I’m a 35yo guy and I’ve been in some dark places/situations all because I didn’t know/or get taught how to actually understand and FEEL my emotions, in starting to do so I’ve learnt so much about my true self and if I’m honest it’s saved me I think and I’ve only just started.. We don’t know how to handle or understand ourselves. To every man out there your worth something just listen to yourself!
I am 38 and I am nearing 39. I broke up with my girlfriend in 2019 and have been single and alone since then. I have met many women but I think none of them want to be with me because I'm not the too 10% of men. My friends have all fallen into a similar situation and none of them want to hang out together anymore. I am alone, I don't have friends I see often, and I don't have a woman in my life. I live alone, I own a house, I don't have any debt and I feel like I've never felt so invisible in any part of my life like I do today. It's like I don't have value or matter to anyone anymore
@@ArcticSeraph it’s a very real feeling. Take a moment and view yourself as God views you. Then go out to a crowded place and do the same to the people there. It will alter you. Good luck!
In a world where wealth is God, everything costs five bucks and you only get one, your boss is getting meaner, people are becoming heartless, people are choosing insanity. . . . Why do you think anyone has a "place"? Like your "place" is to get to work and worship your billionaire overlords or else.
Neither do women! What makes you think that we have a plan set out for us, special and apart from you? I didn't even have a mother, but I'm supposedly "fine"?
But men can’t speak about their emotions… at least not to women. You don’t believe me? Sit and cry to your girlfriend for 6 months a few times per week, tell her how hard your life is, all the stress, worries, cry a little and see what happens… she’ll say things like I just don’t feel the spark anymore etc and inevitably leave you.
If you’re that upset you probably need therapy, which is awesome and you should get it. Women can’t take on their partners mental health load too, a lot of times men need professional help and that shouldn’t be stigmatized at all, it’s healthy.
As I listened to this conversation I began to understand the men in my life and how they go about handling life issues and relationship. Whether its at home or work place, how they communicate and interact, and also problem solving. I see this in my father, my brother, my husband and son . It’s such a struggle for all males , more so if they do not have a loving and kind father /male figure . Thank you for this insight.
@@amymccall5263Those comment isn’t about me I’ve never suffered with mental health I’m simply answering the question. Women will say why don’t our men just open up and share how he feels but when he does that they lose attraction and leave him.
@@rohayahstrong8997 thank you for understanding i personally like dealing wit my own issues and have never suffered from mental health but that’s not all men. It’s nice to see a woman who does actually make the effort to understand men! Your dad must have raised you correct.
A problem not often talked about is women aren't knowledgeable enough, whether by choice or circumstance, to be able to navigate and accept a man's negative emotions without getting the ick. There are far too many stories of women leaving men when they are downtrodden, and far too many women who prefer stoic men, that men are conditioned to believe it is better to keep their emotions to themselves. Only the most mature women can navigate this complex, and there are a lot of women that don't even care to understand men at this capacity. Men need romantic and sexual validation, if they stand to lose it by being emotional, they are not going to be emotional. No one ever talks about this, though.
We were given purpose by war for a few 4 to 10 years at a time. The other 65% of our time we were finding purpose in work and family. We've been forced out of male jobs and female jobs alike. We've had our children taken from of us after our wives got bored and left. We've had our purpose taken from us and if society doesn't care about us there's no reason to keep going. I appreciate that the host understands that situation better than most. The only thing people like Trevor Noah is a condescending attitude and untrue left wing talking points. He mentions crying in front of men and getting assulted by them for as if that happens without mentioning a woman's reaction of disgust when you do it in front of them. He mentions we need hobbies or for men to get together. We aren't even aloud to have men's groups or clubs or even Boy Scouts without some lady or ladies suing to join and take them over. "I spent all of my time with women." Yeah we can tell.
I'm sitting here trying to empathize with you, but I'm sitting here wondering why you expect to be taken seriously when all you do is lie and hold a hate for women that's visible in your words.
Started watching Trevor from his show, high comidic takes on the news are class. Also a deep, honest thinker not this need to constantly use brvado to hide things. Converdations like this need to happen more to understand the complexities of people & their struggles not to shune, be-little others.
Dude, the best revenge is take care of yourself first. Read good books, eat good food, exercise, clean your place, listen to good music, dress well and make peace with yourself. Then find a decent lady.
It really seems like being able to be open about what’s going on inside requires a level of strength that feeds back into the given ability. The ability seems to be promulgated by a relationship with someone a “younger” man respects
Because parents are the weak link. Stop trying to be your child’s friend, male or female. Be a parent! Tell your children to ignore social media. Put some effort into parenting and restrict the access. Stop giving kids smart phones at young ages. They just need a basic communication device. Make them go out and interact with their environment! Also, don’t be afraid to critique them and ask for better, not mediocrity. Everyone isn’t going to be a winner. He’s right about young people have not had to sacrifice to be able to survive.
I find the video game best friend thing to be a sad consequence of our society wasting and discouraging masculinity. Needing to pretend to be someone else in order to make friends, suggests self loathing and social awkwardness.
@@JM-bg2ts yeah you have to find a way for people to want to express themselves the way they want to while also making sure what is expressed is socially acceptable. We need to figure out what should be socially acceptable first though.
I have 2 sons and I believe it's getting much better for them. Nobody is criticizing them for having long hair or traditionally female interests, sharing their emotions, my oldest is only 12 and he has a vocabulary of a psychologists already. They seem to have a lot of outlets that didn't exist before and I love it. My biggest fear is that the history always circles and after all this progress it really looks like war is just behind the corner and in 5 to 8 years the purpose might me a war again. People never fucking learn! 😂😂😢😢😢😢😢
Wow my comment was deleted! Real men can handle the truth. I am a stoic woman in control of my emotions. Nothing turns me off faster than a whiny emotional man. Or for that matter a man who can’t control his temper. I want a real man not a 4 year old.
Trevor Noah's advice is 100% the wrong reason why men are struggling. Diary of a CEO has other guests telling a much more accurate picture of research and information.
Bottle up sure but then remember eventually there needs to be release of those emotions and the repercussions of that release is a detriment to others when anger is shown ( fear and sadness being underlying emotion) . Men can and should be able to talk to other men. And then action as well in terms of moving their bodies and actually doing things to serve society .
Vulnerability is not weakness, rather it takes strength to be truly vulnerable. Men are dying by suicide at an alarming rate and although I believe purpose is truly what men need, being vulnerable with how you feel and understanding your emotions are important.
@@stevenwhearity1944 Agreed. Being an integrated person with a deep purpose and understanding of one's state, their weaknesses, strengths and passions... is about as masculine a pursuit can be. I think it's important that men be extremely careful with who they are vulnerable with. Even 1 trusting friend can make all the positive difference.
@@danbarnett88 it’s important to be vulnerable at some points. Think of it like a suit of armor. Some parts have to be exposed to allow for movement. These are areas of weakness but they are necessary. The challenge is figuring out where and when to be vulnerable.
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This conversation is so needed. Men please keep talking about this.
I’m a 35yo guy and I’ve been in some dark places/situations all because I didn’t know/or get taught how to actually understand and FEEL my emotions, in starting to do so I’ve learnt so much about my true self and if I’m honest it’s saved me I think and I’ve only just started.. We don’t know how to handle or understand ourselves. To every man out there your worth something just listen to yourself!
I am 38 and I am nearing 39. I broke up with my girlfriend in 2019 and have been single and alone since then. I have met many women but I think none of them want to be with me because I'm not the too 10% of men. My friends have all fallen into a similar situation and none of them want to hang out together anymore. I am alone, I don't have friends I see often, and I don't have a woman in my life. I live alone, I own a house, I don't have any debt and I feel like I've never felt so invisible in any part of my life like I do today. It's like I don't have value or matter to anyone anymore
@@ArcticSeraph it’s a very real feeling. Take a moment and view yourself as God views you. Then go out to a crowded place and do the same to the people there.
It will alter you.
Good luck!
Somehow Similar with my brother situation.
Excellent video...again! Thank you! I enjoyed it and have shared it all over the place!
The world is changing men do not have a clearly defined place in the world
In a world where wealth is God,
everything costs five bucks and you only get one,
your boss is getting meaner,
people are becoming heartless,
people are choosing insanity. . . .
Why do you think anyone has a "place"?
Like your "place" is to get to work and worship your billionaire overlords or else.
Neither do women! What makes you think that we have a plan set out for us, special and apart from you?
I didn't even have a mother, but I'm supposedly "fine"?
@@TwisterTornado they were focusing on men on this clip
@@TwisterTornadoI’ll give you a place
@@MarioMario-vy4bi If you volunteer to be my doormat, I can't be responsible for your decisions.
It’s about being honest with each other & ourselves with respect for one another. Not man or woman but as human beings.
But men can’t speak about their emotions… at least not to women. You don’t believe me? Sit and cry to your girlfriend for 6 months a few times per week, tell her how hard your life is, all the stress, worries, cry a little and see what happens… she’ll say things like I just don’t feel the spark anymore etc and inevitably leave you.
If you’re that upset you probably need therapy, which is awesome and you should get it. Women can’t take on their partners mental health load too, a lot of times men need professional help and that shouldn’t be stigmatized at all, it’s healthy.
As I listened to this conversation I began to understand the men in my life and how they go about handling life issues and relationship. Whether its at home or work place, how they communicate and interact, and also problem solving. I see this in my father, my brother, my husband and son . It’s such a struggle for all males , more so if they do not have a loving and kind father /male figure . Thank you for this insight.
@@amymccall5263Those comment isn’t about me I’ve never suffered with mental health I’m simply answering the question. Women will say why don’t our men just open up and share how he feels but when he does that they lose attraction and leave him.
@@rohayahstrong8997 thank you for understanding i personally like dealing wit my own issues and have never suffered from mental health but that’s not all men. It’s nice to see a woman who does actually make the effort to understand men! Your dad must have raised you correct.
A problem not often talked about is women aren't knowledgeable enough, whether by choice or circumstance, to be able to navigate and accept a man's negative emotions without getting the ick. There are far too many stories of women leaving men when they are downtrodden, and far too many women who prefer stoic men, that men are conditioned to believe it is better to keep their emotions to themselves.
Only the most mature women can navigate this complex, and there are a lot of women that don't even care to understand men at this capacity.
Men need romantic and sexual validation, if they stand to lose it by being emotional, they are not going to be emotional.
No one ever talks about this, though.
Very insightful dialog!
We were given purpose by war for a few 4 to 10 years at a time. The other 65% of our time we were finding purpose in work and family. We've been forced out of male jobs and female jobs alike. We've had our children taken from of us after our wives got bored and left. We've had our purpose taken from us and if society doesn't care about us there's no reason to keep going.
I appreciate that the host understands that situation better than most. The only thing people like Trevor Noah is a condescending attitude and untrue left wing talking points. He mentions crying in front of men and getting assulted by them for as if that happens without mentioning a woman's reaction of disgust when you do it in front of them. He mentions we need hobbies or for men to get together. We aren't even aloud to have men's groups or clubs or even Boy Scouts without some lady or ladies suing to join and take them over.
"I spent all of my time with women."
Yeah we can tell.
I'm sitting here trying to empathize with you, but I'm sitting here wondering why you expect to be taken seriously when all you do is lie and hold a hate for women that's visible in your words.
Started watching Trevor from his show, high comidic takes on the news are class. Also a deep, honest thinker not this need to constantly use brvado to hide things. Converdations like this need to happen more to understand the complexities of people & their struggles not to shune, be-little others.
Oh look the guy who said the Hamas terrorists were akin to our founding fathers 🤡🤡🤡
I mean the founding fathers are more like Israel.
Therapy is good for men too. Bottled up emotions can lead to violence toward OTHERS.
Dude, the best revenge is take care of yourself first. Read good books, eat good food, exercise, clean your place, listen to good music, dress well and make peace with yourself. Then find a decent lady.
He made a good point on women being more able to enjoy the little things in life, to just be. Historically, men didn't really get to practice that.
The host (who knows some things on the topic) is interviewing a guy who sounds like he was just introduced to the topic a few days ago.
Father Richard Rohr. A connection with a father or good connection with an older man is invaluable
He’s a millionaire that has women throwing themselves at him. I don’t value his opinion on a matter of loneliness and lack of female interest.
It really seems like being able to be open about what’s going on inside requires a level of strength that feeds back into the given ability.
The ability seems to be promulgated by a relationship with someone a “younger” man respects
We're bottling up emotions because we have so much on our plate
Asking a follow up because I truly want to learn….
What is on your plate- please be as detailed as you can.
Again not to challenge but to get insight
Because parents are the weak link. Stop trying to be your child’s friend, male or female. Be a parent! Tell your children to ignore social media. Put some effort into parenting and restrict the access. Stop giving kids smart phones at young ages. They just need a basic communication device. Make them go out and interact with their environment! Also, don’t be afraid to critique them and ask for better, not mediocrity. Everyone isn’t going to be a winner. He’s right about young people have not had to sacrifice to be able to survive.
I don’t understand why social media is bad
I find the video game best friend thing to be a sad consequence of our society wasting and discouraging masculinity. Needing to pretend to be someone else in order to make friends, suggests self loathing and social awkwardness.
@@JM-bg2ts yeah you have to find a way for people to want to express themselves the way they want to while also making sure what is expressed is socially acceptable. We need to figure out what should be socially acceptable first though.
I have 2 sons and I believe it's getting much better for them. Nobody is criticizing them for having long hair or traditionally female interests, sharing their emotions, my oldest is only 12 and he has a vocabulary of a psychologists already. They seem to have a lot of outlets that didn't exist before and I love it. My biggest fear is that the history always circles and after all this progress it really looks like war is just behind the corner and in 5 to 8 years the purpose might me a war again. People never fucking learn! 😂😂😢😢😢😢😢
@@justynakavi407 nice
Wow my comment was deleted! Real men can handle the truth.
I am a stoic woman in control of my emotions. Nothing turns me off faster than a whiny emotional man.
Or for that matter a man who can’t control his temper.
I want a real man not a 4 year old.
Very true about the men with great life skills - they mostly grew up with older sisters or all around women - Def true of my male friends
Men are also necessarily competitive (egotistic) which can be isolating for others guys...
I would not describe reddit to be one of the most beautiful communities lmao
Trevor Noah's advice is 100% the wrong reason why men are struggling. Diary of a CEO has other guests telling a much more accurate picture of research and information.
Do you have a better opinion?😊
@@aidenthomas7711 every option has trade offs
This sounds familiar.😊
Love you, brothers. 🫂
It's Trump's fault😂
Reddit's really cool. The moderator's are pretty good at keeping the responses on topic
Read up on Jordan Peterson not this sellout
@@johnnymoon13 I don’t like him much. He says some cool things but he’s too weird for me.
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There's nothing wrong with a man bottling up his emotions. Being overly emotional and going to therapy is for women and gays.
Of course this comment came from you
So, are you good? Youre happy yea?
Bottle up sure but then remember eventually there needs to be release of those emotions and the repercussions of that release is a detriment to others when anger is shown ( fear and sadness being underlying emotion) . Men can and should be able to talk to other men. And then action as well in terms of moving their bodies and actually doing things to serve society .
Edit: Clearly a troll, dont feed it.
@@ungenbunyon5548 Yes.
Vulnerability = weakness = defeat. Stay strong men! 💪
Vulnerability is not weakness, rather it takes strength to be truly vulnerable. Men are dying by suicide at an alarming rate and although I believe purpose is truly what men need, being vulnerable with how you feel and understanding your emotions are important.
Wrong. Very wrong. Forcing people to ‘man up’ has led us to where we are.
Yes by all means keep doing what you’ve always done and expect a different result 🤦♀️
@@stevenwhearity1944 Agreed. Being an integrated person with a deep purpose and understanding of one's state, their weaknesses, strengths and passions... is about as masculine a pursuit can be. I think it's important that men be extremely careful with who they are vulnerable with. Even 1 trusting friend can make all the positive difference.
@@danbarnett88 it’s important to be vulnerable at some points. Think of it like a suit of armor. Some parts have to be exposed to allow for movement. These are areas of weakness but they are necessary. The challenge is figuring out where and when to be vulnerable.
He’s full of crap
@@mjaybee maybe but is what he’s saying completely wrong?