Nothing like being in a violent toxic relationship and being blind to it because you revert to the good times in hopes of resurrecting them, best of luck to any of you going through this.
Worst part is the long times after it falls apart where all you can do is look back on the good times which just become bitter ones. Then you have to look back and realize that even the best times were really just you trying to in vain to make the best of it and force yourself to push passed the gnawing thought of how awful it will all be when everything comes crashing down. This song perfectly captures that feeling and thats what hurts so God damned much.
Hahahahahahahaha, oh wow you missed out on the 80s, champ. Maybe the 70s. Or the 40s, when they actually played instruments rather than this electrical stuff and computer processing crap that fluffs things up
@@snowman-pv1vg I do agree, a band should be able to play their music on their instruments. Timing for pyro and effects can be thrown off without a digital backup, but just in case, I think a band worth listening to should be able to play without those. Yeah it's not gonna be as good a show with no lights and pyro but at least have some cool pedals
This never gets enough credit for being one of the worlds best ever break up/broken heart songs ever written. "...the hammock by the doorway we spent time in, swings empty...". Fucking golden lyric! Thank you for posting, Dicholas Tayllen, and thank you 3EB.
@@Aqua.man045 - That's how I feel too...like we shifted to an alternate reality some time in the last decade or so and practically everything is worse.
This song really resonates with you if you've been in a REAL committed relationship. When you let go you really do wonder how it will be without this person in your life.
I need some help brothers, I just had to let go of my gf of 2 years cause she just wouldn't change for the better. I know I'll move on but it hurts bad rn
I'm 32, never dated anyone more than 3 months... This song hits me because I mourn that deep love I imagine in my head with someone special, but have never experienced in my life...I can't even explain it....
Honestly, be glad you haven't. Once you have exposed your true self and all its flaws to someone you deeply connect with and love; then boom, one day, it's just all over; its like a part of you will be forever missing. You truly wonder how life will continue without someone you wanted to marry, someone you knew better than anyone at that time, someone whose body you have explored every inch of, and would have given your life for. It's hard, and I don't care what anyone says. You don't ever really get totally over it, although you learn to live and love again, You wish happiness and peace for the other, but nothing will ever replace that feeling of staring into your lovers eyes not saying word, just adoring them and them doing the same. That's why songs like this exist. For a brief moment in time, we can be transported back to the happy times with the one that got away, only to slam back to earth, knowing that they may have been the one, and you will go through life with them turning into a stranger.
This song is still as honest, sad yet beautiful as it was when I first heard it as a kid!!! Thank you Richard's Liquor Store for playing this when I walked in and for reintroducing me to such an amazing song and for reassuring me I'm not alone and that I'm not the only one who had a failed relationship!
Yeah they do. Maybe you should move past the glory days of yesterday. Because you sound like the old people who grumbled about this music back when it came out, when they recalled the days of the 1960s and 1950s when music was truly about emotions and real feelings.
When i say outloud, "I wanna get out of this." I wonder is there anything Im gonna miss. When the bad outweighs the good, run for your life! We get one chance to walk this earth and if someone is holding you down, its best to move forward to those who truly love you. As much as it hurts, it will feel 100 times better once you have broken free. ♡
SImple understandings like this can be so important cuz even when you think it, you may not be hearing it, thinking it and telling yourself are 2 different things and its lot easier to see the significance when someone else not only says what your feeling, but shows they feel it too. Only problem is, in my case I was on the other end. I caused someone to feel like you may have when posting this, its my biggest and only regret in life and after losing that part of my life and heart Ive only sought out to better myself every day since so I never put myself or someone else in that spot again. Please people dont be the person I was, oppressive and one sided in the relationship. Unfortunately, her leaving me was the best thing that ever happened to me. It allowed me to see, to grow, to understand, to love the right way, and to appreciate her that much more. Imagine if I understood this before my best friend and I split paths. Leona Walker, she HAD to break free. Im proof that you can think it and not hear it. Im proof of the consequences on the side at fault.
Or you just never noticed the words before. This is why I like lyric videos. I heard this song as a teen... And I never paid attention to the words. Now I'm older and really listening to the words and my heart feels completely shattered. 😞
I remember the producer of the NBA on NBC playing this song as they rolled the credits and played slow motion highlights of the Chicago Bulls at the conclusion of the 1998 NBA Finals, in which the Bulls won their sixth championship in eight years. The expectation was that this was "The Last Dance" for one of the greatest dynasties in NBA history, led of course by Michael Jordan. It turned out to be the last dance, and the song being played at that moment was very powerful, I thought
This song is a long time favorite of mine. First concert my husband took me to I was so excited I never had a life until I met my husband So it makes the memories so much more bitter sweet now that he is battling cancer
I miss my old relationship partner. And we same situation of this song. Now we both have family. But my feelings and memories will never forget about our past.
It’s funny how the choice wording in the song, happens to be “oblivion”, legend has it that the “Spear of Death” held at the gates of heaven guarding the entrance… and is feared by even the devil himself… He is well aware… if the tip of that spear, so much as touches anyone or anything It will “obliterate” it from existence …instantly… and for forever !! So, the lyrics “so how’s it gonna be , when you don’t me anymore” Actually means a whole lot more than realized in this sense Just thought I would share this with you all
When me and my girl friend broke up back in 1999 after being together for 2 years, I listened to this song and it hurt so much. I sat in my bedroom for the rest of the night, didn't even want to move.
I was in absolute Hysteria when my then boyfriend, first love and I broke up. That was 19 years ago. I have thought of him every time I have heard this song throughout the years and it broke my heart everytime. I got the news last year through social media that he had lost his life due to a drug overdose. First time I've heard this song since then and it's gonna be a hard night.
My father has Alzheimer’s, he use to be happy and fun. Now he is scared and angry all the time. Watching his brain die slowly is killing me inside. One day he’ll wake up and not know my name. I can’t take this
me and fiancee been fighting.. hasn't been the best week for us and now is Christmas eve... I'm a person who shows so much love and affection. .. idk what's going on we barely been living together since october.... this bring tears to my eyes
milo vela I'm kinda going through the same thing, my boyfriend and I aren't exactly together at the moment, but I miss him dearly. But if we're just going to be fighting all the time, as much as it hurts, we might just have to go our separate ways.
My boyfriend of 5 years abandoned me Christmas time. He had already cheated on me by this point. I didn't know till a few days ago. I never loved a man as much as I loved him, and I've never been hurt by a man as much as he hurt me when he did that. I feel like a 10 year old version of myself that wants to go hug my dad
I used to rock the hell out of this song never really paid attention to the words but for some reason I woke up with this playing in my head so I listened to it and it just fits my current situation, weird
Reminds me of my first wife. There's not a day that's gone by that I don't regret not fighting for that woman. I've moved on only because I've had to. But I will forever regret that we are strangers now.
I’m going through a similar situation right now. Going through a divorce and it’s been killing me. I just simply don’t know how to let her go. 12 years together and now it’s over. All intimacy is gone. We barely talk anymore. Only about bills and stuff related to our kids. I pray we will find each other again whether in this life or the next.
This hits different when you actually live it, crazy. As a teen I used to relate this to getting out of my mom’s house she was pretty abusive, but this is the theme song to my toxic relationship. 😅
Yeah, totally. Because it feels unpleasant to think about the bad, but it helps one realize that mistakes were made. And by thinking about our mistakes, we can draw lessons from these mistakes. We live and we learn! Thinking about the good too much might feel all good and giddy, but it also makes one want to run back in anticipation of feeling those good feelings again, completely disregarding the bad feelings and their consequences. I feel you 100% sister, as much as I want to run back to my ex, I know that we're just not good for each other and us being apart is for the best
Just got out of a toxic relationship of 13yrs. I myself held on to what I thought when good times in hopes that they would resurrect only to find out that sadly I was blinded by my own instincts. So now that it's over.....I don't care how it's gonna be because I'm much happier without him.
This song, absolutely was inspired by a woman for sure. A real life relationship he must of had that obviously went bad and ended.. and that inner struggle after letting go and feeling both happy and sad about it. Its human nature to reflect on the good times as well.
Thought of this in my room before college and wanted to know how everyone leaving the high school years would end up. Nearly 10 years later, found out I’m schizophrenic and bipolar and realized I was for much of my life. High school lunacy just buried it. Managing could be worse. I miss my friends and glad I made new ones in college. Idk anything but this song right now.
I'm sorry, dude, but I am going to be brutally honest with you here... The "Never moved on from highschool" type are just about the absolute WORST of humanity.
Peaceful now , no longer toxic , when there was nothing to hold onto anymore , & that person controlled your life , freedom becomes overwhelming , there was never anyone else , and won't be for several years , knowing you gave everything to a man who saw you as an object , when you leave you can finally breathe , for that I'm grateful ! What is Love , really ?
I guess he finally knows “How’s it going to be”... now. I locked him out of my life...because he decided to keep secrets from me... Told him I can’t be ok with that... never looked back. . I’d be lying if I said I don’t still shed a tear now and then...when my family doesn’t know...Every day I wonder how he is .. . And I cannot know the answer, aside from our prayer and soul connection. He My best friend, he was... OH HOW I sometimes wish we had never developed romantic feelings for eachother! ...BUT we did. I don’t want him back in my life, now... But I do still ache for everything we shared as soul-mate best friends... I don’t let anyone so close as I did him... This song lets me feel the hurt ... We shared so many songs together and I had to remove them from all of my playlist it’s just still too hard
I spent 5 years with a verbally, emotionally abusive man then came the cheating. I finally woke up and decided I didn't deserve that life any more. If someone is taking you for granted and breaking your heart.run as fast as you can.
How it's gonna be ???? Miss everything about him good or bad trust I wasn't perfect. Till this day I still love him and have no regrets ❤️ because I've been blessed to know what true love is . I just didn't know how to handle it then but now I do . You learn from your mistakes .
this song hurts so much worse now that he died. i always used to think about how it would be if we had ever stopped talking and walked away from each other permanently. we were really toxic to each other but i still wanted to spend my life with him in it. as much as i hated him, i loved him even more. and now ill never see him again.
If you are able, save for them a place inside of you and save one backward glance when you are leaving for the places they can no longer go. Be not ashamed to say you loved them, though you may or may not have always. Take what they have left and what they have taught you with their dying and keep it with your own. And in that time when men decide and feel safe to call the war insane, take one moment to embrace those gentle heroes you left behind.
This song, In The Background, Motorcycle Drive-by and God of Wine are my favorites off the album, all of them telling eloquent, relatable and touching stories of the heart and the human condition, all of them feeling like old friends when the suddenly come to mind, randomly play on the radio or through the phone while you’re on hold, or show up in your website feed. This is what good music is.
Hows it gonna be when you dont know me anymore... when you see the changes and know that shes leaving you and this time instead fighting to hold on to something that was never yours, you realize... this time, you have to let go.
my muzzikk/ We was make people at radios stations crazy because we was requesting "3 Eye blind" songs all the time specially This one "How is going to be" was a long time Hit in the top 10 and then #1 two like Seni changed life too in the Alternative Rock category. Amazing band.
And that’s on leaving the fundamentalist Christian religion.... it’s been hard the last few days missing all my former friends my former “safe knit” life protected by strict fundamentalist ideas and living that kept me from harms way kind of life but after coming out of it I’ve realized it was all a wolf in sheep’s clothing chocking me to death..... it can be hard feeling the shell being ripped off of you... I feel lost confused and hurt... there memories still haunt me as I await an eternity of hell burning fire and brimstone while I seem to stay here on earth tormented by my own inner demons that they the church have chained me with through there darkening hell bound anti everything scriptures... And now this song truly does speak to me so differently..... thank you fundamentalism for leaving me with this crippling depression what a wonderful gift..... 🥰 #dontbeavictimwhileyoursufferingorelseitsyourfault
Rchl Glvz/ Is a Masterpiece song "How is going to be" by "3 Eye Blind" We was requesting this son in the Radio all the time like others songs too from this first "3 Eye Blind" DC it was a long time Hit in the Billboard top 40's then was a #1in the top 10 of the late 90's this CD was a Multiple platinum in 1998 and 1999. They release this "3 Eye Blind" first Discography work with the same band title "3 Eye Blind" in February 10 of 1997
type "sound" in your start menu to bring up "sound" selections, click it to open the box, on the playback tab select the icon that represents your headphones and right click it and select "properties." Now, in properties look for the "ehancements" tab, select it, then check the box that says "loudness equalization." and this will increase your volume output substantially for headphones and speakers. Sometimes you will need to uncheck it to get louder sound oddly enough but for the most part it will normally increase the volume.
Crazy how we loved this song as a kid just from hearing. Now that weʻre older, it takes on a whole deeper meaning.
Indeed!
Hell ya;(
💯
Seriously
Very true. Two different songs? Or more likely, I’m two different people and nowhere near the person I was in my younger years. For better or worse.
Nothing like being in a violent toxic relationship and being blind to it because you revert to the good times in hopes of resurrecting them, best of luck to any of you going through this.
Agreed all my relationships been fucked up
I was in one of those once. Not good.
Worst part is the long times after it falls apart where all you can do is look back on the good times which just become bitter ones. Then you have to look back and realize that even the best times were really just you trying to in vain to make the best of it and force yourself to push passed the gnawing thought of how awful it will all be when everything comes crashing down. This song perfectly captures that feeling and thats what hurts so God damned much.
Feeling that. Well said
@@chrissilliker8633 stay strong it might hurt like nothing before but just like any strong storm it will blow over and the rest of your life begins.
Anyone who was alive during the 1990's can very confidently say they were there for the greatest decade in the history of music.
Hahahahahahahaha, oh wow you missed out on the 80s, champ. Maybe the 70s. Or the 40s, when they actually played instruments rather than this electrical stuff and computer processing crap that fluffs things up
@@Foxfire_forty-nine Ok boomer
@@Foxfire_forty-nine damn boomer get off of RUclips😂
@@Foxfire_forty-nine maybe don't comment next time since you have no valid point
@@snowman-pv1vg I do agree, a band should be able to play their music on their instruments.
Timing for pyro and effects can be thrown off without a digital backup, but just in case, I think a band worth listening to should be able to play without those. Yeah it's not gonna be as good a show with no lights and pyro but at least have some cool pedals
This never gets enough credit for being one of the worlds best ever break up/broken heart songs ever written. "...the hammock by the doorway we spent time in, swings empty...". Fucking golden lyric! Thank you for posting, Dicholas Tayllen, and thank you 3EB.
In times of despair, music reminds us, we are not alone.
Absoulfuckinglutly. I just got catfished hahahahaha. The worlds inhabitants can be very cruel.
Right on. That's why I'm here.
Like right now.
I needed to hear this 💜
Literally a song about being alone.
This takes me back being 20 yrs old on the beach with my friends in 1998. Times truly flies.
Yes feels like a completely different world.
@@Aqua.man045 - That's how I feel too...like we shifted to an alternate reality some time in the last decade or so and practically everything is worse.
@@nkw19859/11 was the turning point imo
@@vhscopyofseinfeld - I think you're right.
Graduation year for me
We will never hear music talent like this in today’s music
How can you not love 90s music?
What is most personal is oftentime most universal.
Such an underrated comment
Well said.
Damn, that hit me, def an underrated comment 💜
Proverbial shit.
I loved this song growing up. After my past relationship it just came back to me & is now helping with my depression.
This song really resonates with you if you've been in a REAL committed relationship. When you let go you really do wonder how it will be without this person in your life.
Or, you are suddenly thrust into life without them. I can tell you from experience, it leaves a hole you can drive a Peterbuilt through.
Or it’s so bad you don’t care how it’s gonna be. You just gotta go.
You gotta crank up the volume and reminisce. Glad I moved on quickly.
Cant look back just gotta go next
I need some help brothers, I just had to let go of my gf of 2 years cause she just wouldn't change for the better. I know I'll move on but it hurts bad rn
I'm 32, never dated anyone more than 3 months... This song hits me because I mourn that deep love I imagine in my head with someone special, but have never experienced in my life...I can't even explain it....
it happens when its meant to, don't be discouraged. One day you'll have a love thats even better than you could have ever imagined
Same boat brother same exact boat. Finding Jesus helped
Oh, don't feel bad. You are just saving yourself a lot of completely unnecessary grief and aggravation.
Honestly, be glad you haven't. Once you have exposed your true self and all its flaws to someone you deeply connect with and love; then boom, one day, it's just all over; its like a part of you will be forever missing. You truly wonder how life will continue without someone you wanted to marry, someone you knew better than anyone at that time, someone whose body you have explored every inch of, and would have given your life for.
It's hard, and I don't care what anyone says. You don't ever really get totally over it, although you learn to live and love again, You wish happiness and peace for the other, but nothing will ever replace that feeling of staring into your lovers eyes not saying word, just adoring them and them doing the same. That's why songs like this exist. For a brief moment in time, we can be transported back to the happy times with the one that got away, only to slam back to earth, knowing that they may have been the one, and you will go through life with them turning into a stranger.
90s kids know this is a classic.
Hope your heart has healed and you're in a better place now, Dicholas.
This song is still as honest, sad yet beautiful as it was when I first heard it as a kid!!! Thank you Richard's Liquor Store for playing this when I walked in and for reintroducing me to such an amazing song and for reassuring me I'm not alone and that I'm not the only one who had a failed relationship!
lmao what kind of liquor did you buy
They just don’t make songs like this anymore... This song will always be the absolute gem that it truly is & will ALWAYS be. No questions asked.
I miss the 90's musicians and bands.... great memories
Yeah they do. Maybe you should move past the glory days of yesterday. Because you sound like the old people who grumbled about this music back when it came out, when they recalled the days of the 1960s and 1950s when music was truly about emotions and real feelings.
There are good contemporary songs, you just have to dig for them :)
i actually was reminded this song existed from a playlist with songs like that from 1980’s to today 🤷♀️
When i say outloud, "I wanna get out of this." I wonder is there anything Im gonna miss.
When the bad outweighs the good, run for your life! We get one chance to walk this earth and if someone is holding you down, its best to move forward to those who truly love you. As much as it hurts, it will feel 100 times better once you have broken free. ♡
Needed to hear that, thank you
SImple understandings like this can be so important cuz even when you think it, you may not be hearing it, thinking it and telling yourself are 2 different things and its lot easier to see the significance when someone else not only says what your feeling, but shows they feel it too. Only problem is, in my case I was on the other end. I caused someone to feel like you may have when posting this, its my biggest and only regret in life and after losing that part of my life and heart Ive only sought out to better myself every day since so I never put myself or someone else in that spot again. Please people dont be the person I was, oppressive and one sided in the relationship. Unfortunately, her leaving me was the best thing that ever happened to me. It allowed me to see, to grow, to understand, to love the right way, and to appreciate her that much more. Imagine if I understood this before my best friend and I split paths. Leona Walker, she HAD to break free. Im proof that you can think it and not hear it. Im proof of the consequences on the side at fault.
Leona Walker I always yell “fuck no!” After that line. 😂
Leona Walker
Not sure how to move forward knowing I took 27 lives in Iraq. Haunts me daily. This song fks me up. Duty called and I suffer for ever😭😭
Leona Walker 89
If this song doesn't make you cry then you've either got no soul or never really been in a relationship
That is the dumbest thing I have ever heard.
Or you’re completely numb to it all...
Or you just never noticed the words before. This is why I like lyric videos. I heard this song as a teen... And I never paid attention to the words. Now I'm older and really listening to the words and my heart feels completely shattered. 😞
Or ya know... You're just not a pussy.
I've never been in a relationship like THIS and it still makes me cry. Superb lyric writing.
I remember the producer of the NBA on NBC playing this song as they rolled the credits and played slow motion highlights of the Chicago Bulls at the conclusion of the 1998 NBA Finals, in which the Bulls won their sixth championship in eight years. The expectation was that this was "The Last Dance" for one of the greatest dynasties in NBA history, led of course by Michael Jordan. It turned out to be the last dance, and the song being played at that moment was very powerful, I thought
I literally told my family this weeks ago. We have the same memory and feeling!
This song is a long time favorite of mine.
First concert my husband took me to
I was so excited
I never had a life until I met my husband
So it makes the memories so much more bitter sweet now that he is battling cancer
This song takes me right back to the spring of 1998.
I was born a year before this song came out and a friend of mine just recently played it for me..it was my first time hearing it. So good.
Your a spring chicken. Glad you got to enjoy some of what the past was to us older folks.
Age less time less..touched you in your soul
Enjoy your youth. Live your young life with zest & an abundance of love.
I miss my old relationship partner. And we same situation of this song. Now we both have family. But my feelings and memories will never forget about our past.
"The soft dive of oblivion" TEB lyrics are absolutely gorgeous!
It’s funny how the choice wording in the song, happens to be “oblivion”, legend has it that the “Spear of Death” held at the gates of heaven guarding the entrance…
and is feared by even the devil himself…
He is well aware… if the tip of that spear, so much as touches anyone or anything
It will “obliterate” it from existence …instantly… and for forever !!
So, the lyrics “so how’s it gonna be , when you don’t me anymore”
Actually means a whole lot more than realized in this sense
Just thought I would share this with you all
Wow 1997-98! This brought me back to my first love J. Darcy
RIP 💔
This song fits perfectly with what went down back then. Amazing....
If someone is treating you badly and breaking your heart it's time to run and never look back.
When me and my girl friend broke up back in 1999 after being together for 2 years, I listened to this song and it hurt so much. I sat in my bedroom for the rest of the night, didn't even want to move.
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I was in absolute Hysteria when my then boyfriend, first love and I broke up. That was 19 years ago. I have thought of him every time I have heard this song throughout the years and it broke my heart everytime. I got the news last year through social media that he had lost his life due to a drug overdose. First time I've heard this song since then and it's gonna be a hard night.
Remember there is someone who will be your special love to show up when you least expect it.
Cap
@@adenolvera5102no one cares, troll
The memories this evoked just broke me now listening to this. I always knew this would one day make me cry 😢
Absolutely Love "3 Eye Blind" The late 90's multiple platinum Alternate Rock band. 🎸
the 90s was the last great decade man...where did this music go man
Saw them in Concert last night was absolutely amazing
My father has Alzheimer’s, he use to be happy and fun. Now he is scared and angry all the time. Watching his brain die slowly is killing me inside. One day he’ll wake up and not know my name. I can’t take this
I'm so sorry. My father was the same. It hurt when he only knew me by my 1st grade picture. And he hit me but he didn't know. I miss him so
So sorry I went thru this with mine for 7 years except he was mean for 50...sick for 7. Love and miss you dad
Saddest love story ever. Love you dad like he loved you and remember who he was, not who is now 💙
so true, going through this with my mom..and now during corona virus i can't even see her.
💕💕
Underated song lyrics are amazing
When you realized you miss her more then she does you lmfao, ouch that hurts.
Coldest break up song ever....
Love it...
The soft dive of oblivion.
"The soft dive of oblivion" TEB lyrics are absolutely gorgeous!
something borrowed movie brought me here
I love this song... I've been dreaming about this song over and over for the past week. And I wonder what the meaning is.
50 and no children. This song kept it real. How’s it going to be. Great deterrent.
Saw them in concert last year and they were great
Best ending to a song ever.....hands down. I love this song...im living it right now trying to get over a bad breakup 😟😔
Sucks don't it. Know how you feel.
I can relate
God, this song is tear-inducing. Not gonna lie.
Agreed! Every time I hear this song, and "Standing at the edge of the earth" from Blessid Union Of Souls, I can't hold back.
No doubt to funny
Yes sir
me and fiancee been fighting.. hasn't been the best week for us and now is Christmas eve... I'm a person who shows so much love and affection. .. idk what's going on we barely been living together since october.... this bring tears to my eyes
milo vela I'm kinda going through the same thing, my boyfriend and I aren't exactly together at the moment, but I miss him dearly. But if we're just going to be fighting all the time, as much as it hurts, we might just have to go our separate ways.
My boyfriend of 5 years abandoned me Christmas time. He had already cheated on me by this point. I didn't know till a few days ago. I never loved a man as much as I loved him, and I've never been hurt by a man as much as he hurt me when he did that. I feel like a 10 year old version of myself that wants to go hug my dad
yea..well drinking ant gonna solve your broken heart ,love! take it from me.
Ash Moe89 so can relate!
I used to rock the hell out of this song never really paid attention to the words but for some reason I woke up with this playing in my head so I listened to it and it just fits my current situation, weird
A Sweet Song for Empty heart's 💔
This is a great Break up song to get anger out at someone who broke your heart.
Great Band ,, seen them in Arizona ,, Ausome good time
Reminds me of my first wife. There's not a day that's gone by that I don't regret not fighting for that woman. I've moved on only because I've had to. But I will forever regret that we are strangers now.
I show you the steps to her again
Roman’s 10:9
Acts 2:38
Matthew 19:21
@@sydneemiller6091stop
😢 sorry to hear that. That’s gotta be tough!
I’m going through a similar situation right now. Going through a divorce and it’s been killing me. I just simply don’t know how to let her go. 12 years together and now it’s over. All intimacy is gone. We barely talk anymore. Only about bills and stuff related to our kids. I pray we will find each other again whether in this life or the next.
This hits different when you actually live it, crazy. As a teen I used to relate this to getting out of my mom’s house she was pretty abusive, but this is the theme song to my toxic relationship. 😅
Love you Dad. Tryna learn how it's gonna be not having my bff around. Miss you dad. Rip.
I show 3 steps to paradise
Roman’s 10:9
Acts 2:38
Matthew 19;21
Hope your doing ok… life sucks, and is the greatest at the same time huh…
Trying to remember the bad times so I don't think about the good. Easier said than done in the end...
Yeah, totally. Because it feels unpleasant to think about the bad, but it helps one realize that mistakes were made. And by thinking about our mistakes, we can draw lessons from these mistakes. We live and we learn! Thinking about the good too much might feel all good and giddy, but it also makes one want to run back in anticipation of feeling those good feelings again, completely disregarding the bad feelings and their consequences. I feel you 100% sister, as much as I want to run back to my ex, I know that we're just not good for each other and us being apart is for the best
@@icecreampimpdeux amen could not have broke it down better myself.
Rchl Glvz stay true& positive someone loves you
Rchl Glvz this is my life!!! 😞😔😞😔
Embrace the good times and the bad times it hurts a little bit but eventually you'll be stronger and won't make the same mistakes
Just got out of a toxic relationship of 13yrs. I myself held on to what I thought when good times in hopes that they would resurrect only to find out that sadly I was blinded by my own instincts. So now that it's over.....I don't care how it's gonna be because I'm much happier without him.
Who asked?
I'm 36 years old ad this song always brings me a lot of teen memories
This song, absolutely was inspired by a woman for sure. A real life relationship he must of had that obviously went bad and ended.. and that inner struggle after letting go and feeling both happy and sad about it. Its human nature to reflect on the good times as well.
When people say what’s life for it’s this
Thought of this in my room before college and wanted to know how everyone leaving the high school years would end up. Nearly 10 years later, found out I’m schizophrenic and bipolar and realized I was for much of my life. High school lunacy just buried it. Managing could be worse. I miss my friends and glad I made new ones in college. Idk anything but this song right now.
I'm sorry, dude, but I am going to be brutally honest with you here... The "Never moved on from highschool" type are just about the absolute WORST of humanity.
This is the greatest song ever made I don't care what anyone says
It's 1998 & I'm listening to the radio just for the chance to hear this song again...lol 😎📻🎸🎶🎤💫
Awesome Song, We use to request "3 Eye blind" songs all the time specially This one "How is going to be" 😃♥️
Life is a beautiful thing please don't take it for granted. Rip my friend
This came out 6 months after my high-school sweetheart of 4 years ended it. It will always take me back to that time
Highschool days of my life ,realidad amigo & amiga .
It was the late 90's favorite song it inthe Billboard for long time the in the top 10's and then it was the #1 Song for 3 week's I believe :)
Peaceful now , no longer toxic , when there was nothing to hold onto anymore , & that person controlled your life , freedom becomes overwhelming , there was never anyone else , and won't be for several years , knowing you gave everything to a man who saw you as an object , when you leave you can finally breathe , for that I'm grateful ! What is Love , really ?
I know exactly what your saying been there
Ya years are gone by but the words of a song still don't hide it's bite.
Truth is beautiful.
Love conquers all someday , I'm still waiting , till then this is How its gonna be !
This song brings back memories
I guess he finally knows “How’s it going to be”... now.
I locked him out of my life...because he decided to keep secrets from me...
Told him I can’t be ok with that... never looked back.
. I’d be lying if I said I don’t still shed a tear now and then...when my family doesn’t know...Every day I wonder how he is .. . And I cannot know the answer, aside from our prayer and soul connection. He My best friend, he was... OH HOW I sometimes wish we had never developed romantic feelings for eachother! ...BUT we did. I don’t want him back in my life, now... But I do still ache for everything we shared as soul-mate best friends... I don’t let anyone so close as I did him... This song lets me feel the hurt ... We shared so many songs together and I had to remove them from all of my playlist it’s just still too hard
I spent 5 years with a verbally, emotionally abusive man then came the cheating. I finally woke up and decided I didn't deserve that life any more. If someone is taking you for granted and breaking your heart.run as fast as you can.
How it's gonna be ???? Miss everything about him good or bad trust I wasn't perfect. Till this day I still love him and have no regrets ❤️ because I've been blessed to know what true love is . I just didn't know how to handle it then but now I do . You learn from your mistakes .
Overwhelmingly peaceful💔
Lord the memories this brings back!
2022 and still rockin theses guys..
this song hurts so much worse now that he died. i always used to think about how it would be if we had ever stopped talking and walked away from each other permanently.
we were really toxic to each other but i still wanted to spend my life with him in it. as much as i hated him, i loved him even more. and now ill never see him again.
I'm sorry...
Everything u just said. My boyfriend committed suicide in 2016 n I'll never see him again or get to see if we could have built the life we both wanted
Ha !!
All these years later and now I finally know-- "the soft dive of oblivion." Genius.
Tell me what it is, please
@@julianarosa240
It's easy, fun, and great to fall in love. The softness of falling into oblivion.
If you are able,
save for them a place
inside of you
and save one backward glance
when you are leaving
for the places they can
no longer go.
Be not ashamed to say
you loved them,
though you may
or may not have always.
Take what they have left
and what they have taught you
with their dying
and keep it with your own.
And in that time
when men decide and feel safe
to call the war insane,
take one moment to embrace
those gentle heroes
you left behind.
2018 still here
The whole album was great. Every song.
I have always loved this song but today somebody I used to know brought me here
makes me think of Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind...
Really makes me think how its now 2023 and i wonder how now would feel now with a family i wonder what will America be for us in less than 10 years😢❤
Jeeze Im feeling it, 😔 wish we could smooth out the past. It takes two though.
Who's here in 2022,wanting to rewind time
This song, In The Background, Motorcycle Drive-by and God of Wine are my favorites off the album, all of them telling eloquent, relatable and touching stories of the heart and the human condition, all of them feeling like old friends when the suddenly come to mind, randomly play on the radio or through the phone while you’re on hold, or show up in your website feed. This is what good music is.
Hows it gonna be when you dont know me anymore... when you see the changes and know that shes leaving you and this time instead fighting to hold on to something that was never yours, you realize... this time, you have to let go.
my muzzikk/ We was make people at radios stations crazy because we was requesting "3 Eye blind" songs all the time specially This one "How is going to be" was a long time Hit in the top 10 and then #1 two like Seni changed life too in the Alternative Rock category. Amazing band.
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The greatest decades were the 60s 70s 80s and 90s
Such honest lyrics at the end
:'( man nostalgia hits pretty hard
It's 2023 and who not lovin that Karma with me.!!!
wow like this song so much, remembering how my love left me n wondering hows it gonna be for her?
2021 and this song makes more sense than ever THE BIG D
Love the Star wars font
❤️ i discovered this song 7 years ago. i still love it.
And that’s on leaving the fundamentalist Christian religion.... it’s been hard the last few days missing all my former friends my former “safe knit” life protected by strict fundamentalist ideas and living that kept me from harms way kind of life but after coming out of it I’ve realized it was all a wolf in sheep’s clothing chocking me to death..... it can be hard feeling the shell being ripped off of you... I feel lost confused and hurt... there memories still haunt me as I await an eternity of hell burning fire and brimstone while I seem to stay here on earth tormented by my own inner demons that they the church have chained me with through there darkening hell bound anti everything scriptures...
And now this song truly does speak to me so differently..... thank you fundamentalism for leaving me with this crippling depression what a wonderful gift..... 🥰 #dontbeavictimwhileyoursufferingorelseitsyourfault
I remember listening to this song growing up. I'm 23 now😁
There's nothing lucky about it it's living loving fighting it's all part of life man it's never perfect anywhere anyway
The soft dive of oblivion.
Coming out of a toxic relationship with a narcissist, this song just hits a little different.
Such a good song ♥️
Completely understand this song...... finally able to be free.....start loving myself again
Better to have really loved and lost...than to never have felt what living life is really all about...
Need my headphones to go louder please.
Rchl Glvz/ Is a Masterpiece song "How is going to be" by "3 Eye Blind" We was requesting this son in the Radio all the time like others songs too from this first "3 Eye Blind" DC it was a long time Hit in the Billboard top 40's then was a #1in the top 10 of the late 90's this CD was a Multiple platinum in 1998 and 1999. They release this "3 Eye Blind" first Discography work with the same band title "3 Eye Blind" in February 10 of 1997
type "sound" in your start menu to bring up "sound" selections, click it to open the box, on the playback tab select the icon that represents your headphones and right click it and select "properties." Now, in properties look for the "ehancements" tab, select it, then check the box that says "loudness equalization." and this will increase your volume output substantially for headphones and speakers. Sometimes you will need to uncheck it to get louder sound oddly enough but for the most part it will normally increase the volume.