years has it truly started to sink in. Grateful for this.
at 23 i was in a crisis after having been attacked and then forgotten by the "justice system". i found De Mello by chance. bought a book. Changed my life.
My HERO!!! ❤❤❤❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙌🙌🙌🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
I had to see this.I am grateful
Anthony Démelo so funny, but so real❤
"Depression at loss of something" wicked
Anthony holds the keys
Talks straight up
Very interesting video on attachment🥰
Brilliant mind
He taught us how to make fire! I have a giant poster of him on the wall 😜
Amazing and true ❤
This was beautiful! But please do yourselves a favour and have a giggle at 7:11 😂😂❤
Incrível.
Thank you
“Is we don’t get that we are going to be miserable, that’s called attachment”
“The root of sorrow is attachment-desire”
You need 'a reason' to be unhappy
Yes
An attachment is a "have to have", a dependency.
addiction, drug, alcohol, cigarettes, gambling... that's the physical mirror when we depend on certain things or people or believes... We judge people who use too much alcohol or drugs, but we are not different from them.
Thanks
I think I have the opposite problem. I don't feel much attachment. Neither do I feel much sorrow. I enjoy being around others, have fun with them, etc. but I don't have the urge to have a relationship. To live together with someone else. The thing is, I am actually quite happy being by myself. I just wonder whether this is healthy.
It sounds very healthy to me. We are all unfortunately conditioned to believe that we have to fit into society in a ‘one size fits all’ way to be happy. That’s a lie. Go your own way, be free and enjoy!
well I am like you, I have no sense of loneliness or desire for relationships but I always feel something is wrong with me and I do think ultimately I am attached to my privacy and my freewheeling lifestyle. What say you about this comment?
@@ooohlaa13 Sounds totally like me! 😅 What I find stange about myself is that I often think I do not care enough for things - but at the same time I am a highly curious person. At one point, I spoke to a psychiatrist and she thought I might have autism or something. But I am highly empathic and can feel high empathic distress. Often to the point that I cannot watch certain films. I also have a very good judgement when it comes to social norms. So the autism hypothesis doesn't make sense. I guess everyone is unique in their own way.
once again same ... I have very deep empathy for animals and for the pain their deaths and loss of them as family members incurs. When I am around others empathically I can feel their pain and it can stay with me for days so I avoid at all costs because all my life this has been totally disruptive. I have recovered from alcohol addiction and bulimia and from marrying my psychiatrist who turned out to be a narcissist puerile man who had a "loving" persona that fooled many.@@ZooDinghy
Sounds peaceful...
What is it called when somebody lives in such a way that his/her soul purpose is to dedicate their life to enlighten other human beings to the Art of heart seeing, happiness, Love?
Grace
Attachment
Bodhisattva
Mystical
@@nickydastinks I always preface this with altruism. Not a perfect translation but helps to you to get it
Can these lessons be taught to children? Does a child with limited life experience have the capacity to comprehend ? It sure would be interesting
He talks about this! They may not need to comprehend it per se, but they are already living the life moment to moment, involved in what they are doing. Look for more ADM talks (I always look for his own voice, not people reading it which never works for me). There's a bunch of them here, including #74 which talks about schools and bringing up children: www.demellospirituality.com/the-happiness-podcast/
Or his brother's website is great too: www.tonydemello.com/
@@CommuneRecords those 2 pages are gold, thanks brother (or sister)
A child doesn't think about its limitations until we make them reflect on it
It would be traumatising to them
This guy is the OG Double-Deepak Chopra
😆 @6:45 "So here it is. The world is full of sorrow. The root of sorrow is attachment desire. The uprooting of sorrow is the dropping of attachment. How does one drop it? One only looks and sees that it is based on a false belief. The belief that without this I cannot be happy. That's false."
From Nisargadatta:
"All chaos is due to a concept: I am the body. The affairs of the world are going on by the strength of a concept. Do not renounce anything; you have only to understand....Pure consciousness is called Naryana. Beings do not know it; hence they suffer misery. Those who have recognized that consciousness is without quality - guna - get tired of staying on in the world....Simply remember that your form is like space.
"Our behavior through body consciousness is like the condition of a patient in hospital. During sickness one feels the need for oneself. So long as there is sickness, one has to look after oneself very carefully. Sickness means beingness.
"You might not understand this but it is important to understand just the same - identification with the body is like a sickness; therefore, it needs to be taken care of throughout the day....You look after yourself so that this experience of sickness should not pass away. Since the experience itself is that of sickness, it will come to an end....Why do we do japa and meditation? Is it not in order to protect the consciousness? However, this quality itself is of material origin. It is created through the essence of the body essence of food. Because of body consciousness it has expectations, desires and passions.
"...the gnani has no use of his self-realization. With such discrimination one goes beyond consciousness. Every being is protecting that which can never be protected in spite of all efforts. All that is desirous of protection will not last.
"....You aspire to get physical and spiritual well being through your body consciousness, but the body is not your true nature....Body consciousness takes all the responsibility and pride. As a result it becomes a source of misery. The one who is forever awake is the satguru. He gives you wakefulness. Take that wakefulness and be awakened. Then you will get the true nature of the satguru. One who follows the guru word does not have to make much effort.
"....After listening to this, you will understand that your consciousness is the quality of the vital life force. It is not you. Only see how consciousness has come over you. Leave all the rest. All complications have started with consciousness. That which has to experience consciousness has no name or form; hence, it has identified itself with the body. Consciousness depends upon food.
"....Until you get the full understanding, observe how consciousness has arisen....How long will it take for us to get realization? Until such times as when your concepts come to an end.
"Wakefulness is the primordial illusion."
The root is suffering is attachment
Haha, this was wonderful to hear!
If only it was true...
Attachment!
"Achieved is the end of craving"
anonymous
👍
This guy actually strikes me as a bitter man in most of his books. These people that don't have children or put themselves in situations where they know they could lose everything are telling us how to not suffer. Acceptance of suffering and the human condition is the way to peace. Knowing you will be terrified of losing your kids because you love them so much but having them anyway and learning to let go as they grow. Risking loving others and giving those around you freedom to be who they are. These situations are real spirituality
Abdullah bin `Umar said, "Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) took hold of my shoulder and said, 'Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a traveler." The sub-narrator added: Ibn `Umar used to say, "If you survive till the evening, do not expect to be alive in the morning, and if you survive till the morning, do not expect to be alive in the evening, and take from your health for your sickness, and (take) from your life for your death.
Allah said, narrating upon a believer at the time of Fir’awn that he said:
“O my people! Truly, this life of the world is nothing but a (quick passing) enjoyment, and verily, the hereafter that is the home that will remain forever.” [Ghafir : 39]
💛
BUT - don't get attached to "getting unattached" - sometimes "IT" rains and sometime not.
where do you think Love comes from?
Love with attachment is love with conditions.
We should fall in love, not fall in dependence
I feel so relieved that their is less in front of me than behind. At 64....l can't wait to go home to source. I have never known happyness on Earth. I got it all wrong.
I wish you the best if you are truly seeking but it doesn’t sound like you are going back to “source” with the attitude that your message conveys. There is so much work to be done here and now with feet ground, so your tone sounds defeated and nihilistic in literally the best time ever to be alive especially for free access to unlimited spiritual teachings.
Best of luck. My hunch, like how the Buddha said is that most people think they are returning to “source”, when in reality they get sent back here for another rebirth. The samsara merry go round from heII! 🎪 🤡 Go for higher rebirth!! 🙏🏼 🌬️
If you were not actively engaged in making your life miserable, you would be happy 😂 Anthony Demello
Girl in the middle at 7:12 is attached to the inside of her eyelids.
But don't you think it gives you higher chance of success if you have an all or nothing mentality? Like wouldn't persona A (puts his success as condition to be happy) have higher chance of succeeding to get what he wants, and person B (is happy even if not achieving set thing) less chance, since less pressure?
Well if you work for Tesla,
u can’t do propaganda for Lucid.
At the end of he’s life he recognized
Who had all in all. In he’s book ;
“The way to love”.
My pheasant has diarrhoea
He probably lived in the very comfortable Jesuit Residence at Fordham where somebody else paid the bills to keep a really nice roof over his head. And it's likely that staff made his meals. Most people I know are busy working to pay for a residence. Most people I know are attached to their significant others and children and relatives and friends. Everybody I know would be very sad if their wife and kids drove over a cliff and died. If they weren't grieving, I would judge them to be sick, or it would be very suspicious. Did the residents of Lahaina, HI bring their misery on by being attached to their loved ones, their homes, their businesses? Only somebody who doesn't understand what it is to work for things, or to be in a loving relationship can be so cavalier about blaming people for their unhappiness about loss because of attachment. I'd rather be attached to my spouse and be a human, than to some kind of near-sociopath who says "easy come, easy go" when his wife and kids drive over a cliff and die. The superiority of Fr. De Mello to suggest that people choose unhappiness by pursuing normal lives in a capitalist consumer culture is typical of Roman Catholic clergy. Why not sell Vatican City give the proceeds to India's poor and do Catholic ministry from a tent?
your comment is the kind I would make normally when filled with bitterness, envy and resentment. It's a trap to kill the messenger and ignore the message that attachment to the earth plane culture is a living hell! and it shows up in many forms, some more severe than others like attachment to a substance or contemplating suicide because of betrayal. It's sneaky and subtle and the quality you call sociopathic is just a loud wake up call to how sneaky and life sucking attachment is. A Course in Miracles calls out special relationships as a key disturbance in our peace. We make some people more special than others, or some conditions more important than others = attachment and addictions that govern our lives and rob us of inner peace. That's my take. Many teachers are ruthless in their presentations to wake us up from sleepwalking thru our lives. Don't kill the messenger is my opinion.
How is this different from Buddhism
This guy is silly.
But you're wise though :)
Thx @mrlocario for referring me to this guy
You watch Locario to?
I watch @THEMANMINDSET a bunch to