Things I do to avoid the materialism trap (as a minimalist)
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- Опубликовано: 28 июн 2024
- We’re desperate to convey our own worth, our own value to others. We use objects to tell people just how valuable we are.” Fumio Sasaki, Goodbye, Things
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01:24 Reset your shopping habit (low buy challenge, budget, intentional spending)
03:16 Simplify the most complicated parts of your life (skincare and makeup)
05:59 Find your worth outside of material (what is enough?)
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“Gratitude turns what we have into enough.” I love this statement ❤
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It appears she’s not a minimalist in her giant engagement / wedding ring. 😅
“I am enough” is such a powerful statement; it makes me cry.
I am kenough
@@oleola9871I deliberately checked the replies to see if someone wrote “kenough” and you delivered
You could be way better.
@@oleola9871 stop promoting a brand. especially for free.
I recommend listening to the song “I am enough” by Cimorelli. It’s a beautiful song
The Bible tells us that God gives us "More than Enough" "That we having Sufficiency in all things might be able to GIVE to Good Works". And when I receive so much I'm obligated to GIVE to others out of my Abundance! It's such a Joy to be able to GIVE. In fact, I now find more Joy in Giving than Receiving! My husband & I are in our 70s (married 56yrs) & after a Long Illness, I've been Inspired to completely Clear out everything that we don't enjoy using or have a need for! We have been giving some of our nicer things that we no longer use to newly married couples, either in the neighborhood or from our church! You can't imagine the Joy everyone shared with one another by this! The younger ones felt so Honored & Blessed bc we've had a Good & Long Marriage & by giving them something of ours the Blessing flows into them! How wonderful is that?
If we learn to have JOY in all we do, then what the World calls "Having Less" is really Having More!
Amen!
We need more of these videos. Not just for the financial and environmental health benefits, but for the mental health side awareness. I don’t think materialism makes people happy, in fact it does the opposite. We should encourage each other to find meaningful connections and experiences, we’ll be better off for it.
I don’t buy things unless I need them anymore . I have a shopping list for everything I need as I hated wasting money on things I thought I needed that just turned to clutter and junk
Sophie is the elder sister we all need ❤
Awww :)
So true❤
Thats what she is
Or younger sister
Hi Sophie, I spent the day visiting a an 88 year old man who I have come to love and make my family, he suffered a stroke and I make him green smoothies, talk to him, listen to music etc. I ended up staying for hours and when I walked home slowly I felt so 'rich' and peaceful, and my feeling of 'envy' for those who go abroad on holiday reduced so much, I felt so present.
#4 is GOLD. Having a sense of *inherent Self Worth & Wholeness* is the root to avoid attempting to fill an internal void with external possessions. 😘 As always, great tips, Sophie. Much Gratitude. 🙏🏾💚
Yess :) glad you think so too. Thank you for watching!
Love this. I recently did some mystery shopping at a few different designer stores, including Hermes, Chanel and Dior. I noticed how some of the female customers were in all of the shops I went into, but one lady in particular caught my eye... I had seen her in Chanel first, and noticed how unhappy she looked as she searched for a new bag. Then later I saw her in Hermes, with a big Chanel gift bag with what I presumed was an expensive Chanel bag inside, and my first thought was, "Money doesn't buy happiness, she doesn't look any happier than before". It was eye-opening to say the least.
0:00: The speaker noticed the constant bombardment of advertisements and products in stores, prompting thoughts on the messages sent by companies.
0:41: The speaker questions who truly benefits from materialism and the pursuit of a perfectly organized materialistic life.
1:19: The speaker shares their personal experience of challenging themselves to only buy necessary items and how it helped reset their shopping habits.
2:00: The speaker emphasizes the importance of shopping intentionally and using guidelines rather than strict budgeting.
2:56: Budget in cash and set limits on credit cards to challenge consumer habits.
3:26: Resetting habits and evaluating our routines is important.
3:45: Algorithms personalize ads based on our interests, leading to impulsive purchases.
4:20: Simplifying skincare and makeup routines reduces temptation to buy unnecessary products.
6:05: The narrator acknowledges the role of shopping in defining their self-worth.
6:25: Recognizing when we have enough prevents us from getting caught up in a never-ending pursuit of frivolous things.
6:46: Realizing that we are enough without adding more to our lives brings gratitude and peace.
7:28: Resisting the narrative that we are not enough in a culture that constantly tells us so is powerful.
Recap by Tammy AI
Woah that’s so cool! What app did you use to do that? 😮
This reminds me of the AI note taker in Zoom, I don't know the name though
Is it necessary though? Fucking AI.... there's already closed captions. You think this makes you such a good person to have shared your stupid copy paste?
Thank you
Another thing to keep note is as long as u are improving/investing in yourself, you don't need materials to validate that. You are the brand, a unique one in the whole world.❤
Anytime I feel myself start to want to shop constantly or start window shopping online often I come back to your videos.
I don't have anyone in my life that practices minimalism so it's nice to come here and be re-grounded and remember why I've been on this journey
"Our inherent worth cannot be bought or priced" thank you🙌🏾❤️
Im practicing minimalism and you are my constant guide to continue living a simple minimalist life. Thank you!!
yeah but she clearly has expensive items and also her wardrobe is full of clothes and she has said she has been spending a lot since she is in debt, don't believe this BS, so many of the fake people prey on the young impressionable lives
One way I control things is that I have AdBlock on all my devices and I use a privacy browser and search engine (Brave). This eliminates 99% of ads. I do see ads on Facebook and Instagram and I am working on finding a way to eliminate them too. Because I was the firstborn of a large family on a budget, I have shopped second hand my entire life and I prefer it. It's the thrill of the hunt and the delight of a 'find'!
Todd McGowan really gets at a core in his work, I think: "Desire always finds its satisfaction through missing its object. The basic structure of desire is it never realizes itself in an object and that‘s the source of its satisfaction. Capitalism maps itself on that structure of desire but it gives us the illusion that we may sometime be able to get the object of our desire, but in truth our desire is satisfied by not getting that object."
Fundamentally, desire ceases to be once we obtain an object, but because the pleasure is in the desire, it immediately fixates on the next object. The things is to accept the presence of this mechanism without fruitlessly feeding it objects, as you point out.
Sophie is an intelligent consumer!! She is teaching us to be selective and respect quality over quantity. She is teaching us to be creative and progressive!
Her advice is like the one my father gave me when I was a typical, uninformed, teenager 🤗
I confess I overspend on books but I carefully select my collection of books. Ensuring variety and quality.
My father would deeply appreciate her sensitive and sensible suggestions. 😍😍😍
Gratitude does make it enough❤ I agree, Sophie.
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After doing no-buy ince last December I have realized that this is the crux of my depression and insecurities: I feel like I'm not worth any, not enough, unless I have ultra high income worth and smashing designer outfits and perfect makeup. There are almost no spaces in America where I can just EXIST without being advertised to and the algorithms Insta pushes to me are beautiful people with lavish mansions and cars and I feel like I'm worth nothing because my life doesn't look like that. Thank you for making this video, I'm sure it resonates with so many women (probably men too!)
Sophie my sister is so so excited to watch this video and she really loves your videos so so much you are my inspiration and I wish your reach 700K Subscribers very very soon!💫😁💖
thank you so much :)
This one is my most fave video of yours so far! Almost all lines hit me to the core. Thank you for doing what you do. Intentional living is one of most difficult thing to do these days as this generation is generally materialistic. And your videos remind me that there’s actually ways to do it if you’re serious about it.
One very effective way to stop spending and shopping so much, being poor! Instant minimalism. Very underrated method.
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True but most poor ppl are still big consumers to try to appear like they have more money than they actually do. They buy into image and material just as much as the rich
This is everything that I always think of and fall into the loop of buying things. I am grateful for this video to jump back in and check myself time to time. Thank you! ❤️
Dear Sophie, today I discovered your channel and I couldn’t be more happy! Your voice and the advices you give and the experiences you share with us - it all calmed me down this morning and I achieved so much more before work and that’s all without stressing myself out as usual. I found your channel when I needed it the most. Thank you so much for all the great work you’re doing here for us! 🦋
I really liked the message in the video, especially the part where you said you had a three-tier skincare routine and not too much makeup because on social networks I always see people trying to get us to buy expensive things we don't even need (and I love your videos 🩷)
Sophie, your content is ALWAYS comforting and relieving...
your videos not only teach me more about minimalism, it also helps me through bouts of anxiety since it's relaxing to watch. thank you!
My heart feels so full after watching this. Thank you Sophie!🌷
I listened to this video 3 times!!! Fully received your message it is surreal realizing you dont need things to make you feel . Thank you
Thank you for this. All your videos are so thoughtful and beautifully done. I am working towards a more minimalist life, and your videos remind me that my journey is about me and my goals, no one else’s.
What a beautiful and powerful message 'I am enough and I don't need that particular thing to be whole or valued.' ❤❤
"Gratitude turns what we have into enough."I love this message
Thank you for this 💕 I just read the magic of tidying up by Marie Kondo and your video has neatly tied my thoughts and feelings up in a bow for me. I’ve decluttered many times with the intent of not needing to spend as much once I’m happy with what I have. But I’m still unsatisfied, things return to chaos, and I keep buying more than I should. I spent 1 or 2 years living out of a suitcase because of covid, and even then I had clothes I never wore. It taught me lots about what I do and don’t need but since getting home I haven’t been able to apply those lessons. I’ve realised it’s because I declutter/tidy with the same mindsets I shop with!!! Such as keeping things because I might need them one day, that day hasn’t come and sometimes I can’t see things I actually do need behind that other stuff and I end up buying something similar, only to be frustrated when I realise I bought multiple but only needed 1. Before I can reduce unhelpful spending like you say I need to break that mindset. It’s difficult and new for me so I’ll use Marie’s method, with the same gratitude you both teach. I’m very thankful for all my things but honestly I can’t take care of or appreciate them all fully. I think if I only keep what I truly love, and a few extras that are absolutely necessary like some paperwork, I might learn my lesson and it will be easier to shop with this mindset too. This video made me realise, if I don’t practice this in the comfort of my home how can I expect to manage it with ads and shiny new things everywhere? I hate the waste of getting rid of things and I worry about the environmental impact but it’s better to face my overconsumption now than to keep repeating the cycle. I only have a normal amount of stuff, but I guess these issues are also normal in any consumerist culture
Wonderful message and as always, beautifully told and shot. This came at a great time. I'm trying my first low buy month and working on some major decluttering while also trying to reflect on *why* I bought all the things in the first place.
I love every videos of you. I watch your videos always multiple times. Your voice gives me always peace ❤
I have never heard of a low buy year before thank you for sharing I appreciate the guidance. Recently the phrase "money fast" came into my reality so I am definitely taking these as signs 💚
Thank you Sophie, your videos are so concise and powerful. You are talented at creating a beautiful visual and message in a short amount of time❤
Escaping the materialism mindset and embracing minimalism has changed my life so much for the better I only wish I made that transition years ago. Life is better when you have no debt and are very selective about what you spend money on.
I love your videos and always look forward to them. I have learnt to be prudent from watching your videos and I am so loving the peace of mind that comes with it.
Thank you for watching and supporting😁
Your videos bring me so much peace. Thank you for making them ❤
I needed this video. It came right as I was having a bit of a spending issue again, after years of being very mindful. Thanks for the reminder, and for the relaxing way you always deliver your message.
yeah but she clearly has expensive items and also her wardrobe is full of clothes and she has said she has been spending a lot since she is in debt, don't believe this BS, so many of the fake people prey on the young impressionable lives
Thank you for the extra “push” you just gave me to start carving the life I want ❤
I Second This... Agree.. I love it when others Inspire & Motivate you to become and Do better with Self... A beautiful thing.!
i was in our city sight yesterday. not because of shopping, but we had an appointment. i sat outside waiting, watching all those shopping people...
and i was overwhelmed.
the world today is overwhelming
My peace of mind. Thank you Sophie ❤
For many years I struggled with the temptation of shopping. One day I had an epiphany that I really don't need anything material. In fact I had entirely too much stuff. That revelation allowed me to let go of so much that could be a blessing to others. By doing this I learned that I am enough just as I am. Recently, I have been listening to some affirmations on gratitude to reduce that pressure to consume. Today I woke up and started thinking about doing a low spend challenge for the remainder of the year and then the universe showed me your video. ❤
ugh, I do hate ads, but I have learned resistance over what lures me in. I can't imagine how much harder it is for non-minimalists to resist. Nice watercolor works by the way!
This is the first video of yours that I've watched and it was lovely. You have a very calming presence and a beautiful aesthetic. You make a lot of very valid points. Thank you.
Thank you for you simplicity, sincerity and for teaching others that life is more than owning expensive things ❤and btw I love your skincare, simple and practical 🥰
Thanks for watching ♥️
I’ve watched it over and over again. It's amazing. ❤️ I would absolutely looove to see another capsule wardrobe video ❤️
This is wisdom that usually doesn’t come until much later in life! Wonderful ideas! ❤️🥰😘
I have decision fatigue anytime I want to buy something and I never buy anything, it's truly overwhelming!
Only buy something if you really think it’s fantastic, not just OK.
I really like ur channel, I like your mentality, I like ur intelligence, just I like u girl and l see u the perfect girl l ever seen 💗😭
Thank you for watching and supporting! It means a lot
So I'll tell a little but about my journey with minimalism if anyone feels like reading:
So I have really enjoyed simplicity and trying to be more present and enjoy what I have. I will e honest I'm not really grateful most of the time and always want a new thing, sth. New and exciting but I noticed that making memorys is way more exciting than another dress that I will than just end up throwing out because it isn't my taste anymore. So practicing gratitude is sth. Big I'm learning and to also get off the track of trying to be relevant in a way and to really enjoy time with myself and the simplicity I'm trying to create (being less on social media definitely helped).
I cleaned my closet out sth. Very important to me because I just love fashion but I don't sew I just like the runway shows and seeing the items and I have learned to appreciate the pieces and stop feeling like I need to have this when I clearly don't. So I let go of a lot of things and kept what truly meant sth. To me.
Being off social media except RUclips because I like watching inspiring videos like this has also helped me be more calm and I will be honest I did have a crying session because I felt so confused. It somehow was a big change for me but I also realized how unnecessary it really is. I cried because I felt so lost and cut my way out if dealing with my emotions, my escapism. So I sat there and just let myself feel the things and just let it flow instead of trying to run away. It was scary but I'm quite happy I did that. I also didn't know what to do with my time but than after a while I started doing things I enjoy again, I painted, read, an calling my friends way more often and also hang out with them a lot more. I spent a lot of time in nature or listening to music or watch movies, series I truly enjoy. I bake from time to time and started doing sport again and I kind of feel liberated like my life is just more quiet and peaceful which I was striving for and makes me really happy. Along this journey her channel always inspired me to keep going this way even if I felt like society wanted sth. Else from me or that I'm not cool or not enough for doing that, but I kept doing my thing and I' really happy that I' owning my life.
I also found the strategy of thinking of clothes as uniforms very interesting and the video was just eye opening to me again.
I just want to say that this might seem simpler that it is and that if you are going through a hard time that it is ok❤
Thank you for this inspirational video. I’m at that point in my life where I need to make a change. Now I’m redefining myself and what I truly value amongst all. This truly help with guiding me on to this next step.
❤️🥰 so happy to hear that
Thank you, Sophie! Always.🤗😌
Love this, but I never understand when people say “this is better than budgeting, it’s less restrictive”. Budgeting is only restrictive if you make it restrictive. If you want to budget $500 a week for groceries, do it! It’s your budget. 🤷🏻♀️ It’s a plan on how you want to spend your money. You’re in charge. Make it restrictive or make it bougie.
This one of the best contents you've ever made, thank you ❤
I appreciate that so much :)
Agreed 💯 So on point. Would love to have a reel of ending part saved to my collection.
I've just come across your channel and have been binge watching your videos. I love your energy and the format of your videos. Thank you so much for them. It is exactly what i need ❤.
Thank you so much :) so happy you're enjoying them
This is so timely to me 🥺 thanks Sophie!
Oh, Sophie ❤❤❤ This is probably your most powerful piece yet! BRAVA! 💐💐💐❤️❤️❤️💋💋💋
I love this video Sophia. So much.
Firstly, the sunflower is my flower. I resonate very much with what this flower symbolises. I love it so much I got my first tattoo at 53 and it is a sunflower! 🌻 (Your painting is beautiful!)
The way you explain the benefits of living a minimalist lifestyle has had an impact on me. I have made the decision to begin this journey. It seems quite daunting right now, however, starting small and not putting pressure on myself is what I need to keep in mind.
Your selection of colors and clothing are beautiful. Very inspirational!
Thank you again Sophia. I'm looking forward to seeing where I will be in 1 year from now ! 🙏🌞✨🌻
Sunflowers are so beautiful 😍 thank you for your kind message! 💛
Thank you. 🙏 Such a lovely video. Your sunflower paintings are beautiful. ❤
Low buy challenge sounds great! Love mindful way of living ❤😊Thank you, Sophie, for sharing your experience 🙏
Thank you, this video has come to me in perfect timing! xx😇
Very powerful video. I often come back to listen to this to stay focused. The wish list thing is such a game changer for me.
Thank you so much ❤️
So refreshing. Thank you! 🌻
Thank you 🤍, Sophie for this wonderful video, looking forward to the next one! 💞⭐
Thank you dear like always your videos are so peaceful ❤
Such an inspiration🥰I've learned so much from your videos, so I can start my own journey to minimalism🥰thank you so much
So soothing voice and calm videography ❤
Thank you :)
Thanks so much for this video❣️It was exactly what I needed to hear today❣️
Sofia, I love your message so much ❤ thanks for sharing your vision
Wonderful message, as always. I also really love your scenery -- gorgeous! It was nice to walk past the shops in Waikiki today too. That brings back some nice memories. 🌴
thank you. you are very comforting.
So happy to wake to your new video. Greetings from New Caledonia ❤
how i wish can reach your state of mind that means knowing when to say enough and ba content with what you have and appreciate them!
Im loving your Oahu content- this is currently home for me as well, and for some reason, seeing all my spots on film is making your words seem more real to me.
ugh this channel is everything✨ i hardly comment on youtube channels, but i wanted to share my gratitude for YOU. i feel like i’m coming home to myself, remembering who i truly am when i watch your videos, and have realized how far away from myself i’ve gone bc i got lost in the noise of the world. this channel calms the noise and i’m very grateful i found you ☺️ thank you very much!
Soo happy to hear this!! Thank you for your comment 😁♥️
you are my dose of wisdom and inspiration ❤️ take care🥰
Love this. It gave me something to think about for sure. Thank you
Love love the message, it’s so true!! So many times we need to hear it to makes us think about it. Thank you ! Also , Hawaii is so beautiful!! It’s paradise!! Brings me so many good memories! God created such a beautiful place!! Hawaii ❤❤❤
I have enough... And I am enough. Love this, Sophie~ ❤
your video couldnt have come at a better time, ive been struggling with this issue of late and am glad to know im not alone!❤
You are always so helpful. Thank you
Thanks for watching 😁❤️
Such Gold Content !
I needed this today ! Thank u, keep writing ❤
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What a beautiful mindful content you create. It's a pleasure watching your channel. You inspire me SO much. I have a big problem with spending money when I don't need to. It's something I've been struggling with for years. I'm glad that you can relate. I keep saying I have to do this low buy challenge but I keep post poning it and I can't understand why it's so hard for me to do the challenge. Nevertheless, you really put things in perspective for me. I WANT to feel like I am enough. I can almost feel the freedom that comes with letting go of that. Wish me luck 🙂🙏💗
Thank you Sophie for posting another Vlog. I’m currently embracing a minimalist lifestyle while expecting a new baby in August. I have to say, you truly inspire me to keep going in this lifestyle. You demonstrate that it’s possible and be joyful while living it. See you in the next Vlog. ❤
How exciting!! 😍♥️
Thank you. Such a lovely video, helping me to see clearly xx
Wow, this is very cinematic. Your skills are top-notch. Thank you for putting this message out there.
Thanks for watching ❤️
This is such an important topic!
I recently talked about it in one of my videos too...
It's something that you need to remind yourself often
your videos are better at lowering blood pressure than blood pressure medications
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Your videos are so amazing they motivate me to stay focused on improving myself 🌸
Beautiful and so calming... Thanks for the videos.
Thanks for watching 😊
Merci Sophie. Vidéo pleine d'amour ❤
In a hurry for my office but I shall watch it whenever I get time😊Your video is kind of therapeutic so I shall enjoy it at peace❤
Your videos are very calming :)
❤❤❤. Thank you for reminding us that we are enough
I'm pretty good at holding myself back from materialistic things. My weakness, however, is food. Whenever I get slightly hungry, or even when I'm not, and I get a craving for something, I won't stop thinking about it until I satisfy my cravings. Sometimes I even get in a bad mood when I hold myself back from food. It's tricky trying to balance between not starving myself and avoiding overindulgence
Working on it myself, simple life leads to health/piece !! From someone who had cancer a few times. Most people where I live have no clue! Great video 👍
Youre so right! Thank you :)
I loved this videos so much! Thank you ♥️