How to have a FULFILLING LIFE: the importance of vision and want
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A fulfilling life is a supremely good thing. To attain it, a person must have vision -- imagination plus granularity -- and a person must have want -- the synthesis of will and desire. In this episode, I will discuss how to cultivate both of these capacities. I also stress the importance of planning for a continuous stream of average Tuesdays, as opposed to a sporadic discontinuity of peak experiences. Finally, I touch on the wisdom of prioritizing the process of becoming, over and above having become.
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A fulfilling life is a supremely good thing. To attain it, a person must have vision -- imagination plus granularity -- and a person must have want -- the synthesis of will and desire. In this episode, I will discuss how to cultivate both of these capacities. I also stress the importance of planning for a continuous stream of average Tuesdays, as opposed to a sporadic discontinuity of peak experiences. Finally, I touch on the wisdom of prioritizing the process of becoming, over and above having become.
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I thought it'd be called drive instead of want. But they are synonyms.
To create a fulfilling life, you need a clear vision and a burning desire. Imagine your future in detail and take action to make it happen. Find a balance between wanting and doing. The journey of becoming is where true happiness lies.
Yes, that's what the video talked about.
GPT?
Lots of sense there.
What if the life I once wanted changes and I no longer want it, is it okay to reassess and start a new plan?
Well thats simply not true. But if it works for you thats awesome! 🎉
Want is what I usually call it too. People will *say* they want something, but if you're not acting on it, you don't *really* want it.
This one hit. People should write down what they want and aim at it without distractions. You will be surprised how hard it is and why so many people easily give up to the endless distractions.
It feels like it's nothing BUT distractions. I'm hitting 53, and where I am is not where I figured I would be at 18. However, the 18 year old me wasn't too realistic by any means.
@@garrysteffens3040 You still have a lot more living to do. You can do and get to whatever you want. Look around you in everyday life, most people give up trying after the age of 30. Just being 50 and in shape sets you apart from everyone else.
if it's so hard (which it is) what's the point? You will most likely fail
@@90sK1dFOr3v3r that is the point. It is suppose to be hard. But that is what living is for. Striving for greatness.
Ppl are too busy with distractions to even make that list. My advice...get a hotel room for the weekend. No girlfriends, etc just you. Pack only basic necessities and a legal pad and pen. Put tv remote in a drawer. Focus on nothing but writing out your life plan, condense it to what is realistic, and plan on how you will achieve those goals. Come monday get started working that plan and don't deviate.
Vision without action is merely a dream. Action without vision just passes the time. Vision with action can change the world.
Joel A. Barker
"A vision without a plan is a hallucination." (PMI)
Gosh, the where do you vision yourself in five years time on a Tuesday is both brilliant and a killer all in one statement. Most people can't vision next week lol
It’s the Winchester mystery house, but no matter - great wisdom in this video. Thank you for a random Tuesday five years from now.
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my RUclips channel 5 months ago about self development. Now I have 327 subs and almost > 100 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.
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Cheers bro . Jope you the best
@@andreipotato3828 Whoever you are, I don't know you personally but I can say that you're one of the non-judgmental and open-minded people who is not fixated on tangible or external factors in order to learn from someone like me. Just because someone doesn't have a piece of paper as a credential, doesn't mean that person is not entitled to share personal experiences with the hope & intention to inspire others. Keep up with whatever it is that you're doing to improve mankind or improving your life even to a slight degree each day. This is just one part of a bigger puzzle for creating my RUclips channel about holistic health. I literally could have died back when I was 14 years old due to major depression but here I am right now replying to you, a RUclipsr, who's full of fulfillment and dedication to help others to be a better version of themselves. I ain't better than anyone else but my old self. That's all that really makes this RUclips thing more meaningful and enjoyable. Thanks so much for your support! I am hoping that you can join me with this endless personal development journey! :)
Props to you man
@@awsambdaman Thank you!
Implementing the lessons I learned throughout the years of lots of trials and errors changed my life trajectory and learning that there’s a yin and yang in everything or proton and electron in an atom because opposites attract, which means a night won’t exist without a day because they’re codependent and that’s just the nature of life. I wouldn’t have appreciated the power of kindness if someone was not cruel to me. I wouldn’t have realized the importance of growth if I didn’t see myself stagnating. I wouldn’t have appreciated the importance of health if I didn’t get sick. I wouldn’t have realized the importance of real love if I haven’t witnessed my parents’ relationship slowly fall apart. I wouldn’t have appreciated the importance of mindful money consumption if I wasn’t broke. I wouldn’t have appreciated the growth of my RUclips channel if I didn’t start at 0.
Now, at age 50, in all my years,so far, I never gave the concepts of a "Fulfilling life", or purpose, or passion, a conscious thought, they literally never occurred to me, I just lived, and went about my daily routine. The first time I heard about these concepts, as concrete, was on RUclips. I suppose, I made conscious decisions for where I wanted to go for holidays, or that I knew early on, that I wouldn't go to college/university, or that I wouldn't get married, and have a family, but no real "plan", or vision. All things considered, life has turned out ok, so I'm not sure why these concepts are so important.
Now read Atlas Shrugged and The Fountainhead to get even better. Then her (and Leonard Peikoff's) non-fiction.
I call it the mountain and the swamp. The mountain is something you can see in the distance that has a worthwhile goal. It has verdant trees, stunning waterfalls and beautiful vistas.
The swamp is where you are now. You want to get out. It's not always clear how to navigate and sometimes its a trudge, sometimes you hit dead ends. But if you keep the mountain in sight you can keep progressing through getting closer to your mountain.
wow I love it so much!
It is such a beautiful and easy way to visualize what are the rewards you can see from far away that will make you escalate the mountain 🏔️
As an architect this video is a great description of creating direction in ones life. Even after the sit down with a client, the plans are drawn, and the finals are approved there is always a need for change orders and working additions to get the final project.
Fantastic video thanks so much! This simple short lesson should be mandatory in public schools for young people. Witt some real world sample for them sprinkled in with stories of people who squandered their time. Thanks!
Very true. Set goals and work incrementally toward them. Looking for someone to make you happy is a lost endeavor. Make yourself happy first, then see who that attracts. If it attracts no one, learn to be content and happy alone. I did.
Making yourself happy is not easy, same as making yourself rich.
Thanks, Orion!! Great episode. It arrived on time for me!
Ann Rand said it best , be carful what you wish for ,
It's "Ayn".
Outstanding advice and video, as always. Ty Dr. Taraban!
Great video as always stuff people need to hear or be reminded of constantly!
Truly sublime wisdom. Thank you for this
Thank you, Dr Orion.
Just when I was going to give up on having a good and loving family.
GREAT episode as always!! I love the section on becoming not arriving
Great video. Great explanation. A powerful vision let's you think ahead. A strong want allows you to reason backwards and take action.
So true Dr. Taraban. I know you use cinematic references, and this post reminds me of “Gladiator” when Proximo asks Maximus “what do you want? Everyone wants something”. It’s a universal truth and it’s not selfish at all.
Thanks! I needed this.
Always good insights, thanks Doc!
Thank you so much for this video
Pursue curiosity with action and integrity. Ideals are directions not destinations.
At my college graduation right now - impeccable timing! 👍
more please! really liked this subject a lot : )
wow.. i am genuinely impressed. This video was very esoteric. The fact youre blending psychology with the magical side of things is brilliant. Youre well versed.
It is more down to earth and practical than the countless"Law of attraction" videos that leave out the key ingredient, action, and continuity after achievement.
Best video yet
Great video & advice!
I’m going to watch this at least 10 times.
You must find your passion in life. Life is a beautiful adventure. Even in the depths of uncertainties, I love life, and I am grateful to God. He makes me go ahead, holds my hand, when I am tired, renew my hope every day. I always have big dreams, and the fun is, that God always have even biggers than me. There is nothing impossible for God. Nothing!
@@nicolasdupuis-pw2it Hopelesness in life is not the reality. It is not true. Please don't let evil make you believe it is all, what you see now. Life is much more than that, heaven starts on earth.
Start to pray, whether you believe in God or not, and you will be surprised by the faith and peace God gives to everyone who seeks after Him. You can find peace and joy in every situation with God. Pray and also talk to someone like Orion. Have courage and trust Nicolas. God bless you!
Everything you say, makes sense.
youre doing gods work
Amazing video!
Great video.
Danke!
Thank you.
Great video man
Díky!
Thanks!
Nice video. its a re-do of a previous video by psychacks.
One of the biggest problems for many is that young people have difficulty getting on the right track. By the time they figure out what they should have done in relationships and career it is difficult or near impossible to change course because of the consequences.
Vision & Motivation
I think a better word for want is conviction. Conviction is a principled passion.
vision= architect's blueprint
vision+want should be what we should strive for
want=desire(dopamine)+will(serotonin)
want without vision is like dogs
happiness is when an individual is in the process of becoming and not when they have actually become
sublimating your want in the service of vision is what most people finds extremely fulfilling
You remind me of Iskandar from the Fate series. Humans need to have goals that can never be reached, but we still strive to complete.
Kinda makes sense why we look at and portray high school (and college to a 'degree') on such a pedestal. It's a part the life with the biggest milestones and represents a drastic transition. When you finally make it to adulthood, suddenly everything stops. Seemingly.
This hits hard, another great video. How does discipline play into this?
I miss my fulfilling life...I had it so good and knew how happy I was, but I guess I just didn't realize it could all be taken away and replaced with hell on earth. I thank God for the memories of all the good things though, it has kept me going through horrible things. I don't think i'd have made it otherwise.
What happened?
I don't know. I still don't know. They call it gangstalking i guess.@@burntblonde2925
i need this
Strategic thinking and Discipline (persistence or commitment)
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Love this content, just have to watch at x1.5 playback.
stop spending so much time on Tiktok. problem solved.
@@sudarshankar9094 I agree that TikTok is terrible for attention spans and there is nothing wrong with the pacing of this video. That being said if you can keep up and retain all of the information at 1.5 speed, I see no harm in speeding up videos. Seems time effective to me, I do the same with audiobooks
I despise tiktok and thus, don't use/watch it. I do however drive and work with my hands and consume loads of valuable YT content like this. To maximise my time, I play on 1.5x speed but I use the Newpipe app as it cuts out quiet spots. This helps me run through hours of psych, business, relationship and philosophy material in a shorter amount of time.
@@jblasutavario9549 Nobody gives a f bozo. It has value too
@@matthewduncan4748 You know that it has videos that go up to 10 minutes right? 🤡
Where there is no vision, the people perish.
Vision works in Ordered systems no matter how complicated. Vision gives end state from which one can backward plan for forward execution. Such is like a Systems “V” taking a system of systems, breaking into systems, into sub-systems, parts, components, sub-components, then building up sub-components to components to parts… system of systems. But such does not work in Complex systems as the systems change while studying the system and change with interaction with the system. Hence plans cannot be made to the end state or to the vision. Instead, a sense of direction is better. See Dave Snowden with Cynefin and Sense-Making. In the Complex, not only is working on vision likely to be a waste of time, it is likely to be a source of frustration as desired end state often cannot be achieved.
Tried that blueprint.... life rarely goes the way one plans it sounds good though
Exactly, when he says if you follow this blueprint he "guarantees" you you will have a fulfilling life, I think he needs to take the humility pill.
This video is like crack I can’t stop watching thanks you Orion!!
Thought-emotion-action in alignment create coherence.
Visualising the desired outcome in detail. Priming your emotions to feel the achievement. Taking necessary steps to get there. Repeat. Reevaluate. Take notes of the progression, to appreciate the progress, and process.
6:20 This hits home.
this is not true for people with ADHD
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🧠 To have a fulfilling life, create a custom-tailored lifestyle unique to you.
01:21 🌟 Fulfilling life requires both vision and want, the union of imagination and drive.
02:44 📅 Instead of imagining achievements, envision an average Tuesday five years from now in detail.
03:52 💪 Vision without the drive to act (want) can lead to endless planning without action.
05:28 🏎️ High drive (want) without vision can result in impulsivity and short-term gratification.
06:54 🏗️ A wise vision is a process, not just an end, providing ongoing fulfillment in the journey towards it.
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I'd be curious to learn what the psychological process of creating want would be. I have plenty of vision, or I can create one but I don't have a lot of want
In your mind, you probably already *have* so there's no need for *want* . Want implies lack.
Want doesn't imply lack. You're equivocating on (the different senses of) "want".
His motor has stopped. Probably some depression, hopelessness, and helplessness there...
Start reading Objectivism, big time, to understand your issues... and everything else. You need philosophy in your life (good philosophy, not the Kantian filth in school and universities today). Start with the novels "Atlas Shrugged" and "The Fountainhead" before the non-fiction.
What if the "want" consistently wanes over time, and the lack of fulfillment doesn't come from a lack of will/vision, but from a lack of consistent "want" to drive the achievement to the point where it can actually become fulfilling long-term? Is he/she who does not want (enough) doomed to lead an unfulfilling life? I have had a few "wants" - and I have materially explored all of them - but none of them sustains over a long enough period of time to the point where I can believe it is scalable to my "life". They die out, then reappear, then die out again, as I turn them into realities.
I've always had a difficult time marrying the two.
It's like, I have a clear (medium or long term) vision, and some vague idea of how to get there, and I'm an exceedingly passionate person whose desires I imagine as aligning with the vision, but I'm seemingly unable to sublimate the wants and feel fulfilled while taking most actions that seem or that I deem as towards the vision. It's like there's this disconnect, and I'm left confused and unfulfilled when doing the things I know are supposed to get me where I want.
Great video, really defines the steps in the process of how to get what you actually want in life. I'm a fantastic planner and excel at thinking through and developing the process, or creating the Vision. I struggle with determining my wants though. I'm not unhappy or sad, but I do feel like I'm stuck in a state of constant maintenance mode in life. I've got smaller visions and processes in life in place, but I have no clue what my bigger, long term desires/wants are. If anyone asks me what my goals in life are, beyond the minimal requirements of "saving for retirement" or "paying my house off" etc, I have no other answers. I would love some content on how to find the "Wants" in life.
What worked well for me is ask myself, fast forwarding to the end of this year, or the next one, what would make me very happy and proud to have achieved. The answer to that question should be your main goal.
Weird post! What the heck makes you happy? Don't you know that? Once you know, then work towards that.
@@tancreddehauteville764 who are you to judge my (or anyone else's) post? If you don't have the same issue as me, that's great. Either move on, be helpful or piss off.
Im 41 and keep changing careers. I get bored or eventually dislike many jobs. I struggle with shiny object syndrome. I'm naturally an explorer. It doesn't look good on my resume lol. It's hard to accomplish a vision when the vision keeps changing.
My comment is that you have to get toxic people out of your life. If that means you ghost your whole family, that’s what you’ve gotta do. I did it 25 years ago and it’s the best decision I ever made. Those people weren’t friends.
"You got some big dreams, baby, but in order to dream you got to still be asleep.
"When you gonna wake up? And strengthen the things that remain?"
So when I look at my life I have both,high want and high vision, but never at the same time :D When the want is high I don’t stick to a vision and when I have a vision there is lack of endurance and distractions. What’s the best way to solve that? I guess building the character traits first that are needed to go further. Thanks for the episode.
Small focused daily increments that serve the higher purpose.
Sometimes prepping the night before and getting to it right of bed can deliver the flow necessary. Then stop before burnout and do some decoupling practices, yoga, meditation, walks, cold showers, nap, breakfast, lunch, whatever. After that give it another go.
Incredibly impactful advice, as always. Made me stop on muy tracks when all I wanted was passive media while doing some work.
Very accurate: Renowned marketer Frank Kern has a great video about this years ago Called CORE Influence. Well worth a watch
Ok, where do I get these two ingredients?
Your narrative about "when you do become - you'll no longer be happy" sounded familiar. Coach Greg Adams saved for *a decade,* to buy his cream car - a Porsche 911 Carrera. *After* he got one - he was *bored* with it after a month! He joking said he should have just leased one for a month, instead.
What would you say is the second strongest desire for men? I understand the sexual portion, but beyond sex and children what can I harness to help push me forward? This is the struggle I face.
I want to own a house in the forest where i can do my own thing but i cant stand being around other people and i need to be around other people to have a job and buy a house. Im 36 years old and live in a rental appartement and my life really sucks, but it sucks less than dealing with people 7 hours a day 5 days a week only to spend the weekend to decompress from all the human interaction. I just cant seem to win.
Can you make a video about this?
I never had dreams or a vision, just some preferences and random things I like doing, but a goal in life? I don't seem to have one. Does that make me a freak?
In lieu of 'want' 'Hunger' is used commonly used in the entrepreneurial space.
Keyword - for you
Desire is probably better than hunger or want. Those words are pretty negative.
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How do I build a vision?
So what do you do if you have neither ?
No wonder.... I stopped dreaming, visualizing and I stopped wanting.
It's the Winchester House
It's the Winchester House not the Westchester house. Winchester. Is in the family that started the firearm company.
You also need Action.
WORD. SALAD.
Yes, live your life and follow your dreams. For the people who have treated me badly and have judged me for being uinque and not wanting children etc. But going to school and living a productive life. FU/ MF People tend to think if you're hispanic or black you don't aspire to anything else. Will guess what i'm getting my BS in Computer Science and finshing up another certificate program in about another month.
you need to make youtube videos so we know people like you exist. your posts are so random, but in a genuine, unique way.
The first look on your face! Haha! Here comes the truth!
Couldnt help thinking about the sims while listening to this video.
U know,.. i think ur on to something..🧐
My dreams of having a fulfilling life ended when I realized I couldn't make the NBA
No lies told.
Going on 42 here and no fullfillment. Don't be like me folks. I just swipe all morning, go to gym, work. It is unfullfilling
How did you get so smart?
Well ? Dang son! Just drop the fact.
Attachment is suffering
Imagine the life you want - estimate the time it takes and double that time.
It may not happen at all.
Winchester mystery House
I like this episode. IT is well thought out. I would like to hear one on how to stop masterbating. To what extent? Never experience release from sexual tension? The physiolocal people say that a certain amount of ejaculation is much Heather over time than none at all. Toxins build up in the Male system that need occasional flushing by ejacultion. The health risk in total abstinence is prostate cancer. I am willing to bet any amount of money that you ejaculate from time to time.
The problem is in the prostate, and I believe there are ways to release these toxins by massage, or even learning to stand on your head for long periods of time. But I prefer to have sex occasionally. I believe sex even with a prostitute with whom you have a respectful relationship offers spiritual benefits. There are still challenges not to get sucked into it as a lifestyle though, nothing is risk free.
Doc..but 85% is a very good match in my books lol...i am not that demanding...but again...I am not an American
I feel I have of more mental clarity post nut. I find that i I'm very productive after releasing stress. When I don't, in irritatable and have headache and body aches. I think the whole no fap thing controversial. Just my experience. Is there scientific data that backs no fap? Of course there are those overly do something like weed and porn, but those people already have impulsive genetics to begin with.
that's just what you tell yourself because you can't control the addiction, or you just have an insanely high sex drive. But nutting increases prolactin and decreases testosterone which makes you lethargic and reduces that hunger / want to put in effort to things
@@905words9 But can't i say the same about people who believe in nofap? That's what you tell yourself, and the placebo of hard work follow. Im sure we can find many successful people who fap/sex regularly. There's no hard data that supports the hypothesis. Just seperate/related scientific facts connected together such as your prolactin fact.
@@Victor-it6bv theres been plenty of studies that show that testosterone makes effort feel good. Its definitely linked to that. Also if you think about it, the male sex drive is our life force in a way. Everything we do is for women indirectly, the fancy cars, the status chase, the flexing, the wealth. Its all connected to access to pussy in a way, it would make sense that our sex drive is our life force and if you keep fapping and taking it out it’s probably not ideal. That’s just my take on it, whatever works for you.
It's a dumb myth. Do it if you want or don't, it doesn't matter. In fact it's healthy.
the answer: don't listen to someone telling you how.
good vid tho.