What is the worst case of double standards you've seen?
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My mother always told me that if I was going to hit a man be prepared for the consequences of my actions. I never grew up thinking that I could do whatever I wanted to a guy and get away with it because I was a girl.
sad thing is, you probably could...
Same.
Good.
When it comes to things like hurting children women can do anything a man could do to them, but they're more likely to get away with it because they are women. Sexism isn't just an issue with women trying to do 'guy' things it's also guys trying to do 'women' things and until both are addressed we aren't going places.
I mean seriously how could a lady be a breadwinner if strangers won't leave the man alone for just looking after his kids.
Right. I don't feel bad for the male nurse, I feel bad that people don't realise they should be diligent with a female nurse as well (not the specific one in the story but female nurses in general).
I’m going to be honest, treating a vasectomy and a hysterectomy as remotely the same thing is disingenuous, but that said, it still should be possible for the hospital to draft out a legal document precluding the poster from suing them for performing a hysterectomy on them. Just let the lady have it so she can stop dealing with endometriosis, if she regrets it then that’s too damn bad, she’s a grown ass woman and can make that decision.
I was going to comment the same thing until I saw your comment. Removing ovaries or the uterus can wreak havoc on the body and can throw your hormones out of balance, while a vasectomy doesn't. A better comparison would be removing ovaries vs removing testicles (both would significantly reduce the body's ability to produce endogenous hormones). That said, the REASON they won't do the procedure, saying "but what if you want kids in the future?" is insane.
A hysterectomy is akin to physical castration - you're physically removing the gonads. A vasectomy is akin to having the fallopian tubes tied/cut.
The equivalent would be a double orchidectomy
I think the reason it’s seen as a double standard is that the doctors refuse to perform the operation because of the loss of ability to become pregnant alone, not because of the other health risks.
Yeah, a vasectomy is a pretty minor outpatient procedure. It is reversible and carries fewer risks than a hysterectomy.
I'm neurodivergent, so if I like anything, it's considered cringe or wrong. My mom, who is considered "normal", will sing Disney songs to herself and it will be considered cute. I sing Disney songs to myself and people ask if I've taken my meds, like it's a symptom of something crazy. WTH? Why is it wrong for me to like something just because my brain is wired differently?
I assume you are Male which is the problem, not your brain being wired differently, just people being stupid and assigning male/female characteristics to things that aren't. Have fun with your singing, unless you sound like a tortured cat, then have fun with your singing far away from me.
🤦
your singing might just be bad lol, sorry
@@asparagusoffice No, I've had years of choir and perfect pitch!
By law forcing a man to penetrate is considered SA, not R. Because of this definition, R on men is 13% of cases of R, while CDC studies have shown if you include forced to penetrate in R it's ~50%. And this artificial discrepancy is used by policy makers to exclude male victims from recourses, punish women perpetrators less, and much much more.
Zero tolerance policy with fighting is a terrible policy. It punishes victims who defend themselves. It also makes fights far more violent. Kids think "if I'm going to be automatically suspended no matter what, then I'm discouraged from holding back"
exactly. it is 100% pure logic to traumatize or disable your abuser for that reason
A story of hypocrisy I have:
I am in elementary school, and I see my friend in line (we walked to lunch in single file lines). I cut in line to walk with him, when a girl comes and tells me off for cutting, and won’t leave me alone until I got to the back of the line. I do, and proceed to watch as she cuts the line to walk with her friends.
I know, not very serious, but still it kinda counts
You're a kid. Go play outside 😭
@@Tisbilly He probably means he WAS in elementary school, and isn’t in them right now
Yeah man this happened a long time ago I just remembered it as I was trying to think of anything had ever happened to me and was like. Oh yeah. Forgot about that
Mistyped meant to say WAS in elementary
@@Tisbillyan elementary school student wouldnt be able to write that
Not sure if it’s legitimately a double standard situation, but I’ve always considered it one. In high school, I found myself in a stalker scenario with a boy I wanted nothing to do with. At first it was just bumping into me in the hallway to chat, finding me in the courtyard before class. But when he asked me out and I rejected him very politely, he just started appearing everywhere. He’d be outside all my classes, standing outside the restroom when I’d go, he’d watch me like a hawk. It creeped me out so I asked him one day in a very full courtyard if he could please give me some space. He replied that he didn’t mean to bother me and I thought that was that. Next day, an unfamiliar car shows up on my street and camps out in front of my house. It comes back for days. Now, I’m not claiming that the driver was this boy. But I’m stating that given my situation with the boy, that is where my mind settled. So when I got to school the following week and this guy was still watching me like a hawk and actually backed me up into a corner in an empty classroom to tower over me and ask me why I was avoiding him, I decided to seek help. I told a female guidance counselor the issue, explained that this boy was making me very uncomfortable and that I had addressed my feelings twice to him. She listened, then asked for his name and told me “I’ll be right back.” She returned with the boy. First thing he did when he sat down was pull my chair closer. I moved my chair back. Guidance counselor said “(boy’s name) wanted to see you.” And I replied, “I just explained to you that his presence is making me uncomfortable and you brought him here. Why?” GC replied “He wanted a chance to spend time with you and clear the air.” Boy smiled and said “You keep making me chase you.” GC then smiled at him and said “I’ll let you two have the room.” And she actually f-ing left! She did not come back. And the boy did not let me leave the room. He just kept asking me why I wouldn’t go out with him, the whole time making moves that looked innocent but felt so violating. There I was tense as hell in my chair, backpack in front of my body, so uncomfortable, and his hand would brush my knee, or he’d grip the chair back, or his leg would brush against mine. Finally, the door opened and some other lady said “bell’s about to ring” and told us to go. The boy left and I just sat there in raging silence. When I left I passed by an open door to what I guess was a lounge and could hear the guidance counselor telling everyone about how she’d just felt so bad for the “misunderstood boy.”
Guess who was waiting for me when I left the guidance office?!
He was literally stalking you and she decided leaving you alone in a room with him was a great idea...
@@Ruby...X She was a joke of guidance counselor. And clearly a dangerously incompetent one as well. That was the one and only time I went to the guidance office at that school.
I would have forewent guidance and immediately called the police. Fuck school counsellors, they're all incompetent.
It's ridiculously hard for women to get a hysterectomy. When I found a specialist who suggested one right away for my severe endometriosis I was over the moon. I didn't even have to ask. It made a massive difference in my quality of life. Now any time I meet someone who needs/wants one I immediately give them his information.
I a male and I went to the dermatologist earlier and she asked me a bunch of the most ridiculous being have you had a hysterectomy to my face my grandpa just burst out laughing. They also asked if I had been exposed to radiation at least 5 times. Guess they never know😂
@@loffafm My surgery was several years ago at this point but even doctors who already know about it still ask me the date of my last period. They get so used to asking the same questions over and over that it becomes force of habit.
8:44 You are just perpetuating the double standard. If he can't take it, he shouldn't dish it. It doesn't matter if OP just replaced the words, IT'S STILL NOT OKAY FROM EITHER SIDE!
Exactly what I was thinking
When I was pregnant with my kid I was talking to my dr about the birthing plan and all that. We was almost finished with the appointment which we had to make because I was being induced a few days after and she got a very uncomftorbal look on her face. She had to ask me if I wanted to get my tubes tied. I was one month shy of turning 30 when I had my kid. I told her no and she relaxed instantly. When I asked if she was ok I was told that she had to ask and because of my age and the fact the my kid was my first that the hospital and my insurance would say no even if I had my partner's permission. I don't know who gave her the biggest wtf look me or him. He, being in shock, porcided to ask why they would even need his permission. He was more angry then I was about that one.
Can I say, I love the first story that the brothers are willing to help each other?
the favorite being sympathetic to the spare always tugs on my human spirit
My school had uniforms. All the girls wore skirts. And there were rules on lengths no biggie in theory but this caused so much hypocrisy. As they would have to measure skirts to punish people but not everyone was punished equally. If you were shorter but a bit wider less likely you will have a skirt that will fit you in any size so you either will risk it falling off all the time or just always get detention which happened to one of my friends. Also male teachers would measure girls more often if they were pretty. And I saw some of them looking up the skirts as they were going up the stairs as well. So many creeps at this school. Also any girl who was louder and more prominent in the school were more likely to get the skirt measured. And if you don’t think this does not get any worse the school was also racist and I noticed the non white girls also got measured way more. Luckily I only was ever measured once as I was white, the skirts naturally fit my body well enough and I kept my head down in class. But it was definitely unfair treatment.
I think they recently loosened up their uniform rules but I don’t know much. There was a very controversial skirt change though that many protested as it made the skirt fit even less bodies but it did add actual pockets at least.
Really disgusting story
Also for a bit more context and hypocrisy. Guys also had strict rules when it came to hair length. It could not go past the ears. They also all had to be clean shaven unless they had a religious exemption which only one guy i know of had. So both guys and girls were in theory under strict rules. But guys got challenged way less and could get away with way more. I onlyever saw like 2 teachers and one of the middle school deans ever try to enforce those rules. So guys could slip by a lot easier and go against the uniform rules (as long as they were not too egregious) while girls constantly had the treat of an index card held up to their leg for just a centimeter too short. They did recently get rid of those rules though which i do agree with but the skirt rules I think are still there.
The one thing that girls had that guys did not, wad that pants were technically and option for girls. But with how conservative a lot of the school is, and as it was a new option that many did not know they could do, or threat of being picked on and a bunch of other mini cultural reasons not many did this. It was picking up more steam when I left which is good, but the thing about the pants is that when the girls wore the pants they did not need to wear a belt like the guys. Which is a bit unfair in my book. Like yeah i know girls need belts less, but those are snazy belts if my parents allowed me to wear the pants, I would have begged them to get me the belt as well.
Oh yeah I was waiting for 'racism' to surface in the statement... (YAWN)
@@creightonjason Um yeah racism was a huge problem at my school. Like cry politics and act like I'm some kinda a stupid dumb liberal as much as you want there were full on protests about how bad it got. It was a widespread issue at that school that goes way deeper than skirts. Like there was genuine racism and double standards at the school you were not here so you don't know.
One double standard I experienced was I had fights in school. I hit a guy back and I got an in school suspension. a girl back and I nearly got expelled and I got arrested. The worst part is that the girl only got a stern talking to even though she hit me first.
In middle school I got constantly slapped in the ass by some girls. I tried to do report them, but the dean of discipline did absolutely nothing, but when I did the same to fight back once, I almost got expelled and what the dean decided on was to give me Saturday detention for the rest of the year. It was October.
saturday detention alone is criminal
That racking story is just so irritating. You clap, expect a clap back.
That teacher broke the law by committing invasion of privacy
I absolutely hate it when a woman can do one thing and get away scott free, and a man barley does something that they just did and get in massive trouble. Probably hundreds of people have been jailed because some girl said they u know whated her
Edit: It all depends on your local police force, whether or not you are either gender, if they take you seriously. All vicitms need to be taken seriously. All i am trying to say, is that in a majority of situations, whether it is something minor or serious, people will often go to the female first for the story
There are more untested rape kits than there are guys convicted of rape who never touched the woman. Rape has one of the absolute lowest conviction rates of any crime. Successful defense attorneys openly discuss how effective the “sluts“ or “nuts“ strategy is against any rape charges. They say juries are always ready and willing to completely discredit a woman’s testimony if they perceive her as crazy (i.e. upset, hysterical, confused, delusional, vindictive, angry) or slutty (i.e. promiscuous, too easily persuaded to be alone with someone, open to a one night stand, single with multiple partners, divorced, cheating….all things never considered weighty enough evidence to held against the accused. Yet, for a woman, it incites enough moral judgment against her to question every word she says.
And so in these courtrooms people pretend the reality of a woman who “likes sex” but resisted her rape isn’t truly logical. Or a woman openly expressing hatred towards her rapist is probably not a real victim. And other very dumb things if you apply it to absolutely anything else.
SSSniperwolf, for example.
wayyy over hundreds
absolutely, i almost got arrested because my sa’er decided to turn the tables. *she decided to lie to the police and they believed it, just because she was a woman.*
she is now in prison awaiting trial :D
8:52 Why is it in bad taste? One is homophobic, one is sexist. Don't dish what you can't take. 🤷🏾♂️ If it's all in a joking context, then everything is fair game.
It is also stupid as if the gay guy isn't also a man
My aunt and uncle deal with the whole "we have to talk to your husband first" bull crap a lot. Whenever businesses insist on talking to my uncle when my aunt is the one trying to do business, he just says
"Why do you need me? She's the client, I don't know jack shit." And refuses to talk ti them.
Based uncle
based af
When I was in 6th grade I had a bunch of kids bullying me. They liked kicking and punching me in the nuts, shoving their hand up my pants, insulting me in every way possible, etc. Several times did I start crying because of it. I couldn't get back at them because I was too unathletic.
Neither the principal nor the teachers cared. Why? Because the bullies were in 3rd grade. "They're just playing", they said. One time, I managed to get a kick on one of them. Not even a good kick, I remember damn well hitting him with the bottom of my toes. They go to the principal and now I'm the baddie who hits children. I was even threatened to be kicked for bullying. Yet again, I started crying because not even the principal, who is meant to be the definitive peacemaker, even took me seriously. Just because they were three years younger than me.
So I ended up going to urology for five years until I was told I already recovered from it.
PD: My mother was also a teacher there. I heard her ask the principal on multiple occations to help me, but she did not care.
Coworker (black 36M at the time) and I (white 34M at the time) used to stop at a gas station after work from time to time. He'd get smokes and get carded every time. He hands me some cash and asks me to grab him a pack of smokes, no one asks to see my ID. Literally BS.
I’m a high functioning autistic teen girl. Everything is a double standard for me. It’s okay when the boy/little kid has meltdowns and is autistic. The girl who cries about the same things is “emotional and stupid” and I’m asked why I’m like this.
Luckily most of my teachers are okay with my issues and stuff. It’s just other adults and kids.
Trust me autistic boy melt downs aren't accepted either unless they're the movie kind, as per an autistic friend of mine that is also a boy. And as another autistic person I agree with the "everything is a double standard for me" statement. Sorry if this comes off weird it is 2:30 am
@@sciencewithfun2052 at least people believe boys can be autistic. Though we all have hard with disabilities, girls are just less likely to get properly diagnosed
it's still not a fair situation, but autism is technically more rare in girls.
still super obvious to someone with credentials
@@asparagusoffice actually it isn't actually rarer it is because of bias
Story 19, poor girl. Am from Germany as well and it's so unfair they won't remove our uteruses or whatever if we ask for it "because we still might want children" OR, and this one makes me livid, "maybe your husband wants children in the future" YEAH AND 😃 Is HE the one birthing the children!? Doubt it.
It seriously needs to be easier... it's horrible 🤦🏽♀️
I just wanna know what happens when a tube is removed. does the rest of the tissue push in to make up the space, or is the opening just left intact but without the relevant organ?
maybe doctors also don't know and they're afraid to find out
Brain must've fell out when you made your point bout story 13 lol
Fr if you can’t take the heat get out of the kitchen 😂
Yeah, I don’t condone calling ppl names but bro what the heck you literally did the exact same thing everyone else was doing like bro
For someone who is apparently romantically/sexually interested in men, you'd figure he might treat men more nicely than that.
Return banter is 100% justified.
On Uni, I (basic white male) was on a student team with a girl who was according to everyone on campus, less than bright. Our major (engineering) is notoriously famous for the disproportionate amount of guys compared to girls. We applied for the same position with our CVs mentioning the team. The recruitment process was 1 interview with HR and 1 technical interview and then an offer/rejection. I still talk to her and we breezed past the first one, but the questions on the latter were something she was woefully unprepared for, while I received positive feedback (unprompted) from the interviewer. There is a big push from large corporations to promote diversity however. Two weeks after the interview she told me that she got the role and two months later, I received my rejection letter.
8:55 if you're against replacing "man" by "gay", you're part of the problem.
Exactly
well obviously gays aren't men, /s
2:55 Even if it was case of double standard, woman immediately realized she was wrong and she deserves a clap.
Pregnant story: You can absolutely contact cps even when the baby isn’t born yet. To act like it’s not your business is vile
Child support; The line is the father has to press charges for anything to happen…
Dad being questioned; I think it’s sadder that seeing dads doing things active with their kids are rare enough that a dads presence is the exception
Maybe if people stopped accusing every man of being a kiddy diddler, we'd see more fathers spending outdoor time with their children.
dad being questioned - so many people want to be a hero that they end up becoming a sinister mob, tale as old as time
It's rarer because 1. men work more hours and overtime 2. if a dad does spend time with his kids he gets accused of being a kidnapper or pedo 3. in cases of divorce kids overwhelmingly go to the mom and dads are literally not lawfully permitted to see their kids more than the court ordered dates. So no the problem isn't that there aren't that many dads who want to spend time with their kids, the problem is gendered double standards that act as if childcare is solely a woman thing and all men need to be treated as dangerous criminals until proven otherwise
Narrator being soft and pitiful once again. Go to story 13. Dude thinks sexist comments about men are in “good taste” but anything about sexuality is a no no
story 17, i dont think it has anything to do with him being a man, just having kids can be a perfectly fine reason not to date someone
there might be more to it then just what he said but idk
Dude, your commentary on that last story just reeks of the double standards that this video is about. Sure, it was okay for chick to do whatever she wanted to OP but the second he fights back he "went too far"? Yeah, the leg sweep might have taken her out, but I guarantee that had he not given her that final blow, she never would have learned to leave him alone, to "avoid him like the plague" so to speak. Maybe it took losing them teeth for her to learn her lesson
I don't think so man. IRL/in the adult world self defense laws still take proportionate use of force into account, so there are many situations where even if someone harasses or assaults you first, it's legal for you to retaliate in self defense but not to do so in a disproportionate way. Even if it's unintentional, I'd say that something like "gets punched in the face -> responds by knocking them over, punching them in the face, breaking their jaw and knocking out multiple teeth" would probably get you charged in civil court at the very least. That's not double standards, that's just how being responsible about the use of force works. Is it fair that the dude got in trouble for retaliating against long-term bullying? No, but it's also incredibly damaging to the tune of thousands in medical bills and months of recovery to fix a broken jaw and replace missing teeth. You can't just go "oh she was an asshole so she deserves everything she gets". Everyone needs to take responsibility for all of their actions.
BIG thing; The man who said that women get help and are believed directly when they are assaulted - that would be nice. But that's not the case. I think he's got a "the grass is greener on the other side"-view of this whole thing. Because most women aren't believed. Don't get any help. And most are getting called "whores" or "that they wanted it" or "that they are lying". I'm not saying it can't be hard for men, I trust him wholeheartedly in his view of how he was met when he told someone about being abused - and it's disgusting. Nobody should be met that way. But don't ever think that women have it easier. This is not an issue that we should be divided on - men against women, women against men. Because it hurts equally much no matter who you are. This is something that everyone HAVE to be united against. Against *all* sexual abuse.
Yeah, it seems that literally no one is believed. Like society doesn't want to admit just how common assault is, regardless of who the victim and perpetrator are.
@@empressmarowynn That's the truth. And when there finally is one that goes to jail, they only get a few years - if that. Many only get some months, or fucking probation! It's insane! Predators, no matter what gender, do not change. They are and will *always* be a danger to others. If anything, they become *more* dangerous over time. So I really do not understand why it seems like the entire world gives out so fucking low punishments for these assholes.
No one ever believes it. the paradigmatic stance "against" sexual assault applies purity culture horse shit to an extremely cut and dry issue. when someone rapes someone else, in this framing, it's that the perpetrator enacted their sexual desires on the weak, helpless victim and took away their purity. it's got plenty of room for people who hear about it to imagine reasons why it wouldn't happen to them; fucking asinine it is, none of us are safe. a few months ago, I watched a video by ALeviCalledBird where he gave I think the best explanation of it: "Society is against a word, not the thing it represents."
Yeah, I think problems with SA in society CAN be tied to sexism and often are (against men and women), but it's also mostly about society and general and the way people view power, popularity, morality, etc. A lot of the time victims don't get believed bc their abuser has some sort of power or is likeable therefore people don't believe it because "but how could such a nice/respectable/talented person be evil? you must be lying about being a victim"
So many double standards could be avoided if we REALLY focused on equality. Feminism at its best is supposed to merely balance out the rights of men and women, but radical feminism is basically just the same old sexism but gender reversed.
In general, I really hate how fighting for "equality" has turned into essentially marginalizing the previously dominant group. Bigots are bad, but becoming as bad as them will only make the issue worse. If our society is to truly get better, rights should be 1:1. Treatment should be EXACTLY the same regardless of race, ethnicity, nationality, gender orientation, sexual orientation, etc.
Now, there COULD be exceptions... But those would have to adhere strictly to common sense and even then be limited.
For example, it makes sense for someone to get a harsher punishment for hitting a woman if that woman just so happens to be pregnant since their health is more fragile while they are pregnant, so getting attacked can do more harm than it would to a woman who is not pregnant, and thus it would be reasonable to consider the crime done as being worse and deserving harsher punishment. But I can guarantee you we would still more harshly punish a man for doing so than a woman attacking a pregnant woman, when both should get equally as bad a punishment in that same scenario.
Based beyond belief 🫡
You seem to have missed a cut at the beggining
all these double standards relating to gender remind me of an old bumper sticker I once read: when a man talks dirty to a woman, it's sexual harassment yet when a woman talks dirty to a man it's $2.99/minute
You know it's so ridiculous that all logic goes out the window when boys vs girl comes into play. What about respect in general, does anyone remember the golden rule or who started it 1st. IDK 😐
The divorce court thing is real
My uncle lost _years_ of watching his kids grow up to his ex-wife. They lived in the states, and while everything was going through, she just.....moved herself and my cousins to her home country in Europe. Despite the fact the courts ordered her to give my uncle visitation, the country his ex-wife waa from didn't give a crap about American court orders.
I remember once seeing those cousins when i was like, 7 or 8, and one was a year older than me, the other a toddler. I didn't see them again till the older was like, 16/17. I think that was one of, if not the first time in _years_ my cousins were allowed to see their dad. The younger cousin didn't even know how to speak English, because she never had time to learn english skills in America.
I always feel awful for my uncle who missed out on a vast majority of my cousins childhood because of the double standard and sexism against men.
I feel like this could theoretically get political.. Because, personally, the worst and absolute most blatant case(s) of double standards _I've_ ever seen IS political - with the handling and treatment of people/protesters from each side.
i mean politics in general is probably the most hypocritical thing ever. like 100% of the time each party has some form of what they accuse the other side of doing. it’s so dumb lol
@@1c0nic_player agreed, anyone i've ever met that got into politics too heavily was completely detached from reality. they live and breathe that stuff.
both sides act like fools and sometimes it's nice to watch the sparks fly lol
I remember for the longest time, I got bullied (mainly elementary). The bully was clearly the instigator in all scenarios, if not a very large majority. Reason he wasn’t expelled? He was Afro-Slavic while I’m Filipino and white, but look more white. The principal didn’t want to expel him due to fear of racism. Bro got expelled after I left when he tried to stabbed the principal with a pencil
16:52 oh my god, shut up. Fight your bullies, kids. Do not lend a thought to what's "fair" or "justified," because they certainly aren't when they're busting your shit *for no reason.*
I hate it when people act like women are all nice and men aren't. I hated my mother for many reasons.
1. She never really listened to my biggest interests (which was murder mysteries) but she'll probably be okay with it if it was my brother. (I'm ftm btw).
2. When I got my hair cutted the way I wanted it... I can hear the disappointment/disapproval in her voice when she mentioned on how short it is.
3. Remember when I said she doesn't listens to my interests that much? She also got me make-up when I never said I wanted it or even liked it.
I'm not saying all women are bad, infact there are a lot of amazing women in my family (which just happened to be from my dad's side.)
My parents are divorced and I'm happy my Dad got me, as he feeds us real food (my mom just makes everyone eat fast food).
my mom is very nice somehow, but nobody in her life has ever told her off for her behavior and it shows sometimes.
women everywhere are being poisoned by this mentality that they can do no wrong. sometimes they hurt people, fuck up horribly, and ironically they can't even be blamed for it because they're just that ignorant.
I've been very lucky that I was taken seriously when I reported a coworker for harassment. I wish everyone could be as lucky, cuz eing invalidated really sucks.
Idk if story 12 is a sexist double standard.
A LOT of companies will have both peoplensign off on a change to an account.
If someone gets divorced and never mentions that to the company, they could easily abuse that and make a ton of charges to it, or just completely turn off a service at the other person's home.
I'm 95% sure that it has nothing to do with sexism, but with trying to make sure one person isnt trying to screw the other over.
Just because they called the husband doesnt mean they dont trust the wife.
THAT itself is a double standard.
I remember getting punched in by a bully in middle chool. I got an on-campus suspension, but because the kid who punched me was popular, he *clearly* didn't do anything wrong to warrant punishment.
The lengths both(of the most common) genders have to do to get people to treat them like the other is insane.
The thing about the joint owned bank account might not be sexism. I still have my mom on one of my bank accounts (not for any bad reason it was just created when I was a minor) and I literally can't even do anything as simple as opening another checking account without her authorizing it online or coming with me in person to approve it. So I don't think it's a sexism thing, joint ownership of an account usually means "both people need to approve changes" rather than "either one of them can approve changes"
STOP the threat not tickle it not slow it down dont make it think twice, STOP. THE. THREAT.
In middle school the choir (or any music elective really) got no funding. We had to work the concession stand at sport games and give money out of pocket. The choir was the only team in the school that competed and got trophy’s every single year. But all anyone cared about was sports 🙄
Had no idea that the narrator was so sexist against men. Vasectomy and hysterectomy are definitely different. As for the utilities/bills story, after the number of lawsuits against businesses for modifying and closing accounts without both parties consent, they want to talk to the other party. Not everything is sexism against women. Narrator always seems to have a comment when the double standard goes AGAINST women, no comment for men though. You want a double standard narrator, look at your own video editing.
At my first full-time job, me and a coworker who I became good friends with regularly took care of the part-timers during work. There were three of them, two boys and girl, all in high school but completely unrelated to each other (and no, they never were more than good friends).
No one batted an eye whenever it was us and the boys - certainly not our supervisor, who was the father to one of them. I did make some dumb jokes that were probably offensive too, but I had regularly told they if any of them he had a problem with any of it to let me know and that I'd stop. It only happened once, but I kept my word, which probably helped when the one with the supervisor dad later came to us with actual problems he was dealing with (nothing bad going on in his family, just personal things outside of family, work, or school - and thankfully nothing criminal, just some people being @$$holes to him).
The girl, though, kept drawing a lot of sh^t-talking from the others. Sure, our supervisor and her mom, who was also a coworker, never ceased or even scaled down their defense of us, but the others - all women - just would not believe that a guy in his 20s (me) and one in his 50s (my friend) were not "expecting certain things" from a high school girl. I mean, seriously? No guy - a straight guy at that - can have a perfectly platonic relationship with a young girl? She was never a bad girl, but her mom trusted the two of us to ensure that she never went bad, which she never did. Still, that did nothing to silence those women and their smearing.
The fact that they would not accept that we had a good friendship going (which was undoubtedly why she always wanted to spend time with us rather than them) still irks me. Then again, nearly all of them would end up being brought down in a rather massive lawsuit filed by my friend (a long and whole other story), so maybe this was to be expected from them.
Still, seriously, platonic relationships exist. Let them exist.
8:50 Care to expand on that viewpoint my guy? Sounds like you're pretty ok with double standards to me.
Also 13:30, it is fair. Vasectomies are reversible. still a sucky situation for the OP, but that's not a double-standard.
The one at 8:50 is absolutely a double standard from the speaker but what is 1 more hypocrite in this world?
People could easily misremember and overblow a situation. It could be the case that he was a lot ruder to him than vice-versa... although, low-key, the fact that someone was allowed to make a barrage of offensive comments and no-one thought twice implies a subtle double standard.
As soon as the OP said "racking," I knew it had to be Texas....and what he meant, lol!
My own personal one is from my highschool years. I'd see straight couples trading spit and groping in the halls. It grossed me out because I hate PDA, but no one ever got more than a stern look from teachers. When I started dating another girl and we would share a peck on the lips before parting ways? Teachers and students alike glared at us and wanted us expelled.
Another was just my whole childhood. Grew up the only girl with brothers. They made messes, they ran around town with their friends, they had no chores. I was expected to clean up after them, and if I tried to step out the door without clear permission first I got chewed out. Also always had to contribute to bills and such, whereas all the money my brothers made they kept.
12:00 Yes, being a single father with full custody was both a green and red flag to different women. One said she was afraid to marry me cause if we had kids, she might lose them to me if we divorced. Other women were fine with it like they found the golden snitch of a good guy.
I can't blame the one who was afraid of losing a court battle or what have you. I have those same fears as a man myself on top of the fear of going on a database just because I looked funny or wasn't up to a girl's standards. That's what happens when you have a revenge system instead of a justice system...
@@BlooMonkiMan Well, for women they assume they automatically get the kids, so if a man has his kids, they know hes steady and rock solid above and beyond most men or else he wouldnt have gotten the kids. So the woman, who probably know they arent the most stable of adults, would lose out in a custody battle when the past was dredged up would be warry of taking that plunge with a good guy. BTW, the woman I was referring to, the last time I saw her she was being pulled over and arrested for a DUI. I got cop blocked.
I remember having a substitute teacher in grade... (one? two?) who believed that only boys misbehaved, and therefore only boys were subjected to a "three strike" system for any wrongdoing (three = written up for detention with main teacher the next day)
If you buy a cake, and don't eat it. You've wasted your money.
2:06
I'd have one of my parents/siblings text me something *wildly* concerning.
Like something about a grandparent dying.
We'll see if she kept doing that.
Story 3: gee, I never would've guessed that she'd be terrible at taching!
All it takes for a woman to be believed is to cry. It's ridiculous how women can absolutely destroy a man's reputation on false charges and face no repressions when. They are found put
When our oldest kid was a toddler, my wife and I agreed to both work three days a week, and put our kid in child care for the one day we both worked. I worked in a team of six people, and I was the only male and the only part-timer. Two of the women in the team also had children. One of them outsourced her childcare to her parents, and the other outsourced it to her boyfriend who couldn't work. The first would roll her eyes as she told us of the latest dumb boomer thing her parents did; the other usually spent half an hour a day on the phone arguing with her daughters about something, but also got angry at her boyfriend if he tried to discipline her daughters. But I was the one who got moved out of the team, because they didn't want part-timers.
At the same time, my wife successfully supervised a team because she knew how to delegate and manage. Her problem was that her boss didn't like part-timers either. So he kept loading her with extra jobs until she had a bigger workload than a full-timer would have. And then, when she struggled to finish everything, her boss went to his boss to complain, and she was moved out of her position...to make way for one his mates. Within six months most of the team had transferred out of the team because the new supervisor was useless.
Vasectomy is reversible
doctors are so incompetent nowadays they can't even dig another hole to the womb, smh
Ooh! So Recently a girl at my school painted a sign for our garden. It had a Bible verse on it. Our principal said we could not keep it up because it was “offensive” and “not educational”. The girl was not even given the chance to keep her work. But our principal has no problem with teachers having Pride flags in their rooms. That’s offensive. That’s not educational. Keep in mind I live in a small town in the south with like 99% God a fearing Southern Baptists.
I have been in a child custody/support situation since 2009. It will end in 2027. While I was married to my (now deceased) second husband and something would go down r/e ex, hubby would say, “I’m not getting involved in this.” and I would say, “Please don’t, I wouldn’t want you involved in this, I wouldn’t want anyone I cared about involved in this, I wish there was some way I could get out of being involved in this!”. It’s too easy for the truth and lies to look the same from outside. I’m sure ex’s second wife is 100% convinced of how horrible I am, and of course everyone around me has heard the dirt on ex. Now, I’d say I’m telling a lot more of the truth than he is, but only the two of us really know what all has gone down.
Russia is not allowed to participate in Olympics, Israel is allowed, even though they are committing genocide.
How west treats west and east differently, white and coloured differently, is the Worst case of double standards.
That's a cute claim but China is also committing a genocide as well as occupying another country (Hong Kong) but no one cares because the news is years old therefore it's vanished from everyone's minds. Turkey also gets to compete despite the fact that the Armenian genocide has been ongoing for decades now.
So no there's no double standards about skin color and even if there were, Israel is a mixed race country where the majority of the people who live there are Arabs and MENA Jews, not to mention how Ashkenazi (European) Jews don't get white privilege the same way Europeans do and have been considered non-Europeans for centuries and treated accordingly. So you can't even claim it's a white vs brown thing bc Israel is not a "white" country 😂
story 15: sorry dude, but it’s not the case. my sister has endured her scumbag ex lying in court, threatening officers, refusing to pay a cent in support, and evading every possible penalty for nonpayment.
the judges can’t force payments and unless the person is violent or criminal they won’t do something. it’s not about gender, it’s pure inaction
And that's why you have your phone locked.
"I don't date men, but"
I'm fairly tan with dark hair and eyes, my Dad very pale blue eyes, pretty pale skin and medium brown hair- we always got looks when just the two of us went out together.
They never said anything but I noticed the looks
My two older brothers look like my dad- so people don't even believe we are siblings: awkwardly think we are dating when with the one closer in age 😅
My mom- who I look like didn't ever get any of those looks, even with my mom and not me
If a drug test is positive during delivery, CPS will take the baby away. So here's hoping the cousin got busted.
The last story about the girl bully is 100% believable.
When i was in elementary school i would physically bully these twins.
I was a somewhat short girl and they were huge guys. Like, could be mistaken for high schoolers in the 5th grade huge.
I dont know why i did it and regret it now, but i never once got in trouble for hurting these guys. And if they fought back, they WOULD get in trouble because i was "a sweet little girl and they were big mean guys"
I go to the same highschool as them and we cool now but i feel bad for being such a little shit back then
Chad women here
As of story 19: I do have doubts about the specifics here. OP claims that she's talking about Germany, a fear of doctors fearing being sued and to adhere to a possible change of mind of her husband. That is highly unlikely.
One of these factors _might_ be mentioned, depending on the specific hospital, but the combination of all three? No, not in this day and age, not in Germany. As a matter of fact, it is possible that she has a fossile of a doctor in a very remote and ultra conservative region who would maybe apply factors 2 and 3, but would never think about being sued. In fact, it is even likely possible to sue your doctors for refusing to perform a legal and reasonable medical procedure.
There are limitations on some procedures (like abortion) and some are illegal (like actively assisted medical suicide), but this here, causing the patient pain as long as it is not addressed, borders medical neglect.
I did wonder during that if her unique condition might've complicated surgery enough to make it dangerous. But then it never got brought up. Just a weird case in general.
I’ve seen a few of these and the narrator’s points of view give me a bit of hope in humanity
7:49 They don't care, they are legally required.
Anyone else dead at “that’s rough buddy”?
First time i have heard of racking and i am a native Texan born and raised. lol
Same, but Texas is big, so it literally could be from anywhere
Story 20, he is just so right. It’s so wrong that men get treated like that after being assaulted when a woman would have been showered with sympathy and praise for being strong and working through it. Obviously it is a horrific thing for anybody of any gender to go through, and we should treat it like that, regardless of the gender. The only bit that matters is who was the aggressor and who was the victim.
I would like to say that like rslash you seem to have a bit of a gender bias and may feel women are more entitled to certain attitudes and treatments and as thus very video points out that shouldn't be what you take away from a fair few of these especially when the aggressor was female in a lot of these cases(especially because you called yourself a feminists I'm an egalitarian precisely because most 3rd wave feminists are anything but for equality)
13:40 While unfair that is sadly a natural reflex
Women : Proteccc the ability to have kids and said kids at all cost --> women and children first
Men: Pffshh they are replaceable if need be. (and as before, we dont trust you with kids anyway so have at it)
My last job I had I was a delivery driver and I was the only one that would actually get in trouble if I didn’t have my car topper on so I was the only person who ever had it on and when I left I don’t remember ever seeing another car topper for that business in that town.
the last story is fair and square , SHE did this for A LOT of guys , him fighting back once is evil , i wouldve just said that if the roles reversed you would ve did nothing to me and expelled the other person. AND WHERE THERE ARE WITHNESSES IS NOT A GOOD IDEEA TO DAMN PRETEND UR GIRL IS AN ANGEL
Utilities are a Hassel, like one person may be the owner and you may have combined utilities while moving in for better rates... etc
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The only double standards I’m frustrated by are the narrators! End of the last story if a girl defended herself against a male bully in that manner you’d praise her
yeah this dude has never been a highlight of this channel for me. whenever he's on these types of sensitive questions, his bad takes are barely covered by his wishy-washy tone
@@asparagusoffice It's basically a flip of the coin wether I appreciate the commentary or find it in itself to be some gross double standard. There'll be a horrible story and he won't comment on it but then he'll treat some random abuser like a poor misunderstood innocent bean.. but then psychopaths, who're born that way and rarely become a real threat, don't get the same privilege??
9:22 yup they do this at my school too! we are a more well off school than others in our district but softball always has tons of fundraisers and the coach has had to pay for things out of his pocket before, while football and baseball have full built fields kept well, softball had 2 up until this year, one that was always slightly overgrown. the overgrown one got removed so they were all jampacked into one which sucked, having varsity, jv1, and jv2.
You cannot compare vasectomy to hysterectomy. In one case, you only cut and tie up the carrying passage, the epididymis, and on the other hand, in a hysterectomy, you literally remove your uterus. A better comparison to vasectomy is tubectomy where the fallopian tubes are cut and tied up.
This feels so mean to say but the boat falling in water and driving back to land while assault was being talked about made in laugh so hard
i was in fact sufficiently frustrated by this
A lot of these issues are American society. It’s very different inequalities in Europe. Story 19 is a prime example of the kind of issues here.
I would love if my partner had a child. because I don´t want to have own children ...
I was stabbed in kindergarden with a pen at the top of my head, I didnt even really know her. Next day the teacher wants us to make up and shake hands and she said "ew no hes ugly" this was 15 years ago and I still think about it, and the worst part is all we were told was "she was having problems at home" and the principal was a doormat and she faced 0 repercussions Valery wherever you are fuck you. iirc it was 1st g
rade and this girl would always step on my foot for some reason, told my parents and she called me a snitch then essentially threatened if I told on her again she would step on my foot more. Some context i had a pretty big overbite and was treated very poorly by other kids being called beaver and spongebob was the norm now I'm pretty sure I have undiagnosed severe social anxiety and low self esteem... kinda sta
rted to ramble so I'll end it here have good day or night.
This will piss me off I already know because I hate this kinda of stuff mostly gender double standards 0:13 I’m the same way I stick to a few foods I know will never let me down lol
story 2 THIS THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I MEAN they probably mean well but your not doing anything good 1:44 im gonna have to disagree with you on that part
3:17 nop if this is a crime if op did this he wud be in jail
Story 10 damn she was just trying to kill her baby
8:48 again gonna have to disagree with you if you can talk shit you better be able to take shit back now if what op was saying was just off the hook like really crazy ok I get why he was reported in that case but
9:30 damn that sucks I git nothing else just yeah that sucks for the
HELLOOOOI EVERYONE! how are you today :)
I thought Rigatoni was going to have a different name for his friend stating with an N.
13:30 In the USA, the woman can get the hysterectomy or tubes tied no problem, the men usually had to have at least 4 kids or a wifes approval.
men can get vasectomies no problem in the US. doctors are afraid of denying their patients over here, which is a double-edged sword but nice in this case.
@@asparagusoffice Depends on the state.
What state are you in because I need to move there ASAP xD
Honestly I’d be more worried about a woman possibly taking kids
Honestly hearing all this crap about dads out with their kid especially a daughter I am surprised I didn't get in any trouble when I took my friends then 6yr old daughter to the park while she was busy.
I didn't even hide that she was not my kid I was just watching her. Guess I just don't look like a creep? ...which is a good thing I guess lol
You can have your cake and eat it, if you only have a slice of it. Or if its only a slice, only eat part of it.
Zeno's birthday parties are the worst
3:12 - 3:15
Unless you bake 2 cakes.
I have a story that will probably freak you out that is somewhat related?
my high school was small so it didn't have a lot of extra space, it was also originally a girls school, but nowadays it's mixed sex. Still tho, there's a 4 girls to 1 boy per class.
Long story short, the changing room for PE is shared between genders. I had a class of people that didn't care about this, but 2 years my juniors were having tantrums about it every day. They'd force the guys to change outside the changing room. They're not to blame for how the school operates, and yet they have to be seen by the entire school changing?
I'm not defending the school by any means, but there's only a few guys just put them into a specific corner, they're not gonna do anything.
4 years in that school and I don't think I looked at a single girl changing with any weird intent, and I can guarantee that's the case for all 5 of the guys in my class. Were there jokes about it? well sure but everyone knew which spot is theirs and there was never any problems with it for my class at least. And we were in the "horny teens" age.
I had an hysterectomy at 29
Not like it matters, but have you considered adoption/foster parenting?