I just lost my mother in Sept. whatever she did or didn't do. I forgive her. She had her own pain and traumas. I will never judge her. I love and miss you so much momma.
Same here. My mom was an alcoholic & drug addict. She died at 36 from kidney failure. Even tho I have memories of her drug use my most vivid memories are of her just being my mom. I do know she loved me no matter her sickness.
@@Tee-kk6tj My condolences. You're mom was a baby. May she finally rest in peace. I put a post up on my IG... "May you heal from all the things no one ever apologized for!" Happy holidays 🥰
Sadly too many of us men have denied our responsibility to our families, neglecting the women we have children with as well abusing them, sometimes directly and indirectly. This has led to us doing the same to our children and opening them up to the same cycles of abuse and neglect. And to add insult to injury we now have men who are so injured that they blame the abused and neglected as the only reason for the problems in our community..the statement hurt people hurt people is definitely true and it continues in a vicious cycle where nobody takes responsibility…MUCH LOVE & GOD BLESS!!
My mother lost her mother at 12 yearscold. She never got over it. She had no one to teach her how to be a mother. And she suffered a lot of abuse and neglect from a step-mother. But I tell you, she was the best mother any human being could have. I thank God everyday for choosing to put me and my sisters in her care. She was the most self-less human being I have every know. I grew up knowing I was the apple of my parents eye. They gave me and my sisters a good foundation in life. ❤❤❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💯
I feel the exact same way you do about my mother, I wish I knew what hurt her so I can forgive her for hurting me. She's passed now but I still struggle with her treatment of me, I always wanted to know why would she do me like that.
I wish I knew my mother’s journey. It would explain so much pain from my childhood. But I have to move forward knowing I may never know why she did some of the things she did to me…🙏🏽
@motivated and determined, I feel you , and hear you, I too wish I knew my mother's story, she left home Away from her mother at the age if 17, never went back South for over 40- fifty years, so I never knew my grandmother, I DO KNOW there's a LOT of mental illness in the family, so I'll Continue to Pray for healing , I'm a well into my senior years now, and it's been WARFARE
@@nicolescott1354 She's probably coping the best, SHE CAN. I don't know you or your mom's business but I CAN tell you, from personal experience, that her NOT telling you some things, just MIGHT be to preserve YOUR Safety and Spirit, because some TRUTHS.. can let you down. Are you prepared to be shocked, disappointed and realize that you might not be able to "Un-see, Un-hear and Unlearn, what you find out?? Bad things happen to the good and innocent.. and it maybe HER way of shielding you.. so let her have that, 'til IF or when she's able to share.. I'm writing to you, from the place of a former child and as a Parent of a 22yr old daughter. Please give her a bit of Grace and adjust your Energy, a little bit.. because If you're trying to understand her.. then try to understand, at minimum, that she just CAN'T, right now and probably (BEEN) struggling. That, or she has personally gotten to a place where she can EXIST more comfortably and your 'pushing for answers' (l know you mean well), may hurt more than 'help', according to the point, she's gotten to. Just understand, . that 👉🏽YOU.. were and are NOT.. the ROOT, of whatever ROCKED your mom's foundation and it isn't 👉🏽YOUR responsibility, to 'fix her'. Besides.. GOD has a way of putting things together, when ☝🏼HIS TIME, is right and may come when you're better equipped, all around, to process everything. Many "Ah-ha's", to come and sometimes it DOES get worse, before it gets better. TRUST HIS PROCESS.
@@charissemodeste6489 Yes! To all of that! It's a hard lesson to learn that your parent(s) isn't perfect, but it's harder still to learn why. Take what they can give and adjust your expectations for what they don't or can't give. Our parents are human, too.
Most people couldn’t handle it if they knew everything that their mothers have gone through, even more disturbing almost none of us could live through the things that our grandmothers lived through! (35yrs & older… b/c my grandmother has stories that I know I couldn’t have survived).
Agree and Willow is a big comcern in that regard. She has her own mental health concerns and she’s had a front row seat to not only her mother and grandmother’s stories and issues for the past 5yrs but the hundreds of other stories told by others -- as a young girl figuring out who she is herself. Although she came walking out there doing the spitting image walk of Fresh Prince, all of this trauma - particularly as an empath - must be a lot in Willow’s young, tender mind. Agree ... most people could not handle this knowledge easily and I wish Willow well as she processes it.
Everyone has stories and those before us are no different. God allows our stories and battles to be free tutorial for others IF they listen. The older generation has made excuses for what they went through as though that excused them from causing their kids to suffer the same. A innocent child should cause any sensible person yo try to better their life. The kids end up having to counsel the damn parent and don’t have anyone to counsel them. Many mothers have been selfish and let either drugs or men come between their children.
Sorry that folks have to thru such pain. She couldn’t say uncle but her mom’s brother. We have to do better to protect our kids in home, school, scouts etc. This shakes kids trust especially if they tell and nobody takes action.
I think it was important to say who her uncle was and that he was on her mother’s side because that affected her relationship with her mother and her mother’s side and how she raised her own daughter as a mom.
I hate it when the abuser starts insisting their victim is angry, instead of acknowledging the pain they caused. It’s like they are using anger to shame the victim or they want you to pretend to not be hurt because they said sorry.
@@JoyFay manipulation. Its continued abuse after the initial incident. Which lasts longer that the actual traumatization. Which doesnt allow much room for healing or at least thinking your healed
I wish the world could show a little more compassion to Jada. She's a flawed human- just like the rest of us. There would be countless people who wouldn't end up being as compassionate and open as she is- had they lived her complicated life. I really appreciate and value the important, progressive and healing work she's doing 💞🌹💞
the best words to speak over your child is "remember, there's a one way ticket from the womb to the tomb. live for God, listen to His guidance and directions, pray frequently, love, breathe and laugh often. the life you live is too precious.. remember that "
No... thats what you yell yourself... Substitute a Black Boy for Jemele. He has to watch his mother either through selfishness or traumas live a life of destruction and he's powerless to help her....because she either doesn't care to or just cant help herself.... Both little boys and little girls are traumatized by having to growup under such a mother.... It colors how both the Boy and or girl looks at Men and Women because they see the worst of both thru their Mother's actions and relationships with other Druggies....Scum Men and Women.. Abusive Men and Abusive Women both Physical and Sexual.... What Men have a problem with is women that always talk Power and Independence ...yet cry victimized and look for sympathy when shyt goes left... Men arent afforded the same empathy...we're broke and Dusty and toxic...unfeeling.... If by chance we let our guard down...we're Gay...Momma's Boys...weak...etc. Its Women that want it Both ways... We're Stong and Independent...Dont tell us Shyt We are your Equal in every way.... Yet Most Victimized. Under appreciated least protected etc.etc Save the tears...pick a lane
I'm piecing my mother's story together 22 years after her death. And I'm finding so much of myself in her. Every suggestion that she made everything she saw in me was 100% correct. I just didn't love myself enough to see it. And I wish that she was here to see the type of woman and mother that I became. In a lot of cases if you want to know who you are you should talk to your mom.
When I moved to America.. I became allot more grateful 🙏 for having the mom I have. I went to school with many kids who didn't have moms and if they did they were addicts or in jail, dead or they just left. When they would meet my mom they wouldn't want to leave. She would give love, hugs, advice and laughs. 😊 kids really embraced my culture and where I came from once they met my mommy or my aunt. Being 14 and having to leave all my childhood friends and family was hard for me. The love of a mother could really do allot for a teenager ❤❤
We wouldn’t want to because no one knows what the people they steal from or abuse do either. Drugs is one thing snd selfishness is another. Drug addicts are selfish people
Absolutely. Sometimes the pain is cut so deep. It's hard to mended it back. We all have some trauma as we venture through this journey of life. Try to guard your emotions and love for self, because you have to be in that body until the end...blessings to All. ❤.
THE REGRET I HAVE I WAS THERE FOR EVERYONES CHILDREN BECAUSE FOR DIFFERENT REASON THEY NEEDED ME,BUT I HAD 4 STAIR STEPS MY CHILDREN NEEDED ME MOST IF I COULD START OVER I WOULD NEVER TAKE ON OTHER PEOPLES KIDS I WOULD TELL THEM I HAVE 4 IF I CAN DO IT YOU CAN TOO.
I'm a Gray as well. From one Gray to another you can't change the past. You were a blessing to those other children. Let your children know how you feel. Ask for their forgiveness, turn it over to God and ask Him to order your steps. I feel like your children saw something in your giving and pouring into others that's going to be beneficial to them.
One of my biggest pet peeves. Is when somebody trys to tell me how I feel and what I should think.Abuse in their childhood is something alot of our parents and grandparents story.People need to stopping get a pass for it.Your abuse is no excuse for making your children childhood miserable traumatic abusive neglectful. Your children should be healing and your reasons for wanting to be clean sober stay out jail and toxic relationships.
They say Jada is raising her kids to be wierd. Jada is at the red table with her own mother and her child getting therapy. How is that wierd?????. She's bonding and finding out why her mom did what she did. And also giving her daughter answers on what she did wrong. And that's great parenting!!!!!! Kudos Jada.
I appreciate their willingness to broadcast this. So many if my clients benefit from hearing about other people's stories. It builds a sense of community and confidence. I love to see it... when done right of course.
I found out a little more of my mother's childhood last year and it hurt as if it were me. It also gave me alot of clarity on alot including our relationship.
It's a reaction of empathy & sometimes awkwardness that lots of people have with no ill intent. PLEASE stop assuming that she is just some ball of pure evil because only her half of her & her swinger husband's lifestyle was exposed. Will was only pissed because it got out & not because he was not fully aware. His long time side chick has taken pics with just the two of them & jet sets all over the world with Will. It's not condoned by me but people need to know the truth & chill on the Jada bashing already. Be well.
RedTableTalk videos. Seárch that and look for the full episode. You can watch for free without being on FB. It’s new now and it won’t always be on top of the list without having to open up the section and having to be on FB to proceed but it’s on there now.
I have a coworker who’s wife is going through really severe postpartum. She’s quite literally drinking herself to death. Instead of getting her help, he’s thinking of divorce.
The generations of trauma is so serious. People must understand that there is always something more when a person uses narcotics. God, bless these women.🥺🥺🥺🙏🙏🙏
My mother won't tell me. Won't say a word. I'm SAD that she will probably die with her story, and I'll make up my own to keep her alive for my children.
@@blessedblessed5018 Tell her your goal about sharing or making memories for your children, even if they are painful. Have you shared any of your truths, traumas, and stories with your mother? If not, perhaps you should. This can be the start of a dialogue that will make her feel comfortable and forthcoming of her own experiences.
I like that last part when she says do you know your mother story I think we should all spend time getting to know our parents, I know my mother story and I'm so glad she did not have a substance abuse problem , I think that's the saddest because they have to fend for themselves after
This is why we as a community need to rid ourselves of the "don't talk about it/ what happens in this house stays in this house foolishness." If so many of us would tell our stories and if so many of us would have grace and mercy for each other as we hear each other's stories we can really break generational curses and begin to heal this community from the inside out
Mr. Smiley you are so inspiring.....growing through the toxic childhood...i can relate but you and your mom....worked through it....still trying with my mother....she is 77.....jist want love and acceptance........but i have grown as a nurse and business person......I've been 3 weeks and I'm trying to share my journey of paying off $124k of debt in just 16 months back in 2020 and I have remained focused towards retirement goal and increased rental property and maintain modest lifestyle financially and became a minimalist... 71 subscribers and 55 video..mostly shorts, but I really just can't figure this thing out because I want to share that journey to hope others could use to help them❤❤❤
What’s so amazing and phenomenal about her? That she smoked crack and mentally abused Jemele? It’s the normalization or acceptance of ✊🏾 degeneracy and inability to call out/make accountable the ✊🏾 single mamas raising this failing generation only to place the blame it on others as Jemele does…continuing the ✊🏾 woke tradition. 🤷🏻♂️
@@stormyweather7952 No matter what race today we need call dead beat dads, thugs, alcoholics, drug users, pedo uncles, gr-rapers, boss bitches etc exactly what they are….no nice words to completely ignore their evil ways. But I the ✊🏾 community it’s Blk girl Magic, Kings n Queens despite all the degenerate behavior. Name another group of people and give themselves undeserving titles and accolades with little accomplishments. Can’t call yourself a Queen while working at Walmart. 🤷🏻♂️
This made me cry . When you see this ....And you have NEVER experienced this type of life or know anyone who has had these kinds of experiences... NOW I understand why Black American women have NO CHOICE BUT TO BE STRONG.. AND WHY THEIR DAUGHTERS HAVE BEEN TRAINED TO BE STRONG ALSO... THE MEN OUT THERE CRITICIZING BLACK WOMEN FOR PROTECTING THEIR HEARTS SHOULD TRY TO UNDERSTAND THEIR PAIN... FIRST
Jada you pulled yourself out of poverty. You build a dynasty. And you stayed strong. Continue to do so. Ignore the black community. I see they're all coming for you and will. They're mad yall married. They're so darn use to negativity. They can't even see that they're hating more than any white sheets. They can't see that they're hating more than any owner!!!!! They are trying with everything in them to break the Smith family. Keep going Jada. Keep shining Jada. Keep talking at the red table and getting that healing.
Yes ma'am! Definitely ignore what we call the so called black community. I am a black person who does not participate in the collective known as the black community. Seeing the reactions from our people toward Jada showed me what I already knew. How simple-minded and weak and gullible so many people in the black community are. Years and years I constantly hear our people crying and complaining about how we don't come together. Well how can a community come together that follows any which way to wind blows, easily swayed, gullible, and turns on each other like jackals because somebody told them to. The venom and creepy misplaced anger toward Jada is so disgusting.
What garbage you speak? No one person outside of their clan of friends have anything to do with their family break-up. If anybody is breaking up their family, is them. Period.
Sending you so much love, Mehkeila ❤ i so wish for you to catch a real big break and to heal.. i hope you find a life that you deserve, so much more than this 💕 hugs
I just learned my mom journey. And instead of holding on to anger. I released it and had compassion. Many things i learned. But one that stood out was she told me her name that I know her as was not her birth name. Amd her favorite food is 🍕 pizza.❤
Do you know your mother's story ? Having that important information could help, because understand what made that person who they are can help you heal 🙏 unfortunately my mother was murder when I was very young so those questions have never will be answer 😪 praying for your peace healing joy and happiness 😊
I tell you we must stop judging ourselves with our past GOD said that we will have trials in this life while on earth because he overcame the trials and sins in this life he gave us the power to overcome everything that ever happened in our life we are not defeated by our past unless we don’t let it go and we keep looking back we have to forgive ourselves and forgive others for what they done to us that’s how we get healing when we learn to forgive those that have harmed us then you know how to forgive ourselves And always remember that GOD loves you just the way you are and he created you in his image GOD know all about you he know what you say even before you say it He knows what you think before you think it And he knows what you are going to do even before you do it There is nothing that GOD doesn’t know about your life or what has happened to you That was why he came to this earth to die for us because he didn’t want us to die with this burden of our past Learn to love GOD because he sure does love you
What a question Do you know your mothers/fathers story? I had so much resentment towards my father for not being there. As I got older and suffered traumas, went through addiction, and loss I realized how broken a person really could be. Just by looking inwards and owning my own shit, it some how helped me to forgive him. I remember thinking I have all these people around loving me through this. Extending the olive branch and accepting my apologies. Over and over again my wonderful family all stepped up to support me and help me heal. Who am I to not do that for the man that gave me life. I realized my father and mother were both humans. They had a story, failures, traumas, flaws just like me. They deserve compassion, understanding, and forgiveness just like me. I think we as people put so much pressure and expectations on people just because of their titles or positions in our lives. A parent does this, a sister does that and so on. But there is no blueprint on how to be…. Accept that people are where they belong and they are exactly who they are supposed to be! If it’s fitting to cut them loose, then do it and don’t look back. But if you decide to allow them in love them for who they are. Is my relationship with my father the way I dreamed about it as a young girl or how the Disney channel says it should be? NO lol no where close, but it’s ours! With that I wouldn’t want to go a day with out him or his love! Love you dad!
SOMETIMES THESE LADIES MAKE ME SICK DOPE IS NEVER THE ANSWERS YOU GO PICK UP DOPE TO FEEL GOOD BULL CRAP GO TO ⛪️ 💒 CHURCH GO TO POLICE STATION GO TO PLACE WHERE HELP IS OFFER NOT DOPE HOUSE OR DOPE MAN GO TO THE HOSPITAL ASK FOR HELP GO TO SOME ONE DOWN THE BLOCK TELL SOMEONE IF YOU IN TROUBLE THESE WAS NOT 1940 OR 1950 CHOSE TO PICK UP DOPE PUT IT YOUR .MOUTH BULL BULL TO MANY FOLKS DO ,NOT USE DOPE WHEN SHIT HAPPENS TO US EXCUSES IS NOT OK. TO USE DOPE FOLKS LOSE CHILDRENS IN LIFE THEY DONT GO TO DOPE MAN
THERE IS NO REASON TO USE DOPE AND THINK IT WANT HURT YOUR CHILDRENS SO. STOP GO TELL SOME BODY SCHOOL. TEACHERS WILL LISTEN TO YOU ALL THE TIMES MENTAL HEALTH WORKERS ALL WAYS THERE SOME BODY IS THERE. TO HELP 1940 1950 LADIES WAS ABUSED AND NO WHERE TO GO FOR HELP NOW TO SAY YOU HAD TO USE DRUGS DOPE TO COPE IS CAUSE YOU WANTED TO LET ME TELL MY SHIT AND HOW ALL 9 NINE OF US DIDN'T USE DOPE OR END UP IN JAIL ALL KIDS NOT IN JAIL OR ON DOPE SO BLACK FOLKS CUT THE SOB STORIES OUT PLEASE PLEASE
There are books of questions that you can buy or get from the library. They are questions are specifically for moms. Some questions are silly (tell me about your first crush/ when was your most embarrassing/ least interesting date/ who was your favorite singer / who was your mom’s favorite singer ) and from those questions, you could go deepet to ask other questions about her past and she might find it easier to talk about other things in time.
@@noble604 It is sad that grown children are afraid to ask questions. I have 3 kids and they know nearly everything about me from childhood to this day. I found out I was terminally ill when I was 22 and my girl's were 3 and my son 1 and I wanted them to ask anything and I wanted to tell so much about me. One thing they will have after I'm gone is all the many many recordings of me. Lol. I'm now 52, they are 31 and 28. That's a great idea about the questionnaire to help ppl get answers they need and want! ❤️🙏🏽🕊
Yebo, she's shared more of it over the years & each time it's helped me to forgive her some more & heal further as we also become closer. Just ask your mother questions or share your hurt with her in a safe space. If she's open & willing she's gladly tell you things you needed more answers to or that you possibly never knew. Be well.🙏🏽💜
I am a child who's mother was a drug user for so long like these women. I remember standing in my grandmother's home one night..."telling God take it away and allow me to forgive my mother. I did not want to harbor any unforgiveness towards her." I saw what it did to grown adults who never release the pain of their childhood (an ugly look). And God did just that. Do I understand the challenges these 2 women (the daughters) experience of an absentee mother? Yes, but I got a fixed heart, thru the Blood of Jesus and God was the sergeant.
I just lost my mother in Sept. whatever she did or didn't do. I forgive her. She had her own pain and traumas. I will never judge her. I love and miss you so much momma.
Same here. My mom was an alcoholic & drug addict. She died at 36 from kidney failure. Even tho I have memories of her drug use my most vivid memories are of her just being my mom. I do know she loved me no matter her sickness.
❤ to both of you women 🫶🏾💝🎁
@@lakishawinters2122 Thank you doll. Happy holidays!
@@Tee-kk6tj My condolences. You're mom was a baby. May she finally rest in peace. I put a post up on my IG... "May you heal from all the things no one ever apologized for!" Happy holidays 🥰
@@blacktinkerbell2324 Tysm. I appreciate your well wishes!
Sadly too many of us men have denied our responsibility to our families, neglecting the women we have children with as well abusing them, sometimes directly and indirectly. This has led to us doing the same to our children and opening them up to the same cycles of abuse and neglect. And to add insult to injury we now have men who are so injured that they blame the abused and neglected as the only reason for the problems in our community..the statement hurt people hurt people is definitely true and it continues in a vicious cycle where nobody takes responsibility…MUCH LOVE & GOD BLESS!!
Beautifully said.
AMEN, AMEN AND AMEN 🙏🏾 🙌 👏 ❤️ Thank you brother for SPEAKING VOLUMES 🔊
I am overwhelmed by your insightful comments. Thank you for stating truth, facts, love and healing 🙏🏾
This part right here!!!!❤️ Thank you!!!!!
Yes. Pain and love are continuous.
My mother lost her mother at 12 yearscold. She never got over it. She had no one to teach her how to be a mother. And she suffered a lot of abuse and neglect from a step-mother. But I tell you, she was the best mother any human being could have. I thank God everyday for choosing to put me and my sisters in her care. She was the most self-less human being I have every know. I grew up knowing I was the apple of my parents eye. They gave me and my sisters a good foundation in life. ❤❤❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💯
This is a conversation that needs to be had. There's a lot of these kind of relationships in families. Look at God🙏
I agree.
Another woman's story can possibly be someone else's survival guide.....much love
I guess that's why God calls it a testimony to help save so many others ..
Congratulations to all of these women for becoming amazing women.
I feel the exact same way you do about my mother, I wish I knew what hurt her so I can forgive her for hurting me. She's passed now but I still struggle with her treatment of me, I always wanted to know why would she do me like that.
Aww...that's deep. ❤🙏🏾 #healing
I wish I knew my mother’s journey. It would explain so much pain from my childhood. But I have to move forward knowing I may never know why she did some of the things she did to me…🙏🏽
@motivated and determined, I feel you , and hear you, I too wish I knew my mother's story, she left home Away from her mother at the age if 17, never went back South for over 40- fifty years, so I never knew my grandmother, I DO KNOW there's a LOT of mental illness in the family, so I'll Continue to Pray for healing , I'm a well into my senior years now, and it's been WARFARE
My mother get really angry when I try to talk to her, so I have moved on.
@@nicolescott1354 Don't STOP PRAYING for healing, forgiveness, the enemy is relentless, it's ALL SPIRITUAL WARFARE 🙏🏾
@@nicolescott1354 She's probably coping the best, SHE CAN.
I don't know you or your mom's business but I CAN tell you, from personal experience, that her NOT telling you some things, just MIGHT be to preserve YOUR Safety and Spirit, because some TRUTHS.. can let you down.
Are you prepared to be shocked, disappointed and realize that you might not be able to "Un-see, Un-hear and Unlearn, what you find out??
Bad things happen to the good and innocent.. and it maybe HER way of shielding you.. so let her have that, 'til IF or when she's able to share..
I'm writing to you, from the place of a former child and as a Parent of a 22yr old daughter.
Please give her a bit of Grace and adjust your Energy, a little bit.. because
If you're trying to understand her.. then try to understand, at minimum, that she just CAN'T, right now and probably (BEEN) struggling.
That, or she has personally gotten to a place where she can EXIST more comfortably and your 'pushing for answers' (l know you mean well), may hurt more than 'help', according to the point, she's gotten to.
Just understand, . that
👉🏽YOU.. were and are NOT.. the ROOT, of whatever ROCKED your mom's foundation and it isn't
👉🏽YOUR responsibility, to 'fix her'.
Besides.. GOD has a way of putting things together, when ☝🏼HIS TIME, is right and may come when you're better equipped, all around, to process everything.
Many "Ah-ha's", to come and sometimes it DOES get worse, before it gets better.
TRUST HIS PROCESS.
@@charissemodeste6489 Yes! To all of that! It's a hard lesson to learn that your parent(s) isn't perfect, but it's harder still to learn why. Take what they can give and adjust your expectations for what they don't or can't give. Our parents are human, too.
I love Jemele Hill
Glad she got some real people
Most people couldn’t handle it if they knew everything that their mothers have gone through, even more disturbing almost none of us could live through the things that our grandmothers lived through! (35yrs & older… b/c my grandmother has stories that I know I couldn’t have survived).
I agree. However, there are some truths that could help the next generation.
Agree and Willow is a big comcern in that regard. She has her own mental health concerns and she’s had a front row seat to not only her mother and grandmother’s stories and issues for the past 5yrs but the hundreds of other stories told by others -- as a young girl figuring out who she is herself. Although she came walking out there doing the spitting image walk of Fresh Prince, all of this trauma - particularly as an empath - must be a lot in Willow’s young, tender mind. Agree ... most people could not handle this knowledge easily and I wish Willow well as she processes it.
Everyone has stories and those before us are no different. God allows our stories and battles to be free tutorial for others IF they listen. The older generation has made excuses for what they went through as though that excused them from causing their kids to suffer the same. A innocent child should cause any sensible person yo try to better their life. The kids end up having to counsel the damn parent and don’t have anyone to counsel them. Many mothers have been selfish and let either drugs or men come between their children.
Stop assuming what ppl can't handle..mother's don't tell bases of their own shame. Telling breaks generational curses
Lawd yes Child, I am 69.
People PLEASE CONTINUE TO SHARE YOUR EXPERIENCES, it's HEALING, WE all have stories ❤️ 🙏🏾
Sorry that folks have to thru such pain. She couldn’t say uncle but her mom’s brother. We have to do better to protect our kids in home, school, scouts etc. This shakes kids trust especially if they tell and nobody takes action.
I think it was important to say who her uncle was and that he was on her mother’s side because that affected her relationship with her mother and her mother’s side and how she raised her own daughter as a mom.
This is what sistahood looks like. These are conversations that need to be had in a safe space.
While being filmed for public view.
This type of conversation is worthy and needed. I wish Jada can keep it above board like this always
By knowing my father and mother's story, it grounds me in what expectations I should have for my life.
She's NOT ...."STILL...Angry"....
She's..... Most likely...."Still".... HURT!!!😪🙏🏿🫂❤️
I hate it when the abuser starts insisting their victim is angry, instead of acknowledging the pain they caused. It’s like they are using anger to shame the victim or they want you to pretend to not be hurt because they said sorry.
@@JoyFay manipulation. Its continued abuse after the initial incident. Which lasts longer that the actual traumatization. Which doesnt allow much room for healing or at least thinking your healed
I wish the world could show a little more compassion to Jada. She's a flawed human- just like the rest of us. There would be countless people who wouldn't end up being as compassionate and open as she is- had they lived her complicated life. I really appreciate and value the important, progressive and healing work she's doing 💞🌹💞
Jada is doing good work. Life is about trial and error. God knows we are all imperfect..she's going to be okay. They all are.
Most folks that have an issue with her are projecting. I love Jada. ❤️
@@kd-wl9yk 😘
@@kkw-pal1178 Facts 💞
What makes you think the WORLD even thinks about her?
the best words to speak over your child is "remember, there's a one way ticket from the womb to the tomb. live for God, listen to His guidance and directions, pray frequently, love, breathe and laugh often. the life you live is too precious.. remember that "
Knowing where the pain and destruction came from, we can start the work to heal, forgive, build. God bless you all. 🙏👏💯 💕
Good conversations to have and listen to. I miss Ayanla tho!
Black women are so beautiful but have gone through so much. Yet the men really feel like it's them alone that's going through the struggle of LIFE.
You guys need to stop with the victim complex first and foremost
No...
thats what you yell yourself...
Substitute a Black Boy for Jemele.
He has to watch his mother either through selfishness or traumas live a life of destruction and he's powerless to help her....because she either doesn't care to or just cant help herself....
Both little boys and little girls are traumatized by having to growup under such a mother....
It colors how both the Boy and or girl looks at Men and Women because they see the worst of both thru their Mother's actions and relationships with other Druggies....Scum Men and Women..
Abusive Men and Abusive Women both Physical and Sexual....
What Men have a problem with is women that always talk Power and Independence ...yet cry victimized and look for sympathy when shyt goes left...
Men arent afforded the same empathy...we're broke and Dusty and toxic...unfeeling....
If by chance we let our guard down...we're
Gay...Momma's Boys...weak...etc.
Its Women that want it Both ways...
We're Stong and Independent...Dont tell us Shyt We are your Equal in every way....
Yet Most Victimized. Under appreciated least protected etc.etc
Save the tears...pick a lane
I'm piecing my mother's story together 22 years after her death. And I'm finding so much of myself in her. Every suggestion that she made everything she saw in me was 100% correct. I just didn't love myself enough to see it. And I wish that she was here to see the type of woman and mother that I became. In a lot of cases if you want to know who you are you should talk to your mom.
She said my mothers brother & not uncle. She don’t claim him and I don’t blame her
Her mother's brother doesn't have to be her uncle. They could have different fathers or different mothers.
This is powerful.
Black women go through so much and stay so determined and strong 💪🏾 💜🙏🏾
We carry to much to the grave.😢🙏🏿❤️
Facts. Bless you! 🥺🥺🥺🥺🙏🙏🙏🙏
Ain’t that the truth.
To the grave that actually came from the grave.
When I moved to America.. I became allot more grateful 🙏 for having the mom I have. I went to school with many kids who didn't have moms and if they did they were addicts or in jail, dead or they just left. When they would meet my mom they wouldn't want to leave. She would give love, hugs, advice and laughs. 😊 kids really embraced my culture and where I came from once they met my mommy or my aunt. Being 14 and having to leave all my childhood friends and family was hard for me. The love of a mother could really do allot for a teenager ❤❤
Very beautiful work nobody really knows What an Drug attic goes through
*drug addict*
We wouldn’t want to because no one knows what the people they steal from or abuse do either. Drugs is one thing snd selfishness is another. Drug addicts are selfish people
Absolutely. Sometimes the pain is cut so deep. It's hard to mended it back. We all have some trauma as we venture through this journey of life.
Try to guard your emotions and love for self, because you have to be in that body until the end...blessings to All. ❤.
I really appreciate the Red Table Talk. This was a great story. Bless you all😔🌹
THE REGRET I HAVE I WAS THERE FOR EVERYONES CHILDREN BECAUSE FOR DIFFERENT REASON THEY NEEDED ME,BUT I HAD 4 STAIR STEPS MY CHILDREN NEEDED ME MOST IF I COULD START OVER I WOULD NEVER TAKE ON OTHER PEOPLES KIDS I WOULD TELL THEM I HAVE 4 IF I CAN DO IT YOU CAN TOO.
I'm a Gray as well. From one Gray to another you can't change the past. You were a blessing to those other children. Let your children know how you feel. Ask for their forgiveness, turn it over to God and ask Him to order your steps. I feel like your children saw something in your giving and pouring into others that's going to be beneficial to them.
Man, when Gram cried, I cried...
black women supporting black women ❤❤❤❤❤
I'm so happy they sitting there and talking about it bring it out it helps the healing
Beautiful beautiful family
One of my biggest pet peeves. Is when somebody trys to tell me how I feel and what I should think.Abuse in their childhood is something alot of our parents and grandparents story.People need to stopping get a pass for it.Your abuse is no excuse for making your children childhood miserable traumatic abusive neglectful. Your children should be healing and your reasons for wanting to be clean sober stay out jail and toxic relationships.
Thanks for Sharing ! You both are free and no longer bound 🙏🏽
They say Jada is raising her kids to be wierd. Jada is at the red table with her own mother and her child getting therapy. How is that wierd?????. She's bonding and finding out why her mom did what she did. And also giving her daughter answers on what she did wrong. And that's great parenting!!!!!! Kudos Jada.
Mom's have a story too🙏🏽
That's when you slap the devil in the face and say "devil you are a liar and I will be what God has purposed me to be". 🙌🙏🏽🙌🏽👏🏽💯❤️🏆
I appreciate their willingness to broadcast this. So many if my clients benefit from hearing about other people's stories. It builds a sense of community and confidence. I love to see it... when done right of course.
I found out a little more of my mother's childhood last year and it hurt as if it were me. It also gave me alot of clarity on alot including our relationship.
Both men stood their ground and contributed many nuggets during this episode! Capone, on the other hand, had me clutching my pearls!
Jada smiles while her mother pours her heart out.
It's a reaction of empathy & sometimes awkwardness that lots of people have with no ill intent. PLEASE stop assuming that she is just some ball of pure evil because only her half of her & her swinger husband's lifestyle was exposed. Will was only pissed because it got out & not because he was not fully aware. His long time side chick has taken pics with just the two of them & jet sets all over the world with Will. It's not condoned by me but people need to know the truth & chill on the Jada bashing already. Be well.
Jemele is Awesome Mom you should be proud🥰
Jemele was my fave sports analyst on ESPN. Knowledgeable, intelligent and real.
I’m crying. 💔💔💔
I like Willow. She has a lot of wisdom and a good spirit
I wish #RedTableTalk was on RUclips. I refuse to add Facebook to my data plan.🤦🏽♂️
RedTableTalk videos.
Seárch that and look for the full episode. You can watch for free without being on FB. It’s new now and it won’t always be on top of the list without having to open up the section and having to be on FB to proceed but it’s on there now.
(Scroll until you get to All Videos. It’s in there.)
I’m about to go watch this right now. I can’t wait to read your book! ♥️
I have a coworker who’s wife is going through really severe postpartum. She’s quite literally drinking herself to death. Instead of getting her help, he’s thinking of divorce.
I'm going through this as we speak.
Thank you for sharing.
Powerful !
I felt this clip. ☺️😎
I was abused by my grandmother and verbally abused by my mother and oldest sister
The generations of trauma is so serious. People must understand that there is always something more when a person uses narcotics. God, bless these women.🥺🥺🥺🙏🙏🙏
My mother won't tell me. Won't say a word. I'm SAD that she will probably die with her story, and I'll make up my own to keep her alive for my children.
What do you need to know? Live your own life and make your own story.
@@traceytracey3756 truth. Traumas. My family stories
@@blessedblessed5018 Tell her your goal about sharing or making memories for your children, even if they are painful. Have you shared any of your truths, traumas, and stories with your mother? If not, perhaps you should. This can be the start of a dialogue that will make her feel comfortable and forthcoming of her own experiences.
@Tracey Tracey she ain't trying to hear none of that..her mottos is pray, live and leave the dead for the dead..thanks tho
YEAH!!! That's definitely her mama!! She looks just like her!
I like that last part when she says do you know your mother story I think we should all spend time getting to know our parents, I know my mother story and I'm so glad she did not have a substance abuse problem , I think that's the saddest because they have to fend for themselves after
I look at Willow and think, this is going to be one of the strongest women if her generation. ❤💪🏽❤
Thank you for sharing your story! 🙏🏾❤️
God is watching us from a distant 💕🙏🏻
And?
This is why we as a community need to rid ourselves of the "don't talk about it/ what happens in this house stays in this house foolishness." If so many of us would tell our stories and if so many of us would have grace and mercy for each other as we hear each other's stories we can really break generational curses and begin to heal this community from the inside out
Mr. Smiley you are so inspiring.....growing through the toxic childhood...i can relate but you and your mom....worked through it....still trying with my mother....she is 77.....jist want love and acceptance........but i have grown as a nurse and business person......I've been 3 weeks and I'm trying to share my journey of paying off $124k of debt in just 16 months back in 2020 and I have remained focused towards retirement goal and increased rental property and maintain modest lifestyle financially and became a minimalist... 71 subscribers and 55 video..mostly shorts, but I really just can't figure this thing out because I want to share that journey to hope others could use to help them❤❤❤
That was awesome and I haven't even seen the full episode 💯
Whew truth is so powerful...
Ms. Hill is a phenomenal woman with a pure heart. so much integrity.
What’s so amazing and phenomenal about her? That she smoked crack and mentally abused Jemele? It’s the normalization or acceptance of ✊🏾 degeneracy and inability to call out/make accountable the ✊🏾 single mamas raising this failing generation only to place the blame it on others as Jemele does…continuing the ✊🏾 woke tradition. 🤷🏻♂️
@@ecam9252 you didn't have anything nice to say? I did..
@@stormyweather7952 No matter what race today we need call dead beat dads, thugs, alcoholics, drug users, pedo uncles, gr-rapers, boss bitches etc exactly what they are….no nice words to completely ignore their evil ways. But I the ✊🏾 community it’s Blk girl Magic, Kings n Queens despite all the degenerate behavior. Name another group of people and give themselves undeserving titles and accolades with little accomplishments. Can’t call yourself a Queen while working at Walmart. 🤷🏻♂️
@@ecam9252 yes, when it's not a lie.
This made me cry . When you see this ....And you have NEVER experienced this type of life or know anyone who has had these kinds of experiences... NOW I understand why Black American women have NO CHOICE BUT TO BE STRONG.. AND WHY THEIR DAUGHTERS HAVE BEEN TRAINED TO BE STRONG ALSO... THE MEN OUT THERE CRITICIZING BLACK WOMEN FOR PROTECTING THEIR HEARTS SHOULD TRY TO UNDERSTAND THEIR PAIN... FIRST
Lord the table ain’t big enough for me and my moms. Lots of stuff to spill out….Love you Mama. ❤️❤️🙌🏽✈️🙌🏽❤️❤️
Jada you pulled yourself out of poverty. You build a dynasty. And you stayed strong. Continue to do so. Ignore the black community. I see they're all coming for you and will. They're mad yall married. They're so darn use to negativity. They can't even see that they're hating more than any white sheets. They can't see that they're hating more than any owner!!!!! They are trying with everything in them to break the Smith family. Keep going Jada. Keep shining Jada. Keep talking at the red table and getting that healing.
Yes ma'am! Definitely ignore what we call the so called black community. I am a black person who does not participate in the collective known as the black community. Seeing the reactions from our people toward Jada showed me what I already knew. How simple-minded and weak and gullible so many people in the black community are. Years and years I constantly hear our people crying and complaining about how we don't come together. Well how can a community come together that follows any which way to wind blows, easily swayed, gullible, and turns on each other like jackals because somebody told them to.
The venom and creepy misplaced anger toward Jada is so disgusting.
You need to stop it. The black community still loves Will. Jada is an afterthought. She never was in our radar without Will.
What garbage you speak? No one person outside of their clan of friends have anything to do with their family break-up. If anybody is breaking up their family, is them. Period.
I love the red table ,it’s bring PEACE
On another note, These woman are beautiful as hell.
This episode was so touching! ❤
Lordy Help 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Sending you so much love, Mehkeila ❤ i so wish for you to catch a real big break and to heal.. i hope you find a life that you deserve, so much more than this 💕 hugs
Some network would do well to snap this fast! This is good for healing families, communities...
I just learned my mom journey. And instead of holding on to anger. I released it and had compassion. Many things i learned. But one that stood out was she told me her name that I know her as was not her birth name. Amd her favorite food is 🍕 pizza.❤
Wow! Willow is GORGEOUS!
Do you know your mother's story ? Having that important information could help, because understand what made that person who they are can help you heal 🙏 unfortunately my mother was murder when I was very young so those questions have never will be answer 😪 praying for your peace healing joy and happiness 😊
We All Have a Story.. Amen 🙏🏾
I love Jada she's a special woman that has the oil to heal souls🙏🙏🙏😇😇😇
😂😂😂 Please
TOO MUCH PAIN!!!😢💔
Jemele Hill is an amazing person first and foremost, secondly what an amazing journalist. Let's goooooooo!!! I get the show!!! @LeBatardShow
Omg... struggling with this rn. Mourning a lost childhood...
I tell you we must stop judging ourselves with our past
GOD said that we will have trials in this life while on earth
because he overcame the trials and sins in this life he gave us the power to overcome everything that ever happened in our life
we are not defeated by our past unless we don’t let it go and we keep looking back
we have to forgive ourselves and forgive others for what they done to us that’s how we get healing
when we learn to forgive those that have harmed us then you know how to forgive ourselves
And always remember that GOD loves you just the way you are and he created you in his image
GOD know all about you
he know what you say even before you say it
He knows what you think before you think it
And he knows what you are going to do even before you do it
There is nothing that GOD doesn’t know about your life or what has happened to you
That was why he came to this earth to die for us because he didn’t want us to die with this burden of our past
Learn to love GOD because he sure does love you
My mom needs to be put on this show dude maybe ill finally get some closure
Why? Just talk to her.
I wish my mother would share with me like this…
What a question
Do you know your mothers/fathers story?
I had so much resentment towards my father for not being there. As I got older and suffered traumas, went through addiction, and loss I realized how broken a person really could be.
Just by looking inwards and owning my own shit, it some how helped me to forgive him.
I remember thinking I have all these people around loving me through this. Extending the olive branch and accepting my apologies. Over and over again my wonderful family all stepped up to support me and help me heal.
Who am I to not do that for the man that gave me life.
I realized my father and mother were both humans. They had a story, failures, traumas, flaws just like me.
They deserve compassion, understanding, and forgiveness just like me.
I think we as people put so much pressure and expectations on people just because of their titles or positions in our lives. A parent does this, a sister does that and so on. But there is no blueprint on how to be…. Accept that people are where they belong and they are exactly who they are supposed to be! If it’s fitting to cut them loose, then do it and don’t look back. But if you decide to allow them in love them for who they are.
Is my relationship with my father the way I dreamed about it as a young girl or how the Disney channel says it should be? NO lol no where close, but it’s ours!
With that I wouldn’t want to go a day with out him or his love!
Love you dad!
I’m a recovered cocaine addict I feel this so deeply thanks
SOMETIMES THESE LADIES MAKE ME SICK DOPE IS NEVER THE ANSWERS YOU GO PICK UP DOPE TO FEEL GOOD BULL CRAP GO TO ⛪️ 💒 CHURCH GO TO POLICE STATION GO TO PLACE WHERE HELP IS OFFER NOT DOPE HOUSE OR DOPE MAN GO TO THE HOSPITAL ASK FOR HELP GO TO SOME ONE DOWN THE BLOCK TELL SOMEONE IF YOU IN TROUBLE THESE WAS NOT 1940 OR 1950 CHOSE TO PICK UP DOPE PUT IT YOUR .MOUTH BULL BULL TO MANY FOLKS DO ,NOT USE DOPE WHEN SHIT HAPPENS TO US EXCUSES IS NOT OK. TO USE DOPE FOLKS LOSE CHILDRENS IN LIFE THEY DONT GO TO DOPE MAN
THERE IS NO REASON TO USE DOPE AND THINK IT WANT HURT YOUR CHILDRENS SO. STOP GO TELL SOME BODY SCHOOL. TEACHERS WILL LISTEN TO YOU ALL THE TIMES MENTAL HEALTH WORKERS ALL WAYS THERE SOME BODY IS THERE. TO HELP 1940 1950 LADIES WAS ABUSED AND NO WHERE TO GO FOR HELP NOW TO SAY YOU HAD TO USE DRUGS DOPE TO COPE IS CAUSE YOU WANTED TO LET ME TELL MY SHIT AND HOW ALL 9 NINE OF US DIDN'T USE DOPE OR END UP IN JAIL ALL KIDS NOT IN JAIL OR ON DOPE SO BLACK FOLKS CUT THE SOB STORIES OUT PLEASE PLEASE
I so love, love, love this show!
Do you know your Mother's Story? Gosh... how am I gonna ask her for deeper details? 😔
There are books of questions that you can buy or get from the library. They are questions are specifically for moms. Some questions are silly (tell me about your first crush/ when was your most embarrassing/ least interesting date/ who was your favorite singer / who was your mom’s favorite singer ) and from those questions, you could go deepet to ask other questions about her past and she might find it easier to talk about other things in time.
@@noble604
It is sad that grown children are afraid to ask questions. I have 3 kids and they know nearly everything about me from childhood to this day. I found out I was terminally ill when I was 22 and my girl's were 3 and my son 1 and I wanted them to ask anything and I wanted to tell so much about me. One thing they will have after I'm gone is all the many many recordings of me. Lol. I'm now 52, they are 31 and 28. That's a great idea about the questionnaire to help ppl get answers they need and want! ❤️🙏🏽🕊
Yebo, she's shared more of it over the years & each time it's helped me to forgive her some more & heal further as we also become closer. Just ask your mother questions or share your hurt with her in a safe space. If she's open & willing she's gladly tell you things you needed more answers to or that you possibly never knew. Be well.🙏🏽💜
😢😢 oh hell. I'm crying already
All Of Them Are So Beautiful Pretty Eyes, Beautiful Healthy Skin, And I'm Loving The Hair Color❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥 They Look Like They Could Be Related 👀
Only God almighty can change your heart for the best
😭😭😭i.know the pain..I feel the pains I am still having.😢😢
Better than therapy! Sometimes just need to talk!
Thanks so much
I am a child who's mother was a drug user for so long like these women. I remember standing in my grandmother's home one night..."telling God take it away and allow me to forgive my mother. I did not want to harbor any unforgiveness towards her."
I saw what it did to grown adults who never release the pain of their childhood (an ugly look). And God did just that.
Do I understand the challenges these 2 women (the daughters) experience of an absentee mother? Yes, but I got a fixed heart, thru the Blood of Jesus and God was the sergeant.
Now the way jemele acts makes sense.
Glad my mother loved herself and never even drunk alcohol and stayed home and raised us.