Marriage during PhD - Not EASY (UNCUT) | Low Salary | Lack of Job Stability | Societal Perspective
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- Marriage during PhD - Not EASY | Low Salary | Lack of Job Stability | Societal Perspective | UNCUT
🎓❤️ Finding Your Soulmate During a PhD: Unveiling the Challenges
Hey everyone! 👋 Recently, I embarked on a new chapter in life by tying the knot, and it's prompted me to shine a light on a prevalent societal issue. Today, I want to delve into the often underestimated challenges faced by #phd #students in the quest for their perfect match.
💍 The Struggle is Real: Join me as I open up about the harsh realities I've encountered over the past few years. From navigating the complexities of low salaries to grappling with job insecurity during a Ph.D., the journey has been far from easy. Sadly, the societal perception of the value of a Ph.D. in our country adds an extra layer of complexity to the mix.
🤔 Judgment and Misunderstanding: How are #phd #students judged in the pursuit of love? It's a question many of us face, and I'm here to share my personal experiences and insights. Let's address the misconceptions and shed light on the unique challenges that come with seeking a life partner during this academic journey.
🔍 What to Expect in This Video:
Personal Stories: Candidly sharing my own experiences, highs, and lows.
Financial Realities: The impact of a modest income and job uncertainty on relationship dynamics.
#societalissues Perspectives: Breaking down the stereotypes and discussing the undervaluation of Ph.D. pursuits.
🌟 Let's Start a Conversation: Share your thoughts, experiences, or advice in the comments below. Together, we can build a supportive community for those navigating the intersection of love and academia.
👍 If you resonate with this video, show some love by hitting the like button, subscribing, and ringing the notification bell. Stay tuned for more real talk about the challenges and triumphs of life during a Ph.D.
#phdlife #phdinindia #marraigeduringphd #marraigeadvice #LoveAndAcademia #relationshipsinphd #RealTalk #phd #societalissues
It's a serious social issue regarding marriage and takes a lot of guts to say all things publicly. Thanks a lot for sharing this. Wish you a great married life. Need more videos like this.
Thank you. There many such issues. Will make videos on this for sure
Ami vebe chilam phd korle meyeder line pore jai.... But reality is light years apart from my perception
I'm a married few months before. Now wants to pursue the PhD in Psychology. Currently doing a private job. I got very beautiful message here. Society will not going to accept our excuses. Even family members might going to feel unhappy. But it's my choice and passion to pursue PhD. So, I'll definitely overcome from this irrelevant stuff or chaos.
As a married woman, I will definitely keep my home clean. Also I'll make perfectionist as a school Counselor.
Dream : PhD in Psychology 🤞
Definitely, nothing should stop you from your dream. Best wishes !!
You are so fucking awesome. People are really unaware what they have missed. And also Congratulations KD.
Thank you 💕
I believe you have met a perfect and smart partner who respects and understands the value of PHD and its fellows hard and dedicated effort. One of my distant cousin also got married to a bright girl from an educated family. I feel its the educated family that inculcates this respect and knowledge about education to know the value of people in the field of research and higher studies. Heartiest congratulations to both of you on your start of the new life together.
Sad part of this video is that it deserves more audiance ❤
😢
Please do share as much as possible
What I recommend is now total fellowship is 44-52k for 5 years, including HRA , if your research is good you will definitely get a post doc or RA , also the fellowship is tax free...i feel PhD scholars can also run a side buisness so it will increase their salary by atleast 10-15 k pm , I am doing the same.
10:30 - 10:40 show this guys maturity
Congratulations on your marriage! bro
It's nice to hear your story
Thanks
Congrats on finding your life partner and getting married bro.
Thank you!
They don't know your value.IIT KHARAGPUR , IISC BANGALORE , ISRO AND FOREIGN RESEARCH TOUR aur kya chahiye bhai sahab
It takes a lot of guts to tell the truth dada..many many congratulation for new life....and hats off to boudi ,she is a smart medico that's why she understood your true potential .
Thanks bhai
I am a bit late... but better late than never...
My heart felt blessings to you and bahu...
Live long with all the happiness and healthy in life. Took ryt decision.
God bless you and bahu
Thanks a lot Sir. It means a lot!!
Unemployed woman for sarkari Naukri guy to doctor, this shift 😂 hardworking ppl can respect for values 5 years of mbbs, 3 year ms, residency specialization then doctor. B tech m tech phd definitely bhaiyaa ✌️ by the way I'm looking for iiser/iisc or isi or CMI for this year as for UG
Congratulations on your marriage, Sir!
Dada is giving motivation 😂😂😂
This is very insightful and highly needed there are very few videos regarding this. Please make more such videos.
Thanks. Surely will talk about other social issues like this. Stay tuned and share with others.
They don't know ur value. U r an IISc grad in CSE, u can easily earn 20lpa in a pvt company, plus a PhD from IIT kgp, which further increases ur value and u can go upto 50 lpa and beyond if u really focussed on earning money, u just chose ur own path and followed ur passion instead of money
Respect++
Thanks, unfortunately very less understands this in our society now a days
Marriages are like business these days.In india ,if you clear upsc or earning lakhs package then marriage is confirm. that's why engineers after btech go for mba instead of mtech and phd so that they can earn in lakhs in private sector instead of doing research.research is the important part of science and its application but in india knowledge is of no value only money money.god knows when people will understand.
True..fully agreed
Kudos to u for your dedication to choose this path. It takes lot of strength to stick to your choices. And it takes more strength to be so open about your personal life and discuss this social issue. Hope many people gets inspiration from your contents. Lots of love bhai. ❤
Thank you Avijit ❤️❤️
it's better not to get married, why to take tension in life.. When u said Dada about those matrimonial sites it felt like hiring a job accept or reject.. Love urself, earn for urself live peace n happy according to me.
Yes matrimony sites are like that. Best is find someone do love marriage. But it's too getting difficult to find someone who will support you in your struggle day
Matrimony sites are not like that.. gals are like that.. they just want guy's mony, it's hypergamy.. that's why matrimonial sites look like that.. it's right decision for men to earn mony and choose not to mrry.. there's nothing in mrrg for men.. plus there are chances of divorce and getting looted at court.. today a man can get everything without getting mrrd if he has mony.. no need to waste your MEAT, mony, energy, attention, time
@@kishalaydas Himalayan Monk ❤
Congratulations KD!! Your videos always motivate me
Awesome! Thank you!
This is really true, well said and abdolutely correct
11:34 she is a doctor.Research weds medical
Hi , I also joined in 2023 in IISc Bangalore integrated PhD physics.
Sometimes I feel I will be out of track of the regular marriage age(28-30, I think)
currently my age is 21 , by the end of the phd I will on 27-28 ..
then post doct 31-32..
it's something really frustrating for phd Student who thinks like me that everything has a proper age....
be it marriage or anything else.
By the way best wishes for your married life.
Inspring journey ❤ as always. Hats off!!🙏
Soo brave dada for sharing personal life experience just amazing 👏
Thanks a ton
Its nice of you to talk about these social issues dada. Always had these questions in mind even though I have no plans of getting married soon😂. Couldnt ask my seniors about this because it might ge awkward. You have answered very important questions.
Once again, happy married life dada
I would love talk about other issues as well. Life of a phd guy is not easy. There are always an other side, which is tough to deal with. Will talk about many such issues in future may be.
@@kishalaydas would be happy to hear from you dada!
Congratulations bhaiya...Hope for the happiest marriage life🎉🎉
Thanks 👍
Congratulations 👏🏻
Thank you !!
As a woman, doing phd and this relocation issues are much more dude...! I am highly being discouraged to change or give up my dreams temporarily
Don't give up your dream
Sure, sir. But women are much more supportive to men in general... This is still India and ppl put family and stability first than dream. Risk is only valid if taken in business and earning money. I think I am yet to see positive stories and create one
Dear Brother, Your videos are always informative 👌. Respect from Tamilnadu 👍
Thank you so much ❤️💕
You are a 💎 gem sir
Thank you !!
Dada , you have special respect in my eyes ❤.I am very happy for you.
Many many thanks
6:06 that family will regret later 😅😅😅
Congratulations dada and wish you a very good married life..
Reception er treat ta baki roilo.
Congratulations brother. Wishing you a happy married life 💐
Many many thanks
An eye opening and a life changing video for all aspirants who are willing to go for phd
Thanks dada for always being honest and guiding aspirants.
And congratulations on your marriage bhaiya wish you and bhabhi a happy married life ❤🎉
Thanks 💕😄
@@kishalaydasShe is definitely lucky to get a person like you bhaiya 🤗❤️
Congratulations KD🎉🎉🎉🎉
Thanks
Congratulations Bhaiya for your Marriage !!
Thanks
Congratulations dada 😊❤️
Congratulations dada🎉
Thank you so much 💕💖
Good one 😊
Congregations dada.
And nice video.
Many many 👍
I am actually facing same issues about marriage.....n i am a girl. Here, in assam, guy s reject aftr knowing that i m doing phd n not in a permanent job 😅😅 very stressed life
You are beautiful so you can easily get married but for guys the situation is worst if their salary is low and don't have a permanent and satisfying job
@@sardarji162 no no no.... Nobody took it as that... It's always about money 💰 I have by now met worst guys for this matter... They need money n my job.. 😔
Bruh eya ekei khon axom ne jot moi thaku.😢😅😂 Anyways all the best for your future.
Congratulations 💐💐🧁🧁
happy Married Life anna 💐💐
Thanks
Congrats dada
Thanks
bhaiyya you are a doctor as well. xDD
Chasing gold sometimes leads you to diamonds.
Heartiest congratulations to you dada...😊
Thank you so much ❤️💕
After earning enough for my parents i would like to go Himalayas and stay in cave instead of getting married 😂😂😂
right decision 👌 same here but not the himalayas part
@@Deb_deCoder then where
@@sardarji162 no intention of becoming monk.. but to earn money and enjoy life without getting mrrd
Congratulations
Thanks
Congratulations Bhaiya💐💐.Wish you a happy married life.
Thank you so much 😀
Do startup enjoy life
Baba Amar ki biye hobe na
Ei gaan ta sunte takhn?😂😂
Ha ha ha
❣️❣️🥰🥰
Bhai km se km 50k hi de dete stipend toh kuch chance tha
Y sb to thik hai lekin public ko y janna hai ki doc aur eng ki jodi kaise ban gai. Detail video chahiye janta ko...😂😂😂😊
Ha ha ha...may be someday in future will share.
Hmm its true. Harsh fact. Bengali parrents judge their jamai bassed on govt job only.
Not only bengali..it's an issue throughout India. In fact I would say in Bengal we still have few progressive parents.
Marriage is nowadays just a transaction.
Always been like that atleast in southa asia
Did you get married due to family pressure that you are getting old ?
Frankly this pressure will be there...not only from family but from the surroundings. I am listening to this since 2016/17. But my family is very supportive, they allowed me to wait, build my career, complete mtech, start a PhD, publish a few papers and and then got married.
But it's very rare to find that support from family
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U made my marriage special bro. Thanks a lot!!
Congratulations for marriage 🎉 boudi kiser doctor ? mbbs naki dentist ?
Thanks... dentist, but she takes care of my heart now 😄☺️
@@kishalaydas knew it.. except dentist no other doctor gal marries other than doctor.. because dentists earn less money 💰 🤑
@@Deb_deCoder Another societal bias it is. I knew many doc gals marrying engineers and other professions.
@@kishalaydas yeah mbbs doc gals can marry other profession boys only if there is bigger better deal.. this is fmle hypergamy
@@Deb_deCoder in this video I had talked about that only. It's not only about mbbs, it's overall an social issue.
Sir i am a 3rd year(20 years age) btech student but i am in relationship for 5 years she is also in Btech same age our families knows about our relationship but the thing is i want to do PhD but in our country PhD after btech is just a dream coz it has cgpa and other academic requirements ,sir what advice will u give should i focus on PhD and then post doctoral career or for the sake of our relationship i should opt for different path...
Sorry for very late response. I advise manage both. Both are important. Careers and relationships. Try to make your girlfriend and family understand everything so that they are convinced. Also don't quit dream of PhD if you really like it. Best wishes
ISRO me hote toh ladkiyon ki line lag jati😅
Are you working from home? Or does kgp give a special room to researchers?
I am from Kgp. So in weekend I stay at home. In weekdays I used to be in campus in my hostel room
What is the age difference between u too
Tomar bari ki Kharagpur e?
Hyaa
@@kishalaydas Tomar wife er bari o ki kgp te?
Why you didn't join FAANG
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Congratulations 🎉Dada , but why didn't you go for foreign Phd ?????...why it took 3 years for you to start phd after completing your masters????
Watch this
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My dear Son ,staying foreign country for long time is not easy if you are from middle class bengali family. 30 years back,my only objective was to go abroad specially Europe,US. After 3 attempt,I landed to ju comp sc and stayed 5,6 years in Europe. In every trip after one year I used to be home sick,desperate to come to kolkata ,stay with the people who are of my same race. Staying long time in foreign is mentally torture.
Dada apnar mone hoi na je eto talent niye jodi apni private sector e hussle korten thahole aj andha paisar malik hoten and apna kew o gold digger der theke bachar jonno mental energy koroch korte and apnar moddhe ki oi saddist mind set ta nei. ( ami jani apni sob comment poren tai doya kore answer korun. Btw i love u ( no homo) ) . Ignore korben na.
I worked in IT for 4 years, didn't find the job satisfaction. So switched to research and loving it. And I am not sadist, rather beleive in positive approach in life. Doesn't mean my life is smooth. But I always try to move on from negativity
can we do freelancing or job along with phd ?
Yes possible.
how much earning in phd?
I am a pmrf fellow. So earning a decent amount.
Kab hui dada apka biyah.....😂😂😂
Last week
Many many congratulations 🥳🥳
1- Seeing your pics, I thought it's a love marriage. You both dated for approx. 2 years means you knew her from the start of 2022.
2- These arrange marriage from relatives and matrimony sites are actually toxic. I also experienced it. I thought only I am facing it but after seeing your video, I felt we all are in same boat. Being a PhD student, you might have experienced more toxicity. A boy is judged by his salary and a girl by her physical beauty.
3- Last year I also thought of doing of PhD but deferred. The reason mentioned by you was one of the many reasons.
4- You took a big risk- left ISRO & a lavish job after M Tech from IISc BLR and joined IIT Kgp. Seeing your courage, God helped you and gifted you the best life-partner. Ache logo k sath bhagwan hamesha acha hi krta hai.
Few quries coming to my mind-
a- Did you meet your wife from any matrimony site? Did you send her a request or she sent the request first?
b- As you both dated for approx 1.5 years, didn't your and her family ask why you both taking such a long time and quickly say yes & proceed for marriage asap?
I am asking these personal questions as I related to your whole story and want to take advice. You are free to NOT answer my questions. 😀
A. Yes through a matrimony site. I guess I sent her a request.
B. Fortunately our family was supportive both side and gave us enough time to understand each other.
Thanks for your wish. Please do share the video with others to whom it might be helpful
Congratulations for your marriage life. 🎉