I was abused a lot as a kid... Beaten, not allowed to go to school, forced to eat kibble, fat shamed for being healthy when my 3 sisters were underweight... I feel like I have to know about abuse because I didn't realize I had been abused until I went to therapy for getting raped. And she told me that I had basically been groomed to be abused my whole life, I was very submissive, I would never fight back, I did whatever I was told, and I never said no to anyone, because saying no meant you were going to be beaten. I want so badly for my daughter to have a better life than me. I want to believe that all my suffering is so I can see how f***** up it was and give her better. It sounds f***** up but I feel like I have to learn about abuse because I don't understand what abuse is and I just don't want to abuse my child. I don't hit her, we talk, if she misbehaves we have discussions, I use grounding instead of force feeding her dog food, I tell her how beautiful she is every day. I don't know how to be a good mom, I just want to show her to love I never received.
Just based on this comment I'd say you're doing pretty well :) Generally speaking, as long as your child is well-fed, clothed, clean, and you communicate instead of getting physical when they misbehave, you'll already be doing very well. Of course it's also important to provide your child mental stimulation through play (whether that be playing with them directly or just letting them play by themselves or with friends), and you need to make sure they're not having trouble in school, but most of them time that's honestly the bare minimum. I'd say you're doing good so far :)
Sounds like you're doing an amazing job. You now recognize the abuse so now you know how to break the cycle. What your parents did to you wasn't love or what they thought was best for you, you love your daughter and strive to do what's best for her which is the opposite to how you were raised. For more tips I recommend looking up gentle parenting, it's the parenting style I use and I have an amazing 5 year old and 12 year old who are respectful, loving, not afraid of me and who get so many compliments over the I hope we'll they communicate, speak their minds, show empathy and how well they behave. It's a communication based parenting style that focuses on feelings, treating kids like tiny humans and helping them navigate through life. 2 youtubers I recommend are pleasant peasant media and tori phantom. They have plenty of helpful suggestions without making you feel bad about not knowing better. They're also entertaining to watch and post funny content too. I'm still constantly working on improving my parenting and my kids are far from perfect but I'm proud with how I broke the cycle and how well adjusted my kids are turning out to be without me ever having to instill fear in them. With my 5 year old I think it's been over a year since she's even been in timeout since communication usually helps the problem and if she does get frustrated, overly upset and wants to lash out she knows to take a breather and she'll find a space for herself to relax and calm down so we can have a productive conversation. To me the best parents are the ones who can recognize their flaws and put in the work to be better. From what I can tell from your comment you are doing an amazing job and your doing an amazing job with your daughter.
also please teach her self love and self respect and to tell her that her feelings are important and boundaries are important ! there's a song for kids so u can sing it to her but u sound like a great mother and im very sorry u went thru that traumatic childhood. ur the best person she can have to lean on! i also hope ur working thru ur trauma and learning to love urself and learning that saying no is okay and to protect urself!
As an adult child of severe abuse, I appreciate the way you handled these stories. Hearing these stories also helped me a lot, when I was a child CPS told me "Mothers don't do that to their daughters," so to hear stories of CPS believing and fighting for the kids heals something in me.
not cps but i’ve studied and spoken with several special victims detectives/officers worse one told to me, a woman came home to find her deceased two week old stuck on her boyfriend… the baby passed because her organs were crushed as he committed the unspeakable act, she was stuck because because your body contracts when you pass mom was so in shock all she could do was call 911 it wasn’t until after the cops got there and i think removed the baby that she tried to straight up m*rder that man i pray for her often doubt that means anything to her, no mother should ever have to face what she did
That's a mental image I never needed. I can't imagine how she must have felt seeing that first hand.. I hope the cops let her get a few punches on him... and there's the possibility that he was the baby daddy... @heyyitsjanea was he? I hope to fucking God not.. that would just make it worse, but if he wasn't he was probably a new boyfriend and got annoyed she wasn't putting out.. there's no silver lining here and I feel so sorry for you and her for having to go through that..
In true crime videos on RUclips that detail cases of children, you always hear the commentary of 'cps not doing their job', when it seems clear from these accounts that the issue is that they don't have the legal power to do what they know should be done. What actually needs to change is how narrow the law is about what is and isn't actionable. The way that children are often treated like property in the legal system is super gross.
A friend of mine had a social worker try to take her kids because she wasn't Christian. Every intervention mandated by court at the social worker's insistence went through a Christian church or organization. It was clear to the lawyer that religious discrimination was a factor and the lawyer helped her get the case closed pretty quickly through compliance since it had no teeth. So...like anything...there's also a factor in the agenda of the person doing the work.
You're not imagining that the government looks at children as property. Children are the most oppressed demographic worldwide - they have to rely on adults for literally everything for around 18 years, give or take. If a child is wronged by the adult *supposed* to be caring for them, they have little to no recourse. Even if they did have 100% successful actions they could take, it still requires a report of the abuse/neglect to be made, and if the child hasn't been told about their options, how will they know about them? To top it all off, in the US, our welfare laws (including CPS) are based in the Elizabethan Poor Laws (which are from the 1600s) and mixed with the Puritan cultural idea that people are naturally lazy and that "shit doesn't just happen; you're just not working hard enough". All that without getting into the fact that the US has a weird inclination to use kids and parental responsibility as a punishment. Mix all this together and sprinkle in that the people making these laws & policies never worked a single day in welfare and are overwhelmingly law & business majors...no wonder the system is so broken. Sources: my completed bachelor's education in social work, which actually pushed me away from working as a social worker when I learned exactly how messed up the systems are & how unwilling people are to change it.
There was a case recently in the UK where a child starved to death after his father passed away from a heart attack, and all the comments about were just "why didn't social services do something?" Aside from the fact that social services do not employ psychics and can only act on what is reported to them, social services had been to the house twice and gotten no answer, and both times had contacted the police to force entry into the home but were refused. People were seriously say that the social workers should have broken the door down to force entry into the home, apparently being completely unaware that social workers have no more means or authority to do so than any random person off the street and need police to do so. The fact is, social workers make very few decisions when it comes to cases - they make recommendations, and then somebody else, typically a judge, makes a decision, supposedly taking those recommendations into account. Even in cases where social services have made a decision, every decision they make can be overturned by a judge.
That first story.....wow. What a terrible mother. She lied to the cops, she basically killed her two year old child by not getting a restraining order against the boyfriend, and she HELPED HIM ESCAPE. 😢 That poor child.
@@arikrex9978Stockholm syndrome isn’t exclusive to hostage situations. Any abusive relationship can cause a victim to feel like they have to help their abuser, either through fear or loyalty. When you grow up being abused, you don’t realize it is abuse
I'm not surprised. I knew a social worker way off in another state who was very, very upset because, during a snowstorm, one of her clients allowed her boyfriend to rape her three-year-old because the mother was pregnant and didn't want the BF to have to go out in the storm to get his needs met.
american cps system is truly the biggest joke (well, second behind insurance). surprised at the number of stories that ended with the kid returning to the abuser.
I think the most important takeaway from this isn’t that the cps system is broken or incompetent or a joke, but that they are largely powerless to do anything no matter how desperately they fight to 99% of the time. The powers that be (government) ultimately hold all the power in what happens, and they tend to move in self interest at the expense of others. CPS (mostly) desperately wants to help, but it’s the entire system of government that is so irreparably broken that is the issue.
Not to mention that, like DOCS & the entire Legal Aid system in Australia, & NHS in the UK, it's pathetically underfunded after years of successive conservative governments rorting to line their own pockets, then being replaced by (formerly) progressive governments who decide it's a great idea to emulate their predecessors in a misguided attempt to woo their voters.
its horrible because i was involved in a case with no evidence of anything (my uncles gf falsely called in spite) and me n my sister almost got taken with no way of going back (it was statements of a dirty tub) yet kids who are abused IN HORRIBLE WAYS have a chance of going BACK to the abuser whether that be placing the child or the abuser back. its sickening.
What makes you think this is just US? 😂 Reddit is international . Also, if the parents complete whatever steps given them by a judge then there’s only so much you can honestly do when you’re not psychic and there’s ex no foster or group homes to take children. Blane the parents.
Obligatory "Not a CPS" disclaimer, but I work as an aid in a pediatric ER and have seen a number of cases that spring to mind. HIPPA, so no details, but seeing kids less than 5 come in with suspected sexual assault always makes me question humanity.
I've always wondered what medical field professionals think when they suspect SA on a child, and that child ends up going back/leaving with the parents....
Worked at an elementary school as a ta Beginning of the year training and we're told unless a child is in immediate danger of SA or obviously injured( black eyes, big bruises, etc) dont report because cps was understaffed. One of our kindergarteners repeatedly attempted to SA other female students. We were told to watch him, but there was nothing else they could do. It got worse because his grandma said her sweet baby would never do such a thing. I'm still angry about it
@littlesongbird1 we often did and were met with reprimand. I once reported my ex son in law for making my granddaughter eat her own puke out of a clean trash bag. They said it's not like she was eating trash🤨 Alaska cps is worthless
Even though these kinds of stories are tough and hard to hear, it's still good for them to be known. This may sound wrong to some people, but humanity needs more awareness for these situations. The more we understand and know, the more as a whole can we strive and help to prevent abuse. Thank you UnderSparked, for spreading awareness about these situations. In the long run, it's channels like you who will make the world a safer and healthier place for children and just people in general.
I don't know, as for me, listening to such stories just makes me feel guilty for having it better than those kids. I assume anyone else will feel the same way, so maybe it's not a good idea to listen to them often or try to learn more._.
Cps did my family so wrong. They lied about a lot of things. Took everything we said the wrong way, and twisted our words. A few years after cps investigated my family, I actually got to read the reports, and they lied about what I had said. Edit to add: I do still think cps is important, they just did my family a grave injustice. I was the oldest child in the household at the time, and neither of my parents ever abused me or any of my siblings. But the cps report said that I had told the investigators that my mom had pushed me to the ground and kicked me. That literally never happened.
Someone working there must've either held a grudge OR was doing that for thrills. It's terrible when you hear CPS falsely accusing people who are good parents. VS CPS knows for a fact that a family is abusive and plan on ending their children, but decide not to get the abusive monsters arrested.
@@kardoxfabricanus7590 my parents are good Christian people. We were all adopted and it takes a special kind of person to do that for 6 children that needed parents. We wouldn’t have been adopted by them if there was ever a doubt that they wouldn’t be good parents. Let that sink in.
@@djlivvy46 turns out my ex-sister was plotting, trying to get my parents divorced. I say ex-sister, because she “disowned” us and has tried her darnedest to drag my family through the mud. So it was HER that called cps on us 4 different times.
@@glitterstudent7066 - that's interesting. I will however say that being a Christian or adopting children is absolutely no indication of a person's character.
When my cousins were little their mom and stepdad would beat the crap out of them with all manners of things. One time I was over there and my youngest cousin and I started jumping on the bed. My parents let me do it all the time so I thought it was okay, especially since he was doing it too. Well his older brother saw us and immediately told their mom. She had us bend over the couch and repeatedly beat our behinds. Because I was confused and didn't put up a fuss I received open handed slaps on a clothed butt. My cousin fought it so he got the buckle end of a belt on a bare butt. When I went home and told my parents they were livid and raised hell in the whole family. I wasn't allowed over there anymore. Then about a year later that same brother who told on us (which it turned out in their family they would try to get each other in trouble because it meant they would be safe for a bit) went to my mom and showed her all the welts across his back. There were ones that were obviously from multiple beatings meaning the jumping on the bed incident was not a one time deal like my parents thought. My mom called CPS who went to the house, were denied entry by the mom and stepdad, and decided to close the freaking case as unfounded! Their mom immediately pulled them from school and cut all contact with the family. My youngest cousin and I were in third grade at the time and I didn't see him again until high school after his mom divorced his stepdad and blamed all her abusive behavior on him. She's still a whackjob decades later.
I lived through one of the worst CPS cases my caseworker had seen. I was taken from my mom at 6 months old. She was an 18-year-old parent, too young and definitely not ready to be a parent. She wanted to party, do drugs, have fun, and be a teenager. Having lived through 18 years old now, I get it, sort of. What little hair I had was matted to my skin, I was severely underweight and had been left in my mom's boyfriend's car while they got high at some party. Mom got pregnant at 17 to some sailor nearly twice her age while he was at port on libo. I was placed with my grandparents for five years, then back with my mom. From five to eight, I was beaten by my uncle, neglected by my mom, assaulted by my step dad. From eight to fourteen, I was what is best described as a troubled child. My grandmother didn't know how to deal with the meltdowns and behavioral issues of an autistic teenage girl with anger issues and PTSD. So, she would pin me down at my arms and threaten to leave me, knowing how it triggered me, stereotypical shit like that. Fourteen years old, I was raped by a wrestling teammate. Sixteen, by a TA in my physics class. I nearly ended my life at 16 and was about to drop out of high school when I started dating my now-husband again (whom I had broken up with after my first assault). My husband and I have now been together since 2020 and I joined the army. I'm working as a helicopter mechanic and trying to become a pilot. Things do get better, I promise. [I apologize for it not being super detailed, I don't remember it too well.]
Congratulations you should be proud of yourself.. are you planning to go to therapy.. it’s the most responsible thing you could do even under the best circumstances
You are so correct when you talked about story 3, that the child is returned to its abuser is absolutely absurd. If someone needs help, they should get it, especially children, there is no ”they are old enough to defend themselves” and i totally agree with you.
I am typically a calm person, but I can't imagine having the patience to see cases like this every day and be powerless to stop the evil. It takes an immensely strong person to do this job.
The system in the US is broken beyond repair. The cps workers are overworked with a lot cases and they have multiple phone numbers to go through especially if they’ve lost track of their client and it’s no wonder kids are dying when it comes to cps returning kids or not removing them. A couple years ago a lady from CPS in my state called my phone multiple times and left voice mails. Returned her phone call and it turned out that she was looking for a woman with a kid and the lady had multiple phone numbers on her desk and she tried mine. She became rude when she was told that she had the wrong number and that we don’t know anyone by that name.
JUst to clarify - CPS cannot remove a child without a court order. Often the judges will not order the removal but instead put a "safety plan" in place instead. And people get angry when CPS takes a child and angry when they don't. Not exactly a win win situation.
@@deannarounds3295CPS are evil and will take a child for no reason. Yeah they have to lie to the judge to do it but they lie about everything. Unfortunately they do not care about kids at all. I have seen children being abused neglected tortured by cps and not their parents. It's truly sad. But then you have serious cases and they are ignored. And even when then get involved with these case it makes me wonder what are they lying about and what is true. Because one main truth in dealing with cps is they lie.
@@deannarounds3295that is not true CPS can take a child for whatever made up reason why because they will lie to the judge. CPS harasses people tortures children they should be arrested. But they will falsify court documents and usually not have any proof just to destroy innocent people. And on the serious cases did they actually take and don't ignore you got to sit back and really wonder what is true and what is a lie.
The comments that say American CPS is a joke have no idea. CPS fail me in the opposite direction. They took me away from a loving home because I had mental health issues. There was no proof of wrong doing in any capacity and, in fact, it was proven there WAS no wrong doing. The place I was put in lied to CPS and the judge all the time about my Mom and my Mom was treated like scum from day one despite, again, doing nothing wrong. My Mom is my hero and always advocated for me as best she could. She studied a LOT to try and help me too EDIT: The place I was put in is still operational and I weep that I have no power to change things anymore
@@gardenofsn5955 their parents, like many others, were found by a neutral 3rd party that you were not in a safe situation…. I’m going to guess that they are not comfortable with accepting the reasons why.
@@ZomBeeQueeen Look up The Misery Machine. CPS is not infallible. You should've gotten that from this video alone. Don't choose to be ignorant. Don't choose to remain stupid.
@@ZomBeeQueeenThis does mention that it was proven that nothing was wrong. The third party concluded that nothing was wrong, then took them away anyways.
Putting a child on a sex offender registry is not the answer. That child was clearly a victim of abuse she needs help, she went through something before she was with the new family. The adults around her need to help her work through that trauma not further traumatize her by demonizing her for the abuse she endured. JFC Someone needs to get that judge off the bench. That's not to say that children around 12 or so *can't* be sexual predators, but typically kids that age who show these types of behavior are victims themselves and this is the only way they know how to release the feelings associated with the trauma.
Yes its horrendous what she went through as a child but if it was a boy no one would bat an eye. But now that girls are finally getting the same treatment for SA then you all complain.
@@ZombieJDC-z4i Ye 100% no one should. But unfortunatly the world we live is full of injustices like this. Lives ruined because a judge wants to show off their power or some shit.
Story 5: Whoever this judge was and whoever else was involved for putting that 12 year old UNFAIRLY on the registry should've been FIRED the SECOND they put that 12 year old on there. The girl was clearly troubled from what she was exposed to, which, whether if it is true or not, is still horrible for what it was. All because of one single incident with her siblings, her exposure to content that was clearly not appropriate, and the state and the judge not going about it in the fairest way possible, this girl's life has been destroyed and it wasn't even her fault whatsoever.
When I was little my aunt and uncle were going to foster some kids, a boy and girl. The older brother exposed himself to me as we were in a car and the young girl still had burn marks and scars from where her mother burned her with a curling iron. At the time I was too young to know what exactly was going on. I can only hope the boy and girl got the help they needed cause my aunt and uncle noped the eff out of that one.
@@SewardWriter I have the most supportive self-made family imaginable. I'm also seeing a therapist about the underlying trauma that caused my addiction to begin with.
@@5nak_music I'm an addict. I've been clean for about 4 years now. Got hooked on heroin, amphetamine, Xanax and anything else I could find when I was 14. I have had clean periods before, but not sustained sobriety for this long ever. I got clean when I was 30, so it took 16 years for me to get out of it. The trauma was the hardest part to deal with sober. That's what always made me fall back onto drugs all the other times I tried to get clean. But now I have an amazing doctor, a fantastic therapist and an amazing team that surrounds me. I'm lucky to be alive, even more lucky to be clean. I'm telling you this so you know that it can be done. It's hard, but it's possible. I wish it was possible to send messages on RUclips, because then I would tell you that you can always reach out to me if you need someone to talk to. But, that's not a thing, so I'll just tell you this: You can do it! Don't give up if you "fail" and relapse the first time, or the second time, or the fifteenth fucking time you try. Just keep on trying and doing your best. I know it will be tough, probably one of, if not *the* hardest thing you've ever done. But if you just keep on trying and, most importantly, do it for *you* and nobody else - then you're gonna wake up one day and find that you've been clean for a year. Find a way that works for *you* - try as many things as you are able to, but don't let people tell you that there's only one way to get clean or to live life, because that's a lie. You've got this! I'm rooting for you! Much love from me, a Swedish woman that's living in Norway.
god, this is sickening. i feel awful for those poor kids. you seem like a good youtuber, and although i can only see what you put online, you seem like a good person, undersparked.
Dear god! You would think someone in the service or married to someone in the service would be able to take better care of a house! Granted I am not perfect but my place has never gotten that bad.
A lot of soldiers get married for the wrong reasons (to get out of the barracks and live in normal housing). They’re not marrying for good reasons or making good decisions
I can't... it's happened so many times it's got a name. "Baby dipping" is something I never even thought was a thing, why would anything like that cross someone's mind ya know? That's so incredibly... horrendous, vomit inducing, heartbreaking, enraging- you have a special seat in hell for that. Right to the 7th circle. I started crying on the spot after hearing that
The way you read these and give your opinions so respectfully has given me so much hope. The way you try and see everyone's side to the story makes the world a little bit better,and I thank you so much for that
My wife has an insane mother and decided to call CPS on us the day that my son was born. She accused us of doing all sorts of things and a case was opened. It was open for about two months and the CPS worker came about 3 to 4 times, after about the second visit, the CPS worker basically stopped asking questions about my son and on the last visit she basically said that visiting us was a break from the horrors that she sees every day it was the saddest good news that I’ve ever had
Man, I think you have some bravery, cause finding these threads and reading them outloud would be......beyond description. I'm glad that youre taking the time to do this. It's comforting that someone cares enough what happens to them, to do so.
I have to watch this video in batches. It's a lot. I think I said it on another heavy video of yours, but I'm really grateful that you cover these stories on your channel and you bring awareness to them. You don't water them down for RUclips, aside from maybe changing a few cuss words. So thank you for going against the norm with Reddit stories
Yes it does, if it were a boy SA'ing his sisters he would be throwin in juvie and put on the sec offender list. You all wanted equality, now we have it.
I'm not agreeing with the judgment, but legally, it does make sense. She SA'd 4 younger children. The judge can't just ignore the charges in front of them. think more people should be concerned as to why the children were still living with someone who assaulted them without any judgment or court mandated therapy
I have two kids, but I have love for more. But I'm too old now... There's people like me, who wished I had met my fiancé 20 years earlier so we could have had more kids, and then there are people like that... I have no words. There are SO MANY parents wanting a child, trying and trying and some even lose their child while pregnancy and some people have the opportunity to bring new life to the world, a child, a gift, so pure and helpless... And then they treat them SO bad... 😭
However cps lies about everything. They will destroy innocent families. So when it comes to serious issues it makes me wonder what is the truth and what are they lying about. Because some parents are evil but all cps is evil.
Cps is a joke and shouldn't have funds! They are evil. Their job is sadly to destroy families, Torture abuse neglect children. In a nice world cps would help people however that is not the world we live in. Instead they lie, they will not have proof and still get away with kidnapping, assault, harassment, and falsifying court documents and not to mention trespassing.
No they should be defunded. They will harass, people torment people, they will falsify documents which could lead to a kidnapping. It doesn't matter that you're innocent and that you love your children and your children are taken care of they don't care. And when it comes to serious cases they ignore them. On the slight chance that they will take it on you have to really Wonder what is true and what are they lying about.
I actually lived through the opposite of this. I grew up really poor, but wasn't abused . My pediatrician was convinced that my siblings and I are being abused. We had some bruises, but my parents never laid a finger on us. Anyway cps remained in our lives for pretty much the rest of my youth
That's very unfortunate. I have heard of this from other people. There's still regions that believe being poor, is grounds for neglect. When in fact the parents are good people who are struggling in poverty. My heart goes out to you and your family. ❤
This was tragic. Reminds me of what happened with my mom. She was a daycare/pre-school worker for over 18 years and there was a kid 3-4 who had been given to her aunt by authorities after being physically/S abused by her parents. The girl was a total sweetheart but after four months my mom came home saying she had to call CPS because the girl came in with a huge bruise with indents on her face. She got the kid to talk to her and the girl said she had bit her aunt while angry and her aunt decided she should know what she felt and bit the girl on her face as punishment. My mom moved to being an autistic focus nanny after that and only knew the girl got put in foster care. That was nearly 20 years ago and my mom still talks about it, it was the last experience she had working daycare and still haunts her. I'm a banker and see quite a bit of elder financial abuse or spouse abuse in financial control, but I don't think I could handle seeing what she saw.
My mom was placed in a group home at 13 at her parents’ request. My mom wasn’t on drugs as reported, and did really well for the short time she was there, getting into an alternative school where she finally excelled. Most likely what was happening was my mom being undiagnosed with ADHD, likely autism (she tics every box of both for common behaviors in women diagnosed later in life, and it being 73, these often weren’t even considered for girls), and was absolutely very neglected.
I was made a ward of the state by my abusive parental unit when I was 9. Unfortunately, the family court judge was an idiot and sent me back to live with her, where I was smacked around and called everything but my name for another 7 years. First DHS worker was utterly useless, as she just sat and gossiped and drank coffee with my abuser, never even talked to me or asked questions. She ended up being fired after I went in front of a family court judge and begged to be taken out of the home. Even when the judge (a nasty, hateful old fart) threatened to place me in the worst facility in the state, I told him it couldn't be worse than what I'd been going through up until then. He looked like I'd slapped him. That's when I threw the worker under the bus and spilled *all* the beans on how she failed at her job. Second worker was nice, but she ended up quitting after her husband passed. Can't fault her for that. Third worker was a bulldog, and he advocated for me as hard as possible, fighting against the stories of the narcissistic abusive parental unit who lied about me to anyone who'd listen. I found out years after I turned 18 that DHS had a *thick* file on my household, and they had labeled the parental unit as an unfit parent, yet it was the supervisors and family court judges who made certain I stayed in that situation. Don't even get me started on the shelter and group home situations. It was like being taken from a house fire and thrown into a cesspit.
the one with the disgusting house makes me feel bad. i feel like the husband had to know. she needed help, both of them needed help, badly. i feel awful for the parents and the children.
My mum worked in the UK version of cps for years. I am sure she saw some terrible stuff. All I know is she had to sometimes go out with the police to remove children. The true extent I dont want to know. So many times it involves a boyfriend of the mother that she is supposed to not allow back home but does. Its sad how common it is.
the problem with that is how to enforce it, if they're willing to do this stuff to kids they're absolutely willing to just ignore any test requirements
Wow you wanted to be cps? Why? They are evil they lie, falsify court documents, torture, harassment, trespass, abuse, neglect children take innocent families and destroy them just because you think it's funny. When it comes to serious cases you ignore them. And on the slight chance that you would take on a serious case it makes people wonder how much of it is it a lie and how much of it is truth. Defund CPS save the children.
Why would you harm a parent when you're in the wrong, cps workers harass, trespass, and kidnap or at least attempted kidnap and they lie,. They will lie to the court and falsified court documents and even in a serious case nobody will know what they are saying is true or a lie especially when they have no evidence. Cps is joke. They abuse children. Save the children Defund CPS.
Oh my God that's so awful to say why on Earth would you want to hurt a parent? CPS is the one in the wrong, they will harass you torment you kidnap your children and they get away with this because they lie that's all they do is lie they will falsify court documents. They do not care about the children. And the children that really need their care they ignore. On the slight chance they might take a serious case you really have to wonder what is true what are they lying about.
I had a friend who worked for CPS, and while they couldn't go into details, she told me that she'd seen houses that weren't fit for a goldfish, much less children, and nothing was done.
I work with families with kids 0-3 that are sometimes connected to cps. I once had a family with 11 children, ages 16 to 1. They were living in 2 tents in a RV park, which cps said was fine because all their base needs were met. These children were so dirty and skinny, it made me so angry that the state wouldn't take them. Less than a week before the family fled the state, I went to visit and the 3 year old had second and third degree burns on his face, neck, and chest, which the mom said he got when another one of the boys who was 4 melted a plastic bottle in the fire pit and the wind caught the molten plastic, hitting the 3 year old. They did not take him to the hospital. Me and my coworker cleaned his wounds and tried our best to talk to the parents without screaming. I sobbed on my way home and made a new cps report on them, which cps decided was unfounded and there were no safety issues which would require the children to be removed. Like I said they fled shortly after and I think about them a lot. I hope those children and babies are as okay as they can be.
Story 3: Not a CPS worker, but can confirm that the people who have the authority to be making decisions are often NOT the ones who should be making decisions regarding the safety of youth. Had a CPS worker tell me "We'll make sure you'll be able to see your father after this" around the age of 8, right after I was in some sorta waiting room. The context? I just got done being interrogated by police after reporting that my sperm donor *touched* me, the interrogation was so that my Mom could try getting his parental rights stripped from him. I don't think I ever felt that sort of fear before or since. Like why tf would I still want to see the man who diddled me multiple times?
I was a run away, stole cars and pick pocketed, ended up in a closed group home for troubled teens. There was a girl named Nicky who had been systematically SAd by her dad and other men and it had messed her up mentally completely. She had the most extensive scaring from self inflicted injuries I had ever seen and called herself her “daddy’s wife”. Sometimes you’d get a glimpse of her real personality behind all the mental anguish. One day I was in an adjacent building with my caseworker when a call came that I couldn’t come back to the unit and to stay put until further notice. Police and ambulance showed up. Waited about two hours, then got the call that I should return to my room, pack my stuff as I was being relocated. Walked back into the main building and police was everywhere. It stank of blood and excrement, there was blood everywhere. Apparently Nicky had fashioned some sort of knife, slit her belly open and pulled her own guts out. There were bloody hand prints at the walls….I don’t know if she survived.she was a sweet girl who had her life taken away by some sick bastards.
the kid from story 7 that kept stealing cars is just funny. like your 9 years old and know how to steal cars and presumably drive them??? honestly you deserve the car at this rate
"these were white people so matting their hair is hard" me looking at my daughter whos hair i brushed an hour ago: "seriously, how do you keep doing that?"
This guy is awesome, not only because he’s one of the only Reddit RUclipsrs that actually have a voice but also because he cares about the topics and subjects involved in every. single. video. Very cool Canadian spark man. For real though this video killed me, I really should stop watching this kinda stuff.
My cousin is adopted. She was removed from her mother at age three after she presented to the emergency room of the local children’s hospital. She told a nurse how her Mother’s boyfriend “put a sock on his sausage and put it in my cookie.”
I am glad you received a good up bring. It is very difficult, to be a parent who deeply loves their child, but knows they simply aren't well enough to care for them, to let go and give them up to family who can properly raise them. That takes a hellofalot of courage to admit that to herself and her parents, and have you raised in safety and a good home. Take care ❤️
17:15 imagine getting raped, telling the people are SUPPOSED to help you, and have them telling you that you’re a slut from something you didn’t ask for and couldn’t control. This is sickening and I hope the cops lost their jobs after that
The "At least I got a man" crowd pisses me off, particularly. Can easily be interchanged with "At least I got a girl," so don't get your panties in a bunch.
8:30 Not even a referral, MULTIPLE referrals. To make that kinda decision with a kid should at a bare minimum require a small panel to decide, because how you choose to evaluate those actions in regards to the rest of their life is far to important.
I think you should do a video on stories from parents or caregivers from kids on CPS or DCS. Why there kids were taken how hard it was for them to get back. Cuz I have quite a few stories for you.
I honestly don't think i could mentally handle being a CPS worker. Especially priority one workers. I remember watching a documentary about Gabriel Fernandez, and it still haunts me and makes me feel sick to this day. I was so angry at the few workers who got fired or reprimanded for trying to go out of their way to report the abuse to their supervisors or get the cops involved. What killed me the most was the one deputy who was called to "scare" the kid for talking about wanting to take his life.
8:30 I was assaulted by a classmate as a child. He scared me but now that I am an adult I hold no ill will towards him. To do something like what he did means her probably learned from someone and that is heartbreaking.
When was that? It could have been his dad or more likely his friends or brother, but if it happend between today and 2010, he could have seen it online on his phone.
@@meganlouise9007 I get it and I understand Why you feel that way. But that doesn't mean a seven year old can't be dramatized by a different seven year old. And the solution is to get the first traumatized Kid help not let him traumatize other kids.
Ugh the story of the 12 y/o girl being registered... I happened to meet a THREE year old girl who was like that. I also suffered abuse from a young age so I could see how her behavior had developed immediately. Not in the mood to throw the whole depressing story in, but every adult there (a boyfriend's rich relatives' mansion party... not my normal locale, not been to one since) knew this girl was "trouble" and just laughed about it. Didn't want to deal with her. That's how I ended up spending the day with her. I saw her older siblings look at me with fear when I played with her, I could tell she had harmed them, but I was playing with her because her grandmother had asked me to. She kept perving on me and asking me to take my shirt off. She bit me hard and wouldn't let go when I refused to do certain things. (I did not react and pretended it didn't hurt... kids can bite hard, it hurt) She led me to a bathroom that she knew the lock didn't work on to change out of my swimsuit, and intentionally burst the door open to look at me when I changed there. That was more than 10 years ago and I've tried to find out how she's doing since, but no one I'm willing to talk to has any knowledge. :\ Initially I had been told the mother had already separated from the ex, which everyone collectively blamed I guess as the other children were not affected (?) but I can't say that is reassuring with no other information. :( An evil girl no one wants to deal with already at 3, there's no way she became that way on her own.
Your take on 18:00 should be reconsidered, the CPS worker, op AND her younger brother should have been included, since it said that the boyfriend also physically abused op's younger brother
How do these acs workers let stuff like this slide & harass ppl who actually take care of & nurture their children! This is so upsetting. If there’s bruising on a child or a child is being sa’d why not remove the child immediately? Why even let these ppl get a chance to harm their children smh! I hear so many times that children are returned back to the homes of abuse where they are then unalived especially in my state. This is disturbing asf!
Because a lot of core the system inherently believes that being poor is Equal to being abusive or neglectful. The hardest kids to get removed are from middle class White families where they generally fly under the radar because they're able to hide their abuse.
Because I can guarantee you, Josh Dugger’s sisters wishes he had been removed from their home and not allowed to interact with them, but you would totally let someone like that back into the home, wouldn’t you?
"Hey mom let me do my normal tasks" you alright dude, you're obviously not normal (not being normal is not a bad thing tho) who calls them normal tasks
I had been involved with cps one time because my brother SAd me and right now because my mum was making a lot of threats of harm towards me etc and she did harm before, she pulled my ear because I ran away because of a meltdown, i am autistic and etc etc.. She now is okay and caring but if one thing goes wrong she just stops caring and I just want to leave I want to be taken away more than anything and if that cant happen I would do anything just to have her to physically hit me so it can be more obvious.
Story 3: I think the leader of the CPS in that story is entirely to blame for those kids being returned to their abusers or their abusers be allowed to return back to them. It just shows how a toxic work environment can lead to sad situations like that and a complete failing of the system.
Stories like these make me wish their were licenses you had to get in order to be a legal parent. I know that's horrible thinking and that only punishes the people who actually are good people, I just can't think of anything else. So many unwanted kids and it's so disheartening what some go through.
I have known cps for a long time. for around 8 years my mom was a foster parent so I have a general idea in how things work. none the less it is tragic what has happened to these poor kids
I have horrible trauma from my bio dad. He mentally abused me and is a reckless driver (recently got into a car crash with him in the car he bought me for when I get my license. The car was totaled.) My mom is starting the process for divorce and he wants to move to Washington with his new girlfriend once the divorce is finalized. My mom signed up for the foster program recently and wants to start fostering kids as we’re out of this situation. She’s an amazing mom. If it weren’t for her my trauma would be 100x worse than it already is. I hope once she starts fostering she can be that safe person for even more kids.
A little context for the car thing: he was in my grandmas inheritance. He’s been buying me and my mom stuff in hopes that we won’t leave him. Now that he’s realized the divorce is inevitable, he’s gonna give us half of the final inheritance check because in my state the Wife automatically gets half in a divorce. He’s now just doing everything he can to make our view of him better, even admitting to unintentionally abusing us (specifically me), before the divorce.
My mam is a foster carer and I heard my fair share, granted nowhere near this scale but it's just as heart breaking. We had a 9 yr old kick up a sh*t storm when he didn't get his way (I had a heavy lock thrown at me and thankfully missed), one 15yr lass was a drug user and we had police come out every night because she went awol. Another waved a knife at my mam's neighbors because they were fighting and she ABSOLUTELY HAD to be involved. But the worst was a 15yr boy who owed money to the estates ahole and the ahole brought a gang of lads to my mam's front door- luckily nothing happened and she had cameras, even more so she knew the aholes mother and he stopped coming around after that.
the first grader having to get his siblings up and dressed in time for school when he needs help getting himself ready for school, the fact that the parents don’t even get themselves up to get their kids ready for school is mind boggling, the first grader is gonna grow up WAY too fast
It’s very common and to make things worse it still plays into the negative stereotypes of fathers trying to gain custody. Those mothers become reliant on resources and emotional support that they sacrifice kids to not feel alone.
Judges are bound by the laws on the books in their jurisdictions. They can get in serious trouble for going rogue (normally, political moves seem to be a gray area) I've seen many court proceedings where the judge expressed frustration with the ruling they would have to give knowing it probably wasn't the right call but we're bound by the law.
As someone who once went through the foster care care system and spent a month with a very nice Christian family, I remember always thinking my life was the worst it could ever be. Feeling so unwanted, sick to my stomach and wishing I died after everything that happened; after this video, I can't ever in good conscience think what I went through was that bad.
This all is horrific and agonizingly painful to think about. But a lot of problems need to be changed and fixed, so we should always keep these stories in mind.
Growing up was like the military couple story sans the feces luckily. But trash, clothes, junk everywhere And only a walking path. Only place with old food was the kitchen, with flies everywhere. CPS had visited and said it was okay as long as there were "paths to an exit in case of a fire". I was SAed but that wasn't my mom's fault. Things didn't get really bad with my mom until a few years after that when I was 8 or 9
Frankly I still have some level of resentment for the DCF (department of children and families). I was horribly abused and neglected as a kid. I was never beaten, but I was starved, was isolated to an extreme to the point I have delayed social development, was locked in my filthy room all the time, I was only allowed to shower once a week and brush my teeth maybe once a day (now I need lots of dental work), I had to poop in the backyard, I got yelled at for trying to change my sheets and even underwear "too often" (how I don't have a horrible infection from that is beyond me), and I was allowed to have several seizures a day that once lead to me falling off a chair and breaking two teeth, which were left to rot for four years. I was extremely underweight with gross greasy hair and heavy dandruff. I probably smelled horrible. At the age of 18, I was kicked out and my maternal grandparents took me in, and later I moved in with my mom (whom I had not seen for about 5 years due to my biological father screwing her out of visitation rights). My grandmother called DCF, and despite this case involving multiple felonies they refused to investigate saying "I was safe now" despite having multiple mental and physical health problems. I was underweight, malnourished, had extreme PTSD, epilepsy, and rotten and broken teeth. But they didn't seem to care. Now I live with my mom and my stepfather, who is now my dad. I got medical care, a job, I'm in college, but man did it make me upset that I was basically just tossed aside again. Btw this house was full of junk from my biological father's girlfriend hoarding, including many exotic pets. There was 3 pantries full of food and a deep freezer that was stuffed, so its not like I was just in a poor home that couldn't afford to feed me. I still think about the animals in that house because they were mistreated too and it wouldn't surprise me if many of them are now dead from neglect.
Story 10: If I was getting SA'd and the cops called me a harlot, I'd be leaving in the back of the police car for assault on an officer
I don't believe this story at all. Somebody made up a fake story for reddit karma and sympathy.
And Juvie would almost honestly be a better living situation..
@@billbombshiggy9254 people have been sa'd and the cops have dissmissed it
@@billbombshiggy9254 you lowkey seem like the type of guy to dismiss sa stories to someones face/ nm
@@Lana_Bo_Bana girl, and yes, I would. We are post me too. Too many women have lied, ruining it for those who actually have.
I was abused a lot as a kid... Beaten, not allowed to go to school, forced to eat kibble, fat shamed for being healthy when my 3 sisters were underweight... I feel like I have to know about abuse because I didn't realize I had been abused until I went to therapy for getting raped. And she told me that I had basically been groomed to be abused my whole life, I was very submissive, I would never fight back, I did whatever I was told, and I never said no to anyone, because saying no meant you were going to be beaten. I want so badly for my daughter to have a better life than me. I want to believe that all my suffering is so I can see how f***** up it was and give her better. It sounds f***** up but I feel like I have to learn about abuse because I don't understand what abuse is and I just don't want to abuse my child. I don't hit her, we talk, if she misbehaves we have discussions, I use grounding instead of force feeding her dog food, I tell her how beautiful she is every day. I don't know how to be a good mom, I just want to show her to love I never received.
Just based on this comment I'd say you're doing pretty well :)
Generally speaking, as long as your child is well-fed, clothed, clean, and you communicate instead of getting physical when they misbehave, you'll already be doing very well. Of course it's also important to provide your child mental stimulation through play (whether that be playing with them directly or just letting them play by themselves or with friends), and you need to make sure they're not having trouble in school, but most of them time that's honestly the bare minimum.
I'd say you're doing good so far :)
You have to latn about the abuse to break the cycle
Sounds like you're doing an amazing job. You now recognize the abuse so now you know how to break the cycle. What your parents did to you wasn't love or what they thought was best for you, you love your daughter and strive to do what's best for her which is the opposite to how you were raised. For more tips I recommend looking up gentle parenting, it's the parenting style I use and I have an amazing 5 year old and 12 year old who are respectful, loving, not afraid of me and who get so many compliments over the I hope we'll they communicate, speak their minds, show empathy and how well they behave. It's a communication based parenting style that focuses on feelings, treating kids like tiny humans and helping them navigate through life. 2 youtubers I recommend are pleasant peasant media and tori phantom. They have plenty of helpful suggestions without making you feel bad about not knowing better. They're also entertaining to watch and post funny content too. I'm still constantly working on improving my parenting and my kids are far from perfect but I'm proud with how I broke the cycle and how well adjusted my kids are turning out to be without me ever having to instill fear in them. With my 5 year old I think it's been over a year since she's even been in timeout since communication usually helps the problem and if she does get frustrated, overly upset and wants to lash out she knows to take a breather and she'll find a space for herself to relax and calm down so we can have a productive conversation. To me the best parents are the ones who can recognize their flaws and put in the work to be better. From what I can tell from your comment you are doing an amazing job and your doing an amazing job with your daughter.
You're doing amazing hun, from one internet stranger to another, you're doing fucking amazing. Stay strong hunny
also please teach her self love and self respect and to tell her that her feelings are important and boundaries are important ! there's a song for kids so u can sing it to her but u sound like a great mother and im very sorry u went thru that traumatic childhood. ur the best person she can have to lean on! i also hope ur working thru ur trauma and learning to love urself and learning that saying no is okay and to protect urself!
As an adult child of severe abuse, I appreciate the way you handled these stories. Hearing these stories also helped me a lot, when I was a child CPS told me "Mothers don't do that to their daughters," so to hear stories of CPS believing and fighting for the kids heals something in me.
"Child protective services" but they're not even protecting the child.
not cps but i’ve studied and spoken with several special victims detectives/officers
worse one told to me, a woman came home to find her deceased two week old stuck on her boyfriend…
the baby passed because her organs were crushed as he committed the unspeakable act, she was stuck because because your body contracts when you pass
mom was so in shock all she could do was call 911
it wasn’t until after the cops got there and i think removed the baby that she tried to straight up m*rder that man
i pray for her often
doubt that means anything to her, no mother should ever have to face what she did
I’m scarred and I just read about it. What the hell
What sort of fucked up bullshit is this? That never happened. What the fuck is wrong with you?
That's a mental image I never needed. I can't imagine how she must have felt seeing that first hand.. I hope the cops let her get a few punches on him... and there's the possibility that he was the baby daddy... @heyyitsjanea was he? I hope to fucking God not.. that would just make it worse, but if he wasn't he was probably a new boyfriend and got annoyed she wasn't putting out.. there's no silver lining here and I feel so sorry for you and her for having to go through that..
I've read so many stories like this and each time it just turns my stomach...
Fuck I wish I would have skipped your comment
In true crime videos on RUclips that detail cases of children, you always hear the commentary of 'cps not doing their job', when it seems clear from these accounts that the issue is that they don't have the legal power to do what they know should be done. What actually needs to change is how narrow the law is about what is and isn't actionable. The way that children are often treated like property in the legal system is super gross.
A friend of mine had a social worker try to take her kids because she wasn't Christian. Every intervention mandated by court at the social worker's insistence went through a Christian church or organization. It was clear to the lawyer that religious discrimination was a factor and the lawyer helped her get the case closed pretty quickly through compliance since it had no teeth.
So...like anything...there's also a factor in the agenda of the person doing the work.
You're not imagining that the government looks at children as property. Children are the most oppressed demographic worldwide - they have to rely on adults for literally everything for around 18 years, give or take. If a child is wronged by the adult *supposed* to be caring for them, they have little to no recourse. Even if they did have 100% successful actions they could take, it still requires a report of the abuse/neglect to be made, and if the child hasn't been told about their options, how will they know about them?
To top it all off, in the US, our welfare laws (including CPS) are based in the Elizabethan Poor Laws (which are from the 1600s) and mixed with the Puritan cultural idea that people are naturally lazy and that "shit doesn't just happen; you're just not working hard enough". All that without getting into the fact that the US has a weird inclination to use kids and parental responsibility as a punishment. Mix all this together and sprinkle in that the people making these laws & policies never worked a single day in welfare and are overwhelmingly law & business majors...no wonder the system is so broken.
Sources: my completed bachelor's education in social work, which actually pushed me away from working as a social worker when I learned exactly how messed up the systems are & how unwilling people are to change it.
In far too many cases, CPS is incompetent. Watch the Misery Machine for examples.
yeah the ones where you can't do anything legally are so frustrating. it's like the authorities are paid off by bad parents
There was a case recently in the UK where a child starved to death after his father passed away from a heart attack, and all the comments about were just "why didn't social services do something?" Aside from the fact that social services do not employ psychics and can only act on what is reported to them, social services had been to the house twice and gotten no answer, and both times had contacted the police to force entry into the home but were refused. People were seriously say that the social workers should have broken the door down to force entry into the home, apparently being completely unaware that social workers have no more means or authority to do so than any random person off the street and need police to do so.
The fact is, social workers make very few decisions when it comes to cases - they make recommendations, and then somebody else, typically a judge, makes a decision, supposedly taking those recommendations into account. Even in cases where social services have made a decision, every decision they make can be overturned by a judge.
That first story.....wow. What a terrible mother. She lied to the cops, she basically killed her two year old child by not getting a restraining order against the boyfriend, and she HELPED HIM ESCAPE. 😢 That poor child.
I never understood why people help abusers, especially ones who abused them or their family
Some people shouldn't be parents
@@arikrex9978Stockholm syndrome isn’t exclusive to hostage situations. Any abusive relationship can cause a victim to feel like they have to help their abuser, either through fear or loyalty. When you grow up being abused, you don’t realize it is abuse
@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012It wasn't Stockholm syndrome. She just valued her boyfriend over her children.
I'm not surprised. I knew a social worker way off in another state who was very, very upset because, during a snowstorm, one of her clients allowed her boyfriend to rape her three-year-old because the mother was pregnant and didn't want the BF to have to go out in the storm to get his needs met.
american cps system is truly the biggest joke (well, second behind insurance). surprised at the number of stories that ended with the kid returning to the abuser.
I think the most important takeaway from this isn’t that the cps system is broken or incompetent or a joke, but that they are largely powerless to do anything no matter how desperately they fight to 99% of the time.
The powers that be (government) ultimately hold all the power in what happens, and they tend to move in self interest at the expense of others.
CPS (mostly) desperately wants to help, but it’s the entire system of government that is so irreparably broken that is the issue.
Not to mention that, like DOCS & the entire Legal Aid system in Australia, & NHS in the UK, it's pathetically underfunded after years of successive conservative governments rorting to line their own pockets, then being replaced by (formerly) progressive governments who decide it's a great idea to emulate their predecessors in a misguided attempt to woo their voters.
its horrible because i was involved in a case with no evidence of anything (my uncles gf falsely called in spite) and me n my sister almost got taken with no way of going back (it was statements of a dirty tub) yet kids who are abused IN HORRIBLE WAYS have a chance of going BACK to the abuser whether that be placing the child or the abuser back. its sickening.
@@rinpaisyss aassxaq
What makes you think this is just US? 😂 Reddit is international .
Also, if the parents complete whatever steps given them by a judge then there’s only so much you can honestly do when you’re not psychic and there’s ex no foster or group homes to take children.
Blane the parents.
Obligatory "Not a CPS" disclaimer, but I work as an aid in a pediatric ER and have seen a number of cases that spring to mind. HIPPA, so no details, but seeing kids less than 5 come in with suspected sexual assault always makes me question humanity.
I've always wondered what medical field professionals think when they suspect SA on a child, and that child ends up going back/leaving with the parents....
@@SnowieShiba they are supposed to contact cps straight awy
CPS makes me question humanity
Worked at an elementary school as a ta
Beginning of the year training and we're told unless a child is in immediate danger of SA or obviously injured( black eyes, big bruises, etc) dont report because cps was understaffed.
One of our kindergarteners repeatedly attempted to SA other female students. We were told to watch him, but there was nothing else they could do.
It got worse because his grandma said her sweet baby would never do such a thing.
I'm still angry about it
Sorry but if the school told me that I would risk being fired and called CPS.
@littlesongbird1 we often did and were met with reprimand.
I once reported my ex son in law for making my granddaughter eat her own puke out of a clean trash bag.
They said it's not like she was eating trash🤨
Alaska cps is worthless
It’s even sadder when you think how a 4 year old would learn such behaviors 😢
@@BloodSweatandFears agreed
Surely this is immediate danger of SA? This little boy learned this somewhere? Likely done to him….
Even though these kinds of stories are tough and hard to hear, it's still good for them to be known. This may sound wrong to some people, but humanity needs more awareness for these situations. The more we understand and know, the more as a whole can we strive and help to prevent abuse. Thank you UnderSparked, for spreading awareness about these situations. In the long run, it's channels like you who will make the world a safer and healthier place for children and just people in general.
I don't know, as for me, listening to such stories just makes me feel guilty for having it better than those kids. I assume anyone else will feel the same way, so maybe it's not a good idea to listen to them often or try to learn more._.
Cps did my family so wrong. They lied about a lot of things. Took everything we said the wrong way, and twisted our words. A few years after cps investigated my family, I actually got to read the reports, and they lied about what I had said.
Edit to add: I do still think cps is important, they just did my family a grave injustice. I was the oldest child in the household at the time, and neither of my parents ever abused me or any of my siblings. But the cps report said that I had told the investigators that my mom had pushed me to the ground and kicked me. That literally never happened.
Someone working there must've either held a grudge OR was doing that for thrills.
It's terrible when you hear CPS falsely accusing people who are good parents.
VS
CPS knows for a fact that a family is abusive and plan on ending their children, but decide not to get the abusive monsters arrested.
@@kardoxfabricanus7590 my parents are good Christian people. We were all adopted and it takes a special kind of person to do that for 6 children that needed parents. We wouldn’t have been adopted by them if there was ever a doubt that they wouldn’t be good parents. Let that sink in.
@@glitterstudent7066- how did CPS become involved with your family in the first place?
@@djlivvy46 turns out my ex-sister was plotting, trying to get my parents divorced. I say ex-sister, because she “disowned” us and has tried her darnedest to drag my family through the mud. So it was HER that called cps on us 4 different times.
@@glitterstudent7066 - that's interesting.
I will however say that being a Christian or adopting children is absolutely no indication of a person's character.
When my cousins were little their mom and stepdad would beat the crap out of them with all manners of things. One time I was over there and my youngest cousin and I started jumping on the bed. My parents let me do it all the time so I thought it was okay, especially since he was doing it too. Well his older brother saw us and immediately told their mom. She had us bend over the couch and repeatedly beat our behinds. Because I was confused and didn't put up a fuss I received open handed slaps on a clothed butt. My cousin fought it so he got the buckle end of a belt on a bare butt. When I went home and told my parents they were livid and raised hell in the whole family. I wasn't allowed over there anymore. Then about a year later that same brother who told on us (which it turned out in their family they would try to get each other in trouble because it meant they would be safe for a bit) went to my mom and showed her all the welts across his back. There were ones that were obviously from multiple beatings meaning the jumping on the bed incident was not a one time deal like my parents thought. My mom called CPS who went to the house, were denied entry by the mom and stepdad, and decided to close the freaking case as unfounded! Their mom immediately pulled them from school and cut all contact with the family. My youngest cousin and I were in third grade at the time and I didn't see him again until high school after his mom divorced his stepdad and blamed all her abusive behavior on him. She's still a whackjob decades later.
I lived through one of the worst CPS cases my caseworker had seen. I was taken from my mom at 6 months old. She was an 18-year-old parent, too young and definitely not ready to be a parent. She wanted to party, do drugs, have fun, and be a teenager. Having lived through 18 years old now, I get it, sort of. What little hair I had was matted to my skin, I was severely underweight and had been left in my mom's boyfriend's car while they got high at some party. Mom got pregnant at 17 to some sailor nearly twice her age while he was at port on libo. I was placed with my grandparents for five years, then back with my mom. From five to eight, I was beaten by my uncle, neglected by my mom, assaulted by my step dad. From eight to fourteen, I was what is best described as a troubled child. My grandmother didn't know how to deal with the meltdowns and behavioral issues of an autistic teenage girl with anger issues and PTSD. So, she would pin me down at my arms and threaten to leave me, knowing how it triggered me, stereotypical shit like that. Fourteen years old, I was raped by a wrestling teammate. Sixteen, by a TA in my physics class.
I nearly ended my life at 16 and was about to drop out of high school when I started dating my now-husband again (whom I had broken up with after my first assault).
My husband and I have now been together since 2020 and I joined the army. I'm working as a helicopter mechanic and trying to become a pilot. Things do get better, I promise.
[I apologize for it not being super detailed, I don't remember it too well.]
Congratulations you should be proud of yourself.. are you planning to go to therapy.. it’s the most responsible thing you could do even under the best circumstances
I’m sorry about what happened to you. No one should have to go through something like that.
...and all of that happened?
You are so correct when you talked about story 3, that the child is returned to its abuser is absolutely absurd. If someone needs help, they should get it, especially children, there is no ”they are old enough to defend themselves” and i totally agree with you.
I am typically a calm person, but I can't imagine having the patience to see cases like this every day and be powerless to stop the evil. It takes an immensely strong person to do this job.
I guess like anything in that field they get jaded to it, and have to have the stomach to handle it or have a hell of a vice to forget.
The system in the US is broken beyond repair. The cps workers are overworked with a lot cases and they have multiple phone numbers to go through especially if they’ve lost track of their client and it’s no wonder kids are dying when it comes to cps returning kids or not removing them.
A couple years ago a lady from CPS in my state called my phone multiple times and left voice mails. Returned her phone call and it turned out that she was looking for a woman with a kid and the lady had multiple phone numbers on her desk and she tried mine. She became rude when she was told that she had the wrong number and that we don’t know anyone by that name.
JUst to clarify - CPS cannot remove a child without a court order. Often the judges will not order the removal but instead put a "safety plan" in place instead. And people get angry when CPS takes a child and angry when they don't. Not exactly a win win situation.
@@deannarounds3295CPS are evil and will take a child for no reason. Yeah they have to lie to the judge to do it but they lie about everything. Unfortunately they do not care about kids at all. I have seen children being abused neglected tortured by cps and not their parents. It's truly sad. But then you have serious cases and they are ignored. And even when then get involved with these case it makes me wonder what are they lying about and what is true. Because one main truth in dealing with cps is they lie.
@@deannarounds3295that is not true CPS can take a child for whatever made up reason why because they will lie to the judge. CPS harasses people tortures children they should be arrested. But they will falsify court documents and usually not have any proof just to destroy innocent people. And on the serious cases did they actually take and don't ignore you got to sit back and really wonder what is true and what is a lie.
@@deannarounds3295unfortunately that is not true. They can and will do anything they want. They get away with it by lying
@@deannarounds3295that's not true
The comments that say American CPS is a joke have no idea. CPS fail me in the opposite direction. They took me away from a loving home because I had mental health issues. There was no proof of wrong doing in any capacity and, in fact, it was proven there WAS no wrong doing. The place I was put in lied to CPS and the judge all the time about my Mom and my Mom was treated like scum from day one despite, again, doing nothing wrong. My Mom is my hero and always advocated for me as best she could. She studied a LOT to try and help me too
EDIT: The place I was put in is still operational and I weep that I have no power to change things anymore
….sure Jan
@@ZomBeeQueeen This is a thing that happens. Don't dismiss others' trauma.
@@gardenofsn5955 their parents, like many others, were found by a neutral 3rd party that you were not in a safe situation….
I’m going to guess that they are not comfortable with accepting the reasons why.
@@ZomBeeQueeen Look up The Misery Machine. CPS is not infallible. You should've gotten that from this video alone. Don't choose to be ignorant. Don't choose to remain stupid.
@@ZomBeeQueeenThis does mention that it was proven that nothing was wrong. The third party concluded that nothing was wrong, then took them away anyways.
Putting a child on a sex offender registry is not the answer. That child was clearly a victim of abuse she needs help, she went through something before she was with the new family. The adults around her need to help her work through that trauma not further traumatize her by demonizing her for the abuse she endured. JFC Someone needs to get that judge off the bench.
That's not to say that children around 12 or so *can't* be sexual predators, but typically kids that age who show these types of behavior are victims themselves and this is the only way they know how to release the feelings associated with the trauma.
Yes its horrendous what she went through as a child but if it was a boy no one would bat an eye. But now that girls are finally getting the same treatment for SA then you all complain.
@@ThatOdinGuy it's a shame because a boy shouldn't be a sex offender at that age either.
@@ZombieJDC-z4i Ye 100% no one should. But unfortunatly the world we live is full of injustices like this. Lives ruined because a judge wants to show off their power or some shit.
@@ThatOdinGuyyou do know that people romanticize Colleen Hoover right?
The term for it is trauma "reenactment" and you're not lying. Super sad.
Story 5: Whoever this judge was and whoever else was involved for putting that 12 year old UNFAIRLY on the registry should've been FIRED the SECOND they put that 12 year old on there. The girl was clearly troubled from what she was exposed to, which, whether if it is true or not, is still horrible for what it was. All because of one single incident with her siblings, her exposure to content that was clearly not appropriate, and the state and the judge not going about it in the fairest way possible, this girl's life has been destroyed and it wasn't even her fault whatsoever.
When I was little my aunt and uncle were going to foster some kids, a boy and girl. The older brother exposed himself to me as we were in a car and the young girl still had burn marks and scars from where her mother burned her with a curling iron. At the time I was too young to know what exactly was going on. I can only hope the boy and girl got the help they needed cause my aunt and uncle noped the eff out of that one.
Next to impossible to fire a judge. And that is the problem.
Bullshit, if it was a male 12 yr old SA'ing their sisters then you wouldnt be complaining. Its called equality.
5:20
my father was a drug addict, he wasn't a good dad. i am also a drug addict and will not raise a child till i am recovered
Good on you for not perpetuating the cycle. Stay strong stranger
You'll get there, hon. (HUG) Stay strong. Do you have access to addiction help, or rehab? 💖
@@SewardWriter I have the most supportive self-made family imaginable. I'm also seeing a therapist about the underlying trauma that caused my addiction to begin with.
@@5nak_music I'm an addict. I've been clean for about 4 years now. Got hooked on heroin, amphetamine, Xanax and anything else I could find when I was 14. I have had clean periods before, but not sustained sobriety for this long ever. I got clean when I was 30, so it took 16 years for me to get out of it. The trauma was the hardest part to deal with sober. That's what always made me fall back onto drugs all the other times I tried to get clean. But now I have an amazing doctor, a fantastic therapist and an amazing team that surrounds me. I'm lucky to be alive, even more lucky to be clean. I'm telling you this so you know that it can be done. It's hard, but it's possible. I wish it was possible to send messages on RUclips, because then I would tell you that you can always reach out to me if you need someone to talk to.
But, that's not a thing, so I'll just tell you this:
You can do it! Don't give up if you "fail" and relapse the first time, or the second time, or the fifteenth fucking time you try. Just keep on trying and doing your best. I know it will be tough, probably one of, if not *the* hardest thing you've ever done. But if you just keep on trying and, most importantly, do it for *you* and nobody else - then you're gonna wake up one day and find that you've been clean for a year. Find a way that works for *you* - try as many things as you are able to, but don't let people tell you that there's only one way to get clean or to live life, because that's a lie. You've got this! I'm rooting for you! Much love from me, a Swedish woman that's living in Norway.
@@5nak_music Good. I'm proud of you for facing your addiction, and for putting together such an amazing support system. 💖
god, this is sickening. i feel awful for those poor kids.
you seem like a good youtuber, and although i can only see what you put online, you seem like a good person, undersparked.
Story 8: as a veteran you wouldn’t believe how common stories like that are.
Dear god! You would think someone in the service or married to someone in the service would be able to take better care of a house! Granted I am not perfect but my place has never gotten that bad.
A lot of soldiers get married for the wrong reasons (to get out of the barracks and live in normal housing). They’re not marrying for good reasons or making good decisions
I appreciate you pointing out that you didn't do the voices out of respect ❤ thank you for spreading awareness
Ngl the 9yr old stealing the case worker's car is funny asf😅
It is. He saw an opportunity and took it. 😂😂😂
I lost it😂
Bro was setting a high score
For Story 10, the only person I’d also add to the ‘not at fault list’ would be OP’s little brother.
I can't... it's happened so many times it's got a name. "Baby dipping" is something I never even thought was a thing, why would anything like that cross someone's mind ya know? That's so incredibly... horrendous, vomit inducing, heartbreaking, enraging- you have a special seat in hell for that. Right to the 7th circle. I started crying on the spot after hearing that
The way you read these and give your opinions so respectfully has given me so much hope. The way you try and see everyone's side to the story makes the world a little bit better,and I thank you so much for that
My wife has an insane mother and decided to call CPS on us the day that my son was born. She accused us of doing all sorts of things and a case was opened. It was open for about two months and the CPS worker came about 3 to 4 times, after about the second visit, the CPS worker basically stopped asking questions about my son and on the last visit she basically said that visiting us was a break from the horrors that she sees every day it was the saddest good news that I’ve ever had
Man, I think you have some bravery, cause finding these threads and reading them outloud would be......beyond description. I'm glad that youre taking the time to do this. It's comforting that someone cares enough what happens to them, to do so.
I have to watch this video in batches. It's a lot. I think I said it on another heavy video of yours, but I'm really grateful that you cover these stories on your channel and you bring awareness to them. You don't water them down for RUclips, aside from maybe changing a few cuss words. So thank you for going against the norm with Reddit stories
Rather than get the girl counseling they labeled her a sec offender. Doesn't make any sense
Yes it does, if it were a boy SA'ing his sisters he would be throwin in juvie and put on the sec offender list. You all wanted equality, now we have it.
I'm not agreeing with the judgment, but legally, it does make sense. She SA'd 4 younger children. The judge can't just ignore the charges in front of them. think more people should be concerned as to why the children were still living with someone who assaulted them without any judgment or court mandated therapy
I have two kids, but I have love for more. But I'm too old now...
There's people like me, who wished I had met my fiancé 20 years earlier so we could have had more kids, and then there are people like that...
I have no words.
There are SO MANY parents wanting a child, trying and trying and some even lose their child while pregnancy and some people have the opportunity to bring new life to the world, a child, a gift, so pure and helpless... And then they treat them SO bad...
😭
All children deserve parents, but not all parents deserve children...😢❤
However cps lies about everything. They will destroy innocent families. So when it comes to serious issues it makes me wonder what is the truth and what are they lying about. Because some parents are evil but all cps is evil.
Thank you for the check in at the end ❤
I love your takes on stories. You're spot on for the vast majority of them imo.
Cps is poorly funded. Unfortunately most people also dont help because you can get in trouble for helping as well.
Cps is a joke and shouldn't have funds! They are evil. Their job is sadly to destroy families, Torture abuse neglect children. In a nice world cps would help people however that is not the world we live in. Instead they lie, they will not have proof and still get away with kidnapping, assault, harassment, and falsifying court documents and not to mention trespassing.
No they should be defunded. They will harass, people torment people, they will falsify documents which could lead to a kidnapping. It doesn't matter that you're innocent and that you love your children and your children are taken care of they don't care. And when it comes to serious cases they ignore them. On the slight chance that they will take it on you have to really Wonder what is true and what are they lying about.
I actually lived through the opposite of this. I grew up really poor, but wasn't abused . My pediatrician was convinced that my siblings and I are being abused. We had some bruises, but my parents never laid a finger on us. Anyway cps remained in our lives for pretty much the rest of my youth
That's very unfortunate. I have heard of this from other people. There's still regions that believe being poor, is grounds for neglect. When in fact the parents are good people who are struggling in poverty.
My heart goes out to you and your family. ❤
Petition for mandatory mental health brakes for the narrator.
Ty for telling us this. Too many times atrocities are ignored, covered up or just not believed by the general public.
I’m so thankful that you take these seriously and took the time to end the video the way you did. Thank you
His voice is lowkey calm i love it i will be binge watching
This was tragic. Reminds me of what happened with my mom. She was a daycare/pre-school worker for over 18 years and there was a kid 3-4 who had been given to her aunt by authorities after being physically/S abused by her parents. The girl was a total sweetheart but after four months my mom came home saying she had to call CPS because the girl came in with a huge bruise with indents on her face. She got the kid to talk to her and the girl said she had bit her aunt while angry and her aunt decided she should know what she felt and bit the girl on her face as punishment. My mom moved to being an autistic focus nanny after that and only knew the girl got put in foster care. That was nearly 20 years ago and my mom still talks about it, it was the last experience she had working daycare and still haunts her.
I'm a banker and see quite a bit of elder financial abuse or spouse abuse in financial control, but I don't think I could handle seeing what she saw.
My mom was placed in a group home at 13 at her parents’ request. My mom wasn’t on drugs as reported, and did really well for the short time she was there, getting into an alternative school where she finally excelled. Most likely what was happening was my mom being undiagnosed with ADHD, likely autism (she tics every box of both for common behaviors in women diagnosed later in life, and it being 73, these often weren’t even considered for girls), and was absolutely very neglected.
I was made a ward of the state by my abusive parental unit when I was 9. Unfortunately, the family court judge was an idiot and sent me back to live with her, where I was smacked around and called everything but my name for another 7 years.
First DHS worker was utterly useless, as she just sat and gossiped and drank coffee with my abuser, never even talked to me or asked questions. She ended up being fired after I went in front of a family court judge and begged to be taken out of the home. Even when the judge (a nasty, hateful old fart) threatened to place me in the worst facility in the state, I told him it couldn't be worse than what I'd been going through up until then. He looked like I'd slapped him. That's when I threw the worker under the bus and spilled *all* the beans on how she failed at her job.
Second worker was nice, but she ended up quitting after her husband passed. Can't fault her for that.
Third worker was a bulldog, and he advocated for me as hard as possible, fighting against the stories of the narcissistic abusive parental unit who lied about me to anyone who'd listen.
I found out years after I turned 18 that DHS had a *thick* file on my household, and they had labeled the parental unit as an unfit parent, yet it was the supervisors and family court judges who made certain I stayed in that situation.
Don't even get me started on the shelter and group home situations. It was like being taken from a house fire and thrown into a cesspit.
the one with the disgusting house makes me feel bad. i feel like the husband had to know. she needed help, both of them needed help, badly. i feel awful for the parents and the children.
And unfortunately teens can be forced to be sex workers and the system will arrest and punish them instead of helping them
“We call it baby dipping” HOLD ON ITS A THING THAT HAPPENS OFTEN ENOUGH TO GET ITS OWN NAME?!?!?!?
Yes , according to some sources, it was common in China during the 1 child policy
My mum worked in the UK version of cps for years. I am sure she saw some terrible stuff. All I know is she had to sometimes go out with the police to remove children. The true extent I dont want to know.
So many times it involves a boyfriend of the mother that she is supposed to not allow back home but does. Its sad how common it is.
Sooooooo common
Stories like these are why woodchippers exist.
This is why we need to make people pass a test before they can have kids
the problem with that is how to enforce it, if they're willing to do this stuff to kids they're absolutely willing to just ignore any test requirements
This video was sad and heartbreaking! It was very well done and I liked the script on the screen! 😢
I didn't even finish training before I left for nursing. I would have been in prison from harming a parent.
Wow you wanted to be cps? Why? They are evil they lie, falsify court documents, torture, harassment, trespass, abuse, neglect children take innocent families and destroy them just because you think it's funny. When it comes to serious cases you ignore them. And on the slight chance that you would take on a serious case it makes people wonder how much of it is it a lie and how much of it is truth. Defund CPS save the children.
Why would you harm a parent when you're in the wrong, cps workers harass, trespass, and kidnap or at least attempted kidnap and they lie,. They will lie to the court and falsified court documents and even in a serious case nobody will know what they are saying is true or a lie especially when they have no evidence. Cps is joke. They abuse children. Save the children Defund CPS.
Oh my God that's so awful to say why on Earth would you want to hurt a parent? CPS is the one in the wrong, they will harass you torment you kidnap your children and they get away with this because they lie that's all they do is lie they will falsify court documents. They do not care about the children. And the children that really need their care they ignore. On the slight chance they might take a serious case you really have to wonder what is true what are they lying about.
I had a friend who worked for CPS, and while they couldn't go into details, she told me that she'd seen houses that weren't fit for a goldfish, much less children, and nothing was done.
I work with families with kids 0-3 that are sometimes connected to cps. I once had a family with 11 children, ages 16 to 1. They were living in 2 tents in a RV park, which cps said was fine because all their base needs were met. These children were so dirty and skinny, it made me so angry that the state wouldn't take them. Less than a week before the family fled the state, I went to visit and the 3 year old had second and third degree burns on his face, neck, and chest, which the mom said he got when another one of the boys who was 4 melted a plastic bottle in the fire pit and the wind caught the molten plastic, hitting the 3 year old. They did not take him to the hospital. Me and my coworker cleaned his wounds and tried our best to talk to the parents without screaming. I sobbed on my way home and made a new cps report on them, which cps decided was unfounded and there were no safety issues which would require the children to be removed. Like I said they fled shortly after and I think about them a lot. I hope those children and babies are as okay as they can be.
Story 3: Not a CPS worker, but can confirm that the people who have the authority to be making decisions are often NOT the ones who should be making decisions regarding the safety of youth. Had a CPS worker tell me "We'll make sure you'll be able to see your father after this" around the age of 8, right after I was in some sorta waiting room. The context? I just got done being interrogated by police after reporting that my sperm donor *touched* me, the interrogation was so that my Mom could try getting his parental rights stripped from him. I don't think I ever felt that sort of fear before or since. Like why tf would I still want to see the man who diddled me multiple times?
Welp, being a foster sister, this hurts
I was a run away, stole cars and pick pocketed, ended up in a closed group home for troubled teens. There was a girl named Nicky who had been systematically SAd by her dad and other men and it had messed her up mentally completely. She had the most extensive scaring from self inflicted injuries I had ever seen and called herself her “daddy’s wife”. Sometimes you’d get a glimpse of her real personality behind all the mental anguish. One day I was in an adjacent building with my caseworker when a call came that I couldn’t come back to the unit and to stay put until further notice. Police and ambulance showed up. Waited about two hours, then got the call that I should return to my room, pack my stuff as I was being relocated. Walked back into the main building and police was everywhere. It stank of blood and
excrement, there was blood everywhere. Apparently Nicky had fashioned some sort of knife, slit her belly open and pulled her own guts out. There were bloody hand prints at the walls….I don’t know if she survived.she was a sweet girl who had her life taken away by some sick bastards.
the kid from story 7 that kept stealing cars is just funny. like your 9 years old and know how to steal cars and presumably drive them??? honestly you deserve the car at this rate
"these were white people so matting their hair is hard"
me looking at my daughter whos hair i brushed an hour ago: "seriously, how do you keep doing that?"
Oh. Good. I'm not the only one who has that issue.
My niece had a chronic problem with matting hair. Mine also matts within a couple of days but mine is curly.
Cps never does their job properly, R.I,P Gabriel Hernandez !
His mom got sliced up in prison. A brief moment compared to what she put that sweet boy through.
This guy is awesome, not only because he’s one of the only Reddit RUclipsrs that actually have a voice but also because he cares about the topics and subjects involved in every. single. video. Very cool Canadian spark man. For real though this video killed me, I really should stop watching this kinda stuff.
My cousin is adopted. She was removed from her mother at age three after she presented to the emergency room of the local children’s hospital. She told a nurse how her Mother’s boyfriend “put a sock on his sausage and put it in my cookie.”
The best thing my Mom ever did for me is let my grandparents raise me as a child during her years as a drug user.
Good choice on her part.
I am glad you received a good up bring. It is very difficult, to be a parent who deeply loves their child, but knows they simply aren't well enough to care for them, to let go and give them up to family who can properly raise them. That takes a hellofalot of courage to admit that to herself and her parents, and have you raised in safety and a good home.
Take care ❤️
17:15 imagine getting raped, telling the people are SUPPOSED to help you, and have them telling you that you’re a slut from something you didn’t ask for and couldn’t control. This is sickening and I hope the cops lost their jobs after that
The "At least I got a man" crowd pisses me off, particularly. Can easily be interchanged with "At least I got a girl," so don't get your panties in a bunch.
The ones where cos just say o well they are old enough to protect their younger siblings or learn to watch out for themselves is insane it’s wrong
I used to be able to listen to these angrily before i became a mother. Now I'm just crying.
8:30 Not even a referral, MULTIPLE referrals. To make that kinda decision with a kid should at a bare minimum require a small panel to decide, because how you choose to evaluate those actions in regards to the rest of their life is far to important.
I think you should do a video on stories from parents or caregivers from kids on CPS or DCS. Why there kids were taken how hard it was for them to get back. Cuz I have quite a few stories for you.
I honestly don't think i could mentally handle being a CPS worker. Especially priority one workers. I remember watching a documentary about Gabriel Fernandez, and it still haunts me and makes me feel sick to this day. I was so angry at the few workers who got fired or reprimanded for trying to go out of their way to report the abuse to their supervisors or get the cops involved. What killed me the most was the one deputy who was called to "scare" the kid for talking about wanting to take his life.
8:30 I was assaulted by a classmate as a child. He scared me but now that I am an adult I hold no ill will towards him. To do something like what he did means her probably learned from someone and that is heartbreaking.
When was that? It could have been his dad or more likely his friends or brother, but if it happend between today and 2010, he could have seen it online on his phone.
@CCC-b1n also just because someone is traumatized, does not give a free pass for them to traumatize others
@kp2223 We were both 7 years old, I do not blame him.
@@meganlouise9007 I get it and I understand Why you feel that way. But that doesn't mean a seven year old can't be dramatized by a different seven year old. And the solution is to get the first traumatized Kid help not let him traumatize other kids.
Ugh the story of the 12 y/o girl being registered... I happened to meet a THREE year old girl who was like that. I also suffered abuse from a young age so I could see how her behavior had developed immediately. Not in the mood to throw the whole depressing story in, but every adult there (a boyfriend's rich relatives' mansion party... not my normal locale, not been to one since) knew this girl was "trouble" and just laughed about it. Didn't want to deal with her. That's how I ended up spending the day with her. I saw her older siblings look at me with fear when I played with her, I could tell she had harmed them, but I was playing with her because her grandmother had asked me to. She kept perving on me and asking me to take my shirt off. She bit me hard and wouldn't let go when I refused to do certain things. (I did not react and pretended it didn't hurt... kids can bite hard, it hurt) She led me to a bathroom that she knew the lock didn't work on to change out of my swimsuit, and intentionally burst the door open to look at me when I changed there.
That was more than 10 years ago and I've tried to find out how she's doing since, but no one I'm willing to talk to has any knowledge. :\ Initially I had been told the mother had already separated from the ex, which everyone collectively blamed I guess as the other children were not affected (?) but I can't say that is reassuring with no other information. :( An evil girl no one wants to deal with already at 3, there's no way she became that way on her own.
that first story actually made my eyes tear up 😭
Your take on 18:00 should be reconsidered, the CPS worker, op AND her younger brother should have been included, since it said that the boyfriend also physically abused op's younger brother
The Story 9 had me legit gasping, just.why
Your respect makes me happy. I subscribed.
How do these acs workers let stuff like this slide & harass ppl who actually take care of & nurture their children! This is so upsetting. If there’s bruising on a child or a child is being sa’d why not remove the child immediately? Why even let these ppl get a chance to harm their children smh! I hear so many times that children are returned back to the homes of abuse where they are then unalived especially in my state. This is disturbing asf!
Because a lot of core the system inherently believes that being poor is Equal to being abusive or neglectful. The hardest kids to get removed are from middle class White families where they generally fly under the radar because they're able to hide their abuse.
CPS and the rest of the system really needs to step up their game. The amount of abuse they're powerless to do anything about is unacceptable.
Because I can guarantee you, Josh Dugger’s sisters wishes he had been removed from their home and not allowed to interact with them, but you would totally let someone like that back into the home, wouldn’t you?
This came to my mind too whenever it was harping on the fact that she was 12 and it was her siblings.
I like your videos, i have them play in the background of me doing normal tasks
"Hey mom let me do my normal tasks" you alright dude, you're obviously not normal (not being normal is not a bad thing tho) who calls them normal tasks
@@HolyNamedEnglish might not be they’re first language
Same
I had been involved with cps one time because my brother SAd me and right now because my mum was making a lot of threats of harm towards me etc and she did harm before, she pulled my ear because I ran away because of a meltdown, i am autistic and etc etc.. She now is okay and caring but if one thing goes wrong she just stops caring and I just want to leave I want to be taken away more than anything and if that cant happen I would do anything just to have her to physically hit me so it can be more obvious.
Story 3: I think the leader of the CPS in that story is entirely to blame for those kids being returned to their abusers or their abusers be allowed to return back to them. It just shows how a toxic work environment can lead to sad situations like that and a complete failing of the system.
Stories like these make me wish their were licenses you had to get in order to be a legal parent. I know that's horrible thinking and that only punishes the people who actually are good people, I just can't think of anything else. So many unwanted kids and it's so disheartening what some go through.
Do one with parent’s stories dealing with the worst workers
I have known cps for a long time. for around 8 years my mom was a foster parent so I have a general idea in how things work. none the less it is tragic what has happened to these poor kids
I have horrible trauma from my bio dad. He mentally abused me and is a reckless driver (recently got into a car crash with him in the car he bought me for when I get my license. The car was totaled.) My mom is starting the process for divorce and he wants to move to Washington with his new girlfriend once the divorce is finalized. My mom signed up for the foster program recently and wants to start fostering kids as we’re out of this situation. She’s an amazing mom. If it weren’t for her my trauma would be 100x worse than it already is. I hope once she starts fostering she can be that safe person for even more kids.
A little context for the car thing: he was in my grandmas inheritance. He’s been buying me and my mom stuff in hopes that we won’t leave him. Now that he’s realized the divorce is inevitable, he’s gonna give us half of the final inheritance check because in my state the Wife automatically gets half in a divorce. He’s now just doing everything he can to make our view of him better, even admitting to unintentionally abusing us (specifically me), before the divorce.
My mam is a foster carer and I heard my fair share, granted nowhere near this scale but it's just as heart breaking. We had a 9 yr old kick up a sh*t storm when he didn't get his way (I had a heavy lock thrown at me and thankfully missed), one 15yr lass was a drug user and we had police come out every night because she went awol. Another waved a knife at my mam's neighbors because they were fighting and she ABSOLUTELY HAD to be involved. But the worst was a 15yr boy who owed money to the estates ahole and the ahole brought a gang of lads to my mam's front door- luckily nothing happened and she had cameras, even more so she knew the aholes mother and he stopped coming around after that.
the first grader having to get his siblings up and dressed in time for school when he needs help getting himself ready for school, the fact that the parents don’t even get themselves up to get their kids ready for school is mind boggling, the first grader is gonna grow up WAY too fast
Kinda sad how many of these are "mother's boyfriend"
It’s very common and to make things worse it still plays into the negative stereotypes of fathers trying to gain custody. Those mothers become reliant on resources and emotional support that they sacrifice kids to not feel alone.
Judges are bound by the laws on the books in their jurisdictions. They can get in serious trouble for going rogue (normally, political moves seem to be a gray area) I've seen many court proceedings where the judge expressed frustration with the ruling they would have to give knowing it probably wasn't the right call but we're bound by the law.
Exactly
As someone who once went through the foster care care system and spent a month with a very nice Christian family, I remember always thinking my life was the worst it could ever be. Feeling so unwanted, sick to my stomach and wishing I died after everything that happened; after this video, I can't ever in good conscience think what I went through was that bad.
Story 13: Maybe I’m just extremely numb and desensitized and my love for cooking is gone anyways.
This all is horrific and agonizingly painful to think about.
But a lot of problems need to be changed and fixed, so we should always keep these stories in mind.
Thank you for not using the wingman game again
What is this game?
@@b.f.2461 idk, but its better than the one game that he’s been using
My friend should have had CPS called on his dad when he was a child. After his mom passed from cancer, his dad checked out.
Growing up was like the military couple story sans the feces luckily. But trash, clothes, junk everywhere And only a walking path. Only place with old food was the kitchen, with flies everywhere. CPS had visited and said it was okay as long as there were "paths to an exit in case of a fire". I was SAed but that wasn't my mom's fault. Things didn't get really bad with my mom until a few years after that when I was 8 or 9
The legal system is a joke
Narrator, I hope you are okay after having to read that. Hugs
Based on documentaries ive seen, CPS workers dont really think anything is that bad.
Frankly I still have some level of resentment for the DCF (department of children and families). I was horribly abused and neglected as a kid. I was never beaten, but I was starved, was isolated to an extreme to the point I have delayed social development, was locked in my filthy room all the time, I was only allowed to shower once a week and brush my teeth maybe once a day (now I need lots of dental work), I had to poop in the backyard, I got yelled at for trying to change my sheets and even underwear "too often" (how I don't have a horrible infection from that is beyond me), and I was allowed to have several seizures a day that once lead to me falling off a chair and breaking two teeth, which were left to rot for four years. I was extremely underweight with gross greasy hair and heavy dandruff. I probably smelled horrible. At the age of 18, I was kicked out and my maternal grandparents took me in, and later I moved in with my mom (whom I had not seen for about 5 years due to my biological father screwing her out of visitation rights). My grandmother called DCF, and despite this case involving multiple felonies they refused to investigate saying "I was safe now" despite having multiple mental and physical health problems. I was underweight, malnourished, had extreme PTSD, epilepsy, and rotten and broken teeth. But they didn't seem to care. Now I live with my mom and my stepfather, who is now my dad. I got medical care, a job, I'm in college, but man did it make me upset that I was basically just tossed aside again. Btw this house was full of junk from my biological father's girlfriend hoarding, including many exotic pets. There was 3 pantries full of food and a deep freezer that was stuffed, so its not like I was just in a poor home that couldn't afford to feed me. I still think about the animals in that house because they were mistreated too and it wouldn't surprise me if many of them are now dead from neglect.