“Snapping back” after pregnancy is NOT A THING. Even for those genetically blessed to avoid stretch marks and weight gain, even if you soon look outwardly as you did before conception, your ENTIRE BODY has been altered by the experience-bone density, joints & ligaments, hair growth/loss, not to mention your reproductive organs and mammary glands, BESIDES recovery from C-section, stitches, any of a thousand complications. “You look a bit different so i love you less” is gross in any case, but when the cause is she’s just risked her actual life growing and birthing your child? STFU FOREVERRR
they just mean get skinny.. it’s amazing how people see skinny=healthy.. it just makes women who are skinny feel like they can ignore all the other parts of self care. Our society doesn’t care about the well being of women it cares if they are skinny.
@@bitchywoman my leaving-hospital postpartum weight was actually lower than my pre-pregnancy weight because i was very ill for 3 days after delivery and oh also my son died. I would’ve preferred twice the “baby weight” if i could’ve brought my son home too. This guy doesn’t realize how lucky he is
@@alisaurus4224Thats how my mom was after having my brother. Except she weighed less right before having him than she did right before getting pregnant 😢. He was a healthy baby though at birth.
YES!! my mom never had enough food when she was feeding me as a baby (food insecurity from being poor) and so I didn't grow right as a baby and my growth was stunted all the way until puberty. NURSING PARENTS NEED FOOD!!
YES!!!! I exclusively pumped with oversupply for my first. I expressed anywhere from 75oz-90oz a DAY. The amount of food I had to consume to keep up with my crazy body was RIDICULOUS. Even when I eventually corrected my supply (around 10m) I still consumed about double what I do on average to compensate for the nutrients
Women are told to diet and are b*tched at for fainting, breaking bones, losing teeth, and looking beaten down and exhausted. Crazy concept but uh, womens bodies put all our nutrients into the breastmilk and leave the extra for us. We need constant supply of nutrients. When thats deprived through constant dieting, YOURE GOING TO BE EXHAUSTED AND YOUR BODY IS GOING TO BE WRECKED if you only see your wife as her physical attributes, actually leave. Youre not worth her time. Youre not worth being a father figure. Women are allowed to be fed and nourished. People are allowed to be healthy. If youre more worried about looks to the point youre consciously okay with depriving that nourishment and health from your partner, youre actually sick in the head and you need help. And if youre with someone who will risk your health for their own gain, ditch them. Theyre not worth it.
That's because it is. He feels that cleaning his own vomit is beneath his dignity so he delegates that task to his wife who he doesn't respect because that's supposed to be HER duty, cleaning after him. Obviously, this is nonsensical but he's an abusive warthog that doesn't deserve to be in a relationship. Basically at that point, you're just coddling him.
I can't believe her husband convinced that one lady that 6 months should be enough time to get back into shape, get used to baby, get used to pumping, etc when that's LITERALLY NOT ENOUGH TIME TO MAKE A BABY! Leave him love, you only have one newborn, but between the cooking and cleaning, it sounds like you have two children
The worst is, that one of the children transforms into a grown adult time to time, when he wants intimacy from his partner, and then, going back to complaining about how his wife is not "sexy" anymore.
@@eszteragnesnagy6508 that part is even more insane, cause she even said, she tries to initiate sex, even after how undoubtedly exhausted she is, and HE refuses HER
When my daughter was born, her mom became the most beautiful woman in the world to me. I'm not sure if any physical change could change that. Which reality confuses me when I read stuff like that post. How can two humans be so different? Btw we were only together for a few months and didn't plan on being parents. But obviously we weren't against it either 😅
It takes 9 months to grow a baby, it will take at least 9 months to be back to "normal". The way women are shamed for not looking like they did pre-pregnancy after only like a month is crazy.
We should really stop saying that a woman’s body ever goes back to “normal” after she has a baby. It doesn’t go back to the way it was, it is a huge change that does things that will never repair itself.. what people mean when they say that is go back to being skinny.. and a woman can go back to being skinny but her body is forever different in a million ways. It minimizes the abuse having a child has on a woman’s body and makes people think that it’s way easier and less dangerous then it really is. You can never put it back to what it was before.. people seem to think forcing a woman to have a baby is fine as long as she survives it and it’s just minimizing all of the damage done. That pregnancy pulls calcium from her teeth and her bones, it changes her muscles of her abdomen, it stretches things and she looses the ability to hold in her pee, it fucks with her hormones in a million ways that don’t just level back out. A woman’s brain forever changes after a child is born. Having a kids changes a woman’s body forever.. no woman is better off health wise after bearing a child. When a woman has a baby she is giving up a big chunk of her health and being and her body is self sacrificing itself to make a new person. It is a selfless dangerous act of love.. it shouldn’t be minimized.
Kinda reminds me of when my father called his then wife fat like a month after having his kid. Like bro some people are just so disconnected from reality they will even disparage against someone they are supposed to love and care about. Granted that's not why we don't talk much, that would be the endless calls because he wants something. Typical behavior from kidults.
bro doesn't understand how it works for guys on dating apps. Also if hes only willing to date the youngest of women and hes almost a decade older than most of them, hes severely limiting his pool. I feel like young women nowadays are way less into older men than they used to be due to people on the internet pointing out how they thought it was cool when they were young and being picked by an older guy was an honor, only to realize that older guys specifically looking to date younger women are creeps and have issues.
@@Zectifin someone on the internet told those dudes that men of any age can date barely legal girls, that it's nAtUrAl and that men become a prize with age and when reality proves them wrong they start to attack tinder with their countless accounts. It's funny and sad at the same time.
The postpartum/baby stories have me appreciating my husband so much. I'll be going home and profusely thanking him for making me feel confident and comfortable in my postpartum body, caring for me post-op, and being such a supportive and loving partner and father. I'm a lucky lady. I'm sorry for anyone who deals with sh*t like those women have.
Me too!! With my first, I exclusively pumped (not by choice- nursing just didn't work out.) My husband took over entirely doing night feeds until she was night weaned so that I could focus on pumping. I couldn't imagine having any less than a loving, empathetic, and hardworking husband. I truly cannot believe how lucky I am when I hear those stories
It's sad that the response to men doing what should be expected behavior (and what certainly is the minimum expected of women if the situation was reversed and a man had a 8pd mass removed from his body and a infant to care for in the home) is that women think they should be extremely thankful and go and praise them endlessly for meeting a minimum bar 😢 Yes I'm glad your not in a abusive situation but you shouldn't have to feel thankful to your husband for not being a abusive and negletful partner.
The thing is, it shouldn’t. I mean it’s great that you have an awesome husband and appreciate him but it’s sad that husbands being husbands is something we have to be grateful for and not just expect.
@@shannond1511 I see where you’re coming from, but a relationship where you express appreciation for the little things is a lasting relationship. My husband thanks me for doing expected things, like swapping the laundry to the dryer when he forgets or cleaning the kitchen after he has cooked dinner. It’s important not to take each other for granted.
i feel so lucky to have a partner who actually loves all the stretch marks and cellulite i have. it's crazy how men being assholes about these things has just become the standard and whenever we find one that goes above and beyond that, we feel genuinely blessed to have them. i'm beyond thankful to my fiancé for all the things he's done for me like appreciating my body as it changes over time, but the feminist in my brain is also yelling that we shouldn't praise men for not being assholes. it's a weird feeling to sit with honestly.
My previous ex would go on and on and whine that he needed a side chick and how even if I’m uncomfortable I should let him do it. Of course his name was Kyle.
@@Zectifin what’s worse is that within the first week of dating I found out he was on again and off again with a girl and he just ghosted her so randomly one day when I was with him in the city she was there to and came up to him and they had a big fight like I was the side chick…. And not to mention his ex harassing me saying I can’t date him unless she gives permission because she will wanted to get with him… I wish I ditched that relationship in the first week, I can’t believe I ever got tricked into thinking he was gonna learn and actually treat me as a partner.. he also never showed or washed his hair unless he made me do it for him, he had a disgusting diet of junk food and energy drinks and that’s not even the tip of the iceberg.
The people who insist on this and dont respect boundaries are usually deeply insecure too. If you cave as long as you can get side action too and they see you are very successful getting side action, they freak out and get jealous
He said it himself. He doesn't want to have to consider the side chick's emotions and feelings or respect her as a human, the way he'd have to to have a gf. She's just there to bang.
@@CeeC_230it’s the norm in society. Saying something is bizarre means it’s rare out outside of the box of norm.. there is nothing more mundane and common then men controlling women
I’m 22 and yeah, 28 is pushing it. The highest I usually go for dating is 26 💀 also, most young women who are 18 aren’t interested in a guy who’s almost 30.
It’s creepy when someone who is 25-30+ wants to date an 18-20 year old. I don’t care if it’s “legal” it’s weird someone older and a full grown adult wants to date someone right out of Highschool and is still a teenager. Except when 20 but yeah.
When I started working at 17, my trainer was 22 and had a countdown until I turned 18 so he could ask me out. I turned 20 this month, and I feel a bit icked out at the idea of dating people who are fresh out of highschool.
Men have really been asking women to lower their expectations from the bare minimum (like wanting to be respected and treated like equal humans) while having the most unrealistic expectations in the world.
Fathers have a responsibility to help out, especially when your partner is exhausted. Sleep deprivation is real, and it's a team effort. Being a dad doesn't just mean providing; it means sharing in the good, the bad, and yes the late-night freakin feedings. The whole "side chick" thing is rough to know that some guys think that way. In my view, every relationship requires open communication. If there's dissatisfaction, both partners should talk about it. Cheating is not the answer; it's a coward's way out. Postpartum body comments are totally out of line. Women go through so much during pregnancy and childbirth. My ex-wife's body changed after our kids, but so did mine over the years. It's life. As for the house duties - My friends and I have a simple rule: You make the mess, you clean it up. It's basic respect.
@@trekadouble757 Your view is completely valid. Balancing work, childcare, and household responsibilities can be extremely challenging, especially for single parents or for families where one parent is shouldering the majority of the caregiving responsibilities. Everyone's circumstances are different, and what works for my family might not work for yours. The couple in that Reddit story forgot that communication between partners is crucial in finding a balance that suits both and ensures that neither feels overly burdened.
@@trekadouble757if one person is working full time at a job and one person is working full time as a caregiver.. then how do you expect the kid to be fed at night? Naps here and there don’t make up for months of not sleeping through the night. What your mom did was just asking too much from one person.. but that doesn’t mean that someone who can grab a nap here and there should be the person to do all the night time child care too. That makes one person completely responsible for all care around the clock except for maybe weekends. That is the deal women have always been offered and it isn’t fair. You are just defending the status quo that benefits men but doing it in the name of your single mom. The answer isn’t that your mom shouldn’t have had to do nights at all it’s that your grandmother should have taken half of the night shifts. I get it’s not her kid but if she was a husband that should have been the division of labor for a couple raising a baby.
I was hurting and cringing so hard at that "husband complains I'm not in shape after 6months" that I got a leg cramp. It's insane how this woman doesn't see she's just being taken advantage of, used and unappreciated. I would NEVER go as far as a wife even for a good man because it's just too much, to the point it would take a mental toll on me. She literally sacrificed her health and body to give him a child and all he can think of is how his sex doll-- I mean wife isn't hot enough for him? How it doesn't even cross his mind to appreciate her, help her and support her, as a loving husband would and should? We teach men to take and take, and women to keep giving and then when marriages break down and the divorce rate is 50% + and mostly initiated by women, everyone wonders "why oh why".
It's been asked for many years now, but lemme ask again... Is someone holding these poor couples hostage and forcing them to be together? Genuinely asking
sometimes it's a simple financial force: none of them could pay the other off from the house they bought together and pay the credit for the next 20+ years all by themselves. Or they can't get a job to pay enough to get by as a single mum. And probably a dozen other things we don't know about their lives based on one post where they vented their frustrations off.
@RedstonetemmieGD-real i know you weren’t asking for this explanation, but it’s because you have an objective view of romantic relationships rather than a subjective one
not being able to clean up your own vomit that's literally in the sink wtf like just push the drain open with something and turn the tap on it's not like it's on a fancy carpet that you can't use chemicals on
Exactly. I would have made him clean up his own damn mess & supervised him lol Granted, my husband is an alcoholic (sober now) but cleaning up his nasty puke was something I absolutely refused to do. If he's sick, that's different because after almost 21 years there's bound to be a couple of accidents. Drunk puke? No. Mate, cleaning it up is the consequences of your actions.
@@kerrinbrittain4393 I can't really remember the context of what I was commenting on, but I don't mind cleaning up my partners puke if it's on the carpet or something, drunk or sick or whatever reason. But throwing up in the sink and being too lazy to wash it all down come on man. That's like throwing up in the toilet and refusing to flush. If you're throwing up I'll take care of you but at least do the bare minimum
i dont have a phobia of vomit, but i do get very sick just from seeing and smelling waste and bodily fluids (especially if it's another person's or an animal's). occasionally i have to take my sister's dog out because she's doing a double shift at work and if he poops, i have to look away and hold my breath for as long as i can to clean it up. there've been times i've thrown up from doing the dishes or cleaning out the fridge before because my nose is so sensitive to putrid smells. HOWEVER i've almost always cleaned up my own puke since i've been a teenager. normally it causes me to puke again, but i can sort of "hold it" until i get to a toilet to do it safely. the one time i've left vomit in the sink was when i had a stomach flu and got sick because i tried to eat frosted mini wheats and was too ill to do anything but go back to sleep. i had full intentions of rinsing it when i woke up again, i only didnt do it immediately because i didn't want to throw up again. unfortunately my sister got home before i could and had to deal with it because it was the kitchen sink, which i apologized profusely for. i was extremely sick so she understood but i felt so so bad about it and i still do years later. i cant imagine doing what that guy did to your housemate, let alone your own partner.
@@tymondabrowski12 fr. These men : wah I have to wear a suit to a wedding and girls get to wear dresses Also these men: no showing your ankles during a heat wave harlot! *while running around in shorts and no shirt
When I had my newborn, my ex began permanently sleeping in the lounge room so he could have an entire night sleep. It was just my problem that the baby would wake up every other hour screaming because he had reflux.
i feel so so sad every time i hear about women who's partners treat them badly for their looks changing. it must be heart shattering for someone who you thought loved you to turn like that, so sickening to feel like your value drops when your looks do. it weirdly makes me appreciate the fact that i don't have a nice body. at least i know my boyfriend must actually like me as a person
I’m 11 months postpartum, now. I lost all the weight I gained throughout pregnancy, but obviously it looks different than before. I have a small pooch now. My husband tells me all the time how much he loves my body postpartum and how cute my pooch is. He says he thinks it’s so attractive that I grew and carried his child. 😭♥️ I feel this should be the bare minimum as it’s common sense that a woman’s body changes during and after pregnancy. OBs even suggest waiting 2 years after having a baby to have another one, because it normally takes around 2 years for your body to go back to normal as much as it can. Reading posts from postpartum women like the one in the video is so sad and heart breaking.
Insane to me that the husband thinks she should paint her own nails for him. Is she supposed to sit and listen to her baby crying for 20 minutes while she waits for the nail polish to be dry enough she can touch anything without it coming off?
Also guys need to understand that they’re gf is not gonna cheat on him just cause she wore a dress that showed cleavage, so many guys think that their gf is determined to cheat with the first guy she sees if she wears anything revealing in public and its annoying asf
“Boundary” - refers to what people due to you; “Standard” - refers to what you look in other people for relationships; “Controlling behavior” - refers to you trying to force your standards onto another person.
I put this on to bookend a conversation I was having with my husband about the unreasonable expectations men have for women & how the patriarchy has ruined men, and how lucky I was to meet him. He's always been a very active parent, but when our 2 kids were very small he spent so much time on the floor with them even though it caused him so much pain. He's been disabled since birth and his knees are ruined after a childhood of scooting around on his knees, so he's a full time wheelchair user. But he still did that, because he wanted that time with his children & he knew it was important. I once came home to find him lying on the floor, in front of the sofa & near the TV, with our eldest sitting on him. When I asked what was up, he said "I'm a sofa. Sofas don't talk." (He just asked me to add he was exhausted after a long day of tending to a rambunctious toddler and just wanted to rest! I honestly thought it was hilarious & very sweet he still found a way to veg out while still entertaining our eldest!)
I'm kinda curious about the 2nd post. I'm wondering if his gf is asexual/on the ace spectrum. Even if she isn't ace Op should either talk to her or they should break up. I honestly hate that people will cheat on their partner and then go, "we weren't having enough sex!!" Then say something about it instead of fucking cheating. It's not hard to not cheat.
I mean she was saying she doesn't want it sprung on her, like a lot of people ace or not. it would not put me in the mood and I am very sexually inclined. while off it's not out of the question a normal sex drive is not necessarily being ace, this guy just has a high libido.
I know cheating has always been a thing and is only more notable now due to our access to info, but I feel like it's weird that it isn't taken more seriously. It's such a violation of boundaries and trust yet I hear about it happening to people close to me all the time, especially with younger people. We need to teach people to take commitments more seriously especially when you could hurt someone.
Oh. My. God. My partner's daughter is literally AN ELITE ATHLETE (Very fast amateur runner.) Even being in insane shape beforehand and training pretty much up until delivery it took her about a year to "snap back" to be where she was before the baby. (And that was with a coach, training hard, etc.)
Ah, yes, always the 18-22 range. My ex-partner was 6 years older than me. He was a walking red flag, but I didn't see it at first. He asked me if I was a virgin (I was 19 when we started dating), and when I told him yes, he was like, "Yes, finally, I'm the first one." Now, looking back, I should have checked out there. I'm 28 now, and if I were to date someone, they couldn't be younger than 25. Anything below 25 would feel so weird. Up is a different thing. I wouldn't mind dating older people. (up to 10 years probably.)
These are like that one story where the husband threw out his wife’s food because she didn’t bounce back… even after she told him she needed to eat a certain amount to keep up her milk supply. That op left for her a friends house with the baby.
"Don't have a baby if you don't want your wife to pay attention to it instead of you and if you don't want to pay attention to it" One of the many reasons I don't want kids lmao. I like attention too much
19:05 - My best friend that does weekly karaoke & trivia at bars - who is also a woman - always says, "Be sure to tip your bar staff, because if you don't tip, you're an asshole!" Now I almost never drink alcohol, but when I ask for my usual pint of Dr. Pepper + Grenadine, NO ICE, I pay double the total as a tip. 23:05 - If my SO asked what they should wear in the heat, my answer would be that you don't have to wear anything you don't want to wear or wear anything at all. If it's hot, wear practical clothing. If it's cold, wear practical clothing. Side note: I'd love to do a podcast episode with a vegan just to understand their side and have discussion/debate.
The amount of subs that get ruined by misogynists and incels is astronomical. Unpopular opinions is just becoming men that think they have the right to constantly criticize women.
The only guarantee that comes with the human body is that it WILL change over time. If you can't handle that, then you're not ready for a long-term relationship.
And typically if women are getting tipped more it’s because the customers find them attractive so even in that situation you’re still being objectified and almost looked down it. It’s a lose lose situation
The husband not cleaning up his own vomit kind of reminds me of my ex. While we lived together he could hardly keep a job while i was the one who constantly working almost everday. He would never clean and wouldnt clean up after himself after making messes. Multiple times id spend a whole day when id get it off and clean the whole apartment and hed have friends over either that day orblater in the week and thatyd get drunk and making a mess of the living room (like spilling drinks all over the floor i had just mopped), or he would come home from the bar or from when he would work and just throw his clothes on the floor, leave trash and dishes on the desk or on the floor next to the bed. He wouldnt even clean when he wasnt employed. Hed also go to the bar almost every night while id stay home since i wasnt old enough and id still be at work when hed leave.
13:38 My mother gave birth to her last child 12 years ago and I would describe her the same (ish) way, though I wouldn’t call her curvy. Yet she goes to the gym and eats amazing. Though it is different for everyone, I feel like they (the person writing) would kinda stay the same.
I’m so glad you talked about the boundary thing. I’ve seen so many people say it’s okay to control what your partner wears, when and where they can go out, and who they spend time with because “it’s my boundary” and not seeming to realize that 1) a boundary cannot be forced on someone, if someone doesn’t agree with your boundary then you two are not suited for each other and cannot change anyone to fit what you want and 2) it’s not a boundary if your doing it to just control someone if you have legitimate trauma to make you concerned about something it is your responsibility to get help and better yourself not to just expect your partner to bend their entire life around you forever
Video suggestion: acephobes, it's real and it's also awfully, I am fortunate to have avoided them, but I'm sure I'll meet one sometime soon Also almost used the wrong meet lol
As a man, i hate how some men don't (or pretend not to) understand that "it's not sexist because I'm applying this rule to both of us" doesn't work when the underlying social norm is only applied to one gender. "We both should be judged for showing skin, so it's not sexist" isn't valid because no one cares about men showing a bit of skin.
That boundary language is so weird - I assume that people understand the words they use, so when I hear about someone “enforcing a boundary” that includes someone else’s clothing or what friends their “allowed” to have, all I can think is that they believe their partner is their property
i dont understand how its not common knowledge that your skeleton permanently changes when you give birth, archeologists find old skeletons and know if theyve given birth or not. your body changes PERMANENTLY
The only time should get a say in what your partner wears is when it's highly situationally inappropriate ("No you can't wear sweatpants to my sister's wedding") or when it's flat out offensive ("No you cannot wear a Confederate flag t shirt even ironically")
Its funny that you mention joe jonas, I heard about his divorce bc incels were reposting the article nonstop claiming that his wife filed for divorce bc “he’s shorter than her”, I had no idea why they divorced but I assumed that they were either incompatible emotionally, incompatible romantically, or one was mistreating the other, etc. It was frustrating to read all the incels tweets bc they show how they think at such a childish level where they think the whole reason a years long relationship ended was bc of height and not bc of actual problems that cause relationships to not work
I would like to add that I’m asexual, my boyfriend is high libido and I’m low libido. We’ve been together for two years. We found what works, it definitely helps when your boyfriend is not an asshole 😅 (although I understand that people have needs; but I made it clear to him at the beginning that I’m not super into sex. He just feels that I’m worth more than sex every day)
With the age gap of 22-27 that’s the ages my partner and I were when we met. I was a little freaked out given the gap (though he looked older and I look younger). That being said we’re still together 9 1/2 years later.
In line with selfish behavior otherwise, these men lacking almost entirely in empathy, believe that since their wife's pregnancy was this easy on them... it makes no sense that she isn't back to keeping herself attractive "for them".
the same men who complain about women not "bouncing back" after a pregnancy are the same men who want the mother to take almost complete care of the baby. like how is she supposed to wake up at night to take care of the baby, feed them every 2 hours, constantly try to make them fall asleep, watch the baby's every move.... AND have time to take care of her body? Like my guy if you want your wife to hit the gym and "be hot again" why don't you take the major care of the baby and leave her some time to take care of herself? (ofc women are not obliged to "bounce back" after literally growing a human, their bodies are beautiful and they should be loved and respected by their significant other/family)
7:30 And remember that even if you have the same sex drive before kids, things can change after they're born (and during pregnancy). If nothing else, the exhaustion from taking care of kids can asp any energy you have for sex. "The mind is willing, but the body is exhausted." 23:30 You can communicate that you don't like your partner's clothes, but that partner doesn't have to listen.
The highlight of these videos is how my partner sitting on the other side of the room is alternating between facepalming, shaking his head or his jaw dropping, whenever he hears what these men write. His disbelief is really cute.
I was with my ex for 5 years. When the relationship started, I initiated a lot and wanted to do sexy stuff with him, but as the relationship went on, and more abuse occurred, I backed away. He was really confused because he was a raging narcissist and didn’t think he’d done anything wrong, and he was so manipulative that I also thought it was a problem with me. I went through a time I thought maybe I was just a lesbian, and then even thought I might just be asexual. Then in the last year of our relationship, I think it finally just clicked for me that he was the reason I didn’t want to have sex with him because HE sexually abused me. He pressured me and made me feel like it was something I owed him, and he treated my body like his property that he could touch any time, in any way he wanted. I’m so glad I got out of that relationship and it’s crazy to me that it had to come to him literally cheating on me for me to leave. But it’s been wonderful finding myself again, and having the sexual part of me back. It’s like I’d completely forgotten and become so closed off to that part of myself, disgusted by it even. But now I’m in a new relationship, that’s healthy and lovely, and based on mutual respect and love for eachother, and I couldn’t be happier. Moral of the story, if you are not wanting to have sex with your partner who you previously did want to do that with, it is likely a deeper problem within your relationship, and if your partner is trying to make you feel bad for not wanting to have sex, please just throw them in the trash. They are not worth your time and they do not respect you.
I just wanted to say thank you for advocating for tipped workers. The restaurant I work in recently instituted a 6% tip out for servers. 1% to bartenders, 1% to bussers and 4% to food runners/“pantry” servers. Essentially they’re making the servers pay several other employees while only paying the actual server $2.13/hr. Crazy right!? We had a girl come in the other night just to take a party of 20. Their check total was about $600, so they should’ve left her a little over $100. BUT after telling the manager how wonderful everything was and how great of a job the server did, they left her a total of $13. Her tip out was somewhere around $35, but she had literally only made the $13. The manager made her go to her atm and get cash to pay the restaurant the difference. It’s insane! She literally had to pay to work that day! And this is a huge corporate restaurant doing this kind of crap. It’s absolutely sickening that they can get away with this. I wish I knew what to do to start making some changes in the way restaurant workers get paid.
I feel like at bare minimum we should make it illegal for servers to have to withdraw their own money for the tip share. $0 paychecks are the food service standard.
I obviously don’t advocate for DV but if my husband treated me the way the husband in the six months postpartum story treated his wife I would LUNGE at him so fast. “Yeah six months ago” BITCH WHAT?
the vomit story has me shook like who vomits in the sink or something??? i always go for trashcans or a toilet (at home i have a designated vomit bucket because i have an easily upset stomach lol) rinsing out a bucket or flushing is so much easier than cleaning a sink, maybe im just used to it so i have a clearer head while nauseous but damn. NOT TO MENTION what if the sink is made of acid sensitive material?????
to be completely honest i have only vomited once in the past like 10 yrs and i was so distraught that the first thing i grabbed onto was the sink, so i can see how that could happen, especially since it saves you the Motor Skills of lifting the toilet lid
Most people arent used to puking, so we kinda just puke wherever we think/can get to first (if we even have the chance) and a sink is definitely better to puke in than the floor
one (1) good trait of my shitty abusive ex bf is that he appreciated how cute i used to dress with miniskirts and dresses all the time lol. like his only healthy relationship view was "hey i get to be with you and everyone else only gets to look" and it's not even that healthy cuz it was still possessive. idk basically the bar is so low here
It's wild, my ex became the most beautiful person to me after our baby. Sucks that it didn't work out, but she's a great mom. I thought that was just normal for every guy 😱😡😬
“Snapping back” after pregnancy is NOT A THING. Even for those genetically blessed to avoid stretch marks and weight gain, even if you soon look outwardly as you did before conception, your ENTIRE BODY has been altered by the experience-bone density, joints & ligaments, hair growth/loss, not to mention your reproductive organs and mammary glands, BESIDES recovery from C-section, stitches, any of a thousand complications.
“You look a bit different so i love you less” is gross in any case, but when the cause is she’s just risked her actual life growing and birthing your child? STFU FOREVERRR
they just mean get skinny.. it’s amazing how people see skinny=healthy.. it just makes women who are skinny feel like they can ignore all the other parts of self care. Our society doesn’t care about the well being of women it cares if they are skinny.
@@bitchywoman my leaving-hospital postpartum weight was actually lower than my pre-pregnancy weight because i was very ill for 3 days after delivery and oh also my son died. I would’ve preferred twice the “baby weight” if i could’ve brought my son home too. This guy doesn’t realize how lucky he is
Don't forget postpartum depression and other mental issues that can occur.
@@alisaurus4224Oh my gosh, so sorry for what you went through and will go through for the rest of your life. May your son rest peacefully.
@@alisaurus4224Thats how my mom was after having my brother. Except she weighed less right before having him than she did right before getting pregnant 😢. He was a healthy baby though at birth.
Excuse me, I need to yell about something.
PRODUCING BREAST MILK REQUIRES EXTRA FOOD. LESS FOOD = LESS MILK. 🤦♀️
YES!! my mom never had enough food when she was feeding me as a baby (food insecurity from being poor) and so I didn't grow right as a baby and my growth was stunted all the way until puberty. NURSING PARENTS NEED FOOD!!
YES!!!! I exclusively pumped with oversupply for my first. I expressed anywhere from 75oz-90oz a DAY. The amount of food I had to consume to keep up with my crazy body was RIDICULOUS. Even when I eventually corrected my supply (around 10m) I still consumed about double what I do on average to compensate for the nutrients
I bet the guy would tell her to just switch to formula then, he seems completely unhinged.
Women are told to diet and are b*tched at for fainting, breaking bones, losing teeth, and looking beaten down and exhausted. Crazy concept but uh, womens bodies put all our nutrients into the breastmilk and leave the extra for us. We need constant supply of nutrients. When thats deprived through constant dieting, YOURE GOING TO BE EXHAUSTED AND YOUR BODY IS GOING TO BE WRECKED if you only see your wife as her physical attributes, actually leave. Youre not worth her time. Youre not worth being a father figure. Women are allowed to be fed and nourished. People are allowed to be healthy. If youre more worried about looks to the point youre consciously okay with depriving that nourishment and health from your partner, youre actually sick in the head and you need help. And if youre with someone who will risk your health for their own gain, ditch them. Theyre not worth it.
C'mon people!!!!! Biology class!!!! If there's not enough input, there won't be enough output either. Tf?????????
"I don't know how to clean up my own vomit" feels a lot like weaponized incompetence.
That's because it is. He feels that cleaning his own vomit is beneath his dignity so he delegates that task to his wife who he doesn't respect because that's supposed to be HER duty, cleaning after him. Obviously, this is nonsensical but he's an abusive warthog that doesn't deserve to be in a relationship. Basically at that point, you're just coddling him.
He should be taken to a home for people wjth special needs or he is a lying manipulator. Which do you honestly think it is?
@@AaronHendumanipulator
@@EnzoAzra weaponized incompetence means saying "I don't know how" or "You're just so much better at this" to get out of doing work
I just can't get over the irony of how weak misogynists often are. But then again, misogyny only arises in men who are mentally weak and insecure.
I can't believe her husband convinced that one lady that 6 months should be enough time to get back into shape, get used to baby, get used to pumping, etc when that's LITERALLY NOT ENOUGH TIME TO MAKE A BABY! Leave him love, you only have one newborn, but between the cooking and cleaning, it sounds like you have two children
The worst is, that one of the children transforms into a grown adult time to time, when he wants intimacy from his partner, and then, going back to complaining about how his wife is not "sexy" anymore.
Women are doing charity work dating men this bad on god
@@eszteragnesnagy6508 that part is even more insane, cause she even said, she tries to initiate sex, even after how undoubtedly exhausted she is, and HE refuses HER
When my daughter was born, her mom became the most beautiful woman in the world to me.
I'm not sure if any physical change could change that.
Which reality confuses me when I read stuff like that post. How can two humans be so different?
Btw we were only together for a few months and didn't plan on being parents. But obviously we weren't against it either 😅
@@Nerobyrne lol congratulations! I'm glad you find her beautiful 🥰
It takes 9 months to grow a baby, it will take at least 9 months to be back to "normal". The way women are shamed for not looking like they did pre-pregnancy after only like a month is crazy.
or just don't have kids.
@@ZectifinI second this! If you never give birth, you'll never want your body to go back to the way it once was lol
We should really stop saying that a woman’s body ever goes back to “normal” after she has a baby. It doesn’t go back to the way it was, it is a huge change that does things that will never repair itself.. what people mean when they say that is go back to being skinny.. and a woman can go back to being skinny but her body is forever different in a million ways. It minimizes the abuse having a child has on a woman’s body and makes people think that it’s way easier and less dangerous then it really is. You can never put it back to what it was before.. people seem to think forcing a woman to have a baby is fine as long as she survives it and it’s just minimizing all of the damage done. That pregnancy pulls calcium from her teeth and her bones, it changes her muscles of her abdomen, it stretches things and she looses the ability to hold in her pee, it fucks with her hormones in a million ways that don’t just level back out. A woman’s brain forever changes after a child is born. Having a kids changes a woman’s body forever.. no woman is better off health wise after bearing a child. When a woman has a baby she is giving up a big chunk of her health and being and her body is self sacrificing itself to make a new person. It is a selfless dangerous act of love.. it shouldn’t be minimized.
I really want to punch this guy. I wouldn't because I'm not actually physically violent but this guy makes me feel stabby.
Kinda reminds me of when my father called his then wife fat like a month after having his kid. Like bro some people are just so disconnected from reality they will even disparage against someone they are supposed to love and care about. Granted that's not why we don't talk much, that would be the endless calls because he wants something. Typical behavior from kidults.
Husband who wouldn’t clean his vomit be like “Wiiiiifeee I frew up 🥺🥺🥺”
💀⚰️
*stands in wife's doorway at 2am* Honeyyy... I need help 🥺
Instead of posting misogyny and stupidity online, those Reddit users should get therapy.
Agree
They do not want to get therapy... as if they have a severe allergy to it.
AGREED 👍
It’s WILD to me that the tinder guy said he makes a new account after A DAY??? ONE DAY???? Like DUDE HAVE PATIENCE… Jesus…
He probably thinks all the "hot singles in his area" from those ads just didnt like his old profile
bro doesn't understand how it works for guys on dating apps. Also if hes only willing to date the youngest of women and hes almost a decade older than most of them, hes severely limiting his pool. I feel like young women nowadays are way less into older men than they used to be due to people on the internet pointing out how they thought it was cool when they were young and being picked by an older guy was an honor, only to realize that older guys specifically looking to date younger women are creeps and have issues.
@@Zectifin someone on the internet told those dudes that men of any age can date barely legal girls, that it's nAtUrAl and that men become a prize with age and when reality proves them wrong they start to attack tinder with their countless accounts. It's funny and sad at the same time.
Also, he is getting matches, they are just not up to his shallow standards. He should just say he's a creep on his profile.
The postpartum/baby stories have me appreciating my husband so much. I'll be going home and profusely thanking him for making me feel confident and comfortable in my postpartum body, caring for me post-op, and being such a supportive and loving partner and father. I'm a lucky lady. I'm sorry for anyone who deals with sh*t like those women have.
Me too!! With my first, I exclusively pumped (not by choice- nursing just didn't work out.) My husband took over entirely doing night feeds until she was night weaned so that I could focus on pumping. I couldn't imagine having any less than a loving, empathetic, and hardworking husband. I truly cannot believe how lucky I am when I hear those stories
It's sad that the response to men doing what should be expected behavior (and what certainly is the minimum expected of women if the situation was reversed and a man had a 8pd mass removed from his body and a infant to care for in the home) is that women think they should be extremely thankful and go and praise them endlessly for meeting a minimum bar 😢
Yes I'm glad your not in a abusive situation but you shouldn't have to feel thankful to your husband for not being a abusive and negletful partner.
The thing is, it shouldn’t. I mean it’s great that you have an awesome husband and appreciate him but it’s sad that husbands being husbands is something we have to be grateful for and not just expect.
@@shannond1511 I see where you’re coming from, but a relationship where you express appreciation for the little things is a lasting relationship. My husband thanks me for doing expected things, like swapping the laundry to the dryer when he forgets or cleaning the kitchen after he has cooked dinner. It’s important not to take each other for granted.
i feel so lucky to have a partner who actually loves all the stretch marks and cellulite i have. it's crazy how men being assholes about these things has just become the standard and whenever we find one that goes above and beyond that, we feel genuinely blessed to have them. i'm beyond thankful to my fiancé for all the things he's done for me like appreciating my body as it changes over time, but the feminist in my brain is also yelling that we shouldn't praise men for not being assholes. it's a weird feeling to sit with honestly.
My previous ex would go on and on and whine that he needed a side chick and how even if I’m uncomfortable I should let him do it. Of course his name was Kyle.
that is red flag city
@@Zectifin what’s worse is that within the first week of dating I found out he was on again and off again with a girl and he just ghosted her so randomly one day when I was with him in the city she was there to and came up to him and they had a big fight like I was the side chick…. And not to mention his ex harassing me saying I can’t date him unless she gives permission because she will wanted to get with him…
I wish I ditched that relationship in the first week, I can’t believe I ever got tricked into thinking he was gonna learn and actually treat me as a partner.. he also never showed or washed his hair unless he made me do it for him, he had a disgusting diet of junk food and energy drinks and that’s not even the tip of the iceberg.
as a kyle, what the hell is that boy thinking💀
You didn't just dodge a bullet, girl you dodged a drone strike 😭
The people who insist on this and dont respect boundaries are usually deeply insecure too. If you cave as long as you can get side action too and they see you are very successful getting side action, they freak out and get jealous
If your partner has had a baby and you are not too exhausted to have sex, then you are not doing your part to take care of that baby.
I'm buckling up already the title was scary enough
i know, that was a damn ride.
nice doppo pfp
“the side chick craves sex from you too”…. then make the side chick your girlfriend????? I don’t understand where the disconnect is for this guy
It's called "Madonna/Whore Complex".
He said it himself. He doesn't want to have to consider the side chick's emotions and feelings or respect her as a human, the way he'd have to to have a gf. She's just there to bang.
B b b b she wasn't a virgin before I met her
It’s bizarre to me that men feel entitled to control women.
Why is it bizarre?
@@freya9056As a dude, I would say it's bizarre because people don't seem to be able to know how to mind their own business.
@@freya9056why wouldn't it be?! wanting to have your way with someone 100% of the time is bad, no?? you should treat people equally
@@freya9056 Why isn’t it bizarre?
@@CeeC_230it’s the norm in society. Saying something is bizarre means it’s rare out outside of the box of norm.. there is nothing more mundane and common then men controlling women
I’m 22 and yeah, 28 is pushing it. The highest I usually go for dating is 26 💀 also, most young women who are 18 aren’t interested in a guy who’s almost 30.
I'm 29 and about the youngest I could date is 22 haha. Anything under and I can only see them as overgrown kids
It’s creepy when someone who is 25-30+ wants to date an 18-20 year old. I don’t care if it’s “legal” it’s weird someone older and a full grown adult wants to date someone right out of Highschool and is still a teenager. Except when 20 but yeah.
When I started working at 17, my trainer was 22 and had a countdown until I turned 18 so he could ask me out. I turned 20 this month, and I feel a bit icked out at the idea of dating people who are fresh out of highschool.
Men have really been asking women to lower their expectations from the bare minimum (like wanting to be respected and treated like equal humans) while having the most unrealistic expectations in the world.
Im 22 and the oldest i could date is 24 tbh
Sometimes you just have to throw the whole man away
Fathers have a responsibility to help out, especially when your partner is exhausted. Sleep deprivation is real, and it's a team effort. Being a dad doesn't just mean providing; it means sharing in the good, the bad, and yes the late-night freakin feedings.
The whole "side chick" thing is rough to know that some guys think that way. In my view, every relationship requires open communication. If there's dissatisfaction, both partners should talk about it. Cheating is not the answer; it's a coward's way out.
Postpartum body comments are totally out of line. Women go through so much during pregnancy and childbirth. My ex-wife's body changed after our kids, but so did mine over the years. It's life.
As for the house duties - My friends and I have a simple rule: You make the mess, you clean it up. It's basic respect.
@@trekadouble757 Your view is completely valid. Balancing work, childcare, and household responsibilities can be extremely challenging, especially for single parents or for families where one parent is shouldering the majority of the caregiving responsibilities. Everyone's circumstances are different, and what works for my family might not work for yours. The couple in that Reddit story forgot that communication between partners is crucial in finding a balance that suits both and ensures that neither feels overly burdened.
@@trekadouble757if one person is working full time at a job and one person is working full time as a caregiver.. then how do you expect the kid to be fed at night? Naps here and there don’t make up for months of not sleeping through the night. What your mom did was just asking too much from one person.. but that doesn’t mean that someone who can grab a nap here and there should be the person to do all the night time child care too. That makes one person completely responsible for all care around the clock except for maybe weekends. That is the deal women have always been offered and it isn’t fair. You are just defending the status quo that benefits men but doing it in the name of your single mom. The answer isn’t that your mom shouldn’t have had to do nights at all it’s that your grandmother should have taken half of the night shifts. I get it’s not her kid but if she was a husband that should have been the division of labor for a couple raising a baby.
I was hurting and cringing so hard at that "husband complains I'm not in shape after 6months" that I got a leg cramp. It's insane how this woman doesn't see she's just being taken advantage of, used and unappreciated. I would NEVER go as far as a wife even for a good man because it's just too much, to the point it would take a mental toll on me. She literally sacrificed her health and body to give him a child and all he can think of is how his sex doll-- I mean wife isn't hot enough for him? How it doesn't even cross his mind to appreciate her, help her and support her, as a loving husband would and should?
We teach men to take and take, and women to keep giving and then when marriages break down and the divorce rate is 50% + and mostly initiated by women, everyone wonders "why oh why".
It's been asked for many years now, but lemme ask again... Is someone holding these poor couples hostage and forcing them to be together? Genuinely asking
sometimes it's a simple financial force: none of them could pay the other off from the house they bought together and pay the credit for the next 20+ years all by themselves. Or they can't get a job to pay enough to get by as a single mum. And probably a dozen other things we don't know about their lives based on one post where they vented their frustrations off.
18:55 The fact that he says he'll tip on a date if she's watching means he knows it's a sleazy thing to do
Alternative title: AITA except it's clear beforehand that they are ABSOLUTELY the asshole
i love those videos because it reminds me of how i am blessed by being gay and asexual. omg those people are insane
Same. I'm also nonbinary so that also filters out some weirdos.
Same XD it's weird being asexual but somehow knowing more about relationships then normal people tbh
@@606Pixels yeah, I have no idea how me, an aroace, can detect a healthy relationship better than a cishet, who actually feels attraction
@@RedstonetemmieGD-real same 😭
@RedstonetemmieGD-real i know you weren’t asking for this explanation, but it’s because you have an objective view of romantic relationships rather than a subjective one
not being able to clean up your own vomit that's literally in the sink wtf
like just push the drain open with something and turn the tap on
it's not like it's on a fancy carpet that you can't use chemicals on
Right?! I have an actual legit PHOBIA of vomit, even I can rinse it down the sink drain and pour some cleaner.
Exactly. I would have made him clean up his own damn mess & supervised him lol
Granted, my husband is an alcoholic (sober now) but cleaning up his nasty puke was something I absolutely refused to do.
If he's sick, that's different because after almost 21 years there's bound to be a couple of accidents. Drunk puke? No. Mate, cleaning it up is the consequences of your actions.
@@kerrinbrittain4393 I can't really remember the context of what I was commenting on, but I don't mind cleaning up my partners puke if it's on the carpet or something, drunk or sick or whatever reason.
But throwing up in the sink and being too lazy to wash it all down come on man. That's like throwing up in the toilet and refusing to flush. If you're throwing up I'll take care of you but at least do the bare minimum
i dont have a phobia of vomit, but i do get very sick just from seeing and smelling waste and bodily fluids (especially if it's another person's or an animal's). occasionally i have to take my sister's dog out because she's doing a double shift at work and if he poops, i have to look away and hold my breath for as long as i can to clean it up. there've been times i've thrown up from doing the dishes or cleaning out the fridge before because my nose is so sensitive to putrid smells.
HOWEVER i've almost always cleaned up my own puke since i've been a teenager. normally it causes me to puke again, but i can sort of "hold it" until i get to a toilet to do it safely. the one time i've left vomit in the sink was when i had a stomach flu and got sick because i tried to eat frosted mini wheats and was too ill to do anything but go back to sleep. i had full intentions of rinsing it when i woke up again, i only didnt do it immediately because i didn't want to throw up again. unfortunately my sister got home before i could and had to deal with it because it was the kitchen sink, which i apologized profusely for. i was extremely sick so she understood but i felt so so bad about it and i still do years later. i cant imagine doing what that guy did to your housemate, let alone your own partner.
For the heatwave thing, make him wear long sleeve shirts and pants. He said you get to decide, after all
A full suit. Or better yet: a furry suit. A cheap one, thick and out of only polyester.
@@tymondabrowski12 fr.
These men : wah I have to wear a suit to a wedding and girls get to wear dresses
Also these men: no showing your ankles during a heat wave harlot! *while running around in shorts and no shirt
im gonna load this man into a super sentai suit in +35C weather and see how he likes it
When I had my newborn, my ex began permanently sleeping in the lounge room so he could have an entire night sleep. It was just my problem that the baby would wake up every other hour screaming because he had reflux.
Sav: "Drop him"
Me: "Not like, from the relationship. From the balcony."
In places like the US, tipping is stupid in reference to the way businesses treat it, but necessary in reference to the employees who need it.
i feel so so sad every time i hear about women who's partners treat them badly for their looks changing. it must be heart shattering for someone who you thought loved you to turn like that, so sickening to feel like your value drops when your looks do. it weirdly makes me appreciate the fact that i don't have a nice body. at least i know my boyfriend must actually like me as a person
Her ear rings are always amazing it makes me want my ears pierced honestly
Iconic tbh
Just make sure you get it done by professionals and not like... at Claire's
do it! earrings are such a fun way to express yourself.
Same here I dont really wear jewelry at all due to sensory discomfort .i wish i wasn't missing out on such cool earrings.
it's super fun having pierced ears! if you're apprehensive you can always try clip-ons first
I’m 11 months postpartum, now. I lost all the weight I gained throughout pregnancy, but obviously it looks different than before. I have a small pooch now. My husband tells me all the time how much he loves my body postpartum and how cute my pooch is. He says he thinks it’s so attractive that I grew and carried his child. 😭♥️ I feel this should be the bare minimum as it’s common sense that a woman’s body changes during and after pregnancy. OBs even suggest waiting 2 years after having a baby to have another one, because it normally takes around 2 years for your body to go back to normal as much as it can. Reading posts from postpartum women like the one in the video is so sad and heart breaking.
I'm so happy for you! It's a shame this is the bare minimum yet so hard to find.
Insane to me that the husband thinks she should paint her own nails for him. Is she supposed to sit and listen to her baby crying for 20 minutes while she waits for the nail polish to be dry enough she can touch anything without it coming off?
“If your side chick is a man..” absolutely sent me 😂☠️
Some people just really need mental help
Or put in a mental hospital.
‘AITA for not cleaning his vomit?’
Well, he must have been too sick to get out of bed or something, right?
::Hears reason::
Oh dear lord.
If your wife pushes out a baby for you and one of your main concerns is her “bouncing back to her old body”, you don’t even deserve a wife
Also guys need to understand that they’re gf is not gonna cheat on him just cause she wore a dress that showed cleavage, so many guys think that their gf is determined to cheat with the first guy she sees if she wears anything revealing in public and its annoying asf
and then those exact same guys will say "not all men!!!" when women talk about being sexually harassed...
“Boundary” - refers to what people due to you; “Standard” - refers to what you look in other people for relationships; “Controlling behavior” - refers to you trying to force your standards onto another person.
look, he puked in the sink, that's basically one of the easiest things to clean. He'd ALMOST have an excuse if it was on carpet or something.
I put this on to bookend a conversation I was having with my husband about the unreasonable expectations men have for women & how the patriarchy has ruined men, and how lucky I was to meet him. He's always been a very active parent, but when our 2 kids were very small he spent so much time on the floor with them even though it caused him so much pain. He's been disabled since birth and his knees are ruined after a childhood of scooting around on his knees, so he's a full time wheelchair user. But he still did that, because he wanted that time with his children & he knew it was important. I once came home to find him lying on the floor, in front of the sofa & near the TV, with our eldest sitting on him. When I asked what was up, he said "I'm a sofa. Sofas don't talk."
(He just asked me to add he was exhausted after a long day of tending to a rambunctious toddler and just wanted to rest! I honestly thought it was hilarious & very sweet he still found a way to veg out while still entertaining our eldest!)
I'm kinda curious about the 2nd post. I'm wondering if his gf is asexual/on the ace spectrum. Even if she isn't ace Op should either talk to her or they should break up. I honestly hate that people will cheat on their partner and then go, "we weren't having enough sex!!" Then say something about it instead of fucking cheating. It's not hard to not cheat.
I mean she was saying she doesn't want it sprung on her, like a lot of people ace or not. it would not put me in the mood and I am very sexually inclined. while off it's not out of the question a normal sex drive is not necessarily being ace, this guy just has a high libido.
@@ollie3746 yeah, that's true asexual or not, no one likes it springed on them.
I know cheating has always been a thing and is only more notable now due to our access to info, but I feel like it's weird that it isn't taken more seriously. It's such a violation of boundaries and trust yet I hear about it happening to people close to me all the time, especially with younger people. We need to teach people to take commitments more seriously especially when you could hurt someone.
@@spOOkytimesit's not taken more seriously because a huge majority of people will/have cheat(ed)
Oh. My. God. My partner's daughter is literally AN ELITE ATHLETE (Very fast amateur runner.) Even being in insane shape beforehand and training pretty much up until delivery it took her about a year to "snap back" to be where she was before the baby. (And that was with a coach, training hard, etc.)
23:26 in that case, dictate that he must wear three piece suits and only ever three piece suits. Fair's fair, right?
"My husband is my best friend"
No he isn`t. He really is not.
3:10 girl throw the whole man away! If he don't wanna feed HIS OWN BABY then is he worth it?
His own baby…**who is having health problems and is struggling to gain weight** no less! He is *literally* endangering their child!
Ah, yes, always the 18-22 range. My ex-partner was 6 years older than me. He was a walking red flag, but I didn't see it at first. He asked me if I was a virgin (I was 19 when we started dating), and when I told him yes, he was like, "Yes, finally, I'm the first one." Now, looking back, I should have checked out there.
I'm 28 now, and if I were to date someone, they couldn't be younger than 25. Anything below 25 would feel so weird. Up is a different thing. I wouldn't mind dating older people. (up to 10 years probably.)
These are like that one story where the husband threw out his wife’s food because she didn’t bounce back… even after she told him she needed to eat a certain amount to keep up her milk supply.
That op left for her a friends house with the baby.
"Don't have a baby if you don't want your wife to pay attention to it instead of you and if you don't want to pay attention to it" One of the many reasons I don't want kids lmao. I like attention too much
17:01 that exact expression right there, because HOLY SHIT! Dude does not care about the mother of his child AT ALL!
This is infuriating. Even more so being a single dad with sole custody. The story at this time stamp 18:13 and ones like it just make me sick.
I’m very concerned that a side chick helps him be a better brother
And dad too 😭???
19:05 - My best friend that does weekly karaoke & trivia at bars - who is also a woman - always says, "Be sure to tip your bar staff, because if you don't tip, you're an asshole!" Now I almost never drink alcohol, but when I ask for my usual pint of Dr. Pepper + Grenadine, NO ICE, I pay double the total as a tip.
23:05 - If my SO asked what they should wear in the heat, my answer would be that you don't have to wear anything you don't want to wear or wear anything at all. If it's hot, wear practical clothing. If it's cold, wear practical clothing.
Side note: I'd love to do a podcast episode with a vegan just to understand their side and have discussion/debate.
that first one would be an instant divorce for me. the kid's JUST been born and you're already denying her food for your own convenience?? bro???????
Not to mention, their child is **struggling to gain weight properly**! He legitimately endangered their child because it was inconvenient for him!!
Yeah I can confirm reddit is not okay
The amount of subs that get ruined by misogynists and incels is astronomical. Unpopular opinions is just becoming men that think they have the right to constantly criticize women.
6 months? I didnt even have a normal period 6 mo ths after either of mine...
The only guarantee that comes with the human body is that it WILL change over time. If you can't handle that, then you're not ready for a long-term relationship.
3:37, When you are talking about sleep and the two stuffed animals behind you fall asleep 😂
That "side chicks" post show how some people will do anything to imitate but not consider polyamory
Most cheater die and shit if their main cheats on them. They want to be able to sleep around while their partner is forced to be mono
And typically if women are getting tipped more it’s because the customers find them attractive so even in that situation you’re still being objectified and almost looked down it. It’s a lose lose situation
nice mixture of subreddits in here... have you ever done witchesvspatriarchy or selfawarewolves? Both good ones that fit your content!
Its normal reddit behavior
Congrats, youre the first commenter on a queer kiwi video!
@@geostorm06 really?! Yay!
you are indeed correct
The husband not cleaning up his own vomit kind of reminds me of my ex. While we lived together he could hardly keep a job while i was the one who constantly working almost everday. He would never clean and wouldnt clean up after himself after making messes. Multiple times id spend a whole day when id get it off and clean the whole apartment and hed have friends over either that day orblater in the week and thatyd get drunk and making a mess of the living room (like spilling drinks all over the floor i had just mopped), or he would come home from the bar or from when he would work and just throw his clothes on the floor, leave trash and dishes on the desk or on the floor next to the bed. He wouldnt even clean when he wasnt employed. Hed also go to the bar almost every night while id stay home since i wasnt old enough and id still be at work when hed leave.
"idk how to clean up vomit in the sink 😓"
well then you should have had the sense to throw up in the toilet like everyone else 😒
13:38
My mother gave birth to her last child 12 years ago and I would describe her the same (ish) way, though I wouldn’t call her curvy. Yet she goes to the gym and eats amazing. Though it is different for everyone, I feel like they (the person writing) would kinda stay the same.
I’m so glad you talked about the boundary thing. I’ve seen so many people say it’s okay to control what your partner wears, when and where they can go out, and who they spend time with because “it’s my boundary” and not seeming to realize that 1) a boundary cannot be forced on someone, if someone doesn’t agree with your boundary then you two are not suited for each other and cannot change anyone to fit what you want and 2) it’s not a boundary if your doing it to just control someone if you have legitimate trauma to make you concerned about something it is your responsibility to get help and better yourself not to just expect your partner to bend their entire life around you forever
Cry about it yapper. Boundaries are boundaries, if you don’t like it leave.
Social media has allowed too many dudes to post stupid stuff without fear of someone smacking them upside the head.
18:57 "I believe in equality. That's why I treat men and women differently."
Video suggestion: acephobes, it's real and it's also awfully, I am fortunate to have avoided them, but I'm sure I'll meet one sometime soon
Also almost used the wrong meet lol
0:28 girl I thought u said “Ask Wolverine” and I was like ok I’m here for it
As a man, i hate how some men don't (or pretend not to) understand that "it's not sexist because I'm applying this rule to both of us" doesn't work when the underlying social norm is only applied to one gender.
"We both should be judged for showing skin, so it's not sexist" isn't valid because no one cares about men showing a bit of skin.
Another day to remember it's so much better to not be cishet.
Shout out to the cishets that aren't bastards like the villians in these posts.
That boundary language is so weird - I assume that people understand the words they use, so when I hear about someone “enforcing a boundary” that includes someone else’s clothing or what friends their “allowed” to have, all I can think is that they believe their partner is their property
With how the husband is acting that poor woman is basically experiencing the life of a single mother of 2 who's trying to get back into dating.
i dont understand how its not common knowledge that your skeleton permanently changes when you give birth, archeologists find old skeletons and know if theyve given birth or not. your body changes PERMANENTLY
Oh, please, tell me more!! I love archeology!!
@@user-guigui01 sure! through how the pelvis is shaped, is how they can tell
The only time should get a say in what your partner wears is when it's highly situationally inappropriate ("No you can't wear sweatpants to my sister's wedding") or when it's flat out offensive ("No you cannot wear a Confederate flag t shirt even ironically")
Came back to your videos after a recent kpop dive. Finally recognize the skzoo. 😂
Its funny that you mention joe jonas, I heard about his divorce bc incels were reposting the article nonstop claiming that his wife filed for divorce bc “he’s shorter than her”, I had no idea why they divorced but I assumed that they were either incompatible emotionally, incompatible romantically, or one was mistreating the other, etc. It was frustrating to read all the incels tweets bc they show how they think at such a childish level where they think the whole reason a years long relationship ended was bc of height and not bc of actual problems that cause relationships to not work
I would like to add that I’m asexual, my boyfriend is high libido and I’m low libido. We’ve been together for two years. We found what works, it definitely helps when your boyfriend is not an asshole 😅 (although I understand that people have needs; but I made it clear to him at the beginning that I’m not super into sex. He just feels that I’m worth more than sex every day)
With the age gap of 22-27 that’s the ages my partner and I were when we met. I was a little freaked out given the gap (though he looked older and I look younger). That being said we’re still together 9 1/2 years later.
In line with selfish behavior otherwise, these men lacking almost entirely in empathy, believe that since their wife's pregnancy was this easy on them... it makes no sense that she isn't back to keeping herself attractive "for them".
YAY A KIWI VIDEO!! kinda random but your makeup looks really cool todday! the blending looks nice :)
Redditors try not to be insane challenge (impossible)
As someone who uses Reddit, I can confirm we are insane, except some of us are a good insane and know how to treat people with kindness and respect.
no but why does he feel like cheating on your wife will make you a better brother 😂😂😂
the same men who complain about women not "bouncing back" after a pregnancy are the same men who want the mother to take almost complete care of the baby. like how is she supposed to wake up at night to take care of the baby, feed them every 2 hours, constantly try to make them fall asleep, watch the baby's every move.... AND have time to take care of her body? Like my guy if you want your wife to hit the gym and "be hot again" why don't you take the major care of the baby and leave her some time to take care of herself?
(ofc women are not obliged to "bounce back" after literally growing a human, their bodies are beautiful and they should be loved and respected by their significant other/family)
I'm listening to these and all I can think is that these women should run far, far away
7:30 And remember that even if you have the same sex drive before kids, things can change after they're born (and during pregnancy). If nothing else, the exhaustion from taking care of kids can asp any energy you have for sex.
"The mind is willing, but the body is exhausted."
23:30 You can communicate that you don't like your partner's clothes, but that partner doesn't have to listen.
The highlight of these videos is how my partner sitting on the other side of the room is alternating between facepalming, shaking his head or his jaw dropping, whenever he hears what these men write. His disbelief is really cute.
I was with my ex for 5 years. When the relationship started, I initiated a lot and wanted to do sexy stuff with him, but as the relationship went on, and more abuse occurred, I backed away. He was really confused because he was a raging narcissist and didn’t think he’d done anything wrong, and he was so manipulative that I also thought it was a problem with me. I went through a time I thought maybe I was just a lesbian, and then even thought I might just be asexual. Then in the last year of our relationship, I think it finally just clicked for me that he was the reason I didn’t want to have sex with him because HE sexually abused me. He pressured me and made me feel like it was something I owed him, and he treated my body like his property that he could touch any time, in any way he wanted. I’m so glad I got out of that relationship and it’s crazy to me that it had to come to him literally cheating on me for me to leave. But it’s been wonderful finding myself again, and having the sexual part of me back. It’s like I’d completely forgotten and become so closed off to that part of myself, disgusted by it even. But now I’m in a new relationship, that’s healthy and lovely, and based on mutual respect and love for eachother, and I couldn’t be happier.
Moral of the story, if you are not wanting to have sex with your partner who you previously did want to do that with, it is likely a deeper problem within your relationship, and if your partner is trying to make you feel bad for not wanting to have sex, please just throw them in the trash. They are not worth your time and they do not respect you.
I love your name Cloepotaters❤❤❤❤❤
I just wanted to say thank you for advocating for tipped workers. The restaurant I work in recently instituted a 6% tip out for servers. 1% to bartenders, 1% to bussers and 4% to food runners/“pantry” servers. Essentially they’re making the servers pay several other employees while only paying the actual server $2.13/hr. Crazy right!? We had a girl come in the other night just to take a party of 20. Their check total was about $600, so they should’ve left her a little over $100. BUT after telling the manager how wonderful everything was and how great of a job the server did, they left her a total of $13. Her tip out was somewhere around $35, but she had literally only made the $13. The manager made her go to her atm and get cash to pay the restaurant the difference. It’s insane! She literally had to pay to work that day! And this is a huge corporate restaurant doing this kind of crap. It’s absolutely sickening that they can get away with this. I wish I knew what to do to start making some changes in the way restaurant workers get paid.
I feel like at bare minimum we should make it illegal for servers to have to withdraw their own money for the tip share. $0 paychecks are the food service standard.
I imagine the "ARE YOU READY?" guy yelling this phrase with one hand outstretched over his head, late 90s DJ style.
"after my husband didn't clean up his own vomit" well, if he's ill maybe he didn't have the energy "he got drunk" oh never mind
How do these people get together and decide to have children to begin with? It’s terrifying.
I obviously don’t advocate for DV but if my husband treated me the way the husband in the six months postpartum story treated his wife I would LUNGE at him so fast. “Yeah six months ago” BITCH WHAT?
Uh oh the Jonah hill use of the word “boundary” is back again
the vomit story has me shook like who vomits in the sink or something??? i always go for trashcans or a toilet (at home i have a designated vomit bucket because i have an easily upset stomach lol) rinsing out a bucket or flushing is so much easier than cleaning a sink, maybe im just used to it so i have a clearer head while nauseous but damn. NOT TO MENTION what if the sink is made of acid sensitive material?????
to be completely honest i have only vomited once in the past like 10 yrs and i was so distraught that the first thing i grabbed onto was the sink, so i can see how that could happen, especially since it saves you the Motor Skills of lifting the toilet lid
Most people arent used to puking, so we kinda just puke wherever we think/can get to first (if we even have the chance) and a sink is definitely better to puke in than the floor
one (1) good trait of my shitty abusive ex bf is that he appreciated how cute i used to dress with miniskirts and dresses all the time lol. like his only healthy relationship view was "hey i get to be with you and everyone else only gets to look" and it's not even that healthy cuz it was still possessive. idk basically the bar is so low here
I can't help noticing that guy also said he changed photos but didn't say anything about changing bio
im convinced that i could find the love of my life if i searched far and wide enough through your subscribers but im way too lazy to do that
Thanks for making my day
It's wild, my ex became the most beautiful person to me after our baby.
Sucks that it didn't work out, but she's a great mom.
I thought that was just normal for every guy 😱😡😬
i was literally about to search for a video like this lmaoo