Psychopathic Lying--what it is, what it looks like

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  • Опубликовано: 8 сен 2024
  • In this video I discuss psychopathic lying, the forms it takes, and what it can look like.
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  • @mugare
    @mugare 6 лет назад +11

    My ex had a pattern of always taking ill about other girls in his class and behind my back he would be trying to meet up with them. He would lie to me and tell me he had to go work with a group from class but in reality he was trying to meet up with one girl and “work on their assignments, compare their work etc” He would also lie to the other girl and tell her that he couldn’t meet up with her bc he was out of town when in reality he was just simply hanging out with me. When confronted with the evidence he would still deny things and say “she approached me, she gave me her number.” Then he would make excuses and say “I was just trying to make friends with a classmate” /// then he would also tell the other girl “sorry about my gf, she’s just very jealous” but both the other girl and I knew he was at fault and lying. Basically he would never admit to any wrong doing. He gaslighted me all the time. Recently, he broke up with me bc he wanted to start dating another from his class, which he is still not admitting to this day. But just like before, he said “she’s just a classmate. Yeah she’s a little dumb but she’s nice, I’m not attracted to her, I don’t think she’s cute, and I don’t know if she thinks I’m attractive but I don’t care.” All while deleting text messages between them two. Well guess who he is dating now? Yeah the girl he was telling me that he finds her dumb and unattractive.

    • @jackmchale3804
      @jackmchale3804 6 лет назад

      I was told I'm a sociopath but I honestly feel like I love this girl and don't try to manipulate people so was the test wrong?the test said I have some sociopolitical traits

    • @santiagolozano335
      @santiagolozano335 4 года назад

      Oh yea well i went out with a girl once and her boyfriend confronted me to leave her alone when we had sex in her bed lol she told me she was single 🤣

  • @conniehoward447
    @conniehoward447 6 лет назад +8

    They never admit to guilt , because it would make them look weak or less than , they can never be wrong in their eyes .

    • @FeatherJo
      @FeatherJo 6 лет назад +4

      Wrong. That is an insecure person. If they are good at exploiting you, then why would they not fake guilt? It's not about 'in their eyes' it's all about 'in your eyes.'

    • @jokahfreespeech9069
      @jokahfreespeech9069 4 года назад

      @ Connie that’s narcissism not psychopathy

    • @MOON-zo3ik
      @MOON-zo3ik 4 года назад

      Connie Howard you’re projecting. You speak only for yourself on behalf of your experience for being a guilty ass liar

    • @susiesa8295
      @susiesa8295 2 года назад

      💯! in their minds they are the only victims !

  • @mjsmit4841
    @mjsmit4841 2 года назад +4

    You could be as broken as you've ever been and crying like you never have in decades, and they feel nothing. They can be the cause of your pain (cheating), and still they feel nothing for you. If anything they'll get mad. But comforting you with a hug or a listening ear is out of the question

  • @Poppy-yx8js
    @Poppy-yx8js Месяц назад

    Psychopathic lying isn’t just one lie. It’s often compulsive lying and the lying is often outlandish but they are very persuasive. They can lead you in a particular direction in a conversation in order to get information from and you won’t know until after the conversation that you’ve been manipulated. Sometimes the lies are really aggressive public lying to get someone to defend themselves- also to get more information from a target. They might lie about where they work or who their family is or the lying can be more subtle.

  • @helenaroman1543
    @helenaroman1543 Год назад

    Thank you for this. It is so helpful to understand more about how psychopathy looks. One thing I picked up on is a kind of a disfluency in their speech patterns but also if it's an outlandish enough lie, they give a barely-there giggle. I was listening to someone tell me they're a healing shaman. Well, most people know shamans train their whole lives, passed down from uncle to nephew in a tribe. The psychopath I was listening to said "I am an energy healer" and then literally GIGGLED. It sounded like they were laughing at themselves. And, they were. It was an absurd falsehood.

  • @blaqshiep4920
    @blaqshiep4920 6 лет назад +3

    Blows my mind that its possible... How about "i should just cheat on you if youre going to keep accusing me?" God i feel sick...

  • @tome1789
    @tome1789 7 лет назад +2

    I know some people acting like this but they are not psychopaths but very good sales people. I think I am good at reading and understanding people and their purposes and not everybody is. How to piss them off? Very simple keep asking the same questions over and over again stay polite and they know their manipulation strategies dont work and get frustrated. Dont let them manipulate you by youre feeling to justify their answers thinking 'is he crazy or why isnt he ashamed', like the guy who denies confronted by clear evidence like 'he forgot' or 'he has some good purpuse with this denial', dont fill in the answer for him or her.

  • @verdevalley1966
    @verdevalley1966 7 лет назад +3

    i never noticed anything till he retired-then it was women banging on bedroom window-calls coming in on a secret cell phone-women even walking up to door-husband was much more stealth and brazen and i figured out later dangerous-when i confronted him-he actually said with no shame-oh-i fell in love with her yrs. ago-then another woman -fell in love with her 7 yrs ago-i said " you act like its ok to have women when married-he said" as a matter of fact ,i do". i was in a bad position-housewife of over 40 yrs= no income-and knew i"d be kicked to street in a moment-it went fromworse to worse-to drugging me like from 6:30pm to 2;30 M -AND I REALLY FELT HE INTENDED TO KILL ME-I HAD NO FAMILY OR FRIENDS-I PRAYED GOD HELP ME-PLEASE!!-AND LAST YR. I GOT UP -HE SAT ON COUCH AND DIED.THIS IS JUNE2017-THAT WAS MAR.2016= I STILL AM TRAUMATIZED BY HIS EVILNESS.BUT GOD IS GOOD AND I AM ALIVE.

    • @sunnyboy4553
      @sunnyboy4553 6 лет назад

      Verde Valley, I'm so sorry that happened to you. Thank goodness you are free now. God bless you.

    • @imfine6904
      @imfine6904 2 года назад

      I hope you're doing ok those people are on another level of evil don't mind them they only care for themselves hope your situation stable or you at least getting by now

  • @agnieszkas.2738
    @agnieszkas.2738 9 месяцев назад

    Clarity and specifity. Great job!

  • @user-bi2me1kj7p
    @user-bi2me1kj7p 6 лет назад +2

    once i got out of juvenile hall for armed robbery and assault with a deadly weapon (thought that might be relevant to this). The court ordered me to get a psychological evaluation and i think i might be a sociopath i have absolutely no empathy or remorse and i lie about things to further my image as a criminal basically for respect, making people scared to mess with me, ect.And sometimes i lie about kinda dumb things to make me look "cooler" or help me fit in i usually never lie to someone i care about to use or exploit them i only lie to them to do the things i said above. But i do lie if i need to rob someone or use them for any reason but i almost never rob, harm or lie to exploit an innocent person or completely random person idk. I usually do this to drug dealers and just basically other criminals.

    • @FeatherJo
      @FeatherJo 6 лет назад

      You are a sociopath not a psychopath. Just get your shit together and you'll be fine.

    • @timg6176
      @timg6176 5 лет назад

      Not a phycopath not a sociopath. But a narcissist definitely.

  • @lavong.5940
    @lavong.5940 6 лет назад +2

    Love it!!!! Spot on subscribed!!

  • @Willa4420
    @Willa4420 3 года назад +3

    Psychopaths are dangerous! Very entitled unappreciative and downright dangerous!

  • @sciencejunkie1598
    @sciencejunkie1598 6 лет назад

    I’m currently a senior psychology major deciding if I want to research schizophrenia or psychopathy in graduate school. Thanks so much for the video!

    • @skinthewhore8234
      @skinthewhore8234 5 лет назад

      mm yummy

    • @specialtwice4975
      @specialtwice4975 3 года назад +2

      I feel like I have a personal phd in psychopathy, all thanks to my ex. Once you see these people, you can't unsee them.
      Also, I would like to note sociopathy/psychopathy is similar to schizophrenia in the way that once you develop it, you have it for life.
      It is very personal part of your personality/being. Going against society and social norms is the usual for them. Like how a schizophrenic can't help seeing or hearing things. Well a psychopath can't help lying and stealing, etc. It's in their DNA.
      Example, if a psychopath wants your car, then eventually they will steal your car.
      They just can't seem to help it, and don't like following the rules.
      In my ex's words: "Rules are for stupid people and chumps."
      Yeah, okay, and guess who got speeding tickets every month? My ex.

    • @Myatalanta-l4x
      @Myatalanta-l4x 4 часа назад

      What did you choose? How are you these days?! What important(ESSENTIAL) work!

  • @marisaelenenadiejamusiccom3974
    @marisaelenenadiejamusiccom3974 5 лет назад +2

    I am dealing with psychopaths and it is quite intense.

    • @DaveLaurentSynth
      @DaveLaurentSynth 5 лет назад

      Search "Are psychopaths habitual liars?" on RUclips with Psychopath Dave. THAT guy in that video.... THAT is a TRUE psychopath.
      This guy Steve Becker, has NO idea what he is talking about. He already killed off his website and he hasn't sold a book yet.... He is a social worked that requires NO college at all, just certification from a community college.

  • @verdevalley1966
    @verdevalley1966 7 лет назад +2

    IF THEY LOVE YOU==YOUR FEELINGS ARE FIRST WITH THEM==WHEN THEIR FEELINGS ARE FIRST==BEWARE.=REMEMBER LOVE IS NOT ONLY A NOUN=IT IS A VERB=IT SHOWS ACTION.

  • @oscarmadison8530
    @oscarmadison8530 6 лет назад +2

    If you have to deal with a psychopath in the workplace, what's your best defence ?

    • @JohnSmith-qr9yj
      @JohnSmith-qr9yj 6 лет назад +1

      Listen for holes in reasoning or his story but there probably won't be any some will give more details than normal when lying to make it look true and most of all don't let them Know you know they are lying and don't give them a reason to go after you

    • @rickb06
      @rickb06 6 лет назад +3

      The common misconception is that psychopaths are all highly intelligent, it's a misnomer and one of the worst mistakes made by 20th & 21st century science. Now some psychopaths are *extremely* intelligent, they are nearly impossible to flush out, only a matching intellect can possibly be their "kryptonite". If you're *lucky* you may be able to find out their "secret" while they are outside of their normal mindset, such as being intoxicated on drugs or alcohol, they will commonly become either more comfortable or so paranoid that they drop out of character and expose themselves. If you know you're outmatched intellectually, employ the help of others, you will fail.

    • @sunnyboy4553
      @sunnyboy4553 6 лет назад +2

      Oscar Madison, be wary of this person deliberately sabotaging you, mocking you behind your back to other co-workers, trying to diminish you in their eyes. I would say be friendly, but stay on guard. Do not sink to his depths. If you are a person of high character and integrity, most intelligent and perceptive people will discern who the liar and manipulator is. No, they are not necessarily intelligent - but they ARE very cunning as well as deceitful. Be friendly - but distant and observing. Don't confront them ever - they will put you on their enemies list and try to turn everyone against you.

    • @joshmonroe1118
      @joshmonroe1118 5 лет назад +1

      My grandmother cousin brothers mother fuck my whole family are psychopaths I deal with depression anxiety social issues low selfestem because what I've been through and still am going through its vicious I'm not saying I'm a victim playing the blame game for how I feel by living and dealing with them I'm trying to break free from them because I know right from wrong they've got me so fucking crazy that I feel like I don't have a chance at living being around normal people because of the shame that I feel emotionally embarrassed

  • @prettyalina7237
    @prettyalina7237 5 лет назад +4

    How do i know you're not one?

    • @urethralvector
      @urethralvector 5 лет назад

      Because he's a sociopath xd

    • @MOON-zo3ik
      @MOON-zo3ik 4 года назад

      Pretty Alina it takes one to know one baby

  • @user-uh3gn6sg6y
    @user-uh3gn6sg6y Месяц назад

    ok i will try to go home now 👐🏻

  • @JAYMOAP
    @JAYMOAP 5 лет назад

    About Admit accountability, or taking responsibility. Many times it's beneficial to do so. It depends on circumstances. If it serves me I do, for several reason. Again,yiu can't generalise traits as applicable in all cases. It would limit me.

  • @lisamichelle8413
    @lisamichelle8413 4 года назад

    Hi Steve .. subbed .. thanks 🙏🏻🇦🇺

  • @user-uh3gn6sg6y
    @user-uh3gn6sg6y Месяц назад

    this describes perfectly my research about jesus christ, i will edit this to show you how

  • @vmm5163
    @vmm5163 7 лет назад

    I attract psychopathic men. The lies go round and round, you can never make them pin the truth down. And the more you try, the more paranoid I've been called. Why is it, though, that there is such a need to make them admit the evidence that's in front of them? I only walk away when they've made me too ill to continue. I hate myself as much as I hate them in the end.

    • @zakahassan709
      @zakahassan709 7 лет назад

      u like them psycho nutterz

    • @FeatherJo
      @FeatherJo 6 лет назад

      You do not know that you ever attracted a psychopath. You are overly dramatic though.

    • @skinthewhore8234
      @skinthewhore8234 5 лет назад

      Sounds pathetic to me. Like a hint of a borderline mix. Do enjoy the lies?

    • @JAYMOAP
      @JAYMOAP 5 лет назад

      Psychopaths often couple with borderline females. Psychopathy is extreme brain masculinisation, bpd is the opposite spectrum as extreme feminised brain. Go figure. I always chose borderline females, and I identify them by the high estrogen physical cues, (body shape, facial symmetry and attractiveness, seductive signalling etc) due the sexual gratification is high and they are enthusiastic. If you drawn psychopathic individuals in your life, you probably have high cluster B personality

  • @user-uh3gn6sg6y
    @user-uh3gn6sg6y Месяц назад

    these shapeshifters say somethin in particular each one esch one says a lot but what is it? jesus was one in two in one

  • @FeatherJo
    @FeatherJo 6 лет назад +2

    That is not what psychopathic lying looks like.

    • @sunnyboy4553
      @sunnyboy4553 6 лет назад +1

      Feather Jo, I pickd up on this guy being a phony, what do you think psychopathic lying looks like?

    • @skinthewhore8234
      @skinthewhore8234 5 лет назад +2

      @@sunnyboy4553 They are actually able to back themselves up. Its like chess and they already planned ahead and will always win in ones eyes regardless. This guy left that out. They are higly intelligent in a way and their thought process can be comparable to chess and math His scenario was terrible because you'd never catch someone labeled as a psychopath getting caught on camera robbing a store. Unless theyre a really fucking stupid one. Hes thinking more of a "Pathological liar" and is forgetting the sub-compartments of psychopathy. His words were misleading and his scenario was diluted.

  • @skylieechase2115
    @skylieechase2115 6 лет назад +2

    Some look normal..and some act normal..until the mask comes off...scary

    • @FeatherJo
      @FeatherJo 6 лет назад +1

      That rarely happens. If it does you are either really special or really fucked.

    • @skinthewhore8234
      @skinthewhore8234 5 лет назад

      @@FeatherJo Logical insight. That would sound like a sub-compartment to a personality disorder and insecurities being swept under a rug portraying to cause deception. But its all insecurities in a sense. I agree.

  • @HackerActivist
    @HackerActivist 5 лет назад

    I have a question my boyfriend has every symptom of ODD, ADD and OCD
    The problem is if he has Antisocial Personality Disorder.
    He is willing to go see a pychologist (one that I chose) and is willing to let me be apart of his treatment (talking to the doctors and sharing my perspective)
    The problem is he lies. Alot he cannot accept blame unless cornered to a wall will evidence.
    Also his eyes become cold and dead but then light up again. It's very rare that happens but in find that odd and scary.
    The last part that I find unnerving is he had extreme ADD symptoms. Extreme. All of a sudden when I pressured him to admit that he had it (since I force him to be honest with his faults and work on them) is that the next day it was if he never had. The same person who had extreme add the next day it was gone and hasnt been back months later.
    I find it hard because he is very nice. Isnt toxic (since I got him to cold turkey stop his reckless spending shortly after we started dating and hes knocked almost all his bad habits and consistantly kicked them) he just is a good person all around.
    I'm just confused if he is a pychopath and what where can I go to help him and what you think about the change in eyes as well as him randomly not having add.

    • @JAYMOAP
      @JAYMOAP 5 лет назад

      Think of psychopathy as not a cluster B personality. It's not even exist in the DSM because science still haven't figured out where to put it. Psychopathy overlap with ASPD, but in reality it's recognisable only by the factor 2 maladaptive tendencies. If someone low on those traits, you never can spot it. Psychopaths maintain their identity, and fit in very well. Especially subclinical range. Those are the successful psychopaths as you call it. Your guy can have antisocial traits, but you mentioned bunch of other traits has some overlap.

    • @gordan2423
      @gordan2423 4 года назад +1

      What are you, his mother?

    • @KingdomKeysDeliverance
      @KingdomKeysDeliverance Год назад

      I think you sense the danger and truth. Is there anyone you can process this with? The danger is that Ps use- they can’t truly love and you deserve the real deal! ❤

    • @Em-im1yz
      @Em-im1yz 6 месяцев назад

      I have add im not a liar. Hes playing you. Run fast ❤

    • @user-uh3gn6sg6y
      @user-uh3gn6sg6y Месяц назад

      hahaha what are you?

  • @silkroad1201
    @silkroad1201 5 лет назад

    I'm not lying, I'm telling the truth; the truth that I created and convinced myself of. The real truth has ceased to exist.

  • @user-uh3gn6sg6y
    @user-uh3gn6sg6y 2 месяца назад

    psychopaths are liars, thank you 🇱🇧🇱🇧🇰🇿🇰🇿✝️🙌 thank you!!!!!

  • @mrdoner3451
    @mrdoner3451 6 лет назад

    Genius.

  • @user-uh3gn6sg6y
    @user-uh3gn6sg6y Месяц назад

    i need these information but made by russians, to understand better jesus if he was real or not

  • @KADAMASOUL
    @KADAMASOUL 2 года назад

    Had explains how that behavior I've seen and I've got the video proof which all I have to say is f*** my goddamn life I f****** hate it.

  • @user-uh3gn6sg6y
    @user-uh3gn6sg6y Месяц назад

    😐👍🏻

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    @user-uh3gn6sg6y Месяц назад

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  • @lourensjw4049
    @lourensjw4049 6 лет назад

    Im got diagnosed

  • @sunnyboy4553
    @sunnyboy4553 6 лет назад +3

    Are you really a therapist? You don't sound like one and didn't really say anything that isn't generally known. You like the word audacity, but no real depth or specificity on subject. You go on and on rambling about made-up scenarios like you don't really know how to fill up the time. Get a real job. And stop already with "AUDACITY!" You seem like a scam artist.

  • @LizEarthAngel3
    @LizEarthAngel3 2 года назад

    Yep spot on and some like it’s your own stupid fault for going through my old phone I gave the kids and found something you think is not what it is and ruin 20 years because of your stupid paranoia and it would be your own fault if I did cheat on you because you are always accusing me of it and you won’t do certain things so

  • @jbeck6560
    @jbeck6560 6 лет назад

    Why do you want people to know what you know about pshycopathic

    • @Sanela1
      @Sanela1 6 лет назад

      What kind of question is that Jesse, besides being Shocking ?!!......You need to WAKE UP to what is happening to their VICTIMS around you! ...Because due to the lack of AWARENESS regarding Psychopathy - Their Victims are unable to recognize them as that !...which is resulting in CATASTROPHIC consequences - in too many cases even Suicide by their victims!!! But how to explain that to someone like you, when you are capable of asking a question like the one you asked even after watching this video where your question is CLEARLY ANSWERED already ...??.......Watch it AGAIN !?!?...... Let me give you an example of a single, simplest possible encounter with a Psychopath! : Imagine you're in a Relationship with one, unaware as you ARE anyways.. > One day, tho everything was functioning very well until that day, you partner simply starts Ignoring you completely in the house.. erratically!..without ANY logical reason!....And ignores you for days or even longer lets say.......Than after that period comes to you with a question.. "What the hell is wrong with you?!"...............You respond, as anyone would who's clueless, with "What do you mean?".......and that partner replies with frustration to that even..and to your surprise says .... "You are ignoring me for days!! For days I've been trying to talk to you, and you keep ignoring me damn it !! Im having enough of it ! I want an answer right now ?!"......................Are you noticing something in this example Jesse ? It's called : Blame Shifting and Psychological Projection!..... How would you feel if you've experienced something as BIZZARE ?!.....What would you think!....Who would you dare to tell this strange but real story to, without being looked at in as strange way yourself ..by an unaware individual alike yourself...?!?!?! .....Behaviors as this example are just a tip of the ICEBERG!......And such behaviors keep happening! ..Unexpectedly each time! ..Some are far more complex to comprehend than the example I gave you.. so that you might understand the video which is of Crucial Importance to ones Consciousness!................Now lets continue with the example scene! : You responded to your partner to that with .."Are you serious ?? YOU ignored me. How can you say I did it instead?!...".......but your partner persists with denial of the reality you just spoke!...by saying things like ... "You must be insane !? Why are you doing this ?!?".....and there are no signs of shame in your partner during this!... No signs of Remorse after each time either!....

    • @jbeck6560
      @jbeck6560 6 лет назад

      Sanela Sani maybe he ignores you because you hurt him in some way and you are unable to express your feelings.

    • @Sanela1
      @Sanela1 6 лет назад

      Jesse, maybe H.G. Tudor would be a better eye opener for you.. than Mr Steve, or I with my simple example of something very dangerous and complex... He's here on RUclips as well, his channel called : Knowing the Narcissist (he himself is a diagnosed Narcissistic Psychopath.) ..He talks about their behaviors, and why the emotions of the unaware are being targeted and exploited, as well as he gives the examples alike I gave ..of the situations

    • @Keys7
      @Keys7 5 лет назад

      Sounds like "Jessie b" has a lack of empathy...

  • @janiceball8431
    @janiceball8431 29 дней назад

    The attitude in itself is a turn off. Inability to be humble… gross

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    @user-uh3gn6sg6y Месяц назад

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    @user-uh3gn6sg6y 2 месяца назад

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    @user-uh3gn6sg6y 2 месяца назад

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  • @mycoffeemyday
    @mycoffeemyday 4 года назад

    This video sounds exactly like all cops and politicians. Doesn't Trump make a habit of shamelessly lying? Yup.