Such a heartwarming moment hearing Sid say what a great mother Dina is. Seemed so genuine, not in a 'compliment just to give a compliment-way' but so pure and loving.
It's so encouraging to see you two - even though you're really different - being married for 7 years & having a healthy relationship with honest and constructive discussions & lots of laughter! Love you!!
sids love is one in a million, dont take the attention he gives you and your children for granted... he's genuine... hes the type of guy who genuinely deserves respect and to be heard... One love to Sid.
So proud of sid actually talking about what he wants more in the relationship only if all men were like this and a little bit more open with their wife’s well done to Dina to for saying she will try so well done guys for talking about this especially with the Asian community so closed about these situations so proud of you guys well done 👍
I think it all comes down to family upbringing. If you look at Dina’s family - their relationship involves a lot of jokes, silly languages etc (more verbal) and not so much of physical affection. And her parents seem more reserved compared to Sid’s (nothing wrong with either side). But looking at Sid he is used to receiving more affection from his family and wants the same from his wife (which is natural). Just gotta find a way to balance both needs.
Yesss, the older I get, the more I notice how it all comes down to how we were raised and the ways we‘ve seen love as children. In my family there aren’t words of endearment, etc. so it’s difficult for me to say „ I love you“-and I mean to anyone! Friends, family, etc. I feel so stupid whilst saying this, it ain’t natural 🤣 I wish to change it, but it feels so awkward to utter such words lmao
mariam ali haha I had hard time expressing myself verbally as well, as my family shows love through hugs, kisses etc. So I didn’t know how to say it out loud with words. That changed now, but I guess we learn to adapt through experiences and relationships.
You‘re lucky, my family doesn’t show it even physically 🤣🤣 but I agree with you, I guess has the chance to „rectify“ it with their partner/kids as there won‘t be that awkward response like from our family members lol
I can not agree completely; for my husband, he has not received any love from his father. My mother in law has 5 kids and she loves her children very very much but couldnt spend much time or give her love like she wanted to her kids being -lets say- treated not right by her in laws and husband. As for my husband he is very touchy, lovey, telling how much he loves me and appreciates me. I think in his case he does the opposite; doing what he has not received as a child. Also he does a lot of things in the house his father wouldnt do like cooking or cleaning or taking care of our baby. As for me, my dad always showed us love no matter what, hugging, telling us how much he appreciates us, buying us gifts. As for my mum she only was happy if we did chores or got a good grade. I think her parents never gave her that kind of love and appreciation... but she could have used that as a way to do the opposite to her kids just like my husband does. As for my dad he only had a loving mother as far as i can tell. Both my husband and dad never really like talking about their dads.. When i got pregnant my husband cried and i asked him why he got so emotional, knowing him as someone who never cried. He said the saddest thing ever; "my dad never thought me how to ride a bike or helped me with my homework, but now i am going to be a dad and i get the chance to do all those things. To be a good father" and that was really the first time he opened up about his father. Okay idk why i shared this but yeah
Bus Mus thank you for sharing ❤️ Your husband sounds like a lovely person! I definitely see your point and agree! Makes total sense to give what you wanted to receive yourself...
I am cracking up, Sid is the best. May Allah SWT bless you both, help you through your struggles (mental ones and spiritual ones) and open the doors of knowledge, peace and positivity for you and your fam. Ameen ya Rab.
my husband and i have been together for 12 years now, married for almost 10. we went through so many ups and downs in our relationship personally because we didn't understand eachothers love languages. instead of doing what the other's love language is, we were doing what our love language is for eachother, which obviously isn't what the other wants (and oddly enough, we are the exact same as you guys). once we started to put the effort in and do what we were not comfortable with to satisfy the love language of eachother, out life started to become so peaceful and fulfilling. as the months and years passed, the actions we were 'forcing; our selves to do to make eachother happy became a natural thing that we do wihtout thinking about it. and let me tell you, our life now seems as if we are still newlyweds everyday, yes it's true and it can happen, even now with 2 kids, 5 year old and a month old. It can happen, you jsut have to work on it and put the effort into the relationship. Always keep in mind, that in a couple years time, your kids will be married and have their own lives, and it will be just the 2 of you with eachother :-)
Looks like Sid tries really hard with Dina and the kids and he appreciates and values Dina. Dina needs to learn to take the compliment, which I can understand must be hard. I think Dina is asking for more help. Must be hard balancing a family business and career. But I also feel they need one night a week for their Quality time day even if it's just a cuddle on sofa watching a movie or a meal. Or pamper night or games night. Be great to see a vlog on this I'm gna find this love quiz and complete it xxx much love
12:00 indeed we want to be loved the way we love. That's what causes so many frustrations cause we're only aware of the way we love, then think that's THE way to love. Then if someone doesn't love you the way you want then you feel neglected and not loved the way you "deserve it". Very interesting topic, so is the book !
Feel like this vid really brought them closer and made them realise things that they may not have thought about before 🥺 also missed these videos so much!!
This was very great to hear especially from sid because I honestly thought it was just us women who loved affection (cuddling, holding hands, spending time 1 to 1 etc) I’m so glad there’s people on the same page as me lol cos all this time, I honestly thought, I was asking for too much from the other person and there’s just literally no one out there who can match me. It Doesn’t necessarily mean we’re horny tho lol We just love that closeness and knowing someone’s there. Those touchy feely moments (especially randomly) makes us feel good. They do that and you’re like yo really lmfao it’s exciting!! My love language is the exact same as sids to a T lol (Quality time and physical touch) It was refreshing to hear it come from a man! Great video guys!
I absolutely loved this video! I love when couples have these types of conversations because they are important to have. Definitely do, do a follow up on how it’s going trying to give each other what the other wants. Love you both❤️
Literally been watching Dina for years (all love for you) but I’ve NEVER watched a video where she doesn’t cut poor Sid off! 😭😭😭 dont @ me just saying the truth, all love 💛
Please Dina, take care of Sid, you two love each other, and it’s love to go even crazy to make the other person happy, he deserves all the love you can possibly give.
The thing about some Egyptians - women - is that we're brought up to prize modesty. So being so effusively, physically affectionate does not come naturally - except when engaging with children or close family members. Boyfriends were an absolute no-no, holding hands in public - OMG...and when you do get married, if you're really 'physically affectionate', there's the concern that your husband may be thinking 'have I married an immodest woman' or 'slut' (tho there's physical evidence that she was clearly a virgin)! So acts of service were often a substitute for acts of 'love' - even though, like Sid, your partner may be wanting a little more of the lovin'. It's a cultural thing that happens in both the Muslim and Christian communities in Egypt - wouldn't be surprised if it's throughout the Middle East and it's antiquated, and misogynistic, but eventually, things will move on and women will feel free enough to give acts of love without fear of judgement ...Just takes some time to schuck off these long ingrained behaviours...
SamSam I don’t think it’s that simple. Muslim women not only prize modesty, it is encouraged. Then when you get married, your world becomes upside down and “corrupted “ because men want a lady on the street but a freak in the bed. 😂 same with looks. Our whole life we avoid makeup and focus on “natural” beauty but our husbands want us to dress up for them. Dina has great videos on this. It truly is difficult, because you have to “unlearn” your previous ways. Layer on top of that feeling of “you should love me because of me, not my looks or what I can/can’t do”. And then later on top of that lazy/Unappreciative/cheap/toxic husband or in laws, you have a car crash waiting to happen. And then it’s not easy to leave either, due to stigma of divorce and less chance of being remarried
Those before marriage without modesty don't exactly give out "real" affection! It's not genuine relationships. They basically will say "I love you" "buys you gifts" or "hugs you" when they want "something" in return, it's basically exchanging doing "favors" not love...
‘Though there’s physical evidence that she’s a virgin’??? There is no way to tell if someone is a virgin or not other than asking them, And no, you can’t ‘check’ if her hymen is broken because that’s not how they work 😂😂 a lot of women don’t even have one.
@@samahamara8543 right, I have watched her since right after they got married...she was way more active on RUclips...but now having to children keeps her busy..but I miss both of them uploading a few times a week..
Love this! The point of learning your love language is to learn what your partner needs to feel loved. For example if Sid's is "affection"-Dina, you give him affection. If Dina's is act of service, Sid needs to do that.
I've been a fan of you two for a while and once again, I so appreciate that you share content that portrays your relationship honestly- the good and the not-so-optimal. Because of the quarantine situation, I've had to move back home with my parents and I'm seeing how different their love languages are- actually, they have the same combination as you two. It's really hard when you're in a relationship where something as basic as feeling loved and appreciated isn't necessarily easy or natural for the other person to carry out. It's going to be a challenge, there will be rough patches forevermore, but I have faith in you two, who are more rational, more empathetic than most. This is a whole bunch of unsolicited commentary from someone who has no business offering it, but I just really felt compelled to tell you that you guys are truly great...and that you can always grow as individuals and as partners. Good luck to you both! 😊
Dina’s so modest!! I’m with Sid, you’re so naturally amazing and lovely with your kids, I kinda wished I was your kid 😂. I noticed it a million videos ago when Hana was much younger. I’m so impressed with Dina’s patient, positive, encouraging, and loving attitude with her kids. I’m unmarried and without kids, and I wonder if you’re right about it being natural, cause currently I have a short fuse and I feel like I’ll be a mean mom haha.
Dont say that. U will be an amazing mom. Dw about it, it will come with time. All mothers have patience when it comes to their kids Iv been brought up with little cousins so iv learnt to have patiences.
Idk why the majority of the comments usually side with Sid and paint Dina as ungrateful/a bad wife/always interrupting/unreasonable/less logical than Sid. There’s nothing wrong with Dina’s responses, and Dina, none of the above apply to you. Youre doing fine and youre a pretty reasonable person.
Exactly. It's annoying to see. They should've turned the comments off because Diana's results are normal results. There's not good and bad they're just different. And there's nothing wrong with that. I think Dina works really hard to be honest. MashaAllah
I do believe that love languages are a thing and we should always consider that in our relationships. however, I also believe that people deserve to be loved the way they want to be loved. So, if I am an affectionate person then I'd like for my partner to be aware of that and try their best to fulfil me in that sense. I also think that couples should be able to ask each other these questions. "how would you like me to show you that I love you?" " how do you want to be loved?". It's not right to disregard someone's needs only because that's not what you think love is. It's important that couples understand each others personalities and not be hard on them when they don't deliver as expected, but also the other party should always try their best to "love" the other person the way they want to be loved.
Roaa Although i do feel like if you partner doesnt share one of the your top two same love languages as yours then it will be hard for either of you to feel loved. Even if one tries, it will be hard on that person trying because it does not come naturally to them and you really wont feel loved. that is why its best to be with someone who you share atleast one of your top two love language as yours.
So sweet. It takes effort to learn each other’s love languages. Practice giving and receiving love the way the other needs it. Also practice saying thank you when the other gives you a compliment. It’s hard for lots of people. Also mAybe make a list for each other of things that you’d like. Then try to do at least one of those things daily. May Allah bless your union and continue to soften your hearts to each other. Ameen.
I guess that is the typical situation of most families. The wife becomes more practical as soon as she has kids and the husband still stands at the pre-kids stage and wants nothing to change about it. Both have logic behind their thoughts and feelings. And I guess this happens especially when kids come too early in a relationship so that no enough time was there to build a strong bond between one another and learn how to love and keep love to one another in the first place before having new comers to the relationship. If only one kept concentrating on details and did not just take the presence of the other for granted, away from the kids, life would be so much better with no said/unsaid misunderstandings and with increasing stronger love rather than decreasing love provided that true love was initially there at the very beginning. That's for every family out there. I love how you are very true, Sid and Dina. God bless you
I honestly feel so bad for sid, dina! Just hug him and show some affection that's all the poor man wants like really! He just wanna be loved so CUTE 😭😭❤
My love languages are words of affirmation and acts of service. It’s def hard finding someone with that balance. I love words. I love to be told things so this always causes problems for me and the other person because on their end, they feel like I constantly need to be reassured .. make dua for me!
One of my love languages is receiving gifts (I also love to give them), cos in my family we always do this for various occasions. Unfortunately, my previous partner thought of me as being materialistic, as I never received any from him and I always used to buy him stuff. Ever since reading the 5 love languages book, I feel it’s super important to discuss these in order to gain more clarity and understanding in a relationship
So me and my husband saw a therapist and learnt about our love languages. It's definitely give a little to receive your love language and it's so worth it. Bcos alhumdulillah your marriage just prospers. Bcos one another's needs are met and then both parties are happy. Love languages are so important to know.
What do you guys have in common? How much common ground (values, interests, character traits etc) do you think is needed in order to hopefully have a longlasting relationship?
18:02 Awwwkkkssssssss I feel scared for Sid!! I love Dina but that expression on her face is giving me chills 🙈🙈🙈 Love them for always keeping it real. 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
I think it’s really important to give your marriage the same amount of effort as you would give with taking care of the kids -I know it sounds impossible but at the end of the day the kids will grow and move out and all is left is your marriage that was suffering because we gave our kids ALL our time and patience.
I was literally talking to the TV trying to explain to Dina sid’s point 😂😂 when he was talking about how Dina mothers and loves her kids and shows her kids love so naturally and how he would like that intensity of love for him. I think what he was trying to say is the care that you show to your kids to listen to their every word, like, dislike, cues, (not the normal mum things to do) but the playing with them, creating, listening, talking, etc etc that’s the level he wants from Dina. But it can go back to the point Dina made in another vlog of Sid ‘not being able to speak English properly’ 😂😂 he was dancing around the point a bit 🤦🏽♀️😂 I loved this video so much!! Glad to see you guys trying knew things after almost 7years of marriage 🎉🎉💃🏽💃🏽 mabrook ❤️
Turn the comments off. People are gna over-analyse this and leave hurtful comments without meaning too. I can already see some. I just feel like it's not worth the potential overthinking and stress.
Low key feel sorry for sid, I am just like him and my family members are like Dina, its very hard for us, I tend to smother everyone (even pets) and I know giving space helps along intimacy, so i try, but no one else tries to be more affectionate. Its not working wallahi, lol.
same! i know exactly what you mean i am so affectionate and i want the same level of affection back from others but its hard for them. i feel myself in sids position but my husbands more like dina where he wants acts of service and he shows his love through acts of service
Im a "acts of service" kind of person. And i think the way we see it is: hugs dont fill empty stomaches 😅 like okay it gives love but bellys need to be fed 🤣 things need to be done and after the basics happend we can get on to the smothering part. But first things first😆
This is so wild. I’ve never seen a man with physical touch as a love language. It’s like seeing me in male form. It’s so frustrating when you mate doesn’t give that back in return.
I rarely comment on things, but, Dina, I just want to express my respect for your decision to live and express yourself the way that you wish and the way that makes you most comfortable and happy... this is the epitome of women empowerment which has many forms as we all know as long as the woman herself feels content
I highly recommend this amazing book for any married couple to read is: the seven principles for making marriage work by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver . Elaborates on a lot of the love languages with practical guides and questions that couples can go through to better understand each other.
Mine is also physical touch. It is hard when your spouse is not the same and it is frustrating trying to explain it to them without sounding needy. Sometimes a hug or a kiss can make all the difference between a good and bad day.
I do that, because once I go to sleep there's no way I'm waking up until the morning lol so I just stay up til I have sahoor and pray and then go to sleep
This was lovely to watch and honest. I think DINA, your husband is right. While mothering is natural, not all mothers are present and attentive- you can't take the compliment because you value it so much naturally. Take the compliment sis! x
i was going thru comments here, and wanted to say: please don't let any of the criticism get to either of you. you can - love language test or no test - communicate how you feel to each other. i've always respected how understanding both of you appear to be of one another. your relationship is very inspiring masha'allah god blessssss you and the kiddos you know best. allah then you two. people on the internet only share their view of things its all VERY subjective. hope you see this. also sid u crack me up and dina skincare routine pls.
WHAT YOU GUYS WERE CONSTANTALY TRYING TO EXPLAIN IS ACTUALLY A HUMAN MIND FACT, THAT WE GIVE WHAT WE WANT TO RECEIVE, I HOPE THIS HELPS ❤️ and sorry I typed in caps so you read because thats exactly what you two do. You both give each other what you, yourself would love to receive.
Sorry, Dina, but I gotta agree with Sid on the compliments. He gave you a beautiful compliment about being so natural as a mother, that it was a gift you have, and you added the "but..." to it. Silly. :-) Taking compliments graciously is a hard thing to do, especially for a lot of women. I'm the same way. But I'm trying to learn. Give yourself the permission to accept his compliments and you'll realize how good those can actually feel. :-)
Such a heartwarming moment hearing Sid say what a great mother Dina is. Seemed so genuine, not in a 'compliment just to give a compliment-way' but so pure and loving.
Noor - aww Masha’Allah
It's so encouraging to see you two - even though you're really different - being married for 7 years & having a healthy relationship with honest and constructive discussions & lots of laughter! Love you!!
sids love is one in a million, dont take the attention he gives you and your children for granted... he's genuine... hes the type of guy who genuinely deserves respect and to be heard... One love to Sid.
So proud of sid actually talking about what he wants more in the relationship only if all men were like this and a little bit more open with their wife’s well done to Dina to for saying she will try so well done guys for talking about this especially with the Asian community so closed about these situations so proud of you guys well done 👍
I think it all comes down to family upbringing. If you look at Dina’s family - their relationship involves a lot of jokes, silly languages etc (more verbal) and not so much of physical affection. And her parents seem more reserved compared to Sid’s (nothing wrong with either side). But looking at Sid he is used to receiving more affection from his family and wants the same from his wife (which is natural). Just gotta find a way to balance both needs.
Yesss, the older I get, the more I notice how it all comes down to how we were raised and the ways we‘ve seen love as children. In my family there aren’t words of endearment, etc. so it’s difficult for me to say „ I love you“-and I mean to anyone! Friends, family, etc. I feel so stupid whilst saying this, it ain’t natural 🤣 I wish to change it, but it feels so awkward to utter such words lmao
mariam ali haha I had hard time expressing myself verbally as well, as my family shows love through hugs, kisses etc. So I didn’t know how to say it out loud with words. That changed now, but I guess we learn to adapt through experiences and relationships.
You‘re lucky, my family doesn’t show it even physically 🤣🤣 but I agree with you, I guess has the chance to „rectify“ it with their partner/kids as there won‘t be that awkward response like from our family members lol
I can not agree completely; for my husband, he has not received any love from his father. My mother in law has 5 kids and she loves her children very very much but couldnt spend much time or give her love like she wanted to her kids being -lets say- treated not right by her in laws and husband.
As for my husband he is very touchy, lovey, telling how much he loves me and appreciates me. I think in his case he does the opposite; doing what he has not received as a child. Also he does a lot of things in the house his father wouldnt do like cooking or cleaning or taking care of our baby.
As for me, my dad always showed us love no matter what, hugging, telling us how much he appreciates us, buying us gifts. As for my mum she only was happy if we did chores or got a good grade. I think her parents never gave her that kind of love and appreciation... but she could have used that as a way to do the opposite to her kids just like my husband does. As for my dad he only had a loving mother as far as i can tell. Both my husband and dad never really like talking about their dads..
When i got pregnant my husband cried and i asked him why he got so emotional, knowing him as someone who never cried. He said the saddest thing ever; "my dad never thought me how to ride a bike or helped me with my homework, but now i am going to be a dad and i get the chance to do all those things. To be a good father" and that was really the first time he opened up about his father.
Okay idk why i shared this but yeah
Bus Mus thank you for sharing ❤️ Your husband sounds like a lovely person! I definitely see your point and agree! Makes total sense to give what you wanted to receive yourself...
I am cracking up, Sid is the best. May Allah SWT bless you both, help you through your struggles (mental ones and spiritual ones) and open the doors of knowledge, peace and positivity for you and your fam. Ameen ya Rab.
The defeat in Sid’s voice at the end 😂😂😂. “it’s never enough for “acts of service” people”. I feel you bro lmao
I did the test and apperantly Im acts of service.. that may be true. :D
Omg true!
i really feel sorry for sid he just wants to be loved lol
my husband and i have been together for 12 years now, married for almost 10. we went through so many ups and downs in our relationship personally because we didn't understand eachothers love languages. instead of doing what the other's love language is, we were doing what our love language is for eachother, which obviously isn't what the other wants (and oddly enough, we are the exact same as you guys). once we started to put the effort in and do what we were not comfortable with to satisfy the love language of eachother, out life started to become so peaceful and fulfilling. as the months and years passed, the actions we were 'forcing; our selves to do to make eachother happy became a natural thing that we do wihtout thinking about it. and let me tell you, our life now seems as if we are still newlyweds everyday, yes it's true and it can happen, even now with 2 kids, 5 year old and a month old. It can happen, you jsut have to work on it and put the effort into the relationship. Always keep in mind, that in a couple years time, your kids will be married and have their own lives, and it will be just the 2 of you with eachother :-)
Masha Allah 💙
mashallah
Dina my love! You are so lucky to have a man like Sid. Trust me, You are. Ma Sha Allah ❤️ now recite Ayat ul kursi on yourselves
Fathima Yousuf i agree mashallah indeed!
So Bo PREACH!
Sid is just as lucky. 😂😂
Looks like Sid tries really hard with Dina and the kids and he appreciates and values Dina. Dina needs to learn to take the compliment, which I can understand must be hard. I think Dina is asking for more help. Must be hard balancing a family business and career. But I also feel they need one night a week for their Quality time day even if it's just a cuddle on sofa watching a movie or a meal. Or pamper night or games night.
Be great to see a vlog on this I'm gna find this love quiz and complete it xxx much love
12:00 indeed we want to be loved the way we love. That's what causes so many frustrations cause we're only aware of the way we love, then think that's THE way to love. Then if someone doesn't love you the way you want then you feel neglected and not loved the way you "deserve it". Very interesting topic, so is the book !
It's so refreshing to see a real couple on RUclips.. thanks for keeping it real, love you guys!!!
Dina hug Sid a bit more and show him more touchy touchy luv LOL
For a sec Dina looked like she was about to pop off at Sid lol poor guy 😂😂 tbf all the guy wants is some love lol 😂
Looked like Sid was about to pop off on Dina tbh
Feel like this vid really brought them closer and made them realise things that they may not have thought about before 🥺 also missed these videos so much!!
I think that was hilarious when Sid was telling us what they are until Dina cut him off, wanted to hear the other 3 😂
Sid did make sense Dina 😂. Love y’all.
Sid deffo thought acts of service was something else 😂😂😂
Oh god😁
LMAOO HE NASTY
Aww I feel sorry for Sid ! Dina should relax and start appreciating such a loving husband ! He does not ask for much 😭❤️
Dina, please! it was a compliment ! 😂 😂 😂 😂 Btw, totally agree that you're a great mom ! 👏👏👏
Sid clean more, so dina wont be tired to hug you... soo i saved so many marriages. And im not even married. Youre welcome
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not even 1 minute in and Sid has me dyinggggg LOL. I really love yall for the sake of Allaah. Allaahumma baarik. Thank you for always being REAL.
I dont understand why people would dislike this video. Omg this is the most honest and sincere video. I love it.
Affection is so important and lasts in the heart much longer than the actual moment.
I love and appreciate how honest you two are especially about your relationship, it’s so eye-opening & helps me reflect on myself
can’t wait to hear about the experience of trying each others Love Languages!!!
This was very great to hear especially from sid because I honestly thought it was just us women who loved affection (cuddling, holding hands, spending time 1 to 1 etc) I’m so glad there’s people on the same page as me lol cos all this time, I honestly thought, I was asking for too much from the other person and there’s just literally no one out there who can match me. It Doesn’t necessarily mean we’re horny tho lol We just love that closeness and knowing someone’s there. Those touchy feely moments (especially randomly) makes us feel good. They do that and you’re like yo really lmfao it’s exciting!! My love language is the exact same as sids to a T lol (Quality time and physical touch) It was refreshing to hear it come from a man! Great video guys!
My husband likes touch and hugs more than me as well . I like acts of service.
@Sarj dyou have IG? you look familiar
Zeshaan Hussain hi! Sorry I am not on any socials (insta, FB, Twitter or snapchat) lol sorry!
Wow!! what a great conversation, learned a lot and I'm not even married. thnx for sharing and being open
I absolutely loved this video! I love when couples have these types of conversations because they are important to have. Definitely do, do a follow up on how it’s going trying to give each other what the other wants. Love you both❤️
Yes! Do a “trying the love languages” video and vlog it. Loved these last 2 videos from you, very insightful
Literally been watching Dina for years (all love for you) but I’ve NEVER watched a video where she doesn’t cut poor Sid off! 😭😭😭 dont @ me just saying the truth, all love 💛
They are so cute. I love Sid's personality & goofiness
Pleasing Sid is way easier than pleasing Dina. Poor sid looked disappointed by the end. Just give him a hug Dina!
Please Dina, take care of Sid, you two love each other, and it’s love to go even crazy to make the other person happy, he deserves all the love you can possibly give.
“I sound like a proper fruit cake” 😭🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂
The thing about some Egyptians - women - is that we're brought up to prize modesty. So being so effusively, physically affectionate does not come naturally - except when engaging with children or close family members.
Boyfriends were an absolute no-no, holding hands in public - OMG...and when you do get married, if you're really 'physically affectionate', there's the concern that your husband may be thinking 'have I married an immodest woman' or 'slut' (tho there's physical evidence that she was clearly a virgin)! So acts of service were often a substitute for acts of 'love' - even though, like Sid, your partner may be wanting a little more of the lovin'.
It's a cultural thing that happens in both the Muslim and Christian communities in Egypt - wouldn't be surprised if it's throughout the Middle East and it's antiquated, and misogynistic, but eventually, things will move on and women will feel free enough to give acts of love without fear of judgement ...Just takes some time to schuck off these long ingrained behaviours...
SamSam I don’t think it’s that simple. Muslim women not only prize modesty, it is encouraged. Then when you get married, your world becomes upside down and “corrupted “ because men want a lady on the street but a freak in the bed. 😂 same with looks. Our whole life we avoid makeup and focus on “natural” beauty but our husbands want us to dress up for them. Dina has great videos on this. It truly is difficult, because you have to “unlearn” your previous ways. Layer on top of that feeling of “you should love me because of me, not my looks or what I can/can’t do”. And then later on top of that lazy/Unappreciative/cheap/toxic husband or in laws, you have a car crash waiting to happen.
And then it’s not easy to leave either, due to stigma of divorce and less chance of being remarried
Those before marriage without modesty don't exactly give out "real" affection! It's not genuine relationships. They basically will say "I love you" "buys you gifts" or "hugs you" when they want "something" in return, it's basically exchanging doing "favors" not love...
Jay M I don’t really agree with that. Modesty, in terms of what is viewers outwardly, is subjective
Wow. Thanks for the clarification. Please don't be so hard on yourselves
‘Though there’s physical evidence that she’s a virgin’??? There is no way to tell if someone is a virgin or not other than asking them, And no, you can’t ‘check’ if her hymen is broken because that’s not how they work 😂😂 a lot of women don’t even have one.
Okay let us make it clear, We loooove long videos ...
I believe most of us do .. I just think she doesn't like to edit long ones.
@@jamiesmith8259 yes or she think we don't like them lol.. btw she never revealed why she hates Q&I videos and is doing them only on Ramadan
@@samahamara8543 right, I have watched her since right after they got married...she was way more active on RUclips...but now having to children keeps her busy..but I miss both of them uploading a few times a week..
@@jamiesmith8259 no I mean the Q&I videos of them just setting and talking. She doesn't wanna do those types of videos she prefers vlogs.
Love this! The point of learning your love language is to learn what your partner needs to feel loved. For example if Sid's is "affection"-Dina, you give him affection. If Dina's is act of service, Sid needs to do that.
This is great! 🤣 "you get up with the kids and do everything and I will give a hug" 🤣🤣🤣
the more i watch dina the more i see her as this intelligent and beautiful person.
I've been a fan of you two for a while and once again, I so appreciate that you share content that portrays your relationship honestly- the good and the not-so-optimal. Because of the quarantine situation, I've had to move back home with my parents and I'm seeing how different their love languages are- actually, they have the same combination as you two. It's really hard when you're in a relationship where something as basic as feeling loved and appreciated isn't necessarily easy or natural for the other person to carry out. It's going to be a challenge, there will be rough patches forevermore, but I have faith in you two, who are more rational, more empathetic than most. This is a whole bunch of unsolicited commentary from someone who has no business offering it, but I just really felt compelled to tell you that you guys are truly great...and that you can always grow as individuals and as partners. Good luck to you both! 😊
You guys have actually taught me a lot how relationships work and I’m forever grateful
dina being called out for not taking a compliment AHAHA her face like ooO fuk
Dina’s so modest!! I’m with Sid, you’re so naturally amazing and lovely with your kids, I kinda wished I was your kid 😂. I noticed it a million videos ago when Hana was much younger. I’m so impressed with Dina’s patient, positive, encouraging, and loving attitude with her kids. I’m unmarried and without kids, and I wonder if you’re right about it being natural, cause currently I have a short fuse and I feel like I’ll be a mean mom haha.
Dont say that. U will be an amazing mom. Dw about it, it will come with time. All mothers have patience when it comes to their kids
Iv been brought up with little cousins so iv learnt to have patiences.
Idk why the majority of the comments usually side with Sid and paint Dina as ungrateful/a bad wife/always interrupting/unreasonable/less logical than Sid. There’s nothing wrong with Dina’s responses, and Dina, none of the above apply to you. Youre doing fine and youre a pretty reasonable person.
Exactly. It's annoying to see. They should've turned the comments off because Diana's results are normal results. There's not good and bad they're just different. And there's nothing wrong with that. I think Dina works really hard to be honest. MashaAllah
*Dina
Agreed! I hate wn they jst hate on Dina for no damn reason she's a lovely wife and a mother
Iman yup
Exactly
Dina: “I feel like I really know you because I could answer all this for you”
Well y’all have been married for nearly 7 years 🤣🤣🤣 m’A
I love watching you both together not only are you a cute couple but so out there it’s refreshing. They cheer me up!!!
I do believe that love languages are a thing and we should always consider that in our relationships. however, I also believe that people deserve to be loved the way they want to be loved. So, if I am an affectionate person then I'd like for my partner to be aware of that and try their best to fulfil me in that sense. I also think that couples should be able to ask each other these questions. "how would you like me to show you that I love you?" " how do you want to be loved?". It's not right to disregard someone's needs only because that's not what you think love is. It's important that couples understand each others personalities and not be hard on them when they don't deliver as expected, but also the other party should always try their best to "love" the other person the way they want to be loved.
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Although i do feel like if you partner doesnt share one of the your top two same love languages as yours then it will be hard for either of you to feel loved. Even if one tries, it will be hard on that person trying because it does not come naturally to them and you really wont feel loved. that is why its best to be with someone who you share atleast one of your top two love language as yours.
That's the whole point of finding out your own and your partner's love languages. You find out how they want to receive love.
So sweet. It takes effort to learn each other’s love languages. Practice giving and receiving love the way the other needs it. Also practice saying thank you when the other gives you a compliment. It’s hard for lots of people. Also mAybe make a list for each other of things that you’d like. Then try to do at least one of those things daily. May Allah bless your union and continue to soften your hearts to each other. Ameen.
Sid is complimenting Dina being a great mum. Me DYING because its Cute af. Dina just "yeah" hahahaah def not your love language hahah
every time sid gives dina a compliment dina could hug him
I guess that is the typical situation of most families. The wife becomes more practical as soon as she has kids and the husband still stands at the pre-kids stage and wants nothing to change about it. Both have logic behind their thoughts and feelings. And I guess this happens especially when kids come too early in a relationship so that no enough time was there to build a strong bond between one another and learn how to love and keep love to one another in the first place before having new comers to the relationship. If only one kept concentrating on details and did not just take the presence of the other for granted, away from the kids, life would be so much better with no said/unsaid misunderstandings and with increasing stronger love rather than decreasing love provided that true love was initially there at the very beginning. That's for every family out there.
I love how you are very true, Sid and Dina. God bless you
I honestly feel so bad for sid, dina! Just hug him and show some affection that's all the poor man wants like really! He just wanna be loved so CUTE 😭😭❤
My love languages are words of affirmation and acts of service. It’s def hard finding someone with that balance. I love words. I love to be told things so this always causes problems for me and the other person because on their end, they feel like I constantly need to be reassured .. make dua for me!
"There's about to be an argument after this turns off" Sid's humour is a breath of fresh air 😂😂
One of my love languages is receiving gifts (I also love to give them), cos in my family we always do this for various occasions. Unfortunately, my previous partner thought of me as being materialistic, as I never received any from him and I always used to buy him stuff. Ever since reading the 5 love languages book, I feel it’s super important to discuss these in order to gain more clarity and understanding in a relationship
I just want to take a moment to say Dina is timeless
So me and my husband saw a therapist and learnt about our love languages. It's definitely give a little to receive your love language and it's so worth it. Bcos alhumdulillah your marriage just prospers. Bcos one another's needs are met and then both parties are happy. Love languages are so important to know.
What do you guys have in common? How much common ground (values, interests, character traits etc) do you think is needed in order to hopefully have a longlasting relationship?
18:02 Awwwkkkssssssss I feel scared for Sid!! I love Dina but that expression on her face is giving me chills 🙈🙈🙈 Love them for always keeping it real. 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
hes right tho, acts of service people are hard to please
I’m such a Dina 😭 I feel her on every levels
I think it’s really important to give your marriage the same amount of effort as you would give with taking care of the kids -I know it sounds impossible but at the end of the day the kids will grow and move out and all is left is your marriage that was suffering because we gave our kids ALL our time and patience.
I was literally talking to the TV trying to explain to Dina sid’s point 😂😂 when he was talking about how Dina mothers and loves her kids and shows her kids love so naturally and how he would like that intensity of love for him. I think what he was trying to say is the care that you show to your kids to listen to their every word, like, dislike, cues, (not the normal mum things to do) but the playing with them, creating, listening, talking, etc etc that’s the level he wants from Dina. But it can go back to the point Dina made in another vlog of Sid ‘not being able to speak English properly’ 😂😂 he was dancing around the point a bit 🤦🏽♀️😂 I loved this video so much!! Glad to see you guys trying knew things after almost 7years of marriage 🎉🎉💃🏽💃🏽 mabrook ❤️
Turn the comments off. People are gna over-analyse this and leave hurtful comments without meaning too. I can already see some. I just feel like it's not worth the potential overthinking and stress.
Yep need to defo close comments unnecessary stress for them
Sid made perfect sense the first time lol
1:25 Sid rolling his eyes like. Priceless😂
I’m always laughing along with Sid 😂😂😂 he cracks me up
Low key feel sorry for sid, I am just like him and my family members are like Dina, its very hard for us, I tend to smother everyone (even pets) and I know giving space helps along intimacy, so i try, but no one else tries to be more affectionate. Its not working wallahi, lol.
TFK if you want to receive your love language, you have to give the other persons theirs first. Give a gift, see if helps.
same! i know exactly what you mean i am so affectionate and i want the same level of affection back from others but its hard for them. i feel myself in sids position but my husbands more like dina where he wants acts of service and he shows his love through acts of service
Im a "acts of service" kind of person. And i think the way we see it is: hugs dont fill empty stomaches 😅 like okay it gives love but bellys need to be fed 🤣 things need to be done and after the basics happend we can get on to the smothering part. But first things first😆
Haha omg yes
Bus Mus me too
Yo I subbed, god I love these two I swear they’re the funniest around. I feel like sometimes they forget that they’re on camera 😂
Aww.... Sid needs you to love him a little more dina
Just turned 29 and still single, I’ll take any love language at this point 😩 it’s hard out here y’all. Loved this video guys!
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This is so wild. I’ve never seen a man with physical touch as a love language. It’s like seeing me in male form. It’s so frustrating when you mate doesn’t give that back in return.
That’s my husbands love language too . It’s more common than you think . I thought it would be more mens love language than women .
Naz Med yeah, agreed. i feel like physical touch is more common as a love language in men than women.
The most sincere couples generally have the polar opposite love languages it's such a gift to be able to compromise on this
I rarely comment on things, but, Dina, I just want to express my respect for your decision to live and express yourself the way that you wish and the way that makes you most comfortable and happy... this is the epitome of women empowerment which has many forms as we all know as long as the woman herself feels content
I highly recommend this amazing book for any married couple to read is: the seven principles for making marriage work by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver . Elaborates on a lot of the love languages with practical guides and questions that couples can go through to better understand each other.
You guys are just goals. May Allah bless you guys and Hana and Mika always
Mine is also physical touch. It is hard when your spouse is not the same and it is frustrating trying to explain it to them without sounding needy. Sometimes a hug or a kiss can make all the difference between a good and bad day.
I found this to be your funniest video to date! Was laughing non stop :)
Does anyone else stay up till sahoor
MishB Khan I have been staying past suhoor 🙈
I do that, because once I go to sleep there's no way I'm waking up until the morning lol so I just stay up til I have sahoor and pray and then go to sleep
@@tililaaj6170 I can go to sleep before wake up for sahoor and pray and then go back to sleep too lol
s21972012145525 I’ve done that once but it didn’t work in my favour as I felt tired for the rest of the day
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One of my favourite couples on RUclips 💕 so genuine in there relationship and with who they are
I was literally just watching their old vids
Sid did made sense, Dina was just making it really complicated.
This was lovely to watch and honest. I think DINA, your husband is right. While mothering is natural, not all mothers are present and attentive- you can't take the compliment because you value it so much naturally. Take the compliment sis! x
i was going thru comments here, and wanted to say: please don't let any of the criticism get to either of you.
you can - love language test or no test - communicate how you feel to each other. i've always respected how understanding both of you appear to be of one another. your relationship is very inspiring masha'allah
god blessssss you and the kiddos
you know best. allah then you two. people on the internet only share their view of things its all VERY subjective.
hope you see this.
also sid u crack me up and dina skincare routine pls.
Hahahahahahahahahahaha Omg this video was so funnnyyyy.. You just made my day.. Greetings from a moroccan living in germany ❤️ love you guys
Soo appreciated Sids honesty, not putting on the front of how a 'typical man' should be
Didn’t realise how much I missed you guys.. this video gave me the chuckles MashaAllah
I really wish these guys well. They are just so lovely.
please never stop doing these type of videos
Sid : *says anything*
Dina : no no no
WHAT YOU GUYS WERE CONSTANTALY TRYING TO EXPLAIN IS ACTUALLY A HUMAN MIND FACT, THAT WE GIVE WHAT WE WANT TO RECEIVE, I HOPE THIS HELPS ❤️ and sorry I typed in caps so you read because thats exactly what you two do. You both give each other what you, yourself would love to receive.
She said “that’s the vibe I got” 😂
Poor guy sid sounds so much in love😂 please just hug him😂
I been WAITIN for this one, turn it up! 🗣😂
This is why I love you guys and I can't get enough of you 😍😂 ... I can't wait for the next vedio 😖
I missed these videos! I was laughing and smiling the whole time
i love when you guys talk about relationships. its so interesting. keep up!!!
Sorry, Dina, but I gotta agree with Sid on the compliments. He gave you a beautiful compliment about being so natural as a mother, that it was a gift you have, and you added the "but..." to it. Silly. :-) Taking compliments graciously is a hard thing to do, especially for a lot of women. I'm the same way. But I'm trying to learn. Give yourself the permission to accept his compliments and you'll realize how good those can actually feel. :-)
Dina, can you do a skincare routine one day? MashAllah, I've been watching all your vlogs this Ramadan and I always think you have amazing skin!