DAYS IN MY LIFE: home updates, birth control chat, grocery haul + meals for the week, job update?!
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- Опубликовано: 18 апр 2024
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I think it is SUPER IMPORTANT for women to understand that if your periods are so unbearable you actually feel like you're going to die, something is almost always wrong. The vast majority of the time, birth control is a bandaid you're putting on a problem that you will eventually have to deal with, especially if you hope to have children one day. Contrary to popular belief, it is *not* normal for us to be in debilitating pain month after month. Whether it's PCOS, endometriosis, or another hormone issue, it's really important to at least try to get to the root cause of the pain rather than jumping back on a pill you don't want to be on as a temporary fix
Yes! This! We are so conditioned to think that our periods are supposed to be painful. They should not be as painful as Abby is describing. That is not normal. And if your gyno tells you this is normal, SWITCH. We should not have to live in pain like that💔
Thank you for saying this!! There’s always an underlying problem that a lot of woman don’t know about. The pill wrecks gut biome, and essentially puts your body in a menopausal state. Hope my comment isn’t going to get deleted as they always censor me when I say this .
My comment was deleted (thanks RUclips) but thank you for saying this. It is NOT normal. Please ladies advocate for yourself because your doctor surely will not - contrary to popular belief.
It’s so crazy because I truly thought it was normal for them to be painful?! I think I maybe understate my pain levels when I go to the gynecologist but my PMS has progressively gotten worse since I got off birth control 3 years ago.. I’m definitely going to try & get it looked into with my gynecologist because I don’t want to go back on the pill especially if it won’t help me figure out the root cause like you said!
@@AbbyAsselin right there with you, my whole life I thought it was just "part of being a woman" and it was only recently that I started learning from female doctors that you shouldn't be in pain! I hope you're able to get some answers and relief soon🩷🩷
Girl, I had a full blown panic attack before my interview & I got the job. It’s truly about timing & what’s meant to be. I had interviews where I was confident & I answered all questions perfectly & didn’t get the job. I chalk to up to timing. Interviews/job searching is exhausting. Don’t take it personal!!
Also, I like the updates as you do them. It will still be exciting when you show each room completed, because we can see it all together. But I like the individual updates.
Commenting about a new kitten with an older pet! We had a similar situation and my older cat (who was around 7) literally acts like he did when he was a baby again. We definitely took our time introducing them but it’s been so good for him to have someone to play with
I really like to see/hear about the individual home updates as they come, I think that the room as a whole will still be exciting!
LOL stop me and Thomas are the same about building and bickering 😂😂😂 i loveeee seeing your meal prep and I love that’s stayed a more constant even with the job change ❤ your next job that is meant to be WILL come
Abby I clicked so fast As soon As I Got the Notification💕💕💕
I loooove your grocery hauls + meal prep, always getting ideas! ❤
Love to hear it 🥰
the way i need you to educate me on taxes/ being an adult- can you start a video series about adulting: doing taxes, getting a car(loans etc), building credit idk i feel like you could break it down in a way i could understand 🩷just turned 23 and it’s so tough navigating w out good guidance :/
Omg love the table and chairs!
Also you poor thing with your periods! I’m so sorry
And as for the introducing a new pet.. I did that with my bunny. I had her for years and then introduced another bunny. I think all in all it’s good for them to experience other animals around them, but it was definitely an adjustment. It had its tough moments, but ultimately I think it’s nice to add a new addition :)
Omg I loveeeeeee the new table
Thank you 🧡🥰
We got our 6 year old dog a puppy and he went through about a month of an adjustment period. But it’s been the best thing for him. They are now best friends and keep each other active. Best decision we could’ve made
I like home updates 😇
I've introduced kittens to older dogs and it's ok! Most recently I introduced a rescue cat (who showed up to my door!) to my young adult dog. She seems happy and they will sleep near each other and play a little, months after bringing her in. They aren't besties, but I make sure to still include special time with my dog, walks, etc. so she knows she isn't being pushed aside. It can definitely be done and I bet Ella would be excited! :)
Awe I’m glad to hear it’s worked out well for you! Good to know :) such a good point about the special time with walks and such
i relate to this so much omg “i’m literally gonna lay in bed and CHILL” ~ eats, changes bedsheets, deep cleans desk, finishes laundry ~ okay now i can actually CHILL
HAHAHAHAHAH plssss i need to learn how to *actually* chill without making myself do a million other things first 😂😂
i struggle with birth control as well. the pill gives me numbness but with out it i have high highs and low lows. but i would try the depo shot if you want. it is a hormonal birth control but i have found it has evened my emotions with out making me numb.
hi, loved the vlog! you could show us what you do on a regular basis and maybe do a good old fashioned house tour once it's all done? Or show what you do in the vlogs and whenever a room is fully finished have a room tour integrated in the vlogs? Also, good on you for continuing applying! You will find something eventually :)
Yes def trying to take this approach with it!! And thank you ❤️
You should read the Boys of Tommen series!
I would also love advice on getting a second pet when you have one that has always been an only child. We have a Yorkie that will be 8 in October and I would love to give her a playmate, but don’t want to disrupt her too much either.
Totally feel that!! I’m hoping more people have experience with it & can provide extra insight. It’s hard seeing them get old 😭
So I have an older pup who was an only child for 5 years before we introduced a cat into his life. When we got our cat he was 10 months old, so not kitten kitten age but still young. We honestly didn’t keep them separate for long except at bedtime when we put the cat in its own room. In the beginning our dog was stand-offish and the cat wanted to play but they kept their space from eachother. I will say now 4 years later they are loving eachother. Our dog is actually letting our cat lay next to him! It took some time but I’m so happy we introduced a cat into our family.
That’s comforting to hear!! I’m glad they warmed up to one another. I think the key for us would definitely be getting a kitten that hasn’t had time or experience to decide how it feels about dogs, just because ella has always been super timid around the adult cats she’s been around (my brother & SIL have a cat who was a stray & we love her but she is so mean & ella is kinda scared of cats after being around her but can at least coexist with her lol)
@@AbbyAsselin yes! That’s exactly what I did! I also was able to find a local rescue that allowed you to go into the room with all the cats and just chill with them until you found the right one! It is the Bay Area Pet Adoptions in Galveston county. Worth the drive for sure!
For the period cramps, taking magnesium glycinate has helped me tremendously for my PMS as well as day 1 of my period which used to be like yours. Do your own research of course, but it gets depleted from things like coffee/caffeine and not enough raw greens/veggies, just to provide a few examples. My cramps used to be 10/10 making me sweat and puke like you described and now they are like a 2/10. Love your videos always 💕
Just started taking this yesterday and hoping it helps a lot!! I’m so happy it helped you and hoping it does the same for me 😅🤞🏼
I will be on the lookout to hear if it works for you! (I only take it at night as needed to help sleep if I am anxious or feel irritable so I am not sure about taking it daily). You’re the best!!
I would not get back on birth control. I’m currently getting off of it now and feel so much better as a whole. I’d ask your obgyn and gp. Personally I haven’t had those issues, only skin, so went to a dermatologist and that was it.
I’ve been going through the interview process too after quitting public. Didn’t get a job I thought I REALLY wanted, ended up getting something that feels like the dream job I never knew I wanted.
Def don’t plan on going back on it! I agree I feel way better and more in tune with myself and emotions since getting off. Sending you all the love with the job search ❤️
I’m on birth control mainly because before that I had heavy periods and lots of symptoms.(cramps, headache, exhaustion, and hot flashes)
I’m sorry to say that this is not a good longterm solution. A lot research is being banned on how harmful the pill is.
That’s why i initially got on it in the first place too! It def helped all of it but at the expense of feeling like an entirely different human mentally & emotionally lol
@@AbbyAsselin I do sometimes feel extra emotional and sensitive at times. Honestly not sure if it's related to the BC or not because I have been that way sometimes in the past before I even started the pill.
I also was on birth control for that reason. But I also was more anxious & more numb at the same time, so I recently switched to a progesterone, instead of BC with estrogen. Anxiousness is less. Cramps are back. Lol
@@autumnsnay9357 interesting enough I still get cramping but it’s mild pain and the tiredness even on the BC. It does make my actual period really light though which is nice.
Is your stove electric? We were having a similar issue in November with our stove, and it turns out the electrical panel on the stove (like where you turn it on/off/select temps and stuff) was dying and it's a common issue I guess. We looked into replacing the panel but it was like $750 and we just decided to get a new stove instead 💀
I had a very similar episode a couple of weeks ago and still don’t know what caused it. I’ve had issues with having bad periods before, as well as low blood sugar so I want to say it was a combination of the two for me. I normally try to write off these symptoms as normal, but it’s hard when it is impacting my everyday life! Hope you figure out what’s best for you!
Oooo yeah I can see that being a tough combo to deal with. Definitely hard to push through it every month 😅 thank you!
Hey Abby
At my high school we wore matching garters on our legs 😂
wait that makes me feel so much better HAHAHAH but also why was it a thing 🤣😭
Omg everything you said about your period and birth control I completely relate. Sweating, on the verge of passing out, vomiting, horrible pain, it’s insane!! On BC I didn’t have any of those symptoms but had the mental side effects. Do you ever take any medication for your period? I’ve just accepted that as soon as I start my period I need to take 2 Advils and then I don’t experience those symptoms at all. If I try to wait it out at all it’s too late and the cascade of symptoms come for me 🥲
Ugh so sorry that you relate 😭 I normally take ibuprofen the day I start and it helps the cramps a little but sometimes it doesn’t & I def still experience symptoms! Like this time I had taken ibuprofen and threw up 30 mins later but maybe I waited too late
@@AbbyAsselin ughhh I’m sorry, it’s seriously the worst feeling 😭 periods are so complicated
I would highly suggest hormone tests and also cycle syncing with exercise, diet and lifestyle. Cramps are a symptom of something else and it’s important to look for the cause and BC doesn’t always allow you to find that root cause
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I def need to try out cycle syncing. I was so overwhelmed by it (seemed like a lot of work) & I didn’t have time to do all of it when I first learned about it but I should honestly educate myself on it more & try it out now that I have time
Honestly all I’ve done differently is the amount of caffeine I have during different times of the month and then no crazy intense cardio 10 days out from my 1st day. I noticed a big difference and I’ve always had like screaming crying puking level cramps
Great suggestions. Where would you get a hormone test? Your regular doctor?
I would do a Dutch test. It’s an in depth analysis of your body’s sex and adrenal health. It’s also shows your 24 hour cortisol patterns and how you metabolize hormones. I would suggest having someone who can read these and design a program for you - most doctors won’t do this. A natural practitioner is the way to go. I had my doctor wanting to put me on hrt at a young age when it fact, I just needed to control my stress (cortisol) and fix my adrenals. I’m not pms free, healthy and went from having zero sex hormones healthy levels. I’m a data nerd so it’s cool to see how your body is working Internally. Regardless of what you- I know you’ll do what’s best for you and I’m sorry it was so painful!
Ugh periods are not supposed to be that painful and cause those symptoms, it’s definitely something else. I would go to a gynecologist! And if they just say to put you on the pill, get a second opinion. I do want to say however that birth control doesn’t work for everyone but it works for me. I guess I’m one of the lucky ones that the pill doesn’t change my mental state and I only use it to prevent pregnancy
Hey Abby, I've been watching you since 2018, and you were deciding whether to switch universities or not , I related so much bc I was in the same position back thenhaha 😅
We're about the same age, you're exactly a year older, our birthdays are literally 4 days apart !
I also wanted to say that I think you threw up on your period because you took ibuprofen on an empty stomach. It happened to me once too
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Don't be hard on yourself regarding the interview - getting to an interview stage is a success in itself! You'll find something right for you soon, TRUST!
I love your style of vlogging and whichever way you show us house updates will be cool. Maybe they can just be divided into different, shorter vlogs? So that you can organize them in a playlist rather than include them in the middle of a vlog? Just an idea!
Thank you so so much 🩷🩷 I def think I could do that for some of the videos but others it may be TOO short haha but I’ll def have to put them in a playlist!
Learn something new! -Set aside 30% of income from each paycheck. I’m self-employed and never knew this I set aside a random amount thanks for the tip. Hope for more accounting tips for personal finance in the future!
I think you should get an ultrasound to check for endometriosis! There has to be a root cause and birth control doesn’t have to be the answer.
Ugh I googled the symptoms of it (I know googling isn’t the best idea) and some of them def align with what I experience but I think I’ve always been scared of something being wrong that I understate the pain at the gynecologist but my periods have just recently gotten this bad (like since my last appointment) so I’m def gonna look into it, I know I need to take it seriously!!
It can be scary!! But you shouldn’t have to deal with that much pain if you becoming sick. I hope you find some answers😊
I know birth control is very personal but have you considered progesterone only pills? That’s been the only kind that works for me and doesn’t make me feel like a different person
I’ve def heard about them but haven’t looked into them or talked w my doctor about them! & my mom has mentioned them. I’m glad to hear they work for you!!
"The hardest part of this was.."
"Working with Abby"
Lmao
I get so impatient and feisty when building things isn’t easy (aka all the time LMAO)
I’m a CPA and paid $13 for taxes. I was so happy how close to $0 it was
Omg that is SUCHHH a flex 💅🏼
That job was absolutely not for you. The universe is always conspiring to get us our best lives. The next job you accept will be the best place for you. Trust in the universe. She’s got your back.
Thank you 🩵